How Men Test You On A First Date - Watch Out For These Signs

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  • Опубликовано: 13 дек 2024

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  • @SaveTheMessenger
    @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +15

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    It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

    • @blankverse453
      @blankverse453 5 месяцев назад

      Thanks about such beautiful message. Jajakallah khoiron.

  • @learntocookketo
    @learntocookketo 7 месяцев назад +401

    “When the connection is right, everything is effortless”… so true

    • @maria-lena5919
      @maria-lena5919 7 месяцев назад +6

      Connection is not always the only thing to make it work - no way!

    • @AshJae
      @AshJae 7 месяцев назад

      That is not true. You men are literally delusional thinking you are supposed to find a fairy tale

    • @latinaalma1947
      @latinaalma1947 7 месяцев назад

      41 years of easy bliss...what can I say? I met the other half of ME bigger,stronger, ..I didnt know he was already dating 3 women when we met . He pursued me. His divorce was final the day we met. He immediately took all three to lunchnor dinner and explained he had THE one...I didnt know. I wasnt dating anyone else. I told him he needed to date others....but we both KNEW right at the first conversation. I was not about to commit to a newly divorce man. I had been widowed a year. My hands were full establishing my psych practice in my hometown and raising my 7 yo daughter alone. We had a situationship...FOR 41 YEARS. I loved it. I KNEW he chose me every single day and was free to go at any point..he invested his money and I invested mine ...sonemyears he outearned me later I outearned him..same ...there were ZERO games. This is silly and childish. What are you 30? We together had earned enough to retire at 50 and 55 to sail the Caribbean together. Tjen we built our tropical dream home abroad. He passed away 2 years ago. My daughter became a career military pilot and is now retired with 3 children. I am the luckiest of women to have had such a terrific man.

  • @MoonFoxSassy
    @MoonFoxSassy 7 месяцев назад +411

    Any man playing these games on purpose isn’t mature enough to be in a healthy relationship. 🙄

    • @Littlemissmindful
      @Littlemissmindful 7 месяцев назад +19

      - to say the least!

    • @HSBsoulsurfer
      @HSBsoulsurfer 7 месяцев назад +1

      These are the abusers, manipulators, gas lighters, narcs, cheaters.

    • @JocelynE-v8x
      @JocelynE-v8x 7 месяцев назад +14

      These men are looking for mommies and therapists.

    • @JFL1991
      @JFL1991 6 месяцев назад +3

      Thisssss

    • @sandraleyva1488
      @sandraleyva1488 6 месяцев назад +3

      Exactly.

  • @kaysmith5495
    @kaysmith5495 5 месяцев назад +35

    When I met my boyfriend, he played this game with me. First, he was really into me and called me every night. Then, he backed off and stopped calling. I started going after him but my heart was breaking because I don’t play games and I don’t understand them. After a few months, I was tired of it and I ghosted him completely - absolutely no contact. I loved him so it hurt like hell but I love myself more. Seven years later, he found me and we started seeing each other again. He no longer plays games with me because he knows I’ll just walk away. We’ve been together now for 16 years. No games, I won’t stand for it!!!!

    • @FullityNongsiej
      @FullityNongsiej Месяц назад +2

      You are innocent and smart I'm happy for you may you stay in a happy and healthy relationship

    • @pandamaci3
      @pandamaci3 Месяц назад +3

      I don't know if I could give another chance after having to go through the hardship they put me through!

  • @jeanr8359
    @jeanr8359 7 месяцев назад +78

    Don’t send multiple messages…. Let him respond…. If not happy with delay…. Move on…. Don’t play any games.

  • @roser8911
    @roser8911 7 месяцев назад +267

    I remember he set up the first date and the last minutes… he cancelled and I did beg him to go. I feel so dump lol 😂… girl don’t double text or beg. Let him go…

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 7 месяцев назад +17

      Yes!!! Let them go! Never have S. e. x.
      We are not weak. A person that ghost is weak if they do that and don’t explain.
      Games ugh

    • @roser8911
      @roser8911 7 месяцев назад +10

      @GODDESS_QUEEN_TILA he looks like my Dad. The last time I saw my dad was when I was 10 years old. I really want to work things out because he looks like my dad. I know it’s my fault but I’m okay now. lol 😂

    • @Shenizajohn-p8c
      @Shenizajohn-p8c 7 месяцев назад +4

      This happened to me he make plans and make date everything and the last minute he cancelled everything it's hurts so much because I cancelled my work just because of him

    • @HakunaPotataa
      @HakunaPotataa 7 месяцев назад +8

      Y'all are so pretty. The guys are so dumb to be testing you.

