*MOST OF US ARE LONELY.* What is loneliness? Most of us are lonely. Out of that loneliness, we want companionship. We escape from loneliness through every form of entertainment, religious as well as that which is most amusing. We escape in so many ways. But like a deep disease that must be cured, it is always there. So one must go into this very carefully because if we don’t understand it, our action, which is our daily relationship with each other, will distort that relationship. That relationship then becomes merely exploiting each other to escape from this deep abiding loneliness. Why are we so lonely? I don’t know if you have ever experienced the state of loneliness, isolation, having no relationship at all with others. Perhaps some of you have experienced this, or most of you. And if we don’t understand that loneliness, our actions will be distorted. So we are inquiring not only into action but also into loneliness, which destroys, disrupts, distorts all relationship in action. What is loneliness? Why are we so self-centred? Why are we in our own lives? We may have friends, be married and all the rest of it, but we are always concerned with ourselves. Our actions are self-centred: ambitious, greedy, envious, suffering, aggressive. That is fairly clear. Is that the root of this deep loneliness of man? And can that loneliness utterly disappear? When there is a hurt, psychological hurt, any action that takes place must inevitably be affected by the hurt. We get very hurt, not only about little things but deeply hurt in not being able to fulfil, not being able to achieve, not being able to become something. We get deeply hurt, and that hurt affects our actions. You cannot escape from distorting action if you are hurt. That is, as long as you have an image about yourself, you are going to be hurt. Inevitably. And when there is hurt, action will be destructive, will bring about conflict. Is it possible to be aware of this loneliness and not escape from it, but remain with it: not take a drink, not pick up a book, not rush off to some form of entertainment, but to completely, without any movement of thought, remain with that feeling of utter isolation? Then you will see, if you do, that feeling of isolation disappears entirely, because it is thought that creates the sense of isolation.
Not Bengaluru alone, all big cities. I lived with many people away from family but never felt alone as I had many friends, even in a new place you can make friends easily.
@@sanjayb4159 City culture is totally different bro. It's almost the same in all the major cities bro. Diversity we can find in all the major cities bro. So almost the same culture of being lonely we can find in these major cities bro.🙂
@@salmankhanhandsome yes I agree with your observations But I have highlighted specifically what ails bengaluru. And its causes Man is a social animal and development of city should be with an eye that it is centered around human beings Just blind development fo dake of commercial.gains and exploitation leads to humans beings and nature , arts, culture being ignored only leads to human isolation and loneliness.
People might hate me for this but I felt like I have felt the most lonely in this city. This city has a very weird culture. Too much of partying culture and materialism . It is really hard to make friends.
Maybe, at times I visit temples and meet new people. engage in a few activities, and help the needy ones. Almost a few years to retirement, lost a few friends along the way and gained new ones.
I’m from a rural part from Karnataka and settled in Bangalore the best thing ever happened to me in life is having so many many friends thanks to the city ….. people coming from outside just need to remember that the city is have nothing to do with your lonelyness…. The reason for your lonelynesss is just you and it’s you to be blamed alone for this ….. friends are not your OTT platform when ever you are board to get entertainment
@@dev_esh01 just start talking to people lol. If you are working, go talk with your collegues and meet their mutual friends. Making friends is not rocket science
for a Kannadiga it can be easy.. but ideally people from different geography and ethnicity come here for job.. so its a feeling of outsider.. moreover now adays there is push for language.. and many thing else.. so you will feel left out
This is so true, a lot of people turn to and rely on activities involving alcohol, smoking, partying, hooking up or dating with new strangers everyday thinking they're not lonely just because they are under the influence of some substance or crowd not realising the real meaning of fulfilment through real connection, which is the only thing that beats loneliness provided we understand that being alone and feeling painfully lonely are two very different things.
@@pc_6Can you be more specific ? How can we connect with somebody on a deep level ? I mean are there any steps or processes involved ? Just curious to know...
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
Bangalore or Hyderabad, the feeling is the same-these cities are filled with dreams, yet sometimes they feel like endless mazes of solitude. It’s strange how you can be surrounded by people and still feel like you’re living in your own bubble. Here’s to everyone chasing their goals far from home-may we all find little moments of connection amidst the chaos.
Folks, being alone and feeling lonely are two different things. You have no idea how much gifted you are. Just spend few minutes to understand yourself. First the physical you and your physical aspects, then go deeply to Realize your inner self. Be thankful and greatful to wherever you are and how ever you are - slowly everything will change. It takes some time but don't give up.
I stayed in Bangalore for 8 long years and man I never felt alone , there’s so many people , so much work . Yes but when i moved to Australia i knew what loneliness means
Lol in India atleast u can talk with unknown ppl freely. In usa it's not. 😂 In subway of NYC here rarely I see ppl talking with each other. Bt in Mumbai it's really a normal thing. I used to talk with anyone in Mumbai without any effort or scare@@shazwaz87
Exactly, luv yourself and your own company otherwise we endup in a wrong friendship which give much more pain than being lonely I learnt the art of being alone infact if u don't luv yourself even if u are surrounded with 100s of ppl you still feel lonely...so pls learnt art of living buddies
@SayantanChakraborty-ub7ei Maybe for you...but not really...if someone likes themselves...they'll do what they wanna do...and what they want to do is leave bangalore...like i am from ooty and love ooty...but I've worked in bangalore since 2013...fukin crap i hate bangalore man...we are wild people...i don't like to sit in front of a computer...i grew up with white people in ooty...i never stayed at bangalore for more then a few months a time...finally 2022 i said let's leave that's it i started becoming sick too shoulder pain i became lean and that place is racist too horrible...bangalore people dream about ooty..the bangalore tourists i met last year say wow i am lucky to live in ooty so clean newt so peaceful so cold and no pollution its like london for me...what bangalore has...???...prostitution yuck disgusting everyone getting drunk at nights...like do they do anything adventurous or do camping hiking trekking or just take a cold walk...nooo...they go and sit in front of a computer...and go home unhappy and get sick soon and die soon...not cool man not cool...
That’s true. I stay in a different country all alone. I don’t feel lonely. Sometimes I cannot understand why some ppl despite having so many ppl around keep feeling lonely. Some ppl out of loneliness keep talking hours in phone and then after the call again start to feel lonely. Loneliness is more of an internal thing. Just a bunch of friends and frequent meet ups will not help.
I stayed lonely for 9 years..then relocated to my parents place . . I was in a renowned product MNC and also worked in a defence auxiliary contracting co. But loneliness is unavoidable..those days yt and all were not very popular..I used to spend money on myself..used to go to amoeba, malls..sometimes mg brigade commercial street..travelling solo.. do household chores..wash clothes cook...watch lots of movies ..on weekends specially. I had a habit of writing..i used to stay in bheema nagar..but I feel great that ..i was not really depressed..10 hours of job..really had no time to feel even depressed ..low ,but stress was the reason I left the job to Pursue law .and was preparing for clat.. hopefully I m studying now after few years of marriage .lots of hopes I had i. Bangalore but i couldn't really feel like Bangalore can offer me good for long run .
Agreed, in the short run. But in the long run, it can lead to serious mental health disorders. Man is supposed to be a "social animal" by nature. Long term loneliness is certainly not a good thing for a person's mental wellbeing. However in the event of being in a social gathering with others, choose your company wisely - cut off people whom you consider toxic.
You get exhausted when you try to please and appease people around you. You need to learn to live your way rather than always trying to meet people's expectations. Every one is unique on this planet though we might have many things in common. Thirst for knowledge removes loneliness, keep learning and studying that's the best solution. Some people feel lonely despite having too many friends. I have very few friends now, by choice.
It's the people who loves the company of others feel lonely in a metro but the people who love their own company love to be alone. City isn't the problem but the mindset is..
That is 1 factor for sure, however, there are many people who are lonely despite being surrounded by family members. It's about connecting meaningfully and not just socialising without deeper connection.
Who tf is lonely in Bangalore!!! I'm from North and I love it here. Apart from few assholes you'll anyway find anywhere in the world, people here are great and the weather itself is such a vibe. I've met more people in this city than anywhere. Anybody who says they can't connect with people because they can't speak Kannada is bullshitting. People are people first and north or south indian later. I found the love of my life in Bangalore and she's a proper Kannadiga. Even when I was new here, I was blown away by this city anyway. I came here in 2017 and the first thing I noticed were food joints every 50 meters. That's when I knew this was going to be fun. And then the first time I explored a pub here, I had a cultural shock and how chill people were in the crowds. Nobody was picking fights with some guy who accidentally brushed somebody's girlfriend because the crowd was packed and there was hardly any place to move. People were happy. That's the first time I saw so many happy people in one place. Man, Bangalore touched my soul.
