What Should Women Who Have Sacrificed Their Career For Marriage And Kids Do ?
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I am a young female doctor 22 years old and all women from past two generations in my family are working . Because of this there is no gossip group in my family and no relatives coming to home because all women are working
Awesome!
👍👏👏
Either you're not 22 or you're not a doctor
@@pritamdas9015great😂😂
Itna bhi sahi nhi bolna tha😂😂
I'm a doctor with a self esteem. I became a doctor, in the first place fighting all obstructions from my conservative father's family.
Now, I'm living separate from my husband with two kids, whom i have raised alone, and are both now doctors...
I think my pathetic marital status is because i had a self esteem, i was working and i was earning...
Yesss, my point is working ladies are exploited and tortured more...
Ma'am, jab koi revolution hota hai to kuch logon ki bali chadhti hai. Ap usi sacrifice ka part ho. Apki agar daughter hai to usko ye problem face nhi karni paregi. Yehi apke sacrifice se nikalne wala achievement hoga. My mother, a working woman exhausted herself with working inside and outside home, her health degraded. She took all those bitter jibes (tum karti hi kya ho) from my patriarchal father. She deserved nothing of it. But unke is sacrifice ka phal mujhe aur meri behen ko mila. We both were very clear in choosing our life partners. No specific gender roles. Ghar ke kaam kbhi career ke bich nhi aayenge, naa woman ke naa man ke. Agar meri mother ne ye example set naa kiya hota, to main bhi shayad unke jaisi ya unse bhi kharab zindagi jeeti.
For my marriage I left my career and government job offer and biggest tragedy happen is my In laws broke the marriage immediately on 5th day..😢 left the country thinking husband will keep happy but worst life I face when I was unable to find any job in other country.... and husband was Sravan kumar.... never trust on any man and leave the job.... to get back life on track i returned india and made career again, it took lot of time... earning good now and happy...
Proud of u dear
Truevi had same experience
❤
Karma will make ur husband pay dear
Every women's story nothing new. Only problem is i very painful when women are getting married stupidly.
I asked the same question to my father in law who told me not to work and look after my daughter. I asked him.. then why to send my daughter to school.. she will finally get married and get kids. Then he had no answer. I put up my buissiness
Excellent
The only answer is to pass the information to your offspring
I personally think parents need to be more supportive and understanding that women need to work and give value back into the house and society. But there is always a way of talking to parents and winning them over. I have been living with my in-law for 24 years. I think it always the way putting your point forward. Pray to God and support your husband and family I say as a British born woman.
Very hard hitting, but true
Great 👌 well said..
Sir this is my story. I am just trapped with the wrong people with wrong mentality. I m struggling to maintain my sanity just for my little son because i want to raise him right. I have found your videos and it's given me hope to make me stronger emotionally
Dear Swati
I have lived the kind of life that you described . Please start working ,your job will be your support system
Same with me.l feel physically and mentally drained.
Dear Swati..you are not alone..there are many others suffering like you..take one day at a time and keep walking..you will overcome your obstacles successfully.
I am in the same boat..take care.
It's very grateful to see many men are raising their voices like you for the economic empowerment of women.. Keep it up 👍
But not all of them are openly saying that working women don't have to do all the household works like before. That's also a point!!
Very good topic sir
I have been working women earning high salary (abroad) and also took break when I had my kids. As we have no help like maids.
I did all work myself home cook + office. Also in laws side pressure to keep up with Lena dena culture , entertain their guests.
Sir it was very hard to do it all. Indian in laws don’t care whether we work or not but we have to maintain the fly status , entertainment rishtedaar etc
Both situations we are badly judged.
Worst thing is people will tell us of you look tired , not fresh even after we slog for them. Yes we earn money but the price we may is high.
In India atleast maids help is the positive side.
this is the real picture, for women work + home + kids + health issues etc all responsibility is thrown at, but for men just the work, really always feel lucky ones are born as men
Hame to bethne ka bhi parmission nahi ,bimar hua to alsi bolajatahe.
Harsh truth of society!
@@Hemant81Kumar kitna kare yaar kitna? Hum bhi insaan hai tired ho jate hai. Hum humari friends se milne jao toh hum toh mauj masti karne jaa rahe. Lekin in laws k friends, relatives, husband k dost sabko entertain hum hi kare
@@Hemant81Kumar aap ghar k kya kaam karte the during your youth and padhai k time? Aur wahi office k hectic kaam karke ghar m bhi kaam karna padta hai hume. Aur aapki bhiwi apne ghar chodke aapke saath rehne aayi hai and aap in laws k ghar jane se thak gaye? Wah wah!
