Why Men Lose Interest After You Get Emotionally Attached
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- Опубликовано: 3 июл 2024
- Why Men Lose Interest After You Get Emotionally Attached - Surprising Reasons
The moment you fall in love with a man, when you become emotionally attached, he might lose interest. He could stop caring and gradually pull away.
Have you heard this before?
How many have experienced it?
It's a common narrative in many podcasts and videos, impacting self-esteem and confidence. So in this video I will explain why that happens many times depending on the dynamics of the relationship and how you should choose the right man.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Topic Summary
01:34 Why Men Lose Interest 01
02:29 Why Men Lose Interest 02
04:21 Quick Relationship Advice for Women
04:55 Why Men Lose Interest 03
06:30 Quick Relationship Advice for Women
07:00 A SECRET
Types of Men
The difference between takers and givers. You may believe you understand, but be patient and read. Takers drain love and affection, leaving you unfulfilled. Givers thrive on mutual exchange, genuinely caring about your happiness.
Identifying Takers
Takers prioritize physicality, disregarding emotional connection. They induce guilt or shame to fulfill their desires. Poor listeners, they prioritize their problems. Possessive and controlling, they manipulate to maintain control.
Recognizing Givers
Givers value quality time beyond physical intimacy. They're curious about your past and future and respect your boundaries.
Even though you may disagree, most men are actually givers, yet they may act as takers when less interested.
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That's bs. If he loses interest in you once you get emotionally attached, that person was just playing you and it never was love/genuine interest. Just let them go and focus on you value and people who treat you well.
Exactly. Only the sick lose interest. Read up attachment theory.
Spot on! The world is Full of people that excuse bad behavior …..if commitment and truth isn’t part of the equation, walk on.😊
After four years i realised he was a taker.... He never showed his love he was just there to take my energy and love... I don't know how to move on but I'm trying
It gets easier over time, remember how they made you feel and what you truly want. He could of been a lesson of what to not accept. Time to forgive and let go. You deserve reciprocated love. Believe better is coming and it will!
@@Aerialgoddess what a wonderful response. I agree with your statement.
same here 😔
Focus on redirecting all your energy and focus that you were directing on him to you instead of him. Love yourself with all the love you were hoping to get from him. Treat yourself very kindly, take great care of yourself, and give the wound time to heal. Go back to doing whatever made you happy and comfortable in the past; Do not go back to dating men before you fully heal, fill your heart with love, and charge yourself with energy and hope. You have all the love and good wishes that you find the man who deserves you and puts you as crown on his head, as we say in my country.
same here..... nd i realised it nd blocked him frm everywhere possible nd considered him dead to me .....
Sings of a Giver:
Enjoys quality time
Genuinely curious about u
Respect ur boundaries
He invests time and energy
Consistency in his actions
Good distinction between givers and takers.
Sadly, I've found that some men will initially act like a giver, and once they think they've "got" you, reveal their taker side. Once they think you won't leave, some bad men start the disrespect.
Not all men are like that, but there are some bad apples. Be careful, ladies.
That's a valid point. That's why you need to take it slow when getting to know him. Another great tip is to see how he behaves around his friends and family. People usually reveal their true character within their close circle.
It' s not just in a girlfriend boyfriend relationship..same goes with a husband wife relationship in some cases...and unfortunately I'm the victim of this case...my husband initially behaved like a gentleman because I was not ready for physical intimacy...as soon as I agreed..he showed his uninterested nature and now I regret...😢😢
For all the girls…love to the fullest but with dignity and self respect…and even after giving all of u, he leaves, then leave it but u will atleast be proud that u had the courage to be a true person and love truly. Do not take life too seriously
Taker:
All about physical not commitment
Make you feel guilty
Only talks about his problems and needs
Mixed signals/words don’t match actions
Giver
Enjoys quality time without intimacy
Genuinely curious about your interests and future goals
Respects your boundaries
He invests time and energy into you
Consistency in his actions and words
Attention doesn’t mean intention, intention doesn’t mean investment. Most men are givers and they only take when they aren’t that interested.
Great breakdown.
Do they love any woman sincerely ?
@@elz123 Yes but from what I noticed they want the non-commitment sleeping around girl that's the one they look at with love in their eyes that's the one they give their all to if your kind loving they despise you
this is BS. and I'm not as an adult playing games. if a man runs when i show love... he better keep running.
