Sir sir sir itni deep bate bahut hi badhiya example d a nice video Kash aapke videos pahle mile hote life change hoti sir history would have been different.
Thank you very much sir, after delivery i am facing lot of issues... Fights with mother in law .... Not able to handle myself and others as well.... I used to keep quite in my 5 years of marriage... After delivery had some arguments with mother in law , then husband started his own drama my mother bla bla bla .... Feeling lil better after your video.... But one thing i don't know whether i m doing right or wrong i have stopped talking to my mother in law because she trys to control even on phone and give instructions and guidance according to her ... But as i am a working woman , new mom and wife ... I can't follow her guidance and her rituals and way of living ... Also generation gap is a reason.. She is always shouting in the house i did that , 3 bachhe pale ghar banaya Duniyadari pta ni kya kya .. Aur bahuo ko sabse jyada trouble krti wo .... Subah 5 bje uth jati Aur bolti tum bhi utho .... Bina nahaye kitchen me mat jao , khana mat banao , Agr fresh hone gye to aake kapde change kro ... Jb naha k garam garam banaoge tabhi mai khaungi ... Subah ka sham ko ni , sham ka subah ni ... She had countless drama and nakhra Esa lagta h jese kisi janam ka badla le rhi ho hmse .... Merese ni hota manage Husband hamesa bolta h meri maa h ye wo wahi drama ... Ek din subah 5 bje utha k mujhe boli chai banao mere liye ... bahot gussa aaya mujhe Bolti h mera ghar h mene banaya h .. Naak me dum karke rakh deti h ... Aur kuch kaam ni krna hota ... Uske hisab se dinbhar kitchen me khade rho ... Jb bole utho jb bole so jao jab bole beth jao .. To mene baat hi krni bnd kr di .. Ab apna ghar aur apna bachha apne hisab se chala rhi hun ....aur apni capacity k hisab se ... Mujhe bolti h padhne likhne se kuch ni hota .. I am working with bank of america as data engineer... Abhi mujhe farak padna bnd ho gya h ... and i am happy 😊 Chahe koi mujhe achha bole ya bura bolta rhe ... farak ni padta
You are so strong. Sach me sirf khud pe aur apne bacche pe dhyan do. Hum darte hai jhagde se but agle ko hi nahi padi to dheeth aur ziddi banna padta hai. All the best
I know people who are suffering in marriage for 20-25 years and still suffering. It is not bad times , sometimes the husband or wife is psychotic and it is better to divorce the psycho husband or wife. They don’t change .
Yes.......he is not talking about that type of people.... people getting divorce for silly reasons , have no patience, financial problems...etc..etc..this video belongs to .. those 95% of people...ok
This advice is good for most people and if we keep calm and carry on most of us make it with a few rolls and punches along the way😅 But if one is in an abusive relationship, or with a narcissist then run for your life. It ain’t getting any better in those cases.
Sir I am really thankful to you for the inspiration.I m facing many problems due to health issues of my husband,even after 28 years of our marriage.Today morning I was totally fed up, after seeing this video I feel much better.Ye waqt guzar zayega. Thank you so much.
Samay accha ata hai to kharab bhi aata hai. Kuch thoda lamba chalta hai par kat zarur jata hai. be brave and fight the battle of life. Zarur jeetengi aap
I'm already 30 now. Me and many of my classmates are still not married. I had financial and some minor health issues. So I could not marry in time. But my friends did not have any issues but they are still not marrying. I suggest people to get married before at least 27 and average 25. That'll help you in your love life.
In some cases , I have seen that the problems start from saas side but time ke saath vo saas to bol bol kr sb kuch bigad degi aur chup hojati h fir husband wife ek dusre se hi ldte rhte h humesha kisi na kisi baat pr
Can u tell how to check on these personality disorders? My husband stops talking every 15-20 days without any reason. And on asking he would I don't have anything to say. What to do I don't understand.
Very true. Everyone has to go through bad phases in life be it career or marriage. Sometimes if you marry again then the second person turns out to be even worst. This has happened to someone ..
Absolutely right advice sir... Marriage is never a smooth ride... It depends on the patience and commitment of the couple to not let the marriage break down.
Tq sir 7 yrs after marriage struggling for having children, but still continuing with my husband, hoping he will change ,only to keep my father happy as mother passed away iam single child and father stays alone
Sir, very nice advice of bad roads and slowing down to second gear. You are doing a great work to make the young people of this country understand deeper aspect of life. Thank you so much for your gyaan
I was also going through d phase in my married life..which u described.... but after watching ur video got motivated to fight d bad times n not escape from it...
