Rebound guy here, 6 weeks after my breakup. Please do us all a favor and dont get into a new relationship until you're healed and completely over your previous relationship(s). Also, to the exes, if you see them with us "rebounds", dont reach out to them. Let them be. I was with this guy for three months until his ex reached out to him, which caused him to doubt what we had. He ran back to what he felt was "secure". We had no issues and never argued. It was honestly amazing. Also from my digging post break-up, I pieced together that they were broken up for roughly three months until he started dating me. HEAL YOURSELF BEFORE YOU END UP HURTING SOMEONE ELSE.
If she wants to leave the let her go. Give her exactly what she wants. That's someone that you no longer have to worry about cuz they're no longer worried about you. Spend time on doing things that you wanted to do but never had the time to do. Create a new stronger better version of yourself so you can attract the right woman that is deserving of it.
Please pray for me so God will restore my relationship and open Edwin eyes and work in edwin heart and if in his will bring us back together. Lord please help me I feel tired 😭
Have faith but also do your best, then surrender the outcome. Don't forget to check out my other videos too if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you today is 29days he still have not reach out. And I am still praying and still battling with myself did I really matter to him. Help please let me know what you think
I'm going through the same thing I'm so sorry you are experiencing this... I don't wish this type of thing on anybody... The worst part is waking up in the middle of the night reaching for her hand but it's not there... Hope your days get better and the person you love comes to you
I got stuck at stage two for three months because I kept chasing her. The moment I let her go and walked away and was absolutely serious that I was never going to be with her again, she went through all the other stages within a week and was begging me to take her back. I had a lot of girls trying to be with me, but I wouldn’t do it because I wanted her back. The only way I was able to let her go was when I finally started dating other girls. Once I began dating my entire attitude and demeanor changed. She could tell it changed , she went through worry and then regret within days.
@@johnnyt8902 I did get back with her. We had been together over 10 years when we split for 3 months. This happened 7 years ago and we are still together. Now been together 17 years. When she left it was bad. It was over in her mind. Nothing I did helped and only made it worse. I was destroyed. The thing is I didn’t do anything wrong to begin with. I was good to her and loved her so much. Women can just be selfish. When she left for those 3 months it changed me. I finally got over her there at the end. At least enough to move on. That didn’t change when she came back. Since she came back I have not showered her with love and affection like I used to before. I actually don’t treat her very good at all now but I did before all that happened. She left me when I was totally and completely in love with her. Now that I don’t care anymore she is all over me. She insists we have sex every single day and at least a couple times per weeks she wants it twice per day. In the last 7 years there has been maybe 5-6 days total that we did not have sex. What’s crazy is you can’t fake not caring. You really have to not care. I also believe she saw all the women that were lining up to be with me. She realized she was approaching middle age and only heading downhill but I’m only getting better and girls in their early 20’s were lining up. Do the no contact best you can. I know it’s hard but it’s the only thing that will work. For me it didn’t take 30 days. After 3 months of chasing her it only took about a week and she was begging me for forgiveness. She actually called me when I was on the way to the beach with a friend. She wanted me to come back but I didn’t. She asked if we could get together and talk when I got back. I had moved on and she knew it.
I ended because he love bombed me and then breadcrumbed me. I think I deserve more. My ex texted me after exactly 30 days with limited contact. I followed your advice but now he is trying to start a disagreement with me and is bitter with me for breaking up with him by putting the blame on me. I just didn't answer his last text because I am not going to argue. I miss him but I deserve better. He is also with a rebound right after we broke up.
Thanks for sharing your story. It's either he didn't know what he want and he love bombed you or you two were too incompatible to make it in the long run. Either way, I agree, it's not a good relationship and if you don't feel loved by him, it's time to move on. Continue ignoring to not give out false hopes. Take care!
@@BradBrowning Thank you Brad. I used your method before in the previous relationship. The no contact worked but some people don't realize they have something good until they lose it. In my case I have trust issues with men and am not willing to put up with breadcrumbing. I ended with my best friend who I had been over looking for other emotionally unavailable men. He was there patiently waiting for me to notice him as more than just a friend. This man I do feel I can trust. I am much happier. I hope other people on here find love.
I can certainly confirm the first 2 stages. I tried fixing things before actual break up but I noticed she had already made up their mind about breaking up. I did beg her to reconsider after that and that's when she actually said she's feeling relieved to have ended things. Since then I've been in no contact mode for 3 months now so I have no idea what's happening in her world. She hasn't reached out or anything but I'm no longer that much interested in getting her back.
It's your life so ultimately it's your decision, man. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
@BradBrowning thanks bro. I think for now I just wanna maintain the status quo. I've decided to take a break from dating for some time so that I can focus on improving other areas of my life. Time will tell what my next move will be when I'm ready to date again.
Man i have been broken up with my ex for a month and a half, at first it was space and self growth, i gave her space we talked here and there, then we stopped talking. A week ago i called to see where we were at (it was a mistake) she says she wants to be alone and shes not sure if she will later regret that decision. After the conversation i told her basically im not going to figth if its meant to be it will be of not life goes on. Being in limbo stage sucks. Im moving on with my life with hope that we can get back together but not really counting on it for sure.
Hey Brad! About 4 days ago, we broke up. However I know she is a very honest person and is wanting to collect her life first, and I fully trust her that she isn't willing to see anyone else until she has space in her life to do so. We are still in contact, but obviously not talking as often, she says that she will need sometime to heal due to the pain I caused her. I also don't think the 30 day no contact would really apply as that isn't much time for both of us to become better people. However, I have lots of plan to better myself and as I'm typing this out, I'm already going the right way! When do you think it's appropriate to reach out to her again? And again, I know for a fact that she does NOT want a relationship for a while.
Hi! The average time to go no contact is 4-6 weeks but if you don't think that's enough time based on your situation, then you can extend it a bit more. You can both be better people for each other if you two manage to work on it... or you can both be better people for other people. It just really depends as some people fit like a glove while others take a huge amount of compromise to get there. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I love your videos! When in doubt about doing the right thing. I watch this video to reassure myself that I am doing what is best. haha! I watch it several times daily. The goal is to get him back and not have to watch your videos all of the time. For now, I will do what I have to do to get past this stage. Thank you
You're welcome! :-) A great alternative would be to read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have something to keep you busy and some bonus reference materials on what to text your ex when the time comes, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Either way, good luck to your goals!
If none of you reaches you, then yes, it may really be over for good. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
I'm still kind of in limbo because of how it ended so suddenly I am always expecting her to unblock AGAIN and possibly reach out but I got my eyes on someone else now who also had a break up at the beginning of the year. For me it's been 11 months since the break up. I'm wanting to understand when any woman is ready after a break up so I don't try it on with someone who may still be thinking about their ex. In my case my new crush had a break up 9 months ago. Maybe 9 months is long enough who knows. Perhaps i'll wait until the new year and if I don't get any birthday or Christmas messages from my ex then I will try it on with the other bird. ❤ I need to move on! Be great to have a video covering restraining orders etc..being that nice guy that did so much good that ended up in court because of her trauma. Their mother or father being the abuser in their life, the good guy comes along and her cortisol levels drop and that causes edlsentiqlly a drug withdrawal and they get scared and think they're being controlled as they have just been coping with the abuse for 30+ years! Horrible. 😢
Hi! Thanks for sharing. Yes, it's important to open your dating options now, especially considering how it's been many months since the breakup. Otherwise, if you have the means to do so, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I chased her for like a 1month after because she said i have to think about it blabla but it was obvious i just couldnt see it, she Even now says «i hope we can Get back someday when we both have healed» but deep down i know its just hard for her to take goodbye, but from yesterday i have given her nocontact. Your videos motivates me, i just hope i did not chase her and begged too much
I hope so, too. A month is kinda pushing it. Couldn't see what though? That you need to heal? Just try to make sure you avoid any further mistakes moving forward, yeah? Use this time to focus on yourself and work on your issues. There's always room for self improvement. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning like for 3 weeks. I said, «please give it a chance» and she replied «im trying» and then one day i begged too much and she said its not gonna work, and i went like all crazy. But right before nocontact i just said im good and hope you Are good
Why would you take a boyfriend back? if they’ve been with somebody else I wouldn’t that’s one of my must-haves for him to even be considered to be back in mylife.. Just a thought of having them to be with somebody else and be touched by somebody else. That’s disgusting.
Hi Brad Your video really helped me.. Till yesterday i was desperate to msg him. But watching your video helped me alot to controll. I really hope this will work for me aswell
You're welcome! Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
When did she file for divorce and how long has your marriage been rocky? Why have you waited too long to try and save your marriage to the point where she's already filed for divorce? Anyway, moving forward, try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: ruclips.net/video/lvH0STXVqdI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/видео.html but if you still need my help in trying to fix your marriage, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can take a look at what's really going on and help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Creating Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is important. Please watch this: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html Also read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hi Brad, you make a lot of content about how to get back together with your ex. But for cases that we were cheated on, how do we know if we should accept them back? Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.
