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Sir aap bilkul sahi keh rhe hai mai bhi bahut achhe se smjh chuka hu ki Marriage, Family, Children ki insan ko kitni jyada zaroorat h....West walon ne toh BF, GF k culture se khud ko brbaad kr lia.....
Guruji.. I agree with u.. I got married at 32.i have seen below as well.Aapne isme ye points nhi btaye.. 1. Siblings aapke paise pe nazar rakhte h. 2. Aapke rishte taar aapko characterless declare kat dete h. 3. Aap dusare ke bache pe paisa karchte h.. 4. None of the relative let their kids be with u.. Be of child abuse doubt 5. Single people think their parents will live forever. When the parents are in actual need only married people can help.. As in case of hospitalization , we need support.
If you get mentally sick wife then you cannot leave her, but however if you are mentally sick then your wife will leave you and get married to a better person. . . She will also take your alimony money. . . The chances of this happening to you is NEVER ZERO. . . This can happen to rich people or poor people. . . For real life experience kindly visit near by civil court. . .
I'm 42 got married when I was 25.....i married because everyone was doing it and then my career is ruined, my freedom is gone, no bank balance, i tried to make everyone happy but I am the one who didn't make her happy......life is looking like a punishment now.
What he missed : Peace : sometimes marriage can be very disturbing Astrology and karma : few people are not destined to be married, even if they marry, it is not successful due to prarapdha. Cheating : extra martial affairs are at all time high Society : if you are rich, no one will point fingers at u. Friends : yes, friends will not identify with you after 35, he is right. Looser : depends upon your life situations, sometimes situation is so tough that people choose not to marry, so no one is looser Higher goal : mukti, moksha Uncertainty : what if spouse dies at the age of 50 Kids : kids don't care these days, they just give outside support Death : everyone has to die alone. After 42 : he is right, if you are not engaged in some activity and not mentally strong, things can be v bad. Conclusion, many people don't marry coz of reasons and not coz they want to live a easy life. So saying looser to someone who is not married is not right. All points he mentioned are correct though. PS : be married to life, have goals, be happy, be strong, don't care how society judge you and most importantly be highly spiritual If you are not getting married, don't indulge in one night stands and hookups.
@@sanskritiverma8010 Yes death, coz the biggest fear singles will have is to die alone. I never interpreted it wrong, it takes lot of wisdom to understand this point. Situations : eg : financial crunch, no high paying job, family burden, family in loan, no one to guide, sisters marriage, disease in family, some disease to your own self where you can think it is better to be single than to burden your partner. Higher goal : that is why I mentioned in post conclusion section not to indulge in hookups and drinking. It is easy to make funny faces in your reply but difficult to understand others.
@@sanskritiverma8010 Things will change as society changes there is reason US Europe folks are filled in rishi kash india has become 1st in spritual tourism. China Japan underestimate Magic of buddh or indian philosophy due to prejudice otherwise they would land here as well. India ke liye ye time new nhi hai sone ki chidiya tha us time khujaro temple vala kam bhi hota and Adi Shankaracharyaji bhi the.
The institution of marriage is not natural and it can never be a happy feeling when your freedom is sacrificed sometimes 100% so i believe living in relationship is the best way to live your life since both the partners are under constant feeling that nobody gains from a fallen out relationship and life will go on without the courts and the police involved ! Hit like if you agree with me !
@@vikasz2 why should I do something which I know for a fact will be an horrible idea, you don't want to jump in to fire beforehand to know how much will it pain, will you?
Life is not fair to anyone be it single or married , people change and they do in any phase of life , its hard to believe anyone blindly, the only thing which i feel being married gives you is children . Else life is tough till end for anyone in the world
Exactly Marriage is a trap. Girls want money from husband always rather than anything. I have gone tough times by marrying. My mother and wife always fought bitterly and with my low salary and stress in Mumbai I had gone mad.
@@dr.ankita4336kaali biwi bhi dame hoti hai .....they all use men as walking ATM machine only..and all laws are biased in their favour. So marriage is Terrible deal for men.
Sir, I am 40+ single woman and worked hard to be where I am now professionally. I agree with you when you say parents should not be troubled, therefore the moment I became independent at 28 started staying on my own.
@@manabendra62 forget 85 every human being need emotional support at every age of life . That support comes from your partner , children , grand children . Human is on earth from millions of years and we can't change the law of Nature
When a person (a boy or a girl) gets married, it opens a different world for them. You have to listen to your spouse's opinion which can be different from yours. Many habits get changed. You see your parents/ siblings from a different point of view. You taste different foods ( even from the same cast) you develop a lot of patience. No other institution can teach this. Marriage whether it is happy or sad, it gives you growth.
Growth means either spiritually or socially If you get good understanding and adjusting wife you will see heaven else you see hell and become spiritual or Sanyasi..
@@Ninanani-4085 girls needs to leave their manipulative & demanding nature if they want to make happy families. A man is not ur toy that u will demand whether he will keep beard or clean shave or wear which color underwear on which day. Whether he will play tennis or golf or table tennis or badminton or go to gym or yoga its completely his wish, girls shouldn't dictate.
@@amirahkaiser6199 this channel has enough leverage to create manage marriage or dating match as a service. I am sure many young souls may find a common ground to hear this man and build a future.
@@amirahkaiser6199 yes I hear you, but my point was, there are plenty of single broken or arrogant or confused/lost folks willing to hear this man out. There is no match making service that caters ro such people. Matrimonial is about a trade and barter. Tinder is about casual fiddling. Other apps are mere lack of effort. Most men feel uneasy approaching a woman as a stranger. Eventually women take the pick and rejection to men is a way of life. Men aren't stepping up off late.
@@sreyanshuchaterjee3962 It’s not that simple as you think. Indian Men aren’t single Coz they have trouble asking women out. Men want to be single because they find the hookup culture more convenient. Marriage (Monogamy) ans financial responsibility is not appealing anymore.
Im an Indian woman, got married at 37 (1st marriage). It is very difficult socially to live in India with dignity if a woman is not married by a certain age. Your family members will take you for granted, use you for all their personal/medical/social/financial reasons. The later the marriage, more the chances that you will have to deal with the partner's problems. Don't try to reinvent the wheel.
Sir, family(siblings) bhi misuse krti h unmarried logo ka. Siblings do not want the working man or woman to get married because of their greed of money and property
Sir I am single women 41 Yr old professional decent, want to get married but did not get partner. So accepted and is inclined more spiritual, goals n purpose of life.
@@ssca2z211 main kyun karoon jab shastron mein likha hai = marriage is penance for males as it activates 8 th and 9th house of birth chart. Mujhe penance karna hoga toh main mandir jaake bhagwan se maafi na maang loon🤣
Age 35 ... not married .... no financial liability ..... exploring life every day .... little salary bhi khatam nahi hota .... samaj ijjat de na de farak nai .... aisa ijjat ko juta ke niche rakhta hu .... family is like a handculf in the free life .... DINK is the best possible thing in this modern expensive world ....
good advice. Each and every boy or girl getting married to see your other videos to overcome the other problems that they anticipate will come up. Remember marriage is good as long as you as a young person take the responsibility of being an adult and look after each other.
I married at my 25 and got a daughter at 27 and a son at my 30. When they started schooling i started my m.phil and then Ph.D. Now I m an associate professor completed my doctorate my daughter is going to be a doctor and son is studying engineering. I m very happy and i think my decision was the best. Now i m at 49 and a very proud mother.
So much of truth and reality revealed in a single video. These kind of facts are usually only said by parents , or close family friend's parents. Thank you sir for sharing .
People will start treating you like looser once you cross 30. It's happening with me. Sangos ji is right. I'm earning 5x more than a guy who is married. But people gives him more respect.
Bullishit comment. Your inability to find a good girl is your problem First be secure mentally then only you will be able to find a good secure girl Yeh he sochta rahega toh kaise milege? Tu matlb yeh bolna chahta hai ke teri life mei jitni ladkiya hai sab apne husband ya boyfriend ke paise ke peechey he hai? Ask this question to your mom sister and friends Then come back to me
Commenting to make this up on algorithm. Hard hitting reality...and beautifully explained...🔥💯 Near ones are aware of this...bt sometimes cant articulate without hurting the person... and others dont care...so some 3rd party had to do break this...i glad u did this...BRAVE...👌👌
जी हां में 50साल का हूं और चार साल पहले तलाक हुआ हे और में बहुत सुखी जीवन जी रहा हूं। और सोचता हु कि अगर में शादी के चक्र में ना फसा होता तो अच्छा होता। हर चीज के फायदे और नुकसान हे इसी प्रकार शादी करने और न करने के भी फायदे और नुकसान हे। ये आप पर निर्भर करता है कि आप कोन सा फायदा और नुकसान पसंद करते हो। जैसे कुछ लोग तलक होने पर टूट जाते हैं और कुछ लोग नया जीवन मेहसूस करते हैं
It's completely ur choice to enter the institution of marriage or not,just for social validity & security. In india it's outrated. Happiness doesn't at all depends upon marriage but only if u r spiritual.
