"Marry where the quality of married life of would-be inlaws is good" Golden words. Back tested and found perfect. Wish I had known before. It would have saved many of my dear ones in falling in toxic situation. Hats off to you, for this wonderful video.
First Of All, Wisdom Is Internal, You Can't Give Wisdom, The Person Has To Earn It Themselves. Just Like Us Who Agree To This Wisdom, Because We Already Knew It Somewhere Down Below Our Guts, And Just Hearing It From This Guru Now. Gyan Ko Aap De Nahin Sakte Kisiko. Aur Jis Gyan Se Mauka Mil Sakta Hai Kisi Ko Uss Gyan Ko Baantna Paap Hai. Jiska Bojh Aap Par Hi Aata Hai. Isliye Just Relax. Sab Ko Apna Apna Chuka Ke Jaana Hai.
मेरी शादी हुई तब मेरे हस्बैंड ने मुझे आगे पढ़ाने और जॉब करवाने के लिए बोला था लेकिन बाद में वह लोग मुकर गए और मैं एक सिंपल घरेलू महिला बनकर रह गई लेकिन जो मैंने झेला मेरी कोशिश यही रहती है कि मेरी बहू ना जीते अब वह पीएचडी कर रही है अमेरिका से उसे राष्ट्रपति अवार्ड मिला मेरी यही कोशिश रहती है जो कुछ चीज मुझे बुरी लगे मैं दूसरे के साथ ना करो 🙏
@@VidhiKhandel hiii vidhi … congratulations… us din maine dekha fb par.. hum fb friends bhi hain.. aap or baby, aapki family Khoob khush rahe… Love and blessings ❤️
100 % true I was naive and turned blind to this.... 20 saal tk bht kuch dekha... Jo me deserve nhi krti thi.... Muje lga tha i can change situation.....tried hard ..... Ulte me hi mentally ghut gyi.... Please see wd be saas sasur relationship and also their relationship with their neighbors
Sir ,I agree , jo women jyada dominating lagti hai hume ,unke pati chup se lagte hai ,real me un womens ne bahut jhela hota hai , wo unki dabi awaz hoti hai ,jo kitne salo bad gusse me ek kadwahat k sath ek cheekti awaz k sath niklti hai .... Aur ise koi nahi samjhta ... 👏👏Thanku sir 👏.....is baat ko logo tk pahunchane k liye , jo dard koi smjha hi nahi ,kabhi soncha hi nahi gaya ....use ek awaz dene k liye 👏👏
I think this point of happiness of in-laws is extremely wonderful and never thought of but it is proven in the psychological journals that the married life of children is dependent on the married life of parents. As a child, we subconsciously adopt the patterns of our parents while considering the love life and we replicate the same as a grown-up.
Nice video... I agree a mother in law who was working has an open mind. I am one such mother in law born in 60s and was working. I love being friends with my daughter in law... We both respect and love each other. We have so much to share and i really do not expect anything from her except that she works on her dreams n achieves them. I motivate her to progress in life.
Sabke sath ase nahi hota mam.. Meri MIL bhi working thi lekin mere career me muje bilkul support nahi krte. I earn more than 1lakh a moñth.. lekin fir be subh 6 bjr uth k pura duplex ka jhadu pocha khud lagana pdta he... fir 3no time bartan manjana b muje hi krna pdata he. Gahr me sbse jada meri salary he lekin fir b pet bhar khana b nasib nahi hota. Apne pasand se sabji b nahi bana skti..jada roti khao to piche se taane padte he. Pati k sath bahar jao to ghar me kalesh krti he.. yakin nai hota par yahi sacchai he. Ye educated or working women achi saas banti he ye sab k case me sahi nahi hota 😑
101% True. I am married in the family where my in-laws are not at all happy together. My parents were also in an unhappy marriage. And now all this is affecting my married life also.
True...girls' and boys' parents should not interfere... Ive seen toxicity in working mothers in law as well. The family samskaras are very deep rooted. Soch badalni padegi.
