Meri's Unsettling Excuses For Staying In A Relationship Despite Kody Abandoning Her
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Meri's commitment to staying in the marriage with Kody has been the bane of her existence on the Sister Wives program since season 1, where it was revealed that their relationship may not be as strong as reported. Season after season we watched as Meri was disrespected yet she stayed. In this seasons Tell All after the official dissolution of their marriage Meri is back and she's explaining why she stayed.
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When Kody wanted Meri's money to purchase Coyote Pass he was holding Meri's hand and Robyn was also holding Meri's hand walking the property. Looked weird but it was Kody and Robyn conning Meri. That gave Meri hope.
I agree. They needed her to sell her LV home to get the money for the CP property and Robyn & Kody's McMansion.
Great observation 💯‼️🤨🤔😂
Honestly the reason Meri stayed so long is that Kody and the cult they come from expects discarded wives to just be alone the rest of their lives and stay married for the sake of going to heaven. It's also not a coincidence that Meri finally decided to leave after her mom passed. Meri's mom did the very same thing even after her own husband died. Meri is deprogramming her own brainwashing and I'm just proud of her for finally choosing her own well-being.
This! They are in a cult. You don't just stop being in a cult You have to deprogram just like you said. I think a lot of viewers don't realize this or have forgotten.
This! I love James's content overall, but this video felt a little victim-blamey. When you are raised in abuse/trauma like Meri was, it can set you up to look for that in an adult relationship and to stay in that once you are there. I can see why someone would think "It's on Meri", but it's hard to leave an abusive situation when you feel like you deserve it. All of them were in this situation/cult, and all of them had to fight this programming to some degree. That doesn't make them at fault, it makes them survivors.
@@ExtraordinaryMachine333 most viewers continue to have issues with Meri because she is the most egregious and absurd example of what you're saying. She has had very different circumstances for a LONG time that most victims in an abusive relationship could only dream of, and or would only need an iota of to GTFO let alone the fcking man saying to her face GO AWAY. Instead she now has come up with another hard headed @$$ ridiculous as F excuse, AND WAS/IS STILL GIVING MONEY to this bull$#!+ family account, which I find INSANE how it's obviously for c***s Kody and Goblyn! Idk how TF Christine and Janelle didn't push back to pay for Ysabel's surgery or for Janelle to buy/build a house when they pay into it, AND paid for the down-payment on the c***s house!
For all comments in here: the whole family "deprogrammed" a longgg time ago by giving up their fake church, beliefs, etc etc let alone living like total @$$holes.
She met a man online and was about to leave Kody. Unfortunaly it turned out to be a catfish. She returned to the family with her tail between her legs trying to redeem herself. Kody wouldn’t let her because he used the situation to his advantage. Kody is a sadist.
It drives me nuts when Meri keeps saying “He never told me.” YES HE DID!!!!! When you told him in the car “I’m waiting for you” and his response is “And I’m not coming!”
Hello!!! He just told you!!! Leave!!! You deserve more than Ramen-head! 🍜 💔
It was there anniversary, after they moved to Flagstaff, in the car, he told her straight out, "Meri, I'm not coming (back to you.)"
He said it.
She wasn't listening
I hate to speak on Kodys behalf because Kody has said several times when he started having the discussion Meri was not réceptive. In that same episode he mentioned that she was mean to people in the family and she immediately started getting defensive
But then here's Robyn in meris ears saying he does still love you he talks about you all the time
I don’t believe that narcissist have soulmates, I believe they have co-conspirators
And I don’t like the way Mary sees herself as such a victim. Yes, I’m sure she’s victimised, but also she was quite happy to suck that banana for Sam when she thought he was a real person and her mom was alive. During that time I think.
I think she just got so burned by the catfish, not being real that she got afraid to leave again and tried to get back into the family fold
He's constantly calling on the OG3 & their kids to be better than themselves but never holds himself to the same standards. You're doing a great job James!
And sobyn is the horrible ex-wife he blames Christine of. Everything he says Christine is doing is something sobyn did to her 1st husband
If that catfisher had been real, Meri would have had her "closure" years ago.The fact that she knew Kody didn't want her is what drove her to rhe catfisher to begin with. She was devastated, heartbroken & alone.
