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r/BestofRedditorUpdates - AIW - To make my husband change his gym
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He realized that the girl was hitting on him but has chosen not to tell this to his wife. I’d be proud if my partner gets attention but him hiding this from me would be a significant issue.
this!! i kept thinking this the whole time. it’s so fucked of him to know they’re flirting with him and not only letting it continue but to not even tell his wife? i would start to assume he’s cheating or something
It's not appropriate to hang out with anyone flirting with you if you're in a relationship.. it will never end well
I’ve been flirted with at the gym and I simply said I’m in a relationship. If they didn’t stop, I got irritated and told them to take a hike. Basically, if you don’t respect my relationship, you aren’t respecting me. Most people in my gym are nice people who respect other’s space. A couple duds, but that’s life.
The strangest thing is, the husband will laugh when the other married men confronts him, but when the wife brings it up again he got mad. 🤔
It's the hypocrite in him.
"HA! Yea I'm nothing like you" to the dude.
Meanwhile "why are you still on this! God!" To the wife...
I posted in a comment the real final update. Melissa sent him nudes and he hid it from OP
This crossfit story is super triggering. My ex cheated on me with a girl (who we both knew) from their gym/ sports team/club. And yess NO conversations is VERY suspecious. Esp if you know they're suppose to be friends and do talk. I eventually found the call log (whatsapp calls) at times he told me he was going to sleep. Screenshots of their convos or other convos with others about her or convos where their call log is running on the top banner and you can see the time of the call. One time it was 3 HOURS!! During their working hours. There were so many lies all long the way before I left. In the end he kept on saying they were "just friends" but agrees that he deleted chats because he was ashamed that she would be bad mouthing me and he didnt defend me and didnt want me to see (i was so hurt by that). Yet when I confronted him about her actions HE DEFENDED HER !! Like fml ! Smh Jesus the damage this man did had me ! Smh.
That story about the husband going to the gym with girls who are purposely flirting is a heavy one. Unfortunately, when some people start bettering themselves they often become different people. This in turn creates a want to see if they can do better than their current partners so I can totally understand the wife being uncomfortable. It’s a scary prospect. I think the wife should start working out with him to regain a connection. Get herself into the group so it’s harder for those girls to do what they are doing. Obviously allow him space at times too. Don’t completely put yourself in just because we all need things of our own away from our partners. But yeah…..totally heavy.
The husband shouldn't be entertaining that behavior. She doesn't need to compete with other women.
@@empath9814 Right.
@@empath9814I agree, he should’ve told them to stop instead of ignoring it. He guessed they would stop. But for sure stopping it is telling them it’s not ok to do that and he’s uncomfortable with it.
I initially thought the husband wasn’t cheating but that update changed my mind, the lack of messages is odd especially because he claims Melissa is one of his friends and also why is a married man friends with women who are always flirting with him, if you have respect for your partner, why continue a friendship with women who are constantly flirting with you. Also I’m the majority of the stories we hear about, when someone gets defensive all of a sudden, there’s something going on, and most of the time it’s cheating. The husband went from seeming like a great loyal guy in the beginning to seeming odd with that final update. There’s red flags towards the end and the friendship with the women is a red flag too because those are divorced/single women that seem to be interested in OP’s husband and rubbed it in OP’s face
Conspiracy Hat; what if the ladies who told OP about the flirting are just trying to cause drama and break a loyal relationship to add him to their unfaithful clique?
There's obviously no good intentions, If you're a woman, let's be real, we don't do things stupidly without thinking, anything men or dating related, is very much intentional. The way wr interact with other women is also intentional. Dude if a girl straight up came up to me and was like yeah I flirted with your man and he's obvlious, and make it into a joke, there will definitely be a fight. With both, with the girl not being a girls girl, and the husband for entertaining other women
That was also my thoughts. Plant a seed of doubt. Ppl be shaddy
Even more of a reason to leave that gym.
"I had to whistle to get attention!" 😂😂😂 Poor Sophia.