Since that's a devastating experience, the desire/intention to fix that particular relationship then becomes a purely subjective experience. There are many causes of one partner going astray and while some cases can be worked on, other cases deserve to be left in oblivion. So use your discernment if the situation you describe happens, all right? If you need my help on that, then I need a ton of details to your situation but this is what I'm here for so hire me as your coach at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I don't know what to do guys. It feels like I have no friends, I can call people and go out, but they're flat, won't understand me. I feel as alone as it gets. I was very confident, and was doing really good and now I'm just as crushed as when we broke up. I need help, have no clue what to do. Suicidal thoughts are going through my head all the time in the last 20 hours. I'm self sabotaging. Help me
Just hang on brother. The thoughts will pass. You need to cry as much as you can. And HARD, in privacy or whenever you need to. It's agonizing but it DOES get better. I promise. I was there about a month ago. It sucks ass and it WILL hurt, unbearably so. But it DOES get better.
Sorry to hear that. You absolutely need to take care of yourself first before anything else. And yes, it's way tougher indeed without a support system. You can reach out to family or even post a topic on an online forum to vent out and/or make new friends. As to your thoughts, you likely feel overwhelmed and that's normal. It's time to release that pent up energy by brisk walking/jogging or getting a new hobby as you adjust to life without your ex. Take care!
Hey Brad I broke up with my ex a week ago and she moved on in that first week I was hurt and I messaged her and I talked to her I told her how I felt and I showed her my true self and I know I should of stopped and let her heal but I want to change her mind and show her I want to have a new relationship with her and start over
Any problems/issues you've had should've been fixed before she called it quits, man. Convincing your ex when she's recently ended it with you won't likely work because yes, she needs space. Please watch this first: ruclips.net/video/p-xoY9oRY1M/видео.html then follow up with this: ruclips.net/video/SeO0QXqY60w/видео.html but if you're stuck in trying to make progress, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help you out. It comes with bonus materials to text your ex so there's never a dull moment between you two and keep her interest, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
Please stay tuned for future uploads which may include this title. Anyway how long has your marriage been rocky prior to him finding his mistress? What were the issues in your marriage? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s, including what your next best move is/are, at: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I appreciate the channel a lot! My ex and I recently broke up over a mutual decision that our personal lives got to much into our relationship lives and caused used to break apart, due to things we needed to work on personally so it can be better for us personally, especially me not changing for her needs at the time. We have been together for 2 years and planned on having a life together by getting married and starting a family and I know on my heart it was meant to be. She still wants to be my Friend in life and she cares a lot about me. At this time I'm taking the time to let her be and do the 30 day no contact but she texted me on 3 days after we broke up saying "I'm really sorry for what you're going through" I really am" so I'm kind of confused why she would text me but its good to understand she cares in a way. I'm working on my self by working out and distractions like family and friends. Is there any advice into when I should start reaching my ex out to let her know I'm doing great on my own? So that way later I can get her attention that she wants this better man in her life that he changed. Please see this message Brad, and help me to get started privately.
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! I followed your advice on how to text my ex after no contact and it went well but after that we never spoke again. Any advice on how to start a second conversation that will potentially move to an in person meet up? Thanks!
There's tons of my vids that talk about just that. Look it up. As general advice though, focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
i have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 8 yrs, some 1 who was never accountable or guilty or apologetic, never the less we closed doors cpl of days back, im devastated, i have been suggested for no contact, might make them realize their mistake n return, what wud u recommend pls
This vid is for you: y2u.be/0jBl_lD35JQ but it's important to differentiate NPD from someone with an avoidant attachment style, so please watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/kxgwsBdtg8E/видео.html If she's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get her back, because even if you can change her mind, you can't change her personality, especially if she has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage her to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether she really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
I finally managed to move on and started healing after she broke up with me 😢 earlier this year....i later met someone months later and we're dating currently, but my ex is begging me to take her back, i feel so sad for her, still miss her too, but I don't want to cheat on my new gf 😔💔, i had to do no contact for months cause the pain was too much for me, I'm also thinking of her mental health I don't know how to tell her that I don't love her the way i used to, i finally moved on as she asked me to...
I separated with my husband today He was always cheating and he will always put the bla😢me on me i am so tired because I always tried everything to fixe my marriage
It's called projection. He's blaming you because he's guilty. Have you confronted him about his cheating ways? This may help: ruclips.net/video/U9oTGnDRms4/видео.html
She left me because she was confused about her feelings towards me and the relationship. We were in love and talked about our future a lot, mutually bringing it up. I want her more than I’ve ever wanted anyone. Loving her made sense, just like 2+2=4. I know she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants and I just have no idea what to do. I’m assuming the best thing for me to do is give her space and figure it out. But I want to do any and everything I can for her to come back
You're on the right track by giving her space. A healthy sense of optimism is needed indeed along with viewing the situation for what it is so as not to look at it with rose coloured glasses. This means you ought to have a balanced approach but cutting off contact will naturally help you with that, so try to stick to that rule for 30 days. One way to go about this is to not get too caught up with getting your ex back so you will allow for stuff to play naturally while playing your cards right , which is what my videos and/or my Ex Factor Guide is for. If you still can't help it, go ahead and sign up for my coaching program so I can guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but really try to have that sense of independence without your ex first. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
He and I on dating app, I made a fake account and massaged him,he suspect it's me. He visited my profile 32times, but at last I made him to believe that I am another guy. Now he wants to meet with me. I told him not so early, we will meet outside from our campus. He said ok . I wanna talk with him slowly and wanna fix everything . No contact policy didn't work. But when he saw me with my friends laughing he stare me several times. Now I wanna meet him in a coffee shop, Will it work to fix our relationship?!!?
Did you mean to meet up with him using the fake/dummy account? That's a big no-no. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
@@BradBrowning 😓in a dating app I acted like I am from Morocco I mean from his country and he acted like he is Chinese, we talked then I not talked two days then when checked again seen that he blocked me, 💔💔 One of his friend already showed him my USA university admission letter ,but he not replied him, I actually don't want to leave him , but alas maybe he completely moved, I think now this is the time to think about myself,
My ex had sex with someone else, blamed me because I didn’t give her enough space. She then told me “I love sex - the struggle is real.” Pretty sure she’s not coming back… lol
If she wants sex with someone, she would've ran to you. She's likely lost attraction and trying to blame you. Sorry to hear this man, but consider moving on.
@@BradBrowning already did man! Did I mention she’s really angry with me? She was extremely relieved after our separation. I’m the one that asked if she had slept with someone else. He was married. I’ve take a full year and half to better myself - she’s also upset about that… She’s a very a jealous, insecure person. It’s too bad. I thought she was a great girl. Thank God I saw all this before we went any further.
Does this work also during and/or after divorce? She accused me of cheating and left me. I admitted that I talked and saw a couple of ladies but I never had sex with them (which is the truth!). Can your strategy help me stop the divorcing process (we already filed), or re-marry her in the future?
How long was your marriage on the rocks? Try to take the free quiz here first to know what your chances are, at www.marriageguy.com/quiz but if you want to give it one last shot, I can guarantee you'll find something useful in my Mend the Marriage e-book, so consider checking it out. Here's a reference vid for starters: ruclips.net/video/lvH0STXVqdI/видео.html
I think my ex is in stage 3 since he texted me during no contact. Does he have options? Yes, do I have options, most definitely. So I ignored the text, let him enjoy the rebound dates & let him start worrying, "Is my ex doing the same"
In one of our last conversations she told me that she's "sorry things are the way they are". I'm not sure what to make of that. I've gone no contact in order to stay out of the friend zone.
Contrary to popular opinion, some dumpers actually feels sad about the breakup or how things didn't work out. It doesn't mean anything other than your ex processing the breakup. Here are the stages they go through during the breakup process: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
@@BradBrowningHi I'm new to your videos and really hoping to get a response. My ex and I broke things off for reasons of her not being "happy anymore", she slowly removed herself isolating herself in the opposite room. To give a back drop, sometimes we will disagree on small matters and those things escalate argumental whereas I raise my voice out of desperation to be understood (overreact) and the control of emotions get the best of us both in the heat of the moment. Our relationship was of 6 years and even engaged. Furthermore, we have a child together, just purchased a new home this year before the break up. I've tried to convince her that our relationship is still lively and I will be better, but unfortunately she continue to say "she's given 6 years of chances". She has went on dates, blocked me from social media, and is currently in contact with a guy she met this November. I feel arguments over the course of time, along with other mishaps (I never cheated) has caused this unsettling end. What should I do, how can I reassure her things will be better this time, is it to late/over? Im asking for your sincere help.