Marriage is a trap, don't fall in this trap, I realized this hard way. After marriage all my relationship changed, my parents are no longer the same parents and my wife treats me like a ATM. Everyone wants a part in my salary like a group of vultures wants a dead animal flesh. My wife side and my parents continuously fight with each other over management of kitchen, cleanliness, food and spits poison in my ears against each other and advise me not to spend my salary on the other side and stay vigilant. For sometime I tried to bridge the gap but soon to realize that this gap can't be bridged and things gotten worse. I don't understand the usefulness of such a relationship that brings so much bitterness. It is better to stay single rather than living with misery throughout your life.
I think you feel like " my soul just frustrated now 🥵 😡 😑 😤 my soul exhausted now 😒. Ab shadi ho gayi toh jindgi bhar bhagte raho or Ghar walon alag circus chal raha hai.i feel you brother 💗 I wish you become fucking richi rich🧲. Khud se keh Sako ki yes i feel better now or ab Sukoon hai jindgi mein. God bless you brother 🛐🙏🏻
@Navneet Gupta I don't know if you have heard his other videos . He clearly says not to stay in the same house with your parents. Why don't you try living in nearby house everyone will be happy . Pp
@@priyankachoudhary628 I own a house close to my parents house but my wife refuse to stay close to my parents instead she moved to live with her brother and subsequently that house is put on sales. I took loan on that house and paid instalments but after marriage my parents claim that they had made equal contributions and have 50% right on that house and if I argue my parents tells me that I was very sick and weak when I was born and they have made huge sacrifices for my life and I can’t pay their debt. I also proposed my wife to pool our income and buy a new house but instead she bought a house in her own name without telling me. She don’t want to live in her house because there is no public transport available. Now I give 1/5 of my salary to my parents and 1/3 to my wife to buy peace and live few days with my parents and few days with my wife but still they didn’t stop spitting poison against each other. Maybe they are happy now but I am not. I know cooking and can stay stay independently so I think that I would be much happier if I wouldn’t have married.
Post modern society ka ek result hai logoka shaadi se biswas uth jana.. iska koi kuch nhi karsakte. Developed economies me toh majority hi shaadi nhi karna chahte. even in asian countries like Japan, S Korea, China. Aaj ki duniya mein Shaadi ka practical utility bhot kam hochuka hai pehle ke comparison se yeh toh accept karna hi hoga. Societal status ke liye shaadi krna makes no sense at all. As a society we should be more accepting towards bachelors, aap toh bilkul ulta leke jaa rahe ho.😂😂😂
अचछे से समझाए है। धनयवाद। आदमी बहुत कमजोर होता है अकेले नही रह सकता । शादी एक बहुत खूबसूरत रिशता है पर सही ढग से जीने की समझ न होने से गडबड होती है ।अब समाज बदल रहा है बहुत हद तक महिलाए अब सक्षम होरही है उनमे बदलाव है पर समाज की सोच पुरानी है षुरुषो को अपनी सोच महिलाओ के लिए बदलनी होगी उनके काम को ,उननति को सवीकार करना चाहिए।
I’m 40 years old and it was a conscious decision of mine to never marry .My parents had constant fights in their marriage which resulted in me feel bitter about such a relationship for myself so I banned the idea a long time ago . They were also unreasonably strict and controlling with me which made me get into depression in my teenage years which stayed for a very long time . I promised myself that I would focus on living a fulfilling life alone. I do sometimes feel lonely and out of place because none of my friends are unmarried and don’t hangout with me because they can’t relate with me anymore but even then , that doesn’t motivate me to marry someone because if it turns out to be bad , I’d be heart broken to a point where I’d not even want to live anymore . I focus on indulging in simple and fun activities with a lot of freedom and am not answerable to anyone . I do think sometimes that I could have become a great husband and father and an overall a good family man but I simply don’t want to risk getting into a wrong relationship. But all said , your video has somehow motivated me to not ditch the idea of marriage completely . I thank you for your perspective and it felt like you were talking directly to me .
You are not getting married because of someone's wrong decision So that means you are influenced by others You haven't tried on you own I know the damage ut have done to you while growing up But being afraid of not getting married is not a good decision in my opinion
You are not alone in this. Millions are in the same boat, today even in a super traditional country like India, etc. I would just wish and pray with my all heart that anyone, married or unmarried anyhow put some effort and time towards being curious and studying, educating and understanding the well established and grounding, fulfilling and liberating spiritual wisdom traditions, especially of the East. After some honest years in this endeavor mostly most of them are so much more enlightened and stabilized inwardly then to make further more mature and fruitful life decisions and moves and many times encounter the greatest Gifts, unimagible..... And, for the vlog, well, sir I am really pleased and appreciative of the pretty as unusual a social topic as a normal vlogger would even ever get the wisps of such thoughts of, let alone the pressing concerns to personally take the trouble to present to the public.. though I am for myself shall not condone or condemn any of your views, here. Thankyou 💐💐🙏👏👏👏
Mera bhi abhi tak yahi Manna tha k jab right partner milegi tabhi shadi karenge aj ye video dekhne k baad mera ye myth khatam ho gaya, thank you for this eye opening video🙏
I’m a doctor and I want to share from my studies that when you live alone there is a significant increase in psychological issues as compared to when you have a partner baki apko jaisa theek lage kro
No but many Indian monks from sanatan, Buddhism, Jainism live there life alone.. Kitne ko depression hua aur suicide ki.. Aur kitne criminal activity me evolve hue.. To aapki study to yaha fail ho jaati hai..
This video is totally on practical reality based. Sir you gave us very eye opening advice, some bitter truths and tore the pieces of cloths. Ultimate advices beyond that no one can say anything practical too that extent.
I got married. Lived with husband for 21 years. Bittersweet relation. We used to fought too a lot but he passed away a month ago.. to avoid getting attached to people. I was thinking I will not marry in my next birth if I am born as a human. Too hard to cope up after losing a loved one
Is, budhe ko b ye bat smjao koi.. Phle to rltnshp ya shadi halwa nhi hoti.. Fir agr nhi work kia to bht pain hta h. .. Shuru me sb cool lgta h bas bad me l lag jate hain
36 and unmarried and really proud of it. When I see my friends hiring lawyers for divorce cases and go to prison in false cases. Paying alimony every month for few months of marriage and no other benefit... I follow my hobbies, ride, travel and living my best life. When I show my travel pics to my married friends, reaction on their face is just priceless... 😊
Reality is Most of the people are Fully Exhausted. Society is completely different Now than Before. Change is the Rule of Nature. Saya , Trata , Dwapara , Kali are Not Same. We are going through Tremendous Change. No one should Judge other. Everyone's Reality is Unique. If One get Marry , Good. If One Not , then also Good. Let's Not Fight or Debate. Every thing has Prons and Cons. Love and Peace ❤
AISA KUCHH NAHI SAHIB MAIN 52 HOON OR AAM AADMI SE YANI K SHADI SHUDA AAPKI ZUBANI MAIN KAHEEN ZIYADA ENJOY KARTA HOON, LEKIN AISA BHI NAHI K KARNA NAHI CHAHTA LEKIN ENJOYMENT K LIYE SHADI SHUDA HONA COMPULSION NAHI.
Sir enjoyment ke definition aur perception alag ho sakte hai... samaj ki mansikta badalni jaruri hai instead of advising people to adjust and fit their decisions as per society norms ... if something is going on for years it doesn't mean it is right ...
Mam, If you refer to the content he always says that his advice is applicable for 99% people, who generally abide by societal norms. Naturally, the path of extraordinary people will differ. But that doesn't mean that his advice is not relevant...
