How to Get Over The End of a Relationship | Antonio Pascual-Leone | TEDxUniversityofWindsor
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- Опубликовано: 9 май 2024
- Have you had an important relationship end and felt a bit stuck on how to move on? Clinical psychologist Dr. Antonio Pascual-Leone calls this “emotional baggage” or “unfinished business” and speaks about a 3-step process that could help you wrap things up and “finish the feeling”. Antonio is a clinical psychologist and associate professor at the University of Windsor, where he trains psychotherapists and is director of the Emotion Change Lab.
He has received several career awards from international societies (2009, 2014), distinguished publication awards from associations in US and Germany (2010; 2016), and is an honorary research professor at the University of Lausanne (Switzerland).
In addition to 14 years of university teaching, he has given over 35 clinical workshops around the world and received several more awards for his teaching and mentorship (2016; 2018), recognizing his leadership in education and his innovation teaching psychotherapy skills. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
When you wake up after a break up and it just hurts to even exist.
I know what you're going thru. It's like I'm living a nightmare and all I can see is darkness. Can't wait to start feeling better.
Hope you feel better now
Yes I can find some peace while I'm sleeping then I wake up and it's like slap to my face all over again. I sweat in panic thinking over and over. How do we move on?
I thought I was the only one with that feeling
Ladies, the first step in moving on is to make that painful decision to move on. Allow yourself to go through that grieving process... there really are more people out there that will be a much better fit!
Those 3 seconds of when you wake up in the morning and then remembering it and starts hurting all over again
I know of a man who can attract back your ex within 48 hours hours....
He was the one who brought back my ex within 48 hours, ever since I got back with my ex I have been enjoying my reunion with him.
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Whtsaap him**.
I thought i was doing well last night, but i woke up this morning and i have never felt this type of pain before, my chest is so heavy, I’m shaking, and feel like throwing up.... idk what to do anymore
I've had it where I don't even get 3 seconds... I literally wake up from a dream I was having about her and then she just continues to be on my mind from there on out for the rest of the day.
After a month it's still insanely painful
I’ve got to say, the hardest part of a breakup is losing that feeling of closeness and security. Like your best friend just died.
This x1000. Been the hardest part of all of it.
God finally somebody who understands
Feeling it now…. Prayers to those of you feeling the same!
You're absolutely right!
That's exactly what I'm feeling right now, does that feeling ever go away or ?
To anyone who needs to hear this:
The love you gave was never a waste. 💙
It really can be a waste sometimes, though. Especially, if you were tricked into believing that person loved you, too.
How?
Oooff this hit me hard.
Thank you.
Thank you
Thank you
The hardest part isn't moving on but not wanting to move on
Bryce Morris this🥺🙌🏻
true, cz that comes with some fear aswell in my opinion
I dont know what i did wrong ! 😞
Having to move on
Felt
The worst part about a breakup is when you know in your heart it's for the best.
I knew we weren’t for each other but I wanted to hold on because at times I was really happy even though I was hurting. He left me and I didn’t have to strength to leave. Now I’m trying to cope with the fact that It is really over.
@@Ask4Alli how long has it been and how do you feel now?
In a way, it's the most liberating moment in your life. When you are free from your own (wrong) desires.
Yes this hurts worse than a dagger because at that point, you no Longer can control The circumstances
I had a breakup today and i am feeling the same way... i hope it will get better and i will not let my emotions play tricks on me
Going from the routine of talking/texting every day, seeing one another often, to suddenly and abruptly not ... That's always been the hardest part for me to adjust to.
I have not yet terminated the relationship, however I already feel a partial amputation. I havent cried so hard, for so many hours/days for over 25 yrs.
I never want to feel a mans negative, unhealthy drama again.
I need peace, not a mans love.
@@dianeferre1273 I just had a major fight with my boyfriend. This is also the first time he didn't talk to me for a whole day until I reached out and he was cruel and cold in a way I've never seen before. I love him so much but it hurts so much. I just feel so tired, shocked, and betrayed. Truly the ones you love can hurt you the most.
Same
5 years… it wasn’t cheating… it wasn’t a huge fight… it was just she thought it was best for both of us to try to find happiness elsewhere before we tried to make another person happy… I’m in shreds
Try moving on after you’ve spent 30+ years building your mutual routines…
I feel so heartbroken to have to end things with my ex. We both knew it was what we needed.
I love this quote: “You cannot suddenly stop loving someone. But
you can slowly start learning to live without them.”
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Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. I never believed him until today when my wife came pleading with me that she is sorry for everything, i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife.
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I'm so sorry about what happened to you, hope you get better.
Thumbs up if you're heartbroken in quarantine 💔
@Henry Anderson Stop spamming!
You still in quarantine? :(
My gf left me cuz I need emotional support since my dad is dying
it's hard
Was in quarantine with my ex for three months. 💔😭
Its like one minute im okay ..the next minute im tryna drown out flashbacks.. Idek man , cant vent to nobody so im pouring my heart here.
Hello Dear😎 I know of a man who can help you to get back with your ex easily, he was the one who helped me to fix back my broken relationship of 3 years by making my ex come back to me
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Yup. But you will be fine I promise. Not the end of The world
I hope you're okay , if not okay then better ❤️
@@luxxy209 it's not the end of the world but it feels like it ,
it's hard to breathe ... Like you're physically hurting and there's no one to hold you and the only person who used to make you feel better or could deal with you being upset or low is now not within reach .
Never thought this would happen to me. It’s been 3 days and I can’t stop crying. Can’t eat or sleep. It hurts so much more grieving over someone who’s still alive
I'm in the same situation, right now I just feel lost, food doesn't even has taste, I hope we both get better! It's just matter of time I guess :(
I’m going through the same, just found out last night he’s with someone else. This hurts so bad. I feel so alone idk what to do
@@jadac8814 same here 😞
100% I’m so sad I can’t eat or sleep either 😔
7 years and im at day 1... does it ever get better? i hoppe it does for u
6 years. We broke up 3 weeks ago and it comes in waves. Sometimes I'm completely fine and believe I'll get through this. Other times I have pangs of anxiety wondering if he still loves me and I feel the urge to ask him to come back. But I never do because deep down I know that this was for the best. When both people break up still loving each other it's absolutely heart shattering.
What happened if you don't mind me asking? I'm sort of in a similar situation. I feel like we both love each other but she wants to know if the grass is Greener since she didn't go to college yet. I want to reach out but I know that I shouldn't
i was in the same situation. After 7 years of relationship we had to broke up. Its now 4 Months. It was very hard and I cried a lot and always wanted to call her or writing her and so. But in the end I hold to my word and stayed alone. You have your arguments why u broke up. keep it up!!
same situation. 6 year relationship just ended 3 weeks ago. I love him he's my best friend. Idk if I will ever get use to this new normal. Just rollercoaster of emotions and anxiety and depression. Just lost in this all.
Hi. How are you feeling now after 2 months? Does it get better? How long does the hardest phase of it lasts?
@@dinushaariyarathna5155 it does get better day by day. But it's still hard. There's not a day I don't think about him and think if he thinks of me too.
If you’re reading through these comments. Trying to gather your life back together after someone’s ripped a chunk of your heart away. I hope you’re healing and that life brings you so much happiness. I’m on day 2 of the worst heartbreak I’ve ever felt. We got this
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@@SilentVi3wer if it helps, i was broken up with in jan, blindsided completely, lost 12 lbs, fell into deep depression. But 3-4 months later I wS able to recover 90% and 5 months later i recovered fully. Its not as bad as i thought, it took way less time than i thought. And now I can honestly say that it was probably the best thing thats ever happened to me!
the hardest part is knowing that I'm hurting so much, and knowing that he's doing fine.