I agree, if the catfisher was real Meri was gone. But this is also why I am a proponent of leaving because you want to leave as opposed to leaving for someone else. That puts way too much pressure on a new/fledgling relationship. In the cases were the new relationship fails (for whatever reason) it makes it more likely you will go back or regret the decision to leave the previous relationship.
Religion is convenient for Kody when it benefits him. He was heavy on the religion when Christine was honest and said she wanted to leave. It sickens me how much of a hypocrite he is. Everything he says others are doing to him, like destroying his character and trash talking about him, he is doing it on national TV.
I think they all pick and choose when they are going to follow their religion.
In order to be released from a polygamous covenant, the man actually does have to verbally reales the woman. Her mother lived in the same estranged relationship. Once her mom passed, Meri began to let go.
Yes... Many keep forgetting the years of indoctrination she has had, and a mother who was telling her she had to stay.
Janelle changed to AUB before she married Kody.
Christine had a mother who left and was happier for it, and I'm sure encouraged her when she wasvthinkung if leaving, which was way before the time she left.
I also think she was waiting to be released. I believe this behavior was normal and both Meri and Christine grew up not questioning this. It took a long time for them to understand that they didn't need someone to release them. I think that is also a reason Meri was glad Kody released his anger on Christine because Christine wasn't suppose to release herself.
Exactly. Meri was devouted AUB member from a pomygamous family. Some deeply catholic people still stay married because divorse in considered a sin.
James, I don't watch the show but I consistently watch your content because your analysis applies to so much in life. I'm a whole 48 years old wishing I had grown up with a father or big brother figure that lays things out the way that you do with humor, logic, respect, and care. Keep up the outstanding work!
We all could be better in life if we had someone with the emotional intelligence of James, when we were growing up ‼️
Its so sad to watch someone waste years of their life being controlled by a narcissist. Even if youre getting financially compensated, its still time youve wasted and nothing's worth more than time. Life is so short and you're spending the one life you get doing something that degrades and humiliates you over and over again, corroding your soul. The only thing sadder than spending thirty years with a narcissist is spending thirty years and one more effin day.
Absolutely correct and that's something you can't get back!
... Remember that Meri was raised in the culture of AUB. Her Mom died not that long ago. Also Meri was in love with the children, okay not all. All this was apart of how she grew up. I can see from our "real world" eyes, it doesn't make sense. It just needed to make sense to Meri.
Also don't forget Kody "love bombed" Meri up until she sold her home in Las Vegas. He wanted a part of that money and he got it.
My 2cents ...
It's frightening the way Meri displayed so much anger towards Christine about the ring issue. She was steaming. Why....doesn't she know she was supposed to disclose all that? It's a reality show for goodness sake. All the dirty laundry to be aired ......for a paycheck. She got paid.!!!!!
I feel like I'm getting free marriage counseling. Thank you ❤
And he's a man giving insight about how they think. Hopefully, everyone's paying attention just in case.
Mary couldn’t leave while her mom was alive. Once her mom died and the others left she ponied up.
In Meri's defense she was raised in the AUB and even in the mainstream LDS a woman is only allowed into the Celestial Kingdom via the agency of a man she is bonded to...either as her father or a spouse. I believe that a major part of her beliefs is concern that she will not be admitted to their version of heaven. Also she is by nature quite a determined person and that was part of her insistence that Kody tell her directly that he no longer considered them married. When she obtained the legal divorce Kody point blank asked her did she still consider them spiritually married and abiding by their covenant. I imagine she considered that an affirmation of their marriage. On a practical level I do believe she was in love with him for a long time. Remember she was only 19 when they married and Kody probably was her first love. Also on a practical level she likely stayed for the income from the show and the fame from the show that enabled her to reach success in her MLM. It gave her a ready made downstream of recruits to her sales team.
One last point Meri really does love being a part of a family with so many children. She might well have been the rule enforcer compared to some of the other wives but I remember her sadness at not being able to have more than one child herself. That religion places a great deal of emphasis on the value of woman by her ability to produce children. A barren woman is without value in general.