Facts ! Too much game playing just to love
I think videos like these aren’t meant to show you how to “play games”, but instead just showing you how men and women are wired. That’s how I see it.
Exacly all This gets you tired ,all This manipulation tactics ,mind games ,extrategies to make samebody like you or not its crasy ,if you have to loose your personality and mold yourself to please a man or woman its time to let that person go ,i prefer to be Alone.I will survive all this is very narcissistic...
Who has time for the sick mind games; if you can't fall in love with a man while getting emotionally attached to him without getting betrayed, then there's no need for a relationship. I personally would rather be alone.@@mariaseidi4023
Exactly. It is better to let them go. We deserve better
My ex was a taker. My new man is a giver. There are so many differences between the two of them.
Manifesting this 🥰
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Men forget how easily replaced they are, if she is a pretty woman, it won't take much for her to find another guy if you don't love her keep her.
Exactly 💯
Yep
Exactly, they don't realize it's not easy for them to get a new chic but it's easy for us to get a new guy
@@Tina61867 I totally agree, as I get approached by men when I go out 😂.
It can be just as easy to move on from you, if the guy has his shit together.
I never met a giver in my life... now i understood I'm the giver😅😂🥴🥺 all my ex and crush# takers 💔💀
Babe now it's time to spoil on yourself , just be selfish & set your self priority, I know it's hard coz uh have big heart but pls PPL can take advantage of your sweetness so now be for your & now remember that who give uh mutual efforts only they deserve your love .
Forgive yourself my love
That is the issue right there men love those they invest in. If you start out giving before they invested anything into you a light goes off in their heads to use you if they use and only take they disrespect you and a man can't fall in love with someone they use and disrespect. You need to make space to allow a man to give to you first if he not offering to treat you don't turn around and offer him wait you show your value by making him have to put the effort in if he doesn't, he was never interested could have been looking for a place holder or a hook up. When a guy has to invest, he gains respect desire guys value what they have to work for. Nothing wrong with giving though to show appreciation but only if they earned it.
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me also
Yeah i learnt this lesson from a hard way.... I'm non committal and emotionally unavailable person now. i don't want any serious😂😅.... I'm drained and exhausted 🌻
Same. By the way, why do people say "Learnt" a lot instead of "Learned"?
So complicated and disappointed
@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Both forms of the verb are correct, , one is British English and the other American English.
That's what they do .. we are high value women ,just coz we fell for someone out of our innocence doesn't mean we aren't high value . We are high value high maintenance bro !
He never talked about the title of the video - why a man will lose interest when the woman starts getting attached.
😂😂😂 i agree lol !
The point is that this will usually happen with takers, not givers. Therefore, you need to know the type of man you're dealing with. Men don't lose interest because you get attached. Men lose interest mostly when they were looking to extract from you.
@@SaveTheMessenger Wow, that was profound
Yep after having met the right one this is NOT even a question...
Ismael. Everything you've said here, so true . There are the men who simply want to get something FROM you. And then there are
those who want to SHARE things WITH you. A man who doesn't really put in any real effort for you or with you? Walk away, quickly.
And unconditional love? It doesn't exist - other than in people's fantasies and wishlists .
If u are in un secure relationship,it shows ur not secure,heal urself first
Love it! Absolutely. And you have to be willing to accept and admit that you’re insecure. Most people blame the other person when they also dealt a hand in it. Although my ex was a narcissist - he was definitely a taker, but when I took a step back and came to terms with how I also contributed to the downfall of the relationship, it opened my eyes to so much more of these behaviours both internally and externally. If you don’t heal yourself, you’re doomed to continue making the same mistakes yielding the same results.
I love when you tell us stop multitasking & give me your full attention, I immediately stop reading the comments & look at you!..i love when you tell us Beautiful Too! Since I subscribed to your channel I didn't Need or want anyone else's advices about relationships on you tube, thank you so much Sweet Ismael for being Sincere, Decisive & for not wasting our time you are the essence of the word gentleman.. V pleasant to look at & to listen to As well !
That's very sweet of you. I appreciate it.
