Galti yahi hai, mumma's boys hona loyalty ki guarantee nahi hai, family k liye over devoted log, apni family wife aur bachchon ko neglect karne me pride lene lagte hain.
They expect daughter in law like a nanny for their son and maid for rest of the house. Agar mene dukh jhela hai tho ye bhi jhelegii. We are still in male dominating society. You are sharing good thoughts but ye absorb and follow nahin honge because hmaari roots bht hee alag hain.
Kon expect karta hai saas na, dowry k leye kon satata hai bahu ko saas, nanad etc matlab sab female hai aur sab kuch female ki wajah se he hota hai male to victim ban jata hai aur ap keh rahai ho male dominating society ye kisne banai females ne hai transport vehicle par likha rehta hai 1 se 15 tak seats female aur handicapped k leye reserved hai females ko kiske sath joda jata hai kabhi apne socha kabhi es pay objection ki nai ki na karega koi, bachpan se ye speech sunte aya hon womens empowerment male ese vese dowry ko leke sataya, jalaya, prostitute mai dakhela leken en sab k peshay sirf aur sirf female he hoti hai aur jo b maine bola 100% fact hai jai hind jai bharat
Bilkul sahi kaha..ladke vale sochte hain ki ladki puri tarah apne family ko bhool kr sasural Mai rach bs jaaye..sari chejen ek sath Sikh le..koi galti na karen to humanly possible ni hai..log ye sab kabhi ni samjhenge
Asal mein fact ye hai ki Bahu aisi ho jo Ghar bhar de, sub Sambhaal le, Ghar ke saare kaam aate hon. Lekin beti aise ghar mein jaaye jahaan usse koi kaam naa karna pade, sirf aaram hee aaram ho.
Ladka initially 'mumma's boy' ho toh chalega lekin bahu ko 1st day se hi bol diya jata hai ki apne parents se thoda kum baat kare ya fir saal ke koi bhi festival mein apne parents ke paas naa jaye. Forget about festivals kabhi agar bohot gandi wali yaad aaye apne parents ki toh bhi bus max 1 or 2 days ke liye jaye. The restrictions & hypocrisy just baffles me.
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pm Tumhare jesi aurton ki wajah se the new gen women are suffering. Pathetic people like you should just v@nish from the face of this earth as soon as possible so that the son & daughter in law can live happily without having to worry all the time.
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pmLadke ke faaltu nonsense maa baap ke paas rehne ke liye shaadi nahi karti hai koi ladki. A woman marries only the man because she loves him & only him. She does not owe a single thing to his parents & neither is she obligated to stay anywhere except with her husband. They can CHOOSE to stay anywhere they want & she can go to her parents ANYTIME she wants for however long possible as long as the couple is onboard & willing. The other pathetic unworthy valueless people have no position whatsoever to dictate her life. So keep your usele$$ nose out of their business.
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pm Aaj kal BHI esa hota hai aur aage bhi hota rahega bcuz of pathetic in laws. How stupid it is of you to invalidate the problems women actually face in their marriages even today by calling them obsolete just bcuz some of them don't go through it.
भारतीय समाज की तथाकथित आदर्श वादी सोच और उम्मीद ने आज की आधुनिक युग में बड़ी विसंगतियां पैदा कर दी हैं। आपके बताए तरीके उसके सही हल की ओर इशारा करते हैं। अभी इस पर ऐसी ही और स्पष्टता की आवश्यकता है। आपका प्रयास सराहनीय है
Please kindly make a few more videos, just my suggestions. 1. Husband's role towards his mother and wife how he can balance the two. 2. Families must be supportive of working daughters not finding happiness in marriage and seeking seperation for their sanity and health. 3. How middle class men born in 1950s should start being less rigid and support their wives. They don't adapt to change want their wives to continue serving them even though times have changed alot. Your videos are very good and can bring about alot of changes in society. Everyone knows that the times have changed and relationships need a different approach but no-one has put things in such a structure as you have in your videos .
I'm a senior with 2 daughter in law's Alhamdulillah all 3 r staying separate N i agree with your 5th point k parents ki jimmadari apne bacho Ki hoti hai but I'm lucky v all care for each other Plus bahu k family bhi respect us really contented With Allah
In our country, we actually need pre marriage counseling to all parties concerned. Some boys are also unable to draw clear boundaries. They expect their mother and wife to be like mother and daughter. They are usually disappointed. Basically it is usually collective responsibility but in the fight between saans-bahu the main victim is the son/husband.
@@anuragkehri3828 That's easy to say. But difficult to explain to people concerned. Even the government is supporting adult children staying with parents, specially for those adult children with govt jobs.