Exactly!
Thank you for stating this so well. It's so heartbreaking. I wish Meri the best.
I agree.
I think I major part of the reason why Meri didn’t leave was because she grew up in a polygamist family. She did not leave until her mother passed away. Her faith meant a lot to her. It held her in a loveless marriage. The tag team of Kody and Robyn did not help to break her away from the relationship either. I am a certain that she will forever feel guilty about the Catfishing. She was lonely, and someone took advantage of that loneliness. It’s suspicious as hell that Robyn was a friend with that person but that’s another story.I truly can’t sit in judgment of Meri’s decision to stay in the relationship as long as she did.
If I had been there to give her advice while she was in the marriage, I would tell her to leave, but I can’t criticize her for saying either. I’m just glad she’s finally out of that toxic relationship. I wish her happiness.
I completely agree with you about the you have to show people how they can treat you. My now ex sister in law (who I thought it was an alpha female) allowed her husband and son to talk to her in an incredibly toxic way, completely disrespecting way. I told my husband, that I don’t understand why she allowed either to be disrespectful to her like that. She finally left my brother in law. He is talking all kinds of bs about her. I always think dude, I saw how you talk to her, she finally got tired of your bs. My husband knows if he tries that sh*t with me, I will leave and never come back.
I dont think Meri is stupid for wanting closure and her defense she was living off the false hope that was being fed to her by Kody & Robyn. Some people Love hard and Love is BLIND until the heart releases. I tell people all the time, when the heart & mind gets to same spot/location, then changes will be made. It has taken Meri awhile to get there, but she's there now. As for Kody, he said that his religion didn't allow him to divorce and this case he dragged her along so disrespectfully. Perhaps he should have met with leader to get approval to dismiss or divorce a wife. This is downright cruel and he's asshole because he didn't & WASN'T man enough to tell Meri straight up... He's such POS!!
I get so tired of hearing everyone dog Meri like Kody ,R ,praises Janell ,Christina thing about it is Janell ,Christina living sameway as J ,C Kody left all 3 of them when he got with R so why arent C ,J getting blamed like Meri always is for staying my god K been saying for 7 or 8 yrs he never loved C she made him sick over naco
The smartest thing she did was exposed both Kody and Robyn lies and manipulation at the same time with that conversation. But don't get fooled she didn't know it was iI've. BTW was over for her too.
My grandma had this saying about love "Love will go up a pig's ass if that's where it's sent" take with it what it means when it comes to this situation.
I agree 💯 percent ! It is easy for us as outsiders to people what they should have or shouldn't have done. He is a coward, yes he called her names said bad things to.her but he doesn't have the balls to straight up say it is over and we together will tell the world.
He strung her along for 💰.
Hi James, so excited to see you on Mondays live with Sarah and Amanda . My three favourites all in one place.
I hope we get a notification, I only follow James as he’s the best!
@@florenceumpherville8560I agree James is the Man 🧍♂️
He doesn’t want to talk down about Meri because he knows all the things she could spill.
The one firm, irrefutable thing we've all learned is; no matter what, Kody and Robyn will lie and turn the facts to make those facts agree with what they are saying in the moment. They don't care what they've said before. To them it only matters what they are saying, doing now. IMO, they are giving a big middle finger up to anyone, especially fans who call them out. I wrote what I wrote.
You’re absolutely right, James I’m glad you brought this up because I know Cody told Robin all about his wife said he just pro created with, but they don’t have the relationship like he will have with Robin. She knew all this stuff before he even moved her closer to them, she knew it all and that’s what takes me off about her is her acting like I didn’t know this was going on. I didn’t know I didn’t see any dealbreaker. She’s a liar.
Imo, each ; every one of them is, about quite a few things.
Kody does not love Meri. He has been trash talking and belittling her for years.
They need to hire you to sing the Kay's jingle--that was awesome 😂. I also love that you are teaming up with Realiteasquad and RealityAmanda. You three are all awesome and can't wait to see what happens when you're all together. Love the cooperation and collaboration and support. Happy Holidays!!! 🤩
I did not give my ex closure. I just left. He didnt know why. And that was my whole point. Done.
