What Makes Your Ex Miss You?
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- Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024
- What makes an ex miss you and want you back? In this video, I explain a number of things you can do to make your ex miss you like crazy... and get them to come back to you.
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If you’re hoping for a second chance with your ex, this is going to be an absolute must-watch video, because you’ll learn several important lessons... including:
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0:40 - #1) Why you need your ex to miss you in order to have any chance of getting them back;
2:40 - #2) What common mistakes most people make that prevent their ex from missing them;
6:48 - #3) What generally will make your ex start to miss you;
14:49 - #4) What messages you can send to your ex to help them miss you even more; and
18:44 - #5) Some common signs that indicate your ex is missing you.
Remember: if you want any hope of getting a second chance with your ex, then you need to make them miss you! In this video, I explain why this is the case and how exactly you can make your ex miss you in order to get them back...
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I pretty much made all the mistakes in the first 2 weeks after I was dumped after a 10 year string along relationship. I was angry, distraught and embarrassed. Honestly, I wanted to throat punch him. In the beginning I stooped to new lows when I begged him back and texted ridiculous things. Somehow, I stumbled upon Brad, invested in his program and to be quite frank, it was the best thing I have ever done. I became a much better person overall. In the end he did come back and we were able to work through all the misunderstandings and there were a decade of them to amend. We now have the best relationship I have ever had. Making myself the best person I could be during the breakup was the single best thing I could have ever done.
This is awesome to hear and I'm very happy for you two. Glad I've helped out! :-)
How long did it take to reconcile?
We wont even probably get back together, but your videos motivate
me so much. Thank you Brad🙏🏼
Glad to hear. Always prioritize yourself first, yeah? Your own journey to healing should come first, so take care of your emotional and mental well being. The pandemic isn't helping, but try to do different things and don't be afraid to take on new possibilities. You never know what blessings await you on the other side of all the darkness and pain. :-) Take care!
I didn’t beg my former girlfriend after the breakup. She had sent me a happy birthday message after the breakup. Almost a week to the day of the breakup.
I sent her a message about five days later. Told her I wasn’t angry. Just wished it would have went differently.
Then later sent her a few pictures of her and I together. Told her thanks and left it at that.
My Ex’s grandma passed away couple of weeks ago and now she’s reached out to me.
In reality or in your dreams?
@@seemapal6646 i think he meant his ex, not the grandma😅
Offer your ex some sympathy but nothing more than that. She has to grieve in her own way first.
Or maybe he's telling that his ex reached out to him couple of weeks after his grama passed away
@@aleksandrabouma2396 🤣
I’m going through a breakup now. It sucks. It hurts. I have hope for the future but i don’t see it being possible. I’ve been watching your videos Brad to help alleviate the pain a little, with the idea that maybe, i can still hold on to the 1% chance that i could get him back. That he still misses me or cares.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. Hope is the last to go BUT the space and time apart is needed because it not only helps you heal but also helps you gain a clearer perspective of the entire situation first. Each relationship is a blessing, until it isn't. If it becomes a lesson, make sure you learn it before you get into the next one or rebuild the connection with your ex. Otherwise a pattern would be repeated. Just try to make sure you maximize what you can within this 30-day period such as healing yourself, enjoying your own company, as well as spending time to see where it all went wrong, but only when you start to feel better, so be sure to take time to grieve first and feel the loss and cry all you want but then make an effort to pick yourself up first. Remember, you can't pick someone up (to be back in a relationship with you) if you're also feeling down yourself. Now is the time for self love. So give yourself the time and attention you need to heal first, all right? Make sure you watch my other vids too for more tips on what to do during and after this time if you're not getting my Ex Factor guide. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad.
@@Lizgillarmatupdate?
Thinking of getting back to your Ex it's a waste of time, learn to let go, if you are in this situation and you are looking for videos for guidance, you are full of potential , there lots of good people out there who will give you attention , invest in yourself , time and energy..!
Learn to control your mind and realize that nothing is permanent so a breakup is part of life..!get yourself good books, meditate ,start a business or a hobby.
Wish you happy and health, you will be happy again, life is a wonderful possibility.
Thnk u so much Brad. All ths worked out for me after a terrible breakup with my x last year. I kept listening to ur utube and followed ur advice.We got back together n happier that 🙏🏾❤️ever.
That's awesome. Congrats! :-)
No other way, no contact no contact no contact. Let them miss you 😘 one day he will miss me 🤗
Yes, especially if you become the best version of yourself in the process! ;)
I was born and brought up in a Hindu family in India and she is a strict Muslim family. After so many unforgettable moments with limitless discussion about the future of our relationship, now she left me by pointing out the religious problems for herself to come with her parents only after more than one and half year of strong relationship of ours. She is the first and the only love of my life, i love her so much and she will always be in my heart forever.
I am 22,she is 20 in ages.
I am 6'2, she is 5'7 in heights.
And I was thinking that I finally got my soulmate in my life but unluckily she has changed after uncountable numbers of loving memories that we've made and tough times that we've been gone through together.
True love is not for everyone in this cruel world of divided religious cultures and beliefs.😭😭
I wish if we were born in irreligious society.😥
Really sorry to hear you're going through this. It is hard indeed but traditions and beliefs get in the way. Now I don't know a ton about your culture but from what I've gathered, these strict rules of marriage you have and who to marry are unbreakable,right? In this case,I'm sorry but this is beyond a relationship counsellor's reach. We don't make or bend these laws as it's strictly your own. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!
Your videos have help me so much.
My breakup 💔 was unexpected for me.Yes me had a few fights like normal couples but not crazy. A week before he asked me to move in together in the winter and I was so excited 😊. A few days later me had a silly fight and he was like I can't do this anymore. 2 days later he comes to my house we had been kinda talking but not really and I knew he was going to say it.He came to my house and he said I can't do this anymore its too much you stress me ,you are jealous you don't let me go out with my friends you get annoyed etc.
I was in complete shock and hurt.
