My whole life, no friends, no love, parents focused on older siblings. I like being alone, but every once in a while I get that heartache of knowing I'm always gonna be alone. If you can relate, we are the uncanny flower.
Maybe that's even better the beautiful flowers are cut off and sold but we stay where we are and are not cut off and sold so we can enjoy our lifes to the maxium even we are lonely .. I hope you can understand what I mean
You might want to stop your obsession with anime and computers. Join a sports club or something. Doesn't matter if you are fat and ugly, only fear stops you from meeting people. I will say this: You will probably never find love. But friends are quite easy to get.
My problem not only about relationships socially I'm also a big loser I finally recovered from depression recently but I'm still lost I dont know how I'm going to survive rest of my life am I going to change
@@chubbeenubbee69 this is why if you are in an unhappy relationship and you’ve tried absolutely everything to make it work then the best thing for the both of you is to seperate as the longer you stay together the less chance you both have of finding someone suitable.
@@Cooliemasteroz Thank you. ThAnkfully we have both been separated for years now but when I read this I brought me back to that time . And I was unhappy.
@@rickymagnole1372 thank you and yes I agree that this and possibly other similar advice should be taught early imagine how much more happiness there would be in the world and how much more people would succeed in life as well as achieve great things because they’re not suffering emotional torment.
I’m 44, I’ve exhausted all my options and come to the realization that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. When my mom passes eventually I’ll truly be alone in this world.
I'm in the exact same boat as you. It's like this comment was written straight from my own thoughts. It's nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
No the hope you refer to in this context is when your not content with being alone and hope for a partner. Here we are saying we are happy with either. Very clear and simple.
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
In today's society, atleast in Western society finding a partner is usually based on money, status, power, charm, competition etc... For spiritually minded people it is very difficult, in my humble opinion.
I totally agree with you! Non-love items on your checklist clearly spells out the transactional nature of western culture relationships. Fuck it--I'd rather live my life alone.
I’m FINALLY accepting that I will spend my life alone. I’m tired of letting myself down believing that I will have the love I desire and I’m treated wrong. I really refuse being the only one putting in work to make a partner happy and I get the bare minimum. I know I’ll NEVER let ME down!
People who spend most of their lives alone, and not lonely, tend to have very wise old souls. We stand alone because we don't need the support of others. The Universe always sends us what we need. If you don't have a lot of people around you, it's because you don't need them. We are all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. There is a peace and strength in being alone. It's not a bad thing.
So true, especially if your partner is abusive emotionally or physically. You can't take rejection personally. Just try to be the best friend you can be and you'll find people who will befriend and love you. Friends are fine, you don't have to have a romantic partner.
Here's my story (if you want to read). I've fully accepted now, I'm probably going to end up to be alone forever. First, I found it tough accepting it!! I live alone, don't have many friends around, faced rejection multiple times, seeing people my age & relatives getting engaged/ married, having kids, settling down happy together, etc... Yes, I felt sorry for myself, depressed, anxiety, miserable, ugly and jealously, which I feel is awful and didn't do me any favours. Anyway, I took up surfing, found other fun sports what I enjoy and passionate about. Now, I'm focusing on myself and goals, without any distraction. It feels awesome, and I've never felt so confident! Don't have any commitments, no responsibility, no distraction, do what I like and don't care what people think of me anymore. I couldn't be any happier right now, and loving life! So that's my story. If you're still reading this, and in my situation before, I really hope you find/ do what you love and passionate about. Most importantly, your own HAPPINESS Life is too short!! Best wishes to you all out there 🙏🤙
Truth hurts. Being one's own grown up is tough, but it's worth it. I see so many toxic, painful relationships around me. Theirs an empowerment in being single.
@@Moesie Yes you can. That's where the strength and healing from anxiety and sanity is. It IS. Love and comfort and nurture yourself and self soothe. You can do this. There is great power to be had from being alone and loving yourself. If you look you will see that you are REFUSING to love yourself. Watch Teal Swann videos on connecting to yourself.
Agreed. I'd rather be alone than in one of the toxic, forced relationships I've witnessed. Some people think they absolutely HAVE to be with someone at all times and thus will hook up with anyone.
Exactly,once I got pass"Romanticizing" the ideal of relationships,it actually took me back to my real self,I'm a loner by nature,I'm a private person by nature,and,no,I don't have all the mental energy it takes to carry toxic,draining relationships,I was literally mentally and physically exhausted from trying,I've never been into having a big circle of friends (quality over quantity),and,never was a "Keeping up with the Joneses" type,so,I'm good,and,like he stated, "I've never been happier",I've actually said this to ppl,and meant it
The deepest most horrible loneliness can be experienced within a relationship. To come to terms with yourself and not be relient on external love means one can be alone, which is different from being lonely.
Now that is wisdom. Another can add a little to one's happiness, but for the most part happiness can only come from within, as every spiritual teacher has said.
I’m autistic and dating is a hassle. It’s so much easier to be alone. I seem to have a bigger problem with myself when I’m with other people (or around people) because they have a problem with me. Relationships require me to change too much because my lifestyle is unconventional. I’ve accepted a long time ago that I will not be able to be in a healthy relationship. I hear the words “I’m meant to be alone” in my head after almost every human interaction. And I’m actually okay with it. When I say that I deserve to be alone I am not saying that I’m not worthy of being loved, I just owe myself what I enjoy the most, being by myself. I deserve to have that.
I'm in the same boat. Because I've spent all of my life alone unless I absolutely need to speak to people I just don't. Being alone isn't a bad thing when you enjoy all the activities you do while alone.
@@rojaefraser4071 being alone can be freeing but also quite terrifying at the same time. The more you spend time inside your own head the more the bad thoughts seem to want to pop out. As for me I'm fine if I'm alone. I don't need anyone to complete me anyway.
Im a loner too, i know il spend the rest of my life alone. So i took a long serious look at what i want. I love plants and animals and nutrition. So i started down this trail, and I've learned so much about farming, which i could not have done with a partner. My diet improved and i can eat the way i want. I have 7 dogs who i love, we are a family. My yard is a huge jungle of fruit trees and vegetables. I wake up at 4 every morning and i gleefully jump out of bed. Im a happy camper.
My mom told me she didn't want to get married (probably didn't want to have kids either) and probably was depressed her whole marriage. I feel like i never got something I needed as a child, to be able to comunicate with people. I find it easier to be alone by my self.
They do this purposly too, because many of them have a or several cluster b dissorers. Some of them are sadists too. They have children just to torture them, which means they shouldn'teven be allowed to take care of their own children in thefirst place. Yet they're allowed to because society lets them. We have to change laws and get new laws in place. The most unfit people to become parents are the one's who's procreating the most in this society. But you and every other human has their own responsibility to put these evil people where they belong and not accept their evil behaviour and let them get away with it. You use excuses like I'm proud of being an outcast, I'm too evolved to care. Take some active action to change these circumstances instead.
@@entertaintment4301 Parents with personality disorders often had traumatic childhoods themselves. Furthermore, these parents are usually unaware of their own PDs and don't understand how their behaviours may affect their children. Emotional wellbeing, family dynamics, relationship communication skills and effective problem solving with regards to families are not taught in school, as far as I know. I'm 51 and I've been recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have struggled with depression since childhood. I have also struggled to maintain friendships, relationships and employment. I've never been married and I haven't had a romantic relationship in years. I used to feel very sad about that, but now l feel fine...at peace. I never felt safe in relationships, I never really felt good enough, I always felt that I would be abandoned....so I'd finish the relationship before I could get hurt. Both my parents were depressed and emotionally unavailable. I don't believe it was their intention to harm me, but due to their lack of self awareness, low emotional intelligence and poor parenting skills, they just couldn't help themselves. Good,loving, supportive, and consistent parenting has to be learned.
...but what about with someone who treats you GOOD..why is it it's always," I'd rather stay single than be in a bad relationship"..what about a good relationship??
@Mistake Maker This is true, I agree..just doing things or buying things is like trying to buy love and attention, but what I'm meaning is, I keep reading these single people's comments that keep saying " I can do me", " I love doing what I want", I ME MINE..and it's pretty obvious that these types who are claiming to prefer being single and living alone are generally selfish and self absorbed..and I'm not trying to put them down but all I'm saying is IF..IF they'd TRY thinking of someone else's happiness and wanting the satisfaction of doing for someone they could love, they'd discover the joy that can only come from sharing a life with someone opposed to waking up alone and going to bed alone..that's not living, it's existing, don't you think?
What's bad about being alone is that when you die, your corpse will never be found unless someone noticed it and had to clean them up, there's a lot of case of lonely deaths in Japan
I feel like Teresa & Linda too...it started a while back, am in a fairly loveless long relationship but can’t face going thru’ the dating thing ever again if we did split, keep feeling I’m not where I belong & people shallow. I’m too old to move abroad to live to make a new life and I really worry for the future and how to go about being fully independent as I can’t really work a regular daily 9-5. The other option is euthanasia but I feel like I could be useful somewhere still 😕...I do wonder how many others out there are stuck like this. Small wonder there’s so much homelessness & suicide in the world and labelling them all ‘depressed’ or mentally ill is a cop out and not what’s really happening.
@@Ravencross06 when ur happy with urself for ur life and u don't need someone else to justify your actions. Your life . Ur existing. Ur happy .. inner peace comes from within.
I spend many times by myself . I'm not depressed. I'm not insane. I just like lone time . There's nothing wrong with me. And I don't need someone in my life .
@@jodifloria6647 I've been feeling that way also..After 41 yrs..My husband has been this way 4 the last few yrs..He works w/ alotof women..I can c the change so much..Plus I've been very sick 2 go w/all the rest of it..
Yeah, but when you choose to be alone, you can end up being and feeling lonely. It’s not like everyone who isolate and choose to be alone knows how to socialize. Keep that in mind.
I've seen a lot of friends that have been in long term relationships and I'm sooooo glad I'm single. I do what I want, when I want, how I want, etc. I have lots of interests and I enjoy my own company. I get tinges of loneliness but nobody has a perfect life.
@@chuckhines459 I agree. I'm a pretty happy person and my partners were always reading into whatever I did to match some script in their heads that was right out of their childhood trauma. My first was a rageaholic, but at least I knew what stories he was creating because he was yelling them at me. (Why he wanted to create that hell I don't know because I thought the world of him.) The other two were passive aggressive and wouldn't speak their truth. At some point in each relationship, I knew when things were going off the rails but they withdrew and wouldn't communicate. It was at the end of each when I learned about their internal dialog. As hard as it was living with a rageaholic, that was far better than puzzling over changes in behavior that were passed off as nothing because the person lacked the wherewithal to assert their needs. Didn't help to have told them the process I had to go through to learn to communicate my needs and ask for help. Modelling respectful communication didn't help either. If a person is afraid of conflict, afraid the other won't love them if they have needs that "might" conflict with their partner's, even respectful communication feels too threatening. It took me a long while to realise that there aren't a lot of responsible grownups out there -- that is, people willing to accept responsibility for their own feelings and act on that.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS just be yourself. it is important to agree some limits/boundaries early on in the relationship - because each person that comes in our lives will reflect part of ourselves that we like or dislike, see this whole process/game of life and relationships we build is for us to know ourselves, what we are able to allow and what not in parts, and I believe what this video is about is to stop beating ourselves up and just acknowledge and accept your situation without judgment, it is ok even if every romantic relationship went wrong in the past, so what, imagine for a moment that through these experiences you learnt about who you are and what you want from life, what are you willing to allow or not, write down the things that are important to you so you don't forget them especially when you are in the process of forming a new relationship. Remember the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Honor that, and treat yourself kindly, regardless of what has happened in the past. We have to learn to live alone for sometimes so that fog will disperse and never come back haunting you. You can still do all the activities you would do as if you were with a partner, without the fights, negativity and judgment as a bonus. ;) Cook the food you like, watch the movie you want, build new friendships, go out alone or with friends, take yourself in holidays as you would do with a partner, talk to strangers, smile. When you get to that point and you feel the joy of living without depending on anyone you are then ready for a new relationship. Stop pondering on the past, live, covid is around the corner. :)))
"The loneliest people are the kindest, the saddest people smile the brightest, and the most damaged people are the wisest. All because they don't wish to see others suffer like they do" ~ anonymous ~ 🍃🕊🍃
@@robyndismon394 Robyn, It's exactly how I felt when I first read it. I appreciate your message. I borrowed it years ago please feel free to borrow and share as well. I wrote it up really pretty and printed it on nice paper. Then laminated it and cut I think 50 copies. I passed it around to people in my walks in life. It kind of helps to know that we are more observant than we give ourselves credit for. I hope you have a happy and humble life above ground. Much respect from katrinka🌺🌴
I am 66 and realize that I should have always been alone. I was one of those that felt a person was not complete unless they had someone in their life. That is not true. What I found was that the ones I wanted to be with did not want to be with me and the ones that wanted to be with me I did not care for. I enjoy my life now. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I don't have any kids because I never wanted any. I am alone now because I want to be. I am my best company. I am my best friend. I have really gotten to know myself. Something I never did in the past. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I am alone and that's the way I want it. Don't be afraid to be alone. Only insecure people need someone to hang onto and depend on.
