@@deepakjena3628 My mother told me to get out of home after i got job , I was also having health issues , No problem , I am thankful to my mom , It made me even stronger mentally.
Look for a partner who treats others the way that they want to be treated. A person who has a kind character is more likely to treat you with care and respect. A partner who is thoughtful, empathetic, and compassionate is more likely to take the time to try and understand how other people are feeling.
People who are just not ready to change their ancient backward mindset to move forward, will not agree to your words. I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. I worked as a teacher in a Birla school for many years. My everyday mantra to my daughters is that they must earn their own living. My elder one has already started working in an US based company. 😊
Aap hamesha ladaki o ko kaam karne ke liye bol rahe ho. Agree. But what about house responsibilities? Middle class logo k pass 24 hrs k nokar chakar nahi rehete, aur bahot logo ko khana to kisi cook ke hath ka pasand nahi aata. In that situation what should be done? Wo 8-10 hrs ki job karke ghar pe aane k baad bhi kaam to khatam hi nahi hota. Women are changing, earning but a man still expects a glass of water in his hand as he returns from his work. When men will start working in kitchen?
@@adityakapoor2714 I am working, earing and taking care of my home and kid really well. And I have achieved it with support of my husband. But when i see people around me, I feel bad. Aur teri aukaat kya hai mujhe batane ki mujhe kya karna chahiye ya kya nahi? apne ghar ka haal sudhar sakta hai to sudhar.
I am coming from a Bengali middle class family, my father was WBCS officer of A grade now retired and my mother was a high school teacher of Sanskrit and political science. And I am working in a primary school as assistant teacher because I love this profession so much under govt of West Bengal. I am 34 still unmarried and facing troubles to choose life partner. I find myself similar to the character Gourav of your story because I am not IITian or similar category. Your video is making my day , sir. Many many thanks. I am from the land of Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar and Raja Rammohan Roy . Very happy to hear the names from you😊
Your words are full of wisdom. Forty years back when I got married, my grandmother advised me to keep working and earning. It helped me a lot in being level headed .
Aisa bhi nahi hai ki ladki shadi ke time naa kama rahi ho toh kamayegi hi nahi .I was not earning at the time of marriage but after marriage cleared exams and now I am in govt job.
Bhai aap larke ho, shadi ke baad larki pe bahut Jimmedari aur bojh aa jata hain toh unko jyada muskil hoti hain clear karne mein. Haan phir bhi kuch job le sakti hain par tabhi jab Husband supportive tab possibility banta hain.
You're definitely an exception bro. Many of friends got married with plans to clear govt exam after. Nothing. They didnt even put 1 ounce of effort into studying only used it as an excuse to avoid work.
45 lpa CTC on Microsoft is around. 1 lac per month don't fell in trap of CTC it is highly inflated by adding 4 years component of stocks in single year
One of my friend who is a khandani raees married a dentist girl who married him hoping to cash in on his riches. Soon she realized that the control is in the hand of sasur. She left him in 3 months.
Trust me! Unmarried is better than married! Only money is required to be happy in life, rest is man made misconceptions. However our body will function the way it has been made. World is not best place to live 😂😂
One of your case is relatable to my neighbours Case 1- The boy was IITian and girl was normal btech but doing job in good company. Boy family having medical shop with one sister unmarried , girl family middle class ( Father A class officer) brother is also Iitian unmarried. There marriage was Arranged marriage. Both party equally Invested in marriage. But after one year they got divorced. Girl side Reason- The boy family asked for money every month (they were totally dependent) ( free ka pesa aa rha hai toh medical shop mai kamane ku jaye hum bi ash krnge ) . The boy give half of his salary to his parents or more sometimes. He dont save anything likeFD or mutual fund. The boy want to run his house from girl salary. He restricted girl not to buy expensive things. (Like saying pese ki barbaadi) . So the girl family give her plan to save his 75% of salary on FD and 20% keep with you. So that boy stopped giving his half salary to his family. Unfortunately plan doesn’t worked and fights was continued. Boy Reason - Girl dont cook food. (Inlaws side) and fight with them. They got divorced after one year of marriage. (No settlement happened) both working on bangluru with reputed companies.