Reminds me of a Bert Kreischer bit where he screeches I DONT CHEAT ON MY WIFE if he even suspects any flirtation from other women
Bert was hilarious on that! 🤣 Still none the less, he set a specific boundary. He loves his wife so much and it's so wholesome. Funny as hell, but wholesome.
The husband should never have let it get that far in the first place. A married man does not need to be forming new friendships with single women.
i disagree. there is nothing wrong with a man being friends with a woman, married or not. the only issue is that the husband made friends with women that are flirty and allowed them to flirt with him rather than shutting that shit down the moment it began like a good partner should.
@@niyakii6205 If you read my comment again. This is what I said.
Forming NEW friendships with single women.
@@face-in-the-crowdstill a bad comment
@@face-in-the-crowd there is no problem at all with making new friends who are single. If they flirt with him then he should put a stop at it but not for being single you are going to flirt with a dude friend, thats pure paranoia
@@spinasoulyes there is
The fact that OP's husband doesn't have any text or call history with Melissa, and his crazy reaction when she confronted him about it tells me he's definitely cheating. That was a classic cheaters reaction.
I can understand people in the comments thinking it's wrong to tell someone who they can and cannot hang out with. I agree this may be stemming from some insecurities. That does not mean she is incorrect about her assumptions or feelings about these people. Insecure or not I would question my partner's judgment if they chose to hang around people that have affairs, spread rumors, and actively try to split up relationships and marriages. It would be one thing to just work out with them and Converse while you were there. He invited them to the house and regularly had breakfast with the person that was claiming to have slept with him. Of course the wife didn't know all of this ahead of time, but undoubtedly she got a bad feeling after talking with them and seeing how open and free they were to discuss their increasingly aggressive flirting with her husband. Nothing is just fun and games about that. It takes a lot of audacity to not only do it, but then to say it to the wife or husband of the individual with confidence like it wasn't completely disrespectful. They were in her home disrespecting her.
best friends with melissa and regularly gets breakfast before working out, but never texts her? lol. kick his ass out of the house. he told her that his married friend confronted him because he wanted her to think that he was being open and honest. my ex literally told me that he was talking to a girl at a party and her best friend came up to him and confronted him about having a girlfriend. he thought it was soooooo funny because he totally wasn’t flirting with her! … he broke up with me the next week and is now married to her HAHA. they will give you a grain of truth to keep stringing you along
He’s cheating! The chick who told his wife about the flirting was trying to tell her. Go with your gut it’s never wrong.
That's the most extreme reaction/reach
I understand why she’s uncomfortable and personally I don’t think is unreasonable. But I want to point out John gave a dude shit about requesting the same thing.
You guys are so clueless about how vicious some women can be. They see a wedding ring on a man and see that as a game to get him to cheat to boost their egos. He absolutely needs to switch gyms. The wife is right. The husband is the A-hole for not shutting down the flirting and going to his wife as soon as he noticed.
11:50 Riley is ready to tell this story! He's like 'listen in peeps!' *grabs the mic*
“When you have no morals, you be jumping fences like a billy goat” freaking BARS, Sam 😂
For the first story - OP commented 16 days ago:
My life is in a bit of shambles right now. I am getting a lot of messages (mostly harassing me) and comments today here. Does anyone know why people are messaging me all of a sudden?
Looks like he did cheat… I feel so bad for her.
The CrossFit one?
I have a daughter named Sophia and because of the show I now call her “Fia”. 😊
He for sure enjoys the attention he is getting from these flirting women. Otherwise he would have shut them down already, instead of acting oblivious. And for these women to feel comfortable enough, to come to OP's house and tell her, that they are flirting with her husband and he doesn't notice, screams disrespectful from their side and that he never made them feel like he doesn't want that type of attention.
For her to tell him to change the gym, is not going to change anything, as he will just find the next people in the next gym and he is going to tell her for the rest of her life, how she forbid him to train there. Also if he gas already invited the girls to the house, he now has their phone numbers, so changing the gym, won't automatically stop contact.