Yes, it's true. Men only fall love once and if he does he's consistent. He'll never leave you
Men can be 1) Takers. Or 2) Givers. Takers are energy vampires. They suck off your energy. Its all about physicality. When it comes to spending other time with you, he' s just not as interested. Sign 2. They make you feel guilty, ashamed, broken or old- fashioned if you dont give in to his physical desires. 3. He is a poor listener. Every conversation revolves around him. 4) His words dont match his actions. He makes promises but.does not deliver. 5) He is not consistent
A man does not love you like you love a child, ie. unconditionally. There has to be a constant interchange of shared values and vision. The reason he leaves is not that you have got involved in him emotionally, but that he came to extract from you, not to get emotionally involved.
Signs of a Giver
1) Enjoys quality time.with you even if it doesnt lead.to sex.
3) Respects your boundaries and doesnt make you feel uncomfortable.
4) Does things for you that require time and energy.
5. A giver is about consistency.
Most men are actually givers. Some men who are takers with some women are givers with other women.
Key is he will need to perceive you as a high value woman in order to be a giver.
Have experienced both. All points are valid 👌
He has always been a giver , he has taught me much life lessons , he has healed me at my worst, he has been my backbone and suddenly he left me ! I'm just trying to put myself back on track which has been going not so well types and Ig I'll just keep loving him ✨🕊️
But why did he do that?!😢
@@iwinme9322 oh I found out a few days back he was just another player...thank God sooner I got to see his true colours 🤣💅🏻
This is the best relationship advice I've heard. You have a new subscriber 😊
Very helpful video. Thank you.
Definitely not waiting around to find out. I made the right decision. Once he started acting avoidant I let him continue in that energy without me. I know he did not expect that, because he was upset and confused. I then made it clear that I did not appreciate the games. I am kind and respectful to everyone. If you can't match that energy, do not bother me.
To the point. Perfect. ❤
You are correct sir ❤
Thanks so much ❤
Subscribed from Bangladesh 🎉 will be your regular viewers 🎉🎉🎉
Big help thank you
Yep I let the taker go and he married someone he says he isn’t in love with. I’ve been with my giver for eight years now, and I clearly understand the difference!
Nice, thank you❤
I never care. Single is much much better❤
Being avoidant is safest, but not as fulfilling in my experience.
Thank you sir i need this. so true😢
Spot on
jus needed this... subscribed
Welcome to the channel.
💯👍 totally agree, I had the experience with my baby's father "Takers" 😢 "Giver's" to someone else...
You’re right ❤❤❤
So basically you don’t want any one that doesn’t agree with you to comment . If a man loses interest then you walk away and move on. It’s that simple. And there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with being alone . We women work full time and can financially provide for ourselves and we absolutely do not need a man . Why do men hate hearing that? There’s peace when there’s no relationship. Peace of mind. Peace in the soul. Not an extra manchild to cook for and clean up after .
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
Very nice and useful video. 👍👌🙏💐
Yes its true....
Why do guys lose interest after you give them what they want too soon? After knowing a guy for two weeks, he started being flirty with me over the phone and I flirted back. Nothing further happened, just verbal flirting. I felt regret and told him I wanted to take things slow. He said he understood but continued to make advances at me. All I would tell him was “thank you” then switch the topic right away. After that, our conversations started to die and he then ghosted me. Prior to him ghosting me, he told me after two weeks he would be able to call me, but I heard no response from him for 3 months, Was he going through something at the time and isolated himself? Did he see me as easy and it made him run away? Was he only looking for one thing and when he got it, he left? Was he even looking for anything serious? Did he not like that I asked him to take things slow? Was he testing me by flirting with me to see if I’d say modest or jump on him right away?
I also noticed that he only texts me when I’m not all about him or obsessed with him. But when I wait on his texts, he ghosts me. I’m not sure if he feels that i’m being desperate or if i’m looking too much into it.
Sweetie, i think you alredy now this, but i will say it to you, he's not worthy. When a man really wants, he does, indepententelly of financial, emotional, family, distance and what more could stop him. Man are simple creatures, they do just what they want to do, and he's not valluing you.
Take this heart of gold of yours and keep it to someone who will really care about you.
I know this feeling of hope, I have felt it too.
True love is simple, and doesn't worry you, by the contrary, it easy your heart.