Maam if you are so happy, why justify it with so many comments? We are all products of our choices. You made yours, and so you will enjoy the fruits of that. Same with me or anyone else. Somehow people who make less common choices tend to think the whole world is out to get them and is thinking about them and judging them non-stop. Relax, nobody gives a flying fk. Nobody is even giving a fleeting thought because people are busy living their lives
Agar aapko itni hi acchi lagti aapki zindagi toh app nahi karte itne saree comments on the video XD and you are offended because of the truth in this video don't deny it
Shivpuran me Raja Daksh ka brahmaji se samwad padho, samajh me aa jayega vivah kyu jaruri hai, "jo chalta aa raha hai use karna jaruri nahi hai" - ye baat bolne wale manmarji karte hai or manmarji karne walo ka haal bahut bura hota hai
What about people who got married to the wrong person and the marriage didn't work out? You talk about people feeling scared of getting caught up in legal cases after marriage, what if those fears were actually true? Would love to hear some thoughts on those.
Correctly said.......there are men also being tortured .......I know a family their son is a child specialist....girls rejecting him bcoz be is a veg and teetotaller......
Ye budhao kabhi ye accept nahi karega, men are in denial mode whereas all women came together and worked practically and because of which we have biased anti men marriage laws, hum mard aise iss budhao ke jaise sirf denial mode pe hee rahenge islye ajh hum weaker legal position mei hai.
@@VikramjitSingh924 listen kid , he mentioned about everything. point is he said what a man or woman is today they will change there is nothing called right. and percentage of false case is too less compared to succeful marriage consider your family .
@@nsd860 abbhe mand buddhi andhe vivah bhakt pehle jaake data dekh last 10 years mei India mei divorce rate kitne percent barhi hai. Aur gaddhe ye hamare parents ke generation ki ladkiya nahi hai gen Z ki ladkiya hai. Itna dimag khali hai kya hamare parents ko gen Z ke couples ke saat compare kar raha hai tu🤣🤣🤣. Tereko special treatment chahiye.
Sir...u r the best.....very affectionate even while people troll u. Plz continue doing it. Am watching ur advice..for future. Am 44 yo and still relevanr for me. Daar ke aagey jeet hai
Also Sir I respect you that you want society to not get disturbed and go peacefully..in short you tend to protect the structure of society handed by your generation to us.. but Sir..its very late now. People especially Men knows the repurcussions and pressure that comes with marriage.
I completely agree with you ... me and my bestie (we are friends from school) .. now ppl tease us asking if we are lesbians just cos we are single since a long time... moral of the story, they are just not happy with your lives hence they keep on gossiping about us
They are unhappy in their marriage cuz now they are stuck with their partner and baby can't enjoy can't go anywhere can't do anything... So they are jealous of you.. Be happy and make them more jealous.. If I were you i would say yes im lesbian go f off and go clean the shit off ur baby's butt first
Wait till all of you hit late forties and early to late fifties and beyond, you will be very unhappy and depressed. Your current age and state of health is what is making you say all this but all that is temporary. God has given you the most powerful gift of making another human being, being a mother is a feeling like no other and yet we have another user here making horrific remarks about motherhood which is very unfortunate. I mean no disrespect.
@@priyankasingh-fr8gg its funny how.. If you are 25 they say wait till ur 30s.. If u are 30 they say wait till ur 40s if u are 40 they wait till ur 50s if ur 50 they say wait till ur 60s and women be like im waiting with my money and independence where is depression 😂😂
@@manikyum you are wrong After 50+ also can live happily. If any person help required after 60+ society is rapidly changing and facilities are available.
Namaskaram sir. Atleast you are telling these things to this generation kids to get married at suitable age. For us, some elder in our rishtedari, used to tell these. You are doing a great reformation sir One point what you told is exactly correct. "When there is nothing great in doing shaadi, there is also nothing great in not doing shaadi." Super sir From parents ' point of view, you are 100% correct.
Jab koi beta ya beti sanyas lene se ek step pichhe hai.. Matlab wo sanyasi jaisa jeevan bina sanyas liye jeena chahte hai, to kya tab bhi aap unko rokogi..
Crony capitalism is the reason. We are being made to work 12 hrs daily for peanut salaries - one person is being made to do the work of 5 persons in the corporate sector which is overburdening the understaffed employees. Also, if a corporate is able to pay 2 lakh per month salary, it merely pays 50K per month to an employee so as to increase its profits and do cost cutting
आप की बातें जँचती हैं पर किसी के समझाने या कहने से कोई भी कुछ नहीं करता। स्वय़ं अपने दिल की गहराई से जो प्रेरणा जिसे मिलनी होती है, मिलती है। और वही वो करेगा। बाकी सारी बातें, चाहे वे कितनी ही अच्छी हों, कितनी ही सच्ची लगें, लोग उसकाे जीवन में नहीं उतारते। स्वयं भगवान कृष्ण हार गये थे पर कौरवों को सन्मार्ग पर चलने की प्रेरणा नहीं होनी थी, नहीं हुई। महाभारत आखिर होकर ही रहा।
I guess the best approach to explain these situations is the trigunatmak way of thinking : saatvik, rajasic and tamasic gunas of humans.. every life decision is taken according to these three gunas only.. that would be a better way to elevate the masses into spiritual lifestyle/higher order thinking.. Of course people will also judge the 'responses' according to their gunas only.
What an amazing personality he is... Reformer of today's society... Like Raja Ram Mohan's roy stood up for women education, this person will teach us to live with a different perspective👍👍 great respect for u sir🙏
Many Indian marriages sustained due to fear and compromise. Many men feared about who would take care of their meals and other needs. Women worried for financial support and respect in the society. Post having kids many parents did not want their children to experience a broken home. Of late individuality outranks togetherness. No one wants to adjust and d cases of remaining unmarried or getting divorced have skyrockted. Men can do home chores and many women are financially independent. Incompatibility is leading to more divorces than infidelity. Duniya ka dastoor hai ki parivaar ki shuruaat hi mard aurat k milan se hoti hai shaadi ek legal aur social stamp hai...social isolation due to singl status can be traumatizing but life after marriage can gt lifeles or a paradise or can b a nightmare..dpnds a lot on the maturity of d couple and the circumstances..shaadi ka ladooo khaye tho pachtaye..na khaye tho bhi pachtaye...😅
Uncle ji as usual you rocked. I think ppl will get some insight and don't make mistakes what they are doing. Best line I liked when you said no one is right person as you yourself is not right person for other person. Today's generation should know that everyone has some flaws and we need to work on those and appreciate other persons positive points than criticizing negatives, as no one is perfect. Also want to agree to point where parents rejects love marriage and you stay alone full life. My friends brother was denied by their jain family to marry bangali girl. Girl got married, my friend and sister who were much younger to elder brother are married and has kids and elder brother in 40 plus is still single and parents are now not even bothered as they have other grand kids to play with. Majority in Indis parents are the cause for kids bad marriages till now. Today's generation needs to understand marriage can be beautiful if you get good person and horrible too but there are always option to come out. Not marrying is not option. Uncle you are social reformer. You should come on TV like Aastha channel, you should have social reforming channel to reach broader public. So that parents and kids don't make wrong decisions and we have happy and healthy society and a happy nation. Keep spreading your Gyan uncle.
no he is wrong their is a clear distinction between a right person and a wrong person , u cannot marry with anyone , u have to ensure that your partner is not commitment phobic
I am unmarried right now. I agree that a woman will marry someone at her level or above. It is because she has to adapt to the boy's family instead of the opposite. Just as a man will do a job where he gets more money, a woman will marry somebody where fewer sacrifices are required.
Times are changing.India is also changing .Will change even further. Old ideas don’t apply anymore.Will be obsolete soon. If you feel like doing it then do it. If you don’t then don’t do it.This person sounds a bit harsh.
I can relate to most of your comments and examples, like your videos related to life, real estate, middle class. Following you since 5-6 months and have become a fan. Please keep going.
It's true that they don't gain anything by false case,so does rapists gain by doing it. Those who do it is not do for gain. It's just hate and anger. Even though there is a judiciary Its process is long and painful. Its something that should be discussed
I am just 19 But this video is a real gem I will follow this in my life as I have seen many beautiful marriages which are successful Very beautiful presentation
Thanks sir, now definitely i will marry for sure in this year only.. this video's a game changer. I have shared it with my friends , who are single... As well .
I am kind of insecure about getting married because i have seen my mother become a widow at a very young age and all the struggles related to that,and i have this strange insecurity/fear thinking what if my husband dies before me,this has always been my fear😐
All people are not same. A very few people, atleast 2-3% people are not meant for companionship. Marriage demands adjustment, compromise and understanding. If one is not capable of giving these entities to marriage, one shall simply not marry. Marriage is a responsibility, though it has its own perks, still it demands a lot of attention and concious efforts. Some people are happy as they are, they are not lonely, but alone, and enjoy their solitude. And I am one among such people. So I would conclude, that one shall not decide to not marry, because they want to do such and such stuff, want to establish or some other milestones to achieve. Rather the decision shall be on the basis of the feeling of content that one comfortably enjoys in the current state.