Yes ...life mai overqualified hona bhi galat hai .. Iitian ..and engineering background have no respect now . People are fond of high salry only in pvt . But ek jagah bcom wale ne sbi po ki job crack karli , he is much good and decent . Low investment high return (govt employee). But in case of pvt high investment high return until and unless corona virus comes to lay off employees 😄
In this case its better for parents to sell their assets and put in fd for regular income instead of giving to their children they should enjoy their life. Let children earn and build their own empire.
Also make a video on 2 more conditions:- In laws well settled, husband earning well but wife is on career break due to motherhood and no support from family members for job in future
Yes very necessary...I think join your job asap after baby becomes little big....or join now and keep a maid for day time....my relatives are doing same
Sir Salute to you !!!Very wise words and Lesson for life.Indian parents are so negative that many times they do not appreciate whatever we do for them.Seriously Sir it’s very difficult to deal with their restricted mindset.Please make more videos for families and younger generations..Thanks 🙏
Agreed with everything sir -- just a change recommended for boys - if you are looking for a working wife, please be ready to help in some way with housework
This is really important to understand as a youth and I must say this is the only channel which talks about one of the major issue of society. I am really thankful that You Tube has recommended me your channel Sir.
Really good advice, job is not only for money buy it teaches lot to a person. If a women does job her family supports her in household work, she gets her own identity also office meine dimag kharab karne k baad she starts loving her family more ghar pe rehke ghar k log hi kharab lagne lagte hai. Also, our life is more disciplined we become more proactive the approach of our children also changes towards there mother.... I'm working and also taking financial responsibility so both me and my husband can fulfill our dreams.
Sir kyaa video bnai hai, kitni jgh to same meri family condition btaa di aapne, kmaal observation hai aapka har topic pr, mai shehmati rkhta hu aapki baato se ladki kmane wali jarur honi chahiye no matter kitna kmaa rhii hai and agr nhi kmaa rhii to ghr ko smbhal ske itni capabilities hone chahiye, sabse khtrnak chiz jo aapne boli ki 1993 ke baad wali ladkiya nhi krngi ghr ka sara kaam sahi se, ekdum satik bool gye aap, maan gya mai aapki sense of humor ko great, keep coming those topics bahit faiyda kra rhee ho aap smaj ka, lots of love and respect from New Delhi 😊
A simple fact of life, look for simplicity rather than material pleasures. And score higher on the happiness index. Quality education is still very rare in India, mind you, even IITians, IIM graduates have only learnt how to be gainfully employed, but that's not helping their marriage life, because of zero experience/ knowledge about how family & marriage as institutions work.
Another major problem arising is related to cooking. These days girls are less interested in cooking than before.(might be due to work pressure). And by nature, boys are also less interested in cooking. Not everyone prefer to get food cooked by a cook. If both are working then anyone of bride or groom should know cooking to make life easier.
@@cauliflowerhead2735 yes, its a good to have skill, makes a person independent. But a person who is not interested in cooking cant become a good cook.
Loan will be cleared in some years then situation will improve. If both are in service they can together clear the loan by giving more amount of instalments.
Sound and practical advise. The smart ones will listen and follow. Others may keep finding reasons not to. And will have to suffer for their poor choices.
My daughter is married to a Marathi and after producing a child he has left my daughter in my house. I am retired without pension and I dont know what to do.
Working wife is good until baby comes around. Uske bad mommy brain doesnt want to leave the child behind and psychological consequences of missing mother and childhood neglect are immense. Most of the psychologically sick/ socially unsuccessful kids come from working mom family. Best case is to marry a smart woman who is capable of working. Later as she has kids, let the mom focus on and raise helathy kids till they are teenagers and then if needed/desired she can start her own business that can be passed down. Also girls, you will be lucky if your family lets you keep your work earnings. Sara paisa le leti hai "supportive" in-law family. Even the grocieries, bills will be paid for by your salary. Degree of freedom will depend on family to family, irrespective of your salary. Also, you will 100% feel resentment towards your husband and his family for making you work when you dont want to (esp when baby arrives). Also the ego battles will be full on. Source- I have closely seen and counselled many working women in my life. Intelligent housewifes family is better/healthier than working wife's family.
