1. They emotionally and mentally support you 2. They engage in your personal growth 3. They are emotionally intelligent 4. They are understanding 5. They are kind 6. They are respectful (of your opinions, experiences, boundaries) 7. They know how to compromise 8. They accept your flaws 9. They share your core values (marriage, family, religion)
Er...good luck finding someone who can check all these boxes. 99 percent of the time you have to take something you DONT like to get the things you do. This is a HUGE reason why a lot of marriages hit the toilet.
If you got someone who is: • Never gonna give you up • Never gonna let you down • Never gonna run around and desert you • Never gonna make you cry • Never gonna say goodbye • Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you Then you better treat them right because they've been doing that to you. You know the rules, and so do they.
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so I recentlly break up a 4 month relationship. I was the rebound, You see? It really hurt me a lot: comparissons, sexual rejection, mega rush, pocketing, manipulation, etc (love is blind) She told me she was a very emotional intelligent person and that i would never find a gurl like her ever. After This conversations it just took her 3 weeks yo to reach out again her ex who has dump her 3 times before. I need your feedback.
Alternative title: 9 traits that you should strive to achieve, in order to be a good partner. Edit: so it's been 8 months and I actually have been trying to put into practice what I said here. Although my partner and i have been together for 9 years, within just this past year we have grown so much closer by just by really trying to put ourselves in each others shoes. In the beginning I used to get upset at my partner because I felt like I was always giving more than they would give back. Instead of telling them this I would lash out and became petty and passive agressive. but now things are different, we still fight but we always try to express exactly what this issue is instead of blaming each other. If you are having a hard time finding someone, my advice to you is look for somone who is willing to learn but don't also forget to be willing to see things though their eyes. Sometimes you will fight and when you do really listen to what they are saying before calling them out on their insecurities, they may need your help when no one else can provide it.
I have all of them, but I don’t find seem to find anyone who is like that, like a true friend. They just stab me in the back and people just judge me :/
I love people who are kind to everybody. It's important for me to see how they treat others, no matter their status. I wouldn't want someone around who is only nice when there is something in return.
I'm only nice when I get just a zeptosecond of support (even though I don't deserve it, i'm going to quit when it gets hard anyway) *wish my parents had helped, i never got support from them*
@@polandball8877 I’m sorry. You sound unhappy. I understand your statement re your parents. It may help to have a friend with whom you could both vent. I wish you well.
@@emiliakarlsson2972 I’d say the same to you that I replied to Polandball. It helps to have someone you can open up to. You just may be wrong to others’ reactions. Please try again. Good luck.
Yes, but sadly I have a toxic friend but the thing is Idk should I stop being friends with her or I should try to Improve her actions of how toxic she can be.
@@FelixGotGamefr Take this as a grain of salt, as I am but an unknown person to your situation, but: Do you think your friend displays any guilt or remorse for their toxic behaviour? Are they aware they are being toxic in the first place? Do *you* think they are worth the time and effort to be put into trying to make them better as a person? If yes, then you could try help your friend out of their toxic behaviour. If no, it might be better to distance yourself from them. There are kinder people out there. I hope you have a wonderful day!
Let go of any bad character trait,support or validate her feelings,I need to feel rewarded for my effort,I need to feel happy about myself,difficult emotions make you feel frustrated,it's crucial to the relationship,domination issues could ruin it if they are uncompromising,accept the situation for what it is instead of feeling resentment,show your value systems are compatible💲
I am happy for you two. Keep going! I have been married for 17 years, and regret it. Deeply. Sticking with it for the good of our son has seen me through this storm. He has been my best friend through all of the turbulence, and that, makes me the luckiest man I know.
don't forget that "accepting someone's flaws" does not mean you need to tolerate flawed behavior that negatively impacts you. Toxic or malicious behavior is not a "flaw" you need to accept. I had someone who acted this way and I was always told by him that I should "love and accept him the way he is" which would include accepting lies, manipulation, control, narcissism, cheating..the list goes on.
Agreed. But just to add: that also applies to an emotionally unstable partner. Don’t be with someone who constantly drags you down with them. You don’t have to be kind and generous when you’re the only one giving positivity in the relationship.
@@adamsraphael526 I guess some people can confuse it but to make it clearer: when someone is with you and it only makes your life more miserable, the obvious thing is to not be with them any longer. The rest is up for interpretation of each person.
In case your in a hurry 0:50 They're supportive 1:24 They engage in your personal growth 1:57 They are emotionally intelligent 2:33 They are understanding 2:56 They're kind 3:25 They're respectfull (your opinions, boundaries etc) 4:03 They know how to compromise 4:33 They accept your flaws 4:58 They share your core values. Hope it helps you😊 Have a nice day.
yessss to emotionally intelligent people + people who encourage you to grow!! Honestly these are traits that I would expect from a manager whos also supposed to serve as your mentor but in my experience, many of managers definitely did NOT display these traits
Everyone out here looking for these traits in their bfs, gfs or future partners. While i sit here wondering how tf was i so lucky to have a best friend who has all the 9 goddamn qualities...theres a reason i believe in soulmates. Soulmates as best friends. She understands me like no one does. Its almost unreal. Im very grateful for her....i hope all of u find someone for urself. All of us deserve happiness
Hello. I was rather thinking of friends too. Pleased to know how you and others have such genuine friends and the traits mentioned above--what we need.
I am so jealous, cause I also have all of those traits and no one else is just like that, they are just disrespectful and talk shit behind my and others back. But I am so happy for you :D
My girlfriend's most wonderful trait is her honesty and trust. Even when I get lied to a lot by others and feel like I don't matter. She's always there
I found someone I like a lot, but we both agreed we are better as friends. Doesn't have to just be romantic relationships, guys. Find these people in general, they are literal life savers!
@@insidiouslyfanatic714 I think the strongest relationships don't stem from the good times together necessarily, but are ALSO deeply rooted in getting through the difficult times. My friendships and relationships would always become so much stronger after going through something difficult and being able to overcome it. Don't mistake what I am saying though, as the good times with someone absolutely still play a large roll, it's a balancing game
This made me realize my ex isn’t a narcissist and neither am I. We met after suffering narcissistic abuse and were there for each other for a long time, but we have different values and goals and neither of us is wrong for wanting what we want.
A good one ! Each not blaming the other for a break up, and knowing separation the right thing for both partners, allows both to move on without resentment and other emotional baggage. Not a bad outcome at all, assuming no children. Well done.
This! First few months after a breakup can always look like “this person is a narcissist” but after a while you just realize it was impossible to give yourself up for someone with different values.
Here are some Time Stamps: 1. They are Supportive 0:51 2. They Engage in Your Personal Growth 1:23 3. They are Emotionally Intelligent 1:54 4. They are Understanding 2:31 5. They are Kind 2:54 6. They are Respectful 3:22 7. They know how to Compromise 3:59 8. They Accept your Flaws 4:30 9. They share your Core Values 4:57 - From a Mysterious Time Traveler
When your boyfriend shows all these and when I put myself down he brings me back up and he loves my weirdness 🥺🥺 Edit: thanks for all the likes kind stranger x
Definitely all these are a must for a relationship. Communication is also important, so it's possible to transmit all the emotions. Someone who can express himself/herself good but refuse to communicate surely the other person won't be able to understand and it will probably make the other person keep chasing in case that person care a lot. Thank you for this video ❤️
I love this! Super important: if you expect your partner to have these qualities you should have these qualities as well. ❤ I am continuously working on myself to be the best version of myself that I can be for someone someday. 🙃
@@Raziel-mq3fn I don't think relationships should be based on that you NEED a partner. Is about wanting someone to share life. Just because you have all this qualities it does not mean you want to be alone. Is not about needing someone.