I have never hurt so much in my life we have been together for 3.5 years.
Yes I know I can be a bit jealous but that is my own insecurities 😕 and I know I have to fix that.I could never say to him not to go out with friends he always thought I got annoyed. And sometimes I would push him to do things but it was only because I cared about him.
Now he lost his mum less that a year ago at 56 years old and he did not grieve properly. And he would say to me when he broke up to me .You will be hurt for a while but you will be okay bit I will never be okay again after my mums death.He compared everything to his mum.
I know he is in so much pain and we went through her illness and death together and I don't know why he pushed me away.
I am doing the no contact we broke up on the 20th July and he called me 6 days later then nothing until the 16th September on my birthday and said happy birthday and then I asked him how he is and he was talking about his mum and that he is not ok.
It is coming up to his mums 1year anniversary and I want to go to it but will text him first to see if he won't mind .But it's just so hard as he is grieving so bad .And I know he is hurting about that more than us.💔
And I am giving him his space and have not contacted him bit it is hard in this case as he is also grieving.
I just don't know what to do.😔 .
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning we did not really fight much it's was like little fights .I'm the 3.5 years we had been together we only had 2 big fights. He said to I winge alot well I think everyone does so did he.The only difference is he is grieving alot he lost his mum very suddenly and she was young and he did not grieve well in the begging he was ok from what he was showing and then suddenly you can see the pain much more.I helped him as much as I could.Ots so hard to help someone grieving when you don't know the pain they are going through. I think everything was a bit too much for him 😕.
We broke up in July and I did do the the contract he did text a few days after break up and then we did not talk till my birthday when he sent me a message in September and then the other day on his mums anniversary.
I have been doing no contact and yes it is so hard.I miss him so much
I love watching your video. So this 61 years old guy unblocked my number last night after no contact of 4 months. He said “hey, how is it going?. I don’t even want him anymore, I am more happier than ever. I can’t believe I fell hard for old dude from gym. I’m 30 years old and I fell for 61 years old. Im an idiot. I was hurt, crying, begging and pleading for him to come back. Lol I’m such an idiot. Brad… thanks for your video. I’ve moved on and I’ll ghost him for good…. His lost, he weren’t there when I needed him the most.
@@drjames8488 can you stop it! I’m not interested
You're welcome! Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
I fell for someone 27 years older than me. I know exactly how you feel darling. I had the worst heartaches, felt numb for days.
I started the no contact, and he hasn’t texted me yet. Everyone around me keeps telling me I deserve better. It’s too much.
We shouldn’t be wasting our youth like this. Sending love and prayers. Hope we both heal soon
@@angelapreyae6471 stop it! Bot.
@@johnsonjoy8672 stop it bot!! Damn
The worst possible advice is a “good reminder text”. Never do this. Did it with my DA ex. She completely ignored it even in 3 months of NC…
Sorry it didn't work out for you. It's usually best to reserve the good reminder text when you've established good rapport with your ex and this is one of the texts you're sending to maintain communication.
I know everyone has unique situations and caveats to the lessons that you teach… and I guess I am no exception. I need to know if the personal coaching is for me. I need to schedule a consultation. Thanks Brad for all the free info and lessons that some are semi-known to a lot of people, but when you’re down in the thick of emotional hell…. Well, cognition and objectiveness is not my strong suit when my “sky is falling.” You present the info and speak in the best of Canadian ways to make sure you’re insistent, knowledgeable, helpful and polite.
You're welcome! And yes, I hear you, the dark night of the soul is very common to those being dumped, who often feel like they've been blindsided, which is why giving each other space is very much needed so you won't do or say stuff you'd regret later on. Be strong, eh? If you think you need my one-on-one help via private coaching, check for availability first and sign up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but either way, I strongly suggest you check out my other videos especially if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
Great videos Brad.. but just the fact I keep watching these videos and others show that I care 100 times more as she never would have done the same if I broke up, instead just go to the next guy.. (even she do MANY of these things you mention, jealous etc) pretty sure many can relate and I challenge you all to ask yourself if they are worth it at all.. how much WORK is this guys? Omg
Everybody copes in different ways and while a relationship takes two people, moving on and looking after yourself is an individual task. With that said, the best thing you can do right now is to cut off contact and focus on yourself. During that silence, you will also see if it's worth it or not. Good luck, whichever route you wanna take during this period! :-)
My seperated wife is truly broken. She wanted a separation about a. Year ago. I did everything wrong, begged, pleaded and so forth. We communicated daily for months. Even when she got a bf shortly after separation. They broke up in April, she then really opened up and would communicate heavily with me. Shortly after she got a new boyfriend and she became super hateful towards me. They broke up in August, I was in no contact. She reached out wanted to take the whole family and do dinner, we hung out a few times with kids involved and she said, I really have changed. Shortly after, she now has a new boyfriend, now she wants a dissolution and is very cold, not hateful, just cold. I'm back in no contact.
Sorry to hear that. While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful,check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
so we both agreed on a clean slate but it seemed like she didn’t want it. she also said she doesn’t know if she wants this anymore but is willing to give me a chance to show that i’m willing to change and the relationship won’t be so unhealthy.
If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ruclips.net/video/bZ1KetALZrc/видео.html
Brad knows how to talk .. thank you for the clarity. Well spoken
It's been almost one month with limited no contact due to the apartment which we have been arguing about quite a bit now, he has openly expressed how he hasn't missed me at all and that he was relieved it was over, he was already thinking about the breakup for two whole months and I had no idea, so by the time he broke up with me he was already at peace that this was the right decision and he couldn't stand me any longer in his life even though we never fought or anything! He went straight cold the day after and never discussed what bothered him in our relationship, only during our recent argument about the apartment did some information surface.
Sorry to hear that. Was your relationship that bad? What were the issues in your relationship? The absence of fighting doesn't mean everything's all right. However, too much fighting is also disruptive to a relationship. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad, thanks for the great videos! I had messed up by being a little needy. I then sent her a clean slate text that wished her well. After that text I started no contact. She didn’t respond to that message that wished her well. I heard she’s talking to someone from one of my buddies. I’m one week into no contact.
