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41 years of easy bliss...what can I say? I met the other half of ME bigger,stronger, ..I didnt know he was already dating 3 women when we met . He pursued me. His divorce was final the day we met. He immediately took all three to lunchnor dinner and explained he had THE one...I didnt know. I wasnt dating anyone else. I told him he needed to date others....but we both KNEW right at the first conversation. I was not about to commit to a newly divorce man. I had been widowed a year. My hands were full establishing my psych practice in my hometown and raising my 7 yo daughter alone. We had a situationship...FOR 41 YEARS. I loved it. I KNEW he chose me every single day and was free to go at any point..he invested his money and I invested mine ...sonemyears he outearned me later I outearned him..same ...there were ZERO games. This is silly and childish. What are you 30? We together had earned enough to retire at 50 and 55 to sail the Caribbean together. Tjen we built our tropical dream home abroad. He passed away 2 years ago. My daughter became a career military pilot and is now retired with 3 children. I am the luckiest of women to have had such a terrific man.
When I met my boyfriend, he played this game with me. First, he was really into me and called me every night. Then, he backed off and stopped calling. I started going after him but my heart was breaking because I don’t play games and I don’t understand them. After a few months, I was tired of it and I ghosted him completely - absolutely no contact. I loved him so it hurt like hell but I love myself more. Seven years later, he found me and we started seeing each other again. He no longer plays games with me because he knows I’ll just walk away. We’ve been together now for 16 years. No games, I won’t stand for it!!!!
I remember he set up the first date and the last minutes… he cancelled and I did beg him to go. I feel so dump lol 😂… girl don’t double text or beg. Let him go…
@GODDESS_QUEEN_TILA he looks like my Dad. The last time I saw my dad was when I was 10 years old. I really want to work things out because he looks like my dad. I know it’s my fault but I’m okay now. lol 😂
This happened to me he make plans and make date everything and the last minute he cancelled everything it's hurts so much because I cancelled my work just because of him
@@Shenizajohn-p8c I would start making plans after work, or on a day off so that way if they cancel you weren't taking m time off for nothing... I know how men work so I don't get my hopes up if they cancel I play it cool as well like ok I'm just going to make other plans, then if they do it again then I set my boundaries, like I notice this keeps happening is there something I should know, I say I feel like we're both on different pages with things and I'm gonna be moving on.. men def need boundaries and walk away if needed..
I don't think anyone deserves to be in a relationship with someone who starts it testing anyone in a first date. Use your time to be with someone you can be yourselves, otherwise you will fare better off alone...
Is this guy even married. He probably analyzes everything. All or nothing is very true. However many people have come from broken relationships and they must move on from their head and heart.
Thank you, Ismael. You give good points and advice. I’m sixty-five years old and single, still dating. Men my age, are still playing these games, which I am so aware of. It doesn’t matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women.
Yolanda, I agree girl. I am 62, getting ready to go on the sites, and yes, you are right, I am dumbfounded that men our age are still playing their stupid, childish games. Where are you located? I am in Valdosta, Georgia.
it's mind blowing to me personally for I would have thought older men would have more respect and value good relationships. Depressing. I won't be sucked into any of their games. Haven't encountered a genuine man yet. Think they've gone extinct. 🙃
I have just turned 70, in the same position, and have realised that my dates are in fact job interviews. I’m interested in a man’s personality, interests, values, attractiveness. He’s interested in my skill set as a potential housekeeper/carer.
I have ADHD, I dont do well waiting. I automatically delete all contact with a man who drags their feet on purpose. I cant stand things hanging over my head.
yeah!! i either dump the guy or self-dump, coz i don't want to deal with the anxiety. low value men will intentionally cause u anxiety & pain while feigning innocence. RUN. thank God for ADHD!
@@mmommo10 just realised its not that he doesn't know how to treat me right, its that he doesn't want to treat me right. i guess my ugly cries gives him the validation that he matters.
At my age of 43 yo. I never been in healthy relationship so idk what's love is. Tired of toxic & abusive relationship. So I walk away, i rather be alone than being all alone even in relationship. I would say some women's/men's out there are lucky when they loved by their worth. For some of us who been in toxic relationship or whatever negative relationship. Most dates for sex only. No matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women for their pleasure or like wise. That's Sad ..