Yes I totally second this! A friend of my Mum’s is 83 never married and is such a happy fulfilled lady. She enjoys her group activities with the U3A and travels a lot, she is one of the most joyous souls I have ever met. She said she just knew that she never wanted a life partner just loads of friends and tons of great experiences. Being in a partnership isn’t for everyone! 👍😊
I came to that path at 45. I am now 68 years of age and things are fine. I would have loved to have had someone in my life forever but I realized not in this lifetime... but my joy will be in the next
deborah barry, wow, I am the same age and my enlightenment came at about the same age as you. When one knows the facts, it is more power to the people who are single and at peace wit the world and themselves.
Me too it always happened there come a situation were a ppl leave my life sometimes bcz I decided that when I find out that they don't deserve to be in my life or they leave my life coz circumstances and again I'm alone despite the fact of being a kind and a sympathetic...ppl always ask me how come that a such beautiful woman is lonely well I don't have an answer unfortunately I'm aware of my value perhaps I'm I'm destined to be alone all my life.
This is my hunch to. Some of us are just destined to be outcasts. There will be instances that are like beyond coincidences and you just know that there is some force or something that makes it near to impossible to feel connected to anyone.
When I was a teenager, a man said to me " How can you find someone, when you don't need anybody?". It was true, and he could sense that I wasn't a '1/2', but complete by myself. Relating with people exhausts me, and saps my strength. But, sometimes I do need a good hug.
I've been on several relationships, but over time I ended up getting tired of the drama and the excessive amount of time and energy I had to put in the relationship. So, about my mid 40s, I decided to be alone and couldn't be happier. I never feel alone and have the time to pursue my hobbies and interests. Most of my same-age friends who are still single, report the same experience.
@@Purple9721. yes i agree no family no more friends but due to a conscious decision due to a personality disorder sometimes it s hard but i enjoy my life most of the time..
I think the “you’ll meet someone someday” is the worst thing people can say, they’re telling you to be passive and ‘hope’ it’ll happen, you have to actively go out and chase it, find opportunities to meet people because for a lot of people if they remain passive they’ll never encounter the opportunity. My brother didn’t have a single girlfriend, not even a one off date, until he was 30 and finally got brave enough to use tinder without being embarrassed what others might think of him (there was a sigma using it makes you ‘pathetic and desperate’ especially when it first became a thing). He went on some awful dates but persevered, eventually he found himself the one who’s now his wife and she’s honestly perfect for him, none of my family thought he’d ever meet someone yet he beat all my siblings and me to the alter, quite the surprise! His wife also had thought she’d be alone forever and tinder was her last ditch effort before totally giving up since she was 30 and feared she’d run out of time/was too old for anyone to want her. Their jobs are SO different they’d have never met under normal circumstances if they’d sat around and ‘hoped’ for someone to waltz into their life conveniently. You have to pursue it actively if you know you won’t be happy with a life on your own or missing out on having a family of your own. You need to be patient, you’ll likely have a lot of failures at first but persevere, it’s a lot better than sitting on your butt to wait and hope the universe gives you what you want just because you really want it, it’s the worst approach to finding a life partner, despite being the most common ‘advice’ people give you.
Some people are missing the point. It's not just the something more in life; it's when life, through circumstances that are not in your control, hands you something less. Happiness starts and ends with the self. Here's what research shows: If you're a miserable person and you win the lottery, you'll be pretty happy for possibly a couple of years, but after that, you'll be miserable. If you're a happy person who has some disaster befall you, you'll likely be unhappy for a couple of years, but happiness will likely be yours. I am a pretty joyful person and experienced the latter. I became disabled at the prime of my life, watched in horror when people abandoned me as a result of my disability (people I thought would be friends for life), and I had a pretty rough couple of years. Then, joy, which had become infrequent, returned. My partner at the time - someone who was mostly morose - was emotionally stricken by our change in status, by the social rejection, and also, I think, by my ability to adjust to the change in my circumstances and worse, to be able to be joyful. (It must be hard to watch a partner whose illness "ruined" your life adjust and experience joy when your life is now joyless because you lack the ability to adapt to the situation and find joy.) "Partner at the time" pretty much tells you what disability tends to do to a marriage - people run... that's their adaptation. Yeah, that was hard too because despite being morose, I thought my partner was the love of my life. Joy returned. I have no doubt the ex is still morose unless the realisation that happiness is an inside job has sunk in. (Which is not to say that some people do not have intractable depression. However, many people have attitudes about life, expectations about life, that leave them constantly disappointed or blue without also possessing that something more -- other attitudes -- that allows them to let joy enter their lives.)
Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear, after 33 year years of being alone I'm starting to think there has to be a reason for this - this feels very much like something I need to stop inwardly fighting and plain and simply come to accept for my higher state of being
Being motivated by different values has a lot to do with it, especially since the mainstream culture only perpetuates itself, and makes no provisions for those who walk a different road. It's almost as if each of us is required to blaze the trail afresh, without the luxury of guidance from those who've walked our path before us. It's hard to meet people we can truly relate to, unless we chance upon them through online or IRL groups/experiences.
As a pleaser this is hard because no matter what you do it will never be enough. Especially in a society that is based on competition for everything. I've always chose to not play the game....for better or worse.
I feel exactly like you man, nothing but heartache, frustration, and rejection. At 37 it’s hard not to feel like maybe it’s just not meant to be for me. It takes a lot of courage to put a video out to the world talking about feeling that way, good for you.
I feel the same, but I have also missed a lot of chances. I could've find real love more even in my lowest points of life. But I wasn't able to receive it, because of my self hatred. No I'm regretting it with 43! But I still have a little hope to change it for the good, i just need that one Single shot!
Absolute bullshit. Statements like that are coping mechanisms. If you need to tell yourself that, it means you are not wanted and will indeed be forever alone.
Yeah same, sometimes I feel like God destined me to become a nun or something. But I still feel that sense of questioning and uncertainty like I don’t know where my life is supposed to go, what I’m supposed to be doing, or who I’m supposed to be with. I wish that I had a conviction of some kind but I don’t.
@@MegaPsycho84 what you described is an example of mysanthrope feeling, which could be related to a lot of issues (including serious health problems) or just a mere trace of someone's personality, and not how an introvert is characterized per se. Though, if you value education, maybe you'd be interested in some renowned psychologists pov. In this case, I'd be glad to recommend some books
"The best company is that of our own." [OSCAR WILDE] In the end we're born alone and we die alone. It takes a life time to know yourself, not to mention another person. 'Love' is often an illusion.
It is stupid to view human relationships through the prism of the "one til the end", when "community" is the whole point of human existence, and money of course now that money can buy everything lol
I liked what you said but only for me it's exactly opposite..my vibration level drops when I'm alone and thrives when I'm in a relationship..I was trying to find a way to put it into words and you just did..Thank you❤️ I just can't help but equate being single with failure..maybe it's not but it's how I feel. I've been in relationships since I was 17 and I'm 23 now, and feeling extremely self conscious being (TEMPORARILY) single. Honestly id like to not feel this way about it but I can't not..when you're with someone there's fun, companionship, sex, and others respect you more but single it's like you're a weirdo or whatever and the going to bed alone,waking up alone..no thank you, I'll take relationship anytime
I made a conscious choice to be alone 23 years ago and I LOVE IT!! I never feel lonely...never wanted to be married. Can't wait to come back home to my apt after visiting family and friends. I enjoy nature and am fortunate enough to live in a very beautiful place on the planet with river bluffs and places so incredible that it can bring you to tears. I am blessed.
May I ask you the process you took to come to this realisation? Was it spontaneous or did you weigh up the pros and cons? Apologies for the question, it’s just something I’m considering myself :)
I think it was a lifetime of caring for others, growing up in a family with 8 kids, so not having time for myself and being in relationships since the age of 16. Toward the end my last 8 year relationship, i decided that when this is over, I'm gonna stay solo and I have never looked back. Im much happier, am filled with peace, so I get to enjoy the beauty around me and can spend my time the way I want with no one to answer to. Its great and I have no regrets; actually I LOVE it!
@@denisemoreno642 It's far better when you make a choice rather than being forced into being single. A lot of folks I think coming on here never had a relationship before and as such wonder what is wrong. I think for people who go into relationships that fail tend to be better off since they feel like they were able to, and possibly can, but for whatever reason just not worth the hassle. When you see on TV people who are single and loving it, they're always beautiful people such as Jennifer Aniston, but you wouldn't see the same praises for someone like the elephant man who was forced to be chained and locked up in a tower.
I was raised in a narcissistic family and I was the scapegoat. It has been a tough life for me. I only figured out within the last 10 years the consequences of this family dynamic. The mistakes I made in relationships as a result of this upbringing and they are numerous. I learned to accept that there are consequences with my own past mistakes with others and being alone is more than likely best for me and best for others. I love people but I have a hard time because of my upbringing. I am okay with an occasional meaningless brief conversation. I prefer others do not know my past I notice others like me without really knowing much about me, but once they get to really know me they end up not wanting anything to do with me. Most, do not understand the narcissist family dynamic because fortunately, have never experienced it. I would never wish it on anyone. I chose the no contact with my immediate family and every year that goes by I am discovering who I am, not what they told me I was and found it was the best choice I ever made.
@@marshamarshamarsha4567 I understand Marsha. I faced my past and finally cried and mourned for the pain that I endured from being the scapegoat of a narcissist family 6 years ago. It was the hardest thing I had ever had to do. I slammed shut the door to the past and somehow they were able to inflict horrendous and unimaginable pain unto me for the last time ever. I refuse to accept toxic people into my life ever again. I haven't spoken to any of my immediate "biological family" in years and have never been more at.peace. I am hoping that you continue to heal and.to nurture yourself. Your life has great value. You are not alone. Blessings to you.🙏❤️🙏
This man is so honest, how cool that another human can reveal his own pains and truth with us which ironically makes us feel less alone. I’ve been rejected and abandoned but I’ve recovered and have come to learn people don’t reject or abandon people they love, they reject or abandon people they were using.
"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." Carl Jung - You feel less alone now, because you know there is someone out there, understanding you ;-) I feel the same.
I have been alone for 7yrs after losing my girlfriend to anorexia and I have in the last year been on a dating site and have had lots of interest but the thought of starting over again at the age of 50 fills me with dread as I don't want to be Hurt again.ive realized that I'm happier on my own and I have decided to stop looking for a partner.im happy with being single and it would take a VERY special lady to change my mind.
Yall i so relate to these comments! My relationships are with every living thing around me and all the lonely elders at my dad's care facility, & my departed mom & kin & friends. I had no solitude for 5 years. Now i revel in it, reborn like a person raised from the dead! People, love EVERYTHING!
Yes, even if you don't believe use your imagination to vibrate higher love from such possible source! Whatever your parental childhood gave you, transform any negative vibrations you've held onto and ascend and awaken your-selflove.
@@abelmcguire6252 my mission statement when I came here was simple, restoration to your prior I damaged state is what brings this impulsive individual back to center. Done it so many times, it seems my original nature, flexible soul
For most of my life I thought I was an exception. Just a misfit bound to live and die alone. Watching your content and reading the comment section gave me some mixed feelings. I don't know whether to be happy that I am not the only one, or sad that there are so many people like me. Thank you for the video.
