In one video u were saying don't marry a girl who's not working. Now u r saying job can happen after marriage. And let me tell you no one tears the books after marriage but not everyone supports too. After marriage most of the in laws treat the girl as a working machine. Forget about support. This is my personal experience. Some support & some don't. So, it's better be self dependent before marriage if u want to.
so girls and boys should not waste time scrolling social media and waste time in other things during 15-25 and get their carieer set (earning atleast) till 25 and get married before 30 anyhow. also girls and boys should marry each other of same capabilities and and same age approxx. more the diffrence more the issues. if boy is earning good (upper middle class )and wife is housewife then they two will not understand each other life and fight forever , also if their is age diffrence then they will fight because at diffrent ages people think diffrently, A 24 year girl will be thinking of a price charming and fairy tail life after marriage and if they marry a 28 year old man he will be thinking of a more bigger carrier money success work and wife will think he does not love and will be busy with random strangers on social media while husband will be busy with future goals and all is destroyed and just formality and misunderstanding cheating , husband will think wife does not care about his career and family etc. so always marry someone who is earning approx same as you and are of same age. girls who are jobless should always prefer boys who are earning below 50K around 30k if he earns higher than that then his dreams are diffrent and also you are not earning means you are also doing something wrong . and also approx same age. same applies for boys.
@@sultanqureshi2766 Nobody waste their time scrolling social media unless you are son of Ambani or very rich farmer in Punjab/haryana or a UP/bihar politician. Everybody goes to work based on his/her intelligence pay differs. And Marriage should not depend on Age and earning alone but also on personality,values, aspirations of that human. You love a human not his beauty or money. If above things are taken care no problem with age difference. Main thing is to judge thinking levels and values of a human before marriage. you can marry person of any age
He has about studies after marriage in pre - marital counselling video i.e you should clarify in detail about your expectations after marriage. So only one video syllabus is not sufficient.
Marriages have become so practical these days, so many strategies , so many stats to follow, all about money, financial stability.... Nobody is marring for love and compatibility which i feel is the only factor which can help to sustain in a married lyf even in the worst times.... trust me i married for love and hit by the worst of circumstance still never got a feeling of giving up on us.... Love and compatibility is important
@@karmatruth8698 True but it depends upon person to person.... If the boy will show a completly different pic to girl before marriage to impress like taking out on expensive dinners, spending lavishingly , setting unrealistic expectations then the girl is not at fault... Most boys do this and after marriage they will suddenly start thinking of money and will start counting the expenses
@@karmatruth8698 thanks for sharing your story.... i believe at 30+ age one become too mature and independent along with that if you are unmarried due to peer and family pressure people rush into marriage and sometimes miss the red signs.... Once you get married then other factors comes into picture like in laws expectations, been judged at every single point in life due to which all the frustration of women is directed to man and thus the things get change .... Not sure if you could relate to this
People don't want explore anything , they don't even know what is right and wrong for them , what kind of life they want , they just watch movies , web series and set unrealistic expectations about love marriage and in most of the cases it is not going to fulfilled by either of the partner
Not an urgency to get married at 22-23. Girls should have a job/business exposure for 2-3 years before getting married to see where they actually stands. Getting married at early age will make them not to learn value of money as they would be papa ki Pari at 22-23 age and will expect the same from husband and his family. As a girl barely completes her degree at 22-23, they should get married when they have atleast 2-3 years of job/business market exposure.
@@Hemant81Kumar Yes, you are correct aiming for good career takes time for some and they will learn the value of money as conveyed in my comment earlier. Just to clarify, jobs/business exposure relevant/irrelevant to their dream career will surely move girls towards practical living.
science has changed, earlier life expectancy was also very low, it was difficult to run a family without the male, now the science has progressed and the life expectancy is more almost double, family can still survive we even after the partner's death in a worst situation. earlier the better but marrying late is not all that bad
Yeh to kuch bhi ni world data dekhlo kaise japan corea mein 50 years ke unmarried log ghum rahe bcs of job culture. Bohat jald woh chiz India mein lagu hoga.
Sir, I liked your thoughts on videos you shared. However I totally disagree with this. I saw many of my friends (girls) who married early, before 25, and have very bad married life. Jab tak wo larkiya sahas kar ke divorce le pati hai tab tak to 30 ke upar ho jat hai...32, 33 or 36.... and they don't have experience of job, professtion or outside of house, wo duniya dekhi hi nahi hoti hai. Kyuki shadi tak ghar me hi thi ma baap ki under me and shadi ke baad sasural and pati ki protection me aa gayi. So most of them don't have personal opinion, no confidence of decision making even for simple things. And to start life from scratch profationally and personally after 33-34 with imotionlal scars are huge work. Isiliye so many girls gut gut ke jiti hai. Divorce bhi wahi larkiya le pati hai jisne shadi se pehle thori bahut duniya dekhi hai aur family ke bahar bhi duniya sundar hai iski anubhab pehle ki hai.
@@chandranem unlogo ne shadi karni hai bus isiliye shadi ki. Jiwan ka to do list ka ek kaam niptana hai isiliye gharwalo ne bhi de diya. Mostly arranged marriage. Shadi kyu karni hai, kaise nibhegi etc ka koi dhyan nahi tha... to jo pati mila wo ekdum bekar ya opposite tha jiske sath kabhi koi compromise wala rista bhi nahi ban paya. Jyadataro ne physical violence ke baad ye decision liya.