Are you kidding ?? The son/husband is the main victim !!!!!! You clearly need to rethink the definition of victim in this case. It's the woman who loses loses loses & loses in every single situation in an Indian marriage.
@@kittypurry7871 woman is victim if husband supports either side exclusively. In patriarchal families husbands might support his mother exclusively but that's not in case of equal marriages. Husbands are often in dilemma "whom to support? what to say?" Saying only women are victims further victimizes the bahus. There are families where mothers-in-law support daughters-in-law fully, but still difference in opinions happens and that is when husbands are the victims because they cannot find a way to satisfy both. This can happen even when they don't stay together.
Very valuable counseling..wish I could know all these factors 8 yrs before...one thing u have forgotten sir...in all these scenario the role of relatives,sis in law are also very important..
Yes very much in start of marriage every relative work is kan bharna of mother in law. If they don’t do or mother in laws don’t listen to such talks half of problem will be solved
Aapne jo 5th solution h usko me bhi kai media platform ke comment me likha tha to bahut criticism mila tha mere comment ko. Per i personally believe same. Ye vichar pahle se hi mere man me tha aur Express bhi ki hu lekin hypocrisy iti jada h hamare samaj me to khule aankho se bhi sachai nhi dekhti. Bhartiya papivar ki sundarya aur stri ki mahnta aur kartaya ke naam per sadiyo se ladies logo ka shashan ladies logo dwara unhi ke parivar me hota aa raha h. Bahu ki aazadi alag personally alag soch alag ambitions h to vo kharab h selfish. Agar vo saas sasur ki seva nhi karti to vo buri h. Agar vo saas ki galiyo ka jawab deti h to nich h. Agar vo apne maa baap ki bejati apne sasural me bardast nhi karti to usko gurur h. Bahuye hamare samaj me dehej le kar aai vo naukrani h jo sabki seva ke liye 24 h uplabhd honi chahiye. Aur ye seva vo sirf khana aur kapado ke badle me de tab vo mahan mahila hogi. Thank you sir aap purush hokar parivar ke mamle ki inti samj rahkte h. Ita to mere pati 20 saal ki shadi me nhi samj paye ya samjne ko tayar nhi. Me to kahti hu jish tarah ka vavhar bahu ke sath uske sasural me saalo hota h same tarah ka vavhar damad ke sath sirf 1 month uske sasural me ho jaye fir usse pucha jaye ki kya vo us parivar me rahna chahega. Sabhi purush Vichar kare is bat per
I truly find almost all families are mentally disturbed wherein DIL stays with MIL and I can't even understand the joint family concept even if I break my skull open😂
नमस्ते सर, बहुत सही बताया एक बात मैं यहाँ कहना चाहूँगी के , सास अगर बहु को कुछ बोलेंगी या बतायेंगी के ऐसे करो , ये करो तो~ बहु को बुरा लगता है कि सास टोकतीं रहती हैं, चिढ़ती है, डाँटतीं है और अगर उसकी मम्मी कुछ बोलेंगी या अब तक इस उम्र तक कुछ तो कभी तो बोला होगा तब उसको बुरा नहीं लगता ! ये point भी समझने वाली बात है 🙏🏻
Kyuki Maa maa hoti hai & Saas saas hoti hai . Saas kabhi bhi maa nhi ban sakti . Kya huabands apne father in law k taunt sun sakte hai ??? Nhi na same aise hi wives bhi nhi sun sakti Saas k taunts
Kuki ma daat b de to beti mummy ko ulta jaeab de skti.. beti se galti hoti he to usko maa samjhati he..saas taana marti he.. dono bato me farak he. Sare parivar me failayi jati he bahu k galtiyo ko.. koi maa apni beti k galtiya jagjahir nahi krti firti. Ye hota hr farak
@@Meghakaushik72837 लोचा ये है 👇 @anuragkehri3828 एक बेटे के फायदे के लिए बेटी को उजाड़ कर, बेघर करके, ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है। बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasural भेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है। बेटे के लिए कष्ट करते हैं तो सेवा भी बेटे से लें, कर्जा तो बेटे पर होता है, बहु के लिए तो धेला नही किया होता। एहसान तो वो करती है जो उजाड़कर आती है। पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं। अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ। बेटी अपना कंफर्ट जोन, अपना घर, फैमिली, पेरेंट्स, नाम, pehchaan क्यूं छोड़े, वो भी तब जब उसके इस बड़े त्याग की कोई गिनती ही नही? बेटा छोड़ कर दिखाएं।। अब बेटियों को सख्त होना चाहिए। और बेघर होकर sasural jane se मना कर देना चाहिए।
Sango sir, with respect to keeping patience about "mumma boy's", the girl after getting married is neither a daddy's girl or mummy's girl. After vidai everything is like over. She is in a strange family. She is leaving her family and everything and her partner doesn't show that equal commitment.