I found this perfect person about 3 years ago. I thought it wasn’t possible, but she exists! This video describes our relationship the last 3 years and just reminds me of how amazing we are together.
We're celebrating 31 years of marriage this year. We've both had all of these qualities from day one, thank God. You forgot sense of humor, though. My husband still makes me laugh hard at least once a week and I try to do the same for him.
@@ryanwondertroll a real belly laugh is something special... i find i don't laugh like that often at all, so i'd say laughing in that way once a week is great
@@obay9673 Do You Think i need to make a comment to advertise Myself even if i have over 100k sub ? no bro you're wrong i just shared my thought because i love this channel
shal you don't need to be so rude, they were just trying to say to what was on they're mind. That's literally what comments are for. Please do not be so negative on such a positive thing ^^
Number 9 is so very important. After a divorce from a man who showed none of these character traits, I vowed that I would only get involved with a person who shared my values. I started to date a guy at church (I'm a Unitarian), but he was all show and no substance. He, too, lacked many of the characteristics shown in this video as well as a few values that I found to be important. Not to be deterred, I still kept my eye out as I continued to live my life. It didn't take very long. I had to do some training for work. The instructor was interesting, and the other students in the class seemed to have a high regard for him. After the training was over, we started talking about politics. I could tell from his position on the issues that he shared some values in common with me. It turned out that he thought that I was attractive, and we started dating. I've been with him now for over 15 years. It's the best relationship that I have ever had. Hold out for someone who shares your values. You'll be glad that you did! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland
I definitely tried my best to be all this for my ex, sadly she just treated me like an option and only put in effort when it was convenient and beneficial to her... worst of all I was too dumb to realize it
@@beverlyb4176 Awwwe thanks! I don't think my ex was a bad or evil person, I think we are all capable of working towards these nine character traits but that desire starts from within.
@@Outpolecat5278 wise words. And even it might be unnecessary. But it wasn't your fault they behaved as how they did. If you gave your best there's nothing to be ashamed or feel like you were dumb for not noticing.
not a romantic relationship but a friend of mine has all the qualities included in the video... i have known her since elementary and even if we are in a long distance, our relationship never changed and how we treat each other is all the same... i am very grateful that i've met her coz she's actually the only one i can lean on and talk about my personal thoughts... i am an introvert and it's really hard for me to open up and it took a while before i told her about my problems, but i've realized that there is nothing wrong of opening up and that i should not be ashamed. i am also glad that i told her about it (my problems) coz it helped me grow and acknowledge that i am not the only one who's struggling emotionally. i would say that she is the person i have put my trust on and whom i'm very thankful for. thanks r.
I do agree. Not sure if they are bored or just lack any level of understanding. Remember, they learn relationship values from their parents (if they were even together).
Sounds like Trauma bonding. They dont know what stable is like in their lives so they run to what is comfortable for them, which is chaos. These types of people need alot of healing and they need to want to change.
Yep ^^^ Some people have good relationships and are scared of commitment/scared because it's such a healthy relationship that they'll sabotage themselves
This made my heart so happy 🥺 I got engaged to my fiancé a year ago, we’ve been together for 2 years. Despite’s the ups and downs, he’s had all of these qualities. We learned how to do better for each other and became a lot more resilient. At the rate we’ve been going I’ve been so grateful that he’s going to be my husband ♥️. Awesome insightful video!
There is no such thing as unconditional love, unless you have godhead conciseness, but then you would realize what solipsism is, then there is no one but you, to whom you can give unconditional love that YOU do not need!
Unconditional love does not exist. Perfect people do not exist. If you think you are loving someone unconditionally, it only means you are blind to something.
The quality of your conditions makes it love or hate. For example, the condition of "being my child" is a high quality condition. Whereas the condition of "make me feel in control" is a low quality condition. Unconditional anything doesn't exist. Even existence, itself, is predicated upon conditionals.
I left a toxic marriage of 23 years, spent three years rebuilding the man who was torn down that long .. But I did, and I now have a girl who checks 9 for 9... I never knew life could be this good when you're finally with "your" person..so to all those out there coming out of abusive relationships, especially the men, there is hope. You are worth loving and finding that person who does the same back to you.
Hey that’s even better. Well being first and foremost and we should never make time for people who waste our own time with disrespect, abuse and unnecessary drama
Here is a little insight I wanna share: Sometimes when we are with a certain person, we can subconsciously try to manipulate them to become something else. This is a signal that there is a certain partner that we want, but instead of changing someone to be like that, we should pick the natural candidate, than changing someone to be something else. This is something that I realised for me, that I had been with men that I subconsciously tried to make into something else. Not in any big extremes, but there were the subtle stuff like wanting my man to have a flannel.. I realised this just some months ago with my previous relationships.
Ah I get it. Someone that proves themselves to fit the bill, as opposed to rose colored shades to a nice, handsome guy that may not meet qualifications? I think having a false perception of a negative partner is why people stay in unsatisfying relationships for a long time. If I’m wrong, correct me.
@@shatteredscry I'm not sure what was your thesis. If someone isn't supportive then it is best to find someone else. Of course that is difficult within the context of the current China Plague. I found that the 9 Character Traits listed in this presentation to be what I needed years ago. I'm a nice guy but ugly, I hope that you give ugly guys a chance and that you fuck them also. I don't know what was your point, but do what you gotta do & I hope everything works out.
If by flannel you mean some sort of cloth you can use to clean yourself with then EVERYONE should have one and anyone who doesn't should be dumped immediately!
A sense of humor! My husband and I make each other laugh all the time and we have now been married nearly 47 years! I think we now also possess a lot of these qualities you mentioned, but some we’ve had to work on.
Emotions are signals that needs either are or are not getting met, so stripping your emotions is, in essence, a form of blindness. Why limit your perceptive capabilities?
@@ronwisegamgee, emotions are an indicator of whatever you have trained them to indicate (or ignore, respectively). Or they can be all over the place. For example, immature and self-centered people feel oppressed and rejected by mature people because the immature don't know how to respond adequately.
It's great to know that your partner exhibit this qualities. But often, people go for those who isn't ideal for them. I think the people who have these qualities are more often single, while those that don't are in dysfunctional relationships. May you find the right one for you!
I just love the fact that the drawing style is soft shapes, and soft & pastel or slightly dulled colours. It helps as some bright colours and sounds can be triggering for certain mental or physical illnesses. The light, soft voice & music helps to explain things that feel like they can be understood easier. Thanks guys!
These are the most cherished traits you can have and look for in your partner but practically speaking the real test is 'time'.. real worth of a relationship lies in experiencing all these traits over the course of time with a some degree of certainty. Blessed to have found it. ♥️
I agree. It's a conscious choice and an important one for me, too. Someone told me a long time ago that if you want to gain some insight to a potential partner's character, go out to dinner and watch how he/she interacts with the server. Sure you can be fooled, but some surprising characteristics can reveal themselves. I had a significant other who I knew was right for me because he was warm and friendly to the server and loved to tip generously even though he didn't have a lot of money. "It's a tough job" he'd say.
Whelp my last partner was definitely lacking a lot of these qualities. I was just blind to it and really didn't notice it until it was all over. Im staying positive and for sure will be listening in the next relationship. Thank you for posting!
For me, it was crucial to figure out with my boyfriend that WE are equal to each other. So being respectul is one of the main character trait that i praise the most.
