The Russian saying goes like this: "in every joke there's a bit of truth". But we also sometimes jokingly say "in every joke there's a bit of joke", which could also mean that the large part of a joke is truth 💛
Hats off to OP for not accusing his wife of flirting back. There are so many insecure men who are lucky enough to have beautiful loving wives, but they get so insecure when another man looks her way. I have experienced this many times before. It doesn't matter if you're a 10... if you're at least above a 6 as a woman, and you have confidence and you dress well and take care of yourself, men will flock to you, and there is nothing you can do about it. This is true for men just as much as it is for women. But in women's case, if they simply smile at the man, the man will take it as flirting. And they don't realize you also smile and are friendly with EVERYONE you meet. Then they build up this whooooolllle relationship in their own heads for YEARS. I've had men literally follow me for years and YEARS... never quite getting the hint. I don't respond. I don't even acknowledge they exist. But it still continues. And it's worse when you are with someone that thinks YOU are to blame >.>
For men it's not true imo. I've seen it play it exactly as described by you for women. Rarely, if ever, for men. For men the rules are different. It's more about perceived status, confidence or money than about looks. For looks men have to be a 11/10 to get the same results as a 6/10 women who takes care of herself...
I think people forget just how much official paperwork has your name on it. Changing your name is not easy at all, it’s very expensive and super time consuming. Not to mention if they got married really young that had been her name for so long it would be hard to deal with it changing. And then to add on top having the same name as your kids is very important especially in coparenting situations.
And all the instances that things will be in one name and not the other that she might not have into account: an inheritance, a prize, a forgetten back account and then having to prove is her but she went back to her maiden names.what a pain
@@alexiatr people picture changing your name to be just going to the courthouse and signing the paperwork, like no you have to go through and order all new documents and prove it to all the companies order all new cards. It’s a HUGE deal
I kept it for all those reasons and becuz it sux to be the kid whose mom has a different last name. Been there myself. It was embarrassing (cuz everything is that’s different at that age), when friends called her “Mrs. [my last name]” and I’d hv to correct them. Happened a lot. So for my kids…? Nope sorry no.
Changing names can be a pain in the butt and potentially expensive. Especially if you have your career and education really attached to it. I think I spent around $400 when i changed mine because I had to get multiple copies of my name change order, update my Global Entry, Passport, Real ID Drivers license, and more. Plus, it was just a lot of headache keeping track of it all.
When my parents divorced my mother did change her name back but after my father dropped his parental rights she asked us kids if we would like to change our name to her name. We all agreed fast. I don’t care if people think they were never married I have a good name but doubt I’d ever change my name again even if I married in the future.😊
Ohhh I like the text showing on the screen so when -John- _someone_ skips, misses or changes a word, mkg the sentence confusing, I can check it to see what’s up and make it make sense. Lol. Good one.
Whenever I felt a uncomfortable feeling from some guy I'm working with or a costumer Id just start talking about how awesome and great my bf is and how I'm super lucky to have a guy like him, pretty much saying I'm taken and not interested. You would be surprised how many dalulu guys are out there in their own fantasy world and won't take a hint. Its very scary.
For someone who has had to get a restraining order they would need more proof of physical violence. In my state it's refered to as an order of protection.
8:10 Sam I think he’s conflicted because no matter what nothing is ever going to be the same again. Previously it seems these siblings their spouses and their kids spent a lot of time together and now there could be uncomfortable feelings or unworked through resentment from one party or another. He doesn’t want his sister to be upset at him or his wife for what happened because people tend to shoot the messenger and because even if they don’t divorce them getting together as a family is still likely to be rough and ultimately when things like this change the kids suffer the most. Even if their family doesn’t get ripped apart at this point they have built up a close relationship with their aunt/uncle/cousins and now all those relationships could end up being strained. I hope I’ve explained it in a way that makes sense. I understand what this guy is worried about because me and all my siblings have spouses and all of us have kids. Our kids all love is and love each other. All of the kids are really close but both of my younger siblings kids are super close because my brother and his wife have 5 year old son and 8 year old daughter and my sister and her husband also have a 5 year old son and a 8 year old daughter. The boys were born 3 months apart and the girls were born 36 DAYS apart. For 2 siblings that fought each other the most out of the 5 of us they sure accidentally had kids very close together. My kiddo is the youngest she’s turns 4 at the end of this month so she’s pretty much 6 years old because she wants to fit in with all of her cousins lol if the kids had to go bigger gaps of time without seeing each other they would for sure look at it as a punishment of some sort even if we all ensured them that it’s not.