@paramjitkaur-fp3pm बेटी को ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है। बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasuralभेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है। पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं। अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ।
Ladkon ki bhi ragging honi chahiye thodi, taki balance ban jae, damaad ji ko to aate hi head of department ki tarah welcome kiya jata hai aur patni junior clerk.
बेटी को ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है। बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasural भेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है। पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं। अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ।
@ninanani4085 wo pratha sahi hai. Aj kal ki ladki ko bas riste manage Krna nahi ata short temper hoti hai. or agr ladke apne sasuraal me rehne lag gaye to sasural Wale ko hi problem hogi. Agr ladke khana banana, dhona, seva Kare or bahar se kama kar bhi laye boss ki gali bhi khaye uski wife kya Elizabeth hai😂
Its a merely discussed topic and also one the most important topic of every household. New girls need direct consults regarding this matter which is offered by no one and when she screws up she is judged by every person even the neighbours and results to hampering the relation of husband and wife. Great knowledge. Please continue making such videos
बहुत सुंदर तरीके से आप अपनी सच्ची बात को समाज के सामने रखते है और सभी की गलत फहमी को दूर कर देते हैं जो समझ जाए उसका जीवन आसान और खुशहाल हो जाए । धन्यवाद सर 🙏
Sir , ,👏👏👏👏apki videos dekhi , meri bilkul aisi hi sooch hai jaisi aapki hai, aur sach batau to sasural mae batamiz kehlati hu 😂 . Saas sasur batamiz kehtey hai mujhey
Sir , i also always believe if a guy loves his mother so much he will surely loves his wife too. Nice n true thoughts . Blood relations are blood relations
Mai aap ki baato se 100% agree hu jub aap bolte hai to mujhe lagta hai jese aap mairi hi soch ko apne shabdo mai bol rahe hai mai bhi bahut saalo se apne aas pass ke logo ko yahi samjhane ki koshish karti hu pr ye duniya ageeb se rule follow karti hai unhe sirf apne fayede ki baat samajh aati hai.
Sir your videos are good the problem is that only those people are watching it who need changes not the one who can really change. Thanks for making such videos
Ladki ki Umar badhti hai yo ladke ki umar b to ghat-ti nhi. It's very important that both are approximately equal to each other in terms of education and income.
Some mother in law's are very cunning and political example my sister's mil. Her mil keeps on checking everytime what my sister is doing, where is she going out and for what purpose. She and her son and daughters (sister's husband and sisters in law) tortured mentally to my sister so that she leave her job and sit at home. Her mil purposely use to go native places and daughters house to stay there just to avoid help in house chores. Even at the time of pregnancy and after delivery where her help was required she ran away to native. My sister is highly educated,talented and use to do good job. Mil is jealous and feels insecurity. My sister sacrifices her job. Anyway..now the time has change. My sister learned how to handle these people and her husband. Request to all mother in law to be..that don't be jealous even if you are having daughter/s. Respect dil first (as you will be older than her) and then expect love from her. Remember she married with your son and not with you then too she is ready to take care of you. Don't expect more and more. She is 'ghar ki bahu' not 'ghar ki bai'.
I have seen that people who get married and have children at early age handle their relations and emotions in immature way. They even get jealous of their own sons and daughters.
पति और पत्नी दोस्त हैं। एक दुसरे की help करें । सर, बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने..... ऐसा ही होता है इसको अच्छे से समझ लिया तो शांति और सुकून मिलेगा। और इस को समझने में गलती कर गए तो सुख चैन खो जायेगा। पता नही लोग ज्यादा फिल्मी क्यों हो जाते हैं....?
I agree with all the points. Relationship obligations should not be imposed solely on the other partner. In- law parents also have the obligations for the new member who comes to that family . Think logically then only things will work. Thank u for uploading such videos and bring such subjects to this platform.
You are right that only your son should do seva to his parents.But sometimes the bahu does not like it and prohibits your son from doing seva to his parents.
नमस्कार सर, बहुत अच्छे सुझाव हैं । सर, अगर सास अपनी और अपने बड़े बेटे या बेटी के सम्पति या सुविधाओ के साथ छोटे बेटे की तुलना करे तो ऐसी स्थिति मे क्या करें ?
Many people who are very ‘liberal’ in their thoughts might not agree to your views but invariably all points told does apply in life. And only those can improve who first accept these flaws to further make amendments and to experience the changes in household environment.