True, women should at least work for 2-3 years before marrying.otherwise she will be ground every where and by 35 she is fit for nothing but wait for husband or in-laws for every silly decision and even financially weak
80%-90% Parents want their children to marry within caste , difficult to find bride and groom within caste with all qualities is the main reason for delay
when u want to keep cast ..janmkundali matching...plus it nature ...looks ... economic level ..........marriages are delayed ... either 1 or 2 of this 5 has to be has to be sacrificed
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I know all who got married early ...they have so many regrets from life...early marriage is not the key to happy marriage but the right mindset.. We can not say anything in absolute sense...life don't go that way
In case of girls who want to do masters from USA or abroad it is not possible to get married at 22-23 as it’s very tough to find such boys who will educate girl abroad spending so much money. By the time they finish studies and start working they are already 25-26. And then it takes another couple of years to find someone and get married.
Sir I wish this video was made by you 10 years back. People please take this matter seriously. I focused on my job as I wanted to be financially independent... Which now I'm. My parents always told me they will find a suitable match for me.... I trusted them.. Met few girls but didn't workout.. Main reason is most of them had done their masters or pursing PhD but none of them were working or had any future plan, or if they are currently working then they don't want to work after marriage. Now I'm 36, and my parents are telling me find someone by myself. Made a blunder by taking this very casually. My learning, respect your parents and always share your thoughts with them but you have to make your own decision and older people are not necessarily wise although their mean well for you.
Don't worry. See that one point where people are rejecting you. I married my husband at 33. And I was 26. He being 6 years elder to me. Keep faith. I had 3 more alliance at hand when I selected him who were overseas and 3 yr elder to me.. but I selected this person because they showed more interest on us and nothing more to complain except age. I didn't feel attaining age would be his mistake.
Why don't u adopt an orphan? U will get a company and purpose in life.. U think u will be very happy but its not always true.. I have seen in my family, majority of my cousins are unhappy irrespective of gender.
Sir make a video on wife that is earning more money than husband and taking equal responsibility of expenses. What could be the future of there marriage.
Not disagreeing completely, but Sabki life alag hoti h aur sabke life ke expectation alag hote hai. So ek hi formula sabko suit nahi karega. Main aese logo ko bhi dekha h jinhone early 20s me shaadi ki aur 30 tak pahuchate pahuchate wo mentally drain ho chuke hote hain. Aur main aese logon ko bhi jaanta hu jinhone time leke shaadi kia, aur fir bhi sab changa hai unki life me. Upar se har koi marriage k lie bana bhi nahi hota. Kai husband aur wife aese h jo literally ek torture hote h ek dusare k lie. So koi formula hai nai. Apni jindagi h, apne hisaab se jiyo. But ladka ho ya ladki, make sure ki apne paanv pe jarur khade ho kyonki aapko kesa partner mil jaaye iski koi guarantee nahi. Love marriage me bhi nahi.
Marriage should be a personal choice and not as per age..I am glad woman are giving their education and work important...As far as getting married goes it is better to get married when you are well set in your career and are able to employ a full time nanny rather than expecting family members to run after your kids.. Biological clock is not as limited as it made out to be .. Maybe woman are the east facing plot.....
Before marriage you get ample time to prepare n get into job of your liking. After marriage you have responsibilities (of which you were not used to before marriage), thus reducing the time to prepare for the desired job.
Uncle is right but its really necessary to make your own career and then get married. Atleast get a decent career. And marriages are not some deal jisme pros and cons dekh k kar liya. You have to consider a lot of things before choosing a person. Especially for girls, you have to see if your husband and in-law support your career and education or not. Bs uth k shaadi nhi kar sakte. I genuinely believe that the right person comes at right time and the person is predestined by God and comes in our life when we are fully ready for marriage. And matrimonial sites are not bad. You get to date, choose and decide according to your preferences. The only thing is you have to do a Good background check and try to find someone whose hometown is same as yours so that you can easily do thei background check.
Early marriage is not solution, getting a right partner for whole life is the key. Don't worry who crossed 30 and finding their soulmate through matrimonial site, it's not that bad....it is just that u have to cross check and meet people properly...trust Hanuman ji....you will attract your better half if u have faith in God.... otherwise marriage kiski kb tak tikke it's all luck 😎 Bdw late marriage is always better than early divorce
getting a right partner, no one can guaranty that , science has changed, earlier life expectancy was also very low, it was difficult to run a family without the male, now the science has progressed and the life expectancy is more almost double, family can still survive we even after the partner's death in a worst situation. earlier the better but marrying late is not all that bad
One scenario you missed Let's girl married early age and she doesn't have job and marriage life didn't go well she gets divorced. Then girl has to depend on her parents and parents think this will be burden that why all parents think that girl should be financially independent before marriage. As divorce Rate is high now a days parents are scared
Sir, has explained the reality, which is happening in society. But, in today's world marriage is not the ultimate aim of life if it is so then it's ok. Generally at 16-17 yrs boys/girls complete schooling. Then 4 yr graduation/BTech etc. Next, min 3-4 yr jobs. Arnd 25 yrs an average boys/girls start earning about 25-30k. If they r staying in metros then rentals & pers expenses else no fin independence. I personally feel as life span has also been increased. Hence, 28-30yrs is ideally rt marriageable age. Else early marriage early kids then get involved in jindagi ke taane baane mei aur bojh dhone mei. Attain fin independence first no burden on parents apni jindagi k khud Malik.Parents should give freedom to children for selecting their life partners of course with some conditions.