I hope this helps you.
He only wanted sex from you my love, once the manipulation hasn't worked, he runs away to find someone else.
His actions are confusing.
Ghost him back but only this time permanently
Exactly right
I'm currently seeing a man ❤ he makes me laugh so much but also teases me alot..even our conversations are never ending 😂😂 despite being busy he makes sure to wish me good night and ask how my day was 💗💗
be very careful still. some people show their true faces only much later.
@@aleef24 well we used to be enemies
@@Mishti-tu2trmake sure that’s not his way to get back at you
Thanks thanks thanks
New subscriber here❤
all the men i found for myself were not ready for commitment..but why is it so
Yes..I was the taker from a man, who genuinely cared me, loved me but as I was not really interested in him, so I never gave him. And me, the same girl is a giver for an another man for 2 years who doesn't give me a shit, he wants from me only the physical intimacy,, and the same man who is rude for me, strict for me are very grounded and emotional for other women 😅 he gives flowers for her, spent quality time with her, she is his friend. He is not only giver for that particular girl but his friends and family as well, only for me he is a taker, he doesn't give a single chocolate for 2 years, always says will bring tomorrow but tomorrow never comes....😂😂
It's all about feelings and interest. In future I will keep this things in my mind,, I will give him who will be a giver. Neither going to be a giver nor a taker..
Because men like this are to be avoided
Your links are not popping up. It's the other guy links that keep popping up after you're videos are over. Not sure if someone else have already mentioned it. I usually like clicking on the links suggested if I'm interested. I still like your videos though, and you're one of the best romantic relationship advisors.
I am soooo sad ... And confused..i feel at moments i want to unalive myself because of the hurt etc.
Dont be, there's always hope and have faith to our Lord God that the right man will come.
@@jilljustbepatient 🙏🏻🤞🏻💓
Please don't do anything to yourself. There's so many people who need you. Love yourself and find a good friend who cares for you and understands who you are as a person. I have a fantastic platonic friendship with a guy he treats me with so much respect. As long as you have an open heart and mind, someone special will see you for who you are.
@@brandyschroeder4759 thank you so much 🙂. I had a platonic friend but he has a girlfriend now so I don't see them anymore.
But I am putting myself out there. Hoping to meet new positive people. 🤞🏻. ( Feeling I had is still there but I don't want to give in to that. ). 🌷🌷🌷
Please don't. You are worthy of Love
Muy inteligente 🙂
It’s ok then I leave I’m not playing these stupid games with men.
Yup! There are are men out there who don’t like to play games either
@@CCrockergirl I’m still waiting to meet one it seems like so many love the fight, chase and challenge.
I’m like look I don’t have time for all these little games if you want a woman who will play games with your heart for the rest of your life go.
I want peace and to rest safely and securely in my husband heart and arms. When God blesses me with a husband.
That's true they love to play games until they find themselves into the arms of an evil woman. They dont know the every unfair game play twice.
So mine is exception because wants me to be in love with him .Otherwise lose interest ....I find it healthy 💞
Because they are WEAK
I’ve been in a online relationship for a month and sometimes his actions not matching his words… like before he would have to chat with me too early in the morning. After a month, he would have to send me a message very late and before he would say hon, lately no more… when I was already having the feelings for him he seem pulling away… anyways that’s life then
I would say take him as an option same thing happened with me. Now I don't treat him like the first choice otherwise I would have been long mentally exhausted.
4:42 Truth
Help me get over this huge crush i have on this guy since the last 6 months and its still going strong .. hes in a relationship already so i have no chance with him but i cant get over him
My problem is the opposite. I just wanna date and hang out but they become too clingy. I need space.
I’ve seen those. Ugh
Am just getting out of that but i can't 😢 we were in relationship for three years but he loved another girl with in one month
I been married 20 years, I love my husband.
And money
I was in relationship with a taker then I realised that it's not my tipe of relationship and then I left him now in other relations I feel myself like a taker 😅
I have been involved with a man who has taken to faiing to keep a previous arrangenent, Yes I should no doubt have asked him to either explain why he behaves like this or terninate the relationship, He has been going a stressful time regarding no work and very little money, However I do feel he could send a text if arrangements have to be changed, Of course looking back over my comment what would I advise a close friend in this situation? Gat out of the relationship I have to do the same, Thank you Ismail for all your heloful talks,
If he is Playboy , talking to many girls so that's not make sense to know the reason why he pull away that sit .