I am born and bred in Bangalore and been away for 24+ years. Bangalore is always a home coming for me with nostalgia but the outsiders have taken all the thrill of it now. I mean everybody is lonely if they are not connected to their home town period. We Bengalurians feels home in our home town/city.
New point noted, 100% Absolutely Correct, but please take positively read my other points, my worst experiences make me negative 😢😢 Suggest solution please as Human & Benglorian.🙏🏼❤️🩹❤️🩹 Bengaluru has BIG TRUST & Common BETRAYAL issues for Money💰. Being call Outsider is not just Trouble, more than that being cheated by Frauds. e.g. LIKE Overcharging Auto Riksha guy, OLA/UBER driver asking to go offline & decline Online Driving, Never exchang money rturning BTMC Conductor, Falsely (12xRent) Deposite gulping LandLords & PG Owners, Monthly Fake maintainace charging PG Owner, Foreever fake promising Recruiters, Falsly solution commiting HR Head, Company's exploiting ManAgers, fake friending-colleagues .... Too dangerous Toxic-City... Can't measure AQI, but deep down feel & drain Toxicity of City Bang & LeLoo 🤔😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔💔💔❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Congratulations everyone !! in search of material pleasures we're doomed as a generation , lonely , depressed , anxious , unwell with no place that seems home with no people you feel like calling your own . was this the world you slogged yourself for ; missing on gatherings social events and parties as a teenager and now regretting all that as an adult. No amount of Money will bring back those joyous moments we didnt live as kids because we were too occupied to build a career that would pay us well...
Very clearly you pinpointed the main problem of today's generation. And we all know the solution but everyone is waiting for social media to influence them
Unfortunately, Bengaluru has just one big park - the Cubbon Park. The city doesn’t make any effort to create public resources like that in other parts of the city. Whitefield, Varthur, Sarjapur areas have been given to big builders. Imagine Prestige is building 2 communities across from each other. One is close to the lake. It was a huge opportunity to build a nice park.
@@fizzybubblech2128No offence but let’s not blanket other cities into this. Mumbai fares much better than this. Delhi despite being called out for rude & loud behaviour still has a sense of belonging that Bangalore doesn’t have.
@@RS-qx6oy i would explore if I could get there is less than 1.5 hours 🤣 Also people need resources near by. When the city limits are expanding, so should the public resources.
@@swastikasinghal89 dear Swasti.We have parks in every area of Bengaluru which you will never find it in any of the city.Commuting in any city is a challenge these days and Bangalore is not an exception.You start seeing places in city and you will fall in love with it.Try weekend early morning,you won't have much traffic and reach early if you are staying within city limits.
The solution is very simple. Join social dancing like salsa , bachata ,Kizomba or tango. Bangalore has one of the best Latin dance community. You will never be lonely in your life. you are surrounded by the community which focuses on learning and growing.
There are very few social clubs like the one's you mentioned because of which it's either a lot of travel and traffic to deal with or too much crowd under one roof if you make it. If you know any, maybe you can name a few for the lonely people of Bangalore to try 😁 It may be helpful for someone 😊
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im very well written!, I understand where you're coming from, to be honest I've never had problems till now to make new friends. This is also because I still am in my college and haven't stepped into the corporate world so have no experience regarding it, the bottom line that I truly believe in is that if you're truly there for a person, for no ulterior motive, you are bound to be friends, but in today's day and age, everyone does things for a reason, everything is a barter, plus life gets so hectic when you grow up, you have so much responsibilities to deal with, and they must be fulfilled. Ever wondered why the number of friends are highest in school? Because our hearts are in the purest forms, there are no judgements in schools, there is no "what you'll do in return if I'll do this for you", it's just you are at your purest heart with little to no bad experiences with people, and the number of friends decreases eventually from college to job to life. This also happens because the clean heart gets smart intrinsically and humans naturally have this instinct of not going to initiate new friendships due to their ego coming their ways hence making it difficult to form new bonds, Naval Ravikant once said "Love is always given" and sadly people want to be loved first only then they would want to give it back to others, but the fact is you have to give first then receive, and believe me once you start doing this selflessly, you'll start to notice the wonders of the world. I think we can be good friends too, and surely we should connect.. My insta username is the same mentioned here. Cheers to life you've got one new friend today hehehe :))) 🥂
If you enjoy staying alone, Bengaluru is a heaven..you can go for walks, jogs, runs, watch movies, cook, read etc. etc. so many things to do...plus the weather...oh my ❤❤
Great video sharing the experiences of people's lives. Loneliness can be overcome only when you make a 'connection' not just meeting random people and hanging out. Connection could be something like 'feeling home/safe when you are with someone', 'when you can you relate yourself with their lifestyle' etc!
As time passes, many individuals prioritize starting families and spending time with loved ones. Those without families may experience feelings of loneliness. Age often influences one's level of commitment, with younger people typically having fewer responsibilities. Additionally, some people prefer solitude, choosing to socialize only with a small circle who share similar traits, opinions, and values, seeking mutual respect in their interactions.
read books, volunteer in ngos - u'll never feel lonely. focus on advancing learning and career, u'll never feel bored . work out daily , eat properly and get enough rest, no matter how hard th e grind is, u'll find the energy for the next day. invest in people in our home towns that we all got out of looking for work and money, we'll have someplace to go back to when required that wouldve become a better place coz of our contributions.
@@ytadltspv loneliness is when there is a lack of "meaningful" social interaction. This is a bigger problem for people who crave deep, meaningful connections with people and don't really enjoy surface level hi, hello pleasantries. When you want to talk about life, ambitions, career issues, economy, deep dive into politics etc, that's when you realize there is practically no one in the immediate surrounding that is actually interested in all that. I don't blame anyone here. It's just that most normal people are happy with food, small jokes, tv and that's that. So someone that is not satisfied with just that tends to be lonely
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
Silence shouldn't be misjudged with weakness. Stoicism shouldn't be misjudged with loneliness! Where there is passion there is happiness.✨ Keep juggling and hustling! JAI HIND
It's common in Cities. I realized the people in my Village my age are having good social life than me. Their weekends are awesome as the villages are also rich now.. The problem in the City is that you should have enough money for a social life. Basically spending more and people are reluctant to do that because they came to cities for their life settlement.
That is true, one can feel lonely in the city because of many reasons. It's like people don't have time to live anymore. Trying to keep up with inflation, traffic and the many commitments in the city kills one's creativity and social skills. I remember growing up, we had a close group of friends. Now everyone has disappeared, either abroad, in a different city, married or just too tired to be going out anywhere!
Having lived in Banglore for 3 years and moved to Dubai after marriage,very last month. I could say Banglore has a thriving community and there are lots of things to do. Currently going through a very tough phase, holding myself not fall into pit of depression, have worked in on of the big MNCs in Banglore to barely not even getting 2 calls after applying for 100 jobs in 1 month here,scorching heat of 52 degree,only 3 people whom i know totally in this city and people not able to understand mu feelings. In Banglore, i could have gone to a community park or Ulsoor lake to take a walk ro revamp myself. Here in this scorching heat i cant even go anywhere until it becomes night.Although i was in an LDR during my Banglore days, i had lots of friends cousins colleagues whom i could relate, i had Dance classes or by EOD chumma going to the terrace and watching those beautiful sunset and city moving to darkness was enough to make my day. Banglore is Heaven..🎉❤
I have a looot of friends in Bangalore but still unable to meet people who live just 2 kms away because of heavy traffic. Indiranagar 100 feet gets clogged like crazy, cant even go till domlur easily
Loveliness is the state of mind that you create …. Say “hi” to a passerby, you still can connect . Reduce expectations about companionship. If I have to tell you on spirituality front , “you have god and yourself always “
In the past in 90s and 2000s, families used to visit each other houses frequently and even friends. At that time people also used to work 8 to 9 hrs per day only. Now people work 12 hrs per day, sometimes on weekends too, out of stress, they take rest at home. Hardly talk to friends on phone and meet them very less. On top of this bad habits like being too much on smartphones even in late nights after work. In our country, most people don't give value to mental health and if someone speaks about it, he will be ridiculed and looked down. The day we realise that our physical and mental health are also equally important along with our career, these type of things will vanish. Its important to go socialise with like minded people so that we support each other and stay through thick and thin of our lives.