Today's men really not taught to be chivalrous but game players and most men don't understand the difference between connection building and power playing even if they do they sorta choose to power play ..wasting their own life's time and non suspecting others
I'm 49 have had 4 kids. 1 toxic marriage & 1 long time toxic relationship. Looking back I was love bombed a lot. Didn't understand about red flags bk then. I see them everywhere now. I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Wow! You've just described the exact behaviour of the most confusing emotionally avoidant man I've ever known. I think it backfired for him... everytime he stood me up I sent him photos of me out having better fun with other people. Wish I'd know it was a technique a year ago... thank you for educating me now.
Make him chase you. Let him contact you first. Busy yourself with friends or taking care of yourself. No one but you will put you first. You deserve you!!
I just absolutely loved you said some people may have not had a father or brother….the absolute truth and care in this statement is simply beautiful 🙏🏽
Women are beginning to not care anymore. Search 4B movement. I'm not necessarily a member of 4B, but I could give two shits about what men think! And I don't have a problem keeping a man's attention. I still have 2 men from my past of 10 to 20 years ago still reaching out to me. Ladies, live your own life, follow your bliss and take care of yourself and he will show up!
just out of curiosity: have you ever put any work into researching the 4B movement in South Korea with what the Koreans say about this or is your main source of information TikToks from western people who never even set a foot into Korea? I am not judging if 4B is right or wrong, i am just curious what your sources are and how credible they are. :)
I'm so happy I am no longer emotionally needy. In my senior years I'm happy to be alone or with friends. No more desire me games or games of emotional manipulation. Freedom on an epic scale.
Age & manners come into this for me too, if someone can't be bothered to reply to me now, I just let them go as I'm too busy with my own life to go chasing someone with no manners & if they can't be a grown up, I don't want to know anyway!
Mr. Gomez III, thank you for this video. At 40, I am single and have probably failed some of the tests for the last 15 years. The older you get the less time you have for nonsense and games. One of the tests I can say I passed and i am proud that i walked away from what looks like a toxic man. I am not toxic and want to maintain a relationship for the sake of "maybe one day he will really show interest..."I really like your channel and thank you for being honest.
It is not. You just need to understand and believe you are worth of nothing less but authenticity, honesty, love and respect. Anything less, you need to walk away from.
This video is beautiful. I personally have not been dealing with these types of behavior. Honestly, the information in this video blew my mind, i didn't know people were being treated this way. Thank you for telling women and men that they deserve better.
Ismael the way you communicate is so clear. You are helping so many. Thank you so much. PS we have no idea what the guys are being advised. The clip was shocking. I hope that’s not typical. Maybe you should advise the guys too.
I can tell you that video was just a glimpse of what's out there. I've seen a lot worse. I'm doing my best with helping out guys as well, especially those in their 20s.
@SaveTheMessenger there are so many men onnthe Internet trying to do what you do, but there is always a hint of misogyny in the way they talk about woman. You're the first guy I see who is just respectfully doing his thing! Raised right, that is attractiv!
Master manipulater ... Thats the word I use for the men that were using my feelings for their benefits. I understood after looking back on the years gone. Watch out ladies. Be self sufficient first.
I ve never loved any man so deeply because I don't want to have a committed relationship.... We meet each other's needs n that's all.....m single n I love it..... thankyou dear for posting this ....
All these games makes me wanna throw up. I'm good. If you can't be authentic and put the effort in and actually keep plans with a date then I don't want you. And if you bring up sex talk early in the dating stage then I move on. 💯
Hi Ismael!! I just found you on my recommendation and now I've been binge watching your videos!! You are so good at explaining and thank you very much for helping us women find the right men. Keep your videos coming!! Love your contents!
Thank you. I told him I can’t do that especially when I don’t even know him He told me I was boring. Not adventurous that I was a chicken I told him it doesn’t matter what you tell me I’m not going to do something that’s not in my heart. Thank you so much for replying to me. And I will follow your advice. Thank you
thank you for this video, that's really helpful!! and something to remind yourself when you feel that something's off. although the hardest part is to realise it all while being in this type of thing...
