"Tell your daughter you love her because if you don't, someone who doesn't will and she'll believe them" is one of the wisest quotes I've heard in a long time.
Yeah. Me too. I had a narcissist, drunken man child for a father who never moved out of his mother's house. He was never in my life and all of my relationships were based on his dysfunctional perspective of love and life. May God bless you and help you find peace, self forgiveness and warm love.
Honestly that bit about "Tell them you love them, or if someone who doesn't will, and they'll believe them." Is good advice for any kid. How your parents treat you as a kid really sets your expectations and standards for what you deserve from others in the future.
as a former kid i confirm this fr and the video you should teach your kids to never lie to you and tell them to stay away from people don't watch porn and all other stuff my own mother teach me a lot of these things and they all have saved but she did not teach me don't watch porn its harmful so i got into it and it was very bad for me but i did not ever use cigar even tho i was the only among my Friends but thanks to my mothers advise which she give me every day i am not addicted to cigar unlike half of my Friends there and i ask you to teach your kids to be careful about peoples kids as they might be bully as well that they might try to Assault sexually assault which they did to me but i was saved cause they not run after me and they were thinking i wont tell my Family but i did that sometime later we moved from there to Afghanistan my home country peace from Afghanistan.
I know a lot of girls who's father's were the exact opposite and one of the most important stories I could tell is this one friend I had in middle school. We were around the same age(probably 15) and had similar interests so I went over to her house for the first time and the conversation led to talking about our families, she started crying after I told her that she deserves better and I asked if she wanted a hug, she proceeded to cling to me the whole time until I had to leave. She was so amazed that I actually listened to her and didn't get annoyed at her for being emotional and I'm 100% sure she would have done anything I asked her to if I had ulterior motives. So many girls don't know how to react when a guy is actually interested in their personal life or touches them in a non sexual manner (like a genuine hug) because they've never experienced it before and it makes them vulnerable to getting hurt or manipulated.
Thank you for being a genuine person and man, I hope many young and old men learn how to treat others like this and teach their children and brothers the same!
Oh ya as a kid growing up I was taught you only go to a guys house or hang out in a non public place is sexual. So now meeting new people and trying to have good relationships with guys I feel weird and literally don’t know how to act. Even tho We are both not interested there’s always that feeling that it can’t just be a friend ship. I will never do that to my daughter.
A message to those who read this, and to you: please, if you find these people, make sure to not only support them emotionally, but to bring their personality up so that they don't continue with this mentality.
"Tell your daughter you love her 'cause if you don't someone who doesn't will & she'll believe him." The basic truth of this statement broke my heart & made me cry.
Yes but he got one thing wrong, partly. You show your daughters you love them because if you just say it then when someone else says it they will believe it, too. If you SHOW them and say it then when the person only says it and doesn't show it, they will discern the truth and not waste their time on lip service. Too many parents get this wrong and then wonder why their kids end up with classical and covert narcissists and other BS, user types. The answer is they fell for it because it was familiar, their childhood idea of love that their parent.or parents portrayed.. Prioritize your kids and they will not waste time on people who cannot and will not reciprocate! Don't spoil them with praise once in a while and ignore them the majority or they will seek that in a spouse without even knowing and those types will find them so quick and get their hooks in easy. Also, It is CRUCIAL to Treat your spouse the way you want your Kid's spouses to treat them! Role model it with actions and not just words or if you can't then get out of the way for someone who can if you want your kids to have their best chance in life.
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
@@AnimangaGirlChii You laugh but it's sad really that love, respect and honesty are too big of expectations for an adult grown man to fulfil in a relationship with an adult grown woman. Seems like we need to raise our boys to be men in stead of overgrown children, huh.
Something my dad said when my sister brought a guy home for the first time still sticks with me. "No I'm not going to threaten him, because I respect you." Your daughter is capable if you raised her to be, she doesn't need your protection all the time, but if she gets hurt she does need your comfort and support.
@@tylernielsen3319 can vouch for this 🥲 my parents were super non-accepting of my current boyfriend and we've been through soooooo much shit, i can't even begin to explain; just because they believe they are right and.. ?? I honestly don't know what goes through a person's mind when they think its okay or justified to threaten someone that their child has chosen to love. And yeah, it's completely ruined our relationship. I can't talk to them the same way anymore, can't fully respect any of their opinions (Im still super respectful to them, just don't have any faith in any of their beliefs/opinions anymore), and my mental health (while already pretty shitty) took a DIIIIIIIVE 😂💀📉 Love your children, parents. In an unconditional, unselfish way that allows you to see them as individuals in their own right, with their own (STRONG) thoughts and emotions. Empathize with them in every way you can, because all of what you do as a parent has a major impact on an individual coming into the world.
To be fair; the method of threatening who a child brings home is the easy way. Now that were all in cities or urban housing we should be able to do it the harder way bcus we have more time and more understanding of humans
this goes to show how impactful a parent’s role can affect their child’s life. i’m glad your daughters have a dad like you, everyone deserves to have this connection.
@@kashviruparelia9464 I have bpd and I was loved and influenced by not very good people that found me during a rough time when I was younger, so I'm glad this guy actually knows what to do haha.
True that. I'm almost 29 years old. Male. Grew up without a dad and the differences between someone raised by a man and myself is drastic. I'm pretty much comparable to a 22 year old. Behind on so much.
@@BenChoad-e1eif you want to learn from someone who knows what hes talking about, has a son and a daughter. Hes an former MMA fighter, who also has a couple of Ph'ds. He also admits he knew nothing when he left home, he has worked very hard at being a good dad. Not every podcast is about fatherhood but he talks about them throughout, what it takes to be a good guy, tattoos and all. He is NOT what you would expect a therapist who rides with SWAT teams to be like, lol. Just search for... John Delony ( the dr john delony show )
As a teenager who's father is only present physically and very little emotionally, thank you. Your daughters will never know the pain of not being able to talk to or do stuff with their dad Edit: I am so very sorry to everyone who has similar experiences with one or both of their parents. I sincerely appreciate the kind words too. I know my relationship with my parents will likely not improve due to certain circumstances, but I hope all of you are able to improve your relationships with your parent(s), and if not then I hope you can find a father/mother figure to be there for you and show you what love from that certain missing person feels like. Thankfully I have a father figure in my life, he and his wife have taken me under their wings and treat me like blood, allowing me to stay over sometimes, work for them, babysit their biological daughters, have dinners with them, etc. I am extremely lucky to have found someone like that, and I hope all of you do as well. If anyone ever wants to talk, I'm always here 😊❤️
I feel you. My father was the same way my entire life till he finally just left when I was 14. Which was the best since he was a narcissistic abusive ass but I’m getting away from my point. My point is even if he’s not there emotionally still just having a father even if he isn’t fully present is better than not having one at all. Trust me I know it sucks but it really is better than nothing. I really don’t like my father but honestly just knowing I had one even if I couldn’t come to him for anything it still helped.
Maybe you can help me understand something. A bit of a story so bear with me. I have a niece who will be turning 16 in a couple months. Her father, my brother, committed suicide when she was an infant. She was adopted by a woman who was single so no father figure her whole life except my parents who could visit her a number of times over the years. My wife and I finally saw her this year twice. I was very happy to see her and I'm pretty sure she was happy to see me. I suspect and correct me if I'm wrong but I believe she very much wants to know me and is happy when I'm around because I'm the closest thing she has to her father. My wife told me she told her I'm more normal than my parents so I guess that's good lol
@@madphatdopeyo742 i know for me it’s always nice having a male role model in my life and does make me happy because it makes me feel like for even a moment that I do have a dad. Whenever I see anything about a dad being happy with his kids it’s like a stab in the heart cause I know I never or will ever have that. So I’m sure when she sees you especially being the uncle it’s kinda like she is drawn more to you because you’re the closest thing she’ll ever have to a dad. If I could give you advice just please try to always be in her life as much as you possibly can. With everything I went through with my own father both before and after he left made me suffer really really bad depression even a few years later. So it’s made me push away the only father figure I have.
Not the same situation, but my dad passed when I was a teenager. Absence (of any kind) of a father in his daughter’s life can be a hard wound to heal. I pray you find healthy and good hearted father figures to encourage you and speak truth to you when you need it, and that your father wakes up to how precious you are. Hang in there, it does get better ❤️
@@Dk-hx2zv it's really hard to offend a guy friend, me and my friends say nasty things to one another and we're just laugh it off, of course there's a line that we shouldn't cross while joking with each other
@@Chad-bc9vi True. Especially if you know each other, you can insult him in the most terrible way possible, but he will just do something back to you and laugh it off. Don't do it with strangers though.
U are so right!...... but then u have parents who say that, but will flip out and make the situation worse bc u told them instead of being supportive & helping them even with the consequences. Then the child starts to realize that being open and honest with parent(s) maybe isn't a good idea..... thus the solitary teenage life begins.
And the flipside: that after getting burned by so many partners who lied to her about loving them, she won't believe it when someone who sincerely does tells her they love her. Signed, a child of parents who only saw "love" for how much they could get from their offspring.
As someone with daddy issues this hits hard. I'm really glad there are people like you out there. Thank you for being cool and supporting your daughter.
@@TwilitFall if all the parents are getting from their child is a whore then I’m on the parents side, whore daughter don’t deserve no love. And I’m a child
You're right that is a real man. But with all due respect you're a woman and you don't get to talk about what makes a man a man as if you know what it's like. You don't see me calling girls who don't get abortions real women because that is their choice. I believe in gender equality and you clearly believe yourself to be superior to men based off of your statement assuming what it is like to be one. You are clearly a misandrist and I find it disgusting.
@memecat I mean Modern women tend to go after boys who are raised only by a single parent, mostly a mother. So the men that most likely have never had a father figure, to begin with, and worse, they are never around men who will act like it to them so the cycle continues. My father is the kindest man I know, taught me how to shoot, how to have patience, and to be a kind human being. My mom tried to teach me to be a victim, to hurt those who hurt me, and to never fully trust a person even a friend (When they both separated). I don't hate my mother, but I noticed my sister was the same with her kids, my cousin was the same with her child and it's just something I noticed. We need both parents to make a decent human being, single parents make a monster 80% of the time. That or never have a country parent marry a city parent XD
While funny, it is absolutely true. I am 28, got a daughter that is 9 now, and i am deathly scared that she will end up hooking up with people that act like i did when i was younger. Thankfully i think i know the manwhore tips and tricks, considering i was one for many years.
And the other one didn't even have that fragile of an ego to get angry. I can't believe thats the worst man he ever encountered and if he is, well this dude has very cool people around him.
This works ! My dad told me how much he loved and treated me like a princess . Although my mom rarely did, when a man who didn’t love me pretended to I knew he didn’t because his actions didn’t line up. Saved me from the worst future imaginable
Honestly everyone needs to be told by any type of parental figure that they are loved, and shown proper respect and care, because that shapes how they view their future relationships and gives them standards for friends or romantic partners.
I love that also. Sad that there are those wrong sort of guys to begin with. I don't know why their behavior is even tolerated by good men, but it's great when good men like this one do their best to love, protect and educate their daughters.
@@MosaidDeath the idea is to teach them how to tell the difference between sincere love and insincere ones. Of course if the dad does it right and truly cares for his daughter.
@@MurakiChiyo I mean it's kinda sad even if someone else who genuinely loves them but is a stranger. Yet the parent who raised them never uttered such foul words.
1. I never make my daughters do anything they don't want to do. 2. I told them they can always tell me the truth, and I'll never get angry. 3. I am always there for them. 4. I tell them I love and adore them every single day. THey seem to be good girls and are happy with me so far. They're 13.