If I was her, I would start going to the gym with him and while making sure to let him do his workout in peace, just randomly come over and hug or kiss him. Basically marking my territory, without getting annoying. Simple and effective.
And even the most loyal person might get weak, if constantly and provocatively being tested, so it's better to get in between as soon as possible. Not getting in between friendships, but getting in between womenthat try to screw the husband.
After hearing the last update: he is cheating or at least was attempting to cheat for sure.
No messages on his phone, but they are close enough for him to invite her to a barbecue?
Her saying no to the other guy, with the excuse that she is already screwing ops husband. The other girls saying, that he and Melissa constantly hang out and are close. And again: no conversation on his phone???
Why did he see the need to delete it?
19:07 ahh I wish they would just go back and read it again for their own clarity, it was two girls not present at conversation with wife that were actively flirting with husband smh
Did you hear about the woman who lost her left arm and leg!?!?!?!? Well, she is all right now. I am pretty sure her name was Ilean
Edit: Also she works at Ihop
😂😂😂
Do you know what you call a cow with no legs???…. GROUND BEEF
A rug? @@RachelRoth1234
@@RachelRoth1234nothing. It won't come anyways😅
What do you call a guy with no arms or legs in the water??
Disrespect all around, those girls disrespected your husband and you and your husband disrespected you by not asking them to stop flirting with him. If he doesn’t tell them they are going to continue flirting with him
I knew it!! Cross fit is just a weird fitness dating club
It's a low level cult. I know some that go there, it's a crazy group.
Scary
@dancer2179 my friend was briefly in her friends cross fit, her entire life imploded.
I think the husband should've told them to stop flirting with him. Just ignoring them doesn't do anything and actually makes it worse. But I'm thinking husband kinda likes that attention deeps down and 'pretending' to be clueless makes him able to walk the line of cheating without crossing it. Making himself a ''victim'' of others rather than an active participant. Husband is definitely in the wrong for not setting boundaries.
Husband is fishy...
All it takes is one bad day with him at home, one argument for him to give in! That’s a no!
CrossFit is exactly what the comment describes, even here in Italy
You don't just get angry when you're being honest.. you get angry because you're trying to hide something. 😮
Yea...the crossfit husband is cheating 🤷🏻♀️ sus behavior and the guys picking up on it is red flags
It’s highly likely. It sucks she’s not even questioning it.
Moral of the story: 'Do not be deceived: bad company corrupts good morals' - 1 Cor 15:33. Facts.
There's an update on the post. OP's husband did meet Melissa after crossfit but says it was a group setting. They did message but on snapchat. He claims she sent him a nude and then he cut off contact with her immediately. He claims it never got physical and he didn't have feelings for her but that Melissa intrigued him and he liked the attention. OP was upset but the conclusion is that she was staying with him and they would work it out.
I think there's more to the story but the husband is withholding information.
I’m reading that book at the moment :) and honestly this story was interesting because everyone had a different point of view. Personally I would set boundaries and I wouldn’t let my partner change from gym, if he cheats that’s on him and his loss.
I cackled at "It's all core" 😂
Apparently op and husband had a heart to heart in an update she posted 26 days ago. He said he liked the attention for the girls and Listening to the drama of the group, and confirmed that Melissa sent a nude photo of herself on Snapchat. (Op confirmed this happened before the get together happened) He apparently deleted the app after, but when it was redownloaded nothing too inappropriate was going on in the old saved chats. Op is giving her husband a pass. 🙄🙄
oh my god this sorry keeps getting worse and worse😫 like the fact he deleted every chat with melissa yet was his “gym best friend” and went to breakfast with him before classes and stuff NAHHHH he yelled at her when she brings up melissa again?!?! there’s just no way
Story 1. They are not his friends if they know he is married and testing his loyalty. These are not good ppl. Wife is right to be uncomfortable when they are so bold as to tell her about it, there is no line they won’t cross.