I know it's tough, but try to be strong, okay? Cry it out if you have to, crying is actually very cleansing and can help you heal. Just love yourself first and respect her decision to break up. I suggest you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Damn that sucks. I know it does hurt brother but let me tell you this, women are very confusing creatures and I’ve learned that the best way to regret the break up and let them come to you is to be distanced from them, use the no contact, and work on yourself. Trust me I’ve had this from experience. I still miss my ex but I don’t know what she is doing and there is nothing I can do about it. It does hurt and burns really bad when they are dating someone else but believe me girls do this just to make you jealous, to act needy, desperate and clingy. Remember you must become the price, don’t chase the price because that’s what she wants. I’ve done this before with all my exes and it worked. Wish you the best
Any update bruh?
As soon as she broke up with me she said "but we can stay friends...if you want of course"
That's a bad idea as that will absolutely lead you nowhere. Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Thank u brad ,u videos are much useful ,please go on with flow do more videos for how to win over ex after break up .
I think he went right to someone else the same day we were together last. He said he’s happy 😞
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
She left me for someone else i dont think were getting back together but i can always hope
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
I had to break up with my boyfriend because jump into relationship so fast telling me I’m bothering him and say things when he gets upset
Definitely take a step back and take time to get to know each other better. Breaking up is a bit too extreme though if that's what you wanna do?
Hey brad, I broke up with my own ex recently, however it was only for one reason - that we couldnt really see each other often physically because she was restrcted from going outside too often, we only saw each other a maximum of 15 times in 8 months.I might have messed up by asking her obsessively about if this or that wouldve worked out but at one point asked her if things would have worked out if i moved to her school to see her more often and she said it could have in the past. and to add to that in in the final breakup message she said that "maybe in the future but not right now". She has been really nice because she is a good person in the heart. She said she wouldve cried if she told me in person. Please tell me your opinions on this, is there a chance well get back together?, Should i start doing the no contact rule straight away?
She's right. No need to make such drastic moves right there. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you two are in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad the video helped immensely
My ex and I were at a family funeral and he told me he loves and misses me. We ended up in bed which was a mistake. Now I heard he's engaged..
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
What strategies can you use if they have a boyfriend?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Good morning Brad. My mind says get a new phone. My heart says I want my old phone back.
This is why you take your time (give it 30 days minimum) to decide what you wanna do/ how you want to proceed. :-)
hey brad, I’m not technically broken up, but we’re on a break and seeing where it goes and if he regains his feelings. How far should I treat it like a breakup and are a lot of the rules the same? Do I take practice in the 30 day no contact still?
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/QPJprJuf-iU/видео.html
@@BradBrowning he ended it :( so now I’m doing no contact all the way and only speaking of being spoken to about work things.
@@kiaracharles28 any updates? i’m going through the same thing
What if Ex is having surgery, should you break no contact to wish them well?
A short thoughtful message will do. Good luck!
Hey Brad, I've been watching a lot of your videos recently and they're really amazing. I broke up with my gf today and I'm left feeling like I want her back. She's told me she still loves me but that the relationship I have with her is not something she wants right now. I was too clingy and dependent on her before, but now that I've changed it's too late to get her back. It's her first relationship and my third, and we were both very passionate with each other. She's said she doesn't want me to disappear and I said I'll leave WhatsApp untouched, but will unfollow her on other social media platforms. I've met all her family, and all her childhood friends. I don't want to lose her, and I'm scared that I will, and that I came off too strong saying we should just break up (but I felt like she was going to say it anyway so I thought I would say we can mutually agree to break up, and she nodded very sadly). She cried but I tried to show her my fun and playful side every now and then to show that I'm different to how she thought I was before. I did make her laugh quite a lot, and I know she doesn't want to let go of me. She's told me she still loves me and I know I still love her. We broke up because of poor communication and I want to get back with her. Should I really be not talking to her for 30 days, when she's going to be busy with friends, studies, and everything else?
(And if she messages me a normal message asking how I'm doing, should I even read the message, or just leave it on unread?)
(Really love the videos. Keep them coming!)
Sorry to hear that. Being too dependent can eventually take its toll in the relationship indeed. Right now, though, she needs space from you so you ought to respect that. I suggest you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
@Scott any updates mate?
Move on.
What about a 40 year together, 35 years married and then he left you for another woman, so he's already filled your shoes?
Really sorry to hear that. That's a huge chunk of your life. Do you want to discuss it? I'd like to take an in-depth look at what's going on so I can help you out and direct you on the best path to choose. If you agree, then sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hey Brad How are you?? Thanks for the help
Good, thanks for asking. You're welcome!
Hey brad, great video !
what do you suggest if after one month of no contact, my ex says he misses me a little but he wants space? I initiated the conversation
This is something I've discussed here: ruclips.net/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/видео.html
It's been a year and 3months now and he's still angry with me. I did no contact for about 6 months and he never reached out! He sometimes ask about me from our friends but will not contact me personally. I feel like I've lost him forever 😢
Angry about what though? This may help explain things especially if you haven't cut off contact and had stayed around for a few months after she dumped you: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/82uUJ7kPXhE/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Depending on how you handle things, you may have to wait longer, which I’ve discussed here: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html
bradd braddddf i am so done with my life honestly its been 3 months we were fighting for 2months straight i tried convincing her i tried everything we argued and etc but then i saw ur vids i used no contact for 22 days and it didnt work ig it didnt go as planned i need your help yesterday i sent her a letter again and she was like sorry no ive been overthinking about u but same decision i dont wanna get back and i said aight im never coming back i tried everything 🙂🙂 idk what to do? should i go no contact again or what
Arguments and fights, they take two to tango. Depending on the role you played in it, you really have to chill out and work on yourself first. Panicking won't help because rushing or forcing things will never work to your favour and any drama or argument will only make things worse. Cut off contact again and this time, really work on yourself because it doesn't seem like you're doing it right if you can easily spark an argument with your ex. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hii Brad.. your videos are very helpful for my relationship especially no contact rule. Yesterday me and my husband brokeup with each other because of discussed about our past relationships in the fight. Initially we both shared about our pasts now it became big problem for our relationship. I can't getting how to stop digging the past. He truly loves and i do love him more but every time we got any fight, he brings the past into it. I love him a lot and want him back. He blocked me in everything after the fight 😭 and saying his ex is better than me. How can i handle this situation
Sorry to hear that. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/U9oTGnDRms4/видео.html but for more marriage-saving tips,check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: ruclips.net/video/dr2JTi_bCRU/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you so much Brad.. my husband contacted me after employing no contact and we are happy again
He's stuck. I will pray for you two.