    • @redrose767
      @redrose767 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@Shenizajohn-p8c I would start making plans after work, or on a day off so that way if they cancel you weren't taking m time off for nothing... I know how men work so I don't get my hopes up if they cancel I play it cool as well like ok I'm just going to make other plans, then if they do it again then I set my boundaries,
      like I notice this keeps happening is there something I should know, I say I feel like we're both on different pages with things and I'm gonna be moving on..
      men def need boundaries and walk away if needed..

  • @AdrielRaider
    @AdrielRaider 7 месяцев назад +81

    I don't think anyone deserves to be in a relationship with someone who starts it testing anyone in a first date. Use your time to be with someone you can be yourselves, otherwise you will fare better off alone...

    • @ariellegolas4508
      @ariellegolas4508 6 месяцев назад +1

      So true.

    • @maryannlamanteer5705
      @maryannlamanteer5705 6 месяцев назад

      Is this guy even married. He probably analyzes everything. All or nothing is very true. However many people have come from broken relationships and they must move on from their head and heart.

    • @lillired857
      @lillired857 5 месяцев назад

      @@maryannlamanteer5705 why does it matter if he's married? I'm not married and have way more experience than many people who are!

    • @Super_Judith
      @Super_Judith 4 месяца назад +1

      Exactly!

  • @yolandareyes518
    @yolandareyes518 7 месяцев назад +109

    Thank you, Ismael. You give good points and advice. I’m sixty-five years old and single, still dating. Men my age, are still playing these games, which I am so aware of. It doesn’t matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +35

      Thank you Yolanda. I have men in my family in their 60's still playing those silly games, so I know exactly what you mean.

    • @CindySmith-jj9rx
      @CindySmith-jj9rx 7 месяцев назад +12

      Yolanda, I agree girl. I am 62, getting ready to go on the sites, and yes, you are right, I am dumbfounded that men our age are still playing their stupid, childish games. Where are you located? I am in Valdosta, Georgia.

    • @dianevitale1214
      @dianevitale1214 7 месяцев назад +11

      it's mind blowing to me personally for I would have thought older men would have more respect and value good relationships. Depressing. I won't be sucked into any of their games. Haven't encountered a genuine man yet. Think they've gone extinct. 🙃

    • @theodorathompson2034
      @theodorathompson2034 7 месяцев назад +11

      I have just turned 70, in the same position, and have realised that my dates are in fact job interviews. I’m interested in a man’s personality, interests, values, attractiveness. He’s interested in my skill set as a potential housekeeper/carer.

    • @kathyphillips2727
      @kathyphillips2727 7 месяцев назад +6

      Because the old school advice most men received was to>>> "treat em mean...& keep em keen !" 👎👎👎

  • @sonder2164
    @sonder2164 7 месяцев назад +140

    I have ADHD, I dont do well waiting. I automatically delete all contact with a man who drags their feet on purpose. I cant stand things hanging over my head.

    • @Gisctz
      @Gisctz 7 месяцев назад +12

      Same

    • @nurazlin965
      @nurazlin965 7 месяцев назад +13

      yeah!! i either dump the guy or self-dump, coz i don't want to deal with the anxiety. low value men will intentionally cause u anxiety & pain while feigning innocence. RUN. thank God for ADHD!

    • @mmommo10
      @mmommo10 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@nurazlin965 love love love that thank you

    • @nurazlin965
      @nurazlin965 6 месяцев назад

      @@mmommo10 thank u for ur support, but there's nothing to love about dumping the person u love because they don't know how to treat u right. 😔

    • @nurazlin965
      @nurazlin965 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@mmommo10 just realised its not that he doesn't know how to treat me right, its that he doesn't want to treat me right. i guess my ugly cries gives him the validation that he matters.