@Mozarella king You think you sound smart, but that is literally what is happening in the real world, people don't bother "studying" let alone don't even care about the outcome anymore and will blame it on the "teacher" aka not taking responsability.
It’s not so much about loving them but more about loving and respecting their mother. They will expect the kind of relationship they saw their parent have growing up
What is it with weirdos turning familial love into a weird competition between parents and children. You caylove them both there's no need to rank them, that a sick and twisted way of making someone lesser.
😍 This is spot on! My stepdad raised me and I didn't have an involved father before him. He sent me Valentine's gifts to school and had 16 roses delivered to class on my 16th birthday. He took me out often, just me and him, to a nice restaurant or a movie and listened to everything going on in my life. He taught me I had value and to respect myself. I wasn't perfect, but I was not running around with boys like my friends. I wasn't looking for validation because I had that. My husband is wonderful and loves me the way my daddy loved my mama because he set the bar watching how he treated her and us. He's my guiding light because he didn't have to be, but I felt better about myself because he wanted to be my father, even if my bio dad didn't. He always treated me equally to my siblings that came after me, and I'm so thankful for him. That is what a father is, steadfast and constant! ♥️
Thankyou for this wisdom brother, I have a little princess on the way, I was an only child raised by two families filled with boys. Sometimes I lack with the emotional words coz I don’t see the value in them; but this information you shared here is very simple, but so true and easily overlooked in a male dominated household when you’re taught to stand on your own and suck it up. Thankyou again, can already tell youre a great father and a good example!
Whenever I see dads who genuinely care about their daughters like this and actively make sure they're being a good father... It makes me tear up a little 🥺
@@CharlieCabralos rightt fr tho, a father/parent who cares and is active in their kids lives should NOT be noteworthy. That should be standard and bare minimum
Perfect, exactly my plan. Except in 2017 I unfortunately lost my 15 1/2 year-old daughter on a lacrosse field in Colorado. Even almost 7 years later, I still don't know what the hell happened. The only thing worse than me, losing my daughter that day was watching my wife lose her daughter! I don't know I had to share that, but I guess I just need to.
I hope sharing that helped ease any burden or pain not sharing was causing. It's strange how cathartic saying/typing it out can be, even to strangers on the internet. Blessings and healing upon you, Sir 💔💐
Most men are not strong enough to talk about they're demons. But it helps. Not to get over something this, but living is easyer If the weight of the heart is carryed by more than one. God bless you and your wife! Your living a parents nightmare, im so sorry for your loss.
My parents are divorced and that part where he said "tell them you love them or someone who doesnt will and she'll believe them" hit so hard. I never really saw my dad that often growing up, probably once every few weeks. Then he got a girlfriend, had 2 kids, and moved to the suburbs. So of course, I see him every few years now. He never once told me he loved me. But I watched him say it to his kids. Now I have to sit there at his wedding in 6 months and watch him say it to a woman he met 6 years ago. You're a good father, I wish I had one like you growing up.
You don’t gotta go to his wedding and bring that hurt upon yourself. Choose yourself, you deserve your happiness without him . He’s chosen his already. Too many fathers never realize how much their children really need them until they need their children to be there for them. Not everyone deserves to be a parent or even should.
@@michaelahenshaw4344 OP didn't bring up their mother but meantioned enough to imply that the relationship probably ended poorly and slowly. Most guys have to completely cut ties to keep from getting emotionally blackmailed by the one in control of whatever they are hoping to build. With parenting that means not saying what you want to or need to say to your kids so that thier mom doesn't use to as a knife later to twist in you.
So sorry to hear this. Tell your dad one day how you feel please. He needs to hear it loud and clear. And, also you don’t have to be there for him if you really don’t want to. Your feelings matter also.
As a girl who has a dad like you, know this: 1) We're more thankful than all the "thank you's" we give💕 2) You will ALWAYS have a home with us, and we will give you dessert first when you're old- because the rule is "just don't tell Mom".🤷🏾♀️ 3) It doesn't matter who we said our best friend is- you're the best friend. 👨👧
I'm barely 20 years old but reading this really inspired me to become the best dad possible when the time comes. I mean I had already thought about it, giving someone what I never had, but reading this made me realize that yeah, I want that someone to be my baby girl or boy someday
HAHAHA I'm sorry! I'm sorry! But as an erotica writer, a daughter having the rule "Just don't tell mom" with her father has an ENTIRELY different meaning when I read it lmao I'm still laughing! Very sweet though, very sweet, when I become a father I'll do my best to be one that is truthful, honest, and supportive.
I got chills at the “tell your daughter you love them, because if you don’t, someone else who doesn’t will and she’ll believe them”. If more fathers heard those words there’d be way less women who live for the validation from men that they never got from their fathers because their fathers didn’t know how to be emotionally available towards their daughters since their fathers probably weren’t that way with them.
I love that you went straight to a man who you had hoped your daughter would not encounter her own version of lol, I wish my dad had protected me from his friends who treated women / girls poorly instead of introducing me and allowing them to treat me badly as well. Your daughter is a lucky girl and I can tell you’re a great father ❤ We need more of you:)
My parents were naive enough to believe that people like that would never end up remotely close to their daughter. But they grew up before the internet and I grew up on the internet. It's gonna happen. If you're not honest with yourself about what your kids can be exposed to, they'll still be exposed to it, but they won't be prepared or know how to maturely handle it.
@@ashleybro6933 same feeling but different circumstances, my parents were very much the same way. My mum had a friend who's kid almost commited suicide and that friend said "I had no idea he was struggling, you should talk to your kids and make sure they're okay" and my mum responded "my kids are fine, they would never do anything like that." At that time I had been struggling with clinical depression for nearly a decade and self harm for about half that time. Parents like to imagine that these bad things could never possibly happen to their own kids but like you said it is just naive.
@@gsp4prezit’s not exactly telling her that he loves her, but getting advice to know how to keep his daughter away from men who fool around, the advice being “don’t neglect her and she’ll know who actually loves her.”
This can be applicable God being the Father who is telling His daughters that He loves them and also He helps them to be united with their rib mates - husbands sent by Him to them and not with counterfeits.
@@rickykozak58 , first, please speak civilised. Secondly, yes, spiritually, this can be a message from the Heavenly Father through Ruah ha'Kodesh- Holy Spirit, but obviously it's not for you. Shalom and have a blessed day ( P.S. learn to see and hear with Holy Spirit's help beyond natural images and words 🙂)
coming from someone who was only told i love you or hugged by my family a handful of times in childhood and growing up, i can tell you i have no respect for myself and everyone walks all over me, i don’t know how to say no to men who are nice to me and if someone tells me they love me no matter who i feel like i owe them my life and have an obligation to do everything they say. i have countless horror stories of men taking advantage of me simply because i thought it was mean to say no, and i took to it extremes i wont even talk about because these men ‘loved me’ and i didnt piece together that this probably all stems from my parents for a very long time. still struggle immensely and cannot get myself out of dangerous situations with men. hug your kids and tell them you love them
A girl went to a party where she was having a good time until everyone started using drugs. She told her friend she needs to leave immediately. Her friend said: “Why? Are you scared your Dad’s gonna hurt you if he finds out?” She replied: “No. I’m scared I’m gonna hurt my dad if he finds out”. 💔
Daddy so important! I selected the best dad by looking at his friends, sister and mother and how he treated his cats! Best caretaker for the animals and respectful to his sister n mother! He adores the girls 🎉
If you've tried to fix things and he hasn't done his part, then be at peace because you've done your part and thats all you can do. If not, then do your part and see what happens. Either way, you'll be blessed and have an answer whether than be in limbo. Hang in there and God bless you.
My father is dead. Cancer, two years ago. I'm the only one in my family who misses him. Watching this brought me to tears. You're a good dad. You remind me of my dad. I wish I had spent more time with him before it was too late. He always told me he loved me and I look back on that now with so much respect and gratitude. At the time I kind of took it for granted but now I know. Now I regret. For anyone reading this, if you're a father make sure your children know you love them and if you're a child make sure your father knows you love him. Before it's too late. Please. So you don't regret it. This video meant a lot to me and it means the world for a father to show his love and a child to reciprocate that. Please don't take your father for granted. Edit: Wow, I never expected so many likes. Thank you all for the support. And those of you who have nothing nice to say please mind your own business.
Yep, people really have to talk about dead people no matter the argument. Well, ain't gonna stop you, I'm just tired of seeing it everywhere on the internet.
My parents divorced when I was two, but he worked so hard to always be there for me. I'm glad you have given your girls the love and support they need. ❤️
@@ItchiestBum the mother, i took her to court and earned 50% custody where I essentially have my daughter for half the year now although our realationship is great I want to know what to maintain
I want to throw in another piece of advise as well. As the daughter of a military vet and now cop father if ever you have a bad day at work and your in a bad mood, Take a long drive and difuse before coming home. Because if you go home you will explode at some point, she will be around and that will make her want to stay away from you instead of coming to you during hard times.
EXCELENT Piece of Advice. That or Teach your Children your Positive methods to diffuse a "Bad Mood". Mine was to to Buy whole Chickens and see how quickly I could "Disassemble" them by different methods. My Favorite was skin intact Boneless Stuffed roast chicken. The Chicken looks like a cushion when you are done. And You have a tasty chicken, or a Loaf of Bread, when you are done.
And marry, and be drawn to what they learn. You marry what you come from. Girls need father's who are good to them. I married two charmers who were wife beaters and abusers. Guess where I learned that from? I married men like my father.
this made me cry. it’s nice to see fathers out there caring for their children and making an effort to connect with their daughters. the world needs more dads like you o7
@@Somedude3549 yeah, well Most of the dads where you are maybe. But i have a lot of friends with even me, who either don't have a father or a father douche, and because of that we have all kinds of problems
One thing about man whores is that they are pretty honest to themselves, they know they are trash for the situation they are in and are will to share trade secrets to help become like them or to avoid becoming like them lol I had 5 friends who fit that bill and they did just that (share what they know and experienced with so I can make an informed decision)
The fact the Manwhore guy was so blatantly honest shows a bit of character in him that I can respect. It takes a strong character to be able to tell the honest truth even if it's negative against yourself.
Men are this way because they have no other options. They have no other options because women choose to sort themselves out into harems. The wrong guy is the loser resorting to manipulation to get what he wants.
I immediately started crying after "tell her you love her, because if you don't then someone who doesn't will and she'll believe him." This is painfully true. You're a great dad.
As a father with daughter issues I wish I had a daughter like you..I’m kidding I just wanted to see how weird that sounded I love my baby girl and I hope you find peace !
I don’t know why it hit so hard when he said “made sure to let my daughters know I love them and how they can be honest and feel protected by their dad” but I can’t stop crying
This did the same for me. The thing is I know why. I have a family made up of mostly women and my father was less than half present to actually develop what this man is talking about…
Personally, that line hit me bcs my dad left me when I was 18. I never knew why and when I tried to look for him he just ignored me. And ironically, when he left, I wasn't even surprised just disappointed. Even as a kid I never felt loved or cared by him, just a burden but I remember doing a LOT to gain his approval and affection. It never felt like I did enough. The other males in my family have been the same. It does take a toll, so it hurts. I hope it gets better for us 💜 so idk I'm telling you this (a life story no on asked or cares about) bcs a family member's behavior affects us and sometimes it doesn't even take them doing something physically but emotionally (even unconsciously) to also hurt us. So it's understandable. I won't say it's ok but I hope u can feel a little better some day. 💜 + for me, it took some years to see my worth and value myself. I thankfully never had to learn that with the wrong individual, so I'm grateful for that. I truly hope u can smile soon. :)
Same, i was raised by my dad, and also have a younger sister from his second marriage. I always tought that i struggle in relationship cuz my mom only had a selfish love for me, she needed me for validation, not to give me motherly love. But now i know im mostly fucked up bc of my dad, and im so sorry for my sis, the only thing we know is emotional fear. Bc he would never hurt us physically and thats enough for him. No work done on himself. He angry? We have to tiptoe around him. Dont want to make him a tea? Drama about him dying alone cuz no one will even give him water when he gets old yada yada. But i already cried bc of him today so luckily this only hit right but didnt made me cry.