I didn't change my last name after my divorce until I got married again almost a decade later. I was pretty sick when we divorced and it seemed like far too much work to try to change everything back. I didn't love having the same last name as my abuser, but I needed to focus on getting better, not on trying to change every single thing back to my maiden name.
44:31 who edits these? Is it Riley? Lol cause this was totally not the ‘what’s the deal’ the boys were inferring lol it was the Seinfeld what’s the deal meme lol
My mom and dad were married 17 years and she kept his last name. She said that’s her name now and she wanted to have the same last name of her kids. That lady can’t tell anyone to change their name. The fact the dad just does whatever she wants is frustrating
Ok so the name change one... She would have to change her name legally on so many documents, it costs money to change your name for the application alone. Drivers licence, what she's known as in a professional environment, then having a different name to her children too. She shouldn't change the name. Edit: I wrote this before the update... Good job ex husband.
Every time John wears that shirt I think he's wearing a corset. Then I look closer and am quite disappointed that he isn't wearing a corset. I think he'd look cool af in one
Man the comment about the guy not wanting his wife to have lunch with any guy is a 🚩. This was her BIL too. They are supposed to be family. I’ve hang out with my SIL’s husbands 1 on 1. We goof around and act like siblings. There should not be any reason to believe that it would EVER be more. If you can’t hang out with family 1 on 1, then it’s not healthy and the commenter saying he wouldn’t ALLOW it…. Yeah, that’s a walking red flag.
The only reason my mom didn’t go back to her maiden name is to not have different surname to her children… So imo it’s reasonable 🤷♀️ fiance is exactly what op said - insecure child.
The more Sam talks, the less patience I have. I know he means well, but damn dude, you can be pretty dense. Why would a restraining order from the sister in law prevent the guy from seeing his own children? That makes literally no sense.
Jeeze - that was a bit harsh 😂 and unnecessary He’s not a lawyer and never been in this situation… how would he know 😂 You seem really dense if you think you know everything about the world and the planet so it annoys you when people ponder ……. I think you said your inside thoughts out loud …. No one cares … don’t watch Also it doesn’t look good in family court if your ex husband is obsessed with your brothers wife … he seems unhinged So you don’t think the court would take a restraining order and piling evidence into account with child custody orders 😂😂 Bruv - you are the dense one
I think it's so odd to keep your ex-husband's last name. You are no longer married. And using the kids as an excuse; is not like you are siblings 😂 and need to have the same last name. My children have the same last name and I have my own. It's not a big deal. Though the 24 yr old girl is immature on how she's approaching this situation, I think she's right. Unpopular vote here 🙋.
I’ve noticed a common theme with y’all guys (sophia is actually very well versed in most topics) being confidently wrong when it comes to chatting about possible manipulation tactics or abuse tactics. it can be frustrating to watch yall label everyday people as psychopaths and sociopaths. i’m really hoping one of yall sees this comment, and there becomes a push for you guys to either educate yourselves on what’s abusive vs what is just being an asshole ORRRR just avoid diagnosing people based off of a several paragraph text…
Stalking and secretly photographing your wife's friend for ten years(and marrying your spouse ONLY to maintain contact with your victim) is among several signs of a sociopath that are revealed in this post. This man literally had two children he didn't care about to keep this charade going. He was willing to ruin everyone's lives as long as he got what he wanted.
I really feel for the wife ❤️🩹 It must break her heart to feel like she's the reason that her close friend's marriage is over. And what's maybe even more difficult for her is the fact that yet another man has viewed her in a seggsual way. I'm not trying to humble brag, but I know what it's like to be on the recieving end of that amount of male attention. It's always made me a bit standoffish around men because I'm always afraid that they'll get the wrong idea. And it's honestly really hurtful when it feels like almost every man you meet views you in a seggsual way! You think that you've got a good friend? - wants to sleep with you You're a teen over at your friend's house? Her dad is making you uncomfortable by the way he looks at you and the little comments he makes when nobody's around. Meet the family of your mom's new husband? His dad, your now step granddad, let's his hand go down your back and touch your butt when you hug goodbye. So when you're in the company of your close friend from school, her husband and your own husband, who's actually the brother of said friend, you'd think you're finally able to relax and just be yourself and not have to worry about getting any unwanted attention. And then this happens???