Additionally background checks kii importance hai yaa nahi?...character..nature..education n where from...social standing ( confirmed thru verification as good), stability of economy...liabilities of siblings...are some other factors important
Sir, good to hear you mentioning Sri Vidyasagar & Sri Rammohan from Bengal whose thoughts were v advanced. But me a bengali feel in case of marriages we look for a good family meaning which carries good value system and is educated. Wealth comes after that for security. Our girls also we feel need to be well educated so that they are independent yet are polite and respectful due to their good background. Even if they earn more than their husbands they will still respect their husbands provided he behaves well with her. So also our boys are thought to respect their wives whether working or not as their children later will learn a lot from their mother. Wealth is a requirement and in these times it's better if both earn. It is for the husband to see that his wife does not face any insults from anyone. Once the wife really gets annoyed as she is independent she can take steps not good for the couple. So it's best all stay peacefully without any unnecessary demand. 26th Oct.
These videos are extremely relevant.... Brings lot of clarity in life and lot of peace of mind too..... I am glad that I earn.... Thanks a lot Mr. Sango 😊
Hats of to you sir, you hard hit the facts, without any fear, but you were wrong only in one aspect gudiya will always harass budiya and that too very effectively, in whatever may be the scenario😁
@@nainakmk9941 Please do not spoil that child's future for the sake of your convenience or selfishness. A young child needs a Dad while growing up, and for that matter both parents. Fatherless children grow up to have a lot of issues especially girl children, best example is the USA. You might be oblivious to this blaring truth because of the fog of feminism blinding you .I respect your decision and apologies for the earlier joke , but please don't adopt that child if you don't have a man in your life.
The way you promoting girl education and self dependency is great. Parents should also learn a huge lesson from your video.. or sabse badi baat ye bhi hai ki jinko sikhna chahiye woi nhi sunenge😂😂
@@abhinashsinghania440 I make 4 times the money that a iit iim guy would make in india and I'm a girl.. I don't need his money but all I want is respect and love. What's the solution then??
10:18 sir I am agree with you 🙏 But I want to let you know that in our society if girl's money earning capabilitie is more than boys then girls do not respect her husband and family of her husband ..... Sir I want to know in this situation what should we do 🙏🙏🙏
A home and family can work better with equal division of labour. Its good if girl is working and adding to the total income of the house. What about other things. pls do make a video that if a boy wants a working girl, he should be prepare to share the household chores , taking care of children etc too. The two wheels of a marriage should be equally balanced. So a working girl should also ask before marriage whether the boy is ready to share the house hold chores or not. Nahi to ek thaka rahega aur doosra doston ke saath sharab peeta rahega. I am sorry if I am too harsh.
Yes you are accurate... I am ca student. And in final stages I am not working due to study. Meri saas ko wahi lagta hai... Ki kyu layi hai gudiya.? Is chakkar me meri padhai bhi nahi ho rahi
sahi bat hai..job me challenges family changes se kam lgte hai after marriage, specially for girls bcz shadi k bad you are never perfect for everyone evrytime. Job gives you space and peace for womens individual personality.
Your advise is very practical Sirji.Biggest problem of today's generation girls is they have not learnt cooking and it's not possible for every mahila to engage in gainful occupation.But with little difficulty we can definitely search a good bride who is working.
Learning cooking is not so big thing and no one needs degree for cooking. My sister never knew cooking before marriage but soon became an excellent cook post marriage due to love and sense of responsibility towards husband
@@princeofheaven19 It could be because of good sanskar given in your family.But we have seen many cases where girls never try to learn cooking even after getting married or find it difficult to learn.
@@rudramath5949 why a woman needs to learn cooking compulsory? "She must earn and she must cook." What a hypocrisy.! Man, it ll be good for you to learn cooking and share that responsibility with your (future) wife. Your married life would be better.
