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Boners & SEX with a foley catheter - You know you wanted to know.
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- Опубликовано: 13 дек 2020
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It’s gonna happen and can be painful. The catheter is long enough so you won’t run into anything while being aroused. Usually, the erection will subside quickly as it can be more uncomfortable and painful than sexual. Yes, I’ve heard that you can engage in sexual activity, however, it may cause trauma from the heightened motion. You may want to abstain for the duration of cathing. However, it is possible…..it was just not for me.
Cheers, and wishing you great health. Tony
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I always thought my waking erection was a piss hard. But awaking with an erection and a foley is painful when the cath is pulled taunt. But an awaking erection with a foley has proven that awakening morning erection is not from a full bladder. I recon it's just a blessing at age 60. I had my cath removed two days ago. So, I'm on top of the world. I'm extremely joyful that I am rid of that dreaded catheter tether. it was like a ball and chain attached to my junk!
Happy to hear you're on the other side of having to use that archaic device and from the sound of it functioning really well.
Wishing you great health.
I have your foley catheter videos helpful. As I am currently going through this for the first time. Thank you very much for making the videos and addressing this sensitive topic with personal experience information. Greatly appreciated
You are very welcome and I am humbled that I am able to help. I wish you great health. Cheers.
Tony, great to hear you talking about this. You have been on the journey. Yes, the mind expierence is a hard thing to deal with.
Hey Rod, thank you for the support. I had no choice...it had to be talked about cause its a reality. OMG did you see the video I did on what happens after you have a prostatectomy? It was a hard video to do but I needed to share the reality of what happens that is sometimes just glossed over. Anyhow, thank you again for the kind words.
@@maletenance It's ok Tony. I feel like were brothers on the same journey. I felt like I was going through stages. I had disbelief, then I fell apart and it was almost text book stuff. When you have difficulty talking about it. I know that feeling.
Thanks for getting back to me.
Doing a great job.
@@singmenow4u Totally Rod.....kindred spirits mate. That's what I freakin love the most about all the people that have come here and said I helped, is that nothing else matters. Not background, not beliefs, not political views, nothing! Just humans and relatability, compassion, and understanding because we experienced the same messed up health thing that shook us to our core.
I like to think that maybe someone who felt lost, watches the videos, and gets some tips, will feel better, and maybe, just maybe, because they feel better, get through it all and go on to do big positive things for the world. Then maybe I'm making a small difference too. You know what I mean. Makes me smile.
great videos tony. im 72 . ive had the cath in a month now after bladder tumor removal. they took the cath out 4 days after the procedure. i developed an acute UTI. I actually went to the ER because i couldnt pee at all. turns out i got sepsis and a 5 day stint in the hospital. i had 5 days of IV antibiotics and 2 weeiks of pills after i got out. its been just about 6 weeks since the turbt surgery and i feel pretty good. turns out i have an underlying prostate problem. i am going to have aqua ablasion at NYU TO CLEAR it. so i will have the cath for a while longer . been a month already. i did actually have a wet dream one night it was not fun. i know, a wet dream at 72!! must have been a freak thing. anyway, i have figured out like you did by trial and error what works. thanks for all the great info
Hi Mark, thank you for the kind words of support regarding the videos. I don't have all the answers but what I do have, I'm honored and humbled they have helped.
By the way good for you having a wet dream, it's something to be proud of at 72.
On another note - damn you have had a bit of a journey there. I'm so sorry. Sepsis is no joke but glad to hear you're feelin' pretty good, all things considered.
Hopefully, the final procedure will rid you once and for all of the archaic catheter.
Let me know how it goes.
Cheers, and wishing you great health. Tony
Wow, i am 68 and going through same thing dude, and doc's still unsure of why i cannot pee and now working with them 3 weeks so am getting closer to it. did you drink beer for 40 years like i did? i wonder if that could be the cause of my fistula which has fused to the bladder, they say stints are a possibility. oh boy. getting old is very interesting, and so glad our minds don't age, cheers and best of luck to you sir...!!!!😊
i did drink beer but nothin crazy, just casual drinker. our minds DO age btw. how's your short term memory? mines not that great. im doing ok now. no catheter and peeing ok. im going to start saw palmetto supplements. it could help with urinary and prostate health. cheers @@ronvalley1973
Thank you again for this video you mad funny don’t ever stop making videos ❤
Awww thanks Danny. I had to have some levity or else I would have gone nuts. It was not an easy time and I was by myself for the whole duration as it happened right at the beginning of Covid. Man, I had to dig deep, have a come to Jesus, and do some serious mental gymnastics to get through. The videos I did where I'm being funny or most myself were probably done on the days it was hardest. I needed a laugh to get through. What's the saying "laughter is the best medicine".😆
Anyhow, if you ever want to shoot the shit reach out tony.alcindor@maletenance.com
I've talked to loads of guys and some women and it helped to just talk to someone who's been down the same road.