  • @ixora81
    @ixora81 7 месяцев назад +122

    At my age of 43 yo. I never been in healthy relationship so idk what's love is. Tired of toxic & abusive relationship. So I walk away, i rather be alone than being all alone even in relationship.
    I would say some women's/men's out there are lucky when they loved by their worth.
    For some of us who been in toxic relationship or whatever negative relationship. Most dates for sex only. No matter how old these men are, they still keep playing women for their pleasure or like wise. That's Sad ..

    • @sd.a3263
      @sd.a3263 7 месяцев назад +2

      I feel you..😐

    • @MeBDollarsT
      @MeBDollarsT 5 месяцев назад +3

      Today's men really not taught to be chivalrous but game players and most men don't understand the difference between connection building and power playing even if they do they sorta choose to power play ..wasting their own life's time and non suspecting others

    • @emilybakerjones9881
      @emilybakerjones9881 2 месяца назад +1

      I'm 49 have had 4 kids. 1 toxic marriage & 1 long time toxic relationship. Looking back I was love bombed a lot. Didn't understand about red flags bk then. I see them everywhere now. I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like.

    • @br5469
      @br5469 Месяц назад

      We are NEVER too old to learn. I think if you continue to listen to this person, your skills will improve.

  • @kellyburkin500
    @kellyburkin500 7 месяцев назад +53

    I experienced a man like this just recently. It was so confusing. So I ended it. Your video has given me clarity. Thanks.

  • @jofitz6478
    @jofitz6478 7 месяцев назад +53

    Wow! You've just described the exact behaviour of the most confusing emotionally avoidant man I've ever known. I think it backfired for him... everytime he stood me up I sent him photos of me out having better fun with other people. Wish I'd know it was a technique a year ago... thank you for educating me now.

  • @Sycy875
    @Sycy875 7 месяцев назад +25

    1. Time delay
    2. Testing in person
    3.conceal feelings

  • @lindalee795
    @lindalee795 7 месяцев назад +106

    Love shouldn’t be this hard. I mean, it seems like everyone wants to play games.

    • @JocelynE-v8x
      @JocelynE-v8x 7 месяцев назад +8

      it is because people have unhealed childhood trauma.

    • @a_3651
      @a_3651 7 месяцев назад +6

      ​@@JocelynE-v8x Not necessarily childhood trauma, just unhealed wounds

    • @abhishek2026
      @abhishek2026 6 месяцев назад

      he is stupid. i do not play games.

    • @dreylane
      @dreylane 5 месяцев назад +3

      Make him chase you. Let him contact you first. Busy yourself with friends or taking care of yourself. No one but you will put you first. You deserve you!!

    • @birdieg3614
      @birdieg3614 5 месяцев назад +2

      Love isn't that hard. Most of the time it's simply not love.

  • @mysticbluelight4223
    @mysticbluelight4223 Месяц назад +4

    I just absolutely loved you said some people may have not had a father or brother….the absolute truth and care in this statement is simply beautiful 🙏🏽

    • @juliemiller9760
      @juliemiller9760 21 день назад

      Right. My father didn't try to teach me about men at all.That's why I still watch videos like this. Thankfully.

  • @Jen.X.65
    @Jen.X.65 7 месяцев назад +72

    Women are beginning to not care anymore. Search 4B movement. I'm not necessarily a member of 4B, but I could give two shits about what men think! And I don't have a problem keeping a man's attention. I still have 2 men from my past of 10 to 20 years ago still reaching out to me. Ladies, live your own life, follow your bliss and take care of yourself and he will show up!

    • @melissaj.corbin3125
      @melissaj.corbin3125 6 месяцев назад +2

      Amen!!❤

    • @abhishek2026
      @abhishek2026 6 месяцев назад +1

      lol

    • @TeaObvious
      @TeaObvious 4 месяца назад +2

      just out of curiosity: have you ever put any work into researching the 4B movement in South Korea with what the Koreans say about this or is your main source of information TikToks from western people who never even set a foot into Korea?
      I am not judging if 4B is right or wrong, i am just curious what your sources are and how credible they are. :)

  • @judithrix-brown8790
    @judithrix-brown8790 7 месяцев назад +6

    I'm so happy I am no longer emotionally needy. In my senior years I'm happy to be alone or with friends. No more desire me games or games of emotional manipulation. Freedom on an epic scale.