I do miss my ex and I believe the worst time for me was between 2 to 3 months, that when you realise they may be gone if the communication drops off.
But I do think that I was somewhat limited when with my ex, I felt I couldn't reach my full potential whilst being with her , so there was a ceiling.
Now I'm single again, I feel that the sky is the limit , on that basis its unlikely I would go back if she was to return
Glad you had that realization! Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.
Basically keep your distance let them process what happened. If they cant see what they lost its for the better if they reach out be kind and caring.
(Basically the opposite of everything you want to do) 😂🙏
lol yeah use the time apart to determine whether you still wanna try to get back together or just leave the past in the past. I mentioned something similar, here: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html
Hi Brad, what would you recommend I say if she asks if I’m saying these things /doing these tactics in order to win her back?
Just shrug it off. What's important is how you play your cards right. Don't get into another useless argument with her about it. Drama is the last thing you need right now.
The night we broke up I had to go back to the house to get something since I had to move everything out and forgot something. We talked because he was there and he was in a bad place. The next day I was weak and texted him and called him. He ended up calling me back and we talked for a little. Sent him a video since I had already broken no contact and I wanted him to see it. Today I’m starting fresh with no contact. He responded to me last night and I didn’t answer. This is so hard. I miss him so much but I’m praying this is helping
Yes, just give each other that much needed space and don't force things. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
The problem in relationships is that same body will immediately be in another relationship when their is a break up
Yes, but with little to no time in between, it's likely a rebound which tend to fail sooner or later but that shouldn't be your concern. The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
Now am told forgot about me😭😭😭😭
@@user-tx7tn7kn7t I don't want her anymore
My ex is living in the same accommodation with me but in a different room, we have like a share kitchen so we basically face each other everyday. How do I complete the non-contact period to get her back. She literally sees me everyday however I didn’t talk much with her and we blocked each other in social media and WhatsApp. Do I still have a chance to get her back? She’s special in my life
I am in the same situation too brand give out the and please
The tips here should be useful: ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
My ex ended things randomly at the beginning of September. There was nothing that made me think our relationship was on the verge of a split. But he got upset at me over something so small then disappeared. Of course the first two or three days I had no clue what was happening as he didn't explain anything so I kept reaching out. Then I stopped. And some days went past when I got week and messaged him. He did reply in a positive manner. Then he disappeared again. And I no longer messaged him. After about a week. He reached out to me with the hi how are you. We did that chit chat for a few days. But now yesterday I decided not to reply him because it's just hard for me.
What step should I take now? If he replies what should I do?
How long have you been in a relationship with him and is he always this erratic? Lots of factors could be affecting his behavior ranging from personal issues/family problems down to him keeping a secret from you. Without knowing anything more about the situation, it's hard to pinpoint, just back off completely and let him come to you, especially if this was a short-term relationship.
@@BradBrowning and thank you for your reply!
I've actually done lots of processing and thinking. And I don't even know if I want him to come back. I did nothing to deserve this treatment.
And I have not replied anything to him since his last message last week. And deleted his number from my contacts.
How can you apply no contact rule when the one you’re dating is back with his ex?
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let him finish whatever unfinished business he has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if he’s seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with her. Good luck and I hope you find the right guy for you soon!
@@BradBrowning thanks Brad!
After 27 years of marriage, divorce and then 5 years of dating, the part I can no longer figure out is why someone would want their ex back in the first place.
It's a case-to-case basis.
Thanks Brad, I have been watching all your videos. I separated from my ex about a month ago and I miss him more than anything in the world. My ex said that he needed space to get ever me because it was too painful so I k now he misses me, however he said he didn't want to see me for 6 to 12 months and he's blocked me on messenger and texts so how do I contact him? I will follow the rule for no contact for next 30 days. I am worried he won't want me back as he had jealousy issues and told me not to contact him and he hasn't contacted me at all. No one was unfaithful and we were together about 4 yrs I am devastated.
Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Brad she is doing unlock and block daily😂but i make his father my friend trust me❤
Hey Brad, I’m in a bad situation, my girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago, im trying to use no contact, but today i saw an Instagram story of her with another guy. “The guy she told me not to worry about”, I dont know if i shoukd continue no contact or if i should break it. Looking forward to your advice.
Continue the "no contact" rule indeed. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html
Hi Brad!!! So I feel like my situation is very unique.. but basically my ex and I split so that we can work on ourselves then have a fresh start together. We relied on each other too much we both lost ourselves so we needed to work on that separately.
It’s been almost 2 months of no contact BUT only last week we did have a conversation about how we’ve been. He did mention he wants to see me when the times right, when we’re both ready. But he won’t be ready until he can cope with it all emotionally.
I think it’s the same with me, I need to be comfortable living within myself before I can see him again. Otherwise I’ll fall into my old needy habits.
Have you ever had a situation like this? How long roughly do you think we will both need to be able to emotionally handle the breakup so we’re able to reconnect? Do you have any thoughts?
