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Self awareness is such an ambiguous term for me. How can I assess what I feel when I’m always my own worst critic?

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Great explanation. Thank you.

Dude, I just watched this and your video on alexithymia, what a one-two punch! Basically, I'm the timid guy and my girlfriend fits the alexithymia description pretty well. I've noticed early on that the best I can do is living my life fully. It's amazing how well she can sense my state of mind. When I'm fulfilled and centered everything is smooth and she can open up quite well. When I'm not, talking to her is incredibly hard. Everything is long winded and intellectualised or she gets angry and critical. But I'm starting to get the hang of it and I think she's improving too. I deeply love her and want the best for her/us but it's often very challenging. It felt good to have that be acknowledged here, thanks.

brother is making a videos for people like me however my NDP ex targeted my self esteema nd lost al worth. i dont regret her..i am feeling free that i let go off her

NO ITS CALLED POOR COMMUNICATIONS SKILL AND A BYEBYE TO YOU

This smells like AI content…

Thank you for justifying my narcissistic tendencies.

This is so sad.

Also affecting people with ASD, not just emotional trauma

And I thought I’m stupid or something because I could not understand what I was feeling.😔

Sad! Bt, This's Also A Kind Of Narcissistic Category Emotional Disorder In People.. I Really Doubt Is The Suggestion Given At The End Working On Them Positively Or Not?! Coz, Ultimately! U Said Be Strong Hearted, Do Ur Own & Keep Distances Frm Them Bt, U Can't Do This Wth Ur Partner When U're In Relationship Wth This Mentally/Emotionally Broken Person! Right? This's Not A Healthy Boundaries Btwn Couples/Can't Grow Bond For Long-term & Also Result In End-Up Being Parted... At The End It May Cause Harm/Hurts & Emotional Damages For That Strong & Healthy Person Coz, NEGATIVITY HAS MORE POWER TO BREAK SOMEONE THAN BUILD UP A PERSON'S MENTAL STATE POSITIVELY!

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

Yup. That's me

They are unempathetic broken people

True to the T!

Having a father like that just crippled my hole life, got into smoking at early age and video addiction, and in adolescence till later in adulthood hated him from the guts inside and didn't know why, i frequently become angry and emotionally unstable, i did know that is something wrong, but man this makes me wanna cry (knowing i lost so much in my life) and i'm 35. I wanna heal so bad it hurts, and i dunno how to do it.

I became aware of BPD after my last ex left with a new guy after 2years of chasing me. I felt overly lovebombed and she was always trying to help me, even though I knew she herself had deeper problems and would often talk about the traumas in her upbringing. I've found what made the relationship so hard to break for me, was how she made me feel really special, she seemed to overvalue my good traits and made me feel seen and appreciated, however it was also to the point of unreality, I became enmeshed in her fantasy thinking. She was overly empathic in terms of seeing and helping others in need, yet also clearly needy herself, which would show in behaving harshly at times. She said she couldn't feel her body suffered anxiety and needed grounding, but was heavily into astrology and could give some striking insights into peoples personalities from only reading their charts or meeting them briefly. Was fascinated by her, but was also overwhelmed, her quick discard threw me for a loop that I'm still trying to recover from.

Yes I came to realise that I needed to shoulder more responsibility and not listen so closely to my mother, but more on what I want for myself. Even though she knows me well, and is probably right, I still need to make, learn and take responsibility for my own mistakes. Now I find her listening to me for insight, after I've had to overcome some deeper seated insecurities.

Too good work.

Could you make more videos about parenting affecting the future of your children? Thanks!

sir i cant even explain how much i needed this ..i have been with one and its terrible..it took me months to recover and they still contacted me and blamed ,character assasinated and brought up old incidents to fihgt with me..most abusive type of relation is the untreated BPD and i have been through hell of this i went thru cycles of splitting, its draining and almost makes you behave like them..i changed comletelty and have been scared..while that person has moved on to another one and blames me for abandoning and not hold her and love her..for her i was a liar and coward that couldnt love..but it was she who pushed me

This is incredibly powerful

That’s funny, this describes my mother.

