Dismissive Avoidant No Contact | Stages Avoidant Ex Goes Through
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The dismissive-avoidant goes through certain stages during no contact. Learn those stages to see when is the best chance of re-connecting and the likelihood that they'll reach out.
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I'm here but let's take it slowly
No sex or intimacy but let us lay naked. We cuddle she's calling and showing interest but then goes missing for days. So you can't call her you can't over text. She's all of sudden a private person and doesn't want to show how amazing her new job is. All these things she would love to share and show me in person and private. Once she leaves my presence 💔 she's another person.
She came over 3 weeks straight with no issues and now I'm blocked again for showing for much I care
No arguments or anything but the Grey area that is so confusing 🤔 that I couldn't take it and got overwhelmed and anxious about it all.
Run fast is the conclusion! This is a broken individual you don’t need this shit in your life….
I’m running now… tired of having my heart crushed
Doesn't matter what a person does. If they don't want you....they won't contact you...move on and forget they ever existed ...just like they probably have already done with you...there's much better out there....observe and learn from experience
"move on and forget they ever existed ...just like they probably have already done with you...there's much better out there....observe and learn from experience" - This is so liberating. Like letting go of an unnecessary burden.
If you are anxious attachment, practice your boundaries by not responding
I am going to copy and paste this and place it on word in bold letters and and put it on my fridge. Thank you.
Could you please make a video on how to become avoidant because they seem like they don’t care and I want that too
You don't want to be an avoidant trust me I know they sound like the real deal but at the end they all end up alone and depressed
@@bonton9441 you are very right, they do end up depressed and alone
Aim to become secure not avoidant!
Fill yourself with loads of emotional traumas. It might work.
@@maranhazz😂😂😂
When my ex decided to divorce me i help her pack. Within 2 weeks I erased every evidence she ever existed in my life. I did not participate in her divorce. Two weeks after she moved out to her new boy toy i sold my house and moved a thousand miles away. Haven't spoken to her are anyone from that life in 26 years. That's what I call, avoidant.
Lol at this. Well done. That is really an avoidant. My wicked sense of humour makes me smile.
Avoidants are hard to love but if they become secure, are among the best and most loving lartners. My husband is the moat beautiful man ever. I will be patient with him
Respect to that! Most people are insecure just by saying "never date an avoidant". Patience is a virtue! ❤
I don't like labels. But I will agree some of these men are the sweetest souls it's just unfortunate they are so damaged and take you down with them..
I can confirm about the testing the waters bit... They'll find clever, and very soft ways to trigger a response from you, like to test if you are still mad on them or interested. Then, if you react, they might go ahead and contact you again. You need to have a lot of patience with DA's, if you love them and are good partners/friends be patient, but otherwise it's not worth the pain.
Hello, after 30 days of no contact my ex DA contacted me with a message exactly as you describe. Should I respond? He did a bit of question and answer... There's not much to add... but a little provocation to get me to answer yes. But I don't know if it's just crumbs.
@@stilpon5378 do you still want to reconnect with your ex? If yes, then you should reply with something that invites a question, like hey, I'm good, how was your day? Or hey, I'm busy right now, would you like to talk later? Don't give in too much, such as omg what a surprise, I am so glad you texted me after so long, I thought you would never reach out haha lolz ... You get the idea.
@@stilpon5378yes u should respond for sure , if u still want them
What happened?!
I didn't reply until 3 weeks later; 30 days post breakup was far too early for me.
1 month after that, towards the end of January, I sent him my best wishes for 2024 to which he replied that he was expecting them, he seemed enthusiastic, quite a long reply. Since then nothing, I haven't sent anything back and neither has he.
I reinstalled Tinder where I met him but he blocked me as soon as he saw me... I don't really know what to think but I tell myself that at least he feels something to do so because the opposite of love is indifference!
I'm going to test the waters for his birthday (on 04 March) but I'm not expecting anything. It will be exactly 4 months since he broke up, to the day!