To bhaishab jab aaj k time pe ladkiya pese k liye ghar se nikal kar mehnat kar sakti hai , to aap aadmi log pet bharne k liye 2 wakt ka khana banana nhi seekh sakte kya ? Mtlb doglapan itna bhara hai na logo me
Sir how do you judge a prospective groom or bride n parent for their nature. If they have a nature to fight or are peaceful how do we get to know. Pls guide as thus us very important. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I myself being doctor mbbs Joining my Md at 28years.. i m into court marriage instead use the money for house. Being buddhist and from vidharbha we have no dowry custom. But still why marry a working women you want ur wife to be with you all time and do household chores then marry a housewife. Why boys parents want everything educated, good looking earning and you want to have your daughter in law to pay her income to u. Equal share in finance responsibity is right. But as being girl who taught to focus heavily on career i prefer earning I don't know why even doctor i talk they want there wife to cook everyday how that's possible for a doctor considering working hours. I find myself so frustrated that feels being single is much better
Are there so many jobs that all brides and bridegrooms are employed . Though I agree with what u saying. Practical from micro point of view but not from macro point.😁
you are the only one .meri ladki ke liye same ise hi riste aaye hi aur abhi confusion dur hogaya .alag hi ki iit nahi grade 1 officer .par ghar nahi hi
Sir ....pahli baar RUclips saarthak lag raha hai.. thanks .....pp
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I was a housewife but at 49 I started a small home based bakery n I believe I am living my life now..thanks for the sharing.
Wish you great success
I said to my father I want to become an actor , my father told me get out of my home ...now I am not staying with my father .....
@@deepakjena3628more power to you. Wish you a good luck
@@deepakjena3628 My mother told me to get out of home after i got job , I was also having health issues , No problem , I am thankful to my mom , It made me even stronger mentally.
Did you become actor then?
When my mummy said I should marry working girl, I didn't listen to her. When you explained it, I get it. Thanks.
Look for a partner who treats others the way that they want to be treated. A person who has a kind character is more likely to treat you with care and respect. A partner who is thoughtful, empathetic, and compassionate is more likely to take the time to try and understand how other people are feeling.
Real truth of society and family presened very intellectually.. hats off to you sir.
Real truth of society, hats off to you👍
Yes
OMG you’ve taken up a huge undertaking of showing a mirror to the Society! More POWER to you 👍🏼
People who are just not ready to change their ancient backward mindset to move forward, will not agree to your words. I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. I worked as a teacher in a Birla school for many years. My everyday mantra to my daughters is that they must earn their own living. My elder one has already started working in an US based company. 😊
In India marriage has become a drama ....🤣
Aap hamesha ladaki o ko kaam karne ke liye bol rahe ho. Agree. But what about house responsibilities? Middle class logo k pass 24 hrs k nokar chakar nahi rehete, aur bahot logo ko khana to kisi cook ke hath ka pasand nahi aata. In that situation what should be done? Wo 8-10 hrs ki job karke ghar pe aane k baad bhi kaam to khatam hi nahi hota.
Women are changing, earning but a man still expects a glass of water in his hand as he returns from his work. When men will start working in kitchen?
@@risinggamer3011 Fair enough.:)
Men must know how to cook. It removes a potential threat from an argumentative wife.
Things will happen with time. You are absolutely correct
@@adityakapoor2714 I am working, earing and taking care of my home and kid really well. And I have achieved it with support of my husband. But when i see people around me, I feel bad.
Aur teri aukaat kya hai mujhe batane ki mujhe kya karna chahiye ya kya nahi? apne ghar ka haal sudhar sakta hai to sudhar.
But didi men kaise sikhe khana banane ? Kon sikhayega 😢
I am coming from a Bengali middle class family, my father was WBCS officer of A grade now retired and my mother was a high school teacher of Sanskrit and political science. And I am working in a primary school as assistant teacher because I love this profession so much under govt of West Bengal. I am 34 still unmarried and facing troubles to choose life partner. I find myself similar to the character Gourav of your story because I am not IITian or similar category. Your video is making my day , sir. Many many thanks.
I am from the land of Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar and Raja Rammohan Roy . Very happy to hear the names from you😊
If you do not have hair or are short in height then it became double difficult to get gf
Don't get married
Rammohan roy was crypto Christian
Gudiya and Bhudia was epic ! I salute your straightforward approach and such practical humor !
Your words are full of wisdom. Forty years back when I got married, my grandmother advised me to keep working and earning. It helped me a lot in being level headed .
Aisa bhi nahi hai ki ladki shadi ke time naa kama rahi ho toh kamayegi hi nahi .I was not earning at the time of marriage but after marriage cleared exams and now I am in govt job.
