This is actually something that I am still struggling with, too🥲 but it's gotten much better😊 I hope your cousin is recovering and has the help she needs❤️
@@henrikemangelsdorf2868 she is doing better. She goes to the gym 3 days a week on average and eats better and more in line with her recovery. It took her a very long time to get to where she is, years even, and I am very proud of her. I have my own struggles with disordered eating so I applaud her for everything she has done to prevent old behaviors. I hope the best and wish you many blessings on your continued growth and recovery. ❤️
All I gotta say is: if any bride and groom expect me to pay for my own food at their wedding, I’ll walk out with my wedding present and make sure they can see me doing it.
As a mother of 2 children there's no risk you can do it in any position if is comfortable for you. The closer you are to your due date the better cause it helps at birth. I say it as I slept with my belly down at 8 months almost every night as it was comfortable for me, but some friends tell me I'm crazy cause they say they couldn't.
I would ad also: there is also a difference if the uterus is bend forwards or backwards (towards the spine => showing just a little of the pregnancy even right before birth). The baby is swimming in a "water balloon", als long as there are no forces (car crash, getting a violent blow and so on) the baby is save in there. Only if it is a high risky pregnancy, or spicy sleep without protection -> risk of STD/STI, can/will do harm.
Best way to think about it. A pregnant belly contains amniotic fluid for a reason, imagine having something floating in the centre of a water balloon. If you hit the balloon, it's very difficult to hit the thing inside and do any damage.
1st story had another update: "My wife? is basically 26 weeks pregnant now. There actually hasn’t been much drama with her and her AP. I was away for a long weekend last week and it was nice to just get away from home for a while. Only really annoying thing that’s happened is that I told her I’m being in the delivery room, not him. After everything she’s done, she owes me that. It’s not his baby. He has no right or reason to be there. I will not be the one waiting outside when my kid is being born. She said yeah she agreed and she never planned to have him in there with her. I asked her if she’d told him that and she said no. I told her to tell him he’ll have no part in it. Well she told him and apparently he didn’t like that and he started trying to convince her why he should be there. Next thing I know she’s telling me that he really wants to be there and she’s the one giving birth so she should be able to say who she wants there and she wants him there. I suppose he’ll start making name suggestions soon and will try to overrule names we’ve had picked out for our future kids for years. We’ve talked a little bit and she told me I can have our house and the dog in our divorce. I’m requesting that we sell the house and split the profit. I already that written in the paperwork. I’m not buying her out of our house - a house that I’ve made all the payments on anyway. I have a much better credit score than her and less debt. I compromised a lot because she liked this house. I’d rather be able to get my own place based just on what I want and with no reminders of her. And there was already no way she was getting the dog. I already had proof that I “owned” him though so she wouldn’t really stand a chance of having a court award the dog to her. It’s the one thing I told my lawyer I wanted above everything else (not including any custody issues surrounding my actual human child). Honestly, her AP can have her, but he will never ever have my dog. Not to mention my dog is 100 times more loyal than my wife and some might even say better looking too. So with the idea I won’t be living here in this house for much longer after the baby is born (if everything moves quickly), I decided I will still prepare a nursery here anyway in case anyone wants to try to accuse me of not being invested/prepared for fatherhood. I’m trying to look at the positives. It doesn’t matter what colors she likes or what themes. I can do whatever I want. Honestly, we’ve been together for so long and have lived together for most of our adult lives. It sort of nice not living with somebody but sort of lonely too. I have friends and family, but it’s hard to feel in the mood to go out or hang out with people too often. They always ask me about everything that’s going on and it’s just like I’m tired of that being the topic of conversation. I got a promotion at work, which financially would have been better had it happened after the divorce, but I’ll take what I can get. I feel like I’m living in this limbo right now and a lot of what I do is always framed around “how will this affect me in the divorce?” Admittedly I spy on them on social media sometimes. Guess I’m hoping to see he’s been in a motorcycle accident or something now that the weather is nicer. Hasn’t happened yet, but he’s starting a new company and once that’s up and running I can always get all my friends and family to leave 1 star reviews everywhere. Have to find ways to have a little fun. Sorry that I don’t respond to a lot of messages or comments. Sometimes I just take big breaks from looking at Reddit since it can be depressing af. Editing to add something I forgot. She told her family that we’ve split up and that she’s with this other guy now. Her sister reached out to me to say how sorry she was, her sister is a dumbass, that sort of thing. She told me that my wife was complaining about her AP. She the sex is over when he’s done and apparently he’s really selfish with sex. He doesn’t do extra little things for her that she’s used to me doing, like clearing the snow off her car in the morning and heating it up or offering to make her food after a long day. He doesn’t speak her “love language” and he hangs out with his friends too much. This made me so happy to hear. She’s secretly miserable and I find that absolutely delightful."
I'm with Riley, OP was never the A-hole. First of all, he warned her that she could come alone, but not bring her affair partner, none of them listened, the dumb@$$ even walked into OPs home after being informed not to show up. OP warned him that if he didn't leave he would punch him, he should have listened and walked outside and waited for her there. And Sam and John "Jim" as you named him, he was not a stand-up guy telling OP that he would take care of the wife and the baby, he only said that to rub it in OPs face, that he stole his wife. So no, absolute NOT a stand up guy, just a full on scumbag!!! And Sam, you can't sit and say that you wouldn't throw a phone on the ground if you saw the same thing, coz you haven't been married for the same amount of time as OP and cheated on like he was, with a baby on the way. If that ever happens to you. Until then, you can't speak about what you would do in that scenario!
I agree, I can't see myself just breaking a phone or punching someone in anger, but also, I've never been that royally screwed by a partner. You probably don't know what you're capable of until it happens.
I feel so bad for OP… him saying her cheating was the last thing he suspected. How can people carry on a full blown relationship outside of their marriage and sleep next to their spouse at night?? She seems like she’s a narcissist. Especially with all of the gaslighting and assuming OP wouldn’t leave her, even if the baby isn’t his. She was just going to keep this up and let her husband raise another man’s child without telling him the truth? What if he wouldn’t have found out? This is just awful.. there are some truly horrible people in this world. I will never understand. OP NEEDS to file for divorce asap and bring up the infidelity, along with the paternity test in court. As bad as I really hate to say this.. it would be a better situation if the child is NOT OPs. If the child is his, he will have to deal with her for the next 18 plus years. She seems like the malicious, vindictive type as well. I’m sure she will be a terror to co parent with. Goodness… poor OP Edit.. damn. After finding out the baby is his, the best advice I can give is for him to document EVERYTHING!! Go out of your way to be overly patient and understanding. Always be the bigger person and do everything you can to co parent. Not only for your child but it also helps in court. She’s probably going to do everything she can to make things hard for you. Please don’t give in though. Don’t let her run over you but don’t let her tempt you either.
My mom had a patient that was addicted to working out. My mom is a psychiatrist who specializes in addiction and body image disorders. Her patient was in-patient rehab for 6 months!!! Addiction is real and difficult. My heart goes out to anyone struggling with mental health issues. (Which is most likely all of us) I feel like so many of us have current traumatic stress disorder, (not in the dsm5 lol, should be!)
I suffer from an alcohol addiction. Been sober 5 years now. It pisses me off when people say addiction isn't real, or is a choice. To give in or fight the addiction is a choice. Not the addiction itself.
Congratulations!!! Well done!! No one wants to be addicted to anything that's actively harming their lives. I don't get how anyone with an ounce of empathy can't seem to understand that. I would never want to be judged on my worst days!!! I can hardly stomach some of the cruel and sick things I did and said to myself in the apex of deep depression. You'd think humans would have a little understanding and compassion for other humans. Sending ❤ and support for your journey!!!!
@@TheTransDevin520I’m currently trying to stop, im 19 and it’s been going on for almost two years ne it’s absolutely real. I don’t even like drinking anymore, I hate how it’s destroying my life, I hate how much it has and will destroy my body and if I could snap my fingers and stop, I would. It’s hella hard because your body and mind now are against you. In my case, it is self medication which makes it complicated because in know if i don’t work the root issue, ill just change substances or relapse. It’s always so motivating to hear about people who did beat this disease. Im seeing a social worker to help with it, it’s starting to get better and I hope and truly believe I’ll be sober one day. Congrats, as someone going through it, I absolutely see how much of an achievement it is to finally break the habit and fight your own self for your own good.