Most of the guys I dated have these qualities, I’m glad to see that even though it didn’t work out, I met emotionally intelligent and kind people 💕 me and my friends also share these qualities and it’s the best thing.
I've been watching these as "friendship" partners, since it also applies there. I have a friend that I feel really has all these traits, but we both are recovering from and working on anxiety disorders, so our communication could use some work XD Having them around has been wonderful, tbh. Recovery is a VERY rocky road, and they've been great to have around. I just hope I can give them back even half as much positivity as what I get from even a simple "hi" from them
WHAT a valuable life lesson. Every person deserves to be treated with respect, kindness & love. You also deserve a mate/spouse that cares about your intimate desires and doesn't treat you like you are just there just to satisfy them. If they constantly talk about themselves, they are not listening to you. If they only care about their career or what they want, they don't care about you. There are a lot of crazy mean people out there. Don't let them attach themselves to you.
This is also true for your best friend! I personally identify as an asexual but I found this video helpful. These are the traits I value and appreciate with my best friend. So glad they exist ❤
My girl and me made our relationship official yesterday. And now i get this video recommended. I'm pretty sure she and me both seem to hit all 9 of those :))
This brought grateful thoughts to my mind and heart❤️ I’m feeling very blessed with my husband and our, almost 19yrs, relationship. He’s a very good man and my best friend 🥰
I’ve been watching your videos for quite a while and I appreciate all of them. I appreciate the ones about relationships since I’m currently in one and it puts my mind more at ease to know that I have the right partner to spend my life with. Keep doing an amazing job!!
The two most important traits I would focus on from here are sharing core values and emotional intelligence. I am a generally passive communicator, so I would find it difficult right now to keep open communication up with a partner since I commonly compartmentalize my emotions and don’t typically share my feelings too often. I would like to embody all these traits myself before expecting them from someone else, but who knows, maybe I’ll meet someone who is also self aware and wants to grow in partnership 🙂
it's important to be aware of what you tend to struggle with in relationships and where you need + want to grow, but i think having that awareness and a desire to develop through communication can lead to a healthy, wonderful partnership. be honest with yourself and your partner, and trust that your communication won't scare them. if you have someone who cares about this growth as well, it will help both of you and you'll only grow stronger because of it. you don't have to be perfect before you open yourself up to loving and being loved.
What you're describing to me is that you are an introvert. You have to be careful because you will always attract an extravert and that person will do a lot of talking which will probably get on your nerves. It's very important for introverts to practice talking & share feelings in a relationship and not expect the partner to read your mind. Do not give hints and do not make your partner try to get you to communicate because introverts can be very moody. There is no greater punishment for an extravert that loves to talk than to have a partner who will not communicate effectively and who constantly pouts. If you expect to keep your thoughts & compartmentalize them, remain single your happiest alone. I am just a friend who also is a counsellor.
My partner shares some of those core values! They end up making me feel safe and secure when I'm with them without a judgmental environment we're both growing as well so it always feels nice to have that safe haven with them. They're kind, understanding, respectful (sometimes), willing to compromise, accepts flaws. But we both lack emotional intelligence towards each other at times. They're somewhat inexperienced and my experienced often leaves me second guessing or looking for help elsewhere. Yet, we make each other happy and recognize the other has flaws so this video really opened my eyes.
In my almost 30 years of life, I haven’t had a chance to meet someone, not even a partner or a best friend or even a family member that has these traits. I pray that one day, I’ll meet one and so as all of you too 🤍 hang in there. Update (June 3, 2022): Finally meet someone that’s almost have all those traits and he proposed to me 💐
Very relatable. After dating many extroverts, I would only be happy with introverted partners. I find that one person’s attention isn’t enough for extroverts...they need energy and introverts tend to give energy
Hi, i am extrovert but i love him who is an introvert. Indeed sometimes I feel lonely when he needs me time. But there is nothing more pleasing to see him happy enjoying his time. And that's love. it's all about compromise. I will pray for you, so that she who wants to understand you will come soon 🙏
So... I gotta say... I'm glad that this channel exists. AND I'm impressed... Not ONE of those things had anything to do with fame, fortune, or fakeness. That's one of the biggest problems MOST people face these days, is they either care too much about what society at the large thinks, OR they're only focused on money, or the top tier types of people. EVERYONE needs to see this video, specifically for the sake of making people realize that it's okay to have flaws, as long as all nine of these things are at least being attempted to the best of one's ability... they're a good partner. This was a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
I've had many relationships (I started dating a little too young) and this video made me notice that never in my life I've been with someone who's emotionally intelligent... Yet! 😌🥰
Wow! My husband and I are 9/9 traits! I knew our relationship was good, and this is just more proof of it. Thank you for posting this video! I'm going to share it, especially with my daughters. Such great information! Keep up the good work! :D
"Compromise doesn't mean one wins and the other loses". Man, you genuinely are wise about these things! What a nice change from all of the abusive compromise between toxic couples that I usually see in media and on social media, whenever I have nothing to do on the internet and just check out some dumb drama to pass the time!
Honestly I like a friend that trusts me enough to be their shoulder to cry on, and someone that does the same for me. Someone that i can just talk and talk to, after Im about to explode and they just smile and nod. That’s a good friend lol
My long distance girlfriend and I share all of these qualities with each other. Being able to talk when we're not busy with something else is both of our favorite parts of the day.
My partner and I share most everything you mentioned. He is better at everything than I am, but we are good at accepting each other's flaws and weaknesses. We are very happy that we found each other!! Thanx fir the great video! ❤️
I believe being at the same level of understanding of honesty and authenticity are very important. That is the foundation we build our personality upon.
By knowing thyself, and honestly speaking, I have the 9 qualities. On the flip side, most people I have in my life doesn’t, and I end up compromising way too much...😢😢😢😢😢😢
Begin the love story of yourself. Self exploration is such a rewarding experience for your well being! What flowers do you like? what do you want to treat yourself to in the morning? What hobbies radiate your glow? What self compliments and affirmations make you blush and smile? The bond with yourself is the strongest bond in the universe to have.
The animation is just so cute 🥰 also the background music 💕 It really makes your videos unique 😊 Psychology is complicated at times and you guys just make everything easy, thank you so much ♥️
One thing you left out, is learning to recognize when your partner is wearing themselves out emotionally with all the empathy. Give them a break. It can become a crutch to constantly need all this "kindness and understanding".
Sometimes we are struggling... but we can learn many of these things from a loving partner. Love has motivated me more than anything because you cannot love properly if YOU arent loving YOU. I really like your videos. Animation is sweet and the writing is great! Simple and clear so its easy to process 🤝
That awkward moment when your girlfriend with all of these traits left you because the chemistry died and she didn’t think it was worth trying anymore.
Did you have all of those traits though? As a woman, I can say a big part of chemistry for a woman towards a man is feeling appreciated and like she matters to that man, while physical attraction plays less of a role (Thus the phenomenon of the attractive woman with the ugly man). I recently got out of a relationship where I told my ex about things that made me scared or frustrated in general and that involved both of us and he played it down like my fears and frustration didn't matter to him and where the efforts I made to be kind to him I felt like he took for granted. That quickly killed any chemistry I had for him and for that and other reasons that relationship ended and I never want to be with him again.