Please heal yourself first before enter a new relationship. That doesn't sounds healthy. I did that also in the past after being cheated. It backfired bad at me. Today I'm happy married and watch these videos for entertainment... My husband never played games. If you feel being tested run for the hills...
I'm so glad I found you on youtube. I'm in the grandmother status so I've lived many chapters. You really are wise and helpful. I enjoy listening to your clarity. Thank you.
I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve been sorting through men giving advice to women and you are very straightforward about it, which is what my two teenage daughters need to hear, understand and prepare for!!! Thank you, from this 50 year old Mother that worries non-stop about my girls. My daughters are actually interested in hearing your advice. These topics make their dad feel uncomfortable, and my girls are too uncomfortable to talk to him about these things as well. They need to hear these things from A MAN. I did have a big brother, who coached me quite a bit. Anyhow, thank you for sharing this invaluable information for young women out there. It is SO important.🙏❤ God bless you, Ismael!
I always hope to help young women with limited experience since I know many of them don't have much guidance when it comes to love and dating. Thanks for your comment.
I was about to lose faith in men, until your video turned up, and I cliked on it. Thank you so much for making those kind of videos. Thanks for your kindness and honesty
oooh ladies - listen up. I was on a train and there was a group of young men across from me. They were all talking and kidding around . they started talking about a girl. one guy pulled out his phone and texted her and they all were part of it and waited to see what would happen. She responded within 3 minutes and they all were whooping and jumping up and down and high fiving each other. The guy texted her back - can't wait to see you tonight type of stuff and then put the phone away with a big grin for his buddies = I'm getting laid tonight. This whole thing for the men was just to see if this girl would take the bait which by extension leads to him having sex. But I am sure the girl was thinking that the text meant the guy was interested in her and that he liked her. So that night's date is her thinking he likes her and him thinking she fell for it and he is going through the motions of a date with her to get laid. After seeing that, I swore I would NEVER respond to a guy's text. NOT EVER.
Don't fear that. The question is where does your spirit go when it departs your body. For every single one of us, our last breath will be either the best or worst day or our eternal existence. Seek God while he may be found.
Should women be initiating dates, by say the fourth month into dating a man? Is initiating a conversation 'running after'? Because there are coaches for women who say this, that women should respond only and never initiate. Yet there are men feeling like this means a woman is doing the minimum or not that interested. It's confusing.
I think is completely fine for you to plan a date sometimes. But as a woman I've seen it work best when you do it once in a while to show appreciation. That way he keeps taking the role of the initiator.
THANK YOU for this video. It took me a long time to realize that the last guy I dated I obsessed OVER way badly. I can see my bad part in that. I'll work on this myself. I appreciate you teaching me
Ismael, my minor son and I were defrauded and I'd be interested in sharing my story with you to see if you want to publicly share it and warn other women so they can protect themselves and their children from having the same thing happen to them.
Men are getting the same advice on yt. It's no wonder we're all single. 🤷🏼 I've begun to believe long-term relationships are not even possible or preferable, anymore. Just live in the present. Enjoy today and don't worry about tomorrow.
thank you Ismael for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, I appreciate you! (P.S that video with the guy giving advice really shocked me, there is more BS out there than I thought)
WOW WOW WOW!!! 😮 You have a very Powerful Insight!!!😯 You amaze me!!! 👏 👏👏 Thank You Thank You!!! 😃 for sharing your clear and powerful wisdom!!! 👐💪💪💕 God bless you and yours!!! 🤗💕🎉🎉🎉
Oo..kay.. these happened to me .. but my ex is a woman 🗿 so it caught me off guard when i realized all the sublte manipulation she has been using.. in contrary, there's this guy i met and we've been friends for 8years now though i kinda ran away from him cuz he seems too good to be true..so long story short, after my first breakup up at 26 last year,we smh crossed paths again irl and rn getting closer.. he stayed single all those years because of me.. the best part is, he's emotionally expressive but not in a bad way.. I'm much more logical than him in fact.. i struggle with my emotions part while he expresses himself well.. when he's down ,he just wanna vent or cry while you just listen and be there for him because mostly it's the kind of thing that has little solutions like grieving for example.. While the way i express myself is more in intellectual way.. i want to make sense of my feelings and find a way to control or lessen it 😅 so I'd say we compliment each other very well because we're learning from each other..