1st story: When the gym affair partner cheats on OP's wife with someone else he meets at the gym, she'll end up crying to OP about it. I'm sorry, both Sam and John are fricking insane and totally wrong on this one. OP is never going to be okay with and appreciate the AP. And OP is NEVER going to be the AH at any moment in this. It doesn't matter if he broke his cheating wife's phone or punched her AP who he told to get out of his house. What person wouldn't be angry in this situation? OP is not at fault in any part of this story. The wife and the AP are the AHs in this story. The gym bro AP is not a stand-up guy. It doesn't matter that he tells OP that he'll take care of the cheating wife now. Nothing will get rid of the fact that he's a complete AH who pursued someone else's wife. Also, John needs to learn something about biology. It's like he's living in the 1500s. It's perfectly safe for the vast majority of pregnant women to have sex right up until their due date. 2nd story: Guests at weddings expect to be fed and many of them give money as a gift with the idea that their gift will 'cover' the cost of their dinner. If I went to a wedding and didn't get dinner, I would seriously take some of the money out of the gift envelope.
Hey, what did the affair partner expect when he comes into OP’s house and tells him he will take good care of her? You just screwed someone’s wife when he thought they had a good marriage and you have the balls to actually tell him you will take care of his wife when it’s the husband’s job to take care of his own wife? Both the AP and the wife should feel lower than low to cheat. I have no tolerance for cheating. If you want to hook up with someone who isn’t your partner, do both of you a favor and leave them first!
I think the only risk you'd give a baby during sex is STDs. What he's describing sounds like if you're pressing that hard on a belly, you'd be harming the woman before the baby so if it was consensual sex, you wouldn't want to hurt your partner like that or make them physically uncomfortable enough to not continue "porking" her. So no I don't think sex would hurt the baby, although STDs, affair spouse is playing with fire going outside her relationship.
Jim Veins is NOT a "stand-up guy" at freaking ALLLLLLL! HE'S A NARCISSIST! It's so common for narcissist's to find women already in relationships and use them to not only cheat on the person's partner, but also to belittle the partner from afar. I would like to ask the STBX if Jim ever asked about OP and what he had to say and what questions he asked if Jim did ask about OP. Its crazy what narcissistic people can do ETA the reason I think this is because Jim forced his way into OP's home just to fuck with him further after already taking his wife. He could have easily sent a letter with his new gf or even asked for the OP's number if he 'respected' him... OP punching the guy was exactly what Jim wanted imo. He just wanted a reaction. The physical pain will heal, but he's living rent free in OP's head FOREVER now because OP can't find anything 'wrong' with Jim.... BUT IT'S HIDDEN...
About the wedding story, I think if you make all your loved ones come to celebrate your wedding (possibly after long drives), you are expected to take care of them, feed them, entertain them, as a sort of thank you for sharing this day with you and your spouse.
One the last best update a while ago is that the wife is coming out of the affair fog. Just like clockwork when the OPs in those stories stop doing the pick me dance, the WS gets out of the fog because of GIGS.
@@whatever2069 there's an update that they didn't post in the video but OP talks to his ex's sister and the sister said that she's not happy with the affair partner He's basically a gym bro who doesn't treat her the same way OP did. So I think she's getting her karma cause she's realizing that he's not the type of guy that she thought he was.
Personally, I think that when a couple divorces due to an affair, the cheater shouldn't get primary/equal custody of their children. The cheater not only betrayed their spouse, but also their children. Also, divorced parents should have some say in which adults their children are around.
Please make more of these OK videos or fast edit the lives. It's the only way some of us can listen. The lives are too chaotic, and it's hard to get with the story because of all the disruptions, sidebars, OK story times, and donation shoutouts. The last live I tried to listen to took 47 minutes to get through a simple story. I turned it off, never getting to the end. Very frustrating. Maybe if the lives were more structured and you did all that stuff between stories, more would attend and stay? Not everyone's brain can handle so much at once. Just a thought! We all love what you do, and we all really do want to be part of all the hot, juicy gossip. Just a kind critique for you to consider.
This is maureen- when my bf had to go to 1700 miles away because of his mental illness I started skating hours a day until I pasted out every day plus work and school. I couldn’t go a second with out doing something or I might think about missing him or worry. Point is if her s/o says she’s doing it to escape it’s probably not good
Gym addiction is real bc of the endorphins. It's the same as a high from drugs. If she is avoiding everything by going to the gym, it's just her getting high instead of facing things.
I can assure you it is not a high as in a drug high. It makes you happy, satisfied, wakes you up when you beat your PR. You don't experience a coke high
Just adding that prop cakes are super common in the wedding world. They generally have a small section of real cake for the bride and groom to “cut the cake” from and then the prop cake is removed and less expensive sheet cake or cupcakes are served to the guests.
What the hell is wrong with your weddings? My wedding cost 15,000 USD. It covered a private church and an antique venue next to it for 300 people. Food and drinks included, and 10 rooms for family, photos, cake, the band with violins, flowers, the dress and all the other wedding stuff. It was huge! US pricing is just bonkers
That’s not YSA pricing, that’s her being wasteful. Wedding photography isn’t $6k and most venues here offer food. Hey mom said she didn’t include that in the package. The stupid fake cake and dress is where her food budget went.
My 2009 wedding was $6k total. That includes everything from venue to dress to tuxedos. I coupon clipped and made my own invites and decor, shopped my dress on clearance, and kept the guest list to 75. It's possible, but you have to work at it. We also did it on a Friday night and the venue gave us a discount.
Using working out as a way to escape is literally healthy coping. She works out when she’s stressed to relieve stress like that is the BEST way you could cope with negative feelings.
*(Don’t) Let Them Eat Cake -* The cheap bride needed to know her wedding was an embarrassment to the fam so she doesn’t end up throwing the same _nothing included_ wedding for her own kids one day.
Riley’s like, “I love how i disagree and they like verbally assault me.” Riley, from their comments, I think you should be less worried about physical assault and more of a sexual assault 😆😂
@@MegaMyown No need to be rude. I just thought I'd let you know it can be hurtful to survivors. It doesn't personally bother me but I know many other SA survivors might see it as hurtful. You'd think you'd have enough empathy to understand that by default but I suppose not everyone is intelligent enough to come to that understanding cognitively if not emotionally. SA is serious and shouldn't be joked about outside of specific settings.
@whatisthis1958 i love how you started with "no need to be rude" then proceed to be super funking rude. You're point would've been better well received by others reading thru the comments, had you not been far more rude than op. You come off as a total A$$h0le. Just saying
@@whatisthis1958I'm a SA survivor and do not feel is rude. Would be if they made SA comments or jokes much more specific and demeaning for the victims. People still get and will be sexual even I'm not due to my trauma. Getting triggered by it just means I would need more therapy as it is my problem not other to deal with.
Our wedding was small, outdoors, and we had a potluck. The day started warm and sunny, then the rain came, and it was snowing by sundown. The most expensive thing was the flowers (Sola wood flowers, 10/10) and it was still about 6k total (dress, suit, rings, reservations, plates/cups/silverware, photographer, everything)
As a woman (21 now) who has been pregnant and done sexual stuff during it, it CAN get very uncomfortable to the point where you just don’t enjoy it, and it can also get painful even if you’re just laying on your back, it just depends on the person and the partner in my opinion but I think you definitely need to communicate about it so it can be difficult if the person doesn’t know, she’s just earlier on so it’s probably easier to hide the discomfort or may not be uncomfortable yet, ALSO my ex would get SO uncomfortable when we were doing it because I’d be like “oh I felt him move” and like, we were in the middle of doing stuff💀 but that’s all I could think of since I wasn’t really enjoying it, I was just stressed the whole time
As someone who dabbles in the wedding industry for work (I do SEO) , I will say that typical wedding etiquette is that you should have some food for guests. You don’t have to do a full meal, but you should at least have finger food for people to eat since they’re giving up their time and a gift. If I went to a wedding, gifted the standard 50-100 bucks then also had to buy my food and drinks, AND got no cake I’d be a lil miffed😂
For the second story, they could have gotten the prop cake for those first cut pictures and keep it for memorabilia, but gotten an edible cake for guests.
Little known fact: Mormon weddings in Utah usually aren't that expensive. They don't save up 2-3 years for a wedding. My dad was a photographer and would sometimes do weddings. He told me that it's actually hard for photographers to make money because people aren't willing to spend large amounts of money on pictures.
Jim Veins proved that he can't respect people's boundaries repeatedly, both with her when she reminded him she was married and with OP when he 1. insisted she not bring Jim Veins to help pick up her stuff, and 2. Didn't exit the house when being told to do so to his face
Sam really needs to learn that if a woman has aggressive s3x, or if the man is well endowed, it can cause a miscarriage even when it's a "bean"! It can cause uterine bleeding which typically results in miscarriage. Been there, done that. It also happened when my 9 month old jumped really hard on my stomach.
The fake cake thing reminds of of that show Cheapskates or America's cheapest (whatever it was called) where a cheap mum had her daughters wedding in a school gymnasium, catered with sandwiches, fake display cake and wedding dress from a thrift store that had rat pee on it!!