I was that teenager who had no self respect and a father who didn’t even try, I got loved a lot, then they were done with me and moved on. Dads out there reading this... daughters learn self respect from you, and they get self esteem from you... if you don’t want a loose daughter make sure she knows how to love herself through your actions 💕
Me too man my “dad” thinks that if he buys me stuff occasionally its enough . He doesnt feel the need to verbally tell me he loves me/or communicate with me at all. But he’s a step so oh well. I still remember one day out of rage I almost told him that while yes, he is married to my mother so he is technically my step father, never once have I considered him my dad and he will never be my dad, that he’ll never be that man a daughter sees as loving, kind or my standard for guys or even just people. Sometimes i wish i’d told him that maybe it’ll make him realise he isnt as good as a father he thinks he is. Or that i’ll never have the precious memories my sister(his biological daughter) has with him. sorry for the long paragraph, I just had to get it out.
brilliant i wish i had a dad like you god bless you and your family , iv had an awful life made so many mistakes and found all the wrong guys looking for what i never got from my dad ,your mate was defo right with his advice
I want to add that the other way to be a great father and role mode is to treat their mother with love and kindness so our girls know that is what they should expect from their husbands. When my brilliant and beautiful daughter was asked by her husband why she married him she said “because you are so much like my Dad”. Best compliment I ever got.
@@Dukes3677 I just meant that I lived a good enough life as a husband and father that my daughter wanted the exact same thing in a man she married. She once told me I was the “perfect man”. I’m not of course but that I’m happy she thinks so and I do take that as the ultimate compliment because it meant I was good at the most important job of all, raising our children.
"How do I protect my daughters from guys like you" Lmao, that's a good friendship Edit: idk what's going on with people, in the replies. I just thought it's funny that his friend was a good sport, and gave him some advice People keep saying that the other guy manipulates women or whatever, but we don't know that- don't check the replies, it's all just arguing Edit2: If you actually *watch* the dang video- he says, "tell your girls that you love them. Because if you don't, someone who doesn't(...)" this dude never said anything about what he does- if you're gonna leave a comment and say he's a horrible person, just shut up and leave
"Tell your daughter you love her 'cause if you don't someone who doesn't will & she'll believe him." A simple and short sentence, full of wisdom and compassion. Sir, if all girls have had a father like you, I think our crazy world would be a much more better place. God bless you.
If modern society only had 1/10th consideration for boys and men. So many end up on drugs, suicide or no direction in life, and the worms around could care less. With no fault divorce, many men end up losing everything including the biggest which is their children. Men are sent to war to die, to build up society, protect women and children and for all that the media, big business and government demonizes and mock them and call them toxic. We live in such sick times that many times mothers/sisters will fight against this war on men while other treacherous men will pull down their fellow brother down.
This is a High Standard Dad. When my daughter turned 15, I made a deal with her. I can't avoid or forbid her to have a boyfriend, but we have a deal, and she is not choosing an idiot. I told her that I love her and I wouldn't let an idiot hurt her. Against all odds, it worked. My today Son In Law is a very good man, and he is taking good care of my girl. She is 27 now.
Yeah but if he tells them he loves his daughter’s fair enough. But you can’t be honest with them as there will be times they don’t like what your saying and revolt. And they will look for others.
SUPER EXCELLENT! My sweet daddy was a country boy...so i got all that and also he said, "don't take no $#@% from nobody" Im almost 60 now and that has served me well.
I’m 63 now, my Dad died when I was 13. Looking back, I can understand the effects life can have on a young girl who didn’t have a father growing up, especially a father to tell her he loves her. Trust me, it’s huge!!
63? Damn, I’ve always wondered how it would be like to be that old, to have lived life, and be left with an aftertaste. To quietly reconcile with your past actions and consider if they were the right choice. To know that your death is near, and somehow live with that fact, comfortably, every day. To be old.
“…Yes it most definitely is, it’s the “FIRST REAL TRUE AND WHAT LOVE SHOULD BE”, when daughters know how it feels too be loved, cuz love don’t suppose too ever hurt”!!! G-MOMMEE
@@HassleHoffer372 I would assume you’re young. It’s funny because when I was young, I never wondered what it would be like to be old. I had a great childhood and life. But I’m sure some things would have been different if my Dad hadn’t died when I was so young. I grew up in the 70’s, great decade, and without the stern hand of a father and my Mom being both parents, I was an unruly kid at times. Fortunately, I had a great Mom though who loved me more than life itself. She did everything for my sister and I, made sure we had everything. I went to college, had a career, lived a fun adventurous life, retired at 52. I have some regrets like not telling my Mom or showing her that I loved her as much as I wish I did, or spending as much time with her that I now wish I did. Don’t get me wrong, I did tell/show her that I loved her, but you always feel like you could have done more especially after they die, which she did 11 years ago. Her passing brought me to my knees and I have never been the same since, and I’ll never get over it. Maybe it’s a combination of getting older and having too much time on my hands that I think about these things. I do think about choices I’ve made, some I regret, but everyone makes not the best choices in life. I never got married nor had children, so I think about that too. It can be lonely at times since I have no family left, but I do have my friends and I still enjoy life with activities and hobbies, I’m healthy with not one ailment, still look good and in good shape for my age…63 isn’t that old, so I still have time to continue to enjoy what life has to offer. Death is not something I’m afraid of and I’ll be ready when the time comes. I have done a lot in my life so I don’t feel like I missed out on anything. The way this world is going, I don’t want to be here when it gets really bad. I am grateful that I grew up and was young during the best decades ever which imo was before the year 2000. So I’ll leave you with a quote you may be too young to have heard before, but one that I have lived by: “Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, “Wow what a ride!” ~ Hunter S. Thompson
Best advice I was ever given as a father was “they’ll treat each other and their future partners the way you treat yours, so show them what a loving husband and a good father looks like”
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.
Sadly even girls who know their father is trash... are atracted to men with the same traits. It's familiar behaviour. If while dating he seems better, they think he'll remain that way. They are used to low expectations, to bad behaviour excused as "oh, he's jealous because he loves me", to crumbs as good things.
Eh. To this day I've never seen a more devoted and loving man than my father. Growing up and still to this day he doted on my mother and treated/treats her like a queen. Never heard him say an unkind word or raise his voice toward her. My older brother still turned out to be a man whore who only treats certain women with respect and that's women who he believes respect themselves. We grew up in South Korea so you can imagine what type of woman this is. I know it's seen as out of date and sexist these days but a woman with a high body count and is loose with her body gets treated as such. So in addition to this, to protect your daughters against men like this tell them sleeping with every guy who looks in their direction isn't empowering.
@@icysnow57cold64Sounds like you've had bad experiences then or been surrounded by bad experiences. Sadly in this day and age romantic love is more rare but it sure does exist and I know this as I've experienced it and seen it first hand. The real kind. So it is out there it's just rare.
#4…don’t forget the importance hugging your children… the strength of Papa’s hug cements that feeling of protection that only a fathers touch can provide…. And your sons need that too!
Before my stepfather passed away he said that my family gave too many hugs. But this from a German immigrant family where abuse was the normal and surviving his own fathers terrible attitude was a necessity. We made sure to let our stepfather know he was important to us and gave him even more hugs after that.
I love that wholesome advice that went on about how loving your daughters and having a good relationship with them had them develop high expectations, and then you follow up with, "Plus I taught them how to shoot." It was funny that you ended the short with that, but it's a really good thing you did on raising them and teaching them to protect themselves. Good job 😊
I raised three girls. I gave them permission to defend themselves, we talked about the facts of life early and often. My girls could come to me for anything, even if they thought it would be embarrassing. I taught them to respect their sense of self-worth and to never give any part of themselves away to anyone who didn't deserve it. I have three well balanced and independent daughters who make me proud every day.
WHAT EVER WORKS AT ANY MOMENT .AT ANY I MEAN ANY TIME IN LIFE LIFE DAUGHTERS AND SONS I WILL ENFISIZE SONS ALSO BECOUSE THIS IS WHAT I WOULD HAVE WANTED IN MY LIFE. A PARRENT, THAT REMEMBERS HOW DIFFICULT IT IS TO MEET AN EXPECTATIONS TO THE ONE THEY LOVE THE MOST. SO SAD NOT TO talk about the world today.
To talk about what is in the world today with an open mind ,honesty, and confidence. Children should always be able to find their parents throughout and in like a NINJA(nijilism) .
Three things I learned from listening to this. 1. Girls, // babies and women aren’t safe with men 2. You sound like a cool dad 3. Men don’t hold each other accountable 🙃
You know whats harder when you date and dont know whats normal and whats not because you never been taugh so , thats how people fall into abusive relationship . I swear I have to google everything that make me feel a certain type of way in a relationship just to understand myself ..... Too much pain and uncertainty
Totally expected to see multiple comments from creepers offering to be your new dad!! Maybe there’s hope for us yet…although it is still early, they may show up later!!
Our parents were divorced and we didn’t have the benefit of a father’s advice, love and protection. Listening to you made me realize how much I wish our father had cared for us like you do for your daughter. 😢
remember you have best dad ever that is God. i realised that far long to late at the age of 28 and went through hell with men that never loved me, nor respected . i wanted to kill them but if i would know how to shoot i would end up in prison. instead i am free chilf of God. free od depression and madness that left me with that simple realisation. You have a Dad in heaven. Jesus Christ will never forsake you and will be always with you till the end of world.
Commendable to know when and how to seek advice and apply the feedback. Good for you and good for your daughters. I’m 39 and Pops and I are still working on it.
I raised my daughter myself, I always told her no matter what always tell me the truth, because if you don’t then we both won’t be able to solve the problem with false information. Second I told her I will never question her decisions, if she partied to much and no one can drive that I didn’t care no matter what, where and time of day and night I would come and get her and her friends and bring them all home safe. One night I got that call and showed up with old school head phones on as to not hear any of them talking and screaming drunk stories. And lastly I watched over her and payed attention to her actions, her moods, to know when changes occurred in her life. I knew many things that were going on all through her life. All her boy friends and so on. She is a very pretty girl. Even though my father died when I was a teenager, I made a promise to God and myself to be a great father. She’s my only child. Today she is a great woman. And never let me down, always was responsible. And she’s a fantastic Dr. my advice would be, be a part of your child life, be aware of them, their moods, their actions, their thought process, and most of all be there.
@@jkliz311 A wish never comes true if you keep it to yourself, try talking to them. Tell them what you could be if they would be what you wish for. I wish the best for you.
Six feet deep. gone for 10 years I still remember my dad telling me how much he loves me even when he was drunk...this love is enough to last me my whole life❤️❣️
@@theknittinkitten2954 she will be happy if she has your love. My mother did not want me and that made losing my dad hard. If you love her she will have a sense of her own value and will find father figures in teachers or pastors. You have the courage and the love to be enough for her.
