After The Breakup | Therapy Thursday | Jerry Flowers
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- Опубликовано: 29 мар 2023
- It’s hard to grieve over someone who’s still alive, like you eulogized the relationship, but the person is not in the cemetery!
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I did not want to let go and I begged and pleaded because I knew I loved him. Yet his dismissive behavior and the words “ It’s time to leave this alone” woke me up and God reminded me that I am more and I will have great. My burden is light and my yolk is easy. I love you all and I wish you an easy process I’m running with you
I’m struggling with this too… the begging and the pleading. It hurts. Let me know what you’re doing to cope with this.
Experiencing this now
@@diariesbycynI had to come to my senses and release him because that’s what he wanted. I asked God to walk me through this process because I was hurting bad. I turned my love I had for him back to myself. I’m still hurting but I’m no longer begging. He doesn’t value me, but I have to value myself. Love you sister it will get better. I also dealt with regret but I repented and laid it all out before God
@@CM-ye1bcwake up sis if they want to walk away we have to let them. Lean into God and cry out to him. Not to man. People failed me time and time again but God never has.
@@TheAnissaMonee thank you sister. Been filling my head and heart with the word of God to keep me going. About to use this time to work on myself.
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
"God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans will wreck you".
That hit home!
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Yes grieving is hard but there is still more after this
“You could be a whole package,but if you end up at the wrong address, the receiver could mishandle you”
I need this word so badly!! I'm struggling so badly w/ this breakup! Nothing has hurt be this badly in my entire life. I'm in therapy, been in no-contact since he dumped me, deleted every picture, voice-mail, text message, sent back every gift he gave me & threw away all the cards & notes. I feel so stuck with this & I'm still so hurt. I miss his friendship so much, it's excruciating. I'm fine 1 day & not the next. I cry so much it's crazy😢 I've never been through anything like this. It's been almost 2 months & Idk how or when I'll ever get past this. I don't want him back, I don't trust him anymore, I'm just hurt. There were no arguments, I was happy & thought he was too, but there were so much deception & lies on his part it hurts so much knowing he probably never really cared about me. I just pray God delivers me from this pain soon.
Same here ❤😢
God will. It does get better. ♥️ I’ve been there. God loves you and I pray he comforts you through it all.
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When your relationship grows closer to God you will forget him I'm going through the same thing but I know I'm worth so much more than sex and a late night blunt now I'm clean do drinks no weed and no sex praise god
How are you feeling now? ☺️
This pain I feel is so intense that sometimes all I want to do is sleep. There was a fear that I messed up something that was great. But I receive Gods Word that even if it was me God still has a plan for me.
I've been there. It will get better. Even if you messed it up, God still loves you. This too shall pass! ❤
I messed up terribly
You got this!
Thank you for comment. I feel the same way
Amen
I can’t believe I begged and cried😅… no more of that! Better is coming and I needed that relationship to end so that my Faith could be made stronger in Christ. My faith NOW is so much more mature now that I am not connected to my ex. I pray for him and I wish him nothing but the BEST!! Thank you God!
“They twist their insecurities & project it as your flaw”
Thank you, I needed to hear that .
This is so easy to listen to but so hard when you're in the mist of pain
“Healing scares people who benefit from your brokenness”
I was dumped recently & struggling to move forward. Feeling blessed that God led me to this video. ❤
I feel so broken right now......everything in my life is scrambling down but wat scares me the most is my relationship with God and my career 😢.....leaving this comment here in april 2024 for future reference coz i know God is gonna deliver me 🙏 🙏 Glory be to God
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Please come back and testify. Trusting God for you. You are loved ❤
Praying for you
I just want to grieve and get over him 🥺
I think it was both: I was the problem and also divine intervention. I’m praying for all of us.
me too ☹️
Dude, it was me all the time, I regret not changing while she was here and now that she is gone I miss her ☹️ Miss her so much, guys pray for me …
That’s my situation too! I miss him like crazy but I know he needs the space from me to move on and heal.
