i feel like one of the worst feelings is when you realize that you and the other person arent compatible but you still like them A LOT. Like they have the same values but other aspects of your lives are incompatible and you cant overlook that
@Sam Elle - Yes, initially a bad feeling, but this is an enlightened growth period when your various thoughts and experiences have come together to confirm a cogent decision, sometimes painful, sometimes happy. Good luck, best wishes for happy times!
@@Pepo.. Being the "right" person means you see yourself, and know what is right and wrong with the way you act or behave, and make progress in fixing those issues. Not making yourself "that right person" means you're a child and don't see the wrongs in your own person
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
To the person reading this, you deserve a loving passionate relationship, don't let someone who doesn't see your worth treat you bad. You deserve better!
Don't believe in soul mates, our quality of life, nobody's perfect, you may not be compatible if it wasn't meant to be, don't share the same interests or lifestyle, is anyone willing to change their attitude, creatures of habit🆘⛔🚩✅💲
It is better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there, or does not want to be there; people who are unhappy with their relationship are more depressed than single people who feel lonely. Never search happiness in others which will make you feel alone, search it in yourself, you will feel happy even if you are left alone
If ya don't have time to watch: 1. You don't get each other (1:23) 2. You're too different from each other (1:58) 3. You try to change each other, not grow and learn together (2:41) 4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing (3:34) 5. You attain peace by avoiding all the problems (4:14) 6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else (4:59) 7. You're not attracted to them (5:43) Here ya go guys! I recommend you watch the video too, so as to understand some of the points better if/when you can.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
Wow my relationship literally checked all of these! It's sucks when you love and care about someone and don't want to let go, bc in your mind somehow someway you just hope things will fall into place. Sometimes you just have to face the facts though, as hard as it may be. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, just bc you want it to be this person and it's not, you can't lose hope. You are unique and wonderful and the right people who get you will find their way to you when the time is right.
@@stars_for_night_lights Yes only recently! It was very hard to do. I still love this person. All you can do is give your very best, always. When it's time to leave, accept what is. It will be hard at first but the hurt won't last forever. You will find your person, and you will experience the love and happiness you deserve.
This list is so accurate! My ex and I ended the relationship due to incompability issues, she initiated the break up then. Looking back, I can't thank her enough because I could have never initiated the break up. I wasn't very honest with myself then. Dear Ex, Thank you so much for letting me go. ☺️
It's great to hear stories like yours can also happen. It's easy to get stuck in emotions and blaming, so it's good to hear that you were able to grow and learn instead. :)
They keep repeating the same mistake even though they promised they wouldn't. They never listen to what you have to say. Your relationship looks more like a battlefield than a love affair.👍
They don't repeat the same mistakes because repeating mistakes are no more considered as mistakes but they do it on purpose because you don't set any boundaries with them...You let them in all the time...Why? Don't you have some self-respect for yourself?? Because apparently if you allow them to use you and treat you like trash...They aren't to be blamed but you are to be blamed! Because you control your life and you need to know when and how to say NO when you have to say NO...You tell me why would you want some trashbag come back into your life all the time? They figured out that you don't have self-respect that's why they don't feel ashamed of treating you like trash...Trust me when i say that you deserve better!
Personally, I will know by the second or third date if I think there this is worth investing the time, effort and emotions into. I don't need any more drama. Don't make it complicated! If all she does is talk about herself, then walk away and let her talk to herself because it's all about her! At 68, I know damn well what is acceptable and what isn't! I do have a high bar because I am a t-bone steak not a chicken breast!
People, there is so much more to relationships than just being in love. That part is easy; we are by our nature designed to love. But, we need more than just love to make a relationship work for the long term. We need a companion that we can rely on to be there for us, someone who shares the same Big Picture goals and wants to SHARE a life with us, but can also function independently and allow us enough room to do the same so we can still both grow as individuals. It's a tall order for a task of 40+ years of life. Sadly, many couples do not make it, and of those who do not, I believe at keast half of them could have if they had only acknowledged the problems they had at the onset and started working to correct them right away, rather than waiting until those problems became monsters that swallowed their families whole. That is the other secret to relationships: you might find yourself in love with someone, but you have ti work to stay there.
Chemistry is important it doesn't mean a one night stand its in your eyes I no expert been on my own to many years if you meant to be it will step back and see what happens
Not much good if the significant other wont do any work and keeping it going all comes from you. After 21 years of trying at 66 I am letting go and hoping for the best!
I’ve been feeling so sad lately because of this guy that *ACTS* like he loves me, but that wore thin ever since he realized that I actually *DID* love him… it hurts out here.
i hope youll get over it as soon as possible Theres so much more to discover and experience that shouldnt be dragged down by just one person *sending virtural hug :D
Same. I feel the same too before. Happened to me before. Then I feel like I'm a dumbass human being and fell in love with a narc. I stop loving him after that. I don't like people toying with my feelings.
"However, it can be hard to differentiate normal differences and incompatibility." FINALLY...! Someone said it! This is what people don't really talk at all. At this is why it gets a like from me. And made me watch it till the end.
I disagree with the last point. I’m about to celebrate my 6th wedding anniversary with my husband, and I am pregnant with our 3rd child about to give birth. I love my husband so very deeply and I am in love with him as well- but I was not super attracted to him in the beginning nor did I ever really feel those “butterflies.” My love for him grew over time and it’s super, super solid much more solid and deep than I ever had with men I was super attracted to and infatuated with in my past.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
I always believed this type of relationships is the best since you get to know the person first and love them for who they are rather than how they look, and when you love them they'll probably become more attractive to you
This was interesting, but difficult to watch since I'm married to someone with autism and a lot of our seeming incompatibility has to do with communication challenges... I often wonder what relationship advice would look like for neuro-divergent people. Would love to see this channel make a video about relationships for autistic people.
Always know your worth, if you feel like someone isn't meant for you, don't settle, just move on and better things and people will come into your life.
I’d also add when you can’t go alone to different activities or events with just your significant other. I just ended a long term relationship and every weekend especially during the summer months were filled with events with his friends, family and their significant others. Most of our alone time was sitting in the house and if I wanted to go somewhere his first question would always be “who’s going”? Man, I’m too old for this shit. His idea of a companion just didn’t align with mine.
I think the biggest issue that I notice in most relationships, especially unhealthy ones, is the expectation of perfection. Another issue is when one partner surrogates another as a parent. A lot of people assume incompatibility stems from not enjoying the same kind of media or interests, however I often find that it stems from emotional immaturity. A problem even found in most friendships. Especially if the other party has to hold the other's hand. We all have moments when we need help, however it's an altogether different beast when one party expects the other to do things for them on a constant basis.
@Gamer tag this happened to me recently. Someone who I was dating for a little over 3 months ended thing because they believed I had trust issues with them when all I really wanted to know is where we stood. How they felt about me and them. It’s been a little over a week now and I just can’t stop replaying our conversations over and over in my head I just don’t understand how someone can erase everything else and just focus on their own reality of things because truth is each and every one of our realities are different. It’s unfair for you to assume how I’m feeling and thinking and after I explain how I’m feeling and thinking you deny the fact. Why ask if you already made up your mind?
@@aurielove9177 bless your heart! I'm sorry you went through that! Yes, it's awful when someone can't look at anything but their own reality. It's like they don't trust YOU, when you try to explain what you're thinking and feeling. That's not solely unique to narcissists; lots of people can't understand things they've never experienced or felt and, as a result, they DO make up their minds that they know what the "real deal" is, even before they ask you anything. However, a narcissist does have a unique way of turning the entire situation on you, so they don't have to accept any blame or responsibility for anything, even if you DO have legit negative feelings toward something they're doing... As difficult as I'm sure it must be right now, try to remember that you deserve better!
Going into the 3rd day of a break up. Realizing more and more we were less compatible than I thought...I didn't wanna believe it for the longest time cause we loved each other but now I know it wasn't meant to be....I wish him the best and want him to be happy.
Incompatibility is too deep to understand completely in any relationship. When there is a certain level of mutual understanding, respect and patience with each other everything else falls into place.