Sir aap sahi bol rahe hai.we are of the same opinion.Hum apne dono beto ke liye. yahi Sutra implement Kiya hai.Dono Bahu bahut ijjat dete hai.By God's grace we have madhura relation with each other.bahuo se jyaada hamne pariksha di hai!! 😊
Waah aap jaisi saas sabko nhi milti . Meri saas nanad to mujhe bahut sunati hai , kitna v acha khana bana lu un dono ko pasand hi nhi aata . Saal me ek baar hi jate hai inlaws k yahan but fir v depression & tension wapas le kar aate hai . Unki baatein mujhe chubhti hai .. meri shadi ko 8 years ho chuke hai but aaj v wo dono mujhe pasand nhi karte .
Hamare yahan bhi same he meri bahut bhi bahut izzat deti he kyonki men bhi bahut pyar karti hun usko dono side se hota he par ye bat or he meri bahu hamare calchar ki nahi he
@@somduttamajumder3303 then don't marry them ...if u have already married, divorce them. Coz sooner or later, the MIL will make him divorce you anyway!
One suggestion we mother's of sons feel nowadays instead of getting the Bahu home it's better sending our son to the girls house. As the girls will be happy taking care of her parents than her husband's parents. The son has no option. He can visit his parents whenever he wants. This way " the saas bahu relationship"will be solved.
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Galti yahi hai, mumma's boys hona loyalty ki guarantee nahi hai, family k liye over devoted log, apni family wife aur bachchon ko neglect karne me pride lene lagte hain.
bang on!
I strongly agree
They expect daughter in law like a nanny for their son and maid for rest of the house. Agar mene dukh jhela hai tho ye bhi jhelegii. We are still in male dominating society. You are sharing good thoughts but ye absorb and follow nahin honge because hmaari roots bht hee alag hain.
That's why nowadays boys mother's are deciding to send their sons to the girls house as Ghar jamai that will solve all the saas bahu problems.
Kon expect karta hai saas na, dowry k leye kon satata hai bahu ko saas, nanad etc matlab sab female hai aur sab kuch female ki wajah se he hota hai male to victim ban jata hai aur ap keh rahai ho male dominating society ye kisne banai females ne hai transport vehicle par likha rehta hai 1 se 15 tak seats female aur handicapped k leye reserved hai females ko kiske sath joda jata hai kabhi apne socha kabhi es pay objection ki nai ki na karega koi, bachpan se ye speech sunte aya hon womens empowerment male ese vese dowry ko leke sataya, jalaya, prostitute mai dakhela leken en sab k peshay sirf aur sirf female he hoti hai aur jo b maine bola 100% fact hai jai hind jai bharat
Bilkul sahi kaha..ladke vale sochte hain ki ladki puri tarah apne family ko bhool kr sasural Mai rach bs jaaye..sari chejen ek sath Sikh le..koi galti na karen to humanly possible ni hai..log ye sab kabhi ni samjhenge
Asal mein fact ye hai ki Bahu aisi ho jo Ghar bhar de, sub Sambhaal le, Ghar ke saare kaam aate hon. Lekin beti aise ghar mein jaaye jahaan usse koi kaam naa karna pade, sirf aaram hee aaram ho.
Very true and the irony is the same people do the exact same thing to their son in law too, daughter has to rest
Ladka initially 'mumma's boy' ho toh chalega lekin bahu ko 1st day se hi bol diya jata hai ki apne parents se thoda kum baat kare ya fir saal ke koi bhi festival mein apne parents ke paas naa jaye. Forget about festivals kabhi agar bohot gandi wali yaad aaye apne parents ki toh bhi bus max 1 or 2 days ke liye jaye. The restrictions & hypocrisy just baffles me.
Aaj kal ki families me easa kuch nahi hota
Bahu ne to bohut aaphat macha rakhi hai hum log bhi bahu the or hai
Bahu to bas car dedo kothi dedo
Agar sasuraal nahi jaana to koi ghar jamai le liya karo
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pm Tumhare jesi aurton ki wajah se the new gen women are suffering. Pathetic people like you should just v@nish from the face of this earth as soon as possible so that the son & daughter in law can live happily without having to worry all the time.
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pmLadke ke faaltu nonsense maa baap ke paas rehne ke liye shaadi nahi karti hai koi ladki. A woman marries only the man because she loves him & only him. She does not owe a single thing to his parents & neither is she obligated to stay anywhere except with her husband. They can CHOOSE to stay anywhere they want & she can go to her parents ANYTIME she wants for however long possible as long as the couple is onboard & willing. The other pathetic unworthy valueless people have no position whatsoever to dictate her life. So keep your usele$$ nose out of their business.