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Sometimes God is kind enough to let us learn these hard lessons before your spouse comes along. You may have wanted her to be the one, but hopefully the clarity you gained can be a blessing. I am sorry for your heartache and pray God gives you the answers you need 💗
Bro I feel you, we got a son together so I gotta see her almost everyday. It’s tough but I’m taking it day by day
It’s truly hard to think U had someone that was it for U.. Where U had all your hopes and dreams with this person only to find out he isn’t it… My situation is a bit unique I guess… I got married 20 years ago with my first bf to help him with his papers.. Long story short he ended up getting deported and I never got to getting a divorce… I met someone and we had been dating for roughly 4 months when I told him i was still married his perception changed of our relationship… I can’t really afford to get divorced at the moment soo after much discussion.. He basically said he couldn’t continue with the relationship because of the fact that I am still married on paper.. He said it bothers him and blocks him from moving forward with this relationship… I honestly dont understand that, I mean… If U really want to be with someone should that really matter?
I mean it’s not like we are getting married now and eventually I do plan on getting divorced just not rite now.. Unfortunately financial circumstances does not allow me too..: Anywho, I really thought he was the finally the one! He was everything I had been praying God in a man and so I thought God had finally answered my prayer… Needless to say Im pretty tore up rite now… Just been praying for God to give me clarity and help me heal…
“You’re healed when you see the person who cut you and you don’t want to cut them back” - this is soooooo good! 👍🏾
Broken but I trust in God someday I’ll come back to this comment to see where I was at some point and give Glory to God..😢
I miss him for real and it's a roller coaster day to day and I know I can't go. Back
I allowed my insecurities and jealousy to take over my mind. I pushed away my ex. I am grateful that I see the errors in my ways. I understand my thoughts needed healing. I will use this time to mentally heal. I will keep God 1st pray for healing and seek help. I will renew my spirit and mind in GOD'S NAME AND WORD.
I hooe youve been well my love remmever God is good!! How is everything now? If the time is right you guys can meet again
Amen,sis! i have been like this
Amen 🙏🏽 I really could not have said it any better!
I ignored all the red flags. This person came into my life at my most vulnerable season in 1997, and I believed it was a God send and was married to this person for 25 years through all the narcissistic, childhood trauma and dysfunction. I am determined to heal from this grief from this divorce!
I was so toxic ,narcissistic, manipulative. 100 percent wrong. I regret it. I will I've grown so much but extremely guilty.
Same here!
I also ignored the red flags 20 years and 4 kids later 😢 I'm struggling to move on
I getting divorce too
📖 _If your always the teacher and never the student, then your probably the problem_ . 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yes Lord I needed this!!!!! I receive this message in the name of JESUS! Amen Amen Amen
My ex, in every talk the teacher. Ignored my feelings, kept seeing his exwife.
I’m only 5 minutes through this video and Pastor Jerry is nailing my exact feelings. I always use to ask people how do you grieve someone that’s still alive, still breathing, walking around as if the hurt they caused means nothing. Oh but god, it truly blows my mind at how he works in the midst of it all. Cause in the end, it only brought me so much closer to him. And at one point I had to ask god “Did I hurt you the way he hurt me?” …because when god said no other idol above him, that’s truly what he meant. I’m so grateful for where my relationship is with him now, and if it took having to go through what I had to, to get here, then so be it. I definitely shared this with a few friends already ✨
“There is still more after this.” Amen 🙏🏾
Hi! I would like to start a women’s group that uplifts women and we all help each other strive to be kingdom women that God has called us to be would you like to be apart of it?
I said the same thing
Amen!
@@AshiaNecoleI’d love that!
This was well written and I had the SAME experience!
Shake off the dust. Don’t allow heart to be calloused. Staying in a place where you’re not received is wasting time. If I’m at the wrong address, the receiver won’t receive us. Shake it off and enter my new season!! Go and take my peace with me…to the new village.
it’s been 10 months for me & i never experienced pain this intense. I truly thought she was the love of my life, but i was wrong. 6 years of putting my heart & soul into someone only for it to be a lesson. She moved on a couple months after the breakup & seems happy. Meanwhile i’ve been dealing with excruciating pain every single day. I pray to God everyday to heal my heart & help me move forward with my life but it’s a long process. I have faith that it’ll get better eventually, God is just working on me a little longer.