There you go :) @@lukass64
Dismissive Avoidants have their own Men in Black pen but forget to put the sunglasses on 😎
My ex broke up suddenly, out of nowhere. We had a discussion a week before, and while I was explaining my feelings he became cold and said, he is not able to manage a relationship. After that he wanted me to go out with him😂. I was confused, hurt and sad.
After 3 weeks of no contact I wrote him , I would like to talk… he called me and we talked for 4 hours.
I love him, he is a good person, but it’s like walking on eggshells to communicate needs and emotions. I feel sorry for him, I know he doesn’t want to be alone forever. He said he will look for a therapist. I hope he will open up emotionally. ( if not for me than for another woman). I hope he will find happiness!
It happened the same to me! We started going to therapy together and on the second session he broke up with me literally as we walked out of the building.
Are you still with him? Do you feel any improvement?
Same situation . People they are cold and leave them as they are because you don't need multiple heart breaks . Focus on making money , studying and building relationship with God
I think we might have dated the same ex. Lol
I actually broke up with MY DA ex, my boyfriend of 2 years. I love him dearly, but I felt that he couldn’t fully be emotionally present and that the more I made my needs clear, the less inclined he was to fulfill them. Communication was out the door too.
Go figure, now I just want him back. More than anything. It took him a couple days to clear his stuff out and poof, he’s gone. Just like that.
I’m disinclined to play mind games, or to be manipulative in any way. I just want to be authentic and hope that we find our way back to each other, each of us more healed and grown in our own way. I hope against hope that that is how it works out.
How long have you guys been broken up for?
@@russ123321bunya haha two weeks 😁
Same i broke up with my DA of 5 months , because i felt like i was alone in the relationship. Weird but i keep blaiming myslef for not being patient enough with her. Its been a month i tried to ask her to get back she just said NO and she is not even open to talking about it. I really want her back
@@hoozaifamorbiwala2312 I want mine back too.
There are some great videos on the psychology many with DA experience. To sum up the thought process to the best of my ability, DA’s experience a feeling of relief at first and will push their ex away at the sight of any advance towards reconnection.
Much like the relationship, it must be on their terms, and if you don’t like it…tough…(from their perspective).
Don’t go back together. Been there, done that. Not worth it.
My avoidant ex came back first time 2 months after NC, second time 5 months after NC. Never again.
Dealing with an DA and they just booted? Move on. Give them the gift of missing you. You miss them? Understandable, but let them miss you more. Their Avoidant programming will eventually buckle by human nature.
The problem you whant to see them and ask and ask... and they get upset and u end up alone anyway so Run away fast...!
I left her. We bumped into each other, started talking again and we met up and had an amazing time. I wish we never did. It was the last time I saw her, nothing had changed and I left again
7 weeks into no contact, she emailed asking for one of her things back. Short and to the point. Not even a reply once i told her I've dropped it off. Too busy with the rebound I'd say.
I found out mine rebounded with someone she had been talking to while we were together. And not only that, had plans to meet up with several others not long after we broke up.
These people are broken man.
Oh and by the way, her rebound relationship lasted like a few weeks.
@@perspicacity89?? Why do you think that?
@@droflivelife Why do I think what? That they're broken? They are. I've had too many interactions with them to know better. Avoid them at all costs. It's not worth it man.
@@droflivelife it's obvious
I wish my avoidant ex came back. I miss him so much.
Same.Did he come back ?
@@shawarmaareddy2884 No. He's with someone else.
Did he comeback?
It's been 5 months. She was detached and acted like she never cared abut anything we had about 3 months. Then she posted some memes with vague message about working with herself, and kept liking my content with no engagement, but not as regularly as during the first 3 months. This more unstable behavior went on about 2 months, when she posted some memes few times, and I reacted but never commented (I'm sure it came as a surprise to her because in the past I always commented all her stuff), and now it's been 2 weeks of complete silence from her, not even reacting to my posts any more. Interesting. I'm pretty much distanced myself and moving towards healing, so I don't desperately need her to reappear. But if she does, I'm much smarter now that I know about DA, and I'll never accept the way she treated me again, not without her showing that she works with herself. I think when this kind of deactivation happens, DA person might not have much control over it - the first time, but the way they're going to deal with it and the consequences of their past behavior after thy come out of detached state, IS a choice. And the way they come back, if they do, sais a lot about their personality and the level of self awareness.