Keep being supportive of her (you can state your point of view about the relationship so she knows where you stand, but try not to be agressive about it) and being a safe harbour. There's no changing someone's mind on this matter, but being there when she realize she's made a mistake is going to make it easier to help her move on or get help if needed.
@@haruekferreira8942 It's not my place to tell her what to do...She is a grown up adult to realise this and make her own decision...But as a friend I just had to be honest...But she told me she is still in love with him...Well i guess they're are right when they say that love is blind...
She's BADLY blind, I bet she has never felt real love before? She really needs someone to talk sense to her head. If she won't listen and keeps blindly going for him then you can't help her, it'll be sadly her problem.. She is blind because of the manipulation, but once she realizes how she's being treated it'll leave deep scars, but you'll learn to set boundaries and have some self-respect once you've experienced mistreatment, not everyone learns from it but hopefully she does..
I have been married for 9 years and collectively together with my husband for 12 years…I was completely blind for over half of our time together and really wished I would have had access to awareness like this back in the beginning of our relationship. We are trying to mend, but so much damage has already been done. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
-ok here are free timestamps for everyone! ur welcome! :D 🧃✨ 7 signs of an incompatible relationship: 1. You don't get each other 1:23 2. You are too different from each other 1:58 3. You try to change each other not grow and learn 2:42 4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing 3:34 5. You attain peace by avoiding all the problems 4:15 6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else 5:00 7. You're not attracted to them 5:44 I hope u have a great rest of ur day!
I totally agree to build a strong relationship need time, dedication, and ongoing efforts. But, at times we tend to forget all these points. It is a great reminder!
Who else is crying watching this? I lose interest too easy due to the qualities and traits I look for being non-existent. It makes me sad sometimes that I can’t find someone I will choose to love everyday.
I think that's why courtship is an important process.. it allows you to get to know each other. And being friends with them first before jumping into a romantic relationship. And all the things have been said here will be fulfilled
I appreciate non-verbal cues, I really do. But, if someone isn't going to speak their mind, I can't base my attempts to care based on me being an irrational mind reader. Because when it comes to something that seems like it would be mutually nice or pleasurable, I default to thinking that it's wishful thinking on my part. Also, if verbal communication is with held or unequivocal words are used for too long, it feels like manipulation. I try to fight the feeling of distrust, but eventually it will win out if a friend or partner does not bring clarity.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
It's just a few months late I had my first break up and we have all signs I noticed my boyfriend was changing himself for me . He started loving k-pop although he didn't like the music he stopped to talk to his friends for me and I felt so guilty I often told him to do what he wants don't be what I want but he just wanted to show his good side As for I didn't change but tbh I got emotionally blackmailed it was like " you don't have to block him but I don't like him" "don't exercise I want to be my cubby bear" "talk to me we can even retake class" I was so Trapped in that relationship . For everyone we were perfect but only I knew we were not right for each other . Now I broke up with him but these signs just reminded me that my first relationship was such a mess
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️
you could Have Given that guy A chance at least he was beign serious for you And you Just Dumped him...You could have helped him and Tried explaining him cuz he's your boyfriend isn't he?Well maybe you are miss populer and May have A replacement ..well in any case He's free now and broken
@@angadjoshi7909 Lol I'm sure the guy was no Saint. Sure he was changing himself for her, but from what she's saying, looks like he was emotionally manipulating the girl. Which is wrong.
Don’t agree with #1 because no one should be expected to innately understand you if you don’t communicate with them properly. You understand yourself best first and foremost. Also kinda shitting on people on the autism spectrum with that one where they might not pick up on social cues as easily. Perhaps #1 should emphasize a willingness to understand and communicate effectively rather than mind reading and unrealistically believing that someone can be perfectly in sync with you and your emotions
@@cynthx that comes with time and deepening your connection with someone. It shouldn't be a concrete expectation to have a healthy, compatible relationship
@@sarahsmith8543 it shouldn't be an expectation- if it's something that happens organically. op saying that it's unrealistic is a projection of their own shortcomings and is dismissive of the phenomena that many people experience.
I understand what you aresaying but after spending 2 years in a relationship that didn't feel right from the beginning i came to the conclusion that some level of sameness and understanding is esencial, no matter how hard you try, if they don't get you you will feel utterly alone in the relationship, and guess what, they will too. Because i didn't get him either, we just tried reallly hard but we were hurting ourselves all along.
I was friends w/ my husband for 7 years before I realized I had more than just friendship feelings for him. He had had feelings for me the whole time, but respected the fact that I wasn't ready to be more than friends. For 2 yrs we had a wonderful relationship, then he got into a serious big rig accident. The brain damage he suffered affected his whole brain, not just one part. It's been about 18 yrs since that happened, & he recovered so well that most people can't tell he ever had a problem. But the man I married is gone. I still love him very much, but my heart is broken every day because he's still emotionally disconnected from me. I know he still loves me, but he's unable to even listen to how I feel - he can't understand what I'm talking about & he gets mad at himself for that. This situation is tearing me to pieces - we were so good together, brought out the best in each other. Now I feel alone.
@@marianzambe2518 : Thank you for your kindness. It helps me to have someplace where I can learn to be honest about what's happened to us; sometimes just speaking the truth can be deeply healing. I know I need to let myself be sad, but I try hard not to get stuck there. I'm still very lucky - he did survive, he's still a good man and we still love each other. Blessings on you ☮💚🌸🙂
After watching this video I realized that me and my ex weren’t on the same vibe anymore. Back in the beginning of our relationship we were very alike, we liked the same things, talked about the same things but as we grew older, our differences started to show. I wanted to study pharmacy and she wanted to study biomedicine, but after a while she started law school and I started to study pharmacy. We used to go out with our friends but because of the pandemic it was just her and I. We started our relationship when she was 16 and I was 17, we ended our relationship after 3 years, I’m now 20 and she’s now 19, we are different people compared to back then. It’s very hard, we were very naive, in 2019 and 2020 we would be mad to each other but we had convo still, but in 2021 things just got way more intense, she didn’t have enough patience, I did things that maybe have caused her to be more insecure, but I tried to right my wrongs, because well… As human that’s what we all try to do, at least that’s what I think. But she didn’t think that way, she couldn’t handle our relationship no more. For the last 4 to 5 months of our relationship it was just me holding things up, I know that because she told me that every night she was going to bed thinking about the things we went through. In august 2021 I broke up with her but I went after her 1 week later, she accepted me again but after that, things weren’t like before. I tried to right my wrongs, as I said. We traveled a lot with her family, with my family, with our friends, but that wasn’t enough, she was already fed up. She broke with me and she was happy, happier than she was with me, she went out with her friends one day after she broke up with me, was already talking to other dudes and I was like: “where did I messed up?”. Now I see that I didn’t do anything horribly wrong, neither her, but our connection was lost, that’s why she left me and now I left her (finally). Anyways, being in a relationship requires a lot of energy, attention and care, if you give someone that but you fell that the other is not giving the same amount of that to you… Don’t wait, they won’t change, they won’t be like they were in the past, if things got colder and your cabin started to fall apart, just grab your coat and go after somewhere else, find another place to stay, or better, build your own house, your own things and after having all that you should go find love again.
Being spiritually balanced in my opinion is the most important thing. Everything else hinges off of that. If you can’t go deep spiritually with your loved one you’ll always feel kind of alone
Man. I wish i had found something like this sooner. I probably could have saved him so much trouble, effort, and hurt. Still. This is a good wake-up call for any future relationship I could find.
I broke up with someone recently and it left this weird feeling All the points in this video were checked off, and even in the relationship I felt we never had anything in common. I realized there was no chemistry and one sided passion, as I realized I'm aromantic. I hope this feeling passes. It's a mix of regret, relief, guilt and loss It was definitely a good decision to break up though
I really found this video very helpful. I have a wonderful man that treats me very well and always tells and shows me how much he loves me. With all of that I still have negative feelings for myself. I'm not a "typical" normal brained person. I have PTSD, Anxiety, and depression. My therapist also told me that I'm an HSP, and an empath. It's so hard for me to control my feelings and emotions. I will keep trying and do some of the suggestions. Thank You for the great videos.