Yes I have also seen so much toxic working mom in laws. Deep rooted mindset expectations don’t change Basically happy go lucky, good attitude is more important
Really wish you were there earlier sir ... But feeling really happy that at last someone has took initiative to mend ethics of the Indian society Grateful to you Sir
My parents fight without any issues being present inbetween them (i.e, they fight, just to fight). They're too toxic. Since my childhood, I've yearned for a moment of silence in my house and couldn't get much. I decided to leave home the day I graduated, 8 years ago at the age of 23. Today all that they know is that I live somewhere in Europe. I have a wife and 5 kids here in France. I'll never go back to that hell of a house, sir. My sister, who used to follow every of my parents' wishes wasn't so lucky. Pata nhi kya bhara unhone in my sister's mind, that it caused a rift inbetween my sister and my brother-in-law (whom I can vouch to be a great guy). Now she's back at my parental home. 😥
I am married to a guy who is a single child. His mother is too much possessive about him. She does not like to inconvenience herself or her son for my sake. It hurts so much! I'm going back to my in-laws place after 8 months of maternity leave (went to parents' place in the 7th month of pregnancy because in laws weren't caring for me), so I told my MIL that my husband will come to pick me (we live in different cities). She was not happy, she asked me "can't you come on your own". Also since he's their only child, he is not willing to live separately from them. So I think if he had siblings then we could have been able to live separately.
@@elizabeththomasthomas4177agar uske siblings hote tab bhi vo esa hi hota agar parents mar bhi gaye hote tab bhi aapke bich mai esa hi hota. Please maan lo ki aapke husband aapse pyaar nahi karte. Sach hai aur sach kadva hi hota hai. Jo pyaar karta to wife aur bachho k sath hi rehta. Khamakha time waste mat karo. Kuch log parents ka bahana marte hai lekin ye nahi bolte ki muje koi interest nahi hai this marriage is not working anymore.
@@elizabeththomasthomas4177aur aapke husband ko phone karne ki jagah saas ko kiya. Husband ne samne se aapko call kiya hi nahi. It means he is not interested.
Both marriage parties do not talk on certain topics openly and later these things creats issue in marriage. Only good package and property are major questions. Before entering in any relationship we should be very clear regarding our expectations (like - job, facilities, property, future aspects, etc) and then let the other party decide whether they want the relationship or not.
I got married at 29. I agree that when your in - laws, specially female are not self assured, you will have trouble at your hands. I know most of your points during my marriage and can assure this works.
For finding my sisters prospect groom, I have told my parents this criteria -The mother should be a working lady! Never thought, will find an aged man advising the same! 😊
Om Sai ram ji 🙏🙏💐 great sir Ji 🙏 this is absolutely right 👍 these things were noticed in old days my dada ji same vichar as you are saying aabhar Bhai ji 🙏🙏 thank you
Sir aapke points sab ekdum sahi hai , but sir sab points dekhne lage to shadiya hongi hi nahi, jahan in-laws samajhdaaar hai vahan ladka nahi , jahana ladka theek hai vahan in-laws nahi , jahan dono theek hai vahan aur kuch nahi hai , sab kuch sahi hai to aage koi bhayankar rog ya haadse se pareshan hai , life ka doosra naam hi compromise hai . Aisa lagta hai shadi sach bolke ho hi nahi sakti , 90% cases mein insaan apna karm fal shadi ke baad hi to bhogta hai
Very well said sir.We have to follow as much as possible...in kannada one proverb thayiyante magalu,nulinante sire.means "daughter like mother,saree like yarn".
Amazing amazing video sir. Very different perspective and valid thoughts! Wish people knew about making this kind of assessment in an arranged marriage. Thanks for sharing. And I can resonate with what you said in the video.