While this video contained valuable information, I feel it was misnamed. It should’ve been named, “the difference between takers and givers.”
I still don’t know why men lose interest once you become emotionally attached.
Is this not narcissistic?
Hi but the topic of ur video is not discussed
Being married for 32 yEars I had a brain Injury 8 years ago. We have not had sex for 9 years. Not even any intimate. I have begged. I've worn lingerie. He just shrugs his sholders and turns to the TV. I'm so sad and in need of intimacy. What can I do. He says he's old, but won't discuss this with his doctor. She tested his testerone and says its fine. He's 68 yeaR# old. How can he have fine testerone at his age, I think thus was not checked and he won't asked to be checked. I've asked to go to his appointments e won't hear of it.
In my 30 years of marriage I went through that whole cycle. Finally lost interest in him too through prayers so it won’t hurt me. It worked. Now I don’t need him emotionally, just functionally. I can shrug him off if he makes advances once in a while. I’m satisfied with my life
Do they really exist?? may be they exist but they get wrong girl too... 😢😢😢😢
Please help me,I don't know what to do..I did my best to make my kids happy and having a complete family..but husband push me away..I don't know what to do..
For real is a huge complication. So disappointing
First there is your title "why men lose interest in you when you get attached. Then you go on to say "if you think men are useless, move on to another channel". Now I know why many people (both men and women) who are over 50 just say to hell with all these games, and just decide to live single in their later years, or in some cases just pay for it. How can you call it a sacred union when you have to live life having playing these games? Real love is not this. Just be sure not to get seriously ill, or they'll leave you.
When you go on a date do you wear your pajamas, broken shoes and have bad breath? You don't, right? Why? Because you know what makes you more attractive. It's not playing games. Certain behaviors are also more attractive than others. Simple as that.
@@SaveTheMessenger getting attached and loving someone is a bad behavior?
Then, those men should be in a relationship with women who love money, so they'll never lose interest 😂😂
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Look Ishmel i value your thoughts I do but theses me value their audience than me. They are public figures and swear that they belong tathervare dating thier audience and then cry that they are lonely. I asked them for thier Instagram and they proctect thier fangirls than thier relationship😢. Then what's the point of dating in the first place. A relationship should come first or rather be prioritized Yes I support him myself but damn where does it stop? This is extremely true when trying to date asian men. What's hurtful is inaunt built like a mat. Inhate micro misogynistic men aint right. It aint, yoall tell uscdo this do that don't do this do do that and still it an excuse for a toxic narcissist attitude and WE STILL LOSE😭
Because when you introduce him to your girls group... He began making back plan.. U as a option...
Your voice exactly sound like one of the tarot readers on youtube. 😊
Dash in between Tarot 😅
@@bongiwejones8380 yes
Saying women dont need men aint spreading hatred fyi
I made up my mind to die alone 2 years ago, everyone I am still consistent😂🎉
That’s why you gotta specialize in their face for awhile before anything else lmaooo
Nope. When you feel attached, you take him for granted. You drive him away.
Because he is not meant for you...
Damn
Takers run. They want to shop for free 😂
Hi I’d want the jewelry. No candy or flowers for this girl Good prime rib dinner too yum
Espera de mi lo que recibo de ti ! 😉
Not true for this Physchology graduate. 😊
is easy because the man doesnt love her as much as she love him
so go get a life
Notice how clued up women are not one positive reaction to this vide 😂 nice try though mate 😂
You seem to be describing a narcissist..
Only god an a mother loves unconditionally
Dogs. Not all mothers.
That's not true If you get attached to me ill get attached to you too🙏🙏🙏
It is not true!! Right one will nvr lose his feelings for his that one woman. It is as simple as it can be,I repeat!!
Man smh stay single
That's not true at all. Men just don't want women they don't find attractive to become attached to them. There, I fixed the Title
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Wtf is this shit. This is not true. I love a women that's attached to me. It's in her nature to want to bond and I embrace it
You sound a bit sexist 😂😂😂
Makes me not want to be with men they sound greedy 😂
you look so good thanksss for this video 🤍