My Partner Is Going Through A Midlife Crisis: What Should I Do?
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- My Partner Is Going Through A Midlife Crisis: What Should I Do?
Dealing with a partner that is unhappy is the issue at the root of most breakups, and I can tell you how many times I’ve had clients call me and say my partner is going through a midlife crisis.
When someone you love is depressed or struggling with existential issues the tendency is to try to take it upon yourself to try to fix their issues… to make their problem your own and to try to solve these issues for the one you love.
But that usually backfires, because one cannot force another person to change…especially if they aren’t ready. The key therefore is to support them based on what they feel they need and to show care and compassion rather than to try to be their shrink.
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My husband and I have been together for 20yrs and married for 17yrs. We experienced his midlife crises last year for a period of 6mths. He was angry, depressed, hated me, left home, told his family I had an affair, created his own stories and then tried hooking up with ex girlfriends. Through all this I made sure to keep things amicable because we have children. Your videos kept me on track Adrian, as well as sisterly love. I did exactly what you said, I didn’t freak out too much and kept my cool. Focused on how I could better myself so that I could help & support him through his fears so that he can look into the mirror and see that the grass at home is still green. He’s been home since Nov 2018. It has its ups and downs but we are recovering from that 6mth trial and tribulation that was dealt to us both unexpectedly. We are definitely fighting a good fight but together
TO ONE AND ALL BE BRAVE AND TRY TO STAY STRONG, GOD BLESS YOU ALL. THIS IS THE HARDEST TIME OF MY LIFE TOO. TAKE CARE ALL.
Watching this on August 22, 2020. Love, love the handwritten letter idea. My best friend suggested this a few months ago and I left it at that. This is confirmation that I should go ahead and write it. Thank you! 🙌❤
I realized something incredible during no contact Coach Adrian. I realize that I did not love her because I did not ever love a woman in my past. I love the idea of loving her but when I think about her emotionally like how and what emotions come to mind when I think about her. the only feeling that I have is like yes the word like. see through the tears of the relationship I never got to know her and with that there was no emotional growth for love to develop. I think it's a blessing that I Know What Love Is and I'm glad that God used you and other people in my family to help me through this. I feel that God has hardened her heart in order for me to come to this realization because if I was married today I would have just discovered that I don't even love my wife.
so now that I know what love is you have to love someone if he does open that door again with my ex I'll be ready and she'll hear the change in my perspective and of course my thinking. Love doesn't need to be perfect it needs to be right. that's a little something I came up with. Thank you and God bless.
My husband has left me and is now in a relationship and living with the coworker. I honestly am devastated and can't go on. I'm done with this life. My soul won't recover.
My wife of 13 years is and has filed for a divorce. just came upon your you tube video of going through a mid-life crisis. pray it is not too late. love your message. I need to be strong during this very troublesome toime
Hi Adrian love the video. Where are the letters you speak of? And how much is one on one coaching?
My wife of 18 years told me that she loves me but not in love with me. our marriage has been missing that spark for a while now. Between me working and her raising our 3 boys stay at home wife. She started showing less and less affection. I know I don't look the same as when we first meet. Gained weight. She told me that she wants to feel passionate for someone. To feel respect for someone. she also recently started posting a lot of selfies on Facebook working out a lot. Super concerned about her looks. She did mention that her feelings really took a change when she turned 40. I'm confused. Does she really not love me anymore? Is this a midlife crisis? Both?
My friends told me that I need to focus on myself and my kids. Its been about 7 weeks since she told me. I've lost a lot of weight, dressing nicer. I did at first plea and beg for another chance but still says no. All her family has told me they are basically on my side and praying for me. I'm confused on whats happening and what to do💔 crisis? Or what is happening?
2 years ago I wish you updated your life.
Hi Adrian PLEASE ! send me some feed back I have nowhere left to turn, I am tired full of anxiety and feel completely drained. My wife has been going through a crisis for more than two years 2017 spring, it all started when I fell ill and couldnt hardly walk,she left me laying on the floor in pain to deal with everything, we have two sons, they are 17 and 11 now. first she started going out a lot then getting tattoos, her whole personalty had changed. As you can imagine the atmosphere was horrible and I was full of anxiety and unknowing what was going on. I thought it was best to give her space and decided the best thing to do was give her some space so I went to look for a flat on my own (I never moved out) when I came home one evening and told her I had been to see a flat it seem to have made her feelings towards me worst, I tried to explain I didnt want to move out and I was doing it for her to have space, she has never forgiven me for attempting to move out. We spent Christmas hardly talking that is when she was home! My wife's family spent most of Christmas with us which was difficult for me as I felt very unconformable and full of anxiety and they are Spanish & dont any English and my Spanish is so so.