Brilliant video 🙏 thankyou.. you are absolutely correct. Hope people understand this funda and get their 'jaan ke tukde' married in a capable family.🤞👏
Sir, recently I have started to view your channel n very much impressed with the practicability of your ideas. I want you to make a video on " how to get rid of guilt, which are faced by working women"
Sir ye sab dekhne ke liye paar ki nazar bhi chaiye, perception bhi chahiye Kuch log bahut smartly fake kar dete hain Yes sir you are correct and given useful life advice.
So true. With certain threshold of certain of finances and conditions mentioned by sir holds the key... However, It can help you plan better and we only can try to minimise the risk of challenges ahead... Seedha seedha toh kuch nhi hota hai waise bhi 🙏🙏🙏
धनयवाद । एकदम सही है । बहुत साल पहले मेरी सहेली जो सिककिम मे रहती है उनहोने ऐसे ही समझाया था। दरअसल हम लोग लडके को जादा देखते है वो कमा। रहा है या वो अलग रहेगा । पर ऐसा है नही असर पडता है।
Sir apne exactly wohi bola jo mere saath hua my MIL had a very bad relationship with her husband and due to which she ruined my marriage I want to share my experiences with you so that you also come to know what all is happening in society
Meri saas ne bahot Saha tha aur mere sath bhi wahi karne ki koshish ki but I was different!!!! Bolte reh gye sab mujhe but I ignored but careful always!!! Buri ban gyi hu but happy n live with own ways in sasural!!! 😉😉 Sahi kaha aapne.... Sasur ki baat ko saas aur bete kehte hai maximum time ....
50+ years back, it was my father who gave this perspective to my mother. That my grandmother had sufferred a lot during her yesteryears and hence she is prone to exhibit bitterness and keep sulking and hence my mother should just ignore her and not take it to heart!
I think basically a happy go lucky , open minded positive attitude to life type of family is good choice but very difficult to judge in beginning unless we know their back ground. That’s why in olden days marriages were done through ppl we knew via families
@@aknshab9874 right, almost most of the older marriages were not fruitful. I consider my parents marriage not a good match. There were lot of sufferings for my mom. 😓
Very true fact about married life of old generation. These so called ailing mothers always seek attention of sons and they transfer this to their wives and in turn both parties end up having a rot marriage. But as you said nobody is addressing the root cause. Anybody who speaks is kusanskari
The decision of marriage of their daughters by parents is taken so hastily just by seeing social and financial status ignoring the important complicated facts about family to family compatibility issues that crop up immediately after marriage.
Namaste apne bhut sahi bola I am 29yrs old and mai bhi pehle se yhi observe krti hun ki ladke ke parents ki marriage kaisi hai agar unki healthy marriage rhi hai mutual respect and nature towards life positive hai toh unka Beta bhi 90% chances h apne parents jaisa hi hoga baki 10% Exception is everywhere but humhari duty hai best select karna apne liye taki baad mai na hum khud ya humhari family ya ladke ki family ya khud Ladka safar kre humhare galat decision ki wajah se...Same for boys select your Best
These days marriage has become a scary thing. And there are more men suffering in marriages in India than women because courts blindly favor women and men are made to pay compensation to women even if the wife is at fault.
I started watching your videos recently. Most of them are practical but I don't believe that if MIL is /was working than she would undoubtedly understand her DIL.
What ever you have said is important but another major point which you missed is that you have to see the health genetics of the mother of both sides , if the mother of the guy or girl is really healthy the next generation will take those genetics. And in further life you will have less problems.
Hi sir, please address issue of how young boys are wasting their time by not working (either waiting for opportunity to land at their door and throwing high tantrums on low paying jobs) not having reality check or don't want to accept where they are standing in the world today. They also believe age is just a number and so they can attain success at 35 or 40 or 45 or 55 and they are not even putting action.
My son is actually overwhelmed with all motivational speakers speeches, all news flying in about covid/firing/recession and infatuated to cinema world.