Try fasting and praying it helps also delete everything that reminds you of her.
@@Bonafide0324 Thanks alot! Trying my best
That’s my situation right now
But God is the one healing me to make me ok and accept the breakup and not have excruciating pain
So you gotta get your spiritual life right
You can tell that Jerry genuinely loves the Lord and wants to help others
I just broke up
And seeing right away is just God😭
God provides, the love we can trust
@@jessieoakford6113 are you okay now?
Grieving and they’re still alive! Definitely that part!
That was spot on! The worst combination is when somebody is arrogant and ignorant 😂😂😂
Lol
The death was my doing. I lied to him because I was afraid of telling him the truth and fearful of the reaction I would get from telling him the truth. He was my best friend and I betrayed his trust. He had the grace to still forgive me but we’re no longer together. I recognize that I have unhealed issues. I pray for him to this day. Currently in a phase of suffering and shame but grateful for this suffering otherwise I would not be changing for the better. I am striving to walk with God more and strengthening my relationship with Him. Thank you for this video. God Bless everyone who is in the same situation as I am, I pray you heal and learn from the word so you can stop hurting your loved ones.
A much needed message after a 5 year relationship that led nowhere. I’m officially 2 months with no contact. I’ve felt every emotion (anger, sadness, denial, etc.) over the past few weeks and it’s still an ongoing battle but I know God will guide me out of this as long as I stay by His side . 💜
My mother always warned me about this: “You can’t be wrong AND strong….
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS, THE BREAKUP
“I just don’t want to move on, I want to move on right and with health.” A powerful message! Thank you for allowing God to use you. 🥹
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Thank you Lord for using Jerry for delivering this message
The way this man preaches is astounding ❤
i was planning on marrying my ex we haven't spoke in three weeks.. i'm really struggling. we were unevenly yoked & did alot of fighting but had amazing times as well. God has revealed he separated us to get me closer to him and if he didn't i was only going to stray away from him even more.. hallelujah.
Same here 😔
This is how I feel now and I’m still in the relationship 😢
Amen
My heart is so broken right now I don’t love myself so I couldn’t love him neither. This man loved me unconditionally and I couldn’t give or receive it back. I promised God before I met him I would work on and heal myself before I entered a relationship I didn’t keep my promise and now Ive ran off a good man. I know God is working in my life but it’s hard not to feel anger with God! when does my happiness come when will the pain from my past not affect my present and future
I was with a man who eventually said he didn’t want to pursue God yet, It’s been painful and I never stopped seeking God. The pain drew me closer than ever because I just didn’t understand. But I’m healing, God never chose this for me.. my actions led me here but I know better now. He’s helping me every step!
Thankful for the Lord letting me see it was me and the relationship was not good for me either! Grateful to God for caring enough to snatch me out when I didn’t have the strength or sense to do it myself. 🙌🏾hallelujah for freedom and true healing to move on! 🎉
I'm getting my peace back, Lord🙌🙏
Amen❤ there’s still more after this!!! I left my 8 yr relationship with my first love. I was the red flag and I know god loves me but he also did love him and I’m blessed to say. I’m happy it happened he deserves someone who will love him unconditionally.
Understanding my purpose...even as a single woman and mother
Omgoodness I really needed this today because I’m in the middle of the healing process of healing from a six year relationship with two kids out of it 😢it’s really hard thank you lord for this
Hi girlie! How are you doing now?
This breakup has brought me closer to God, and I pray it will bring her closer as well. I pray we collide again.
What a word 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Yes when I was with my ex narc my spiritual life greatly declined. Stopped going to church, prayer life came to a halt.. Thank you Jesus my Boaz is on his way 🙏🏽
I am struggling so bad to let go. It’s very clear that it doesn’t matter if I stay or if I go to him. I begged, questioning my worth. Why not me, why not fight for me. I want it to be him…. It hurts so bad, my anxiety eats me up, I over think. The day I see him with someone else.