I was feeling same in Bengaluru, alon , how many times you will go out for eat ,if you're outsiders, some day you'll feel excited but slowly you will start feeling lonely
I'm an Old Bangalorean who has seen the city evolve from a quiet garden city in the eighties to the Silicon Valley it is today! I'm a Kannadiga married to a North Indian and my wife loves Bangalore.All her friends love Bangalore.Having travelled India, I can say Bengaluru is a great place! The first girl who was interviewed on this video is at the melting pot or place where Old Bangalore meets New Bengaluru. Its a street with lovely bookstores lined up with the past, present and future.Its where I spend my time. We Old Bangaloreans too feel the fast-paced changes but its still a great place to live and we really don't mind the traffic as its the place where we have our roots! You need to get Bangalored to love Namma Bengaluru.Its truly the best city in India! 😊
Saare bade sheher aise hi hain.... not good place to live one's life but most end up moving to these places because of unplanned job concentration in 6 cities - Delhi NCR, Bangalore, Mumbai, Hyderabad, Chennai and a place in Maha that I hate from the bottom of my heart
In life there are three sets of things. One, you can share with anyone anytime Two, you can share with only a few (be it a family or a frined) Three, you cant share with anyone and it is the one either make you or break you. If it breaks, that's where loneliness steps in (no matter how many hundreds / thousands of friends / welwishers are around you)
Can One Go Beyond Loneliness? WHAT IS LONELINESS? Most of us know the feeling of being completely isolated. Though you are with your friends, in a group or with your family, you feel completely cut off, isolated. And that isolation, that loneliness is rather painful. Being aware of that pain we either escape from it, try to cover it up or rationalise it. But at the end of it, the loneliness still remains. Then what is one to do with it? What is this sense of loneliness? Is it the result of our daily life which is so self-centred, so egocentric, so selfish, which is all the time isolating, building a wall around oneself? That brings about a quality or feeling of utter loneliness, utter despair in that loneliness. If you do not escape from it and you see the absurdity of escaping, the fact that running away from it is part of that loneliness, then you have the energy to face loneliness. We are wasting that energy through verbal or actual escape, so when you realise the absurdity, the silliness of it, then you are facing loneliness.
i stayed in mumbai and pune u will never feel alone , people are friendly and enjoy their life whatever their financial conditon is , but in bangalore i feel lonely , people talk less judge more, most of the people are busy 10-12 hour job and upset with daily traffic .
Totally agree. Moved to Mumbai and lived there for more than a decade and never felt lonely or as an outsider. Neighbors were like family. Whether you are working or not, people don't judge you. But just one year in Bangalore it was so damn lonely. Everyone is working and no one has time for others. And there is a clear divide between the different communities living
I was in Bangalore for about 6 months, and I felt too lonely. Even though I was going out every single weekend, honestly the city goes quite after 9:30 pm, only the pubs are open
@@sagarshetty3175 Come to Pune and Mumbai you will realise what I am saying. You can roam around easily till 12-1 am and still you will get food, icecream easily and many people, couples roming around without any problem. Night life does not only means Pubs
I lived for 20 years in Bangalore and lived in less crowded locations like Goa, Palakkad, it was equally lonely in different ways. It doesn't get any better. Just grow the will to stay positive and stick to a group of people that you are comfortable with.
Get Married by 30. I won't talk like a boomer uncle and suggest getting married by 24, but 30 should be about right. Have a child within 2 years, and invite either your parents or in-laws once a month. My loneliness disappeared after I got these things in life.
This video makes feels like I need to go out there, meet random people, like you said in the last sentence, we have two choices, I have decided to go with second
*MOST OF US ARE LONELY* What is loneliness? Most of us are lonely. Out of that loneliness, we want companionship. We escape from loneliness through every form of entertainment, religious as well as that which is most amusing. We escape in so many ways. But like a deep disease that must be cured, it is always there. So one must go into this very carefully because if we don’t understand it, our action, which is our daily relationship with each other, will distort that relationship. That relationship then becomes merely exploiting each other to escape from this deep abiding loneliness. Why are we so lonely? I don’t know if you have ever experienced the state of loneliness, isolation, having no relationship at all with others. Perhaps some of you have experienced this, or most of you. And if we don’t understand that loneliness, our actions will be distorted. So we are inquiring not only into action but also into loneliness, which destroys, disrupts, distorts all relationship in action. What is loneliness? Why are we so self-centred? Why are we in our own lives? We may have friends, be married and all the rest of it, but we are always concerned with ourselves. Our actions are self-centred: ambitious, greedy, envious, suffering, aggressive. That is fairly clear. Is that the root of this deep loneliness of man? And can that loneliness utterly disappear? When there is a hurt, psychological hurt, any action that takes place must inevitably be affected by the hurt. We get very hurt, not only about little things but deeply hurt in not being able to fulfil, not being able to achieve, not being able to become something. We get deeply hurt, and that hurt affects our actions. You cannot escape from distorting action if you are hurt. That is, as long as you have an image about yourself, you are going to be hurt. Inevitably. And when there is hurt, action will be destructive, will bring about conflict. Is it possible to be aware of this loneliness and not escape from it, but remain with it: not take a drink, not pick up a book, not rush off to some form of entertainment, but to completely, without any movement of thought, remain with that feeling of utter isolation? Then you will see, if you do, that feeling of isolation disappears entirely, because it is thought that creates the sense of isolation.
Come to Kolkata...it's also a metropolitan city..but people are not lonely here... loneliness only happens in robot cities where people don't have emotions much...and Bangalore is a perfect example of robot city...
@@sumantakolay1436 BENGALURU.. is only a City... Not whole karnataka state... Kolkatta is also a city.. Not a whole west bengal... LONLINESS.. is an Individual Emotion... Its nothing to do with.. States.. Nations... Even... Universe..
Bangalore is definitely a lonlier than other cities like Delhi....because people lack the dept in bonding..speaking in English and having superfluous relations.
I too live in Bangalore alone ... never felt that I'm alone or something because I know I have to complete my work on time and go office the next day !!
I was never lonely in Bangalore always my friends and cousins were there around we go to parties, disco, pub, movies ,trips and almost every weekend in malls ,brigade and MG road etc but once I moved to UAE I felt the real loneliness 🙃😢😢😢
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im This paragraph really helped me to understand the root cause of loneliness. However, there is still a basic human need to have a meaningful connection with people. It gives us a sense of safety that there is someone by my side. The need of this safety comes from evolutionary past when our ansistors had better probability to survive when they lived in groups. I wish I had someone like you in my real life with whom I could have deep talks about life.
People don't have ethics and basic values, they lie, lie, lie and make up some story, they don't respect who genuinely care for them, and surrounding themselves with assholes and not communicating with us, will result in loneliness. I am looking for a girl in Bengaluru to marry (intension of dating to marry), but damn, it is hard to come by such genuinely pure people who have basic values, respect for each others parents and they care for us. Tinder and other dating apps are like garage sale, thank god I have not signed up for it.
This is honestly the ase for every metropolitan city in this world. Specifically bachelors living in a diff. city or country . The constant materialistic expectations we hv from ourselves ( which is seen to be more in this generation, probably not everyone ) . Also before ppl used to settle around their own society..rather than going out for other environment and culture. Before it was simple ppl would graduate upto their requirement ( some not even graduate ) and just get married to someone and live whole life in same house ....but now its not so ...
And also someone Said in video those who indulge in smoking and drinking shouldn't be trusted.. what nonsense.. drinking is personal choice.and if someone is bad they anyway are😊
I've been here for more than a year. Never ever felt lonely. It is the issue with these people specifically. Else it is one of the most beautiful places to live!
not ignorant - 'natives' have our families here and get involved in each others' lives, our problem is lived thru alrdy - we also came from villages outside decades ago and all our people are elsewhere, some long gone, and those times were gentler even if we had much less money. now people that leave all their loved ones and roots behind just to find work and earn are in a much tougher life even with all the money and 'modern' facilities. it happens to every country and society that needs to earn money and loses its moorings - look at the us - detroit, etc. what were once thriving are all decadent now. people have to figure out their lives the way each can. i suspect the main reason for this loneliness is fear of the future looking at so many bad stories around - layoffs, failed relationships, etc. while the fix is right before us - learning from books and about ourselves and helping others in a structured way. hitting clubs and pizza huts for the weekend isnt the solution.
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im people that feed demons in their minds and keep running around in their own small circles with no other useful interest in lift - reading, sports, social service, etc - will only be lonely. if every important stage in personal life is a milestone, the yearly events that lead to each one is a step to plan for and execute. beyond that there s a big wide world there with so much to learn about and so many people to help or try backup options - run small biz like social entrepreneur etc. why will someone every feel lonely if he/she gets out of their own personal hells???? our elders had so little and did so much, they werent lonely - they built relationships with others and did their best. we have so much but give and do so little. thats the problem.