Thank you for this. I have a 3 year old daughter and no idea if I’m even fit to raise her. I always question whether I’m raising her right, being too strict, teaching her the right things, praying over her and with her. … when she lays her head on me and wraps her arms around me and says “You’re the best Daddy in the world” it absolutely melts my heart and makes me tear up because I feel like she while she may not see me struggle, she knows Daddy will always love her forever. Thank you for this video💯
I was raised without father. When I was 5yo, I remember, I fell and broke my knees and a neighbor lifted me up and brought to my home, like an immense force of nature. That was the closest I ever felt to having a father. Good luck to you and your daughter!
Amen brother, Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths~
@@dimitriosv.3446your giving all the credit to someone else like most fools. Have know idea what your talking about. He will do fine cause he cares and he will do what is needed not because of god for god
@Larry schell @Larry schell If we are going by your logic, you and I are both as clueless as one another as to this man's situation. I only brought up God because this gentleman said he was praying over his daughter, and I am a Christian. I may be missing the mark, but my words are of comfort- My dad was in this situation when I was growing up, and he personally told me that when he reached out to be near God, marvelous things happened... He went from working hundreds of kilometres away, not home for weeks on end, (or miles for my American brothers and sisters 😁), to be working together as a family. I do have an idea as to what I am speaking about and it was quite heartfelt when I heard this man's story. I am no fool for acknowledging the almighty, nor is @Dr0_305 for praying over his precious daughter. I know he will do fine as a father, for reason relating to this man and reasons beyond our control. My prayers are with you Larry and Dr0, please take care.
Exactly. I had a father who hated me all my life, he treated horribly, and I’d never heard him say he loved me once. My parents divorced at the start of my adulthood, and when my mom remarried, that man has loved me and made sure I knew it every day. He will send me random texts just to remind me that he loves me, and will drop anything and everything for me at the drop of a hat. He didn’t raise me, but he’s my dad and I wouldn’t trade him for anything. I spent so many years in relationships with people who were like my father, but once I learned love from my dad, I met and married someone just like him. We accept the love we’re taught to deserve.
"Tell your daughter you love her because if you don't, someone who doesn't will and she'll believe them" is one of the wisest quotes I've heard in a long time.
Im actually in tears from that
Absolutely!
And it souns pretty much true
Learned from experience and that is true
My tears fell when he said that actually😭😭😭
As a girl who didn't have a dad around and also as a person who was looking for love in all the wrong places...this is true!!!
yeah exactly true😓
I'm sorry. I know how it feels. I had abusive parents. I hope you are doing better now.
So many of us have trauma from our father's not being there to protect & love on us in a non-sexual weirdo way!
Your not alone.
God bless you 🙏 ❤️ 🙌
Yeah. Me too. I had a narcissist, drunken man child for a father who never moved out of his mother's house. He was never in my life and all of my relationships were based on his dysfunctional perspective of love and life. May God bless you and help you find peace, self forgiveness and warm love.
Damn I felt that
Honestly that bit about "Tell them you love them, or if someone who doesn't will, and they'll believe them." Is good advice for any kid. How your parents treat you as a kid really sets your expectations and standards for what you deserve from others in the future.
as a former kid i confirm this fr and the video you should teach your kids to never lie to you and tell them to stay away from people don't watch porn and all other stuff my own mother teach me a lot of these things and they all have saved but she did not teach me don't watch porn its harmful so i got into it and it was very bad for me but i did not ever use cigar even tho i was the only among my Friends but thanks to my mothers advise which she give me every day i am not addicted to cigar unlike half of my Friends there and i ask you to teach your kids to be careful about peoples kids as they might be bully as well that they might try to Assault sexually assault which they did to me but i was saved cause they not run after me and they were thinking i wont tell my Family but i did that sometime later we moved from there to Afghanistan my home country
peace from Afghanistan.
@@Nima-ec4tr 😂
@@Scuffy what about this is remotely funny? The internet is weird.
@@SquashBits I'm guessing the "as a former kid" line
@@pepsy3085 bruh everything, from the a former kid to the Afghanistan
Sounds like my Dad. He made me the woman I am. I miss him everyday since his passing, but everyday I feel him in my heart and make him proud.
Sounds like his plan worked perfectly. Good Dad.
❤
Sounds like an amazing person. ❤
Guaranteed proud.
Bro my last name is bennett 💀
I know a lot of girls who's father's were the exact opposite and one of the most important stories I could tell is this one friend I had in middle school. We were around the same age(probably 15) and had similar interests so I went over to her house for the first time and the conversation led to talking about our families, she started crying after I told her that she deserves better and I asked if she wanted a hug, she proceeded to cling to me the whole time until I had to leave. She was so amazed that I actually listened to her and didn't get annoyed at her for being emotional and I'm 100% sure she would have done anything I asked her to if I had ulterior motives. So many girls don't know how to react when a guy is actually interested in their personal life or touches them in a non sexual manner (like a genuine hug) because they've never experienced it before and it makes them vulnerable to getting hurt or manipulated.
Thank you for being a genuine person and man, I hope many young and old men learn how to treat others like this and teach their children and brothers the same!
Oh ya as a kid growing up I was taught you only go to a guys house or hang out in a non public place is sexual. So now meeting new people and trying to have good relationships with guys I feel weird and literally don’t know how to act. Even tho We are both not interested there’s always that feeling that it can’t just be a friend ship. I will never do that to my daughter.
A message to those who read this, and to you: please, if you find these people, make sure to not only support them emotionally, but to bring their personality up so that they don't continue with this mentality.
Hugs are the bessttttt. Why has No one caught onto to the fact that hugs make everyone happy!
Your comment is honestly so true and I absolutely love your comment honestly. 💯🙌🏼
"Tell your daughter you love her 'cause if you don't someone who doesn't will & she'll believe him." The basic truth of this statement broke my heart & made me cry.
Yes but he got one thing wrong, partly. You show your daughters you love them because if you just say it then when someone else says it they will believe it, too. If you SHOW them and say it then when the person only says it and doesn't show it, they will discern the truth and not waste their time on lip service. Too many parents get this wrong and then wonder why their kids end up with classical and covert narcissists and other BS, user types. The answer is they fell for it because it was familiar, their childhood idea of love that their parent.or parents portrayed.. Prioritize your kids and they will not waste time on people who cannot and will not reciprocate! Don't spoil them with praise once in a while and ignore them the majority or they will seek that in a spouse without even knowing and those types will find them so quick and get their hooks in easy. Also, It is CRUCIAL to Treat your spouse the way you want your Kid's spouses to treat them! Role model it with actions and not just words or if you can't then get out of the way for someone who can if you want your kids to have their best chance in life.
@@amandachilds5290 gotta hol essay
@@Mxppxt is that too long? I mean most people don't click the "read more".so the first sentence is what really matters, right?.
@@amandachilds5290 nah I'm just making jokes it's all good lol
@@Mxppxt cool. No worries
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
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What do you mean by 'a Godly life'? Sounds like a bunch of indoctrination?
Don’t you want your children to be christian?
@@Arcadia61not indoctrination, wisdom
@@americanmariachi97I'll have double indoctrination and one wisdom please
"Young woman that had a high expectation for love, respect, and honesty." That right there is the key!
You forgot that they can shoot 😂
What respectable women truly are
He forgot to say that because of those high expectations they are single cuz no man is a match 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@AnimangaGirlChii I am a match 😂👌
@@AnimangaGirlChii You laugh but it's sad really that love, respect and honesty are too big of expectations for an adult grown man to fulfil in a relationship with an adult grown woman. Seems like we need to raise our boys to be men in stead of overgrown children, huh.
Respect man. Teaching your daughters how to find the right guy is way better than threatening any guy she brings home.
Something my dad said when my sister brought a guy home for the first time still sticks with me.
"No I'm not going to threaten him, because I respect you."
Your daughter is capable if you raised her to be, she doesn't need your protection all the time, but if she gets hurt she does need your comfort and support.
Amen brother. If you threaten the boyfriend it'll scare em away and mess the relationship up between guy and girl and girl and dad
@@tylernielsen3319 can vouch for this 🥲 my parents were super non-accepting of my current boyfriend and we've been through soooooo much shit, i can't even begin to explain; just because they believe they are right and.. ?? I honestly don't know what goes through a person's mind when they think its okay or justified to threaten someone that their child has chosen to love. And yeah, it's completely ruined our relationship. I can't talk to them the same way anymore, can't fully respect any of their opinions (Im still super respectful to them, just don't have any faith in any of their beliefs/opinions anymore), and my mental health (while already pretty shitty) took a DIIIIIIIVE 😂💀📉
Love your children, parents. In an unconditional, unselfish way that allows you to see them as individuals in their own right, with their own (STRONG) thoughts and emotions. Empathize with them in every way you can, because all of what you do as a parent has a major impact on an individual coming into the world.
Sorry for the long comment 💀😬
To be fair; the method of threatening who a child brings home is the easy way. Now that were all in cities or urban housing we should be able to do it the harder way bcus we have more time and more understanding of humans
having a worthy father is one of the biggest blessings anyone can have .
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I lost my father 3 weeks ago
@@ImperiumRomanum476 no reply needed. Everyone just agrees.
@@omarfatthy4893 sorry to hear, bro. Hope you have better days.
Seriously. Without them, we'll likely go down a darker path. God bless every father, including mine.
this goes to show how impactful a parent’s role can affect their child’s life. i’m glad your daughters have a dad like you, everyone deserves to have this connection.
Yess ✨✨, so lucky to have such father , btw childhood trauma is a very big thing , it is a very big cause for bipolar disorder!
@@kashviruparelia9464 I have bpd and I was loved and influenced by not very good people that found me during a rough time when I was younger, so I'm glad this guy actually knows what to do haha.
True that. I'm almost 29 years old. Male. Grew up without a dad and the differences between someone raised by a man and myself is drastic. I'm pretty much comparable to a 22 year old. Behind on so much.
@@BenChoad-e1eif you want to learn from someone who knows what hes talking about, has a son and a daughter.
Hes an former MMA fighter, who also has a couple of Ph'ds. He also admits he knew nothing when he left home, he has worked very hard at being a good dad. Not every podcast is about fatherhood but he talks about them throughout, what it takes to be a good guy, tattoos and all. He is NOT what you would expect a therapist who rides with SWAT teams to be like, lol. Just search for...
John Delony
( the dr john delony show )
As a teenager who's father is only present physically and very little emotionally, thank you. Your daughters will never know the pain of not being able to talk to or do stuff with their dad
Edit: I am so very sorry to everyone who has similar experiences with one or both of their parents. I sincerely appreciate the kind words too. I know my relationship with my parents will likely not improve due to certain circumstances, but I hope all of you are able to improve your relationships with your parent(s), and if not then I hope you can find a father/mother figure to be there for you and show you what love from that certain missing person feels like. Thankfully I have a father figure in my life, he and his wife have taken me under their wings and treat me like blood, allowing me to stay over sometimes, work for them, babysit their biological daughters, have dinners with them, etc. I am extremely lucky to have found someone like that, and I hope all of you do as well. If anyone ever wants to talk, I'm always here 😊❤️
I feel you. My father was the same way my entire life till he finally just left when I was 14. Which was the best since he was a narcissistic abusive ass but I’m getting away from my point. My point is even if he’s not there emotionally still just having a father even if he isn’t fully present is better than not having one at all. Trust me I know it sucks but it really is better than nothing. I really don’t like my father but honestly just knowing I had one even if I couldn’t come to him for anything it still helped.