Cheers T.
Thank you sir your information is just what I needed, I’m an older man, so really the sexual side, does not need be a bother, but I can’t help the body producing sperm, you are great no one ever told me how it works, you’ve eased my mind, on so many levels, 🙏 👍👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Pete, so freakin happy to help. That was the goal with the videos. Cheers, and wishing you great health.
After having prostate cancer radiation treatments 10 years ago, I developed almost total ED. I got a catheter 10 days ago for urinary retention which was uncomfortable. So I was surprised one night when I had an erection. I guess the stimulation of the tube inside my penis was doing it. Proceeded to stroke it which was not painful for me. However I stopped short of climax to avoid contractions that might damage something inside. Still pleasurable to me. Have repeated a couple of times without problems.
Hey Warren, that's a freakin success story! Not the catheter part but the erection part. I wonder if there needs to be more research into what you say about the stimulation in the urethra that did it. Could you imagine......it would be revolutionary for so many men who suffer from ED.
You should talk to your urologist to find out if anything would happen if you finished the job. I mean you're already having a good time, how great would be if you got the green light to go for it. Not to sound weird but keep me posted. I'm doing a lot of R & D on prostate issues, including advocating for earlier screenings and I finished my final patent filing for an improved catheter I designed that allows the user more range of motion so it's less painful for the user.
Cheers mate and wishing you great health.
I need to know if it’s going to cause damage or just irritation because these erections with my foley are downright annoying me rn.. can I do it idc if it’s painful.
Hi, from the comments it's possible without causing damage. Someone said they taped the catheter back onto their penis and put a condom on. There might be some irritation and pain but I don't know. Ask your urologist the risk to reward or.....not to be funny.....maybe go at a slower pace?
I know about the erections and it was not easy....at times painful...my balls hurt. I knew there would be an end date and that's what kept me sane. I'm sure it would have been different if I knew it was going to be forever. I could and would never do abstinence by choice.
May I ask what was your diagnosis that led you to catheter use and your age? It'll help me with the stats that I am working on to be a better advocate for men's health.
Cheers, and wishing you great health. T
In month three of a Foley catheter due to a really large prostate. Hopefully get surgery to fix before end of year. Heres a few things from my experience.
At first was very painful. But I learned some things that really helped. It has impacted my life and I cant wait to have surgery to solve my issue and get rid of the catheter.
Thoughts on sex with a catheter in for a man. Ejaculate can exit around the catheter. But what doesnt make it out will be trapped near the penis end of the urethra. Will that fluid cause a UTI? Something o ask your doctor I guess.
Hey, thanks for sharing. Sounds like our stories with a foley catheter from an enlarged prostate are similar. Mine was 4 times larger than normal. I had to use a catheter for a lil over three months before my abdominal prostatectomy and you're so right about the impact on life.
What kind of surgery are you having?
Regarding your question about the residue ejaculate causing a UTI....it could if not cleaned up. Your hygiene is super important, even more so now than before, as having a foley can lead to a cesspool of infection which can lead to a UTI. I did a video about hygiene and basically what I did was pull my penis backward a little bit on the catheter at the tip to get the potential build-up that's just inside the tip. Not to be gross but I got a lil crusty once just inside as I was not as diligent as I should be but that's just me and I was way more careful after that. I actually no longer have to worry about ejaculating as the prostatectomy took that away.
If you wouldn't mind telling me your age it would really help with the research I am doing to become more of an advocate for earlier screening and overall prostate care. The stats a mind-blowing and the age of those with BPH has dropped. The goal is to get men to get comprehensive care instead of reactive care.
You can email me privately if you prefer at tony.alcindor@maletenance.com
Hope this helped.
Cheers, and wishing you great health.
I am fitted with a Foley at the moment for retention and BPH. Were you on Tamsulosin and didn't it help?
Laughing did hurt a little watching this.. heh. I do have to sometimes stand if I am going to cough.
What is the condition?
**Lucy Mattinen,**
Boy, I have *One Doozy of an ACCIDENTAL Erection Story:*
It was a medical procedure called a "Cystoscopy." You women must remember, the urine tube for men is a bit longer.......lol. Just last week, I had this cystoscopy performed.
