I don't believe in being fake. I'm open, friendly, and sociable. I text everyone back quickly, I never let anyone wait 24 hours. And if I am interested, I'll let you know. I don't like playing games.
You’re a (rare) giant among men!!! I’m guessing you’re confident in yourself, self-assured and emotionally mature too? Kudos to you - may you always remain that way.
yhhh if im free ..i don’t let people to wait for my reply… but most of the people think that the late replying is way better (show someone that im too busy or don’t use 4n tht much💔) hate it
@@Beezeswith1000 The thing is, no one is so busy that they cannot reply. I believe that replying too late consistently shows the individual is not interested.
I'm with you with this one. Me personally I don't see the point of waiting. Why wait if you know you are going to reply at some point. So why wait? For me it's pointless
I was in a LDR before too, did you ever feel like your partner was one way on text and acted a different way when you were spending time together in person?
I find that most of the dating coaching are more damaging to our sociaty than we realize. Be yourself, genuine, kind, fun with healthy bonderies and you you will always know soon enough who is serious about you and who is not. If not move on to someone who treats you the way you want.
curiousity gap and focusing on myself, not centering the man, thats the best tip. as soon as i break up with my 1 year long relationship, i realized i cared less about my life, my hobbies etc. It's been one month now, I lost 3 kilos, start to work on my piano and ballet techniques, gain money for myself and save them for myself, i realized i completely forgot how talented i am so i quite miss the time with myself, on myself and on the things i know and talented of. i'm so much capable than this relationship, i feel very healthy and aware of myself. and i feel like 17 again. so much energy and time for the things i like. and i'm caring more about friends which i really enjoy.
life is so nice in its natural way, and as soon as i care for the things i like, everything i like is coming to me. it was so nice to see me today like 17 again. very fresh, curious, intelligent, and social.
Let it flow naturally, be an interactive participant to the degree of the invitation to engage. Be yourself but let him slowly unwrap the gift that you are. What It is will unfold n you will decide whether to interact or not. If not good for you be honest n move on. It takes two not one🌸
I was married at 19 divorced 6 years later. Fast Forward 30 years, he came to see me and professed his life-long love for me. I have always loved him. It just feels so natural to the both of us. I have been alone for 10 years and At 59, I’m not wasting any more time alone, life is too short. I’m not let him go again!
Of all the relationship advice videos on RUclips yours is not only relatable and realistic but also delivered with simplicity from a man's perspective that feels very genuine. Difficult to sort through all the videos and information and determine what is real and not just bullshit. But when you come across what is real you just know it. Insightful and honesty really helpful for any women struggling through relationships and dating with men. . And your very attractive so makes it easy to watch. Looking forward to more videos.
Absolutely I had a man who seemed interested in me , we made solid plans. He was 40 minutes late. So I didn't stay went on with my day. Then I came home to a note saying I was not there. Whatever, he showed me how he was planning to treat me. No thanks
For me, it was understanding his personality, appreciating the little things, having some humor, and not rushing him to where I want him to be. It'll get there. Yeah don't make him the center of your life.
Curiosity gap rang a bell for me. I am not currently dating, but I am ready to date again. I am a senior and very aware of my past behaviors that did not provide me with the relationship experience I hoped for. I really resonate with your advice and insights. I have someone who is becoming a friend through doing service activities for my religious organization. He is a gentleman, very kind and considerate, a masculine man, providing for is two children and mother. He is attentive, and then he pulls away, but always wants to be of service to me if her can. Sometimes it's confusing, and I know I can "over-think" things. I also have an emotional "trigger" around rejection so I'm having a hard time trusting my perceptions. We're not in a romantic relationship, but I do find myself thinking about the possibillity, then I feel silly and talk myself out it. I'm older by a number of years, but he is a 50 year old man, so age is "just a number". I'll keep watching your videos because they are they most "grounded" and meaningful ones I have come across. Thank you so much for reading this long message! And your wonderful insights about how to understand men! 🙏🏾💖
I want to say this, it's not the relationship that's the problem, it is you. If you truly don't know yourself, how are you going to show up authentically in a relationship? Find you first!!