These videos has been helping me cope and understand my loss of someone who I loved. If only I found these videos sooner, it would helped me understand that she and I would have never worked out. There will be someone else who is more compatible for me.
7 signs of incompatible relationship: 1. 1:23 you don't get eachother 2. 1:58 you're too diffirent from eachother 3. 2:42 you try to change eachother not grow and learn 4. 3:34 there is constant or highly frequent arguing 5. 4:15 you attain peace by avoiding all the problems 6. 5:00 your socialising is isolated from everyone else 7. 5:44 you're not attracted to them Hope you enjoy
honey i am impressed by your voice. i have never ever ever in my life heard such a soothing, calming voice! make a podcast sis! i am so fkin impressed. i love your voice. not tryna be creepy aight? just saying you have a wonderful spiritually soothing voice and i love it.
I love this channel. You have helped me cope with my flaws and my problems. You've even helped me understand the signs my crush was giving me that she liked me, and we have been happily together for a month now
Yes we're incompatible. 😞 I ended it a few days ago and he realized we both don't want the same things so it's now mutual. Idk if i can even be friends with him. I miss talking to him. But maybe it's really better not to exist in each other's lives. 💔
well if you want to be single then you can stay that way but love will come to you soon!! i thought i wasnt gonna get a s/o but look at me now, i've been taken for 2 years!!
Just broke up almost a week now. I think I’ve known we’re not compatible from the start but like the intro of the video mentioned, it could also have been that we just needed to compromise and learned to love each other’s differences. But deep down we know we are just different. Different interests, circle of friends, lifestyle and values. Not to mention I’ve been holding a grudge to a one-time mistake to this day. I thought I could look past that and continue the relationship. I just couldn’t change my values for that person anymore. I’m glad I walked away.
All pertains to me. Being loved blind can really affect your relationship. When you can't be your own true self, this is red flag your relationship won't work. Especially if you have different parenting styles with this person. Totally brings out the worst in each other. It is really hard to get out of this toxic relationship.
At this point my ptsd from this marraige is destroying me. He is happy that I have quite down but here I am sitting alone having difficulty even faking a smile. A small incident as he calls it is making me literally feel like I am trapped in a deep dry well with sounds of me sobbing curled up in a corner. "Forget and move on" these words have made the happy social confident girl in me disappear. My kids are the reason I stay.
More power to you . I think you should share whatever you feel because that will compel him to at least acknowledge your feelings. I know I am no one to suggest you , I don't know what you might have gone through but instead you can give a try. And if this doesn't work , LET ME KNOW BY REPLYING IN THE COMMENT SECTION.
Another incompatibility is being too similar to your partner whether it's their personality, hobbies, or the way you bounce off each other, however this can also apply to your flaws being too similar such as bad living habits, emotional volatility, or even having the same level of immaturity, which can turn into a toxic dynamic where even though the passion burns brightly like a supernova it also burns out and blows up into a blackhole sucking up your sense of self until you and the partner seem indistinguishable when you look at them or yourself in the mirror.
I had none of these signs with my ex-gf, but I broke up with her because she lied to me and stole (fake) money, and even after that happened, I wanted to move on with the relationship but I couldn’t trust her in it anymore, so I still broke it off.
The only thing that concerns me is the friendship one, Ive made the effort but I'm very anti-social and have horrible social anxiety but I have made improvements
Don’t worry I am too, when my partner has a social event he knows I won’t want to go so he goes by himself and he is fine with that he probably prefers it lol, when you meet someone who gets you this will not be an issue (:
These videos invariably leave me feeling deeply embarrassed and depressed lol. All the positive relationship ones I find out I never had. All the negative relationship ones I'm nodding my head! Clearly the problem is me
Whoa, are you me? All 7 signs, friends and family point us away from each other but she says that we are special and regular advice doesn't apply to the special connection we share...saying opposites attract, that it's ok not to understand each other, refusing to talk about our relationship, and guilt tripping me into thinking I'm "giving up" when I want to walk away from us
I think the person that I’m dating right now is not the right one for me. I love them very much and I want them to be happy, but I think we would be better as just friends. I don’t know how to tell them because I know that they will be very hurt.
It's better to get hurt once and for all than not telling them anything and then suffer later on with that person...Be honest with yourself and with your own feelings...The person will appreciate your honesty and will move on and will heal with time...
Because trust me...If you decide to tell him right now, then you will end up this relationship in a decent way by being honest with yourself and your own feelings and also because you respect this person and you really want the best for them but if you decide to lie to yourself and pretend you like them when you don't, then this relationship, overtime may get worst...Because of the lack of compatibility, you will have dirty fights and then might end up breaking up in a very toxic and ugly way... So you use your mind, and think which one of them do you prefer? Telling this person honestly and ending things between rach other decently and toxic-free? Or pretend to love each other and continue faking this relationship until things get dirty in the future and then you break up in a hating, frustrated and ugly way, hating each other?
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
Oh Wow! This is soooooo frighteningly accurate. My first marriage lasted 11 years and all these were true. How it lasted THAT LONG, I’ll never know.... My beloved husband and I now have said to each other “you get me” along with every other item on this list. This vid is very cool.
i was recently in a very brief relationship with someone i was not attracted to. we had similiar interests, but for me there was no attraction/chemistry. i ended it!
Was dating a woman for about 2 months and 6 of these reasons are why I ended it. I've grown a lot and know the differences between something mutual or being different enough it won't last.
one thing to note is that you don't have to be 100% perfect to find the right person. Rather it's more about working together to progress towards a common goal. While also setting healthy boundaries.
I'm attracted to my wife emotionally but not physically. Like I love her and would do anything for her but since nobody I know can hear me or see this message comment I can admit that she's not very good looking. However that's ok because I don't mind that she's ugly because I love her despite that.
I realize that I check 4 of the 7 things on this list. However it is so hard to let go, I think I know when I need to let this person go and start forging my own happiness, not constantly walking on egg shells.
I want to know how asexuality would factor on Robert Sternberg's theory. Because that 7th point made it seem like without attraction, there's no possibility of a romantic relationship... :/
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️
I am over 50 now, my partner, is 2 decades younger. We have been together for almost a decade! I have never loved anyone, as I do him. Based on this video we are NOT in an incompatible relationship, but based on the fact I clicked this video it means something in the algorithm seems to think I have doubts. I don't. Thanks for the vid.
Sad part is when you would mess up at times, and she would be so forgiving. But when she would not be perfect, you saw a reason to lash out. Glad I came across the channel, Lord knows I'm working on myself... hope I can be in her life one day
As always I feel like these things shouldn't be taken too literal, and you should consider factors to your own particular situation at hands. Especially the "you've never met their friends or family" thing. Not everyone has a good relationship with their family, some people wish to avoid their family altogether. They're not "not" introducing you due to something about you, but because they sincerely do not want to be in a family situation that might have been toxic, which should be their right. Same for friendships, not everyone has a whole gang of close friends. Particularly later in life when everyone works a job, people move away etc. It might be impossible for your lover to see their friends anymore, let alone introduce you to them. Several factors in life might thus have an influence on how your relationship goes, but you shouldn't let that ruin your relationship.
Clicked this worried I might hear something that made me question my relationship, instead I'm now sighing and smiling to myself and texting him about how awesome he is :D
Just saw this on my suggested vids because the caption is interesting. Didn't expect that I'll hear a soothing voice that I can listen to all day and learn so much. Thank you for this! 😊
I adore him, I'm in love with him. He claims to be in love with me too but I want FIERY PASSION and he seems to be the polar opposite.. I want to see him as much as possible/as often as possible (not in a needy or clingy way) but he seems to be the opposite. He is fine or content not seeing me for 5 weeks straight it would seem.. he is a GREAT guy, I used to be attracted to abusers but finally got myself deeply attracted to this amazingly sweet and good man. But I'm FREEZING to death over here next to the candle he gives me when I want FIRE.😢 What do I do? I also don't like that if he dislikes something I do; I change my behaviour but if I dislike something he does or doesn't do: he just keeps doing it. Ugh.. he's a great man. But I feel so low, we seem incompatible.