It's a flex-tube device with a camera and water injection thing attached. The urologist thought I had something inside my bladder (a growth or tumor).
However, being male, I was super-paranoid! The urologist had my legs in the OB/GYN-type device as if I was about to give birth.... He had a female assistant and the rushing of the water stimulated my prostate (I should have been forewarned). It caused an involuntary erection. There I was, embarrassed to no end when I asked, "Why is this happening, Doctor?" His reply was that it's completely normal. - STILL: I was embarrassed! When he released the water, the erection died down a bit.
- Two complete strangers, while I'm legs-spread with an erection...my word.
Hopefully, *I'll never require another cystoscope procedure.*
I had a foley in for 2 months, luckily i never had any pain. I freaked out the first night i got a boner and just kinda went still until it passed. I had an appt with my primary dr the next day so asked him about it. He was somewhat awkward about it but said it's ok & not to worry about it. The next time i carefully masturbated not intending to orgasm but went too far & did. The semen came out around the catheter. It was a little freaky but i survived with no ill effects. It was a relief to get the foley out, now i use intermittent catheters. I'm in my mid 50's. It's was quite a journey learning to live with it, my Dr & urologist didn't really tell me shit so i hope this helps some of you. Carry on!!!
Thanks for sharing your story. It'll help so many people that come here for support and advice navigating a catheter, especially when it comes to personal happy time. Also, like the thousands that have visited my channel, there is a common thread....we were all given no information on how to live with the damn thing, which is #@$% shame. It's literally the definition of adding insult to injury. I'm working to get these videos recommended in hospital ERs and urologist offices. I don't have all the answers but some help is better than no help.
Cheers and wishing you great health.
Ps. What was your diagnosis that led to catheter use?
@@maletenance That happened to me too, the medical professionals not telling the patient how to deal, how long before the bag leaks & where to get a new bag, not being given a large bag for overnight & more. Surely they have the answers, why not explain everything to the patient? It was very frustrating. Plus you're dealing with having to self cath & trying not to freak out about that. My diagnosis is between my bladder & my prostate my urethra was made too small. I was born that way & never bothered me until now, and my bladder doesn't empty completely, urologist said I have a flaccid bladder. I'm resigned to it, I do what I gotta do. My kidneys are lobulated because the urine was backing up into my kidneys. That was a very long response. Happy to help anyone who is struggling like I was.
Thanks for sharing your journey. Sorry you have to deal with it all but it sound like you have you head on straight, which is very important in my view. The mental and emotional stress is never talked about and I've spoken to countless men about it. You gotta get your head in the game to get through.
There seems to be endless reasons for a person having continence issues. I tell you I never wished for something so bad as being able to pee on my own when I was diagnoses with BPH. Having that simple thing of taking a walk by myself changed me forever.
Anyhow, not sure if you know but I made pamphlets with a QR code that lead you to the channel. I have been sending them to people I have met here, that they are giving to their doctors to use to give to patients, to provide peer support information on how to navigate life with a catheter. It's got a disclaimer that it is not medical advice...just first-person practical info that only a person who had a catheter would know. Let me know if you want me to send you some. If not no worries and if you have any other questions feel free to email me.
Cheers. Tony
Can I as this personal question. AS we are men how do you deal with wet dreams.As iam having them and it creates so much pain.But it very quickly wakes me up at nights and I have to try and stop the flow.
I'm not an expert, however, my understanding is that wet dreams happen involuntarily as to nightly erections. It's actually quite normal and healthy. Yes, it can be annoying and even painful with a catheter. However, I know that for me personally, I will take that annoyance over any of the variety of problems that could have happened down there. Men don't seem to realize what it takes to make their urinary and reproductive parts function....it's a freakin work of biological engineering. So count your blessings that you're privates are working, even if you are losing a lil sleep....there are guys out there that would kill for a nightly boner or wet dream. Cheers, and wishing you great health.
@@maletenance Thank u so much for your reply. I've found that it wakes me up in a instant and then it subside due to the pain.But then afters I've got to do a full flush a few times to clear the bladder and tube.
@@maletenance thank u so much for your reply. Today am trying to get a new prostate implants put it.
@@seeuguys You are so welcome. May I ask what a prostate implant's function is? I had a prostatectomy and I'm curious.
@@maletenance Iam not fully sure myself.I was ment to have mine done yesterday. But was turned down due to having continued uti and at risk of getting sepsis. So I was rejected. Am OK during the daytime managing it.But night times become onward ie over spills and smells af infections.
Thank you
You're so welcome.
I had a catheter in for 6 weeks.