It’s not only about Bangalore if you are living away from family and have no friends or partner in the city where you live away from home you will feel lonely
I love Bengaluru as an introvert I live my life mostly home n go out alone sometimes n never felt judged for going alone and you can talk to random people and some even become your friends some even helps you if you need . Some are bad too but hey that’s just everywhere in this world . So felt lonely but in a good way I never felt like an outsider here . I feel home here I feel so comfortable and safe here even when I’m alone everything you get it at your door step so grateful for this city that gave me confidence and to be myself 😊
@@crossplanev8 lmao , how dumb are u 🤡, the whole universe works on the principle tht u can do whatever u want as long as wt u do doesn't affect anyone else ,lmao , crimes affect PPL , safe drinking , eating and smoking doesn't do shit to others , it only affects the person intaking it , are u seriously comparing committing crimes to eating and drinking? what a clown
Even if your from same city if you change your house you will feel lonely I shifted to nagasandra now i miss ulsoor so much. I dont even know my neighbours now. My parents can speak easily but our generation cant speak so comfortably to each other
Single child, highly egoistic for the education and job u have. Want to be highly independent . Not having good rapport with cousins and friends is a major cause.
simple.. there are so called "third places". these are places like playgrounds where you act without obligations and free with orders whereas "first/second" are home/work-office work-office/home where you have obligations.. so please create those places urban planners or community leaders
I don’t feel lonely , I love my space.but yes it’s hard to make friends here .. I feel Bengaluru lacks warmth.. even people coming here from outside don’t mingle much .. people don’t have the idea of fun here unlike pubs and malls.
Those Fellows Saying Banglore is Not Safe And all Go To Your Native Guys you all are here to learn and earn and having food and stay here not respecting local culture and blaming Bcs of These Other state guys making Banglore like that if thet say so
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im Thank you🙏 for sharing. That's so deep. I'm single but I understand your pov. Marriage is a contract. Sex is for pleasure. Being a parent is a duty /obligation. We don't choose who we work with. No one wants to be in the same job till 60s. We'd still feel lonely. Even when surrounded by interesting people. Where do we derive a sense of purpose then? Suppose if I want to pursue a hobby /have 'ME' as the center, if I find someone with same interests and hang out with them on weekends, I'll be waiting for the weekend and lonely the entire week. Or when I don't have 'ME' as the center, what if I stand up for a cause without identifying myself as a social worker at an NGO, be giving to others without expecting anything, do you think I won't be lonely? 😔
I am going a bit deep and offtopic here but until and unless one is internally happy and joyus no amount of socializing will bring one out of loneliness. Loneliness cannot be cured until one is internally connected with their emotions and have confidence enough to express it.
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it. So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness. And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else. So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
If you stop staring at phones and put Some effort in interacting with new people u wouldn't feel lonely. You hangout at places that are frequented by untruustable folkks. Instead build a healthy habit of going to parks , learn local language and interact with neighbours. Invite friends over Build social skills instead of being a slave to mobile. Digital is making people lonelier and anti social
TOO SELF CENTRED, SELFISHNESS EGOISTIC, OVER PLESURE SEEKING MATERLISTIC LIFE BELIEVE ME IF NO SPRITUAL INSIGHTS LONELINESS WILL START EATING YOU FROM INSIDE.
Try to make friends with yourself first .. that’s a journey everyone should take!.. depending on another human to fill the void of loneliness or validation will always leave you disappointed✌🏻❤️
" loneliness. Loneliness is a misunderstood aloneness. Once you misunderstand your aloneness as loneliness, the whole context changes. Aloneness has a beauty and grandeur, a positivity; loneliness is poor, negative, dark, dismal. “Everybody is running away from loneliness. It is like a wound; it hurts. To escape from it, the only way is to be in a crowd, to become part of a society, to have friends, to create a family, to have husbands and wives, to have children. In this crowd, the basic effort is that you will be able to forget your loneliness. “But nobody has ever succeeded in forgetting it. That which is natural to you, you can try to ignore - but you cannot forget it; it will assert again and again. And the problem becomes more complex because you have never seen it as it is; you have taken it for granted that you are born lonely." "loneliness is the absence of the other, Aloneness is the presence of your eternal being" OSHO
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well crafted. :’)
Thank you ❤️
*MOST OF US ARE LONELY.*
What is loneliness? Most of us are lonely. Out of that loneliness, we want companionship. We escape from loneliness through every form of entertainment, religious as well as that which is most amusing. We escape in so many ways. But like a deep disease that must be cured, it is always there. So one must go into this very carefully because if we don’t understand it, our action, which is our daily relationship with each other, will distort that relationship. That relationship then becomes merely exploiting each other to escape from this deep abiding loneliness.
Why are we so lonely? I don’t know if you have ever experienced the state of loneliness, isolation, having no relationship at all with others. Perhaps some of you have experienced this, or most of you. And if we don’t understand that loneliness, our actions will be distorted. So we are inquiring not only into action but also into loneliness, which destroys, disrupts, distorts all relationship in action. What is loneliness? Why are we so self-centred?
Why are we in our own lives? We may have friends, be married and all the rest of it, but we are always concerned with ourselves. Our actions are self-centred: ambitious, greedy, envious, suffering, aggressive. That is fairly clear. Is that the root of this deep loneliness of man? And can that loneliness utterly disappear?
When there is a hurt, psychological hurt, any action that takes place must inevitably be affected by the hurt. We get very hurt, not only about little things but deeply hurt in not being able to fulfil, not being able to achieve, not being able to become something. We get deeply hurt, and that hurt affects our actions. You cannot escape from distorting action if you are hurt. That is, as long as you have an image about yourself, you are going to be hurt. Inevitably. And when there is hurt, action will be destructive, will bring about conflict. Is it possible to be aware of this loneliness and not escape from it, but remain with it: not take a drink, not pick up a book, not rush off to some form of entertainment, but to completely, without any movement of thought, remain with that feeling of utter isolation? Then you will see, if you do, that feeling of isolation disappears entirely, because it is thought that creates the sense of isolation.
Totally agree
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im movement is necessary agreed 💯 total
Not good content it's a personal lifestyle problem not a city problem
Not Bengaluru alone, all big cities. I lived with many people away from family but never felt alone as I had many friends, even in a new place you can make friends easily.
it is not only in bangalore it is seen in mumbai,delhi & almost in all the major cities in the world
sahi baat
@@SDFNI3894YR 🙂👍
But Delhi and banglore are then worst
Main reason
People.from other states who settle but don't integrate into local culture, local scene
@@sanjayb4159 City culture is totally different bro.
It's almost the same in all the major cities bro.
Diversity we can find in all the major cities bro.
So almost the same culture of being lonely we can find in these major cities bro.🙂
@@salmankhanhandsome yes I agree with your observations
But I have highlighted specifically what ails bengaluru.
And its causes
Man is a social animal and development of city should be with an eye that it is centered around human beings
Just blind development fo dake of commercial.gains and exploitation leads to humans beings and nature , arts, culture being ignored only leads to human isolation and loneliness.
People might hate me for this but I felt like I have felt the most lonely in this city. This city has a very weird culture. Too much of partying culture and materialism . It is really hard to make friends.
I second this
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No wouldn't hate you for this infact what you're saying is true
Maybe, at times I visit temples and meet new people. engage in a few activities, and help the needy ones. Almost a few years to retirement, lost a few friends along the way and gained new ones.
@@kittyindAnd that doesn't sound cool for gen Z.
I’m from a rural part from Karnataka and settled in Bangalore the best thing ever happened to me in life is having so many many friends thanks to the city ….. people coming from outside just need to remember that the city is have nothing to do with your lonelyness…. The reason for your lonelynesss is just you and it’s you to be blamed alone for this ….. friends are not your OTT platform when ever you are board to get entertainment
How did you make new friends in Bangalore?
@@dev_esh01 just start talking to people lol. If you are working, go talk with your collegues and meet their mutual friends. Making friends is not rocket science
Environment obviously influences us ...
True guru....nice
Shadegalu kannada kaliyalla sumne mathadtare 😅 who'll trust them......!!?
for a Kannadiga it can be easy.. but ideally people from different geography and ethnicity come here for job.. so its a feeling of outsider.. moreover now adays there is push for language.. and many thing else.. so you will feel left out
Going to pubs to unwind to escape loneliness is not the solution to it.
This is so true, a lot of people turn to and rely on activities involving alcohol, smoking, partying, hooking up or dating with new strangers everyday thinking they're not lonely just because they are under the influence of some substance or crowd not realising the real meaning of fulfilment through real connection, which is the only thing that beats loneliness provided we understand that being alone and feeling painfully lonely are two very different things.
@@pc_6Can you be more specific ? How can we connect with somebody on a deep level ? I mean are there any steps or processes involved ? Just curious to know...
We are the most connected generation and yet still the most loneliest.
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connected socially only online but disconnected offline
Ironic
Omg what a profound truth
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
Bangalore or Hyderabad, the feeling is the same-these cities are filled with dreams, yet sometimes they feel like endless mazes of solitude. It’s strange how you can be surrounded by people and still feel like you’re living in your own bubble. Here’s to everyone chasing their goals far from home-may we all find little moments of connection amidst the chaos.
