stop trying to be confident
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Hiya everyone. Hope you enjoy my barely coherent ramblings. If you take anything from this video, let it be the knowledge that cacti are weird and seahorses were the pioneers of gender fluidity. luv u x
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@@pn4639 i love this enthusiasm haha
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@joeyd
I like the noodle comment 😂😂😂😂✌️🙋🏻♂️
Ngl this acc helped a lot thank you Joe 💙
This is hilarious. It's kinda like a guy down the pub who's had a couple of pints is trying to explain how to be confident to me, and to my surprise he's bang on.
Hahahah yes just bcause of his accent lol
He's talking real shit tho
Spot on 😂
reql shit
idk what that means ngl
"Bravery is not in the absence of fear. Bravery, is feeling the fear.., the doubt.., the insecurity.. and deciding that something else is more important than that"
- Mark Manson
The subtle art of not giving a fucking fuck.
Joe is evolving more and more into fitness Exurb1a
And its fucking mint
Sicc innit
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmao
Let's hope he isn't accused of rape too
I feel like if you’re consistently trying to make yourself into something new; you’ll be continuously disappointed with the current version of yourself. There’s probably a sweet zone of wanting to be better but not feeling bad for doing your best (assuming you’re doing that). I think confidence lies in self acceptance more than total transformations (broadly speaking).
1:58 thanks for the detailed explanation. It was interesting. It sounds like as long as your self perception isnt wholly rested on external forces you’ll be fine. I’m speaking broadly, because we all to some extent depend on the external to understand ourselves; like using the external as a mirror of sorts. But I think that as long as your confidence is something not completely depended on your audience then you’ll be in a stable place in most cases. Obviously we can become confident via feedback from external forces but the dependence of the external for self conception seems like a plea for validity. I think as long as one is thinking deeply about their behaviors and their self compassion they’ll wind up building a sort of confidence but this will involve mindfulness and self critique. It’s probably an individual specified journey for all of us; and that’s likely why no one can tell you exactly how to be more confident.
Be content but never stop improving yourself.
@@user-ol5bj4dm2v Damn right. Suffering is a part of this beautiful thing called life & without we wouldn't grow or learn valuable lessons.
i completely agree. i made a comment saying joes vision of confidence is more overconfidence or having a god complex. what confidence is is acceptance of everything
I think you nailed it.
"everyone gets around eachother in the comments about how shit they are" 😂
how to describe physics "theres a lot of spinning rocks, and they re all spinning. so much shit spinning around other shit"
I agree
"Some people get into wingsuits and they look like big flying squirrels"
insanely deep insight
@@robgreen5943 I know man it made me reevaluate life and death and what it means to be human no cap...
Real talk calling out the “alpha male” bs
Throwing shade haha
its usually dating coaches who say that, so relating to females. and females can be subconsciously attracted to typical "alpha male" traits... so they do have a point.
@@andrewmelton2686 yes but at the same time, it’s also missing the point of what is genuinely attractive in the long run. Aggressive behaviour, for example, becomes very off putting for women as it goes against what will be beneficial for the future. A man who’s generous and empathetic are also very attractive, no women wishes to be abused.
The alpha male is a superficial ideal made in our society tbh. Not much of it is what we biologically consider attractive. Have you ever asked a real women for what their preferences are?
@@qazplm3845 a lot of women (people in general) don’t think about the long run, relationships nowadays are more sexual, especially in the younger generations. These “alpha male” coaches are trying to help guys get laid basically. Most women don’t like “nice guys”. Nice guys get rejected and friend zoned by a lot of women. And that is a fact lol... women like men who are masculine, kind of goes without saying.
@Jack Schmitt yes but women are not just attracted to appearance, they consider personality as well ( more than men I believe)
These are by far your best videoes mate.
Have you watched the videos with tommy b
Three things that are certain in this life: death, taxes and Joey D never making a bad video
how can a guy talk so much knowledge while also looking like a beast. Joe i salute you sir
because he practices what he preaches.
Yooooo, how have I found you here then? I love your football vids
Get Joey d on JRE
he is better than joe
Get Joe Rogan on A Cup Of Joe brother.
Hey Lez
Please!!!!
Joe is into “alpha” talk and shit. Completely against the point of this vod
The most alpha characteristic: be yourself.