Bhai aap larke ho, shadi ke baad larki pe bahut Jimmedari aur bojh aa jata hain toh unko jyada muskil hoti hain clear karne mein. Haan phir bhi kuch job le sakti hain par tabhi jab Husband supportive tab possibility banta hain.
You're definitely an exception bro. Many of friends got married with plans to clear govt exam after. Nothing. They didnt even put 1 ounce of effort into studying only used it as an excuse to avoid work.
@@ujjwalkumar1501 mein ladki hi hoon
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It is only 0.1% in society , but not majority
45 lpa CTC on Microsoft is around. 1 lac per month don't fell in trap of CTC it is highly inflated by adding 4 years component of stocks in single year
One of my friend who is a khandani raees married a dentist girl who married him hoping to cash in on his riches. Soon she realized that the control is in the hand of sasur. She left him in 3 months.
You are so genuine and practical !! I love your honesty and unbiased attitude !!
Trust me! Unmarried is better than married! Only money is required to be happy in life, rest is man made misconceptions. However our body will function the way it has been made. World is not best place to live 😂😂
World is best place it depends how you are living, don't try to impose your dead beliefs on someone else.
One of your case is relatable to my neighbours
Case 1- The boy was IITian and girl was normal btech but doing job in good company. Boy family having medical shop with one sister unmarried , girl family middle class ( Father A class officer) brother is also Iitian unmarried. There marriage was Arranged marriage. Both party equally Invested in marriage. But after one year they got divorced.
Girl side Reason- The boy family asked for money every month (they were totally dependent) ( free ka pesa aa rha hai toh medical shop mai kamane ku jaye hum bi ash krnge ) . The boy give half of his salary to his parents or more sometimes. He dont save anything likeFD or mutual fund. The boy want to run his house from girl salary. He restricted girl not to buy expensive things. (Like saying pese ki barbaadi) . So the girl family give her plan to save his 75% of salary on FD and 20% keep with you. So that boy stopped giving his half salary to his family. Unfortunately plan doesn’t worked and fights was continued.
Boy Reason - Girl dont cook food. (Inlaws side) and fight with them.
They got divorced after one year of marriage. (No settlement happened) both working on bangluru with reputed companies.
Yes ...life mai overqualified hona bhi galat hai ..
Iitian ..and engineering background have no respect now .
People are fond of high salry only in pvt .
But ek jagah bcom wale ne sbi po ki job crack karli , he is much good and decent .
Low investment high return (govt employee).
But in case of pvt high investment high return until and unless corona virus comes to lay off employees 😄
No relation works on money as base
Most of the time parents are the reason.
In this case its better for parents to sell their assets and put in fd for regular income instead of giving to their children they should enjoy their life. Let children earn and build their own empire.
सब की लाइफ के अपने चैलेंजेस होते है
Also make a video on 2 more conditions:-
In laws well settled, husband earning well but wife is on career break due to motherhood and no support from family members for job in future
Yes important topic
Yes very necessary...I think join your job asap after baby becomes little big....or join now and keep a maid for day time....my relatives are doing same
@@robinieor it's RISKIER to hire babysitter these days....
@@quizudita hmmm I understand but that's what I m observing these days...mothers have no choice left....society sucks nowadays...
Bful message sir...high time people realized these facts...v practical advice..everyone need to follow
Your advice is absolutely considerate. Salute Sir 🙏🏽
Sir Salute to you !!!Very wise words and Lesson for life.Indian parents are so negative that many times they do not appreciate whatever we do for them.Seriously Sir it’s very difficult to deal with their restricted mindset.Please make more videos for families and younger generations..Thanks 🙏
Agreed with everything sir -- just a change recommended for boys - if you are looking for a working wife, please be ready to help in some way with housework
This is really important to understand as a youth and I must say this is the only channel which talks about one of the major issue of society. I am really thankful that You Tube has recommended me your channel Sir.
Really good advice, job is not only for money buy it teaches lot to a person. If a women does job her family supports her in household work, she gets her own identity also office meine dimag kharab karne k baad she starts loving her family more ghar pe rehke ghar k log hi kharab lagne lagte hai. Also, our life is more disciplined we become more proactive the approach of our children also changes towards there mother.... I'm working and also taking financial responsibility so both me and my husband can fulfill our dreams.