"Beware the average man, even his love will be average" - Charles Bukowski. Homogeny makes life easier for the hoi-polloi. People who are more unique are less likely to meet someone. Simple statistics play a part in it. We tend to be the observers in this world, trying to make sense of it.
exactly what my videos are about. Avoid the average! Those dime a dozen caucasians, who can be like gods in Asia. The good guys are the super hunks. Its all external. The same rule may apply to women. What you see is what you get. Not a popular thought, but that is why much of society is sad.
I've been alone now for 20 years, although I'm attractive I never met the right one, I'm very sensitive, but its pretty good now, I love being alone most of time, i paint everyday and nobody is there to annoy me or distract, i really enjoy most of the time, i don't feel alone though, i meet people everyday and I have plenty of money to do what I want, would just like someone to travel with! I never felt more alone then when I was in a bad relationship!
Good relationship for 35 years and she past away. Been alone for 2 years and my art work including my outlook on what I paint has improved greatly. I'm also attractive and self supportive. It would be pleasurable to have someone around to have person to person conversation, share meals and chores, go to music events. Except, I don't really want to worry about another being the rest of my life. I got my art, another hobby, a competition sport and many friends. It is hard for me to say if I would or not if the right person came along. But I'm definitely fine on my own the rest of my life it that is how it ends up. People are not alike. To be with a partner, you must give time to what they like. I don't have all that much time left and a whole lot of shit I like to be doing. Have not turned a tv on in over a year. Been there done that. nope! Relax and read.
I felt alone for many years after a long term relationship of 19 years. Then was abandoned and left homeless and fighting for my life in hospital. Then in the 5th year of dating I met someone. 5 years later it still amazing, yes there are rocky times but respecting each other truth is the key to my own truth. Best of luck people. Stay blessed. And learn to love yourself before others.
You and me both,sister! Wasted 6 precious years of my life.I could have gotten out sooner but the bugger kept leading me on saying, "You could be my last" ugh!
There are worse things than being alone...being with the wrong person is absolute hell...dont be too needy of relationship...the wrong type of person can smell your 'neediness' & can plan to use you & your resources for however long it takes you to cop what's going on! Beware!!...be happy in your own precious company.. learn self love !!❣
I’m tired of fixing situation-ships. I’m at an age where I need peaceful moments and serenity. No more drama, chaos, inequity and explosive wars I didn’t create. It’s exhausting to be so pleasing.
I am just ending a pretty good nine year relationship. The caring role women often take can just make men take you more and more for granted. Add the odd drama which is just the childish traumas coming out on the closest scapegoat and it's time to know to get out. Just been there and am now newly single and regaining peace of mind. It had a lot of good but I was disappearing.
It's surprising how little you need others in your life when you learn to respect and love yourself first. Thankfully I learnt to trust myself above any other as during my spiritual awakening they would have me drugged up to my eyeballs and strapped to a chair!! Fresh air and meditation and healthy diet is all anyone needs xxx
Interesting that you ended your post with xxx. As a man, sometimes I need xxx. At 55 I am mature enough now to not get involved with someone just for that. However fresh air , walks and good food don't cut it either. When women mess up compatibility and love so often....smh
Damn everything you've said in this video truly touched me. I'm 28 years old and life is just passing me by. This video came at such a perfect time. I'm getting so much happier being alone now
Alone together. The people I meet always have a small place in their own lives where they want me to sit quietly. It seems to me those looking for relationships are only looking for someone to protect them from the part of themselves that they refuse to embrace and that inevitably leads to them blaming you for the impossible. No one can complete you but you. I have found complete love and bliss in life without needing someone to stand before me to understand it. It just is.
I just "celebrated" my 56th birthday yesterday. I've never had anyone to love due to severe social anxiety and depression. I just never felt confident putting myself out there, and the older I got, the more fearful I became that any man would ever love and accept me. So unless some miracle occurs, I've kinda resigned myself to being alone..just me and my cats. 😔 I also come from a very highly dysfunctional family and have plenty of issues myself..and until I can learn to love myself, I'm really no good to anyone, anyway.
Once upon a time I never had a chance of having a relationship because of social anxiety. At around the year 2000 or 2001 I was physically unwell and seriously depressed, I didn’t know if I was physically unwell because I was depressed or if I was depressed because I was unwell. I decided on the later an took myself out into the bush with the intention of being away from any possible toxins that I might have been exposed to and to eat well as well as sun bake. I didn’t take any red meat with me either, just tins of fish, fresh fruit and veggies,nuts and high quality pumpkin soups in a satchel that contained pumpkin and herbs only, nothing else. I also didn’t have set meals, I just grazed all day and had a break between each food type thinking that it might make it easier for the digestive system to get the most out of each food type. I sun baked and made sure I had no coffee after the last one at midday also. After a week I felt better and couldn’t understand why I had been so seriously depressed for the previous two years. On the way home I stopped at a lookout where there was a couple of tourists and I found myself talking to them and noticed that I was extremely calm and had absolutely no social anxiety. Then two days later on the train to work a woman liked the look of me and started talk to me and to my surprise I’m still as calm as anything. Can you guess why it is ? It’s gut health, too many people have suffered far too long so learn about health, nutrition and gut health, hopefully that’s all that’s wrong with you as well. I’m the same age a you and it’s not too late.
I could relate to all of this and I'm only 25. I've never experience being in love and to be loved. I always wonder if I'm just an ugly person but often times other people would compliment me so I don't know how to understand this phase.
JadeMusic, l am a bit older and have been single most of my life too. I suffer from depression and social anxiety as well. It was made worse by people who thought they were helping me. Now l have a harder time of leaving my house or taking care of myself. Try to work with some kind of therapist, and maybe you will feel free. So many people are deeply affected and ashamed by their past, it is so hard for others to understand. They tell you to forget your past, but everyone else still talks about your past. They have no understanding about what it took out of you, and how hard it is to trust. If you get a bit upset, well that's just your fault. But it was what others did to you. I admire your courage to speak your mind. But it is your life and your choice. Try to forgive yourself and let the others go. They were jerks anyway. Blessings to everyone.
When I came of age my father sat me down and told me a few things he said Son do you feel that biting in the back of your head that you just can't put your finger on and like something's wrong and it's about to break under you? I said ; yeah Pop, what is that feeling called? He said get used to it.
@Chi Why would you say someone is wrong about the truth? 🙄 If you don't love yourself, you can't love another without conditions. That creates a toxic relationship.
Throughout my journey I have found that letting go is one of the hardest things we are forced to do. I've already came to terms with the fact that I might spend the rest of my life without a partner to share myself with. However that doesn't take away the fact that despite enjoying my solitude, there are moments or even movie scenes that trigger my sadness and longing for a meaningful relationship. It's a one day at a time situation a guess. Life without hope can be monotonous but it's better than rising in hope and them falling to the ground. That's too painful and no one should have to endure such suffering. I rather enjoy my plain colorless loneliness instead of feeling that I'm not good enough one more time.❤❤❤
Sometimes it is not a choice, sometimes it's a calling far from our understanding like a pull and the more we try to avoid it the stronger it persists. That was the case with me.
M C, you said it all👏. I feel the same way, and you're right. To me, it feels like GOD wants me ALL to himself. When I was in relationships, I was alone so what the heck. I'll make it by myself. Stay blessed 💝.
@@patriciaking7892 it depends really, like I really love to be myself and that makes the most sense logically because I am a nervous wreck sometimes. I really didn't want to be in relationships because I always felt they were doomed to fail eventually, so I avoided it all cost. But as persistent as I was to avoid, people have been persistent to try with me and that is what i am talking about when sometimes it is out of our control and we have to trust the universe. If it works out or no is not my concern as much as I want to learn and grow from whatever life throws at me. To make decisions out of honest growth and openness and not let fear control me.
I have been alone for a few years now and at 61 I'm not real interested in making an effort to find anyone. Ive accepted if I meet someone that is kind compassionate towards others and loves their own self I would be open. My relationships have been toxic and abusive. I have healed from them and learned to set boundaries and stop being codependent. It's taken my whole youth to learn these lessons lol. So I'm content being with myself and I have always loved having me time. I have a hard time being around anyone for extended periods unless they can entertain them selves. I don't have the energy to listen to endless conversations. It's too much for me.
This is gold. New subscriber. I am tired of rejection. I am trying to recover from my first love and biggest heartbreak. she’s moved on and I’m trying to heal my heart. Done with attempting to be partnered. Being unpartnered is just as valid. you don’t need romantic relationships to survive. Love this video.
I'd rather spend the rest of my life with my 2 chihuahuas than anyone else on the planet. Their love will not change when something better comes along.
Thank you for sharing your heart with such honesty. You truly have a gift for talking to people on their level. I would also remind those out there who are afraid of being alone that one can have a life partner and still be, in many ways, very much alone. Think about that for a moment....
what THINGS are you talking about....prostitutes ???? oh ya that is a better way to live.....just hire them for the sex and then you don't have to do any work as in a relationship.....take the easy way out
My whole life changed in 2006 when I followed Louise Hay's suggestion to look into my eyes in the mirror and say "I love you and will take care of you". When we accept and love that wounded child inside of us, we become less needy of receiving it from others. We can't truly love anyone until we do accept ourselves unconditionally. We are enough to live an abundant life with the peace that passes all understanding. Hugs
I left several men from my past I dated due to various forms of abuse from them. After the last one I dated back in 2006, he even showed me that there was no real connection with me. I quit getting involved after that, and have been on a journey of finding what fulfills my life rather than trying to please someone else which often made me miserable.
I mean there are many possibilities. You may or may not be alone. But I think our society is fixated on romantic relationships many of which are not really based on true love and are mainly based on superficial attraction. So in some respects you may be with a partner but still feel alone lol. So I guess the lesson is to embrace yourself because loneliness is a state of mind.
I can really empathize with you. It feels so hard to be repeatedly rejected and to experience countless dating failures. It can leave a permanent scar on our heart that might alter how we think forever. This is an absolute painful feeling. But aloneness doesnt always translate to loneliness, and this is an area to consider.
I had an Ex that said “ You are going to die as a lonely man! “ Very prophetic because at 62 I am alone! It’s my choice because now I don’t have to listen to those damn harpies telling me I’m gonna die alone! 🖕🏻Oh! By the way, I get to spend the way I want!
The only beings I live with till death us do part are animals. People are NOT like animals. The expectation of a forever partner is NOT realistic. I am content being solo not lonely. The depression of not being a couple is the belief that you need a relationship.
So true about animals. My dog (and I don't say it possessively, because he doesn't belong to me) and I have a relationship that I could never envision with another human. He is 11 now and in the years we have been together, I have not once ever raised my voice to him. I can't envision him ever doing anything that would make me angry. I never 'trained' him - I showed him the way you would a small child. I speak to him like a best friend. I can't imagine being with someone constantly - just a few feet away at all times - without being impatient or 'wanting my own space'. At this moment he has his big butt pushing against the laptop, edging me off the couch. When Todd goes, I'm not sure how I will be able to stand it. frankly. Like my previous dog of 14 years, I will mourn him for the rest of my life.
@@fifthavenuegirl Horses have been my other love. I had had a thought of buying some property where I could get a few old pasture ponies in my retirement. Maybe do some driving. But, I have known too many stories of people becoming too old to properly care for their horses and they are either neglected and taken away, or the owner dying and their animals sent to auction. I won't be able to trim hooves and shovel stalls forever, myself. The only dog I'd ever get at this point is an older dog that would pass before me. A puppy would have a good chance of outliving me and I can't think of a worse thing than worrying about what will happen to my animals after I die. So, as much as I need to have animals around me, I will really have to think with a realistic mind before I get another after Todd goes.
That isn't true. My husband stayed with me until his last breath. On his part it was forever until the end of his life. 29 years of marriage, i miss him so much. Sadly on my part it wasn't forever because i still exist and he doesn't.