My avoidant was a 10 year friendship. We had a casual fling but she seemed to run before it even turned anything. But I already loved her. I carefully kept in contact for 10 months but not being friends zoned I wouldn’t allow it. Then I snapped I told her how I feel. She was mad we thought but then she admitted she felt the same. Then seven weeks of absolute bliss tons of adventures intimacy that was completely perfect. Then she backed away in a week and found an excuse that didn’t really exist to push me away. It’s been three weeks now no contact
my ex punished me for not immediately abandoning her and wouldn’t let me help / love/ care for her without treating me like shit. The way they work they will end up alone depressed and full of regrets.
I walked away 7 months ago and have kept no contact. Although it's been hard for I continue to move forward with my life. I hope one day we can have an adult conversation but I'm not holding my breath.
my girlfriend did exactly that. she then would message me to see if we were speaking? then a 'i've been doing..whatever ', ' i want to be friends', then ' i miss you, and i'm confused 'then ' maybe we can meet up and talk- if you want to?'
and of course i did..because i love her and also understood her more than she realised.
she is sorry now...and has said so a few times, because i said i had no doubts about her emotionally or trust issues, but since her actions i do have now. BUT she seems to have got closer and more committed to us than before and although i like this -i feel i'm waiting for the next reason for her to find a way out, an argument or issue taken out of context. it's getting better between us...mainly by my accepting who she is and what her issues.
I forgot to say she is diagnosed as autistic, but quite intelligent...although gets quite burned out and hides sometimes. but now she actually lets me know this and communicates...so i let her 'repair' and recover from social interaction etc
My wife of 27 years finally contacted me after 3 months of no contact. We have been split up since 2021. We have gotten close to reconcile a couple of times but she has pulled away each time. She was wounded during her childhood. I was the first man to treat her good, but during COVID, I was depressed. I was working in the healthcare industry, which was totally depressing and I took that home. She asked me to leave. So, I moved out and was living in some bad area of LA, because that is all I could afford, with a 1.75 million dollar house payment, her car payment and the extras. So, I worked everyday. Made lots of OT, but was killing myself mentally.
Just don't react to the dismissive ways. Its a form of manipulation that I believe they don't even know how it hurts the relationship. Every time I was confronted with it I walked away. After a while the episodes dropped because they could see I was not going to participate in the rituals. I let the relationship stand on its own merit. Its not easy but I think it forced them to reflect at the moment not one month later. Don't add a fake sense of security to the relationship by letting them think you will always be there. Their traits are definitely odd at times and I stil do not have all the answers.
Quite a lot of DAs are ASD
@@asher6047what is ASD?
@@olliea2326 Sorry just saw this. Autistic Spectrum
@@s1hr1 Yes! So much this! I’m adhd, I’m love with Asperger’s type 1, I understand him but still struggle. I can see now he masks with such bravado but underneath insecure and so rejection sensitive
Q😊@@asher6047
Thanks, this video really helped. I was into a girl when I as 14, and she was a DA. I tried to win her over for 2 years, and finally left her by going "no-contact". I still haven't got over her. She tried reaching out to me, since my late 20s through her parents and sister, as she lives in USA and I live in India. I did not reach out to her, though I could have on Facebook. She sent me a friend request, when I was in my early 30s, and I did not accept it. She sent me condolences message on Facebook when I was 38, after I lost my father, and I still did not reciprocate. I am 47 now , and I have spent decades ruminating over her. But I know I need to stay away from her.
Yeahhh I think ur a DA too. 🙈
You missing out on your soul mate
@@LoveandAbove No she rejected my proposal to get closer in to a romantic relationship, when I was pursuing her in my teenage years, and finally one day after 2 years of pursuing , I had enough and left her after she turned me down again. Since then I have been avoiding her. She is married , and has 2 children, but she tried reaching out to me, and I have reciprocated.