@@paramjitkaur-fp3pm Aaj kal BHI esa hota hai aur aage bhi hota rahega bcuz of pathetic in laws. How stupid it is of you to invalidate the problems women actually face in their marriages even today by calling them obsolete just bcuz some of them don't go through it.
Best part beti, beti hai... Sir, aap sach bolte hain..
भारतीय समाज की तथाकथित आदर्श वादी सोच और उम्मीद ने आज की आधुनिक युग में बड़ी विसंगतियां पैदा कर दी हैं। आपके बताए तरीके उसके सही हल की ओर इशारा करते हैं। अभी इस पर ऐसी ही और स्पष्टता की आवश्यकता है। आपका प्रयास सराहनीय है
Please kindly make a few more videos, just my suggestions.
1. Husband's role towards his mother and wife how he can balance the two.
2. Families must be supportive of working daughters not finding happiness in marriage and seeking seperation for their sanity and health.
3. How middle class men born in 1950s should start being less rigid and support their wives. They don't adapt to change want their wives to continue serving them even though times have changed alot.
Your videos are very good and can bring about alot of changes in society. Everyone knows that the times have changed and relationships need a different approach but no-one has put things in such a structure as you have in your videos .
I'm a senior with 2 daughter in law's
Alhamdulillah all 3 r staying separate
N i agree with your 5th point k parents ki jimmadari apne bacho
Ki hoti hai but I'm lucky v all care for each other
Plus bahu k family bhi respect us really contented
With Allah
Sir your views need to spread in society........this society really needs to adopt this thinking
In our country, we actually need pre marriage counseling to all parties concerned.
Some boys are also unable to draw clear boundaries. They expect their mother and wife to be like mother and daughter. They are usually disappointed. Basically it is usually collective responsibility but in the fight between saans-bahu the main victim is the son/husband.
Very right
True
@@anuragkehri3828 That's easy to say. But difficult to explain to people concerned. Even the government is supporting adult children staying with parents, specially for those adult children with govt jobs.
Are you kidding ?? The son/husband is the main victim !!!!!! You clearly need to rethink the definition of victim in this case. It's the woman who loses loses loses & loses in every single situation in an Indian marriage.
@@kittypurry7871 woman is victim if husband supports either side exclusively. In patriarchal families husbands might support his mother exclusively but that's not in case of equal marriages. Husbands are often in dilemma "whom to support? what to say?" Saying only women are victims further victimizes the bahus. There are families where mothers-in-law support daughters-in-law fully, but still difference in opinions happens and that is when husbands are the victims because they cannot find a way to satisfy both. This can happen even when they don't stay together.
Very valuable counseling..wish I could know all these factors 8 yrs before...one thing u have forgotten sir...in all these scenario the role of relatives,sis in law are also very important..
Yes very much in start of marriage every relative work is kan bharna of mother in law. If they don’t do or mother in laws don’t listen to such talks half of problem will be solved
Aapne jo 5th solution h usko me bhi kai media platform ke comment me likha tha to bahut criticism mila tha mere comment ko. Per i personally believe same. Ye vichar pahle se hi mere man me tha aur Express bhi ki hu lekin hypocrisy iti jada h hamare samaj me to khule aankho se bhi sachai nhi dekhti. Bhartiya papivar ki sundarya aur stri ki mahnta aur kartaya ke naam per sadiyo se ladies logo ka shashan ladies logo dwara unhi ke parivar me hota aa raha h. Bahu ki aazadi alag personally alag soch alag ambitions h to vo kharab h selfish. Agar vo saas sasur ki seva nhi karti to vo buri h. Agar vo saas ki galiyo ka jawab deti h to nich h. Agar vo apne maa baap ki bejati apne sasural me bardast nhi karti to usko gurur h. Bahuye hamare samaj me dehej le kar aai vo naukrani h jo sabki seva ke liye 24 h uplabhd honi chahiye. Aur ye seva vo sirf khana aur kapado ke badle me de tab vo mahan mahila hogi. Thank you sir aap purush hokar parivar ke mamle ki inti samj rahkte h. Ita to mere pati 20 saal ki shadi me nhi samj paye ya samjne ko tayar nhi. Me to kahti hu jish tarah ka vavhar bahu ke sath uske sasural me saalo hota h same tarah ka vavhar damad ke sath sirf 1 month uske sasural me ho jaye fir usse pucha jaye ki kya vo us parivar me rahna chahega. Sabhi purush Vichar kare is bat per
For the first time itna sensitive topic itne funny way mein samjhaaya...😅😅😅 but baat seedhe hit hui h....
I truly find almost all families are mentally disturbed wherein DIL stays with MIL and I can't even understand the joint family concept even if I break my skull open😂
ditto! Most flawed concept which Indians are proud of! They are happy to let the men be babies all their lives!