Folks, being alone and feeling lonely are two different things.
You have no idea how much gifted you are. Just spend few minutes to understand yourself. First the physical you and your physical aspects, then go deeply to Realize your inner self.
Be thankful and greatful to wherever you are and how ever you are - slowly everything will change. It takes some time but don't give up.
I stayed in Bangalore for 8 long years and man I never felt alone , there’s so many people , so much work . Yes but when i moved to Australia i knew what loneliness means
I agree
Loneliness in the US is 100x worse than the so called loneliness in India.
Same here 🙌
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Lol in India atleast u can talk with unknown ppl freely. In usa it's not. 😂 In subway of NYC here rarely I see ppl talking with each other. Bt in Mumbai it's really a normal thing. I used to talk with anyone in Mumbai without any effort or scare@@shazwaz87
Learn to stay alone, but not feel lonely. The two are different things.
Same as u think bro 😇
Living alone is the best thing people don't realize that
Exactly, luv yourself and your own company otherwise we endup in a wrong friendship which give much more pain than being lonely
I learnt the art of being alone infact if u don't luv yourself even if u are surrounded with 100s of ppl you still feel lonely...so pls learnt art of living buddies
@@GeetharaoHow to learn the Art of Living ? Need to go to Shree Shree Shree Ravishankar Guruji Ashram ?
@@manjunathmnm no need of any ashram just luv your own company and focus on career growth all will be well
If you can't enjoy your own company, you are gonna feel lonely everywhere, even in your hometown where everyone of your age-group is busy.
Can we stop this “love yourself” bullsh!t?
honestly, this isn't bs at all. It's a process of giving yourself the respect and attention you'd always deserved.
Till when
@SayantanChakraborty-ub7ei Maybe for you...but not really...if someone likes themselves...they'll do what they wanna do...and what they want to do is leave bangalore...like i am from ooty and love ooty...but I've worked in bangalore since 2013...fukin crap i hate bangalore man...we are wild people...i don't like to sit in front of a computer...i grew up with white people in ooty...i never stayed at bangalore for more then a few months a time...finally 2022 i said let's leave that's it i started becoming sick too shoulder pain i became lean and that place is racist too horrible...bangalore people dream about ooty..the bangalore tourists i met last year say wow i am lucky to live in ooty so clean newt so peaceful so cold and no pollution its like london for me...what bangalore has...???...prostitution yuck disgusting everyone getting drunk at nights...like do they do anything adventurous or do camping hiking trekking or just take a cold walk...nooo...they go and sit in front of a computer...and go home unhappy and get sick soon and die soon...not cool man not cool...
That’s true. I stay in a different country all alone. I don’t feel lonely. Sometimes I cannot understand why some ppl despite having so many ppl around keep feeling lonely. Some ppl out of loneliness keep talking hours in phone and then after the call again start to feel lonely. Loneliness is more of an internal thing. Just a bunch of friends and frequent meet ups will not help.
I stayed lonely for 9 years..then relocated to my parents place . . I was in a renowned product MNC and also worked in a defence auxiliary contracting co. But loneliness is unavoidable..those days yt and all were not very popular..I used to spend money on myself..used to go to amoeba, malls..sometimes mg brigade commercial street..travelling solo.. do household chores..wash clothes cook...watch lots of movies ..on weekends specially. I had a habit of writing..i used to stay in bheema nagar..but I feel great that ..i was not really depressed..10 hours of job..really had no time to feel even depressed ..low ,but stress was the reason I left the job to Pursue law .and was preparing for clat.. hopefully I m studying now after few years of marriage .lots of hopes I had i. Bangalore but i couldn't really feel like Bangalore can offer me good for long run .
Oh ok dear nagratna
Loneliness is a blessing. If you enjoy your own company. You don't need anyone. ❤
Agreed, in the short run. But in the long run, it can lead to serious mental health disorders. Man is supposed to be a "social animal" by nature. Long term loneliness is certainly not a good thing for a person's mental wellbeing.
However in the event of being in a social gathering with others, choose your company wisely - cut off people whom you consider toxic.
Very true.. Thanks for the video. I thought it was just me. Trying to fit in every day is exhausting
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You get exhausted when you try to please and appease people around you. You need to learn to live your way rather than always trying to meet people's expectations. Every one is unique on this planet though we might have many things in common.
Thirst for knowledge removes loneliness, keep learning and studying that's the best solution.
Some people feel lonely despite having too many friends.
I have very few friends now, by choice.
@@kspradeep8397 Your advice is spot on.. Quality over quantity anytime. Thanks for the reminder!
To most people: Get married to a person you like and who is a good human being. Everything will be fine God willing!
That is another discussion. Most youngsters do not value marriage and are not interested.
@@ln7487then stay lonely! What else
Marriage are a kind of burden these days ...
Fine person are exception now. That's why more people don't want to get married ever.
@@Yan-Yin_11111A big trap 🪤😂
Me a Banglorean kannadiga...watching PPL saying there s lot of pub culture n me not even been a part of it from v long time........!!!
absolutely. major reasons being traffic and rains that make everyone stay at home
It's the people who loves the company of others feel lonely in a metro but
the people who love their own company love to be alone.
City isn't the problem but the mindset is..
Bullshit talk with no base and no maturity
That is 1 factor for sure, however, there are many people who are lonely despite being surrounded by family members. It's about connecting meaningfully and not just socialising without deeper connection.
Who tf is lonely in Bangalore!!! I'm from North and I love it here. Apart from few assholes you'll anyway find anywhere in the world, people here are great and the weather itself is such a vibe. I've met more people in this city than anywhere.
Anybody who says they can't connect with people because they can't speak Kannada is bullshitting. People are people first and north or south indian later. I found the love of my life in Bangalore and she's a proper Kannadiga.
Even when I was new here, I was blown away by this city anyway. I came here in 2017 and the first thing I noticed were food joints every 50 meters. That's when I knew this was going to be fun. And then the first time I explored a pub here, I had a cultural shock and how chill people were in the crowds. Nobody was picking fights with some guy who accidentally brushed somebody's girlfriend because the crowd was packed and there was hardly any place to move. People were happy. That's the first time I saw so many happy people in one place.
Man, Bangalore touched my soul.
Noone... Noone gives a $hit...
People are lonely in rural areas and at home too.
No
Never bro..
No, everyone knows each one in village.
I am born and bred in Bangalore and been away for 24+ years. Bangalore is always a home coming for me with nostalgia but the outsiders have taken all the thrill of it now. I mean everybody is lonely if they are not connected to their home town period. We Bengalurians feels home in our home town/city.
Yes, others dont know.
New point noted, 100% Absolutely Correct, but please take positively read my other points, my worst experiences make me negative 😢😢 Suggest solution please as Human & Benglorian.🙏🏼❤️🩹❤️🩹
Bengaluru has BIG TRUST & Common BETRAYAL issues for Money💰. Being call Outsider is not just Trouble, more than that being cheated by Frauds. e.g. LIKE Overcharging Auto Riksha guy, OLA/UBER driver asking to go offline & decline Online Driving, Never exchang money rturning BTMC Conductor, Falsely (12xRent) Deposite gulping LandLords & PG Owners, Monthly Fake maintainace charging PG Owner, Foreever fake promising Recruiters, Falsly solution commiting HR Head, Company's exploiting ManAgers, fake friending-colleagues .... Too dangerous Toxic-City... Can't measure AQI, but deep down feel & drain Toxicity of City Bang & LeLoo 🤔😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔💔💔❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Congratulations everyone !! in search of material pleasures we're doomed as a generation , lonely , depressed , anxious , unwell with no place that seems home with no people you feel like calling your own . was this the world you slogged yourself for ; missing on gatherings social events and parties as a teenager and now regretting all that as an adult. No amount of Money will bring back those joyous moments we didnt live as kids because we were too occupied to build a career that would pay us well...
@@devanshudwivedi8411 Well instead of this long lecture can you tell what went wrong? And what should be improved?
@@dark_knight439 listen to bairagi from aspirants you'll get an idea
Very clearly you pinpointed the main problem of today's generation. And we all know the solution but everyone is waiting for social media to influence them
True
Sorry mister, Without money, even your shadow won’t mind you here. Loneliness is nothing before pennilessness 😢
Unfortunately, Bengaluru has just one big park - the Cubbon Park. The city doesn’t make any effort to create public resources like that in other parts of the city. Whitefield, Varthur, Sarjapur areas have been given to big builders. Imagine Prestige is building 2 communities across from each other. One is close to the lake. It was a huge opportunity to build a nice park.
It's sadly the same across all indian cities.
@@fizzybubblech2128No offence but let’s not blanket other cities into this. Mumbai fares much better than this. Delhi despite being called out for rude & loud behaviour still has a sense of belonging that Bangalore doesn’t have.
