Father Creates Safe Space For Gay Son. “It's Important To Talk To The Children About Everything.”
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2019
- When Freddy’s teenage son started withdrawing, he knew something was up. Suspecting it might be related to his sexuality, Freddy sought to maintain an open line of communication with his son - and became a strong ally and defender in the process.
You were made to be a father. The world needs more fathers like you.
@@michaelcaza-schonberger9282 the world needs more people that mind their own business, it would be enough! Take the hint.
Michael Caza-Schonberger yeah what Rapha said
Diva Hair the worst act? I feel like murdering someone is the worst act anyone can partake in...
PERIODDD!!!
Yes, they do!
As a clinical psychologist I tell parents to talk less and listen more.
Talk less... Smile more...
(I'm sorry but I had to... XD)
@@SarcasticCupcake223 oh god
I wish I had a dad like him - what an enlightened, thoughtful and amazing man. When things got tough for his son, he didn't desert him and quite possibly saved him from goodness knows what awful fate.
Me too. My family disowned me when I came out.
Ouch... I don’t always understand parents fears, and how when “gay” becomes a factor, everything changes. It is the same son/daughter the only difference is suddenly gay is a factor. Love is unconditional. Because someone is gay doesn’t mean the love stops. Was t there in the first place? Has this just been being tolerated? I know the so-called “Christians” can reject people for being gay-even when Jesus made unconditional love, the foundation of his beliefs: reject gays they reject Jesus-that isn’t Christian. Still, I gasp when a parent or anyone rejects someone for being gay. Yes, it is fear, but what happened to love?
One of my sons was (that is past tense because he died of AIDS-related illnesses) gay. I was not sure what he was, but stressed that I loved him no matter what. I wanted him to know he was not alone, that someone loved I’m and was there to love and support him.
My other son is non-gay, but he got the same love and support.
Those sons were my PR team as I had their friends come to talk with me about things they should have talked with their own parents.
Once I asked one why he came to talk with me. He said I was the “cool” parent who he felt would listen objectively. While it is flattering to be the “cool” parent, it is the trust and compassion that was triggered.
I have seen and heard about too many people gay and non-gay, who found that they either had difficulty or felt they couldn’t talk with a parent because that parent might be negative or was negative about various issues including sexuality.
I would liked to have been there for these two lads. The “disowned” lad must have faced a horrible time. Who were the un-loving people who could reject their own child. I would be deeply hurt and feel betrayed by such monsters: how could they be my parents? Did they ever love me? and so forth.
I hope things are better.
suvariboy You are worthy of the highest love just as you are.
@@suvariboy I am so sorry about your situation. Hope you have friends or other loves ones to accept you.
You are a REAL MAN. God bless you !!!
A real huMAN..
yes it true
My life would have been a million times better with a father like this man.
YOU will make yr life SHINE! CHANGE STARTS FROM WITH-IN!
I wish my dad (and frankly mum) were as open as he were, just saying
"hey what's your sexuality as far as you know?"
It would really help a lot if parents were that open
I agree.
This video got me emotional. What a great example of being a good parent. I wish I had a father as accepting as Freddy.
Daniel Rollins Fred is the sons name.
What a beautiful man inside and out!! Thank God for fathers like him!!
His unconditional love for his son and to get him to open up abt a topic so hard to talk about w kids is so amazing. We all wish we had a fathers love and support like this. U both are lucky to have each other. I wish your family all the best❤️
You are a super dad. Amazing. Your children, especially your gay son, is blessed to have you for a father. It's also not hard to see why you haven't stayed single! 😉
Thank you for being a good Dad. I'm gay and my parents are/were the worse parents you could imagine. As a kid, I knew how much they hated gay people and so I didn't tell them until I graduated college and they were furious that they WASTED all that money on me and my education. Things never got better, they only got worse to the point that I stopped all communication with them. They ended up turning all the family against me. Family members that had responded well to my coming out would eventually sent me letters that condemned me. At the hand of my manipulative mother, l even received hate-filled letters from the members of the family that are secretly gay and secretly bisexual. My family is a sea of hate. I'm glad Fred has you as a father. You are making a big difference in his life. The world needs more Dads like you.
I hope you are in a good place now!!!
Thank you so much for not only accepting of your son but for protecting him the way you did!!!!
this is how every parent should be after their kid comes out
Your son is blessed to have you as a dad.
Indeed I feel extremely envious of him
Father of the year every year.
I second 2nd that James!
What an AWESOME Dad and Human Being. If more parents were like you there would be a hell of a lot less Gay homelessness or suicides.
FACT DARIS! Am a Gay Medic and can TELL YOU & others it just is, unfortunately, MORE than You Know. BOTH! Thx 4 speaking
After the father finds out he should try to join with son so they could really get close
I don't know who you are but you're one fantastic father, as was my own. As an adult I later learned from older siblings that my father always knew I was gay but he was always my biggest supporter. He taught me to hunt and fish and play golf, probably to assure I had the best chance to be non-gay, but he loved me unconditionally. He did his best. I'm 65 now and like your son, as a teenager I also used to pray hard that God would let me "grow out" of being 'a queer' -- the common term back then. Now I thank God for who I am and what I've become. You are changing the world, thank you.