7 months and I miss being in a relationship. But honestly I think Im dong with relationships hasta 47 years of doing my best and losing all those battles. I think I gave all I could give and people dont give a freaking fu... I feel like Im done.
You know, some people are single by choice and there is definitely happiness in freedom as well! However, there is also intimacy that can only be found in relationships. What I'm saying is like all things in life, there's pros and cons to each status. It's best to decide which one you're most happy with but if you've just gotten out of a long term relationship, it's important to stay single first. Take care!
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 days ago he promised me a marriage but he said he don't love his feelings gone and he leave me alone and I'm dying for his love i can't live without him what should I do i want him back please help me tell me what should I do
What happened between the time of him wanting marriage and the breakup? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
my ex is very withdrawn from his emotions at times, even said so himself. but he has a lot of things that can distract him, like friends, work, school, etc. so im left wondering about how he's really feeling, even though whenever he comes back, he always tells me how he missed me and loves me, saying all these great things about me. about a year ago, he's implied that im irreplaceable, and that if he couldn't have me, he'd have to have someone else that is just like me...he has a hard time processing emotions too. i think all of this plays into his true feelings but i still want to know your thoughts.
Whenever he comes back? How long has this on and off thing been going on between you two? With on-and-off relationships, oftentimes this is a sign of underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. It may be time to put things into perspective while it's still early because in 14 years spent as a relationship online coach alone, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning it's been going on for about 2.5 years, we have both discussed the reasons that we have both played bc we do understand that a relationship is never one-sided in that sense, and i took accountability, made a lot of the necessary changes to become a better partner for him, and have been learning from my mistakes and our past. but in the process of the pain my ex partner was feeling, he has hurt me deeply and over a long period of time, and he has not given me the time to process my own pain with him. it almost feels like everything has to be on his own terms (we have talked about his desire for control in order to have a sense of safety). i am not the same way with him and have transformed into a completely different woman. there have been many times where he would tell me he doesn't deserve to be with me, that he just wants me to be happy and that he doesn't want to limit my options not knowing if he's ever going to change. at the time i reassured him, but now i'm kind of just left wondering, will he regret breaking up with me in the long run? bc after he would say things like this, he would backslide back into the person he used to be before he expressed a desire to try again.. i guess what frustrates me is when i changed, i changed for the better, and i have remained a constant in his life, but he has not done the same for me. which is why i'm not sure if i'll want to take him back in the future
Regardless of which stage your ex is at, you only really have to focus on yourself during this process, because really, there's no way for you to tell which stage your ex is on and it would be a mistake to keep track. Don't forget to check out my other videos especially this: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html and/or check out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/ so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview explained in greater detail on my other channel: ruclips.net/video/ddnp-83TzMk/видео.html Best of luck!
Thank you sir for all your videos. After 22 years and 4 kids, I got the “I love you but not in love with you” speech. Kids stayed with me. 10 days later she moved out. I begged and pleaded to no avail. After 6 months we agreed to try again. I was walking on eggshells when talking to her. I was always worried that she will get upset if I said the wrong thing. Basically afraid to speak my mind. It felt like she was waiting for any excuse to break it off. 2 months in and after a stupid argument she broke up with me again. This time I didn’t beg or plead and immediately went into NC. After 1 month she texted me “hey my parents are in town in case if you want to see them” I stuck to NC and didn’t reply. 2 weeks later I get another text “hey my brother had his baby in case you want to call him” and again didn’t reply. Now 3 weeks have past and no calls or texts. Was she breadcrumbing or is she playing games? Effn confused. Is she in stage 6?
You needed to text her back. I don’t agree with 100% NC. NC is on your terms. If they contact YOU, you should respond. Otherwise they know you’ve moved on and will completely be gone.
Not really but she may be trying to figure her feelings out. How did you mean by "agreed to try again?" does this mean you got back together? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad , I found out my boyfriend started buying girls only fans accounts again after I laid the boundry down that if i find out it happens again i will have to walk away. I wasnt angry i told him i loved him but this isnt what i want to deal with in a relationship . He said he understood and he lovec me ect . woke up this morning and i was blocked on everything, it just seemed so vindictive . I was wondering if you had any insight to this
It's over. If he can't find it in himself to stay committed to you, then chances are he's not ready to settle down yet and you may just have to let him go. The breakup should help you free yourself to find someone who matches with what you're looking for and the breakup was a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Everybody has their own way of coping. Breakups in particular tend to evoke anger, sadness, relief, etc. afterwards. Just try to make sure you don't add fuel to the fire because drama is really the last thing you guys need right now.
Hi I Broke up with him and when he said Bye I felt so bad…I Did the worst mistake I Begged and pleaded with him I let my emotions get the best of me for 2/12 months and not talked to him for 2 weeks now how could I get him back I feel so bad:)
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hi Brad my 1 year relationship ended yesterday. I have been begging him for the last 30 days to fix everything and tried to explain him through friends. He was so sure that he wanted to leave me and didn’t try to fix it at all in these 30 days. I never tried the nc thing for more than 2 days but I really to want him back. What should I really do?
Sorry to hear that. Respecting his decision to break up is key, though. I suggest you start with the most crucial step which you haven't done yet...and that is the 30-day "no contact" rule. Forcing things, as you can see, will only draw your ex further away from you. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care and good luck!
Hello Brad! What do i do if my ex feels resentment towards me, we broke up end of decemember and i did the no contact rule, we have a child so i do minimum contact, he didnt wish me no mothers day and told me straight up he has flashbacks of our relationship the bad memories.
This depends. Was your relationship that bad? While most relationships can be salvaged, other cases are just beyond toxic which are better off left in the past. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Thank you Brad I'll be very grateful if you answer❤️.. I've Been in a long distance relationship for 5 months and he broke up with me after a honest conversation about what our relationship miss to be more successful.. I said to him I will try my best to make things better but after 10 day he said he want to breakup again I tried to convince him but it didn't work and he said he is sad and his feelings changed since that conversation and felt like his hard work for the relationship wasn't enough for me and he feel his heart is close and not knowing what to do about it and say he want me stay away from him now and want to be alone to feel him self again because he so tired from this.. I been in no contact about 6 days but he break it 2 days ago to wish me a happy birthday.. What should I do now???
You can give him a simple thanks for the birthday wish. With regards to your situation however, as you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I dated a monkey brancher,when she dumped me,she already had 3 guys lined up to replace me,I caught her on her phone making plans with them,and telling her ex that she misses him,on our way back from our vacation,im glad I dodged a bullet,im not doing a no contact,im gone.
I agree. It is kind of a red flag if a woman can't stay single for one bit. The same goes for men too. Anyway the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Good luck!
Dumpers will often always need time. Try to see which stage your ex is at and move accordingly. The fist step for you is to cut off contact for at least 30 days. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
Only stage woman will go through is to pick random guy in DM from Instagram or Tinder and have ONS' for a month or two. Then she will move to another simp to sell him different story
Not every woman does that, man. But if that was your experience with women so far, then I'm sorry to hear that but you ought to re-evaluate your choices and get to know someone better first before jumping straight into a relationship/
I teach folks to take on a more active approach (if you want your ex back) rather than a passive one... as you could be waiting forever. Anyway you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Sir, after 1 week of during no contact my ex girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life "(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what's now? Did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again? what should I do now? Pls reply 🙏🏻
Believe it or not, that's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html Good luck!
Ok thanks for your advice. I learn no contact rule BUT how could i show her that im fine and good and other things when we dont see each other. We arent connected anymore , dont have mutual friends
It's cliche but you're doing this mainly for yourself. Once you start to do it genuinely, it will naturally show...and it's a bonus if your ex finds out.
Hey Brad need help asap! My ex 2 mo's gets a Therapist She broke up next day. after me being in no contact for a week i broke it w/a couple mild texts. She said she understood my surprise/disappointment she was dealing with issues she was hoping to fixincluding the passing of her daughter 1 year anniversary) but wanted to know why i perceived she needed space. I didn't answer right away and within 3 days then she blocked me. I did one call 6 weeks ago with no response and its been nothing communication wise on either side since . Fyi l'm on no Social Media of any kind. She maybe probably thinks I'll show up to talk it out we’re 10 minutes away i wont. Need advice ! It's not easy its getting a little better with time..i still care but its tough!
What were the issue/s in your relationship? I think you both need some space and not push it. Most people react to grief in not so good ways and this seemsto be the case with your ex, who in particular needs space because she seems to be going through a lot, so respect her decision and her goal to want to be a better person. Okay? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I told my ex,i want to heal so i blocked him on WhatsApp. Will he still miss me? Coz he's always on my mind and it's really hard for me to heal and move on.