@@Aditi1839 From what I have seen, children who have experienced or witnessed hardships in their lives till they attain the age of employability; do much better in their lives and they tend to value the importance of a good career, good education, family etc. The children who grow up pampered with well off parents develop a rather skewed view of the real world. And just like in the case of your son, they expect the very best of the things in every aspect and those things to be just presented to them and when things don't really go that way with them in real life they fall deeper into the rabbit hole by deluding themselves that "they deserve better". Be supportive, avoid confrontation, but keep gently reminding him that even mediocrity can become greatness with consistency but he needs to start somewhere.
"Marry where the quality of married life of would-be inlaws is good" Golden words. Back tested and found perfect. Wish I had known before. It would have saved many of my dear ones in falling in toxic situation. Hats off to you, for this wonderful video.
Thanks
First Of All, Wisdom Is Internal, You Can't Give Wisdom, The Person Has To Earn It Themselves.
Just Like Us Who Agree To This Wisdom, Because We Already Knew It Somewhere Down Below Our Guts, And Just Hearing It From This Guru Now.
Gyan Ko Aap De Nahin Sakte Kisiko. Aur Jis Gyan Se Mauka Mil Sakta Hai Kisi Ko Uss Gyan Ko Baantna Paap Hai. Jiska Bojh Aap Par Hi Aata Hai. Isliye Just Relax. Sab Ko Apna Apna Chuka Ke Jaana Hai.
Sahi baat hai
It’s difficult to find out the internal stuff that’s going on within families until one has landed inside
मेरी शादी हुई तब मेरे हस्बैंड ने मुझे आगे पढ़ाने और जॉब करवाने के लिए बोला था लेकिन बाद में वह लोग मुकर गए और मैं एक सिंपल घरेलू महिला बनकर रह गई लेकिन जो मैंने झेला मेरी कोशिश यही रहती है कि मेरी बहू ना जीते अब वह पीएचडी कर रही है अमेरिका से उसे राष्ट्रपति अवार्ड मिला मेरी यही कोशिश रहती है जो कुछ चीज मुझे बुरी लगे मैं दूसरे के साथ ना करो 🙏
Aapko Shat shat Naman Alka Sharma Ma'am🙌🙌❤️👏👏👏👏
Aapka maan hai orr jo apko pasand hai vo kaam shuru kardejeyai.
You are an example for many. You will retrieve faith in people for having mother like mother-in-law.
Lucky bahu
Bahu ko thoda success hone do, jab reality aayegi samne, tab khud ko pachtawa hoga. Ye aaj ki ladki hai, bina dank diye nhi manegi.
My mother in law is illiterate but she is very open minded and loves me a lot and treats me with respect.
Heyyyy Vidhi… where have you been dear… miss you on quora and see I find u here in comment section…❤
@@pri17yadav hey hi :) I got busy with work and also became a mother recently :)
@@VidhiKhandel hiii vidhi … congratulations… us din maine dekha fb par.. hum fb friends bhi hain.. aap or baby, aapki family Khoob khush rahe… Love and blessings ❤️
Few marriages are ruined because of the over involvement of relatives, encouraged by MIL only....
Mere pass words nahi hain sir... Kaash itni budhi sabke pass hoti.. Becoming fan of ur thinking process n superb explanation
Married. Widowed. Went back and validated ...Salute Sir 🙏
100 % true
I was naive and turned blind to this.... 20 saal tk bht kuch dekha... Jo me deserve nhi krti thi.... Muje lga tha i can change situation.....tried hard ..... Ulte me hi mentally ghut gyi....
Please see wd be saas sasur relationship and also their relationship with their neighbors
Sir ,I agree , jo women jyada dominating lagti hai hume ,unke pati chup se lagte hai ,real me un womens ne bahut jhela hota hai , wo unki dabi awaz hoti hai ,jo kitne salo bad gusse me ek kadwahat k sath ek cheekti awaz k sath niklti hai .... Aur ise koi nahi samjhta ... 👏👏Thanku sir 👏.....is baat ko logo tk pahunchane k liye , jo dard koi smjha hi nahi ,kabhi soncha hi nahi gaya ....use ek awaz dene k liye 👏👏
My MIL was a working women and she has suffered a lot during her active age and she used to cry literally initially when she used to see us happy.
