@@immanuelweltin6584 Sometimes you can only solve the problem when both side realize that the other side do have the power/option to walk away. This is how human beings function.
Ain't that the truth! 😅 Life really loves to throw curveballs, and there’s no cheat code for skipping the tough parts. It’s like leveling up in a game, but the grind is all about your inner growth. The real flex? Owning your mistakes, learning from them, and coming out stronger on the other side. 💪 Character development is the only way through the mess and the magic of it all. Keep growing, you're on the right track! 😎🌱
I give out of joy, and because I have a higher capacity to do so but not by making myself miserable. Since I give and keep my heart, intentions super clear from day 1- I know it’s truly Gods work if I wasn’t valued or things break apart. I just walk away. That’s why I don’t feel heaviness from past relationships only a sense of peace and liberation from them. God protects my heart & strengthens it
Wow, that’s some powerful perspective right there. 🙏 You’ve got that balance locked down-giving without losing yourself or feeling drained. Knowing you gave from a place of joy and clarity means you’ve done your part, and if things don’t work out, it’s like you said-it’s in God’s hands. Walking away with peace and strength? That’s real freedom. 💯
This makes so much more sense than what everyone says about the one who cares less having the power. The one who cares less only has the power to end or destroy the relationship. Their power is limited to ultimatums and coercion. Whoever cares more in the relationship is going to guide where it goes and what it becomes. They get creative control which is worth a whole lot more.
there is no "this is right or this". both sides are right. the one who cares less is in power to end it every time they want. on the other hand, the giver is the one holding the power to grow the relationship, but just as long the other doesnt leave. both must be willing to work on it. communication is everything. communication is the real power here. talk to each other what needs you both have and try to meet in the middle. try to give both of you. if so, step by step the relationship will grow. if not, the one who cares less will always has the power to leave the other behind. i wish everyone to find someone who doesnt care less. i also wish it for myself :D
From personal experience, I can tell you that knowledge, wisdom and insight is what give you the power. Everything else is temporary manipulation and it's honestly gross
As someone who has a mother whos idea of love is to constantly give [and I often cant reciprocate cuz I dont earn much yet] AND she demands praise for it too, I legit im sick of it and not even that grateful for it even tho I actually am in reality but she doesnt see it that way - im not grateful the CORRECT way apparently. And she legit does not comprehend why I dont visit often or praise her constantly, lol. Its sad cuz you cant change ppl, what can you do. Im glad I live on my own, I was legit getting depression when I was living with her. Trust me, it is no fun to be a constant taker - it's nice at first but that does not last. You seriously feel trapped and have a feeling that you always OWE something, and you're aware you cant give back - that breeds resentment like hell, no fun especially when you actually love someone. Be independent if you can you guys🙏. Edit: spelling
I’m grateful to have stumbled upon this video. That was an excellent analysis and felt it actually applied more to my professional career than my relationships. At 45, I’m still trying to figure out myself and in turn the world.
It shows that growth doesn’t stop-whether it’s relationships or career, it all ties back to self-awareness and leveling up. Keep reflecting, and who knows where else this insight might take you! 😊 You’re never too old to evolve.
That’s such a simplistic reduction which is nowhere near the complexities that exist between two humans. If you are constantly giving whilst expecting the favor to be returned you are by no means empowered. You still care whether they will start giving.
Whoa. ever since my dad started failing in health 10 years ago and especially after he died in 2019, my mom's expectations of all of the ways that I had to rescue her from her getting her into crises (she's 85.5 and a brittle type 1 diabetic who doesn't take good care of herself) she escalated up more and more to whims and utterly capricious and greedy demands of totally unnecessary things and treating me as both a 24/7/365 caretaker of her ability to live safely in her own separate home _and_ a whole bunch of stuff that's too long to describe but utterly insane - and then she started tantrum- ing and sabotaging and interrupting me at even being able to carry out or complete any one sub-task. I set out to be giving in making sure that my dad and her, and her, could live their final chapters of life in their own home. I never sought to create dependence, but she hoovered me into dependence. The mid part of your video about the bratty malevolent acting out deeply resonates with me. Thank you
Unfortunately, the concept of relationships has been totally wrong for a long time, on TV social networks, or in society. Current people will turn relationships into a business, an equivalent exchange of surreal interests and expectations to supply a lack of desire, ego, or pleasure. If I do not expect it I create a punishment, whether it is a silence treatment blackmail, or lack of mutuality. This has already been so normal since childhood and in society that nobody thinks it is sick. It is the famous saying, "You will do it if not ..."
Surprise, life is hard and brutal. Look at insects, how many live and die without a chance to mate. If you’re not tough enough to learn countless lessons to get good at relationships, you might as well resort to arranged marriages or staying single.
The one who has the power in relationships is the one who is most willing to walk away.
Absolute truth.
you beat me to the comment
@@immanuelweltin6584 Sometimes you can only solve the problem when both side realize that the other side do have the power/option to walk away. This is how human beings function.
It's important to give, but also to hold back if ones gift isn't received well.
Attention is a reward, lack of attention is a punishment.
You’re absolutely right-balance is key.
The more I learn about life the more I realize there’s no easy way out. It’s all about genuine character development.
Ain't that the truth! 😅 Life really loves to throw curveballs, and there’s no cheat code for skipping the tough parts. It’s like leveling up in a game, but the grind is all about your inner growth. The real flex? Owning your mistakes, learning from them, and coming out stronger on the other side. 💪 Character development is the only way through the mess and the magic of it all.