Guys, there is another update to the story from OP. In summary: husband admitted hanging out with Melissa 121 and that he could have had a crush on her, but stopped their 'friendship' when Melissa sent him a nude. OP decided to believe that husband is telling the truth, to trust him and move on. (The post if much longer, and you can read how much it took for OP to get to the 'truth')
Now, some of my thoughts below:
Straight away, when a spouse is failing to set boundaries with someone flirting with him, doesn't tell his wife AND has an audacity to bring those people to the group hangout - it is a massive red flag. It is a sign of disrespect and a high probability that this person is prone to violate trust (now or later).
Arguement aka 'it's too controlling to deprive husband from 'friends' and is too much a sacrifice' is totally inconsiderate. 'Friends'? Someone he knew for a short while via gym? 'Friends'? Barely acquintances who hit on him, a married man? If that is a 'sacrifice' to give up vs his wife - then... well, bar is too, and morality left the chat. And I think I just assign more importance to the word 'friend', and more value to what marriage is
Also, I am not even sure husband is now telling the whole truth... aka that he stopped after Melissa sent him nudes. And even if he is - I cannot imagine how you would continue trusting this person to stay faithful.
It’s super uncomfortable to be hit on my anyone who is not your partner… how could he let it go on for so long without saying SOMETHING to SOMEONE!
I am in the middle of a very similar situation to the CrossFit story. I have not addressed it yet and I am completely broken.
43:48 I mean all of the women in that gym are divorced and I gather that happened for a reason. It could be that they are all just a bunch of gossip queens who all just like to stir the pot in their own way. It’s possible that op husband and melissa never messaged. He could have invited all of them to the bbq while they were at the gym. If you see someone regularly in person than you’re less likely to message them.
It’s possible that he’s cheating but it’s also possible husband is getting defensive now that she keeps asking cause in his mind he’s told her everything there is to say. Plus constantly asking someone about cheating is a big insult to their character.
My thought is since he openly said he was dropping that friend group, he might have already deleted Melissa's messages... though in that case I'd want to know if he deleted any of his other friends' messages... did she find anything from the others?
The whole situation just feels really fishy. When you realize someone is flirting you, you talk to your partner about it. He didn't, he basically just said he pretended it wasn't happening/ignored it. Even if that's how he wanted to handle it, he should have told her as SOON as he noticed the flirting was happening.
Another fishy thing is after the initial fight when he read her perspective and talked to the dude who's also been cheating, he seemed more than okay with leaving that gym, that it was the best choice and that he also wanted to make his wife comfortable... But then to blow up on her and say "I did this FOR YOU" when he supposably ended up agreeing that he didn't want to be around those types of people? Yeah no that's very suspicious.
Would it hurt to pretty much cut out a whole friend group if I was in a similar situation to him? Yeah of course. But I'd have also done my own due diligence by talking to my partner and gained the courage to establish boundaries.
Also I do agree with Sam. I think making the right decisions is based upon both environment AND your own morals and willpower. Putting yourself in situations that continuously test your morals and willpower, that can increase the likelihood of making a bad decision. Buuttt one should leave any situation like that before it gets to that point.
My husband is a good man and always tells women that approach him right away that he's married. I never asked him to do this. We both agreed there's no reason to entertain the opposite gender in a relationship especially when the other party is single.
Jhon is in a very good mood in this video.
edit damn! didn't know that crossfit gymps are technically brothels
Those girls were bold
Am I the only one who recognizes that OP's husband is LITERALLY being sexually harassed?!
It's not supposed to be THE VICTIM'S responsibility to change gyms, or feel like not telling their partner because it will harbor insecurity...instead of concern.
So instead of communicating about her feelings and asking her husband to set boundaries, she attempts to control him. Not great now and a bad precedent to set in the relationship.
I’m normally not a fan of the “gender swap” exercise but I feel like it would be much easier to see the controlling behavior if a guy came on here saying he was forcing his wife to leave her athletic team (bc that’s what CrossFit is) because she got in shape and some guys were jokingly flirting with her.
You can bring feelings of insecurity, fear, and need for reassurance to your partner and find a solution together, that’s fine and very healthy. But trying to fix your own insecurity by controlling your partner will never work because there is no amount of control that will make it go away. That’s also how relationships can become abusive over time.