Try saying that but add in a wife of 12 years. That was almost 3 years ago and I'm finally back to being ok with me. Finally seeing a woman I was attracted to and meet shortly after my divorce. She's a kind loving person and quite a bit younger than me so in my eyes she's gorgeous but I keep it close, because I don't think I'd want to go through all that again. I will never forget the Saturday morning I get out of the shower walk into the living room and the ex says the kids went for a drive and we need to talk. Hands me a letter saying she will always love me, im greart father and a good husband. But she started a social media hook up with her boyfriend from school and said that I would never be the true love of her life and we both deserve to be happy and she wants a divorce. We even had a rocky time in the past that I excepted my fair share contributing to that period. I thought once we made it out the other side that her and I would be for life. I learned that that kind of dedication and honor rarely exists anymore especially for a woman.
@@NurseLady7 I understand really well what you experienced, so just wanted to send you positive vibes. I just broke up with mine for the same reasons exactly
When you realize this description of a perfect relationship can happen only if you find that one person who would understand you and would want to commit to their partner and the other way around. It's highly unlikely for someone to find their perfect match without improvising or submitting to the other person in some way and even then it can happen that they find someone else who can fill that role better than you, be you as supportive, generous and/or commited to keeping up your relationship. Every individual is unique and flawed in their own way and that flaw can sometimes show out after several years of relationship which could break it in a moment.
What is one character trait that you value the most? Comment below! Let see what others have to say :)
That they care as much as I do for them :)
@@ninaa9061 You sound like a very sweet person. Caring is a good character trait :)
Respect
Kindness
Hey idk If you know me but I ask my crush and she is the best person I ever see
" If someone makes you happy, _make them happier._ "
I love this. Thank you for sharing!
This is such a good quote :' ) Did you come up with it yourself?
-Monica
@@aprilharrison5814 I'm glad!! :)
@@Psych2go Oh, nono! I think it's anonymous, although I'm not too sure. Nevertheless, it's beautiful indeed :)
Define ‘someone whom makes you happy ?” A sociopath can ‘love Bomb’ you and make you ‘happy’ too. Exercise care in choosing is wise.
“You deserve someone who’s gonna treat you like you matter everyday. Not just when it’s convenient for them.” 🙏🏽
FACTS!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Factssss
It is so true! Keep this quote to your heart. Everyone deserve someone's treat them like you matter every seconds, minute, days, and years :) - Cindy
Unfortunately that Will never happen
Keep talking your facts!
1. They emotionally and mentally support you
2. They engage in your personal growth
3. They are emotionally intelligent
4. They are understanding
5. They are kind
6. They are respectful (of your opinions, experiences, boundaries)
7. They know how to compromise
8. They accept your flaws
9. They share your core values (marriage, family, religion)
Thnx ❤️
Thanks
Scrolled for this! Thanks!
Er...good luck finding someone who can check all these boxes. 99 percent of the time you have to take something you DONT like to get the things you do. This is a HUGE reason why a lot of marriages hit the toilet.
I checked all 9, got dumped
If you got someone who is:
• Never gonna give you up
• Never gonna let you down
• Never gonna run around and desert you
• Never gonna make you cry
• Never gonna say goodbye
• Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you
Then you better treat them right because they've been doing that to you. You know the rules, and so do they.
Memes aside, pretty much. That is the ideal relationship
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Rickrolled!
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Hehe, I'm the 100th like
Im never letting myself go. Perfect catch.
What a marvelous view ! We should all support, be kind to, & love ourselves like this.
Same I was thinking while watching video...😎
Ha ha ha.
That's right. Love yourself!
me too
Big Brain Moment: You should have these qualities too
And I actually does😳😳
man i'm not gonna pretend that i fit this mould all that well...
Yep, I need to work on myself more,to provide all of these tips completely. You shouldn't look for something you can't offer yourself.
Absolutely,to find the right person you first have to be the right person!
Biggest brain: I'm watching this to know which traits people want
All you u need is some1 who loves your weirdness, wants to spend time with you and most importantly, respects you
So whats it like being a time traveler
And why did you go backwards in time not forward
Yesterday Trump supporters stormed the capital building, bypassing police unhurt and staged a coup to overthrow the election. It didn't work, and the electoral votes were counted in Biden's favor. Also, its 2021, we made it!
This has been a news update from your future.
Well damn I better ask him out already what am I doing...
Yeah true
7 years with my husband who has all these qualities. Our relationship is always warm, peaceful and calm.
hope I can found a relationship like yours someday
@@futgamer811 ❤️
have You ever breakup?
@@Pelis_Chilangobythesea no. Not once
so I recentlly break up a 4 month relationship. I was the rebound, You see? It really hurt me a lot: comparissons, sexual rejection, mega rush, pocketing, manipulation, etc (love is blind) She told me she was a very emotional intelligent person and that i would never find a gurl like her ever. After This conversations it just took her 3 weeks yo to reach out again her ex who has dump her 3 times before. I need your feedback.
Alternative title: 9 traits that you should strive to achieve, in order to be a good partner.
Edit: so it's been 8 months and I actually have been trying to put into practice what I said here. Although my partner and i have been together for 9 years, within just this past year we have grown so much closer by just by really trying to put ourselves in each others shoes.
In the beginning I used to get upset at my partner because I felt like I was always giving more than they would give back. Instead of telling them this I would lash out and became petty and passive agressive. but now things are different, we still fight but we always try to express exactly what this issue is instead of blaming each other.
If you are having a hard time finding someone, my advice to you is look for somone who is willing to learn but don't also forget to be willing to see things though their eyes. Sometimes you will fight and when you do really listen to what they are saying before calling them out on their insecurities, they may need your help when no one else can provide it.
I have all of them, but I don’t find seem to find anyone who is like that, like a true friend. They just stab me in the back and people just judge me :/
@@emiliakarlsson2972 saaaaaame
Exactly what I was here for.
@@emiliakarlsson2972 the reality is that the most peaceful are marvelous and selfish, it's hard to find the right partner that is worth holding on.
@@emiliakarlsson2972 I am sorry for u
I hope they don't judge u anymore...
I love people who are kind to everybody. It's important for me to see how they treat others, no matter their status. I wouldn't want someone around who is only nice when there is something in return.
I'm only nice when I get just a zeptosecond of support (even though I don't deserve it, i'm going to quit when it gets hard anyway) *wish my parents had helped, i never got support from them*
I have all of those traits, but almost everyone I know are the opposite, they just stab me in the back and judge me :/
@@polandball8877 I’m sorry. You sound unhappy. I understand your statement re your parents. It may help to have a friend with whom you could both vent. I wish you well.
@@emiliakarlsson2972 I’d say the same to you that I replied to Polandball. It helps to have someone you can open up to. You just may be wrong to others’ reactions. Please try again. Good luck.
@@maryadeledavis8577 thank you :)
Cherish the one who makes you glad to be different, rather than forcing you to fit in 🙌🏾❤️
This! ^-^
Psilove
Yes, but sadly I have a toxic friend but the thing is Idk should I stop being friends with her or I should try to Improve her actions of how toxic she can be.
I don't have that person in my life, at least not yet
@@FelixGotGamefr Take this as a grain of salt, as I am but an unknown person to your situation, but: Do you think your friend displays any guilt or remorse for their toxic behaviour? Are they aware they are being toxic in the first place? Do *you* think they are worth the time and effort to be put into trying to make them better as a person?
If yes, then you could try help your friend out of their toxic behaviour.
If no, it might be better to distance yourself from them. There are kinder people out there.
I hope you have a wonderful day!
I think this list can apply not only to romantic partners but to close friends and family as well.
So true and this is healthy for all relationships not just romantic ones.