Sir, I wish you could have taken this initiative few years ago! I am 32 & few years ago I met with an accident and now suffering from spine injury. I was surrounded with people who always gave me very negative side of marriage and that's what made me stay single.
@@Calcuttadiaries717 I was exactly of same opinion but I guess opinion are situational based! But life has always been risky and I guess depends on person to person!
Acharya Prashant lol, He himself is a frustrated and a narcissist man. After you gain certain maturity in life then you will realise being fan of some mere human is never a good idea.
@@nishantkumar6960 Fan?? Well I have never experienced " being fan" even when I was a teenager... I always filter while I absorb any info! We must respect views and take what is applicable & leave what is not! Simple
If you don't mind, may I ask what exact injury you got? Because I have recently got a lower back injury too, L4 L5 disc bulge. I'll turn 25 in 3 months, will soon start looking for a partner and I am overthinking about how this injury might affect my life ahead.
I am too creating videos on such issues and the only thing I realized is people have pre existing thought process which they don't want to change. Marriage ek significant part hai and sahi time pr hona chahiye.
Sir, thanks for the advise given to the new,generation, I am a retired senior citizen and differ on one issue that girls can marry Group B even if they are in group A or similarly in another professions also but Sir the real issue is not the status of the girl or her rejection the real issue is the after effects ,the boy normally suffers from inferiority complex and shows all his frustration on the girl ,hence girls and parents prefer same status I have witnessed such cases in my industry as well
Very good. Exceptional cases people need financial independence.. other than that.. it's better to marry early than getting trapped in boyfriend, girlfriend path. Marry early, get kids early, complete the responsibility early and get into vanaprastha.. peace ✌️ no one can care you like the life partner.. most cases!
If you don't marry as per your parent's wishes, they become "They" and are very happy if your marriage has problems. Because then they can say, "I told you so".
Shaadi-shuda is a legal status, its not a relationship status. Many people are married but are they genuinely in a positive healthy relationship with each other?
हमारे गांव में तो 19, 20 साल में लडका लडकी की शादी हो जाती है और 25 ,26के होते दोनो में झगड़ा होता तो लडकी ससुराल छोड़ के मायके में बैठ जाति 😅बिना डाइवोर्स दिए इसे कई परिवार है हमारे गांव में जहां नानी भी ससुराल से सजी थी फिर मां भी आगी थी अभी बेटी की शादी की 18में वो ससुराल छोड़ k aagyi 7,8 महीने में वापिस आ गई😅😅
@@rajat31802 lakh men commit suicide due to matrimonial and misuse of laws what about that?.Due to slow judiciary getting divorce is difficult and that,s why people avoiding marriage. So make judiciary fast, make gender neutral law plus make divorce easier.
Your thoughts and guidance are genuine and true sir.. Now I seen many boys are searching for girls and girls are saying No ....boys are ready for marriage..but girls demand is more...what to do in this situation?
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Though I'm not much convinced but there is some amount of truth in what you are saying.
Sir aap bilkul sahi keh rhe hai mai bhi bahut achhe se smjh chuka hu ki Marriage, Family, Children ki insan ko kitni jyada zaroorat h....West walon ne toh BF, GF k culture se khud ko brbaad kr lia.....
Sir love jihad aur religious conversion wale jo jabardasti Hinduo ko fasa rahe h wo point bhi touch karna tha ..
Very well explained sir
Tujhe shadi karna Hai to Kar..
Ek se nahin mann bharta hai to ek aur kar le..
Doosaron ki zindagi kyon kharab karna chahta hai...
Remember guys - society will take care of itself, you should take care of yourself first.
Guruji.. I agree with u.. I got married at 32.i have seen below as well.Aapne isme ye points nhi btaye..
1. Siblings aapke paise pe nazar rakhte h.
2. Aapke rishte taar aapko characterless declare kat dete h.
3. Aap dusare ke bache pe paisa karchte h..
4. None of the relative let their kids be with u.. Be of child abuse doubt
5. Single people think their parents will live forever. When the parents are in actual need only married people can help.. As in case of hospitalization , we need support.
So accurate you are...me too got married at age of 33 thankfully
If you get mentally sick wife then you cannot leave her, but however if you are mentally sick then your wife will leave you and get married to a better person. . .
She will also take your alimony money. . .
The chances of this happening to you is NEVER ZERO. . .
This can happen to rich people or poor people. . .
For real life experience kindly visit near by civil court. . .
All points are 💯.
@@dericksoans7138 .. Because u dont have ur own kids.. U end up spending on other kids.. Which became a habit late
@@dericksoans7138 you spend money on your nephews and nieces as you don't have your kids
I'm 42 got married when I was 25.....i married because everyone was doing it and then my career is ruined, my freedom is gone, no bank balance, i tried to make everyone happy but I am the one who didn't make her happy......life is looking like a punishment now.
i am the one who did not made her happy 🤣
@@Guys_Love_Each_Other it means lack of self-love.... hope you understand what I meant to say.
@@PreetiSri okay, how to self love?
In India everyone pushes for "Shaadi Kar lo, shaadi kar lo" but no one teaches how to manage relationship
@@justathinker8669 in pak, no one really pushes they just do their own business but they pushes for job to survive as middle-class
What he missed :
Peace : sometimes marriage can be very disturbing
Astrology and karma : few people are not destined to be married, even if they marry, it is not successful due to prarapdha.
Cheating : extra martial affairs are at all time high
Society : if you are rich, no one will point fingers at u.
Friends : yes, friends will not identify with you after 35, he is right.
Looser : depends upon your life situations, sometimes situation is so tough that people choose not to marry, so no one is looser
Higher goal : mukti, moksha
Uncertainty : what if spouse dies at the age of 50
Kids : kids don't care these days, they just give outside support
Death : everyone has to die alone.
After 42 : he is right, if you are not engaged in some activity and not mentally strong, things can be v bad.
Conclusion, many people don't marry coz of reasons and not coz they want to live a easy life. So saying looser to someone who is not married is not right. All points he mentioned are correct though.
PS : be married to life, have goals, be happy, be strong, don't care how society judge you and most importantly be highly spiritual If you are not getting married, don't indulge in one night stands and hookups.
Agree with everything you said. I don't understand why humans have to live a life they don't want just so that society will accept them!
@@sanskritiverma8010
Yes death, coz the biggest fear singles will have is to die alone. I never interpreted it wrong, it takes lot of wisdom to understand this point.
Situations : eg : financial crunch, no high paying job, family burden, family in loan, no one to guide, sisters marriage, disease in family, some disease to your own self where you can think it is better to be single than to burden your partner.
Higher goal : that is why I mentioned in post conclusion section not to indulge in hookups and drinking.
It is easy to make funny faces in your reply but difficult to understand others.
Very true 😊🧘🙏👍
@@sanskritiverma8010 Things will change as society changes there is reason US Europe folks are filled in rishi kash india has become 1st in spritual tourism. China Japan underestimate Magic of buddh or indian philosophy due to prejudice otherwise they would land here as well. India ke liye ye time new nhi hai sone ki chidiya tha us time khujaro temple vala kam bhi hota and Adi Shankaracharyaji bhi the.
so nice
The institution of marriage is not natural and it can never be a happy feeling when your freedom is sacrificed sometimes 100% so i believe living in relationship is the best way to live your life since both the partners are under constant feeling that nobody gains from a fallen out relationship and life will go on without the courts and the police involved ! Hit like if you agree with me !
I am 45....single.....By Gods grace life is meaningful
I am 20 college student 😂but your lecture so interesting rather than college lecture 🙏😂
Me 19 stilll taking knowledge 👌👌👌🦍
😂😂😂
I am 19
But I will keep this knowledge for future
same bro
dost india Mein insan khud ki liye kab jeevan jiyega single life best life😢😢😢
I am 55 and unmarried but i am happy
Budhape pe me kya karoge
And good liar too😂😂
U are a lady. It's usually said that unmarried women and married men are happy and vice versa - by this logic, u indeed must be happy
I am 49 and not married. This is the best decision of my life.
Are you Boy or girl
Same here best decision of my life
@@cannibalronny7314 how do you know it is best ? Have you ever been married?
@@vikasz2 why should I do something which I know for a fact will be an horrible idea, you don't want to jump in to fire beforehand to know how much will it pain, will you?
angur khatte......tell me your insta ID.....