People that spend their lives alone are usually happier as they get older. They have lived long enough to see that humans are basically not wired to get along on a long term basis
People often just fade. Friendships, romantic relationships, or family. I'm not used to that nor am that way, so it troubles my mind. Because I love unconditionally and honestly. The older I get, the more I'm learning to let go and love from afar those who don't care to stay. And connect to myself spiritually. I've always put effort and gave people chances, always gave a benefit of doubt, and was most times disappointed. Love is patient and kind. But patience&love is lacking today or rare, especially with the need of constant stimulation. Where boredom takes hold. And people let go and go on to the next. As if you don't exist nor are important to them at all. I don't want nor will accept that. I don't believe in half love, friendship, relationship. I rather be alone and happy, than with someone and miserable. There are people that can make you feel more alone than you actually being alone by yourself. Love yourself and find your happiness. Don't tolerate what your intuition tells you isn't good for you. Trust your gut,yourself, and whatever higher power you may believe there may be. Lastly, speaking from experience, if you stay with a toxic being, or allow them to drain your soul&energy, it will affect your health. Mentally and physically. And no-one is worth that. One who may be, will never put you through pain in your heart. Live, laugh, love, and respect yourself and your fellow mankind as well as nature and animals. Wishing whoever reads this, that you find your definition of peace, love, and happiness. Alone or not. ✌ ❤
Perfectly put. I'm so comfortable by myself . Been single the last 7 years and they have been the period of maximum growth spiritually emotionally and psychological. Ups and downs keep happening but there is a constant peace in the background. Wish you well. Lots of love and ✌
Beautifully put. Some people are intimidated by a depth of being, as it makes them also look into the deepness of themselves which is frightening especially when their whole existence is distraction and running away.
I challenge that you love unconditionally. . That's a false notion. .. Or you wouldn't be here or have felt the need to write anything. Without conditions, there is" no love. .. Cheers 👍
@@plop961 My need to write anything has nothing to do with how my heart loves or how my soul is. Just because you feel that it's a false notion, does not make it a fact. It is an opinion. As I have my opinions. And just because in this modern world it is rare to find a being that loves unconditionally, does not mean they do not exist. I understand your doubts and that you believe there is "no love". It is quite understandable actually, especially when we live in a world where one is constantly criticized and made to feel inadequate. In a world where chaos, greed, violence, and evil dance and thrive. Where love has just become a word with actions that do not coincide. Where feelings do not swim in the deep end of love, but stay above where one never truly feels what true love is. Because many are afraid. Either they fear getting hurt as they may have before, or fear they may be the only ones swimming. Love isn't difficult to find, but it must be awoken within ourselves first for us to be able to find love in another in a romantic sense. But when I say I love unconditionally, I mean it and do. I don't judge anyone or have hate in my heart. I love as I'd want to be embraced. Ofcourse I take caution because not everyone is your friend, or will embrace you with love. In this life which is short and full of hate, jealousy, selfishness, I rather live and love than carry the bitterness of hate.
Acceptance is to give up. I want what I want. If I dont get, I'm going home to other side. Been alone too long and no love all my life. Self love yes but that's not enough. Loneliness is painful solitude isnt. But we are social species.
I don't believe in romantic love and true friendships. in fact, the very thought of those two things (especially romantic love) makes my stomach turn. I know I'm destined to be alone forever, and honestly, I'm PERFECTLY fine with that.
I'm kind of there with you. I experienced what felt to me like true love.....but eventually it fell apart and now she is with someone else. Its hard because I see that most the failure was my doing. I no longer believe in romantic love and feel how humans are wired is more a conditional love. We all want something out of it and want the best deal for ourselves. The arena of romantic love is ruthless and at 58 I think I'm done. It's hard because I love touch, intimacy, sex, and pleasuring my partner. The absence of this leaves an empty feeling inside.
I've been single for a long time, although sometimes I want a relationship, today I am good with the idea of being alone forever. It can vary day by day for me.
This was so calming to watch. ❤️ The idea of being in a relationship puts me in a state of anxiety tbh. I don't think im fit for one, because I like to be left alone, I dont like drama, and overcommunicating! I also dont like to be pressured into doing things that I dont really want to do and from my experience, relationships tend to always demand that. 😐
My whole life, no friends, no love, parents focused on older siblings. I like being alone, but every once in a while I get that heartache of knowing I'm always gonna be alone. If you can relate, we are the uncanny flower.
Maybe that's even better the beautiful flowers are cut off and sold but we stay where we are and are not cut off and sold so we can enjoy our lifes to the maxium even we are lonely .. I hope you can understand what I mean
You might want to stop your obsession with anime and computers. Join a sports club or something. Doesn't matter if you are fat and ugly, only fear stops you from meeting people. I will say this: You will probably never find love. But friends are quite easy to get.
My problem not only about relationships socially I'm also a big loser I finally recovered from depression recently but I'm still lost I dont know how I'm going to survive rest of my life am I going to change
@Положительный настрой I hope things will go well with us bro as he said we don't know the the future
@Положительный настрой 👍😊
I hate when people say, "You'll find somebody." They don't know that. Lots of people spend their whole lives without ever finding somebody.
Find your true self, that’s all that matters.
They're just being polite. Would you rather they say, "You'll never find somebody"?
@@k-guy1236 I'd rather they not speculate about it at all. It serves no purpose.
I definitely agree.
@@k-guy1236 I'll say you will NEVER find someone. Ever. It's time to give up. :D
If people weren’t so scared of being alone they probably wouldn’t end up with the wrong person.
Wow , never thought of it like this . But makes total sense .
@@chubbeenubbee69 this is why if you are in an unhappy relationship and you’ve tried absolutely everything to make it work then the best thing for the both of you is to seperate as the longer you stay together the less chance you both have of finding someone suitable.
@@Cooliemasteroz Thank you. ThAnkfully we have both been separated for years now but when I read this I brought me back to that time . And I was unhappy.
You deserve a medal sir, everyone needs to have exactly that implanted deep into their mind at as early of an age as possible.
@@rickymagnole1372 thank you and yes I agree that this and possibly other similar advice should be taught early imagine how much more happiness there would be in the world and how much more people would succeed in life as well as achieve great things because they’re not suffering emotional torment.
I’m 44, I’ve exhausted all my options and come to the realization that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. When my mom passes eventually I’ll truly be alone in this world.
hi your situation is exactly like mine
I'm in the exact same boat as you. It's like this comment was written straight from my own thoughts. It's nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
@@writoblisscontentcreator3355 and mine
I say this same thing daily!
Same situation here
I'm okay with being alone for the rest of my life, but I'm also open for the right partner.
Me too...
Exactly. Everything is good! ( unless of course it does turn out to be the wrong partner!! 😳)
No the hope you refer to in this context is when your not content with being alone and hope for a partner. Here we are saying we are happy with either. Very clear and simple.
Exactly. You got it
in other words, no compromise and no fakeness.
I'm okay with being alone forever. Less chaos. As long as I have a dog, I'm good.
Agree totally.
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
Every dog is a good dog!
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cat for me
In today's society, atleast in Western society finding a partner is usually based on money, status, power, charm, competition etc... For spiritually minded people it is very difficult, in my humble opinion.
I live in the east, and it is exactly the same here
I also think the same
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I totally agree with you! Non-love items on your checklist clearly spells out the transactional nature of western culture relationships. Fuck it--I'd rather live my life alone.
@@youchris67 More peaceful. You don't have to worry about plaising others!
I’m FINALLY accepting that I will spend my life alone. I’m tired of letting myself down believing that I will have the love I desire and I’m treated wrong. I really refuse being the only one putting in work to make a partner happy and I get the bare minimum. I know I’ll NEVER let ME down!
It's sad, but you are realizing that not everyone is destined for marriage.
Thank you for saying this.
@@hamilton9651you can still feel that you should be alone even if you've been married.
@@jeffharris7777yep I’m just getting out of a marriage and I believe I’m destined to be alone
Be less critical of men.
People who spend most of their lives alone, and not lonely, tend to have very wise old souls. We stand alone because we don't need the support of others. The Universe always sends us what we need. If you don't have a lot of people around you, it's because you don't need them. We are all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. There is a peace and strength in being alone. It's not a bad thing.
That’s the way I’ve been my whole life! Alone, but not lonely! I’m ok with interacting with nobody.
Beautiful sentiment! I can relate and agree :)
@@sweaters_and_harmony9525 thank you!
i can relate and agree as well. i’m in a very lonely relationship for 14 years now.
Beautifully said :)
The only thing worse than feeling alone by yourself is feeling alone in a relationship
Been there.
Actually that's the most healthy state. Accepting your aloneness even when someone else is around. There's no contradiction.
I enjoy my solitude. I can hear the peace and tranquility when I'm alone. I'm at peace when I'm alone.
You nailed it
Mannnnn!!!!!! Absolutely
Being alone can be rough, but being with someone you're not compatible with is a lot worse...
yeah, actually true
Too True☑️
Not after a lifetime of loneliness. I'd rather have a few failed experiences than never at all.
So true, especially if your partner is abusive emotionally or physically. You can't take rejection personally. Just try to be the best friend you can be and you'll find people who will befriend and love you. Friends are fine, you don't have to have a romantic partner.
Exactly!! 🙌🏾💯💯💯
Here's my story (if you want to read). I've fully accepted now, I'm probably going to end up to be alone forever. First, I found it tough accepting it!!
I live alone, don't have many friends around, faced rejection multiple times, seeing people my age & relatives getting engaged/ married, having kids, settling down happy together, etc...
Yes, I felt sorry for myself, depressed, anxiety, miserable, ugly and jealously, which I feel is awful and didn't do me any favours.
Anyway, I took up surfing, found other fun sports what I enjoy and passionate about. Now, I'm focusing on myself and goals, without any distraction. It feels awesome, and I've never felt so confident!
Don't have any commitments, no responsibility, no distraction, do what I like and don't care what people think of me anymore.
I couldn't be any happier right now, and loving life!
So that's my story.
If you're still reading this, and in my situation before, I really hope you find/ do what you love and passionate about. Most importantly, your own HAPPINESS
Life is too short!! Best wishes to you all out there 🙏🤙
Thanks for writing .
Aww I am so happy for you. You found contentment in your life. Thx for writing.
Truth hurts. Being one's own grown up is tough, but it's worth it. I see so many toxic, painful relationships around me. Theirs an empowerment in being single.
Aint wanne live lonely forever
I cant handle it cause of my anxiety
Ya same , the real deal over fake or convenience
@@Moesie Yes you can. That's where the strength and healing from anxiety and sanity is. It IS. Love and comfort and nurture yourself and self soothe. You can do this. There is great power to be had from being alone and loving yourself. If you look you will see that you are REFUSING to love yourself. Watch Teal Swann videos on connecting to yourself.
Absolutely 💯 I say I'm single but not available.
Agreed. I'd rather be alone than in one of the toxic, forced relationships I've witnessed. Some people think they absolutely HAVE to be with someone at all times and thus will hook up with anyone.
My biggest personal enlightenment came with the realization that I don't need a partner or relationship in my life to be happy.
Yep same with me.
Thats the biggest lie,And im happy that yourself saw that blessings
I agree with you 100%. Hands down.
Happiness starts with what you love doing. What makes you thrive whether nature etc. It has nothing to do with another human being.
Exactly,once I got pass"Romanticizing" the ideal of relationships,it actually took me back to my real self,I'm a loner by nature,I'm a private person by nature,and,no,I don't have all the mental energy it takes to carry toxic,draining relationships,I was literally mentally and physically exhausted from trying,I've never been into having a big circle of friends (quality over quantity),and,never was a "Keeping up with the Joneses" type,so,I'm good,and,like he stated, "I've never been happier",I've actually said this to ppl,and meant it
The deepest most horrible loneliness can be experienced within a relationship.
To come to terms with yourself and not be relient on external love means one can be alone, which is different from being lonely.
yes, my ex was a narcissist and i was lonely as hell even when in the same room as her...
Now that is wisdom. Another can add a little to one's happiness, but for the most part happiness can only come from within, as every spiritual teacher has said.
So true. I was never as lonely as when I was in a bad marriage. There are definitely worse things than being single/ alone.