I think it all comes down to what sort of man your dealing with. If it's one that thinks a lot of him self above others, and you reqlly have to have him then yes unfortunately one has to go down that rediculous route of pretending your not interested. But then you have to keep that up because the moment you let it slip that you like him - he will be off looking for someone else that doesn't seem to like him. Or you can go for a nice more old fashioned type man who isn't super into himself, doesn't play games and appreciates and welcomes interest from someone who is nice enough to respond to him the same day and see him as worthy of showing interest to. In my experience unfortunately what this guy is saying is true of a lot of men these days. And I blame it on the internet as they can get whatever they want at the push of a button so where's the excitmement - they've evolved to now wanting what they can't have.....someone that's interested but not interested, there but not there. Happeneing but not really happening. It's rediculous I feel sorry for them and a very lonely place to be!
In my experience,I don’t think there is the need of any ‘trick’ if someone wants you it will show no matter what as long as you being yourself and be accepted for what you are if your not being seen for your worth just let it go its not for you
Thanks from Brazil 🇧🇷 Your videos are interesting, well structured and easy to understand (specially your English, because I'm not English native speaker) I wish you success 😊
Dont give up on him. We all have insecurities. At least he was authentic about his thinking. Love is worth the effort. You now have a basis to move forward and explore some of these things. Reveal one of your insecurities to him.
Hi Ismael, I recently found you on RUclips and I’m so amazed by the ways to coach us! Thank you, i keep coming back to your channel after watching just one video and I subscribed 🙂
@@SaveTheMessenger thank you for the welcome, i hope watching your videos it might help me in coming out of my depression and i will be able to bring back my love😢
How should I handle my boyfriend telling me he feels embarrassed being with me because I’m younger and have gained some weight, while he’s now fit? He mentioned that he doesn’t see a future with me until I’m 21-22, and he feels awkward introducing me to friends or his mom. When we started dating, I was fit and he was obese, but now that he’s changed, he questions if he deserves me and thinks he has other options. He also dismissed my feelings when I reminded him how I accepted him at his worst. Additionally, when I asked about his female best friend, he said they’re just friends and that I have no right to question him about his relationships. He told me that my insecurities about his female friends are my problem, and if he ever likes someone else, he’ll tell me but won’t cheat. He ended by saying he doesn’t care about me or what I do. What should I do in this situation? And, how can I replenish my relationship?
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women regulate emotion better. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.
Do you have male friends? As a lot of them are empathic and all these things you listed. A lot of them have guys friends they confide in/have strong friendships with etc. lot of things for women and men to bond over if they have shared interests and values. We aren’t better than men it’s really based on the individual
@@Sarah-kv3qs I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). There is a very small percent of women that are happy in heterosexual relationships. So it's very hard for men and women to bond with each other and have a strong bond with each other. Both men and women think differently, behave differently, react in a different way.
@@icysnow57cold64 I wasn’t homosexual at first. I had the worse relationship with men they just weren’t understanding or sweet enough but I am very sensitive so I don’t blame them completely. I had a friend who was always there through everything. We ended up getting in a relationship and she is the best friend, best lover, best everything! Even though I see how amazing a homosexual relationship is, If we don’t work forever I think she will be the only woman I will ever be with.
