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POST PROSTATETECTOMY - Ejaculations and orgasms are not the same...huh?
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- Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
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I am 59 years old and like so many guys out there I knew nothing about how my body functioned beyond sex-ed in school and I never bothered to learn anything until I was in a health crisis. Well, I was freaking the ^&#$@ out, thinking sex was done and life was over! Sorry for the melodrama but you can just imagine my shock, fear, and sadness at that news. But check this out - You can have an orgasm/climax post-prostatectomy, beyond any ED problems, but there will be no ejaculation. Meaning no ejaculate fluid. OK gonna keep it simple here - no white creamy stuff. Yup, who knew. I can have a great ole time with easy clean-up. Sorry, but I didn't know how else to drive it home. It's called a retrograde or ghost orgasm. Who knew and now you know.
Cheers, and wishing you great health. Tony
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Thanks Tony, I am 60 yrs old and I have my catheter in now for over 3 months, in two days I will be having my Aquablation prostate surgery, when I first had the catheter put in I was very depressed. I wish I would have came across your videos months ago, you put a good spin on the topic and had me laughing on a lot of your videos, thanks again
Kenny!!!! You made my day man! To know I helped you in a small way to get you through this difficult time makes me so freakn proud and humbled. Just sorry it took so long to find me. I'm working on the tags and stuff so the videos can be found easier but I'm still learning about RUclips. Enough about that - How're you doin? How are you feeling? You got your head together for your procedure? I spent the days prior to my prostatectomy just gettin my head together. You will be so happy to rid of the catheter. Watch some of the videos on post-procedure.....they'll help make the transition back to voiding on your own a lil easier I think.
@@maletenance wow tony its 8 months later lol and I am just ready your response to me, thanks for responding 8 months ago lol, the surgery went well but my urologist told me that I will probably have to have another surgery in a few years, wasn't too happy to hear that, my insurance company denied my surgery 3 days before I was to have surgery and I had to pay out of pocket a very very large amount of money, its 8 months later and I am still fighting with the insurance company to try and get my money back, they denied my surgery and said my surgery was not medically necessary, are they kidding me, I could not pee and I had a catheter in for 4 months before my surgery
Thank you for your openness and honesty. Thank you for all the information that goes unshared.
You are so welcome. It's not an easy topic to discuss, but it is the information we need to know about. Albeit a bit basic and in layman's terms its a start. Cheers, and wishing you great health.
Atta way "Life Coach Tony"!!! NAILED IT TO A TEE!
Yep, No Mess!! at my age, I'm Lovin' It!!
...binge watchin' ya!
Wussup buddy! Thank you thank you! It was so scary making this video and putting it out there but I had to do it cause well it's true and I knew I couldn't be the only one going through this and well I just hope its helps guys out.
We need a catch-up. Let's make it happen.
Cheers.
What a brave soul you are! Thank you for your courage and honesty. You are making a difference in people’s lives. Grateful beyond measure.
Thank you for the kind words of support. It was so hard to put myself out there but I knew if I could help one person by sharing my personal story then I had to be brave. I hope the videos helped a little and wishing you great health. Tony
sorry... you had me laughing.....at 2:30ish..... you explain things sooooo good. the look on your face, the fog, the shuffling out to the car... LMAO. you know, I'm thinking they should have some SIMPLE worded classes BEFORE they ever remove a prostate. Physically it can be a struggle for some. Mentally/ emotionally the patient may have to do some self talking work.
LOL! A lil laughter on a serious topic was what I needed to get through this whole thing. Thanks for the words of support. I have to say I didn't want to do it initially because it's so personal. You have no idea how hard it was to make this video and it took even longer to decide to post it. However, I thought it'll help so many, and since we guys don't talk to each other about our health issues, especially down there (geographically speaking it's off-topic) but we'll search online to find information, I'll just be brave and do it. I'm proud and humbled that its helped thousands of people.
I'm trying to figure out how to be able to have this channel become a non-medical support space that can be recommended. Support, emotional or mental is not provided but so incredibly needed, especially the self-talk or the mental gymnastics as I call it. We are not alone on this journey but we can certainly feel like that, particularly during a health crisis. Maybe I'll do an E-booklet or start a speaking tour or do a podcast. I dunno, I just wanna continue helping. We'll see.