If your relationship was serious, he will, especially if it was serious. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Me and my ex Has been brokeup about 7/8 days ago after dated for 8 years, I was wanted to marry. And he said he Doesn't believe in marriage. So we call it quit. But than he calls me after 5days,. And ask is I'm getting marry to someone else. I said It's none of his business. So he hang up the call.. Today he calls again I was busy so couldn’t received it so i call back him, he received but Didn't say anything, and hang up the call. I Don't understand what actually happen? 😑
He could be having doubts about his decision in not wanting marriage, so continue to act cordial but for now, cut off contact for at least 30 days, yeah? Watch this: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
Did you mean she went straight into another relationship right after you two broke up? Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
So I was with my ex for 4 years and engaged for one. We broke up in February and she blocked me everywhere. In early April she contacted to check in on me and to tell me she is seeing someone else. I’m Florida now and she is in California because I was in the military. How can I get her back, what can I do?
Stage 6 may be a long time coming especially if the new beau can give her constant companionship, rebound or not. With that said, wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB Good luck!
@@BradBrowning when I broke up, I tried staying contact by seeing videos or letters and gifts. I learned about you and the no contact rule this month. Does this hurt my chances now?
Hey Brad, update here! You said I had been too needy, so I decided to heed your advice and go no contact for a while, and here's what happened. Update: My ex gf who had blocked me and is still ignoring me, reached out a few days ago (this is about 2 weeks after I went no contact) and texted that she was sorry for getting into a relationship so early with me without knowing me properly, bcoz she has realised I have many qualities she doesn't like, and so she broke up. She said she only contacted me bcoz she thought I needed an explanation and she doesn't want to start a conversation with me. I explained that I understood why our relationship didn't work out, she didn't have anything to apologise for, and that I didn't care whether she wanted to speak with me or not. All in all, I wasn't needy this time and tried to act pretty chill. But at the end of the conversation she blocked me and is now ignoring me again. (Although she hasn't blocked me on telegram yet, but that's coz she doesn't know I'm on telegram:) What do you suggest I do now?
Hey man, how long were you in a relationship with her? If you've only been together for less than six months, chances are what she told you was the truth. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
are these stages do happens to everybody and everyone experience the same thing?or its going to be different from person to person?i is it possible that someone never experience these stages?
@@BradBrowning is was not a short lived.we been together for 2 years and she is with another guy, and what makes me sick is that i cant even talk or go to date with another girl because i loved her but she goes date with another guy and having sex with it very easy ,its like nothing had happened.thats make me feeling sick
@@BradBrowning its wasnt a short lived rel,we been together for 2 year and i feel that i dont know her anymore,i dont know what was fake or real or what was truth or a lie and what makes me sick is that she already dating with another guy and maybe having sex with him but i cant even talk to another girl or go to date because i loved her and respected the relationship.
@@BradBrowning one of the things that she did was accusing me for a long time and we had a fight over it at least 3 or 4 times in a month that im cheating or having affair or chat with other girls and i never did any of it actually she even had my telegram and other social accounts but still accusing me .all of her action makes me think that it was all a mind game and excuses to make me feel guilty that i did wrong so she could have a reason(that im cheater) to easily end the relationship and go with another guy
It's best you try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if their relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this. Take care!
By now you would have a proper evaluation whether or not the relationship and/or your ex is worth a second shot, right? If you want to try, then it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Whoa. Sorry to hear that... Needless to say, that's a pretty huge move. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
I wonder if it will happen to my ex too, she broke up with me at the end of June, we've talked few times since that but main reason for that is that she's moving out from my apartment and it's not that easy cause of our jobs and our time schedules... But it should be done next week so almost two months after breakup and when she'll move out I'm gonna start no contact immediately but I don't know if it'll have any effect since she's already in a new relationship with some guy from her work and she told me that she started dating him right after our breakup...
That's typical monkey-branching behaviour because the pain of your breakup may be too much for her, especially since you live together and she's used to having someone around. Anyway it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
If it's at an early parts of stage 6, yes. Otherwise sorry, but that's unlikely because most don't get stuck at the regretful stage for too long. I'm sure you've been there yourself at one point in your life in previous relationships, right? How did you feel about an ex when you were at stage 6?
Wonder if all this is the same for a long marriage where person left with another (also married) midlife crises! BUT YOU KNOW your person and the other aren’t right for each other ….
The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
When did you two broke up? If you're done with the "no contact" phase and therefore had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: ruclips.net/video/PBotQygy7os/видео.html
@@BradBrowning our relationship was for 17 years and I waited through no contact for 4 months then started texting her just 1 message every week. She would reply and text for a little then stop. I waited another month asking her for a coffee meetup with no pressure. She said she wanted to think about it. The next week she declined. I’m thinking about not sending her a weekly text anymore, it’s been 9 months now. Thank appreciate you,
I hear you. If your relationship was significant (lasted more than 6 months) then chances are your ex cares than if it was just for a few weeks type of thing. Anyway here's what your ex may be going through at this time to help you understand this behaviour: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
With on-and-off relationships, oftentimes this is a sign of underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. It may be time to put things into perspective while it's still early because in 14 years spent as a relationship online coach alone, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot. Good luck!
Ok but what if she broke up with me because she thinks I only wanted her for sex and forced her to do things? I know deep in my heart I say take your time and no rush
Did what she say has some truth to it? Were you really forcing her to do things? Compatibility is important to make a relationship thrive, at least to some degree. Please watch this vid first: ruclips.net/video/M4h7in9dtxI/видео.html
An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
I teach folks to take on a more active approach (if you want your ex back) rather than a passive one... as you could be waiting forever. Anyway you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
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Rebound guy here, 6 weeks after my breakup. Please do us all a favor and dont get into a new relationship until you're healed and completely over your previous relationship(s). Also, to the exes, if you see them with us "rebounds", dont reach out to them. Let them be. I was with this guy for three months until his ex reached out to him, which caused him to doubt what we had. He ran back to what he felt was "secure". We had no issues and never argued. It was honestly amazing. Also from my digging post break-up, I pieced together that they were broken up for roughly three months until he started dating me. HEAL YOURSELF BEFORE YOU END UP HURTING SOMEONE ELSE.
Don’t get with someone that just got out of a relationship its not that hard
Good point. Thanks for your comment!
You’re a rebound guy and we’re seeing a guy? What?
Exactly heal
@@robturner7024what’s wrong about that👀👀👀👀
I finally accepted her choice, i realized i wasnt everything bad she said i was, i will love myself and build again.
Stay strong!
If she wants to leave the let her go. Give her exactly what she wants. That's someone that you no longer have to worry about cuz they're no longer worried about you. Spend time on doing things that you wanted to do but never had the time to do. Create a new stronger better version of yourself so you can attract the right woman that is deserving of it.
Please pray for me so God will restore my relationship and open Edwin eyes and work in edwin heart and if in his will bring us back together.
Lord please help me I feel tired 😭
Hey im going through exactly what you are going through right now and feeling what you are feeling. You are not alone!
@@pimq3948 it feels like my heart is empty.
Have faith but also do your best, then surrender the outcome. Don't forget to check out my other videos too if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you today is 29days he still have not reach out. And I am still praying and still battling with myself did I really matter to him. Help please let me know what you think
I'm going through the same thing I'm so sorry you are experiencing this... I don't wish this type of thing on anybody... The worst part is waking up in the middle of the night reaching for her hand but it's not there... Hope your days get better and the person you love comes to you
I got stuck at stage two for three months because I kept chasing her. The moment I let her go and walked away and was absolutely serious that I was never going to be with her again, she went through all the other stages within a week and was begging me to take her back.
I had a lot of girls trying to be with me, but I wouldn’t do it because I wanted her back. The only way I was able to let her go was when I finally started dating other girls. Once I began dating my entire attitude and demeanor changed. She could tell it changed , she went through worry and then regret within days.
Did you get back with her?
That's what I'm talking about! :-) Thanks for sharing.
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I did get back with her. We had been together over 10 years when we split for 3 months. This happened 7 years ago and we are still together. Now been together 17 years.
When she left it was bad. It was over in her mind. Nothing I did helped and only made it worse. I was destroyed. The thing is I didn’t do anything wrong to begin with. I was good to her and loved her so much. Women can just be selfish. When she left for those 3 months it changed me. I finally got over her there at the end. At least enough to move on. That didn’t change when she came back. Since she came back I have not showered her with love and affection like I used to before. I actually don’t treat her very good at all now but I did before all that happened. She left me when I was totally and completely in love with her. Now that I don’t care anymore she is all over me. She insists we have sex every single day and at least a couple times per weeks she wants it twice per day. In the last 7 years there has been maybe 5-6 days total that we did not have sex. What’s crazy is you can’t fake not caring. You really have to not care. I also believe she saw all the women that were lining up to be with me. She realized she was approaching middle age and only heading downhill but I’m only getting better and girls in their early 20’s were lining up.