Shadi aur bache ke baad couple itna mature ho jata hai k mil kr apna kaam bhi setup kr skte hain. Field same, maximum time ek dusre ke saath, same goals, same motives, same challenges, true companionship, aur life above excellence ho jati hai. Believe me, I am living example. Sir ki baat mano life poori bdl jayegi jaise hmari bdli. Thoda mushkil tha initially mindset bdlna pr jb himmat kri to sir ke margdarshan se sb awesome ho Gaya. Can't thank you enough sir.... 🙏
Sir, you're very right.. you are showing a mirror to the educated society prejudices and false assumptions.. Kudos to you for bringing every apt reality with astute & practical solutions... thanks 🙏🏼
Liked you view . But Marriage is a very personal concept there is no fixed formula .. ppl getting married at 22-25 and 25-35 both are happy and sad equally .. so personally speaking i would not say marrying Early gives u high probability of happiness.. but yes body structure looks n personality are at its best till late 20's if that's the major criteria for you getting married
Aap bolte ho ki koi kitaab nahi faadta But sasural main ladki ko kai baar itna kaam karate hain North main up main aapko pata nahi Bahu aate hi saas boodhi ho jati hai Ladke maa ke bhakt ho jate hai Kai ladke biwi ko maa baap ki seva ke liye hi chod ke doosre City main job karte hain bahut kharab hai haal up ki nanad kuch kaam nahi karti hain
It is a very nice topic for society now a days. If we really want to maintain society for a better future then these things needs to be discussed more openly. Very nice sir
Online marriages are good and common in USA for husband and wife. Especially if both well educated and working abroad. But problems occur with in-laws family they are not happy but cordial 😊
Parents tumhari choice ko toh mana kar denge aur phir waisa match khud bhi nhi la payenge and fir haath khade kar denge...toh bhai kar lo...kal ko kuwanre reh gaye toh parents bolenge humari toh koi galti nhi, ye wala woh wala match achha tha par tum ussi k piche pagal the
I'm 30 y.o. male. Had a pretty bad breakup at 25. Realised money is not just important but at the topmost priority for securing a good life partner (in 90-95% cases). Never looked back since. I'm unmarried right now, but I'll be damned if I even approach a girl without making my 'aukat' first. Thank you for the wisdom sir. It's good but I won't be able to face that burn again. 🙏
same thing happened to me.. she left me for money.. i decided not to get married.. will use surrogacy for child.. but won't become workhorse, atm of any wymn
why surrogacy, you can have normal baby even at this age (I am not against Surrogacy), I got married when I was two years senior than you my wife was 26 and we have a normal baby and things are still going fine, earlier the better in every aspect of life including marriage but everyone has different purpose in life, enjoy it, you have not lost everything, those days they were marring early because life expectancy was low now a days people are living longer. So take it easy, you might be little late but still will reach your target.
Nice video! Sangwan sir I would like to know your opinions about men going single, without marriage. It’s becoming more popular in the west, and coming here to India soon as well I think.
Your comments about desperate marriage through online portals is perfect. I have seen most marriages through this medium based on lies and having disastrous consequences.
Late marriages always have a disproportionate negative impact on women compared to men, As a successful 40+ man i have no desire to get married as i have several options open to much younger women, the same cannot be said for women who after 40s have a low threshold of choices.... Unfortunately this is the bitter truth
@@t33554 Women have it much worse in case a marriage goes downhill, there i a alarming rise in the number of single mothers, I think somewhere our society needs to support women more in case of failed or dead end marriages, and not blame them, Indian society needs to free women from family,societal and peer pressures and let them live on their own terms similar to men
@@t33554 Unfortunately whatever you have said is true, And that too in a best case scenario, where a woman is educated and living in a city...I shudder to think what happens to women in villages and tier 3-4 tier cities....Our media needs to stop portraying that it is ok for married men to engage in affairs....it is subtly even displayed on family shows like Tarek Mehta where extra marital flirting is normalised...in India unfortunately the onus is still on the women to maintain a healthy marriage...the only safeguard I see for women is a high degree of awareness of the Laws and education regarding this matter inorder to see the signs and avoid pitfalls in a relationship... Sadly I dont see anything drastic happening until attitudes towards women and single mothers change in India
Well..sir ji...mai apne 18 saal ke chote experiences se yeh zarur kehna chahungi ki life mei insaan kabhi bhi "settle" nai honewala 🤣...life always floats...so better to float with the flow , try your own ways to float and even if r about to sink no worries...bahubali baby ban zarur jayenge.. maa roop mei koi saver aa hi jayega 200 percent 😃😃 😍😍🙏enjoying your channel sir ji lage rahiye🙏
This video is the most needed video for me.. What you said about parents of girls are actually true.. Now a days girl's parents are not hurry for marriage of their daughters.. When their daughters turn 28 or 30 then the parents gets hyperactive but then it's too late to find a suitable guy for their daughter.. They are just destroying their daughters life.. And the demand of the girls' side is also very high... High salary, government employee blah blah blah... For this reason the marriage of girls gets delayed... This is happening with me right now.. If this goes for few years I will have definitely no option rather than stay single forever.. I pray to God that no girls means no girl will go through this toxic behaviour of parents... Thank you 🙏
Bilkul sahi sir, your videos are actual mirror of current society.watching since last 1 week, and very happy that somebody actually summarizing these things by making such videos.
Sir your absolutely correct ,this is scientifically right ,we all need a partner after certain age ,all young ppl have numerous relations just becoz of delayed marriage , romance ,comfort and adjustments requires a young age .
I had a rough patch of 15 years due to which it restricted me from marrying, I feel It is the mindset and the inner tenacity of finding the right partner.
Sir you are so right . I got married at 25 and had my first child at 27 and we are 37 now and so happy and settled. Now my husband is planning to complete his master's from renounced University.
Sir aap jaise rishtedar sabko milne chahiye, itni samajh sir maa baap ni de pate bacho ko itni sachai sir aise hi samjhaye rhena hume. Thank you so much.