It applies to human in general
It applies to human in general
Not only is this important for couples but it’s also important for friendships
oh yea lol I commented that before I saw yours but was looking for someone who said it
do you think its important for family also?
@@EspeonjaGlaceonFilms of course!
Let go of any bad character trait,support or validate her feelings,I need to feel rewarded for my effort,I need to feel happy about myself,difficult emotions make you feel frustrated,it's crucial to the relationship,domination issues could ruin it if they are uncompromising,accept the situation for what it is instead of feeling resentment,show your value systems are compatible💲
I was about to say it. Lol. Thank you. :)
When you watch this video because you miss somebody, just to realize that YOU were the one who should've been held on to... 👌
Same!
Agreed sister!!! Best of luck to us both finding the person we deserve--xoxo
Yep, self love is finding someone who is going to reciprocate the energy we put in.
Yes they will realize we were the best thing they let go of 👏🏼
Reciprotate is?
I have been married for 11 years and can say after watching this, I feel like the luckiest, happiest man to walk this world
May God bless you, i wish I can say the same.
we don't know each other but im happy for you
I am happy for you two. Keep going!
I have been married for 17 years, and regret it. Deeply.
Sticking with it for the good of our son has seen me through this storm.
He has been my best friend through all of the turbulence, and that, makes me the luckiest man I know.
im very happy for you :) may God bless u both
@@32BitSean how old is your son? would he understand if u and ur partner were to break up?
don't forget that "accepting someone's flaws" does not mean you need to tolerate flawed behavior that negatively impacts you. Toxic or malicious behavior is not a "flaw" you need to accept. I had someone who acted this way and I was always told by him that I should "love and accept him the way he is" which would include accepting lies, manipulation, control, narcissism, cheating..the list goes on.
you should
Agreed. But just to add: that also applies to an emotionally unstable partner. Don’t be with someone who constantly drags you down with them. You don’t have to be kind and generous when you’re the only one giving positivity in the relationship.
@@xornedge8204 this can be very misleading
@@adamsraphael526 I guess some people can confuse it but to make it clearer: when someone is with you and it only makes your life more miserable, the obvious thing is to not be with them any longer. The rest is up for interpretation of each person.
Melanie K
TRUTH.
In case your in a hurry
0:50 They're supportive
1:24 They engage in your personal growth
1:57 They are emotionally intelligent
2:33 They are understanding
2:56 They're kind
3:25 They're respectfull (your opinions, boundaries etc)
4:03 They know how to compromise
4:33 They accept your flaws
4:58 They share your core values.
Hope it helps you😊
Have a nice day.
Thanks, you kind and awesome creature ❤️
Tysm
Thank you, have a nice day/night/afternoon!
Youre literally an angel💖TYSM
Ues it did and i thank you for summing it up bless up
yessss to emotionally intelligent people + people who encourage you to grow!! Honestly these are traits that I would expect from a manager whos also supposed to serve as your mentor but in my experience, many of managers definitely did NOT display these traits
What do you think is the best trait anyone could have?
-Monica
@@Psych2go to be wise
I find all of these qualities in close friends then I do with an ideal partner.
@@Psych2go to be understanding
"Psych2go's mission is to make physcology and mental health more accessible to everyone"
*Everyone liked that*
thank you for making this possible. your support means a lot to us!
-Monica
@@Psych2go *ｏ(≧▼≦○〃*
These qualities are gold not only in partners, but in friends too. Cherish such people in your life. They are a real blessing.
Everyone out here looking for these traits in their bfs, gfs or future partners. While i sit here wondering how tf was i so lucky to have a best friend who has all the 9 goddamn qualities...theres a reason i believe in soulmates. Soulmates as best friends. She understands me like no one does. Its almost unreal. Im very grateful for her....i hope all of u find someone for urself. All of us deserve happiness
Hello. I was rather thinking of friends too. Pleased to know how you and others have such genuine friends and the traits mentioned above--what we need.
Thank you. I'm glad you met one of your soulmates
I am so jealous, cause I also have all of those traits and no one else is just like that, they are just disrespectful and talk shit behind my and others back. But I am so happy for you :D
Why you gotta be flexing like that?
@@JohnSmith-ns6dp He didn’t flex, wdym
I really really am loving these small leaves at their heads.There cute.
thank you!!! -Monica
@@Psych2go
:) :)
Me too!!! 😝
It keeps reminding me of sprouts in FFXIV
My girlfriend's most wonderful trait is her honesty and trust.
Even when I get lied to a lot by others and feel like I don't matter.
She's always there
I found someone I like a lot, but we both agreed we are better as friends. Doesn't have to just be romantic relationships, guys. Find these people in general, they are literal life savers!
If a person is "truly" in "love" with you, these traits will be there.
but being in love is temporary
@@ethancass6885 well said 👏
@@insidiouslyfanatic714 I think the strongest relationships don't stem from the good times together necessarily, but are ALSO deeply rooted in getting through the difficult times. My friendships and relationships would always become so much stronger after going through something difficult and being able to overcome it. Don't mistake what I am saying though, as the good times with someone absolutely still play a large roll, it's a balancing game
@@ethancass6885 Yeah, you're right!! Thanks for sharing your thought btw
@@insidiouslyfanatic714 Thank you for listening to them ;) Have a wonderful day!
Whenever me and my girlfriend have a disagreement we always come up with a compromise
To more positivity in the future x
-Monica
This made me realize my ex isn’t a narcissist and neither am I. We met after suffering narcissistic abuse and were there for each other for a long time, but we have different values and goals and neither of us is wrong for wanting what we want.
A good one ! Each not blaming the other for a break up, and knowing separation the right thing for both partners, allows both to move on without resentment and other emotional baggage. Not a bad outcome at all, assuming no children. Well done.
This! First few months after a breakup can always look like “this person is a narcissist” but after a while you just realize it was impossible to give yourself up for someone with different values.
"Simply witnessing their self-expansion can boost your level of happiness too".
I really agree with that
Honestly my favorite thing to do
I think I’m in love with the staticy effect in the art style. It’s very pretty. The music in the background is also nice as well!
same
Thank you so much for the support! :D It's cute, eh? Any suggestions for future work?
-Monica
How is your comment showing 2 months ago????????? 🤨
@Cringe oh ok thx ☺️😅
Same it’s so pretty
Here are some Time Stamps:
1. They are Supportive 0:51
2. They Engage in Your Personal Growth 1:23
3. They are Emotionally Intelligent 1:54
4. They are Understanding 2:31
5. They are Kind 2:54
6. They are Respectful 3:22
7. They know how to Compromise 3:59
8. They Accept your Flaws 4:30
9. They share your Core Values 4:57
- From a Mysterious Time Traveler
Thank you!
How is it possible?
TY :-)
@Ruchita Das channel members get to see the vid earlier
26 years I’ve been with someone with these crucial qualities. And that person…is me. ❤
Thats Great👍
Never be in a relationship😂 it's ok to watch video
HSGAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
When your boyfriend shows all these and when I put myself down he brings me back up and he loves my weirdness 🥺🥺
Edit: thanks for all the likes kind stranger x
Aww I'm happy for you 😊🙏🏽
that's so sweet!
You are blessed 🙏💕
psilove
I’m so happy for you
You deserve a boyfriend like him
Definitely all these are a must for a relationship. Communication is also important, so it's possible to transmit all the emotions. Someone who can express himself/herself good but refuse to communicate surely the other person won't be able to understand and it will probably make the other person keep chasing in case that person care a lot.
