Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
You are lucky.... It's not the case usually They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family Sad truth
My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏 I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme 8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi . thank you .
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions. It's very hard to manage things. But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions. I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻 Thank you. Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times. Very very practical Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
Another master video. It spoke my mind. Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Sir mza aa jata h aapki video dekh ke.. M khud ko bht lucky manta hun ki aapki video mili mujhe RUclips p.. Genuine video banate ho aap...bs keep it up sir ase hi
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
I agree with your thoughts. It's very practical. Nowadays, boys are not groomed properly by his parents. They are not educating their son to be a responsible husband. Boys mother is ready to show her feelings of ' Kyoki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi'. Reason being she makes her son as Mummas boy. She is not aware about the toxic environment, that she is spreading in her house. It is completely a fault of boys mother.
Nice. Well explained. I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law. Do not compare with your own daughter.
Itana complicated subject, kitani asan bhasha me samjha diye.great communication skill , very necessary matter is as well. Thank you very much.. relation balance is very much important..
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Kya baria description dea apne mere saas ne bhi hame uper vale flat par raka tha and all goes well....jyada tokne ka mowka nahi milta tha ...tab ajeeb lagta tha 13 year badh apka vedio dekh bahut kuch relate kar pa rahi hunn...or hann kam sbdo me hi sahi unhone mere tarrif ki apne antim samay me...like and subscribe kar dea
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
Till this day i regret that first year of marriage. It was a total mess . I used to think as if i had committed a sin or maybe i was the fool in town. Love ❤️ you from Pakistan 🇵🇰
By the way, I am not married yet. But one thing I will tell you. Anything from one week to a month should be enough time for one or both parties to determine whether they should stay together. “You may decide halfway through the agreed upon time that you want to be with that person, but you should respect the time frame. Take care all
Practical, yet beats stand up comedy 🤣🤣🤣
Practical
Good
Mujhe accha laga 👌👌
Very practical. 👌
😀
We need more people like you in our society.... well Done uncle..
Very good concept. My mother in law followed it n stays near by. And it worked very well. In our ten years of marriage we still stay seperate. Do get-together for special days festivals. And i must tell you my bond with my mother in law is like a bestie. We gossip together , shop together and we live as a team😍 . I am proud of my mother in law that she took this decision ♥️
Very lucky you are
U r truly blessed
You are lucky....
It's not the case usually
They want to live together as a joint family and then nobody understands what a dil feels not even her own family
Sad truth
Lucky u
My son is getting married after 2months, I have planned to sent them to the place he works straight after their honeymoon. But family members say that what others will think? But i bother a least of it. Their happiness is what counts. My son is living alone and if DIL goes there, I will be the happiest
Lifetime bas family log ka dusra kuchi nahi hai agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi hum soche isse bura soch toh kuch bhi nahi pehle tha bas yahi reh gaya khudki duniyadari dekho khudki lifestyle behaviour dekho waise bhi bhagawan sabko checkup kar rahe hai jab societal ki baat aate hai tab bahut jyada involved karke apne family ki khusi khatam karke no no our family is best in society it's a one human life race ek baar bhagwan ke instructions pe tumhara Zinda khatam toh phir kabhi bhi kuch incident ho sakta hai phir RIP
👌🙏
I used to think this that a husband and wife should get time to have fun, enjoy life and get setteled with each other after marriage. But in joint family system they are burdened with household responsibilities soon after marriage takes place. Which doesnt let them have time, space and a healthy mental state to bond.
Esa jina haram karte h nanad saas sasur k shadi kar k pachhtawa hota h😭
@@lillykumari8828 😀😂 dil se nikala hua lagta hai 👍
haha - I remember getting a call at sharp 6am from MIL, even after staying in the same house to wake me up.
@@lillykumari8828 😔
@@decodingmyroot i can feel your pain
Really good advice and it's not just north Indians, it's the same with south Indians as well. It doesn't matter how well educated a mother-in- law is , when it comes to her sons, she becomes extra possessive and daughters-in-law bear the grunt. Your insights are very good and I guess the modern society is now waking up to it. Love the way you explain things.
Acha hai uncle 😃👏👏👏
I am raising a 7yr old son presently and in this era of modern age parenting your ideology doesn't surprises me at all because being a victim of marital kalesh 8yrs back I can relate to ur every word.. V need to understand ds even our own children r not our property, they are 'individuals' first and v should not consider them as money back scheme
8yrs bk vlogging wasn't dt much popular otherwise v cud hv saved our golden 1yr of marriage by watching and showing such videos to elders in the family
I randomly found ur channel n now a fan!!!
a person in mid 30s calling him a uncle is just hilarious. He is not even 50 😂
Age ?@@harshbrar1
My mother in laws behavior has changed drastically since I moved in my own house. Now she is a completely different person. So loving and caring. I wish she were like this in the initial days of my marriage. I have suffered so much. But der aye durust aye. Now we all are happy.