So true! Each time I come across your valuable videos I'm confused which one should I see. Each one is so worthy of listening. I love your style of saying..' I want to become something ' 😀
Very nice topic. Need of the hour. People are keeping unrealistic expectations in the marriage market from both sides. Aur ladki walon ko toh ladka aisa chahiye jiski salary 1 lac ho per mnth car ho apna ghar ho. Mai ek ladke ko janti hu jiski age 29 hai 2 bhk ka flat hai versova mumbai mei parents ka usko ek choti sister hai jo ki married hai.father bank mei kaam karte hai aur mom home maker hai. Village mei bhi inka ghar hai fir bhi is ladke se koi shadi karne taiyar nahi wo isliye ki iski salary 35k per mnth hai. Due to covid uski salary appraisal nahi hui 2 yrs se. Sabko apni ladki ki shadi raja se karwani hai fir baad mei wo ladka ka nature kharab nikle chalega inko
Eligible /Sensible parents should feel the ground reality .They shouldn't see the day dream. Sir, you have told the 'Manji -Katha 'The present day Socity should think over it With regards.
Very nice video sir I see many examples around me with lots of wastage of money on marriages also girls with 30+ age getting married is a new normal First they save money and then using all of it for a better marriage functions its happening a lot
Well said sir. My junior who is also Dr is dilly dalyying wedding from 5 years for flimsy reasons-wants to settle in Bangalore-Her fiance wants to settle in small town as he has settled hospital there.She gives vague reasons and is postponing wedding.
Sounds vague to you . You have see it from her perspective. Men do not have restrictions in small town. Women do . What she wears , how she lives , at what time she works .. EVERYTHING IS JUDGED IN SMALL TOWN .
Uncle, I agree with some of your points and don't agree with some. Wish we could sit together in person and have a healthy discussion. Nevertheless, I thoroughly enjoy all your videos. Keep doing the good work. 👍
Sir all is collapsed, now we are only dragging our life...we can understand everything we know everything but actions are zero.. But your efforts are really the best .. I am from Kolhapur Maharashtra... I am not loosing faith but things are dramatically changing with very fast speed ,many of us are not able to pick that speed not econnmically,socially..... But I have a daughter of 14 I will really keep it in my mind...
In one video u were saying don't marry a girl who's not working. Now u r saying job can happen after marriage. And let me tell you no one tears the books after marriage but not everyone supports too. After marriage most of the in laws treat the girl as a working machine. Forget about support. This is my personal experience. Some support & some don't. So, it's better be self dependent before marriage if u want to.
Career is really important both for men and female. Completely agree. Marriage nhi hui tho bhi koi badi baat nhi
so girls and boys should not waste time scrolling social media and waste time in other things during 15-25 and get their carieer set (earning atleast) till 25 and get married before 30 anyhow.
also girls and boys should marry each other of same capabilities and and same age approxx. more the diffrence more the issues. if boy is earning good (upper middle class )and wife is housewife then they two will not understand each other life and fight forever , also if their is age diffrence then they will fight because at diffrent ages people think diffrently, A 24 year girl will be thinking of a price charming and fairy tail life after marriage and if they marry a 28 year old man he will be thinking of a more bigger carrier money success work and wife will think he does not love and will be busy with random strangers on social media while husband will be busy with future goals and all is destroyed and just formality and misunderstanding cheating , husband will think wife does not care about his career and family etc.
so always marry someone who is earning approx same as you and are of same age.
girls who are jobless should always prefer boys who are earning below 50K around 30k if he earns higher than that then his dreams are diffrent and also you are not earning means you are also doing something wrong . and also approx same age.
same applies for boys.
@@sultanqureshi2766 Nobody waste their time scrolling social media unless you are son of Ambani or very rich farmer in Punjab/haryana or a UP/bihar politician. Everybody goes to work based on his/her intelligence pay differs. And Marriage should not depend on Age and earning alone but also on personality,values, aspirations of that human. You love a human not his beauty or money. If above things are taken care no problem with age difference. Main thing is to judge thinking levels and values of a human before marriage. you can marry person of any age
He has about studies after marriage in pre - marital counselling video i.e you should clarify in detail about your expectations after marriage. So only one video syllabus is not sufficient.
Marriages have become so practical these days, so many strategies , so many stats to follow, all about money, financial stability.... Nobody is marring for love and compatibility which i feel is the only factor which can help to sustain in a married lyf even in the worst times.... trust me i married for love and hit by the worst of circumstance still never got a feeling of giving up on us....
Love and compatibility is important
great to hear from you... u r a genuine human being Madam.. God Bless You in abundance
@@unknownnumber6083 i agree
@@karmatruth8698 True but it depends upon person to person.... If the boy will show a completly different pic to girl before marriage to impress like taking out on expensive dinners, spending lavishingly , setting unrealistic expectations then the girl is not at fault... Most boys do this and after marriage they will suddenly start thinking of money and will start counting the expenses
@@karmatruth8698 thanks for sharing your story.... i believe at 30+ age one become too mature and independent along with that if you are unmarried due to peer and family pressure people rush into marriage and sometimes miss the red signs.... Once you get married then other factors comes into picture like in laws expectations, been judged at every single point in life due to which all the frustration of women is directed to man and thus the things get change .... Not sure if you could relate to this
People don't want explore anything , they don't even know what is right and wrong for them , what kind of life they want , they just watch movies , web series and set unrealistic expectations about love marriage and in most of the cases it is not going to fulfilled by either of the partner
Not an urgency to get married at 22-23. Girls should have a job/business exposure for 2-3 years before getting married to see where they actually stands. Getting married at early age will make them not to learn value of money as they would be papa ki Pari at 22-23 age and will expect the same from husband and his family. As a girl barely completes her degree at 22-23, they should get married when they have atleast 2-3 years of job/business market exposure.