Quite well
Great analysis Sir ,very true ...all men has failed after watching this video who are married😂😂
Your videos are very informative & practical to life.. i appreciate how you making middle class aware by your life experience and knowledge
Sir kyaa video bnai hai, kitni jgh to same meri family condition btaa di aapne, kmaal observation hai aapka har topic pr, mai shehmati rkhta hu aapki baato se ladki kmane wali jarur honi chahiye no matter kitna kmaa rhii hai and agr nhi kmaa rhii to ghr ko smbhal ske itni capabilities hone chahiye, sabse khtrnak chiz jo aapne boli ki 1993 ke baad wali ladkiya nhi krngi ghr ka sara kaam sahi se, ekdum satik bool gye aap, maan gya mai aapki sense of humor ko great, keep coming those topics bahit faiyda kra rhee ho aap smaj ka, lots of love and respect from New Delhi 😊
A simple fact of life, look for simplicity rather than material pleasures.
And score higher on the happiness index. Quality education is still very rare in India, mind you, even IITians, IIM graduates have only learnt how to be gainfully employed, but that's not helping their marriage life, because of zero experience/ knowledge about how family & marriage as institutions work.
👏👏well said
Wow...this so so practical and true! Working women will have less securities💪👍...
It got me when he said "27 pe toh mera hk hai . 12 tu rakh lena". Just epic.
I love your lectures! Very very practical!
Amazing, so well brought out by you
Your each video makes me speechless & watching you is an absolute bliss🙂
Another major problem arising is related to cooking. These days girls are less interested in cooking than before.(might be due to work pressure). And by nature, boys are also less interested in cooking. Not everyone prefer to get food cooked by a cook. If both are working then anyone of bride or groom should know cooking to make life easier.
Why cant you also cook if wife is working woman?!
@@aena5995 there’s nothing wrong in cooking, be it by man or a woman, its just a matter of choice, whoever is good at it should do it.
Those who eat, must know to make the food.
@@cauliflowerhead2735 yes, its a good to have skill, makes a person independent. But a person who is not interested in cooking cant become a good cook.
Man too can cook
Loan will be cleared in some years then situation will improve.
If both are in service they can together clear the loan by giving more amount of instalments.
WoW ! What a point !! Nobody tells about these things. So true..Its reality..
Many girls earn only ₹30k but they desire a groom who earn ₹2lakh . Then what to do for that?
Then they should be ready to take the responsibility of household, with necessary help from the husband. Otherwise get lost.
With time they have to settle I mean around 30 years😂
Sound and practical advise. The smart ones will listen and follow. Others may keep finding reasons not to. And will have to suffer for their poor choices.
You are right , I know these problems.
You are telling the truth of our society
Aapki muhim mein aapko bahut bahut shakti pradaan kare the higher power up there 😀
Binge watching since this morning. On to my 5th video!
My daughter is married to a Marathi and after producing a child he has left my daughter in my house. I am retired without pension and I dont know what to do.
What was reason behind separation
Working wife is good until baby comes around. Uske bad mommy brain doesnt want to leave the child behind and psychological consequences of missing mother and childhood neglect are immense. Most of the psychologically sick/ socially unsuccessful kids come from working mom family.
Best case is to marry a smart woman who is capable of working. Later as she has kids, let the mom focus on and raise helathy kids till they are teenagers and then if needed/desired she can start her own business that can be passed down.
Also girls, you will be lucky if your family lets you keep your work earnings. Sara paisa le leti hai "supportive" in-law family. Even the grocieries, bills will be paid for by your salary. Degree of freedom will depend on family to family, irrespective of your salary. Also, you will 100% feel resentment towards your husband and his family for making you work when you dont want to (esp when baby arrives). Also the ego battles will be full on.
Source- I have closely seen and counselled many working women in my life. Intelligent housewifes family is better/healthier than working wife's family.
Will do a detailed video on it
500% agree with your thoughts, aisa channel nahi hai dusra.
Very very informative vedio.. very helpful.. very practically told sir.. Thank you for knowledge sharing..
Additionally background checks kii importance hai yaa nahi?...character..nature..education n where from...social standing ( confirmed thru verification as good), stability of economy...liabilities of siblings...are some other factors important
Amit sir don't be discouraged by negetive comments you are doing good 👍 job
Sir make video on why high earning with high education girls are not getting married, when they are from humble background.