I lived the first one situation he tested me and he losted me in the same time i dont have time to play with this kind of immatures Men i already have a kid ! Thanks but not Thanks 👋🏾
Hey Ismael, thanks posting this video. Your videos are very helpful. Please post a video on how to test men & how to challenge men to understand if he truly loves me
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“When the connection is right, everything is effortless”… so true
Connection is not always the only thing to make it work - no way!
That is not true. You men are literally delusional thinking you are supposed to find a fairy tale
41 years of easy bliss...what can I say? I met the other half of ME bigger,stronger, ..I didnt know he was already dating 3 women when we met . He pursued me. His divorce was final the day we met. He immediately took all three to lunchnor dinner and explained he had THE one...I didnt know. I wasnt dating anyone else. I told him he needed to date others....but we both KNEW right at the first conversation. I was not about to commit to a newly divorce man. I had been widowed a year. My hands were full establishing my psych practice in my hometown and raising my 7 yo daughter alone. We had a situationship...FOR 41 YEARS. I loved it. I KNEW he chose me every single day and was free to go at any point..he invested his money and I invested mine ...sonemyears he outearned me later I outearned him..same ...there were ZERO games. This is silly and childish. What are you 30? We together had earned enough to retire at 50 and 55 to sail the Caribbean together. Tjen we built our tropical dream home abroad. He passed away 2 years ago. My daughter became a career military pilot and is now retired with 3 children. I am the luckiest of women to have had such a terrific man.
Any man playing these games on purpose isn’t mature enough to be in a healthy relationship. 🙄
- to say the least!
These are the abusers, manipulators, gas lighters, narcs, cheaters.
These men are looking for mommies and therapists.
Thisssss
Exactly.
When I met my boyfriend, he played this game with me. First, he was really into me and called me every night. Then, he backed off and stopped calling. I started going after him but my heart was breaking because I don’t play games and I don’t understand them. After a few months, I was tired of it and I ghosted him completely - absolutely no contact. I loved him so it hurt like hell but I love myself more. Seven years later, he found me and we started seeing each other again. He no longer plays games with me because he knows I’ll just walk away. We’ve been together now for 16 years. No games, I won’t stand for it!!!!
You are innocent and smart I'm happy for you may you stay in a happy and healthy relationship
I don't know if I could give another chance after having to go through the hardship they put me through!
Don’t send multiple messages…. Let him respond…. If not happy with delay…. Move on…. Don’t play any games.
I remember he set up the first date and the last minutes… he cancelled and I did beg him to go. I feel so dump lol 😂… girl don’t double text or beg. Let him go…
Yes!!! Let them go! Never have S. e. x.
We are not weak. A person that ghost is weak if they do that and don’t explain.
Games ugh
@GODDESS_QUEEN_TILA he looks like my Dad. The last time I saw my dad was when I was 10 years old. I really want to work things out because he looks like my dad. I know it’s my fault but I’m okay now. lol 😂
This happened to me he make plans and make date everything and the last minute he cancelled everything it's hurts so much because I cancelled my work just because of him
Y'all are so pretty. The guys are so dumb to be testing you.
@@Shenizajohn-p8c I would start making plans after work, or on a day off so that way if they cancel you weren't taking m time off for nothing... I know how men work so I don't get my hopes up if they cancel I play it cool as well like ok I'm just going to make other plans, then if they do it again then I set my boundaries,
like I notice this keeps happening is there something I should know, I say I feel like we're both on different pages with things and I'm gonna be moving on..
men def need boundaries and walk away if needed..
I don't think anyone deserves to be in a relationship with someone who starts it testing anyone in a first date. Use your time to be with someone you can be yourselves, otherwise you will fare better off alone...
So true.
Is this guy even married. He probably analyzes everything. All or nothing is very true. However many people have come from broken relationships and they must move on from their head and heart.