Do the no contact best you can. I know it’s hard but it’s the only thing that will work. For me it didn’t take 30 days. After 3 months of chasing her it only took about a week and she was begging me for forgiveness. She actually called me when I was on the way to the beach with a friend. She wanted me to come back but I didn’t. She asked if we could get together and talk when I got back.
I had moved on and she knew it.
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I did get back with her.
I ended because he love bombed me and then breadcrumbed me. I think I deserve more. My ex texted me after exactly 30 days with limited contact. I followed your advice but now he is trying to start a disagreement with me and is bitter with me for breaking up with him by putting the blame on me. I just didn't answer his last text because I am not going to argue. I miss him but I deserve better. He is also with a rebound right after we broke up.
This is exactly my story also! Wow I pray for strength forcus all
Thanks for sharing your story. It's either he didn't know what he want and he love bombed you or you two were too incompatible to make it in the long run. Either way, I agree, it's not a good relationship and if you don't feel loved by him, it's time to move on. Continue ignoring to not give out false hopes. Take care!
@@BradBrowning Thank you Brad. I used your method before in the previous relationship. The no contact worked but some people don't realize they have something good until they lose it. In my case I have trust issues with men and am not willing to put up with breadcrumbing. I ended with my best friend who I had been over looking for other emotionally unavailable men. He was there patiently waiting for me to notice him as more than just a friend. This man I do feel I can trust. I am much happier. I hope other people on here find love.
Nothing can change that because it's gods will
Yes and it's human nature everyone experiences. Love and loss are all part of living.
@@BradBrowningexactly what Buddha said.if you have time follow his teachings too.
I can certainly confirm the first 2 stages. I tried fixing things before actual break up but I noticed she had already made up their mind about breaking up. I did beg her to reconsider after that and that's when she actually said she's feeling relieved to have ended things. Since then I've been in no contact mode for 3 months now so I have no idea what's happening in her world. She hasn't reached out or anything but I'm no longer that much interested in getting her back.
It's your life so ultimately it's your decision, man. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
@BradBrowning thanks bro. I think for now I just wanna maintain the status quo. I've decided to take a break from dating for some time so that I can focus on improving other areas of my life. Time will tell what my next move will be when I'm ready to date again.
Man i have been broken up with my ex for a month and a half, at first it was space and self growth, i gave her space we talked here and there, then we stopped talking. A week ago i called to see where we were at (it was a mistake) she says she wants to be alone and shes not sure if she will later regret that decision. After the conversation i told her basically im not going to figth if its meant to be it will be of not life goes on. Being in limbo stage sucks. Im moving on with my life with hope that we can get back together but not really counting on it for sure.
That's right. You're already on the right mentality. It sucks indeed! This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/QPJprJuf-iU/видео.html
Hey Brad! About 4 days ago, we broke up. However I know she is a very honest person and is wanting to collect her life first, and I fully trust her that she isn't willing to see anyone else until she has space in her life to do so. We are still in contact, but obviously not talking as often, she says that she will need sometime to heal due to the pain I caused her.
I also don't think the 30 day no contact would really apply as that isn't much time for both of us to become better people. However, I have lots of plan to better myself and as I'm typing this out, I'm already going the right way! When do you think it's appropriate to reach out to her again? And again, I know for a fact that she does NOT want a relationship for a while.
Hi! The average time to go no contact is 4-6 weeks but if you don't think that's enough time based on your situation, then you can extend it a bit more. You can both be better people for each other if you two manage to work on it... or you can both be better people for other people. It just really depends as some people fit like a glove while others take a huge amount of compromise to get there. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@BradBrowning hi brad what about when you live together still and have kids and she just filed for divorce. Would NC be best??
I love your videos! When in doubt about doing the right thing. I watch this video to reassure myself that I am doing what is best. haha! I watch it several times daily. The goal is to get him back and not have to watch your videos all of the time. For now, I will do what I have to do to get past this stage. Thank you
You're welcome! :-) A great alternative would be to read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have something to keep you busy and some bonus reference materials on what to text your ex when the time comes, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Either way, good luck to your goals!
8 months since break up. 4 months nc. She is done done. She deserves everything but ain't coming back
If none of you reaches you, then yes, it may really be over for good. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
I'm still kind of in limbo because of how it ended so suddenly I am always expecting her to unblock AGAIN and possibly reach out but I got my eyes on someone else now who also had a break up at the beginning of the year. For me it's been 11 months since the break up. I'm wanting to understand when any woman is ready after a break up so I don't try it on with someone who may still be thinking about their ex. In my case my new crush had a break up 9 months ago. Maybe 9 months is long enough who knows. Perhaps i'll wait until the new year and if I don't get any birthday or Christmas messages from my ex then I will try it on with the other bird. ❤ I need to move on! Be great to have a video covering restraining orders etc..being that nice guy that did so much good that ended up in court because of her trauma. Their mother or father being the abuser in their life, the good guy comes along and her cortisol levels drop and that causes edlsentiqlly a drug withdrawal and they get scared and think they're being controlled as they have just been coping with the abuse for 30+ years! Horrible. 😢
Hi! Thanks for sharing. Yes, it's important to open your dating options now, especially considering how it's been many months since the breakup. Otherwise, if you have the means to do so, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
I chased her for like a 1month after because she said i have to think about it blabla but it was obvious i just couldnt see it, she Even now says «i hope we can Get back someday when we both have healed» but deep down i know its just hard for her to take goodbye, but from yesterday i have given her nocontact. Your videos motivates me, i just hope i did not chase her and begged too much
I hope so, too. A month is kinda pushing it. Couldn't see what though? That you need to heal? Just try to make sure you avoid any further mistakes moving forward, yeah? Use this time to focus on yourself and work on your issues. There's always room for self improvement. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning like for 3 weeks. I said, «please give it a chance» and she replied «im trying» and then one day i begged too much and she said its not gonna work, and i went like all crazy. But right before nocontact i just said im good and hope you Are good
@@BradBrowning i scored 69 on the link you sent🤣 but i have already started the NC, so should just keep on working on myself
Why would you take a boyfriend back? if they’ve been with somebody else I wouldn’t that’s one of my must-haves for him to even be considered to be back in mylife.. Just a thought of having them to be with somebody else and be touched by somebody else. That’s disgusting.
The decision to take an ex back is purely subjective. Sometimes they're worth it, other times it's not.
Hi Brad
Your video really helped me.. Till yesterday i was desperate to msg him. But watching your video helped me alot to controll. I really hope this will work for me aswell
The last two stages… 🔥 I hope both last forever for him… :)
Especially if there's something to regret for! This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/XodgaAi8EbM/видео.html
This is very correct! Thank you Brad
Hey you're welcome! :-)
Almost seems accurate enough, just gotta watch out for the inconcistencies on these stages. It would usually overlap, thx Brad. ;-;7
You're welcome! Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
What about when your living together and have kids and she filed for divorce? Help brad.
When did she file for divorce and how long has your marriage been rocky? Why have you waited too long to try and save your marriage to the point where she's already filed for divorce? Anyway, moving forward, try to gauge your chances here first: www.marriageguy.com/quiz These may help, hopefully: ruclips.net/video/lvH0STXVqdI/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/видео.html but if you still need my help in trying to fix your marriage, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can take a look at what's really going on and help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Should I show him that i am doing ok and happy? or will it be more effective if he would know zero like nothing about me?
Creating Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is important. Please watch this: ruclips.net/video/STLjybyiaBQ/видео.html Also read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenarios and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hi Brad, you make a lot of content about how to get back together with your ex. But for cases that we were cheated on, how do we know if we should accept them back? Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.
Since that's a devastating experience, the desire/intention to fix that particular relationship then becomes a purely subjective experience. There are many causes of one partner going astray and while some cases can be worked on, other cases deserve to be left in oblivion. So use your discernment if the situation you describe happens, all right? If you need my help on that, then I need a ton of details to your situation but this is what I'm here for so hire me as your coach at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I don't know what to do guys. It feels like I have no friends, I can call people and go out, but they're flat, won't understand me. I feel as alone as it gets. I was very confident, and was doing really good and now I'm just as crushed as when we broke up. I need help, have no clue what to do. Suicidal thoughts are going through my head all the time in the last 20 hours. I'm self sabotaging. Help me
Just hang on brother. The thoughts will pass. You need to cry as much as you can. And HARD, in privacy or whenever you need to. It's agonizing but it DOES get better. I promise. I was there about a month ago. It sucks ass and it WILL hurt, unbearably so. But it DOES get better.
I’m right there with you. You’re not alone. We will pull through this. Taking all of this a day at a time.