I think this point of happiness of in-laws is extremely wonderful and never thought of but it is proven in the psychological journals that the married life of children is dependent on the married life of parents. As a child, we subconsciously adopt the patterns of our parents while considering the love life and we replicate the same as a grown-up.
Nice video...
I agree a mother in law who was working has an open mind. I am one such mother in law born in 60s and was working. I love being friends with my daughter in law...
We both respect and love each other. We have so much to share and i really do not expect anything from her except that she works on her dreams n achieves them. I motivate her to progress in life.
Same here 👍
You need both hands to clap. Hence both mom in law n daughter in law need to have understanding for one another n above all respect the age.
@@monicadsouza2537 you are 👍
Sabke sath ase nahi hota mam.. Meri MIL bhi working thi lekin mere career me muje bilkul support nahi krte. I earn more than 1lakh a moñth.. lekin fir be subh 6 bjr uth k pura duplex ka jhadu pocha khud lagana pdta he... fir 3no time bartan manjana b muje hi krna pdata he. Gahr me sbse jada meri salary he lekin fir b pet bhar khana b nasib nahi hota. Apne pasand se sabji b nahi bana skti..jada roti khao to piche se taane padte he. Pati k sath bahar jao to ghar me kalesh krti he.. yakin nai hota par yahi sacchai he. Ye educated or working women achi saas banti he ye sab k case me sahi nahi hota 😑
@@MeghaKaushik5678 exceptions are every where.
101% True. I am married in the family where my in-laws are not at all happy together. My parents were also in an unhappy marriage. And now all this is affecting my married life also.
True...girls' and boys' parents should not interfere...
Ive seen toxicity in working mothers in law as well. The family samskaras are very deep rooted. Soch badalni padegi.
Yes I have also seen so much toxic working mom in laws.
Deep rooted mindset expectations don’t change
Basically happy go lucky, good attitude is more important
👍👍
Really wish you were there earlier sir ...
But feeling really happy that at last someone has took initiative to mend ethics of the Indian society
Grateful to you Sir
indeed family interference especially from girl side
is the main reason of all marital problems
My parents fight without any issues being present inbetween them (i.e, they fight, just to fight). They're too toxic. Since my childhood, I've yearned for a moment of silence in my house and couldn't get much.
I decided to leave home the day I graduated, 8 years ago at the age of 23. Today all that they know is that I live somewhere in Europe. I have a wife and 5 kids here in France. I'll never go back to that hell of a house, sir.
My sister, who used to follow every of my parents' wishes wasn't so lucky. Pata nhi kya bhara unhone in my sister's mind, that it caused a rift inbetween my sister and my brother-in-law (whom I can vouch to be a great guy). Now she's back at my parental home. 😥
I am married to a guy who is a single child. His mother is too much possessive about him. She does not like to inconvenience herself or her son for my sake. It hurts so much! I'm going back to my in-laws place after 8 months of maternity leave (went to parents' place in the 7th month of pregnancy because in laws weren't caring for me), so I told my MIL that my husband will come to pick me (we live in different cities). She was not happy, she asked me "can't you come on your own".
Also since he's their only child, he is not willing to live separately from them. So I think if he had siblings then we could have been able to live separately.
@@elizabeththomasthomas4177
Such things of living separately must be norm
Must b discussed before marriage
@@elizabeththomasthomas4177agar uske siblings hote tab bhi vo esa hi hota agar parents mar bhi gaye hote tab bhi aapke bich mai esa hi hota. Please maan lo ki aapke husband aapse pyaar nahi karte. Sach hai aur sach kadva hi hota hai. Jo pyaar karta to wife aur bachho k sath hi rehta. Khamakha time waste mat karo. Kuch log parents ka bahana marte hai lekin ye nahi bolte ki muje koi interest nahi hai this marriage is not working anymore.