You are so right this is so sad and damaging for her, I'm not hot in anyway just average but the amount of guys who interpret my politeness for attraction is shoking, I've learnt to be very short and cut with people and they tell me I'm a bitch but honestly I would rather that,than people who don't respect my boundaries as stranger and feel entitled to grab and touch me in anyway even when I tell I'm uncomfortable and I want to leave
The Russian saying goes like this: "in every joke there's a bit of truth". But we also sometimes jokingly say "in every joke there's a bit of joke", which could also mean that the large part of a joke is truth 💛
I love that!!!!❤😂
32:45 you mean decorum John. Decor is short for decoration, as in furnishings for your house...😅
Hats off to OP for not accusing his wife of flirting back.
There are so many insecure men who are lucky enough to have beautiful loving wives, but they get so insecure when another man looks her way.
I have experienced this many times before.
It doesn't matter if you're a 10... if you're at least above a 6 as a woman, and you have confidence and you dress well and take care of yourself, men will flock to you, and there is nothing you can do about it.
This is true for men just as much as it is for women.
But in women's case, if they simply smile at the man, the man will take it as flirting.
And they don't realize you also smile and are friendly with EVERYONE you meet.
Then they build up this whooooolllle relationship in their own heads for YEARS.
I've had men literally follow me for years and YEARS... never quite getting the hint. I don't respond. I don't even acknowledge they exist. But it still continues.
And it's worse when you are with someone that thinks YOU are to blame >.>
For men it's not true imo. I've seen it play it exactly as described by you for women. Rarely, if ever, for men. For men the rules are different. It's more about perceived status, confidence or money than about looks. For looks men have to be a 11/10 to get the same results as a 6/10 women who takes care of herself...
Dude the editing on these videos is fucking golden😂 I literally laugh out loud! And my favorite is when John starts yelling his point!! 😂😂
I think people forget just how much official paperwork has your name on it. Changing your name is not easy at all, it’s very expensive and super time consuming. Not to mention if they got married really young that had been her name for so long it would be hard to deal with it changing. And then to add on top having the same name as your kids is very important especially in coparenting situations.
And all the instances that things will be in one name and not the other that she might not have into account: an inheritance, a prize, a forgetten back account and then having to prove is her but she went back to her maiden names.what a pain
@@alexiatr people picture changing your name to be just going to the courthouse and signing the paperwork, like no you have to go through and order all new documents and prove it to all the companies order all new cards. It’s a HUGE deal
I think OP meant to write "nothing overtly sexual" instead of overly
🤓 left another live for this video lol
Cheater 😂
@@StillARose😂 hey at least OKOP is their main and not the side piece.
I wouldn't change my name back after a divorce if I had kids. Its so much harder gor medical info, passport info, school stuff
I kept it for all those reasons and becuz it sux to be the kid whose mom has a different last name. Been there myself. It was embarrassing (cuz everything is that’s different at that age), when friends called her “Mrs. [my last name]” and I’d hv to correct them. Happened a lot. So for my kids…? Nope sorry no.
My mum still has my dad's name on some documents, it's no big deal for adults😂
Ok Riley…go with Riley Wilson OkOp!
"love at first sight" = "lust at first sight"
pray for that man, he needs to a little something called self control
Sam it’s behind every Joke there’s some truth😂
I learned recently that a Shirley Temple with alcohol is called a Dirty Shirley…the more ya know 😂
The alpha male podcast parody was so fuckin funny 😂
15:38 I love Sam's laugh, so contagious 😂
19:42 I feel violated for the wife. I'd cry and need soo much therapy after that.😢
Changing names can be a pain in the butt and potentially expensive. Especially if you have your career and education really attached to it. I think I spent around $400 when i changed mine because I had to get multiple copies of my name change order, update my Global Entry, Passport, Real ID Drivers license, and more. Plus, it was just a lot of headache keeping track of it all.
The "Oh My" John said after reading the email where the brother in law thought the husband wasn't satisfying the wife properly 😅😂😂😂
Hilariousss
Mental flashbang of old Riley freaking sent me ! God I love you boys😂❤
OMG who put in the TOO WONG FOO reference???? I love them FOREVER for that 😂😂😍😍😍😍
16:55 dude tha impersonation was on point hahaha
When my parents divorced my mother did change her name back but after my father dropped his parental rights she asked us kids if we would like to change our name to her name. We all agreed fast. I don’t care if people think they were never married I have a good name but doubt I’d ever change my name again even if I married in the future.😊
I know someone who’s name is literally “John Jeffery Johnson”
John Johnson sounds like a fake name a serial killer gives to a hospital when they get injured.
Nice! Also fun editing with the memey stuff, I actually said hehehe🐱👍
Ohhh I like the text showing on the screen so when -John- _someone_ skips, misses or changes a word, mkg the sentence confusing, I can check it to see what’s up and make it make sense. Lol. Good one.