This video is amazing. I left job to be with my daughters and fully enjoyed the time. Now they are grown up and I have started my boutique.
I started working after 21 years of marriage.4 years have passed.
Its been really fulfilling.
I enjoy my life very much now.
Namaste sir, I have started watching your videos very recently and its a blessing to have an elder teach us in such a nice and blunt ways both. I was working as a software engineer 8 years back and after my child was 2 year I had to quit working as we moved abroad. I decided to stay home as child care was very expensive here and we were not comfortable leaving our child in day care. But over the period i started self victimizing and felt nobody is acknowledging my sacrifices so there was no peace at home because of this. But i thoroughly enjoyed my life with my kids so i wont say its a sacrifice :) . Gradually I started focusing on how to get it right so I started my youtube channel and I attended some personal training which gave me the confidence that I can go back to work and my kids are old enough and go to full time school so now I am preparing for my interviews and will soon join the IT company again. I totally agree with what u said in this video sir and thanks to wisdom you give us through your videos. Also please suggest the employment opportunities to those who want to do something being at home. Thank you sir 🙏
After a gap of so many years will u get employment in IT sector?
women who dont even earn a single penny wants 12lpa guy and they are not even at good at cooking so what those women brings on table
I left my job I was in British visa office with very good salary. I absolutely hv no regrets bringing up my kids. Loved each n every moment with them. My kid went through 10 operations but I hv never felt bad it's part of life made myself n my child strong a child who could not walk is a karate champion today. I am a proud mother n a woman. I kept learning n doing something from home. So each one to his own.
Respect...
Bravo 👏
Respect
This is a special case everyone is not like that
Please give ideas for working from home.
So true sir...I am also from the "sacrifice" group 😊but I am totally agree with you 👍
I really love your work but don't get me wrong, this is the reason I feel Indian men should help with housework. Indian men have no idea how much goes into managing a home. You will go to a hotel and give money for the same services. And when you are at home, you think everything occurs magically. Beds are made, home is organised, everything is in order, breakfast-lunch-dinner nutritious tasty meals you are getting. How? Genie magic? You think women have no work? How about you try to maintain a home?
Women's work is unending work. You will eat and leave the plate on the table and go. Maids ko manage bhi toh karna padta hai. Managing a home is like managing a small hotel. Aap ne jo ek kapda pehen ne ke liye, subah kapde ke dher bana diya tha, woh phir apne aap kaise sahu jagah me chala gaya almirah me? Dawaiyan time pe mil gayi, thodi thodi der me chai-naasta, saaf sutre, istri kiye huwe kapde. Kaise ho gaya ye sab?
Yes I agree. Men think that a maid who comes for 3-4 hours can do all this work. She will sweep and mop and wash some dishes that is it! I have to bathe my daughter, dress her and take her to school, make her 2 lunch boxes, then make dinner, wash dishes, clean the kitchen, buy groceries, organise the clothes, make the beds, clean toilets, organise the mess that my family makes, pick up my daughter from school , help her with school work, take her to the park, give my family dinner , again wash and replace dishes, then go to bed.
It is not hard work but it’s not like we are sitting around all day doing nothing.
Another thing is- because I am at home my husband can work any job in any city, he can travel on the job too. This brings financial benefits to our entire family.
When children hit their teens, the mother can work outside the home if she wants but it is naive to say that a home-makers work can be done by some maid.
I’ve seen small children come to the park with nannies. Never seen the parents. I feel sad for those kids.
Ya ,aadmi khbhi nhi samaj skta ,jo housewife ghar ko apna sab kuch deti h ,earning zero h ,vo subh sab kuch manage krti h ,school bhejne se ,tiffin ,homework, vo inhe lgta h ki apne aap ho jata h ,hr jagah gurugram nhi h ,sab kuch khudh manage krna hota h
maid ko manage krna 🤡
that is the work you
He is absolutely right about the saree draping.. This business is actually being done in South ranging from Rs 300 to 1000 based on how it needs to be draped for the occasion
In foreign countries u can work at any age and learn skills too, but this is not the case in India, not enough job opportunities here
Like your advice,l am starting my job again after 12yrs after listening to you.from Pakistan
Hello Sir
You thought process is same as of my father. He raised us the same way. I remember I left my family and marriage for a duration of two years to continue growing in my career and now I feel that's the best decision I have ever made.
