I don't blame you. It's better to do that then be with someone who doesn't treat you like a person or even mentally abuse you. I do wish the best for you, may you stay healthy and happy!
Unfortunately I did not have the strength of charecte to do that and ended up in 2 toxic relationships, one that ended poorly but wasn't toxic, and one whare my gf turned out to be a lesbian (I'm the god father to her adopted child now, so we are on very good terms) and me and my boyfriend are very happy together. However I can not stand being alone so their was a time whare after I moved out I just found a warm body who was consenting and started dating them. Didn't end well for me on...Well a number of occasions.
@@justynh1321 A lot of people get into toxic relationships without realizing, often times because the toxic person specifically hid it. What's important is that you got out and that you're safe and happy now. I'm glad you found someone to be with and that you're on good terms with one of your exes at least! My dream relationship is perhaps a bit too hopeful honestly haha, I want both a bf and gf.
I'd rather be with my 30 cats eating my carcass than be with a man claiming that he's allowed to cheat while I'm chained to his foot... nah....we ain't rolling like that 😂
I absolutely don't support alpha community and don't agree with most of things they say, but I thought it's very inappropriate, disg3sting and wrong to shame other's for their body count? *Oh wait, it's only wrong if u do that to a woman and ABSOLUTELY OK if use it against men🥰* + They actual believe in the opposite, they view body count as some short of achievement for men, use women for their body and then shame other women for their body count.
@@lifeisamess8100 it’s not about shaming body count, it’s about proving that their methods don’t work. All they’re trying to do, all they ever *_talk about_* (besides money and the gym) is getting laid, and how successful their methods are, and they *_aren’t._* Thing is, there seems to be some kind of cognitive dissonance going on with a lot of them where they don’t notice the connection between their Alpha Male BS (tm) and their own virginity. Bringing attention to that connection might, just maybe, snap at least a few of them out of the Stupid Loop. Besides, since a disturbing number of them genuinely don’t think women deserve basic human rights, my sympathy for them *_feeling bullied_* is limited.
I'm 30 years old, no children and and single. I went back home recently to my family's farm to work and have never been happier. It's hard work hut it's work that keeps me fed and busy.
What’s it like to work on a farm? What kinda farm is it? I’m a city girl and the only farm I know is my neighbors coup and being chased by a rooster in the middle of city traffic 😅
Same. I'm in my 30s, have been in 2 relationship's that lasted 10 years in total. I have a dog, I focuse on my career, instead of the relationship so i earn more. I have never been happier. Some relationships are great but I found that mine had a lot of shortcomings and i ended up becoming the mom and doing everything. I'm not even looking for a relationship. I have peace of mind, I'm happy, i have time to build other relationships and focus on myself. I love it.
@@theinvisiblewoman5709 Well, it's hard that's for sure. The work is physically demanding and you have to get up very early to feed chickens and cows. You're isolated, mostly. The closest person from us is about 10 miles away and the city is an even bigger jump. However, it's peaceful and predictable which is what I need after so much chaos these past few years. Sure, you have to chase away wild turkey or wolves from the animals, but it's not that bad and keeps you on your toes. Our farm is just a small family farm. We grow mostly peppers, onions, sugar cane, oranges and such to make a profit from but we also raise dairy cows to sell and chickens for eggs. We recently met a neighbor who has a horse farm and they're willing to trade us somethings for food. I am learning new skills everyday to make life a bit easier for my grandma but it's not so bad plus you CAN get wifi here, you just gave to wait a month or so for an installer to decide to set it up.😅
@@lovelydeath04 lol well if you have Wi-Fi it sounds like you have everything. I hope you continue your good mental health and healing! Thanks for sharing.
In Spanish we say "es mejor estar solo que mal acompañado" pretty much the same thing. Edit: I googled the idiom in French because I was curious and they are literal translations of each other.
It's like when they say we are past it after 30 when in reality we just usually lose our naivety after 30 and can't be as easily manipulated so they gaslight us into thinking after 30 we cannot have standards. They also shame women who want to settle down after 30 as if it's ok for men to explore in their 20's and not women. At nearly 33, having been single for 3 years, I am at the happiest iv ever been. I have a good life, am comfortable with who I am now and have met an incredible man. I was happy when I was single, I was content and met my partner by chance
Have you ever considered, niaivity is attractive to men? Men prefer the 20 year old catholic school girl virgin type, than the beaten down, pessimist because shes had more men than hot dinners... Not to mention gravity and fertility, which both literally go south in the 30's.
@@leeofdoom4452 Have you ever considered that we don't care what men have been taught to prefer? That would be the reason that so many men are staying single now for so long. Women are no longer forced to take men's preferences into consideration, without their own being considered as well. The fact that men who are predators also prefer naivety isn't surprising.
@@leeofdoom4452 As to the effects of age, gravity and fertility, those aren't issues for women alone. And the promise of children is no longer enough for most women to put up with a man who is not willing to help raise them.
@@leeofdoom4452I think some of them find naivety "attractive" because it lets them get away with more questionable things than with a partner who knows better.
I think some dudes obsess over a relationship fixing their problems so much they fail to realize that not everyone else, women especially, are as as reliant on the concept as they are. And that telling a woman that they'll "grow old and alone" isn't actually that much of an insult in the first place when being alone can be incredibly fulfilling compared to getting stuck being a caretaker to a toxic relationship.
I want a happy and healthy relationship, but if that's not available than I am more than happy to stay single. It's way better than being with some dude who's not worth my time🤷♀️
Yeah I have noticed it too. Whenever a womans ays she is happy being single and taking care of herself, all the men around would taunt her of cats and how she would regret it in future with no children and shit like that. Whereas when a man says he is happy being single, all men agree with him saying he saved his life and wallet, marriage isn't worth it nd stuff. I don't know what it is but i find men like them really stupid with a fragile ego. They WANT to believe that a woman needs a man and not vice versa... Since they are superior than women(/s)
Don't even know why having a cat is considered a insult. Cats are great, they don't cheat, lie, manipulate or abuse women. In fact a cat is a upgrade from some of these dodgy dude's running amuck in society. 🤷♀️
That's the reaction I used to get when I made it clear I wasn't interest in relationships anymore (about 15 yrs ago) and that I don't ever want kids (which I told people when I was 14) I got that reaction from both men and women. That was the most common comment - 'but you'll regret it when you're older!' 'When your body clock starts ticking down you'll be desperate to have a baby!' Well now I'm almost 40 and I've never regretted it a day in my life :) not only that, I'm MORE happy with my choice not to bring children into the world every single day. It's the best decision I ever made. I have tons of hobbies and interests (and not enough time in the day!) great friends and family I love to bits and spend loads of time with. I love living alone and feeling free. If I'd grown to regret it, that would have been for me to deal with 🤷♀️ not sure why other people thought it had anything to do with them anyway lol.
I absolutely agree it’s the fragile egos and warped entitlement. They think a relationship is them strutting around with their chest out demanding sandwiches and sex and anything less than that is an attack on their manhood because they are the alphas and creators of society. But when challenged in the slightest bit they go into how oppressed men are because the awful women don’t let them because men and child support isn’t fair and men statistically have poor mental health and it’s so much harder for them. So they’re alpha conquerors and we can’t live without them but they’re also victimized by us. I can’t keep their story straight.
Right! Because every single woman over age 50 with no children, legacy and dynasty to pass on wants to live longer. No one to take care of them living an utter regretful life of despair living off the government. Go spread your feminist lies elsewhere.
@@arimdu1408look for "Yale Global Online - Should Women Stay Single?", can't type links in YT because they delete comments. The one above is just an example but there are hundreds of studies and evidence that single women are healthier and happier, and live longer. Take care!
Oh, and regarding male partners, it's because most of women, just like men, are heterosexual. Studies are usually made on heterosexual people, because homosexual or bi, which are minorities, usually have a little bit different relationship patterns. Which explains why culture and society has influenced too much heterosexual marriages amd relationships, for centuries. Cheers!
One thing I find insane is when men try to tell other men "what women want" & get confused when their games end badly or attract the wrong types. Yet when a woman flatly says "THIS is what we want", guys still pull the "no you don't!" Like, if you can't even listen or comprehend when someone tells you what they want, you're not worth touching.
@@chris135x you're right, that is insane. Ppl don't care to treat eachother with respect anymore which is a problem for everyone. That's also why men should learn how to spot the real red flags that have nothing to do with physical attributes so they can vet better instead of chasing shallow, immature women or fishing with their wallets & attracting gold diggers.
@@chris135x I've browsed some of the male dominated forums myself & do see a lot of toxicity out there sadly. Tons of bitterness & projecting exes at all men/ women which isn't healthy at all. It's one thing to have baggage & bad experiences (everyone does), but how you sort & grow through it matters. Lots of "women only want money" & "just treat them all like crap", not a whole lot of focus on mental health & genuine healing. Same on some of the younger women's groups as well, but those 20-somethings are way more inexperienced than they realize yet. A LOT of dating advice being put out there that is more likely to set ppl up for failure than anything. Especially the "play this game & then follow it up with another".
@@Ibalistic_hedge lol & you're kidding yourself if you think men don't. How do guys get wrapped up with unstable 304s so easily if you know better? Studies have shown men, especially when young, prefer mentally unstable women because they're "more exciting" & give access to sex faster while they consider stable, modest women to be "boring". So even science shows that men give preference to instability & promiscuity over what they claim to want. Before you clap back with the typical "well we don't want to settle down with those types"... to that I ask: why would you waste time & energy on something you know you don't want? That's not logical behavior.
The reason the cheating happens is also because women open their legs a lot these days, so men expect it and when they don't get it, they move on. You women made this. Now accept responsibility for it. Also, male promiscuity in nature results in something. Female promiscuity results in death and destruction. As we are seeing now. YOU made these men.
Yess!!! So agree, I find myself traveling more and treating myself more when I'm single. When I was in my 2 previous relationships, I was drained, tired, and plain out making the bacon in those relationships.
@jcstang8952 then why are you so angry? Man up and take responsibility for your own out of control testosterone seek God and do therapy like a real man and take care of yourself and don't let me continue because I will make you feel stupid
And you cant find men who respect women? Men tend to like to settle down with feminine women and respect them. I mean, its certainly possible that all men are cheaters and cant respect women, but it might be possible you are fishing with the wrong bait.
@@AmericanWithTheTruth Thank you for reminding me why I stay single with your overly aggressive response to a year old comment. I would not expect my husband to be the maintenance man; nor should he expect me to be the maid or cook. My happiness is not dependent on my relationship status with anyone. And I would not disrespect a man by using him to alievate hypothetical unhappiness in my 40's, 50's or 60's. I find it strange that you are trying to convince me of what my experience as a woman is and will be. I think they have a name for that...mansplaining.
@@AmericanWithTheTruth the first reason of divorce is 1. Lack of commitment in the relationship and family (lack of support, like of emotional work, lack of help with household chores and childcare, 2. Being cheated on. These two reasons reprsent 70% of divorce. If I were you, I won't have brought these argument on the table, because it just means that men are bad parnters, husband and fathers in general. It's not in your favor
@@lovejunkie490 so you are saying more men today cheat on their wives than in the 1980s, 70s, 60s? BS! Because the divorce rate was half of what it is today back then. If you believe what you say where is the evidence for the causation? Men haven’t changed hardly at all over the last 50 years, but women have in fact the largest variable in the equation is the introduction and growth of toxic feminism in American society.
I'm single and happily so. I'm antisocial, awkward, and I have hobbies. I have lots of female friends, one I call my best friend. She lives in Australia. But I'm happy where I am in life. I don't like the red pill alpha bs that those incels use. It's hard to learn to love yourself. I got it finally, I like who I am. I love my freinds, but I'm happy as I am. I love your content, your a stellar example of a human. Thank you for making content, be safe and may your family be in the upmost health!
I wish you nothing but contentment, joy, and fulfillment in your life. Cool people like you are like hidden gems. We introverts are holed up in our apartments so we rarely bump into each other. I know I am a good person. I've been turned down and laughed at by many guys. It hurts like hell, but you keep on chugging. I may or may not get married; but I refuse to buy into that panic.
You sound absolutely great. Especially the female friend thing since some guys don’t believe in friendships with women and the ones they do have are just to wait for their chance to turn it into a hookup or relationship and then get mad when the ‘friend’ rejects them
I’m turning 28 and haven’t been in a relationship since I was 23. These have been the most stable and levelheaded five years of my life, and where I’ve made the most progress. I did NOT just say I have no interest in ever getting married, because I do, it’s a major life goal. But, I wouldn’t change having spent this time single, and I’m in no rush to end my singlehood for yet another asshat who won’t put in the same effort I do. 😅 I’m content to wait for a grownup relationship.