@@maryannlamanteer5705 why does it matter if he's married? I'm not married and have way more experience than many people who are!
Exactly!
Thank you, Ismael. You give good points and advice. I’m sixty-five years old and single, still dating. Men my age, are still playing these games, which I am so aware of. It doesn’t matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women.
Thank you Yolanda. I have men in my family in their 60's still playing those silly games, so I know exactly what you mean.
Yolanda, I agree girl. I am 62, getting ready to go on the sites, and yes, you are right, I am dumbfounded that men our age are still playing their stupid, childish games. Where are you located? I am in Valdosta, Georgia.
it's mind blowing to me personally for I would have thought older men would have more respect and value good relationships. Depressing. I won't be sucked into any of their games. Haven't encountered a genuine man yet. Think they've gone extinct. 🙃
I have just turned 70, in the same position, and have realised that my dates are in fact job interviews. I’m interested in a man’s personality, interests, values, attractiveness. He’s interested in my skill set as a potential housekeeper/carer.
Because the old school advice most men received was to>>> "treat em mean...& keep em keen !" 👎👎👎
I have ADHD, I dont do well waiting. I automatically delete all contact with a man who drags their feet on purpose. I cant stand things hanging over my head.
Same
yeah!! i either dump the guy or self-dump, coz i don't want to deal with the anxiety. low value men will intentionally cause u anxiety & pain while feigning innocence. RUN. thank God for ADHD!
@@nurazlin965 love love love that thank you
@@mmommo10 thank u for ur support, but there's nothing to love about dumping the person u love because they don't know how to treat u right. 😔
@@mmommo10 just realised its not that he doesn't know how to treat me right, its that he doesn't want to treat me right. i guess my ugly cries gives him the validation that he matters.
At my age of 43 yo. I never been in healthy relationship so idk what's love is. Tired of toxic & abusive relationship. So I walk away, i rather be alone than being all alone even in relationship.
I would say some women's/men's out there are lucky when they loved by their worth.
For some of us who been in toxic relationship or whatever negative relationship. Most dates for sex only. No matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women for their pleasure or like wise. That's Sad ..
I feel you..😐
Today's men really not taught to be chivalrous but game players and most men don't understand the difference between connection building and power playing even if they do they sorta choose to power play ..wasting their own life's time and non suspecting others
I'm 49 have had 4 kids. 1 toxic marriage & 1 long time toxic relationship. Looking back I was love bombed a lot. Didn't understand about red flags bk then. I see them everywhere now. I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like.
We are NEVER too old to learn. I think if you continue to listen to this person, your skills will improve.
I experienced a man like this just recently. It was so confusing. So I ended it. Your video has given me clarity. Thanks.
me too
Wow! You've just described the exact behaviour of the most confusing emotionally avoidant man I've ever known. I think it backfired for him... everytime he stood me up I sent him photos of me out having better fun with other people. Wish I'd know it was a technique a year ago... thank you for educating me now.
1. Time delay
2. Testing in person
3.conceal feelings
Love shouldn’t be this hard. I mean, it seems like everyone wants to play games.
it is because people have unhealed childhood trauma.
@@JocelynE-v8x Not necessarily childhood trauma, just unhealed wounds
he is stupid. i do not play games.
Make him chase you. Let him contact you first. Busy yourself with friends or taking care of yourself. No one but you will put you first. You deserve you!!
Love isn't that hard. Most of the time it's simply not love.
I just absolutely loved you said some people may have not had a father or brother….the absolute truth and care in this statement is simply beautiful 🙏🏽
Right. My father didn't try to teach me about men at all.That's why I still watch videos like this. Thankfully.
Women are beginning to not care anymore. Search 4B movement. I'm not necessarily a member of 4B, but I could give two shits about what men think! And I don't have a problem keeping a man's attention. I still have 2 men from my past of 10 to 20 years ago still reaching out to me. Ladies, live your own life, follow your bliss and take care of yourself and he will show up!
Amen!!❤
lol
just out of curiosity: have you ever put any work into researching the 4B movement in South Korea with what the Koreans say about this or is your main source of information TikToks from western people who never even set a foot into Korea?