Sir, good to hear you mentioning Sri Vidyasagar & Sri Rammohan from Bengal whose thoughts were v advanced. But me a bengali feel in case of marriages we look for a good family meaning which carries good value system and is educated. Wealth comes after that for security. Our girls also we feel need to be well educated so that they are independent yet are polite and respectful due to their good background. Even if they earn more than their husbands they will still respect their husbands provided he behaves well with her. So also our boys are thought to respect their wives whether working or not as their children later will learn a lot from their mother. Wealth is a requirement and in these times it's better if both earn. It is for the husband to see that his wife does not face any insults from anyone. Once the wife really gets annoyed as she is independent she can take steps not good for the couple. So it's best all stay peacefully without any unnecessary demand. 26th Oct.
Thousands percent true sir. Really I am going to admire you. Thank you so much. You help us to be practical. Thanks.
These videos are extremely relevant.... Brings lot of clarity in life and lot of peace of mind too..... I am glad that I earn.... Thanks a lot Mr. Sango 😊
Eye opening video Amit Sirji about marrige thinking of Society's trend
Hats of to you sir, you hard hit the facts, without any fear, but you were wrong only in one aspect gudiya will always harass budiya and that too very effectively, in whatever may be the scenario😁
Sir what you tell is v true and practical..best content
A very practical concept for Indian parents. 👍
If girl is independent then marriage is not important
@@manikyum adopt a child before 40 and thanks for ur advice
@@nainakmk9941 Please do not spoil that child's future for the sake of your convenience or selfishness. A young child needs a Dad while growing up, and for that matter both parents. Fatherless children grow up to have a lot of issues especially girl children, best example is the USA. You might be oblivious to this blaring truth because of the fog of feminism blinding you .I respect your decision and apologies for the earlier joke , but please don't adopt that child if you don't have a man in your life.
U r error 404😂
Zabardastttttt Mazza Aa Gaya, Amit Ji! 🌶️✨🌶️
80,000 kam nahi hote, apko ground realities ka kuch samajh hai ki nahi?
He wasn't talking about lower middle class
@@sudeshnadandapat3707 are you sure about that
The way you promoting girl education and self dependency is great. Parents should also learn a huge lesson from your video.. or sabse badi baat ye bhi hai ki jinko sikhna chahiye woi nhi sunenge😂😂
No one should expect a daughter-in-law to cook. She is not a cook, maid,/servant, caregiver/nanny.
Ok. What all can be expected then
😂 then no women should expect money or any financial thing from his husband , but woman want rich husband bcoz she wants his 💸
@@abhinashsinghania440 I make 4 times the money that a iit iim guy would make in india and I'm a girl.. I don't need his money but all I want is respect and love. What's the solution then??
@@vickyAlways in tech in California
@@technicaltreasures7297 then don’t get married
10:18 sir I am agree with you 🙏
But I want to let you know that in our society if girl's money earning capabilitie is more than boys then girls do not respect her husband and family of her husband .....
Sir I want to know in this situation what should we do 🙏🙏🙏
👍🏻 So true If u r not working you have to take care of house unpaid😀
Sir can you please make a video on Age gap in marriage? Whether one should marry somebody elder to them (15 years elder)
Same case
15yrs is way too mch 😮
No
15 yrs💀
Wonderful video you have done commendable job to change thinking of society
Very practical channel in today, s circumstances, Thank you Sir
You are absolutely right sir. Eye opener for current and previous generations.
Sourabh ka case hai mera..20years since marriage..what u said is happening even now..
A home and family can work better with equal division of labour. Its good if girl is working and adding to the total income of the house. What about other things. pls do make a video that if a boy wants a working girl, he should be prepare to share the household chores , taking care of children etc too. The two wheels of a marriage should be equally balanced. So a working girl should also ask before marriage whether the boy is ready to share the house hold chores or not. Nahi to ek thaka rahega aur doosra doston ke saath sharab peeta rahega. I am sorry if I am too harsh.