@@Hemant81Kumar Yes, you are correct aiming for good career takes time for some and they will learn the value of money as conveyed in my comment earlier. Just to clarify, jobs/business exposure relevant/irrelevant to their dream career will surely move girls towards practical living.
science has changed, earlier life expectancy was also very low, it was difficult to run a family without the male, now the science has progressed and the life expectancy is more almost double, family can still survive we even after the partner's death in a worst situation. earlier the better but marrying late is not all that bad
People don't want to marry at age 23 to 27 because they don't want to take responsibilities early part of their life.
Yeh to kuch bhi ni world data dekhlo kaise japan corea mein 50 years ke unmarried log ghum rahe bcs of job culture.
Bohat jald woh chiz India mein lagu hoga.
Absolutely right yahi soch ha aj kl bachon ki responsibility lena hi nahi chahte
@@INDIAALLIANCE90
27 m baccha paida nahee ki toh pher kab? By the time kids grow people tend to grow way older
aisi chutiya responsibilties kyu he le shadi karke kya fayda hua hai batana bhai
Sir, I liked your thoughts on videos you shared. However I totally disagree with this. I saw many of my friends (girls) who married early, before 25, and have very bad married life. Jab tak wo larkiya sahas kar ke divorce le pati hai tab tak to 30 ke upar ho jat hai...32, 33 or 36.... and they don't have experience of job, professtion or outside of house, wo duniya dekhi hi nahi hoti hai. Kyuki shadi tak ghar me hi thi ma baap ki under me and shadi ke baad sasural and pati ki protection me aa gayi. So most of them don't have personal opinion, no confidence of decision making even for simple things. And to start life from scratch profationally and personally after 33-34 with imotionlal scars are huge work. Isiliye so many girls gut gut ke jiti hai. Divorce bhi wahi larkiya le pati hai jisne shadi se pehle thori bahut duniya dekhi hai aur family ke bahar bhi duniya sundar hai iski anubhab pehle ki hai.
@@chandranem unlogo ne shadi karni hai bus isiliye shadi ki. Jiwan ka to do list ka ek kaam niptana hai isiliye gharwalo ne bhi de diya. Mostly arranged marriage. Shadi kyu karni hai, kaise nibhegi etc ka koi dhyan nahi tha... to jo pati mila wo ekdum bekar ya opposite tha jiske sath kabhi koi compromise wala rista bhi nahi ban paya. Jyadataro ne physical violence ke baad ye decision liya.
True
@@pratibhauniyal8328 thank you.
@@chandranem mere comment ko ekbar phir se parhiye. Wo ladkiyo ki 21, 22 ya 23 me hi shadi ho gayi. Mainy early marriage likha.
True, women should at least work for 2-3 years before marrying.otherwise she will be ground every where and by 35 she is fit for nothing but wait for husband or in-laws for every silly decision and even financially weak
80%-90% Parents want their children to marry within caste , difficult to find bride and groom within caste with all qualities is the main reason for delay
Strongly agree 👍, Amit sir kindly try to clear this issue of marriage within caste, qualifications.
when u want to keep cast ..janmkundali matching...plus it nature ...looks ... economic level ..........marriages are delayed ... either 1 or 2 of this 5 has to be has to be sacrificed
Sabse badi problem yahi h
Exactly...
Thoda upar niche tolerate karo to best scenario milega
Aaj ki generation ki ladkiyon ne agar apni maa aur dadi ko khush dekha hota to shadi se itna bhagti nhi.
True
shadi na kar ke bhi koi khush ladki nhi dekhi ...
Ture
Now thigs are getting changed...
@@RohitMehar hn ab thighs patle hone lag gaye hain.. sad reality of our society
Following you from last 2 years when you had very less subscribers. Look at the pace of subscribers increased in last 4 months sir. They have grown like a multibagger stock… and its just a beginning! 💚🙏🏻 People have started realising your wisdom and what a gem you are.
@@YPSS-UTube yes truth
Nice Narration,
Facts and effect of Jyotish,caste, Religion,Region, Language , profession and money in present marriages.
Zindagi ki sachiyan baya kar di sir apne is video mein kash 2003 aap jaisa koi mentor mujhe or meri family ko guide karta to aaj life kuch or hoti
👍👏👏🙏🙏
RUclips recommended it late
I know all who got married early ...they have so many regrets from life...early marriage is not the key to happy marriage but the right mindset..
We can not say anything in absolute sense...life don't go that way
I agree to u. Can u pls share few instances
It's not important to marry early its important to marry RIGHT
East facing plot?!! Business hi chal ra hai kya hr jagah? Ye concept hai toh na hi Karo bhai 🙏
In case of girls who want to do masters from USA or abroad it is not possible to get married at 22-23 as it’s very tough to find such boys who will educate girl abroad spending so much money. By the time they finish studies and start working they are already 25-26. And then it takes another couple of years to find someone and get married.
Sir I wish this video was made by you 10 years back. People please take this matter seriously.
I focused on my job as I wanted to be financially independent... Which now I'm. My parents always told me they will find a suitable match for me.... I trusted them.. Met few girls but didn't workout.. Main reason is most of them had done their masters or pursing PhD but none of them were working or had any future plan, or if they are currently working then they don't want to work after marriage. Now I'm 36, and my parents are telling me find someone by myself. Made a blunder by taking this very casually. My learning, respect your parents and always share your thoughts with them but you have to make your own decision and older people are not necessarily wise although their mean well for you.