    • @carolblair2845
      @carolblair2845 6 месяцев назад +1

      I hear you, I am 77 years old . My husband of 46 years married died 3 years ago. I am staying single and alone for what’s left of the rest of my life👍

  • @Cheryl-z9z
    @Cheryl-z9z 7 месяцев назад +19

    Thank goodness I had parents that I could talk to about anything and they weren't afraid to answer me honestly ❤

  • @aquavibes6259
    @aquavibes6259 7 месяцев назад +20

    Age & manners come into this for me too, if someone can't be bothered to reply to me now, I just let them go as I'm too busy with my own life to go chasing someone with no manners & if they can't be a grown up, I don't want to know anyway!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  6 месяцев назад +3

      I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

  • @gwynnielsen5081
    @gwynnielsen5081 7 месяцев назад +2

    I love this. This person is turning it around. A lot of women do this to men as well. Oh, the games people play.

  • @TheGoldenYears51
    @TheGoldenYears51 7 месяцев назад +21

    Moving forward to me means make it better. Never bitter .... Moving forward 🤷🏿‍♀️

  • @wallisitsme7072
    @wallisitsme7072 7 месяцев назад +4

    Mr. Gomez III, thank you for this video. At 40, I am single and have probably failed some of the tests for the last 15 years. The older you get the less time you have for nonsense and games. One of the tests I can say I passed and i am proud that i walked away from what looks like a toxic man. I am not toxic and want to maintain a relationship for the sake of "maybe one day he will really show interest..."I really like your channel and thank you for being honest.

  • @AndreaLikesMusic
    @AndreaLikesMusic 7 месяцев назад +84

    This isn’t How Men Test You- this is Red Flags To Look Out For 😆💀💀

  • @cielo11azul1
    @cielo11azul1 7 месяцев назад +97

    why this have to be so hard? I feel like I need to graduate from College to date a man 🙄🙄🙄

    • @qzQ717
      @qzQ717 7 месяцев назад +1

      HAHA😂 #SameHere

    • @christinaknight8241
      @christinaknight8241 7 месяцев назад +4

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @Elizabeth-pb5vq
      @Elizabeth-pb5vq 7 месяцев назад +2

      So truuue! 😕

    • @supersaha1234
      @supersaha1234 7 месяцев назад +2

      😂😂

    • @kleinschmitterling
      @kleinschmitterling 6 месяцев назад +3

      It is not. You just need to understand and believe you are worth of nothing less but authenticity, honesty, love and respect. Anything less, you need to walk away from.

  • @norahmartha
    @norahmartha 27 дней назад

    I like that you say '... I suggest that you walk away'. To me, a woman, it truly feels empowering to hear that 'suggestion' so simply put. Thank you.

  • @norahmartha
    @norahmartha 27 дней назад

    This video is beautiful. I personally have not been dealing with these types of behavior. Honestly, the information in this video blew my mind, i didn't know people were being treated this way. Thank you for telling women and men that they deserve better.

  • @Portia620
    @Portia620 7 месяцев назад +8

    This is why I need men friends! Thank you my sibling is dead and these things are so difficult to get thru.

  • @Lindartist
    @Lindartist 7 месяцев назад +30

    Ismael the way you communicate is so clear. You are helping so many.
    Thank you so much.
    PS we have no idea what the guys are being advised. The clip was shocking. I hope that’s not typical.
    Maybe you should advise the guys too.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +10

      I can tell you that video was just a glimpse of what's out there. I've seen a lot worse. I'm doing my best with helping out guys as well, especially those in their 20s.

    • @desiree2086
      @desiree2086 7 месяцев назад

      Look up pick up artists and the red pill. That is the most popular dating advice for men.