That whole part...grieve someone who is physically still here
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS🙌🏾
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS🙏🏾🥳
Amen 🙏🏾. I needed to hear this . Went thru a divorce and I still find myself missing her and thinking about our family . Healing is messy, but necessary. Amen 🙏🏾
I feel you, going thru the same😢
THERES STILL MORE AFTER THIS!! Lord your story for me continues onward,,, heal my heart, spirit, and mind the right way, the way it's intended for, Hallelujah! Thank you brother for being a vessel & allowing God to speak through you!
Yes, the breakup was because of me. I'm still hopeful we'll get back together. And I'm praying for the strength if it's not meant to be
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!
I needed to hear this today. I have held on to the dust of another village with dear life because it's what I want even when I heard a whispering in my spirit that God had to close that door.
Wow....soaking myself in worship helped alot,It switches focus...I pray you focus on Jesus....I love this video...like this to remind me that can take it❤
THERE IS MORE AFTER THIS!!!! YES, GOD, YES!!
there is still more after this! July 2024
I’m getting my peace back. 🙏🏽
Move on right; walked away hoping they’ll stop you;don’t know how to grieve about something that is dead but the person is still alive…. Move on with health, Heal with clarity
I NEEDED this Word! Lord forgive me and help me forgive those who have harmed me.
I'm getting MY PEACE BACK. ❤❤❤🎉
Pastor Jerry Flowers ALWAYS delivers God's message in the most loving, gentle yet firm & simple way. God bless you Pastor. I totally needed this. Watching from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪
YOU CAME FOR MY SCALP ON THIS ONE JERRY!! THANK YOU!!
We have to move on the right way .
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS
Amen 🙏🏾
There is still more after this! Thank you Jesus!! 🙏🏼
Amen and Amen. Thank you Lord for showing me that I had to end that relationship. Thank you Lord for showing me my own brokenness. Please help me to heal and to get on the right path - to get on Your path Lord. I can’t do this by myself anymore without You. Thank you Lord for Pastor J and his ministry and for access to Therapy Thursday. In Jesus name Amen!
Jerry i think this is my conformation from god.
All of what you said is so true.
Thank you
I had to heal
And im heal.
Now im shaking off all this sand cause I'm not taking this in to my new season.
I wish i can tell you more so people can see that god still care and he loves us.
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I'M GETTING MY PEACE BACK!!!
It’s been about 4 months I’m just seeing this therapy Thursday however everything you said made so much sense. In this breakup I broke up with him. It hurt soo bad and went back and forth with God on why do I got to be the one to do it. He gave me strength and I noticed how weak this person made me. Ignored every red flag and almost married him I postponed the wedding at first and a month later had to break up with him for my sake and I did just that on the day we were supposed to be married! Can I tell you God has done His big one for me! I’m happier day by day and more of myself than I was two years ago! I’m not saying I’m perfect I just met this person in the most vulnerable state I just had lost my dad a month prior thinking it would fix my wound that I put a bandage on.
THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS.❤
THERES STILL MORE AFTER THIS AMEN
It’s me, I have gotten to a place where I almost hate myself. I see all that is within me and how I push away everyone I loved…and I hate it. I’m so sick of myself, I’m sick of the result of what I’ve inflicted on others.
So timely for me but hey that’s the power God! I needed today after a ending of a 9 year marriage and whatever the last 2 years were about. Grateful to the Lord for His strength, grace, and the healing of my heart… Time to shake that dust brother!!!