Hello dear I will recommend you to mr Wilson he can help you out,he helped me some time ago
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Maybe that’s the reason why you in dismay.
Same here girl
Same
Just because ONE person doesn't want you doesn't mean your worthless. You WILL find someone who LOVES you.
@The Dream Medium Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?? Find someone who ADORES you!
Father Gabriel 🌹 Love manifestations can make your Ex, crush or specific person come back begging for a second chance,he saved my broken relationship of 4 years In less than 24 hours..
no you dont.
There's not unlimited options of compatible partners for everyone. So no, there doesn't necessarily have to be someone else out there, and even if there is, the likelihood that you will meet them is very, very small.
@@eskil2980 Yes. Well it's all in your Attitude. Law of Attraction. If you believe you will meet your Soulmate you will. If you don't believe...you won't.
Hurts even worse when they don’t feel the same way after a breakup and already moved on.
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex 3 days ago without delay🌹🌹
@@RC-eb5hq how can one be so sure about that the breakup will drag them down in bad ways?
It's a lie. We all heal at a different pace but we all need time to recover from a breakup, if they seem fine trust me they are not and sooner or later their emotions will catch up.
As my therapists says: The body can digest food, not emotions.
going through this rn i feel so alone
@@cabrondemente1 that made me feel better
One of the hardest things in life is grieving for someone who is still alive.
and left for someone else... i call him Judas Iscariot.
Just imagine they are dead. Cus really they are.
@J OneLife Mine too. It's bad to be lonely with your child bride husband in the same bed with you.
You ain't kidding.
❤️
when they chased u first but ur the one that ends up heartbroken🤪
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To everyone feeling pain after a breakup, here’s a tip from my experience: YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT.
Keep busy, express gratitude for other aspects of your life and one day you won’t feel a thing about them. Better days are ahead.
Thank you❤️
Thank you for saying that. I'm sorry. But I'm not strong enough. Right now, I don't want to live.
@@donalgramae I’m sorry that you’re not feeling your best. I hope you can reach out to someone to talk to because it will help purge the sadness. Humans are programmed to survive, and you will get through the tough days. Just take it slowly and it’s okay to be sad. Just observe your emotions and grab any positive memory you can. Think of any hardship from the past for yourself or people around you and how they overcame it in the end. You’re stronger than you think.
@@lede1810 Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will try.
@@donalgramae I wish you all the best. It’s okay to have ups and downs in life. Enjoy the highs and hold your ground on low days, knowing that they’re temporary. Write down positive things you want to materialize for you and leave it in the hands of the universe to make them happen. Example “I live the life I want. I am happy for my … “. It will help you visualize your dreams come true. That’s a first step. I wish all good things to come to you 🙏🏻
Ever since my ex ended things with me I’ve never felt so lonely. Reading these comments makes me feel understood and not alone ❤
You are not alone.
Sending you love ❤
Same here
You aren't alone.
She ended things after 6 years together, it's been 3 weeks and I feel absolutely broken.
Don't give up.
@@_multiverse_ you don’t give up either. Fight.
I never knew you could feel physically sick from a breakup
I know of a man
who can bring back
your ex without
Delay
He helped me to get back
My ex few days ago
His
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Saddest comment section ever.. Hugs everyone we will get through this. Update: I remember writing this and I was in so much pain, it gets better guys the pain is gone and I'm good now.
Hello, do you wish to get an ex back or recover someone you love?
Doris your beautiful.. thank you for the hugs I really needed it tonight! I’m so ready and it’s my 2 yr sobriety. God is good
you too!!! :))))
Please tell me it gets better.
@@christymarch7245 it will with time passing... dont push yourself too hard allow yourself to feel whatever u need to feel
For me the hardest part is accepting that there is no hope that you will get back together. And the fact that before the relationship we were best friends, so it was a double loss.
I know that is awful
Even tho we weren't friends before, the loss of the friendship aspect is incredibly hard and often overlooked. An important reminder to make effort to retain our other friendships when entering a new relationship.
That can really hurt and but must move forward dispite the tragedy of life you just keep going for the sake for yourself and love
huggs❤
I was friends with my ex it's horrible it's been almost 2 months and I'm still heartbroken
It's hard, gosh it's so hard. 3.5 years with my best friend, talking everyday, getting engaged a few months ago, planning the wedding, living together for the past few months, thinking it was the happiest moment of my life, then the relationship ending suddenly, out of the blue. I have never felt this much pain in my entire life. The irony is my heart, my chest, also hurts physically. Going to sleep is torture as I dream of her. Waking up is even worse as I realize we really are no longer together. I still can't admit it is over, 3 days in now and I wish death would take this all away from me. If only she gave me another chance. All my future plans were built around her. Now it seems I have no future. This is terrible. Praying for everyone out there feeling wretched like me
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
Same. 4 years here, he broke up over Facebook messenger chat.
Hey, i don't know you but im seding light, love and positive energy your way. Im going trough something similar and it's just raw pure pain. Ive never felt this pain in my chest before. It is so scary it feels like a heart attack. But the truth is, or at least one of the truths, everything that happens in life is perfect and how it should be. We learn, we cry, we get trough it and we try again. I really hope we all overcome this terrible feeling soon. Lots of love.
Same thing different boat man... was with her since I was 15 I’m 19 now and we recently had to ends things cuz being friends wasn’t working out bc the thought of her wanting or talking to other dudes ate at me... it honestly sucks bro so bad felt like I built my whole life around her and it felt like I had nothing ahead of me, like my life is bland without her, but I gotta remember that every thing happens for a reason and it’s about the growth u have after it.
Can we please talk, this comment made me cry because it was too real of a feeling to me. I am super fresh off a breakup and have been at a lost for words. But you creepily summed up my situation perfectly. I need help and would love to talk with someone who has been through this.
this is somehow the saddest and most helpful comment section ever
F.B.I so true i feel much better yet sad at the comments here :(
Yesss
Yeah
Right!
Yes it is.. I pray i am able to move on, as i am trying hard to do. I need a man in my life.
Hey random stranger! Someone is out there waiting for you! Stay strong! Love exist!❤️
I know of a man who can bring back your ex within 2days without know Daley 💝🌹🥀
He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work text him I promise you gonna testify 💝🌹
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I needed this.
@Tammy. Dean who?
These words made me overcome the break up:
1. Nothing is permanent
2. People & feelings changed
3. If someone made you feel UNIMPORTANT, leave his/her life SILENTLY
Its not easy, but you will overcome.
Or just take 3 years to work on yourself and then start dating again. You can get over that person because ultimately we're just souls that are attracted to each other because we have a physical body.
@@cartergomez5390 I can get over him without dating again. I'll date myself🤣
Ok
6 years and I feel like I meant nothing.. completely disgarded. The pain is like nothing I have ever felt... Anxiety.. depression.. just wanting to reach out. The hardest part is having to accept they don't want you too. Life is hard.. I hope anyone reading this finds the strength they deserve and finds happiness again 🙏❤
I hope you find it first, you are gorgeous! You have a beautiful voice! I am sure you will find someone to love in the capacity you deserve
@@DibbaFlower thank you so much for your kind words... it hasn't seem to get any easier of yet but I know time is a healer and I have faith. Thank you again 🙏💚
The affairs of love can really be a minefield, you never know when you are going to get burned.