@@Make_Me_A_Sandwhich why so our culture can have lower birth rates and we can be easily weakened and conquered by the next empire? Feminism has completely destroyed America.
my mom divorced my dad years ago and she was so happy living on her own. then she met this guy that she said was perfect. they got together a few years after she'd been on her own, and even though she says she loves him, its obvious that she's not happy anymore. she's so stressed out and complains about him and her life in a way she didn't before he moved in with her.
@@Catlily5 it's like playing the lottery, but instead of a fiver you give them the good third of your day. Oh, and if you lose, it feels like someone ripped your heart out through your anus and you gotta cram all that stuff back in. You're right, it's worse than pointless. It's a terrible idea.
Sorry to hear that. I think many men start taking women for granted and start treating them like care givers later in a relationship. In the beginning they still put some effort in.
The thing is I'm just tired, you know, men used to judge me for being a virgin in my 20s then they judged me for having sex, they cheated on me, used me, psychologically mistreated me and so on. I got tired of trying and most men don't want to change. Like we ask for the bare minimun, the bar is so low it's burning in hell alongside the sinners, and yet they fail to reach this minimun. I'll get in a relationship the day a find a guy who respects me, until then, I rather stay single.
Wow that sucks!!! My neice is in same boat except no sex. But the amount of guys that just want sex then get angry when she says she saving for marriage is nuts! Keep being you!! All the best!
You are so right, it hurts and its tiring. So sorry you went through that. I will never understand why people can't do the bare minimum when it comes to relationships and then wonder why people just prefer being single then dealing with it.
"the bar is so low it's burning in hell." Yes, this! A thousand times this! There is no lonely that comes close to being with someone but knowing you are completely alone. I am often alone, but rarely lonely as a single woman.
I LOVE being single. I had a few relationships when I was in my late teens/early 20s but when I was single, I realised I was much happier. I've never wanted children so that wasn't an issue. When I realised being free and single felt right and I didn't have to find a man, just because that's what society expects nor did I have to justify myself, it was fantastic. I have tons of hobbies and interests, a few close friends and a wonderful family, I'm independent and don't have to answer to anyone. It feels fantastic :) I don't know any women who have lowered their standards after being single. Such as my sister, cousin and friends, if anything it's the opposite, the longer they're single, the more they realise they don't actually need a boyfriend.
After having a child I honestly completely changed my perspective on men and relationships. Not saying there’s no decent men but it’s clearly become the exception to the rule. My life is easier having just myself and my child to take care of and not having the dead weight of a grown adult to care for I’m so much happier. My mentality became “if it’s easier to do it myself why have someone in the way”
Absolutely. Having a partner is wonderful and having a great man by your side is truly fulfilling, but having dead weight and just another thing that brings you stress and little to no joy just isn't worth it
@@MELLMAO most of them are dead weight. Women are taking care of traditional as well as modern day role yet it is never enough of recognition but there are multiple mouths for blaming.
Being single is positive how exactly? Women today are significantly less happy than women in the 70s. Men not. Married women today are happier than single women. He’s pulling stats out of his ass. Men are having less sex because women share more of the same guys and then wonder why they’re single 😂
If you wanted to go in a relationship would you like n “alpha” man or a man who thinks like this and sometimes wear nail polish? Let’s say both would be loyal to you
I was happily single for years. I found my unicorn finally at almost 31. It was all so worth it I wouldn’t change a thing. He is smart, funny, kind, handsome. All the things that I thought would be hard to find as I aged, turns out it’s not true. What is true is that if you work on yourself, the ‘right one’ will come.
Recently saw a tweet that went something like "telling women they're gonna be alone forever doesn't hit the same anymore". And yeah, it doesn't. A lot of women simply enjoy their own company, coupled with the company of friends and possibly a pet, so much more than the alternative: getting stuck with a man who often contributes little but negativity to their lives and for what? For a society, that shits on women at every turn, to shit on them marginally less? That's generally not worth the effort when you can love, spoil and invest in yourself instead. Long story short: there are worse things in life than being single.
@@leeofdoom4452 Most of this comment section is women reaffirming the facts that they can be single and thrive like the queens they are. Just because you seem to need others or an external relationship to validate an internal need, these women have reached some self-actualization and serenity with being only themselves or mom with kids. Maybe ask yourself why being with someone (sexually, romantically, or otherwise) is so important to who you, as an individual person, are?
Been single for the last 3 years and it's the best thing ever. After my last relationship I have zero desire for another with a man. I live by the sea with my dog and it is so peaceful and delightful.
True! I was married at 19 I got divorced at 24. I have zero kid. I thought being married would make me happy guest what I am way happier after I got divorced now I am 28 years old. I have been celibate for a year now I love it very much hahahahahaha. I have zero stress even though I work to take care of myself all my money goes to trips, eating healthy and pay my bills. If I want to feel generous one day I give someone something but I owe no men 50/50 I would gladly pay that 100 for my myself and my peace ☮️ too much going on out there.
Some Men argue that 40 year old lonely cat women are miserable. So they want young women to get marry to them and start being miserable earlier in life. I mean why wait? 🙄
Darling with all due respect as a 40 something with cats can testify, people should stop trying to scare us with that old crazy cat lady like is not a goal that i have. I do what i want, when i want it, i meet with people if i want, eat what i want, sleep.when i want, travel if i want and i have the most gorgeous company i could ever ask. All that without some 'alpha' trying to dictaminate how to live my life. So if you think that is an insult then hell yeah, i wanna be an old crazy cat lady!
Not only are we ok being single, we're basically forming covens on accident. Like, we all want to live in a tiny village by the sea with our friends and some cats, an alpaca and our creepy little hobbies. We'll make ceramics and mead and adopt possums.
I remember seeing a video recorded by BBC on self marriage and how many women are choosing that. They also have a sorority group where they club and do activities together.
What men don't realize is we don't NEED them. We can make a home and an amazing life all by ourselves. Men NEED women to make a house a home. We are the second creators of life. Ytf would we NEED a man to be happy. Dont get me wrong, I'd like to have someone to love and share life with. But I'll be damned if I break this 3 years of single life for scum. Shits been the most peaceful years of my life and I've been engaged 3 times. Dont be afraid to walk away ladies! Know your worth!
This makes me think of what my mother says (she's a single older woman): "There's a difference between being alone and being lonely, and I'm happily alone".
As a single, older woman, it's wonderful! I can't see myself ever living with a man, again. The freedom is too good. I don't hate men. I've had good men in my life. I just don't want to give up so much of myself to someone else, again.
My mom would always point out how when men got divorced they would remarry really fast, but when women got divorced they stayed single a long time, maybe never getting married again.
@@cloudsn That’s scientifically proven! It’s even been documented that women become healthier after divorce (lower blood pressure and steady weight or weight loss) probably because they get more time to focus on themselves. I feel like a large portion of married women tend to give too much of themselves to the partner and family life and only realize it when it’s hard to reverse it since they’ll feel guilty or egotistical
Yeah I married an Asian guy who was completely charming until we get married he told me without him I'm nothing and I couldn't afford to live on my own. I make more than he does..... I walked out and now I'm evil just ask his entire family
Exactly. Men think other men are the competition; no honey, youre competing with me. You have to add something to me life - if im happier alone why would I bring you into my life? Makes no sense lol. Men want to do the bare minimum and want us to fawn over them. (Before some incel attacks me, not all men, and yes there are shitty low standard women too.)
Running out of options is no fun and happy is the last word I’d use to describe it. Most avg men feel this because their options are obese, promiscuous, and domineering women and we’ll be single until we die instead of dealing with that. It’s not happiness it’s rather depressing and hopeless. That’s what the avg American man has to look forward to
@@AaronD313 you're mad that you have to settle for less than you wanted? Huh, seems familiar. It seems like that is exactly what women have been forced to do since the beginning of time. And why are you complaining about this on my comment? You could have made your own comment saying the same thing. YOU may be unhappy that you're single, but IM clearly happy with being single. Go be an incel elsewhere.
@@AshleesBathroom women don’t have to settle for less, get on a dating app rn and there’d be plenty of decent men that would treat you right. You just chose to make babies with guys that don’t care about you cuz the ones that do are deemed boring. Go be fat and masculine somewhere else. How do I know you’re fat and masculine? Because 90% of you are fat and masculine!
37 single woman here, happiest I've ever been in my life. All I hope for in life if for things to stay the same. Even if I went in to a serious relationship I would not get married.
Some friends had a hard time believing dating was so hard as a woman: Then I showed them how rude and grudgy men were on dating apps. They act like I should be desperate, like I owe them, and they punish me for their precious bad experiences. Not all men, but oh so many of the single ones. No thanks, I'm happier single!
If you're old and fat then yea. Welcome to being a guy who isn't 6'3 (190cm). "People used to preferential treatment, will see equal treatment as discrimination." ~Thomas Sowell
The single women that are so unhappy are those that are overly concerned with others and how they compare. The whole “I’m getting older and am not married or In a relationship and don’t have kids and …” concerns seem to be most bothersome when (1) someone is putting expectations on her to have those things and/or (2) she’s continually comparing herself to those around her that do have those things and feeling inferior because of it. I don’t see marriage and kids as being things that are desirable in and of themselves. I think that I will desire those things if and when I’m with someone with whom I feel is awesome enough to have those things with. Like why do women desire marriage itself? Do they feel insecure and think marriage will give them some kind of security? Or is it because you’ll then feel like you’re not the “single girl” or will have finally met someone’s expectations? Both reasons that aren’t self-focused. Marriage is a status and I can’t think of a positive reason as to why someone would really desire for it in and of itself, before even having met a partner who’s worthy of the commitment.
The unfortunate part is other women put this pressure on us as women to have the kids/marriage. I’m 42 and don’t have many female friends because of me not having those things.
Maybe it’s anthropology vs evolution. Women historically have the need for men but now they don’t need them that much. Except for baby making since they can work hunt father etc ….but society still sends signals that women should get with men no matter what and rely on them in the same ways. It’s a falsity in many cases…but what do I know ?thanks for your videos !
@@BarryObaminable Ah. the "ticking clock" lmao There's plenty of time in a woman's life for that. Literally nobody should be stressing out over that unless there is a medical condition that makes procreation difficult or dire financial circumstances. Every time I've seen anyone talk about that so-called "ticking clock" it was a man, being an absolute creep about it, pretending the acceptable age limit for a woman to have kids is suspiciously low and badgering women about it on the regular.
I don't know why these alpha male types think that all women want the same thing? Women are different from each other. I am a woman with marriage phobia😂 and se some of my married friends suffer silently in marriage because of their kids, and some of the happiest women are the divorced ones. To each his own.
Female right here who has been sine for.7 years and I can assure you that I love my own company and I like having the freedom to do what I want to. Not saying I'm going to deny all men but I am not desperate for any kind of relationship and I'm not going to settle for an asshole, treat me with respect and kindness or I promise I won't even look at you.
@@chris135x maybe...but maybe not. It's not a given that people must end up I. A relationship to be happy. Better to be single than to be with somebody who is toxic. For both sexes 100% true
I saw my parents have a very unhealthy and one sided relationship, my mom would go to work and barely make enough to put food on the table while my dad watched TV and was generally uninvolved in his kids' lives. Until I found my current partner, thought of getting married never crossed my mind for the sake of my own happiness
There ya go! See, someone else was saying that the only men they liked were all taken, bringing up some serious flags that apparently are gonna be overlooked in this community. You weren't tryna take nobody else's man or think about them in a way that really isn't yours to think about. Genuine people just find each other, not even looking usually.
@@TheRealNickGI think you missed the point. The O.P. was just getting on with their own life, with no interest in a relationship. Your comment indicates that you assume that all women are thinking about, and have the ultimate goal of partnering up with men. But if you actually read the O.P.'s comment, they made clear they had no interest in a relationship until they met their current partner, and there was, in fact, no mention of a man. You just projected your assumption. That is why it didn't make sense. Moral of the story: don't believe the movies. Many women feel complete living single, and do not spend their lives thinking about a possible fantasy partner. Some do, but not all. Plenty of women have realised they are not missing a half of themselves; the other half that can only be found with a man. Emotionally well women feel whole, and content living single,. For some, a relationship is an unexpected union between two whole people, and is a bonus.