Don't worry. See that one point where people are rejecting you. I married my husband at 33. And I was 26. He being 6 years elder to me. Keep faith. I had 3 more alliance at hand when I selected him who were overseas and 3 yr elder to me.. but I selected this person because they showed more interest on us and nothing more to complain except age. I didn't feel attaining age would be his mistake.
USE SURROGACY ASAP(costs around 10-15 lakh in nepal)
Why don't u adopt an orphan? U will get a company and purpose in life.. U think u will be very happy but its not always true.. I have seen in my family, majority of my cousins are unhappy irrespective of gender.
Bahut chantoge to chanti-chantayi. Milegi
I think 22 is too early to get married... I think 27-28 is good for a guy to get married..
Oh Bhai sex drive Kam ho jati hai 27-28 mein
Sir make a video on wife that is earning more money than husband and taking equal responsibility of expenses. What could be the future of there marriage.
Not disagreeing completely, but Sabki life alag hoti h aur sabke life ke expectation alag hote hai. So ek hi formula sabko suit nahi karega. Main aese logo ko bhi dekha h jinhone early 20s me shaadi ki aur 30 tak pahuchate pahuchate wo mentally drain ho chuke hote hain. Aur main aese logon ko bhi jaanta hu jinhone time leke shaadi kia, aur fir bhi sab changa hai unki life me.
Upar se har koi marriage k lie bana bhi nahi hota. Kai husband aur wife aese h jo literally ek torture hote h ek dusare k lie. So koi formula hai nai. Apni jindagi h, apne hisaab se jiyo. But ladka ho ya ladki, make sure ki apne paanv pe jarur khade ho kyonki aapko kesa partner mil jaaye iski koi guarantee nahi. Love marriage me bhi nahi.
Kismat bhi to hoti hai sir.log height Kam hone se reject Kar dete hain. Sabko tall slim ladki chahiye.
Marriage should be a personal choice and not as per age..I am glad woman are giving their education and work important...As far as getting married goes it is better to get married when you are well set in your career and are able to employ a full time nanny rather than expecting family members to run after your kids.. Biological clock is not as limited as it made out to be .. Maybe woman are the east facing plot.....
Say it again Women are east facing plot.
Before marriage you get ample time to prepare n get into job of your liking. After marriage you have responsibilities (of which you were not used to before marriage), thus reducing the time to prepare for the desired job.
But if u get a decent entry level job , then start looking for a partner.
Uncle is right but its really necessary to make your own career and then get married. Atleast get a decent career. And marriages are not some deal jisme pros and cons dekh k kar liya. You have to consider a lot of things before choosing a person. Especially for girls, you have to see if your husband and in-law support your career and education or not.
Bs uth k shaadi nhi kar sakte.
I genuinely believe that the right person comes at right time and the person is predestined by God and comes in our life when we are fully ready for marriage.
And matrimonial sites are not bad. You get to date, choose and decide according to your preferences. The only thing is you have to do a Good background check and try to find someone whose hometown is same as yours so that you can easily do thei background check.
Hope of light is coming from this man. Everytime he posts video, he shares his experience and knowledge.
Early marriage is not solution, getting a right partner for whole life is the key. Don't worry who crossed 30 and finding their soulmate through matrimonial site, it's not that bad....it is just that u have to cross check and meet people properly...trust Hanuman ji....you will attract your better half if u have faith in God.... otherwise marriage kiski kb tak tikke it's all luck 😎
Bdw late marriage is always better than early divorce
getting a right partner, no one can guaranty that , science has changed, earlier life expectancy was also very low, it was difficult to run a family without the male, now the science has progressed and the life expectancy is more almost double, family can still survive we even after the partner's death in a worst situation. earlier the better but marrying late is not all that bad
Really ?
One scenario you missed
Let's girl married early age and she doesn't have job and marriage life didn't go well she gets divorced. Then girl has to depend on her parents and parents think this will be burden that why all parents think that girl should be financially independent before marriage. As divorce Rate is high now a days parents are scared
I have no child shadi hui h 28 ki age m now I am 30 and ab sasural m bhi pdai hi chl rhi h. Sb bs nokri chahti h .kisi ko hmse mtlb nhi h.
Sir, has explained the reality, which is happening in society. But, in today's world marriage is not the ultimate aim of life if it is so then it's ok. Generally at 16-17 yrs boys/girls complete schooling. Then 4 yr graduation/BTech etc. Next, min 3-4 yr jobs. Arnd 25 yrs an average boys/girls start earning about 25-30k. If they r staying in metros then rentals & pers expenses else no fin independence. I personally feel as life span has also been increased. Hence, 28-30yrs is ideally rt marriageable age. Else early marriage early kids then get involved in jindagi ke taane baane mei aur bojh dhone mei. Attain fin independence first no burden on parents apni jindagi k khud Malik.Parents should give freedom to children for selecting their life partners of course with some conditions.
Shadi aur bache ke baad couple itna mature ho jata hai k mil kr apna kaam bhi setup kr skte hain. Field same, maximum time ek dusre ke saath, same goals, same motives, same challenges, true companionship, aur life above excellence ho jati hai. Believe me, I am living example. Sir ki baat mano life poori bdl jayegi jaise hmari bdli. Thoda mushkil tha initially mindset bdlna pr jb himmat kri to sir ke margdarshan se sb awesome ho Gaya. Can't thank you enough sir.... 🙏
Indian parents don't like love marriage, kyuki unki nhi ho payi
Bete Teri jaise aachi sakal bhagwan ne sabko nhi di Abhi
Late married is better than early divorce...