1. Yes, getting a boner was a bit painful. Let me be specific: the boner itself wasn't painful. What was mildly painful was the movement of the skin against the rubber catheter as the boner grew and then subsided. Like you said, you can't control your boners at night. I found that keeping the catheter clean from any sticky deposits helped minimize pain. The stickiness is what hurts.
2. I never masturbated the entire time the catheter was in. No way I would've even attempted it, too much movement and would've hurt like hell.
3. Getting the catheter removed was painless. It was a great day to get that thing removed and "get back to normal" if you know what I mean.
I know exactly what you mean. In my case I have to contend with a knew normal, after having a prostatectomy, if you know what I mean. But at least I'm urinating on my own.
@@mroldnewbie LOL I had aquablation to remove excess prostate. After surgery a VERY attractive nurse came in to check and flush my catheter. That was the first and only time in my life a very attractive woman was touching me down there without me doing anything about it.
@@mroldnewbie They didn't take that into consideration when they designed it. Catheter companies never think from the users point of view. Are you catheter-free now and did anyone have any suggestions for a preferred catheter to accommodate an erection? This would be helpful.
No one told you about lubricating the catheter ? Silly , no nearly as unpleasant if you use lube .
No one told me #@#$ about anything. They put it in the ER and sent me home. You lucked out getting that piece of intel. What was your diagnosis that led to catheter use?
I want to the r and got a catheter put in they didn't say anything about any lube what kind do you recommend
@@kennymartin379 I don't have any recommendations for lube. Maybe ask @kennymartin379 he seems to have an idea.
I had a catheter for a week last year and this was a definite problem. In fact I dreaded to sleep after 3 am given the risks of involuntary physiological erections in the morning and a severe shearing pain accompanying them.
Sadly I’ll need to have the same stiff silicon catheter again in a month, but this time for 3 weeks. My surgeon has suggested using diazepam to help with sleep and there is some literature that it helps with pain. I’ll feedback in a month about my experience.
Guess it may be easier with s rubber catheter that’s much softer than a harder silicon one.
Hi Raneesh, Thank you for sharing your journey and I'm really sorry you have to deal with it all. Having to use a catheter for any period of time is not easy, add in night boners (boners in general) and well.....it's a lot.
Personally, I tried to take the least amount of medications unless it was absolutely necessary. I knew the likelihood of getting an infection down there was high since I was going to have a catheter for many months and I would need antibiotics at some point, which have side effects (I think I did a video about my tongue turning brown and furry-like) and was concerned about how they would react with other medications I might need during the time of using a catheter. I'm not a huge fan of taking lots of medications.....interactions, addictions, etc. but that's just me but I also sleep like the dead.
Ask your urologist lots of questions.
May I ask what was the cause of your having to use a catheter?
Cheers.
This is what I get. Fall asleep and boinggg!!!
Thanks for sharing. Me looking for advice for after many years of pain and suffering my significant other and me specially are having sexual desires, sometimes me feel no pain and sometimes me do feel pain after finishing, it are nearly impossible for her to allow me to hold her for a while. Me believe we have both been through it, old age plays a role as well, me just wish we may rekindle our flesh for be intimate for the first time.
I'm glad that the video helped. I wish you and your loved ones great health. Cheers
I'm 66 years old and I had to find out and I did it and it didn't hurt one bit just had to be careful but you can do it I did at 66 years old
Congratulations Gene.....you are one of the lucky ones. Cheers, and wishing you great health.
I have had a Foley catheter for 6 years. Luckily for me I’m in my mid 60s and have no interest in sex. I can’t imagine actually to do such a thing. The discomfort must be horrible. No thanks.
The thought of it is frightening but I guess some people gotta do what they gotta do.
May I ask you what are the challenges you face, if any, on day-to-day bases having a Foley for 6 years? How is your range of movement in performing activities of daily living? The reason I ask is I found it very difficult to navigate doing everything without pain.
Thank you in advance.
Cheers
Tony
@@maletenance actually there very little loss of movement. Believe it or not I don’t even feel it 85% of the time. The only discomfort happens when I get it replaced every 4 weeks.
@@JeffreyBrock58 Thank you for sharing. You are one of the lucky ones. Wishing you great health.
Tony
Yeah, take it easy - the thought will pass.
Hey tony, why do some guys actually enjoy a catheter? 😮 my bf is one of them. But i hate them myself.
I've heard that some people like it. Must be a sensation that they enjoy. I don't know exactly how it works, however, I don't think it's going all the way into the bladder. Different strokes, for different folks I guess.
Your boyfriend is playing a joke on you. No way he enjoys it.