In the meantime, cheers, and wishing you great health.
This is awesome. Straight talk
Really appreciate you sharing and helping others
Thanks, that really means a lot. It was scary AF putting it all out there but if it helps then it was worth it.
Cheers, and wishing you great health.
I'm a woman and find this all very interesting and educational . My 92 year old father recently had a foley inserted and it shows blood every so often and blood clots obviously. His urologist stated, at his age surgery would be so invasive and most likely wouldn't make it through so, we walk through the rest of his life , not knowing if he has cancer in his bladder or prostate. We're just trying to make him as comfortable as possible. I am so happy I stumbled across your channel. I found the hanger under the bed video (sleeping with a foley bag) very useful for my Dad as well. Thank you isn't enough . 🙏
Oh I'm so glad that videos are helping and I am sorry to hear about your Dad. You are a great daughter for educating yourself on this subject of catheters. It can be quite daunting on top of the realities and challenges you and he are facing but it's doable. I do hope you find some useful information that will make him more comfortable. Have you watched the video on sitting? I know from a healthcare worker who reached out to me who works with the elderly, that she found that one very helpful. Is your dad mobile?
Please feel free to reach out to me via email, Tony.Alcindor@Maletenance.com and we can set up a time to speak if you'd like. I am a firm believer in providing healthcare peer/family support. I've spoken to people from around the world and it seems to help. Sometimes a tidbit of information from a chat can make all the difference.
In the meantime I send you a BIG virtual hug for strength.
Cheers Tony
@maletenance1872 oh my gosh, I want to cry!! You are such a beautiful soul! Yes, my father is still very mobile almost to a disadvantage. He bumps it and runs over it quite often in his wheelchair to where a nurse has to come change it out from the catheter. I have so many unanswered questions, I would love to chat and learn more. I will send you an email as soon as I can and wishing you many blessings three fold for the kindness you show to others. Stay humorous 😉
@@mybrookee1 I very much look forward to hearing from you and answering as many questions as I can.
Thanks for sharing information on a very sensitive subject. I thought the same thing as you that ejaculation and orgasm were synonymous. Thank God they are not. The orgasm is different but the difference is worth living with!
Who knew!!!! It's actually been amazing to find out that so many guys thought that they were one and the same. This to me shows that 1) Men don't know about their own body and how it functions and 2) Men's first introduction to a urologist should not be when there is a problem. Women have a gynecologist for most of their adult life to make sure their urinary and reproductive health is maintained, why don't men?! Maybe that's why women outlive men? Food for thought. Anyhow, to your point and I agree, it's different but worth living with. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Cheers!
Wow...thanks! In August 2002, i had a radical cystoprostatectomy with ileal conduit. You got it....bladder and prostate completely removed. I am thankful to be cancer free for now, but miss being able to produce the ejaculatory "result." Even at 63 years of age!
I miss it too. I am grateful that I have no ED complications so I really shouldn't complain though. Wishing you great health.
Firstly hello and thank you for your channel Tony.
Forgive me for asking.
With your surgery am I correct to assume that they we’re able to save “the nerve endings” surrounding your prostate? Im curious was this discussed “prior to your operation”? Or did you have a period of erectile function before being able to sustain an erection? I’m hearing all kinds of horror stories regarding ED and incontinence? Did you have any issues with this matter?
I know you had BPH and not prostrate cancer so Im assuming there is a “difference” in terms of the actual removal of the prostrate and subsequent erectile function?
I’ve started this scary journey and I’m reading all sorts of things into my situation without “any proper evidence yet”. All I know is that my PSA is past “normal range” for my age (I’m 50) , I’m peeing ALOT and my general doctor has asked for it to be investigated.
I’ve had a near breakdown just “thinking” about all the potentials.
On thing that shines through in your story “is you”. You have a wonderful energy, a courage and openness that has made me smile and given me hope. I feel blessed to have found your channel. I have a ton of questions probably but I just dived right on in with this video.
God bless you,
From Liverpool England.
