Relationships: Casual To Committed
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- Опубликовано: 16 фев 2016
- How women approach relationships vs. how men approach them and how to successfully transition from a casual sexual relationship, into a committed exclusive monogamous relationship without getting rejected or friend-zoned.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a female viewer who shares how she started dating and hooking up with a male coworker of hers. In the beginning he wanted a relationship, but she wanted to wait and take things slow. Now after two months of hanging out, having fun and hooking up, she wants to be exclusive, but now he says that he needs time and wants to see how things go. He is perplexed by the fact that initially she just wanted to keep things casual, but now she wants a relationship. She says that they both are gun-shy about getting into a relationship because of previous bad relationships and breakups. He has had previous girlfriends cheat and take advantage of him. She wonders what she can do to get him to commit, or if she should simply move on. This email from a woman perfectly illustrates how women fall in love slowly over time, and why it’s always best to let women bring up the topic of being exclusive and committed like my book teaches.
“Women do not approach dating and relationships the same way men do. Most men have been incorrectly taught to make a mad dash to the relationship finish line by proving themselves and getting women to commit as quickly as possible. The reality is that women fall in love slowly over time. If a man is too focused on locking her down to a commitment, she will feel overwhelmed, pressured and most often reject, friend-zone or ghost him. A man’s job is to create an opportunity for sex to happen by planning definite dates, having fun and leading the interaction by focusing on getting to know her as a human being. A man should pursue in the beginning by setting one date per week. As a woman’s interest, attraction & connection grows, she will start to reach out to bond and connect more and more as she feels safe and comfortable with him. This usually happens after 2 or 3 weeks. Then the man can simply wait to hear from her and make the next date when she reaches out; this way it becomes her idea. Most women typically will be in love by the 7th week and bring up the exclusivity talk when men allow women to come to them at their own pace, instead of incorrectly trying to force things before women are emotionally ready.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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It's rare to see a guy wanting a relationship that bad at the beginning and do a complete 180. Maybe he realized after 2 months of getting to know her, he doesn't see her as a potential long-term partner. Maybe during that period he met somebody that knock his socks off. "I don't feel worthy of being with you" is just an excuse (also used by women) that he's not into her anymore aka "It's not you, it's me".
+fearfactz1 Agreed, if you really like a woman and see her as potential long term material, you wouldn't say that to a woman. Maybe he found someone better. After all, she was the one who set the terms.
Men want to get the women they really like off the market as soon as possible.
Facts
Hey Mr. Wayne. I'd just like to say I'm a 14 year old kid who went from no girls at all in my vast middle school life to talking to 4, going out with two next week. I bought your book, and if I wasn't a kid, I'd be in your donation box at least once a week. All your teachings are nothing but perfection, except the last of the three H's 'cause it's just tad bit illegal for me right now. I haven't even finished the book once over the month or so that I've been following you, and I'm going to read it 10-15 times like you said, but I'm just here to thank you for changing my life, even as just a kid.
Now after 4 years since you wrote this comment. I’m wondering you must be an expert now than men in their 20s. LOL
Mae88 B. Lol. College will be fun
@@brendangordon9653 read the book again
She tried to play the dude and when he started playing she started panicking lol.
Hi Coach! I've read only your book twice, but Ive watched a lot of your vids. In a very short time, (less than 2 months) I went from having a very weak game with women, to now I am now confidently dating/juggling 3 women and having FUN! I took your advice, focused on improving myself, mentally and physically, and I'm not focused on dating " just that one girl" anymore. Thank you!
How you getting on now ? Doing good?
Coach, this was me to a Tee, I had been seeing this girl for a few months and it was my first time really being with a girl. She had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and I didn't realize that I needed to give her more space and time to heal. I pressured her way too much and came off as needy and desperate. I failed her tests as well and instead of being a steady rock, I was very emotional. She said she didn't want a relationship and I didn't know what that meant until I read your book and learned so much. I spent a lot of time reading other books and looking over everything I did wrong. I’ve since improved my life and gotten it to a place where I want to be emotionally, career wise, and physically. It's her choice if she wants to connect again, I’d do some things differently but I think I scared her off to the point of no return. We'll see what happens.
Did she ever reach out ?
Did it ever occur to people, that when someone tells you "I'm not worthy of being in a relationship with you" is an excuse like "it's not you, it's me"?
Love it when you do emails from women
Californiagovernor absolutely also shows the commonalities between the two sexes which shows human behavior.
Same
Coach you make dating fun again! Dont stop your wisdom.
Thanks so much for posting this! I love your perspective on women's dating issues!
Thanks Coach for another great video! Looking forward buying the book
+Californiagovernor thanks good looking out will probably end up doing both
This chick definitely sound like she don't know what she wants. That's probably why he's holding back because he doesn't trust her judgement, and think she will change her mind rejecting him again.
Thanks for your videos they help so much. I bought your book on amazon and i will start reading it right away. Thanks again
Read your book... Apply the tools this is what I get...