Aye bruh ever need someone to talk to we got you
Maybe you can help me understand something. A bit of a story so bear with me. I have a niece who will be turning 16 in a couple months. Her father, my brother, committed suicide when she was an infant. She was adopted by a woman who was single so no father figure her whole life except my parents who could visit her a number of times over the years. My wife and I finally saw her this year twice. I was very happy to see her and I'm pretty sure she was happy to see me. I suspect and correct me if I'm wrong but I believe she very much wants to know me and is happy when I'm around because I'm the closest thing she has to her father. My wife told me she told her I'm more normal than my parents so I guess that's good lol
@@madphatdopeyo742 i know for me it’s always nice having a male role model in my life and does make me happy because it makes me feel like for even a moment that I do have a dad. Whenever I see anything about a dad being happy with his kids it’s like a stab in the heart cause I know I never or will ever have that. So I’m sure when she sees you especially being the uncle it’s kinda like she is drawn more to you because you’re the closest thing she’ll ever have to a dad. If I could give you advice just please try to always be in her life as much as you possibly can. With everything I went through with my own father both before and after he left made me suffer really really bad depression even a few years later. So it’s made me push away the only father figure I have.
Not the same situation, but my dad passed when I was a teenager. Absence (of any kind) of a father in his daughter’s life can be a hard wound to heal. I pray you find healthy and good hearted father figures to encourage you and speak truth to you when you need it, and that your father wakes up to how precious you are. Hang in there, it does get better ❤️
"How do I protect her from someone like you? " Beautiful
Aye w to the buddy atleast he didnt get super offensive and ignored it
@@Dk-hx2zv it's really hard to offend a guy friend, me and my friends say nasty things to one another and we're just laugh it off, of course there's a line that we shouldn't cross while joking with each other
@@Chad-bc9vi especially a military guy
@@candle_eatist maybe, but I think it's just guys in general
@@Chad-bc9vi True. Especially if you know each other, you can insult him in the most terrible way possible, but he will just do something back to you and laugh it off. Don't do it with strangers though.
it's the "you can always tell daddy the truth no matter what" for me, we need more parents like this man... comunication fkin matters
Open communication is EVERYTHING
Trueeee😩
When you have thoose man you leave them for Chad Thundercock....
You won't be seeing much of that in black households because of corporeal punishment
U are so right!...... but then u have parents who say that, but will flip out and make the situation worse bc u told them instead of being supportive & helping them even with the consequences. Then the child starts to realize that being open and honest with parent(s) maybe isn't a good idea..... thus the solitary teenage life begins.
Preach it dad ❤ Would’ve liked a father… around growing up that gave me his wisdom like you are with your girls 🤩 You’re doing great dad 🫶🏼
Dang hope u still had somone too replace that role and help u along the way. All love and good loks❤😊🎉
"Tell her you love her, because if you don't, someone that doesn't will, and she'll believe him" absolutely
And the flipside: that after getting burned by so many partners who lied to her about loving them, she won't believe it when someone who sincerely does tells her they love her.
Signed, a child of parents who only saw "love" for how much they could get from their offspring.
As someone with daddy issues this hits hard. I'm really glad there are people like you out there. Thank you for being cool and supporting your daughter.
Wow that broke my heart
@@TwilitFall if all the parents are getting from their child is a whore then I’m on the parents side, whore daughter don’t deserve no love. And I’m a child
but if you tell her you love her, and she sees you love her and someone else says it what difference does it make than the alternative?
There’s a real man. A good Dad.
Idk why you dont have more likes
You're right that is a real man. But with all due respect you're a woman and you don't get to talk about what makes a man a man as if you know what it's like. You don't see me calling girls who don't get abortions real women because that is their choice. I believe in gender equality and you clearly believe yourself to be superior to men based off of your statement assuming what it is like to be one. You are clearly a misandrist and I find it disgusting.
And a good husband.
Definitely
@@esefo909 wish granted but he should still have more
"She's a girl. Figured she might know some things. She did." This sparked joy for me.
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These words hit deep. Appreciate the wisdom shared here.
“Tell your daughter you love her bc if you don’t, someone who doesn’t will & she’ll believe him” oof that hit hard.
Frrr
Right in the heart
Its probably the most real and usefull advice ever
that's straight up the most appropriate way to prevent your daughter to have daddy issues
Yep, this is the biggest advice everyone must know. Tell the ones you love that you love them.
“Also taught them how to shoot just in case” best line period XD
Definitely! 🏆
Other countries: I gave my daughter a pepper spray, tazer....
Americans: I taught her how to shoot, just in case 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@xc4945 best father I’ve ever seen XD.
@memecat I mean Modern women tend to go after boys who are raised only by a single parent, mostly a mother. So the men that most likely have never had a father figure, to begin with, and worse, they are never around men who will act like it to them so the cycle continues.
My father is the kindest man I know, taught me how to shoot, how to have patience, and to be a kind human being. My mom tried to teach me to be a victim, to hurt those who hurt me, and to never fully trust a person even a friend (When they both separated). I don't hate my mother, but I noticed my sister was the same with her kids, my cousin was the same with her child and it's just something I noticed. We need both parents to make a decent human being, single parents make a monster 80% of the time.
That or never have a country parent marry a city parent XD
Except he didn't say the he said "I taught him how to shoot" which is weird thing to do as a thank-you for advice.
"how do i protect my daughter from someone like you?" cracked the shit out of me 😭💀💀
But that’s literally so smart. Players lowkey make the best fathers because they know what to help their daughters avoid
Players are masters at spotting broken/insecure women
@@donquixote3292 the best fathers but not mothers
While funny, it is absolutely true. I am 28, got a daughter that is 9 now, and i am deathly scared that she will end up hooking up with people that act like i did when i was younger. Thankfully i think i know the manwhore tips and tricks, considering i was one for many years.
And the other one didn't even have that fragile of an ego to get angry. I can't believe thats the worst man he ever encountered and if he is, well this dude has very cool people around him.
This works ! My dad told me how much he loved and treated me like a princess . Although my mom rarely did, when a man who didn’t love me pretended to I knew he didn’t because his actions didn’t line up. Saved me from the worst future imaginable
"Tell her you love her because if you don't some one who doesn't will and she will believe him " 💀 i need that
I hope the best for you and your future. I’m sorry for what you may have been through I’m life and I hope it gets much better each day❤️
Honestly everyone needs to be told by any type of parental figure that they are loved, and shown proper respect and care, because that shapes how they view their future relationships and gives them standards for friends or romantic partners.
I am SO with you on that ❤
I guess that would go for every guy who wants to be called 'daddy', even the ones who do love their girl.
honestly 💀
“Tell them you love them or someone who doesn’t will.” ❤
Also teach them to shoot just in case
I love that also. Sad that there are those wrong sort of guys to begin with. I don't know why their behavior is even tolerated by good men, but it's great when good men like this one do their best to love, protect and educate their daughters.
That's some sound advice.
Kinda makes no sense actually. Sounds nice, but what you say to your daughter doesn’t stop someone else from saying the same thing.
@@MosaidDeath the idea is to teach them how to tell the difference between sincere love and insincere ones. Of course if the dad does it right and truly cares for his daughter.
“Tell them you love them, because if you don’t. someone who doesn’t will, and they’ll believe them”
Such a good line, Ima steal that
1k like- but yeah
You probably won't ever need it
Atleast quote correctly 🤦
I don't need that now. I probably won't need that for a while. But someday that line will come in handy!
@@MurakiChiyo I mean it's kinda sad even if someone else who genuinely loves them but is a stranger. Yet the parent who raised them never uttered such foul words.
1. I never make my daughters do anything they don't want to do.
2. I told them they can always tell me the truth, and I'll never get angry.
3. I am always there for them.
4. I tell them I love and adore them every single day.
THey seem to be good girls and are happy with me so far. They're 13.
you're an amazing father! kuddos to you!
Such a good dad. He studied BEFORE the test!
@Mozarella king not too late to delete brother
no shit are you gonna revise after?💀
@MAN silly? bro these are youtube comments
@Mozarella king You think you sound smart, but that is literally what is happening in the real world, people don't bother "studying" let alone don't even care about the outcome anymore and will blame it on the "teacher" aka not taking responsability.
@Mozarella king um yeah
I told my daughter “nobody will ever love you as much as I do, but someday, someone else’s love will mean more to you”
Awe, that actually made me cry. My father's love still means more to me though. 💙
What a beauty of a phrase!! 🔥🔥
I cried reading this
😭😭😭😭😭😭
I just cried omg
He has the wholesomest friendship with his military friend.
Always will be a whore in your unit. My guy got penicillin prescribed so many times he was facing disciplinary actions from the higher ups lol
To the video creator. Your wife is a woman, not a girl. That’s condescending and sexist.
@@DX-d wtf
@@DX-d didnt ask
@@DX-d uhhh what?
It’s not so much about loving them but more about loving and respecting their mother. They will expect the kind of relationship they saw their parent have growing up
Yep, also really good point❤
What is it with weirdos turning familial love into a weird competition between parents and children. You caylove them both there's no need to rank them, that a sick and twisted way of making someone lesser.
“How do i protect my daughter from someone like you?”
Hilarious🤣
"You couldn't even protect yourself!"
"Draw your blade..."
That’s an honest relationship right there
it's very true
It's a genuine question for sure.
You can't. No matter how great of a Dad you are, you will not be able to protect him/her from predators.
As a girl who's father never told he loved her this hits real hard. Thank you
i agree
Same here. I wish my dad valued me when I was growing up but instead he beat me up till I was 20
@@marymusau1662 Sending you cyber hugs, I can't imagine thew damage that did to you. I hope you work through it, sending you love and light
@@kirabozeridahsarah thanks. Much appreciated. I have moved on from that toxic life.
agreed knowing they love you does not ease the pain of never hearing the words. words unspoken are just as painful.
😍 This is spot on! My stepdad raised me and I didn't have an involved father before him. He sent me Valentine's gifts to school and had 16 roses delivered to class on my 16th birthday. He took me out often, just me and him, to a nice restaurant or a movie and listened to everything going on in my life. He taught me I had value and to respect myself. I wasn't perfect, but I was not running around with boys like my friends. I wasn't looking for validation because I had that. My husband is wonderful and loves me the way my daddy loved my mama because he set the bar watching how he treated her and us. He's my guiding light because he didn't have to be, but I felt better about myself because he wanted to be my father, even if my bio dad didn't. He always treated me equally to my siblings that came after me, and I'm so thankful for him. That is what a father is, steadfast and constant! ♥️
The Bible says, there is a special blessing for being a dad to a child. That blessing is the love of a child :)
He teach you how to shoot too? 😂
That's love babey!!!
@@itzkong he did lol.
this is giving sussy imposter
Thankyou for this wisdom brother, I have a little princess on the way, I was an only child raised by two families filled with boys. Sometimes I lack with the emotional words coz I don’t see the value in them; but this information you shared here is very simple, but so true and easily overlooked in a male dominated household when you’re taught to stand on your own and suck it up.
Thankyou again, can already tell youre a great father and a good example!
What a great dad, seriously hope my future kids have a dad just like this.
Can you read You're comment again for me real quick I'm doing homework right now
Just realized you're a girl
💀💀
@@biology9810 you're not the only one who thought 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am... So when we having kids-
Whenever I see dads who genuinely care about their daughters like this and actively make sure they're being a good father... It makes me tear up a little 🥺
Makes me wish I had one like that
It’s sad that it seems to be uncommon lol. Pisses me off there a people having children and NOT thinking about how they can be a good parent.