@@chiobabe2180 No she rejected my proposal to get closer in to a romantic relationship, when I was pursuing her in my teenage years, and finally one day after 2 years of pursuing , I had enough and left her after she turned me down again. Since then I have been avoiding her. She is married , and has 2 children, but she tried reaching out to me, and I have reciprocated.
@@chiobabe2180 No she rejected my proposal to get closer in to a romantic relationship, when I was pursuing her in my teenage years, and finally one day after 2 years of pursuing , I had enough and left her after she turned me down again. Since then I have been avoiding her. She is married , and has 2 children, but she tried reaching out to me, and I have reciprocated.
There have been situations where I was dating this avoidant which really stonewalled me for a long time. I met them by chance in public and they apologized for not texting me back and that they were overwhelmed. This was before I understood attachment theory. I'd often say "it's ok" but deep down I thought it was bullshit. Then we broke up that same day. I thought in that very moment that it was over for good. But I got a text a week after. And kept getting texts which I didn't respond to. Weeks passed and I I got other texts really late at night. I felt sorry for them. And responded. But I remember there were some half apologies. More blaming me for stuff, and justifying their actions in my apparent mistakes. It didn't let me heal. I swallowed a lot of anger and resentment and pretended to be fine. But the wounds never healed. We kept trying and everytime we tried I got hurt more and it gave me flashbacks of everything that happened before. The stonewalling and the shifting blame. I'm not 100% this case is just being dismissive avoidant. But there's something else.
Something else as well probably
😊well explained 👏 👌 I've unfortunately experienced this after 14 years I had to study hard to understand but this video is perfect good luck with your journey ❤
Did they just jump back to dating apps even when they claim that they have been always alone and did not even try!! I am losing my mind
Please can you do NC video on avoidants who sabotaged relationship, and we’re broken up with. Also please can you do avoidant rebound video please 🙏
My DA was full on into me and texting non stop. We had phenomenal sexual chemistry. I did say i wanted to be your girlfriend and he said he is jaded by his other relationships and doesn’t want to have a relationship. We went away for 3 days and had an amazing time with amazing sex and he said it’s over. I was honestly devastated. We texted after I tried to tell him how much I care about him but it pushed him away. I finally said good luck and that was the end. 😢 I still don’t get if the weekend and sex was amazing why being his girlfriend was so Insane for him. I know now after hearing this video. I shouldn’t have pushed. I just liked him so much. I guess he’ll never contact me and I’m really sad over it. On the other hand this DA is probably not what I really want or deserve.
It’s hard, but you are not alone. Being open and over explaining that you care is normal when you feel it’s on the rocks. Don’t blame yourself xx
Hate to say this, but I must, because I used to believe sex held meaning to everyone. It does not. “Amazing sex” does not mean the same to you as it did to that individual. I see, especially men, sex with you does not mean they are attached to you or attached in the same way. Sex is very different for men vs women.
I have the same scenario ! He was like I simply can’t handle what you need from me at this time !! 😮 just out of the blue !
Let me tell u something,it's typical DA behaviour,if they catch feelings or feel vulnerable,they will cut it off abruptly.
Being ghosted is a reflection of the person’s lack of relationship skills and not a reflection of your worth.Again when a guy says something .. LISTEN woman..he s told you that he never wanted a relationship,so no amount of phenomenal sex can change his subconscious programming.My DA confessed that the longest relationship he had was 6 months..trust me if he is jaded by his relationships..it's because of his inability to work in a partnership which made women walk away . Walk away and you will soon become a part of his phantom ex he longs for.
In my case she suddenly ceased contact with me quite disrespectfully. Went no contact immediately. 10 months later, I get 3 texts from her asking me how I’m doing. I believe she’s a good person on the inside so I decided to wait a few hours and then reply, but just before I wanted to, she deleted the messages so I decided to not do anything. 2 weeks later, she suddenly blocked me on instagram, which is weird because I wasn’t following her anymore for like 6 months already and she didn’t follow me. Passive aggressive behavior? Let’s see if she’ll reach out in the future again lol, I must say it felt good she reached out, even though she’s probably not relationship material.
update ?