Thank you for this video ❤️
Well said! You're very wise :)
-Monica
I agree. Communication is such a strong and healthy affirmation to have in a relationship. It really levels the waters ~
I love this! Super important: if you expect your partner to have these qualities you should have these qualities as well. ❤
I am continuously working on myself to be the best version of myself that I can be for someone someday. 🙃
Bravo and fair play
What wise advice. This is so overlooked! You must be a good friend/partner before you can expect a good one.
If you have all of this qualities then you don't need a partner :D
Intelligent comment, I'm trying to do the same
@@Raziel-mq3fn I don't think relationships should be based on that you NEED a partner. Is about wanting someone to share life. Just because you have all this qualities it does not mean you want to be alone. Is not about needing someone.
I found this perfect person about 3 years ago. I thought it wasn’t possible, but she exists! This video describes our relationship the last 3 years and just reminds me of how amazing we are together.
We're celebrating 31 years of marriage this year. We've both had all of these qualities from day one, thank God. You forgot sense of humor, though. My husband still makes me laugh hard at least once a week and I try to do the same for him.
I don't know if it's good or bad to laugh once per week after 31 years together
@@ryanwondertroll Alaska said “ at least “ once a week.,,, Really sweet 🎉
Really blessed ❤🎉
@@ryanwondertroll a real belly laugh is something special... i find i don't laugh like that often at all, so i'd say laughing in that way once a week is great
this video reminds me about my video I've made in the past.. all the character traits you mentioned are valuable Thanks for Sharing
yes advertise yourself on someone else's RUclips channel
@@obay9673 Do You Think i need to make a comment to advertise Myself even if i have over 100k sub ? no bro you're wrong i just shared my thought because i love this channel
@@LifeStyleTherapy ok nice
Thank you for watching! Which trait did you find the most relatable?
-Monica
shal you don't need to be so rude, they were just trying to say to what was on they're mind. That's literally what comments are for. Please do not be so negative on such a positive thing ^^
Can we take a moment to appreciate the beautiful animation of this video? ✨
Wow, thank you so much
Number 9 is so very important. After a divorce from a man who showed none of these character traits, I vowed that I would only get involved with a person who shared my values. I started to date a guy at church (I'm a Unitarian), but he was all show and no substance. He, too, lacked many of the characteristics shown in this video as well as a few values that I found to be important. Not to be deterred, I still kept my eye out as I continued to live my life. It didn't take very long. I had to do some training for work. The instructor was interesting, and the other students in the class seemed to have a high regard for him. After the training was over, we started talking about politics. I could tell from his position on the issues that he shared some values in common with me. It turned out that he thought that I was attractive, and we started dating. I've been with him now for over 15 years. It's the best relationship that I have ever had. Hold out for someone who shares your values. You'll be glad that you did! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland
I'm also careful about meeting a man at church. A lot of them seem to use it as a Singles Mingle, even if they aren't single.
Thanks for being honest and sincere
@@SweetUniverse I did date a man from church before I met my sweetie. He was awful! So full of himself!
My friend: why are you watching this? you don't have a girlfriend
me: I CAN DREAM!
You can dream and you can set these dreams into action
Don't let your friend stop you from watching videos you have an interest in!
Yes same
aww, yes you can dream!
Dream and achieve dear sister/brother! Only you can make your dreams a reality if you wish it! Don’t let anyone get you down and stay positive ☺️
I definitely tried my best to be all this for my ex, sadly she just treated me like an option and only put in effort when it was convenient and beneficial to her... worst of all I was too dumb to realize it
I'm so sorry to hear that , i hope you find happiness with someone who treats you with all the qualities mentioned above in the video 💞😊
@@beverlyb4176 Awwwe thanks! I don't think my ex was a bad or evil person, I think we are all capable of working towards these nine character traits but that desire starts from within.
@@Outpolecat5278 wise words. And even it might be unnecessary. But it wasn't your fault they behaved as how they did. If you gave your best there's nothing to be ashamed or feel like you were dumb for not noticing.
Hey I have been there I know it hurts. You were not stupid. You trusted them. Be kind to yourself.
I'm sorry :(
not a romantic relationship but a friend of mine has all the qualities included in the video... i have known her since elementary and even if we are in a long distance, our relationship never changed and how we treat each other is all the same... i am very grateful that i've met her coz she's actually the only one i can lean on and talk about my personal thoughts... i am an introvert and it's really hard for me to open up and it took a while before i told her about my problems, but i've realized that there is nothing wrong of opening up and that i should not be ashamed. i am also glad that i told her about it (my problems) coz it helped me grow and acknowledge that i am not the only one who's struggling emotionally. i would say that she is the person i have put my trust on and whom i'm very thankful for.
thanks r.
Some people find these traits boring. They want and thrive in arguments, disagreements and doubts in relationships.
I do agree. Not sure if they are bored or just lack any level of understanding. Remember, they learn relationship values from their parents (if they were even together).
Paranoia makes chaos more comfortable than unpredictability. People can lack a sense of trust :( if someone isn’t trustworthy they need to
l e a v e
Sounds like Trauma bonding. They dont know what stable is like in their lives so they run to what is comfortable for them, which is chaos. These types of people need alot of healing and they need to want to change.
Yep ^^^ Some people have good relationships and are scared of commitment/scared because it's such a healthy relationship that they'll sabotage themselves
healing oneself is the only way out of this mindset..
This made my heart so happy 🥺 I got engaged to my fiancé a year ago, we’ve been together for 2 years. Despite’s the ups and downs, he’s had all of these qualities. We learned how to do better for each other and became a lot more resilient. At the rate we’ve been going I’ve been so grateful that he’s going to be my husband ♥️. Awesome insightful video!
"Everyone can promise the whole world to someone. But only through unconditional love can one become the whole world to someone."
There is no such thing as unconditional love, unless you have godhead conciseness, but then you would realize what solipsism is, then there is no one but you, to whom you can give unconditional love that YOU do not need!
Fantastic.
Nah, it is about dependance. I am fine with just being happy, my world is whole, and my partner is that secret spice, making great even greater.
Unconditional love does not exist. Perfect people do not exist. If you think you are loving someone unconditionally, it only means you are blind to something.
The quality of your conditions makes it love or hate.
For example, the condition of "being my child" is a high quality condition. Whereas the condition of "make me feel in control" is a low quality condition.
Unconditional anything doesn't exist. Even existence, itself, is predicated upon conditionals.
I left a toxic marriage of 23 years, spent three years rebuilding the man who was torn down that long ..
But I did, and I now have a girl who checks 9 for 9... I never knew life could be this good when you're finally with "your" person..so to all those out there coming out of abusive relationships, especially the men, there is hope. You are worth loving and finding that person who does the same back to you.
❤
thanks
Alright so I lost a person worth loosing! Thx!
Hey that’s even better. Well being first and foremost and we should never make time for people who waste our own time with disrespect, abuse and unnecessary drama
Lol SAVAGE
My Girlfriend introduced me to this channel.. and guess what she isn't anymore with me!!! But I still watch every video.. and it reminds me of her..❤️
@@litheria7267 🤭🤭🤭🤭
Rofl
Here is a little insight I wanna share:
Sometimes when we are with a certain person, we can subconsciously try to manipulate them to become something else.
This is a signal that there is a certain partner that we want, but instead of changing someone to be like that, we should pick the natural candidate, than changing someone to be something else.
This is something that I realised for me, that I had been with men that I subconsciously tried to make into something else. Not in any big extremes, but there were the subtle stuff like wanting my man to have a flannel..
I realised this just some months ago with my previous relationships.
Ren Seal, Thank you for sharing your moment of realization.