  • @erobird3403
    @erobird3403 5 месяцев назад +2

    @SaveTheMessenger there are so many men onnthe Internet trying to do what you do, but there is always a hint of misogyny in the way they talk about woman. You're the first guy I see who is just respectfully doing his thing! Raised right, that is attractiv!

  • @PRIYA2592
    @PRIYA2592 7 месяцев назад +22

    Master manipulater ... Thats the word I use for the men that were using my feelings for their benefits. I understood after looking back on the years gone. Watch out ladies. Be self sufficient first.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  6 месяцев назад +1

      Well said. I agree with you 💯

    • @dingshier
      @dingshier 3 месяца назад

      I call them "Schwachmaten" or "Hohlbratzen" (german) and move on. I'm too old for that sh*t.

  • @kleinschmitterling
    @kleinschmitterling 6 месяцев назад +2

    You are doing great work here, Ismael. Thank you.❤

  • @CeciledeLuire
    @CeciledeLuire 7 месяцев назад +11

    Love this advice-super important.

  • @Lovealonewins
    @Lovealonewins Месяц назад

    I ve never loved any man so deeply because I don't want to have a committed relationship.... We meet each other's needs n that's all.....m single n I love it..... thankyou dear for posting this ....

  • @ShopgirlNY182
    @ShopgirlNY182 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! I love your insight & helpful info!

  • @CarolSchenkl
    @CarolSchenkl 7 месяцев назад +30

    Make the man chase you. Dont be hungry fir attention.

    • @MikeGraves-pd2tg
      @MikeGraves-pd2tg 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah that’s right…. When a man does it’s toxic, but when a women does it it’s not…

    • @abhishek2026
      @abhishek2026 6 месяцев назад

      that will not work even if he did that you will throw him up.

  • @dreamsaremadeofthesefists2602
    @dreamsaremadeofthesefists2602 7 месяцев назад +6

    You make excellent points.

  • @phadventurebyalexcastro
    @phadventurebyalexcastro 3 месяца назад

    Nice sharing!

  • @PinaColada65
    @PinaColada65 Месяц назад

    Thank you for your work! Its truly such a blessing to have people like you trying to pour their knowledge in the world.

  • @justicevibes1252
    @justicevibes1252 7 месяцев назад +21

    All these games makes me wanna throw up. I'm good. If you can't be authentic and put the effort in and actually keep plans with a date then I don't want you. And if you bring up sex talk early in the dating stage then I move on. 💯

  • @rabilahaiwas5901
    @rabilahaiwas5901 2 месяца назад +1

    Excellent

  • @Harsh-vd5rc
    @Harsh-vd5rc 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you so much for this video😊it really helps me see things so much clearer now⭐️

  • @noemimatias3729
    @noemimatias3729 2 месяца назад

    I love your channel. You always give the best advice. ❤👍🏼

  • @Debbie-pq4xr
    @Debbie-pq4xr 3 месяца назад

    ♥️thanks again for the information.

  • @mercedesthechef
    @mercedesthechef 2 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for your videos.

  • @RitaP41
    @RitaP41 7 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you! Great advice!

  • @dianesanderson5516
    @dianesanderson5516 7 месяцев назад +3

    Perfect information. Much appreciated. 😊

  • @Armonynator
    @Armonynator 7 месяцев назад +3

    2:18 THANK YOU FOR THE TEA BRO 🫖☕

  • @lindalika2846
    @lindalika2846 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for the advise 😊

  • @Nicole-ik6ku
    @Nicole-ik6ku 7 месяцев назад +6

    You literally just described all my relationships 😢

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +4

      At least you're self-aware dear. That's the first step for changing your life around.

  • @rinniebrown7426
    @rinniebrown7426 3 месяца назад

    Hi Ismael!! I just found you on my recommendation and now I've been binge watching your videos!! You are so good at explaining and thank you very much for
    helping us women find the right men.
    Keep your videos coming!! Love your contents!

  • @jhmumma
    @jhmumma 5 месяцев назад

    Ever so glad to find your channel, Ismael.