James, I'm so excited that you will be joining Sarah and Amanda for an online group chat. I can't wait to tune in. My mom and sister will also be tuning in 😁🏆
Its just funny to me that Kody and Robyn got what they wanted but they still arent happy. Karma is a biotch .
Why isn't Suki as ballsy with Kody as she was with Meri while asking questions?
Wow..... James you set off a brain bomb for me tody 😲 its really interesting how you can take these dumpster fire tv shows and pull out the real life issues that can and do affect our lives. I appreciate your channel, your doing a geat thing here ❤
He only sees being unhappy in a marriage as a problem if he's the one who's unhappy. LOL. Nuts.
Meri thought they had a "deal". Kody talked about his cloak of BS on the Mormon live podcast - he wanted the wives to lie and sell to the world what a great family they were. She upheld her end of the bargain and continued to give Kody the cloak of bs and lie to the world versus telling everyone what he's really like. In return she felt he would love her again.
Don't forget just last season's one on one's Kody fed Suki the bs about getting back with Meri but Christine stopped it.
Exactly James. Most people give Meri the benefit of doubt. I hold her accountable for her own actions. At what point does she share responsibility of denial.
James, I think you are doing a stellar job! What I really really like about you is that you are not just talking about the show. You are showing and telling a lot about the inter-human relationships and the takeaways that we can use in our own lives and that makes your show unique. Keep up the good work bro!
My perspective is different. I'm never going to purposely judge Meri for hanging on so long. The decision to leave is gut wrenching. More than likely, that's a life changing experience followed by a change in the dynamics and communication within the family unit. Not being ready to move on creates exactly the kind of situation Meri is in.
I have been there and absolutely was forced to cut myself off from all family members. I believe that that extreme decision is rare, and follows some kind of cataclysmic breakdown of normal family relationships. In Meri's case it may have started from the polygamist ideals she believed in that competed her own feelings for Kody. She was the first wife, and it was her responsibility to help grow the family. Robyn, sadly, ruined the relatively comfortable family life the three OGs shared. She became Kody's soulmate and made Kody's world with Meri unsafe. The catfishing plus Kody's manipulations just sped up the decline of Meri's marriage. Add narcissistic tendencies to the mix, and it's heartbreaking.
I agree with you. It usually takes a victim of abuse 7 tries to leave.
Victimization from a narcissist can cause CPTSD. The trauma is real and deep. As a former Mormon, getting to the celestial kingdom is important. Important not for just the family, but mankind.
I love your videos James, but I disagree with your take on Meri.
She is no longer with Kody. Hopefully the life lessons she learned over the past almost 15 years will serve her in the future.
There is no need to pile criticism on her now. It feels petty.
I don't see you as an unkind and unemathetic person.
I look forward to your next video. Please give this some thoughts. It's so hard to leave an abusive relationship. Especially the abuse from a narcissist.
Thank you for this perspective. To think people aren't understanding of the fact meri is a victim of emotional abuse tells a lot about them.
If Meri would have left Kody during the Catfish, Kody would have been acting like she just left him for no reason like Christine. 😂😂
Who's been trash talking Kody?? Nobody, but he's trash talked everybody... including his kids
We appreciate you James!! You have said it in a previous video - it takes a lot of energy to be someone you're not...and I think Kody is still spending energy trying to come across as "the benevolent husband", when the audience knows better. The Growing up in Polygamy channel suggested that in monogamist relationships, people divorce, meet a new partner, and move on. They said that Kody went through wife after wife after wife, but didn't appropriately divorce all three when he met Robyn...
Fully agree with you James in that Kody thought the OG3 were pathetic; he sees those women as "below him" and that's gross. Also, a woman that *wants* to help you cheat or deceive, doesn't care if there's collateral 🙄
Suki doesn’t even watch “Sister Wives” She is horrible host calling Kody a “good man.”
He still wanted her money. Plain and simple. He would never have told her it was over.