@@yeahtbh.161 I relate this 💯
Excatly💯
I’m autistic and dating is a hassle. It’s so much easier to be alone. I seem to have a bigger problem with myself when I’m with other people (or around people) because they have a problem with me. Relationships require me to change too much because my lifestyle is unconventional. I’ve accepted a long time ago that I will not be able to be in a healthy relationship. I hear the words “I’m meant to be alone” in my head after almost every human interaction. And I’m actually okay with it. When I say that I deserve to be alone I am not saying that I’m not worthy of being loved, I just owe myself what I enjoy the most, being by myself. I deserve to have that.
Let me guess, people assume that just because you're autistic you enjoy being alone?
If so, same
I'm in the same boat. Because I've spent all of my life alone unless I absolutely need to speak to people I just don't. Being alone isn't a bad thing when you enjoy all the activities you do while alone.
@@rojaefraser4071 exactly
@@rojaefraser4071 being alone can be freeing but also quite terrifying at the same time. The more you spend time inside your own head the more the bad thoughts seem to want to pop out. As for me I'm fine if I'm alone. I don't need anyone to complete me anyway.
@Aexton Rebel it's never too late to find someone. Shrek didn't have a girlfriend til he was 30.
Im a loner too, i know il spend the rest of my life alone. So i took a long serious look at what i want. I love plants and animals and nutrition. So i started down this trail, and I've learned so much about farming, which i could not have done with a partner. My diet improved and i can eat the way i want. I have 7 dogs who i love, we are a family. My yard is a huge jungle of fruit trees and vegetables. I wake up at 4 every morning and i gleefully jump out of bed. Im a happy camper.
Pls dont be sad, from today , you are not along bec , u have me has a daughter ok
Beautiful 🙏🏼💕🙏🏼
Such an inspiration. What a beautiful life u have. So glad 2 hear that u value and appreciate the beauty you've achieved.
Gratitude IS key!
Sounds like you have a wonderful life!
I’m happy for you Susan 💙
It seems parents who are emotionally unavailable to their children, cause them to struggle finding a lifelong partner.
Bingo
My mom told me she didn't want to get married (probably didn't want to have kids either) and probably was depressed her whole marriage. I feel like i never got something I needed as a child, to be able to comunicate with people. I find it easier to be alone by my self.
They do this purposly too, because many of them have a or several cluster b dissorers. Some of them are sadists too. They have children just to torture them, which means they shouldn'teven be allowed to take care of their own children in thefirst place. Yet they're allowed to because society lets them. We have to change laws and get new laws in place. The most unfit people to become parents are the one's who's procreating the most in this society. But you and every other human has their own responsibility to put these evil people where they belong and not accept their evil behaviour and let them get away with it. You use excuses like I'm proud of being an outcast, I'm too evolved to care. Take some active action to change these circumstances instead.
@@entertaintment4301 Parents with personality disorders often had traumatic childhoods themselves. Furthermore, these parents are usually unaware of their own PDs and don't understand how their behaviours may affect their children. Emotional wellbeing, family dynamics, relationship communication skills and effective problem solving with regards to families are not taught in school, as far as I know. I'm 51 and I've been recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have struggled with depression since childhood. I have also struggled to maintain friendships, relationships and employment. I've never been married and I haven't had a romantic relationship in years. I used to feel very sad about that, but now l feel fine...at peace. I never felt safe in relationships, I never really felt good enough, I always felt that I would be abandoned....so I'd finish the relationship before I could get hurt. Both my parents were depressed and emotionally unavailable. I don't believe it was their intention to harm me, but due to their lack of self awareness, low emotional intelligence and poor parenting skills, they just couldn't help themselves. Good,loving, supportive, and consistent parenting has to be learned.
Amen..... And that's a fact.
These type of parents are usually covert narcissists .
I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than spend the rest of my life with someone that treats me badly
Amen
Yes I completely agree with you
True
...but what about with someone who treats you GOOD..why is it it's always," I'd rather stay single than be in a bad relationship"..what about a good relationship??
@Mistake Maker This is true, I agree..just doing things or buying things is like trying to buy love and attention, but what I'm meaning is, I keep reading these single people's comments that keep saying " I can do me", " I love doing what I want", I ME MINE..and it's pretty obvious that these types who are claiming to prefer being single and living alone are generally selfish and self absorbed..and I'm not trying to put them down but all I'm saying is IF..IF they'd TRY thinking of someone else's happiness and wanting the satisfaction of doing for someone they could love, they'd discover the joy that can only come from sharing a life with someone opposed to waking up alone and going to bed alone..that's not living, it's existing, don't you think?
I've been alone so long I can't imagine being with anyone.
are you still alone bro ? : (
YES!!! 😳😳
Same with me
What's bad about being alone is that when you die, your corpse will never be found unless someone noticed it and had to clean them up, there's a lot of case of lonely deaths in Japan
Same. I think I’m going to start a RUclips to at least have virtual friends.
I've been so unhappy with myself over the years and always thought I needed someone. Nope, I needed myself back. The old me.
Such a beautiful comment. ❤️
I would like to steal these words, a very good point
That’s exactly what’s wrong with me.. I need my old life back... my old self & I’ll be good.
I feel like Teresa & Linda too...it started a while back, am in a fairly loveless long relationship but can’t face going thru’ the dating thing ever again if we did split, keep feeling I’m not where I belong & people shallow. I’m too old to move abroad to live to make a new life and I really worry for the future and how to go about being fully independent as I can’t really work a regular daily 9-5. The other option is euthanasia but I feel like I could be useful somewhere still 😕...I do wonder how many others out there are stuck like this. Small wonder there’s so much homelessness & suicide in the world and labelling them all ‘depressed’ or mentally ill is a cop out and not what’s really happening.
Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! You go, Girl!!!!
It's better to be alone than in Loveless marriage.
It's peaceful to be alone .
Testify
@@Ravencross06 when ur happy with urself for ur life and u don't need someone else to justify your actions.
Your life . Ur existing.
Ur happy .. inner peace comes from within.
I spend many times by myself . I'm not depressed. I'm not insane. I just like lone time . There's nothing wrong with me. And I don't need someone in my life .
@@Ravencross06 and I'm in a marriage where I love my husband deeply but he does not love me ..
@@jodifloria6647 I've been feeling that way also..After 41 yrs..My husband has been this way 4 the last few yrs..He works w/ alotof women..I can c the change so much..Plus I've been very sick 2 go w/all the rest of it..
There is a difference in being alone and being lonely. Do not confuse the two.
Indeed, as loneliness can occur when surrounded by many.
Alone is to be at piece
Wise words...and very true.
Solitude can be very therapeutic, if you enjoy yourself!
Yeah, but when you choose to be alone, you can end up being and feeling lonely. It’s not like everyone who isolate and choose to be alone knows how to socialize. Keep that in mind.
lonely is being alone and wishing you weren't
He is so right. I been alone and depressed all my life. but two years ago I accepted my fate and I am at peace and embraced my 33 years of loneliness
Good for you. 😊
I've seen a lot of friends that have been in long term relationships and I'm sooooo glad I'm single. I do what I want, when I want, how I want, etc. I have lots of interests and I enjoy my own company. I get tinges of loneliness but nobody has a perfect life.
Same with me.
Same here
A good nap, a walk with you dog and ting goes away. Or? Just remember what it was like with the nutty other
Same here.
My friends in miserable marriages don’t understand my happiness being alone. They don’t believe me when I say it.
are they really miserable? :(
I believe it I been married 3 times and they all sucked. I'm happier alone. 👍
Absolutely!
@@chuckhines459 I agree. I'm a pretty happy person and my partners were always reading into whatever I did to match some script in their heads that was right out of their childhood trauma. My first was a rageaholic, but at least I knew what stories he was creating because he was yelling them at me. (Why he wanted to create that hell I don't know because I thought the world of him.) The other two were passive aggressive and wouldn't speak their truth. At some point in each relationship, I knew when things were going off the rails but they withdrew and wouldn't communicate. It was at the end of each when I learned about their internal dialog. As hard as it was living with a rageaholic, that was far better than puzzling over changes in behavior that were passed off as nothing because the person lacked the wherewithal to assert their needs. Didn't help to have told them the process I had to go through to learn to communicate my needs and ask for help. Modelling respectful communication didn't help either. If a person is afraid of conflict, afraid the other won't love them if they have needs that "might" conflict with their partner's, even respectful communication feels too threatening. It took me a long while to realise that there aren't a lot of responsible grownups out there -- that is, people willing to accept responsibility for their own feelings and act on that.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS just be yourself. it is important to agree some limits/boundaries early on in the relationship - because each person that comes in our lives will reflect part of ourselves that we like or dislike, see this whole process/game of life and relationships we build is for us to know ourselves, what we are able to allow and what not in parts, and I believe what this video is about is to stop beating ourselves up and just acknowledge and accept your situation without judgment, it is ok even if every romantic relationship went wrong in the past, so what, imagine for a moment that through these experiences you learnt about who you are and what you want from life, what are you willing to allow or not, write down the things that are important to you so you don't forget them especially when you are in the process of forming a new relationship. Remember the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Honor that, and treat yourself kindly, regardless of what has happened in the past. We have to learn to live alone for sometimes so that fog will disperse and never come back haunting you. You can still do all the activities you would do as if you were with a partner, without the fights, negativity and judgment as a bonus. ;) Cook the food you like, watch the movie you want, build new friendships, go out alone or with friends, take yourself in holidays as you would do with a partner, talk to strangers, smile. When you get to that point and you feel the joy of living without depending on anyone you are then ready for a new relationship. Stop pondering on the past, live, covid is around the corner. :)))
"The loneliest people are the kindest,
the saddest people smile the brightest,
and the most damaged people are the wisest.
All because they don't wish to see others suffer like they do"
~ anonymous ~
🍃🕊🍃
This made me cry it is SO accurate. Thank u 4 putting into words what I have always felt but never knew how 2 express!
@@robyndismon394
Robyn,
It's exactly how I felt when I first read it.
I appreciate your message.
I borrowed it years ago please feel free to borrow and share as well.
I wrote it up really pretty and printed it on nice paper. Then laminated it and cut I think 50 copies. I passed it around to people in my walks in life.
It kind of helps to know that we are more observant than we give ourselves credit for.
I hope you have a happy and humble life above ground.
Much respect from katrinka🌺🌴
A-fucking-men
Brought tears to my eyes
That’s truly honest ! Well put
Born alone, and we die alone. What happens in between is just waiting .
.. Le Man's 1970....... Steve McQueen.
as long as nothing catches your interest then yeah
Literally I dint understand when people say "die alone".
We were all born alone 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Your born once, you die once, everything else is just an illusory game.
I wasnt born alone, thats virtually impossible. My mom was there, the doctor was there, a nurse was there, my dad was there.
No one is born alone. You literally came out of your mother
I am 66 and realize that I should have always been alone. I was one of those that felt a person was not complete unless they had someone in their life. That is not true. What I found was that the ones I wanted to be with did not want to be with me and the ones that wanted to be with me I did not care for. I enjoy my life now. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I don't have any kids because I never wanted any. I am alone now because I want to be. I am my best company. I am my best friend. I have really gotten to know myself. Something I never did in the past. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I am alone and that's the way I want it. Don't be afraid to be alone. Only insecure people need someone to hang onto and depend on.
Are u not afraid of still being alone when 80?
Yes I totally second this! A friend of my Mum’s is 83 never married and is such a happy fulfilled lady. She enjoys her group activities with the U3A and travels a lot, she is one of the most joyous souls I have ever met. She said she just knew that she never wanted a life partner just loads of friends and tons of great experiences. Being in a partnership isn’t for everyone! 👍😊
“Only insecure people need someone to hang onto and depend on.” I’m insecure so I hang onto JESUS.
@Sunflower Seeds He tells us: “If ye believe in me even though ye were dead yet shall ye live.” Some security there.
You are "preaching to the choir"!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs through Jesus!
I came to that path at 45. I am now 68 years of age and things are fine. I would have loved to have had someone in my life forever but I realized not in this lifetime... but my joy will be in the next
would you honestly say that it was worth it or no ? asking for myself
@@eddieraydz3182 yes I do believe it was worth being alone....all the lessons I have learned.has helped me to be strong for the now
In solitude is wisdom...