When I first heard this story on another channel my first thought was she’s just going there more because she has a secret crush on someone there but did not expect a whole affair since the husband first didn’t expect one and she was pregnant!
@@WraythSkitzofrenik much better, thank you! I know most follow the trend. I was worried with him saying she was fit and pregnant, sounded like the perfect storm.
Food and drinks (don't have to be alcohol) are expected at a wedding, and the gifts are "payment" for it, people planning weddings need to understand the ceremony is mostly for the couple, but the reception is mostly for the guests! Also, that story reminds me of another Reddit story, where the couple ONLY served WATER as drinks. No coffee, no soda, no mocktails. Dry weddings are fine but at least have some soda or more than just water.
the 1st story made me remember a gossip that is happening here in Brazil about a singer who recently divorced his gym rat ex-wife because she was having an affair with her personal trainer.
1st story, reading the latest update left by a commenter as well how he behaved at his house I think the new boyfriend enjoys he broke up a family as well he is manipulative since he convinced her to do or undo many promises made. Once OP stops caring and engaging with their life and bs she will be left to deal with him and entertain him. The fact he used the words I understand how you feel after knowing what they did was on purpose to make him react. He probably is a narcissist by how he does not care about her in bed as well how doesn't do little things. She just signed herself up for a rough relationship and some traumas. OP may have to consider having full custody if this gets worse.
Jim vains: I even believe that Jim did even pushed her to make the test to clear up the situation for her ex as well. He tried to be at least a bit of a decent person. Its very very tough for op and I am incredibly sorry for him. Its so hurtful.
You can press on your belly when you are pregnant. I think it's very cute how John is being I think he's going to be a very protective dad one day. But there really is no concern about hurting the baby with sex. Sex actually feels better for some women during the early months of pregnancy. Remember a lot of women don't even know they're pregnant until farther along and they go on roller coasters and stuff and they're fine. Not that I would recommend it however, sex is mild comparatively. Also, sometimes the baby's in a weird position and the midwife or doctor will push on your belly in way worse ways to reposition the baby. Babies are super flexible.
Couple of things with the first one…Even though this didn’t turn out to be the case with this story, you can absolutely become addicted to the gym to the point where it’s unhealthy. It happened to me while I was deep into an ED, and I only stopped when I passed out at the gym and the owner told me not to come back until I had a doctors certificate saying it was safe to do so. I lived in a small town, so going to another gym wasn’t possible because there wasn’t one! If I couldn’t go for a day, I would get extremely anxious and irritable..so not going at all was like torture…I’m much better and healthier now though. Secondly, while it is safe to do the deed while pregnant, there are cases when it isn’t safe, even when you’re not showing. Again, from my own experience, I’ve had 3 babies and didn’t show until I was in my 3rd trimester…but for baby 3 we had to stop early on for medical reasons. And just to put it out there…having an affair is vile, but having an affair while you’re pregnant is even more vile. To me it feels like a betrayal on both your partner and your baby.
UPDATE ON FIRST STORY "I’m a dad I have a baby. A little girl. I’m a dad. She was born yesterday at 11:57 pm, 2 weeks early. As he’s done before, she was having some pains off and on and he left for work yesterday morning. She works from home on Mondays. She told me around 8:30 am she was having contractions 17 minutes apart. The same thing happened not long ago but then by evening all the pains stopped. I was at work so I told her to keep me posted. A little later she said they were 15 minutes apart and she had some other signs it might be actual labor starting. I asked her if she needed somebody there with her. She said wanted me to come be with her. I didn’t even mean to volunteer myself. She was scared. I didn’t even ask why she didn’t call him. I left work and went over to his house. Uncomfortable doesn’t begin to describe it but there were obviously more important things going on. He wasn’t there. She didn’t even contact him. She said she just wanted it to be me and her there. In her words, he hadn’t seen her pee or shit herself yet but I’ve witnessed all of that stuff already so she was more comfortable with me there. I really tried to be as nice and supportive as possible. Set the whole thing about her affair, our marriage, everything to the side for a brief time. I don’t really know what my purpose was being there but I think she just needed somebody there so she didn’t feel alone. She spent most of the time stretching and doing some sort of yoga labor routine and bouncing on this huge exercise ball. I twiddled my thumbs for the most part and looked through a bunch of his belongings. I was timing the contractions and they were consistent and slowly did get closer together, so I thought it was probably actually going to happen. It wasn’t nearly far enough along to go to the hospital yet and it was getting close to when he’d get home. I was planning how I’d handle that when she called me into the bathroom to ask her if I thought her water broke. It wasn’t like in the movies with this huge gush of water. So he got home and I was there. He came into the house and the first thing he asked is “what are you doing here?!” I think he thought something else was going on. No, you just left and went to work and left her alone when she was scared. He said he was home and he’d be with her until it was time to go to the hospital. He put his hand on my shoulder and said something like “thanks, bud…I got it from here and we’ll call you when we’re on the way to the hospital.” He called me bud. I told him I wasn’t his fucking buddy and to fuck off. I could tell she wanted me to leave. I’m not sure she really wanted me to leave so much as she was in labor and the tension between the two of us wasn’t what she needed and I knew that. It was his house so what was I supposed to do? I left and prayed they’d actually call me instead of letting me know the next day that my kid had been born. She texted me a few hours later to say the doctor told her to go to the hospital. At that point I still didn’t know if I was going to be waiting outside or what he’d decide was best for his apparent wife and child. I was allowed to be in the room. I didn’t force my way in there. She said she wanted me to be there. He was there too. By far the single most awkward experience of my life and the only reason I was able to excuse it was because she told me she wanted me there and I didn’t want to miss the chance to be there when my kid was born and to hold my kid before he did. I can’t imagine what the doctors and nurses were thinking. Fucking humiliating. Then the guy tried to police what I could see. I put the baby in there! He’s fucking watching and it’s like this is still my wife and that’s my baby. I chose to stay dignified and I ignored him the entire time. I was there to do whatever she told me to do and my focus wasn’t on him, but in any other setting I don’t think I would have been able to hold back. The baby came flying out. I mean, as far as labor goes. These are the nurses’ words and I trust labor and delivery nurses to know what they’re talking about. She tore very bad because the baby came out so fast. The baby is so tiny, barely 6 pounds and only 18 inches, but perfectly healthy. I went home for a short rest although I really couldn’t rest at all. I went back today and of course he was there. Surprisingly he said he was going to give us some time alone with the baby. Not sure if she had previously asked him to do that when I showed up or not, didn’t ask. He even brought us all food back when he returned a few hours later. I wondered if mine might be poisoned but I tried to be nice. He’s still not gone so I’m wondering how long he’ll be around. I just can’t let myself do anything that will make her try to keep me away from my daughter now. I don’t want them making it difficult for me. I’d prefer not to share her name publicly but I can confirm it’s the name we chose for a daughter years ago. He had no say and he hasn’t said anything about the name at all. It kills me to see him holding her though. I eventually left because it was just too much sitting there pretending to be like some bizarre three’s company. I’ll know I will get my time with her when he’s not around. He’s already posting them on his social media. I don’t know how I’m going to do this but I’m going to figure it out. I just have to find a way to be the bigger person because I won’t let him or their relationship discourage me from being my daughter’s dad. I totally get doing anything for your kids now and if it means having to pretend to get along with him, I will"
@Sam! To the wedding video , as some one that works in the wedding industry trust and believe it can happen ! Her sister even trying to help will definitely cause problem. The bride has the last say yes, worst case scenario , but how long and to what lengths will she have to do to get to that point , it’s easier said than done.
34:30 - I'm pretty sure if she would be outside the scope for terminations unless she or the baby has a condition that puts them both at risk. Even during RvW, the cut off was 20 weeks, which is nearly 5 months. I can't keep track of how long it's been since the first post but she was 4 month pregnant during the first post, which can be between 16-18 weeks.
Okay, so my pregnancy was an issue for sex but only in certain positions late into pregnancy. But my husband and I communicated and we found positions that worked. The REAL issue is what if this guy has an STI? That could cause miscarriage.
Intercourse while pregnant is usually not an issue. Pelvic rest is recommended if there is spotting/bleeding, issues with the placenta, etc. Doctors actually recommend intercourse to help induce labor, and the big O can help reduce pain while in labor and help progression.
My sister went to a wedding were special meals and desserts like bananas foster were served to the bride and groom in front of the guests, but none was available to guests. There was other food and cake (and I am almost certain drinks) but sometimes weddings have oddly limited things.