My dad told me this " see those men who have a different woman every night? They are such bad lovers and ungiving in bed that they can't get the same woman to come back twice". He then said " a man who has had a long relationship will be a good lover, as he's been pleasing the same woman for many years" Plus he's house trained already!
Numbers are not rising because the dude has got women lined up but because he would not tell history of disappointed shags and new lady just want to get it and get off the wagon
Statistically speaking, single women live longer than their married counterparts, single men do NOT live as long as their married counterparts. This is proven, it’s an unquestionable fact. That, right there should be enough for both sexes to see that there is a huge disadvantage to women to be involved in older style, traditional role based, committed relationships. What we need is a world where both married men and women live longer or the same time as their unmarried counterparts. People should be supporting one another equally in relationships. It’s not happening when this life expectancy ratio exists like it does right now.
53 and happily single since I got divorced. IF I will ever get in another relationship (doubtful) I am only taking them in as outpatient. Never again stationary.
Still single, still happy. I would rather be alone than end up in the marriages I’ve seen that are toxic. I hope someday to meet a great partner but I won’t settle for someone who treats me badly or disrespects me.
Exactly. Being in a relationship is only beautiful if your partner treats you with respect and makes your life easier. If they make your life complicated it’s better to be single for your sanity.
I love my husband but I miss being single and not having to worry about anyone but me and my cat… he does make being in a relationship feel nice and he was my best friend for 15 years before that, so I’m happy here too. I just also know I’d also be happy alone.
Same. My husband is so sweet and kind but I'm tired of 13 years of having to think for him...due to his extreme PTSD, anxiety and ADHD, he has difficulty planning and making decisions. It's entirely medically based but in many ways I'm his caregiver and mom. Fortunately he is able to do the grocery shopping and cooking, but I work full time, parent his two kids (young adults on the autism spectrum) full time, and run a business, and I'm exhausted. He's truly a good man who loves me dearly but I'm starting to think I'd be better off single. 😥
The idea that men are more independent than women was always a lie. People would think that while also making jokes about how awful a "bachelor pad" is. The skills needed to be an independent adult were divided into masculine and feminine and patriarchal society just pretended that the feminine skills were less important. Marriage was more important to women, but patriarchal society always preferred married men to single men. So society was pretending that men were independent, while also manipulating them to ignore the skills necessary for independent living, and then women became ACTUALLY independent. Lacan pointed out that one gender role couldn't exist without the other, and feminists acknowledged it when he said it only to seemingly forget years later. Ironically a lot of feminist seem to have bought the idea that traditional men were/are independent, when that was just another lie meant to control women.
It's not macho to deny your need for love, affection, emotional support, and caring physical touch. It's just sad. These are things most people need, no matter their gender. Women frequently get these things platonically from other women, but men don't usually get them from other men. So yeah, it makes sense that women are perfectly happy being single! They can meet these needs mutually among several friends and also don't have to be the sole source of them for a man.
That is so sad. Men deny a whole world of experience. They live these half-formed lives, never knowing how to be a whole human. It's just a system that presses them down while at the same time telling them that it's right, good, and normal.
Whose fault is that... many men could change the system/societal expectations and pressures, it takes hard work and lots of time but if you let society dictate your life, many of yall will stay miserable for no reason. I really wish men would free themselves from the toxic masculinity that they keep following. I will also say, if there are women who are also putting you in that box, they are not worth it and keep looking. Anyone who tries to put you in a box that doesn't fit you, isn't worth your time. Ive dealt with them and its just best to ignore people like that. Just keep being a good person and improve yourself and things should work out if you really want it too but also know that's its ok to be single because you can focus on yourself and see what you like. Not everyone is the same and that's ok too.
You're also ignoring the fact that these single women can simply have sex whenever they desire it. All they have to do is download a dating app or go to any bar on a weekend. That's a huge need that the OP and so many of these comments are missing. The number of virgin women at 30 has barely changed, decade over decade.
The exact same haggard, exhausted women at work who told 25-year-old me that I'd change my mind about not wanting to marry or have kids? Told 40something me "You are so lucky."
I've been divorced 18 years and in the past year I started trying to date again after taking a break for the last 12 to just focus on raising my kids and my relationship with them. I've already had enough of the nonsense. I'm perfectly happy being single. I don't have to put up with anyone else's foolishness.
I'm almost 24, still a virgin and haven't dated yet so far. Part of me is happy to stay single. It helped me work on myself, explore my hobbies, finish studies, do work. But at the same time part of me kinda wants to be with someone. I am not sure I actually NEED it but it's something I feel is desirable. I feel like quarantine has had a negative impact on my loneliness that I started to feel like "man I wish I had found someone by now" often during those times. But fast forward to today, I feel less lonely hanging with friends, doing stuff with my sister, helping my mother that I kinda don't think about needing a relationship anymore. Though I must admit that during moments when my head is empty, those feelings do sometimes resurface. But I tend to keep myself busy. I think that I just need to give the world some time, I'm sure I'll find someone to spend the rest of my days with in due time :) just gotta make sure I'm keeping myself up like I'm doing now.
It's totally okay to in some way or another wish for human connection :)) i am happy single, but that doesn't mean that i don't wish that at one point i have a fulfilling romantic relationship with someone. We are social creatures! But if we are content with who we are and we have good friends we cherish, the romantic connection would be a plus and not a be all end all. Have a good day
My aunt never married or had children. My mom married twice and had 3 kids. Watching both while I grew up and experiencing physical/mental and sexual abuse from moms second husband myself I can say I definitely believe happiness can and will be found in a life by being single. Aunt got to do so much while mom was held down in one spot all her life cause of me and my siblings.
Yup a lot of moms ar ein that situation. They look stressed and burnt out bc if the obligations. Doesn't look fun and I never wanted to be a mom despite me being able to be a good one if I did.
I want to be the aunt who never married and had kids as I know a lady at office who is unmarried and I really love her. I have told her so many times that I admire her. I'm just scared I would end up being married because I already have pressure from my family and people around me and I'm afraid of being alone in the future
Yeah. I think men should have the same mindset of being happy and single as well. If you're one of those "I get no bitches so I'm sad" guys you'd need to find self worth from yourself not other women and be truly independent.
I’m 30s and deliberately single and the # of older female coworkers with kids and husbands who quietly tell me they think I’m making the right choice is… depressing.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthIf that married woman with kids was married to you, then it would be entirely understandable she would have preferred to have stayed single.
It's almost as if toxic masculinity is a real thing that makes it so that men suffer, and aren't bombarded with unwanted 'posititive' attention (aka harrasment in the form of cat calling)
I am a 20 year old introvert that plays minecraft. I like to go to movies and spend time online. Never been happier then right now. Love your content keep it up with the positivity.
@@leeofdoom4452 not forever, but I love to produce games and do world building, currently working in the space as a marketplace game producer, will see where life takes me. I make a decent amount of money next to college doing it while also graduating (probably) this year.
Also tbh The outlook for women in marriage isn’t nearly the same as for men. Men will be pampered while women both do child care and household chores, often times go to work additionally. The thought of being stuck in this isn’t attractive to a lot of women anymore. Even if you keep in mind that obviously not every marriage is like this, but a lot of them are. And just the thought can really put one off
@@katydoe677 Articles in magazines, and I'm assuming this is the one from Psych. Today by Gary Matos, are not scientific data, they are digests of it. Psych. Today is good here, but reading scientific articles is a trained skill, so other news outlets are rarely as reliable. The data featured in it is from "Loneliness around the world: Age, gender, and cultural differences in loneliness" by Manuela Barretoa, Christina Victor, Claudia Hammond, Alice Eccles, Matt T. Richinsa, and Pamela Qualter, on the other hand, is a meta-analysis, and it does not actually seem to have anything to do with your claims; instead, it tries to answer the question, "does increased individualism correlate with increased loneliness", and the answer was "yes, slightly" (opposite findings for age). It's at odds with other studies on several other questions, and it's not addressing your statements.
@@hexidecimark there is enough research around to show that women overwhelmingly are the ones that break up marriages/relationships, and that it's because men need to grow up and become nicer partners. and there is certainly enough incels/red pillers etc out there who will deny responsibility of their behaviour and say there is something wrong with all women, rather than look at themselves.
I do want to be in a happy healthy relationship, maybe get married someday. But I am also happy being single right now. It's a want, yes, but not a need. it's absolutely better being happy single than being in a toxic, stressful relationship
I feel this, although when the options dwindle you realize it’s much more of a need than a want. I want to be married as well yet most of the options in America are obese, domineering, and promiscuous. That equates to awful sex, terrible home life, and a woman that’ll leave at the drop of a dime
@@AaronD313 well that's your experience. It's still not a need for some of us single women to get married bc the options from Americans men suck too. Y'all aren't any better.
@@moonhunter9993 And childbirth definitely plays a role in this. Women in the past generations often died young in their 40s after giving birth to +6 kids.
False! Women live longer in general, the average life of a man is massively distorted because suicide rates are so high, and the biggest factor in suicides is women leaving the man and taking the house, finances and kids. Suicide post divorce is the highest risk factor for a man.
When I was single I was working on being content in myself and who I was, I wouldn’t have minded meeting someone but I trusted that it would come in good time and I would never lower my standards. I wasn’t desperate for a man, though many subpar men would like to think we women are. I met my boyfriend when I least expected it and am so glad I never settled.
I've been single and abstinant for as long as I can remember. No regrets. I don't have to deal with drama, cheating or abuse. Childfree and single for life.
If me and my partner broke up I would not bother dating again. Seeing the shift guys listen to, watch and think these days makes me never want to bother with it again. I was happy when I was single before, I’ll be happy being single again. Some guys don’t realise how much some women actually don’t care about being married and having babies.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthHow do you know she has no one in her life that would look after her? Lol do you know her personally? Bet you didn't know that a large proportion of elderly home residents never receive visits from their children/grandkids. So much for having someone there on your deathbed.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthall of those reasons are extremely selfish. You should have a kid because you value their humanity not because you want them to be your “legacy” or your nurse. Ew
I'm 16 and I've always hated being the dude who's a virgin with no girlfriend. I honestly stopped caring and I feel more happier in the time I've been giving myself! Edit: Thanks for the kind words everyone 😄. It was mainly last year where I found myself in a really low place just because I kept seeing everyone I know get into a relationship with me being the only single person. I know I'm still pretty young but I just wish I had alittle more freedom to do more social stuff. I usually just stay home for most of the time I have off. It's nice but it gets alittle boring.
You are so young and life will happen trust me. Also, believe when the adults in your life say be a kid. I miss being a kid so much and I have to be an adult for ever now. I only got to be a kid for 18-20 years ( because really 18 and 19 I was still a kid) Have fun, be kind, respectful and find someone who gets your sense of humor that’s really the best relationships.
That's really great! Girls are being taught that they don't need no man to be happy but the same message applies to guys too: you don't need a girl to be happy with yourself. In any case, it's perfectly normal to not have experiences with relationships in high school, you have plenty of time to find the person you want after you have a stronger sense of self
My exe actually went through the realization that the alpha male stuff was bs after getting on antidepressants. I think people tend to fall for it when they are at a low place and can’t get mentally better on their own. I’m happy he got help, I broke up because I was to emotionally unstable to handle someone with similar emotional instability, and I knew that I would get angry at him, and that anger would only make him think the alpha male bs was true.
Do you know why? this was because the father was legally responsible if she made a poor financial decision so it actually made sense that he had authority in that situation.
I am perfectly happy being single. I have no intention of lowering my standards. If a man wants to date me, he is going to have to become a lot better man and quit this toxic masculinity bullshit.
My brother is in his 30s and acts like that. He wonders why he can't keep a girl or why she ghosts him. He thinks women should be in the kitchen and birth children. Yet he still lives with our mother, doesn't help clean the house, will not drive a car, and spend all his time gaming. Yes, he works, but he still complains that all women are broken and don't want to be with a woman that is used or has children of their own.
I've been single for six years now, no relationship whatsoever and I just can't see myself with another person at this point. I've been enjoying being alone so much, I feel like I'll stay alone, I refuse all advances. I don't know how long I'll do that, but for now, that's how things are, and I very much like it.
I think I was maybe just out of college after having just broken things off with a girlfriend with no other crushes or anything going on when I realized how much happier I was when I wasn't pining for someone else all the time. It's a rather freeing experience to realize how great of a person you are on your own and that as long as you find happiness in yourself, you really don't need anyone else.