Now I am back at my home in a better MNC and financial status. There was a time i was thinking of coming back home and leaving my job behind but father didn't let me. Thanks for spreading such ideas. I have my father at that time some might not have. This will help them. Thanks 🙏
Regards
Seema
Yes....yes. Yes . ...I am 55 year old...worked for 32 years .. has to leave job as politics played against me by bosses...will start working again because of you Sir .... already started looking for a job/running a PG
Madam, work for pleasure and keep yourself engaged so that you don't get involved in petty household politics. Enjoy your middle age. Don't work under someone else
Hey, how was your experience running a pg?
Very very important topic . Thanks for sharing. It’s going to be very helpful 👏👏👏👏🙏
Yes sir... U have given me food for thought...
Not agreed.women submit themselves to the circumstances inspite of having potential in them because after losing their all opportunities they endure what cannot be cured.
Too much english
Thank you sir ji, completely agree with you
Thank you sir! I'm always questioned to have these thoughts. Keep going!
Very crude but undiluted truth. Been in this mode for more than 2 decades and now trying to start afresh and build a career with some new skills that I am training for. Financial independence is paramount and the earlier we start realising it the better. Keeps us ladies out of mess and with a more progressive mind set. Thanks sir for being blunt about this thing. I appreciate it so much.
Sir,
My mom (died 15 yrs bck) was working in Delhi Administration n at the age of 9 yrs I learnt to receive gas cylinder after measuring it. And because I am working (free Lancer n entrepreneurs) made my girl totally independent since she was a small girl.
Working moms have better upbrought children.
Excellent content! Loved it.sadly I am stuck in same situation. But all set to start again
Super fun ! You're a Nice Man with great values in life. Appreciate you ji...🙏🌺
Nice. Thank you for the insights
Thanks for sharing.. you are so knowledgeable and understand the nuances so well…
Sir, the women are bringing a lot on the table- personally and professionally and the men are digesting all of it without a burp.
It's sad that masculine energy is celebrated and femenine energy is ridiculed to the extent that most females have ( most of the time ) taken the mascular role to be accepted and appreciated in society, if you look back, history is proof how monotheism was established, eleminating the divine feminine. Social conditioning is the worst thing and few jokers giving advice based on their own limited perspective in life is quite amusing. Ladies ' you do you' if you are happy however you choose to be happy you will inevitably blossom my queens.
Dear stupid sister, he was talking about women who used to work earlier but have stopped working on some lame reasons & pretexts .. He never said women dont earn or they are useless .. read , listen and understand ... india has only 19% working women population , bangladesh has 35% ... why cant women come out and work ... work and earn well and achieve something in life.. speaking in favor and for betterment of women also makes u angry bcoz u want everyone to praise and pamper u
@@KCR3306 So true sis💯 you are spitting facts.. couldn't have said better.
Bhai video pura dekho
Inke video middle-class aur uske upar wale ke liye he
Lower middle class or village or small town female ke liye nahi he
No they are not. I have heard a lot about this feminine energy and masculine energy bullshit. This is another excuse that women are coming up with. Ghar se baahar nikalke paise kamane se feminine energy mar nhi jati. A woman can be in masculine energy sitting at home as well. Feminine and masculine are two characteristics, and both are required by both man and woman. Lord krishna was feminine most of the time - calm, peaceful and soft. Occassionally he utilised his masculine energy through sudarshan chakra and anger when it was needed the most.
Main bhi married woman hun, mera bhi ghar hai. Aise bhi kitne kaam hote hain ghar pe madam? Jhadu poncha maid karti hai. Dishwasher hai bartan ke liye, washing machine hai kapron ke liye. Agar washing machine me kapre daalna bhi kaam lagta hai, to wo bhi ap maid ko bol sakte ho, 500 rs me kar degi. Baaki sab bache hue kaam like purchasing groceries, wardrobe organisation etc., lagbhag sab jobs me sat sun off milta hai ajkal. Shopping and grocery purchasing to sab online hi chal raha hai.
Please stop making excuses and earn some money for youself atleast. Taking care of your own expenses is no one's business. Otherwise don't feel bad when husband or in-laws say that you do nothing. Come out of stupid bubble.
I call myself a feminist, but now after these comments if i am called a misogynist then i must say, my definition of feminism is very different than so called feminists out there!!
Ek aur topic hai aapke liye. Why can’t men have choice to stay at home fathers ? If women are highly qualified n ambitious.. let them bring bread n butter n let men take care of kids n home n parents etc. I believe u can’t leave everything to maids or helpers . N it’s not easy to compete with youngsters who have no other responsibilities at home. Too much mediocrity in things because of these home entrepreneurs nowadays. Not all can give good quality stuff or value for money to customers. As a customer I m tired of such mediocrity
Because of law, section 125 . Ok.
are you dumb?