It's never late to.find love
deborah barry, wow, I am the same age and my enlightenment came at about the same age as you. When one knows the facts, it is more power to the people who are single and at peace wit the world and themselves.
No matter what I do I'm always alone... I try to make friends, relationships, etc... It's like I'm forced to be alone!!!!
Me too it always happened there come a situation were a ppl leave my life sometimes bcz I decided that when I find out that they don't deserve to be in my life or they leave my life coz circumstances and again I'm alone despite the fact of being a kind and a sympathetic...ppl always ask me how come that a such beautiful woman is lonely well I don't have an answer unfortunately I'm aware of my value perhaps I'm I'm destined to be alone all my life.
God will bless u just be strong
This is my hunch to. Some of us are just destined to be outcasts. There will be instances that are like beyond coincidences and you just know that there is some force or something that makes it near to impossible to feel connected to anyone.
Sonia angel you are very beautiful I’m sure you get a lot of attention. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet someone I’m sure.
You speaking straight out my soul
When I was a teenager, a man said to me " How can you find someone, when you don't need anybody?".
It was true, and he could sense that I wasn't a '1/2', but complete by myself.
Relating with people exhausts me, and saps my strength.
But, sometimes I do need a good hug.
I've been on several relationships, but over time I ended up getting tired of the drama and the excessive amount of time and energy I had to put in the relationship. So, about my mid 40s, I decided to be alone and couldn't be happier. I never feel alone and have the time to pursue my hobbies and interests. Most of my same-age friends who are still single, report the same experience.
Smile and be happy always rem God will bless u and give u the right one ok
But you just said you have friends. So you're not alone at all. Try having zero friends or family, now THAT'S alone!
@Cindy Lou I know how you feel. 30 years old and also worried about what my later years are gona look like...
Solitude is bliss
@@Purple9721. yes i agree no family no more friends but due to a conscious decision due to a personality disorder sometimes it s hard but i enjoy my life most of the time..
That's the thing that makes me the most uncomfortable when people say, oh you'll meet someone one day. I dont believe I ever will. It is a false hope.
Acceptance is the key 🔑 Fall in love with yourself 🥰 Speak kindness into your soul ❤️
@RUSSIAN ROBOT So I'm destined to be alone forever because I was some kinda ass at incarnate. Great!
@@hjtres7261 your destiny is your design. Dig deep and go for it!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@@glockgrandma2517 ABSOLUTELY. What you've said is so psychologically sound, it's wonderful & I will be using it.
I think the “you’ll meet someone someday” is the worst thing people can say, they’re telling you to be passive and ‘hope’ it’ll happen, you have to actively go out and chase it, find opportunities to meet people because for a lot of people if they remain passive they’ll never encounter the opportunity. My brother didn’t have a single girlfriend, not even a one off date, until he was 30 and finally got brave enough to use tinder without being embarrassed what others might think of him (there was a sigma using it makes you ‘pathetic and desperate’ especially when it first became a thing).
He went on some awful dates but persevered, eventually he found himself the one who’s now his wife and she’s honestly perfect for him, none of my family thought he’d ever meet someone yet he beat all my siblings and me to the alter, quite the surprise! His wife also had thought she’d be alone forever and tinder was her last ditch effort before totally giving up since she was 30 and feared she’d run out of time/was too old for anyone to want her. Their jobs are SO different they’d have never met under normal circumstances if they’d sat around and ‘hoped’ for someone to waltz into their life conveniently.
You have to pursue it actively if you know you won’t be happy with a life on your own or missing out on having a family of your own. You need to be patient, you’ll likely have a lot of failures at first but persevere, it’s a lot better than sitting on your butt to wait and hope the universe gives you what you want just because you really want it, it’s the worst approach to finding a life partner, despite being the most common ‘advice’ people give you.
"If you aren't happy with what you have, how could you be happy with more?"
--Chinese fortune cookie
No. The WORST is this:
"Keep your goals away from trolls...."
--Chinese fortune cookie
@Marshall W Not stupid. You have to think about it. Self Love is what this fortune cookie conveyed.
What utter garbage
@@stevenfranks3131 - nah, that is good and sensible advice.
Some people are missing the point. It's not just the something more in life; it's when life, through circumstances that are not in your control, hands you something less. Happiness starts and ends with the self. Here's what research shows: If you're a miserable person and you win the lottery, you'll be pretty happy for possibly a couple of years, but after that, you'll be miserable. If you're a happy person who has some disaster befall you, you'll likely be unhappy for a couple of years, but happiness will likely be yours.
I am a pretty joyful person and experienced the latter. I became disabled at the prime of my life, watched in horror when people abandoned me as a result of my disability (people I thought would be friends for life), and I had a pretty rough couple of years. Then, joy, which had become infrequent, returned. My partner at the time - someone who was mostly morose - was emotionally stricken by our change in status, by the social rejection, and also, I think, by my ability to adjust to the change in my circumstances and worse, to be able to be joyful. (It must be hard to watch a partner whose illness "ruined" your life adjust and experience joy when your life is now joyless because you lack the ability to adapt to the situation and find joy.) "Partner at the time" pretty much tells you what disability tends to do to a marriage - people run... that's their adaptation. Yeah, that was hard too because despite being morose, I thought my partner was the love of my life. Joy returned. I have no doubt the ex is still morose unless the realisation that happiness is an inside job has sunk in. (Which is not to say that some people do not have intractable depression. However, many people have attitudes about life, expectations about life, that leave them constantly disappointed or blue without also possessing that something more -- other attitudes -- that allows them to let joy enter their lives.)
Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear, after 33 year years of being alone I'm starting to think there has to be a reason for this - this feels very much like something I need to stop inwardly fighting and plain and simply come to accept for my higher state of being
Spiritually awakened people have a hard time to find a partner in this physical plane of existence...
Amen to that 😊🙏
True
Yep 😢
Being motivated by different values has a lot to do with it, especially since the mainstream culture only perpetuates itself, and makes no provisions for those who walk a different road. It's almost as if each of us is required to blaze the trail afresh, without the luxury of guidance from those who've walked our path before us. It's hard to meet people we can truly relate to, unless we chance upon them through online or IRL groups/experiences.
Amen
It’s so nice not having to live up to others expectations.
Amen
As a pleaser this is hard because no matter what you do it will never be enough. Especially in a society that is based on competition for everything. I've always chose to not play the game....for better or worse.
I feel exactly like you man, nothing but heartache, frustration, and rejection. At 37 it’s hard not to feel like maybe it’s just not meant to be for me. It takes a lot of courage to put a video out to the world talking about feeling that way, good for you.
Iam also 32 years old and i fear that
For this issue
update I’m 40 and still single
@@fhowlandlmao I feel this and I’m only 22.
I feel the same, but I have also missed a lot of chances. I could've find real love more even in my lowest points of life. But I wasn't able to receive it, because of my self hatred. No I'm regretting it with 43! But I still have a little hope to change it for the good, i just need that one Single shot!
Better to be happy alone than unhappy with the wrong person. Voice of experience!
We don't need a relationship to be happy. Everything has to start with us.
totally right,i have to change that asap,somehow :(
Absolute bullshit. Statements like that are coping mechanisms. If you need to tell yourself that, it means you are not wanted and will indeed be forever alone.
@@Adama.1 what you say to "another", you truly do say to yourself. So be Kind when you speak.
Copium, but seriously you need to step out from comfort zone
@@Adama.1 jerk. :/
It’s actually somewhat relieving if I knew I was to be alone for the rest of my life. It takes a lot of pressure off of me.
i can see that since most people are filled with expectations
Choice is the problem. The possibility of being with someone makes you want to try. And when you try, you eventually find disappointment.
Same
Yeah same, sometimes I feel like God destined me to become a nun or something. But I still feel that sense of questioning and uncertainty like I don’t know where my life is supposed to go, what I’m supposed to be doing, or who I’m supposed to be with. I wish that I had a conviction of some kind but I don’t.
The best part about it you're the boss nobody watching and interfering with what you do can't beat it 👍👍👍
I can honestly say that I've never found happiness in a relationship. Now that I'm single, I can make my life the way I want it. Without compromise.
Do you feel you chose the wrong partners?
Yes now you are absolutly free to build your entire life however you want to do it, with autonomy and your own decisions. :)
Hire hookers. Send them home
I used to feel this way but now, the longer I stay single, the less hapiness my uncompromised life gives me.
@@forzaferrari9912 get a pet then. Animals are better than people anyways
I honestly love being alone. I married myself. It sounds silly but at the end of the day I know myself better than anybody else. Love yourself.
Being alone is a introvert’s dream. Sometimes, I feel guilty for bringing this point up, in a loud world
💯🙏👍👌
not really
Damn, you're so wrong about that
@@carloslacerda8888 I’m right
@@MegaPsycho84 what you described is an example of mysanthrope feeling, which could be related to a lot of issues (including serious health problems) or just a mere trace of someone's personality, and not how an introvert is characterized per se. Though, if you value education, maybe you'd be interested in some renowned psychologists pov. In this case, I'd be glad to recommend some books
"The best company is that of our own." [OSCAR WILDE]
In the end we're born alone and we die alone. It takes a life time to know yourself, not to mention another person. 'Love' is often an illusion.
I can ashure you that you're not born alone
Can't agree with that.
Well you are probably born out of you mom who was physically there, but i guess that you do have to discover everything yourself.
@@kayleedewit771 im a twin, so technically i was born together. Life-hack.
@@Axelvad 😂very cool life hack. Sad i didn't think aboit that when i was born
ALL human relationships are temporary. ALL will end at death
As others have pointed out, its better to be alone than to be in a bad relationship.
Yes! Yes! Yes! And I am joyful and I am content and I am happy! And if I don't want to do the dishes today I don't have to! :-D
It is stupid to view human relationships through the prism of the "one til the end", when "community" is the whole point of human existence, and money of course now that money can buy everything lol
@SuperNova RIP
@@skdkskdk Depending on your location , finances and proper contacts one can indeed buy "love".
@@tedmalley7636 that is the kind of thing that is RUINING the world
I feel like my vibration lowers when I'm in a relationship.. a doorway to problems.
Omg Yes me too..
I liked what you said but only for me it's exactly opposite..my vibration level drops when I'm alone and thrives when I'm in a relationship..I was trying to find a way to put it into words and you just did..Thank you❤️ I just can't help but equate being single with failure..maybe it's not but it's how I feel. I've been in relationships since I was 17 and I'm 23 now, and feeling extremely self conscious being (TEMPORARILY) single. Honestly id like to not feel this way about it but I can't not..when you're with someone there's fun, companionship, sex, and others respect you more but single it's like you're a weirdo or whatever and the going to bed alone,waking up alone..no thank you, I'll take relationship anytime
@@anneannabu5130 You seem needy. Hopefully you deep dived after this post and found a way to like yourself.
@@anneannabu5130 it sounds like you're describing codependence?
@@nobodynowhere21 yea I guess so..but isn't that being human? We are social creatures, not to be alone but to have SOMEONE
I made a conscious choice to be alone 23 years ago and I LOVE IT!! I never feel lonely...never wanted to be married. Can't wait to come back home to my apt after visiting family and friends. I enjoy nature and am fortunate enough to live in a very beautiful place on the planet with river bluffs and places so incredible that it can bring you to tears. I am blessed.
May I ask you the process you took to come to this realisation? Was it spontaneous or did you weigh up the pros and cons? Apologies for the question, it’s just something I’m considering myself :)
I think it was a lifetime of caring for others, growing up in a family with 8 kids, so not having time for myself and being in relationships since the age of 16. Toward the end my last 8 year relationship, i decided that when this is over, I'm gonna stay solo and I have never looked back.
Im much happier, am filled with peace, so I get to enjoy the beauty around me and can spend my time the way I want with no one to answer to. Its great and I have no regrets; actually I LOVE it!
@@denisemoreno642 It's far better when you make a choice rather than being forced into being single. A lot of folks I think coming on here never had a relationship before and as such wonder what is wrong. I think for people who go into relationships that fail tend to be better off since they feel like they were able to, and possibly can, but for whatever reason just not worth the hassle. When you see on TV people who are single and loving it, they're always beautiful people such as Jennifer Aniston, but you wouldn't see the same praises for someone like the elephant man who was forced to be chained and locked up in a tower.