@@Sweetnsassydee Women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man. Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do. Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers. A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons. The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
@@Sweetnsassydee Men and women are very psychologically different from each other, and so they think very differently from each other, and that would make it very hard for them to bond with each other. Male and female brains are wired very differently from each other. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do. Females have a larger frontal cortex than males, making them a lot more emotional than males are. Also, males and females produce hormones that are very different from each other that affect their brains and their way of thinking very differently from each other. Male bodies usually produce high levels of testosterone and female bodies usually produce high levels of estrogen. So males and females are both mentally and physically different from each other, and that would probably make it harder for them to bond with each other. Women have oxytocin levels that are 8 times higher than in men. For women, oxytocin creates a strong emotional bond. It is released 3 times in a woman’s life at a very intense level. women have better endorphin release capacity than men
@@SaveTheMessenger Good move for sure! There's a lot of informative videos out there where the music takes over the focus. Thanks for the tip on not complaining about no romance but instead having positive reinforcement to perpetuate more romance to happen. 🥰💕☺️
Ismael Gomez, I like your deep level of coverage to the topics you chose to unpack for us. Thank you... Man, it would be so much more pleasant if you ended each session with a rather classier matching gesture... Avoiding the discrepancy between the session and its ending. Blessings
for western men, is that normal you give an opal ring 💍 for your (female) opals business friend as her early birthday gift? I’m his fiancé, he didn’t tell me that he build a new business with another female because he thought it (opals) should be the surprise gift for me. idk if he knows her since he was 5 years old but she didn’t know that he has fiancé atm because he said to her that’s not her business. he is introvert, never tell people or even to his friend about his problems & his privacy. after the arguments on the phone (because we are in the long distance) in 14th October 2024 until now he becomes more quiet and could easily get triggered by me. he always said that it’s because of his disease and because he always be busy (burn out). how can I rekindle the spark in this long distance relationship? before these issues came up, he used to complain if I didn’t prioritize his messages. now he doesn’t prioritize my messages. what should I do?
Wow, this sounds really complicated. Has anything improved in the meantime? I don't had a real long distance relationship. My husband and me have been 100km away from each other and could see us on the weekends in our early relationship but it's still had some distance. So my advice. If you have a finace and he doesn't tell his childhood friend (doesn't even matter she's female) that is a red flag. Why doesn't he tell her about you?! My husband is also an introvert and doesn't post things on social media. He even closed some but he told everyone about me. His co workers after our first date and so on. So why is he hidden you? I guess your fear is that he has feelings for that girl and only he can tell you what is going on. So communication is the key. Tell him that you feel hurt and don't know what is going on. If he has burnout, he should go to a doctor. It's a health issue like a "normal" disease would be as well. If he doesn't want to talk to you. Well, that not a ground for any relationship. It's not your job to mentain the spark. It's a job for you both. Also stick together in bad situations will show you with who you're dealing with. I was sick the last 6 months and my husband done everything, household chores and still had love and affection for me. And I will return the same for him if he would be ill. That's a partnership. Back in the day when I was dating. I thought I need to be the perfect girlfriend to prove my worthiness. That's totally stupid. Be yourself and most importantly respect yourself. We, women have an instinct which in most cases is right.
If you are in an LDR and Initially get too much attention and pampering and a couple of years later the initial attention reduces, the tricky part is that the love still exists and remains unaffected. How do we regain the initial attention? Is it even possible to regain?
Never put the key to your own happiness in someone else’s pocket. Outside people, or things, can only add to the happiness you already possess, they can’t BE the happiness…
Ya I always talk too much, explained my life correctly all so I should keep myself as a beautiful gift again present 🎁💝 I was blaaahhh bigmouth too much. Coz I want to be honest. Better I keep myself a nicely quiet.
I think being real is what matters most, in my opinion. There are so many games people play that makes me sick. I don't care if he doesn't want me if he can't be trusted. I like men who are good people.
Hello thank you for posting this video. it's very informative. But I can't hear you speaking very well, the music playing in the background is too loud, sorry to say. 😅
I prefer to be authentic, sincere and intentional. Also to treat others as I want to be treated. I love it when he replies to my text immediately, so I return the treatment.