Sorry to hear that. You absolutely need to take care of yourself first before anything else. And yes, it's way tougher indeed without a support system. You can reach out to family or even post a topic on an online forum to vent out and/or make new friends. As to your thoughts, you likely feel overwhelmed and that's normal. It's time to release that pent up energy by brisk walking/jogging or getting a new hobby as you adjust to life without your ex. Take care!
Hey Brad I broke up with my ex a week ago and she moved on in that first week I was hurt and I messaged her and I talked to her I told her how I felt and I showed her my true self and I know I should of stopped and let her heal but I want to change her mind and show her I want to have a new relationship with her and start over
Any problems/issues you've had should've been fixed before she called it quits, man. Convincing your ex when she's recently ended it with you won't likely work because yes, she needs space. Please watch this first: ruclips.net/video/p-xoY9oRY1M/видео.html then follow up with this: ruclips.net/video/SeO0QXqY60w/видео.html but if you're stuck in trying to make progress, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help you out. It comes with bonus materials to text your ex so there's never a dull moment between you two and keep her interest, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
Do you have videos on when your husband leaves you for another woman? I would love to see one of those
Please stay tuned for future uploads which may include this title. Anyway how long has your marriage been rocky prior to him finding his mistress? What were the issues in your marriage? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation where we could get to the bottom of the issue/s, including what your next best move is/are, at: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Listening to this makes me not want him back.
Its hard when my is in his rebound but now things with my ex are going well but now it shouldnt bother me when his friend move in with him
What happen if you are a content creator and there's impossible for you to disappeare since you need to upload videos weekly?
Just keep doing your thing (content) which hopefully doesn't require her?
My ex confirmed by text saying it is final, no longer wishing to talk to me anymore. After 2.5 years together. Long distance relationship.
Hi! This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/PHFnR-MMgho/видео.html
Hi Brad, I appreciate the channel a lot! My ex and I recently broke up over a mutual decision that our personal lives got to much into our relationship lives and caused used to break apart, due to things we needed to work on personally so it can be better for us personally, especially me not changing for her needs at the time. We have been together for 2 years and planned on having a life together by getting married and starting a family and I know on my heart it was meant to be. She still wants to be my Friend in life and she cares a lot about me. At this time I'm taking the time to let her be and do the 30 day no contact but she texted me on 3 days after we broke up saying "I'm really sorry for what you're going through" I really am" so I'm kind of confused why she would text me but its good to understand she cares in a way. I'm working on my self by working out and distractions like family and friends. Is there any advice into when I should start reaching my ex out to let her know I'm doing great on my own? So that way later I can get her attention that she wants this better man in her life that he changed. Please see this message Brad, and help me to get started privately.
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! I followed your advice on how to text my ex after no contact and it went well but after that we never spoke again. Any advice on how to start a second conversation that will potentially move to an in person meet up? Thanks!
There's tons of my vids that talk about just that. Look it up. As general advice though, focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
i have been in a relationship with a narcissist for 8 yrs, some 1 who was never accountable or guilty or apologetic, never the less we closed doors cpl of days back, im devastated, i have been suggested for no contact, might make them realize their mistake n return, what wud u recommend pls
This vid is for you: y2u.be/0jBl_lD35JQ but it's important to differentiate NPD from someone with an avoidant attachment style, so please watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/kxgwsBdtg8E/видео.html If she's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get her back, because even if you can change her mind, you can't change her personality, especially if she has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage her to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether she really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
I finally managed to move on and started healing after she broke up with me 😢 earlier this year....i later met someone months later and we're dating currently, but my ex is begging me to take her back, i feel so sad for her, still miss her too, but I don't want to cheat on my new gf 😔💔, i had to do no contact for months cause the pain was too much for me, I'm also thinking of her mental health I don't know how to tell her that I don't love her the way i used to, i finally moved on as she asked me to...
You're on the right track. Continue moving on. Your ex will learn her lesson in due time.
I separated with my husband today He was always cheating and he will always put the bla😢me on me i am so tired because I always tried everything to fixe my marriage
It's called projection. He's blaming you because he's guilty. Have you confronted him about his cheating ways? This may help: ruclips.net/video/U9oTGnDRms4/видео.html
She left me because she was confused about her feelings towards me and the relationship. We were in love and talked about our future a lot, mutually bringing it up. I want her more than I’ve ever wanted anyone. Loving her made sense, just like 2+2=4. I know she’s confused and doesn’t know what she wants and I just have no idea what to do. I’m assuming the best thing for me to do is give her space and figure it out. But I want to do any and everything I can for her to come back
You're on the right track by giving her space. A healthy sense of optimism is needed indeed along with viewing the situation for what it is so as not to look at it with rose coloured glasses. This means you ought to have a balanced approach but cutting off contact will naturally help you with that, so try to stick to that rule for 30 days. One way to go about this is to not get too caught up with getting your ex back so you will allow for stuff to play naturally while playing your cards right , which is what my videos and/or my Ex Factor Guide is for. If you still can't help it, go ahead and sign up for my coaching program so I can guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but really try to have that sense of independence without your ex first. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
He and I on dating app, I made a fake account and massaged him,he suspect it's me. He visited my profile 32times, but at last I made him to believe that I am another guy. Now he wants to meet with me. I told him not so early, we will meet outside from our campus. He said ok . I wanna talk with him slowly and wanna fix everything
. No contact policy didn't work. But when he saw me with my friends laughing he stare me several times.
Now I wanna meet him in a coffee shop, Will it work to fix our relationship?!!?
Did you mean to meet up with him using the fake/dummy account? That's a big no-no. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
@@BradBrowning 😓in a dating app I acted like I am from Morocco I mean from his country and he acted like he is Chinese, we talked then I not talked two days then when checked again seen that he blocked me, 💔💔 One of his friend already showed him my USA university admission letter ,but he not replied him, I actually don't want to leave him , but alas maybe he completely moved, I think now this is the time to think about myself,
My ex had sex with someone else, blamed me because I didn’t give her enough space. She then told me “I love sex - the struggle is real.” Pretty sure she’s not coming back… lol
If she wants sex with someone, she would've ran to you. She's likely lost attraction and trying to blame you. Sorry to hear this man, but consider moving on.
@@BradBrowning already did man! Did I mention she’s really angry with me? She was extremely relieved after our separation. I’m the one that asked if she had slept with someone else. He was married.
I’ve take a full year and half to better myself - she’s also upset about that…
She’s a very a jealous, insecure person. It’s too bad. I thought she was a great girl. Thank God I saw all this before we went any further.
Does this work also during and/or after divorce?
She accused me of cheating and left me. I admitted that I talked and saw a couple of ladies but I never had sex with them (which is the truth!).
Can your strategy help me stop the divorcing process (we already filed), or re-marry her in the future?
How long was your marriage on the rocks? Try to take the free quiz here first to know what your chances are, at www.marriageguy.com/quiz but if you want to give it one last shot, I can guarantee you'll find something useful in my Mend the Marriage e-book, so consider checking it out. Here's a reference vid for starters: ruclips.net/video/lvH0STXVqdI/видео.html
I think my ex is in stage 3 since he texted me during no contact. Does he have options? Yes, do I have options, most definitely. So I ignored the text, let him enjoy the rebound dates & let him start worrying, "Is my ex doing the same"
That's right!
In one of our last conversations she told me that she's "sorry things are the way they are". I'm not sure what to make of that. I've gone no contact in order to stay out of the friend zone.
Contrary to popular opinion, some dumpers actually feels sad about the breakup or how things didn't work out. It doesn't mean anything other than your ex processing the breakup. Here are the stages they go through during the breakup process: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
@@BradBrowningHi I'm new to your videos and really hoping to get a response. My ex and I broke things off for reasons of her not being "happy anymore", she slowly removed herself isolating herself in the opposite room. To give a back drop, sometimes we will disagree on small matters and those things escalate argumental whereas I raise my voice out of desperation to be understood (overreact) and the control of emotions get the best of us both in the heat of the moment. Our relationship was of 6 years and even engaged. Furthermore, we have a child together, just purchased a new home this year before the break up. I've tried to convince her that our relationship is still lively and I will be better, but unfortunately she continue to say "she's given 6 years of chances". She has went on dates, blocked me from social media, and is currently in contact with a guy she met this November. I feel arguments over the course of time, along with other mishaps (I never cheated) has caused this unsettling end. What should I do, how can I reassure her things will be better this time, is it to late/over? Im asking for your sincere help.
7 months and I miss being in a relationship. But honestly I think Im dong with relationships hasta 47 years of doing my best and losing all those battles. I think I gave all I could give and people dont give a freaking fu...
I feel like Im done.
You know, some people are single by choice and there is definitely happiness in freedom as well! However, there is also intimacy that can only be found in relationships. What I'm saying is like all things in life, there's pros and cons to each status. It's best to decide which one you're most happy with but if you've just gotten out of a long term relationship, it's important to stay single first. Take care!