Same with me..he can't go out often ,even though both of us are not officially in a relay ,but deep down I want him badly as my partner..he treats me with love , patient and support..but his family won't let him to meet me.He had to lie to his parents whenever he wants to meet me.I feel bad for making him lying to his own parents ,just for meeting me..but he says , that is the only choice he have in order to keep meeting me.For now ,it has been a busy schedule for both of us.We rarely chat during the day as he has to finish his assignments but I'm okay with that ,as long as he has his night times for me ,to call me before we sleep..and it has been 2 weeks we are not meeting each other...but this is fine for me...I'm just hoping that he could meet me often...it's not that I'm clingy ,it's just that I missed him so much ,to have his companion infront of me..let's hope for the best...
He's probably more logic-based than emotions-based such as yourself. Likely more introverted as well. Quality time and words of affirmation are likely not his love languages. Communication and compromise are things to try or it won't work.
@@basskitten808. thank you so much for ur advices.We fought really bad last night because he was too busy with his assignments.We started talking from 12 midnight but he was stressed up with me cause I asked him for his time.He urged me to be patient that he would only be busy for this week.I stayed up with him all night to accompany him with his work and slept at 5 am.This weekend. ,we are planning to meet.But somehow I feel like something gonna goes wrong...I hope that he won't cancelling plans in the last min.Thank you so much for ur advices ,I will surely talk to him to figure things out wether he really wants me in his life or just treating me and keeping me to accompany him.I can't stay with a guy that can't even have me in his time and I won't be teaching him how to manage time for me...it feels like I'm lowering my standards again just to be with a guy...He is a very great ,loving man..but it seems like there are differences between us that just can't clicked and it really making me worried...plus ,his parents won't let him befriend with me ...which makes me even frustrated.
@@nurfarzanaabdullah58 I have a similar problem. We are not in an official relationship yet, even though we've been dating for 5 months now. But we've known eachother via FB for almost 3 years, I comforted him for months after he lost his mother.. he's a Capricorn male though, so I know I need a lot of patience due to his cautious and slow-moving energy, he takes things very slow and serious, wanting to get to know a girl fully first, which I appreciate. But we have both said we are in love with eachother.. but how is he in love or getting to know me when we don't see eachother more than once a month? It were 3 weeks, 3 weeks and then 5 weeks and now after 1 week he ignored the day I asked to see him.. I don't understand. He is so good to me, so kind and sweet, patient and loving, said this song "die for you" made him think of how he feels for me. There I saw that passion. But 5 weeks apart is ridiculous when it takes just a 40 minutes drive to see eachother! I feel uncared for.. where is the warm burning fire where he says he can't stand being apart from me? I'm freezing to death! I want this kind man.. I finally left behind my narcissist ex and found a good man, only to have my emotional needs unmet.. I would be happy if it were "only" every 2 weeks that we saw eachother honestly, and feel pissed off when other people complain "it's been a whole week" oh what I wouldn't give for just one week apart.. I don't know what to do. We must simply be incompatible and I shouldn't take that personally. This hurts so much. I'm sorry for your pain too, that your guy has to hide you from his family? That must feel horrible... what do we do with these men?
@@basskitten808. The thing is, I personally have Social Phobia though and he doesn't, I'm also more introverted than him. But I would agree with your observation that he might be more logically based whereas I am more emotionally, definitely. However, as beautiful and true as your advice is to communicate; I did. I told him it's unacceptable to me that more than 2 weeks passes between us meeting, and he understood me and what I feel. But it looks like it will head passed 2 weeks yet again. He is crossing the boundary I set... should I give up? I feel like I have... thank you both for your comments though.
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Me and my boyfriend are incompatible in many ways but we're both ok with that and we've found ways to make it work because we really love each other and we want each other VERY much. It's not always easy but it works for us😌❤ Being compatible is not necessary for a fulfilling relationship tbh
Tbh I really needed to read this,I feel like people make it seem as if someone needs to be compatible with you for it to work. So your comment was the only one that really stood out to me.
My boyfriend and I started out as incompatible; perhaps even bordering on toxic a little.... we've been together for 8 years now and from my perspective at least, I'd say that determination and persistent really does go a long way. That, plus some individual therapy on my end.... it's not easy to work on yourself while also trying to commit yourself to a life-long partnership, but it's worth it. ❤️
Almost every point applies to my relationship with my mother. I feel like we’re very different people and our disagreements are making me very toxic and upset. I’ve tried communicating with her but she always gets too hyper and doesn’t let me say anything. What can I do about this?
In my experience you should find someone who is almost exactly like you. Best advice I ever got now I’m with my fiancé and we are pretty much the same person
That is so true - finally started to understand the concept after seeing several of mine and friends relationship/marriage failures. The best ones are between two emotionally healthy and similar persons.
i feel like one of the worst feelings is when you realize that you and the other person arent compatible but you still like them A LOT. Like they have the same values but other aspects of your lives are incompatible and you cant overlook that
Yes. 💔💔😭😭
Ouch
Just realized that, tho we are not together we did confess to each other
omgg I'm experencingggg
@Sam Elle - Yes, initially a bad feeling, but this is an enlightened growth period when your various thoughts and experiences have come together to confirm a cogent decision, sometimes painful, sometimes happy. Good luck, best wishes for happy times!
Whats weird is that everyone is trying to find the right person. But no one is trying to be the right person.
Trying to be the right person is like not being you.
@@Pepo.. Being the "right" person means you see yourself, and know what is right and wrong with the way you act or behave, and make progress in fixing those issues. Not making yourself "that right person" means you're a child and don't see the wrongs in your own person
@@asevis1425 oh ty ry
THIS.
Um guys, I think @POPScramble meant like trying to become better, not changing yourself.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
--Bernard M. Baruch
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Spot on and how :)
To the person reading this, you deserve a loving passionate relationship, don't let someone who doesn't see your worth treat you bad. You deserve better!
Thank you
Thank you sm!
Ty😌
Don't believe in soul mates, our quality of life, nobody's perfect, you may not be compatible if it wasn't meant to be, don't share the same interests or lifestyle, is anyone willing to change their attitude, creatures of habit🆘⛔🚩✅💲
Thank you so much and God bless!🙏🏽
It is better to have nobody than to have someone who is half there, or does not want to be there; people who are unhappy with their relationship are more depressed than single people who feel lonely. Never search happiness in others which will make you feel alone, search it in yourself, you will feel happy even if you are left alone
This is true
Thank you, this really made my day🥺
Agreed. Just left a 4 year relationship on this notion
Well said. Happiness starts from within oneself.
This made me cry cause I can relate
If ya don't have time to watch:
1. You don't get each other (1:23)
2. You're too different from each other (1:58)
3. You try to change each other, not grow and learn together (2:41)
4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing (3:34)
5. You attain peace by avoiding all the problems (4:14)
6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else (4:59)
7. You're not attracted to them (5:43)
Here ya go guys! I recommend you watch the video too, so as to understand some of the points better if/when you can.
Thanks
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Thank you!!!
Wow my relationship literally checked all of these! It's sucks when you love and care about someone and don't want to let go, bc in your mind somehow someway you just hope things will fall into place. Sometimes you just have to face the facts though, as hard as it may be. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, just bc you want it to be this person and it's not, you can't lose hope. You are unique and wonderful and the right people who get you will find their way to you when the time is right.
I needed to hear that especially today
Well said
I'm in the same boat. Did you walk away?
this makes me feel better/have hope :) thanks
@@stars_for_night_lights Yes only recently! It was very hard to do. I still love this person. All you can do is give your very best, always. When it's time to leave, accept what is. It will be hard at first but the hurt won't last forever. You will find your person, and you will experience the love and happiness you deserve.
This list is so accurate! My ex and I ended the relationship due to incompability issues, she initiated the break up then. Looking back, I can't thank her enough because I could have never initiated the break up. I wasn't very honest with myself then.
Dear Ex, Thank you so much for letting me go. ☺️
He is the best when it comes to recovery ex back💔💔😭..
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This is what I wish my ex would say 🥲
It's great to hear stories like yours can also happen. It's easy to get stuck in emotions and blaming, so it's good to hear that you were able to grow and learn instead. :)
This is such a lovely and honest reflection. ❤
To the person reading this- you've came so far!! Don't give up you're so much more than you think so never settle for less💕
Thank you for this 🙏🏼
Thankyou ❤️
thanks, i hope your doing well too
Thankyou. A shout-out just for me.