The main question here is himmat kab tak rakhein? Jab day 1 se kharab ho aur improvement ka koi scope nahi dikh raha. Kabhi kabhi ek ganda fruit saare fruit kharab kardeta hai to us fruit ko fek Dene mein hi samajhdaari hai..
Mahatma ji Though you ask for comments after every discourse but as far as I think you do not need any. Since observations/solutions are indisputably correct! Are of the highest order, Even on subjects which are never ever covered or dreamed of by anyone!🙏
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho Age group 15-20 Age group 21-25 Age group 26-30 Age group 31-35 Age group 35-40 Age group 41-50 Age group 50-60 Age group 60 above Sabhi course ki fees ho But college ho to thik ho Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho Govt. Approved ho Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
Thank you so much I m going manopause as well as rough marriage at same time. I feel like all my life is slipping out of my hand. Your advice did not help me solve my problem but gave me patience to bear the situation. And patience is only solution which ll help this situation 🙏🏻 Thank you so much sir🙏🏻 today u gave me advice like my father.🙏🏻
Whatever you are speaking out is good to listen to But mostly it's the wives who have to put with all the insults, humiliations, threatenings and beatings. Today, times have changed and the girls are not interested in suffering such marriages
Sir I very well agree with the RIGHT PEOPLE BUT WRONG TIME (KAAL) concept ... Sometimes astrological planets are such that they can cause situational grievances.. And it is expected that since the time situation is DIFFICULT for the other person, the spouse should be understanding and adjust for the time being.. I am in favour of this statement. But my question is.. What is the limit? Like to what extent should one tolerate? For example if I know that my spouse is of a very calm nature but in the bad times if they becomes aggressive and offensive it can be understood. But if the spouse cheats on the other JUST BECAUSE THE TIME IS BAD... If they do something UNETHICAL which goes against the foundation of marriage DUE TO BAD TIME(because I understand that circumstances can actually play with your mind) .. Even in these situations should the other spouse tolerate? So what should be the DEAL BREAKER in this situation?
Yes, u r right. Initially v had problems too. My wife ancestors were from Bombay, and they used to cook alot of chicken and meat and fish , rather bhuna Hua chicken. And my ancestors were from UP who used to cook chicken or meat with daal and sabzi and some times with sabzi and daal alone. Gradually, my wife becomes a UPian style bawarchi in Karachi. And yes in life bad phases comes, we have to pass that with quietly and with minimum interaction with in laws rather cut off. Other people interferences should be avoided at any cost. But yes u need to marry same culture wife, I had to also made many adjustments in life too.
Appropriate example sir. Comparing life with car on road. Concept became clear as one has to slow down. Car sahi hai per road kharab. Or wait kharab. Slow down
Very deep insights, Sirji. Mera Alto gaddhe wale raste pe ja raha h. MIL, SIL job chudvana chahri thi. Husband ka saath nahin h. Mein maayke mein hu, par job nahin choda. 6 fig salary h. Par aapne Jo bataya wo bilkul sahi h. Isi bharose baithi hu ki ek din mere husband ko akkal aayegi. Problem gaadi nahi h road h. Theek h hamara alto h par chalti to h.
My problem is my husband disrespects me and instead of realising his mistakes he starts giving clarification and explanations and always make me feel wrong . I feel as if I am always the culprit and he plays the victim side. Such a pitiful condition of mine.
Sir sir sir itni deep bate bahut hi badhiya example d a nice video Kash aapke videos pahle mile hote life change hoti sir history would have been different.
क्या हुआ बहन सबको भाई बोल दिया क्या
Thank you very much sir, after delivery i am facing lot of issues...
Fights with mother in law ....
Not able to handle myself and others as well....
I used to keep quite in my 5 years of marriage...
After delivery had some arguments with mother in law , then husband started his own drama my mother bla bla bla ....
Feeling lil better after your video....
But one thing i don't know whether i m doing right or wrong i have stopped talking to my mother in law because she trys to control even on phone and give instructions and guidance according to her ...
But as i am a working woman , new mom and wife ...
I can't follow her guidance and her rituals and way of living ...
Also generation gap is a reason..
She is always shouting in the house i did that , 3 bachhe pale ghar banaya
Duniyadari pta ni kya kya ..
Aur bahuo ko sabse jyada trouble krti wo ....
Subah 5 bje uth jati
Aur bolti tum bhi utho ....
Bina nahaye kitchen me mat jao , khana mat banao ,
Agr fresh hone gye to aake kapde change kro ...
Jb naha k garam garam banaoge tabhi mai khaungi ...