I'm sorry, but can you give an example please? I cant understand how we Do this
Ah I get it. Someone that proves themselves to fit the bill, as opposed to rose colored shades to a nice, handsome guy that may not meet qualifications? I think having a false perception of a negative partner is why people stay in unsatisfying relationships for a long time. If I’m wrong, correct me.
@@shatteredscry I'm not sure what was your thesis. If someone isn't supportive then it is best to find someone else. Of course that is difficult within the context of the current China Plague. I found that the 9 Character Traits listed in this presentation to be what I needed years ago. I'm a nice guy but ugly, I hope that you give ugly guys a chance and that you fuck them also. I don't know what was your point, but do what you gotta do & I hope everything works out.
If by flannel you mean some sort of cloth you can use to clean yourself with then EVERYONE should have one and anyone who doesn't should be dumped immediately!
A sense of humor! My husband and I make each other laugh all the time and we have now been married nearly 47 years! I think we now also possess a lot of these qualities you mentioned, but some we’ve had to work on.
The most difficult thing in any negotiation, almost, is making sure that you strip it of the emotion and deal with the facts.
We are human and so to what extent is that impossible?
-Monica
Stoics have entered the chat
Emotions are signals that needs either are or are not getting met, so stripping your emotions is, in essence, a form of blindness. Why limit your perceptive capabilities?
@@ronwisegamgee depends what the needs are.
@@ronwisegamgee, emotions are an indicator of whatever you have trained them to indicate (or ignore, respectively). Or they can be all over the place. For example, immature and self-centered people feel oppressed and rejected by mature people because the immature don't know how to respond adequately.
This affirms I'm better off without a lot of my ex's. Thank you
Preach
Me too.
Agreed.
I realized with this list here how bad my ex wife was..
Yup any relationship since "bad love" does not include marriage plans ,so........
It's great to know that your partner exhibit this qualities. But often, people go for those who isn't ideal for them. I think the people who have these qualities are more often single, while those that don't are in dysfunctional relationships. May you find the right one for you!
I just love the fact that the drawing style is soft shapes, and soft & pastel or slightly dulled colours. It helps as some bright colours and sounds can be triggering for certain mental or physical illnesses. The light, soft voice & music helps to explain things that feel like they can be understood easier. Thanks guys!
Thank you so much for sharing in depth review on this animation style. Glad you enjoy it! - Cindy
@@Psych2go You’re welcome, I just think that it’s so calming and helpful!
These are the most cherished traits you can have and look for in your partner but practically speaking the real test is 'time'.. real worth of a relationship lies in experiencing all these traits over the course of time with a some degree of certainty. Blessed to have found it. ♥️
definitely kindness for me! being kind says a LOT about a person❣
I agree. It's a conscious choice and an important one for me, too. Someone told me a long time ago that if you want to gain some insight to a potential partner's character, go out to dinner and watch how he/she interacts with the server. Sure you can be fooled, but some surprising characteristics can reveal themselves. I had a significant other who I knew was right for me because he was warm and friendly to the server and loved to tip generously even though he didn't have a lot of money. "It's a tough job" he'd say.
Whelp my last partner was definitely lacking a lot of these qualities. I was just blind to it and really didn't notice it until it was all over. Im staying positive and for sure will be listening in the next relationship. Thank you for posting!
I'm already very scared of letting go of people, just watching this to see if anyone would care to hold on to me
This is making me realize that I need better friends
I'll be your friend!!! To all people who want to be part of the psilove community... please let me know below ;D
-Monica
I feel you there. Better learning that now rather than later.
@@Psych2go fantastic! Hi to my namesake!
Aww I'd love to be your friend !! I hope you find good friends !! You are amazing !!!
@@Psych2go yess
For me, it was crucial to figure out with my boyfriend that WE are equal to each other. So being respectul is one of the main character trait that i praise the most.
Most of the guys I dated have these qualities, I’m glad to see that even though it didn’t work out, I met emotionally intelligent and kind people 💕 me and my friends also share these qualities and it’s the best thing.
I've been watching these as "friendship" partners, since it also applies there.
I have a friend that I feel really has all these traits, but we both are recovering from and working on anxiety disorders, so our communication could use some work XD
Having them around has been wonderful, tbh. Recovery is a VERY rocky road, and they've been great to have around. I just hope I can give them back even half as much positivity as what I get from even a simple "hi" from them
I can sum it up in one word …. never let go of someone who can empathize. 🥰
Well said
When you understabd other people's emotions
But not yours
Haha same bro.
lmao me
some powers do indeed have their limits
Heh, understabd
@@FlufflesMcFloof oopsie
WHAT a valuable life lesson. Every person deserves to be treated with respect, kindness & love. You also deserve a mate/spouse that cares about your intimate desires and doesn't treat you like you are just there just to satisfy them. If they constantly talk about themselves, they are not listening to you. If they only care about their career or what they want, they don't care about you. There are a lot of crazy mean people out there. Don't let them attach themselves to you.
This is also true for your best friend! I personally identify as an asexual but I found this video helpful. These are the traits I value and appreciate with my best friend. So glad they exist ❤
Guys I'm getting there, it's taken years of self-improvement, but I've improved a lot
My girl and me made our relationship official yesterday. And now i get this video recommended. I'm pretty sure she and me both seem to hit all 9 of those :))
Congratulations to you both!
My girl and I, not me. You wouldn’t say, “me made our engagement public”, would you?
Hey 7 months in how is your relationship bro?
ITs too early to tell I guess...
it's been a year, how's the relationship going? are you guys doing fine there?
this is freaking amazing. I really appreciate that people put this kind of stuff out there. thank you for helping all of us through our struggles.
This brought grateful thoughts to my mind and heart❤️
I’m feeling very blessed with my husband and our, almost 19yrs, relationship. He’s a very good man and my best friend 🥰
I’ve been watching your videos for quite a while and I appreciate all of them. I appreciate the ones about relationships since I’m currently in one and it puts my mind more at ease to know that I have the right partner to spend my life with. Keep doing an amazing job!!
i'll keep these in mind when i actually do think about getting a partner
Great Let me know what you thought of the video!
-Monica
The two most important traits I would focus on from here are sharing core values and emotional intelligence. I am a generally passive communicator, so I would find it difficult right now to keep open communication up with a partner since I commonly compartmentalize my emotions and don’t typically share my feelings too often. I would like to embody all these traits myself before expecting them from someone else, but who knows, maybe I’ll meet someone who is also self aware and wants to grow in partnership 🙂
it's important to be aware of what you tend to struggle with in relationships and where you need + want to grow, but i think having that awareness and a desire to develop through communication can lead to a healthy, wonderful partnership. be honest with yourself and your partner, and trust that your communication won't scare them. if you have someone who cares about this growth as well, it will help both of you and you'll only grow stronger because of it. you don't have to be perfect before you open yourself up to loving and being loved.
What you're describing to me is that you are an introvert. You have to be careful because you will always attract an extravert and that person will do a lot of talking which will probably get on your nerves. It's very important for introverts to practice talking & share feelings in a relationship and not expect the partner to read your mind. Do not give hints and do not make your partner try to get you to communicate because introverts can be very moody. There is no greater punishment for an extravert that loves to talk than to have a partner who will not communicate effectively and who constantly pouts. If you expect to keep your thoughts & compartmentalize them, remain single your happiest alone. I am just a friend who also is a counsellor.