I am not judging if 4B is right or wrong, i am just curious what your sources are and how credible they are. :)
I'm so happy I am no longer emotionally needy. In my senior years I'm happy to be alone or with friends. No more desire me games or games of emotional manipulation. Freedom on an epic scale.
I hear you, I am 77 years old . My husband of 46 years married died 3 years ago. I am staying single and alone for what’s left of the rest of my life👍
Thank goodness I had parents that I could talk to about anything and they weren't afraid to answer me honestly ❤
Good for you 💪
Age & manners come into this for me too, if someone can't be bothered to reply to me now, I just let them go as I'm too busy with my own life to go chasing someone with no manners & if they can't be a grown up, I don't want to know anyway!
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
I love this. This person is turning it around. A lot of women do this to men as well. Oh, the games people play.
Moving forward to me means make it better. Never bitter .... Moving forward 🤷🏿♀️
Mr. Gomez III, thank you for this video. At 40, I am single and have probably failed some of the tests for the last 15 years. The older you get the less time you have for nonsense and games. One of the tests I can say I passed and i am proud that i walked away from what looks like a toxic man. I am not toxic and want to maintain a relationship for the sake of "maybe one day he will really show interest..."I really like your channel and thank you for being honest.
This isn’t How Men Test You- this is Red Flags To Look Out For 😆💀💀
he is just stupid.
My thoughts exactly
why this have to be so hard? I feel like I need to graduate from College to date a man 🙄🙄🙄
HAHA😂 #SameHere
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So truuue! 😕
😂😂
It is not. You just need to understand and believe you are worth of nothing less but authenticity, honesty, love and respect. Anything less, you need to walk away from.
I like that you say '... I suggest that you walk away'. To me, a woman, it truly feels empowering to hear that 'suggestion' so simply put. Thank you.
This video is beautiful. I personally have not been dealing with these types of behavior. Honestly, the information in this video blew my mind, i didn't know people were being treated this way. Thank you for telling women and men that they deserve better.
This is why I need men friends! Thank you my sibling is dead and these things are so difficult to get thru.
Ismael the way you communicate is so clear. You are helping so many.
Thank you so much.
PS we have no idea what the guys are being advised. The clip was shocking. I hope that’s not typical.
Maybe you should advise the guys too.
I can tell you that video was just a glimpse of what's out there. I've seen a lot worse. I'm doing my best with helping out guys as well, especially those in their 20s.
Look up pick up artists and the red pill. That is the most popular dating advice for men.
@SaveTheMessenger there are so many men onnthe Internet trying to do what you do, but there is always a hint of misogyny in the way they talk about woman. You're the first guy I see who is just respectfully doing his thing! Raised right, that is attractiv!
Master manipulater ... Thats the word I use for the men that were using my feelings for their benefits. I understood after looking back on the years gone. Watch out ladies. Be self sufficient first.
Well said. I agree with you 💯
I call them "Schwachmaten" or "Hohlbratzen" (german) and move on. I'm too old for that sh*t.
You are doing great work here, Ismael. Thank you.❤
So nice of you to say. Thanks 🙏🏻
Love this advice-super important.
I ve never loved any man so deeply because I don't want to have a committed relationship.... We meet each other's needs n that's all.....m single n I love it..... thankyou dear for posting this ....
Thank you! I love your insight & helpful info!
Make the man chase you. Dont be hungry fir attention.
Yeah that’s right…. When a man does it’s toxic, but when a women does it it’s not…
that will not work even if he did that you will throw him up.
You make excellent points.
Nice sharing!
Thank you for your work! Its truly such a blessing to have people like you trying to pour their knowledge in the world.
All these games makes me wanna throw up. I'm good. If you can't be authentic and put the effort in and actually keep plans with a date then I don't want you. And if you bring up sex talk early in the dating stage then I move on. 💯
Excellent
Thank you so much for this video😊it really helps me see things so much clearer now⭐️
I love your channel. You always give the best advice. ❤👍🏼
♥️thanks again for the information.
Thank you so much for your videos.
Thank you! Great advice!