Thank you so much ❤️
Good. Take all the time you need where you grow and improve yourself. You can reconnect when you're both ready but as much as possible, do this for yourself and not for your ex, all right? Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html
Goodday Coach Brad I'm from Philippines. I have a question is there any hope of second chance even from a toxic relationship.
If it's a toxic relationship, why would you want to save it in the first place? Take time to see how you contributed to the toxicity and what changes you ought to make on your end if you want a second go at your relationship. If your ex is the one who's mostly toxic though, the change has to come from her. You can't force her to change.
My girlfriend left me almost two months ago. Well, I was feeling like I wasn't happy with her in the relationship, I was also thinking about to breakup. She has a bipolar disorder, so she's a difficult person and I was tired of her negativity. We were in the relationship for 4 years. And after breakup my feelings came back, and we were still meeting, we had sex once, she said that she misses me JUST a little, she still has some feelings left for me but she's afraid that everything will come back to old days ,so she's not sure about getting back, I feel like a dog for her, like we are playing childish games, because she's meeting other guys and also me. She said "I want to see you how you will change after 6 months". And everytime I chat with her or meet her, I feel bad because I miss her, so I've blocked her everywhere and decided to have no contact and go on my own and work hard. Should I try to forget that person for a better life? Because It's looks like she never wants to understand me.
Sorry to hear that. Yes, it can be totally draining. If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad, I’m currently in a break up right now and trust me it hurts so much, My ex and I dated for one year and recently we were celebrating our one year anniversary and 3days later we broke up. She said that she couldn’t deal with me anymore and that I was too much for her, so she decided to end things with me. I just couldn’t imagine that what I had with her would end, it never came in my mind really , since I really thought we were truly meant for each other. And we really believed we were meant for each other she even got a tattoo of my name on her left arm. I really loved her so much, I tried to get back with her but she said no. I begged her for four straight days that I will change and I was so willing to do whatever she wants, but she said no. She even blocked me on social media and also calls and texts. It really hurts me a lot. I don’t want to loose her I want to make things right, but she blocked me every where. I still believe that one day we’ll get back together
Is it possible? And what do I do?
PLEASE HELP ME 😩
I’m in a break up week 3? I think and dude..give her space let her miss you..that’s what im doing but we live together..
Give it time and don't make the mistakes people make to sabotage stuff. I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hey Brad, been watching for a while since my break up and there's been a few times contact was broken but not by me but it didnt seem like there was any signs I had some mental health issues I went to see the doctor for and really focusing on myself to change but it's been recent since contact was broken should I start from the beginning again and wait another month but go full no contact this time then yeah try to pull what you said I already know what i would say theres been ups and downs anger throughout the relationship but in my Opinion it wasnt all bad that's for sure and I had alot of demons that was even affecting my happiness when I was with her and I was afraid to get help but now I did and been focusing but I dont see any signs and tbh man I really loved this girl and I wish I did something sooner but you cant wish all I got is now and I'm scared but thanks for always uploading it helps get me through the day I just want to be the man that I'm supposed to be.
Wait for as long as you have to until you've taken care of yourself fully. I know things seem uncertain right now, especially since we're amidst a raging pandemic, but the best way to get your ex back is to take care of yourself first and get your emotional and mental health back into full gear. Awareness is key, so at least you're halfway there! :-) These changes take time to work though, so put your relationship in the back burner first just so you can really take time to really tend to your own issues first with the help of the professionals you're already talking to, okay? Keep up the good work!
@@BradBrowning Thank you and will do I'm on medication now to help me as well and been working the grind got back into working out again too because I felt emotionally attached in some days some due to the pandemic because basically all that time we were together so it makes sense on how much time I should give to not only her to myself I had traumatic issues family divorce of parents when i was younger but there is no excuse that's why I'm stepping up because i dont want to be someone I'm not and just be happy! Thank you for reaching out i didnt think you would
@@BradBrowning hi,me and my wife we're on trial separation, do you think the no contact will work?
Hii brad i am from south India, my Love told me breakup, she told no feeling and I a need freedom like that she told, somanany Times I begged and plead, I asked I realise my mistake please give me one chance, but she scold me, and blocked me and I speak with her friends and I asked help but she angry with me... She blocked me... Brad I loved her madly pls help I need one more chance....
You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and why they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
How would I do no contact with my ex-girlfriend if we have a daughter together? I have no choice but to see my ex a lot cause of our daughter. So pretty much my question is what is the most affective way for no contact in my situation?
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning so we've been broken up for 3 months now and she's already seeing another guy and having sex with him!!!!! But she still always calls me and shows me she still loves me!!! I'm just not sure how to take it!!! Can you please give me good advise on what to do about this??? Thank you and your videos have been helping me out thank you for your time!!!!
Hi Brad, I love your videos.
My ex bf just broke up with me like 2 weeks ago. We were together before the pandemic like 6 months and after that the pandemic and the border closed he flew back to his country. Its been for like 2.5 years that we never met. Last month he started to the breaking up conversation that made me so shocked bc he never said it before and like I know he didn't have any affairs or see someone else out there. But its about the distance he told me that he can't do it anymore and he can't have an emotional connected with someone who is so far away. It doesn't work out for him and he thought he could wait. But unfortunately he can't bear it now. Also he have lost some of his feelings for me bc of the distance. If we didnt have this situation it won't turn out or become like this. He said he was really love me tho. He said I'm really amazing and he still want me in his life or keep contact. He said it breaks his heart too. Also everytime we talk about it he said he cried a lot and he missed me even when we broke up now. And he said he has to focus on his work to make him feel a bit better not super sad for our breaking up. Also he just started his new work and he easily stressed out with it. I really hope that I can be there for him but I can't.
What should I do ? Will I get another chance to get him back together again? I really really love him. And we were really good together. And its the covid that ruin it right? I hope you can give me some advice. Really thanks for that.