It’s so so brutal man, and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. It’s truly the most painful thing you’ll ever have to go through, which in a backwards way is some sort of comfort because; this is as hard as it will get. It only gets better and less painful from here.
You are right, time will heal this. Unfortunately this is one of the only situations where time is the sole thing that can truly make this better, it’s just a slow and difficult process, but there will come a day when you will look back on this and feel nothing but gratitude for what you have learned and how you were strong enough to get through it.
Wishing you love and peace from afar. You’ve got this. ❤
@@jin6000 thank you for your words... I'm just waiting for that time to come but it just never seems to get any closer. I can't switch my brain off... the constant thinking is draining and the times I'm alone I just breakdown but logically I know it will come... it has too because I don't want to feel this way anymore. Thank you for reaching out to me 💙
You dont actually miss your ex, you miss the idea of the intimacy, the intimacy you had with your ex. The idea of her? Not the real thing
ImZQY this is an accurate comment. Also the thought of never being loved or loving someone else again.
@@Gregair13 The thoughts of both not being loved and not falling in love with someone depends on the person and how they let the break up effect them. Both scenarios can be solved. But the idea of not being loved is probably the reason most guys/girls run back to their ex the moment he/she contacts them
I nees help. I broke up with my gf cuz she seemes so bored of me I didnt want to be a hurdle. Now she is always making me feel bad because we are in the same class. Help
@@fastmeansoftransportation2719 if you left because she stopped making effort because she was "bored" don't even bother man, let her do whatever she wants and you just focus on improving yourself everyday. Ignore her, and focus on yourself and your future. I've been through the same when i was younger man
@@ImZQY I will try but she is in my class and she won't stop teasing me. Thanks for the help tho
I'm going up and down. One minute I'm fine, the next I'm pissed off, the next I feel like crying. Is hard especially when you've genually loved a person and they hurt you deeply. I'm a man. Tougher than a lot of people but she made me cry. Everyone hurting, you're not alone. Thanks for sharing everyone.
Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance
He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far.
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How are u now bro??
I'm going thru this
@@tsholofelorakgokong2600 how are u now bro?
When your partner claims you haven’t lost them, but you can see it in their eyes that they have moved on 💔
Yeah, when you are still hurting so bad, but they are not. That is that hurts the most. Wife cheated on me when deployed. She moved in quick, I’m left to pick up all the pieces. Why are we the ones hurting when we did nothing wrong? Dang, that look in there eyes was the final mail on the coffin haha. We just got to focus on ourselves and find our own happiness
@@thebritish910 I feel you completely. For me, it was the choice between letting the relationship drag on and die slowly, or ending it abruptly so that I could heal and move on. I choose the latter and I’m glad I did. This was in mid April. Every day I wake up and still feel the urge to reconnect. I miss so many things about the connection we had. But the relationship was toxic on every level, and I’ve come to realize that avoiding this person is an expression of self care, despite how much I miss them. I wish you the best with your healing and hope that your pain gets less with each passing day.
You are both strong. I am ashamed that I am much weaker. I am not sure that I still want to live. I'm sorry.
exactly , you can just tell
@@jerimiahodey6556 You are right. And they reply "whatever" to too many things that you say.
It's so liberating to hear him say you can decide not to forgive. So often you hear that you have to forgive the other person, but sometimes what they do is unforgivable.
Yes, like hurting children. That is quite unforgivable 😢 He left without saying goodbye. He didn't take the presents and cards they bought him over the years.
He just left in the middle of the night like a coward.
14 years of being together.
Here's a mind blowing truth: external forgiveness is a lie. It will satiate the ego of the other person for a while but it will not stop the pain from hurting or getting hurt. You only owe forgiveness to yourself for allowing to be hurt, it's the only way to heal.
@@Romana1shmoothat's brutal. Very cowardly. I'm so sorry.
But u have to forgive them for Yourselve only not for them
Crazy how a heart break really makes your heart hurt. Being in public holding back tears for hours at a time will dim anyone’s light.
My dear beloved I will introduce you to a great and a powerful man who can manifest back your ex within 48 hours. He was the one who brought back my ex boyfriend within 48 hours he can help you too he is really good .
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I totally understand.
I feel that 😔 how are you now?
Why didn't anyone let me it would hurt so bad.. my heart physically hurts
Dealing with a breakup in quarantine. I feel so hopeless, I have no one to talk to about it. I thought he was going to be my future. I feel so lost now...
It gets better babe, trust me. Long battle but you really do learn so much about yourself and how to just be a better you in any given situation. With this time especially in quarantine, get in tact with your passion again, what are some activities or hobbies that can really take your mind off things, at the same time help you gain new ideas and thoughts to replace those lingering questions about the past. I’m still learning as I go, but so far this has been helping me accept the things we can’t change and take control of what we can in our life. Hope this helps somehow, keep your head up beloved! True happiness is around the corner ❤️🤝
I feel you. My wife and I just broke up too. I have never thought about living my life without her. I do feel lost too. I see no future happiness in my life. I hope you get better.
Stay strong🙏🏿
Dealing with a breakup during quarantine is the worst. It’s like you have no option to make new memories. You slip into just replaying the past, replaying the memories with them and not being able to have any hope for the future.
@@ChapatiLover hey, i feel you, want to chat rn? i feel sad too, just woke up in the midle of the night, with that chest pain
10 years. The worst part is I can’t even hate him. He was my best friend, I’m scared about starting over without him even though I know deep down it’s right. The most painful feeling is knowing its the right thing but being too scared to let go of the years and memories you have together.
How’re you feeling now?
How are you doing??
I have recently gone through long term breakup..and I'm afraid that i won't get over him for lifetime 😭😭
16 years here. He had an affair for a year and a half. he told me he still loved me but was not in love with me. he said I'm his best friend. but he doesn't see a future and hadn't for 10 years. I'm devastated and crying.
@@joannabanana3372 13 years. Almost identical case. The day she left she said I'm the best person she knows, but still, she left, saying things were not the same. I can't even comprehend half the things that happened that day and one moth after, I still think of her everyday.
It's day 4 for me. Healing is not linear, I have days were I am completely fine. Some days I cry until i fall asleep, I get angry and I keep blaming myself for the break up. But you know what? We'll get through it. We gave them our all and now we can give ourselves that too.
I hope you're feeling better Lia ❤
Hey- just wondering. How are you now?
Since it’s day 4 for me today…
@@shelbychamberlain6180 You can talk to me if you want, it's been 3 months and I'm feeling better now.
how are you know?
@@cabrondemente1 hey can I talk with you also? My ex dumped me into over one year relationship. it's only been 1 month of break up but I can't stop to forget about him at all 😢
Four years and a pandemic, and i ended up here, trying to get answers from strangers
I'm so sorry you have to grieve your relationship now when there is so much craziness going on. I use evidence based research to do free break up coaching- feel free to DM me @ditchwdallas
Exactly the same situation as me. 4 years and a pandemic.. feel free to drop me a DM if you want to talk
I am at year 8. Shes married now. I still don't understand.
I''m in exact same situation, 4 years, got cheated on, looking for strangers to cope
@@kyleafc9583 what's Dm.
Sadness brought me here
after reading some of the comments is it bad that it feels good to not be the only one?
Carlos Gonzalez agree
same
Honestly same bro. I thought I was the only one.