Thank you for posting this.

Yes, but what about the impact of an overbearing mother? Equally bad.

how does one over come Lacking problem solving skill, avoidant, un dependable ?????

I grew up with a father like this. This video made me so sad imagining the man I could’ve become.

I'm a twin. My brother turned out to be the equally irritable one and I turned out to be the timid one. :/

This is crazy accurate. Thank you for posting this. Do you have any reading material suggestions to know more about psychology on this level?

Sorry but I disagree. Givers are under the iron fist of the takers. If they can't win you with puppy dog eyes, they'll beat you into giving every last ounce of yourself. The ones who don't care and we'll find what they want from someone else after they've destroyed you are the ones that hold the power.

I can see that pattern and behavior in others a lot. Could you create an episode why people choose immature people as their partners? Maybe it’s still something in me that is not fully developed as well, but I don’t display behaviors discussed in this episode.

Subscribed. Underrated

Please do ENFP and INTJ

sir i was in a reltionship with a undiagnosed BPD ( her symptoms matched all DSM 5 cirteria) , but she too showed the NPD mentalisation. so can it be possble that a BPD show some characteristics of NPD or can one be both. if yes, how to identify, some key signs for that please my ex showed this mentalisation issue ,whenever she used to get triggered by some 3rd person or by recalling her past trauma, she used to blame me or get angry on me , she searched for some thing i said or did in past to break up or threatend breakup with me one more thing about psychological recapitulation, can the person with controlling parents realise that their parents are controlling and supress them? and is it realted to development of BPD in a child? my EX overly criticised as well as overly loved her mother, stark contrast between what she told about her mom and what she felt about her. she was controlling, she tried to control my looks, my daily schedule, whome i talk to, my friend cricle etc. maybe this was part of NPD/BPD or mentalization issue? what do u think sir? wow , the "good person complex" is somehtig that i realized just now..i didnt knew it had a name, i went thru this phase as well lol its seems my realtion was a textbook toxic one, she contantly showed how much she was sacrifising for me, by handling her own issues , how she will sacrifise for me in future as well.. while i cant do much to match upto her level of sacrifise

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That’s such a simplistic reduction which is nowhere near the complexities that exist between two humans. If you are constantly giving whilst expecting the favor to be returned you are by no means empowered. You still care whether they will start giving.

You’ve summarized everything related to the topic in a perfect manner☘️

Whoa. ever since my dad started failing in health 10 years ago and especially after he died in 2019, my mom's expectations of all of the ways that I had to rescue her from her getting her into crises (she's 85.5 and a brittle type 1 diabetic who doesn't take good care of herself) she escalated up more and more to whims and utterly capricious and greedy demands of totally unnecessary things and treating me as both a 24/7/365 caretaker of her ability to live safely in her own separate home _and_ a whole bunch of stuff that's too long to describe but utterly insane - and then she started tantrum- ing and sabotaging and interrupting me at even being able to carry out or complete any one sub-task. I set out to be giving in making sure that my dad and her, and her, could live their final chapters of life in their own home. I never sought to create dependence, but she hoovered me into dependence. The mid part of your video about the bratty malevolent acting out deeply resonates with me. Thank you

IE give less

These insights are really powerful. I yearn to learn more.

Wonderful content, simplified to understand the nuances of existence that are so prevalent everwhere. The child life has so much influence on adult life

What type of manipulation is this? I could see how this could be a weapon let’s say your woman does everything for you: cook, clean, sex, etc she can pull all of that from you when she gets mad

Da ,sa nu uitam de sabotaje.😂...

Your vids are eye opener.

Abuse stops once you meet the right friend

Got your video recommended, I can say this channel will explode soon Just 1 thing to add, people like me who are interested in such topics loves to watch a full 20-30 mins episode going into greater depths on such topics. 5 mins videos are too short for me

Very intersting concept👍

Love is feeling constantly indebted, love is knowing one's own preciousness.

I think it's important to approach this in a neutral manner. If you have gone through something difficult in the past, there's no need to gloss over it just to create an image of being likable. Indulging in self-pity or being overly optimistic are not effective coping strategies.