  • @Angel-lm6cj
    @Angel-lm6cj 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you. I told him I can’t do that especially when I don’t even know him He told me I was boring. Not adventurous that I was a chicken I told him it doesn’t matter what you tell me I’m not going to do something that’s not in my heart. Thank you so much for replying to me. And I will follow your advice. Thank you

  • @miskarice
    @miskarice 7 месяцев назад +2

    thank you for this video, that's really helpful!! and something to remind yourself when you feel that something's off. although the hardest part is to realise it all while being in this type of thing...

  • @AlexandraEHartman
    @AlexandraEHartman 7 месяцев назад +4

    This just describes emotionally avoidant and disorganized attachment styles. I can’t believe it’s being taught as dating advice.

  • @kimmichaud7741
    @kimmichaud7741 7 месяцев назад +5

    My boyfriend just left me a week ago and moved across the country a week ago , I have 2 first dates next week. I need this

    • @ireefree2024
      @ireefree2024 7 месяцев назад +5

      Please heal yourself first before enter a new relationship. That doesn't sounds healthy. I did that also in the past after being cheated. It backfired bad at me. Today I'm happy married and watch these videos for entertainment... My husband never played games. If you feel being tested run for the hills...

  • @elizabythesea72
    @elizabythesea72 3 месяца назад

    Nice points

  • @ElismaGoliath-jr7vk
    @ElismaGoliath-jr7vk 5 месяцев назад

    Wow..thanks for your advice. I learn a lot.❤

  • @lorraineolivera24
    @lorraineolivera24 3 месяца назад

    I like how u keep it short and sweet fear great job! Not like some of those videos that are long winded

  • @panicontheargo7034
    @panicontheargo7034 7 месяцев назад +3

    You are a gem lsmael and your advice is truly the best. Thank you for all that you do. God bless you.

  • @laurenpomerantz6202
    @laurenpomerantz6202 5 месяцев назад

    I'm so glad I found you on youtube. I'm in the grandmother status so I've lived many chapters. You really are wise and helpful. I enjoy listening to your clarity. Thank you.

  • @KaiyaKN26
    @KaiyaKN26 7 месяцев назад +2

    Thank youuuu😊😊😊Such awesome advice as usual. I can't wait until your next video.

  • @julieweatherford5346
    @julieweatherford5346 4 месяца назад

    I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve been sorting through men giving advice to women and you are very straightforward about it, which is what my two teenage daughters need to hear, understand and prepare for!!! Thank you, from this 50 year old Mother that worries non-stop about my girls. My daughters are actually interested in hearing your advice. These topics make their dad feel uncomfortable, and my girls are too uncomfortable to talk to him about these things as well. They need to hear these things from A MAN. I did have a big brother, who coached me quite a bit. Anyhow, thank you for sharing this invaluable information for young women out there. It is SO important.🙏❤ God bless you, Ismael!

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  4 месяца назад

      I always hope to help young women with limited experience since I know many of them don't have much guidance when it comes to love and dating. Thanks for your comment.

  • @happynewbeginnings
    @happynewbeginnings 7 месяцев назад +1

    Realizing it's best to forgo these interactions altogether!

  • @bnb0510
    @bnb0510 5 месяцев назад +2

    I want to live in Bridgerton times! Where men actually courted women and women weren’t expected to put out after a $100 dinner. 😂

  • @mariendegwa5923
    @mariendegwa5923 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks for your advice

  • @OnyinBella-mw5cg
    @OnyinBella-mw5cg 7 месяцев назад

    I needed to hear this.. thanks ❤

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  6 месяцев назад

      I’m glad you found my video. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @tableta475
    @tableta475 7 месяцев назад

    I was about to lose faith in men, until your video turned up, and I cliked on it. Thank you so much for making those kind of videos. Thanks for your kindness and honesty

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +1

      Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.

  • @SumiSarmah2006
    @SumiSarmah2006 7 месяцев назад +5

    Hey sir , can you make a specific video on how to build up or improve emotional intelligence ?
    I will be so grateful, thank you 😊

  • @MessagesFromAurora
    @MessagesFromAurora 7 месяцев назад +2

    very helpful.
    i am curious if there are any "tests" that would actually be a good sign that he is trying to figure out if its a compatible connection

  • @kateelfridaodeh
    @kateelfridaodeh 7 месяцев назад +1

    I am glad to watch your videos. Very relatable

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 5 месяцев назад +1

    effortless feeling"?
    It felt like emotional torture!