@@swastikasinghal89 don't forget 240 acre Lalbagh which you can never find in any of the bigger cities in India.Explore the city.
@@RS-qx6oy i would explore if I could get there is less than 1.5 hours 🤣 Also people need resources near by. When the city limits are expanding, so should the public resources.
@@swastikasinghal89 dear Swasti.We have parks in every area of Bengaluru which you will never find it in any of the city.Commuting in any city is a challenge these days and Bangalore is not an exception.You start seeing places in city and you will fall in love with it.Try weekend early morning,you won't have much traffic and reach early if you are staying within city limits.
The solution is very simple. Join social dancing like salsa , bachata ,Kizomba or tango. Bangalore has one of the best Latin dance community. You will never be lonely in your life. you are surrounded by the community which focuses on learning and growing.
There are very few social clubs like the one's you mentioned because of which it's either a lot of travel and traffic to deal with or too much crowd under one roof if you make it.
If you know any, maybe you can name a few for the lonely people of Bangalore to try 😁
It may be helpful for someone 😊
@@pc_6 LDI at Koramangala. Motley at Indiranagar. You can reach out to them
i guess this is a general problem now and not specific to bangalore...growing up and making friends is difficult
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True that after a certain age, it's not easy to make friends. You have colleagues, relatives and aquaintences
Yes very true all metropolitans have this problem
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im very well written!, I understand where you're coming from, to be honest I've never had problems till now to make new friends. This is also because I still am in my college and haven't stepped into the corporate world so have no experience regarding it, the bottom line that I truly believe in is that if you're truly there for a person, for no ulterior motive, you are bound to be friends, but in today's day and age, everyone does things for a reason, everything is a barter, plus life gets so hectic when you grow up, you have so much responsibilities to deal with, and they must be fulfilled.
Ever wondered why the number of friends are highest in school? Because our hearts are in the purest forms, there are no judgements in schools, there is no "what you'll do in return if I'll do this for you", it's just you are at your purest heart with little to no bad experiences with people, and the number of friends decreases eventually from college to job to life. This also happens because the clean heart gets smart intrinsically and humans naturally have this instinct of not going to initiate new friendships due to their ego coming their ways hence making it difficult to form new bonds, Naval Ravikant once said "Love is always given" and sadly people want to be loved first only then they would want to give it back to others, but the fact is you have to give first then receive, and believe me once you start doing this selflessly, you'll start to notice the wonders of the world.
I think we can be good friends too, and surely we should connect.. My insta username is the same mentioned here.
Cheers to life you've got one new friend today hehehe :)))
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I think the social isolation can only negatively affect mortality if the person loves company and validation from others.
On the other hand original Bangaloreans are finding the place very crowded and leaving Bangalore😂😂😂
This.😂
If you enjoy staying alone, Bengaluru is a heaven..you can go for walks, jogs, runs, watch movies, cook, read etc. etc. so many things to do...plus the weather...oh my ❤❤
Great video sharing the experiences of people's lives. Loneliness can be overcome only when you make a 'connection' not just meeting random people and hanging out. Connection could be something like 'feeling home/safe when you are with someone', 'when you can you relate yourself with their lifestyle' etc!
You need to be fortunate for that
As time passes, many individuals prioritize starting families and spending time with loved ones. Those without families may experience feelings of loneliness. Age often influences one's level of commitment, with younger people typically having fewer responsibilities. Additionally, some people prefer solitude, choosing to socialize only with a small circle who share similar traits, opinions, and values, seeking mutual respect in their interactions.
read books, volunteer in ngos - u'll never feel lonely. focus on advancing learning and career, u'll never feel bored . work out daily , eat properly and get enough rest, no matter how hard th e grind is, u'll find the energy for the next day. invest in people in our home towns that we all got out of looking for work and money, we'll have someplace to go back to when required that wouldve become a better place coz of our contributions.
Nothing will compensate for lack of social interaction.
@@doncorleone3901 true - no one is really isolated - they go and work outside, etc. its beyond all 'usual' interation when the loneliness starts.
@@ytadltspv loneliness is when there is a lack of "meaningful" social interaction. This is a bigger problem for people who crave deep, meaningful connections with people and don't really enjoy surface level hi, hello pleasantries. When you want to talk about life, ambitions, career issues, economy, deep dive into politics etc, that's when you realize there is practically no one in the immediate surrounding that is actually interested in all that. I don't blame anyone here. It's just that most normal people are happy with food, small jokes, tv and that's that. So someone that is not satisfied with just that tends to be lonely
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
Can I ask you the reason why you clicked on this video?
Silence shouldn't be misjudged with weakness.
Stoicism shouldn't be misjudged with loneliness!
Where there is passion there is happiness.✨
Keep juggling and hustling!
JAI HIND
It's common in Cities. I realized the people in my Village my age are having good social life than me. Their weekends are awesome as the villages are also rich now.. The problem in the City is that you should have enough money for a social life. Basically spending more and people are reluctant to do that because they came to cities for their life settlement.
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That is true, one can feel lonely in the city because of many reasons. It's like people don't have time to live anymore. Trying to keep up with inflation, traffic and the many commitments in the city kills one's creativity and social skills. I remember growing up, we had a close group of friends. Now everyone has disappeared, either abroad, in a different city, married or just too tired to be going out anywhere!
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Having lived in Banglore for 3 years and moved to Dubai after marriage,very last month. I could say Banglore has a thriving community and there are lots of things to do. Currently going through a very tough phase, holding myself not fall into pit of depression, have worked in on of the big MNCs in Banglore to barely not even getting 2 calls after applying for 100 jobs in 1 month here,scorching heat of 52 degree,only 3 people whom i know totally in this city and people not able to understand mu feelings. In Banglore, i could have gone to a community park or Ulsoor lake to take a walk ro revamp myself. Here in this scorching heat i cant even go anywhere until it becomes night.Although i was in an LDR during my Banglore days, i had lots of friends cousins colleagues whom i could relate, i had Dance classes or by EOD chumma going to the terrace and watching those beautiful sunset and city moving to darkness was enough to make my day.
Banglore is Heaven..🎉❤
When we consider all relatives as toxic and stop having communities , this issues come..
We need to have communities were people bond on things
It's a sad reality of the whole world.
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I have a looot of friends in Bangalore but still unable to meet people who live just 2 kms away because of heavy traffic.
Indiranagar 100 feet gets clogged like crazy, cant even go till domlur easily
Loveliness is the state of mind that you create …. Say “hi” to a passerby, you still can connect . Reduce expectations about companionship.
If I have to tell you on spirituality front , “you have god and yourself always “
In the past in 90s and 2000s, families used to visit each other houses frequently and even friends. At that time people also used to work 8 to 9 hrs per day only.
Now people work 12 hrs per day, sometimes on weekends too, out of stress, they take rest at home. Hardly talk to friends on phone and meet them very less. On top of this bad habits like being too much on smartphones even in late nights after work.
In our country, most people don't give value to mental health and if someone speaks about it, he will be ridiculed and looked down. The day we realise that our physical and mental health are also equally important along with our career, these type of things will vanish.
Its important to go socialise with like minded people so that we support each other and stay through thick and thin of our lives.
I was feeling same in Bengaluru, alon , how many times you will go out for eat ,if you're outsiders, some day you'll feel excited but slowly you will start feeling lonely
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I'm an Old Bangalorean who has seen the city evolve from a quiet garden city in the eighties to the Silicon Valley it is today! I'm a Kannadiga married to a North Indian and my wife loves Bangalore.All her friends love Bangalore.Having travelled India, I can say Bengaluru is a great place!
The first girl who was interviewed on this video is at the melting pot or place where Old Bangalore meets New Bengaluru.
Its a street with lovely bookstores lined up with the past, present and future.Its where I spend my time.
We Old Bangaloreans too feel the fast-paced changes but its still a great place to live and we really don't mind the traffic as its the place where we have our roots!
You need to get Bangalored to love Namma Bengaluru.Its truly the best city in India! 😊
Saare bade sheher aise hi hain.... not good place to live one's life but most end up moving to these places because of unplanned job concentration in 6 cities - Delhi NCR, Bangalore, Mumbai, Hyderabad, Chennai and a place in Maha that I hate from the bottom of my heart
Do you hate Pune?
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In life there are three sets of things.
One, you can share with anyone anytime
Two, you can share with only a few (be it a family or a frined)
Three, you cant share with anyone and it is the one either make you or break you. If it breaks, that's where loneliness steps in (no matter how many hundreds / thousands of friends / welwishers are around you)
Informative and helpful video. It will really help people who suffer with loneliness. Thank you team!
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Can One Go Beyond Loneliness?