“Confidence is a bonus not a requirement” hit the nail on the head. Top quality video mate
ERGO is a sick word m8
its also a mushroom
"Don't watch RUclips videos...from anyone who says alpha male"
*RESTORATION 100*
They're not all bad. The good ones have putting yourself as a man first before a woman and pursuing your own goals and happiness and not letting others, especially women, dictate that for you.
@@matthewphilipp6115 That ain't much to do with being an alpha dude. That's just like....not being a characterless human without an own life.
This'll get buried in the comments somewhere but I really want to share what an impact you've had on me personally. First off, the way you look at life is inspirational. I started following you about a year ago when I was at an all time low in my life. I decided to get back into fitness as I had fallen off for about 5 years. I learned a ton from you, and just the way you look at everything in such a simple way. I also just found your passion for fitness amazing, and the level of dedication you have towards it helped push me. I was super ecto, about 130 pounds and I'm at 154 now making strides towards my goals. Just wanted to thank you for the impact you've had, and the wealth of info etc. you supply to the community. Thank you man god bless.
Joe’s self awareness in this video is what I imagine it would be like to take acid.
It will change your life, especially if you keep and open mind and stay positive
Is quite the experience mate
Can confirm, its remarkably similar. 😂
Ye acid is like going on a deep scuba dive through your whole personal psyche. It completley changed my outlook on life
Taking shrooms/acid can really provide some profound insights
These types of videos >>>>
What I found is that feeling nervous or shy but still doing what you want to do will make you confident. You need to establish the habit of just doing stuff DESPITE feeling fear or whatever "unconfident"emotion.
I workout and been losing weight for nearly 2yrs now and it does help me feel more confident in myself and put some self esteem back in myself 🙂
If you ever find yourself caring about something too much, just remember:
We're all just organisms on a rock floating through spacetime.
Enjoy the ride 👊
I see the mushrooms are working fine
Always a smile on my face when you make your point while using some "smart" ass words
love everything about this. the wisdom. the humility. the humour. the rubbing of the tshirt agains the lav mic after removing the t-shirt to stop the rustling noise of the t-shirt against the lav mic.
Just don't be afraid to fail and learn. That's my confidence.
Love how real your videos are. Straight to the point & blunt. No fake pretentious BS.
The best advice on confidence I've seen on RUclips. It's so important to accept that shyness and awkwardness are natural human emotions and not beat ourselves up when we feel that way.
Loving how casual and knowledgeable vids have been lately mate. Props to you for the vibeyness
You are the kind of people I would like to have a conversation with, I would like to see more people like you into my day to day.
Looking further into things until you realize that whats the point of what you are doing, it really helps aliviating the self-pressure that we often put on ourselves.
I often think that being too introspective can't be good for you. The more outwardly your perspective is the less you are concerned with tearing yourself apart all the time. Confidence comes from fulfilment for me. Achieving what I want in my life, the things that feed my soul rather than drain it.
Well said. Self-reflection can very easily lead to self-doubt.
For sure man. I don't think the difference between thinking and overthinking is simply the amount of it you do. I think it's more about the attitude you have towards it. If you're undertaking all this introspection because you think the answers to your problems are somewhere, it might not be so fruitful, but if you're doing it with a light-hearted curiosity, I think ironically you benefit more.
Your bang on mate. Thats why the most confident guys tend to be the most daft. All my mates who werent the brightest were the ones who had the balls to get the girls cause they werent the ones who would overthink
Joe, man, love this shit! Love when you show the other side of things that no one talks about.
Such a down to earth guy, got a lot of respect for you Joe
Hey Joe, this video was perfectly put together and brightened up my day. Sometimes people worry a bit too much and sometimes it could affect them to a large extent that could impact themselves. I like your style of videos, especially your nutrition content. They have given me the confidence to cook more substantial food. Even given me a broader, better insight about meal preps and eating healthier. Thanks
Always love the videos like this. Grounds me and puts me in a better headspace. No worries for rambling. You are just putting what’s on your mind out there and owning it.
LOVED the end summarisation 💯
thank you for including that last part. Best part of the vid
You crack me up mate. Amongst the solid ramblings you make alot of sense bro! Cheers for the content
Joe rambling about confidence with his shirt off feels alarmingly similar to me rambling about life and conciousness to my mates after a mushroom trip
love how raw this is
Coming from a position where I've had to claw my way out of anxiety and low confidence. Just do the shit. There's no secret.