Regarding the 1st story, I find that OP is not emotinally well adjusted. The way that he reacts after discovering her infidelity (breaking her phone, silent treatment, avoidance, not talking, not wanting to feel anyting, not trying to think about it...) and just assuming that she is trying to manipulate him with her crying (she genuenly might have felt bad and regretful and conflicted), it makes my alarms go off. The likelihood that he was not a great partner before, in my view, is high. Not that it justifies cheating, but it explains it. Also, completely understandable that someone would react with irrational behaviour or negative coping strategies in that situation, but not a good sign of his character either.
John, oh John. 😂 Sex is fine in any point in the pregnancy, unless advised not to by a doctor. Is it the most comfortable in any position, no. Mom of 2 toddlers. You adjust your positions until you find a comfortable one. Pillows and the edge of the bed are great for relief the belly. Also for any men/husbands out there, please get a vasectomy if you both decide you are done having kids. Birth control can be harsh on a woman's body and this is the easiest way to alleviate the risk of surprise pregnancy. Please be thoughtful of your partner! Sexual safety and thoughtfulness are both partners responsibility!
30:18 actually there could be issues, at least that happened to me 😅, when I was born my lungs were kinda squished and I couldn't breathe for at least 2 minutes. And now I'm 18 and still have asthma from my lungs deformation bcs my mom was hit on her belly during her first month of pregnancy.
When I was pregnant I was told by doc to not lay on my back because it cuts off something for baby(I don’t remember what) but that was like 6 months in so idk if that really affects too much with what you were talking about lol Separate thought….This story is giving me a vibe that reminds me of the show Reba, hopefully things work out as nicely for the kids sake
It’s the inferior vena cava, a major blood vessel. It can cause low O2 in baby, and hypotension in the mother if pressed on and blood flow is reduced. Due to the tilt of my uterus, and my strong abdominal muscles at the time (they’re not that strong anymore unfortunately!) I always carried my babies further back and rarely looked pregnant. It didn’t take much for the baby to press against the inferior vena cava and I would get dizzy and pass out…with baby 3 just sitting in a chair too long would have me sprawled out in the floor. I had to be either standing, or lying on my side…it was awful. Pregnancy makes some women glow, and for other women it’s not a pleasant experience at all…still didn’t stop me going back for more though. No matter how sick I was, each child is worth every second of pain and sickness I experienced during, and after pregnancy.
1st story. Yes you can force a mom to do a paternity test, however you cannot force her to do a paternity test while the baby is in utero. It has the potential risk to mom and babe. But the second that baby comes out. It can be court ordered. Edit:typos
First trimester it would take quite a lot. My daughter dive bombed my belly when I was in the first trimester and my dr said I was fine baby is well protected and it would take a big hit to do something. But for sex later in pregnancy it’s so uncomfortable at the end, so it’s more of a “I can’t do this position it’s uncomfortable/painful” but not really dangerous UNLESS your dr has put you off sex for a particular reason!
Exactly. When my youngest daughter was still in the belly, her older brothers were head at belly hight. They were running through the house, and ended up head butting their baby sister still in the whom. We ended up going to the hospital thinking there was something wrong. But apparently all they did was knock loose a gall stone. And that was causing a lot of pain. Babies in the belly are pretty protected.
You just recently had the story of a woman who said she could not agree with her gay daughter but still loved her. You said that this was homophobic, which it is. Riley literally just did the same with poly couple. 22:55.
Hahaha! FYI there’s a lot going on inside the womb to keep baby safe from a ‘press on the belly’ or rough sex etc, like amniotic fluid etc to protect foetus and embryo xx
43:50 Not a stand up guy. Him pushing through the boundary put in place by op and forcing her to go along away with is totally a power play. He is controlling her and rubbing it in his face. And he did it twice. First by coming at all, and second be staying after being told to leave.
Just pressing in the belly won't hurt baby. I had ultrasounds where they had to press into my belly to get the picture becauseits slippery in there baby moves.. unless you fall hard onto the bump just pressing does nothing really.
I think at the end of the day the wife isn’t really the woman he fell in love with. He still loves the woman that he thought she was. But after a while he will be thankful that she showed who she was early in his life while he still has time to meet a woman that is faithful, caring and kind. His ex is untrustworthy. She is more than capable of cheating again on the new partner.
The amniotic sack protects the fetus. It would take a greater force to injure it. Like a punch. The only risk I can think of having sex during pregnancy. If you're putting pressure on a pregnant person's stomach. The fetus will be pushed into the body and put pressure on the pregnant persons lungs. Making it hard for them to breathe. Lowering oxygen in the blood. But this will effect the pregnant person before the fetus. If the pregnant person was somehow suffocated during sex, the fetus could still stay alive inside for 5-10 minutes. Now. If there I an issue with the amniotic sack, and how it's connected to the uterus. It can cause a rupture if you put pressure on the person's stomach. But that is pretty rare. If everything is normal and healthy there is pretty much no risk having sex in any position during pregnancy.
There is NO way, that every time a person flirts with you as a married person, that you don't think of your partner. You just choose to ignore it and go with the feeling. There is no accidently sleeping with another person either. That is bull. There is no g-damn excuse. The gall of this chick to try and gas light her husband into feeling like he is the one in the wrong is outrageous.
I have two kids and would find it so hard going 9+ months without sex 😆 The baby is in such a protected bubble in there that there is literally no way of squashing it. You just have to be more selective with your positions for comfortability/ access reasons when you're super big. My midwife recommended doing it regularly towards the end because it's one of the only proven natural ways to induce labour (happy hormones and all) 😂
Poor John The concern for babies health is silly. The human body protects baby and mom if something was wrong momma would know and this guy doesn't sound like he's dangerous or anything she is going to tell her spicy sleep partner to stop if something feels wrong. John seemed so stressed about this
To answer the question, see whilst pregnant poses no harm to the baby. The baby is high up in the cervix which is more towards the belly button. The vagina sort of does a 7 shape, with vagina going towards the spine then the cervix going towards the belly button. This is also why some women have a 'pooch' and other women have flat tummy. That 'pooch' isn't fat it's the organs being more towards the front than the back, where the flat tummy gals are more towards the spine. It's also why many men are obsessed with touching that area, because its the reproductive zone. A Penistone doesn't go near the cervix. In terms of sex positions whilst pregnant, you'll automatically figure out a comfortable position for you. Xxx
If I’m op I’m fighting for full custody, the moment the “honeymoon phase” ends he’s gonna treat that kid badly…
My cousin had an eating disorder and would go to the gym twice a day everyday because she was "afraid to get fat."
That's so sad. I hope she's doing better now.
This is actually something that I am still struggling with, too🥲 but it's gotten much better😊 I hope your cousin is recovering and has the help she needs❤️
@@henrikemangelsdorf2868 I’m glad you’re doing better 🥰
@@henrikemangelsdorf2868 she is doing better. She goes to the gym 3 days a week on average and eats better and more in line with her recovery. It took her a very long time to get to where she is, years even, and I am very proud of her. I have my own struggles with disordered eating so I applaud her for everything she has done to prevent old behaviors. I hope the best and wish you many blessings on your continued growth and recovery. ❤️
@@henrikemangelsdorf2868🫂🫂🫂💖💖😘
All I gotta say is: if any bride and groom expect me to pay for my own food at their wedding, I’ll walk out with my wedding present and make sure they can see me doing it.
As a mother of 2 children there's no risk you can do it in any position if is comfortable for you. The closer you are to your due date the better cause it helps at birth. I say it as I slept with my belly down at 8 months almost every night as it was comfortable for me, but some friends tell me I'm crazy cause they say they couldn't.
I would ad also: there is also a difference if the uterus is bend forwards or backwards (towards the spine => showing just a little of the pregnancy even right before birth). The baby is swimming in a "water balloon", als long as there are no forces (car crash, getting a violent blow and so on) the baby is save in there. Only if it is a high risky pregnancy, or spicy sleep without protection -> risk of STD/STI, can/will do harm.
There is a risk of giving the baby STDs.
Same I’m a tummy sleeper and heavy preggy
Best way to think about it. A pregnant belly contains amniotic fluid for a reason, imagine having something floating in the centre of a water balloon.
If you hit the balloon, it's very difficult to hit the thing inside and do any damage.
Dude my belly was huge with my first how on earth did you manage??? 😂
OPs phone throwing & punch does NOT EQUATE TO ANGER ISSUES! Sheesh. The man's life is complete chaos.
Also, his wife punched *him*. If he actually had violence and anger issues, he would have swung on her in response.
1st story had another update:
"My wife? is basically 26 weeks pregnant now.
There actually hasn’t been much drama with her and her AP. I was away for a long weekend last week and it was nice to just get away from home for a while.
Only really annoying thing that’s happened is that I told her I’m being in the delivery room, not him. After everything she’s done, she owes me that. It’s not his baby. He has no right or reason to be there. I will not be the one waiting outside when my kid is being born.