Thank you
They keep repeating the same mistake even though they promised they wouldn't.
They never listen to what you have to say.
Your relationship looks more like a battlefield than a love affair.👍
They don't repeat the same mistakes because repeating mistakes are no more considered as mistakes but they do it on purpose because you don't set any boundaries with them...You let them in all the time...Why? Don't you have some self-respect for yourself?? Because apparently if you allow them to use you and treat you like trash...They aren't to be blamed but you are to be blamed! Because you control your life and you need to know when and how to say NO when you have to say NO...You tell me why would you want some trashbag come back into your life all the time? They figured out that you don't have self-respect that's why they don't feel ashamed of treating you like trash...Trust me when i say that you deserve better!
Nailed it. I can't do it anymore. I'm tired.
@@Agnet_Faze but where do I find self respect that I can use on others. They re always out of stock at my store💔😞
Personally, I will know by the second or third date if I think there this is worth investing the time, effort and emotions into. I don't need any more drama. Don't make it complicated! If all she does is talk about herself, then walk away and let her talk to herself because it's all about her!
At 68, I know damn well what is acceptable and what isn't! I do have a high bar because I am a t-bone steak not a chicken breast!
People, there is so much more to relationships than just being in love. That part is easy; we are by our nature designed to love. But, we need more than just love to make a relationship work for the long term. We need a companion that we can rely on to be there for us, someone who shares the same Big Picture goals and wants to SHARE a life with us, but can also function independently and allow us enough room to do the same so we can still both grow as individuals. It's a tall order for a task of 40+ years of life. Sadly, many couples do not make it, and of those who do not, I believe at keast half of them could have if they had only acknowledged the problems they had at the onset and started working to correct them right away, rather than waiting until those problems became monsters that swallowed their families whole. That is the other secret to relationships: you might find yourself in love with someone, but you have ti work to stay there.
Look after each other
Chemistry is important it doesn't mean a one night stand its in your eyes I no expert been on my own to many years if you meant to be it will step back and see what happens
Agreed I’ve made it a point to talk everything out right away and not let it fester.
@@berkaydemirbas3841 she’s not saying that you don’t need love, she’s saying that there must be other things too
Not much good if the significant other wont do any work and keeping it going all comes from you. After 21 years of trying at 66 I am letting go and hoping for the best!
Everyone agrees that psych2go videos are cooler than the other side of pillows
Dayum you sure know what you're talking about
@Zoe Glow what
no i like the other side of the pillow better
yep, thats true
I agree
I’ve been feeling so sad lately because of this guy that *ACTS* like he loves me, but that wore thin ever since he realized that I actually *DID* love him… it hurts out here.
Same lol, it's a terrible tango. But it's up to use to say when the song is over
Stay awesome! Life's bigger than this.
Thanks😭
i hope youll get over it as soon as possible
Theres so much more to discover and experience that shouldnt be dragged down by just one person
*sending virtural hug :D
Same. I feel the same too before. Happened to me before. Then I feel like I'm a dumbass human being and fell in love with a narc. I stop loving him after that. I don't like people toying with my feelings.
The saddest ones of all are the ones who insist “he/she is the one and only for me, they just need time to change this ONE thing for me”.
"However, it can be hard to differentiate normal differences and incompatibility."
FINALLY...! Someone said it! This is what people don't really talk at all. At this is why it gets a like from me. And made me watch it till the end.
I disagree with the last point. I’m about to celebrate my 6th wedding anniversary with my husband, and I am pregnant with our 3rd child about to give birth. I love my husband so very deeply and I am in love with him as well- but I was not super attracted to him in the beginning nor did I ever really feel those “butterflies.” My love for him grew over time and it’s super, super solid much more solid and deep than I ever had with men I was super attracted to and infatuated with in my past.
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i love that. question: how do you think one could avoid getting blinded by the way someone looks?
@@simchalevy6275 Continue to get to know them, look past the way they look. :-)
I always believed this type of relationships is the best since you get to know the person first and love them for who they are rather than how they look, and when you love them they'll probably become more attractive to you
This was interesting, but difficult to watch since I'm married to someone with autism and a lot of our seeming incompatibility has to do with communication challenges... I often wonder what relationship advice would look like for neuro-divergent people. Would love to see this channel make a video about relationships for autistic people.
He is the best when it comes to recovery ex back💔💔😭
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I also have this situation and it leaves me wondering if it’s us or the autism
I am autistic and I thought the same thing....
I second this! I’m ADHD/Autstic and even though I’m single, I would love to see Neruodiverse relationship advice in a video!
Always know your worth, if you feel like someone isn't meant for you, don't settle, just move on and better things and people will come into your life.
Hoping that everyone finds their soulmate. Sending all the love 💕
Sometimes, you find your soulmate but not get to be with them until the end.
I’d also add when you can’t go alone to different activities or events with just your significant other. I just ended a long term relationship and every weekend especially during the summer months were filled with events with his friends, family and their significant others. Most of our alone time was sitting in the house and if I wanted to go somewhere his first question would always be “who’s going”? Man, I’m too old for this shit. His idea of a companion just didn’t align with mine.
Yeah, twos company & three is a crowd sometimes.
It's kind of poetic that I'm getting this after I ended my relationship with someone I know.
i feel you
same
Omg same I broke up with him today-
Same
IRonic
this is exactly what i needed right now unfortunately.
I think the biggest issue that I notice in most relationships, especially unhealthy ones, is the expectation of perfection. Another issue is when one partner surrogates another as a parent. A lot of people assume incompatibility stems from not enjoying the same kind of media or interests, however I often find that it stems from emotional immaturity. A problem even found in most friendships. Especially if the other party has to hold the other's hand. We all have moments when we need help, however it's an altogether different beast when one party expects the other to do things for them on a constant basis.
Misinterpreting what the other person is thinking/feeling leads to problems that WILL, EVENTUALLY, destroy the relationship...
Harken, partner
@Gamer tag this happened to me recently. Someone who I was dating for a little over 3 months ended thing because they believed I had trust issues with them when all I really wanted to know is where we stood. How they felt about me and them. It’s been a little over a week now and I just can’t stop replaying our conversations over and over in my head I just don’t understand how someone can erase everything else and just focus on their own reality of things because truth is each and every one of our realities are different. It’s unfair for you to assume how I’m feeling and thinking and after I explain how I’m feeling and thinking you deny the fact. Why ask if you already made up your mind?
@@aurielove9177 bless your heart! I'm sorry you went through that! Yes, it's awful when someone can't look at anything but their own reality. It's like they don't trust YOU, when you try to explain what you're thinking and feeling. That's not solely unique to narcissists; lots of people can't understand things they've never experienced or felt and, as a result, they DO make up their minds that they know what the "real deal" is, even before they ask you anything. However, a narcissist does have a unique way of turning the entire situation on you, so they don't have to accept any blame or responsibility for anything, even if you DO have legit negative feelings toward something they're doing...
As difficult as I'm sure it must be right now, try to remember that you deserve better!
i did it, i finally fell in love with myself and now i'm in a healthy relationship for the first time in my life
Going into the 3rd day of a break up. Realizing more and more we were less compatible than I thought...I didn't wanna believe it for the longest time cause we loved each other but now I know it wasn't meant to be....I wish him the best and want him to be happy.
Incompatibility is too deep to understand completely in any relationship. When there is a certain level of mutual understanding, respect and patience with each other everything else falls into place.
Big on the patience part!
I know a friend who is in love with a manipulative and possessive guy who always tries to control her life...but she still wants to marry him...
She will regret it later.
Keep being supportive of her (you can state your point of view about the relationship so she knows where you stand, but try not to be agressive about it) and being a safe harbour. There's no changing someone's mind on this matter, but being there when she realize she's made a mistake is going to make it easier to help her move on or get help if needed.
@@haruekferreira8942 It's not my place to tell her what to do...She is a grown up adult to realise this and make her own decision...But as a friend I just had to be honest...But she told me she is still in love with him...Well i guess they're are right when they say that love is blind...