Good and genuine relationships are rare and being single is better than being in a shitty one. You only get in a relationship if it's good. If it's bad, then you don't really need it.
I was in a relationship for 8 years and immediately jumped into the next one after it was over. These events taught me a lot of things, but the one thing I learned was that being desperate for love while having toxic codependent tendencies would only lead me repeatedly to a love that I never wanted. It took a lot of time being in solitude, a lot of therapy and a ton of inner work and self-knowledge. However, I needed that time. I would like to have love with someone else someday, but I no longer look actively for love outside of myself. I don't need to. I love myself and the life I've created with balanced, healthy, respectful and close relationships around me; from family, pets and friends. If I never took that time to look in the mirror and save my own life, I would have never even remotely come close to the love and companionship that I've always dreamed of. Being alone is paradise compared to living a life remotely close to what I have lived through ever again. ❤️
Women are expanding their knowledge and educatation. They are rising to the top. Expectations are higher than before, and women aren't going to settle.
Being sIngle is calm and i have all my time and energy to do what i want after escaping a toxic relationship. It feels like a ball and chain in a sick situationship
👏👏👏 Was single 12 years after divorcing my cheating husband. I've been dating someone 8 years now, and will never get married again. I'm much happier knowing at any time I can say it's over if he cheats or hits me without losing everything I own just to escape with my life. I'm too old to rebuild from zero yet again because of a man. My partner is like you...a gentle, kind man that I will love forever if he continues to be my best friend and all around awesome guy.
@@hexidecimark I'm very honest. The day we met i told him how I feel. We address it every year or so to make sure we remain on the same page. I think honest communication and respect both ways has made for a happy household with no resentment or apathy.
@@ineedhoez i have no need of a piece of paper to chain us together. We are blissfully happy for 8 years without, and we agree that it's been the healthiest relationship of both our lives. I do not feel robbed in any way shape or form for the first time in a committed relationship.
Single most of my adult life and life is GOOD. Remember, "single" does not mean "lonely." I'm seriously rich in friends, and lovers are there if I want them.
@@leeofdoom4452 Bollocks lol. Your friends may have drifted away, some people have life long friends they're as close to as family. As for it getting lonely after 40 - not at all. Plenty of people PREFER a solitary life. You may not understand that but don't assume everyone feels like you. What has 40 even got to do with anything? Whether you're 35 or 55, if you like being single, have the nurturing relationships you need from friends, siblings, neices, nephews and other family, plenty of hobbies and interests etc being over 40 is irrelevant. If you think your friends will have left you after you're 40, you need new friends.
@@leeofdoom4452 Most of these women already saw their mother, grandmother etc, suffering in their 40 yrs old living with a bad husband. They have a choice between being single or become just like their mother/grandmother, most chose being single.
I’ve never, NEVER been happier than I am right now. Single mom, two kids, working hard and I have peace. Finding a fantastic partner would be great but I’m am completely fine being single. Hugs💕✨
Unfortunately, even good men are shitty husbands. You're lucky to find a human that isn't publicly toxic. But he will still treat you like crap but will Give a homeless person a dollar. That's the best you can get.
But it would be a lie. Men have been taught that they are entitled to women for centuries and the mindset has set rot in so many facets of marriage and parenting. @@wingknight7132
I've been single my whole life (31 years) and I'm absolute miserable because of it. I'm not feeling hopeful about my chances BUT I still wouldn't date a person that I didn't actually like
women want relationships and marriage. Just not with that guy lol which is most now days. Like its actually really fucking hard to find a man who isnt misogynistic and believes in 50/50 instead of a mother who has sex with you. Im really happy to see women not taking mens shit anymore.
It’s kinda hard to build a relationship with a man who wants to tick you off on list or assert his dominance (whatever that is supposed to mean). Why can’t we just like each other and want to eventually spend so much time with each other we decide to jump the broom and start a family
The older I get, the happier I am not having to be saddled with someone else's baggage and the expectation of having to do so, while caring for these people. Even when younger, I went to movies and restaurants on my own often. The feeling of the freedom is underestimated.
And I have seen pretty much opposite in men. I have seen many of my friends, even introverts, be their happiest in relationships, but unhappiest when single. I wonder what should change about this dilemma?
You just know there's a huge, deep issue when the opposite gender feels happier for NOT engaging with the other gender... That's sad. But sadly, from what I see, you're basically treated a lot better by male friends than male interests. Cuz, y'know... They usually treat you like a fellow human being like all their other friends, as in you're not their goal anyway, so, there's literally nothing to worry about and you can engage in normal conversation and activities.
Hahahahaha Tell me you dont know men, without telling me you dont know men lol I hate to tell you, but your 'friends' are all ready to go, just say the word
@@leeofdoom4452 I like how some men think of other men so lowly, as if asexuals or other kinds with low to non existent libido - HECK, even decent ones or who simply have other preferences than my body - don't exist. That simply tells more about you than other men. It must be hard living with the opposite gender. Sorry you can't be asexual and live a free life... *pat pat*
@@garybalranald6323 If that makes you feel better, go ahead. You just confirmed (in your point of view) that there IS an issue if the opposite gender feels better for not engaging with the other. I don't really believe in marriage myself as I've seen my dad abuse physically and emotionally my mom pretty harshly and keep her dependant through legal paperwork. They are both insufferable pieces of shit, tho, ngl. Got the cheating narc dad, and the karen mom turned extra-sour. Idk how I came out alive from my childhood tbh. Marriage ain't for me neither as a female tbh. I'd rather just a friend if that's the only way I can be treated normally and not like a trophy to absolutely acquire by pressing the "right" buttons. Let's not lie to ourselves. None of this is genuine. But desinterested friendship is, ironically.
As a woman, I am tired of being told I need to lower "MY" standards because these "men" refuse to improve themselves to meet basic human decency standards. We really don't care how much money you make, how tall you are, or whether or not men are muscular--we care about how you treat us. Treat me like a human being, not some inanimate sex object.
yeah i’d much rather be single than with someone terrible
Same
@@andromedaspark2241 YES QUEEN! Yess YESSSSSSSSSS ❤️❤️❤️ OMG.
I don't blame you. It's better to do that then be with someone who doesn't treat you like a person or even mentally abuse you.
I do wish the best for you, may you stay healthy and happy!
Unfortunately I did not have the strength of charecte to do that and ended up in 2 toxic relationships, one that ended poorly but wasn't toxic, and one whare my gf turned out to be a lesbian (I'm the god father to her adopted child now, so we are on very good terms) and me and my boyfriend are very happy together. However I can not stand being alone so their was a time whare after I moved out I just found a warm body who was consenting and started dating them. Didn't end well for me on...Well a number of occasions.
@@justynh1321 A lot of people get into toxic relationships without realizing, often times because the toxic person specifically hid it. What's important is that you got out and that you're safe and happy now. I'm glad you found someone to be with and that you're on good terms with one of your exes at least!
My dream relationship is perhaps a bit too hopeful honestly haha, I want both a bf and gf.
Better to be single than in bad company.
well yeah that stand is strong lmaoS
Yes, but why are you speaking for the male virgins?
Exactly ❤
Bad company as in business or bad company as in relationships. And single as in relationships or single as in not formally employed?
@@queerantine69 wait... wtf? I've never heard of anyone refer to themselves as single to portray to others that they are currently unemployed.
I'd rather be with my 30 cats eating my carcass than be with a man claiming that he's allowed to cheat while I'm chained to his foot... nah....we ain't rolling like that 😂
Who hurt u
@@Make_Me_A_Sandwhich she loves herself and you think she's hurt? Who hurt YOU?
What are u talking about trust is not ur strong suit 😂😂 clearly not a friend or anything else in life u wanna have from this person
@@ElizabethUkeh 😂 hush u sound triggered
@@datdudedeonte9424 lol thankfully, I'm not. That crazy dude thinks a woman must be hurt if she doesn't want to get married. Shhhh and go away
"alpha male virgin" needs to become the new buzz word.
I absolutely don't support alpha community and don't agree with most of things they say, but I thought it's very inappropriate, disg3sting and wrong to shame other's for their body count?
*Oh wait, it's only wrong if u do that to a woman and ABSOLUTELY OK if use it against men🥰*
+ They actual believe in the opposite, they view body count as some short of achievement for men, use women for their body and then shame other women for their body count.
@@lifeisamess8100 it’s not about shaming body count, it’s about proving that their methods don’t work. All they’re trying to do, all they ever *_talk about_* (besides money and the gym) is getting laid, and how successful their methods are, and they *_aren’t._* Thing is, there seems to be some kind of cognitive dissonance going on with a lot of them where they don’t notice the connection between their Alpha Male BS (tm) and their own virginity. Bringing attention to that connection might, just maybe, snap at least a few of them out of the Stupid Loop.
Besides, since a disturbing number of them genuinely don’t think women deserve basic human rights, my sympathy for them *_feeling bullied_* is limited.
Sounds like a smart and positive trait now
@@Violet-Storm u have no idea of modern women you are delusional
I'm 30 years old, no children and and single. I went back home recently to my family's farm to work and have never been happier. It's hard work hut it's work that keeps me fed and busy.
What’s it like to work on a farm? What kinda farm is it? I’m a city girl and the only farm I know is my neighbors coup and being chased by a rooster in the middle of city traffic 😅
Same. I'm in my 30s, have been in 2 relationship's that lasted 10 years in total. I have a dog, I focuse on my career, instead of the relationship so i earn more. I have never been happier. Some relationships are great but I found that mine had a lot of shortcomings and i ended up becoming the mom and doing everything. I'm not even looking for a relationship. I have peace of mind, I'm happy, i have time to build other relationships and focus on myself. I love it.
@@theinvisiblewoman5709 Well, it's hard that's for sure. The work is physically demanding and you have to get up very early to feed chickens and cows. You're isolated, mostly. The closest person from us is about 10 miles away and the city is an even bigger jump. However, it's peaceful and predictable which is what I need after so much chaos these past few years. Sure, you have to chase away wild turkey or wolves from the animals, but it's not that bad and keeps you on your toes. Our farm is just a small family farm. We grow mostly peppers, onions, sugar cane, oranges and such to make a profit from but we also raise dairy cows to sell and chickens for eggs. We recently met a neighbor who has a horse farm and they're willing to trade us somethings for food. I am learning new skills everyday to make life a bit easier for my grandma but it's not so bad plus you CAN get wifi here, you just gave to wait a month or so for an installer to decide to set it up.😅
@@lovelydeath04 lol well if you have Wi-Fi it sounds like you have everything. I hope you continue your good mental health and healing! Thanks for sharing.
come back 10 years later
In french we say : better to be alone than poorly surounded
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Some of the times when I've felt the most alone have been in rooms full of people.
We say the same in Portuguese
In Spanish we say "es mejor estar solo que mal acompañado" pretty much the same thing.
Edit: I googled the idiom in French because I was curious and they are literal translations of each other.
@@Ares_Vsi nunca had tenido novio/a te destroza en el Interior
It's like when they say we are past it after 30 when in reality we just usually lose our naivety after 30 and can't be as easily manipulated so they gaslight us into thinking after 30 we cannot have standards. They also shame women who want to settle down after 30 as if it's ok for men to explore in their 20's and not women. At nearly 33, having been single for 3 years, I am at the happiest iv ever been. I have a good life, am comfortable with who I am now and have met an incredible man. I was happy when I was single, I was content and met my partner by chance
Have you ever considered, niaivity is attractive to men?
Men prefer the 20 year old catholic school girl virgin type, than the beaten down, pessimist because shes had more men than hot dinners...
Not to mention gravity and fertility, which both literally go south in the 30's.
@@leeofdoom4452 Have you ever considered that we don't care what men have been taught to prefer? That would be the reason that so many men are staying single now for so long. Women are no longer forced to take men's preferences into consideration, without their own being considered as well. The fact that men who are predators also prefer naivety isn't surprising.
@@leeofdoom4452 As to the effects of age, gravity and fertility, those aren't issues for women alone. And the promise of children is no longer enough for most women to put up with a man who is not willing to help raise them.
@@leeofdoom4452I think some of them find naivety "attractive" because it lets them get away with more questionable things than with a partner who knows better.
@@erinmorash9334 I mean they are specific to women...
Men can reproduce up until their 50's, and it's easier to be in shape.
I think some dudes obsess over a relationship fixing their problems so much they fail to realize that not everyone else, women especially, are as as reliant on the concept as they are. And that telling a woman that they'll "grow old and alone" isn't actually that much of an insult in the first place when being alone can be incredibly fulfilling compared to getting stuck being a caretaker to a toxic relationship.