Eldaam sahi
Sir, you're very right.. you are showing a mirror to the educated society prejudices and false assumptions.. Kudos to you for bringing every apt reality with astute & practical solutions... thanks 🙏🏼
Very informative video. Bring out the real issues faced by the younger generation and their parents.
Liked you view . But Marriage is a very personal concept there is no fixed formula .. ppl getting married at 22-25 and 25-35 both are happy and sad equally .. so personally speaking i would not say marrying Early gives u high probability of happiness.. but yes body structure looks n personality are at its best till late 20's if that's the major criteria for you getting married
Complete factual sense in your unique style is required for all generations in India. 👏👏👏
Aap bolte ho ki koi kitaab nahi faadta
But sasural main ladki ko kai baar itna kaam karate hain North main up main aapko pata nahi
Bahu aate hi saas boodhi ho jati hai
Ladke maa ke bhakt ho jate hai
Kai ladke biwi ko maa baap ki seva ke liye hi chod ke doosre City main job karte hain bahut kharab hai haal up ki nanad kuch kaam nahi karti hain
Its nt only in up Delhi is no less . mentality yahi hai almost sabki kuch log hain jo alag soch k hai .
@@DaljitSingh-dv7dmplzz find a educated family then ,
Very interesting and real world examples. You have the gift of explaining convincingly
I appreciate the subject you have broadly covered. 👍 all the best for this initiative
Very nice information. We will definately think over it for our daughters.
Perfect video sirji, totally agree with you, keep rocking
I liked the contents. I started listening to your videos last week. Find them practical and informative. Thanks
It is a very nice topic for society now a days. If we really want to maintain society for a better future then these things needs to be discussed more openly. Very nice sir
So true..Request you to keep creating such videos. It will really bring out change in society.
Sir u r doing great job. Anxiously waiting for ur next...
Exactly.. urgency nahi hai... Thank you for making this video on this... I can relate to this as I am currently in this phase.
Online marriages are good and common in USA for husband and wife. Especially if both well educated and working abroad. But problems occur with in-laws family they are not happy but cordial 😊
Nice topic as expected.. Indian family together never discuss about all this topic...
Very valid points raised, practical thinking
I m glad someone is speaking out n shaking people into awareness
28 and unmarried as struggling with parents for love marriage ( 8yr long relationship). Still fighting and will make it through hopefully.
All the best
That's sad.
❤
Parents tumhari choice ko toh mana kar denge aur phir waisa match khud bhi nhi la payenge and fir haath khade kar denge...toh bhai kar lo...kal ko kuwanre reh gaye toh parents bolenge humari toh koi galti nhi, ye wala woh wala match achha tha par tum ussi k piche pagal the
You have a very practical approach to life.
Thanks a lot sir for this type of clearity about marriage🙏🙏🙏
आपके उठाये गए सभी विषय बहुत जरूरी होते हैं।साथ ही आप problrms का solutions भी देंते हैं,मुझे आपकी vedios से बहुत सही दिशा मिलती है।धन्यवाद ।
I'm 30 y.o. male. Had a pretty bad breakup at 25. Realised money is not just important but at the topmost priority for securing a good life partner (in 90-95% cases). Never looked back since.
I'm unmarried right now, but I'll be damned if I even approach a girl without making my 'aukat' first.
Thank you for the wisdom sir. It's good but I won't be able to face that burn again. 🙏
same thing happened to me.. she left me for money.. i decided not to get married.. will use surrogacy for child.. but won't become workhorse, atm of any wymn
why surrogacy, you can have normal baby even at this age (I am not against Surrogacy), I got married when I was two years senior than you my wife was 26 and we have a normal baby and things are still going fine, earlier the better in every aspect of life including marriage but everyone has different purpose in life, enjoy it, you have not lost everything, those days they were marring early because life expectancy was low now a days people are living longer. So take it easy, you might be little late but still will reach your target.
Nice video! Sangwan sir I would like to know your opinions about men going single, without marriage.
It’s becoming more popular in the west, and coming here to India soon as well I think.
Your comments about desperate marriage through online portals is perfect. I have seen most marriages through this medium based on lies and having disastrous consequences.
Late marriages always have a disproportionate negative impact on women compared to men, As a successful 40+ man i have no desire to get married as i have several options open to much younger women, the same cannot be said for women who after 40s have a low threshold of choices.... Unfortunately this is the bitter truth
@@t33554 Women have it much worse in case a marriage goes downhill, there i a alarming rise in the number of single mothers, I think somewhere our society needs to support women more in case of failed or dead end marriages, and not blame them, Indian society needs to free women from family,societal and peer pressures and let them live on their own terms similar to men
@@t33554 Unfortunately whatever you have said is true, And that too in a best case scenario, where a woman is educated and living in a city...I shudder to think what happens to women in villages and tier 3-4 tier cities....Our media needs to stop portraying that it is ok for married men to engage in affairs....it is subtly even displayed on family shows like Tarek Mehta where extra marital flirting is normalised...in India unfortunately the onus is still on the women to maintain a healthy marriage...the only safeguard I see for women is a high degree of awareness of the Laws and education regarding this matter inorder to see the signs and avoid pitfalls in a relationship... Sadly I dont see anything drastic happening until attitudes towards women and single mothers change in India
100℅ true sir
I had planned like this for my daughter
Hopefully it works 🙏
Well..sir ji...mai apne 18 saal ke chote experiences se yeh zarur kehna chahungi ki life mei insaan kabhi bhi "settle" nai honewala 🤣...life always floats...so better to float with the flow , try your own ways to float and even if r about to sink no worries...bahubali baby ban zarur jayenge.. maa roop mei koi saver aa hi jayega 200 percent 😃😃 😍😍🙏enjoying your channel sir ji lage rahiye🙏
Sir ji buhut badiya video
Plz make more like these
Sir i am facing the same problem, you are totally right
Very good series 👌👌👌
This video is the most needed video for me.. What you said about parents of girls are actually true.. Now a days girl's parents are not hurry for marriage of their daughters.. When their daughters turn 28 or 30 then the parents gets hyperactive but then it's too late to find a suitable guy for their daughter.. They are just destroying their daughters life.. And the demand of the girls' side is also very high... High salary, government employee blah blah blah... For this reason the marriage of girls gets delayed... This is happening with me right now.. If this goes for few years I will have definitely no option rather than stay single forever.. I pray to God that no girls means no girl will go through this toxic behaviour of parents... Thank you 🙏
Bilkul sahi sir, your videos are actual mirror of current society.watching since last 1 week, and very happy that somebody actually summarizing these things by making such videos.