Keep growing, you're on the right track! 😎🌱
I give out of joy, and because I have a higher capacity to do so but not by making myself miserable. Since I give and keep my heart, intentions super clear from day 1- I know it’s truly Gods work if I wasn’t valued or things break apart. I just walk away. That’s why I don’t feel heaviness from past relationships only a sense of peace and liberation from them. God protects my heart & strengthens it
Wow, that’s some powerful perspective right there. 🙏 You’ve got that balance locked down-giving without losing yourself or feeling drained. Knowing you gave from a place of joy and clarity means you’ve done your part, and if things don’t work out, it’s like you said-it’s in God’s hands. Walking away with peace and strength? That’s real freedom. 💯
This makes so much more sense than what everyone says about the one who cares less having the power. The one who cares less only has the power to end or destroy the relationship. Their power is limited to ultimatums and coercion. Whoever cares more in the relationship is going to guide where it goes and what it becomes. They get creative control which is worth a whole lot more.
Great perspective!
there is no "this is right or this". both sides are right. the one who cares less is in power to end it every time they want. on the other hand, the giver is the one holding the power to grow the relationship, but just as long the other doesnt leave. both must be willing to work on it. communication is everything. communication is the real power here. talk to each other what needs you both have and try to meet in the middle. try to give both of you. if so, step by step the relationship will grow. if not, the one who cares less will always has the power to leave the other behind. i wish everyone to find someone who doesnt care less. i also wish it for myself :D
The one who cares the least is in charge
From personal experience, I can tell you that knowledge, wisdom and insight is what give you the power. Everything else is temporary manipulation and it's honestly gross
As someone who has a mother whos idea of love is to constantly give [and I often cant reciprocate cuz I dont earn much yet] AND she demands praise for it too, I legit im sick of it and not even that grateful for it even tho I actually am in reality but she doesnt see it that way - im not grateful the CORRECT way apparently. And she legit does not comprehend why I dont visit often or praise her constantly, lol. Its sad cuz you cant change ppl, what can you do. Im glad I live on my own, I was legit getting depression when I was living with her. Trust me, it is no fun to be a constant taker - it's nice at first but that does not last. You seriously feel trapped and have a feeling that you always OWE something, and you're aware you cant give back - that breeds resentment like hell, no fun especially when you actually love someone. Be independent if you can you guys🙏.
Edit: spelling
This is exactly how people develop avoidant attachment.
I’m grateful to have stumbled upon this video. That was an excellent analysis and felt it actually applied more to my professional career than my relationships. At 45, I’m still trying to figure out myself and in turn the world.
It shows that growth doesn’t stop-whether it’s relationships or career, it all ties back to self-awareness and leveling up. Keep reflecting, and who knows where else this insight might take you! 😊 You’re never too old to evolve.
Reciprocal interactions only
If someone is too broken ir selfish to give then give them space
Lol
They need to grow up
Your content comes as a food for thought every time!
Thank you! I'm glad my content resonates with you
That’s such a simplistic reduction which is nowhere near the complexities that exist between two humans. If you are constantly giving whilst expecting the favor to be returned you are by no means empowered. You still care whether they will start giving.
Whoa. ever since my dad started failing in health 10 years ago and especially after he died in 2019, my mom's expectations of all of the ways that I had to rescue her from her getting her into crises (she's 85.5 and a brittle type 1 diabetic who doesn't take good care of herself) she escalated up more and more to whims and utterly capricious and greedy demands of totally unnecessary things and treating me as both a 24/7/365 caretaker of her ability to live safely in her own separate home _and_ a whole bunch of stuff that's too long to describe but utterly insane - and then she started tantrum- ing and sabotaging and interrupting me at even being able to carry out or complete any one sub-task. I set out to be giving in making sure that my dad and her, and her, could live their final chapters of life in their own home. I never sought to create dependence, but she hoovered me into dependence. The mid part of your video about the bratty malevolent acting out deeply resonates with me. Thank you
I think the runner typically controls the relationship
Good video mate
Whomever cares the least holds the power.
Stoics
Agree and that is not the giver
Unfortunately, the concept of relationships has been totally wrong for a long time, on TV social networks, or in society. Current people will turn relationships into a business, an equivalent exchange of surreal interests and expectations to supply a lack of desire, ego, or pleasure. If I do not expect it I create a punishment, whether it is a silence treatment blackmail, or lack of mutuality. This has already been so normal since childhood and in society that nobody thinks it is sick. It is the famous saying, "You will do it if not ..."
Everyone wants their way and so we negotiate through direct or indirect means.
That doesn't mean that every life is not valuable in and of itself.
@@L6FT Yes, I agree but unfortunately, the balance of this is not currently exercised
Utter nonsense. I was the giver and lover in my relationship only to be served with divorce notice. Never gonna be the giver again.
I walked away bec I was forced into being a giver and I was then severely verbally abused.
This video is tripe
I am the giver 😌
Me too and I lose every time. It’s not ok. I’m fixing myself.
Yeah ok lol
IE give less
How on earth can all these rules be assumed by a single person? God, arranged marriages are so much more easier.
Surprise, life is hard and brutal. Look at insects, how many live and die without a chance to mate. If you’re not tough enough to learn countless lessons to get good at relationships, you might as well resort to arranged marriages or staying single.
No they're not.
@FarfromEden