Letting Go.. || Father Knows Something Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 3 июн 2024
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This week's episode has Jerry, Morgan, & Justin responding to stories where the listener may need to take Elsa's advice and "let it go". From feeling like you're a bad sister, to battling your health, to losing love due to religious differences.. sometimes letting go and moving forward is the best way through. How do you "let go" in tough situations? Going to need your help on these!
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For the girl that keeps getting cheated on, I would recommend seeing a therapist and figuring out how she might be attracting/holding on to toxic partners. And I’m not blaming her, but like Jerry and Morgan said, there are usually signs. There are patterns that we overlook. The same thing used to happen to me and until I went to therapy and realized that my low self worth was allowing me to accept A LOT of red flags. I didn’t even recognize the flags because I didn’t realize that when something didn’t feel right to me, it was because it WASN’T and i deserved better. After that therapy session I found myself in a very healthy relationship and I never even knew I could be loved that way. I actually learned to love myself more through how much he loves me and treats me well. Once OP starts to love herself, she’ll be absolutely REPULSED by any reg flags that come her way. They’ll be incredibly easy to spot
Hello Poppa Jerry! I needed this one today…last week I posted about not getting into my dream school and I had time to “let go” (wink, wink). I got accepted into my second choice college. I’ll be attending San Jose University for my bachelor’s in studio arts🎨 Thank you so much for your advice ♥️ love you guys!!
Congratulations!!! So excited for you. You won't be calling it your second choice much longer ;) you're going to be so much fun.
Congrats on getting into SJSU. It’s an amazing school!
@@TwoHotTakes Thank you so much!! I love you guys so much!!
@@MarisaSoto12 Thank you!!! I’m so excited!!😭
For the story with the person with type 1 diabetes and hashimotos, I am exactly in your boat. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 12 and hahimotos this year at 22. When I got sick with diabetes, my parents and doctors did not listen to me as I begged for more testing. They thought I had strep throat, but I was vomiting, constantly peeing, and I lost 20 pounds in a month. I will tell you that I have a complicated relationship with doctors, but therapy has really helped in sorting that out. Best of luck to you!!!!
1st relationship/Breakup: I agree with Justin. Complete communication cut. You need to find yourself without him. At 19, you're still learning who you are. I've been through a situation like this. You'll be happier knowing who you are and able to find someone who will fit well with you.
To the 19 y/o who is having conflicting feelings about getting back with her ex, I would agree with what everyone had to say. Trying to hold two ppl together that have conflicting views on big parts of a person’s life, like religion, rarely works out blissfully, in the end.
I dated my high school sweetheart for 5.5 years, and it was so extremely hard to finally fully separate. Morgan was right about those rose colored glasses; I truly never realized that I had them on until we separated for good. I broke things off because I started prioritizing myself; this was so hard to do as a people-pleaser😅. It’s so hard to stop communicating and wanting to be around the person that has grown up beside you during that period of life, but in the end, you’ll be stronger and learn more from what occurs once you put your needs and wants first, and stand firmly on what you believe in.
After being separated from him for 1 year, I personally feel like I know myself better, I’ve had new experiences that I never would have before, and my ex and I have even conversed since then, and we can both agree that it was the best decision, and we’re both better because of it.
Best of luck to you!
I feel like the breakup with the first love is the hardest (I'm 30yo). But she needs to cut contact with him completely. One does not move on with the lingering.
IM SO EXCITEDDDDD💓💓💓 i love all of the father knows something & two hot takes podcasts 💓
I'm binging on all of your videos! Love from Canada. ❤🇨🇦
Sometimes y'all miss important details of these stories....
Like what? (Curiously asking because I thought they covered things pretty well)
@@sydthesloth3698 the fact the first one I think is neurodivergent... Did not ask about talking to dad, but about writing to him, probably if at all like me and some others, unable to vocalize certain things... Just one of the things I noticed, but there were a few.
But that's the importance of the community and people like you that don't miss details. You can come comment your advice and thoughts. Teamwork makes the dreamwork ya know
Time stamps please
My parents are different religions (baptist and atheist) and they raised me and my sister with all of the knowledge about not only theirs but multiple different religions and let us find what we were drawn to, for me that was agnostic, and my sister is a christian. I loved that they did that for us, i think it made us much more accepting and open to differences even really young
Lets gooo! New pod
Omg. Jerry’s “advice” to the girl who keeps getting cheated on was painfully out of touch 😵💫 A lot of people cheat because they get off on the forbiddenness of it, to just simply be like “I want to be monogamous 😌” will stop almost no cheater from cheating like??
Right! Like damn how can someone act so wise and so naive at the same time. Sometimes being optimistic isn't the best option and this was one of those. Cheaters don't give a shit how you actually feel as long as they can get away with being disgusting.