@@Dan-di9jd exactly.
May I ask which is the place you live in?
Its hard to accept being alone when you don't have friends or family either.
I'm in the same boat x
Me too
I was raised in a narcissistic family and I was the scapegoat. It has been a tough life for me. I only figured out within the last 10 years the consequences of this family dynamic. The mistakes I made in relationships as a result of this upbringing and they are numerous. I learned to accept that there are consequences with my own past mistakes with others and being alone is more than likely best for me and best for others. I love people but I have a hard time because of my upbringing. I am okay with an occasional meaningless brief conversation. I prefer others do not know my past I notice others like me without really knowing much about me, but once they get to really know me they end up not wanting anything to do with me. Most, do not understand the narcissist family dynamic because fortunately, have never experienced it. I would never wish it on anyone. I chose the no contact with my immediate family and every year that goes by I am discovering who I am, not what they told me I was and found it was the best choice I ever made.
@@marshamarshamarsha4567 I understand Marsha. I faced my past and finally cried and mourned for the pain that I endured from being the scapegoat of a narcissist family 6 years ago. It was the hardest thing I had ever had to do. I slammed shut the door to the past and somehow they were able to inflict horrendous and unimaginable pain unto me for the last time ever. I refuse to accept toxic people into my life ever again. I haven't spoken to any of my immediate "biological family" in years and have never been more at.peace. I am hoping that you continue to heal and.to nurture yourself. Your life has great value. You are not alone. Blessings to you.🙏❤️🙏
@marshamarsh
IT'S BETTER TO LIVE "ALONE"
THAN TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE
WHO MAKES YOU FEEL - "ALL ALONE!"
MG✝️OW
I couldn’t agree more
Its better to live alone than wish you were!
I know the feeling of relationships where i feel alone.
The loneliest place I ever was, was a bad marriage.
This man is so honest, how cool that another human can reveal his own pains and truth with us which ironically makes us feel less alone. I’ve been rejected and abandoned but I’ve recovered and have come to learn people don’t reject or abandon people they love, they reject or abandon people they were using.
"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." Carl Jung - You feel less alone now, because you know there is someone out there, understanding you ;-) I feel the same.
I’m actually happier on my own..
Same here.
I have been alone for 7yrs after losing my girlfriend to anorexia and I have in the last year been on a dating site and have had lots of interest but the thought of starting over again at the age of 50 fills me with dread as I don't want to be Hurt again.ive realized that I'm happier on my own and I have decided to stop looking for a partner.im happy with being single and it would take a VERY special lady to change my mind.
Multiple Life partners; Trees, birds, animals, lakes, ocean... no rejection no fighting.
That is so beautiful. Perfect
This comment, brought tears to my eyes; knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way.
Yall i so relate to these comments! My relationships are with every living thing around me and all the lonely elders at my dad's care facility, & my departed mom & kin & friends. I had no solitude for 5 years. Now i revel in it, reborn like a person raised from the dead! People, love EVERYTHING!
The perfect person for you is you. Get back to source - love and truth, and let everything else fall away.
Yes, even if you don't believe use your imagination to vibrate higher love from such possible source! Whatever your parental childhood gave you, transform any negative vibrations you've held onto and ascend and awaken your-selflove.
How do you get back to what is a part of you already?
@@abelmcguire6252 my mission statement when I came here was simple, restoration to your prior I damaged state is what brings this impulsive individual back to center. Done it so many times, it seems my original nature, flexible soul
Bullshit don't disillusion people
@@jasminekoidhis2893 why is that bullshit jasmine koudhis
For most of my life I thought I was an exception. Just a misfit bound to live and die alone. Watching your content and reading the comment section gave me some mixed feelings. I don't know whether to be happy that I am not the only one, or sad that there are so many people like me. Thank you for the video.
There is no happiness in being alone. It's a myth.
"Beware the average man, even his love will be average" - Charles Bukowski.
Homogeny makes life easier for the hoi-polloi. People who are more unique are less likely to meet someone.
Simple statistics play a part in it. We tend to be the observers in this world, trying to make sense of it.
exactly what my videos are about. Avoid the average! Those dime a dozen caucasians, who can be like gods in Asia. The good guys are the super hunks. Its all external. The same rule may apply to women. What you see is what you get. Not a popular thought, but that is why much of society is sad.
So true.
I've been alone now for 20 years, although I'm attractive I never met the right one, I'm very sensitive, but its pretty good now, I love being alone most of time, i paint everyday and nobody is there to annoy me or distract, i really enjoy most of the time, i don't feel alone though, i meet people everyday and I have plenty of money to do what I want, would just like someone to travel with! I never felt more alone then when I was in a bad relationship!
I hear you. Similar situation for me too, and enjoying learning about myself. 😊
Traveling alone is the best
Good relationship for 35 years and she past away. Been alone for 2 years and my art work including my outlook on what I paint has improved greatly. I'm also attractive and self supportive. It would be pleasurable to have someone around to have person to person conversation, share meals and chores, go to music events. Except, I don't really want to worry about another being the rest of my life. I got my art, another hobby, a competition sport and many friends. It is hard for me to say if I would or not if the right person came along. But I'm definitely fine on my own the rest of my life it that is how it ends up. People are not alike. To be with a partner, you must give time to what they like. I don't have all that much time left and a whole lot of shit I like to be doing. Have not turned a tv on in over a year. Been there done that. nope! Relax and read.
Same here
@@jewels3895 worst
I love to be alone with nature and my dog. We are never alone we are all interconnected 🙏🏽
There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I choose to be alone.
Keep telling yourself that honey. Deep down inside I know you wish you had someone.
When your dog passes away do you just get another? Does that make us selfish users
@@crystalclear5098 I would have to mourn my dog for a long time. My dogs personality is so unique it would be hard to replace him. Peace ☮️
@@YOLONOW5280 so true. My Roxy passed away a year ago, she was 16. I really hear you 💙
if you lived your whole life alone,you are a LEGEND
Cheers to us
Thank you for making me feel cool just before I go to sleep alone again for the 345'000 night
If you’ve lived your whole life never experienced love or been cared for Then you are Truly a Legend .
Thanks I guess lol
Most praise I've ever got lmao
I felt alone for many years after a long term relationship of 19 years. Then was abandoned and left homeless and fighting for my life in hospital. Then in the 5th year of dating I met someone. 5 years later it still amazing, yes there are rocky times but respecting each other truth is the key to my own truth. Best of luck people. Stay blessed. And learn to love yourself before others.
I hope you are doing well now.
@@ajl2232 I am thanks
I was so afraid of being alone, I hung on to an abusive relationship way too long. I am alone now and wish that I had ended that relationship sooner.
You and me both,sister! Wasted 6 precious years of my life.I could have gotten out sooner but the bugger kept leading me on saying, "You could be my last" ugh!
I'm ok with being alone. It's impossible having relationships with egos and that's pretty much all there is out there.
@SuperNova Me experience as well, this society breeds mental illness...
@@hardambition3051 Indeed it really actually does..
date a buddhist
@@ireallylovegod Plenty of Buddhists in P.E.I.
@@ENIGMAXII2112 About 1500 if Canada is 1% Buddhist like the census says , good luck.
There are worse things than being alone...being with the wrong person is absolute hell...dont be too needy of relationship...the wrong type of person can smell your 'neediness' & can plan to use you & your resources for however long it takes you to cop what's going on! Beware!!...be happy in your own precious company.. learn self love !!❣
I have my art, nature, science, food, & shelter. That is enough. Thank you for your wise words. I do relate!
I’m tired of fixing situation-ships. I’m at an age where I need peaceful moments and serenity. No more drama, chaos, inequity and explosive wars I didn’t create. It’s exhausting to be so pleasing.
I am just ending a pretty good nine year relationship. The caring role women often take can just make men take you more and more for granted. Add the odd drama which is just the childish traumas coming out on the closest scapegoat and it's time to know to get out.
Just been there and am now newly single and regaining peace of mind. It had a lot of good but I was disappearing.
It's surprising how little you need others in your life when you learn to respect and love yourself first. Thankfully I learnt to trust myself above any other as during my spiritual awakening they would have me drugged up to my eyeballs and strapped to a chair!! Fresh air and meditation and healthy diet is all anyone needs xxx
Interesting that you ended your post with xxx. As a man, sometimes I need xxx. At 55 I am mature enough now to not get involved with someone just for that. However fresh air , walks and good food don't cut it either. When women mess up compatibility and love so often....smh
Damn everything you've said in this video truly touched me. I'm 28 years old and life is just passing me by. This video came at such a perfect time. I'm getting so much happier being alone now
How are you doing now
But you're hottt!!
Alone together. The people I meet always have a small place in their own lives where they want me to sit quietly. It seems to me those looking for relationships are only looking for someone to protect them from the part of themselves that they refuse to embrace and that inevitably leads to them blaming you for the impossible. No one can complete you but you. I have found complete love and bliss in life without needing someone to stand before me to understand it. It just is.
I just "celebrated" my 56th birthday yesterday. I've never had anyone to love due to severe social anxiety and depression. I just never felt confident putting myself out there, and the older I got, the more fearful I became that any man would ever love and accept me. So unless some miracle occurs, I've kinda resigned myself to being alone..just me and my cats. 😔 I also come from a very highly dysfunctional family and have plenty of issues myself..and until I can learn to love myself, I'm really no good to anyone, anyway.
Once upon a time I never had a chance of having a relationship because of social anxiety.
At around the year 2000 or 2001 I was physically unwell and seriously depressed, I didn’t know if I was physically unwell because I was depressed or if I was depressed because I was unwell. I decided on the later an took myself out into the bush with the intention of being away from any possible toxins that I might have been exposed to and to eat well as well as sun bake. I didn’t take any red meat with me either, just tins of fish, fresh fruit and veggies,nuts and high quality pumpkin soups in a satchel that contained pumpkin and herbs only, nothing else. I also didn’t have set meals, I just grazed all day and had a break between each food type thinking that it might make it easier for the digestive system to get the most out of each food type. I sun baked and made sure I had no coffee after the last one at midday also.
After a week I felt better and couldn’t understand why I had been so seriously depressed for the previous two years. On the way home I stopped at a lookout where there was a couple of tourists and I found myself talking to them and noticed that I was extremely calm and had absolutely no social anxiety. Then two days later on the train to work a woman liked the look of me and started talk to me and to my surprise I’m still as calm as anything.
Can you guess why it is ? It’s gut health, too many people have suffered far too long so learn about health, nutrition and gut health, hopefully that’s all that’s wrong with you as well. I’m the same age a you and it’s not too late.
I could relate to all of this and I'm only 25. I've never experience being in love and to be loved. I always wonder if I'm just an ugly person but often times other people would compliment me so I don't know how to understand this phase.
@@wildlyrebellious you’re beautiful!
JadeMusic, l am a bit older and have been single most of my life too. I suffer from depression and social anxiety as well. It was made worse by people who thought they were helping me. Now l have a harder time of leaving my house or taking care of myself. Try to work with some kind of therapist, and maybe you will feel free. So many people are deeply affected and ashamed by their past, it is so hard for others to understand. They tell you to forget your past, but everyone else still talks about your past. They have no understanding about what it took out of you, and how hard it is to trust. If you get a bit upset, well that's just your fault. But it was what others did to you. I admire your courage to speak your mind. But it is your life and your choice. Try to forgive yourself and let the others go. They were jerks anyway. Blessings to everyone.
When I came of age my father sat me down and told me a few things he said Son do you feel that biting in the back of your head that you just can't put your finger on and like something's wrong and it's about to break under you? I said ; yeah Pop, what is that feeling called? He said get used to it.
No one I currently know that is in a relationship inspires me to want a relationship, because they are so toxic.
@Chi They are toxic because these people generally do not even like themselves.
I agree!
@Chi Why would you say someone is wrong about the truth? 🙄 If you don't love yourself, you can't love another without conditions. That creates a toxic relationship.