Not at all brotha, feeling alone is one of the worst parts
It should feel good that your experience is shared and the same as so many others. It would be worse to be having an experience that nobody else could share, experience or understand. No?
It hurts so bad I can’t breathe man
Honestly, I'm in that point in life when I would rather suffer a while, doesn't matter how much or for how long, than being in a toxic relationship or where I am unhappy and always crying for the rest of my life.
I am happy I made this move yesterday to end my relationship with my boyfriend. Although, it is not easy for me right now, but, Just like you said, I would rather suffer a while, no matter how long than being where I'm unhappy and always crying for the rest of my life.
Sad how someone you made memories with can become a memory
I know it hurts but you’re going to be fine. Just see it as you learning lessons. I am here if you want to talk
@@melissagreene6960 after 4 years of such a happy relationship I had to spend 2 months away from him and now he doesn't feel the same way. It hurts so much, I thought I was going to marry this guy. It's so unfair he let distance hurt such a beautiful relationship. I'm emotionally and physically sick. I don't know what to do.
Valid point Optix!!
Noo don’t do this to me
And the happy memories we made all make me want to cry now
Sometimes I feel like I’m making progress and getting somewhere. Then suddenly something triggers a memory, like a song or place I drive by, and it all comes back along with a flood of grief over it. I just wish I could turn off my memories when it comes to him😞
You just said all what's happening to me right now.
...same here!
It is a death. Grief is so appropriate and takes it’s time to move on. I’m sorry for our losses.
same here :((( you got this girl
Sabrina Nicoara I’m going threw the same thing
It feels terrible when someone just stops loving you. I was strong but this changed my confidence, left me completely broken.
The exact same thing just happened to me. You think they love you as much as you love them, and then it turns out they just stopped loving you
He’s my first thought as I wake up, and my last as I close my eyes
Olivia Dobre knowing sleep will help the pain just to wake up and think “damn , it wasn’t a dream this is real and it’s happening” so now I rather not sleep Cause thinking it wasn’t real almost puts me back at square 1
I can relate to it so bad. I’m in a point where I wake up and the first thing I feel is a pain in the chest for knowing that we’ll never be together again.
Same, especially I was in a LDR for one year till 50 days ago
Bru Tenório yep, that’s me right now.
I had a dream that we were on a call, we used to always sleep on the phone. In my dream I barely woke up and he told me “Madison I love you, I’m sorry about all of this” it felt so real... it hurts so badly
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It’s been four months and I’m still struggling. I’ve lost weight, struggle to sleep or eat. She was the only girl I’ve ever loved. And she moved on so easily. Now she’s with her guy friend and I’m still trying to heal.
Are you better?
Same
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4 years of relationship gone to dust in just a week. Hurts so bad. The comments here are ridiculously accurate on how it feels: it's the morning after waking up that kills you, full of rumination. Every morning feels like you are back to square one.
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The worst part for me is the memories...one moment I know its for the best but then I start crying because I still love her and what we had...this is by far the worst pain I've ever experienced
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What I find hard is that nostalgia and memories keep flooding back and I just can't control it. I know the breakup was for the best but its so hard to say goodbye to what we've built in 8 years.
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I saw some guy comment under another break up video that he kept his body moving because time passed by slower if he stayed still. It’s day 6 of my post break up. It’s hard. It’s damn hard. I still miss him every few hours. My emotions are still on rollercoasters that don’t seem to have an end. But I’m going to get through this. I took that commenter’s advice and I’ve ran 3-4 miles everyday since the day we broke up. I’ve journaled everyday, whenever I felt like I couldn’t stop myself from thinking about or missing him. I got fake tattoos and I put one on. I plan to put a new one on each week to remind myself of my strength and progress.
I’ve finished 2/3 of my exams so far this week & you bet that I am so damn proud of myself. Everyday, I continue to be proud of myself for continuing on. It’s not easy. I don’t have an appetite, I barely eat anymore. I still cry everyday. I still think of texting him and fighting for our relationship. I look at our text messages countless times a day. It’s hard. And I’ve accepted that it will continue to be hard, for the next few months and maybe even the next year. But I will hold myself back from running back to him. Because it means nothing if I’m the only one who wishes to make things work. If our relationship is worth the fight, then he will fight for it. But he isn’t. And I will no longer overextend myself for others. I will only fight for myself now. Because I have to remember that we broke up for a reason. And I know damn well that I tried my absolute hardest in that relationship. I will no longer push my energy outwards and try to be someone’s something or everything. I’m gonna focus my energy inwards, & what’s meant for me will be attracted to me. I wish nothing but blessings and happiness for everyone who’s going through a break up right now🫶 we can do this🤝
Don’t read the damn texts. Delete them all
Love that you got fake tattoos!!
i started reading the end of your comment as my personal affirmation. thank you. how are you now?
If someone doesn't choose you don't choose them.. God always have someone much amazing and better
Lisbe Delahoz Amen! God is good
This hurts the most. I wish I hand mutual reciprocation in romance. I pray God has my back. It’s tough to keep the faith after 10 years alone and meeting men who don’t want get to know me where it’s mutual. It’s very deflating.
Lisbe Delahoz thank you. I do, and still I walk alone. My heart is crushed. Hard to maintain faith when no signs of hope for romance are there. I’m not a puppy but a queen. I deserve to be treated with love and consistency not detachment and silence.
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Thanks.
The hardest thing is when the relationship is over, you’re still in love with the other person, and you’re trying to get over it but there were no bad things in the relationship beside bad timing. I almost wish he just cheated on me so I could hate him to move on.
Yes I have the same. Just because we wanted different things in a relationship and because we have different ideas for the future, we split up last week after being together for 3,5 years.. :( It is really hard since I almost only have good memories of us and I still think he is a great guy
Same thing happened to me today, he was my boyfriend of a year and a half
a little fun update: I found out that he hooked up with my best friend of 5+ years months after it happened. It was after we had broken up but still... never thought either of them would do that... they both were planing on never telling me. Safe to say I’ve moved on from both of them! Cut toxic ppl out!! 🥰🥰
Sarah lol I’m so proud of you
I hope you’re ok now!!
Me and my partner decided to separate after 3 years of being together. I moved out of our home 4 days ago. It's incredibly painful (and so weird) to not be speaking to him, after having him in my life every day for the last 3 years. Thank you for this video and thank you to those that shared their experiences in the comments. It helps a lot. May we feel through this so we can heal through this ❤
How are you now?
Going through the worst one of my life. My soulmate. Twin flame. The best person I have ever met and the best friend I have ever had. I have no idea how I’m going to make it through.
Hope you are doing ok, dude.
Hey I’m in the same boat. I also just found out he is dating someone else right after. I just want to die everyday but I am surviving. I hope we can heal from this
same man its so painful she just so suddenly moved on and goes out with someone else now. its only been 3 weeks im hurting so much
Same it’s horrible
My future isn’t what I thought it would be
Good luck
Same 😢
He didn’t treat me well, I stayed for longer hoping that things will be better but they didn’t. It still hurts but I have to let go and choose me
This just happened to me but it was a her. Crazy
Nombuyiselo Nyembezi i really can relate ,i am in the same situation. I was hoping
@гав nuke feel the same, don't worry everyth will be better in the future.. we will be fine we will heal ourselves
I'm in the same boat rn. Abusive cheating lying ...stayed a year and a half longer than I should have and now I find it so gut wrenching ... i wish I left sooner
Exact same here..