@@elizabeththomasthomas4177aur aapke husband ko phone karne ki jagah saas ko kiya. Husband ne samne se aapko call kiya hi nahi. It means he is not interested.
Both marriage parties do not talk on certain topics openly and later these things creats issue in marriage. Only good package and property are major questions. Before entering in any relationship we should be very clear regarding our expectations (like - job, facilities, property, future aspects, etc) and then let the other party decide whether they want the relationship or not.
I got married at 29. I agree that when your in - laws, specially female are not self assured, you will have trouble at your hands. I know most of your points during my marriage and can assure this works.
For finding my sisters prospect groom, I have told my parents this criteria -The mother should be a working lady! Never thought, will find an aged man advising the same! 😊
सर..आप एकदम सही कह रहे है।आपकी बात ने घटित जीवन का राज उजागर कर दिया..धन्यवाद 🙏
100% correct. ..but malham laga nay jao toh ulta double dose miley toh kya..like somebody doesnt want to help themselve only.
Mt lgao malhm.. Apni zindagi me khush rho
I'm 24 and watching your videos and love to watch 👌🏻👌🏻
@@helpeverhurtnever3559 😀😀
If family bonding is strong then only bride will be happy
Sir even my mom is toxic and egoistic so i haven't married coz i know it will only bring problems to each of us...
then do love marriage and live seperately
@@ramdomsoul life is not that simple, for few its more complicated and off course if I am destined to do so I will :)
Same here
Wish I had known all of this 35 yrs earlier… my in laws were the most miserable people. But we got misled by their prestige in society
Om Sai ram ji 🙏🙏💐 great sir Ji 🙏 this is absolutely right 👍 these things were noticed in old days my dada ji same vichar as you are saying aabhar Bhai ji 🙏🙏 thank you
"what to see in a marriage" ..very well discussed.Very rare advise 😀so openly
Wonderful tips sir. You think like a young person. ☺️👏
Sir aapke points sab ekdum sahi hai , but sir sab points dekhne lage to shadiya hongi hi nahi, jahan in-laws samajhdaaar hai vahan ladka nahi , jahana ladka theek hai vahan in-laws nahi , jahan dono theek hai vahan aur kuch nahi hai , sab kuch sahi hai to aage koi bhayankar rog ya haadse se pareshan hai , life ka doosra naam hi compromise hai . Aisa lagta hai shadi sach bolke ho hi nahi sakti , 90% cases mein insaan apna karm fal shadi ke baad hi to bhogta hai
Take holistic pragmatic view
Absolutely correct and good observation my in-laws had a bitter married life and now it is affecting mine 😞.
Very well said sir.We have to follow as much as possible...in kannada one proverb thayiyante magalu,nulinante sire.means "daughter like mother,saree like yarn".
Amazing amazing video sir. Very different perspective and valid thoughts! Wish people knew about making this kind of assessment in an arranged marriage. Thanks for sharing. And I can resonate with what you said in the video.
Very important topic again sir 🙏 please make a 2nd part of it- kya kya dekhna hai maa papa ka / kaise pata kare !
Excellent video.Sangwanji,these are must watch videos for everyone
Awesome video Sir, its a eye opening video for our socity
Aapka andaaze bayan, pasand hai humein. Prefer to more of listening you.
Brilliant video 🙏 thankyou.. you are absolutely correct. Hope people understand this funda and get their 'jaan ke tukde' married in a capable family.🤞👏
YOU ARE GOD’S GIFTED. Thanks 🙏
Sir loves your videos, very practical!!
Sir extra marital affairs and live in relationship par video bna do🙏🙏
Yes please uncle
Yes this has become a trend in middle aged person too. The cheated partner dies from inside forever. Please help them
Yes too much cheating partners everywhere around us in middle class
Wife cheat kr rhi kya bhai?
@@39madhurie extramarital chal rha kya relationship me?
Very knowledgeable video 👍 thanku so much sir ji
Wat a. Master piece of video.. Sir u really true man
Salam from Pakistan
U r absolutely right ! Mother is the one who has brought up the child ! But these days lot of deception is there so v difficult to know also!