@@hieu4022 nothing more happened still
My ex probably not going through any of these... She just runs back to her baby daddy every single time
after two months of no contact I texted my DA ex saying "how's everything?" but she hasn't replied. however in last two days she used two different profile picture on WhatsApp where she wore the tshirt I had gifted her last year. I can clearly feel that she's moving on effectively but still having residual hopes. it's been 4 and a half months since she broke up with me.
Can I ask, did she ever reach out?
did she reach out ?
Avoid them... trust me when there away from you there out there sewing there seeds with others. Do you really want them back? Also they are practically a narcissist the behavior is the same as one except the intention of those behaviours is different. But at the end of the day does it matter if there intent is different from the narcissist the end result is the same an unhealthy, toxic one sided relationship. Be greatful your out now get on with your life and find a healthy happy reciprocal relationship peeps
Hello M…I hope you get this message. Yes, we have had our ups and downs- and I am sorry for the pain that I have ever caused you! During the 2 months I have been preparing for a total knee replacement on my right knee. The time has finally come and I will be going into surgery tomorrow 9/7 morning at 0730. You have been on my mind a lot and I just wanted you to know that I hope you ok wherever you are, what ever you doing! I love you my friend. You hold a very special place in my heart and you always will! Please know that am in God’s hands! 🙏❤️
Professor Sam Vaknin heals trauma bonding 🙌
Plus self blame because they see themselves as defective and unable to maintain a real relationship
I had a relationship with a dismissive avoidant and I really cared for him and well we put our relationship on hold due to him finishing up his last semester in college. After graduation he just said he was working on getting his life together. During the time he kept reacting to my stories and posts in fb but didn’t really texted me. My coworker found him in fb dating a couple days ago. My heart was crushed. I made the mistake of sending him the screenshot of his profile and a message but he didn’t respond.
I'm still unsure whether my ex is FA or DA as she fits the description of both. But in her mind we stopped "dating" 4 months ago as thats the last time we talked to one another [even tho she officially dumped me about 8 months ago]. After 4 months I reach out to her on a sunday morning and realize my numbers been blocked, so I *67 her just to make sure I have the right number and she answers, DAMN she was not even the same person, she sounded like a high schooler and kept using the word "bro" after every sentence. She was super cold and never even asked me a single question about myself but she did wanna tell me that she's been "dating around" but " no one has stuck around yet" [ I didn't even ask]. She also said she doesn't feel anything for me anymore so I kept it short and sweet and I left the door open for her to get back in touch with me if she wanted. She probably has my number blocked still and im not gonna check. I'm not sure what stage she's at exactly I just know she's on dating apps right now. It's crazy how cold someone can become just after 4 months. Is that a DA or FA?
She’s in limerence with a guy who doesn’t even like her
because they are broken and dont understand real love, avoidants go for toxic ppl only to GET HURT way more at the end. you must ignore them and run, they add nothing usefull to a future
My dismissive avoidant ex would literally make a dismissive gesture with her hands while talking. I used to stress in restaurants she'd whack a server passing by.
At this point I am willing to guess 75% of NYC has a psychological disorder and it may be best to build a woman from spare parts and broken hearts 💕
Or, as Roy Orbison said....
Well, you can't be my loving baby
You ain't got the style
I'm gonna get some real gone love
That'll drive a cool cat wild
I'm gonna move, rolling right on down
Gonna get me a gal that'll go out on the town
Well, you move on down the line
I'm gonna get me a gal that'll make some time
She can't be square, she can't be slow
'Cause when we start strutting, gotta go, go, go
Well, I'm gonna show you ain't so hot
I'm gonna get what you ain't got
She'll be sweet, won't do me wrong
She'll be cool and twice as gone
You gotta roll, move it right on down
Gonna get me a gal that'll go out on the town
Well, you move on down the line
I'm gonna get me a gal that'll make some time
She can't be square, she can't be slow
'Cause when we start strutting, gotta go, go, go
Well, you move on down the line
I'm gonna get me a gal that'll make some time
She can't be square, she can't be slow
'Cause when we start strutting, gotta go, go, go
She left while we were dating
Still doing these videos huh, Katya?