No, I don’t think I was perfect. Who is? Neither was he. But I tried so many methods. I tried being calm, matching his energy, silence, empathy, nurturing. Nothing was good enough. No effort was enough. I over-communicated. I loved him so much and I feel like he ripped my heart out my chest. He lied to my face, he cheated, he disrespected me and I was so lonely and afraid to be alone that I mistook that reluctance to love me as love. I used to be scared to give him space because I knew that as soon as I moved, he would replace me. And it happened. As soon as I stopped fighting it ended. I let him back in time and time again and he continued to hurt me. Mentally, physically, emotionally. He always said he didn’t feel he could trust me and never felt loved from me but I know it was him projecting his own feelings of himself. I stuck by him while he got locked up, when he lost his job, when he hurt me, when he pushed me away. I just feel so defeated knowing that someone I wanted so badly, someone who looked me in my eyes and told me they would protect me, that he loved me and that he wouldn’t let harm come
To me… yet the person that hurt me the most was you. I know I said I hated you…. I still love you so deeply. I hate tht I ignored the signs and continued down a road I knew I should’ve abandoned. I hope love is out there for me. Dad was never in my life, mom died 14 years ago. I just can’t imagine that my life was supposed to have this much loss and brokenness
I feel for you. Praying God heals you❤
Praying for you. Was he a Christian ?
Thank you. Amen❤
I confess I was jealous and angry in my relationship because I felt so many games were being played . I always felt like I was in the wrong just for them to reveal they were always involved with someone else . Lord forgive me for my wrongs for my jealousy and anger .
I'M GETTING MY PEACE BACK🙏🏽
I dont want to just move on but i want to move on right😢. Help me Lord🙏🙏
I’m getting my peace back! 🙏🏽
Healing scares people who benefit from your brokenness!
Cover this MAN of GOD!! I am so grateful for your obedience, which is teaching me obedience. This one hit real different! I am so grateful that you and your amazing family have been apart of my healing journey for the last 3 years. God bless you all!
There is still more after this Lord You have a Plan for US❤️🔥
I have been mentally abuse by someone who really need to grow up , lack of intimacy, lack of communication , pacifying his family wrong doing to me , dismissing my feelings “you’re are always dramatic” “it’s never like that” “I don’t wanna talk about it “ , he never spent time with me unless I asked ask I HAD TO ASK FOR Everything I became bitter and disrespectful in some cases , I knew it was time to go I was worth more I wasn’t perfect but the way I displayed my love could never be questioned.
Amen
There’s still more after this… glory to the most high
THERE’S STILL MORE AFTER THIS AMEN❤️🙏🏽
I was in the happiest relationship but he was struggling with addiction. I was there for every overdose and seizure. I held him down for a year to only find out he was cheating and his family knew. 😭😭😭 I loved him so much. I can’t imagine how Jesus felt when Judah betrayed him bc I felt soooooo hurt. But thanks to my church and my community I’m seeing my worth and knowing God did that for me to fulfill my purpose bc my life was definitely on pause trying to help his addiction. Please pray for me 😭😭😭
THERE'S STILL MORE AFTER THIS!
Thank You for covering emotional abuse. I am Blessed that God removed me from an abusive marriage, but at the right time He sent my Boaz
I needed thissss!!!! I will be okay! God will never crack a Red Sea to return only to depart!!!!!
This message is so healing. I’m going through a breakup and I know this has to be God sending this message. I literally had a conversation with my ex 2 months post break up. I gave him a message God put on my heart. Extended the olive branch and told him I’m dusting my sandals off like the disciples. He laughed but I was serious I’m going to move forward and wait for Boaz.
Lord thank you for leading me to this ministry during this time. You are truly using it to grow me and I am extremely grateful! Thank you to everyone involved in this ministry for being willing vessels. Especially Pastor Jerry!! ❤❤
This is more Self Reflective and Mirror moment in ourselves to take self inventory and awareness. This phase is so vital . Thank you Jesus
There is still more after this !❤
Amen 💙, Thank you Jesus
After 15 years of marriage I felt like I gave birth to a long awaited child (future) and it was dead. Its like this eye of the hurricane... everything feels surreal and like youre holding your breath, looking for the next step but there is no path illuminated.
Definitely agree with this, not easy to move on from someone u cared about. But when u do…😫🙌🏽
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Oh yes " shake it off grace"Thank you
Jesus
My goodness Pastor Jerry, looks like your reading my notes!!! 🗣️🗣️🔥
Amen, thank you❤
I AM GETTING MY PEACE BACH IN JESUS NAME AMEN