@@elliemerc01 Why is it that they will ALWAYS attrack an extravert? Two introverts make a lot of sense to me 🤔
I hope I find someone with these traits one day
Maybe You be that - that someone will find.
hopeful for you :)
-Monica
My partner shares some of those core values!
They end up making me feel safe and secure when I'm with them without a judgmental environment we're both growing as well so it always feels nice to have that safe haven with them.
They're kind, understanding, respectful (sometimes), willing to compromise, accepts flaws. But we both lack emotional intelligence towards each other at times. They're somewhat inexperienced and my experienced often leaves me second guessing or looking for help elsewhere. Yet, we make each other happy and recognize the other has flaws so this video really opened my eyes.
In my almost 30 years of life, I haven’t had a chance to meet someone, not even a partner or a best friend or even a family member that has these traits. I pray that one day, I’ll meet one and so as all of you too 🤍 hang in there.
Update (June 3, 2022):
Finally meet someone that’s almost have all those traits and he proposed to me 💐
You dont need someone to make you happy, you're enough
@@sleverlight thanks for the +ve reminder buddy 🤍 you rock!
@@leorufi39 No worries, thank you too. I think its good to work on self love because we all deserve so much love
If you can’t find that person, be that person.
@@eap61789 already am. Being taken for granted all the time 🙂
It's very hard to find someone who understands me an Introvert.
Relatable :')
-Monica
I am an introvert, I understand you.
Very relatable. After dating many extroverts, I would only be happy with introverted partners. I find that one person’s attention isn’t enough for extroverts...they need energy and introverts tend to give energy
Hi, i am extrovert but i love him who is an introvert. Indeed sometimes I feel lonely when he needs me time. But there is nothing more pleasing to see him happy enjoying his time. And that's love. it's all about compromise.
I will pray for you, so that she who wants to understand you will come soon 🙏
So... I gotta say... I'm glad that this channel exists.
AND I'm impressed...
Not ONE of those things had anything to do with fame, fortune, or fakeness.
That's one of the biggest problems MOST people face these days, is they either care too much about what society at the large thinks, OR they're only focused on money, or the top tier types of people.
EVERYONE needs to see this video, specifically for the sake of making people realize that it's okay to have flaws, as long as all nine of these things are at least being attempted to the best of one's ability... they're a good partner.
This was a breath of fresh air. Thank you.
This video made me think of my boyfriend. I'm so blessed having you Joleos. Thank you.
I've had many relationships (I started dating a little too young) and this video made me notice that never in my life I've been with someone who's emotionally intelligent... Yet! 😌🥰
Wow! My husband and I are 9/9 traits! I knew our relationship was good, and this is just more proof of it. Thank you for posting this video! I'm going to share it, especially with my daughters. Such great information! Keep up the good work! :D
That's awesome!! Congrats
you restore my faith in that possibility... i hope it still applies. ❤️🙏
"Compromise doesn't mean one wins and the other loses".
Man, you genuinely are wise about these things!
What a nice change from all of the abusive compromise between toxic couples that I usually see in media and on social media, whenever I have nothing to do on the internet and just check out some dumb drama to pass the time!
Most importantly as long you’re comfortable with them, it’s perfect
Honestly I like a friend that trusts me enough to be their shoulder to cry on, and someone that does the same for me. Someone that i can just talk and talk to, after Im about to explode and they just smile and nod. That’s a good friend lol
My long distance girlfriend and I share all of these qualities with each other. Being able to talk when we're not busy with something else is both of our favorite parts of the day.
My partner and I share most everything you mentioned. He is better at everything than I am, but we are good at accepting each other's flaws and weaknesses. We are very happy that we found each other!! Thanx fir the great video! ❤️
I watch most of these videos because her voice is so soothing. She could describe a murder and I'd still listen without my anxiety kicking in😌
I believe being at the same level of understanding of honesty and authenticity are very important. That is the foundation we build our personality upon.
I think these character traits are also lovely to have in friendships. ❤️
i'm not in a relationship but it's so nice hear these beautiful signs
By knowing thyself, and honestly speaking, I have the 9 qualities.
On the flip side, most people I have in my life doesn’t, and I end up compromising way too much...😢😢😢😢😢😢
How can I find someone healthy for me when I'm not even healthy for me
You can start by working towards being healthy for yourself! :) How can I help?
-Monica
@@Psych2go what a beautiful answer!! Hugs to Howling Wolves!
Ask yourself why you don't deserve what's best for you, and dig deep into the reason why you feel that way.
@@ethancass6885 that’s beautiful!!
Begin the love story of yourself. Self exploration is such a rewarding experience for your well being! What flowers do you like? what do you want to treat yourself to in the morning? What hobbies radiate your glow? What self compliments and affirmations make you blush and smile? The bond with yourself is the strongest bond in the universe to have.
Omg I absolutely love the little hoouman illustrations soooooo much!! 😍😍😍
The animation is just so cute 🥰 also the background music 💕 It really makes your videos unique 😊 Psychology is complicated at times and you guys just make everything easy, thank you so much ♥️
One thing you left out, is learning to recognize when your partner is wearing themselves out emotionally with all the empathy. Give them a break. It can become a crutch to constantly need all this "kindness and understanding".
Someone can have all or most of these traits and still be let go. To stay together needs mutual goal and mutual commitment.
Sometimes we are struggling... but we can learn many of these things from a loving partner. Love has motivated me more than anything because you cannot love properly if YOU arent loving YOU.
I really like your videos. Animation is sweet and the writing is great! Simple and clear so its easy to process 🤝
That awkward moment when your girlfriend with all of these traits left you because the chemistry died and she didn’t think it was worth trying anymore.
Then she did not have those traits. You only think she did.
I know the feeling! My ex didn't want to work things out she just ended it. I was the one willing to work things out even after all the arguements
Did you have all of those traits though?
As a woman, I can say a big part of chemistry for a woman towards a man is feeling appreciated and like she matters to that man, while physical attraction plays less of a role (Thus the phenomenon of the attractive woman with the ugly man).
I recently got out of a relationship where I told my ex about things that made me scared or frustrated in general and that involved both of us and he played it down like my fears and frustration didn't matter to him and where the efforts I made to be kind to him I felt like he took for granted. That quickly killed any chemistry I had for him and for that and other reasons that relationship ended and I never want to be with him again.
Try saying that but add in a wife of 12 years. That was almost 3 years ago and I'm finally back to being ok with me. Finally seeing a woman I was attracted to and meet shortly after my divorce. She's a kind loving person and quite a bit younger than me so in my eyes she's gorgeous but I keep it close, because I don't think I'd want to go through all that again. I will never forget the Saturday morning I get out of the shower walk into the living room and the ex says the kids went for a drive and we need to talk. Hands me a letter saying she will always love me, im greart father and a good husband. But she started a social media hook up with her boyfriend from school and said that I would never be the true love of her life and we both deserve to be happy and she wants a divorce. We even had a rocky time in the past that I excepted my fair share contributing to that period. I thought once we made it out the other side that her and I would be for life. I learned that that kind of dedication and honor rarely exists anymore especially for a woman.
@@NurseLady7 I understand really well what you experienced, so just wanted to send you positive vibes. I just broke up with mine for the same reasons exactly
When you realize this description of a perfect relationship can happen only if you find that one person who would understand you and would want to commit to their partner and the other way around. It's highly unlikely for someone to find their perfect match without improvising or submitting to the other person in some way and even then it can happen that they find someone else who can fill that role better than you, be you as supportive, generous and/or commited to keeping up your relationship. Every individual is unique and flawed in their own way and that flaw can sometimes show out after several years of relationship which could break it in a moment.