Edit: Tried to add/edit a couple times because the direction of the story kept changing but as it has no real resolution - I’ll just add that even if he is cheating, that doesn’t excuse or justify controlling behavior.
If OP stays in this relationship or leaves and finds a new one someday - she will be much happier if she works on communicating to work on her fears and feelings *with* her partner from the start.
You put fences and controls around property to keep others away, a partner is someone you trust to have your back when you aren’t looking.
I would've asked for him to tell them to cut it out.
I would normally agree but the difference is that when the wife brought up her issue with the flirting he admitted to knowing exactly what the women were doing and had been doing nothing to put up boundaries and no steps to put a stop to them. Very disrespectful to their marriage on his part.
My fiancé did CF when I met him I had never heard of this type of stuff.
If she really believed her husband would never betray her, she wouldn’t be asking him to remove himself from the situation. She needs to be honest with herself.
If he really would never betray her, he would have shut them down right away.
It's disrespectful to be around people who are flirting with you when you are in a relationship. He may not have done anything, but that's the problem - they were disrespectful of his marriage and wife, but he did nothing about it. He may not have seen it as a big deal because he knows what he wants and has wholy decided on, but it seems he forgot about his wife's feelings.
@@tsavo1065I agree with you completely. It is one thing to just socialize at the gym but then to have breakfast with this person that was actively flirting with him was also a whole different story. Then these women had the audacity to come into her home eat her food and hang out at her house while jokingly tell her how they increasingly made passes at her husband. That is so disrespectful. I would have politely informed the ladies that even though he is very faithful and respectful it doesn't discount their disrespect towards my husband and myself. Then I would have politely smiled and escorted them out of my house. I'm not going to hang out with women that would be so flippant about trying to ruin my marriage. (Whether or not they could be successful at doing so)
I think, maybe I'm too logical, but I don't think there's any human out there I could trust 100 percent because logically I understand the fact we are human, some behaviors are biological driven while some are personal choices. And at the end of the day, everyone, including me, is capable of betrayal, it's nothing uncommon or surprising. It doesn't mean I got through life paranoid, but when situations like these arise, this is when you need to step up and assure boundaries again. Some people can say you don't trust them, and that's fine. But we're human, many don't think they'll end up doing shit, who gets married planning to cheat. You as a couple would have to actively be mindful of what you're doing and not putting yourself in situations that could develop. And to me its not about trust, it's just about being human. You spend time with another person, get to know them, over time you feel things or start desiring things maybe you didn't before. It's human and natural thing to occur. The issue is what we do with it, at some point if you crossed that far, you maybe don't even want to stay with your original partner anymore and don't care anymore at all.
I feel conflicted on this. I don’t like how they felt it was okay to tell the wife they were flirting with him. Like why did they even feel that it was okay to do that. He never reciprocated or anything and they made that clear. Just simply stop being friends with them because they obviously wanted them to fight in general. I don’t think the guy should be punished though.
He let this get out of hand and brought someone over who literally spread rumors that she was banging him and claimed him. This is ridiculous and it would be fine just to leave him. He doesn't care to make things right and he was fine for it to happen
Question! Is the OKOP subreddit back up? I posted on there and the entire subreddit got deleted when I went back to check…
I would be extremely annoyed with the gym people if they talked to my partner like that.
Making your husband move gyms is not solving the problem, any place he goes the potencial of a new group of girls wanting to flirt with him will be present, ops insecurities are not her husbands to fix, is a inner work she has to do and ultimately trust her husbands actions, any other person's actions are out of both of their hands, the only other thing husband can and should do is put a stop and hold boundaries towards his group of friends in regards to no do those things to him as it make him uncomfortable, and op needs therapy to work on her inner issues and insecurities
Btw atomic habits is on Spotify as an audiobook
He is cheating. He agreed to change the. Gym cause he got exposed a little bit . And no text to best friend? Very wierd..
I like how fast he went from, I'm fine with leaving too furious with her. I've known guys like that that are ballsy enough to admit to his infidelity like this, calling it a rumor and laughing about it being so "silly" . People like that make me sick. I think he's cheating.