@@chris135x I said being alone is better than getting stuck in a toxic relationship, not that every relationship is toxic.
And it's not like we'll be alone alone.
They will.
I want a happy and healthy relationship, but if that's not available than I am more than happy to stay single. It's way better than being with some dude who's not worth my time🤷♀️
Yes, I love how you think
Definitely agree with you there.
Completely agree
definitely agree
Also on this train!
Yeah I have noticed it too. Whenever a womans ays she is happy being single and taking care of herself, all the men around would taunt her of cats and how she would regret it in future with no children and shit like that. Whereas when a man says he is happy being single, all men agree with him saying he saved his life and wallet, marriage isn't worth it nd stuff.
I don't know what it is but i find men like them really stupid with a fragile ego. They WANT to believe that a woman needs a man and not vice versa... Since they are superior than women(/s)
So true.
Don't even know why having a cat is considered a insult. Cats are great, they don't cheat, lie, manipulate or abuse women. In fact a cat is a upgrade from some of these dodgy dude's running amuck in society. 🤷♀️
That's the reaction I used to get when I made it clear I wasn't interest in relationships anymore (about 15 yrs ago) and that I don't ever want kids (which I told people when I was 14)
I got that reaction from both men and women.
That was the most common comment - 'but you'll regret it when you're older!' 'When your body clock starts ticking down you'll be desperate to have a baby!'
Well now I'm almost 40 and I've never regretted it a day in my life :) not only that, I'm MORE happy with my choice not to bring children into the world every single day. It's the best decision I ever made.
I have tons of hobbies and interests (and not enough time in the day!) great friends and family I love to bits and spend loads of time with. I love living alone and feeling free.
If I'd grown to regret it, that would have been for me to deal with 🤷♀️ not sure why other people thought it had anything to do with them anyway lol.
I absolutely agree it’s the fragile egos and warped entitlement. They think a relationship is them strutting around with their chest out demanding sandwiches and sex and anything less than that is an attack on their manhood because they are the alphas and creators of society. But when challenged in the slightest bit they go into how oppressed men are because the awful women don’t let them because men and child support isn’t fair and men statistically have poor mental health and it’s so much harder for them. So they’re alpha conquerors and we can’t live without them but they’re also victimized by us. I can’t keep their story straight.
@@missinterpretation4984 and look at the society they created, it's literally turning into hell on Earth.. Also sandwiches and sex😂😂
Women without male partners live longer too.
Please show me the research I would like to read
Haha make yourself happy 😂
Right! Because every single woman over age 50 with no children, legacy and dynasty to pass on wants to live longer. No one to take care of them living an utter regretful life of despair living off the government. Go spread your feminist lies elsewhere.
@@arimdu1408look for "Yale Global Online - Should Women Stay Single?",
can't type links in YT because they delete comments. The one above is just an example but there are hundreds of studies and evidence that single women are healthier and happier, and live longer. Take care!
Oh, and regarding male partners, it's because most of women, just like men, are heterosexual. Studies are usually made on heterosexual people, because homosexual or bi, which are minorities, usually have a little bit different relationship patterns. Which explains why culture and society has influenced too much heterosexual marriages amd relationships, for centuries. Cheers!
One thing I find insane is when men try to tell other men "what women want" & get confused when their games end badly or attract the wrong types. Yet when a woman flatly says "THIS is what we want", guys still pull the "no you don't!" Like, if you can't even listen or comprehend when someone tells you what they want, you're not worth touching.
@@chris135x you're right, that is insane. Ppl don't care to treat eachother with respect anymore which is a problem for everyone. That's also why men should learn how to spot the real red flags that have nothing to do with physical attributes so they can vet better instead of chasing shallow, immature women or fishing with their wallets & attracting gold diggers.
@@chris135x I've browsed some of the male dominated forums myself & do see a lot of toxicity out there sadly. Tons of bitterness & projecting exes at all men/ women which isn't healthy at all. It's one thing to have baggage & bad experiences (everyone does), but how you sort & grow through it matters. Lots of "women only want money" & "just treat them all like crap", not a whole lot of focus on mental health & genuine healing. Same on some of the younger women's groups as well, but those 20-somethings are way more inexperienced than they realize yet. A LOT of dating advice being put out there that is more likely to set ppl up for failure than anything. Especially the "play this game & then follow it up with another".
You act as if women are sane and all on the same page. 😂 give me a break Disney princess.
I all fairness woman really don't know what they want as they have a habit of going for the wrong men.
@@Ibalistic_hedge lol & you're kidding yourself if you think men don't. How do guys get wrapped up with unstable 304s so easily if you know better? Studies have shown men, especially when young, prefer mentally unstable women because they're "more exciting" & give access to sex faster while they consider stable, modest women to be "boring". So even science shows that men give preference to instability & promiscuity over what they claim to want. Before you clap back with the typical "well we don't want to settle down with those types"... to that I ask: why would you waste time & energy on something you know you don't want? That's not logical behavior.
Yes! Thank you I've never been more happy in my life single! Which in a way is sad but better that than being cheated on constantly and treated bad.
The reason the cheating happens is also because women open their legs a lot these days, so men expect it and when they don't get it, they move on. You women made this. Now accept responsibility for it. Also, male promiscuity in nature results in something. Female promiscuity results in death and destruction. As we are seeing now. YOU made these men.
@@jcstang8952 ok Tate just like your boyfriend I see...
@jcstang8952 look at you a little future pimp in the making how attractive you are to us ladies 🥲
Yess!!! So agree, I find myself traveling more and treating myself more when I'm single. When I was in my 2 previous relationships, I was drained, tired, and plain out making the bacon in those relationships.
@jcstang8952 then why are you so angry? Man up and take responsibility for your own out of control testosterone seek God and do therapy like a real man and take care of yourself and don't let me continue because I will make you feel stupid
I would rather stay single than have someone not treat me with the respect I deserve.
Yeah this is why single women are happy and single men are miserable.
Yep!
And you cant find men who respect women? Men tend to like to settle down with feminine women and respect them. I mean, its certainly possible that all men are cheaters and cant respect women, but it might be possible you are fishing with the wrong bait.
@BarryObaminable I know that a good man is worth waiting for, BECAUSE I know good men.
@@nightmaridragon13 Yaass!!!
I'd like to normalize women being single. For generations it wasn't even a choice for us to stay single! I'm so happy that it's finally a choice.
@@crazypkm you hope to see what?
@@AmericanWithTheTruth why does it trigger you so much? Very telling 😆
@@Emptytopfloor because people that lie, manipulate and deceive trigger me.
@@AmericanWithTheTruth how do you know she does all those?
@@AmericanWithTheTruth Thank you for reminding me why I stay single with your overly aggressive response to a year old comment. I would not expect my husband to be the maintenance man; nor should he expect me to be the maid or cook. My happiness is not dependent on my relationship status with anyone. And I would not disrespect a man by using him to alievate hypothetical unhappiness in my 40's, 50's or 60's. I find it strange that you are trying to convince me of what my experience as a woman is and will be. I think they have a name for that...mansplaining.
Yeah, having a "partner" is often more trouble than help. Unless it's a really really REALLY good partner, you're better off alone.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthtry asking yourself WHY women are the primary initiators of divorce and you’ll see why marriage is a really bad deal for women.
@@AmericanWithTheTruth the first reason of divorce is 1. Lack of commitment in the relationship and family (lack of support, like of emotional work, lack of help with household chores and childcare, 2. Being cheated on. These two reasons reprsent 70% of divorce. If I were you, I won't have brought these argument on the table, because it just means that men are bad parnters, husband and fathers in general. It's not in your favor
@@lovejunkie490 so you are saying more men today cheat on their wives than in the 1980s, 70s, 60s? BS! Because the divorce rate was half of what it is today back then. If you believe what you say where is the evidence for the causation? Men haven’t changed hardly at all over the last 50 years, but women have in fact the largest variable in the equation is the introduction and growth of toxic feminism in American society.
I'm single and happily so. I'm antisocial, awkward, and I have hobbies. I have lots of female friends, one I call my best friend. She lives in Australia. But I'm happy where I am in life. I don't like the red pill alpha bs that those incels use.
It's hard to learn to love yourself. I got it finally, I like who I am. I love my freinds, but I'm happy as I am.
I love your content, your a stellar example of a human. Thank you for making content, be safe and may your family be in the upmost health!
I wish you nothing but contentment, joy, and fulfillment in your life.
Cool people like you are like hidden gems. We introverts are holed up in our apartments so we rarely bump into each other.
I know I am a good person. I've been turned down and laughed at by many guys. It hurts like hell, but you keep on chugging.
I may or may not get married; but I refuse to buy into that panic.
YOURE AMAZING
Sadly some of them aren’t even incels they actively learned from the redpill community to manipulate women into sex
You sound absolutely great. Especially the female friend thing since some guys don’t believe in friendships with women and the ones they do have are just to wait for their chance to turn it into a hookup or relationship and then get mad when the ‘friend’ rejects them
Appreciate you
I’m turning 28 and haven’t been in a relationship since I was 23. These have been the most stable and levelheaded five years of my life, and where I’ve made the most progress.
I did NOT just say I have no interest in ever getting married, because I do, it’s a major life goal. But, I wouldn’t change having spent this time single, and I’m in no rush to end my singlehood for yet another asshat who won’t put in the same effort I do. 😅 I’m content to wait for a grownup relationship.
Good job we need more women who don’t want kids
@@Make_Me_A_Sandwhich why so our culture can have lower birth rates and we can be easily weakened and conquered by the next empire? Feminism has completely destroyed America.
@@Make_Me_A_Sandwhich yes the population is about to fall off a cliff
It’s honestly not that hard to treat someone with the same respect as you expect from your partner.
my mom divorced my dad years ago and she was so happy living on her own. then she met this guy that she said was perfect. they got together a few years after she'd been on her own, and even though she says she loves him, its obvious that she's not happy anymore. she's so stressed out and complains about him and her life in a way she didn't before he moved in with her.
I genuinely hate the fact that being happy in a relationship is so rare that it's pointless to attempt it.
@@Nerobyrne It is not pointless to attempt a relationship. It just must be approached very cautiously.
Sounds like a child with dynamite… just saying.
@@Catlily5 it's like playing the lottery, but instead of a fiver you give them the good third of your day.
Oh, and if you lose, it feels like someone ripped your heart out through your anus and you gotta cram all that stuff back in.
You're right, it's worse than pointless.
It's a terrible idea.
Sorry to hear that. I think many men start taking women for granted and start treating them like care givers later in a relationship. In the beginning they still put some effort in.
The thing is I'm just tired, you know, men used to judge me for being a virgin in my 20s then they judged me for having sex, they cheated on me, used me, psychologically mistreated me and so on. I got tired of trying and most men don't want to change. Like we ask for the bare minimun, the bar is so low it's burning in hell alongside the sinners, and yet they fail to reach this minimun. I'll get in a relationship the day a find a guy who respects me, until then, I rather stay single.
Wow that sucks!!!
My neice is in same boat except no sex. But the amount of guys that just want sex then get angry when she says she saving for marriage is nuts!
Keep being you!! All the best!
You are so right, it hurts and its tiring. So sorry you went through that. I will never understand why people can't do the bare minimum when it comes to relationships and then wonder why people just prefer being single then dealing with it.
"the bar is so low it's burning in hell." Yes, this! A thousand times this!
There is no lonely that comes close to being with someone but knowing you are completely alone. I am often alone, but rarely lonely as a single woman.
Be alone not worth emotional and mental trauma that comes with them.
I'm just lonely and sad.
I LOVE being single. I had a few relationships when I was in my late teens/early 20s but when I was single, I realised I was much happier. I've never wanted children so that wasn't an issue. When I realised being free and single felt right and I didn't have to find a man, just because that's what society expects nor did I have to justify myself, it was fantastic.
I have tons of hobbies and interests, a few close friends and a wonderful family, I'm independent and don't have to answer to anyone. It feels fantastic :)
I don't know any women who have lowered their standards after being single. Such as my sister, cousin and friends, if anything it's the opposite, the longer they're single, the more they realise they don't actually need a boyfriend.
Love that! For me the same! Never wanted kids...feel amazing Beeing free
You're lying. Look at that long, endless comment. It shows you're lying. Lol I am 23 and you are old enough to go to bed ⚰️
Glad u found this out baby girl! I'm going through a gray divorce and refuse to spend what time I have left with a complete ahole!