After Christmas I also made a devastating discovery by accident, I flipped my laptop on popped into messenger and couldn't understand why everything was in Spanish and I didnt know the people on my account, i opened the first one and was near sick to see it was some guy talking with my wife, it broke my heart in two and I couldnt breath, I was sick to my stomch. I was devastated to see my wife had been cheating on line and it wasnt just one guy there was others. I never confronted her in the right way about this I waited for her to confess, which she did after a few weeks, when I hinted I knew something. in her mind she doesnt feel she done anything wrong as she never went out with anyone. From the time her crisis started I had started communicating with her sister to help improve our marriage, i was very complimentary to her sister for being there for me and helping and keeping it between us. but one evening my wife came home and told me she knew I was writing to her sister and her sister had been showing her everything, I felt so betrayed, I thought her sister was trying to help me get things back on track with my wife, I didnt know what to do I panicked and left the house in a bad state thinking all was lost.
Since all of this I have tried to rebuild what is left we have very slowly got a little closer but it has not been the same!
Moving forward to this year and my wife has had a boob job we bought a new car (which she says is hers) and she is using botox and this summer has asked for a separation, as I see it out of the blue. I thought things were improving but she has got more and more selfcentered . When she asked I was in agreement to move out for a while but I went home to Britain for 8 days & thought why should I,its my home & I want to fight to save my marriage and if she needs the space she should move out. She wont dress in front of me, sleep in the same bed as me or have much contact with me I am still madly in love with her and wont to still grow old with her, I just turned 48 and she is 46. we have been together for 23 years.
I feel a lot of this midlife crisis is down to her being peri-menopuasal and her hormone are everywhere.
I am being supportive and loving but she is still being mean , cold and wants nothing to do with me at this time, I am sticking things out because I believe she will realise what we have together and what she has in me. Tho I am worried of the effect this will have on our sons as the oldest one has broken down crying , asking where has his mother has gone " !! (over the past 2 years)
Can you please advise me on what action I can take, sorry it was so long but My wife has spent most of our savings now and I dont have much money left. I want to rebuild my marriage or at least gate a chance to rebuild it.
kind regards x
My partner always tells me to get my own place when he is upset about something but once i finally decide to go then he change his mind. I never know when he is serious about me leaving and its
very upsetting for me when i hear him say this. What should I do? I'm tired of living in limbo. I want to be here for him but at times i feel unwanted.
Yes, I agree with what you said....but, isnt it pathetic one person does this to another?
Hi denise duggins, what exactly do you think is pathetic about it? - Coach Adrian
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity to selfishly hurt ones family...to "figure themselves out"
During our serious relationship, I was not mature or understanding enough to be her support system during her midlife struggle for life. That lead to a negative relationship between us which ultimately lead to a breakup. We both love eachother but she feels that its a wrong time to be in a relationship. I now totally understand and know how i should have supported her. Is there any way I could make her realise that.
Coach Adrian please suggest.
Thank you.
My boyfriend is experiencing all you said. How can I support him, we are countries apart. He said he feels pressured of everything including me.
You insight into this has be very useful to me my wife of thirty four years changed had a affair then left me to live with her sister almost overnight with no input from me ,,,
that was three months ago ..
no calls or text from her all from me ...not good
All she said to me was she is unhappy and now loves me like a brother ,,,your postings have answered most of them questions .
I did all the wrong things angry texts , begging , gifts , all to get the same answer " My feeling havnt changed " ..
when I realised it is a mid life crisis that my wife is going though I now know all I can do is let her get on with it as I am totally out of the loop ,,,
I did not see it coming we were not arguing but looking back now i see all the signs ,,thats hindsight for ya ..lol
All I can do now is " No Contact" ,,, giving her the space to do whatever she will do ,,and it hurts me no end .
But thanks to you I know that now I need to use the time to better myself and live my life and just hope that she contacts me in the future ,,however long that is ..
Thank you so much for giving me the tools to rebuild my life
Cliff
Thanks for posting that - I am going through this now with my partner of 19 years
It’s been three years since my husband said he checked out of our marriage. He left three times but came back the next day each time. He seems to be stuck in the anger/resentment stage. We are kind to one another but he is not affectionate. How long do I patiently wait.
My 30 yr relationship was killed when I was replaced by a millennial during her midlife crisis.
We ended it, I feel he orchestrated it. He is with the new person. I made it known in no uncertain terms leading up to him leaving that I was not willing to wait around. We have been apart for nearly ten months no contact. He has not contacted our kids for nearly four months after he tried to introduce his new person to our adult son. My son refused to meet her. Crickets since.
Yes it's very hard. He will come back one day but it will be too late. Meanwhile, build a good circle of friends, seek therapy and bring yourself closer to God.
How can we contact you ?
How do you get them to talk to you or get them to see that you’re not the enemy you just want to be there for them an support them, and all they say is or doing is I have a date with someone that I think I found what I’m looking for,is this his way to make me jealous I just don’t know what to do anymore I don’t even talk to him or anything else all I get is lies an excuses I’m about to give up
I thought this was John Starks 💀
I think midlife crisis happened to my ex, but she is only 20 :D
My ex girlfriend reached out to me 3 months after NC. We broke up back in may. In July, we had a minor argument (she was dating someone new) so I removed her from social media and block her on whatsapp for 24 hours but eventually delete her number ( I know probably a bad move,due to sign of weakness). While we were talking she was not happy that I cutted her off (!?) and she want's to offer friendship because I'm a nice guy..