Yes you are accurate... I am ca student. And in final stages I am not working due to study. Meri saas ko wahi lagta hai... Ki kyu layi hai gudiya.? Is chakkar me meri padhai bhi nahi ho rahi
To aapne final se pehele shadi kyu ki
@@Pheonixia ekdum sahi kaha, ye ek new category hai, wfh toh nahi but full time study from home equivalent to wfh
Sir you are right you are the only one
Superb👌👌👌👌very practical advices sir..great👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻thnxs for guiding us🙏🙏
Yes you are the only one close to reality... 👍
This video hit home, thank you sir !
Logical and practical/factual explanation
sahi bat hai..job me challenges family changes se kam lgte hai after marriage, specially for girls bcz shadi k bad you are never perfect for everyone evrytime. Job gives you space and peace for womens individual personality.
I am working girl and still do all house hold work
Great Sir 🙏🏼True mirror to society
Sir I am commenting while watching,
It's too good.
Sir aap videos duration chote matt kariyega...aapke lambe videos worthful hai I always watched your full video.
Thank you Sir for sharing such a valuable information with us.
Your advise is very practical Sirji.Biggest problem of today's generation girls is they have not learnt cooking and it's not possible for every mahila to engage in gainful occupation.But with little difficulty we can definitely search a good bride who is working.
Learning cooking is not so big thing and no one needs degree for cooking. My sister never knew cooking before marriage but soon became an excellent cook post marriage due to love and sense of responsibility towards husband
@@princeofheaven19 It could be because of good sanskar given in your family.But we have seen many cases where girls never try to learn cooking even after getting married or find it difficult to learn.
Today's generation boys should learn cooking and try to become independent.
@@rudramath5949 why a woman needs to learn cooking compulsory? "She must earn and she must cook." What a hypocrisy.! Man, it ll be good for you to learn cooking and share that responsibility with your (future) wife. Your married life would be better.
To bhaishab jab aaj k time pe ladkiya pese k liye ghar se nikal kar mehnat kar sakti hai , to aap aadmi log pet bharne k liye 2 wakt ka khana banana nhi seekh sakte kya ?
Mtlb doglapan itna bhara hai na logo me
Thank you so much for these life videos.I believe even there are no books written on such topics
Sir how do you judge a prospective groom or bride n parent for their nature. If they have a nature to fight or are peaceful how do we get to know. Pls guide as thus us very important. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I myself being doctor mbbs Joining my Md at 28years.. i m into court marriage instead use the money for house.
Being buddhist and from vidharbha we have no dowry custom.
But still why marry a working women you want ur wife to be with you all time and do household chores then marry a housewife.
Why boys parents want everything educated, good looking earning and you want to have your daughter in law to pay her income to u.
Equal share in finance responsibity is right.
But as being girl who taught to focus heavily on career i prefer earning
I don't know why even doctor i talk they want there wife to cook everyday how that's possible for a doctor considering working hours.
I find myself so frustrated that feels being single is much better
How much doctors earn ,can you give practical range
बहुत ही प्रेक्टिकली विडियों होती है आपकी
Are there so many jobs that all brides and bridegrooms are employed .
Though I agree with what u saying.
Practical from micro point of view but not from macro point.😁
Exactly...
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Wow. What a wonderful explanation.
Your videos are very relevant and helpful really nice 👌👌👌👌
Best, Thank you Sir 🙏💐💐💐👌👌
Very informative and practical Sir🙏🏻
Either from the Girl's side or boys side, The girl is suppose to be earning😅
Whats wrong, same expected from boy.
you are the only one .meri ladki ke liye same ise hi riste aaye hi aur abhi confusion dur hogaya .alag hi ki iit nahi grade 1 officer .par ghar nahi hi
Words of wisdom!
Thanks guruji very well said. To the point
👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏 great words it's really right 👍 keep it up sir true words bless you Bhai ji 🙏🙏💐
Thank you for keeping different aspects of life. I am grateful 🙏
Why can't aspirations be low ? Low aspirations wali families me sirf ladka kama ke bhi guzara kar sakta hai
He is way too practicall.
But ppl think twice about marrying girl raised by single mother, they think boy will have to take care of mother
Thanks sir, I was searching solution, now I convinced , you have solved my problem
Uncle ji apki bat me dam he aesa lgta h. I'm 21 years old and has been watching your video for 6days.....😊