"genuinely care"
@@CharlieCabralos I’ve always said there should be a licensing procedure to become a parent
@@CharlieCabralos rightt fr tho, a father/parent who cares and is active in their kids lives should NOT be noteworthy. That should be standard and bare minimum
"I thought he was about to say the second person was me"
- His mom
💀💀💀💀
🤗
Lol
Aww ..we always get left out...they seem to think we don't know...or we aren't in the know
@@coveredbychrist54 I'm guessing he probably doesnt have a sister lmao
Perfect, exactly my plan. Except in 2017 I unfortunately lost my 15 1/2 year-old daughter on a lacrosse field in Colorado. Even almost 7 years later, I still don't know what the hell happened. The only thing worse than me, losing my daughter that day was watching my wife lose her daughter! I don't know I had to share that, but I guess I just need to.
how? I don't understand? Did she wander off or something like that?
God bless your family and I am sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I hope sharing that helped ease any burden or pain not sharing was causing. It's strange how cathartic saying/typing it out can be, even to strangers on the internet. Blessings and healing upon you, Sir 💔💐
Most men are not strong enough to talk about they're demons.
But it helps. Not to get over something this, but living is easyer If the weight of the heart is carryed by more than one.
God bless you and your wife!
Your living a parents nightmare, im so sorry for your loss.
My parents are divorced and that part where he said "tell them you love them or someone who doesnt will and she'll believe them" hit so hard. I never really saw my dad that often growing up, probably once every few weeks. Then he got a girlfriend, had 2 kids, and moved to the suburbs. So of course, I see him every few years now. He never once told me he loved me. But I watched him say it to his kids. Now I have to sit there at his wedding in 6 months and watch him say it to a woman he met 6 years ago. You're a good father, I wish I had one like you growing up.
I am sorry this has happened to you, Sianna. Big hug.
You don’t gotta go to his wedding and bring that hurt upon yourself. Choose yourself, you deserve your happiness without him . He’s chosen his already. Too many fathers never realize how much their children really need them until they need their children to be there for them. Not everyone deserves to be a parent or even should.
Ahhhh sweet heart.
@@michaelahenshaw4344 OP didn't bring up their mother but meantioned enough to imply that the relationship probably ended poorly and slowly. Most guys have to completely cut ties to keep from getting emotionally blackmailed by the one in control of whatever they are hoping to build. With parenting that means not saying what you want to or need to say to your kids so that thier mom doesn't use to as a knife later to twist in you.
So sorry to hear this. Tell your dad one day how you feel please. He needs to hear it loud and clear. And, also you don’t have to be there for him if you really don’t want to. Your feelings matter also.
As a girl who has a dad like you, know this:
1) We're more thankful than all the "thank you's" we give💕
2) You will ALWAYS have a home with us, and we will give you dessert first when you're old- because the rule is "just don't tell Mom".🤷🏾♀️
3) It doesn't matter who we said our best friend is- you're the best friend. 👨👧
I love this!!
I'm barely 20 years old but reading this really inspired me to become the best dad possible when the time comes. I mean I had already thought about it, giving someone what I never had, but reading this made me realize that yeah, I want that someone to be my baby girl or boy someday
@@NephiylusBaphson When your time comes, I'm rooting for you sweetheart.💝
maybe having kids ain't that bad
HAHAHA I'm sorry! I'm sorry! But as an erotica writer, a daughter having the rule "Just don't tell mom" with her father has an ENTIRELY different meaning when I read it lmao I'm still laughing!
Very sweet though, very sweet, when I become a father I'll do my best to be one that is truthful, honest, and supportive.
I got chills at the “tell your daughter you love them, because if you don’t, someone else who doesn’t will and she’ll believe them”. If more fathers heard those words there’d be way less women who live for the validation from men that they never got from their fathers because their fathers didn’t know how to be emotionally available towards their daughters since their fathers probably weren’t that way with them.
That was literally the best parenting advice I've ever heard
damn, what a weakness. that sucks :/
@@stevispevisclips4429 what the fuck
@piztah *thats* what im saying. dont get me wrong. im being empathetic to the cause.
Or your dad just ghosted your ass when you were 4 months old and died in your 20s before you ever got to meet him, like me.
My man…..the most simplistic definition of being a father has never been said before!!!! God bless you and all the daughter dads out there!!!!!!!
I love that you went straight to a man who you had hoped your daughter would not encounter her own version of lol, I wish my dad had protected me from his friends who treated women / girls poorly instead of introducing me and allowing them to treat me badly as well. Your daughter is a lucky girl and I can tell you’re a great father ❤ We need more of you:)
This hurts to hear but my pity won't help so all I'll say is hope your life is going well and joyful!
Stay positive my friend!
@@yuma2528 Aw well same to you! Thank you ☺️
My parents were naive enough to believe that people like that would never end up remotely close to their daughter. But they grew up before the internet and I grew up on the internet. It's gonna happen. If you're not honest with yourself about what your kids can be exposed to, they'll still be exposed to it, but they won't be prepared or know how to maturely handle it.
@@ashleybro6933 same feeling but different circumstances, my parents were very much the same way. My mum had a friend who's kid almost commited suicide and that friend said "I had no idea he was struggling, you should talk to your kids and make sure they're okay" and my mum responded "my kids are fine, they would never do anything like that."
At that time I had been struggling with clinical depression for nearly a decade and self harm for about half that time.
Parents like to imagine that these bad things could never possibly happen to their own kids but like you said it is just naive.
Hope you and your family do well sister
That guy friend's advice was premium. Like actually, genuinely such good advice
You need someone else to know that you should tell your daughter you love her? Yikes dude
@Francia-cv9wtit’s most of the video, did you watch it?
@Francia-cv9wtare you okay? Can this man speak for himself? Bye!
@@gsp4prezit’s not exactly telling her that he loves her, but getting advice to know how to keep his daughter away from men who fool around, the advice being “don’t neglect her and she’ll know who actually loves her.”
@@gsp4prez My brother is christ you missed the point
“Tell your daughter you love her, because if you don’t, someone who doesn’t will and she’ll believe him.” Best line ever said❤
This can be applicable God being the Father who is telling His daughters that He loves them and also He helps them to be united with their rib mates - husbands sent by Him to them and not with counterfeits.
@@glorytothealmightycreator wtf?
@@glorytothealmightycreator 🤦🏻♂️
@@rickykozak58 , first, please speak civilised. Secondly, yes, spiritually, this can be a message from the Heavenly Father through Ruah ha'Kodesh- Holy Spirit, but obviously it's not for you.
Shalom and have a blessed day
( P.S. learn to see and hear with Holy Spirit's help beyond natural images and words 🙂)
@@glorytothealmightycreator bruh🤦
coming from someone who was only told i love you or hugged by my family a handful of times in childhood and growing up, i can tell you i have no respect for myself and everyone walks all over me, i don’t know how to say no to men who are nice to me and if someone tells me they love me no matter who i feel like i owe them my life and have an obligation to do everything they say. i have countless horror stories of men taking advantage of me simply because i thought it was mean to say no, and i took to it extremes i wont even talk about because these men ‘loved me’ and i didnt piece together that this probably all stems from my parents for a very long time. still struggle immensely and cannot get myself out of dangerous situations with men. hug your kids and tell them you love them
"How do I protect my daughter from someone like you?" 💀💀💀
His mate was on point tho, damn. 💀
weed
That Wass actually a good person to ask like the old saying goes to catch a criminal you have to think like a criminal
@@orestisveseli1603 I doubt he actually asked that. Especially before the daughters were even born or old enough to even be thinking on that level.
@Monkey D Luffy Lol Oda level foreshadowing.
A girl went to a party where she was having a good time until everyone started using drugs. She told her friend she needs to leave immediately. Her friend said: “Why? Are you scared your Dad’s gonna hurt you if he finds out?” She replied: “No. I’m scared I’m gonna hurt my dad if he finds out”. 💔
God bless you!
Based reply.
That took balls for her to say that. Hat’s off
Family is the best bond you can have, and to destroy that over some temporary feeling good drug bs then you seriously have some problem
but she wasn't against taking them if jer dad wasn't a factor, she doesn't have internal motivation
Basically “Don’t give them Daddy Issues”
And teach them how to fight for themselves. ✊
Yup.
Daddy knows daddy cares now back to work
And daughters are lesbian 😂😂😂😂
Daddy so important! I selected the best dad by looking at his friends, sister and mother and how he treated his cats! Best caretaker for the animals and respectful to his sister n mother! He adores the girls 🎉
I respect the fact you reached out to someone else for advice. A very humble and wise man. ❤
This hit home. If my dad told me he loved me and meant it, we would be talking.
Go talk before it's too late
@@abhaypatel4292 💯
Go talk to him before it's too late some people wish they knew there dad and have him around but won't ever get that
Do you tell him that you love him? If not, start with that. It is going to be magical.
Or hug him every day. Pick whichever comes easier to you.
If you've tried to fix things and he hasn't done his part, then be at peace because you've done your part and thats all you can do. If not, then do your part and see what happens. Either way, you'll be blessed and have an answer whether than be in limbo. Hang in there and God bless you.
Nick: How do I protect my daughter from someone like you?
Army Friend: I’ve been preparing my whole life for this moment.
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Army Friend: I've been preparing my whore life for this moment
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Lol
My father is dead. Cancer, two years ago. I'm the only one in my family who misses him. Watching this brought me to tears. You're a good dad. You remind me of my dad. I wish I had spent more time with him before it was too late. He always told me he loved me and I look back on that now with so much respect and gratitude. At the time I kind of took it for granted but now I know. Now I regret. For anyone reading this, if you're a father make sure your children know you love them and if you're a child make sure your father knows you love him. Before it's too late. Please. So you don't regret it. This video meant a lot to me and it means the world for a father to show his love and a child to reciprocate that. Please don't take your father for granted.
Edit: Wow, I never expected so many likes. Thank you all for the support. And those of you who have nothing nice to say please mind your own business.
Same here amber
I know I'm just some random stranger but I hope things have gotten better
He knows. Trust me, he knows. And he still loves you like crazy.
Yep, people really have to talk about dead people no matter the argument.
Well, ain't gonna stop you, I'm just tired of seeing it everywhere on the internet.
Even in the darkest moments, parents only see that little smile.
My parents divorced when I was two, but he worked so hard to always be there for me. I'm glad you have given your girls the love and support they need. ❤️
My parents also divorced when I was two. It leaves a mark. Do your best to be you, and not the hurt.
I had to leave my daughter's mom she was narcissistic 😔 any tips?
@@taazzmaann the mother or the daughter?
@@ItchiestBum the mother, i took her to court and earned 50% custody where I essentially have my daughter for half the year now although our realationship is great I want to know what to maintain
I want to throw in another piece of advise as well. As the daughter of a military vet and now cop father if ever you have a bad day at work and your in a bad mood, Take a long drive and difuse before coming home. Because if you go home you will explode at some point, she will be around and that will make her want to stay away from you instead of coming to you during hard times.
A long drive on some peaceful country roads really can help you calm your mind. Works for me pretty well.
EXCELENT Piece of Advice. That or Teach your Children your Positive methods to diffuse a "Bad Mood". Mine was to to Buy whole Chickens and see how quickly I could "Disassemble" them by different methods. My Favorite was skin intact Boneless Stuffed roast chicken. The Chicken looks like a cushion when you are done. And You have a tasty chicken, or a Loaf of Bread, when you are done.