You are so cute. Yeah I’m thinking of Ismael you got that right just kidding but I love your videos they are inspiring. They motivate me 😁 thank you again
I don't want to play or act to seek attention....even if i failed twice.. still i wish to be real & authentic .don't want to follow some strategies to get someone in my future
Who sings me poems that he wrote and he's really busy is an artist is a director in a Hollywood Legend right now he's overseas on tour but he's coming back on the 30th of this month to finish out his tours his ex keeps beating him down she won't leave him alone where is seashells bad to him and I always show him the bright side on the other side she knows about me and him and she is really beating him down making him think that I won't want him but I'm in love with him and I do want him and I tell him that he don't have to tell me what she's doing I already know I'm very intuitive I can see and feel things I'm very spiritual especially when it comes to him he is my soulmate he's my other half we are like yin and yang❤
Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
Be kind ,loving, nurturing and if he doesn't reciprocate that than he is not worth your time.
Wise words.
I don't believe in being fake. I'm open, friendly, and sociable. I text everyone back quickly, I never let anyone wait 24 hours. And if I am interested, I'll let you know. I don't like playing games.
You’re a (rare) giant among men!!! I’m guessing you’re confident in yourself, self-assured and emotionally mature too? Kudos to you - may you always remain that way.
yhhh if im free ..i don’t let people to wait for my reply… but most of the people think that the late replying is way better (show someone that im too busy or don’t use 4n tht much💔) hate it
@@Beezeswith1000 The thing is, no one is so busy that they cannot reply. I believe that replying too late consistently shows the individual is not interested.
That's the best approach in my opinion...and then you can truly see who reciprocates your efforts.
I'm with you with this one. Me personally I don't see the point of waiting. Why wait if you know you are going to reply at some point. So why wait? For me it's pointless
I'm in a long distance relationship. And we love each other very deeply. And I will never make him wait.
I was in a LDR before too, did you ever feel like your partner was one way on text and acted a different way when you were spending time together in person?
@@ShopgirlNY182 yes!
In soulful relationships there is no struggle like this. Those relationships are authentic n timeless n fearless.
I’d say the things I mention happen naturally in those relationships.
I find that most of the dating coaching are more damaging to our sociaty than we realize. Be yourself, genuine, kind, fun with healthy bonderies and you you will always know soon enough who is serious about you and who is not. If not move on to someone who treats you the way you want.
curiousity gap and focusing on myself, not centering the man, thats the best tip. as soon as i break up with my 1 year long relationship, i realized i cared less about my life, my hobbies etc. It's been one month now, I lost 3 kilos, start to work on my piano and ballet techniques, gain money for myself and save them for myself, i realized i completely forgot how talented i am so i quite miss the time with myself, on myself and on the things i know and talented of. i'm so much capable than this relationship, i feel very healthy and aware of myself. and i feel like 17 again. so much energy and time for the things i like. and i'm caring more about friends which i really enjoy.
life is so nice in its natural way, and as soon as i care for the things i like, everything i like is coming to me. it was so nice to see me today like 17 again. very fresh, curious, intelligent, and social.
after so much time i feel like myselfagain and dont need any outer love to enjoy my life. i love life and things i do quite naturally
Let it flow naturally, be an interactive participant to the degree of the invitation to engage. Be yourself but let him slowly unwrap the gift that you are. What It is will unfold n you will decide whether to interact or not.
If not good for you be honest n move on. It takes two not one🌸
I was married at 19 divorced 6 years later. Fast Forward 30 years, he came to see me and professed his life-long love for me. I have always loved him. It just feels so natural to the both of us. I have been alone for 10 years and At 59, I’m not wasting any more time alone, life is too short. I’m not let him go again!
My new mantra…Think of yourself as a beautiful gift, wrapped inside a box, where he’s trying to figure out what’s inside….👊🏽💙
Of all the relationship advice videos on RUclips yours is not only relatable and realistic but also delivered with simplicity from a man's perspective that feels very genuine. Difficult to sort through all the videos and information and determine what is real and not just bullshit. But when you come across what is real you just know it. Insightful and honesty really helpful for any women struggling through relationships and dating with men. . And your very attractive so makes it easy to watch. Looking forward to more videos.