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 days ago he promised me a marriage but he said he don't love his feelings gone and he leave me alone and I'm dying for his love i can't live without him what should I do i want him back please help me tell me what should I do
Sounds like he monkey branched to another girl . Just move on and do breath work and cry it out .
What happened between the time of him wanting marriage and the breakup? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
my ex is very withdrawn from his emotions at times, even said so himself. but he has a lot of things that can distract him, like friends, work, school, etc. so im left wondering about how he's really feeling, even though whenever he comes back, he always tells me how he missed me and loves me, saying all these great things about me. about a year ago, he's implied that im irreplaceable, and that if he couldn't have me, he'd have to have someone else that is just like me...he has a hard time processing emotions too. i think all of this plays into his true feelings but i still want to know your thoughts.
Whenever he comes back? How long has this on and off thing been going on between you two? With on-and-off relationships, oftentimes this is a sign of underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. It may be time to put things into perspective while it's still early because in 14 years spent as a relationship online coach alone, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning it's been going on for about 2.5 years, we have both discussed the reasons that we have both played bc we do understand that a relationship is never one-sided in that sense, and i took accountability, made a lot of the necessary changes to become a better partner for him, and have been learning from my mistakes and our past. but in the process of the pain my ex partner was feeling, he has hurt me deeply and over a long period of time, and he has not given me the time to process my own pain with him. it almost feels like everything has to be on his own terms (we have talked about his desire for control in order to have a sense of safety). i am not the same way with him and have transformed into a completely different woman.
there have been many times where he would tell me he doesn't deserve to be with me, that he just wants me to be happy and that he doesn't want to limit my options not knowing if he's ever going to change. at the time i reassured him, but now i'm kind of just left wondering, will he regret breaking up with me in the long run? bc after he would say things like this, he would backslide back into the person he used to be before he expressed a desire to try again..
i guess what frustrates me is when i changed, i changed for the better, and i have remained a constant in his life, but he has not done the same for me. which is why i'm not sure if i'll want to take him back in the future
When youre describing the stages, do you flat out ignore them completely through the stages, or give the odd bit of attention?
Regardless of which stage your ex is at, you only really have to focus on yourself during this process, because really, there's no way for you to tell which stage your ex is on and it would be a mistake to keep track. Don't forget to check out my other videos especially this: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html and/or check out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/ so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview explained in greater detail on my other channel: ruclips.net/video/ddnp-83TzMk/видео.html Best of luck!
@BradBrowning thank you for your time and help much appreciated
Thank you sir for all your videos. After 22 years and 4 kids, I got the “I love you but not in love with you” speech. Kids stayed with me. 10 days later she moved out. I begged and pleaded to no avail. After 6 months we agreed to try again. I was walking on eggshells when talking to her. I was always worried that she will get upset if I said the wrong thing. Basically afraid to speak my mind. It felt like she was waiting for any excuse to break it off. 2 months in and after a stupid argument she broke up with me again. This time I didn’t beg or plead and immediately went into NC. After 1 month she texted me “hey my parents are in town in case if you want to see them” I stuck to NC and didn’t reply. 2 weeks later I get another text “hey my brother had his baby in case you want to call him” and again didn’t reply. Now 3 weeks have past and no calls or texts. Was she breadcrumbing or is she playing games? Effn confused. Is she in stage 6?
I say text her back brother but maybe wait for someone else to respond lol idk
You needed to text her back. I don’t agree with 100% NC. NC is on your terms. If they contact YOU, you should respond. Otherwise they know you’ve moved on and will completely be gone.
Not really but she may be trying to figure her feelings out. How did you mean by "agreed to try again?" does this mean you got back together? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yea I regret my comment u shoulda definitely txted her txt her now brother
Hi Brad , I found out my boyfriend started buying girls only fans accounts again after I laid the boundry down that if i find out it happens again i will have to walk away. I wasnt angry i told him i loved him but this isnt what i want to deal with in a relationship . He said he understood and he lovec me ect . woke up this morning and i was blocked on everything, it just seemed so vindictive . I was wondering if you had any insight to this
It's over. If he can't find it in himself to stay committed to you, then chances are he's not ready to settle down yet and you may just have to let him go. The breakup should help you free yourself to find someone who matches with what you're looking for and the breakup was a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Why are is my husband of 13 years, being cruel actually wicked during the relief period? I don't recognize him!
Everybody has their own way of coping. Breakups in particular tend to evoke anger, sadness, relief, etc. afterwards. Just try to make sure you don't add fuel to the fire because drama is really the last thing you guys need right now.
Hi I Broke up with him and when he said Bye I felt so bad…I Did the worst mistake I Begged and pleaded with him I let my emotions get the best of me for 2/12 months and not talked to him for 2 weeks now how could I get him back I feel so bad:)
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Love trying to make a hard break when we live together and can’t move out 😬
It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Is he back?
What if the no contact lasts 10 months? There was one phone call, he has someone new but he can't forget me?
Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hi Brad my 1 year relationship ended yesterday. I have been begging him for the last 30 days to fix everything and tried to explain him through friends. He was so sure that he wanted to leave me and didn’t try to fix it at all in these 30 days. I never tried the nc thing for more than 2 days but I really to want him back. What should I really do?
Sorry to hear that. Respecting his decision to break up is key, though. I suggest you start with the most crucial step which you haven't done yet...and that is the 30-day "no contact" rule. Forcing things, as you can see, will only draw your ex further away from you. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care and good luck!
Hello Brad! What do i do if my ex feels resentment towards me, we broke up end of decemember and i did the no contact rule, we have a child so i do minimum contact, he didnt wish me no mothers day and told me straight up he has flashbacks of our relationship the bad memories.
This depends. Was your relationship that bad? While most relationships can be salvaged, other cases are just beyond toxic which are better off left in the past. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
We have broke up for 3 months and we have a daughter what can I do
why would you want someone back? 🤷♂️
Thank you Brad I'll be very grateful if you answer❤️.. I've Been in a long distance relationship for 5 months and he broke up with me after a honest conversation about what our relationship miss to be more successful.. I said to him I will try my best to make things better but after 10 day he said he want to breakup again I tried to convince him but it didn't work and he said he is sad and his feelings changed since that conversation and felt like his hard work for the relationship wasn't enough for me and he feel his heart is close and not knowing what to do about it and say he want me stay away from him now and want to be alone to feel him self again because he so tired from this.. I been in no contact about 6 days but he break it 2 days ago to wish me a happy birthday.. What should I do now???
You can give him a simple thanks for the birthday wish. With regards to your situation however, as you've noticed, the distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I dated a monkey brancher,when she dumped me,she already had 3 guys lined up to replace me,I caught her on her phone making plans with them,and telling her ex that she misses him,on our way back from our vacation,im glad I dodged a bullet,im not doing a no contact,im gone.
I agree. It is kind of a red flag if a woman can't stay single for one bit. The same goes for men too. Anyway the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Good luck!
What if we broke up we took time of she wanted me back but then she decided she needed more time i think she dated someone else
Dumpers will often always need time. Try to see which stage your ex is at and move accordingly. The fist step for you is to cut off contact for at least 30 days. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
I would like to my husband I have had no regrets he has not contacted me. I have moved on and I have no regrets
Only stage woman will go through is to pick random guy in DM from Instagram or Tinder and have ONS' for a month or two.
Then she will move to another simp to sell him different story
Not every woman does that, man. But if that was your experience with women so far, then I'm sorry to hear that but you ought to re-evaluate your choices and get to know someone better first before jumping straight into a relationship/
I love it thanks ❤❤❤
You're welcome! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ruclips.net/user/bradbrowning”
What phase of we’ve been nc for 10 weeks and I’ve heard nothing from him yet. He’s avoidant
I teach folks to take on a more active approach (if you want your ex back) rather than a passive one... as you could be waiting forever. Anyway you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Update?
does the pattern applicable to everyone?? to every avoidant?
Yes, this applies to every human being although sometimes, the stages are interchanged.
Sir, after 1 week of during no contact my ex girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life "(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what's now? Did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again? what should I do now? Pls reply 🙏🏻
Believe it or not, that's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: ruclips.net/video/tev2-lrJq7o/видео.html Good luck!
For step 6 if they feel resentful what do I do? Especially if i try to be cool with him but I can tell he keeps his distance and bitterness.?
A lot depends on your history together and why he's bitter in the first place. i.e.: have you cheated on him?
Ok thanks for your advice.
I learn no contact rule
BUT how could i show her that im fine and good and other things when we dont see each other.
We arent connected anymore , dont have mutual friends
It's cliche but you're doing this mainly for yourself. Once you start to do it genuinely, it will naturally show...and it's a bonus if your ex finds out.
@@BradBrowning ahhhhh now i get it.
Thank you.