Life is not fair to anyone be it single or married , people change and they do in any phase of life , its hard to believe anyone blindly, the only thing which i feel being married gives you is children . Else life is tough till end for anyone in the world
True that 🙏👍🧘
If you think like this
It's better to not marry
Marriage is far beyond just children
Hope you get to know that after a few years
Exactly Marriage is a trap. Girls want money from husband always rather than anything. I have gone tough times by marrying. My mother and wife always fought bitterly and with my low salary and stress in Mumbai I had gone mad.
gori biwi ka chakkar😂
Exactly! Free ka khana sabko khana hai job karna is very hard
Now you are single or what
@@ninasharma1356Not hard than what a homemaker does working since last 2.5 years
@@dr.ankita4336kaali biwi bhi dame hoti hai .....they all use men as walking ATM machine only..and all laws are biased in their favour.
So marriage is Terrible deal for men.
Sir, I am 40+ single woman and worked hard to be where I am now professionally. I agree with you when you say parents should not be troubled, therefore the moment I became independent at 28 started staying on my own.
Stop deceiving yourself. Get married you still have time, though late.
I am totally agree with u....if u don't earn money.... earn money important
Mam very nice I respect women who didn’t get married
@@ayuship2022 what will happen to her at 85
@@manabendra62 forget 85 every human being need emotional support at every age of life . That support comes from your partner , children , grand children . Human is on earth from millions of years and we can't change the law of Nature
When a person (a boy or a girl) gets married, it opens a different world for them. You have to listen to your spouse's opinion which can be different from yours. Many habits get changed. You see your parents/ siblings from a different point of view. You taste different foods ( even from the same cast) you develop a lot of patience. No other institution can teach this.
Marriage whether it is happy or sad, it gives you growth.
Growth means either spiritually or socially
If you get good understanding and adjusting wife you will see heaven else you see hell and become spiritual or Sanyasi..
And where are you going to put that growth? In your resume?
Why do we see everything in terms of quantity?
My father has to tolerate a bad marriage.
@@sreenathatirunarayanapura9296girls also feel same. You too have to walk half way.
@@Ninanani-4085 girls needs to leave their manipulative & demanding nature if they want to make happy families. A man is not ur toy that u will demand whether he will keep beard or clean shave or wear which color underwear on which day. Whether he will play tennis or golf or table tennis or badminton or go to gym or yoga its completely his wish, girls shouldn't dictate.
@@Anisha66666 typical papa ki pari & chapri angel priya mentality.
One major reason for not getting married is responsibilities and fear of partner's cheating
Most of such people carry some unhealed trauma of abandonment and betrayal from the past
@@amirahkaiser6199 this channel has enough leverage to create manage marriage or dating match as a service. I am sure many young souls may find a common ground to hear this man and build a future.
@@sreyanshuchaterjee3962
I’m a clinical psychologist working in a fairly big organisation with new adults. I find a lot of what he says very relevant.
@@amirahkaiser6199 yes I hear you, but my point was, there are plenty of single broken or arrogant or confused/lost folks willing to hear this man out.
There is no match making service that caters ro such people. Matrimonial is about a trade and barter. Tinder is about casual fiddling. Other apps are mere lack of effort. Most men feel uneasy approaching a woman as a stranger. Eventually women take the pick and rejection to men is a way of life. Men aren't stepping up off late.
@@sreyanshuchaterjee3962
It’s not that simple as you think. Indian Men aren’t single Coz they have trouble asking women out. Men want to be single because they find the hookup culture more convenient. Marriage (Monogamy) ans financial responsibility is not appealing anymore.
Im an Indian woman, got married at 37 (1st marriage). It is very difficult socially to live in India with dignity if a woman is not married by a certain age. Your family members will take you for granted, use you for all their personal/medical/social/financial reasons. The later the marriage, more the chances that you will have to deal with the partner's problems. Don't try to reinvent the wheel.
Agreed. My suggestion conceive baby fast
Sir, family(siblings) bhi misuse krti h unmarried logo ka.
Siblings do not want the working man or woman to get married because of their greed of money and property
Sirf siblings hi nahi, parents bhi aise hote hai...
@@nv2224 true..... I have come to know of such parents recently
Yes
Yes
Sir I am single women 41 Yr old professional decent, want to get married but did not get partner. So accepted and is inclined more spiritual, goals n purpose of life.
Same here... I have also decided that I will focus only on improving myself and stay away from marriage.
Tum dono hi karlo na connect hogye ho
@@11BitterSweet11😂😂
@@11BitterSweet11 😂😂
Bramhacharya is the way!
Sir aapne karli bahut achi baat hai ...aap "bahubali" ho...hum " looser" hi ache😂.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs☝️ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ☝️ ғᴏʀ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ, ɪɴғᴏʀᴍᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴀɴᴅ ɢᴜɪᴅᴀɴᴄᴇs ᴡʜᴀsᴀᴘ ᴍᴇ ᴅɪʀᴇᴄᴛ..
Sai bola
Wo to shi hai...Teri shadi ho bhi nhi rhi hogi
@@ssca2z211 main kyun karoon jab shastron mein likha hai = marriage is penance for males as it activates 8 th and 9th house of birth chart. Mujhe penance karna hoga toh main mandir jaake bhagwan se maafi na maang loon🤣
@@dushypal469 ok bro...mat kr
Age 35 ... not married .... no financial liability ..... exploring life every day .... little salary bhi khatam nahi hota .... samaj ijjat de na de farak nai .... aisa ijjat ko juta ke niche rakhta hu .... family is like a handculf in the free life .... DINK is the best possible thing in this modern expensive world ....
Uncle agar bimar parte ho yah pair tut gya toh konn. Help karega
@alokebanerjee1990 Single life best I think but family ko kon samjhaye.
@anonymousalien2099 margye 2021 me cancer se
@@Dyson2024 Family me aur koi nahi hai tera? Aur hypothetical case hi lena hai to biwi bhi to mar sakti hai.. tab kon khayall rakhega
😂 mein 52 hu single hu happy hu bahut happy hu😢
I'm not married and this has been the best decision in my life. I'm 7 years old.
😂😂😂
@@Impulse_28 Rajasthani spotted
good advice. Each and every boy or girl getting married to see your other videos to overcome the other problems that they anticipate will come up. Remember marriage is good as long as you as a young person take the responsibility of being an adult and look after each other.
I married at my 25 and got a daughter at 27 and a son at my 30. When they started schooling i started my m.phil and then Ph.D. Now I m an associate professor completed my doctorate my daughter is going to be a doctor and son is studying engineering. I m very happy and i think my decision was the best. Now i m at 49 and a very proud mother.
Happy for you.
Marriage is good if you want to give something to family and society without expecting rewards
Basically ..JUST.give up on yourself
So much of truth and reality revealed in a single video. These kind of facts are usually only said by parents , or close family friend's parents. Thank you sir for sharing .
People always give you importance when you are financially secured and successful, irrespective of marital status.
Tumhare area me board pe nai likha rehta... " NO BACHELOR, FAMILY ONLY" ?
@@scientificpanda4089 pese kama ke ghar kharid le, rent mein dikkat aati hai single logo ko.
We men are always treated like an ATM 🏧 machine we won't loose anything if we don't marry.
Bro...marry a girl who is financially independent. Don't fall ONLY for beauty...then .u will be never feel like what you have said
People will start treating you like looser once you cross 30.
It's happening with me.
Sangos ji is right. I'm earning 5x more than a guy who is married. But people gives him more respect.
Bullishit comment. Your inability to find a good girl is your problem
First be secure mentally then only you will be able to find a good secure girl
Yeh he sochta rahega toh kaise milege?
Tu matlb yeh bolna chahta hai ke teri life mei jitni ladkiya hai sab apne husband ya boyfriend ke paise ke peechey he hai?
Ask this question to your mom sister and friends
Then come back to me
Marry working woman
@@harkamalsingh6499 people respect married man because he has the spine to take responsibility of wife and children
Commenting to make this up on algorithm. Hard hitting reality...and beautifully explained...🔥💯
Near ones are aware of this...bt sometimes cant articulate without hurting the person... and others dont care...so some 3rd party had to do break this...i glad u did this...BRAVE...👌👌
जी हां में 50साल का हूं और चार साल पहले तलाक हुआ हे और में बहुत सुखी जीवन जी रहा हूं। और सोचता हु कि अगर में शादी के चक्र में ना फसा होता तो अच्छा होता। हर चीज के फायदे और नुकसान हे इसी प्रकार शादी करने और न करने के भी फायदे और नुकसान हे। ये आप पर निर्भर करता है कि आप कोन सा फायदा और नुकसान पसंद करते हो। जैसे कुछ लोग तलक होने पर टूट जाते हैं और कुछ लोग नया जीवन मेहसूस करते हैं
46 pe talak bhai shab puri jawani barbad hogayi
@divyanshdwivedi9751😂😂😂
Yesssssssss LETS GOOOO हरी ॐ
Joh ladki hum mein chahiye usse hum nahi chahiye; aur jisse hum chahiye woh kisko chahiye
Akshay Kumar ( Movie: Garam Masala ) 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Real truth best dialogue for single person 😂😂😂😂
Yhich to saala masla h 😆
Jo kaha ekdum sahi kaha aapne sir....ek ek bat sahi hai...absolutely raw reality...