नमस्ते सर, बहुत सही बताया
एक बात मैं यहाँ कहना चाहूँगी के , सास अगर बहु को कुछ बोलेंगी या बतायेंगी के ऐसे करो , ये करो तो~ बहु को बुरा लगता है कि सास टोकतीं रहती हैं, चिढ़ती है, डाँटतीं है
और अगर उसकी मम्मी कुछ बोलेंगी या अब तक इस उम्र तक कुछ तो कभी तो बोला होगा तब उसको बुरा नहीं लगता ! ये point भी समझने वाली बात है 🙏🏻
Sahi kaha
Kyuki Maa maa hoti hai & Saas saas hoti hai .
Saas kabhi bhi maa nhi ban sakti .
Kya huabands apne father in law k taunt sun sakte hai ???
Nhi na same aise hi wives bhi nhi sun sakti Saas k taunts
Kuki ma daat b de to beti mummy ko ulta jaeab de skti.. beti se galti hoti he to usko maa samjhati he..saas taana marti he.. dono bato me farak he. Sare parivar me failayi jati he bahu k galtiyo ko.. koi maa apni beti k galtiya jagjahir nahi krti firti. Ye hota hr farak
@@Meghakaushik72837 correct
@@Meghakaushik72837
लोचा ये है 👇
@anuragkehri3828 एक बेटे के फायदे के लिए बेटी को उजाड़ कर, बेघर करके, ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है।
बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasural भेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है। बेटे के लिए कष्ट करते हैं तो सेवा भी बेटे से लें, कर्जा तो बेटे पर होता है, बहु के लिए तो धेला नही किया होता।
एहसान तो वो करती है जो उजाड़कर आती है।
पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं।
अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ।
बेटी अपना कंफर्ट जोन, अपना घर, फैमिली, पेरेंट्स, नाम, pehchaan क्यूं छोड़े, वो भी तब जब उसके इस बड़े त्याग की कोई गिनती ही नही? बेटा छोड़ कर दिखाएं।।
अब बेटियों को सख्त होना चाहिए। और बेघर होकर sasural jane se मना कर देना चाहिए।
Sango sir, with respect to keeping patience about "mumma boy's", the girl after getting married is neither a daddy's girl or mummy's girl. After vidai everything is like over. She is in a strange family. She is leaving her family and everything and her partner doesn't show that equal commitment.
@paramjitkaur-fp3pm बेटी को ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है।
बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasuralभेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है।
पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं। अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ।
To ladko ko ghar jamai bana lo. Bhai log latbmar ke bhaga dega
Bhai ji maza a gaya.... Bahut badia...
Instead listing to some baba, pay attention here, Sir has different and practical perspective.
Ladkon ki bhi ragging honi chahiye thodi, taki balance ban jae, damaad ji ko to aate hi head of department ki tarah welcome kiya jata hai aur patni junior clerk.
बेटी को ससुराल भेजने की प्रथा ही बहुत गलत है।
बेटी को घर रखो, बेटे को sasural भेजो, तभी सुखी रहोगे। सेवा तो बेटी करती है।
पर बेटे की कमाई के लालच में पेरेंट्स बेटे को रखते हैं और बेटी को भेज देते हैं। अपने बेटे को खाना बनाना, धोना, सेवा सिखाते नही, दूसरे की बेटी से expect करते हैं? क्यूं करे वो? उसपर तो कोई कर्ज नही। बेटे पर है, बेटे से कराओ, या अपनी बेटी से कराओ।
@ninanani4085 wo pratha sahi hai. Aj kal ki ladki ko bas riste manage Krna nahi ata short temper hoti hai. or agr ladke apne sasuraal me rehne lag gaye to sasural Wale ko hi problem hogi. Agr ladke khana banana, dhona, seva Kare or bahar se kama kar bhi laye boss ki gali bhi khaye uski wife kya Elizabeth hai😂
Wo isliye bcz ladko ke sasuraal walo ko pata hai ye wohi admi hai jisne unke ghar ka tufaan sambhal rakha hai 😂
Amit भाई,
बहुत ही बढिय़ा बोला आपने. इस वीडियो को मैंने अपने ग्रुप में 1600 दोस्तों में शेयर किया है. आगे और आपसे अछे subjects की आशा है
Its a merely discussed topic and also one the most important topic of every household. New girls need direct consults regarding this matter which is offered by no one and when she screws up she is judged by every person even the neighbours and results to hampering the relation of husband and wife. Great knowledge. Please continue making such videos
Bahut badhiya ati sunder thought process gazab hats off to u
Blessed to have discovered u in my initial months of marriage..