It hurts so bad to dream about so much, about marriage, children, vacations and see it all to turn into ashes. A person who was the closest on earth to you, in matter of minutes of last painful phone call becoming a stranger.
UPDATE: Havent spoke to her since september 23rd(Today is October 29th). Havent texted her anything at all since october 3rd. Basically No contact works very well. No contact allowed me to go over the suffering, let the emotions cool down and currently realize that the girl I was dating was 40% my imagination. I loved who I wish she would be. She never fitted me, that's why it was abusive- constant arguments and drama. Well, thats an experience, I suggest everyone to follow no contact rule because it helps a lot.
Another update(june 17th): Memories hunt me sometimes and I miss her, but I feel much better.
Those dreams are still alive, just you get choose who will be in them with you. View it as an exciting opportunity to create the best future for yourself.
@@jasoni8119 YES! I left this comment 4 days ago and was at like last stages of my depression because for me it's been 2months of long distance relationship/slow, painful break up(high school sweetheart onto college...), but now I moved on gradually to realizing that I miss the person I wish she had been, rather than her. We would constantly argue, so yeah, you are absolutely right!
I'm only 4 days in, trying to be positive. Be kind to yourself. Focus on you. I already forgive her and myself for what happened.
Holding on the resentment will hold me back. It still hurts.. Yes. But it's okay for it too hurt.
She choose to end it, I can't control that. But I can control what I do with myself now.
No contact. Grieve when I need too. Go to the gym, see friends, walk, etc.
I am also figuring out my flaws.. No one is perfect. I am seeing a therapist to talk everything through. I don't want to go through the same stuff in my next relationship.
In every situation, try and do what is right for your mind and body.
@@jasoni8119 Man, I feel you so much! Dont worry about forgiving, you have the right not to unless you cheated or did something certainly "unacceptable". If you tried all you could, you fought and loved her, and she still ended it, dont even bother about it. Of course its painful, but Im telling you, 2 months ago I thought I wouldnt be able to live without her, now I am way too excited to meet a new girl that will appreciate me much more for who I am instead of looking for ways to cause arguments. First 2weeks will be the hardest, but it will go away soon. So dont worry. And dont blame yourself, analyze your behavior/flaws, but do not allow yourself to take all the blame, girls tend to convince guys that its all their fault, so dont fall into that!
@@jasoni8119 Therapist is also great! You will be assisted on how to deal with it, I did the same thing!)
The hardest part for me is the one person I thought I could always count on, no matter what happens, no matter what I'm going through is not the person I have loved so deeply
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@@sleepydoppy8516 I have been better but I am managing. Thank you for asking.
@luke riley how long were you guys together.
@@sleepydoppy8516 10 years
Long time. Be gentle with yourself. I hope you seek help to understand it wasn't all you. No good person can understand the narcissist. You just have to understand why you reacted the way you did.
It amazes me that humans have been dealing with this for tens of thousands of years, and I just so happen to live at the time of the internet where I can see that this is a universal human experience. Much love y’all we’ll get through this ❤
I physically can’t do it, I keep thinking they’re gonna come back but I know they won’t
It’s OK because God loves you more than anyone ever can.
Same here i need to stop thinking that he will come back cause he wont
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you heal when you except that they won't come back, maybe you already know this or this is no longer an issue, but it really helped me when I was feeling the same thing. It helped a lot to view the loss positively as for me.
Kill the hope and you'll forget them
Boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a few days ago. He was my first everything. I thought we were gonna get engaged. I feel like im drowning all the time and it’s like i have rocks in my stomach. I love food and it’s my passion but im struggling to eat and when i do i get stomach pain. I didnt even see it coming. He really pulled the rug out from under me.
EDIT: i am a billion times better now everyone. It is so hard at first but at some point it stops staying hard and things become happier. I realized i was too good for him, and that I am so much better off. I am so much more full of life and have been devoting so much more time to friends. Every single relationship i have now is much stronger. My advice for you all going through it is to let yourself live and feel everything you need to feel. Cry when you need to. Enjoy the little things that make you happy to the fullest extent. Especially never forget your supports like friends, family, and therapy 😌 much love to all of you going through it
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Exact same situation with me. I feel u girl we got this
Things will always be tough at first, knowing that the first and last person you think about everyday isn't there for you anymore. It becomes difficult to do our daily routines by yourself when you've done them together with that person. It feels like you've been pierced in the heart every single time you are reminded about them, and the pain sinks in deeper when you just come across their profile or even remove you from their socials. No matter how good and bad the relationship went, we really should avoid losing our self worth. Time heals pain, but only when you learn to forgive (yourself too) what had happened and learned from it. Find some time to let the frustration out, talk to some old friends and reconnect those you've lost during the relationship. In time you'll be able to do the things you used to enjoy and be happy to be by yourself again. You don't need to chase someone to fulfill that gap of loneliness. You shouldn't be afraid of how you feel, because there are some differences between feelings and facts. You may feel like you're unlovable, but the fact is that you are loveable and in time you will feel that again from friends, family, or even from a new person. Do be sure to learn your lesson and talk things out when you are to be in a relationship with your next. And please please please, love yourself most.
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Thank you for saying this. I'm trying. But right now, I am having trouble even making coherent thoughts. Right now, I am not sure that I want to live. And, "Manning Up" doesn't help me. I'm sorry for being weaker than most of the people here. I can't live like this. I don't think that I want to live anymore. I have never hurt this bad, and I am not a young man. I'm so tired of the pain of living. I think that I want to die. I'm sorry.
It hurts so much, when the girl you thought you’d spend eternity with moves on to someone else due to hurtful fight.. it hurts even more when you didnt even see yourself wanting to get married for years, but decided to anyways because you knew it was what she wanted, and then for her to leave. Leaving you with a ring with no finger.
@@donalgramae I hope you’re still here!! You are worthwhile and will get to a better place!!
@@twynkletoes88 Thank you so much. I will work towards feeling that way.
From texting and calling each other every day to being mute on each other. From being best friends to being enemies. When you still love her, but she don't is the worst feeling
The hardest part is going from talking all day to nothing and then seeing their new person all over their social media. This was my first ever breakup and I have never felt such pain in my heart before. He never showed me the 100% respect that I deserved yet I still let him clog my mind with thoughts and memories. To all who are going through this, I hope we all find peace and can somehow move on from our sadness and loneliness.
Jocelyn Imburgia I felt your comment 🥺
I’m going through it, and the pain I feel is unbearable. I feel like someone is just squeezing my heart, and my throat and stomach are knotted. I can’t fall asleep without crying, I wake up in the middle of the night crying, and I cry when I wake up in the morning. I don’t remember to ever being this depressed in my life! I wish that all of this pain would go away 😔 I feel hopeless and the feelings of rejection that I have are killing me. I was nothing, but good to that man and he one day decided to let his feelings change. I just can’t wrap my head around it. Nobody can’t tell me that he allowed another woman in his life, and that’s killing me inside. I didn’t deserve this 😔😭😢
Carmen86 I know exactly how you feel. I couldn’t fall asleep to save my life and I just would take a Benadryl to make sure I would get some sleep. It’s going to hurt for a while but I promise you it will get better. Just keep telling yourself that you are an amazing person who deserves nothing but the best! You can get through this! No man is worth the pain we go through. Keep your head up. I will pray for you
Jocelyn Imburgia I feel like I’m dying inside 🥺
I feel stuck, I loved my ex but the pain she brought me always made me feel unwanted even in the best parts of the relationship there was also a what if
I’m going thru the same thing again. We’ve been fighting for 2 months and he kept disrespecting me. He knew I’d come crawling back to him cause I loved him and the truth is he was right. I didn’t hsve self respect cause I loved him and didn’t wanna lose him. Today he broke up with me and I feel like my world is ending
I wanna hug everyone who commented here and say "it's okay angel , they didnt deserve you"
Hug me because it hurts so much
@@mislynpeeches9051 **offers a huge bear hug**
I actually teared up reading this lol, it really hurts :(
@@cesar5011 it's okay man. When someone goes ....we'll find someone much better. Trust me. After all I've seen , I can say this.