She said yeah she agreed and she never planned to have him in there with her. I asked her if she’d told him that and she said no. I told her to tell him he’ll have no part in it. Well she told him and apparently he didn’t like that and he started trying to convince her why he should be there. Next thing I know she’s telling me that he really wants to be there and she’s the one giving birth so she should be able to say who she wants there and she wants him there. I suppose he’ll start making name suggestions soon and will try to overrule names we’ve had picked out for our future kids for years.
We’ve talked a little bit and she told me I can have our house and the dog in our divorce. I’m requesting that we sell the house and split the profit. I already that written in the paperwork. I’m not buying her out of our house - a house that I’ve made all the payments on anyway. I have a much better credit score than her and less debt. I compromised a lot because she liked this house. I’d rather be able to get my own place based just on what I want and with no reminders of her. And there was already no way she was getting the dog. I already had proof that I “owned” him though so she wouldn’t really stand a chance of having a court award the dog to her. It’s the one thing I told my lawyer I wanted above everything else (not including any custody issues surrounding my actual human child). Honestly, her AP can have her, but he will never ever have my dog. Not to mention my dog is 100 times more loyal than my wife and some might even say better looking too.
So with the idea I won’t be living here in this house for much longer after the baby is born (if everything moves quickly), I decided I will still prepare a nursery here anyway in case anyone wants to try to accuse me of not being invested/prepared for fatherhood. I’m trying to look at the positives. It doesn’t matter what colors she likes or what themes. I can do whatever I want. Honestly, we’ve been together for so long and have lived together for most of our adult lives. It sort of nice not living with somebody but sort of lonely too. I have friends and family, but it’s hard to feel in the mood to go out or hang out with people too often. They always ask me about everything that’s going on and it’s just like I’m tired of that being the topic of conversation.
I got a promotion at work, which financially would have been better had it happened after the divorce, but I’ll take what I can get.
I feel like I’m living in this limbo right now and a lot of what I do is always framed around “how will this affect me in the divorce?”
Admittedly I spy on them on social media sometimes. Guess I’m hoping to see he’s been in a motorcycle accident or something now that the weather is nicer. Hasn’t happened yet, but he’s starting a new company and once that’s up and running I can always get all my friends and family to leave 1 star reviews everywhere. Have to find ways to have a little fun.
Sorry that I don’t respond to a lot of messages or comments. Sometimes I just take big breaks from looking at Reddit since it can be depressing af.
Editing to add something I forgot. She told her family that we’ve split up and that she’s with this other guy now. Her sister reached out to me to say how sorry she was, her sister is a dumbass, that sort of thing. She told me that my wife was complaining about her AP. She the sex is over when he’s done and apparently he’s really selfish with sex. He doesn’t do extra little things for her that she’s used to me doing, like clearing the snow off her car in the morning and heating it up or offering to make her food after a long day. He doesn’t speak her “love language” and he hangs out with his friends too much. This made me so happy to hear. She’s secretly miserable and I find that absolutely delightful."
Thank you for this!!
Dang.
You’re the real MVP 😅
This made me so pettily happy to read. Thank you so much for this.
She's miserable? Tbh, serves her right.
I'm with Riley, OP was never the A-hole.
First of all, he warned her that she could come alone, but not bring her affair partner, none of them listened, the dumb@$$ even walked into OPs home after being informed not to show up. OP warned him that if he didn't leave he would punch him, he should have listened and walked outside and waited for her there.
And Sam and John "Jim" as you named him, he was not a stand-up guy telling OP that he would take care of the wife and the baby, he only said that to rub it in OPs face, that he stole his wife. So no, absolute NOT a stand up guy, just a full on scumbag!!!
And Sam, you can't sit and say that you wouldn't throw a phone on the ground if you saw the same thing, coz you haven't been married for the same amount of time as OP and cheated on like he was, with a baby on the way. If that ever happens to you.
Until then, you can't speak about what you would do in that scenario!
I agree, I can't see myself just breaking a phone or punching someone in anger, but also, I've never been that royally screwed by a partner. You probably don't know what you're capable of until it happens.
I feel so bad for OP… him saying her cheating was the last thing he suspected. How can people carry on a full blown relationship outside of their marriage and sleep next to their spouse at night?? She seems like she’s a narcissist. Especially with all of the gaslighting and assuming OP wouldn’t leave her, even if the baby isn’t his. She was just going to keep this up and let her husband raise another man’s child without telling him the truth? What if he wouldn’t have found out? This is just awful.. there are some truly horrible people in this world. I will never understand. OP NEEDS to file for divorce asap and bring up the infidelity, along with the paternity test in court. As bad as I really hate to say this.. it would be a better situation if the child is NOT OPs. If the child is his, he will have to deal with her for the next 18 plus years. She seems like the malicious, vindictive type as well. I’m sure she will be a terror to co parent with. Goodness… poor OP
Edit.. damn. After finding out the baby is his, the best advice I can give is for him to document EVERYTHING!! Go out of your way to be overly patient and understanding. Always be the bigger person and do everything you can to co parent. Not only for your child but it also helps in court. She’s probably going to do everything she can to make things hard for you. Please don’t give in though. Don’t let her run over you but don’t let her tempt you either.
Even if she isn't cheating, it is hugely worrying
Nvm she was fucking cheating yo 😭
This comment has me on the floor 🤣
Yeah, I was thinking it was an ED.
My mom had a patient that was addicted to working out. My mom is a psychiatrist who specializes in addiction and body image disorders. Her patient was in-patient rehab for 6 months!!! Addiction is real and difficult. My heart goes out to anyone struggling with mental health issues. (Which is most likely all of us) I feel like so many of us have current traumatic stress disorder, (not in the dsm5 lol, should be!)
I suffer from an alcohol addiction. Been sober 5 years now. It pisses me off when people say addiction isn't real, or is a choice. To give in or fight the addiction is a choice. Not the addiction itself.
Congratulations!!! Well done!! No one wants to be addicted to anything that's actively harming their lives. I don't get how anyone with an ounce of empathy can't seem to understand that. I would never want to be judged on my worst days!!! I can hardly stomach some of the cruel and sick things I did and said to myself in the apex of deep depression. You'd think humans would have a little understanding and compassion for other humans. Sending ❤ and support for your journey!!!!
@@TheTransDevin520I’m currently trying to stop, im 19 and it’s been going on for almost two years ne it’s absolutely real. I don’t even like drinking anymore, I hate how it’s destroying my life, I hate how much it has and will destroy my body and if I could snap my fingers and stop, I would. It’s hella hard because your body and mind now are against you. In my case, it is self medication which makes it complicated because in know if i don’t work the root issue, ill just change substances or relapse. It’s always so motivating to hear about people who did beat this disease. Im seeing a social worker to help with it, it’s starting to get better and I hope and truly believe I’ll be sober one day. Congrats, as someone going through it, I absolutely see how much of an achievement it is to finally break the habit and fight your own self for your own good.
1st story: When the gym affair partner cheats on OP's wife with someone else he meets at the gym, she'll end up crying to OP about it.
I'm sorry, both Sam and John are fricking insane and totally wrong on this one. OP is never going to be okay with and appreciate the AP. And OP is NEVER going to be the AH at any moment in this. It doesn't matter if he broke his cheating wife's phone or punched her AP who he told to get out of his house. What person wouldn't be angry in this situation? OP is not at fault in any part of this story.
The wife and the AP are the AHs in this story. The gym bro AP is not a stand-up guy. It doesn't matter that he tells OP that he'll take care of the cheating wife now. Nothing will get rid of the fact that he's a complete AH who pursued someone else's wife.
Also, John needs to learn something about biology. It's like he's living in the 1500s. It's perfectly safe for the vast majority of pregnant women to have sex right up until their due date.
2nd story: Guests at weddings expect to be fed and many of them give money as a gift with the idea that their gift will 'cover' the cost of their dinner. If I went to a wedding and didn't get dinner, I would seriously take some of the money out of the gift envelope.
Story 1: NTA for punching AP
Hey, what did the affair partner expect when he comes into OP’s house and tells him he will take good care of her? You just screwed someone’s wife when he thought they had a good marriage and you have the balls to actually tell him you will take care of his wife when it’s the husband’s job to take care of his own wife? Both the AP and the wife should feel lower than low to cheat. I have no tolerance for cheating. If you want to hook up with someone who isn’t your partner, do both of you a favor and leave them first!
I think the biggest issue was not him saying he will take care of her is him telling he understands him. Like... What a sociopath he is?