Aapane bahut acchi baat Kahi sar I am highly impressed Kash Koi Mere pati aur SAS sasur ko yah baten Samjha pata
Very well explained.
बहुत सुंदर तरीके से आप अपनी सच्ची बात को समाज के सामने रखते है और सभी की गलत फहमी को दूर कर देते हैं जो समझ जाए उसका जीवन आसान और खुशहाल हो जाए । धन्यवाद सर 🙏
आप भी धन्य हैं
Sir , ,👏👏👏👏apki videos dekhi , meri bilkul aisi hi sooch hai jaisi aapki hai, aur sach batau to sasural mae batamiz kehlati hu 😂 . Saas sasur batamiz kehtey hai mujhey
An excellent well meaning and practical video
God bless your family Sir jee❤❤
आभार आप का, मेरे तो दिल क़ो अंदर से झकोर दिया 🙏🙏
You are a genius, life me saara sukh dukh sirf apni soch ke kaaran hota hai. Soch badal lo, saara dukh gaayab ho jaayega. Bahut bahut dhanyawad 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Correct g
Sirph soch soch ka phark hai g
Impressive solution ....saas aur bahu ki joint property.....
I too think the same way!! Relationships are so delicate,n therefore needed to be handled carefully!!
Aap life ko easy simple bana dete ho😊😊😊🙏
😂🤣🤣🤭 aap bhi risk m h 😂👍bahut badiya
Sir , i also always believe if a guy loves his mother so much he will surely loves his wife too.
Nice n true thoughts . Blood relations are blood relations
Apki trha samjdaar bhagwan kre SBI ho jaye
Mai aap ki baato se 100% agree hu jub aap bolte hai to mujhe lagta hai jese aap mairi hi soch ko apne shabdo mai bol rahe hai mai bhi bahut saalo se apne aas pass ke logo ko yahi samjhane ki koshish karti hu pr ye duniya ageeb se rule follow karti hai unhe sirf apne fayede ki baat samajh aati hai.
Aisa brilliant taik 20 saal pehle sunthe toh Kitne faayde hote the
What do you think
Did people of older age listen???
No
They don't bcz of thier ego
😂😂😂😂
I am 60 years old and listening . Want my daughter in law to enjoy her married life and not like me at in-laws service . मैने किया वो नही करेगी .
@@shobhasarma8414 u must be great by ❤️ n mind.
Not everyone is lyk u mam🙏
Same here...20 small late aya ye video
I am waiting patiently since last 17 years.
For what ❓
Nice video maja aa gaya bhai sunkar 🙏🙏
Bahut daring ki hai sir ne...hats off 👏👏
Totally practical advice. Please keep sharing your thoughts. 👍👍
How thoughtful decision to share this issue, on a public platform.
The sense of humour is great 👍
How true sir,,,,love from all daughter in law,,,,
Another gem......insightful and humorous.....great combo.
Sir your videos are good the problem is that only those people are watching it who need changes not the one who can really change. Thanks for making such videos
adabhut gyan sir ji🙏
Awesome content and pointers and solution
Ladki ki Umar badhti hai yo ladke ki umar b to ghat-ti nhi. It's very important that both are approximately equal to each other in terms of education and income.
Very much practical thought process🎉
Very nice video . Every saas and bahu should watch this !
Very practical and absolute point.
Meaningful video u r so great sir salute u
Some mother in law's are very cunning and political example my sister's mil. Her mil keeps on checking everytime what my sister is doing, where is she going out and for what purpose. She and her son and daughters (sister's husband and sisters in law) tortured mentally to my sister so that she leave her job and sit at home. Her mil purposely use to go native places and daughters house to stay there just to avoid help in house chores. Even at the time of pregnancy and after delivery where her help was required she ran away to native. My sister is highly educated,talented and use to do good job. Mil is jealous and feels insecurity. My sister sacrifices her job. Anyway..now the time has change. My sister learned how to handle these people and her husband. Request to all mother in law to be..that don't be jealous even if you are having daughter/s. Respect dil first (as you will be older than her) and then expect love from her. Remember she married with your son and not with you then too she is ready to take care of you. Don't expect more and more. She is 'ghar ki bahu' not 'ghar ki bai'.
I have seen that people who get married and have children at early age handle their relations and emotions in immature way. They even get jealous of their own sons and daughters.
Sir ye video se aapne galatfahmi se parda utha diya 1000%
Nice video
Bahut acha ha video ha sahi ha life ka sach
Sir good
Sir aapki video me maza aata h
पति और पत्नी दोस्त हैं। एक दुसरे की help करें । सर, बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने.....