Subah ka sham ko ni , sham ka subah ni ...
She had countless drama and nakhra
Esa lagta h jese kisi janam ka badla le rhi ho hmse ....
Merese ni hota manage
Husband hamesa bolta h meri maa h ye wo wahi drama ...
Ek din subah 5 bje utha k mujhe boli chai banao mere liye ... bahot gussa aaya mujhe
Bolti h mera ghar h mene banaya h ..
Naak me dum karke rakh deti h ...
Aur kuch kaam ni krna hota ...
Uske hisab se dinbhar kitchen me khade rho ...
Jb bole utho jb bole so jao jab bole beth jao ..
To mene baat hi krni bnd kr di ..
Ab apna ghar aur apna bachha apne hisab se chala rhi hun ....aur apni capacity k hisab se ...
Mujhe bolti h padhne likhne se kuch ni hota ..
I am working with bank of america as data engineer...
Abhi mujhe farak padna bnd ho gya h ... and i am happy 😊
Chahe koi mujhe achha bole ya bura bolta rhe ... farak ni padta
You are so strong. Sach me sirf khud pe aur apne bacche pe dhyan do. Hum darte hai jhagde se but agle ko hi nahi padi to dheeth aur ziddi banna padta hai. All the best
Thik kiya apne
आप काफी हद तक सही है.
99 percent marriage problems से गुजरती है.
समय और समस्या अलग अलग होती हैं
पर होती जरूर है.
I know people who are suffering in marriage for 20-25 years and still suffering. It is not bad times , sometimes the husband or wife is psychotic and it is better to divorce the psycho husband or wife. They don’t change .
This is not ID of sir.
This is absolute fraud
Fake ID spotted
@sango883reported
Yes.......he is not talking about that type of people.... people getting divorce for silly reasons , have no patience, financial problems...etc..etc..this video belongs to .. those 95% of people...ok
sahi ekdum correct
This advice is good for most people and if we keep calm and carry on most of us make it with a few rolls and punches along the way😅
But if one is in an abusive relationship, or with a narcissist then run for your life. It ain’t getting any better in those cases.
Sir I am really thankful to you for the inspiration.I m facing many problems due to health issues of my husband,even after 28 years of our marriage.Today morning I was totally fed up, after seeing this video I feel much better.Ye waqt guzar zayega.
Thank you so much.
Stay strong meditate to remain calm to make right decisions. Take care.
Samay accha ata hai to kharab bhi aata hai. Kuch thoda lamba chalta hai par kat zarur jata hai. be brave and fight the battle of life. Zarur jeetengi aap
Divorce के लिए late
I'm already 30 now. Me and many of my classmates are still not married.
I had financial and some minor health issues.
So I could not marry in time.
But my friends did not have any issues but they are still not marrying.
I suggest people to get married before at least 27 and average 25.
That'll help you in your love life.
Fully agree
❤❤❤❤Ek hi to dil hai guruji kitni bar jito gi...Your are Gods 🎉Grace person
Shadi se pehle hi advice mil gaya, how to manage up-downs in marriage life, 🙏
In some cases , I have seen that the problems start from saas side but time ke saath vo saas to bol bol kr sb kuch bigad degi aur chup hojati h fir husband wife ek dusre se hi ldte rhte h humesha kisi na kisi baat pr
Toh gaadi achhi Karo na. Understanding banao pati se. With love n patience
👌👌👌👌👌👏👏
Bhaisahab.. kya gyaan hai iss aadmi mein. Ekdum top class. Erudite who can speak in the common tongue
Marrying means to halve one's rights and double one's duties
Arthur Schopenhauer
When you leave your ego , you can understand other person and his /her problem very easily………
It is not always a ego issue. Sometimes it is a personality disorder. People who are narcissistic, suspicious, paranoid, they don’t change
@@wowser2153 very true. And it takes forever sometimes to realise this.😢
Can u tell how to check on these personality disorders? My husband stops talking every 15-20 days without any reason. And on asking he would I don't have anything to say. What to do I don't understand.
U are very kind hearted, like Swami Dayand ji. U are like a true harwani, a well wishers of humankind.
Very true. Everyone has to go through bad phases in life be it career or marriage. Sometimes if you marry again then the second person turns out to be even worst. This has happened to someone ..
Better not to marry again. Why repeat it
@@understanding-why Kindly see a psychiatrist. Don't spoil somebody's life just for sex
Ya thats why those playboys become playboys forever 🤷🏻♂️
@@manjular3678 yup i rather live with cats and dogs 😅
@Ash The Duke Faith, Prayers too help one to go thru married life
Absolutely right advice sir... Marriage is never a smooth ride... It depends on the patience and commitment of the couple to not let the marriage break down.