Hey Brad need help asap! My ex 2 mo's gets a Therapist She broke up next day. after me being in no contact for a week i broke it w/a couple mild texts. She said she understood my surprise/disappointment she was dealing with issues she was hoping to fixincluding the passing of her daughter 1 year anniversary) but wanted to know why i perceived she needed space. I didn't answer right away and within 3 days then she blocked me. I did one call 6 weeks ago with no response and its been nothing communication wise on either side since . Fyi l'm on no Social Media of any kind. She maybe probably thinks I'll show up to talk it out we’re 10 minutes away i wont.
Need advice ! It's not easy its getting a little better with time..i still care but its tough!
What were the issue/s in your relationship? I think you both need some space and not push it. Most people react to grief in not so good ways and this seemsto be the case with your ex, who in particular needs space because she seems to be going through a lot, so respect her decision and her goal to want to be a better person. Okay? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I told my ex,i want to heal so i blocked him on WhatsApp.
Will he still miss me?
Coz he's always on my mind and it's really hard for me to heal and move on.
If your relationship was serious, he will, especially if it was serious. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
@@BradBrowning yh,it was but I guess It won't just work out anymore since we're both still young(teens).
Me and my ex Has been brokeup about 7/8 days ago after dated for 8 years, I was wanted to marry. And he said he Doesn't believe in marriage. So we call it quit. But than he calls me after 5days,. And ask is I'm getting marry to someone else. I said It's none of his business. So he hang up the call.. Today he calls again
I was busy so couldn’t received it so i call back him, he received but Didn't say anything, and hang up the call. I Don't understand what actually happen? 😑
He could be having doubts about his decision in not wanting marriage, so continue to act cordial but for now, cut off contact for at least 30 days, yeah? Watch this: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
@@BradBrowning
Thank you Brad
What if she is in commited relationship with other all the stages has been skipped?
Did you mean she went straight into another relationship right after you two broke up? Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
So I was with my ex for 4 years and engaged for one. We broke up in February and she blocked me everywhere. In early April she contacted to check in on me and to tell me she is seeing someone else. I’m Florida now and she is in California because I was in the military. How can I get her back, what can I do?
Who broke up with who? You wanna girl that is having sex with other dude?
Stage 6 may be a long time coming especially if the new beau can give her constant companionship, rebound or not. With that said, wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUB Good luck!
@@BradBrowning when I broke up, I tried staying contact by seeing videos or letters and gifts. I learned about you and the no contact rule this month. Does this hurt my chances now?
@@canis556 she initiated. She’s not having sex. At least not yet
Hey Brad, update here! You said I had been too needy, so I decided to heed your advice and go no contact for a while, and here's what happened.
Update: My ex gf who had blocked me and is still ignoring me, reached out a few days ago (this is about 2 weeks after I went no contact) and texted that she was sorry for getting into a relationship so early with me without knowing me properly, bcoz she has realised I have many qualities she doesn't like, and so she broke up. She said she only contacted me bcoz she thought I needed an explanation and she doesn't want to start a conversation with me. I explained that I understood why our relationship didn't work out, she didn't have anything to apologise for, and that I didn't care whether she wanted to speak with me or not. All in all, I wasn't needy this time and tried to act pretty chill. But at the end of the conversation she blocked me and is now ignoring me again. (Although she hasn't blocked me on telegram yet, but that's coz she doesn't know I'm on telegram:)
What do you suggest I do now?
Hey man, how long were you in a relationship with her? If you've only been together for less than six months, chances are what she told you was the truth. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
are these stages do happens to everybody and everyone experience the same thing?or its going to be different from person to person?i
is it possible that someone never experience these stages?
It's what dumpers commonly go through and the only time they never experience these stages is if when the relationship was just a fling/short-lived.
@@BradBrowning its was not a short lived i was with her for about 2 years and now she is with another guy
@@BradBrowning is was not a short lived.we been together for 2 years and she is with another guy, and what makes me sick is that i cant even talk or go to date with another girl because i loved her but she goes date with another guy and having sex with it very easy ,its like nothing had happened.thats make me feeling sick
@@BradBrowning its wasnt a short lived rel,we been together for 2 year
and i feel that i dont know her anymore,i dont know what was fake or real or what was truth or a lie and what makes me sick is that she already dating with another guy and maybe having sex with him but i cant even talk to another girl or go to date because i loved her and respected the relationship.
@@BradBrowning one of the things that she did was accusing me for a long time and we had a fight over it at least 3 or 4 times in a month that im cheating or having affair or chat with other girls and i never did any of it
actually she even had my telegram and other social accounts but still accusing me .all of her action makes me think that it was all a mind game and excuses to make me feel guilty that i did wrong so she could have a reason(that im cheater) to easily end the relationship and go with another guy
He told me he met someone, what about in this case? I would appreciate your comment.
It's best you try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if their relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this. Take care!
It's 5 months and my ex hasn't contacted yet.
I guess she's happy living her new life
By now you would have a proper evaluation whether or not the relationship and/or your ex is worth a second shot, right? If you want to try, then it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
what if she married someone else
same here
@@farrukhakhtar1185forget it!😮😮😮
My sunlight was too bright.
Hey thanks for dropping by!
My guy of 22 years moved right in with someone else 😮
Whoa. Sorry to hear that... Needless to say, that's a pretty huge move. Sorry, but chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: ruclips.net/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/видео.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
I wonder if it will happen to my ex too, she broke up with me at the end of June, we've talked few times since that but main reason for that is that she's moving out from my apartment and it's not that easy cause of our jobs and our time schedules... But it should be done next week so almost two months after breakup and when she'll move out I'm gonna start no contact immediately but I don't know if it'll have any effect since she's already in a new relationship with some guy from her work and she told me that she started dating him right after our breakup...
That's typical monkey-branching behaviour because the pain of your breakup may be too much for her, especially since you live together and she's used to having someone around. Anyway it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Is there any way to get them back after stage 6?
If it's at an early parts of stage 6, yes. Otherwise sorry, but that's unlikely because most don't get stuck at the regretful stage for too long. I'm sure you've been there yourself at one point in your life in previous relationships, right? How did you feel about an ex when you were at stage 6?
Wonder if all this is the same for a long marriage where person left with another (also married) midlife crises! BUT YOU KNOW your person and the other aren’t right for each other ….
The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Should I wait 30 Days just, he deleted me everywhere?
Definitely!
What about a stubborn ex? That’s a difficult situation no?
When did you two broke up? If you're done with the "no contact" phase and therefore had sent one of these text messages for re-establishing contact, give your ex time to warm up slowly to you. Don't expect one text to work magic because it simply doesn't work that way. Getting an ex back is a process, therefore, learn to be patient and like I said, give her time to actually come close to you. She can't do that if you keep chasing her. Makes sense? Also, this may help: ruclips.net/video/PBotQygy7os/видео.html
@@BradBrowning our relationship was for 17 years and I waited through no contact for 4 months then started texting her just 1 message every week. She would reply and text for a little then stop. I waited another month asking her for a coffee meetup with no pressure. She said she wanted to think about it. The next week she declined. I’m thinking about not sending her a weekly text anymore, it’s been 9 months now. Thank appreciate you,
9 days no contact, I feel I’m In hell and he never cared
I hear you. If your relationship was significant (lasted more than 6 months) then chances are your ex cares than if it was just for a few weeks type of thing. Anyway here's what your ex may be going through at this time to help you understand this behaviour: ruclips.net/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/видео.html
will this work on the 3rd time? you break up
With on-and-off relationships, oftentimes this is a sign of underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. It may be time to put things into perspective while it's still early because in 14 years spent as a relationship online coach alone, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: ruclips.net/video/zqAEi9PbEAA/видео.html But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot. Good luck!
Ok but what if she broke up with me because she thinks I only wanted her for sex and forced her to do things? I know deep in my heart I say take your time and no rush
Did what she say has some truth to it? Were you really forcing her to do things? Compatibility is important to make a relationship thrive, at least to some degree. Please watch this vid first: ruclips.net/video/M4h7in9dtxI/видео.html
Mine did everything possible to hurt me as much as possible.
Sorry to hear that.
I pulled the plug on her because of numerous red flags
I take it you only dated shortly. Looks like a blessing in disguise to save both of you further heartache down the road!
@@BradBrowning long distance dating sex wad great
@@BradBrowning no 10 yrs long distance relation
My DA ex has left me again 😔
Work on yourself. Become the person you want to date. If they can walk away from you then they don't deserve you.
She's not ready. Work on yourself to be the best version of yourself.
An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Been 10 weeks since the breakup. Don’t think she’s coming back
I teach folks to take on a more active approach (if you want your ex back) rather than a passive one... as you could be waiting forever. Anyway you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: ruclips.net/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/видео.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: ruclips.net/video/t6I5k55pnCE/видео.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
MoFo can stay gone
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.