Sex is safe at almost all stages of pregnancy as long as you're avoiding bdsm(ie choking, punching the stomach etc)
I'm about to tell my co-performer to change his name to "Jim Veins" LMAO 🤣 I LOVE YOU GUYS
YES SPREAD THE WORD! Call in! Would love to hear any crazy performance stories
I think the only risk you'd give a baby during sex is STDs. What he's describing sounds like if you're pressing that hard on a belly, you'd be harming the woman before the baby so if it was consensual sex, you wouldn't want to hurt your partner like that or make them physically uncomfortable enough to not continue "porking" her. So no I don't think sex would hurt the baby, although STDs, affair spouse is playing with fire going outside her relationship.
Jim Veins is NOT a "stand-up guy" at freaking ALLLLLLL! HE'S A NARCISSIST! It's so common for narcissist's to find women already in relationships and use them to not only cheat on the person's partner, but also to belittle the partner from afar. I would like to ask the STBX if Jim ever asked about OP and what he had to say and what questions he asked if Jim did ask about OP. Its crazy what narcissistic people can do
ETA the reason I think this is because Jim forced his way into OP's home just to fuck with him further after already taking his wife. He could have easily sent a letter with his new gf or even asked for the OP's number if he 'respected' him... OP punching the guy was exactly what Jim wanted imo. He just wanted a reaction. The physical pain will heal, but he's living rent free in OP's head FOREVER now because OP can't find anything 'wrong' with Jim.... BUT IT'S HIDDEN...
About the wedding story, I think if you make all your loved ones come to celebrate your wedding (possibly after long drives), you are expected to take care of them, feed them, entertain them, as a sort of thank you for sharing this day with you and your spouse.
Ive heard the first story before and seriously still like wtf and i felt super bad for the guy glad she's getting her karma
One the last best update a while ago is that the wife is coming out of the affair fog. Just like clockwork when the OPs in those stories stop doing the pick me dance, the WS gets out of the fog because of GIGS.
@@MrRyukagecan u elaborate please? Is she still with the affair partner ?
@@whatever2069 there's an update that they didn't post in the video but OP talks to his ex's sister and the sister said that she's not happy with the affair partner He's basically a gym bro who doesn't treat her the same way OP did. So I think she's getting her karma cause she's realizing that he's not the type of guy that she thought he was.
@@angelinatoska5764 Ah okay , thanks ...
Personally, I think that when a couple divorces due to an affair, the cheater shouldn't get primary/equal custody of their children. The cheater not only betrayed their spouse, but also their children. Also, divorced parents should have some say in which adults their children are around.
So, you rather want punishment for the cheater than what's best for the child ...
Please make more of these OK videos or fast edit the lives. It's the only way some of us can listen. The lives are too chaotic, and it's hard to get with the story because of all the disruptions, sidebars, OK story times, and donation shoutouts. The last live I tried to listen to took 47 minutes to get through a simple story. I turned it off, never getting to the end. Very frustrating. Maybe if the lives were more structured and you did all that stuff between stories, more would attend and stay? Not everyone's brain can handle so much at once. Just a thought! We all love what you do, and we all really do want to be part of all the hot, juicy gossip. Just a kind critique for you to consider.
This is maureen- when my bf had to go to 1700 miles away because of his mental illness I started skating hours a day until I pasted out every day plus work and school. I couldn’t go a second with out doing something or I might think about missing him or worry. Point is if her s/o says she’s doing it to escape it’s probably not good
Gym addiction is real bc of the endorphins. It's the same as a high from drugs. If she is avoiding everything by going to the gym, it's just her getting high instead of facing things.
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't shoot their husbands. They just don't!
I can assure you it is not a high as in a drug high. It makes you happy, satisfied, wakes you up when you beat your PR. You don't experience a coke high
@@Human-kb6xcstraight out of legally blonde 😂
@@nolwazijouber7862 you know it! 😂
Just adding that prop cakes are super common in the wedding world. They generally have a small section of real cake for the bride and groom to “cut the cake” from and then the prop cake is removed and less expensive sheet cake or cupcakes are served to the guests.
Omg poor OP, he sounds so righteous. Poor dude hasn’t done anything in the wrong.
What the hell is wrong with your weddings? My wedding cost 15,000 USD. It covered a private church and an antique venue next to it for 300 people. Food and drinks included, and 10 rooms for family, photos, cake, the band with violins, flowers, the dress and all the other wedding stuff. It was huge! US pricing is just bonkers
That’s not YSA pricing, that’s her being wasteful. Wedding photography isn’t $6k and most venues here offer food. Hey mom said she didn’t include that in the package. The stupid fake cake and dress is where her food budget went.
My 2009 wedding was $6k total. That includes everything from venue to dress to tuxedos. I coupon clipped and made my own invites and decor, shopped my dress on clearance, and kept the guest list to 75. It's possible, but you have to work at it. We also did it on a Friday night and the venue gave us a discount.
@@Parenting_neurospicy mine was half in 2013 😂
Omg John.... If she's that pregnant that she'd be uncomfortable during sex she's absolutely noticably pregnant.
Right! I'm like wtf are you doing in the bedroom John?!?!
Using working out as a way to escape is literally healthy coping. She works out when she’s stressed to relieve stress like that is the BEST way you could cope with negative feelings.
*(Don’t) Let Them Eat Cake -* The cheap bride needed to know her wedding was an embarrassment to the fam so she doesn’t end up throwing the same _nothing included_ wedding for her own kids one day.
Riley’s like, “I love how i disagree and they like verbally assault me.”
Riley, from their comments, I think you should be less worried about physical assault and more of a sexual assault 😆😂
Not to be that person, but SA isn't something to joke about in a public comment section.
@@whatisthis1958 and yet here you are…
@@MegaMyown No need to be rude. I just thought I'd let you know it can be hurtful to survivors. It doesn't personally bother me but I know many other SA survivors might see it as hurtful. You'd think you'd have enough empathy to understand that by default but I suppose not everyone is intelligent enough to come to that understanding cognitively if not emotionally. SA is serious and shouldn't be joked about outside of specific settings.
@whatisthis1958 i love how you started with "no need to be rude" then proceed to be super funking rude. You're point would've been better well received by others reading thru the comments, had you not been far more rude than op. You come off as a total A$$h0le. Just saying
@@whatisthis1958I'm a SA survivor and do not feel is rude. Would be if they made SA comments or jokes much more specific and demeaning for the victims. People still get and will be sexual even I'm not due to my trauma. Getting triggered by it just means I would need more therapy as it is my problem not other to deal with.
Our wedding was small, outdoors, and we had a potluck. The day started warm and sunny, then the rain came, and it was snowing by sundown. The most expensive thing was the flowers (Sola wood flowers, 10/10) and it was still about 6k total (dress, suit, rings, reservations, plates/cups/silverware, photographer, everything)
She didn't lie. She said she was going to the "Jim" she didn't say she was going to the "Gym" 😂😂😂
As a woman (21 now) who has been pregnant and done sexual stuff during it, it CAN get very uncomfortable to the point where you just don’t enjoy it, and it can also get painful even if you’re just laying on your back, it just depends on the person and the partner in my opinion but I think you definitely need to communicate about it so it can be difficult if the person doesn’t know, she’s just earlier on so it’s probably easier to hide the discomfort or may not be uncomfortable yet, ALSO my ex would get SO uncomfortable when we were doing it because I’d be like “oh I felt him move” and like, we were in the middle of doing stuff💀 but that’s all I could think of since I wasn’t really enjoying it, I was just stressed the whole time
As someone who dabbles in the wedding industry for work (I do SEO) , I will say that typical wedding etiquette is that you should have some food for guests. You don’t have to do a full meal, but you should at least have finger food for people to eat since they’re giving up their time and a gift. If I went to a wedding, gifted the standard 50-100 bucks then also had to buy my food and drinks, AND got no cake I’d be a lil miffed😂
Time to prepare for divorce with evidence of her infidelity and to sue her for for full custody of the kid
For the second story, they could have gotten the prop cake for those first cut pictures and keep it for memorabilia, but gotten an edible cake for guests.
It’s sad that she thought she had him so completely that she could get away with betraying him like that 😒
THE WEDDING STORY, SAM FINALLY HAS A GOOD TAKE
Little known fact: Mormon weddings in Utah usually aren't that expensive. They don't save up 2-3 years for a wedding. My dad was a photographer and would sometimes do weddings. He told me that it's actually hard for photographers to make money because people aren't willing to spend large amounts of money on pictures.
Awww I saw Dusty thunder do story #1 this morning. Y'all are having a convo tho, he had FEELINGS 😂
Jim Veins proved that he can't respect people's boundaries repeatedly, both with her when she reminded him she was married and with OP when he 1. insisted she not bring Jim Veins to help pick up her stuff, and 2. Didn't exit the house when being told to do so to his face
Sam really needs to learn that if a woman has aggressive s3x, or if the man is well endowed, it can cause a miscarriage even when it's a "bean"!
It can cause uterine bleeding which typically results in miscarriage.
Been there, done that.