I’m not sure I can wait until Tuesday to have you again
Legend!!!
I need advice. Corey's teaching, his book, and videos, has changed my life!! I was weak beta in a bad sexless marriage, controlled by a narcissist and was in the feminine space. Thanks to Corey, his book and videos I'm in my alpha. For the first time, I'm showing up, saying what I freaking feel. not afraid to deliberately and dangerously communicate my sexuality to women. Rather than be offended as I thought they would, it drives them mad.
Here's my issue- For over 20 years, I've been a 1 woman man. Now, I'm single, I have at least 5, I am causally dating. Because of the Corey showing me how to be a 3%, man, all these women feel that I am the "perfect guy", and 2 have fallen in love with me. i feel as if I'm cheating on 4 women each time. Since I am not wasting my time with toxic women, these girls are all equally amazing, smart, loving, and compassionate girls with great hearts. Either one would make a great girlfriend. However, I'm enjoying being non committed. (20 yrs a prisoner-now free). Me not expressing my desire to commit is making them want me even more. So, I'm feeling guilty. I know how it feels from their side I don't want the hurt them the way I've been hurt. (I now that sounds weak) I am just hanging out, hooking up, making them laugh, but I see myself from their vantage point, and at least 4 of them will be hurt, if not all and I do care for them. Is this "nice guy" beta male residue? I don't want to hurt someone just because they chose to find me awesome. Please be kind, I'm new to this, this is the first time in my life having this success with women.
I’m in a similar boat, I feel shitty about it and try to convey that I’m not looking to rush into a relationship right now. I still feel extreme empathetic and like I’m leading them on. Idk
Corey's advice is priceless and I'm a big fan but as a woman I'd like to share with you two book recommendations that you might find helpful. First, let me say that I have spent the last 10 months researching relationship advice on the Internet. What has emerged is that whether the advice given, whether it's from a male dating coach or a female one, contain common themes on the male-female dynamic that are pretty much timeless. There are bases on unconscious, evolutionary forces at work underpinning our behavior. Both of these books give solid advice to women who want to "win" at the dating game, and ultimately, have a committed relationship. They are: A Fine Romance: The Passage of Courtship from Meeting to Marriage by Judith Sills, and Love Factually, 10 Proven steps from I wish to I do by Duana Welch. Both women are Phd's. I hope they help and that the advice in these books will help you get what you want from the man you wrote to Corey about.
I checked out the table of contents for both of these books and I'm excited to read them. Thanks!
Love the videos Corey. Glad I found this dang channel. Here's the kicker. I've mostly only dated women who were making the moves on me in the beginning. Call me lazy or having trust issues due to my upbringing, these women do exist. Even my wife who is pretty modest pursued me. Then only months later, I pursued her and had to make up for my initial lack of long term interest. It was the inverse with me in many occasions. With my wife, she was starting to move away because I was a flaky self righteous jerk in the beginning. Then after time, I realized she was the one I didn't want to get away.
Awesome job Coach
this has helped me out a lot
I love women
Who'da thunk that you would help me understand myself. I was pissed off the other day and would not have known why without reading your material and listening to your videos. What a trip that was.
I don't care how interested I am... if a guy pulls away, I will let him go... so guys, let's us wait, for not for too long...
Corey moreso talks about mirroring the level of interest you're shown, as opposed to completely pulling back as a technique.
I'm starting to realize that everything is temporary. When a girl is into you and announces she loves to watch sunsets, don't plan to watch sunsets every day from now on. It just means today you can enjoy a sunset together. Next week you can maybe enjoy a sunset together. Next month she'll probably block you and be with someone else or something else weird. Enjoy today and the next date, there's no such thing as two compatible people having a long-term relationship peacefully so don't count on it. Every moment is unique and should be enjoyed without assuming there will be more.
So I downloaded the book after watching this 🙋🏼
Are you Free for a Date?x💓
Read it again
@BCFreedomFighter I went from struggling to find a girlfriend to having a 4 girl rotation because of Corey and AMS
I have no problem getting them just keep them listen and learn. I am trying
Great one Corey....can you do more videos from the womans perspective?
Hello Coach Corey Wayne I just got your book, I am learning and reading alot. I wanted to ask you a question, so there is this girl I am interested in. And today I ran into to and I told her that I saw her in a video clip called Scream. And I told her that i am working on a project. So I asked for her number if we could meet up for film, I did not set a date however because I forgot my schedule. So I have her number, but what should I do next. I know wait a couple of days, then call her. But what should I do next, because she might assume that Im only calling her for the project.
step by step
I have a friend who thinks the girl in the relationship should be a man's motivation, and thinks it's cute. I literally began going off at her at school (lol not angrily, but I was like "woah woah woah! Hold on there!"). I told her "that is just pure weakness from a man. You want a guy who is motivated by is own goals and future, and cares about the relationship... not some dependent little bitch that you will eventually break up with."