Dominance and submission is a thing that exists within the BDSM spectrum. Not everyone is into that kind of dynamic.
She's BADLY blind, I bet she has never felt real love before? She really needs someone to talk sense to her head. If she won't listen and keeps blindly going for him then you can't help her, it'll be sadly her problem.. She is blind because of the manipulation, but once she realizes how she's being treated it'll leave deep scars, but you'll learn to set boundaries and have some self-respect once you've experienced mistreatment, not everyone learns from it but hopefully she does..
I have been married for 9 years and collectively together with my husband for 12 years…I was completely blind for over half of our time together and really wished I would have had access to awareness like this back in the beginning of our relationship. We are trying to mend, but so much damage has already been done. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
These videos always comes at the perfect time of what I’m going through.
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@@mergewendy7841 why are you spamming and leaking your personal information to random strangers online? Im just curious :0
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7 signs of an incompatible relationship:
1. You don't get each other 1:23
2. You are too different from each other 1:58
3. You try to change each other not grow and learn 2:42
4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing 3:34
5. You attain peace by avoiding all the problems 4:15
6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else 5:00
7. You're not attracted to them 5:44
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@@andrewchanathip same
@@andrewchanathip me too lol
@@andrewchanathip nice
@@andrewchanathip me too
I totally agree to build a strong relationship need time, dedication, and ongoing efforts. But, at times we tend to forget all these points. It is a great reminder!
Who else is crying watching this? I lose interest too easy due to the qualities and traits I look for being non-existent. It makes me sad sometimes that I can’t find someone I will choose to love everyday.
Hang in there!
I think that's why courtship is an important process.. it allows you to get to know each other. And being friends with them first before jumping into a romantic relationship. And all the things have been said here will be fulfilled
I appreciate non-verbal cues, I really do. But, if someone isn't going to speak their mind, I can't base my attempts to care based on me being an irrational mind reader. Because when it comes to something that seems like it would be mutually nice or pleasurable, I default to thinking that it's wishful thinking on my part. Also, if verbal communication is with held or unequivocal words are used for too long, it feels like manipulation. I try to fight the feeling of distrust, but eventually it will win out if a friend or partner does not bring clarity.
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That’s how I feel too - I really can’t stand when people refuse to communicate verbally
That makes sense
It's just a few months late I had my first break up and we have all signs
I noticed my boyfriend was changing himself for me . He started loving k-pop although he didn't like the music he stopped to talk to his friends for me and I felt so guilty I often told him to do what he wants don't be what I want but he just wanted to show his good side
As for I didn't change but tbh I got emotionally blackmailed it was like " you don't have to block him but I don't like him" "don't exercise I want to be my cubby bear" "talk to me we can even retake class" I was so Trapped in that relationship . For everyone we were perfect but only I knew we were not right for each other . Now I broke up with him but these signs just reminded me that my first relationship was such a mess
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you could Have Given that guy A chance at least he was beign serious for you And you Just Dumped him...You could have helped him and Tried explaining him cuz he's your boyfriend isn't he?Well maybe you are miss populer and May have A replacement ..well in any case He's free now and broken
@@angadjoshi7909 Lol I'm sure the guy was no Saint. Sure he was changing himself for her, but from what she's saying, looks like he was emotionally manipulating the girl. Which is wrong.
Don’t agree with #1 because no one should be expected to innately understand you if you don’t communicate with them properly. You understand yourself best first and foremost. Also kinda shitting on people on the autism spectrum with that one where they might not pick up on social cues as easily. Perhaps #1 should emphasize a willingness to understand and communicate effectively rather than mind reading and unrealistically believing that someone can be perfectly in sync with you and your emotions
It's not unrealistic. People do it all the time.
You don't want to accept it. Those are real issues on failure. Everyone of them.
@@cynthx that comes with time and deepening your connection with someone. It shouldn't be a concrete expectation to have a healthy, compatible relationship
@@sarahsmith8543 it shouldn't be an expectation- if it's something that happens organically. op saying that it's unrealistic is a projection of their own shortcomings and is dismissive of the phenomena that many people experience.
I understand what you aresaying but after spending 2 years in a relationship that didn't feel right from the beginning i came to the conclusion that some level of sameness and understanding is esencial, no matter how hard you try, if they don't get you you will feel utterly alone in the relationship, and guess what, they will too. Because i didn't get him either, we just tried reallly hard but we were hurting ourselves all along.
i feel much better about my relationship & realize im just dealing w insecurities. And im very much so attracted to him. i feel blessed.
#1 is a bit unfair for one. No one can understand you if you don’t communicate with them properly. It depends on both sides.
These Comments are AWESOME, and I had to watch this video 10 times to read them.
I was friends w/ my husband for 7 years before I realized I had more than just friendship feelings for him. He had had feelings for me the whole time, but respected the fact that I wasn't ready to be more than friends. For 2 yrs we had a wonderful relationship, then he got into a serious big rig accident. The brain damage he suffered affected his whole brain, not just one part. It's been about 18 yrs since that happened, & he recovered so well that most people can't tell he ever had a problem. But the man I married is gone. I still love him very much, but my heart is broken every day because he's still emotionally disconnected from me. I know he still loves me, but he's unable to even listen to how I feel - he can't understand what I'm talking about & he gets mad at himself for that. This situation is tearing me to pieces - we were so good together, brought out the best in each other. Now I feel alone.
I’m so sorry for you 😢
@@marianzambe2518 : Thank you for your kindness. It helps me to have someplace where I can learn to be honest about what's happened to us; sometimes just speaking the truth can be deeply healing. I know I need to let myself be sad, but I try hard not to get stuck there. I'm still very lucky - he did survive, he's still a good man and we still love each other. Blessings on you ☮💚🌸🙂
This makes me so happy because according to this video we're as close to perfect as we can be, healthily. 🥰
After watching this video I realized that me and my ex weren’t on the same vibe anymore. Back in the beginning of our relationship we were very alike, we liked the same things, talked about the same things but as we grew older, our differences started to show. I wanted to study pharmacy and she wanted to study biomedicine, but after a while she started law school and I started to study pharmacy. We used to go out with our friends but because of the pandemic it was just her and I. We started our relationship when she was 16 and I was 17, we ended our relationship after 3 years, I’m now 20 and she’s now 19, we are different people compared to back then. It’s very hard, we were very naive, in 2019 and 2020 we would be mad to each other but we had convo still, but in 2021 things just got way more intense, she didn’t have enough patience, I did things that maybe have caused her to be more insecure, but I tried to right my wrongs, because well… As human that’s what we all try to do, at least that’s what I think. But she didn’t think that way, she couldn’t handle our relationship no more. For the last 4 to 5 months of our relationship it was just me holding things up, I know that because she told me that every night she was going to bed thinking about the things we went through. In august 2021 I broke up with her but I went after her 1 week later, she accepted me again but after that, things weren’t like before. I tried to right my wrongs, as I said. We traveled a lot with her family, with my family, with our friends, but that wasn’t enough, she was already fed up. She broke with me and she was happy, happier than she was with me, she went out with her friends one day after she broke up with me, was already talking to other dudes and I was like: “where did I messed up?”. Now I see that I didn’t do anything horribly wrong, neither her, but our connection was lost, that’s why she left me and now I left her (finally). Anyways, being in a relationship requires a lot of energy, attention and care, if you give someone that but you fell that the other is not giving the same amount of that to you… Don’t wait, they won’t change, they won’t be like they were in the past, if things got colder and your cabin started to fall apart, just grab your coat and go after somewhere else, find another place to stay, or better, build your own house, your own things and after having all that you should go find love again.
Kaori said
“You are you. No matter how you change it doesn’t matter. You do you.”
Being spiritually balanced in my opinion is the most important thing. Everything else hinges off of that. If you can’t go deep spiritually with your loved one you’ll always feel kind of alone
My current relationship is a 6.5 out of 7 based on this video.
And I'm grateful for it.
Man. I wish i had found something like this sooner. I probably could have saved him so much trouble, effort, and hurt. Still. This is a good wake-up call for any future relationship I could find.