Thanks for the kind words dear. Much appreciated.
My father taught me to leave if a man was 15 minutes late.
😂😂😂😂
If he let you know that he has a genuine reason and he is on his way than surely you can wait little longer and give him the benefit of the doubt
Good luck 😂
Absolutely I had a man who seemed interested in me , we made solid plans. He was 40 minutes late. So I didn't stay went on with my day. Then I came home to a note saying I was not there. Whatever, he showed me how he was planning to treat me. No thanks
If you live in Germany and somebody comes by train, S-Bahn etc, you come a lot later than 15 min🥲🙈
For me, it was understanding his personality, appreciating the little things, having some humor, and not rushing him to where I want him to be. It'll get there. Yeah don't make him the center of your life.
A gift wrapped in a box for him to discover - I love it!
I'm you liked the analogy.
Curiosity gap rang a bell for me. I am not currently dating, but I am ready to date again. I am a senior and very aware of my past behaviors that did not provide me with the relationship experience I hoped for. I really resonate with your advice and insights. I have someone who is becoming a friend through doing service activities for my religious organization. He is a gentleman, very kind and considerate, a masculine man, providing for is two children and mother. He is attentive, and then he pulls away, but always wants to be of service to me if her can. Sometimes it's confusing, and I know I can "over-think" things. I also have an emotional "trigger" around rejection so I'm having a hard time trusting my perceptions. We're not in a romantic relationship, but I do find myself thinking about the possibillity, then I feel silly and talk myself out it. I'm older by a number of years, but he is a 50 year old man, so age is "just a number". I'll keep watching your videos because they are they most "grounded" and meaningful ones I have come across. Thank you so much for reading this long message! And your wonderful insights about how to understand men! 🙏🏾💖
*Utilizing psychology to deepen a connection is a powerful tool. Let's apply these insights with care and authenticity.*
You're right about positive reinforcement. I learned that for my kids and it's good to remember for every relationship and interaction!
Oh yeah, it's quite effective with children as well.
I want to say this, it's not the relationship that's the problem, it is you. If you truly don't know yourself, how are you going to show up authentically in a relationship? Find you first!!
Amen to that.
This is one of the best contents on this topic I have heard. Sharp, simple and delivered in a constructive way. Thank you ❤
That's a hell of a compliment. Thank you.
This is the best video thank you so much i'm practicing now.
The reinforcement is the demonstration of deep respect! ThankYou Ismaél for the tools...
1. Adventures that are scary/out ilof comfort zone
2. Reinforcement - Affect
3. Curiosity
I think it all comes down to what sort of man your dealing with. If it's one that thinks a lot of him self above others, and you reqlly have to have him then yes unfortunately one has to go down that rediculous route of pretending your not interested. But then you have to keep that up because the moment you let it slip that you like him - he will be off looking for someone else that doesn't seem to like him.
Or you can go for a nice more old fashioned type man who isn't super into himself, doesn't play games and appreciates and welcomes interest from someone who is nice enough to respond to him the same day and see him as worthy of showing interest to.
In my experience unfortunately what this guy is saying is true of a lot of men these days. And I blame it on the internet as they can get whatever they want at the push of a button so where's the excitmement - they've evolved to now wanting what they can't have.....someone that's interested but not interested, there but not there. Happeneing but not really happening. It's rediculous I feel sorry for them and a very lonely place to be!
Those are great points. Thanks for sharing your insights.
1. Fear and Attraction
2. Reinforcement affect model
3. Curiosity gap theory
In my experience,I don’t think there is the need of any ‘trick’ if someone wants you it will show no matter what as long as you being yourself and be accepted for what you are if your not being seen for your worth just let it go its not for you
My favorite studt is the fear one. Anything related to a frightening event is memorized
“Alright beautiful “ excuse me I’ll take that though haha
Nobody is going to give you the love life that you want you have to build it yourself, for your relationship to change you need to change:
Thanks so much sir, it really helps me
Great advice
Thanks from Brazil 🇧🇷
Your videos are interesting, well structured and easy to understand (specially your English, because I'm not English native speaker)
I wish you success 😊
When I said that I love him. He said he knew and he said Iam too good to waste time on him.