Riley is ur saving Grace. He’s hilarious
Op from the first story doesn't just want to have his cake and eat it he wants to own the whole damn bakery 😂😂😂😂
Whenever I felt a uncomfortable feeling from some guy I'm working with or a costumer Id just start talking about how awesome and great my bf is and how I'm super lucky to have a guy like him, pretty much saying I'm taken and not interested. You would be surprised how many dalulu guys are out there in their own fantasy world and won't take a hint. Its very scary.
Its so crazy to me how people with cheating habbits know they are finished they double down on the lies despite the truth being out.
Damn, imagine being the wife of the guy who only loves his SIL and cares nothing about the woman hes MARRIES TOO
That story took such an unexpected turn in the update tho frfr
But a 'dirty Shirley' is a drink drink. Just add vodka🍹
For someone who has had to get a restraining order they would need more proof of physical violence. In my state it's refered to as an order of protection.
8:10 Sam I think he’s conflicted because no matter what nothing is ever going to be the same again. Previously it seems these siblings their spouses and their kids spent a lot of time together and now there could be uncomfortable feelings or unworked through resentment from one party or another.
He doesn’t want his sister to be upset at him or his wife for what happened because people tend to shoot the messenger and because even if they don’t divorce them getting together as a family is still likely to be rough and ultimately when things like this change the kids suffer the most. Even if their family doesn’t get ripped apart at this point they have built up a close relationship with their aunt/uncle/cousins and now all those relationships could end up being strained. I hope I’ve explained it in a way that makes sense. I understand what this guy is worried about because me and all my siblings have spouses and all of us have kids. Our kids all love is and love each other. All of the kids are really close but both of my younger siblings kids are super close because my brother and his wife have 5 year old son and 8 year old daughter and my sister and her husband also have a 5 year old son and a 8 year old daughter. The boys were born 3 months apart and the girls were born 36 DAYS apart. For 2 siblings that fought each other the most out of the 5 of us they sure accidentally had kids very close together. My kiddo is the youngest she’s turns 4 at the end of this month so she’s pretty much 6 years old because she wants to fit in with all of her cousins lol if the kids had to go bigger gaps of time without seeing each other they would for sure look at it as a punishment of some sort even if we all ensured them that it’s not.
When I say "I need a drink" I'm not getting alcohol I'm getting water or a pop.
A Shirley temple with booze is called a dirty Shirley!!!
I didn't change my last name after my divorce until I got married again almost a decade later. I was pretty sick when we divorced and it seemed like far too much work to try to change everything back. I didn't love having the same last name as my abuser, but I needed to focus on getting better, not on trying to change every single thing back to my maiden name.
6:16 Not the Donner group chat 😆 That's a HUGE group of people! That man would get crucified!
I'm glad y'all doubled down on the fact he wanted to cheat on OP'S sister with OP'S wife. The audacity.
Stalkers are no fun
Celery Stalks are cool tho
Mark narrations and Charlotte dobre covered these stories. Nice to see your pov
Glad someone else noticed this!
It’s called a Dirty Shirley John…
And this is why I barely trust my mics and phone with my big belly and but 😂🤣😂🤣
32:14 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You could not make me change the last name i share with my kids
It makes me so angry when the shitty person guilts you for breaking up the family if you tell.
love the new channel banner guys!
≈ 49:25 I've had two childhood Pastors. One named John Johnson. The other, Michael Jordan. XD
44:31 who edits these? Is it Riley? Lol cause this was totally not the ‘what’s the deal’ the boys were inferring lol it was the Seinfeld what’s the deal meme lol
My mom and dad were married 17 years and she kept his last name. She said that’s her name now and she wanted to have the same last name of her kids. That lady can’t tell anyone to change their name. The fact the dad just does whatever she wants is frustrating
I never changed my last name after divorce and my ex husband kept changing my last name to my maiden name on all the formal documents for the kids… 😅
op wife sounds innocent
37:02 I get Shirley Temples when I go out. It has V0dka in it. 😅
Ok who gave John sugar lol 😂 did he have a red bull before this session
There is Reddit from the wife's perspective
It’s truth is spoken in jest
Ok so the name change one... She would have to change her name legally on so many documents, it costs money to change your name for the application alone. Drivers licence, what she's known as in a professional environment, then having a different name to her children too. She shouldn't change the name.
Edit: I wrote this before the update... Good job ex husband.
The one on not wanting to change the last name you guys have already read before.