I have learned that i have no life really thpught that i had to jist be the provider I was wrong. just got to figure it out . I have your book so i will read it till I learn . I will let you know how it goes.
❤️❤️
How many times should I read your book to fully understand it again?
every single guy OVERPURSES me in the beginning. I seriously DO NOT GET IT?? and just like you said, I start falling for them weeks later, and they cool off? So then I see I am dating a totally different guy now. This lovely romantic in love person to this cool guy... I find it painful. So thats when I walk away. I really hate it. Its very hurtful Why cant they heat up AFTER when I am ready ? I hate dating so much... NEXT!!!! lol
Hang out, have fun, hook up. Rinse, recycle, repeat.
guys tend to fall hard fast if the girl knocks his socks off. It blows our minds and is like a drug and we want it all. then after our we gotta have things do forsure settle down
@@gregpayne4128what does it mean knock the socks off ?
The fact that he wanted to rush into relationship with her at first then when she start to know him and bond with him and wanted a relationship with him he considered her already "taken" so he lost his interest.Definetely a red flag and probably narcissistic guy she's dealing with with. But again he still says thibs that would turn a wonan off but since she's in love she doesnt pay attention.
what about if you date a girl (fwb). that tells you from the get go that she doesn't want anything more. Then later after 3 weeks of dating she reassures you what she wants after amazing sex, holding hands and kissing like couples do. wtf do I do?
You understand she just wants sex and keep seeing other people
Who in the hell would commit to someone they don't know , she wanted to take her time to get to know crazy and he punish her for that by now wanting to casual date her , yeah she should casual date him when she get around to him
We started fwb for two yrs, I knew he was sleeping with other women including his ex. Last few months we got serious, he told me he loves me, and plan on moving in together. But he keeps talking to his ex, the girl he was seeing at the same time. It is making me upset and insecure. Is this a huge red flag or do is this harmless bc I'm afraid he's still seeing her. I live an hour away and she has tried to keep him in her life for a reason . They don't have kids together and he said he left her bc he couldn't see himself marrying her. They were not together when he was seeing us both and I was dating other ppl. But now it's different. He doesn't sleep with me as much anymore and intamcy feels forced. Idk what happened in a month other than starting a new job he hates. I try to be understanding but this shit with his ex is really upsetting me and I'm scared to.communicate that.
hahahaha i know its 4 years ago, but it cracks me up. if you weren't a troll you were just a sidepiece. nice.
@@ray076NL lmao 😂
That's bizarre a man wanting a serious relationship and the woman is just wanting a FWB. To me that's a sign of insecurity that the guy is rushing into a relationship, he is rushing things. And then he does a back flip.
A girl was coming over in December and January, said she loves me, planning to live in a beach condo her parents bought. I said we just met each other, what are you talking about? I just enjoyed the making out. She got angry and said never to call her again, blocked me. It's been ten years.
I have this female friend who has always liked me as a friend more so than a boyfriend. However, she tells me everything, trusts me, calls me if I don't (after a day or two), just wants to talk about anything, invites me over, and recently told me she is "confused" about how to feel toward me.
What exactly does she mean being "confused" toward me?
It means you are the "he's just a friend" in her love life.🤣
@24:10. what does that tell me "he's a lil fucked up"...😂😂😂
thats a long ass quote. lol.
I would pay $2000 dollars to fix my fucking situation right now
Could you?
Are the relationships skills supposed to be used with casual dates? I fked up my fourth date with a girl by being too mysterious kinda coming off as a dick. So should I just go back to texting when are you free to get together? after a week or should I ask whats wrong? You are so distant. after a week?
Thank God I’m watching this now I could have made the biggest mistake of my life
cw looks like he's chiefing
How do ya really feel about Dating Co workers? Isn't worth it?
its not. ik from experience. if you do...don't make it serious unless you want to quit your job soon
+Henry P If both of you decide do live together, keep in mind that you will pretty much see each 24/7 which can lead to boredom eventually. If you two get into an arguments,cheating on you, etc, things will be very ugly if you have to work with her. The only thing that can be acceptable is if she works in a totally different department. Like flash12319 said, unless you are prepared to quit that job you shouldn't do it. Your dream job may become your worst nightmare.
You don't shit where you eat
hey coach why this girl text me and she like me. why I break up with this girl
Week 7? Fall in love? LMAO
Have you heard of love at first sight?
Imagine 7 weeks of being a real man and a woman who has never been with a real man. Yeah 7 weeks of that is more than enough for a woman to fall in love.
Have a good one brother.
@@Flosseveryday I'm a woman 😊 it takes much longer than that. It's lust at first.
By following all the principles, this has happened multiple times in my experience. If you follow what he says in the book, it works.
how can I slow down the womans desire to be exclusive??
ma G. 99 problems but a biatch aint one.
Marc Perrot talk about other woman openly
You can say something like, "I'm really enjoying getting to know you. Let's not rush things. Let's let it evolve naturally without overcomplicating the process with labels and expectations."
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+Californiagovernor not really, but good 1