It's completely ur choice to enter the institution of marriage or not,just for social validity & security.
In india it's outrated.
Happiness doesn't at all depends upon marriage but only if u r spiritual.
Marriage is a trap, don't fall in this trap, I realized this hard way. After marriage all my relationship changed, my parents are no longer the same parents and my wife treats me like a ATM. Everyone wants a part in my salary like a group of vultures wants a dead animal flesh. My wife side and my parents continuously fight with each other over management of kitchen, cleanliness, food and spits poison in my ears against each other and advise me not to spend my salary on the other side and stay vigilant. For sometime I tried to bridge the gap but soon to realize that this gap can't be bridged and things gotten worse. I don't understand the usefulness of such a relationship that brings so much bitterness. It is better to stay single rather than living with misery throughout your life.
I think you feel like " my soul just frustrated now 🥵 😡 😑 😤 my soul exhausted now 😒. Ab shadi ho gayi toh jindgi bhar bhagte raho or Ghar walon alag circus chal raha hai.i feel you brother 💗 I wish you become fucking richi rich🧲. Khud se keh Sako ki yes i feel better now or ab Sukoon hai jindgi mein. God bless you brother 🛐🙏🏻
@Navneet Gupta I don't know if you have heard his other videos . He clearly says not to stay in the same house with your parents. Why don't you try living in nearby house everyone will be happy . Pp
🙏👍🧘🤗💯
We men are always treated like an atm 🏧machine
@@priyankachoudhary628 I own a house close to my parents house but my wife refuse to stay close to my parents instead she moved to live with her brother and subsequently that house is put on sales. I took loan on that house and paid instalments but after marriage my parents claim that they had made equal contributions and have 50% right on that house and if I argue my parents tells me that I was very sick and weak when I was born and they have made huge sacrifices for my life and I can’t pay their debt. I also proposed my wife to pool our income and buy a new house but instead she bought a house in her own name without telling me. She don’t want to live in her house because there is no public transport available. Now I give 1/5 of my salary to my parents and 1/3 to my wife to buy peace and live few days with my parents and few days with my wife but still they didn’t stop spitting poison against each other. Maybe they are happy now but I am not. I know cooking and can stay stay independently so I think that I would be much happier if I wouldn’t have married.
Sir ji, you're a reformer indeed! 🙂🙏We wish you get awards and more than that sooner. 😊
Post modern society ka ek result hai logoka shaadi se biswas uth jana.. iska koi kuch nhi karsakte. Developed economies me toh majority hi shaadi nhi karna chahte. even in asian countries like Japan, S Korea, China. Aaj ki duniya mein Shaadi ka practical utility bhot kam hochuka hai pehle ke comparison se yeh toh accept karna hi hoga. Societal status ke liye shaadi krna makes no sense at all. As a society we should be more accepting towards bachelors, aap toh bilkul ulta leke jaa rahe ho.😂😂😂
Insaan hi ulta h kya kare
I am 92 and not married. Best decision of my life. 👨🏼🦳
Jhut kyon bol rahe ho
@@biswajitsahoo4699😂😂😂
@@biswajitsahoo4699sach bol rahe he Jake dekh le😂
Very good 👍
@@biswajitsahoo4699 😂😂
अचछे से समझाए है। धनयवाद। आदमी बहुत कमजोर होता है अकेले नही रह सकता । शादी एक बहुत खूबसूरत रिशता है पर सही ढग से जीने की समझ न होने से गडबड होती है ।अब समाज बदल रहा है बहुत हद तक महिलाए अब सक्षम होरही है उनमे बदलाव है पर समाज की सोच पुरानी है षुरुषो को अपनी सोच महिलाओ के लिए बदलनी होगी उनके काम को ,उननति को सवीकार करना चाहिए।
I’m 40 years old and it was a conscious decision of mine to never marry .My parents had constant fights in their marriage which resulted in me feel bitter about such a relationship for myself so I banned the idea a long time ago . They were also unreasonably strict and controlling with me which made me get into depression in my teenage years which stayed for a very long time . I promised myself that I would focus on living a fulfilling life alone. I do sometimes feel lonely and out of place because none of my friends are unmarried and don’t hangout with me because they can’t relate with me anymore but even then , that doesn’t motivate me to marry someone because if it turns out to be bad , I’d be heart broken to a point where I’d not even want to live anymore . I focus on indulging in simple and fun activities with a lot of freedom and am not answerable to anyone . I do think sometimes that I could have become a great husband and father and an overall a good family man but I simply don’t want to risk getting into a wrong relationship. But all said , your video has somehow motivated me to not ditch the idea of marriage completely . I thank you for your perspective and it felt like you were talking directly to me .
Understandable
same here...👍
You are not getting married because of someone's wrong decision
So that means you are influenced by others
You haven't tried on you own
I know the damage ut have done to you while growing up
But being afraid of not getting married is not a good decision in my opinion
@@khushik9862you must not be compatible or the guys you must have dated were toxic
There are good people out there
Change your group or friends
You are not alone in this. Millions are in the same boat, today even in a super traditional country like India, etc. I would just wish and pray with my all heart that anyone, married or unmarried anyhow put some effort and time towards being curious and studying, educating and understanding the well established and grounding, fulfilling and liberating spiritual wisdom traditions, especially of the East. After some honest years in this endeavor mostly most of them are so much more enlightened and stabilized inwardly then to make further more mature and fruitful life decisions and moves and many times encounter the greatest Gifts, unimagible.....
And, for the vlog, well, sir I am really pleased and appreciative of the pretty as unusual a social topic as a normal vlogger would even ever get the wisps of such thoughts of, let alone the pressing concerns to personally take the trouble to present to the public.. though I am for myself shall not condone or condemn any of your views, here. Thankyou 💐💐🙏👏👏👏
Mera bhi abhi tak yahi Manna tha k jab right partner milegi tabhi shadi karenge aj ye video dekhne k baad mera ye myth khatam ho gaya, thank you for this eye opening video🙏
I’m a doctor and I want to share from my studies that when you live alone there is a significant increase in psychological issues as compared to when you have a partner baki apko jaisa theek lage kro
No but many Indian monks from sanatan, Buddhism, Jainism live there life alone.. Kitne ko depression hua aur suicide ki.. Aur kitne criminal activity me evolve hue..
To aapki study to yaha fail ho jaati hai..
@@2.0JUSTDOIT hmm.. Wo bhi barabar hai.. Yeh data normal logo ka hai..
You mean to say that Sadhus are hatela 😂
Jo log by choice horhe hai woh utna nhi hote i guess
@@rahulmore4584they have diff purpose in life. They do dhyam, pooja. They dont keep worldly expectations. So depression is not for them.
This video is totally on practical reality based. Sir you gave us very eye opening advice, some bitter truths and tore the pieces of cloths. Ultimate advices beyond that no one can say anything practical too that extent.
I got married. Lived with husband for 21 years. Bittersweet relation. We used to fought too a lot but he passed away a month ago.. to avoid getting attached to people. I was thinking I will not marry in my next birth if I am born as a human. Too hard to cope up after losing a loved one
Last line gave me sharp headache
apart from bad marriage i am also afraid of this
Is, budhe ko b ye bat smjao koi.. Phle to rltnshp ya shadi halwa nhi hoti.. Fir agr nhi work kia to bht pain hta h. .. Shuru me sb cool lgta h bas bad me l lag jate hain
36 and unmarried and really proud of it. When I see my friends hiring lawyers for divorce cases and go to prison in false cases. Paying alimony every month for few months of marriage and no other benefit... I follow my hobbies, ride, travel and living my best life. When I show my travel pics to my married friends, reaction on their face is just priceless... 😊
Bro can I connect to you and be friends
Answer this in 10yrs
❤
@@InMTrader someone said the same 10 years ago.... I don't see anything changing..