Sir bahut bahut thanks is liberation ke liye
Yup... its a great point. Stay at home is a choice, it's freedom,.... its not sacrifice.
Taking care of family is a calling, not sacrifice.
Its an eye- opener.
Absolutely true as you said in this video heavy works nd household chores r done by men as well, even then some women will be blabbering and such women cannot do anything in their life. Strongly said no work is low r high as per their need nd capability earn some amt.
You are the person to bring out the exact problem with solution in various field. आप अकेला व्यक्ति हो जो सब के पोल खुलवा देते हो और ऐसे वीडियो बनाते रहो हमें भी कुछ आईडियास मिलेगा खूब-खूब धन्यवाद.
Blessed with your words
Even though I'm a woman I totally agree with you.. woman should work not for others but for themselves and their and family members sanity.
Hello uncle very relevant topic.. Thanks for talking openly about it
Waah! Seedhi baat no bakwaas.. anand aa gaya. Sahi galat to sab ko pta hai lekin aapne jo aaina dikhane ka kaam kia hai vo behad prashansniya hai.
Its really moral boosting post..
Greatful to you. 🙏
Very good video sir....beautifully put in words
Yess!! Pls give ideas 💡
Very nice topic covered
Yes sir. Please make a video on the ideas of earning at home! I wanted to do something while i was at home when i took break from the job after having a baby, but that research took much time. Please give some practical ideas if u can. Thank you for your words of wisdom🙏🏻
Your thoughts and ideas are so interesting and practical.
U can become online reseller.
You can do trading
You can learn parlour..masaage coirse and start own setup.
E t c
Many more ideas i hv.
Agreed to some extent !! I am working since the last 30 years , loaded in many ways ... Thought provoking
Yes Sir.. you inspired me.. I need your more suggestions and advice. M feeling positive energy in me while listening you.
This is a topic which has never been thought about and discussed so clearly and strongly...hats off to you Sir... keep up the good work...it is helping millions of people... thank you
Very good content sir thanks a lot for this video
Your thought process is very clear & also help getting clarity. I am working from home but it's a high pressure job. My husband is also in a high pressure job. I am thinking about switching to a more flexible & less pressing job so family life is better. In India, if a women is working by her own will, & in laws pay attention to kids, they put it as ehsaan on us & always make us feel like being a selfish & bad mother. Please make a video on how we can stop feeling ashamed by this & do our work with more happiness.
You are doing job for bright future.Don't trapped in inlaws game.If they are logical then why you are emotional.Think logically.Emotions are temporary.
More power to all of us!!..let's explore together possibilities to earn and grow.
Very factual and eye opening video👏👏
As an unmarried female, I agree with you. I have seen housewives in my family taking pride in staying at home & doing 'house chores' & what they do in the name of house chores is cook & wash clothes using washing machines of course. Because doing dishes & cleaning the house is done by househelps. Today, in the 21st century there are machines for almost every work. I fail to understand how are the modern world's Indian housewives bringing equal or near-to-equal contributions to the family. Yet men are blamed for not providing enough.😢
And how can housewives raise/teach children when they have low IQs themselves? The condition of many housewives' brains is horrible. They are unable to have a constructive criticism, an opinion of themselves & use the basic gadgets or internet.
But if I say these things loudly people may call me anti-feminist but the truth is truth.
Hello sis ,jab shadi ho jaygi ,bacche honge ,joint family m rhna hoga tb bat krna ,sab kuch aapko hi krna ho ,tb bat krna ,abhi aapo kuch samaj nhi aayga
@@ektakadyan4683true😂
(Amazing ) I have lost many good opportunities, but I dont think i have sacrificed, instead i have got opportunity to frame the good going future of both children.
Yes , thanks a lot sir .
Excellent video. We should learn from it.
Very very relevant content. Thanks for upload.
i think more than money aspect, women need to have a job just to utilise her skills. and although i don't have kids, i have seen some employers discriminate if you have joined a job after a maternal break or after any other break too..
This is one of the channel where I regularly come to get more clarity in my life. Thanks you for discussing such deep topics
I'm happy to see u addressing important topics. These shud be discussed at every platform in d nation. Hope our folks learn.Ppl sweep all issues under the carpet lying about family & kids happiness.
This was much needed . Thank you sir..