Awesome. Thank you 🙏🏻
Perfect information. Much appreciated. 😊
2:18 THANK YOU FOR THE TEA BRO 🫖☕
Thank you for the advise 😊
You literally just described all my relationships 😢
At least you're self-aware dear. That's the first step for changing your life around.
Hi Ismael!! I just found you on my recommendation and now I've been binge watching your videos!! You are so good at explaining and thank you very much for
helping us women find the right men.
Keep your videos coming!! Love your contents!
Ever so glad to find your channel, Ismael.
Thank you. I told him I can’t do that especially when I don’t even know him He told me I was boring. Not adventurous that I was a chicken I told him it doesn’t matter what you tell me I’m not going to do something that’s not in my heart. Thank you so much for replying to me. And I will follow your advice. Thank you
thank you for this video, that's really helpful!! and something to remind yourself when you feel that something's off. although the hardest part is to realise it all while being in this type of thing...
That's very sweet of you. Thanks.
This just describes emotionally avoidant and disorganized attachment styles. I can’t believe it’s being taught as dating advice.
My boyfriend just left me a week ago and moved across the country a week ago , I have 2 first dates next week. I need this
Please heal yourself first before enter a new relationship. That doesn't sounds healthy. I did that also in the past after being cheated. It backfired bad at me. Today I'm happy married and watch these videos for entertainment... My husband never played games. If you feel being tested run for the hills...
Nice points
Wow..thanks for your advice. I learn a lot.❤
I like how u keep it short and sweet fear great job! Not like some of those videos that are long winded
You are a gem lsmael and your advice is truly the best. Thank you for all that you do. God bless you.
I'm so glad I found you on youtube. I'm in the grandmother status so I've lived many chapters. You really are wise and helpful. I enjoy listening to your clarity. Thank you.
Thank youuuu😊😊😊Such awesome advice as usual. I can't wait until your next video.
I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve been sorting through men giving advice to women and you are very straightforward about it, which is what my two teenage daughters need to hear, understand and prepare for!!! Thank you, from this 50 year old Mother that worries non-stop about my girls. My daughters are actually interested in hearing your advice. These topics make their dad feel uncomfortable, and my girls are too uncomfortable to talk to him about these things as well. They need to hear these things from A MAN. I did have a big brother, who coached me quite a bit. Anyhow, thank you for sharing this invaluable information for young women out there. It is SO important.🙏❤ God bless you, Ismael!
I always hope to help young women with limited experience since I know many of them don't have much guidance when it comes to love and dating. Thanks for your comment.
Realizing it's best to forgo these interactions altogether!
I want to live in Bridgerton times! Where men actually courted women and women weren’t expected to put out after a $100 dinner. 😂
Thanks for your advice
I needed to hear this.. thanks ❤
I’m glad you found my video. Thank you 🙏🏻
I was about to lose faith in men, until your video turned up, and I cliked on it. Thank you so much for making those kind of videos. Thanks for your kindness and honesty
Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.
Hey sir , can you make a specific video on how to build up or improve emotional intelligence ?
I will be so grateful, thank you 😊
very helpful.
i am curious if there are any "tests" that would actually be a good sign that he is trying to figure out if its a compatible connection
I am glad to watch your videos. Very relatable
Glad you like them! 🙌
effortless feeling"?
It felt like emotional torture!
You are so very corect coach ,thank you
Absolutely correct ! so painful to the women who is innocent.
Love this
The clip you showed of that man giving advice? Wow! WTH! Where did he ever get those ideas?
oooh ladies - listen up. I was on a train and there was a group of young men across from me. They were all talking and kidding around . they started talking about a girl. one guy pulled out his phone and texted her and they all were part of it and waited to see what would happen. She responded within 3 minutes and they all were whooping and jumping up and down and high fiving each other. The guy texted her back - can't wait to see you tonight type of stuff and then put the phone away with a big grin for his buddies = I'm getting laid tonight. This whole thing for the men was just to see if this girl would take the bait which by extension leads to him having sex. But I am sure the girl was thinking that the text meant the guy was interested in her and that he liked her. So that night's date is her thinking he likes her and him thinking she fell for it and he is going through the motions of a date with her to get laid. After seeing that, I swore I would NEVER respond to a guy's text. NOT EVER.