Agreed. We avoided my dad, he was ALWAYS angry...
And marry, and be drawn to what they learn. You marry what you come from. Girls need father's who are good to them. I married two charmers who were wife beaters and abusers. Guess where I learned that from? I married men like my father.
EXCELLENT ! EXCELLENT ! 👍👍👍
this made me cry. it’s nice to see fathers out there caring for their children and making an effort to connect with their daughters. the world needs more dads like you o7
Careful, cause these dad's will also forbid to have a boyfriend.
This is most dads, the media just makes it out to look like there are way more terrible dads in this world than there actually are.
You crybaby
@@Somedude3549 yeah, well
Most of the dads where you are maybe.
But i have a lot of friends with even me, who either don't have a father or a father douche, and because of that we have all kinds of problems
@@Somedude3549 The majority of women can agree this is NOT most dads. 😓 Most dads are incestuously possessive of their daughter’s virginity. 🤢🤮
That works, I had an awesome dad. Miss him everyday. Good for you for doing it right.
imagine someone coming up to you like "yo how do i get my kids to stay away from people like you" lmao
slay tho
One thing about man whores is that they are pretty honest to themselves, they know they are trash for the situation they are in and are will to share trade secrets to help become like them or to avoid becoming like them lol I had 5 friends who fit that bill and they did just that (share what they know and experienced with so I can make an informed decision)
woahh
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Honestly I'd be pissed, I know I WOULD be a bad influence to kids but still
The fact the Manwhore guy was so blatantly honest shows a bit of character in him that I can respect. It takes a strong character to be able to tell the honest truth even if it's negative against yourself.
I'm guessing he was either a marine or soldier with that mentality. Those brothas don't have many effs left to give
Because he doesn't exist...
Of course, that’s that raw uncut military mindset 💪🏽
Men are straightforward i mean real men.
Men are this way because they have no other options. They have no other options because women choose to sort themselves out into harems. The wrong guy is the loser resorting to manipulation to get what he wants.
“The first person was my wife, Tina, cause she’s a girl.” Amazing line, love it
"Figured she might know some things. She did." What a shocker. XD
@@IzzyKawaiichi lol
Loved it too
This is very true. Always makes me happy and a little emotional to see dads who love and care about their kids. ❤
I immediately started crying after "tell her you love her, because if you don't then someone who doesn't will and she'll believe him."
This is painfully true.
You're a great dad.
I mean, the man whore got a point. Gotta write this down
NGL, the man-whore would probably also make a good dad one day (if that rubber ever breaks). Know the enemy? Know thyself.
I love you
as a daughter with daddy issues, i wish i had a father like this
Me too! I've always wondered what it's like to be loved like that by a Dad/Daddy??? I am that girl that believes the creeps that lie.
Same.
like a relationship with a crush should be way more unrealistic than to have one with your own father or father figure, i get it
As a father with daughter issues I wish I had a daughter like you..I’m kidding I just wanted to see how weird that sounded I love my baby girl and I hope you find peace !
@@danielrivera1833 Caught in 4K 📸🤨📸.
I don’t know why it hit so hard when he said “made sure to let my daughters know I love them and how they can be honest and feel protected by their dad” but I can’t stop crying
This did the same for me. The thing is I know why. I have a family made up of mostly women and my father was less than half present to actually develop what this man is talking about…
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Personally, that line hit me bcs my dad left me when I was 18. I never knew why and when I tried to look for him he just ignored me. And ironically, when he left, I wasn't even surprised just disappointed. Even as a kid I never felt loved or cared by him, just a burden but I remember doing a LOT to gain his approval and affection. It never felt like I did enough. The other males in my family have been the same. It does take a toll, so it hurts. I hope it gets better for us 💜 so idk I'm telling you this (a life story no on asked or cares about) bcs a family member's behavior affects us and sometimes it doesn't even take them doing something physically but emotionally (even unconsciously) to also hurt us. So it's understandable. I won't say it's ok but I hope u can feel a little better some day. 💜
+ for me, it took some years to see my worth and value myself. I thankfully never had to learn that with the wrong individual, so I'm grateful for that. I truly hope u can smile soon. :)
@@Rox7ne Thank you for sharing your story.
Same, i was raised by my dad, and also have a younger sister from his second marriage. I always tought that i struggle in relationship cuz my mom only had a selfish love for me, she needed me for validation, not to give me motherly love. But now i know im mostly fucked up bc of my dad, and im so sorry for my sis, the only thing we know is emotional fear. Bc he would never hurt us physically and thats enough for him. No work done on himself. He angry? We have to tiptoe around him. Dont want to make him a tea? Drama about him dying alone cuz no one will even give him water when he gets old yada yada.
But i already cried bc of him today so luckily this only hit right but didnt made me cry.
Once again you're spot on as usual. Isn't it nice to have?These beautiful daughters to be proud of for what they are on the inside
“Tell your daughter you love her, because if you don’t, someone who doesn’t will and she’ll believe it…” why’d this hurt so much 😂💀😅
So much truth though.
Cause it's true...
“Also I taught them how to shoot just in case”
This is the most AMERICAN statement i’ve ever heard 🤣
Right hahahah
And for all non American dads- how to make it hurt and get away
We all should be able to do it. Why "only Americans" should have the good sense to do so?
That’s racist
@@RamiAli0821 bffr🤣
Wish I had a dad like that. Made me tear up, you’re doing great
I love you
@@DCas312 You are the guy he warned about..
Go love your mom.
@@DCas312 I love you no homo
I was that teenager who had no self respect and a father who didn’t even try, I got loved a lot, then they were done with me and moved on. Dads out there reading this... daughters learn self respect from you, and they get self esteem from you... if you don’t want a loose daughter make sure she knows how to love herself through your actions 💕
Me too man my “dad” thinks that if he buys me stuff occasionally its enough . He doesnt feel the need to verbally tell me he loves me/or communicate with me at all. But he’s a step so oh well. I still remember one day out of rage I almost told him that while yes, he is married to my mother so he is technically my step father, never once have I considered him my dad and he will never be my dad, that he’ll never be that man a daughter sees as loving, kind or my standard for guys or even just people. Sometimes i wish i’d told him that maybe it’ll make him realise he isnt as good as a father he thinks he is. Or that i’ll never have the precious memories my sister(his biological daughter) has with him. sorry for the long paragraph, I just had to get it out.
brilliant i wish i had a dad like you god bless you and your family , iv had an awful life made so many mistakes and found all the wrong guys looking for what i never got from my dad ,your mate was defo right with his advice
I feel I learned these things from my mother's toxic relationships 💀
Oof you alright now?
You’re a strong one, just know you’re so loved ❤
Best father in the world be like: "also I taught them how to shoot, Just in case."
You okay GMD?
POV america
Okay
Yeah bc that's what makes the best father in the world 🙄 get your priorities in check.
@@saladnander3690 boo hoo
EVERY future daddy, or even current daddy should listen to this. This is solid advice 👍
I wished so much I had a dad like this. Youre daughters are surely highly appreciative to have you as her dad. ❤
As a woman with a dad that never said "I love you" and an abusive, toxic ex-fiance...this made me cry.
I hope your life gets better! This world is full of evil people. Merry Christmas!
Sorry probably won't do anything but I'm sorry you had to go through that hope you feel better now and that the finance of yours is an ex
I hope life gets better for you. I'm sure there is someone out there only looking for you ❤️
Aww I hope it gets better for you ❤
No lovers bozo 😭
I want to add that the other way to be a great father and role mode is to treat their mother with love and kindness so our girls know that is what they should expect from their husbands. When my brilliant and beautiful daughter was asked by her husband why she married him she said “because you are so much like my Dad”. Best compliment I ever got.
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It's kinda weird as a compliment but I get it
@@Dukes3677 It’s not weird at all
@@Dukes3677 I just meant that I lived a good enough life as a husband and father that my daughter wanted the exact same thing in a man she married. She once told me I was the “perfect man”. I’m not of course but that I’m happy she thinks so and I do take that as the ultimate compliment because it meant I was good at the most important job of all, raising our children.
That's so sweet. Kids learn best by example :)
"How do I protect my daughters from guys like you"
Lmao, that's a good friendship
Edit: idk what's going on with people, in the replies. I just thought it's funny that his friend was a good sport, and gave him some advice
People keep saying that the other guy manipulates women or whatever, but we don't know that- don't check the replies, it's all just arguing
Edit2: If you actually *watch* the dang video- he says, "tell your girls that you love them. Because if you don't, someone who doesn't(...)" this dude never said anything about what he does- if you're gonna leave a comment and say he's a horrible person, just shut up and leave
Boys will be boys 😂
I mean, just the fact that the dude actually gave him solid advice.
@@PlanetHouston he is bad guy, but he is not “bad, guy.”
@@zukoHD lol
it takes a big man to know he is not a good man, but unfortunately it takes a bigger man to change
"Tell your daughter you love her 'cause if you don't someone who doesn't will & she'll believe him." A simple and short sentence, full of wisdom and compassion. Sir, if all girls have had a father like you, I think our crazy world would be a much more better place. God bless you.
protect them from @hicouples
I thought the Guy would just respond "you can't" but he actually helped
Nice work raising those strong women
If modern society only had 1/10th consideration for boys and men. So many end up on drugs, suicide or no direction in life, and the worms around could care less. With no fault divorce, many men end up losing everything including the biggest which is their children. Men are sent to war to die, to build up society, protect women and children and for all that the media, big business and government demonizes and mock them and call them toxic. We live in such sick times that many times mothers/sisters will fight against this war on men while other treacherous men will pull down their fellow brother down.
This is a High Standard Dad.
When my daughter turned 15, I made a deal with her. I can't avoid or forbid her to have a boyfriend, but we have a deal, and she is not choosing an idiot. I told her that I love her and I wouldn't let an idiot hurt her. Against all odds, it worked.
My today Son In Law is a very good man, and he is taking good care of my girl. She is 27 now.
glad it all worked out for you truly.
Congratulations happy it work out for you
Aww that’s so sweet! 🤭
Yeah but if he tells them he loves his daughter’s fair enough.
But you can’t be honest with them as there will be times they don’t like what your saying and revolt.
And they will look for others.
@@KyleTheDalekUhh…if you raise them right, they will respect your honesty. I know I do, and my parents are practically my best friends.
SUPER EXCELLENT!
My sweet daddy was a country boy...so i got all that and also he said, "don't take no $#@% from nobody"
Im almost 60 now and that has served me well.
I’m 63 now, my Dad died when I was 13. Looking back, I can understand the effects life can have on a young girl who didn’t have a father growing up, especially a father to tell her he loves her. Trust me, it’s huge!!
63? Damn, I’ve always wondered how it would be like to be that old, to have lived life, and be left with an aftertaste. To quietly reconcile with your past actions and consider if they were the right choice. To know that your death is near, and somehow live with that fact, comfortably, every day.
To be old.