It also happened when my 9 month old jumped really hard on my stomach.
The fake cake thing reminds of of that show Cheapskates or America's cheapest (whatever it was called) where a cheap mum had her daughters wedding in a school gymnasium, catered with sandwiches, fake display cake and wedding dress from a thrift store that had rat pee on it!!
22:46 This story breaks my heart💔Wishing everything will get better for him
"Gym addiction" usually translates to cheating with a gym bro/broad.
That's exactly what my first thought was!
Or eating disorder. When I was in mine I was working out at the gym 4 hours a day to make sure my calorie count was as low as possible
@Abi-ry4cn I was mostly referring to the amount of stories on Reddit that follow the trend.
I hope you're doing well.
When I first heard this story on another channel my first thought was she’s just going there more because she has a secret crush on someone there but did not expect a whole affair since the husband first didn’t expect one and she was pregnant!
@@WraythSkitzofrenik much better, thank you!
I know most follow the trend. I was worried with him saying she was fit and pregnant, sounded like the perfect storm.
Story 2: If money is an issue, they could ask family for help and consider doing a potluck.
Food and drinks (don't have to be alcohol) are expected at a wedding, and the gifts are "payment" for it, people planning weddings need to understand the ceremony is mostly for the couple, but the reception is mostly for the guests! Also, that story reminds me of another Reddit story, where the couple ONLY served WATER as drinks. No coffee, no soda, no mocktails. Dry weddings are fine but at least have some soda or more than just water.
I think by Jim Viens coming to the house was a form of intimidation
Story 2: I’m with John. If they wanna know, I’d tell them
The cheating wife has no morals, not even an apology, no remorse at all I would be pissed
the 1st story made me remember a gossip that is happening here in Brazil about a singer who recently divorced his gym rat ex-wife because she was having an affair with her personal trainer.
Another episode to entertain me while I work 🐸👏✨
1st story, reading the latest update left by a commenter as well how he behaved at his house I think the new boyfriend enjoys he broke up a family as well he is manipulative since he convinced her to do or undo many promises made. Once OP stops caring and engaging with their life and bs she will be left to deal with him and entertain him. The fact he used the words I understand how you feel after knowing what they did was on purpose to make him react.
He probably is a narcissist by how he does not care about her in bed as well how doesn't do little things. She just signed herself up for a rough relationship and some traumas. OP may have to consider having full custody if this gets worse.
Jim vains: I even believe that Jim did even pushed her to make the test to clear up the situation for her ex as well. He tried to be at least a bit of a decent person. Its very very tough for op and I am incredibly sorry for him. Its so hurtful.
I've been to a wedding where the flowers alone cost 20k.
John you're so sweet for caring
You can press on your belly when you are pregnant. I think it's very cute how John is being I think he's going to be a very protective dad one day.
But there really is no concern about hurting the baby with sex. Sex actually feels better for some women during the early months of pregnancy. Remember a lot of women don't even know they're pregnant until farther along and they go on roller coasters and stuff and they're fine. Not that I would recommend it however, sex is mild comparatively.
Also, sometimes the baby's in a weird position and the midwife or doctor will push on your belly in way worse ways to reposition the baby. Babies are super flexible.
Literally beat me. Off. lol
When i got pregnant, I hated that my body was changing. I wanted to workout non-stop.
Basically until third trimester, your body can handle a lot of impact without having to worry about anything
57:39 She could’ve got some large pizzas from Sam’s club for $8 and a couple of cakes for
Couple of things with the first one…Even though this didn’t turn out to be the case with this story, you can absolutely become addicted to the gym to the point where it’s unhealthy. It happened to me while I was deep into an ED, and I only stopped when I passed out at the gym and the owner told me not to come back until I had a doctors certificate saying it was safe to do so. I lived in a small town, so going to another gym wasn’t possible because there wasn’t one! If I couldn’t go for a day, I would get extremely anxious and irritable..so not going at all was like torture…I’m much better and healthier now though.
Secondly, while it is safe to do the deed while pregnant, there are cases when it isn’t safe, even when you’re not showing. Again, from my own experience, I’ve had 3 babies and didn’t show until I was in my 3rd trimester…but for baby 3 we had to stop early on for medical reasons.
And just to put it out there…having an affair is vile, but having an affair while you’re pregnant is even more vile. To me it feels like a betrayal on both your partner and your baby.
UPDATE ON FIRST STORY
"I’m a dad
I have a baby. A little girl. I’m a dad. She was born yesterday at 11:57 pm, 2 weeks early.
As he’s done before, she was having some pains off and on and he left for work yesterday morning. She works from home on Mondays. She told me around 8:30 am she was having contractions 17 minutes apart. The same thing happened not long ago but then by evening all the pains stopped. I was at work so I told her to keep me posted. A little later she said they were 15 minutes apart and she had some other signs it might be actual labor starting.
I asked her if she needed somebody there with her. She said wanted me to come be with her. I didn’t even mean to volunteer myself. She was scared. I didn’t even ask why she didn’t call him. I left work and went over to his house. Uncomfortable doesn’t begin to describe it but there were obviously more important things going on. He wasn’t there. She didn’t even contact him. She said she just wanted it to be me and her there. In her words, he hadn’t seen her pee or shit herself yet but I’ve witnessed all of that stuff already so she was more comfortable with me there.
I really tried to be as nice and supportive as possible. Set the whole thing about her affair, our marriage, everything to the side for a brief time. I don’t really know what my purpose was being there but I think she just needed somebody there so she didn’t feel alone. She spent most of the time stretching and doing some sort of yoga labor routine and bouncing on this huge exercise ball. I twiddled my thumbs for the most part and looked through a bunch of his belongings.
I was timing the contractions and they were consistent and slowly did get closer together, so I thought it was probably actually going to happen. It wasn’t nearly far enough along to go to the hospital yet and it was getting close to when he’d get home. I was planning how I’d handle that when she called me into the bathroom to ask her if I thought her water broke. It wasn’t like in the movies with this huge gush of water.
So he got home and I was there. He came into the house and the first thing he asked is “what are you doing here?!” I think he thought something else was going on. No, you just left and went to work and left her alone when she was scared.
He said he was home and he’d be with her until it was time to go to the hospital. He put his hand on my shoulder and said something like “thanks, bud…I got it from here and we’ll call you when we’re on the way to the hospital.” He called me bud. I told him I wasn’t his fucking buddy and to fuck off.
I could tell she wanted me to leave. I’m not sure she really wanted me to leave so much as she was in labor and the tension between the two of us wasn’t what she needed and I knew that. It was his house so what was I supposed to do? I left and prayed they’d actually call me instead of letting me know the next day that my kid had been born.
She texted me a few hours later to say the doctor told her to go to the hospital. At that point I still didn’t know if I was going to be waiting outside or what he’d decide was best for his apparent wife and child.
I was allowed to be in the room. I didn’t force my way in there. She said she wanted me to be there. He was there too. By far the single most awkward experience of my life and the only reason I was able to excuse it was because she told me she wanted me there and I didn’t want to miss the chance to be there when my kid was born and to hold my kid before he did. I can’t imagine what the doctors and nurses were thinking. Fucking humiliating. Then the guy tried to police what I could see. I put the baby in there! He’s fucking watching and it’s like this is still my wife and that’s my baby. I chose to stay dignified and I ignored him the entire time. I was there to do whatever she told me to do and my focus wasn’t on him, but in any other setting I don’t think I would have been able to hold back.
The baby came flying out. I mean, as far as labor goes. These are the nurses’ words and I trust labor and delivery nurses to know what they’re talking about. She tore very bad because the baby came out so fast. The baby is so tiny, barely 6 pounds and only 18 inches, but perfectly healthy.
I went home for a short rest although I really couldn’t rest at all. I went back today and of course he was there. Surprisingly he said he was going to give us some time alone with the baby. Not sure if she had previously asked him to do that when I showed up or not, didn’t ask. He even brought us all food back when he returned a few hours later. I wondered if mine might be poisoned but I tried to be nice. He’s still not gone so I’m wondering how long he’ll be around. I just can’t let myself do anything that will make her try to keep me away from my daughter now. I don’t want them making it difficult for me.
I’d prefer not to share her name publicly but I can confirm it’s the name we chose for a daughter years ago. He had no say and he hasn’t said anything about the name at all. It kills me to see him holding her though.
I eventually left because it was just too much sitting there pretending to be like some bizarre three’s company. I’ll know I will get my time with her when he’s not around.
He’s already posting them on his social media. I don’t know how I’m going to do this but I’m going to figure it out. I just have to find a way to be the bigger person because I won’t let him or their relationship discourage me from being my daughter’s dad. I totally get doing anything for your kids now and if it means having to pretend to get along with him, I will"
@Sam! To the wedding video , as some one that works in the wedding industry trust and believe it can happen ! Her sister even trying to help will definitely cause problem. The bride has the last say yes, worst case scenario , but how long and to what lengths will she have to do to get to that point , it’s easier said than done.