Dont give up on him. We all have insecurities. At least he was authentic about his thinking. Love is worth the effort. You now have a basis to move forward and explore some of these things. Reveal one of your insecurities to him.
At least he was honest. Move on!
Move on. He didn't want to say "I don't love you and I never will so don't call me again. Like ever again"
Damn, you’re good ! Exceptional advise !
Hi Ismael, I recently found you on RUclips and I’m so amazed by the ways to coach us! Thank you, i keep coming back to your channel after watching just one video and I subscribed 🙂
Welcome to the channel. I'm grateful to have you here.
@@SaveTheMessenger thank you for the welcome, i hope watching your videos it might help me in coming out of my depression and i will be able to bring back my love😢
Ur saving lives mannnn 😍 💯
How should I handle my boyfriend telling me he feels embarrassed being with me because I’m younger and have gained some weight, while he’s now fit? He mentioned that he doesn’t see a future with me until I’m 21-22, and he feels awkward introducing me to friends or his mom. When we started dating, I was fit and he was obese, but now that he’s changed, he questions if he deserves me and thinks he has other options. He also dismissed my feelings when I reminded him how I accepted him at his worst. Additionally, when I asked about his female best friend, he said they’re just friends and that I have no right to question him about his relationships. He told me that my insecurities about his female friends are my problem, and if he ever likes someone else, he’ll tell me but won’t cheat. He ended by saying he doesn’t care about me or what I do. What should I do in this situation? And, how can I replenish my relationship?
Get away and stay away from him. He sounds like a horrible, heartless person, and you’re very very young. Form a good life and wait for a good man.❤
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women regulate emotion better.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.
Do you have male friends? As a lot of them are empathic and all these things you listed. A lot of them have guys friends they confide in/have strong friendships with etc. lot of things for women and men to bond over if they have shared interests and values. We aren’t better than men it’s really based on the individual
@@Sarah-kv3qs I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). There is a very small percent of women that are happy in heterosexual relationships.
So it's very hard for men and women to bond with each other and have a strong bond with each other. Both men and women think differently, behave differently, react in a different way.
@@icysnow57cold64 I wasn’t homosexual at first. I had the worse relationship with men they just weren’t understanding or sweet enough but I am very sensitive so I don’t blame them completely. I had a friend who was always there through everything. We ended up getting in a relationship and she is the best friend, best lover, best everything! Even though I see how amazing a homosexual relationship is, If we don’t work forever I think she will be the only woman I will ever be with.
@@Sweetnsassydee Women feel a lot safer in general with other women than they do with men if either is alone with each other, and it is easier for women to trust other women more than it is to trust a man.
Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Most daughters have a very strong bond with their mother, while they don’t have one with their father, and most sons don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their mother nor their father. Most females have a very strong bond with their sisters, while they don’t have one with their brothers, and most males don’t have that strong of a bond with neither their sisters nor their brothers.
A big reason why many women hope to have a daughter instead of a son when they are trying to get pregnant is for the experiences one doesn't get with a son, like shopping for her prom dress together or going for mother/daughter manicures. In many cases as a girl grows up, she becomes closer to her mother whereas boys aren't generally as close with their parents. And also, it's also harder for females to bond with their brothers than it is with their sisters for the exact same reasons.
The bond that two females have with each other is the strongest bond of them all, and that's one of the reasons why sayings like “girls always have to stick together” exist. The friendship of males and females can hardly be as good as a female to a female relationship from a woman’s point of view. How can a man and woman have a special strong type of bond with each other if women have a special strong type of bond with each other while men don’t have one with each other?
@@Sweetnsassydee Men and women are very psychologically different from each other, and so they think very differently from each other, and that would make it very hard for them to bond with each other.