@@Nishitosh17 tum InMtrader se shaadi kar lo😀
Hats off to your Sir, this kind of scolding we all need, lot of wisdom in your words keep it up for the betterment of society
Reality is Most of the people are Fully Exhausted. Society is completely different Now than Before. Change is the Rule of Nature. Saya , Trata , Dwapara , Kali are Not Same. We are going through Tremendous Change. No one should Judge other. Everyone's Reality is Unique. If One get Marry , Good. If One Not , then also Good. Let's Not Fight or Debate. Every thing has Prons and Cons. Love and Peace ❤
I agree with most of your views in this video, but cheating by partner is also a dissuading factor in negating marriages
You can also cheat
So it's just trust
Have that
That's enough
I married, had a husband who was very cruel. Now im single and very happy
Marriage is indeed important provided both understand each other....caste wagera Gaya bhad main
Lol, caste is very important
i m 25 guruji and ur talk is very full of wisdom.🙌🙏
AISA KUCHH NAHI SAHIB MAIN 52 HOON OR AAM AADMI SE YANI K SHADI SHUDA AAPKI ZUBANI MAIN KAHEEN ZIYADA ENJOY KARTA HOON, LEKIN AISA BHI NAHI K KARNA NAHI CHAHTA LEKIN ENJOYMENT K LIYE SHADI SHUDA HONA COMPULSION NAHI.
Bhai aap khush ho I can understand. But how you can say u r more happier than others (married people) it depends on from which you r comparing.
Sir enjoyment ke definition aur perception alag ho sakte hai... samaj ki mansikta badalni jaruri hai instead of advising people to adjust and fit their decisions as per society norms ... if something is going on for years it doesn't mean it is right ...
Mam, If you refer to the content he always says that his advice is applicable for 99% people, who generally abide by societal norms. Naturally, the path of extraordinary people will differ. But that doesn't mean that his advice is not relevant...
Maam if you are so happy, why justify it with so many comments? We are all products of our choices. You made yours, and so you will enjoy the fruits of that. Same with me or anyone else. Somehow people who make less common choices tend to think the whole world is out to get them and is thinking about them and judging them non-stop. Relax, nobody gives a flying fk. Nobody is even giving a fleeting thought because people are busy living their lives
Agar aapko itni hi acchi lagti aapki zindagi toh app nahi karte itne saree comments on the video XD and you are offended because of the truth in this video don't deny it
Shivpuran me Raja Daksh ka brahmaji se samwad padho, samajh me aa jayega vivah kyu jaruri hai, "jo chalta aa raha hai use karna jaruri nahi hai" - ye baat bolne wale manmarji karte hai or manmarji karne walo ka haal bahut bura hota hai
U seems frustrated with ur life u r commented multiple times with conflicting points 😂😂😂😤😤
What about people who got married to the wrong person and the marriage didn't work out? You talk about people feeling scared of getting caught up in legal cases after marriage, what if those fears were actually true? Would love to hear some thoughts on those.
Correctly said.......there are men also being tortured .......I know a family their son is a child specialist....girls rejecting him bcoz be is a veg and teetotaller......
Ye budhao kabhi ye accept nahi karega, men are in denial mode whereas all women came together and worked practically and because of which we have biased anti men marriage laws, hum mard aise iss budhao ke jaise sirf denial mode pe hee rahenge islye ajh hum weaker legal position mei hai.
@@VikramjitSingh924 listen kid , he mentioned about everything. point is he said what a man or woman is today they will change there is nothing called right. and percentage of false case is too less compared to succeful marriage consider your family .
@@nsd860 abbhe mand buddhi andhe vivah bhakt pehle jaake data dekh last 10 years mei India mei divorce rate kitne percent barhi hai. Aur gaddhe ye hamare parents ke generation ki ladkiya nahi hai gen Z ki ladkiya hai. Itna dimag khali hai kya hamare parents ko gen Z ke couples ke saat compare kar raha hai tu🤣🤣🤣. Tereko special treatment chahiye.
@@nsd860 apni aisi taise kara
Sir...u r the best.....very affectionate even while people troll u. Plz continue doing it. Am watching ur advice..for future. Am 44 yo and still relevanr for me. Daar ke aagey jeet hai
Also Sir I respect you that you want society to not get disturbed and go peacefully..in short you tend to protect the structure of society handed by your generation to us.. but Sir..its very late now. People especially Men knows the repurcussions and pressure that comes with marriage.
Exactly what this generation need to learn...i completely agree with you
I completely agree with you ... me and my bestie (we are friends from school) .. now ppl tease us asking if we are lesbians just cos we are single since a long time... moral of the story, they are just not happy with your lives hence they keep on gossiping about us
Don't be affected by people!People just project their own insecurities,failures and unhappiness onto others~
They are unhappy in their marriage cuz now they are stuck with their partner and baby can't enjoy can't go anywhere can't do anything... So they are jealous of you.. Be happy and make them more jealous.. If I were you i would say yes im lesbian go f off and go clean the shit off ur baby's butt first
Wait till all of you hit late forties and early to late fifties and beyond, you will be very unhappy and depressed. Your current age and state of health is what is making you say all this but all that is temporary.
God has given you the most powerful gift of making another human being, being a mother is a feeling like no other and yet we have another user here making horrific remarks about motherhood which is very unfortunate.
I mean no disrespect.
@@priyankasingh-fr8gg its funny how.. If you are 25 they say wait till ur 30s.. If u are 30 they say wait till ur 40s if u are 40 they wait till ur 50s if ur 50 they say wait till ur 60s and women be like im waiting with my money and independence where is depression 😂😂
@@manikyum you are wrong
After 50+ also can live happily. If any person help required after 60+ society is rapidly changing and facilities are available.
Namaskaram sir. Atleast you are telling these things to this generation kids to get married at suitable age.
For us, some elder in our rishtedari, used to tell these.
You are doing a great reformation sir
One point what you told is exactly correct.
"When there is nothing great in doing shaadi, there is also nothing great in not doing shaadi."
Super sir
From parents ' point of view, you are 100% correct.
Jab koi beta ya beti sanyas lene se ek step pichhe hai..
Matlab wo sanyasi jaisa jeevan bina sanyas liye jeena chahte hai, to kya tab bhi aap unko rokogi..
Same@@rahulmore4584
Joblessness is the major problem of not getting married... poor economical situation not allowing us to get married...
Crony capitalism is the reason. We are being made to work 12 hrs daily for peanut salaries - one person is being made to do the work of 5 persons in the corporate sector which is overburdening the understaffed employees. Also, if a corporate is able to pay 2 lakh per month salary, it merely pays 50K per month to an employee so as to increase its profits and do cost cutting
आप की बातें जँचती हैं पर किसी के समझाने या कहने से कोई भी कुछ नहीं करता। स्वय़ं अपने दिल की गहराई से जो प्रेरणा जिसे मिलनी होती है, मिलती है। और वही वो करेगा। बाकी सारी बातें, चाहे वे कितनी ही अच्छी हों, कितनी ही सच्ची लगें, लोग उसकाे जीवन में नहीं उतारते। स्वयं भगवान कृष्ण हार गये थे पर कौरवों को सन्मार्ग पर चलने की प्रेरणा नहीं होनी थी, नहीं हुई। महाभारत आखिर होकर ही रहा।
प्रारब्ध
I guess the best approach to explain these situations is the trigunatmak way of thinking : saatvik, rajasic and tamasic gunas of humans..
every life decision is taken according to these three gunas only..
that would be a better way to elevate the masses into spiritual lifestyle/higher order thinking..
Of course people will also judge the 'responses' according to their gunas only.
Avoid marriage
Life is not based on rules its based on self experience and self realization
What an amazing personality he is... Reformer of today's society... Like Raja Ram Mohan's roy stood up for women education, this person will teach us to live with a different perspective👍👍 great respect for u sir🙏
Raja ram mohan was britisho ka bhakt
I got asked once if " i was ok " physically by a small minded relative !!!!
Same here.
