Is Your Ex Is Going Through a Midlife Crisis? (The Ex Midlife Crisis Strategy)
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- Опубликовано: 1 июл 2020
- Clay Andrews discusses the topic of your ex having a midlife crisis, and the ex midlife crisis strategy.
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A midlife crisis in men or women case cause them to do things that may seem strange or unusual. They may make impulsive choices, such as ending a relationship, switching careers, or suddenly choosing to move somewhere new.
In order to know how to deal with a midlife crisis in your ex, you need to understand exactly what a midlife crisis is. It comes from the realization that you are not going to live forever and all the things you have put on the back burner are things that you need to address sooner rather than later if you are ever going to live a life that you feel you have ownership of.
In this video, we will discuss some things you can do to help connect with your ex though this confusing and frustrating experience of a midlife crisis. The important thing is to stay with themon the emotional journey of confusion and doubt that they are likely experiencing.
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Please take a look at my other comment on your video from yesterday pleasee🥺
Can’t stay connect with someone who won’t speak to you.
Hi clay what would be a good to text my wife out the blue threw the no contact to show attracting her back with emotional and thinking with my head things like
I understand that you have your career to focus on the future and I’m on the same level as that
and as well as the freedom is great and I respect that you share that with friends and enjoy life I’m focusing on my goals in life now and it’s time to have my freedom as I been seeing my friends .I’ve been doing some great things to lately as well if you ever want talk some day give me a call /////:.:..............,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Or do I have to wait for her to texed me In the no contact if it was her Choice to go see it’s a bit difficult as she say she was going to her friends or stay at work as I not give her some details about visa and then later I ending up telling her to go as I think she mite been trying get me to argue but two weeks later she say she was going again after picking up her clothes so do I put this on her that she walked out on me to use the no contact
Thank you so much Clay. Your teaching and coaching are really helpful
After 30+ yrs of marriage, he left me and went to teach English in China. He lost our money and threw away our business. I'm now living in my car. I will never forgive his mid-life crisis.
Hey Clay. You are a very kind and considerate person with a lot of good advice on normal relationship stuff. However, when it comes to midlife crisis this video is misses the mark.
Most of us older folks have families that have been destroyed both in terms of kids and money when the other person decides to leave. That process hurts everyone and it can take decades before they realize how their selfish actions have impacted others.
My phrase is - it never ceases to amaze me how much ONE person can impact the lives others.
The "ex", at 44 y/o, had one last year, I excused his behavior (the way he discarded me during his fling), but I decided I wouldn't tolerate the excuses for his behavior this year.
I get it. But what if they walked out and you have showed them this for the past year and they continue to lean on you for emotional support with anything that happens in their life, while constantly telling you that they never want to be married again. They want to have their cake and eat it to. They want to be free and single and not have to deal with the responsibility of marriage and raising 3 kids together, but still want the rock that I have been for the past 18 years to lean on during there emotional highs and lows. When is it time to remove that rock and to let them experience the full effect of their decision? This is what I struggle with.
This is where I am at Brian. When does being understanding and supportive to their "struggle" become just being a doormat. Hope you have achieved peace in the past year.
This is definitely my Ex, at 43 he left after 20yrs, got a new younger woman, new job, new car and went travelling. Our sons are devastated because he has prioritised his new life, we don’t speak to him anymore but he seems happy.
You make it sound so simple but unfortunately it’s not. If they are going through a midlife transition then yes but a full blown crisis then no. Understanding them will do little especially when they are going through the stage of Anger and are feeling entitled. This is a very serious topic that destroys lives and marriages. I really wish it was as simple as you make it sound. 😔
I think my ex had a midlife crisis. One minute we were making plans with our future, what we were going to do on our house. Starting a family (we'd been trying for 2 years). He suddenly told me he didn't love me anymore & didn't want a baby. He did this 2 weeks before our 1st appointment with an IVF consultant. He won't talk to me about any of it & acts as if we were never an item. He's 40 next year & whenever I see him it's like he's a different person.
I am so sorry
This resinates with me. I believe I met my ex at this pivotal stage in his life. We did not have a nasty breakup and remained friends. The thing is that midlife crisis can last for several years.
Seeing that I think that might be a part of what's happening wanting to live alone be self sufficient living within his own means.....that might be making sense.
My wife and I were together for 14 years. Four years ago, she was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. She went through chemotherapy, double mastectomy and radiation. During this time she met a friend who was also going through cancer, the same exact cancer. Her friend did not survive. My wife’s personality changed after treatment. she became more angry toward me or cruel and more selfish. She finally told me she didn’t love me anymore and filed for divorce. Two months after we were separated she was already dating somebody else. I think my wife believes she’s going to die soon. That she’s living on borrow time. Midlife crisis does destroy families. We have a little nine-year-old son who is suffering. I can’t understand how person can do something like this.