I agree with everything you say about Meri not acknowledging that Kody had ghosted her long ago, but what everyone fails to remember is that Meri ALWAYS struggled with making DECISIONS of ANY KIND. Just go back and watch. She justifies her decision to stay with Kody with "the covenant", but I think she was FROZEN with the inability to make a decision to leave.
Yes! Love your pointing out Kody's double standard regarding how he treated Christine then how he wanted to be treated in regards to Meri.
New born baby in the house! Christine hadn't had hers yet! That's terrible. Kody and Robyn really look like terrible people.
One reason was for the money, I think, from the show.
And as long as her Mom was alive she honored her & how she was raised.❤❤❤
Even in the picnic table convo, Kody says something like “I’ve been very clear that we don’t have a relationship” and Meri responds “yes you have”…. I’m confused….
Meri was attached as a head wife for many years. She holds on to her memory of the good times, and there were good times for Kody & Meri alone and as a family. He finally cut her deep enough for her to let go fully. Narcissistic ppl never give closure. Its all a game.
Imagine being Christine. Imagine your husband confiding in you that they love another woman. And having to pretend to be ok with it on national tv! I’m in tears!😢
...and you are joined by all three women. You could see the pain on all their faces as Kody was telling this cutesy story of how deep his love was for Robyn. It was brutal.
What are you doing wrong?
You're fabulous!
And how dare you be so fabulous, it's not fair to the other channels!!
❤
As Cody said in their culture, the man is not allowed to divorce the woman yet that’s what Cody did with these wives he ignored them and abandoned them but he’s not allowed to just say I’m divorcing you, so with Mary it was important that he come and say I’m divorcing you, even though she had the chance when he actually did want the divorce to marry Robin so that they could adopt the children ha hathat was her chance to say no and make him divorce her so she kind of lost that chance she should’ve taken them so basically she just wants him to admit that he’s divorcing her and I think that’s the whole waiting now. Which I think is crazy to wait 10 years but whatever.
She wanted to be put aside publicly. It's recorded and to her face. She already knew, but it's closure.
This culture of theirs is so twisted, a man can not divorce them BUT he can abandon them 🤦🏽♀️
Kody used the catfishing incident as an excuse to end the marriage with Meri. He found that incident unforgivable and considered it cheating which when it comes to the woman is "vulgar" in his world no matter how many partners he has and even though she was only talking online. He even said on an episode that if the catfisher had been real, "her ass would have been gone". I really believe Robyn had a hand in the whole catfishing thing. She reported everything her "friend" who suposedly knew the catfisher told her about Meri and the catfisher to Kody. Robyn is a snake. Kody is disgusting and cruel. He leveraged Meri into a divorce because she was left devastated when she found out she had been duped, her heart was broken and Kody was angry. She was doing ANYTHING to win back Kodys' favor. He let her stay around for the $$ but made her feel unwanted and alone. So glad Meri has moved on but I hope she will open her eyes to the fact that her ex husbands' wife is NOT her friend.
The whole catfish seems unbelievably diabolical. If Robin herself was in any way connected to it. Who was this “friend” of Robin’s
Kooty didn't tell her to her face. Because Kooty is a big coward.
He hasn't respected these women for thirty years. He's not going to start now just to break up with them. SMH.
Yes, Meri is manipulating by setting a goal that Kody will never meet, it’s time for her to own her choices
While I get that Meri wanted her moment on TV she agreed to keep Kody's secret. That's on her. Closure is something you have to get on your own.
Didn’t Kody tell Meri to her face that he didn’t want her that one time when they were in the car and she told him she was still waiting for him and Kody turned to her and said, “And I’m not coming!”?
I learned this lesson after the worst three years of my life, I hope your amazing video can spare some other people the same struggle!
They’re showing a sneak peek on the final tell all and Suki tells Kody He’s a good man🤨😩🙄
I saw that...What the what!
Bad, Suki!
😨😨😨
Kody is far from being a “good man”
She is totally placating him in the situation- cause Kody’s ego is so fragile- it’s kinda funny
I honestly believe Meri was in a delusional state of mind regarding her relationship with Kody. Once Kody met Robyn, he dropped Meri. Robyn was Meri's younger, more attractive replacement in the eyes of Kody.