The distance is always a challenge and an LDR is not everyone's cup of tea, unfortunately. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning yea I know. Thanks for replying. Should I use no contact rule too?
alright, i need some advice, my guy. Recently, my ex broke up with me because the long distance was getting hard (it was a long stretch we had to take from not seeing each other), and we began fighting more often. I would say that the fighting was mostly due to my own mental health taking a dive and her stress from school. And before that, we were having some problems, mostly because i was sacrificing myself to do what she wanted (though I was still happy and content to do so)(this was about a 1 and a half month span that i did this) It was bad timing for a chemical imbalance. We were together for almost 7 months and the good definitely out weighed the bad. We stopped contact for a few weeks after breaking up, then at the beginning of October, we began talking again. I recently just spent four days with her and it felt exactly like before (amazing), and i could tell that she was missing it all just like I had been. I have definitely learned from my past behaviors and I'm ready to fight for her, but I'm not sure what to do now! I found your videos, hoping they would give me some incite, but I really don't know. I want her back, but the timing just isn't right. what can i do?
Life gets in the way, it happens. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
i’m in the same situation! when you guys reconnected who contacted who first? also, how are you doing now?
It's 8years of love relationship...my ex moved on soo easily with a reasn of having negitive impression on me..he said he can't be with me anymore and very comfortable now...he is very happy now and he treats and behaves like he never knows me... I am desperating badly... It's been 3 weeks of NC... He blocked me in social media and on phone too... Not a single positive signs of missing and getting back...
Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
I can’t avoid the first two, she can’t make it on her own and she will lose everything we have worked for together
Be careful because being way too codependent on someone and vice versa is a ticking time bomb and really unhealthy. If she broke up with you, respect her decision and let her be her own person. The same thing applies to you too where you focus on your own life and become a better version of yourself. Good luck!
What if he left me because he doesn't feel good enough? Would he regret it if he's insecure and thinks this is better for me?
Unless you've said or done things to make him feel not good enough, his insecurity should be none of your problem and unfortunately this is something he has to resolve on his own. Whether he does or doesn't is completely up to him but the best you can do is give him space.
I failed no contact when wee first split because she wouldn't actually tell me that she didn't want to be with me. It also didn't help that she has a friend that is hell bent on making my ex actually hate me and to isolate her social life. I have told her before that her friends were toxic and are only around when our relationship was in a rut, and I feel as though that her friend manipulated her into planning our breakup. I came to that conclusion because both times that we have split up she was behind her smiling at me while my heart was being broken and my Ex cannot see that she isn't a good person at heart, and that she is only around to make me seem like a terrible person. Is there any way to help her realize that and she was the reason we broke up?
Give it time. You can't force it, though. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Anyway that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I can't purchase your course.
There are no known issues with the website if you decide to purchase. Perhaps try out with another browser? Anyway you should be able to find lots of information on how to get your ex back by doing all the right steps on my channel here, so check out my other videos as well. They're completely free and comes at no cost to you. Lots of people have found success with it, maybe you can, too. You can also leave me a brief description of what you're going through. I always respond to comments. Just keep it concise as I try to answer to as many comments as I can. Good luck!
But...what if you were together 6 years, 4 living together, and he breaks up? Thats my situation. Weve been done for over a month. Ive found a home, but waiting to close....so were living together...???
Sorry to hear you're going through this. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Hello Brad
Love the videos! Top man!
Quick question:
I broke up with gf 2 & half months ago for slapping me in my face then I came back to try talk things through and 2 months ago whilst at my ex girlfriends, my ex girlfriend called the cops on me whilst I gained access in her house and she had me done for harassment and burglary, when the cops come I said to my ex girlfriend 'THIS IS GOODBYE NOW THEN" and the charges were dropped by the police due to insufficient evidence...
I have not heard or seen anything of ex girlfriend for 2 months now mate
Brad is this relationship completely officially over now mate?
Thank you
This sounds like a very abusive relationship, man. Are you sure this is something you wanted to pursue? What did you do to cause her to slap you? Gaining access to her house also seems vague. Did you just drop by and let yourself in when no one's home? I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Thank You very much Sir
I don't want him back!!! I was just wondering how long it'll be before he starts to really regret cheating, because he lost something most other guys wish they could have.
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We just ended the lease together 😔 was sad we cried last night but no negative post on social media time to grind and focus I told her I love her and I will give her space don’t hesitate to call me if need me we have a 2 year old so I have to speak that way but I don’t plan on contacting her since she wanted the break up it’s emotional but I have to deal with it and focus on my career
She will definitely come back we don’t have any physical abuse and I never raise my voice and very great financially I just lacked time love attention and I made a cheating mistake but I admitted to my wrongs and proved it which is always tough but once your honest over it you’ll also feel better and so will she if I lied with her having evidence it would’ve been nothing to come back from we can still laugh and joke but I choose not too I don’t want her as a friend and she knows it 💙
Sorry to hear that. It's going to be tougher than usual with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning correct
I’m on day 2 of no contact and we don’t see each other I visit our child through her grandmother while she’s at work & I still buy my child things and took her to park
my ex broke up with me for a overseas military man that she wants to marry... we spent several months after the break up as friends with bennefits.. sex with me while thinking of her military man.. she re-broke up with me last month.. and these days has another friends with bennefits... while still getting gift cards for her military man.. so I highly doubt I would ever get her back.. sometimes not sure if I want that used area.. back
Definitely think things over first. But if it reached that point where it took a serious turn with that new person, it's usually best to let go and move on. Anything past 6 months should be your clue to move on from this and give yourself the chance to receive and give that love to someone better, someone who deserves it.
What if your ex contacts you through the no contact period but is still very angry and is sending angry messages. What does this mean?
It means your ex could be testing you. This vid is for you: y2u.be/Pm_10BKVsfA
My situation is a little weird. My boyfriend and I patched up after 2 months. But however he wasn't talking properly. He kept saying he that he was busy and had a lot going on. I got pissed off because this went for over a month. I was the one who always called. He says he will call but never. Whenever I confronted him he says he wants to be left alone, that I'm rude and not understanding. He also said he doesn't want to talk to me. I lashed out at him and started no contact. He didn't respond to my lashing out also. I sent an apology mail realizing my mistakes coz I feel like I was not understanding and little rude with him coz he wasn't talking properly. I don't know if we are broken up or not. Coz he never said anything clearly. His responses were always ambiguous- leave me alone, I love u too but I'm busy, y are u talking to me like this, I don't want to talk to u etc. pls tell me if we are broken up or not? Coz this situation is really confusing.