This is exactly how all parents should be. I love this so much
This is a great dad. Fred, you lucked out mate. 👍
I wish my parents were as accepting as this man.
Key word- loving, non judgmental person
I’m gay and I never received a safe space, it made me stronger as a human being and it stiffened my resolve, that I as a gay man deserve to exist as everyone else does. I do wish to be equal in the eyes of our government, but I don’t care what anyone thinks of me.
Good for you! Your fine the way you are
Amanda Cogger well thank you dear. I really appreciate that.
That is great for you, but there are a lot of people that kill themselves because they don’t have a safe space. Straight people have a built in safe space so why can’t gay people? What happens with gay people is that maybe they have to run away without any support, financially or emotionally- they then struggle with day to day life because they don’t have a foundation since they have to *react to what life throws at them instead of being *prepared by a loving family/safe circle.
What a brilliant human being this man is.
what a great father.. Freddy must be so proud of you sir.. I wish i had that support during my teen years
I teared up a little. This is so heartwarming. You’re such a good father.
I commend you sir for being a fabulous daddy. Bravo!!!!!
Fred, you are a great dad! If not for your intervention your son could have been forced into a conventional marriage to a woman by pressures of society. I wish your son the best in life and his future. Walt
From Switzerland - You are a great Father. Wishing you and your son and Family all the very best!
Such a great dad and so authentically supportive.
all need love
Millions of people in the world gay or straight, would love a father like this. This is what parenting is. Any one can be a father or a mother but it takes insight , support and compassion to be a parent .
It's important to create "safe spaces" to shelter your children from the world. If you pretend there aren't any bigoted people in society they will feel protected when they are under your umbrella. That way when they get into the real world and get slammed with a dose of reality, they can come back to you. You're kind, loving and caring, and the world is big, bad and scary. It's been a pretty effective parenting style for me.
I wish I would of had parents half as understanding as this father. That to me is a real man.
It is nice that a parent has been so loving and supportive. The world needs a few more such parents. Love is nice when it is there....
Unbelievable. Wonderful father. What a blessing for his son and the world.
You are such an amazing father. Unfortunately when my parents found out I was gay at 15 they decided to send me to gay conversion therapy. It was horrible. But once they figured out I was who I was they eventually came around and accepted it. Fast forward many years my partner and I are celebrating our 20th anniversary together. I heard that's more than a lot of non-gay couples. My parents love him as one of their own and I couldn't be more happier.
Thank you for being a fantastic father to your son Fred.
🌴☀️🌴
Paul M as a gay male myself.My heart goes out to you, for misery inflicted on you, in your early years. On the flip side, it’s heart warming to here that you are truly happy and blessed. The longevity of your relationship speaks volumes, of who the two of you are. ❤️
YOU are a SURVIVOR Paul, many more Like You! and your Husband, good you stuck it out and made smart decisions to continue on.
This dad deserves an award,bravo
If that guy is as caring as he sounds in this talk, dang, his son is lucky to have a dad like that. I'm impressed. I had a mostly good relationship with my parents, but the could also be controlling and had their own ideas on what was right. I never felt I could talk to them about being gay, from my preteens on into young adulthood when they passed away. And yet I loved them and they loved me. I was always scared it was conditional, that if they knew I was gay, they would not understand or accept me. I was more afraid of that than thinking would I get kicked out, because I didn't think they'd do that. So the dad, who's my age, accepting his son so much...dang, if he's really that good, his son is so fortunate. Why do so many of us have to go through our teens praying for God to make us straight, when we are not? Why do we have to go through so much, instead of being accepted and having good relationships, learning and dating and all, and the support of family and friends. Even kids like his son grow up like that, feeling bad for being gay, wanting to be made straight, when we are not. I wish it could be better for all of us. Even a kid who grows up supported, accepted, feels like that. Ouch, man. It should be better.
What an awesome dad. If only everyone could have a father like this.
What a great dad ❤
This guy is what the best example of what real and loving father is. He made sure that his son never had to question his own worth and value as an individual is. Love does bring about love.
OMG I want a dad like him. He’s certainly a rare jewel
Amazing father! We should all be so lucky.
"loving, accepting & non-judgemental person" sounds like the way to be to me. Freddy epitomises a great father! All kudos to him.
More parents should be like this.
I want to post this guy a "World's Best DAD" mug
2nd that Seb
You are a good father. Im proud that you're able to defend and love your son no matter what
Much kudos to this fine gentleman for being not only a fine example of what a good parent should be but also as a fine example of humanity. Although what we see in media these days is more the darker side of humanity, this brings me hope that the future of humanity might just yet have a fighting chance.
What a fantastic father. We need more men like you out there supporting their sons.