WHAT IS LONELINESS? Most of us know the feeling of being completely isolated. Though you are with your friends, in a group or with your family, you feel completely cut off, isolated. And that isolation, that loneliness is rather painful. Being aware of that pain we either escape from it, try to cover it up or rationalise it. But at the end of it, the loneliness still remains. Then what is one to do with it?
What is this sense of loneliness? Is it the result of our daily life which is so self-centred, so egocentric, so selfish, which is all the time isolating, building a wall around oneself? That brings about a quality or feeling of utter loneliness, utter despair in that loneliness. If you do not escape from it and you see the absurdity of escaping, the fact that running away from it is part of that loneliness, then you have the energy to face loneliness. We are wasting that energy through verbal or actual escape, so when you realise the absurdity, the silliness of it, then you are facing loneliness.
I am shifting to Bangalore tomorrow and watching this video now. After a couple of months, I'll come back and write my experience here.
Den write
i stayed in mumbai and pune u will never feel alone , people are friendly and enjoy their life whatever their financial conditon is , but in bangalore i feel lonely , people talk less judge more, most of the people are busy 10-12 hour job and upset with daily traffic .
O yes, mumbai pune is lot better. Local vibe is good and non flashy. Banglorr is all about money.
Ye so true
Totally agree. Moved to Mumbai and lived there for more than a decade and never felt lonely or as an outsider. Neighbors were like family. Whether you are working or not, people don't judge you. But just one year in Bangalore it was so damn lonely. Everyone is working and no one has time for others. And there is a clear divide between the different communities living
If a person from South goes to Mumbai and Pune, he will definitely say feeling lonely because of language and cultural differences
It is a problem in every major city..ppl are busy with their phones and don’t want to talk to each other so this is bound to happen
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Nice done highlighting a very important contemporary challenge. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you 🙌
I was in Bangalore for about 6 months, and I felt too lonely. Even though I was going out every single weekend, honestly the city goes quite after 9:30 pm, only the pubs are open
@@sagarshetty3175 Come to Pune and Mumbai you will realise what I am saying. You can roam around easily till 12-1 am and still you will get food, icecream easily and many people, couples roming around without any problem. Night life does not only means Pubs
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I lived for 20 years in Bangalore and lived in less crowded locations like Goa, Palakkad, it was equally lonely in different ways. It doesn't get any better. Just grow the will to stay positive and stick to a group of people that you are comfortable with.
I felt lonely in all y years working for TCS , i went for a wfh job and i became happy ever since
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Get Married by 30.
I won't talk like a boomer uncle and suggest getting married by 24, but 30 should be about right.
Have a child within 2 years, and invite either your parents or in-laws once a month.
My loneliness disappeared after I got these things in life.
Yes I am more happy and busy after my marriage and after becoming mother 😊
This video makes feels like I need to go out there, meet random people, like you said in the last sentence, we have two choices, I have decided to go with second
Stop saying BENGALURU.. this is the story of every metropolitan city... Life...
*MOST OF US ARE LONELY*
What is loneliness? Most of us are lonely. Out of that loneliness, we want companionship. We escape from loneliness through every form of entertainment, religious as well as that which is most amusing. We escape in so many ways. But like a deep disease that must be cured, it is always there. So one must go into this very carefully because if we don’t understand it, our action, which is our daily relationship with each other, will distort that relationship. That relationship then becomes merely exploiting each other to escape from this deep abiding loneliness.
Why are we so lonely? I don’t know if you have ever experienced the state of loneliness, isolation, having no relationship at all with others. Perhaps some of you have experienced this, or most of you. And if we don’t understand that loneliness, our actions will be distorted. So we are inquiring not only into action but also into loneliness, which destroys, disrupts, distorts all relationship in action. What is loneliness? Why are we so self-centred?
Why are we in our own lives? We may have friends, be married and all the rest of it, but we are always concerned with ourselves. Our actions are self-centred: ambitious, greedy, envious, suffering, aggressive. That is fairly clear. Is that the root of this deep loneliness of man? And can that loneliness utterly disappear?
When there is a hurt, psychological hurt, any action that takes place must inevitably be affected by the hurt. We get very hurt, not only about little things but deeply hurt in not being able to fulfil, not being able to achieve, not being able to become something. We get deeply hurt, and that hurt affects our actions. You cannot escape from distorting action if you are hurt. That is, as long as you have an image about yourself, you are going to be hurt. Inevitably. And when there is hurt, action will be destructive, will bring about conflict. Is it possible to be aware of this loneliness and not escape from it, but remain with it: not take a drink, not pick up a book, not rush off to some form of entertainment, but to completely, without any movement of thought, remain with that feeling of utter isolation? Then you will see, if you do, that feeling of isolation disappears entirely, because it is thought that creates the sense of isolation.
Come to Kolkata...it's also a metropolitan city..but people are not lonely here... loneliness only happens in robot cities where people don't have emotions much...and Bangalore is a perfect example of robot city...
@@sumantakolay1436 Bro make some sensible comment! Loneliness is caused by your bad lifestyle & personality disorder 👍
@@sumantakolay1436 BENGALURU.. is only a City... Not whole karnataka state... Kolkatta is also a city.. Not a whole west bengal... LONLINESS.. is an Individual Emotion... Its nothing to do with.. States.. Nations... Even... Universe..
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im.. Absolutely...100000000000000000000%%%... Correct❤️❤️❤️👌👌👍👍
When we start chasing career and money forsaking our village parents, relatives and friends… No wonder we are depressed and lonely…
Our parents are our living God...just live with them then Yoga & meditations...connect to cosmic power...i am 56 yrs never ever feeling such stuffs...
Where is the time to feel lonely?
Bangalore is definitely a lonlier than other cities like Delhi....because people lack the dept in bonding..speaking in English and having superfluous relations.
I too live in Bangalore alone ... never felt that I'm alone or something because I know I have to complete my work on time and go office the next day !!
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Life is to live fun. Family friends neighbours. Just drinking n smoking is what one get easily..
Ur desk should have timer..
I want to know the address of that 8cat girl...
if you have enough money, you will have friends/ events to enjoy and if you don’t have, work hard, earn money. you can’t be lonely in bangalore.
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I was never lonely in Bangalore always my friends and cousins were there around we go to parties, disco, pub, movies ,trips and almost every weekend in malls ,brigade and MG road etc but once I moved to UAE I felt the real loneliness 🙃😢😢😢
You loose 90% percent of these "opportunities" if you don't drink or smoke and based on your tolerance of the same in your circle
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im This paragraph really helped me to understand the root cause of loneliness. However, there is still a basic human need to have a meaningful connection with people. It gives us a sense of safety that there is someone by my side. The need of this safety comes from evolutionary past when our ansistors had better probability to survive when they lived in groups.
I wish I had someone like you in my real life with whom I could have deep talks about life.
What that girl said about Germany is 100% true! Heard similar stories of Indians who returned to India from Sweden and other parts of Europe.
People don't have ethics and basic values, they lie, lie, lie and make up some story, they don't respect who genuinely care for them, and surrounding themselves with assholes and not communicating with us, will result in loneliness. I am looking for a girl in Bengaluru to marry (intension of dating to marry), but damn, it is hard to come by such genuinely pure people who have basic values, respect for each others parents and they care for us. Tinder and other dating apps are like garage sale, thank god I have not signed up for it.
This is honestly the ase for every metropolitan city in this world.
Specifically bachelors living in a diff. city or country . The constant materialistic expectations we hv from ourselves ( which is seen to be more in this generation, probably not everyone ) . Also before ppl used to settle around their own society..rather than going out for other environment and culture.
Before it was simple ppl would graduate upto their requirement ( some not even graduate ) and just get married to someone and live whole life in same house ....but now its not so ...
Na but still , city life much better than any other life
It's not only about Bangalore, it's abt the whole country, views ke liye kuch bhi 😒
exactly
Perfectly said... ❤️❤️👌👌👍👍
And also someone Said in video those who indulge in smoking and drinking shouldn't be trusted.. what nonsense.. drinking is personal choice.and if someone is bad they anyway are😊
I've been here for more than a year. Never ever felt lonely. It is the issue with these people specifically. Else it is one of the most beautiful places to live!
Is it just me or the natives sounded very oblivious and ignorant to the problem?
not ignorant - 'natives' have our families here and get involved in each others' lives, our problem is lived thru alrdy - we also came from villages outside decades ago and all our people are elsewhere, some long gone, and those times were gentler even if we had much less money. now people that leave all their loved ones and roots behind just to find work and earn are in a much tougher life even with all the money and 'modern' facilities. it happens to every country and society that needs to earn money and loses its moorings - look at the us - detroit, etc. what were once thriving are all decadent now. people have to figure out their lives the way each can.
i suspect the main reason for this loneliness is fear of the future looking at so many bad stories around - layoffs, failed relationships, etc. while the fix is right before us - learning from books and about ourselves and helping others in a structured way. hitting clubs and pizza huts for the weekend isnt the solution.