Male and female brains are wired very differently from each other. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Females have a larger frontal cortex than males, making them a lot more emotional than males are. Also, males and females produce hormones that are very different from each other that affect their brains and their way of thinking very differently from each other. Male bodies usually produce high levels of testosterone and female bodies usually produce high levels of estrogen. So males and females are both mentally and physically different from each other, and that would probably make it harder for them to bond with each other.
Women have oxytocin levels that are 8 times higher than in men. For women, oxytocin creates a strong emotional bond.
It is released 3 times in a woman’s life at a very intense level. women have better endorphin release capacity than men
I was so relieved when the dramatic piano stopped. 😅
I feel like I can focus better on what you're saying without background music.
Funny that you say that. I've actually removed the music from my recent videos. I also thought it was a bit distracting.
@@SaveTheMessenger Good move for sure! There's a lot of informative videos out there where the music takes over the focus. Thanks for the tip on not complaining about no romance but instead having positive reinforcement to perpetuate more romance to happen. 🥰💕☺️
Thank you very much for a helpful video.
Ismael Gomez, I like your deep level of coverage to the topics you chose to unpack for us. Thank you... Man, it would be so much more pleasant if you ended each session with a rather classier matching gesture... Avoiding the discrepancy between the session and its ending. Blessings
Very wise words thank you God bless- new subscriber
Ok thanks.. im ur new subscriber from philippines...👋☺️
Welcome!!
我 喜欢 你的节目❤和你谈到的内容，对我很🈶️启发，谢谢你😊，
The important advice that Ismail can give to women. Don't reward the bad guys and Don't punish the good guys. Women do the exact opposite.
Thanks for all of your useful advice!
btw, can I have the name of the background music at the beginning of this video as I found it really catching
for western men, is that normal you give an opal ring 💍 for your (female) opals business friend as her early birthday gift? I’m his fiancé, he didn’t tell me that he build a new business with another female because he thought it (opals) should be the surprise gift for me. idk if he knows her since he was 5 years old but she didn’t know that he has fiancé atm because he said to her that’s not her business. he is introvert, never tell people or even to his friend about his problems & his privacy. after the arguments on the phone (because we are in the long distance) in 14th October 2024 until now he becomes more quiet and could easily get triggered by me. he always said that it’s because of his disease and because he always be busy (burn out). how can I rekindle the spark in this long distance relationship? before these issues came up, he used to complain if I didn’t prioritize his messages. now he doesn’t prioritize my messages. what should I do?
Wow, this sounds really complicated. Has anything improved in the meantime? I don't had a real long distance relationship. My husband and me have been 100km away from each other and could see us on the weekends in our early relationship but it's still had some distance. So my advice. If you have a finace and he doesn't tell his childhood friend (doesn't even matter she's female) that is a red flag. Why doesn't he tell her about you?! My husband is also an introvert and doesn't post things on social media. He even closed some but he told everyone about me. His co workers after our first date and so on. So why is he hidden you? I guess your fear is that he has feelings for that girl and only he can tell you what is going on. So communication is the key. Tell him that you feel hurt and don't know what is going on. If he has burnout, he should go to a doctor. It's a health issue like a "normal" disease would be as well. If he doesn't want to talk to you. Well, that not a ground for any relationship. It's not your job to mentain the spark. It's a job for you both. Also stick together in bad situations will show you with who you're dealing with. I was sick the last 6 months and my husband done everything, household chores and still had love and affection for me. And I will return the same for him if he would be ill. That's a partnership. Back in the day when I was dating. I thought I need to be the perfect girlfriend to prove my worthiness. That's totally stupid. Be yourself and most importantly respect yourself. We, women have an instinct which in most cases is right.
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If you are in an LDR and Initially get too much attention and pampering and a couple of years later the initial attention reduces, the tricky part is that the love still exists and remains unaffected. How do we regain the initial attention? Is it even possible to regain?