Either you face your fears or cower and remain the same. The more you do it when it feels like you it's going to be hard or impossible, the more you're going to realise you can actually do it.
Basically what this bloke is saying, is actually pretty true. Don't try and fill the whole with other things. Just do it.
Caveat: you may fail, but that's not the end. Keep trying and trying. We can't always do things on the first try and most things don't have to be done on the first attempt. We learn as we do things, things can be similar to other things and you get better at those things which makes it easier to do things. Do the thing.
Love you man how you interact with me, with your viewers. Really feels like video call from friend 😊
Love these contents like confidence security and worry. You’re like sharing how to become both physically and mentally healthy. Thanks ❤️
Gift of the gab pal be proud of that. Cheers for the words, they are spot on.
his thought process is so relatable i don't have words
this is good advice, i think whenever we have that “hole,” that belief that “I’ll be happier when...” or “...if...” that’s an empty hope, because nobody is confident and comfortable 100% of the time. if at all possible, we shouldn’t go through life crippled by anxiety and lack of confidence (barring medical issues), but we also can’t expect to be completely free from
those issues. there will always be situations with which we’re not completely comfortable, because that’s life: learning and improving.
100% best advice I've heard about confidence is that compentence creates confidence. And then you realise that if you're going to ever be confident it requires you to do a lot of shit to get good at doing it. It's not exactly fake it till you make it, yu don't need to act out being confident. Just do shit and you'll slowly gain the confidence to know that you can. I also like one of my mum's pet phrases "the less you do the less you can do". It applies really well both to things like working out and to things like work and building confidence. If you're tired and anxious and depressed and you do nothing cos of it you only get more tired from never using your body, more anxious from not experiencing the outside world, and more depressed cos your life is shit.
this was so helpful, perfect timing that you have posted this. staying my hero ☺️
Love your dry sense of humour and just plain talk! Thanks Joe
This has honestly been one of the most helpful videos I’ve seen in a while.
Love how Joe is a Barbell Philosopher - super relatable guy. Positive Influence
My man, you've got a way with words. Spot on.
Nice to hear this man. For real
I LOVED the Gladiators spot there! Totally got that. Being a teenager in the early 90s, I smiled at that scene. And your right about all you've said. Before Lockdown I was in a total slump in my own job and during the last few months. I had horrid nerve issues and lost confidence in myself. After letting it out to a friend,I got the confidence to tell my boss that Id return to work part time, and not just take what hours were going post Lockdown. Cutting my work week hours by half has defo relaxed me more, spending time at home with the parents, enjoying more "My" time. I wouldnt have done this had I remained in the mind slump I was in earlier in the year. All it took was one chat with the boss, didnt overthink things before hand,and am happier with the self chosen reduced hours. Over analyzing everything has always been a vice for me,leading to anxiety. Sometimes just letting loose about whats going on with ya to a mate is a huge step in reclaiming confidence in yerself. This was a great video,mate. This is the sort of cool content that people like to see,and relate to. Everyday life, and trying to get thru' it, with all the panic storms about this years. Cheers,mate. Keep em a'comin.
Thank you. You actually helped me understand what's all going on I don't feel like I wanna kill myself anymore. It's just life I just need to live through it.
Well the first minute was immediately relatable for me. I really appreciate this kind of content man, keep it up.
I relate with this so much. Ive been chasing confidence for 5 years only to realise that doing that is actually blocking the effect of gaining confidence. Just do stuff, try stuff, fail, accept and be real. Those are the things that matter.
Very good video.
Masterpiece mate. I love your videos about life and random shit that all of us can relate to, brilliant. Greetings from Spain
This is my favourite video of the year. Thankyou Joe ,I been feeling very Sad but your videos help me .
Truest video i've watched in my life. Completely changed how i perceive confidence
Just watched this high as a kite, what an experience
lmfaoooo same
Watching this after shooting a mixture of heroin, meth, cocaine, thc, and psilocybin into your jugular vein = LIFE CHANGING
@@m74d3 More like = OD'ing, don't do drugs kids.
@@m74d3 absolute mad lad!!!
Good points,i especially liked the point that you talk about that confident is bonus and that you can't always be confident, i fought with my self for a while about if i don't have enough confident and this helped me realise it's normal to not be confidant all the time.
Thanks for the video it helped me very much!