@@HassleHoffer372 I did that even though I’m 18,guess all you need is some depression 🙃
“…Yes it most definitely is, it’s the “FIRST REAL TRUE AND WHAT LOVE SHOULD BE”, when daughters know how it feels too be loved, cuz love don’t suppose too ever hurt”!!! G-MOMMEE
Rest In peace for your dad :
@@HassleHoffer372 I would assume you’re young. It’s funny because when I was young, I never wondered what it would be like to be old. I had a great childhood and life. But I’m sure some things would have been different if my Dad hadn’t died when I was so young. I grew up in the 70’s, great decade, and without the stern hand of a father and my Mom being both parents, I was an unruly kid at times. Fortunately, I had a great Mom though who loved me more than life itself. She did everything for my sister and I, made sure we had everything. I went to college, had a career, lived a fun adventurous life, retired at 52. I have some regrets like not telling my Mom or showing her that I loved her as much as I wish I did, or spending as much time with her that I now wish I did. Don’t get me wrong, I did tell/show her that I loved her, but you always feel like you could have done more especially after they die, which she did 11 years ago. Her passing brought me to my knees and I have never been the same since, and I’ll never get over it. Maybe it’s a combination of getting older and having too much time on my hands that I think about these things. I do think about choices I’ve made, some I regret, but everyone makes not the best choices in life. I never got married nor had children, so I think about that too. It can be lonely at times since I have no family left, but I do have my friends and I still enjoy life with activities and hobbies, I’m healthy with not one ailment, still look good and in good shape for my age…63 isn’t that old, so I still have time to continue to enjoy what life has to offer. Death is not something I’m afraid of and I’ll be ready when the time comes. I have done a lot in my life so I don’t feel like I missed out on anything. The way this world is going, I don’t want to be here when it gets really bad. I am grateful that I grew up and was young during the best decades ever which imo was before the year 2000. So I’ll leave you with a quote you may be too young to have heard before, but one that I have lived by:
“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, “Wow what a ride!”
~ Hunter S. Thompson
Best advice I was ever given as a father was “they’ll treat each other and their future partners the way you treat yours, so show them what a loving husband and a good father looks like”
Yes! I believe a good father is a good husband first and vice versa!
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together.
Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.
Sadly even girls who know their father is trash... are atracted to men with the same traits. It's familiar behaviour. If while dating he seems better, they think he'll remain that way. They are used to low expectations, to bad behaviour excused as "oh, he's jealous because he loves me", to crumbs as good things.
Eh. To this day I've never seen a more devoted and loving man than my father. Growing up and still to this day he doted on my mother and treated/treats her like a queen. Never heard him say an unkind word or raise his voice toward her. My older brother still turned out to be a man whore who only treats certain women with respect and that's women who he believes respect themselves. We grew up in South Korea so you can imagine what type of woman this is. I know it's seen as out of date and sexist these days but a woman with a high body count and is loose with her body gets treated as such. So in addition to this, to protect your daughters against men like this tell them sleeping with every guy who looks in their direction isn't empowering.
@@icysnow57cold64Sounds like you've had bad experiences then or been surrounded by bad experiences. Sadly in this day and age romantic love is more rare but it sure does exist and I know this as I've experienced it and seen it first hand. The real kind. So it is out there it's just rare.
#4…don’t forget the importance hugging your children… the strength of Papa’s hug cements that feeling of protection that only a fathers touch can provide…. And your sons need that too!
This. All of it. Everything you commented hits my heart very near and dear, many ways... 💯!!!
Truest words I have heard, if ever
and they never do it.
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Before my stepfather passed away he said that my family gave too many hugs. But this from a German immigrant family where abuse was the normal and surviving his own fathers terrible attitude was a necessity.
We made sure to let our stepfather know he was important to us and gave him even more hugs after that.
I love that wholesome advice that went on about how loving your daughters and having a good relationship with them had them develop high expectations, and then you follow up with, "Plus I taught them how to shoot." It was funny that you ended the short with that, but it's a really good thing you did on raising them and teaching them to protect themselves. Good job 😊
I raised three girls. I gave them permission to defend themselves, we talked about the facts of life early and often. My girls could come to me for anything, even if they thought it would be embarrassing. I taught them to respect their sense of self-worth and to never give any part of themselves away to anyone who didn't deserve it. I have three well balanced and independent daughters who make me proud every day.
Your daughters are definitely lucky to have you as their dad 😊
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WHAT EVER WORKS AT ANY MOMENT .AT ANY I MEAN ANY TIME IN LIFE LIFE DAUGHTERS AND SONS I WILL ENFISIZE SONS ALSO BECOUSE THIS IS WHAT I WOULD HAVE WANTED IN MY LIFE. A PARRENT, THAT REMEMBERS HOW DIFFICULT IT IS TO MEET AN EXPECTATIONS TO THE ONE THEY LOVE THE MOST. SO SAD NOT TO talk about the world today.
To talk about what is in the world today with an open mind ,honesty, and confidence. Children should always be able to find their parents throughout and in like a NINJA(nijilism) .
Three things I learned from listening to this. 1. Girls, // babies and women aren’t safe with men
2. You sound like a cool dad
3. Men don’t hold each other accountable 🙃
As a woman whose father abused and abandoned her, this is the kind of father girls need. Hats off to you. :)
His loss.
Skill issue
You know whats harder when you date and dont know whats normal and whats not because you never been taugh so , thats how people fall into abusive relationship .
I swear I have to google everything that make me feel a certain type of way in a relationship just to understand myself .....
Too much pain and uncertainty
@@Maaalek your not funny. she got abused by her dad?
Love you ❤️
I wish I had a dad like you growing up 💔
Your girls are truly blessed to have a father like you looking out for them
Wish I had A dad at all. Unfortunately I had none.
Ditto
Totally expected to see multiple comments from creepers offering to be your new dad!! Maybe there’s hope for us yet…although it is still early, they may show up later!!
Nice dp. It looks cool on the dark version of RUclips 😊.
Even if you had a father like him you will have regrets in life for other things. Life is not 100% accept it.
Love the dad you are! And the husband you are. God bless you!
That last part was hilarious… “and I taught them to shoot…”
That was dumb.
But I guess it entertained the kids
@@ThePresentation010 goobegarblegord
It’s funny until you realize they’re most likely to be hurt by someone they trust. That’s why the first part is more important.
@@wanderingmercurymarauder761 oh would you just shut it?
Our parents were divorced and we didn’t have the benefit of a father’s advice, love and protection. Listening to you made me realize how much I wish our father had cared for us like you do for your daughter. 😢
To those that liked my comment, thank you for your kindness. Have a wonderful holiday season & Happy New Year.
I'm sorry for what you've been through, I experienced the same
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Im with you on this one!
Wish I had this protection & guidance in my life.😥
remember you have best dad ever that is God. i realised that far long to late at the age of 28 and went through hell with men that never loved me, nor respected . i wanted to kill them but if i would know how to shoot i would end up in prison. instead i am free chilf of God. free od depression and madness that left me with that simple realisation. You have a Dad in heaven. Jesus Christ will never forsake you and will be always with you till the end of world.
@@tinatina4789 A dad that doesn’t interact with you and doesn’t do anything this person would have love to have…
Man is out here doing what most dads fail to do. tip my hat to ya sir.
I misread hat as hair
@@adains8819LMAO
Spitting out straight facts, my guy!😎
Most mom's are failing to be role models out there, that's the problem. Not dad's lol
@@jkuhedei think it’s a reasonable variety of both. These comments having “most” is unnecessary
Commendable to know when and how to seek advice and apply the feedback. Good for you and good for your daughters.
I’m 39 and Pops and I are still working on it.
I raised my daughter myself, I always told her no matter what always tell me the truth, because if you don’t then we both won’t be able to solve the problem with false information. Second I told her I will never question her decisions, if she partied to much and no one can drive that I didn’t care no matter what, where and time of day and night I would come and get her and her friends and bring them all home safe. One night I got that call and showed up with old school head phones on as to not hear any of them talking and screaming drunk stories. And lastly I watched over her and payed attention to her actions, her moods, to know when changes occurred in her life. I knew many things that were going on all through her life. All her boy friends and so on. She is a very pretty girl. Even though my father died when I was a teenager, I made a promise to God and myself to be a great father. She’s my only child. Today she is a great woman. And never let me down, always was responsible. And she’s a fantastic Dr. my advice would be, be a part of your child life, be aware of them, their moods, their actions, their thought process, and most of all be there.
Well said thank you for that I will always remember this
I wish my parents could be more like you.
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A wish never comes true if you keep it to yourself, try talking to them. Tell them what you could be if they would be what you wish for. I wish the best for you.
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W DAD
Six feet deep. gone for 10 years I still remember my dad telling me how much he loves me even when he was drunk...this love is enough to last me my whole life❤️❣️
he was drunk he told you that so you would come close to him and he could kill you
So you didn't believe the guy who told you he loves you?
@@nielfollero5 the people who love me aren't drunk you can't trust people who drink a lot of alcohol and do drugs
@Kashgari exactly "you can't trust people who can't currently lie to you" lol
Awe this comment brought me to tears Love for you and your awesome dad
As a girl whose dad died when I was a baby I yearned for a father. This man is every girl's dream of a dad
My husband passed when our daughter was a little over 1 year old. I feel bad that she's going to have to go through this
@@theknittinkitten2954 she will be happy if she has your love. My mother did not want me and that made losing my dad hard. If you love her she will have a sense of her own value and will find father figures in teachers or pastors. You have the courage and the love to be enough for her.
Oooookay.
@@theknittinkitten2954 I'm so sorry. You are so strong.
Same here. 💞
This is such an important aspect of raising daughters! Thanks for posting.
Thank you for this. I have a 3 year old daughter and no idea if I’m even fit to raise her. I always question whether I’m raising her right, being too strict, teaching her the right things, praying over her and with her. … when she lays her head on me and wraps her arms around me and says “You’re the best Daddy in the world” it absolutely melts my heart and makes me tear up because I feel like she while she may not see me struggle, she knows Daddy will always love her forever. Thank you for this video💯
I was raised without father. When I was 5yo, I remember, I fell and broke my knees and a neighbor lifted me up and brought to my home, like an immense force of nature. That was the closest I ever felt to having a father.
Good luck to you and your daughter!
@@dddevchonka thank you so much ✊🏿💯
Amen brother, Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths~
@@dimitriosv.3446your giving all the credit to someone else like most fools. Have know idea what your talking about. He will do fine cause he cares and he will do what is needed not because of god for god
@Larry schell @Larry schell If we are going by your logic, you and I are both as clueless as one another as to this man's situation. I only brought up God because this gentleman said he was praying over his daughter, and I am a Christian. I may be missing the mark, but my words are of comfort- My dad was in this situation when I was growing up, and he personally told me that when he reached out to be near God, marvelous things happened... He went from working hundreds of kilometres away, not home for weeks on end, (or miles for my American brothers and sisters 😁), to be working together as a family. I do have an idea as to what I am speaking about and it was quite heartfelt when I heard this man's story. I am no fool for acknowledging the almighty, nor is @Dr0_305 for praying over his precious daughter. I know he will do fine as a father, for reason relating to this man and reasons beyond our control.
My prayers are with you Larry and Dr0, please take care.
As someone with daddy issues, I wish I had a father as caring as this one
I'm a grown ass man, and he scares me. His daughters are in good hands 👍
@•Bubble Ghost• Exactly my thoughts.
Same
Yeah me too
Exactly. I had a father who hated me all my life, he treated horribly, and I’d never heard him say he loved me once.
My parents divorced at the start of my adulthood, and when my mom remarried, that man has loved me and made sure I knew it every day. He will send me random texts just to remind me that he loves me, and will drop anything and everything for me at the drop of a hat. He didn’t raise me, but he’s my dad and I wouldn’t trade him for anything.
I spent so many years in relationships with people who were like my father, but once I learned love from my dad, I met and married someone just like him. We accept the love we’re taught to deserve.
"How do I protect my daughter from people like u"
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Take away their phones
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@@nickmurray7703 do y’all people don’t talk irl anymore💀💀💀
@@nickmurray7703 lol no
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