Every time John wears that shirt I think he's wearing a corset. Then I look closer and am quite disappointed that he isn't wearing a corset. I think he'd look cool af in one
I’m down lol
The fact that you all think you can get a restraining order just because you want one is insane 🤦🏼♀️
I know ryt,like it is a nightmare to get one
I got divorced in 2007 and kept it until 2023 when I got married again. My ex has been married 2 more times since then.
Maybe he meant "overtly" instead of "overly"
What's the song at 4 mins?
15:04 DAVID TENNANT
Lying about lying does not make the lie true
Sam I like the blue hoodie.
WHAT HAPPENED TO THE TINFOIL HATS
get onn with it 10:05 😱
Man the comment about the guy not wanting his wife to have lunch with any guy is a 🚩. This was her BIL too. They are supposed to be family. I’ve hang out with my SIL’s husbands 1 on 1. We goof around and act like siblings. There should not be any reason to believe that it would EVER be more. If you can’t hang out with family 1 on 1, then it’s not healthy and the commenter saying he wouldn’t ALLOW it…. Yeah, that’s a walking red flag.
The only reason my mom didn’t go back to her maiden name is to not have different surname to her children… So imo it’s reasonable 🤷♀️ fiance is exactly what op said - insecure child.
Pigeon god
Riley
Ugh..... it's not that.... the saying is ...... there's a little truth in every joke.......... 😂
The more Sam talks, the less patience I have. I know he means well, but damn dude, you can be pretty dense. Why would a restraining order from the sister in law prevent the guy from seeing his own children? That makes literally no sense.
Jeeze - that was a bit harsh 😂 and unnecessary
He’s not a lawyer and never been in this situation… how would he know 😂
You seem really dense if you think you know everything about the world and the planet so it annoys you when people ponder …….
I think you said your inside thoughts out loud …. No one cares … don’t watch
Also it doesn’t look good in family court if your ex husband is obsessed with your brothers wife … he seems unhinged
So you don’t think the court would take a restraining order and piling evidence into account with child custody orders 😂😂
Bruv - you are the dense one
@@barbarella.artisthe’s not wrong though. He often gives legal advice but it’s really out of left field.
I think it's so odd to keep your ex-husband's last name. You are no longer married. And using the kids as an excuse; is not like you are siblings 😂 and need to have the same last name. My children have the same last name and I have my own. It's not a big deal. Though the 24 yr old girl is immature on how she's approaching this situation, I think she's right. Unpopular vote here 🙋.
Love your podcast but these doctor adds are getting so 🙄
I’ve noticed a common theme with y’all guys (sophia is actually very well versed in most topics) being confidently wrong when it comes to chatting about possible manipulation tactics or abuse tactics. it can be frustrating to watch yall label everyday people as psychopaths and sociopaths. i’m really hoping one of yall sees this comment, and there becomes a push for you guys to either educate yourselves on what’s abusive vs what is just being an asshole ORRRR just avoid diagnosing people based off of a several paragraph text…
Stalking and secretly photographing your wife's friend for ten years(and marrying your spouse ONLY to maintain contact with your victim) is among several signs of a sociopath that are revealed in this post. This man literally had two children he didn't care about to keep this charade going. He was willing to ruin everyone's lives as long as he got what he wanted.
I really feel for the wife ❤️🩹
It must break her heart to feel like she's the reason that her close friend's marriage is over.
And what's maybe even more difficult for her is the fact that yet another man has viewed her in a seggsual way.
I'm not trying to humble brag, but I know what it's like to be on the recieving end of that amount of male attention. It's always made me a bit standoffish around men because I'm always afraid that they'll get the wrong idea. And it's honestly really hurtful when it feels like almost every man you meet views you in a seggsual way!
You think that you've got a good friend?
- wants to sleep with you
You're a teen over at your friend's house?
Her dad is making you uncomfortable by the way he looks at you and the little comments he makes when nobody's around.
Meet the family of your mom's new husband?
His dad, your now step granddad, let's his hand go down your back and touch your butt when you hug goodbye.
So when you're in the company of your close friend from school, her husband and your own husband, who's actually the brother of said friend, you'd think you're finally able to relax and just be yourself and not have to worry about getting any unwanted attention.
And then this happens???
You are so right this is so sad and damaging for her, I'm not hot in anyway just average but the amount of guys who interpret my politeness for attraction is shoking, I've learnt to be very short and cut with people and they tell me I'm a bitch but honestly I would rather that,than people who don't respect my boundaries as stranger and feel entitled to grab and touch me in anyway even when I tell I'm uncomfortable and I want to leave