I don't understand why she is reaching out to me. like if she is dating or in a relationship, why is she trying to reach out to me? We only dating for around 3 months.
And I know stuff my wife is going through midlife crisis 2
Cut her off and thank god you don't have kids with her. Many have suffered greatly of this.
I read a lot about midlife crisis and it look like is something that is coming from a shock, like losing a parent or a good friend, lots of stress from job, depression! Not all midlife crisis are very deep and a disaster, but some of them are, like me husband too! He is lost for 3 years so far! Ruined my life, emotionally, Thanks God he didn’t made a financial disaster so far! But he changed his job and losing half from his income and he keeps going to say that he doesn’t feel nothing for me and wants to move out! I did everything what I read about midlife crisis and nothing work! I don’t know how long I can take it anymore!
SAME AS, NOT SURE HOW LONG I WILL COPE ANYMORE, MY WIFE HAS MOVED FARTHER AND FARTHER AWAY FROM ME OVER THE LAST 3 YEARS.I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING I CAN THINK OF, TREATED HER LIKE A PRINCESS,MOVED OUT FOR A MONTH TO GIVE HER SPACE, BEEN LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE BUT NOTHING. THE GRASS IS GREENER SYNDROME! I HAVE NOT CHASED HER BUT I HAVE TOLD HER I LOVE HER AND WANT TO REBUILD THE RELATIONSHIP, SHE HAS SUCH A STRONG WALL AROUND HER. IT FUNNY HOW NO ONE ELSE CAN SEE WHAT SHE IS GOING THROUGH, THEY JUST THINK THERE IS A PROBLEM WITH THE MARRIAGE. (FAMILY,/FRIENDS ON HER SIDE)
Hi Andrew where can I find the audio for writing a letter?
Please email wmeacustomerservice@gmail.com
Coach Adrian
What about if there’s an other woman? :)
Is three a direct link to the sample handwritten letter?
Coach Adrian my wife of 5 years wants a Divorce. We have 3 children and she is telling me she needs space or separation. I also do believe she is going through a midlife crisis and is not sure of what she wants. This caught me off guard and ive been putting pressure on her to work things out. I know realize that i have to let her go for her to walk her path. What should I do or how can i begin the process of letting go? I love her with all my heart and want to make it work but shes pushing me away too hard.
Tony send me a private message. Our situations are nearly identical and would like to talk to you. Thanks
She most probably met someone else and is cheating. Usually midlife crisis begin with an infidelity and a change of appearance.
SAME AS
I’m now having the same tough time at the moment. How did you cope or get through it? Please help!
Paraone007 I’m going through it as well. My wife of 16 years wants to end our marriage. It amazes me that this is so common, yet no one speaks about it. If you need a friend, I’m here.
Where do I get the audio letter at?
More often than not she will blame the husband, eventually. Then she becomes angry, internally. Then she externalizes her anger, towards the person closest to her, you! Then she really exercises abstract, self-destructive behavior. By now you should be out of her reach. God forbid there are kids living at home, then she abuses them, yes psychological child abuse. Then, at some point the dust settles. And the damage is already done. You are far away from her by now (if you did the right thing) and the kids received a lifetime warranty for dysfunctional relationships in their future. The wife? She is not desirable by REAL men anymore and everyone in her "circle" knows it. She has developed a generally negative attitude due to her guilt and shame. Though she will not take responsibility for her actions, she will blame it all on someone else (you). She becomes embittered through the years and this prematurely ages her. She may or may not become lesbian. However, she will at some point wish that she had eaten some of the makeup that she had been putting on for years, thinking it may have made her a bit prettier on the inside. But its too late. For everything.
Jim Cole your right text book in my case I'm two years into the divorce the kids are with me she still has meltdowns and is clueless
You can't do anything. They will wake up down the years but it will be too late.
Sophie Mouci how long did it last, and what made his mid life crisis end?
I'm applying the NCP currently. However, I had bought presents for my ex right before she broke up with me. Is it advisable to pass her the presents through a friend? Will that push her further away?
When does male mid life crisis end? My husband has had it for more than 7yrs. I don’t talk to him, as he snaps and seems like he has stress anxiety etc..so, when would he come back to realization that he’s been going crazy?
Look up Borderline Personality Disorder
It doesn't end because you put accept it.
Hi How do you know if they have snapped out of it & what happens after a female midlife crisis?
Please read my commentary above.
@@jimcole6423 CANT SEE IT , SORRY
I probably pushed her away more by bringing up sex as a duty no matter the situation or crisis 😕 BUT ok ok leave her ass alone...give her the space to gravitate back. Got it 👍🏼
she should embrace it