I feel like this is something we all needed is a huge break from each other.
After having a child I honestly completely changed my perspective on men and relationships. Not saying there’s no decent men but it’s clearly become the exception to the rule. My life is easier having just myself and my child to take care of and not having the dead weight of a grown adult to care for I’m so much happier. My mentality became “if it’s easier to do it myself why have someone in the way”
Lmao no conception of single mother led home statistics. No conception or. Concern good luck putting moneys on his books in prison.
Absolutely. Having a partner is wonderful and having a great man by your side is truly fulfilling, but having dead weight and just another thing that brings you stress and little to no joy just isn't worth it
Yes, stay single girls and die alone.
@@MELLMAO most of them are dead weight. Women are taking care of traditional as well as modern day role yet it is never enough of recognition but there are multiple mouths for blaming.
Which is ridiculous because a spouse is meant to help shoulder the responsibility and not add to it. Smh
It is so refreshing to hear a positive and freeing message for women. Thank you
Being single is positive how exactly? Women today are significantly less happy than women in the 70s. Men not. Married women today are happier than single women. He’s pulling stats out of his ass. Men are having less sex because women share more of the same guys and then wonder why they’re single 😂
Boy, you in for a surprise when you look at men and women over 30 not under 20.
Masculine obese promiscuous women or women that have extremely unrealistic standards is the reason men are virgins
If you wanted to go in a relationship would you like n “alpha” man or a man who thinks like this and sometimes wear nail polish? Let’s say both would be loyal to you
@@ettlejon4422 the latter, 💯
I was happily single for years. I found my unicorn finally at almost 31. It was all so worth it I wouldn’t change a thing.
He is smart, funny, kind, handsome. All the things that I thought would be hard to find as I aged, turns out it’s not true. What is true is that if you work on yourself, the ‘right one’ will come.
This is some good advice, just keep improving and you can get to the top, good job.
Aaah no you didnt
Recently saw a tweet that went something like "telling women they're gonna be alone forever doesn't hit the same anymore".
And yeah, it doesn't. A lot of women simply enjoy their own company, coupled with the company of friends and possibly a pet, so much more than the alternative: getting stuck with a man who often contributes little but negativity to their lives and for what?
For a society, that shits on women at every turn, to shit on them marginally less? That's generally not worth the effort when you can love, spoil and invest in yourself instead.
Long story short: there are worse things in life than being single.
...Pet and plants. Taking care of your own garden is just the best.
Many just won't get it. We aren't anti men. We just don't want what YOU want us to be, We're happy making our own path.
Yess 👍
🌈💕🌈💕💕🌈
We're anti-misogynistics and low bar men that's it.
If you're not anti men, why is this comment section riddled with misandry?
@@leeofdoom4452 Most of this comment section is women reaffirming the facts that they can be single and thrive like the queens they are. Just because you seem to need others or an external relationship to validate an internal need, these women have reached some self-actualization and serenity with being only themselves or mom with kids. Maybe ask yourself why being with someone (sexually, romantically, or otherwise) is so important to who you, as an individual person, are?
Been single for the last 3 years and it's the best thing ever. After my last relationship I have zero desire for another with a man. I live by the sea with my dog and it is so peaceful and delightful.
True! I was married at 19 I got divorced at 24. I have zero kid. I thought being married would make me happy guest what I am way happier after I got divorced now I am 28 years old. I have been celibate for a year now I love it very much hahahahahaha. I have zero stress even though I work to take care of myself all my money goes to trips, eating healthy and pay my bills. If I want to feel generous one day I give someone something but I owe no men 50/50 I would gladly pay that 100 for my myself and my peace ☮️ too much going on out there.
Some Men argue that 40 year old lonely cat women are miserable. So they want young women to get marry to them and start being miserable earlier in life. I mean why wait? 🙄
😂😂😂😂😂
I find the stereotype of the ‘lonely cat lady’ hilarious…if you ask anyone with a bunch of cats, they’d never characterise themself as lonely.
@@natmickan exactly!
Darling with all due respect as a 40 something with cats can testify, people should stop trying to scare us with that old crazy cat lady like is not a goal that i have. I do what i want, when i want it, i meet with people if i want, eat what i want, sleep.when i want, travel if i want and i have the most gorgeous company i could ever ask. All that without some 'alpha' trying to dictaminate how to live my life. So if you think that is an insult then hell yeah, i wanna be an old crazy cat lady!
😂
Not only are we ok being single, we're basically forming covens on accident.
Like, we all want to live in a tiny village by the sea with our friends and some cats, an alpaca and our creepy little hobbies.
We'll make ceramics and mead and adopt possums.
That sounds like an amazing tiny house community ngl 😂
Throw a golden doodle in there and I'm in!
I remember seeing a video recorded by BBC on self marriage and how many women are choosing that. They also have a sorority group where they club and do activities together.
I LOVE this idea!!
This made me laugh in a good way, it sounds awesome (as long as we all get along) 😁
What men don't realize is we don't NEED them. We can make a home and an amazing life all by ourselves. Men NEED women to make a house a home. We are the second creators of life. Ytf would we NEED a man to be happy. Dont get me wrong, I'd like to have someone to love and share life with. But I'll be damned if I break this 3 years of single life for scum. Shits been the most peaceful years of my life and I've been engaged 3 times. Dont be afraid to walk away ladies! Know your worth!
This makes me think of what my mother says (she's a single older woman): "There's a difference between being alone and being lonely, and I'm happily alone".
As a single, older woman, it's wonderful! I can't see myself ever living with a man, again. The freedom is too good. I don't hate men. I've had good men in my life. I just don't want to give up so much of myself to someone else, again.
My mom would always point out how when men got divorced they would remarry really fast, but when women got divorced they stayed single a long time, maybe never getting married again.
@@cloudsn Yeah, men really, really hate to be alone. (Some don't, of course, there's always exceptions.)
@@cloudsn That’s scientifically proven! It’s even been documented that women become healthier after divorce (lower blood pressure and steady weight or weight loss) probably because they get more time to focus on themselves. I feel like a large portion of married women tend to give too much of themselves to the partner and family life and only realize it when it’s hard to reverse it since they’ll feel guilty or egotistical
@@cloudsn because it is like going down the same route again.
Yeah I married an Asian guy who was completely charming until we get married he told me without him I'm nothing and I couldn't afford to live on my own.
I make more than he does..... I walked out and now I'm evil just ask his entire family
I'm happy alone. If you don't add to the amount of happiness I have then why would I add you to my life?
Exactly. Men think other men are the competition; no honey, youre competing with me. You have to add something to me life - if im happier alone why would I bring you into my life? Makes no sense lol. Men want to do the bare minimum and want us to fawn over them. (Before some incel attacks me, not all men, and yes there are shitty low standard women too.)
THIS 1000x
This is 100% my stance. I'm not against relationships at all, but if a partner does not add to my happiness, he has no place in my life.
I'm just lonely and sad.
Do you think a man can add to your happiness?
I've been single for almsot 6 years and I can safely say that I am happier than I have ever been.
Me too sis! Going on 5 years strong ❤️💃🏻
I'm just lonely and sad.
Running out of options is no fun and happy is the last word I’d use to describe it. Most avg men feel this because their options are obese, promiscuous, and domineering women and we’ll be single until we die instead of dealing with that. It’s not happiness it’s rather depressing and hopeless. That’s what the avg American man has to look forward to
@@AaronD313 you're mad that you have to settle for less than you wanted? Huh, seems familiar. It seems like that is exactly what women have been forced to do since the beginning of time. And why are you complaining about this on my comment? You could have made your own comment saying the same thing. YOU may be unhappy that you're single, but IM clearly happy with being single. Go be an incel elsewhere.
@@AshleesBathroom women don’t have to settle for less, get on a dating app rn and there’d be plenty of decent men that would treat you right. You just chose to make babies with guys that don’t care about you cuz the ones that do are deemed boring. Go be fat and masculine somewhere else. How do I know you’re fat and masculine? Because 90% of you are fat and masculine!
37 single woman here, happiest I've ever been in my life. All I hope for in life if for things to stay the same. Even if I went in to a serious relationship I would not get married.
Some friends had a hard time believing dating was so hard as a woman: Then I showed them how rude and grudgy men were on dating apps. They act like I should be desperate, like I owe them, and they punish me for their precious bad experiences. Not all men, but oh so many of the single ones. No thanks, I'm happier single!
If you're old and fat then yea. Welcome to being a guy who isn't 6'3 (190cm).
"People used to preferential treatment, will see equal treatment as discrimination." ~Thomas Sowell
The single women that are so unhappy are those that are overly concerned with others and how they compare. The whole “I’m getting older and am not married or In a relationship and don’t have kids and …” concerns seem to be most bothersome when (1) someone is putting expectations on her to have those things and/or (2) she’s continually comparing herself to those around her that do have those things and feeling inferior because of it.
I don’t see marriage and kids as being things that are desirable in and of themselves. I think that I will desire those things if and when I’m with someone with whom I feel is awesome enough to have those things with. Like why do women desire marriage itself? Do they feel insecure and think marriage will give them some kind of security? Or is it because you’ll then feel like you’re not the “single girl” or will have finally met someone’s expectations? Both reasons that aren’t self-focused. Marriage is a status and I can’t think of a positive reason as to why someone would really desire for it in and of itself, before even having met a partner who’s worthy of the commitment.
The unfortunate part is other women put this pressure on us as women to have the kids/marriage. I’m 42 and don’t have many female friends because of me not having those things.
I think it is implied. We want a marriage to the person we love. I don't think anyone wants a marriage just to have one. At least when they start out
Meh. Some women want kids. Some don't really care.
The clock ticks louder for the former
Maybe it’s anthropology vs evolution. Women historically have the need for men but now they don’t need them that much. Except for baby making since they can work hunt father etc ….but society still sends signals that women should get with men no matter what and rely on them in the same ways. It’s a falsity in many cases…but what do I know ?thanks for your videos !
@@BarryObaminable Ah. the "ticking clock" lmao
There's plenty of time in a woman's life for that. Literally nobody should be stressing out over that unless there is a medical condition that makes procreation difficult or dire financial circumstances. Every time I've seen anyone talk about that so-called "ticking clock" it was a man, being an absolute creep about it, pretending the acceptable age limit for a woman to have kids is suspiciously low and badgering women about it on the regular.
I don't know why these alpha male types think that all women want the same thing? Women are different from each other. I am a woman with marriage phobia😂 and se some of my married friends suffer silently in marriage because of their kids, and some of the happiest women are the divorced ones. To each his own.
You can have a family without a man or a marriage license if that's what someone wants to do.
@@roninboxers Parthenogenesis is not currently a human trait as we use X/Y sex determination.
@@hexidecimark or you can just buy a tank of spunk and a turkey baster...
@@roninboxers This, until we have the iron womb, is still manufactured by men.
@@hexidecimark I am also in favour of the artificial womb. The original design is ridiculous.
No marriage
No divorce
No Alimony
No child support
Result happy life 😁😎
And the end of humanity ;-;
And a completely fruitless life with no kids to carry on your legacy, heritage, culture and empire. Yeah! No thanks! Feminism has ruined America!
@@cinnap1212 better that way yeah, humanity pretty much s*cks
Truuuu
@@cinnap1212there are 8 billion humans. Humanity will be fine
Female right here who has been sine for.7 years and I can assure you that I love my own company and I like having the freedom to do what I want to. Not saying I'm going to deny all men but I am not desperate for any kind of relationship and I'm not going to settle for an asshole, treat me with respect and kindness or I promise I won't even look at you.
@@chris135x maybe...but maybe not. It's not a given that people must end up I. A relationship to be happy. Better to be single than to be with somebody who is toxic. For both sexes 100% true
Yessss single life is great! Noone to boss me around and expect me to feed and mother them
This is true
True
I first read: "...and expect me to feed my mother" and was very confused for a few seconds.
Don't forget cleaning up after a grown ass man
Omg yes!
I saw my parents have a very unhealthy and one sided relationship, my mom would go to work and barely make enough to put food on the table while my dad watched TV and was generally uninvolved in his kids' lives. Until I found my current partner, thought of getting married never crossed my mind for the sake of my own happiness
There ya go! See, someone else was saying that the only men they liked were all taken, bringing up some serious flags that apparently are gonna be overlooked in this community. You weren't tryna take nobody else's man or think about them in a way that really isn't yours to think about. Genuine people just find each other, not even looking usually.
@@TheRealNickG What are you on about?