@@yveltal6474 it sucks bc idk, we had such a strong bond, idk what went wrong, after she moved to a new state everything went downhill, she wasnt even there for almost a week and she wanted to end it so abruptly, i just feel a little numb lol :(,, but thank you, i really appreciate it 😔
My girlfriend just ended our relationship yesterday and it feels like it’s not real. I hope I’ll eventually see a text or a phone call but I may never get that again. Where did I go wrong and how could I’ve been better is what I keep asking myself when I thought I was giving the world to her. Taking time to self reflect and grieve will be difficult but it brings me some solace I am not alone with this hopeless feeling. I hope everyone struggling is starting finding peace and solace with themselves and are starting to be happy again. I may not be there now but I’ll be there eventually. We’ll all get through it together ❤️
It'll all be ok in the end! Don't lose hope in life and love. We can do it.
Bro how are u now?
How are things now?
Going through this now. I walk around the office and it almost feels like I’m not there. I’m constantly reading the last text I sent them, I should probably just delete their number but that feels too final. I just don’t know what to do :/
Im going through the same thing! One day I’ll be fine and the next day I’ll cry my eyes out. I can’t see my self being happy right now because I was so happy being in the relationship. Sometimes I cry on random times and the hope of receiving a message or a call. Hear that voice again with the hope of getting back together. And all I do is go back to our early messages where it felt I was in cloud 9 and just felt so good. But now I’m heart broken.
Going through my first break up and I never imagined for it feel the way it has. It comes in waves of being fine and then crying for a bit. It was a healthy relationship, we never fought or had arguments and everything was so good. I know that I treated him good so the fact that he ended it is what’s so hard for me to understand. I tried fighting for the relationship and put my heart out there and he still didn’t want it. It’s hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that no person that doesn’t want me is worth chasing. I wish it could’ve been different but trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel
I miss having someone to talk to about my day, someone checking up on me and one that cared. As well as the memories and the things that we would do together. But I really miss the closeness and intimacy
I understand what you’re going through. It hurts . Soon you will feel better .
@@SeCret-bi1ep you going through it rn?
Reading ur comment sounds like i was listening to myself.. i’m facing the same thing right now.. i feel rly broken.. we can get through this.. im happy you know your worth.. don’t forget it❤
@@boombox571 it’ll take time but the broken feeling will eventually fade, maybe not completely but you’ll notice that feeling consumes you less and less as the days go on. Im sorry you feel that way tho.. Healing is tough but it’s really such a beautiful thing to see how much you’re growing and learning. If our situations similar, I hope this doesn’t make you question yourself and your ability to love and be loved. Know that your love for them was genuine and pure, and be thankful you were able to experience and provide something so healthy.sometimes people aren’t ready for it and that’s okay. I hope you heal and feel better soon❤️
Today is my first day of being single after a wonderful five year relationship. Everything hurts, my eyes are raw from crying. I hear my heart beating in my ears. And I feel so alone and abandoned. He gave up on us and I can't stop thinking about the undeclared losses. I wanted to marry him. I wanted to have his kids if he wanted. I just can't believe it's all over.
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*Don’t expect relationships to make you happy.*
Make yourself happy!
Happiness is a true or falsify virtue we feel and generate withing to the outward relating to our personal opinion to suit or trigar to any event or persons
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Shut up bruh
If it's that easy, there wouldn't be clinical depression
The hardest part is knowing someone else gets to see my daughter everyday and I only get her 2 days out of 2 weeks. The second hardest part is knowing someone else has the woman you’re in love with. The third hardest thing is trying to wake up everyday and not hurt yourself. The east way out is a constant thought that will not go away. Staying strong for my daughter is my motivation!
Get extra help if you need it and work on your mental and physical strength! Hang in there :)
I’m sorry bro. Your daughter loves you and you needs you don’t ever forget that! I have to live for my children and that helps me get through everyday. I have to be there for them and show them how a dad that loves them and supports them looks like so that they grow up to be healthy well adjusted adults. It’s the biggest job we are here to as fathers. Whether it’s your daughter for son they need their father in there life, you are important and have value and when you thing nobody cares yourre wrong your kids do and they deserve you! Much love.
2 days a week is better than none, God bless brother 🙏 🙌 Jesus is the only way to eternal happiness
How are you doing now? I am going through something similar with 2 daughters. Do you have an advice on how to deal with some of these feelings? Especially someone else being in the spot you used to be in…
you got this bro
I have lost someone I thought really loved me and also lost my dignity, have practically begged him. It has destroyed me. Ripped apart who I am at age 53. Time is not always enough. Some things are soul level injuries that just change you forever.
Laura, Plse accept and put it on God' hand. I also at 58yrs old go through this dec last. Prayer help me. If u 2 are mean to be together he will come back to U. If nt note that God has a better plan and better person for U. Offer your pain to Jesus, pray never stop praying and also tks God for yr pain though U R in pain right now. Jesus love U. Accept the break up & go through yr pain but Dnt stop believing in Jesus and also praying to him. God Bless U😘
How are you know. Look into the narcissistic personality. Or borderline personality.
The heavy feeling in my chest from the time I wake up till I sleep.
Hugs
God I can relate to this. Hang on in there 🙏🏾
I have this too 😢
this. exactly this is what im feeling. im shaking even typing this
Same :'(
It truly made me feel less alone reading this comment section. Thank you guys all for sharing. I feel sad numb angry lost all together. I guess it's just part of the human experience. I try to invite those feelings in even if they are unbearable at times. The peak always passes and then it's kind of okay. Big hugs to everybody here.
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Day 5 of no contact with an ex. I went through a breakup of a 5-year relationship. It feels like time is moving so slowly. Even though they hurt me, and I know this breakup was for the best, I still yearn to connect with them in any way, whether it's via social media, mutual friends, memories or hopes that they'll reach out first. I crave the validation of them reaching out so I can feel that they miss me too, but it's not healthy to think that way. I'm slowly trying to get through each day.
All that you said, especially the validation in feeling missed too are very real for me right now. We are 2 months removed and I’m struggling just the way I was onn say one. Wishing the best for and for myself ❤️
Hope you’re doing better now
Bro came through with a doctorate and told me everything I already knew
I'm so in pain right now.