Let him know how his behaviour is affecting you and the relationship but also keep in mind that you're basically starting from scratch with hopefully the two of you being the better version of yourselves, so don't expect for things to get back to normal right away. There's bound to be an adjustment period so try to chill, okay? Sorry but I would need more info to help you deduct what's happening. You can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I've been in no contact for about 9 days now. And he has already messaged me but I didn't reply. Should I confront him (which I've done previously but didnt get the correct response) or continue with no contact and wait for him to clear his head?
Brad, I was in a relationship for 4 years and broke up with my GF because she wasn't paying me the attention a relationship requires. I tried to let her go a lot but couldn't meanwhile she moved on and got hooked up with someone else (who already was in a relationship) and when I came to know that I sort of freaked out and started becoming pathetic. Told her a lot of mean things for hooking up with someone like that. Her friends told me that she loves him but now he left her and I started texting her again and again but she has blocked me from all platforms. How can I get her back? Or is it already too late?
Have you talked to her about how you felt ignored/not getting attention before dumping her? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/IhGnPtpJTbM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning yes we broke up about 6 and have been talking on and off since then. It's basically me pleading her to talk to me
Good day Brad, I'm on my 5th day in this no contact rule, but I've communicated with her friends and mom about how I feel because of the pain and regrets. We broke up because she wants someone in her life that will always stay and I am away. Last December an old friend of her have been communicating with her and later this January she confessed that she has feelings for him already but I am the one she loves. After that we had many hot n cold conversations because of me being jealous and angry of the other guy and eventually we broke up. This feb 24 she posted that she's already dating that guy and described it as Imagining finding both love and friendship in one person. I love her so much and I am in so much pain. Do I still have a chance of getting her back? What should I do? your videos have been giving me hope and am thankful for it.
Away? Is this a long distance relationship? The distance has clearly taken its toll here and your ex could be rebounding and the other person is providing the physical companionship which you couldn't offer at the moment. However, you should not, under any circumstances, wait to find out whether their relationship works out or not. Focus on yourself instead and love yourself first. Watch and apply the pointers here, too: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html
Hi Brad I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months I'm 15 years old she also goes to my school and she recently broke up with me and I'm not really to sure what to do. if you could help me towards this that would be awesome :)
Check out my other vids but as a reminder, try not to take things too seriously at this time. Focus on your studies, buddies and video games and stuff as you (and your ex) still have a lot to learn when it comes to love. Trust me, you'll thank me later! :-)
I rang my ex’s friend (who I used to be friends with also before the breakup) to get someone’s number. My ex happened to be with this friend ( I had no idea of this) and he picked up the call because his friend was driving...why didn’t he just ignore the call and let it ring out? Did he want to hear my voice or am I overthinking 😩
You're overthinking...which is never a good thing if you're the one being dumped. Doing so is like choosing to go down that rabbit hole. Watch this as well as the tips I've given on what to do here: ruclips.net/video/sJg4udwCS90/видео.html
I think my no contact happened gradually and we had it on and off, only had 2
Weeks of it now we’re friends I’m her confident she adjusted and she moved on with new partner she has adapted and doesn’t miss me as much, she doesn’t want to get back with me at all.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hi! I’m on day 34 of NC and it’s going pretty ok. The problem is we had lots of problems during our relationship and we couldn’t fix it so I told her we should stop talking. It ended up with her blocking me everywhere and this is the first time in eight years that we’ve had more than a month with NC. Should I go for 60-90 days? Will she ever come back? Because we had a very turbulent ending where I told her I never wanted to hear from her again. I might have made a mistake but I think it was the right decision.
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I need to add that we had a breakup few years ago and it ended up with me coming back to her. Maybe she’s expecting the same thing to happend this time again? What do you think?
Sorry to hear that. Don't chase. A relationship has to be equal: equal efforts. You can't be the only one fighting for the relationship because sooner or later it will drain you, trust me. Anyway unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
So what if she doesn’t break up with you but wants a “break” to heal herself. What does that mean ?
Are you saying that we have to break up to get that “missing feeling” back ? Or even if that’s still my girlfriend I disappear during that “break” ? Get me ??? Please let me know
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/QPJprJuf-iU/видео.html
Hi Brad! I’ve been in contact with my ex for a year since he broke up with me. It’s been difficult for me not to contact him and I’ve made the mistakes you have mentioned in the video. I’ve chased him like crazy and we have seen eachother in multiple occassions. He enjoys the time we have together but he won’t commit.
He has the best of both worlds and I’m over this situation.
Is it too late if I just vanish from him life? Could these techniques make him come running back?
I’m not sure if it’s already too late…
What donyou think?
Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Hey Brad! So my ex and I broke up last year around this time and she periodically does the indirect-direct text message. She is in australia and I am in the US so we still can't travel to each other.
After sending an accountability letter in june and her waiting two weeks to reply saying that she has found happiness again on her own and moved on, she text me 3 weeks ago asking "are you happy?" I did not reply to that message. I should also note that she blocked me on social media but has made a burner account to look at ALL of my posts and stories everyday. What would your advice be moving forward as I still would like to pursue a relationship but I don't think she as moved past the break up yet.
It's going to be challenging to get to the reattraction phase without meeting up and I know the pandemic's not helping either. Until then, keep it cool. Here are the basics: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html
It's been one month since I apply the no contact rule, and I think she knows that I apply it, because someone told her, and now I feel like she is mad and missing me at the same time. What should I do? Should I continue the no contact rule or start to talk to her?