I broke up with someone recently and it left this weird feeling
All the points in this video were checked off, and even in the relationship I felt we never had anything in common.
I realized there was no chemistry and one sided passion, as I realized I'm aromantic.
I hope this feeling passes. It's a mix of regret, relief, guilt and loss
It was definitely a good decision to break up though
Same here... How are you doing now?
I really found this video very helpful. I have a wonderful man that treats me very well and always tells and shows me how much he loves me. With all of that I still have negative feelings for myself. I'm not a "typical" normal brained person. I have PTSD, Anxiety, and depression. My therapist also told me that I'm an HSP, and an empath. It's so hard for me to control my feelings and emotions. I will keep trying and do some of the suggestions. Thank You for the great videos.
These videos has been helping me cope and understand my loss of someone who I loved. If only I found these videos sooner, it would helped me understand that she and I would have never worked out. There will be someone else who is more compatible for me.
7 signs of incompatible relationship:
1. 1:23 you don't get eachother
2. 1:58 you're too diffirent from eachother
3. 2:42 you try to change eachother not grow and learn
4. 3:34 there is constant or highly frequent arguing
5. 4:15 you attain peace by avoiding all the problems
6. 5:00 your socialising is isolated from everyone else
7. 5:44 you're not attracted to them
Hope you enjoy
Thanks timetraveler
Thank you :)
My Parents, are a perfect example of all this Negativity. That's why, I choose to stay Single like Pringle.
@@Tinyfurball Sad😢 when it's parents it sucks the most. I have a narcissist mom and i can feel you
honey i am impressed by your voice. i have never ever ever in my life heard such a soothing, calming voice! make a podcast sis! i am so fkin impressed. i love your voice. not tryna be creepy aight? just saying you have a wonderful spiritually soothing voice and i love it.
I love this channel. You have helped me cope with my flaws and my problems. You've even helped me understand the signs my crush was giving me that she liked me, and we have been happily together for a month now
Yes we're incompatible. 😞 I ended it a few days ago and he realized we both don't want the same things so it's now mutual. Idk if i can even be friends with him. I miss talking to him. But maybe it's really better not to exist in each other's lives. 💔
Why did you end it then? If you're compatible amd you live him???
“Love”
Me:I’m a single Pringle forever
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well if you want to be single then you can stay that way but love will come to you soon!! i thought i wasnt gonna get a s/o but look at me now, i've been taken for 2 years!!
@@KEL-nm6oy it's called life for a reason
@@crystalreed7624 what does that have to do with what i said
Just broke up almost a week now. I think I’ve known we’re not compatible from the start but like the intro of the video mentioned, it could also have been that we just needed to compromise and learned to love each other’s differences. But deep down we know we are just different. Different interests, circle of friends, lifestyle and values. Not to mention I’ve been holding a grudge to a one-time mistake to this day. I thought I could look past that and continue the relationship. I just couldn’t change my values for that person anymore. I’m glad I walked away.
All pertains to me. Being loved blind can really affect your relationship. When you can't be your own true self, this is red flag your relationship won't work. Especially if you have different parenting styles with this person. Totally brings out the worst in each other. It is really hard to get out of this toxic relationship.
At this point my ptsd from this marraige is destroying me. He is happy that I have quite down but here I am sitting alone having difficulty even faking a smile. A small incident as he calls it is making me literally feel like I am trapped in a deep dry well with sounds of me sobbing curled up in a corner. "Forget and move on" these words have made the happy social confident girl in me disappear.
My kids are the reason I stay.
More power to you . I think you should share whatever you feel because that will compel him to at least acknowledge your feelings. I know I am no one to suggest you , I don't know what you might have gone through but instead you can give a try. And if this doesn't work , LET ME KNOW BY REPLYING IN THE COMMENT SECTION.
Another incompatibility is being too similar to your partner whether it's their personality, hobbies, or the way you bounce off each other, however this can also apply to your flaws being too similar such as bad living habits, emotional volatility, or even having the same level of immaturity, which can turn into a toxic dynamic where even though the passion burns brightly like a supernova it also burns out and blows up into a blackhole sucking up your sense of self until you and the partner seem indistinguishable when you look at them or yourself in the mirror.
A couple is about romantic and chemistry. Have each other. Two become one. Love this video.
I had none of these signs with my ex-gf, but I broke up with her because she lied to me and stole (fake) money, and even after that happened, I wanted to move on with the relationship but I couldn’t trust her in it anymore, so I still broke it off.
I wanna take a moment to appreciate the editing of this channel. It not only looks nice but also makes the videos easier to follow and understand
The only thing that concerns me is the friendship one, Ive made the effort but I'm very anti-social and have horrible social anxiety but I have made improvements
Don’t worry I am too, when my partner has a social event he knows I won’t want to go so he goes by himself and he is fine with that he probably prefers it lol, when you meet someone who gets you this will not be an issue (:
I'm just here to compliment the voice over person. They can literally curse me with that voice and I'd happily listen. SUCH A PLEASING VOICE 🤤
He is the best when it comes to recovery ex back💔💔😭
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These videos invariably leave me feeling deeply embarrassed and depressed lol. All the positive relationship ones I find out I never had. All the negative relationship ones I'm nodding my head! Clearly the problem is me
My last relationship literally had all 7 signs
I still wonder how it survived for a full year and a half
Saaaaame I'm still in my unhealthy relationship, and it's been a year more now
Whoa, are you me?
All 7 signs, friends and family point us away from each other but she says that we are special and regular advice doesn't apply to the special connection we share...saying opposites attract, that it's ok not to understand each other, refusing to talk about our relationship, and guilt tripping me into thinking I'm "giving up" when I want to walk away from us
This is so true! My ex and i broke up because we’re too different, argued a lot and on the verge of self destruct.
I think the person that I’m dating right now is not the right one for me. I love them very much and I want them to be happy, but I think we would be better as just friends. I don’t know how to tell them because I know that they will be very hurt.
It's better to get hurt once and for all than not telling them anything and then suffer later on with that person...Be honest with yourself and with your own feelings...The person will appreciate your honesty and will move on and will heal with time...
Because trust me...If you decide to tell him right now, then you will end up this relationship in a decent way by being honest with yourself and your own feelings and also because you respect this person and you really want the best for them but if you decide to lie to yourself and pretend you like them when you don't, then this relationship, overtime may get worst...Because of the lack of compatibility, you will have dirty fights and then might end up breaking up in a very toxic and ugly way...
So you use your mind, and think which one of them do you prefer? Telling this person honestly and ending things between rach other decently and toxic-free? Or pretend to love each other and continue faking this relationship until things get dirty in the future and then you break up in a hating, frustrated and ugly way, hating each other?
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
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In addition to the content I really enjoy the little psychtogo person. Your animator is very talented.
I was searching for this video everywhere ty for posting this it really helped me :3
Oh Wow! This is soooooo frighteningly accurate. My first marriage lasted 11 years and all these were true. How it lasted THAT LONG, I’ll never know.... My beloved husband and I now have said to each other “you get me” along with every other item on this list. This vid is very cool.
i was recently in a very brief relationship with someone i was not attracted to. we had similiar interests, but for me there was no attraction/chemistry. i ended it!
@Isabella James please just stop
Was dating a woman for about 2 months and 6 of these reasons are why I ended it. I've grown a lot and know the differences between something mutual or being different enough it won't last.
Screw notification gang, just reload the page at the right time lmao
one thing to note is that you don't have to be 100% perfect to find the right person. Rather it's more about working together to progress towards a common goal. While also setting healthy boundaries.
I'm attracted to my wife emotionally but not physically. Like I love her and would do anything for her but since nobody I know can hear me or see this message comment I can admit that she's not very good looking. However that's ok because I don't mind that she's ugly because I love her despite that.
I realize that I check 4 of the 7 things on this list. However it is so hard to let go, I think I know when I need to let this person go and start forging my own happiness, not constantly walking on egg shells.
I disagree with 6, some cultures don’t vibe with 6. Any man that meets my family will happen once marriage is on the table.
With respect. Narrator's voice is so soothing and attractive.