@@TheRealNickGI think you missed the point. The O.P. was just getting on with their own life, with no interest in a relationship. Your comment indicates that you assume that all women are thinking about, and have the ultimate goal of partnering up with men. But if you actually read the O.P.'s comment, they made clear they had no interest in a relationship until they met their current partner, and there was, in fact, no mention of a man. You just projected your assumption. That is why it didn't make sense.
Moral of the story: don't believe the movies. Many women feel complete living single, and do not spend their lives thinking about a possible fantasy partner. Some do, but not all.
Plenty of women have realised they are not missing a half of themselves; the other half that can only be found with a man. Emotionally well women feel whole, and content living single,. For some, a relationship is an unexpected union between two whole people, and is a bonus.
My dad told me this " see those men who have a different woman every night? They are such bad lovers and ungiving in bed that they can't get the same woman to come back twice".
He then said " a man who has had a long relationship will be a good lover, as he's been pleasing the same woman for many years"
Plus he's house trained already!
Numbers are not rising because the dude has got women lined up but because he would not tell history of disappointed shags and new lady just want to get it and get off the wagon
@@ektasharma3520 that has nothing to do with my comment...
Statistically speaking, single women live longer than their married counterparts, single men do NOT live as long as their married counterparts. This is proven, it’s an unquestionable fact. That, right there should be enough for both sexes to see that there is a huge disadvantage to women to be involved in older style, traditional role based, committed relationships. What we need is a world where both married men and women live longer or the same time as their unmarried counterparts. People should be supporting one another equally in relationships. It’s not happening when this life expectancy ratio exists like it does right now.
53 and happily single since I got divorced.
IF I will ever get in another relationship (doubtful) I am only taking them in as outpatient. Never again stationary.
I'm guessing you divorced him
I hear ya sister!
"Outpatient". I'm requisitioning this phrase 😂
Still single, still happy. I would rather be alone than end up in the marriages I’ve seen that are toxic. I hope someday to meet a great partner but I won’t settle for someone who treats me badly or disrespects me.
Exactly. Being in a relationship is only beautiful if your partner treats you with respect and makes your life easier. If they make your life complicated it’s better to be single for your sanity.
cope
You can find peace and happiness on your own, but if you're saddled with someone who can't find that for themselves you won't know it either
You literally just disagreed with the message...
You want a relationship, thaaaaats bad!
@@leeofdoom4452 No they didn't, you just can't read apparently. Not wanting a toxic relationship doesn't mean you don't want a relationship at all.
I love my husband but I miss being single and not having to worry about anyone but me and my cat… he does make being in a relationship feel nice and he was my best friend for 15 years before that, so I’m happy here too. I just also know I’d also be happy alone.
Same. My husband is so sweet and kind but I'm tired of 13 years of having to think for him...due to his extreme PTSD, anxiety and ADHD, he has difficulty planning and making decisions. It's entirely medically based but in many ways I'm his caregiver and mom. Fortunately he is able to do the grocery shopping and cooking, but I work full time, parent his two kids (young adults on the autism spectrum) full time, and run a business, and I'm exhausted. He's truly a good man who loves me dearly but I'm starting to think I'd be better off single. 😥
Yall have no husbands
@bluemoon1972 I understand you😢
wait what he doesn't lift a finger to work? @@bluemoon1972
@@bluemoon1972So you’re a free dumb slave? Divorce him, u don’t know what love is so stop using the word.
The idea that men are more independent than women was always a lie. People would think that while also making jokes about how awful a "bachelor pad" is. The skills needed to be an independent adult were divided into masculine and feminine and patriarchal society just pretended that the feminine skills were less important.
Marriage was more important to women, but patriarchal society always preferred married men to single men.
So society was pretending that men were independent, while also manipulating them to ignore the skills necessary for independent living, and then women became ACTUALLY independent. Lacan pointed out that one gender role couldn't exist without the other, and feminists acknowledged it when he said it only to seemingly forget years later. Ironically a lot of feminist seem to have bought the idea that traditional men were/are independent, when that was just another lie meant to control women.
It's not macho to deny your need for love, affection, emotional support, and caring physical touch. It's just sad. These are things most people need, no matter their gender. Women frequently get these things platonically from other women, but men don't usually get them from other men. So yeah, it makes sense that women are perfectly happy being single! They can meet these needs mutually among several friends and also don't have to be the sole source of them for a man.
That is so sad. Men deny a whole world of experience. They live these half-formed lives, never knowing how to be a whole human.
It's just a system that presses them down while at the same time telling them that it's right, good, and normal.
You would think that men would evolve and change since they cant get the thing they want. Nope.
Whose fault is that... many men could change the system/societal expectations and pressures, it takes hard work and lots of time but if you let society dictate your life, many of yall will stay miserable for no reason. I really wish men would free themselves from the toxic masculinity that they keep following. I will also say, if there are women who are also putting you in that box, they are not worth it and keep looking. Anyone who tries to put you in a box that doesn't fit you, isn't worth your time. Ive dealt with them and its just best to ignore people like that. Just keep being a good person and improve yourself and things should work out if you really want it too but also know that's its ok to be single because you can focus on yourself and see what you like. Not everyone is the same and that's ok too.
You're also ignoring the fact that these single women can simply have sex whenever they desire it. All they have to do is download a dating app or go to any bar on a weekend.
That's a huge need that the OP and so many of these comments are missing. The number of virgin women at 30 has barely changed, decade over decade.
@@Sasu123456789x1 Just go out and dictate that long hair should be for men only, g'on, it's that easy
36 and living my best life. I would rather be single for the rest of my days than be tied to someone who doesn't respect me and treat me well.
Or typos are a thing. Fixed it
@@tigrflowr I think the funniest irony here is that they used the wrong version of "you're"
@@chris135x that is literally not what they said
@@chris135x have you forgotten how to read the comment? Or just want talk for the sake of talking?
@@chris135x actually your mentality is the problem. Stop trying to shame women for enjoying their single life just because you can’t enjoy yours
The exact same haggard, exhausted women at work who told 25-year-old me that I'd change my mind about not wanting to marry or have kids? Told 40something me "You are so lucky."
I've been divorced 18 years and in the past year I started trying to date again after taking a break for the last 12 to just focus on raising my kids and my relationship with them.
I've already had enough of the nonsense. I'm perfectly happy being single. I don't have to put up with anyone else's foolishness.
I'm almost 24, still a virgin and haven't dated yet so far. Part of me is happy to stay single. It helped me work on myself, explore my hobbies, finish studies, do work.
But at the same time part of me kinda wants to be with someone. I am not sure I actually NEED it but it's something I feel is desirable. I feel like quarantine has had a negative impact on my loneliness that I started to feel like "man I wish I had found someone by now" often during those times.
But fast forward to today, I feel less lonely hanging with friends, doing stuff with my sister, helping my mother that I kinda don't think about needing a relationship anymore. Though I must admit that during moments when my head is empty, those feelings do sometimes resurface. But I tend to keep myself busy.
I think that I just need to give the world some time, I'm sure I'll find someone to spend the rest of my days with in due time :) just gotta make sure I'm keeping myself up like I'm doing now.
It's totally okay to in some way or another wish for human connection :)) i am happy single, but that doesn't mean that i don't wish that at one point i have a fulfilling romantic relationship with someone. We are social creatures! But if we are content with who we are and we have good friends we cherish, the romantic connection would be a plus and not a be all end all. Have a good day
Get a dog 🐕
"Would like" is much better than "need." Then you can be a whole person in the relationship with another whole person.
My aunt never married or had children. My mom married twice and had 3 kids. Watching both while I grew up and experiencing physical/mental and sexual abuse from moms second husband myself I can say I definitely believe happiness can and will be found in a life by being single. Aunt got to do so much while mom was held down in one spot all her life cause of me and my siblings.
I'm so sorry, hugs 💞
That is exactly why I don't want children.
Yup a lot of moms ar ein that situation. They look stressed and burnt out bc if the obligations. Doesn't look fun and I never wanted to be a mom despite me being able to be a good one if I did.
I want to be the aunt who never married and had kids as I know a lady at office who is unmarried and I really love her. I have told her so many times that I admire her. I'm just scared I would end up being married because I already have pressure from my family and people around me and I'm afraid of being alone in the future
Yeah. I think men should have the same mindset of being happy and single as well. If you're one of those "I get no bitches so I'm sad" guys you'd need to find self worth from yourself not other women and be truly independent.
I’m 30s and deliberately single and the # of older female coworkers with kids and husbands who quietly tell me they think I’m making the right choice is… depressing.
If a married woman with children says you’re better off single then they are garbage. No wife mother should or would give that advice.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthIf that married woman with kids was married to you, then it would be entirely understandable she would have preferred to have stayed single.
Yeah, don't want it and am all set. They are trying hard to convince us we are unhappy lol, all while it's them who are unhappy.
Exactly 💯 they think that everyone is miserable like them
projection😂
I just want to be happy.
I wonder why they are happier...It's almost as if they are treated better...
🤣 seriously!!
@@OffTheWagons I'll redirect you to Roma Army for my explanation
@@literallydalegribble3875 r u talking about that women who supports men rigths activists Roma army that pick me up girl
@@hatersrmotivators6477 Did you just act like men don't have rights?
It's almost as if toxic masculinity is a real thing that makes it so that men suffer, and aren't bombarded with unwanted 'posititive' attention (aka harrasment in the form of cat calling)
I am a 20 year old introvert that plays minecraft. I like to go to movies and spend time online. Never been happier then right now. Love your content keep it up with the positivity.
Same
You believe this is your life forever? You wont get bored, things get stale?
@@leeofdoom4452 not forever, but I love to produce games and do world building, currently working in the space as a marketplace game producer, will see where life takes me. I make a decent amount of money next to college doing it while also graduating (probably) this year.
You’re young when your 30+, you’ll understand
Very similar for me. Except it’s Baldur’s gate 3 and political twitch streams
Also tbh
The outlook for women in marriage isn’t nearly the same as for men. Men will be pampered while women both do child care and household chores, often times go to work additionally.
The thought of being stuck in this isn’t attractive to a lot of women anymore. Even if you keep in mind that obviously not every marriage is like this, but a lot of them are. And just the thought can really put one off
woman: men - grow up, and be good human beings and partners.
men: no, there is something wrong with all women.
women: 🙄
People: I will now use my personal anecdotes as general scientific evidence.
@@hexidecimark this comes from the scientific article "the rise of single, lonely men". Personal anecdotes not even necessary.
@@hexidecimark you seem a little butt hurt by this. are you part of the incel community?
@@katydoe677
Articles in magazines, and I'm assuming this is the one from Psych. Today by Gary Matos, are not scientific data, they are digests of it. Psych. Today is good here, but reading scientific articles is a trained skill, so other news outlets are rarely as reliable.
The data featured in it is from "Loneliness around the world: Age, gender, and cultural differences in loneliness" by Manuela Barretoa, Christina Victor, Claudia Hammond, Alice Eccles, Matt T. Richinsa, and Pamela Qualter, on the other hand, is a meta-analysis, and it does not actually seem to have anything to do with your claims; instead, it tries to answer the question, "does increased individualism correlate with increased loneliness", and the answer was "yes, slightly" (opposite findings for age). It's at odds with other studies on several other questions, and it's not addressing your statements.
@@hexidecimark there is enough research around to show that women overwhelmingly are the ones that break up marriages/relationships, and that it's because men need to grow up and become nicer partners. and there is certainly enough incels/red pillers etc out there who will deny responsibility of their behaviour and say there is something wrong with all women, rather than look at themselves.
I do want to be in a happy healthy relationship, maybe get married someday. But I am also happy being single right now. It's a want, yes, but not a need. it's absolutely better being happy single than being in a toxic, stressful relationship
I feel this, although when the options dwindle you realize it’s much more of a need than a want. I want to be married as well yet most of the options in America are obese, domineering, and promiscuous. That equates to awful sex, terrible home life, and a woman that’ll leave at the drop of a dime
@@AaronD313 well that's your experience. It's still not a need for some of us single women to get married bc the options from Americans men suck too. Y'all aren't any better.
@@SR77736 what makes men worse now than say 10-20 years ago
Same, here!
Thank you!!!
I'm 23 and soooo very happy single. We really would rather stay single and happy than be miserable and married to men like that.
Single and friendless. I'm damn happier.
Here’s a funny statistic. Women live longer when they’re single while men live longer when they’re married.
obviously. because women take over a lion's share of chores.
@@moonhunter9993 lionesses do all the work 😐👍
@@emc2862 yup.