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
What do you do if they have a girlfriend and your legit stuck on them? Do I wait or keep flirting…?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
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Hey brad , I made a couple mistakes. We are on a break and I’ve been trying to figure out why we are , I ask questions and did all the stuff Was not supposed to do. I didn’t know you had videos on this . I’ve been watching your videos , I think I lost her trust cuz I kept trying . What should I do ?
I don't know how long it's been but definitely stop chasing her. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Me and my ex broke up a little over 3 months ago and since then we had tried being friends and while trying to be friends she tells me to leave then other times says she still wants me in her life. What should I do?
Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. It looks like you haven't done that yet? Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
My ex send me email saying he is getting engaged it’s hurting me so bad
Indeed. I can only imagine the pain you feel right now. I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. Just do your best to heal first, all right? Take care!
What if she’s doing the no contact to me and wants me to reach out to her ? What if she wants to see me work hence why she’s not speaking to me?
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/ccPmmP5GY9A/видео.html
Can they miss you still, you even though they went back to their ex for years compared to me 2 months ?
I really hate to burst your bubble here but let her finish whatever unfinished business she has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if she's seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with him. Good luck and I hope you find the right woman for you soon!
Can you make a video on this topic ?
Bro i’m sorry to tell you but if she was with you straight after her break up, you was her rebound.
Not always.
Hi Brad my ex n I broke up about 3 weeks ago and hes not showing any signs that he misses me at all....how will I know of he miss me !?😔
Work on yourself and make some improvements anyway. If your relationship was significant, then chances are your ex misses you if you stay out of touch, regardless of whether or not it shows outwardly.
What if you live together - and there isn't an option of not. Is this all still applicable? Just continue doing normal stuff around the house, but just try to not have much contact with them? Isn't it kind of impossible for them to miss you if you are seeing each other every day?
It's a different set of rules if you live together. If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
We have been broken up for almost 2 months he broke up with me . Initially, I screwed up in every way possible begging, threatening one day I would want him back in the next day I would say I hated him . We spent some time together, but my emotions have been all over the place. Is it too late to start no contact now?
Cutting off contact is still your best bet, so redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Quick question about no contact! My Birthday is on the 20th and he has a big surgery on the 26th. I just started no contact 48 hours ago. If he reaches out do I ignore him? I feel like I should wish him luck with his surgery as well. I know I can keep it together until then, but I’m worried about the big stuff??
Yes, you can send a quick message about the surgery. Just make sure you end the conversation first. Then continue on with the no contact rule.
@@BradBrowning Thank you so much!!!
Hey Brad, how can I hint to the positive memories, whilst maintaining as little contact as possible?
Should i prolong the 30 day no-contact for like a week or so? I've done a lot of begging for about a month or a bit longer after breaking up.. is 30 days of no-contact enough then (reason of loss of attraction was months of annoyment, jealousy, controlling, all that kind of stuff)? Or should it be prolonged (long-distance aswell, but that's not the reason for breakup)
He was the one who insisted on staying friends etc and wanted to continue talking, and when I didn't speak to him for a few days, he got a bit annoyed and concerned i guess.. and when i said i hadn't cried in weeks he was like.. "you got over me.." (seemed weird about it) but then i broke the no-contact (didn't know about it yet), and started the real no-contact just a few weeks later.. and haven't heard from him since his last message after I began no-contact (on good terms, i sent him a positive message but didn't say that I was starting no-contact). I have 11 days left at this point
Yes, you can extend it for two more weeks depending on how much you've begged really. In some cases, you may have to redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Bard. She contacted me after no contact, for the first 2 weeks she's acting distant and kinda mixed messages. But start from this week she instantly becomes so positive to me, like all of sudden she talks to me like we did before, jokes around, and even sends me 50s of the voice message about her life. I can see her tone and emotion is so uplifting now that gives me a sense of unreal and worry. What sign can this be, like 5 days ago she nearly respond to my message and was very cold. And I feel it's still hard to have a breakthrough at the moment because I don't know when it's a good time to suggest back together. Thank you
And these 4 days she reached out to me every day. I didn't say hello but she usually texts me first at night
That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
7 years together 61m she 50 menopausal. Sudden misunderstanding she freaked out no communication for . 48 hours later she broke up
Give her some space to come around. It could just be due to her menopause which may have contributed to mood swings.
Showing my ex on my facebook stories that I am happy, is it effective?
Just don't go out of your way. Try to let it appear natural. This should help guide you: ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Thank you very much Brad💓
I have passed my no contact period. Today, I texted her an informative message like u said, we had some normal conversation... I was replying after 1 hour then suddenly she said "Thanks for the Information.... Bye..... Tc"..... Now till now I have not seen her text yet. What to do?
You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad! I hope you will answer my question. I have this situation where we were in long distance relationship and just broke up. I asked if he wants to come back and take a break for a month to heal and see but he said it could driving us apart and there's possibility meet someone else. But he agreed to do a month break. Should I just let him go? Because he knows i wants him but he isn't sure what he wants so that's why he agreed to do no contact method.
Giving each other space is always best. The distance is also not helping. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning the pandemic isn’t helping long distance relationship. We broke up during the pandemic, my ex moved living and dating with another woman right after we broke up. It’s been almost a year now, but we are still connected on social media and recently he liked my post and chatted with me, it went well but after 2 weeks he started ignoring my texts again. Any idea why he’s behaving such way? What should I do?
We were together for 5 years, we’ve been split for two weeks talking from time to time. She began sleeping with one of my friends a week after we split up and is with him all the time now. She told me she talks about me all the time to him. Yet she tells me she’s not ready to see me again yet and claims “when she’s ready to start dating again she’ll give me the first chance” Not sure if I should employ no contact or if that would be a mistake and to keep trying to talk to her and keep on the pressure? She also said something about still going on dates but not dating anyone just yet. Not sure what to do.
You definitely should employ the 30-day rule otherwise you'd get dragged on to her confusion where she dates around while having you in the background as well. Apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html