Now this is what a modern day father should be...supportive, loving and understanding. He knows when to listen and when to push forward.i hope his son knows how special his dad is? How uplifting this father is? Blessings all around. Alex
I never get emotional. I'll go years without shedding so much as a tear, but I must have some lingering pain about the torment I was put through during my formative years and the turmoil that plagued me then, because I watch a video like this and within a minute or so I'm almost bawling and completely beside myself, feeling once again like that little hurt boy who was taunted and bullied by most everyone just because he was different. I don't know how to overcome that sort of baggage, I'm sure it takes a toll on my daily life. I've always been good at compartmentalizing and not showing my emotions, but when I am overcome by these feelings, I remember that I must be carrying some unresolved trauma, because they hit me like a tidal wave and I suffer a regression to my younger self.
what an amazing dad. thank you ❤️👊🏻
this is how you do great parenting, albeit one-sided. what a great dad!
What a happier place we would have if more people were like this guy.
Whether you realize it or not, You are F*cking Awesome. Yes, with just the simple ability to show your own Son unconditional Love. I did not get or receive that, They are gone now. When it is my time to cross over the line, they will have to answer me. I know they did the best they good, however, I matter too. I can choose to incarnate with another family, one more suitable. Right or wrong, this is how I feel. I doubt anyone has judged you for changing wives. I don;t see much of a difference,
THank you for sharing, you rock, Good Job Dad.
You are such a good parent!! I wish you were my dad
Wow!! Your son is lucky, you a re Super dad! Thank you for being an understanding Parent
I lost my father when I was only 7, and to this day I wish I had a dad like you especially when I needed one the most
Strong loving parent , glad he found his own happiness
This man's kids are fortunate to have him as a father.
What a wonderful person and a star father to your son you are!
I wish I had that kind of support and respect from my parents when I was growing up and coming to terms with my sexuality!
Children need parents to guide and support them in their choices but too often parents end up projecting/forcing their dreams & expectations on their offspring without much care for their individuality!
You are a good dad, Sir.
He is a super Dad
Wow. You are the man! Three marriages and 5 kids? No kidding. Great dad and great man. And you look great!
Excellent Dad!!
Wish I had a dad like him.
Very proud to say that this is my father
I am absolutely blown away that you put your boy first.
Such an amazing dad! Wish I had one like him.
What a cool dad. In this world any man can be a dad to someone but it takes a certain man with special qualities and traits to be someone’s FATHER.
Man, what a lovely guy you are. A case where someone went through multiple divorces, not because they were insufferable themselves, but because they had respect for themselves AND their son. Beautiful. You got me crying my guy.
Wonderful dad, and can I add that he's hot too.
This is true definition of masculinity!
REally Good man and a really good Father. First and formost.
What a beautiful human being ❤️🙏🏻 If only all parents could be like this! It’s so very special when a child knows they are loved unconditionally, no matter what.
This guy is a FATHER in the true sense of the word - my hat's off to You, Sir!🎩
Can I just say..WOW! My hat to you Sir.
As a mother of a gay child you only want the same thing as you want for your straight child just to find true love and be truly happy
Mom or Dad, u can't possibly know what makes yr child happy, boy or girl, unless u'r closer to them, like all the efforts this Nobleman made, talking more than listening...
initially. Then, listening attentively...without probing unnecessarily! Positioning himself eventually! Brilliant! Are u willing to learn a thing or two through his experience? He's been so generous to share it. Accept it. Do not resist it defensively like his 1st wife!
Your son knew he could come to you and you protected him. You're son will always know you're a great Father.
You are a great father! This is what parenting is all about.
Wish my friends and family pushed this onto me. I’ve been withdrawn from my friends and family for years because I’m gay, but no matter how hard I try to be myself around them I just can’t. What a great dad
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Thanks for been such a great Parent!
You are a wonderful dad. Fred is lucky to have you and your support.
The son had the courage to share his sexuality with his father because the father had created a culture of acceptance. Way to go dad, you're an amazing person.
You Sir are the type of neighbor, friend, father, son, and brother that should bless every family and community. High five! 🐻 hugs to you!!! And XOXOXO to your new forever wife! ✌
Amazing father
Your acts were great cause if you hadn't done that, your son wouldn't have experienced good things and wouldn't have passed those awful things.
You are great.
Indeed. It easy to make a child, the work is to raise the child. Good job.
It was hertwarming to hear your and Fred's story. Parenting must be very hard, but it sounds like you dealt with everything rather well and in a refreshingly mature way.
Wow... This man must have had a amazing father that taught him about life and unconditional love. Thank you for sharing this amazing story on the true meaning of being a father.
Fantastic story!!! ALL fathers should be lke this guy!!!
What a wonderful way of bringing up the topic!
Your sure an awesome dad! I would give anything I. This world to have a father like you. Thank God for men like you
It takes a good man to be a good father, and you, Freddy, are among the best of us men. I hear and see God working through you.
GREAT story! thank you for sharing and being such a wonderful father. I am in tears listening to your video. Good for you for being the father you are to your son! Much needed in the world.
wow! You have changed the world, it's truly fantastic what you have done! Sending you lots of love
What a good man!!!
You are more of a man than all those men that claim to be as such. Thank you for your truth. Love the Love. Very inspirational.
What a Great dad... wish him & his family all the best! Keep talking...
What a heart warming story ! You are the definition of a wonderful human being. Your example of Loving unconditionally. The world as a whole, would greatly benefit, with more individuals like yourself. What an amazing Father, your a blessing to all your children.