U never know...wat she is planning..be careful🤪..at d end she is MIL
Humare pata nhi kab ayenge yese din
@@arpanmadrecha3013 all the best..stay happy..tc
@@SHIVANEEZWORLDHan ab aap yhi sikhana inko..bahut sari ladkiyan b sikhati hain apni friends ko aap k jaise 😂😂 par ladke nhi
After a long time i found some one like u who really understands . Thanku for this video. My mother in law and father in law both r very judgemental though they pretend in front of everyone and their sun too that they r very cooperative. Living with them is a big difficulty in my life. My freedom in house in very limited. And my disrespect for them has increased to such an extent that i talk very less to them. My husband is also not understanding in this aspect and he believes her parents are best and i m the one with all the faults. I hope not only wives but the husbands and in laws see this video , so that they understand a wife’s perspective and needs.
Absolutely true. We were made to live with jeth jethani. I was working and she wasn't. Bas shuru ho gaya comparison, taunt, expectation 🙄🙄
I can literally cry...bcz My marriage affacted a lot bcz of these reasons...but I didn't give up... I owe you Sir
Mine too dear,
Sir, ekdum sahi kaha....2 mahine me hi divorce pe baat aa chuki hai... husband mumma's boy hai puri uski sunta hai...khud ko extra ordinary samjte hai
I am 47 and married for 16 years. I have become fan of yours. This is absolute fact which I learnt through my life and come to the same conclusion which you are sharing. 🙏
What you learnt pls share
I been through this, and it almost resulted in ending marriage. But now that I and my husband live in separate house things between both of us is getting better day by day.
Same here
Practical! I am married since 17yrs and working woman. I have gone through lot of physical, mental, financial torture and few years back moved out. Though bitter experiences left emotional wounds. But while watching this video I was laughing and now it feels funny.
Practical 👍 my inlaws tortured me a lot in past 2 years now finally we are separated and living happy life but still I think that I was never want him to separate from his family but my in-laws were very horrible their thinking was18 century
My mother in law and sister in law has ruined our happy life
you are absolutely right , such things should be published in news papers & other ladies magazines also , so that mass awareness will come & it will improve sas , bahu & social situations .ghar ghar ki kahani honi band ho jayegi .
thank you .
Mind blown 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Literal truth bombs 💣 Our parents did the same and we are all living in harmony!
Thank you so much for the positive practical tips, Sir. This is a very sensitive complicated topic immensely filled with many emotions.
It's very hard to manage things.
But you have tried sharing the best possible practical solutions.
I hope and pray that every family lives together in peace, love, and joy!
Even if mother in law stays away. They interfere in their sons marriage everyday via WhatsApp. These days sons are mummy’s boys. They tell every thing to their mother on phone every day…ultimately ruin their marriage
Sabhi ese hi hai
Totally agree. My husband still hanging from the umblical cord till she died 2 yrs ago.Myself a victim of MIL brain washing for 28 yrs. She did unrepairable damage and ruined my marriage. I hold my husband responsible for it.
Wife or wife ki maa Kam nhi hoti
Correct
True. Meri life bhi kharab kar chuki hai. Aur jiske liye maine sab choda usko mujhse koi matlab nahi hai
I have observed all those moments when you said 'this happens especially in North India.' All those happen here in South India too. I could give you a guarantee. Maybe it is a South Asian thing (may happen in Pakistan, Bangladesh & S Lanka)
I absolutely agree with you. The initial one year phase is very crucial in making or breaking of a marriage. But unfortunately, it's difficult to make people realize that. Specifically when they are your own. Aap ye suggestion dene jaoge to khud bure ban jaoge.
You have become our daily dose of life mantra, and it feels like you have read our minds. You are doing a brilliant job , keep it up! All the issues are real, and your solutions, funny entertaining but genuine.❤❤
We need more people like you in our society sir... Very true!
We need more people like you sir,Thank you so much!😇
I can relate to it to the core specially "ek baar woh khud leke jayegi na apka beteko toh wapas kabhi nehi ayegi" so.so true
Aur aap ko bhi aane nhi degi!