I broke up with Stacey over a year ago and our last communication was in January.
Good riddance!
I feel bad for people who don't have the self-respect and self-love to just get out of toxic relationships with these broken people.
People have no idea what they're missing out on and once they see what it feels like to be in a relationship with a normal and healthy person capable of loving you back, it's a wonder why they ever stuck around.
Thanks though.
I think people who were partnered with a DA take the relationship much to seriously when they see the evidence of how casual and non-invested the DA is - they need to take note and match like with like - I basically made it clear by responding to their reach out months later as what is termed a f-boy... well, I answered in f-boy fashion right back.... shocker I'm sure - all at once making it clear to them I no longer cared about 'caretaking' their feelings, doing on the emotional labor in our relationship - which they had thrown away months before. You throw something and someone away, and in my world, as a result, actions have consequences - you lose all my respect and you're not ever going to get anything from me from that moment on. Love yourself folks, choose yourself first. And fake it if you need to, until you make it. Your future self will thank yourself daily, I promise you.
Pretty amazing content. Thank you 🙏
Thanks a bunch!
I've been in No Contact with a serious Dismissive Avoidant that broke up with me for two months now. After a long hiatus, they started uploading content to their Instagram stories again, where I see they've been going to the gym, got a puppy, returned to her nail decoration hobby, and is receiving gifts from other people? It seems like she's working on herself and doing better, but I'm not sure how this fits into any of the stages mentioned and if a reconnection is still possible?
Out if the 8 long relationships I've had, I've dated two DAs yet they were the only girls i loved. It took the first one nearly two years of no contact to reach out. The 2nd one I feel she never loved me at all copared to the first DA, So doubt to ever hear from her but that's okay :)
Hi ! Cheers for the content, this video so far was the best video I've ever seen about dismissive avoidant attachment style. It helped me understand better my case, 7 months have passed after our break up and my ex haven't reached out yet, like I was never existed. I reached out to him and he never answered my messages, this hurt me so bad and gave me the feeling of unworthiness but when I think about the things he's said about his ex when he was with me , I can see some of the characteristics of dismissive avoidant in him. So he's probably showing the same reaction to me. His mind rationalizes things to change his feelings and he believes whatever his mind says. He was so clingy at the beginning though, then after a month he became cold and he used to say that he's just got comfortable with me , I wanna know that if dismissive avoidants can be clingy too ?🤔
No. It's not a DA thing quite the opposite, but attachment isn't the whole person. there are personality traits, temperament cultural standards etc that all influence behaviour. Also be mindful that attachment is not the same as personality, attachment changes and can be different with different people at the same time (secure with friends, da with partner) and our interactions with others will alter how we attach, fa with one partner secure with another. but personality is pretty stable over time, if they have a long history of a particular behaviour that applies more generally (similar behaviours with friend, partner people in general) then it's more likely to be personality based than attachment.
just avoid the avoidant.
Mine came back guys !!! And he’s a millionaire. I’m a single mom. Off & on for abt 3yrs.. we got in a heated argument & he’s very dismissive of what I want. Went no contact for 4 months.. he reached out after 2 months. I said nothing ( he was breadcrumbing .. another 2 months go by & he reaches out asking about my son.
He knows my son is my world so he tries to use that to get on my soft side. Then we talked some more and he claims he wants to do the things that I want & we are meeting for dinner soon. I’m scared ! Bt I’m ready !
Very informative.
Glad you think so!
Can you make a video of how avoidants process being broken up with? There is VERY little information out there about this situation in which they are the dumpee.
You're stunning!