Absolutely right sir
Tq sir
7 yrs after marriage struggling for having children, but still continuing with my husband, hoping he will change ,only to keep my father happy as mother passed away iam single child and father stays alone
Leave husband and go live with father. Get new husband
Your knowledge and understanding is very astonishing.
Sir, very nice advice of bad roads and slowing down to second gear. You are doing a great work to make the young people of this country understand deeper aspect of life. Thank you so much for your gyaan
I was also going through d phase in my married life..which u described.... but after watching ur video got motivated to fight d bad times n not escape from it...
The main question here is himmat kab tak rakhein? Jab day 1 se kharab ho aur improvement ka koi scope nahi dikh raha. Kabhi kabhi ek ganda fruit saare fruit kharab kardeta hai to us fruit ko fek Dene mein hi samajhdaari hai..
Right. But very difficult decision, specially if new problems pop up suddenly after many years of marriage then what to do.
Mahatma ji
Though you ask for comments after every discourse but as far as I think you
do not need any.
Since observations/solutions are indisputably correct! Are of the highest order, Even on subjects which
are never ever covered or dreamed of by anyone!🙏
Amit ji se request he ki ek esa college banae jaha har age group ke liye class ho
Age group 15-20
Age group 21-25
Age group 26-30
Age group 31-35
Age group 35-40
Age group 41-50
Age group 50-60
Age group 60 above
Sabhi course ki fees ho
But college ho to thik ho
Old age vale parents ya jo kam age ke he or bimar he to unki seva kese hogi jisse vo bhi khush rahe or couple ko bhi khush rahne de
Or pre marriage ka ek compulsory couse ho ho couple ko karna bahut jaruri ho jisme govt. Ki taraf se ho ki shadi ke pahle ye course karna bahut jaruri ho
Govt. Approved ho
Or couple ke family ke liye bhi ek course ho ladke ke family or ladki ki family
In dono family ko kya karna he kya nhi karna vo bataya jae
Plz. Open your college plz. 🙏🏻
One of the best video , I ever witnessed on this subject matter !!
Your time is bad, not the marriage. Very true.
Facing issues in marriage lekin himmat mili .. thanks
Very well said…I could have gone on listening to it 🙂
Aap ke words, bolne ki style bhoot ki interesting hai,
Iam following many of yours advices hoping one day my life will be successful
Much needed words sir....thank you so much 🙏🙏
Bahut Acha Sir! Himat a rahi hai
Sir hats off to u
Aap sach me bhot gyani h🙏👍
Loved your expressions, rather I personally find the information very well versed.
🙏🙏🙏🙏 thanks is a very small word to express my gratitude towards d life solving approach & ur guidance sir
I always trust your advice🙏🙏
Enjoyed , liked your suggestions and advice.
Thanks and Best Wishes
Thank you so much I m going manopause as well as rough marriage at same time. I feel like all my life is slipping out of my hand. Your advice did not help me solve my problem but gave me patience to bear the situation. And patience is only solution which ll help this situation 🙏🏻 Thank you so much sir🙏🏻 today u gave me advice like my father.🙏🏻
Present generation lacks patience,they decide very fast and don't want others to interfere in their lives,be it parents or friends
Right advice at right time
Dum hai guru ji ❤
Great clarity ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much sir 😊
Good example and equally good advice.
Thanks bade bhaiya aisi advices mere bade jeth dete the jo ab nahi hai
Could not agree more... Thank you 🙏 for sharing.
Good advice for the youngsters!!🤝👏👏👏
This is my 35th year of marriage all due to patience thank god
Very nice advice, good examples
Whatever you are speaking out is good to listen to But mostly it's the wives who have to put with all the insults, humiliations, threatenings and beatings. Today, times have changed and the girls are not interested in suffering such marriages
Sometimes it is better to leave , otherwise it ends in murder or suicide
Marriage is gamble
काम की सलाह हैं
Thank you so much sirji thank you so much thank you thank you thank you
himmat--e- mardaan...Madad-e-khuda..!!
Sir, more & more Indian men are now marrying for money. Can you plz make a video on how to avoid this trap? Thank you
Zindagi jeeni hai to Shadi na hi karo to jyada Achcha....
Sahi bola..... bohotbhasad hai bhai.... me to thak gaya abhi se
Sahi bola
No
Depends upon you
How to handle marrital life .
Ek saathi forever
Zindagi bachi hi kya jeene k liye?