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Same i cant stop crying and thinking about the memories
You are not alone guys, me too
Same here. Sending love ❤️
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@@dalymarithe3381 Thank you but he hasn’t left. We been together 16yrs. We have 3 kids and a house together. I love him and my family like crazy and he is 100% fine with the way it is now. He proposed in yr 9 and I was so happy. That’s when I got pregnant with my boys back to back. After almost 2yrs of being engaged we got into a argument and he said “You would be a horrible wife!” to me. I asked him why he would say that and he said because I don’t cook or clean the way I use to. Him saying that runs through my head over and over STILL. It didn’t matter to him that I had a 1yr old, 3month old, a FT job and he doesn’t help me. That’s the day I gave the ring back and told him when he thinks I deserve it he can give it back. I tried my hardest to keep everything up to make him happy. I made sure dinner was hot and ready when he got home but he would come home with meals from restaurants. He is NEVER home anymore. He still never gave the ring back. I’ve tried talking to him and he tells me “get to the point” or he will give a broken promise that I now realize is his way to shut me up. He tells me how all he does is work to better our lives BUT he’s ONLY PAID 300. THIS YEAR IN BILL MONEY!!!!! He’s using me for a free ride and taking advantage of my love. He tells me that when he’s not home I bug him when I call. Yes I do call when he’s not home after he’s been gone 15-16 HOURS! I can’t understand why that’s a bad thing for me to call after all those hours. I don’t believe he’s a bad person at all but he don’t love me the way he did before. I’ve asked him to PLEASE let me go so I can find my partner but he won’t. He tells me “If I didn’t want to be here I wouldn’t be. I have places I could move to.” I’m like maybe you have places you could go but not for 300. A YEAR! This is so hard for me and my boys. I don’t want to raise boys without a daddy IN THE HOME and that’s why I put up with stuff I shouldn’t have to. Yesterday topped it off though. We went to his family’s house for dinner and he got really really drunk. He started talking about how I was off of work for months and he was working “to pay all the bills”!!!! I was off of work because my dad was DYING and I was still paying all the bills!!!!! He said I was lying!!!! I pulled up my bank account and showed his family I have in fact been paying ALL the bills!!!!! I wish he would just pay his share and love me again OR GO! 😭😭😭😭
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2 year relationship gone yesterday. We both had our issues and it clashed in many ways but I’ve never loved someone so much. I genuinely thought I was gonna marry him, I thought of baby names, the kind of pets we would’ve had. I planned my future around him. We broke up and decided to be friends but committed to each other, and for a week I thought it was going amazing. We were making progress and I genuinely thought we were growing apart while together and yesterday night he tells me he didn’t love me anymore. A day after we watched the fireworks together and I rest my head on his chest and he told me it felt so good and like he was excited for the future but only to find out it was a lie. It hurts like crazy when I’m doing something and I start remembering things we’ve done, things he’s said, how he told me he didn’t love me anymore. I can’t stop crying and idk how to do this.
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same here, we talked about having a future together, marrying and having kids, pets, traveling around the world, having plans, etc. Its been almost 2 months of no contact and it hurts from time to time, its not my fault he decided to betray me.
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Hey, are you doing ok now? It’s been 5 months... I just had my first heartbreak and I’m so sad but I feel so numb, I feel like this always happens to me, I always get left behind.
@@Priinav hey. Just hold on. Avoid being alone, be always with people to cheer you up. Time is a master healer, you'll be okay .
@@Priinav same
When my partner left me for another man after 20 years together it was like a death. We owned a dairy farm and when I got home from milking cows I was making baked beans for breakfast he walked into the kitchen with two bags told me he’s leaving because he has meet someone else and he’s sorry. He would be back in three weeks time with his new partner and his parents were going to pay me out my share of the farm before I leave. I was in total shock never saw it coming his parents were deeply affected also because they loved me dearly.he didn’t mean to hurt me he just fell in love with someone else. I meet up with him 5 years later with his parents at a friends funeral. When we were able to speak alone he broke down apologising for what had happened and how badly he had treated me explaining how he made the biggest mistake of his life because his relationship only lasted 2 years .He asked if I was single which I replied yes I hugged him an told him It took along time to get over what happened but I’m ok now. He wanted to see if we could find a way to get back what we had but I said I’m happy with my life and being alone is not so bad. With tears in his eyes we parted ways me telling him to look after himself and it was good to see him. I hugged his mum an dad who didn’t want to let me go and headed for the north island. I didn’t leave contact details I thought it was better this way. I will never forget that crushing feeling I was a little Boat in a Massive Storm I suppose I don’t want to risk feeling that heartbreak again. I’m ok
Terry M you are very strong for not going back
I wish I am strong as you. I salute you
I wish to be strong as you are. Thanks for the words.
I also wish to be that strong. I was in a relationship with 5 years, he met another girl and took off. Doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, says he doesn't love me......I'm dying every day
@@bellecortes1635 this happened to me as well. Same thing. Its gets better, trust me. Stay strong.
I'm on my first morning after our break up of a 4 year relationship. The dread hit me as I woke up at 5am realising that in 4 days time my gf, now ex will be moving out and back to her homeland. This is going to be the toughest week of my life and I am absolutely dreading saying goodbye on Friday. It's like a plaster/band aid being taken off as slowly as possible. That final goodbye is looming and it's just going to be awful. Like many of the comments, we know it's for the best. We've tried so hard to make it work but it just doesn't. That doesn't make it any easier. We love each other and after all the struggles we've overcome in the past, now is the time we have to let each other go. We were trying for a baby, we were building a life together but in the end we were defeated. We just simply don't work as a couple. I've been through this pain before and know I will survive. I'm in for a tough period of my life and it sucks. I was really hoping at the age of 38, I wouldn't ever have to go through this pain again, but here we are.
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at least u & her went through the heartache together. Mine, kicked me to the curb and said he will have my things in a box. This hurts the most.
Closing a beautiful 30 yrs chapter and feeling deeply that I need to move on. Very difficult. I really appreciate this Ted talk. Thank you.
30 years?? What happened?
I’m only 3 days in, and Ik time heals all and everyone says it, but it also hurts remembering how you used to light up whenever you used to hear their name or see their notification pop up. You spend so much time making memories and now they are one. Everyone’s got their problems and if you’re feeling some type of way just know that their are other people that are feeling this way. This is all character development, a test, it’s time to see how you will respond, and grow.
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I think the hardest part for me was waking up, knowing that you are alone. Knowing that the love of your life, has moved on, and is potentially with someone else. Seeing her empty, cold spot in the bed that used to be warm and occupied. Once I get past the morning stage, everything starts reminding me of her. I drove past her favorite coffee spot. I see a commercial to her favorite movie. I hear a song on the radio that we both used to listen to together. Then I come home, crawl into bed, and the depressing thoughts of being alone and not being with her sink in. It’s a daily torment, worse than any physical pain I have ever endured. I wish it was as easy as just “moving on”. But it’s not.
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8 years together and it ended 6 months ago. We were supposed to get married next month had everything ready, she decided it wasn’t what she wanted after all. I was the guy who never let anyone in and had wall to block emotions, but over the years she broke it down. As a man I have no one to turn to because it doesn’t really seem like anyone cares, I feel more like a bother. I’ve never felt pain like this before and I currently feel like I’ll never love anyone like I loved her because i don’t know if I could trust anyone again.
One thing I can say though is I feel a little better 6 months down the road then when it happened.
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7 years with her. I loved her with all my heart. It's been almost a year, is say 10 months. I still have grief, im still going through these waves of emotions every day. I'm not sure where I'm stuck in this pipeline but I'm not sure how to get out. I feel betrayed, only because after a month after the breakup a new man has taken the spot. It also just makes me feel worthless.