It's hard in a LDR. Make sure you check out my LDR videos and When a Man starts acting Cold & Distant.
Gracias Ismael!
It’s about creating the “ frisson “ of passion and not being readily available to his behest
Good stuff Ismael.
Thanks
Thankyou Ismael ❤
Very insightful❤️
I'm teen just I'm learning to live my best😊
Your videos are deep and meaningful
Playing hard to get does not work anymore. I personally would not go after a girl who was always waiting like 24 hours to text me back.
8 hrs on phone call. That's a whole shift at work!
Thank you so much!
Wow really nice 1st time i saw you
Never put the key to your own happiness in someone else’s pocket. Outside people, or things, can only add to the happiness you already possess, they can’t BE the happiness…
I reaaly love you
You are so realistic manly man n so wise
Good advice.
Thank you ❤❤❤
Ya I always talk too much, explained my life correctly all so I should keep myself as a beautiful gift again present 🎁💝 I was blaaahhh bigmouth too much. Coz I want to be honest. Better I keep myself a nicely quiet.
I don't trust anyone anymore married 17 years divorced 26 years heard it all Run Run you'll be fine
If we wait a day to text do you think he’ll think we’re not interested or he got ghosted and lose interest in us?
Why will you wait? No games. If you want to text then do it. But don't text for validation but for connection.
Thank you
Your my FAVORITE ❤
Well, I really love how you very subtly flirt in between the videos " I hope that she hasn't find that guy Ismael in RUclips" ❤🙃🤫
Don't play games be you.
We should take him on s rollercoaster ride!! Lol.
Listening to learn English ❤
You're good!
I try my best. Thanks.
I think being real is what matters most, in my opinion. There are so many games people play that makes me sick. I don't care if he doesn't want me if he can't be trusted. I like men who are good people.
I’m so single 😅
What is the most romantic music
What are good conversations to have with men
Hello thank you for posting this video. it's very informative. But I can't hear you speaking very well, the music playing in the background is too loud, sorry to say. 😅
I’ve accepted too much from him and did just what you said - centred my life around him.
Great advice!
Hi. Oh thanks music stops
I prefer to be authentic, sincere and intentional. Also to treat others as I want to be treated. I love it when he replies to my text immediately, so I return the treatment.
I always show excess intrst andcare
You are so cute. Yeah I’m thinking of Ismael you got that right just kidding but I love your videos they are inspiring. They motivate me 😁 thank you again
❤😂 love 💕 you
II made that mistake. Much too available for him.
There's only one sure-fire way to make a man think about you all the time, ladies .......!!!!!!!
which is?
Lol 😂
Good one 👍🏼😂
What can I do when i have a crush on my friend but i don't know how to tell him...or should I not tell him??
Like wise
Just tell him. That's the best thing dear
Am new here
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The background music was too loud, had to strain my ear to hear you🤦
All I feel watching these videos is that, Its already too late! :((
I don't want to play or act to seek attention....even if i failed twice.. still i wish to be real & authentic .don't want to follow some strategies to get someone in my future
When they say their love language is roasting and most girls certainly are insecure, and do you think it would work out between them?
Who sings me poems that he wrote and he's really busy is an artist is a director in a Hollywood Legend right now he's overseas on tour but he's coming back on the 30th of this month to finish out his tours his ex keeps beating him down she won't leave him alone where is seashells bad to him and I always show him the bright side on the other side she knows about me and him and she is really beating him down making him think that I won't want him but I'm in love with him and I do want him and I tell him that he don't have to tell me what she's doing I already know I'm very intuitive I can see and feel things I'm very spiritual especially when it comes to him he is my soulmate he's my other half we are like yin and yang❤
If your good the society will make you bad and o say if you become bad to protect yourself frm others then its good . Everyone is selfish in someways
Ja spędzam z moim mężem 90%❤on jest opiekuńczy i kochany ja miałam szczęście ❤
Pls put azerbaijani or turkish subtitle on your videos
Why is music louder than your voice? 😢