Sir, recently I have started to view your channel n very much impressed with the practicability of your ideas. I want you to make a video on " how to get rid of guilt, which are faced by working women"
Very good points n valid points covered sir
Sir ye sab dekhne ke liye paar ki nazar bhi chaiye, perception bhi chahiye
Kuch log bahut smartly fake kar dete hain
Yes sir you are correct and given useful life advice.
Superb..!!! Logical and practical
I wish I could go back 10 years and fix my blunders. 😔
Enjoyed watching this video. Very real words , that we should understand
You always made eye opener videos..bahut hi bebaki se bolte ho...jyada tar hamare paas shabd nahin hote aapki tarif karne k liye...Thank you sir🙏
ज्ञानी बाबा आ गए।
जय हो
Very educational and practical utility video. Must watch. 😀
Excellent advice 👍 all of it is true.
Sir I found this video useful.
Nice piece of knowledge
Very much true sir... I am so blessed that I have come across your vedios
Thank you so much for sharing this secret with us all. Highest form of Kindness undoubtedly
Very nice message 👍🙏🏻🙏🏻
So true. With certain threshold of certain of finances and conditions mentioned by sir holds the key... However, It can help you plan better and we only can try to minimise the risk of challenges ahead... Seedha seedha toh kuch nhi hota hai waise bhi 🙏🙏🙏
धनयवाद । एकदम सही है । बहुत साल पहले मेरी सहेली जो सिककिम मे रहती है उनहोने ऐसे ही समझाया था। दरअसल हम लोग लडके को जादा देखते है वो कमा। रहा है या वो अलग रहेगा । पर ऐसा है नही असर पडता है।
Emotional stability and Physical fitness are key parameters indeed
Sir apne exactly wohi bola jo mere saath hua my MIL had a very bad relationship with her husband and due to which she ruined my marriage I want to share my experiences with you so that you also come to know what all is happening in society
Meri saas ne bahot Saha tha aur mere sath bhi wahi karne ki koshish ki but I was different!!!! Bolte reh gye sab mujhe but I ignored but careful always!!! Buri ban gyi hu but happy n live with own ways in sasural!!! 😉😉
Sahi kaha aapne.... Sasur ki baat ko saas aur bete kehte hai maximum time ....
Make a video on intercaste, inter faith, intercommunity marriages
Dear Sir:
Please make a video on how life goes on for parents who do not have any male child and have only female child. Please sir!!!
Yes
Very much required.
@ Chandranem,
Parents of girls will definitely treat their son-in-law as their sons. But few son-in-laws don't treat their n-laws as parents
Uncle, it involves a high level of maturity and intelligence...which mostly ppl don't have
Aapne shi kha
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I have 😇
101% correct, all your vedios are excellent 👏
Sir i hv just started watching your videos n you won't believe your topics are very realistic.. All are bful videos
This guy is a genius!
50+ years back, it was my father who gave this perspective to my mother. That my grandmother had sufferred a lot during her yesteryears and hence she is prone to exhibit bitterness and keep sulking and hence my mother should just ignore her and not take it to heart!
I think basically a happy go lucky , open minded positive attitude to life type of family is good choice but very difficult to judge in beginning unless we know their back ground.
That’s why in olden days marriages were done through ppl we knew via families
And yet many mistakes were made....kyunki reality masked hoti hae
@@aknshab9874 right, almost most of the older marriages were not fruitful. I consider my parents marriage not a good match. There were lot of sufferings for my mom. 😓
Wow so true
Reality is masked
Brushed under the carpet
Very nice analysis!
True and different Thank You Sir
aapke vichar deep experince par based hain....aapke jeevan anubhav kadve ho sakte hain lekin sacche hain.
Bahut accha video sir aapne to mere jivan ki reality bata di thank you itne real videos dene ke liye
Sir , for those who cannot completely follow Hindi,could you please give your videos in English also?Many would be benefited.Thank you.