Watched all episodes but luckily i have honey hearts too watch
For me a type means energy, if I feel your energy and personality and it’s comfy then we’re good if not then can’t do it haha 😊
Have never been this early to anything! 👋hey fam.
Just so we are abundantly clear. a PA is never ever a specialist. You have a right to see a doctor, and you should ask for one.
For the last story I think the girl can attempt to explain that while she did blame her trauma on religion that she will respect his beliefs , after that it would be up to him to agree that he wouldn't hold it against her if she decided not to follow a religion
49:25 I cringe at this everytime she brings up her almost fumbling the bag on her only good relationship🤦🏽♂️
For the last story’s girl, I had a partner at 19 and when we broke up it felt like I was going to die of a heart break, it’s normal to feel attached but is not healthy for you to hold on to a person.
You are so young, go and date other people, you might now shitty people but also nice people, it is too son to decide he is your person. Let him go, live your life, try new things and new people.
If he is really your person eventually you guy will be able to find the path back together to each other when you are both mature.
Can someone post the time stamps
I'm trying to look up the sick nose but I think I'm spelling it wrong. Can you help me Morgan.
One of my nieces is the “golden child” in my husbands family- I think no one ever noticed her constantly rolling her eyes, every time my FIL, and his wife would brag in front of her- turns out she can’t stand being that to them! The standards are so high, and she is constantly judged! Maybe that “golden son” actually hates it, and sister is constantly pushed to the edge, so she can’t even see it!? It’s crazy to be under that pressure! I wonder how much he has to pretend to be perfect around the parents- since they treat you like crap, he just goes along? Sucks…
32:31 I’ve been very sick since birth I’m 29 now. I could never gain weight and I was struggling to eat at 14, my dietician decided I had an ED. When I shed out of children’s hospital at 18 and got a new GI doctor and I have gastroparesis which means my stomach is paralyzed, I’m feeding tube reliant thag goes into my small intestine and I’m 95Ib (5ft) we never thought I’d reach this weight. I hate that dietician but my mom and grandma (she was my second parent) never believed I had a ED.
Now I’m in Canada I can’t imagine having to pay for doctors. I ba e 16 diagnosed chronic illnesses/disabilies. 4 being in my lungs
Story 4: I'm surprised Morgan didn't suggest therapy. I know it's not easy to recognize the signs, but therapy helps you set clear boundaries.
A person can be sh*tty and do whatever to you, as soon as you find out, you can just leave. If another person says "I just want friends w/benefits", you can say "no thanks, not what I'm looking for" and leave. All those little moves that don't even seem like a decision, can change the picture.
And well, if you believe in that, people sure of themselves can "attract" other likeminded people. In my opinion at least.
She suggested therapy actually in story 4, maybe you missed that part
i disagree with the saying people with different religious/ political/ cultural or any other values can't be in a relationship, because "they will constantly fight". but what if they can just respect each other's ways of thinking? i have numerous examples in my life of this, it's definitely not something to always break up on. yes, in this case - i notice the guy isn't really mature and can't accept his girlfriend's believes, but this shouldn't be generalized.
Jerry this episode is angering me. 🙃
Why?
Please share with me as sometime I do miss the mark.. remember I’m not Ai.
I did have a day! Before we sat down to record. .. So I am sorry if I angered you, remember we can open a dialog.. Dad
@@jerrysiegel3354 I get you’re doing best and not trying to say you did anything wrong. We are all different and perceive things differently. Sometimes I feel like you toe the line of toxic positivity. Between the religious trauma and the cheating story it felt very dismissive of what the writers were trying to say. To me it seemed like you were blaming the girl for not finding better men and not the men for cheating in the first place. A liar and cheater is not going to tell you they want to cheat on you. The religious trauma I’m glad Morgan spoke up and said that religious differences are non starter. Morals absolutely come into effect because some religions and extremists of religions don’t see women as people and demonize lgbtq+. I couldn’t overlook someone’s religion if that’s instilled in their beliefs to hate and condemn. Some of the takes were just not what I expected and that’s fine.
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@taystowe9498 first time I was that early, got excited 😄
Why does Morgan keep bringing up her ex’s? Have some class and respect for yourself and your fiancé. Hope you know if feels like a dagger in your heart when someone you love talk about an ex. Good or bad
because my experience lends itself to the advice I give. Justin is not phased by this. I think he has a lot more confidence in our relationship and love than that. But if that's a boundary for you thats cool!
I think it's healthy to talk openly about past experiences, so long as your partner doesn't express that it hurts them.. it's fine in my eyes. You get to know what your partner has been through, how they dealt with it, and what their expectations are, it's also possible to bond over similar experiences, open up and connect. My husband and I discussed our exes, it's not even about the ex really, it's about getting to know each other and yeah, maybe it was with someone else but hey, we all have a past and shouldn't feel like we have to shut off from it. If my partner expressed they weren't OK with it, I wouldn't discuss it.