"Mirroring," also known as the mirrored self in reference materials, is a concept in self psychology. It refers to the need for caregivers to respond appropriately, like a mirror, to a child's value, achievements, and accomplishments. Through the caregiver's continuous 'mirroring' over the years, the child can gradually transition from "external affirmation" to "self-affirmation." As a result, the child develops the ability to exhibit healthy narcissism with confidence and high self-esteem.
Your channel is so valuable. It is clear and relatable. I follow you from a third world country where it is rare to find reliable sources on psychology. Many thanks. With love and respect.
Your channel got to me in the perfect time. I just finished a relationship, it was not the best experience but I realized there was something wrong in the way I looked at myself. You explain everything so well, and it helps to really comprehend and integrate the knowledge to oneself. It would be great if you could share the reference materials so people (if interested) could get more into the psychological aspects of stuff. Greetings from Mexico!
The vocabulary I quote in each video will be noted in the comments or blurbs, and I'll consider an issue of psychology-related book references in the future. Thank you for your support.
A lot of modern love is also a form of narcissism. When I "Love" someone, ie have romantic feelings, they are useful to me, when I don't "Love" them anymore, ie don't have romantic feelings for them, they become worthless, and I discard them. Better or "True" love is closer linked to respect. Even though the other person has faults, and I may not be attracted to them, doesn't mean they are worthless. Compassion teaches us to respect others as human beings faults an all, that doesn't mean justifying any bad behavior on their part, but to have compassion for the parts of them that are broken, while maintaining our own boundaries, and wishing others well even though we may not "love" them, ie have passionate feelings towards them, or want them close in our lives. A definition of love, that I like, is holding another person as part of oneself, where one would not be able to hurt the other without hurting oneself. Respect is a dance of boundaries, the yes's and the no's. Acknowledging respect and boundaries is the only safe way to love ourselves, and others. In my view.
@@g.flesch9731 That is the Golden rule. I extend it to treating myself, as well, the way I want others to treat me. That's why compassionate self talk towards oneself and our own faults is important. People tend to treat others the way they treat themselves. If one treats another shamefully, they usually have hiden shame within themselves. It can seem harsh to be honest, that's why compassion is important, like an encouraging parent or coach. In my mind at least.
@@L6FT honestly I have never understood what shame is. I understand shame if you purposely hurt another or worse commit a crime but we are not born shameful. A baby is born pure & perfect.
Wow, that's a really deep way of looking at love! I love how you've connected it to respect and self-awareness. It's really refreshing to see someone think about relationships in such a thoughtful way.
"Mirroring," also known as the mirrored self in reference materials, is a concept in self psychology. It refers to the need for caregivers to respond appropriately, like a mirror, to a child's value, achievements, and accomplishments. Through the caregiver's continuous 'mirroring' over the years, the child can gradually transition from "external affirmation" to "self-affirmation." As a result, the child develops the ability to exhibit healthy narcissism with confidence and high self-esteem.
Your channel is so valuable. It is clear and relatable. I follow you from a third world country where it is rare to find reliable sources on psychology. Many thanks. With love and respect.
This channel has a veru bright future! Keep at it buddy!!
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Your channel got to me in the perfect time. I just finished a relationship, it was not the best experience but I realized there was something wrong in the way I looked at myself. You explain everything so well, and it helps to really comprehend and integrate the knowledge to oneself.
It would be great if you could share the reference materials so people (if interested) could get more into the psychological aspects of stuff.
Greetings from Mexico!
The vocabulary I quote in each video will be noted in the comments or blurbs, and I'll consider an issue of psychology-related book references in the future.
Thank you for your support.
A lot of modern love is also a form of narcissism. When I "Love" someone, ie have romantic feelings, they are useful to me, when I don't "Love" them anymore, ie don't have romantic feelings for them, they become worthless, and I discard them.
Better or "True" love is closer linked to respect. Even though the other person has faults, and I may not be attracted to them, doesn't mean they are worthless. Compassion teaches us to respect others as human beings faults an all, that doesn't mean justifying any bad behavior on their part, but to have compassion for the parts of them that are broken, while maintaining our own boundaries, and wishing others well even though we may not "love" them, ie have passionate feelings towards them, or want them close in our lives.
A definition of love, that I like, is holding another person as part of oneself, where one would not be able to hurt the other without hurting oneself.
Respect is a dance of boundaries, the yes's and the no's.
Acknowledging respect and boundaries is the only safe way to love ourselves, and others. In my view.
Thanks for your comment. Do not have to love to respect a person & treat them as you would like to be treated.
@@g.flesch9731 That is the Golden rule. I extend it to treating myself, as well, the way I want others to treat me. That's why compassionate self talk towards oneself and our own faults is important.
People tend to treat others the way they treat themselves. If one treats another shamefully, they usually have hiden shame within themselves.
It can seem harsh to be honest, that's why compassion is important, like an encouraging parent or coach. In my mind at least.
@@L6FT It's good to show one's self compassion & grace. We are all human & deserve good in our lives.
@@L6FT honestly I have never understood what shame is. I understand shame if you purposely hurt another or worse commit a crime but we are not born shameful. A baby is born pure & perfect.
Wow, that's a really deep way of looking at love! I love how you've connected it to respect and self-awareness. It's really refreshing to see someone think about relationships in such a thoughtful way.