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When you are ready, find someone else that realizes the true gem that you are. You are someone before the relationship, you are someone during and now still the special someone after the relationship ends. Let her go, we don’t want to be in a relationship where the other person doesn’t truly love us for who we are. We mourn because we were loyal and what we miss is the dream we had, being broken. A. Be flexible to Find a New Dream, many dreams for life whether single or paired up again. B. Dismount, the horse is dead C. There’s still more living to do, don’t look back to regret the time wasted in not moving on sooner. We mope, we’re sad wasting time like someone’s in the back making us more…(borrowed theme from a song) D. Don’t look back in the mirror because then you can’t look forward to what’s ahead. E. Smile even when you don’t feel like smiling til the rest of your body starts to remember to smile. F. Volunteer or do something good to help others who can’t help themselves. G. Don’t get so depressed so the rest of you gets so down, you can’t get up. You are worth it- Be Good to You! I’m sure there’s more tips but Hope this helps for starters. :)
You can look back, but only to see why things may have gone south to not repeat? Maybe it’s just the other person who’s changed? but otherwise keep looking forward to better times ahead whatever it may be as a single or in a better, meant to be relationship. Just take care of you, be good to yourself and feel better.
1. Practice self-care
2. Connect with people (new or old)
3. Embrace alone time
4. Take time to feel your emotions
5. Don't let social media mess with your progress
This totally hit home for me. Thank you!
@@emmawatson6582 I'm glad to hear that. :)
That's so true.We really need to adore ourselves as individuals.
@@marvellouslymystic1158 Yep! Absolutely!
One individual will follow these steps. The other will make it difficult, relationships hardly end mutual. Usually the one that leaves peacefully understands heartache, betrayal and unhealthy behaviors.
It's been 11 days. The hardest part is I know the breakup is right. He's incapable of emotional intimacy and entirely emotionally unavailable which means no capacity to build a relationship. Still, I was blindsided. I wasn't brave enough to leave despite feeling I should. I'm glad certain events caused him to end it despite the brutality. It still hurts so much and I'm desperately praying for the serenity to accept and release my attachment. I don't want what doesn't want me.
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but i hope you're doing better now. i'm in the exact same scenario now. there was a catalyst and we tried to repair our relationship by getting back together after a break, but nothing changed and i became a chore to him. we don't have an emotional connection and he doesn't want emotional intimacy with me :/
i hope you're all healed now and that life has shown you many more beautiful things
One of the worst feelings about a break up is knowing you will have to move on to someone else that is nothing like the one you use to be with and it’s nothing you can do about it😢
It hurts to sit home. Everything reminds me of her because we did everything together. I come home from work and her car is not here, she is not on my couch or up in my bed. I do not feel her feet rubbing my legs in the morning when she first wakes up, nothing.
I let it go during the day, in and out of the depression of accepting she is gone and doesn’t want me back. It’s hard not to text her and let my feelings out to get her back. But once night time comes, or morning, and my friends are asleep and I have nobody but myself ….. every memory comes back. The concerts, the songs we jammed to at the concerts, our Dunkin trips almost every damn morning, you name it. I miss that girl, I miss the feeling she brought to my life. I feel frozen in time, completely. I think of the bad - the way she acted sometimes, the way I acted sometimes, but then all the good memories come flying right back. The amount of times I open different apps to try and distract myself is sickening. No amount of nicotine or THC numbs me. I don’t dare sip alcohol.
We will all get through this, together. I’m so sorry for everyone who had to search for this video just as I did. Go for a drive, try and remember we are ALIVE and it’s just a GIRL. It’s the process of starting over and letting go of the feelings the good memories brought us.
Kyle Jay .. u feelin better now?
@@Lallawmsangi slowly getting there
It hits hard when you and your first love break up. I keep trying to stay positive, but then memories come rushing back, and the feeling of nostalgia hits me. It hurts more when they were your best friend. It hurts even more when they walk out your life, and you know they aren’t coming back..
Edit: Looking back on this is crazy, lol! It really highlights that life is just a series of phases we go through, and they each teach us something new. Don’t worry guys, you will get through it🥰
I'm sorry that you're going through this right now. You will come out stronger, and you will love again. Someday you may even call that person your friend again. If you need me, I'll be here.
@@m1lkl1zard66 Thank you so much ❤️
@@KekesEnergy no problem. Stay strong.
I’m also here for you too and I’m rooting for you!! Just got dumped not too long ago and it hurts but we both got this!!!
My first and only boyfriend of 7 years just ended it today. I don’t know how to feel. He’s not a bad person. It’s just bad timing. Wish he was a bad guy. This would be easier perhaps.
3.5 years gone. this is the most painful experience i’ve ever had and i’ve had my fair share of bad ones.
it’s only been 5 days. it feels like a death.
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How are you now? Just asking for educational reasons...
How are you feeling now ?
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I spent my 20s with him. 10 years and he just ended it. It’s been 4 months and it’s been a roller coaster; the first 2 months were excruciating then a month of clarify and then another month of crying. Everyday is hard to wake up to. I don’t think I can ever be in a romantic relationship ever again.
How are you feeling now ?
I broke up with my girl a month ago. But I'm still here looking for a way to get over her. It's still hurt a lot.
@@polarbear3255 how are YOU feeling ?
@@whatswithmattie hey, i still have relapse once or twice in a day, itching to talk to her or get her back but it doesn't hurt as much now. And now I'm pretty sure time will heal. Thanks for asking..
Can you tell me how are you currently feeling, did you get back together?. do you feel better.? I also spent my 20s with him and idk how to feel about it.
Same. How are you feeling now?
I was here two years ago. This process really helped me see our relationship for what it is. I realized what I really need in a relationship and it reminded me why everything had to end. Sometimes, when I relapse, I go back to my notes and tell myself over and over why it has to end. Until I don't feel anything about that person anymore.
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I'm saving this in my 'Watch Later' so that it may be useful after my relationship ends. But first, it's time to get into a relationship...
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I didn’t know how much memories could hurt
it’s always the smallest of memories too that mean so much to you.
The best thing we can do is acceptance and try to pick up our self again
Right
I was dating this girl and I took a lot of small memories and gave them a lot of meaning. Little did I know, these small memories held a lot of emotions behind them. Now we’re broken up and those memories I keep are like little needles. I see a lot of good in that because she’s a teacher, a life lesson. I realized that there’s a lot of unresolved issues about myself that I need to work on. I’ve stopped blaming others and alcohol. I’m taking responsibility for my actions and I want to grow from this. I still love her but I have to let her grow in order for me to grow. Detach myself from her and just let go
Brian Voyageur bless your Brian, same here
31 years together is taking work on my part to get over her. Especially when I still see her several times a week because we have kids.
I'll get there. It is a process and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Don't assume time will be the great healer. Don't wait for time to pass. Actually start now by working on yourself. Take walks. Cry if you need to. Get into present time. Don't wallow in your own memories and fantasies of how things could be with them. They won't. It's over. Look after your self.
I'm clinging so hard onto hope. Just hoping she will reconsider. I'm in denial and I can't let go. I know she will be moving on, but I cannot. I haven't seen her yet to arrange our co-parenting arrangements, I wish she will change her mind when I see her again. Any advice is appreciated.
One month has passed since she broke up our 5 year relationship. It has been extremely painful, agonizingly so, a lot of anxiety and a lot of self loathing. Lately every waking hour has not been complete darkness at least, I suspect the pain won’t go away completely, but we’ll all learn to live with it and grow. Hold on and hold our fellow mourners, we’re in this together.
It’s so hard going from waking up to their face everyday to nothing. My heart aches
So much of your reality is different know. I understand it's hard to process and get used to. Remember that these feelings, as excruciatingly painful as they are, are temporary. You WILL be happy and find love again. @ditchwdallas
Hope you are ok
This is the worst for me
How are you now?
You’ll be fine