Very true fact about married life of old generation. These so called ailing mothers always seek attention of sons and they transfer this to their wives and in turn both parties end up having a rot marriage. But as you said nobody is addressing the root cause. Anybody who speaks is kusanskari
The decision of marriage of their daughters by parents is taken so hastily just by seeing social and financial status ignoring the important complicated facts about family to family compatibility issues that crop up immediately after marriage.
Kafi sahi bate bta rahe hain aap
*EXTREMELY VALID POINT Sir* ✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️
Kya baat hai sir whatever ur saying bilkul sahi hai sir iska solution bhee bataye how to get rid of this situations
Mahatman Kya jadu sa kar diya. Bought forward a perspective I think .0000001 percent would have thought/imagined🙏
Brilliant!!!
Your videos are really good & interesting....
Sir aap to हमारे एस्ट्रो फ्रेंड हो गये thank you
Namaste apne bhut sahi bola I am 29yrs old and mai bhi pehle se yhi observe krti hun ki ladke ke parents ki marriage kaisi hai agar unki healthy marriage rhi hai mutual respect and nature towards life positive hai toh unka Beta bhi 90% chances h apne parents jaisa hi hoga baki 10% Exception is everywhere but humhari duty hai best select karna apne liye taki baad mai na hum khud ya humhari family ya ladke ki family ya khud Ladka safar kre humhare galat decision ki wajah se...Same for boys select your Best
Hiii
R u married
Or getting married
@@nitishamishra5461 where u live
@@nitishamishra5461 Lucknow
nice city
R u doing job in Lucknow?
@@nitishamishra5461 😂😂
Aapki engagement ho gi h ya ni?
These days marriage has become a scary thing.
And there are more men suffering in marriages in India than women because courts blindly favor women and men are made to pay compensation to women even if the wife is at fault.
Namaskar Guruji,Please give your prediction on investment for future seeing current and future reading
Thank you sir . Super likes
I started watching your videos recently. Most of them are practical but I don't believe that if MIL is /was working than she would undoubtedly understand her DIL.
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Sir wah wah humare liye to aapne Pura rasta khol diya hai shadi karni hai baccho li
Very well said sir🙏
Bahut sahi kaha aapne ....
In intercaste marriages, to know this secret pretty well becomes more difficult. Author may suggest how to proceed in such situations.
If u add English subtitle, it will be useful for everyone
What ever you have said is important but another major point which you missed is that you have to see the health genetics of the mother of both sides , if the mother of the guy or girl is really healthy the next generation will take those genetics. And in further life you will have less problems.
Really suprb technique You are making so many lives better with your thought-process
I can't tell how much I can relate to this...
I can vouch for this very critical factor in marriage
Thanks for sharing 🙏
Good advice
Hi sir, please address issue of how young boys are wasting their time by not working (either waiting for opportunity to land at their door and throwing high tantrums on low paying jobs) not having reality check or don't want to accept where they are standing in the world today. They also believe age is just a number and so they can attain success at 35 or 40 or 45 or 55 and they are not even putting action.
True. There are many son"s, sitting jobless waiting for Ambani to come knocking at their door
How old is your son
Mine is 27
My son is actually overwhelmed with all motivational speakers speeches, all news flying in about covid/firing/recession and infatuated to cinema world.
@@Aditi1839 From what I have seen, children who have experienced or witnessed hardships in their lives till they attain the age of employability; do much better in their lives and they tend to value the importance of a good career, good education, family etc. The children who grow up pampered with well off parents develop a rather skewed view of the real world. And just like in the case of your son, they expect the very best of the things in every aspect and those things to be just presented to them and when things don't really go that way with them in real life they fall deeper into the rabbit hole by deluding themselves that "they deserve better".
Be supportive, avoid confrontation, but keep gently reminding him that even mediocrity can become greatness with consistency but he needs to start somewhere.
Sir.... too good........i watch ur video regularly