ऐसा ही होता है इसको अच्छे से समझ लिया तो शांति और सुकून मिलेगा। और इस को समझने में गलती कर गए तो सुख चैन खो जायेगा। पता नही लोग ज्यादा फिल्मी क्यों हो जाते हैं....?
Thankyou sir aapne bahut achhi advice di thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤ so muchhhhh👏👏
Behtreen sir
I agree with all the points. Relationship obligations should not be imposed solely on the other partner. In- law parents also have the obligations for the new member who comes to that family . Think logically then only things will work. Thank u for uploading such videos and bring such subjects to this platform.
You are right that only your son should do seva to his parents.But sometimes the bahu does not like it and prohibits your son from doing seva to his parents.
So, bahu should not expect anu sewa too. Its bullshit idea
Great sir whatever u have have told is the ground reality today but it is very difficult to change other person thinking
bhot sahi video tha sir😀🤣
Eye opening video
नमस्कार सर, बहुत अच्छे सुझाव हैं । सर, अगर सास अपनी और अपने बड़े बेटे या बेटी के सम्पति या सुविधाओ के साथ छोटे बेटे की तुलना करे तो ऐसी स्थिति मे क्या करें ?
Aapke jaise in laws chahiye life me indian women's ko
I agree with you totally. Excellent advice. God bless you.
Acchi baate batae aapne Amal karni chahiye sabhi Ney.
Life saving block hain aapka...
👌👍👏
God Shiva bless you for making such videos
Wah bahut bhadiya❤👌👏👏👏
Thank you sir🙏🙏
Well said. So practical. Now i am feeling that i am not wrong. My thinking is matching with you
Bahut accha laga please aur bataye
Very explained ... This video should be viral ... Share it at the max.
Very true which is hard to understand by both wife and mother..its a bitter pill.this relationship.
Bahut acche suggestions
Apki positive thoughts great hai
Amazing session 👏 👌 🙌 😍 ✨️
Many people who are very ‘liberal’ in their thoughts might not agree to your views but invariably all points told does apply in life. And only those can improve who first accept these flaws to further make amendments and to experience the changes in household environment.
Really good to share
sir aap bahut sundar trike se batata hai.Thanku.
Million dollar video n worth sharing
Great sir
Very interesting 👍😀
bilkul sahi beti apne production house ki sewa karegi khud ke ma baap ki . i agree
Very true..
wonderful video..
very thoughtful..
Sir itna sach baat kaise aap bol sakte ho???it is really really true
True, really appreciate it
What you spoke is absolutely true. Thank you 🙏
बहुत अच्छा समझाया है आपने
Aap bahut sahi samjhate ho
Awesome
Sir aap sahi bol rahe hai.we are of the same opinion.Hum apne dono beto ke liye. yahi Sutra implement Kiya hai.Dono Bahu bahut ijjat dete hai.By God's grace we have madhura relation with each other.bahuo se jyaada hamne pariksha di hai!! 😊
Waah aap jaisi saas sabko nhi milti .
Meri saas nanad to mujhe bahut sunati hai , kitna v acha khana bana lu un dono ko pasand hi nhi aata .
Saal me ek baar hi jate hai inlaws k yahan but fir v depression & tension wapas le kar aate hai .
Unki baatein mujhe chubhti hai ..
meri shadi ko 8 years ho chuke hai but aaj v wo dono mujhe pasand nhi karte .
Hamare yahan bhi same he meri bahut bhi bahut izzat deti he kyonki men bhi bahut pyar karti hun usko dono side se hota he par ye bat or he meri bahu hamare calchar ki nahi he
DO NOT STAY TOGETHER UNDER ONE ROOF!! - That is the only solution!
We as indian society admit it or not
But west countries society is way ahead than ours.
@@ErRajat totally! We stick to wrong practices in the name of culture and then blame the victim for its failures!
@@Rish0910 👍
But all husbands don't try to understand and stay seperated from their parents
@@somduttamajumder3303 then don't marry them ...if u have already married, divorce them. Coz sooner or later, the MIL will make him divorce you anyway!
One suggestion we mother's of sons feel nowadays instead of getting the Bahu home it's better sending our son to the girls house. As the girls will be happy taking care of her parents than her husband's parents. The son has no option. He can visit his parents whenever he wants. This way " the saas bahu relationship"will be solved.
ये तो १०० साल के बाद होगा शायद....
Let the new couple live by themselves for a few years and learn to handle the challenges of life. Later they can decide where they want to go.
Very well said mem
@@mukundaprabala5486 ji well said
why are you expecting the wife to take care of the husbands parents?
Logically well explained
Very nice and true. I personally agree. This is practically application
Last point ekdam correct