Aur beta jaaye hi na toh
U r an open minded person wish every girl be blessed to have in - laws like u 🙏 peoples mentality must change with changing India. I m really blessed to hv loving n caring father in law 😊
What you're doing is Great just keep these types of series going on.. It will help alot of people
*"Very realistic, practically, thoughtful, knowledgeable & Life-toughts preechings Sir jee"*
Practical
What a video sir amazing, we need more people like you in our society,
You are Doing great job sir keep up... 👍🏻
Very good idea sir..well explained sir..reality of our society...I'm facing this in joint family..but I will try this on my son when he will be married..but now he is 6yrs old only 😀 👍
Yes I absolutely agree with you. Practically society should change but difficult 😃😃😃but seeing your vdos some change will b there 👍👍👍
Awesome!! Seems very logical . . . And actually works. . . Ur delivery is awesome too !! U rock uncleji
Such a true and helpful video 🙏🏻
Thank you.
Agar In-laws understanding ho, aur bachcha hone ke baad help aur strong support system ho, toh aadhhi problem solve ho jaati hai.
Actually it's very true .... We have clashes due to joint living with in-laws
Practical suggestions....keep sharing uncle...we don't usually get to see such perspective in general
All your ideas and tips are very true as per changing times.
Very very practical
Our society has changed and we have to change to keep our children life’s happy
Finally got some body who belongs to in laws age and has brains. Definitely sharing all ur vedios to them to mitigate ghar ka kalesh. Plz make a vedio on karva chauth ka tanta 🙏. Badly needed.
The way u explained everything is the best 🤣🤣🤣🤣 can't stop laughing 😂😂😂😂😂
Sir ..... awesome practical words..... thank you for the clarity !!
Sir hatts off simply....you are from Haryana and this much open minded approach...you changed my perception of people from Haryana 🙌
Absolutely practical advise given 👌👌Today's young generation is much smarter and they don't get involved in melodramatic situations as we would've been.
Nailed it ...thet won't ever bother..
But again we parents still have to bear the grunt anyway.
This is inevitable atleast 1 more generation.
You are very interesting, entertaining and practical. Your examples are real life. I can actually picture the scene.
Never seen anybody so practical ....applaudable!!
Another master video. It spoke my mind.
Plz plz make a video on when one person is sick with fever or minor ailment. Viral usually takes 4 to 7 days. But parents and relatives instead of supporting take and give back so much of tension to the care taker and the sick person that one thinks that I am not supposed to be sick or hide it.
Master of Clarity!!
Amit Sir U r amazing . Just wish You Tube videos would have started some 15 years back❤
Good advice
My son is 7 years old
I'll definitely follow this advice 😂😂😂
U r giving really practical solutions. I wish people could really understand and implement this one
Our Bollywood and television shows notion 'lado maaro Gaali do par saath raho' doesn't fit in real life that we need to understand
Nicely said.. I couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you for making such nice videos. Your advice can save many families. 🙏
Well spoken. North Indian families are suffering due to marriage related dilemmas.
Sir mza aa jata h aapki video dekh ke.. M khud ko bht lucky manta hun ki aapki video mili mujhe RUclips p.. Genuine video banate ho aap...bs keep it up sir ase hi
True story. I have gone through same thing. Kash aap ka ye video mai shadi se pehle dekh leta. I really admire your experience and understanding sir.
This video packs a lot of punch. If only Indian parents could learn to let go
wow I m amazed you think this way ...we stayed together with inlaws 8 yrs but moved out in same city due to lots of conflicts...1st year staying separate is superb idea .as couple gets freedom to enjoy their way and have good memories
Exactly….many of things i hv myself faced.Happy to share this
I agree with your thoughts. It's very practical. Nowadays, boys are not groomed properly by his parents. They are not educating their son to be a responsible husband. Boys mother is ready to show her feelings of ' Kyoki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi'. Reason being she makes her son as Mummas boy. She is not aware about the toxic environment, that she is spreading in her house.
It is completely a fault of boys mother.
All these things needs to be addressed. Thank you sir 🙏🏻
Nice. Well explained.
I want to say that -- things will be better if you treat your daughter in law as your son in law.
Do not compare with your own daughter.
Itana complicated subject, kitani asan bhasha me samjha diye.great communication skill , very necessary matter is as well. Thank you very much.. relation balance is very much important..
Bahut Badiya sir.
Worth listening and implementing too
Actually ... You said all bitter truth of our society in a very sweet way... Need such change in our society...
Thanks a lot Sir... 🙏🙏🌹
U r amazing..i love the topic, very new concept and really good advice. And i love the way u speak, so entertaining u r.