This is such a great channel. Consistently great editing and cinematography when you could get away with much simpler shit, sound quality on point, and actually interesting content. I’ve only been watching for about a year but fuck you are underrated.
Really appreciate this video, vocalised a lot of stuff I've been thinking about lately
This was actually class, I felt like I could apply a lot of it to my own thoughts, especially the waiting for confidence before doing something. Let’s see if that unlocks my inner power🤙🏻
This mad lad is teaching us all levels of life, props to you!
Love the raw content Joe, respect
Enjoyed this a lot mate, enjoying the change of lane with each vid recently
Sick work space Joe.
This was so funny. I laughed my head off and I love that you're amused by yourself. Keep doing your thing Joe.
It’s 5:15am I’m sat on the sofa with bleary eyes enjoying a coffee before another shit day at work. This video made me laugh and really cheered me up and I’d say you’re pretty spot on with your point too. Nice one lad
What a human thank you sincerely for your existence
Joe my bru I so love your videos and your rambling style honestly my favourite you tuber!!
I'm invested in this video, even when you put the shirt on your head lol and then you turned away to think. It's refreshing to see someone on RUclips share thoughts like this
Weird, I've been thinking a lot lately about how self-improvement and more confidence won't fill all of my holes and that I need to learn to just live with some of them. Good timing and great video, Joe.
Thanks so much for having uploaded it
Lad this is by far the most relevant video of our time, I went from being over confident and highly liked in school (from my perspective) could mingle with absolutely anybody, to 18+ being socially awkward and not understanding why I wasn't the same guy anymore, now im 24 I've developed a true confidence in myself I just don't give a fuck about what other people think of me, that school confidence was a phobia of not being liked, now I dont give a fuck if I'm liked or not, and my small group of friends respect me for it!
Awesome video Joe, great message
This is probably the best and coolest video that I have seen in the last few months 💪🏻😂
Most relatable guy on youtube solid video mate keep em coming
“Confidence is a bonus not a requirement”.. great video mate
This guy really just reading out our own thoughts and experiences. Feels better to accept all this and work on improving from here.
You've got charisma my man, funny and engaging without needing to try too hard
Love this style of video with the funny pictures 😂 great content mate!
Joey d with the layer cake of life love it dude
i straight up fuckin love this channel the no fucks given is a VIBE
Been waiting for a new Joey D video and it was well worth the wait. Love the videos mate and hope you're both settling in to the new house well 👍
Trouble-free. Phenomenal. Thanks Joe
At times Joe's monologues get close to sounding like a stoned ramble but I feel that's what makes them good. He doesn't try to dress things up, just tells it how he sees it.
Gotta love a joe delaney vid
Authentic rant! Loved every bit of it😄
Best channel on here, best advice I've ever seen
Loving this style of video mate
Man, these vids are so gold I listen like a podcast while I'm driving. Ever thought of making a podcast joe?
thanks for this vid, came in the midst of some personal problems, and it made me realise a lot of things i had forgotten about my own mental health. thanks again
You're awesome for this. You're an example of what it means to be ok with it all in this video and it's beautiful. There's no façade of confidence. I believe confidence can exist though but that journey is one hundred percent filled with this, that you portray here in this video. Which is just flowing with the feelings rather than fighting them, looking at it and saying ok this feels weird but is that bad and do I actually want to change this. Change what it means to be human? Nah. Gotta get used to it. It's so funny because I've found that the next step is just acceptance of your self and others naked physically and spiritually, and here you are being put to a funny test of whether or not you should be wearing a shirt, if it really matters, or not, even if it like could be seen or judged so many ways. It's like naw, feels weird but here I am, not here to fight any feelings and harmonize with it rather than fight it. Beautiful. You're fuckin hilarious and make only good points throughout, with breaks that come about due to you just being yourself that make the video so much more individualized vs any other one that's going to pride it's self on the idea that showing even the tiniest bit hesitation means something needs to be fixed. You've truly made a difference in the way I see things as I watch how this came to be. Thank you. This is how real art is made.
One of my favorite vids of yours in a while
i'm liking the new content - its unique and your gonna grow as a person and YTer. Keep it up mate
100x more motivational than 110% of all motivational speakers combined. Why? Cause he's friggin real and doesn't sugarcoat life!
Yessssss now the people!!!🔥👍🏻 Professor joey D with life wisdom