Yes, u are motivating
You are just a gem sir.This is iconic “jo ghar mein akeli bethti hai uska affair nhi hoga?😂.This is the biggest myth in the society
Patriarchy का सिक्का चलाए रखने के लिए औरतों को crush करके रखना बहुत जरूरी है।
घर पर खाली बैठेगी तो अफेयर करेगी. बाहर काम पर निकलेगी तो affair करेगी। कुछ तो कहना ही है। ऐसा लगता है वो औरतों के साथ अफेयर करती हैं।
या जो आदमी उनके साथ affair करते हैं वो सत्यवान और राम होते हैं।
You are a genius person sir thanks
Oh my god, yiu are right. You made me think about my life in a new point of view. Thank you so much.
Very practical and eye opener 👌
Well said sir ji. Pranam 🙏
Nice video, looking forward for more such videos.
God bless you Sir.
Very nicely described sir, please dont go by the negative reviews, we love your opinions. Please keep up the good work
Yes ,I agree. I have stood for myself as a single parent.
Ek dum sahi jagah hit kiya hai apne...!!!🙏🙏🙏
Yes please share some home based ideas as I have toddler and aged mil at home ..
Your all videos are amazing sir... 🔥
Very motivating video 🙏🙏😀 very few can call a spade a spade..! Candid straight forward and practical .
Aap bilkul shi kh rhen hain sr...i agree with you...
Yes. Very true. Excellent video
Jab aap kisi ke ghar jaate hain, apko khana kaun offer karte hain? Aadmi ya aurath? Thoda sa iss kona pe bhi dhyaan dijiye. I agree hum exactly sacrifice nahi bol sakte. Lekin situations aise lead karte hain.
Now cooking is not a difficult job . With new gadgets it is easy to cook. Grocery, vegetables fruits can be bought by Apps like big basket, Dunzo etc. Maid is there to do other household work. Hence many home makers especially from middle class can work outside or do business. Work may not be bringing you fat pay cheque but to keep you occupied.
Sir, one question, what can those women do whose husband and in-laws doesn't allow any maid in the house and want bahu to do all the chores as well as look after the children? Consider this a situation of middle class housewife 🙏
I was in the same condition 2 year back...
So I started working from home
Mil pressurised me with more house work, so that I quit my job.
But I stayed focused and after a year of struggle they stopped troubling me when they saw that I was managing my work and house well and was being appreciated in my work.
After that I hired a maid for which they could not say no.
Now I do what I want and enjoy my part of freedom. 😁
@@SheShinesNeha what job u have started please reply
Very interesting topic
Sir I am pregnant and due to som complexity I have to take a break from my job... But I am feeling guilty that I am not doing anything right now.. but after marriage when 6 years I was working till my pregnancy came my in-laws treated me like I am enjoying my life where as I didn't had any made for cooking and other house hold work... Sir aap bilkul sahi ho ... And Shas is like I have done sacrifice and your are just enjoying... She is enjoying the pension of shasur and that too she always blam him that he didn't allow her to work...
This is the best opinion on this issue. Iloved it
Another gem of a video by Amitji. I relate to it 200%. It's high time we adopt these best practices and relieve people of inferiority complexes. Indian women have a lot of potential, our past history is a prime example.
Sir ji feeling highly motivated
great thought
Excellent work.
One of the revolutionary videos. If all men and women will listen it and follow it, it will bring change in thought process of the people which will result in positive change in the country. Salute you sir. Keep on. Somewhere I read "A woman is slave untill she is independent".
You nailed it! 💯
Amazing content❤
Sir, please also make part 2 of this video talking about how the husband of working woman should share the work load of the woman once she starts working.
Thank you so much Sir
Very. Good. Topic. Sir Thank you.
Please keep on posting.. very much needed
Yes
Need ideas to work from home
Everyone should read Lean In...such men are more dangerous who think that they don't have any inherent gender bias but ultimate it shows in their behavior...
Hamne to allow kiya attitude..
Bravo Sir......every point put across absolutely brilliantly.... hard hitting but still with that wonderful thread of humor that is uniquely yours.
I watch your one video and it inspired me a lot so I subscribed your channel...... thanks for focus ing straight light on very important topics 🙏
Yes sir i really listen your talk very well
Yes. Motivated sir 👍
Vry informative video sir 👍👍🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ekdum sahi point out Kiya aapne
Uncle if possible please focus on the topic related job options for women sitting at home..like work from home kind of options..in the next videos..
Too good sir ek ap he ho jo hamarey typical samaj ke ankhon se galat soch ka chashma utar rahey ho i really respect u from the bottom of my heart💖 agar har ek lady or male ke soch ap jesey ho jaye toh hamarey desh sudhar jaye