When me and my ex broke up the first time which honestly our breakup blew out of the water because of an ex-friend of mine made it worse she broke up a week before my birthday and I avoided contact and she blew up my phone and then got my friend to blow up my phone
very good video. will they ever really change? and just repeat their disappearing
Hi Katya! Are there any rough timeframes associated with each of these stages DAs go through?
Dear Katya, cheers for the content - comes in very useful. I have a question. I reached out to my DA partner who had broken up with me on day 35 of NC after learning, through a friend of mine, she was back on Tinder. Our first chat was friendly and I could sense that she still remembered good memories we shared. But the next day she became unresponsive and finally told me she has nothing more to tell me and does not want to meet up. I know I made a mistake contacting her, but is it over now? Or is there still anything I can do? Back into NC seems like the only option I might have at the moment. Any thoughts, please?
Concentrate on yourself mate….everything else will follow….whatever you do…do not ever contact her again…she’s dead to you….move on buddy & see what life brings you….sometimes you gotta say goodbye to things you know & hello to the things you don’t…😉
@@rockybarrano33 thank you, bud, it hurts to read such words, but I know so well they come with wisdom.
Go for it my friend & never look back…there’s nothing for you there now mate…only in front where all the funs at…you’ll be fine…you’ll see…bin there got all t-shirts..take it easy..😜👍👍
@@rockybarrano33 cheers, mate, sometimes the only thing you can do is keep telling yourself you can do it, even though you think you can’t. one step at a time.
Get yourself to Thailand..!! I’m in Pattaya atm..& you’re life will never be the same….book yourself a flight now or in the future & I promise you’re ex Mrs will be the last thing on your mind…!! It’s nearly 2 in the afternoon here…& I’ve jus sent the girls out to get me some beers as 7:11 stop serving from 2 to 5…I’m living the dream mate…get yourself over here ..!!! 👍🔥🔥🇬🇧🍻
Why bother. This video is depressing. There is no point to try.
I wonder how theese stages are if it was another situation in the break up? Thought the differences should be discussed in the video!?
In my case the breakup was ”my descission”. But due to his unwillingness to commit.
He blocked me on social media, without an answer!
6 weeks after, I realise that he probably was very surprised and got really sad! But now ”he has moved on” he says!
What to do?? Is he going to change he’s mind somtime?
How does the information in the video apply to this situation, in terms of ”time” for the different stages!!??
If he wanted you, he would have reached out. This was at least my experience 10 years ago with an avoidant. I broke up with him due to commitment issues and 3 weeks later he reached out saying that he realized that he indeed has feelings for me.
I'm currently in an agreed no contact with another avoident I dated for 5 month. And I guess I hoped something similar would happen but nope. It's been 5 weeks (or 4 weeks of no contact) since the break up and nothing. To be fair, we did agree on 6 - 8 weeks. But I truly believe that when someone has feelings for you, they will reach out within a month to have you back. If not, they will not risk their heart again.
Even though, I do have to say, I have friends who did get back together after 2 or 4 month. But their technique was to find something they need help with.
No contact. Forever. Your relationship was not good for you. You are just romanticizing because it’s normal, where you’re at. You were not compatible and a few weeks is not going to change that, nor even few years. Move on, find someone that better fits you. Seriously. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it will save you plenty of time. Believe me.
What if it has been 8 months in breakup, and 4 month in no contact at all... plus on top, I'm blocked everywhere?
Do these apply ? I mean will I even get unblocked one day?
It is not worth it leave and find a person who does not play with your emotions
I wished it was that easy 🙄@@soul_ki
No. Let it go...
I was
I reached out to them via phone and he listened to my message (I was also blocked). Try it what could u possibly lose now?
@user-ug7sl3ms6b To be honest, I believe I've moved on. It's coming to 2 years in November that she broke up. It's already been 1 year of absolute no contact. I feel way much better, and I said, "Let it be. I know it sounds odd because I still know the dates, etc, but that's how it is... u never forget some stuff in life. I'm happy. I have been in a new relationship for a year now... and life goes on.