Meri stayed out of a sense of loyalty and for the sake of the show.
Meri should have asked Kody a long time ago "do you wish to end our covenant" and then you watch maybe a month, if nothing changes you then say "I understand that things have changed for you in your feelings for me, no worries I'll move on".
I've done it couple of times and left with my self respect intact.
Thank you. She needed to communicate. She avoided responsibility by waiting indefinitely for him to change.
The minute you take my ring melt it down. Take what you want out of it. Would be the minute I would realize. The marriage was over. The love and respect is no longer there. His actions spoke for him repeatedly. He should’ve lost the right to even have that conversation with Meri.
And before they moved to Arizona from Las Vegas he held his little meeting and he said where we go one we go all
I think there is several things going on here. Kody melted down that ring soon after the television show started. If Meri had left the show would have been jeopardized. Because of this Kody didn't push as hard as he otherwise would have to get Meri to leave the family. I think Meri stayed for the show money and because she was angry at Kody. Knowing that their faith made it hard for Kody to leave her, that he couldn't leave her and save face with the public, she stayed partly because she knew Kody couldn't leave. Meri didn't want closure. She wanted to make Kody take responsibility. Basically, she stayed partly as a form of revenge.
James. You Sarah and Amanda are the best! Together you'll be legendary! Never have I ever been excited for a Monday!
At this point why are we discussing it, it's over now and Mary can finally go and enjoy her life without kody !!!
They all talk about their religion, but they essentially didn’t belong to any actual “church” since they moved from Lehigh - 11-12 years… it sure looks like they didn’t care all that much
I can understand where Meri was coming from (even tho I am not of their faith). She has been programmed from a young child that divorce ( spiritual or legal)is wrong, unless a release is granted by church officials. Her mother undoubtedly told her she needed to stay in the marriage. Kody refused to tell her he was divorcing her spiritually or releasing her. Robyn was giving her false hope. I won’t criticize her for her choice to stay so long. Kody was a coward. He should have “bit the bullet” and released her; if he cared for her, he would have. No, he didn’t do it out of “love” for her but out of (narcissistic??) self love.
I appreciate the life lessons you are bringing out of this very very sad situation. Someone out there needs to hear what you have to say. Thank you.
“Robbem” Best slip ever.
Mary saying I wasted years of my life until he tells her. It’s clear Kody can’t even stand to be in the same room as Mary. 😮😮😮😮😮I think you have to say “Because of my commitment to TLC and the money that I receive. “
An interesting take. Thank you. Mari is a product of a system where women have no value other than what they can do for a man. I can believe that her sense of self worth is so low that she allowed her marriage to outlast good reason.
Yes! Everybody seems to forget that this woman wasn’t raised in the real world. She was raised in a cult. If it wasn’t for the show, her leaving would’ve never been a thought.
Here is where I’m confused. Kody tells his wives that he’s not attracted to them any more, that he doesn’t want to have a “fully functioning marriage” wink wink.. what is his vision going forward? He basically told them he doesn’t want them around, so they left, just as he told them to. So why is he so angry? If he would stop being so angry, and trash talking all his estranged wives he might actually have whatever non-sexual kind of relationship he wanted.
James it was crazy that Meri ever stayed every week we find out more reasons she needed to say I'm out to Kody after the divorce that was forced🤬🤬
I always appreciate your take on the shenanigans these crazy people get themselves in, thanks for the great content!
I think she primarily stayed for the show and that sweet TLC check. 💰💰💰
James, are you a professional therapist?! I feel like your insights so so good and thorough! I could listen to your videos for hours! So insightful!
Cant wait to hear you with Amanda! You two will be dynamic!
I think Mary stayed out of guilt because of the catfishing
Catfish scenario was overrated. No naked pictures of Meri and her bank account was left intact. The real crime? Kody and Robyn scheming to take care of themselves when the ratings of “Sister Wives” were tanking. They both came up with a plan early to steal from the other wives and they did. Setting pretty but karma is coming for Kody and Robyn.
Meri never wanted to ask "the question" so she could string herself along!