Many Indian marriages sustained due to fear and compromise. Many men feared about who would take care of their meals and other needs. Women worried for financial support and respect in the society. Post having kids many parents did not want their children to experience a broken home. Of late individuality outranks togetherness. No one wants to adjust and d cases of remaining unmarried or getting divorced have skyrockted. Men can do home chores and many women are financially independent. Incompatibility is leading to more divorces than infidelity. Duniya ka dastoor hai ki parivaar ki shuruaat hi mard aurat k milan se hoti hai shaadi ek legal aur social stamp hai...social isolation due to singl status can be traumatizing but life after marriage can gt lifeles or a paradise or can b a nightmare..dpnds a lot on the maturity of d couple and the circumstances..shaadi ka ladooo khaye tho pachtaye..na khaye tho bhi pachtaye...😅
Uncle ji as usual you rocked. I think ppl will get some insight and don't make mistakes what they are doing. Best line I liked when you said no one is right person as you yourself is not right person for other person. Today's generation should know that everyone has some flaws and we need to work on those and appreciate other persons positive points than criticizing negatives, as no one is perfect. Also want to agree to point where parents rejects love marriage and you stay alone full life. My friends brother was denied by their jain family to marry bangali girl. Girl got married, my friend and sister who were much younger to elder brother are married and has kids and elder brother in 40 plus is still single and parents are now not even bothered as they have other grand kids to play with. Majority in Indis parents are the cause for kids bad marriages till now. Today's generation needs to understand marriage can be beautiful if you get good person and horrible too but there are always option to come out. Not marrying is not option. Uncle you are social reformer. You should come on TV like Aastha channel, you should have social reforming channel to reach broader public. So that parents and kids don't make wrong decisions and we have happy and healthy society and a happy nation. Keep spreading your Gyan uncle.
And what if you loose physical attraction for the opposite gender?? Would marrying not be betrayal.
no he is wrong their is a clear distinction between a right person and a wrong person , u cannot marry with anyone , u have to ensure that your partner is not commitment phobic
Not Marrying is the Best thing when you don't don't want to be with either options
I am unmarried right now.
I agree that a woman will marry someone at her level or above. It is because she has to adapt to the boy's family instead of the opposite.
Just as a man will do a job where he gets more money, a woman will marry somebody where fewer sacrifices are required.
Hypergamy justified. In that case skin deep beauty is also justified.
If that logic is correct, then I need beautiful girl to marry so that I will feel calm and romantic.
U r literally a nerd 💥
@@nishitsingh846 😉😁😎
@@mathconcepts4u159 of course looks are justifiable
Bhai sahab aap bahut suljhe hue insaan ho, Eshwar aapka bhala karey aur karta rahega Amen. Bahut achchey topic laatey hain aap. May God bless you.
Itna zindagi mai kbhi nhi hsa... best video.🤣🤣🤣
Great this is absolutely true about society. 😀
Times are changing.India is also changing .Will change even further. Old ideas don’t apply anymore.Will be obsolete soon. If you feel like doing it then do it. If you don’t then don’t do it.This person sounds a bit harsh.
Sir you are playing a great role towards the indian society . Guiding the youth in a practical way. Your lines may be harsh but are 100 % true .
Ek dum sahi baat keh rahe ho sir.... Mughe apki baat bahut logic lagta hai.... Sir aap 5 number par numerology kab aaega... I m eagerly waiting
Very nice. Keep it up. Present society needs this type of videos.
Ahahahaaa i love how straightforward and blunt you are😀
Exactly
I can relate to most of your comments and examples, like your videos related to life, real estate, middle class. Following you since 5-6 months and have become a fan. Please keep going.
It's true that they don't gain anything by false case,so does rapists gain by doing it. Those who do it is not do for gain. It's just hate and anger. Even though there is a judiciary Its process is long and painful. Its something that should be discussed
I am just 19
But this video is a real gem
I will follow this in my life as I have seen many beautiful marriages which are successful
Very beautiful presentation
❤❤ marriage life is great for me
😅😅😅😅sach tumhi pata chalega jab fake rape,aur alimony dena padta hai,😅😅😅
A yogi is never old
U spoke about the reality of life that leads to realisation
Very nicely explained Sir…so true n an eye opener 👍..thank u so much for sharing 🙏🙏
Thanks sir, now definitely i will marry for sure in this year only.. this video's a game changer. I have shared it with my friends , who are single... As well .
I am kind of insecure about getting married because i have seen my mother become a widow at a very young age and all the struggles related to that,and i have this strange insecurity/fear thinking what if my husband dies before me,this has always been my fear😐
Accident is part of life.. But that doesn't mean life should be stopped.
I can understand how difficult it is for you .. start worshipping devi she will instil courage to mind
What if you die before your husband? We can't be sure of anything in life, still we make choices and live..
All people are not same. A very few people, atleast 2-3% people are not meant for companionship. Marriage demands adjustment, compromise and understanding. If one is not capable of giving these entities to marriage, one shall simply not marry.
Marriage is a responsibility, though it has its own perks, still it demands a lot of attention and concious efforts. Some people are happy as they are, they are not lonely, but alone, and enjoy their solitude.
And I am one among such people. So I would conclude, that one shall not decide to not marry, because they want to do such and such stuff, want to establish or some other milestones to achieve. Rather the decision shall be on the basis of the feeling of content that one comfortably enjoys in the current state.
Sir, I wish you could have taken this initiative few years ago! I am 32 & few years ago I met with an accident and now suffering from spine injury. I was surrounded with people who always gave me very negative side of marriage and that's what made me stay single.
Hope you get a good partner...just keep searching
@@Calcuttadiaries717 I was exactly of same opinion but I guess opinion are situational based! But life has always been risky and I guess depends on person to person!
Acharya Prashant lol, He himself is a frustrated and a narcissist man. After you gain certain maturity in life then you will realise being fan of some mere human is never a good idea.
@@nishantkumar6960 Fan?? Well I have never experienced " being fan" even when I was a teenager... I always filter while I absorb any info! We must respect views and take what is applicable & leave what is not! Simple
If you don't mind, may I ask what exact injury you got? Because I have recently got a lower back injury too, L4 L5 disc bulge. I'll turn 25 in 3 months, will soon start looking for a partner and I am overthinking about how this injury might affect my life ahead.
Very Sensible advice sir. Thanks for touching upon such topics.
content in this video was so valuable and well-researched.
I am 169+ unmarried for life .
Best decision of my life. ❣️💯🔥
I am too creating videos on such issues and the only thing I realized is people have pre existing thought process which they don't want to change. Marriage ek significant part hai and sahi time pr hona chahiye.
🤣🤬🤬
Sir, thanks for the advise given to the new,generation, I am a retired senior citizen and differ on one issue that girls can marry Group B even if they are in group A or similarly in another professions also but Sir the real issue is not the status of the girl or her rejection the real issue is the after effects ,the boy normally suffers from inferiority complex and shows all his frustration on the girl ,hence girls and parents prefer same status
I have witnessed such cases in my industry as well
True. Men can't handle superior wives, in any sense.
Very good. Exceptional cases people need financial independence.. other than that.. it's better to marry early than getting trapped in boyfriend, girlfriend path. Marry early, get kids early, complete the responsibility early and get into vanaprastha.. peace ✌️ no one can care you like the life partner.. most cases!
Excellent eye opner video hai aaj ki generation ke liye
If you don't marry as per your parent's wishes, they become "They" and are very happy if your marriage has problems. Because then they can say, "I told you so".
Shaadi-shuda is a legal status, its not a relationship status.
Many people are married but are they genuinely in a positive healthy relationship with each other?
Best part of video you explained the bestest thing Sir - 23:00
हमारे गांव में तो 19, 20 साल में लडका लडकी की शादी हो जाती है और 25 ,26के होते दोनो में झगड़ा होता तो लडकी ससुराल छोड़ के मायके में बैठ जाति 😅बिना डाइवोर्स दिए इसे कई परिवार है हमारे गांव में जहां नानी भी ससुराल से सजी थी फिर मां भी आगी थी अभी बेटी की शादी की 18में वो ससुराल छोड़ k aagyi 7,8 महीने में वापिस आ गई😅😅
Full form of wife- worry invited for ever.
WIFE - Wise investment for ever
@@rajat31802 lakh men commit suicide due to matrimonial and misuse of laws what about that?.Due to slow judiciary getting divorce is difficult and that,s why people avoiding marriage. So make judiciary fast, make gender neutral law plus make divorce easier.
@@rajat3180Please listen deepika narayan bhardwaj and jyoti tiwari pandey for more clarity.
Sir, what message you have shared is absolutely true. Can't agree more 💯
Your thoughts and guidance are genuine and true sir..
Now I seen many boys are searching for girls and girls are saying No ....boys are ready for marriage..but girls demand is more...what to do in this situation?
I suggest those boys to work on them self as much as possible,and try for girls,some or the other girl will say yes to that boy..
Be what girls want!!
Sir , whatever it is , I am just your fan. Sahi ya galat pata nahi , you are like a mirror.
Good analysis and nicely explained.... Got answers to many dilemmas, thanks.
Isko analysis nh bolte .. ese balcony wala uncle advice ghar ghar me mil jayega