@@mattfoley6082 he does, and sounding too.
@@maletenance prob from stimulating the prostate.
My x is 72 and catherterized 5 years. I want him to get steam to open to bladder. He is afraid of covid and will not go to doctor. 2 cath 2 or 3 times a day that long is bad?
Hi Lucy, Please excuse my very delayed response. I have not been checking the videos. Regarding your question, are you sure he's actually afraid of Covid or is it something else? Most guys don't like going to the doctors regardless, least of all when it comes to issues down there, and after 5 years he's been through a lot. Regarding Covid and safety - I went to the urologist all through Covid and the doctor's office took extra precautions to make sure it was a safe and clean environment so it would not spread. I tested negative the entire time.
I say this with respect - Only a medical professional can truly offer the best care for his medical journey. Maybe it's better coming from his doctor. The urologist can call him to explain procedures, what it entails, side effects, advantages, and disadvantages, etc.
Just my humble opinion.......I hope this helps
Tony
I asked the urologist about the Rezum med(?)steam technique, but DH's prostate is too large;cystoscopy will show what might be the best way to reduce the prostate size. I suspect this is what you meant by the steam.
Well said….5*****.
Thank you. I thought it was important to at least start the conversation.
I get them nightly constantly.
Night boners with a catheter hurt and wake you up. On the flip side, your body is doing what it's supposed to do naturally and hopefully, that will continue for years to come. Hang in there. Cheers, Tony
ps. Why did you need a catheter? I had BPH.
@@maletenance BPH and retention Tony. Currently on 1 month of catheterisation and on Tamsulosin. Praying when the trial without catheter happens in a couple of weeks that the medication has done its job.
@@maletenance Got a really bad urgency feel for most of yesterday, not looking like an infection but even after good output levels throughout the day, things felt very urgent. Took a Diazapam and Paracetomol when I went to bed which eased things a bit.
There is no pain if it’s done right with the necessary lube .
Glad your personal experience was great.
Did not help
I hope you find a solution.
I am watching this video in the morning not able to sleep properly. I am having constant boners the moment I sleep. And let me tell that its very painful. My catheter will be removed after 5 days.
I feel your pain. I've been there. It ain't easy and no one knows unless they've had giant straw in their privates. Hang in there, just a few more days. Cheer's
Please language use Hindi
@@Kapil-sb4oq I'm sorry I don't speak Hindi. Maybe you can have the video translated to get the information.
@@maletenance Got my foley catheter removed on June 30th. I could not express in words the pain I felt when the catheter. Was scared of peeing for 2 days due to irritation. My huge respect to you for making these videos, putting them no RUclips and replying to comments. It takes courage and selfless attitude to do this and serve people for free.
Can you drive with a catheter
I didn't (I lived in NYC during my time with a catheter and took the subway) but many people do. You may have to adjust the positioning of the leg bag so it's more comfortable and not pulling.
@@maletenance thank you so much for the information after the doctor took it out how long did it take for you to urinate
Probably a few weeks. I had to retrain my bladder muscles. Here's a video I did about it. Hope it helps.
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@@nathanieledwards235 You are so welcome. After my surgery and the doctor finally took the catheter out I was able to urinate immediately which was great. The problem was I couldn't control peeing. I would have the urge to urinate and it would just start. It was like I was a toddler again. I had to retrain my bladder muscles to learn how to start and stop.I did a video about it. The link is below. Let me know if you have any more questions. Cheers Tony ruclips.net/video/inub9NhNS4s/видео.html
I'm a 59 year old paraplegic with an indwelling catheter
Glad you found the videos. I hope they help. Cheers, and wishing you great health.
@Maletenance My girlfriend wants to try and get more intimate so we're going to try folding along my penis and a condom
@@davidthompson5766 I have heard from a few others that it worked.
@Maletenance Thanks we'll be trying tomorrow
@@davidthompson5766 Hi David, you are much braver than I was that's for sure. Not to be intrusive, or inappropriate, if you could share how it went - preparation, partners' thoughts, pain or not, what you might do the same or differently, etc it would be really helpful for those that find themselves in similar circumstances.
The reason I ask is so many out there that have to use a catheter could use this information and not feel so lost.
There is so little info for catheter users (and partners) be it short or long-term use, however, having to live with a catheter, for many different reasons, affects so so many. It's why I started the channel...I was freakin lost.
If you want to respond privately you can email me at tony.alcindor@maletenance.com.
I promise full discretion and not to use your name in any future videos and if you'd prefer not to share, I 100% understand and wish you all the very best. Tony