🙏❤️.x
Whoa whoa whoa!!!! Take a breath. You're gonna %$#@ yourself if you don't. From what I can tell you've gone down the rabbit hole because you weren't provided enough or any information from your medical provider. This seems to be a common theme everywhere. All men are advised to get their PSA and prostate checked at 50 to be in front of any potential issues if any at all. Having a PSA that is past its normal range is not a marker for cancer or getting a prostatectomy. It is like when your engine check light comes on in your car - it's time to check things out and possibly some maintenance is required so it continues to keep running for years to come. My car is running just fine, even with less oil. LOL!
Breathe!!!
Also no need to worry......I'm really open about everything I went through so don't worry about asking me questions. See car metaphor.
Let's do this if you want, which I've done this a ton of times with guys from all over the world and it really helps. Plus I don't that type fast. Send me an email at tony.alcindor@Maletenance.com and we can set up a time for a call/Zoom and you can ask me whatever you want. Even today cause I don't want you freakin out and I'm working from home so I'm around. I'm in NY by the way.
Cheers, Tony
@ wormsnake1 I wanted to check on you and see how you're doing. Not sure if you got my response. I'm always around bro if you need some support. Email me. Cheers Tony
Hello. Why did get radical prostectomy with bph? You are supposed to have turp procedure instead.
With regards.
Hi, my prostate had grown so large and irregular in shape that it was the only option that was given to me. There really isn't any one-size-fits-all all procedure. There are so many variables that determine whats right for each person. I have spoken to thousands of men and procedures from Turp, to Holep to a prostatectomy is something determined by the medical professional and the patient.
Now should I have had a second opinion, in hindsight probably but it's too late to think about that now. I'm just happy that I had medical insurance to cover what I needed to bring me back to health.
Cheers, Tony
After removal of the prostate, you may experience during orgasm an involuntary residual urine release which actually almost feels like an ejaculation.
That only happened to me once, and I got a little freaked out. Kinda wish it would happen again to be honest. Reminded a little of how things used to be.
@@maletenance Oh yes, those were the days.
@@torgeirmolaug196 I guess it's still better than ED. I feel those guys, especially if they are on the younger side.
I did not know the difference either..you're not crazy
I swear we're not the only ones and it shouldn't be that way. I wonder if thats why women out live men....cause we just don't know or care to know. Men, we gotta do better for ourselves.
Thanks ! ! !
You're welcome 😊
I heard the prostate can actually grow back so maybe the seminal fluid will flow once more.
Yeah, my urologist said the prostate will grow but by the time the seminal starts to flow.....well....I'll be unalive, unfortunately.
A lot of these procedures only last 3 to 5 years but I guess it depends on how much of the prostate is removed. I just my aguablation yesterday, I’m day one at home with the cath for a week. I hope,
They removed about 80% so if I live to 80 maybe...probably wont care by then. Watch all of the videos....they should offer some help. If you have any questions feel free to reach out to me at Tony.Alcindor@Maletenance.com
In the meantime I wish you a speedy recovery.
@@davidlundy5007 I had aquablation 8 months ago and my Urologist said I will probably have to have another surgery in a couple of years
Sadly we have to get answers from internet than from the actual source where this process initiated. Frustrating to say the least.
It's exactly the reason I started making the videos. I was so lost and confused and scared when it happened to me. There was nothing out there that gave simple practical advice from someone thats been there and done that. I had to do something to help and I'm glad I did. I don't have all the answers but I know I've been a good jumping of place for tens of thousands of people.
Anyhow, I wish you and your loved ones great health.
Cheers Tony
@maletenance1872 thank you so much for your in depth reply AND your channel. I'm so excited to watch more videos and become more educated for myself and families sake. Keep up the great work, you're a gem!!
@@mybrookee1 You're lovely comment made me smile. Please feel free to email me if you have further questions. 😃
Man, it's good news week - so it's bladder bound - who cares - no mess.
Thats great news! So prostate is fine?
@@maletenance No its enlarged, can't void so after 7 months of this the upcoming MRI and biopsy should determine course of action. Still looking at Holep laser as final solution and freedom.
Got it! I don't remember being given any other option for my BPH other than a prostatectomy. I think it had grown too large and irregular in shape. I'm grateful I had the resources for the surgery, which I think got me through it all and to get back to a place of, as you say, freedom. Fingers crossed for you.
Just beware it increases chances of UTIs
@@motleydude73 what does?