@@moonhunter9993 And childbirth definitely plays a role in this. Women in the past generations often died young in their 40s after giving birth to +6 kids.
False!
Women live longer in general, the average life of a man is massively distorted because suicide rates are so high, and the biggest factor in suicides is women leaving the man and taking the house, finances and kids.
Suicide post divorce is the highest risk factor for a man.
When I was single I was working on being content in myself and who I was, I wouldn’t have minded meeting someone but I trusted that it would come in good time and I would never lower my standards. I wasn’t desperate for a man, though many subpar men would like to think we women are. I met my boyfriend when I least expected it and am so glad I never settled.
More I stay single more I am less likely to settle for less than I deserve.
I've been single and abstinant for as long as I can remember. No regrets. I don't have to deal with drama, cheating or abuse. Childfree and single for life.
Also STD-free 😉
@@dianaprince3176 Yup!
abuse free
If me and my partner broke up I would not bother dating again. Seeing the shift guys listen to, watch and think these days makes me never want to bother with it again. I was happy when I was single before, I’ll be happy being single again. Some guys don’t realise how much some women actually don’t care about being married and having babies.
I'm a woman, almost 34, and very happily single thank you. I have absolutely no desire to be in a relationship or married.
Thank you for not reproducing
Well good luck living a sad lonely life with no dynasty, legacy and no one to take care of you over age 50.
@@AmericanWithTheTruthHow do you know she has no one in her life that would look after her? Lol do you know her personally? Bet you didn't know that a large proportion of elderly home residents never receive visits from their children/grandkids. So much for having someone there on your deathbed.
@@Make_Me_A_Sandwhichantinatalist? I mean valid but not my position
@@AmericanWithTheTruthall of those reasons are extremely selfish. You should have a kid because you value their humanity not because you want them to be your “legacy” or your nurse. Ew
There's a French expression, "Mieux vaut être seule que mal accompagnée", meaning it's better to be alone than in bad company.
I'm 16 and I've always hated being the dude who's a virgin with no girlfriend. I honestly stopped caring and I feel more happier in the time I've been giving myself!
Edit: Thanks for the kind words everyone 😄. It was mainly last year where I found myself in a really low place just because I kept seeing everyone I know get into a relationship with me being the only single person. I know I'm still pretty young but I just wish I had alittle more freedom to do more social stuff. I usually just stay home for most of the time I have off. It's nice but it gets alittle boring.
Works the same way for women too, only when I stopped caring so much about being single was I able to be much happier in life!
You are so young and life will happen trust me. Also, believe when the adults in your life say be a kid. I miss being a kid so much and I have to be an adult for ever now. I only got to be a kid for 18-20 years ( because really 18 and 19 I was still a kid)
Have fun, be kind, respectful and find someone who gets your sense of humor that’s really the best relationships.
That's really great! Girls are being taught that they don't need no man to be happy but the same message applies to guys too: you don't need a girl to be happy with yourself. In any case, it's perfectly normal to not have experiences with relationships in high school, you have plenty of time to find the person you want after you have a stronger sense of self
You are 16 for God’s sake. FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE NOT DATING. People who start dating young burn out by their 20s
you are a baby.
My exe actually went through the realization that the alpha male stuff was bs after getting on antidepressants. I think people tend to fall for it when they are at a low place and can’t get mentally better on their own. I’m happy he got help, I broke up because I was to emotionally unstable to handle someone with similar emotional instability, and I knew that I would get angry at him, and that anger would only make him think the alpha male bs was true.
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, especially if it is by choice.
As long as it isn't for religious nonsense.
Women can open a bank account without the signature of their husband or father.
Yusss
Wtaf?
True. In the old days, women could not do that.
@@natashadickson4819 in the old days, literally right before women were allowed, most men couldn't have bank accounts either
Do you know why? this was because the father was legally responsible if she made a poor financial decision so it actually made sense that he had authority in that situation.
I am perfectly happy being single. I have no intention of lowering my standards. If a man wants to date me, he is going to have to become a lot better man and quit this toxic masculinity bullshit.
Yasss 👏🏾 agreed
There’s always a common denominator in bad relationships.
My brother is in his 30s and acts like that. He wonders why he can't keep a girl or why she ghosts him.
He thinks women should be in the kitchen and birth children. Yet he still lives with our mother, doesn't help clean the house, will not drive a car, and spend all his time gaming. Yes, he works, but he still complains that all women are broken and don't want to be with a woman that is used or has children of their own.
Ugh...
Eww that’s disgusting
I've been single for six years now, no relationship whatsoever and I just can't see myself with another person at this point.
I've been enjoying being alone so much, I feel like I'll stay alone, I refuse all advances.
I don't know how long I'll do that, but for now, that's how things are, and I very much like it.
I think I was maybe just out of college after having just broken things off with a girlfriend with no other crushes or anything going on when I realized how much happier I was when I wasn't pining for someone else all the time. It's a rather freeing experience to realize how great of a person you are on your own and that as long as you find happiness in yourself, you really don't need anyone else.
Good and genuine relationships are rare and being single is better than being in a shitty one. You only get in a relationship if it's good. If it's bad, then you don't really need it.
I was in a relationship for 8 years and immediately jumped into the next one after it was over. These events taught me a lot of things, but the one thing I learned was that being desperate for love while having toxic codependent tendencies would only lead me repeatedly to a love that I never wanted.
It took a lot of time being in solitude, a lot of therapy and a ton of inner work and self-knowledge. However, I needed that time. I would like to have love with someone else someday, but I no longer look actively for love outside of myself. I don't need to. I love myself and the life I've created with balanced, healthy, respectful and close relationships around me; from family, pets and friends.
If I never took that time to look in the mirror and save my own life, I would have never even remotely come close to the love and companionship that I've always dreamed of. Being alone is paradise compared to living a life remotely close to what I have lived through ever again. ❤️
Women are expanding their knowledge and educatation. They are rising to the top. Expectations are higher than before, and women aren't going to settle.
Being sIngle is calm and i have all my time and energy to do what i want after escaping a toxic relationship. It feels like a ball and chain in a sick situationship
👏👏👏 Was single 12 years after divorcing my cheating husband. I've been dating someone 8 years now, and will never get married again. I'm much happier knowing at any time I can say it's over if he cheats or hits me without losing everything I own just to escape with my life. I'm too old to rebuild from zero yet again because of a man. My partner is like you...a gentle, kind man that I will love forever if he continues to be my best friend and all around awesome guy.
Building from zero because of men right now. When I get myself fully together again, will not go back to that.
Just as long as he also knows this
@@hexidecimark I'm very honest. The day we met i told him how I feel. We address it every year or so to make sure we remain on the same page. I think honest communication and respect both ways has made for a happy household with no resentment or apathy.
I understand but you do realize that you can marry AND keep separate assets right? Don't let fear rob you of the beauty that is marriage.
@@ineedhoez i have no need of a piece of paper to chain us together. We are blissfully happy for 8 years without, and we agree that it's been the healthiest relationship of both our lives. I do not feel robbed in any way shape or form for the first time in a committed relationship.
I don't need another half because I am not half
haha this made me laugh
I've been single for awhile & honestly I love it tbh. But I would still love to find someone I can be this happy with...
Indeed. I'm single like a pringle and happy living this way.
Single most of my adult life and life is GOOD. Remember, "single" does not mean "lonely." I'm seriously rich in friends, and lovers are there if I want them.
Friends will drift away, and lovers will anish as you age...
It gets real cold and lonely after 40 without a family
@@leeofdoom4452 Bollocks lol. Your friends may have drifted away, some people have life long friends they're as close to as family.
As for it getting lonely after 40 - not at all. Plenty of people PREFER a solitary life. You may not understand that but don't assume everyone feels like you. What has 40 even got to do with anything? Whether you're 35 or 55, if you like being single, have the nurturing relationships you need from friends, siblings, neices, nephews and other family, plenty of hobbies and interests etc being over 40 is irrelevant.
If you think your friends will have left you after you're 40, you need new friends.
@@leeofdoom4452 that's a lie, and that might be a You problem
And STDs are there…
Even if you don’t want them 😂
@@leeofdoom4452 Most of these women already saw their mother, grandmother etc, suffering in their 40 yrs old living with a bad husband. They have a choice between being single or become just like their mother/grandmother, most chose being single.
I’ve never, NEVER been happier than I am right now. Single mom, two kids, working hard and I have peace. Finding a fantastic partner would be great but I’m am completely fine being single. Hugs💕✨
Peace. It's so appreciated once you have it.
Well-done
Unfortunately, even good men are shitty husbands. You're lucky to find a human that isn't publicly toxic. But he will still treat you like crap but will Give a homeless person a dollar. That's the best you can get.
I could say the same about good women
But it would be a lie. Men have been taught that they are entitled to women for centuries and the mindset has set rot in so many facets of marriage and parenting. @@wingknight7132
I've been single my whole life (31 years) and I'm absolute miserable because of it. I'm not feeling hopeful about my chances BUT I still wouldn't date a person that I didn't actually like
women want relationships and marriage. Just not with that guy lol which is most now days. Like its actually really fucking hard to find a man who isnt misogynistic and believes in 50/50 instead of a mother who has sex with you. Im really happy to see women not taking mens shit anymore.
Not all women want marriage. I don’t. My niece doesn’t. My next door neighbor doesn’t.
It’s kinda hard to build a relationship with a man who wants to tick you off on list or assert his dominance (whatever that is supposed to mean). Why can’t we just like each other and want to eventually spend so much time with each other we decide to jump the broom and start a family
in a way i think the elephant's rope has a lot to do with it
Have you ever considered it's not men, but it's you?
@@leeofdoom4452 have you considered touching grass ?
@@sermajore1187 very thoughtful response
Seriously, why can't we just like each other? It would make bonding so much easier.
The older I get, the happier I am not having to be saddled with someone else's baggage and the expectation of having to do so, while caring for these people. Even when younger, I went to movies and restaurants on my own often. The feeling of the freedom is underestimated.
And I have seen pretty much opposite in men. I have seen many of my friends, even introverts, be their happiest in relationships, but unhappiest when single.
I wonder what should change about this dilemma?
There are studies confirming your point.
You just know there's a huge, deep issue when the opposite gender feels happier for NOT engaging with the other gender... That's sad. But sadly, from what I see, you're basically treated a lot better by male friends than male interests. Cuz, y'know... They usually treat you like a fellow human being like all their other friends, as in you're not their goal anyway, so, there's literally nothing to worry about and you can engage in normal conversation and activities.
Hahahahaha
Tell me you dont know men, without telling me you dont know men lol
I hate to tell you, but your 'friends' are all ready to go, just say the word
Actually, it's men who are opting out of marriage, not women.
Women are, "Where have all the good men gone?"
Answer: With women other than you.
@@leeofdoom4452 I like how some men think of other men so lowly, as if asexuals or other kinds with low to non existent libido - HECK, even decent ones or who simply have other preferences than my body - don't exist.
That simply tells more about you than other men. It must be hard living with the opposite gender. Sorry you can't be asexual and live a free life... *pat pat*
@@DarkyChuu so you taking a societal discussion and applying it to the 1%...
That'll help 99% of women lol
@@garybalranald6323 If that makes you feel better, go ahead. You just confirmed (in your point of view) that there IS an issue if the opposite gender feels better for not engaging with the other.
I don't really believe in marriage myself as I've seen my dad abuse physically and emotionally my mom pretty harshly and keep her dependant through legal paperwork. They are both insufferable pieces of shit, tho, ngl. Got the cheating narc dad, and the karen mom turned extra-sour. Idk how I came out alive from my childhood tbh.
Marriage ain't for me neither as a female tbh. I'd rather just a friend if that's the only way I can be treated normally and not like a trophy to absolutely acquire by pressing the "right" buttons. Let's not lie to ourselves. None of this is genuine. But desinterested friendship is, ironically.
As a woman, I am tired of being told I need to lower "MY" standards because these "men" refuse to improve themselves to meet basic human decency standards.
We really don't care how much money you make, how tall you are, or whether or not men are muscular--we care about how you treat us. Treat me like a human being, not some inanimate sex object.
100 times, this!! That is the thing that is making some men "average". It's not their looks, it's their repulsive attitudes.
So well said.
Absolute TRUTH.
Honestly? Yes. I am a happy, 41-year-old single. When you have learned how to love yourself first, then it's not scary anymore.
I think we tend to have deeper, more emotional connections with our friends and it sustains us when we're single.