I m gonna die alone 😂
Me am already dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣 my funeral is on next Month yooooooo I was tired of this one ☝️ how to get or to loose 🫣😫😫😫
Me too… it’s ok. At least we won’t be miserable.
Me too. I think every guy I've known has emotional issues. I've given up looking 😂😂
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Don't fear that. The question is where does your spirit go when it departs your body. For every single one of us, our last breath will be either the best or worst day or our eternal existence. Seek God while he may be found.
your videos are always helpful. thank you Ismael❤
This video is golden 🙌🏽 just went through this, and I got up outta there! The timing was perfect!💙💯
I'm glad my video found you.
Should women be initiating dates, by say the fourth month into dating a man? Is initiating a conversation 'running after'? Because there are coaches for women who say this, that women should respond only and never initiate. Yet there are men feeling like this means a woman is doing the minimum or not that interested. It's confusing.
I think is completely fine for you to plan a date sometimes. But as a woman I've seen it work best when you do it once in a while to show appreciation. That way he keeps taking the role of the initiator.
@@SaveTheMessenger this makes sense, thanks
@@SaveTheMessengerwhy should women give the man all the power?
Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much.
Nice talk
Thank you sooooo much Ismail. These tips are really helpful and you explained very well Allah bless you
My pleasure. Thank you 🙌
THANK YOU for this video. It took me a long time to realize that the last guy I dated I obsessed OVER way badly. I can see my bad part in that. I'll work on this myself. I appreciate you teaching me
I’m glad my video helped 🙏🏻
Ismael, my minor son and I were defrauded and I'd be interested in sharing my story with you to see if you want to publicly share it and warn other women so they can protect themselves and their children from having the same thing happen to them.
Men are getting the same advice on yt. It's no wonder we're all single. 🤷🏼 I've begun to believe long-term relationships are not even possible or preferable, anymore. Just live in the present. Enjoy today and don't worry about tomorrow.
Facts
these stupid advisors have created it difficult for us.
Thanks for sharing! 💯
thank you Ismael for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, I appreciate you! (P.S that video with the guy giving advice really shocked me, there is more BS out there than I thought)
Can the sisters say narcissist? Block and move on ❤ Next....
WOW WOW WOW!!! 😮 You have a very Powerful Insight!!!😯 You amaze me!!! 👏 👏👏 Thank You Thank You!!! 😃 for sharing your clear and powerful wisdom!!! 👐💪💪💕 God bless you and yours!!! 🤗💕🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for taking the time to leave such a wonderful comment 🙌
Spot on!
Much appreciated 🙌
Oo..kay.. these happened to me .. but my ex is a woman 🗿 so it caught me off guard when i realized all the sublte manipulation she has been using..
in contrary, there's this guy i met and we've been friends for 8years now though i kinda ran away from him cuz he seems too good to be true..so long story short, after my first breakup up at 26 last year,we smh crossed paths again irl and rn getting closer.. he stayed single all those years because of me..
the best part is, he's emotionally expressive but not in a bad way.. I'm much more logical than him in fact.. i struggle with my emotions part while he expresses himself well.. when he's down ,he just wanna vent or cry while you just listen and be there for him because mostly it's the kind of thing that has little solutions like grieving for example..
While the way i express myself is more in intellectual way.. i want to make sense of my feelings and find a way to control or lessen it 😅 so I'd say we compliment each other very well because we're learning from each other..
That doesnt sound like a grown man. That sounds like a high school boy.
I lived the first one situation he tested me and he losted me in the same time i dont have time to play with this kind of immatures Men i already have a kid ! Thanks but not Thanks 👋🏾
I dont want to play games. I walk away everytime.
thankyou
Not good to be too agreeable
Hey Ismael, thanks posting this video. Your videos are very helpful. Please post a video on how to test men & how to challenge men to understand if he truly loves me
Ishmael I need to know who’s channel you showed. I want to see what these men are being taught. It seems very toxic. Be safe out here ladies.
Casey Zander y’all go get the game
I hate games. I would be done instantly. Unlesss he appoligized for his delayed response.
Best mindset 💪
Shallow stuff.