I wish y’all would hold on to cliff hangers like this, and look for updates.. then have like the update episode.
The only thing I don’t like about this first story is the fact that the husband is aware of the flirting and hasn’t done anything to nip it in the butt
John and Sam got 2 different opinions....... I mean only one of them are in a long term relationship and it shows.... (bombasting side eye)
First of all of you flirt with a married man, joking or not, you are trying to destroy a marriage and children’s lives. Your environment will dictate how you behave. If you are in an environment that promotes cheating, then yes you will eventually be conditioned to do the same. Same with drinking and drugs. He shouldn’t have let it get that far and maybe not change gyms yet but set boundaries and if those women cross them then yes he has a responsibility to change his location for the sake of his wife and children. Yea he may not ever cheat even in that environment, but temptation is everywhere. You may never cheat, but temptation will always be there to try to see you fall. You can trust your husband but you can’t trust other people. Especially people who think it’s fine to flirt and tempt a married man. Respecting a married man and his wife is a basic principle.
Oh he’s cheating for sure LMAO 😂
So Cross fit = Swingers club?
My small town has one gym with one cross training class per week full of old ladies... I'm gonna be 40 in a couple of years and I'm the second youngest person there 😅
I just want to point out that this is from the perspective of the man being asked this, but AFAB (assigned female at birth,) people have to do this all the time to protect themselves from AMAB (assigned mail at birth ) people.
Because of all of the assaults and ways that we have to protect ourselves. This man also needs to worry about that too. AFAB people can harm others as well
Love the stream and yall
Husbands not cheating. He’s just working out. Regardless of who says what. “They” are always saying something, talking and spreading rumors.
THEY POSTED AN UPDATE
6:14 REALEST GIRL EVER
AFTER HEARING THST PART
Wait what the fuck HELPP AHE FLICKED HER WAHT
0:49 YAYYAYAYA SOPHIAAAA
Whether my partner cheats or not is on him. However, if he was in that sort of environment I too would be uncomfortable and I don't even think it's an insecurity problem. Something about people who hit on your partner despite knowing they're taken is just so malicious - It is a means to hurt you to make themselves feel better about themselves and that in itself is plenty reason for your partner to put up appropriate boundaries. I too was once put in a similar situation and my partner did not hesitate.
And on that note, OP should investigate. Did her husband really not notice? If Melissa is hitting on him, you would normally expect a few texts.
@@Py-Py-Pyshe had update saying her life was in shambles so looks like he did cheat
@@elithluxe7568 That's so heartbreaking :(
@@Py-Py-Py it is. Can’t stand cheaters. Their moral less people with no values or ethics who can’t control their genitals and lust. People like that deserve to be forever alone honestly
idk what crossfit gyms these people went to, i did it for a few months and i was exhausted!! the last thing im thinking about is sex lol
Why does Riley look like Benson Boone 🥰🥰🥰🥰
What is icu?? lol
10:05 but Husband is loyal, why does it matter if the women are flirting with him? He doesn't flirt back. He doesn't have an interest in them. He has no interest in the women flirting with him, obviously.
Yes, the wife is definitely the AH for forcing him to change gyms. She should have told him about how it was a game for them and they will stop if he tells them he knows they are flirting with him and he doesn't want them to continue. I think he would have done that happily. But yeah, she is being a controlling bitch and is basically SHOWING she doesn't trust her husband tho she claims she trusts him.
did you listen to the whole story tho? he yelled at her when she mentioned melissa specifically plus he was not cutting them off when changing his gym. idk if i wasn’t told by my partner when he knew people were flirting with him for months that’s just as bad as a lie
Some analogies should stay in your head Sam 😂
Go to the gym with him.
You don't know that they're married gym bro is cheating. They could have an open marriage, a marriage of convenience, a green card marriage. There are plenty of ways he's not cheating. 😮
Pleaaaaase stoop that jazz music pleaaaaaaaaaaase 😩😩😩
It's okay, no?