Quite useful and most needed for today's time. Thank you for the efforts.
Your video is very good. All points covered are very practical 👌
Superb video, Sir. Sutras for peace, good cheer and affection in life.
Very true
Sir you are very very practical and excellent. Bitter but truth is always sour 🙏🙏🙏
Right advice
100 % correct advice. Thanks Sir for all the wisdom.
😂 super duper hit boss. Very ground reality explained in clear terms... Jappa! Correct. Very honest sir. ❤❤
To the point and very practical . Plot nahi hai 😂 epic
👍🏻💯💯absolutely perfect .really true
Dum hai sir aapki baatoo mee..... Thanku so much.... Me bhi issi situation se deal kar raha huuu
Sir, u r just superb. U give very simple n impactful solution on every subject.
Very nice sir.. agree with you 100%. My younger brother is getting married in few months and i am telling same thing to my mother and brother.. but whenever I say these things they say I am trying to ruin their house.. I am judging someone who is even not part of the family.
Yes...this was told to my father we will separate them...but never happened....seriously I am pleading other viewers to pls listen 1yr is most important...coz it didn't happened n ruined our marriage relationship...bcoz of that we have fights on pity issues
Very true
Agar husband ke sath alag bhi hote hai ek saal phir bhi issue hote hai
Ladai hoti hai
Husband's In laws are just excuse
In my situation also marriage is ruined forever . Please ek ghar chod Kar reh lo par alag reh lo please .
Aapki bat bahut sahi he. Log nhi samjhenge per jo bhuktbhogi hen vo samajh jayenge ki aap ki is bat me bahut si bato ka hal chhupa he.
बहुत ही अच्छी vdo बनायी, Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Mind blowing... Enjoyed too much
Excellent advice! Love your explanation with humour. My thoughts are ditto like urs.
Kya baria description dea apne mere saas ne bhi hame uper vale flat par raka tha and all goes well....jyada tokne ka mowka nahi milta tha ...tab ajeeb lagta tha 13 year badh apka vedio dekh bahut kuch relate kar pa rahi hunn...or hann kam sbdo me hi sahi unhone mere tarrif ki apne antim samay me...like and subscribe kar dea
You are 💯 percent right sir.
Hi Amit sir, Please make one on karva chauth. My mother-in-law forced me to do karvachauth amd then ahoi while in my last phase of pregnancy and caused loss of amniotic fluid and now i have to work twice hard to recover my pregnancy from these nirjala vrat festivals. My father's side don't follow karwa chauth etc. My in-laws are over superstitious about these things.
We don't have fasts for pregnant women, even Karva chauth is not done during pregnancy. All families follow these rituals in their own way.
Thank you for this beautiful advice.
Very true ...Such a very imp.Life-sutra's sir...Aapka Tarika samjhaane ka ekdum theek h.....
Nice. Sir the newly married couple should be made to rent a house and stay away after the marriage. They should also be told to return when they want. Because in that one year if the girl gets pregnant, she may require help and so both may decide to come back to the husband's house or else they may go to the girl's house or her mother may come to help them.
Thanks friends for liking my thinking.
Great suggestion👌👌
Very practical ... awesome video
Very true. Many thanks for your guidance.
Till this day i regret that first year of marriage. It was a total mess . I used to think as if i had committed a sin or maybe i was the fool in town. Love ❤️ you from Pakistan 🇵🇰
I can totally relate! mine too
Sara base hila diya .. best dialog
Superb advice. Thank you sir. From few days I am following you. You are doing marvellous job.
Sir, aap bahot experienced, practical and broad minded ho. Zyadatar log aisa kabhi nahi sochenge.
Great idea!
Very pragmatic video. No-one can explain better than you
Your each word matters . Very true. 👍👍Very good content and comedy . Keep it up .Save the society from clashes .
Highly appreciate you sir for the greatest advice. Practical and effective.
I'm not married, still young but I'm so scared of getting married now.
bhai mereko toh aise dhak dhak ho re la hai ki shaadi karni chahiye ya nahi
By the way, I am not married yet. But one thing I will tell you. Anything from one week to a month should be enough time for one or both parties to determine whether they should stay together. “You may decide halfway through the agreed upon time that you want to be with that person, but you should respect the time frame. Take care all
In that case 99.9% won't stay together trust me. It's adjustment after a while
Yes, must give them time to understand and adjust with each other, their work pressures, etc. 👏
Apne meri soch ko shabdon ka roop diya ..... shukriya.....