  • @karolinah12
    @karolinah12 2 месяца назад

    You are so very corect coach ,thank you

  • @danmaromila4942
    @danmaromila4942 Месяц назад

    Absolutely correct ! so painful to the women who is innocent.

  • @makelifematter1896
    @makelifematter1896 5 месяцев назад

    Love this

  • @angelatillman4323
    @angelatillman4323 4 месяца назад +1

    The clip you showed of that man giving advice? Wow! WTH! Where did he ever get those ideas?

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia10017 7 месяцев назад +5

    oooh ladies - listen up. I was on a train and there was a group of young men across from me. They were all talking and kidding around . they started talking about a girl. one guy pulled out his phone and texted her and they all were part of it and waited to see what would happen. She responded within 3 minutes and they all were whooping and jumping up and down and high fiving each other. The guy texted her back - can't wait to see you tonight type of stuff and then put the phone away with a big grin for his buddies = I'm getting laid tonight. This whole thing for the men was just to see if this girl would take the bait which by extension leads to him having sex. But I am sure the girl was thinking that the text meant the guy was interested in her and that he liked her. So that night's date is her thinking he likes her and him thinking she fell for it and he is going through the motions of a date with her to get laid. After seeing that, I swore I would NEVER respond to a guy's text. NOT EVER.

  • @MarinaN-kv8qt
    @MarinaN-kv8qt 7 месяцев назад +17

    I m gonna die alone 😂

    • @ubongosahihi
      @ubongosahihi 7 месяцев назад +1

      Me am already dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣 my funeral is on next Month yooooooo I was tired of this one ☝️ how to get or to loose 🫣😫😫😫

    • @docusi2674
      @docusi2674 7 месяцев назад +1

      Me too… it’s ok. At least we won’t be miserable.

    • @lizlee9586
      @lizlee9586 7 месяцев назад

      Me too. I think every guy I've known has emotional issues. I've given up looking 😂😂

    • @Lys-ih3uf
      @Lys-ih3uf 6 месяцев назад

      😂😂😂

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 4 месяца назад

      Don't fear that. The question is where does your spirit go when it departs your body. For every single one of us, our last breath will be either the best or worst day or our eternal existence. Seek God while he may be found.

  • @simonarumenova4954
    @simonarumenova4954 7 месяцев назад +2

    your videos are always helpful. thank you Ismael❤

  • @ressab.5193
    @ressab.5193 7 месяцев назад

    This video is golden 🙌🏽 just went through this, and I got up outta there! The timing was perfect!💙💯

  • @ashton1952
    @ashton1952 7 месяцев назад +10

    Should women be initiating dates, by say the fourth month into dating a man? Is initiating a conversation 'running after'? Because there are coaches for women who say this, that women should respond only and never initiate. Yet there are men feeling like this means a woman is doing the minimum or not that interested. It's confusing.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  7 месяцев назад +10

      I think is completely fine for you to plan a date sometimes. But as a woman I've seen it work best when you do it once in a while to show appreciation. That way he keeps taking the role of the initiator.

    • @ashton1952
      @ashton1952 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@SaveTheMessenger this makes sense, thanks

    • @Stellinadelnordluna
      @Stellinadelnordluna 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@SaveTheMessengerwhy should women give the man all the power?

  • @kaitlinmiaka3818
    @kaitlinmiaka3818 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much!!

  • @sib9865
    @sib9865 7 месяцев назад

    Nice talk

  • @islaampakistan1157
    @islaampakistan1157 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you sooooo much Ismail. These tips are really helpful and you explained very well Allah bless you

  • @TrinaSky-h4v
    @TrinaSky-h4v 7 месяцев назад

    THANK YOU for this video. It took me a long time to realize that the last guy I dated I obsessed OVER way badly. I can see my bad part in that. I'll work on this myself. I appreciate you teaching me

  • @merlindodson7562
    @merlindodson7562 5 месяцев назад +3

    Ismael, my minor son and I were defrauded and I'd be interested in sharing my story with you to see if you want to publicly share it and warn other women so they can protect themselves and their children from having the same thing happen to them.