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im people that feed demons in their minds and keep running around in their own small circles with no other useful interest in lift - reading, sports, social service, etc - will only be lonely. if every important stage in personal life is a milestone, the yearly events that lead to each one is a step to plan for and execute. beyond that there s a big wide world there with so much to learn about and so many people to help or try backup options - run small biz like social entrepreneur etc. why will someone every feel lonely if he/she gets out of their own personal hells???? our elders had so little and did so much, they werent lonely - they built relationships with others and did their best. we have so much but give and do so little. thats the problem.
@@ShriNidhi-zu2imThank you for spreading message of J Krishnamurthy
Because they can’t see their beloved city being in the negative limelight at any point.
It’s not only about Bangalore if you are living away from family and have no friends or partner in the city where you live away from home you will feel lonely
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I confirm this phenomenon. I left Bangalore because of the same reason. Go to phoenix mall, U ll find Everyone is depressed, if you look closely.
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Very true,
You were homesick
@@KResu-nc8bk not at all buddy
@@KResu-nc8bk Mai tere jaisa pee k pda nhi rhta hu
I love Bengaluru as an introvert
I live my life mostly home n go out alone sometimes n never felt judged for going alone and you can talk to random people and some even become your friends some even helps you if you need . Some are bad too but hey that’s just everywhere in this world .
So felt lonely but in a good way
I never felt like an outsider here . I feel home here I feel so comfortable and safe here even when I’m alone everything you get it at your door step so grateful for this city that gave me confidence and to be myself 😊
This generation of kids don't wanna do anything except smoke, drink and eat
Lmao wts wrong with tht , to each their own
@@DGen7 with your statement, even crimes are justified. To each their own.
@@crossplanev8 lmao , how dumb are u 🤡, the whole universe works on the principle tht u can do whatever u want as long as wt u do doesn't affect anyone else ,lmao , crimes affect PPL , safe drinking , eating and smoking doesn't do shit to others , it only affects the person intaking it , are u seriously comparing committing crimes to eating and drinking? what a clown
Even if your from same city if you change your house you will feel lonely
I shifted to nagasandra now i miss ulsoor so much. I dont even know my neighbours now. My parents can speak easily but our generation cant speak so comfortably to each other
Single child, highly egoistic for the education and job u have. Want to be highly independent . Not having good rapport with cousins and friends is a major cause.
Who is perambulating with virtuous lifestyle and we crossing tension is boiling point 😚.We are navigating these challenging time 🙏🇮🇳
People afraid to connect, inferiority complex always exists
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simple.. there are so called "third places". these are places like playgrounds where you act without obligations and free with orders whereas "first/second" are home/work-office work-office/home where you have obligations.. so please create those places urban planners or community leaders
People who are introverts will be lonley no matter where they are ... ..
No introverts are not lonely they are at peace
I don’t feel lonely , I love my space.but yes it’s hard to make friends here .. I feel Bengaluru lacks warmth.. even people coming here from outside don’t mingle much .. people don’t have the idea of fun here unlike pubs and malls.
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Those Fellows Saying Banglore is Not Safe And all Go To Your Native Guys you all are here to learn and earn and having food and stay here not respecting local culture and blaming
Bcs of These Other state guys making Banglore like that if thet say so
True. Bangalore is one of the safest places. The police are also friendly and helpful
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im Thank you🙏 for sharing. That's so deep.
I'm single but I understand your pov.
Marriage is a contract.
Sex is for pleasure.
Being a parent is a duty /obligation.
We don't choose who we work with. No one wants to be in the same job till 60s.
We'd still feel lonely. Even when surrounded by interesting people.
Where do we derive a sense of purpose then?
Suppose if I want to pursue a hobby /have 'ME' as the center, if I find someone with same interests and hang out with them on weekends, I'll be waiting for the weekend and lonely the entire week.
Or when I don't have 'ME' as the center, what if I stand up for a cause without identifying myself as a social worker at an NGO, be giving to others without expecting anything, do you think I won't be lonely? 😔
There's so much to do , if you want to do it ! Alone but not lonely in Bengaluru at almost 75 !😊
I lived alone in Bangalore for long time but never felt loneliness. Bangalore is the most friendly place .
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I am going a bit deep and offtopic here but until and unless one is internally happy and joyus no amount of socializing will bring one out of loneliness.
Loneliness cannot be cured until one is internally connected with their emotions and have confidence enough to express it.
You could be in a crowded railway station and feel lonely or you could be in the confines of your small shack and feel full. It's up to you.........
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Interesting video
Loneliness can be many factors not only loss of family or work environment. The covid pandemic has increased the issue l think
That is true. Thank you for sharing 🧡
SUPPOSE I AM VERY LONELY. Though I am married, have children, go to the office, go to the temple and all that nonsense that goes on, I am utterly, profoundly lonely. Being lonely, I escape because I don’t know how to tackle that loneliness. I don’t understand what loneliness is, but I am frightened: this sense of existence in which there is no relationship with another, no sense of communication with another, thoroughly enclosed. Don’t you know these feelings? Wake up! As my brain doesn’t know how to solve it, it escapes. It escapes through entertainment. Whether it is religious entertainment or football, they are both the same. Do you agree? Are you really agreeing that religious entertainment, going to the temple, the puja and all the things that go on there, and football are the same? They are entertainments because they do not alter your life. They are just an amusement. Do you agree to this? Is it only a verbal agreement or actually saying, ‘They are the same’? Therefore finished with it.
So what is loneliness? Without escaping, without running away into illusory, imaginary ideals, the actual fact is that I am despairingly, anxiously lonely. I may be married, I may have sex, I may have children, but this thing is rotting. Most of us are deeply hurt from childhood, and we carry that hurt throughout life. You can say it doesn’t matter, that it will not affect your action, but it does affect action because unconsciously, deeply, your actions are guided by your hurt. You build a wall around yourself not to be hurt more, and the consequences of that hurt are bitterness and more loneliness.
And why do human beings go through this loneliness? Ask yourself. As two friends we are talking about this. Why? It must exist because of your actions. Your daily actions are self-centred. Your daily thoughts and activities are concerned with yourself. You may be a social worker and give your life to that, but the ‘me’ is still going on, only you have identified yourself with something. Like the communist identifies with the State, with the ideal, you identify yourself with something else.
So as long as there is self-centred activity, there must be loneliness. I don’t know if you see this. If your chief concern is ‘me’, then that ‘me’ must act in a very narrow circle. And that action must inevitably produce this exhausting, despairing loneliness. Do you understand all this, not verbally but actually?
If you stop staring at phones and put Some effort in interacting with new people u wouldn't feel lonely. You hangout at places that are frequented by untruustable folkks. Instead build a healthy habit of going to parks , learn local language and interact with neighbours. Invite friends over
Build social skills instead of being a slave to mobile.
Digital is making people lonelier and anti social
Does anyone knows the first gurl with 8 cats please. Please
TOO SELF CENTRED, SELFISHNESS EGOISTIC, OVER PLESURE SEEKING MATERLISTIC LIFE BELIEVE ME IF NO SPRITUAL INSIGHTS LONELINESS WILL START EATING YOU FROM INSIDE.
Try to make friends with yourself first .. that’s a journey everyone should take!.. depending on another human to fill the void of loneliness or validation will always leave you disappointed✌🏻❤️
First learn kannada, then mingle with locals. But many people won't even respect local language, culture.
I find solace within myself..I don’t feel lonely anywhere when I am with myself
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Bangalore, a heartless city with zero emotions.. arrogant locals...loneliness can be quite common there...
Bro make some sensible comment! Loneliness is caused by your bad lifestyle & personality disorder.
@@ShriNidhi-zu2im check with other cities...u will get the picture...
Ikr
I talk to people in my job, ie 8hrs, i sleep for 10 hrs, rest of the time i am on youtube and instagram or playing video games, figures...
In every big city it's like that. Not only bangalore. In fact Bangalore is the most friendly place.
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" loneliness.
Loneliness is a misunderstood aloneness. Once you misunderstand your aloneness as loneliness, the whole context changes. Aloneness has a beauty and grandeur, a positivity; loneliness is poor, negative, dark, dismal.
“Everybody is running away from loneliness. It is like a wound; it hurts. To escape from it, the only way is to be in a crowd, to become part of a society, to have friends, to create a family, to have husbands and wives, to have children. In this crowd, the basic effort is that you will be able to forget your loneliness.
“But nobody has ever succeeded in forgetting it. That which is natural to you, you can try to ignore - but you cannot forget it; it will assert again and again. And the problem becomes more complex because you have never seen it as it is; you have taken it for granted that you are born lonely."
"loneliness is the absence of the other, Aloneness is the presence of your eternal being"
OSHO
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