Meri seems to think if she emphasizes certain words her audience will believe her. I thought Christine was aware it applied to her but decided it was safer/more convenient to use Meri as the banner bearer. Also it could be that Christine was planning an escape earlier than the show let on. She could have been laying the groundwork for a while.
She said she wanted to leave in Vegas and Janelle told her to get her affairs in order before she left.
Exactly. If my husband melted his wedding ring and said he didn't want me to have claim on him, then I'd serve up those divorce papers so he doesn't have to worry about me anymore. I know that I could never get past that type of hurt and continue the relationship especially while he's with other women and treating them (Robyn) well. I am not a Meri fan and the fact she hung on so long is frustrating but I have to wonder how bad she had to feel about herself to continue to stay.
Meri was raised in that enviorment ,that says it all.Maybe her mom had to pass away for her to get away from that creep!
Im honestly beginning to believe every last one of the OG 3 and Kody were already over each other before the show begins. Then, enters the show, Robyn, AND (most importantly) the fame and paycheck. "Let's keep pretending for this money." My mind translates that to "Let's openly lie to the fan base for money and fame." Every. One. Of. Them.!!!!! And im no longer in a place where I have any time for that! 🤣 It's frustrating!!! Every time they speak now, it's like I can't believe ANY of it. It's a wind up.
We have to remember that was Meri’s faith like we might believe in heaven and hell. She believes in the celestial kingdoms where you needed to be in plural marriage. But yeah most of us wouldn’t have stayed. You’re right when a guy is talking to a mistress, you know he keeps two sets of books.
Suki did ask the follow up questions, but not with Robyn and Kody....yet again.. 🙄
😊😊😊😊Finally, FINALLY! Someone sees it like I do, been telling that to my husband for years, that he was telling Robin that he only loves her, his feeling for the others aren’t there, she is his soulmate,,,etc,etc, yes totally agree with you…and she knew that he didn’t care about the other wives, that is why he had to promise Robin that he would let her go, if he started to fall out of love with her..
Amanda is so funny 😂I'm so glad you'll be on the show with her and Sarah . I've been watching her for a long time. I love her too 😊❤😂🎉
I was always taught Gratitude is the Best Additude. We share a car. He works all during the week. I make sure chores and dinner & lunch next day are handled. He takes the time to point out these gestures by saying, "Thank you!." Then, what can I do for you lately. On the weekends when I work; I receive the same treatment. Marriage.
In their belief the man can’t dump a wife. Meri I believe wanted him to tell her this is over. Therefore, making it his sin, not hers. Many ppl with strong faith in any religion take the rules seriously 🤷🏻♀️
Talk about triangulation. I think Meri, Kody and Robyn have been manipulative for their own ends. Meri is the one who has fooled most people into believing she is a long-suffering victim. Suddenly everything made sense when Kody said, "I don't want her (Meri) reacting in a crazy way". For all 3 of their ends, Meri hanging on has kept the show going. She is a founder of this family and she could have ended it a long time ago with the ring story alone. We have had clues of her volatility. I think everyone has placated her to keep the farce going.
She is not going to let Kody cut her loose (unless a Sam comes along).
I really don't think she knew what to do since she'd been living for Kody for so long. It's probably a shock to her system to change so much. I also think she deserves the closure and the small amount of honesty from Kody
Meri's values & commitment was only to Kody...She was dragging herself threw this.
It’s extremely cruel what kody has done to Meri. And even Robyn because she was helping Kody to string Meri along once she came into the family. I’ve been in an abusive relationship before and they take a huge toll on you. Especially mentally. Kody tore Meri, Janelle and Christine down mentally and emotionally. I think it’s all of Kodys mental and emotional abuse that caused Meri to stick around for decades. He took all of her self confidence away. I’m so happy for her that she was able to gain her self confidence back and finally walk away for good. And I hope Meri doesn’t stay friends with him like he said he wants in the talk back special. He doesn’t deserve her friendship. He just wants her friendship for his and Robyn’s benefit. Like she said in one of this seasons episodes, he only calls her when he wants or needs something.