Clay Andrews can you please do a video about what if your ex stops talking to mutual friends?
I think my ex is going through this. He said he was doing things more for me than for him, but in retrospective he did very little for me. I had to do everything in the relationship, and though I understand what he’s going through, I think he will need to step up a lot when this is over.
Any advice on making this happen?
Brother. I think you just nailed what my ex is going through. My ex is going to be 40 in october. Im 32. She left. Bought a new car. Hooked up with an other recently seperated person who has it all. She said shes in love (its been a month and a half ) . Also mind you, we have a 4 year old
So sorry bro stay strong man!
Thank you Rich 😊
I'm in this situation at present. My concern is that I could end up collateral damage from my ex deciding Im not part of his future. I feel like an option. Uncertain also as to where I stand in it all. He could up and leave tomorrow.
My bf broke up with me when i was having a crisis. Even i made clear to him i am having a depression and mix emotions that i couldnt understand i requested him to be there. We had a fight and he broke up with me. Its a torture dealing a midlife crisis and a breakup at the same time.
My ex decided to tell me all of a sudden that he didn’t love me an wanted to end it with me an told me it was his turn to be happy now,so he threw me and our boys out in March at start of lockdown an decided to start ignoring me....
Since March he has moved in a girl he has been cheating on me with since June last year and wants to adopt her son an get married....
So not sure if midlife crisis or a ex midlife crisis
I still live an care for him deeply,But his done so much to me and our sons at such a difficult time as it is....
Were they both of your sons? Get child support.
Would this advice apply to an ex who broke up with me 1 week before turning 18 and became a party animal, she was restricted before because of her parents, and now she can blow the off because she is of age?
No way you can stay connected when all they do is blame you and push you away.
I don't tolerate being betrayed, abandoned and treated like shit because he is wanting to have another affair at my expense. If he wants to have a MLC affair then he can do that but he wont have me at the end of it. I genuinely loved him and am devastated but this is the second time he cheated and its a pattern. We could've had adventures together but he chose to leave me. I hope he doesn't regret it. The woman he chose over me is a serious downgrade. He will be miserable long-term.
My wife walk out on me with out any explanation how do you get them back
When do you go through a midlife crisis?lol. What age? I'm getting older and I've accepted that my life as a traditional woman is not going to be that. I'm not going to have kids, not unless it's in the next life or if I adopt. Plus,emotionally it's not my thing, I dont think I can. Although I think kids are great. Also, I have trouble with relationships from having so many bad ones. I'm bisexual, which is not as easy as people think that it is. It's more confusing sometimes, than anything. Then I'm the youngest, daughter, but I'm the one taking care of my parent, so I have obligations. I admit that I'm very lost in life,and I'm scared in so many ways. As a woman,the fact that you age is a strike against you in society. If this is what I'm going through, it's not easy. But a part of me dosent care what people think. Still , it's kinda hard.
Can a late 20s/30 crisis be a thing? 🙃
Do you think someone 25-year-old can go through crisis and therefore want to instantly change everything in life?
Yes there are such things as quarter life crisis...
My husband is going through this now- He just up and filed for divorce 2 months ago
We understand that this must be tough for you and your relationship. going through changes in life can cause stress and even some level of anxiety. We hope that you are holding on well.
@@ClayAndrews It is tough. I'm standing for our marriage but it will be a long hard road for us both.
@@scarsandstripes7 what ever happened? Are you reconciled? I'm going through this now and trying to stand
@amys2758 no, no reconciliation. Our divorce was final in Nov and the property was sold. He moved out of state and I started over. I don't want him back
My wife of 17 years had one at 36 and left me and our 3 young children,,,and then a 13 year relationship with a woman and she flipped out with menopause and left, don't get in a long term relationship with a woman they go through to many changes
This could be my problem. Unfortunately she says more talking is needed but doesn't do it. Oh well.
@@That_Handle its been 5 months, Ive tried, guess its time to move on
My ex is with her rebound relationship but is so lost because she doesn't really want to be with him but doesn't know how to leave him. So she keeps going with him and pretending, then comes to me telling me how she's so lost, misses me a lot and doesn't know what she's doing. It's leaving me at a dead end on what to do.
HMM, ask her how she left you and do the same to him.
Any update?
@@rickydi1321 to this day she adds and unfriends me on Snapchat, still feeling lost but manages to cover it up and look happy with her relationship when she tells me otherwise. For me, my life has grown past her, I am happy just as I should be, have grown my success tremendously this past year, and I just wish her the best. Feeling lost like that is a terrible feeling
@@farrismomin3721 all the best to you and I hope I can say the same in the near future