Sir your absolutely correct ,this is scientifically right ,we all need a partner after certain age ,all young ppl have numerous relations just becoz of delayed marriage , romance ,comfort and adjustments requires a young age .
Very good discussion
Awesome thoughts.. lot of bitter pills.. but this is the need of the hour🙏👍👍🙏🙏🙏
I had a rough patch of 15 years due to which it restricted me from marrying, I feel It is the mindset and the inner tenacity of finding the right partner.
You are doing great job..
Good topic. Need to be covered
Very useful vidio.... We are really face this type of situation sir....
Very true and on point videos!!
Sir you are so right . I got married at 25 and had my first child at 27 and we are 37 now and so happy and settled. Now my husband is planning to complete his master's from renounced University.
@@eate7721 I am a homemaker
Renounced University 😅
Sir this is the reality of today's society👏👏
U r very correct, I also married late,now I understand what is coming
Sir aap jaise rishtedar sabko milne chahiye, itni samajh sir maa baap ni de pate bacho ko itni sachai sir aise hi samjhaye rhena hume. Thank you so much.
You're very much right Thank-you
Bohut hi sahi aur timely video hai
Sir i am listening your video since 2 months ...& Forward to my friends. Too good videos.
Sir please make a video on how a middle class teenager should have a mindset to become rich.
Really want to show my gratitude towards you.. it’s one thing to Learn from mistakes but an intelligent person learns from others experience
So true! Each time I come across your valuable videos I'm confused which one should I see. Each one is so worthy of listening. I love your style of saying..' I want to become something ' 😀
Media, TV serial, movies are the main factor affecting the emotions and expectations of young people and parents of current generation
Very informative video..👍🏻
Premarital counselling should be made as compulsory as the saat phere 😁
Very nice topic. Need of the hour. People are keeping unrealistic expectations in the marriage market from both sides. Aur ladki walon ko toh ladka aisa chahiye jiski salary 1 lac ho per mnth car ho apna ghar ho.
Mai ek ladke ko janti hu jiski age 29 hai 2 bhk ka flat hai versova mumbai mei parents ka usko ek choti sister hai jo ki married hai.father bank mei kaam karte hai aur mom home maker hai.
Village mei bhi inka ghar hai fir bhi is ladke se koi shadi karne taiyar nahi wo isliye ki iski salary 35k per mnth hai. Due to covid uski salary appraisal nahi hui 2 yrs se.
Sabko apni ladki ki shadi raja se karwani hai fir baad mei wo ladka ka nature kharab nikle chalega inko
Sir iska matlab ye nikalta hai ki 33,34 valo ko shaadi nahi karni chahiye🤔🤣🤫
@The Life Explorer absolutely.
Eligible /Sensible parents should feel the ground reality .They shouldn't see the day dream.
Sir, you have told the 'Manji -Katha 'The present day Socity should think over it
With regards.
God damn ,east facing plot, simran stuff. Epic n True.
Excellent analysis
Very informative Sir ....
बहुत बढ़िया विश्लेषण
It is exactly what happened with me ....i wish someone like you were there to guide me...i remained unmarried
Very nice video sir
I see many examples around me with lots of wastage of money on marriages also girls with 30+ age getting married is a new normal
First they save money and then using all of it for a better marriage functions its happening a lot
Sir keep making videos in this series,I am greatful
Yes I agree with you
Factual points
Also biologically also it’s right for women
Well said sir. My junior who is also Dr is dilly dalyying wedding from 5 years for flimsy reasons-wants to settle in Bangalore-Her fiance wants to settle in small town as he has settled hospital there.She gives vague reasons and is postponing wedding.
Sounds vague to you .
You have see it from her perspective.
Men do not have restrictions in small town. Women do . What she wears , how she lives , at what time she works .. EVERYTHING IS JUDGED IN SMALL TOWN .
Awesome content 👍🏻👍🏻
Dont get married till u are financially independent....orelse life will surely be hell.
bilkul sir aisa hi hai ryt topic hai
Isse better video nhi suna aaj tak, amazing n true analysis❤❤🎉🎉
👍waiting for next episode.
Uncle, I agree with some of your points and don't agree with some. Wish we could sit together in person and have a healthy discussion. Nevertheless, I thoroughly enjoy all your videos. Keep doing the good work. 👍
Ekdam sahi topic liya hai sir aapne
Sir all is collapsed, now we are only dragging our life...we can understand everything we know everything but actions are zero..
But your efforts are really the best ..
I am from Kolhapur Maharashtra...
I am not loosing faith but things are dramatically changing with very fast speed ,many of us are not able to pick that speed not econnmically,socially.....
But I have a daughter of 14 I will really keep it in my mind...