@Chi "me no understanding, you must be wrong...." lol jog on and educate yourself.
@Chi You don't even know where I live. Your replies prove that YOU are the moron here.
Throughout my journey I have found that letting go is one of the hardest things we are forced to do. I've already came to terms with the fact that I might spend the rest of my life without a partner to share myself with. However that doesn't take away the fact that despite enjoying my solitude, there are moments or even movie scenes that trigger my sadness and longing for a meaningful relationship. It's a one day at a time situation a guess. Life without hope can be monotonous but it's better than rising in hope and them falling to the ground. That's too painful and no one should have to endure such suffering. I rather enjoy my plain colorless loneliness instead of feeling that I'm not good enough one more time.❤❤❤
Thank you wise hippie dude
that is one of my favorite comments Alan, well said.
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Funny but true Alan 😆
Alan goeman .....rafiki
Actually that description is really accurate. ROFL
When I had a partner, I could not wait to be alone. 16 years now, and I love it! 😊❤️👍🇳🇴
It’s alright isn’t it? Just another transition through this amazing life.
Company is needed to escape the insanity, solitude is needed to escape the insane.
When you learn to love and accept yourself and be happy with your own company you realize you don't need anyone.
I've been let down too many times I've chose to be alone for the rest of my life
Sometimes it is not a choice, sometimes it's a calling far from our understanding like a pull and the more we try to avoid it the stronger it persists. That was the case with me.
M C, you said it all👏. I feel the same way, and you're right. To me, it feels like GOD wants me ALL to himself. When I was in relationships, I was alone so what the heck. I'll make it by myself. Stay blessed 💝.
@@patriciaking7892 it depends really, like I really love to be myself and that makes the most sense logically because I am a nervous wreck sometimes. I really didn't want to be in relationships because I always felt they were doomed to fail eventually, so I avoided it all cost. But as persistent as I was to avoid, people have been persistent to try with me and that is what i am talking about when sometimes it is out of our control and we have to trust the universe. If it works out or no is not my concern as much as I want to learn and grow from whatever life throws at me. To make decisions out of honest growth and openness and not let fear control me.
M C, we know what we know better than anyone else👍.
@@patriciaking7892 I wish you a safe trip in life, thank you for your kind words, means a lot 🙏🏽
I have been alone for a few years now and at 61 I'm not real interested in making an effort to find anyone. Ive accepted if I meet someone that is kind compassionate towards others and loves their own self I would be open. My relationships have been toxic and abusive. I have healed from them and learned to set boundaries and stop being codependent. It's taken my whole youth to learn these lessons lol. So I'm content being with myself and I have always loved having me time. I have a hard time being around anyone for extended periods unless they can entertain them selves. I don't have the energy to listen to endless conversations. It's too much for me.
Relationships are overrated, and so Is Valentine's day
Agreed
know that i think about it....that's actually right
Valentine’s Day is not just overrated. It shouldn’t exist
This is gold. New subscriber. I am tired of rejection. I am trying to recover from my first love and biggest heartbreak. she’s moved on and I’m trying to heal my heart. Done with attempting to be partnered. Being unpartnered is just as valid. you don’t need romantic relationships to survive. Love this video.
Same but I'm struggling with all that. Lost the love of my life and its been hard to pick up the pieces.
I'd rather spend the rest of my life with my 2 chihuahuas than anyone else on the planet. Their love will not change when something better comes along.
Thank you for sharing your heart with such honesty. You truly have a gift for talking to people on their level. I would also remind those out there who are afraid of being alone that one can have a life partner and still be, in many ways, very much alone. Think about that for a moment....
As I get older and see what’s available to a single guy with no kids and disposable income..... I’m happy being alone, I’m not lonely, just alone.
@RUSSIAN ROBOT women are high maintenance, I choose serenity instead of nagging
@@Mortequal no need for that, you can be happy without taking others down
@@clairem.5499 Ah the projection...thank you for proving my point.
best comment ever
what THINGS are you talking about....prostitutes ???? oh ya that is a better way to live.....just hire them for the sex and then you don't have to do any work as in a relationship.....take the easy way out
My whole life changed in 2006 when I followed Louise Hay's suggestion to look into my eyes in the mirror and say "I love you and will take care of you". When we accept and love that wounded child inside of us, we become less needy of receiving it from others. We can't truly love anyone until we do accept ourselves unconditionally. We are enough to live an abundant life with the peace that passes all understanding. Hugs
I told my cat the other day, "be glad you aren't human"....
I just imagined the cat replying in a deep voice "and be glad you're not a cat" :)
@RUSSIAN ROBOT thanks for the reminder, I forgot about, THAT ....
@@Mortequal ha!!! or, "come on, don't you remember how hard it was to be a cat ?"
I left several men from my past I dated due to various forms of abuse from them. After the last one I dated back in 2006, he even showed me that there was no real connection with me. I quit getting involved after that, and have been on a journey of finding what fulfills my life rather than trying to please someone else which often made me miserable.
I mean there are many possibilities. You may or may not be alone. But I think our society is fixated on romantic relationships many of which are not really based on true love and are mainly based on superficial attraction. So in some respects you may be with a partner but still feel alone lol. So I guess the lesson is to embrace yourself because loneliness is a state of mind.
Great comment
I can really empathize with you. It feels so hard to be repeatedly rejected and to experience countless dating failures. It can leave a permanent scar on our heart that might alter how we think forever. This is an absolute painful feeling. But aloneness doesnt always translate to loneliness, and this is an area to consider.
You’ll be alright. Sometimes Acceptance IS the 🔑. I’m very happy being by myself. Me, Myself & I do real good together!
I had an Ex that said “ You are going to die as a lonely man! “ Very prophetic because at 62 I am alone! It’s my choice because now I don’t have to listen to those damn harpies telling me I’m gonna die alone! 🖕🏻Oh! By the way, I get to spend the way I want!
Thats excatly what ist my bigggest Wish for someone Special. !!!
you can have a partner all your life, and still die alone, as your partner may well die, of become senile before you
The only beings I live with till death us do part are animals. People are NOT like animals. The expectation of a forever partner is NOT realistic. I am content being solo not lonely. The depression of not being a couple is the belief that you need a relationship.
So true about animals. My dog (and I don't say it possessively, because he doesn't belong to me) and I have a relationship that I could never envision with another human. He is 11 now and in the years we have been together, I have not once ever raised my voice to him. I can't envision him ever doing anything that would make me angry. I never 'trained' him - I showed him the way you would a small child. I speak to him like a best friend. I can't imagine being with someone constantly - just a few feet away at all times - without being impatient or 'wanting my own space'. At this moment he has his big butt pushing against the laptop, edging me off the couch.
When Todd goes, I'm not sure how I will be able to stand it. frankly. Like my previous dog of 14 years, I will mourn him for the rest of my life.
@@Automedon2 I am the same
@@fifthavenuegirl Horses have been my other love. I had had a thought of buying some property where I could get a few old pasture ponies in my retirement. Maybe do some driving. But, I have known too many stories of people becoming too old to properly care for their horses and they are either neglected and taken away, or the owner dying and their animals sent to auction. I won't be able to trim hooves and shovel stalls forever, myself. The only dog I'd ever get at this point is an older dog that would pass before me. A puppy would have a good chance of outliving me and I can't think of a worse thing than worrying about what will happen to my animals after I die. So, as much as I need to have animals around me, I will really have to think with a realistic mind before I get another after Todd goes.
Beautifully said. 🙂
That isn't true. My husband stayed with me until his last breath. On his part it was forever until the end of his life. 29 years of marriage, i miss him so much. Sadly on my part it wasn't forever because i still exist and he doesn't.
People that spend their lives alone are usually happier as they get older. They have lived long enough to see that humans are basically not wired to get along on a long term basis
People often just fade. Friendships, romantic relationships, or family. I'm not used to that nor am that way, so it troubles my mind. Because I love unconditionally and honestly.
The older I get, the more I'm learning to let go and love from afar those who don't care to stay. And connect to myself spiritually.
I've always put effort and gave people chances, always gave a benefit of doubt, and was most times disappointed.
Love is patient and kind. But patience&love is lacking today or rare, especially with the need of constant stimulation. Where boredom takes hold.
And people let go and go on to the next. As if you don't exist nor are important to them at all.
I don't want nor will accept that.
I don't believe in half love, friendship, relationship.
I rather be alone and happy, than with someone and miserable.
There are people that can make you feel more alone than you actually being alone by yourself.
Love yourself and find your happiness. Don't tolerate what your intuition tells you isn't good for you. Trust your gut,yourself, and whatever higher power you may believe there may be.
Lastly, speaking from experience, if you stay with a toxic being, or allow them to drain your soul&energy, it will affect your health. Mentally and physically. And no-one is worth that. One who may be, will never put you through pain in your heart.
Live, laugh, love, and respect yourself and your fellow mankind as well as nature and animals.
Wishing whoever reads this, that you find your definition of peace, love, and happiness. Alone or not.
✌ ❤
Perfectly put. I'm so comfortable by myself . Been single the last 7 years and they have been the period of maximum growth spiritually emotionally and psychological. Ups and downs keep happening but there is a constant peace in the background. Wish you well. Lots of love and ✌
Beautifully put.
Some people are intimidated by a depth of being, as it makes them also look into the deepness of themselves which is frightening especially when their whole existence is distraction and running away.
I challenge that you love unconditionally. .
That's a false notion. ..
Or you wouldn't be here or have felt the need to write anything.
Without conditions, there is" no love. ..
Cheers 👍
@@plop961 My need to write anything has nothing to do with how my heart loves or how my soul is. Just because you feel that it's a false notion, does not make it a fact. It is an opinion. As I have my opinions.
And just because in this modern world it is rare to find a being that loves unconditionally, does not mean they do not exist. I understand your doubts and that you believe there is "no love". It is quite understandable actually, especially when we live in a world where one is constantly criticized and made to feel inadequate. In a world where chaos, greed, violence, and evil dance and thrive.
Where love has just become a word with actions that do not coincide. Where feelings do not swim in the deep end of love, but stay above where one never truly feels what true love is. Because many are afraid. Either they fear getting hurt as they may have before, or fear they may be the only ones swimming.
Love isn't difficult to find, but it must be awoken within ourselves first for us to be able to find love in another in a romantic sense.
But when I say I love unconditionally, I mean it and do. I don't judge anyone or have hate in my heart. I love as I'd want to be embraced. Ofcourse I take caution because not everyone is your friend, or will embrace you with love. In this life which is short and full of hate, jealousy, selfishness, I rather live and love than carry the bitterness of hate.
@@plop961 Cheers to you as well! And wishing you all the best in life and in love ✌ ❤
Alone isn't lonely .
Even when I was in relationships I still gravitated toward solitude because it feeds my soul
Acceptance is to give up. I want what I want. If I dont get, I'm going home to other side. Been alone too long and no love all my life. Self love yes but that's not enough. Loneliness is painful solitude isnt. But we are social species.
I don't believe in romantic love and true friendships. in fact, the very thought of those two things (especially romantic love) makes my stomach turn. I know I'm destined to be alone forever, and honestly, I'm PERFECTLY fine with that.
I'm kind of there with you. I experienced what felt to me like true love.....but eventually it fell apart and now she is with someone else. Its hard because I see that most the failure was my doing. I no longer believe in romantic love and feel how humans are wired is more a conditional love. We all want something out of it and want the best deal for ourselves. The arena of romantic love is ruthless and at 58 I think I'm done. It's hard because I love touch, intimacy, sex, and pleasuring my partner. The absence of this leaves an empty feeling inside.
I've been single for a long time, although sometimes I want a relationship, today I am good with the idea of being alone forever. It can vary day by day for me.
Same here
my solitude to so peaceful and satisfying its difficult to imagine someone within it!!!
This was so calming to watch. ❤️ The idea of being in a relationship puts me in a state of anxiety tbh. I don't think im fit for one, because I like to be left alone, I dont like drama, and overcommunicating! I also dont like to be pressured into doing things that I dont really want to do and from my experience, relationships tend to always demand that. 😐
Agree
Am I destined to spend my life alone ? I do hope so. The world is full of the sort of people I don't want to live next door to.