  • @banished6481
    @banished6481 7 месяцев назад +9

    Men are getting the same advice on yt. It's no wonder we're all single. 🤷🏼 I've begun to believe long-term relationships are not even possible or preferable, anymore. Just live in the present. Enjoy today and don't worry about tomorrow.

    • @sd.a3263
      @sd.a3263 7 месяцев назад

      Facts

    • @abhishek2026
      @abhishek2026 6 месяцев назад +1

      these stupid advisors have created it difficult for us.

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  6 месяцев назад

      Thanks for sharing! 💯

  • @mariaheart5883
    @mariaheart5883 3 месяца назад

    thank you Ismael for sharing your wisdom and knowledge, I appreciate you! (P.S that video with the guy giving advice really shocked me, there is more BS out there than I thought)

  • @2to-tango
    @2to-tango 7 месяцев назад +11

    Can the sisters say narcissist? Block and move on ❤ Next....

  • @abracadabra3089
    @abracadabra3089 7 месяцев назад

    WOW WOW WOW!!! 😮 You have a very Powerful Insight!!!😯 You amaze me!!! 👏 👏👏 Thank You Thank You!!! 😃 for sharing your clear and powerful wisdom!!! 👐💪💪💕 God bless you and yours!!! 🤗💕🎉🎉🎉

    • @SaveTheMessenger
      @SaveTheMessenger  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you for taking the time to leave such a wonderful comment 🙌

  • @craftlover9702
    @craftlover9702 7 месяцев назад +1

    Spot on!

  • @LeNoir2411
    @LeNoir2411 6 месяцев назад +1

    Oo..kay.. these happened to me .. but my ex is a woman 🗿 so it caught me off guard when i realized all the sublte manipulation she has been using..
    in contrary, there's this guy i met and we've been friends for 8years now though i kinda ran away from him cuz he seems too good to be true..so long story short, after my first breakup up at 26 last year,we smh crossed paths again irl and rn getting closer.. he stayed single all those years because of me..
    the best part is, he's emotionally expressive but not in a bad way.. I'm much more logical than him in fact.. i struggle with my emotions part while he expresses himself well.. when he's down ,he just wanna vent or cry while you just listen and be there for him because mostly it's the kind of thing that has little solutions like grieving for example..
    While the way i express myself is more in intellectual way.. i want to make sense of my feelings and find a way to control or lessen it 😅 so I'd say we compliment each other very well because we're learning from each other..

  • @Marcycat7
    @Marcycat7 5 месяцев назад +2

    That doesnt sound like a grown man. That sounds like a high school boy.

  • @sandrar7790
    @sandrar7790 7 месяцев назад +11

    I lived the first one situation he tested me and he losted me in the same time i dont have time to play with this kind of immatures Men i already have a kid ! Thanks but not Thanks 👋🏾

  • @dreylane
    @dreylane 5 месяцев назад +3

    I dont want to play games. I walk away everytime.

  • @hanneliebrits4288
    @hanneliebrits4288 3 месяца назад

    thankyou

  • @cheetavontiebolt9971
    @cheetavontiebolt9971 7 месяцев назад +8

    Not good to be too agreeable

  • @moumitabiswas1801
    @moumitabiswas1801 7 месяцев назад +2

    Hey Ismael, thanks posting this video. Your videos are very helpful. Please post a video on how to test men & how to challenge men to understand if he truly loves me

  • @Trutheseker
    @Trutheseker 7 месяцев назад +9

    Ishmael I need to know who’s channel you showed. I want to see what these men are being taught. It seems very toxic. Be safe out here ladies.

    • @Trutheseker
      @Trutheseker 7 месяцев назад +1

      Casey Zander y’all go get the game

  • @debbiechadwick861
    @debbiechadwick861 7 месяцев назад +7

    I hate games. I would be done instantly. Unlesss he appoligized for his delayed response.

  • @susanleblevec6613
    @susanleblevec6613 Месяц назад

    Shallow stuff.