9:19 not me just taking a bite of almond butter, toast, and about choking to death. That was a good one.
34:30 - I'm pretty sure if she would be outside the scope for terminations unless she or the baby has a condition that puts them both at risk. Even during RvW, the cut off was 20 weeks, which is nearly 5 months. I can't keep track of how long it's been since the first post but she was 4 month pregnant during the first post, which can be between 16-18 weeks.
2nd story- nta, they said they thought she was aware when it was mentioned and she asked for clarification
Okay, so my pregnancy was an issue for sex but only in certain positions late into pregnancy. But my husband and I communicated and we found positions that worked.
The REAL issue is what if this guy has an STI? That could cause miscarriage.
Intercourse while pregnant is usually not an issue.
Pelvic rest is recommended if there is spotting/bleeding, issues with the placenta, etc.
Doctors actually recommend intercourse to help induce labor, and the big O can help reduce pain while in labor and help progression.
I like how these guys talk about women's things. Good eggs.
My sister went to a wedding were special meals and desserts like bananas foster were served to the bride and groom in front of the guests, but none was available to guests. There was other food and cake (and I am almost certain drinks) but sometimes weddings have oddly limited things.
Regarding the 1st story, I find that OP is not emotinally well adjusted. The way that he reacts after discovering her infidelity (breaking her phone, silent treatment, avoidance, not talking, not wanting to feel anyting, not trying to think about it...) and just assuming that she is trying to manipulate him with her crying (she genuenly might have felt bad and regretful and conflicted), it makes my alarms go off. The likelihood that he was not a great partner before, in my view, is high. Not that it justifies cheating, but it explains it. Also, completely understandable that someone would react with irrational behaviour or negative coping strategies in that situation, but not a good sign of his character either.
OP doesn't have to worry about a termination at that point.
There's not a country in the world that would allow that this late in the pregnancy!
Jesus Christ, tell that muscle mommy to *CALL. ME.* 😤😆😂
OP is NTA, he did way less than most people could imagine. He had a lot of restraint tbh.
John, oh John. 😂 Sex is fine in any point in the pregnancy, unless advised not to by a doctor. Is it the most comfortable in any position, no. Mom of 2 toddlers. You adjust your positions until you find a comfortable one. Pillows and the edge of the bed are great for relief the belly. Also for any men/husbands out there, please get a vasectomy if you both decide you are done having kids. Birth control can be harsh on a woman's body and this is the easiest way to alleviate the risk of surprise pregnancy. Please be thoughtful of your partner! Sexual safety and thoughtfulness are both partners responsibility!
30:18 actually there could be issues, at least that happened to me 😅, when I was born my lungs were kinda squished and I couldn't breathe for at least 2 minutes. And now I'm 18 and still have asthma from my lungs deformation bcs my mom was hit on her belly during her first month of pregnancy.
When I was pregnant I was told by doc to not lay on my back because it cuts off something for baby(I don’t remember what) but that was like 6 months in so idk if that really affects too much with what you were talking about lol
Separate thought….This story is giving me a vibe that reminds me of the show Reba, hopefully things work out as nicely for the kids sake
It’s the inferior vena cava, a major blood vessel. It can cause low O2 in baby, and hypotension in the mother if pressed on and blood flow is reduced. Due to the tilt of my uterus, and my strong abdominal muscles at the time (they’re not that strong anymore unfortunately!) I always carried my babies further back and rarely looked pregnant. It didn’t take much for the baby to press against the inferior vena cava and I would get dizzy and pass out…with baby 3 just sitting in a chair too long would have me sprawled out in the floor. I had to be either standing, or lying on my side…it was awful.
Pregnancy makes some women glow, and for other women it’s not a pleasant experience at all…still didn’t stop me going back for more though. No matter how sick I was, each child is worth every second of pain and sickness I experienced during, and after pregnancy.
crazy how cheaters love taking the high road after they've done something so, so low.
1st story. Yes you can force a mom to do a paternity test, however you cannot force her to do a paternity test while the baby is in utero. It has the potential risk to mom and babe. But the second that baby comes out. It can be court ordered.
Edit:typos
If jim veins respected op he wouldn’t have disrespected op’s request of him not coming over with op’s soon to be ex wife
Mom to 4.
Any position is fine and won't hurt the baby during a normal, healthy pregnancy.
I slept on my stomach during my pregnancies.
30:47 hahaha yes but you're just careful and that's it, Sam is correct.
First trimester it would take quite a lot. My daughter dive bombed my belly when I was in the first trimester and my dr said I was fine baby is well protected and it would take a big hit to do something. But for sex later in pregnancy it’s so uncomfortable at the end, so it’s more of a “I can’t do this position it’s uncomfortable/painful” but not really dangerous UNLESS your dr has put you off sex for a particular reason!
Exactly. When my youngest daughter was still in the belly, her older brothers were head at belly hight. They were running through the house, and ended up head butting their baby sister still in the whom. We ended up going to the hospital thinking there was something wrong. But apparently all they did was knock loose a gall stone. And that was causing a lot of pain. Babies in the belly are pretty protected.
Can confirm, you can moosh the bean, no issues lol - Mom of two healthy beansprouts
You just recently had the story of a woman who said she could not agree with her gay daughter but still loved her. You said that this was homophobic, which it is. Riley literally just did the same with poly couple. 22:55.
he does not have ANGER ISSUES DUDE, a person can only take so much before they snap!!!
Hahaha! FYI there’s a lot going on inside the womb to keep baby safe from a ‘press on the belly’ or rough sex etc, like amniotic fluid etc to protect foetus and embryo xx
43:50 Not a stand up guy. Him pushing through the boundary put in place by op and forcing her to go along away with is totally a power play. He is controlling her and rubbing it in his face. And he did it twice. First by coming at all, and second be staying after being told to leave.
Just pressing in the belly won't hurt baby. I had ultrasounds where they had to press into my belly to get the picture becauseits slippery in there baby moves.. unless you fall hard onto the bump just pressing does nothing really.
I think at the end of the day the wife isn’t really the woman he fell in love with. He still loves the woman that he thought she was. But after a while he will be thankful that she showed who she was early in his life while he still has time to meet a woman that is faithful, caring and kind. His ex is untrustworthy. She is more than capable of cheating again on the new partner.
Exercise can be a copeing mechanism.
The amniotic sack protects the fetus. It would take a greater force to injure it. Like a punch. The only risk I can think of having sex during pregnancy. If you're putting pressure on a pregnant person's stomach. The fetus will be pushed into the body and put pressure on the pregnant persons lungs. Making it hard for them to breathe. Lowering oxygen in the blood. But this will effect the pregnant person before the fetus. If the pregnant person was somehow suffocated during sex, the fetus could still stay alive inside for 5-10 minutes. Now. If there I an issue with the amniotic sack, and how it's connected to the uterus. It can cause a rupture if you put pressure on the person's stomach. But that is pretty rare. If everything is normal and healthy there is pretty much no risk having sex in any position during pregnancy.
The gym story reminded me of one of the episodes of The Good Place. 😅
There is NO way, that every time a person flirts with you as a married person, that you don't think of your partner. You just choose to ignore it and go with the feeling. There is no accidently sleeping with another person either. That is bull. There is no g-damn excuse. The gall of this chick to try and gas light her husband into feeling like he is the one in the wrong is outrageous.
How you get them is how you lose them
I have two kids and would find it so hard going 9+ months without sex 😆 The baby is in such a protected bubble in there that there is literally no way of squashing it. You just have to be more selective with your positions for comfortability/ access reasons when you're super big.
My midwife recommended doing it regularly towards the end because it's one of the only proven natural ways to induce labour (happy hormones and all) 😂
John was so confident about the dangers of pregnancy sex and yet so, so wrong
Poor John
The concern for babies health is silly. The human body protects baby and mom if something was wrong momma would know and this guy doesn't sound like he's dangerous or anything she is going to tell her spicy sleep partner to stop if something feels wrong. John seemed so stressed about this
To answer the question, see whilst pregnant poses no harm to the baby. The baby is high up in the cervix which is more towards the belly button. The vagina sort of does a 7 shape, with vagina going towards the spine then the cervix going towards the belly button. This is also why some women have a 'pooch' and other women have flat tummy. That 'pooch' isn't fat it's the organs being more towards the front than the back, where the flat tummy gals are more towards the spine. It's also why many men are obsessed with touching that area, because its the reproductive zone. A Penistone doesn't go near the cervix. In terms of sex positions whilst pregnant, you'll automatically figure out a comfortable position for you. Xxx