Seriously, the kody we see, if mary walked away,quit putting her money in, then him asking where you been. If she said your actions showed me you were done. Mr. Kody would say i didn't say i was done.
So excited for your live with Sarah and Amanda!
Kody has done everything except push Meri down the stairs to get rid of her. She chose to ignore it but the viewers and other wives saw. Meri Can't take no for an answer. She's like that with everything.
She’s controlling and it’s her way of no way at all. It’s over when she says it’s over.
Great video James! I agree with you, sometimes we don't get closure and we just need to move on for our own health
I think Meri stayed for the TLC check and the fame. She hopes to ride it out till the end. Can’t say I wouldn’t do the same.
As far as people saying it’s because of her religious beliefs. I don’t believe anyone that’s truly a believer and takes their religion (cult) seriously would do a reality show to begin with.
He could be saying 1 thing on the show and another in person. Like on their anniversary cheerings to "new beginnings" for their relationship. I think Kody and Robbin conned the other women to move from Vegas because their homes were in thier names and they could have kept their own money at that point. No, him and Robbin talked them into moving to a piece of land they had no intention of building on with all the wives. Instead they sold their homes and gave 300k each to Robbin and Kody. Relationship scammers at best at worst fraud.
I’m SO excited you’re joining Sister LIVES Monday!!!!! 🤗🥳♥️ I texted my friends as soon as you mentioned it!!!
I guess if Meri had not grown up in a family that practiced polygamy and worshipped men while looking down on women, she would have found strength to leave earlier. I think her mother dying had also alot to do with her finding her strenght to leave. And leaving for Meri meant letting go of the promise of highest heaven. Unmarried women have no business getting there. That is serious for people of that faith.
Yep. Without the show and Meri's "celebrity " status her lularoe clothing would be a failure. 95%of people in MLMs lose money. And her B&B is in the middle of nowhere! She hung on for financial gain.
I can see that. The whole family is sitting on the MLM train. I made a video previously, that I think they tried to use Sister Wives Closet to start their own MLM business.
He kept Meri around for the money. He was never going to let her go. She pushed him into a corner where he had no choice but to be truthful. Good on Meri, now she needs to wake up to Robyn.
Robyn is doing the same thing with the OG3 now, expecting them to give her permission to go on and be happy with Kody now, and they'll probably give it to her, lol. I sure wouldn't!
I'm right there with you. The fact she asked, is disturbing to say the least.
Meri didn’t want to accept that Kody had conned her and dumped her because she’s not a narcissist. She married Kody with the genuine expectation and desire to have a family with him, through thick and thin, for life. Kody, on the other hand, has always seen marriage as _ideally_ for life, but the wife in question has to please him for life for that to happen. In his mind, marriage is purely about getting himself more of what he wants, and for _him_ it’s perfectly reasonable to end a marriage if he stops enjoying and/or benefiting from it, but not the other way around, because it’s about pleasing him, not them. To him, all relationships are disposable because Kody is a narcissist, and narcissists live in a world which revolves around themselves, and everyone else is like an NPC support character.
Meri was making the classic mistake that so many victims of narcissistic abuse do, which is to hold out and endure the abuse, because they desperately want the person they sincerely love and have invested so much into is a good person deep down. That they’re capable of doing the right thing, because they did the right thing when conditions were favorable for the narcissist, without realizing that that is the first fundamental rule of a narcissistic world view; you only deserve their supposed “good side” when the narcissist feels you deserve it. Or that they need to play the part to get what they want from you. Narcissists will never mature, and they will definitely never admit to doing the wrong thing and willingly change. Ever. Not going to happen. They’re masters of luring you in with promises and hopes and dreams that they have no intention of fulfilling unless you somehow manage to be the perfect helper, and even then those promises are purely for their benefit. Not because they feel any obligation to keep up their end of the bargain for your sake. You are disposable, and always were.
It’s a brutal, brutal thing, to accept that you’ve given everything you had to someone who never loved you, and will never love you. No matter what you do. It’s only natural for a heartbroken person to desperately seek out some kind of alternative explanation, even if it means taking the blame for their abusive partner’s actions. Anything is better than accepting that you’ve been conned by the person you loved.