Thq means alot ❤
Ji Sar aapane bilkul sahi Kaha
aaapki fluent english and hinglish is awesome
Very nicely explained
I vl share this with my sis daughter who is going through rough patch in marriage
U always give best advice
Sir Jo apne sabse pehle bola iss video mein ..... Vo last mein kehtey to jyada acha lagta ... I hope u can understand my words ... 🙏
Namaskar Mr. Sangwan, excellent and wise advice
Excellent👍👏👏👏 your example is super👌👌👌👌👌
Salaam hain aapko sir
VERY PRACTICAL VIDEO KEEP POSTED SIR, UR SMILE IS ALSO VERY GOOD
Sir I very well agree with the RIGHT PEOPLE BUT WRONG TIME (KAAL) concept ... Sometimes astrological planets are such that they can cause situational grievances.. And it is expected that since the time situation is DIFFICULT for the other person, the spouse should be understanding and adjust for the time being.. I am in favour of this statement.
But my question is.. What is the limit? Like to what extent should one tolerate? For example if I know that my spouse is of a very calm nature but in the bad times if they becomes aggressive and offensive it can be understood.
But if the spouse cheats on the other JUST BECAUSE THE TIME IS BAD... If they do something UNETHICAL which goes against the foundation of marriage DUE TO BAD TIME(because I understand that circumstances can actually play with your mind) .. Even in these situations should the other spouse tolerate?
So what should be the DEAL BREAKER in this situation?
Sangwan Sir, please make video on this aspect too
Extreme narcissistic situation
Wonderful insight 👍
Saadar Naman aapko Sir. Bahut badiya advise di aapne.
Wonderful example
Sir your efforts are truly commendable,nice content.
In short whenever there is turbulence in marriage, GO SLOW N EASY.
Apke videos mein aise special signs ❤ 🙏 hona chahiye
Very very nice video sir... thank u so much 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Sir ek astrology aur karma pe bhi video bnao
Give freedom n space to the partner.
💯 pasant each n every word is true sir i salute 🫡 ❤❤❤
Yes, u r right. Initially v had problems too. My wife ancestors were from Bombay, and they used to cook alot of chicken and meat and fish , rather bhuna Hua chicken. And my ancestors were from UP who used to cook chicken or meat with daal and sabzi and some times with sabzi and daal alone. Gradually, my wife becomes a UPian style bawarchi in Karachi. And yes in life bad phases comes, we have to pass that with quietly and with minimum interaction with in laws rather cut off. Other people interferences should be avoided at any cost.
But yes u need to marry same culture wife, I had to also made many adjustments in life too.
It’s sad that ur marriage happiness depends on only food !!!
@@NA-vt6mz Because it is commonly said in our culture that love of husband can be attained through stomach.
@@muhammadtaha4725 love of husband is through sex , dowry and taking care of his parents
@@NA-vt6mzyou said my heart, such men are pathetic. I hope women don't choose such men for marriage.
Thank you
Excellent sir
Very helpful 👌
Appropriate example sir.
Comparing life with car on road.
Concept became clear as one has to slow down.
Car sahi hai per road kharab.
Or wait kharab.
Slow down
Sir, it is Cholbe na Chollbe na, from your Bengali fan
Can you please put English subtitles so my foreign friends can understand ty 🙏🏼
Such deep wisdom
Proud of you sir 🎉
V nice .thank u sir..
Need this vedio.. thankyou
Practical knowledge video sir👌👌
Astro se bhi shi smadhan ho sakta h
Really appreciate u sir for this video going through such kind of phase,much needed for me
Very deep insights, Sirji. Mera Alto gaddhe wale raste pe ja raha h. MIL, SIL job chudvana chahri thi. Husband ka saath nahin h. Mein maayke mein hu, par job nahin choda. 6 fig salary h. Par aapne Jo bataya wo bilkul sahi h. Isi bharose baithi hu ki ek din mere husband ko akkal aayegi. Problem gaadi nahi h road h. Theek h hamara alto h par chalti to h.
Thankyu Sir please bataye ki, mahilaon ko Lakshmi kyon kaha jata hai. Exact reason Kya hai. 🙏please sir.
Such a gem you are...muje is video ki jarurat thi ...I'm going through gaado vala phase in my married life as well as carriar
Guruji, You are like Chankya of today
Acharya Prshant or Sango Sir... Confused totally 😅
My problem is my husband disrespects me and instead of realising his mistakes he starts giving clarification and explanations and always make me feel wrong . I feel as if I am always the culprit and he plays the victim side. Such a pitiful condition of mine.
Real awakening ofyouth
What about once its ruined?
Sahi baat
Good stuff, simply explained, alas! life had been so simple.