I want to know how asexuality would factor on Robert Sternberg's theory. Because that 7th point made it seem like without attraction, there's no possibility of a romantic relationship... :/
attraction doesn't necessarily have to be sexual/physical, i think they meant a mutual desire to be close to one another other
@@devn22 no no passion is meant to be sexual ahahah
Asexuals will only ever have platonic love in their lives
I'm the type when you know...you just know...also I can't stand arguing and yelling...harmony and laughter is for me...♡
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Love how me and him haven't fought, well we have once- because someone was flirting with me
I am over 50 now, my partner, is 2 decades younger. We have been together for almost a decade! I have never loved anyone, as I do him. Based on this video we are NOT in an incompatible relationship, but based on the fact I clicked this video it means something in the algorithm seems to think I have doubts. I don't. Thanks for the vid.
i just got my soulmate today..
-i hope you guys can find one too 💕
Thanks, I hope that too, and also wish you and your soulmate true happiness💕✨
Sad part is when you would mess up at times, and she would be so forgiving. But when she would not be perfect, you saw a reason to lash out. Glad I came across the channel, Lord knows I'm working on myself... hope I can be in her life one day
to me , a partner is not about romance but more like a friend to back up me . One i can trust atlest 90%
actually .. although I want someone like that I don't actually want now ...
@Isabella James anyway. .thanks 😊. Its nice to see kinad people
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As always I feel like these things shouldn't be taken too literal, and you should consider factors to your own particular situation at hands. Especially the "you've never met their friends or family" thing. Not everyone has a good relationship with their family, some people wish to avoid their family altogether. They're not "not" introducing you due to something about you, but because they sincerely do not want to be in a family situation that might have been toxic, which should be their right. Same for friendships, not everyone has a whole gang of close friends. Particularly later in life when everyone works a job, people move away etc. It might be impossible for your lover to see their friends anymore, let alone introduce you to them. Several factors in life might thus have an influence on how your relationship goes, but you shouldn't let that ruin your relationship.
Psych2go: giving me advice to try to be happier and love others
My brain for no reason: no wonder they call you a Pringle, cuz you rhyme with single
oof
Pringles are noice
@@reggie9897 so that means I'm noice?
@@adamshafeeq8685 yes
"Whenever you tell someone I love you; it's always rather disconcerting to whom you say that to." - Alan Watts
i’ve never clicked so fast
Clicked this worried I might hear something that made me question my relationship, instead I'm now sighing and smiling to myself and texting him about how awesome he is :D
Hi have an amazing day everyone!!! 😃
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Just saw this on my suggested vids because the caption is interesting. Didn't expect that I'll hear a soothing voice that I can listen to all day and learn so much. Thank you for this! 😊
I adore him, I'm in love with him. He claims to be in love with me too but I want FIERY PASSION and he seems to be the polar opposite.. I want to see him as much as possible/as often as possible (not in a needy or clingy way) but he seems to be the opposite. He is fine or content not seeing me for 5 weeks straight it would seem.. he is a GREAT guy, I used to be attracted to abusers but finally got myself deeply attracted to this amazingly sweet and good man. But I'm FREEZING to death over here next to the candle he gives me when I want FIRE.😢
What do I do? I also don't like that if he dislikes something I do; I change my behaviour but if I dislike something he does or doesn't do: he just keeps doing it. Ugh.. he's a great man. But I feel so low, we seem incompatible.
Same with me..he can't go out often ,even though both of us are not officially in a relay ,but deep down I want him badly as my partner..he treats me with love , patient and support..but his family won't let him to meet me.He had to lie to his parents whenever he wants to meet me.I feel bad for making him lying to his own parents ,just for meeting me..but he says , that is the only choice he have in order to keep meeting me.For now ,it has been a busy schedule for both of us.We rarely chat during the day as he has to finish his assignments but I'm okay with that ,as long as he has his night times for me ,to call me before we sleep..and it has been 2 weeks we are not meeting each other...but this is fine for me...I'm just hoping that he could meet me often...it's not that I'm clingy ,it's just that I missed him so much ,to have his companion infront of me..let's hope for the best...
He's probably more logic-based than emotions-based such as yourself. Likely more introverted as well. Quality time and words of affirmation are likely not his love languages. Communication and compromise are things to try or it won't work.
@@basskitten808. thank you so much for ur advices.We fought really bad last night because he was too busy with his assignments.We started talking from 12 midnight but he was stressed up with me cause I asked him for his time.He urged me to be patient that he would only be busy for this week.I stayed up with him all night to accompany him with his work and slept at 5 am.This weekend. ,we are planning to meet.But somehow I feel like something gonna goes wrong...I hope that he won't cancelling plans in the last min.Thank you so much for ur advices ,I will surely talk to him to figure things out wether he really wants me in his life or just treating me and keeping me to accompany him.I can't stay with a guy that can't even have me in his time and I won't be teaching him how to manage time for me...it feels like I'm lowering my standards again just to be with a guy...He is a very great ,loving man..but it seems like there are differences between us that just can't clicked and it really making me worried...plus ,his parents won't let him befriend with me ...which makes me even frustrated.
@@nurfarzanaabdullah58 I have a similar problem. We are not in an official relationship yet, even though we've been dating for 5 months now. But we've known eachother via FB for almost 3 years, I comforted him for months after he lost his mother.. he's a Capricorn male though, so I know I need a lot of patience due to his cautious and slow-moving energy, he takes things very slow and serious, wanting to get to know a girl fully first, which I appreciate. But we have both said we are in love with eachother.. but how is he in love or getting to know me when we don't see eachother more than once a month? It were 3 weeks, 3 weeks and then 5 weeks and now after 1 week he ignored the day I asked to see him.. I don't understand. He is so good to me, so kind and sweet, patient and loving, said this song "die for you" made him think of how he feels for me. There I saw that passion. But 5 weeks apart is ridiculous when it takes just a 40 minutes drive to see eachother! I feel uncared for.. where is the warm burning fire where he says he can't stand being apart from me? I'm freezing to death! I want this kind man.. I finally left behind my narcissist ex and found a good man, only to have my emotional needs unmet.. I would be happy if it were "only" every 2 weeks that we saw eachother honestly, and feel pissed off when other people complain "it's been a whole week" oh what I wouldn't give for just one week apart.. I don't know what to do. We must simply be incompatible and I shouldn't take that personally. This hurts so much. I'm sorry for your pain too, that your guy has to hide you from his family? That must feel horrible... what do we do with these men?
@@basskitten808. The thing is, I personally have Social Phobia though and he doesn't, I'm also more introverted than him. But I would agree with your observation that he might be more logically based whereas I am more emotionally, definitely. However, as beautiful and true as your advice is to communicate; I did. I told him it's unacceptable to me that more than 2 weeks passes between us meeting, and he understood me and what I feel. But it looks like it will head passed 2 weeks yet again. He is crossing the boundary I set... should I give up? I feel like I have... thank you both for your comments though.
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Me and my boyfriend are incompatible in many ways but we're both ok with that and we've found ways to make it work because we really love each other and we want each other VERY much. It's not always easy but it works for us😌❤ Being compatible is not necessary for a fulfilling relationship tbh
Tbh I really needed to read this,I feel like people make it seem as if someone needs to be compatible with you for it to work. So your comment was the only one that really stood out to me.
My boyfriend and I started out as incompatible; perhaps even bordering on toxic a little.... we've been together for 8 years now and from my perspective at least, I'd say that determination and persistent really does go a long way. That, plus some individual therapy on my end.... it's not easy to work on yourself while also trying to commit yourself to a life-long partnership, but it's worth it. ❤️
I though this was going to be more focused on people you have a crush on, but this is still good to keep in mind.
Almost every point applies to my relationship with my mother. I feel like we’re very different people and our disagreements are making me very toxic and upset. I’ve tried communicating with her but she always gets too hyper and doesn’t let me say anything. What can I do about this?
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@@farwahbatool6247 right??
@@lavenderkoi4931 exactly
In my experience you should find someone who is almost exactly like you. Best advice I ever got now I’m with my fiancé and we are pretty much the same person
That is so true - finally started to understand the concept after seeing several of mine and friends relationship/marriage failures. The best ones are between two emotionally healthy and similar persons.