@@ClayAndrews Clay? I stopped talking to my ex on September 2nd. Basically told her she won, got tired of pursuing sent her a picture of me holding her birthday cake by her side texted 'blow out the candles you won'; shared pictures of how we grew together, and let it go. Oddly enough, when I created my new Facebook page, I liked a whole bunch of pages of things I love, so whoever sees my page can see my (interests)..etc. whether bands, arts, life. I'd noticed further towards the middle of September, I got notifications (2) on the app I communicate with her on, then had a dream about my ex on the 22nd and woke up to a 3rd notification; remember, I only communicated with her on. I've been healing and haven't looked from not wanting to be set back. However, I noticed on her page she liked a bunch of stuff that correlates with my person & our experiences together...I like monster energy drinks and I skateboarding, she liked that community page, we did a lot of shopping at target whether food or clothes, she liked and added both Target retail & target clothing to her page of likes. Also, My favorite arsenal word, 'Pernicious'. She'd liked the bing browser page and the last post for bing which was on, june30, ironically has (pernicious) as; 'word of the day', which I constantly use around her and even she'd ask 'babe, what was that word' sometimes. Lastly, she liked the Colgate page, as I desire to be a Dental Hygienist & American Greetings as we both bought each other special birthday cards. My point is...she has never liked pages/communities before to this degree and I feel like these are signs/signals for me....also, my cousin whos aware of our split reached out to me two days ago, and she's FB friends with him. Ever since focusing on myself, things have been happening...I don't feel like I'm reaching Because who the heck decides 'Hmm, Colgate' LIKED!, everything seems soo selective lol like I'm the future dentist and I haven't liked that page but I always made sure we had the best hygiene materials. Idk how to feel
stay strong, if they left. you’ve just gotta shine brighter now and it’s THEIR loss! they weren’t in the relationship for the good and bad then. some couples get back after many months or even years so keep your head up, so you. if it’s not her it will be someone way better man. stay strong, i’m going through it too and i don’t know if we’ll ever get back even though i’ve tried so hard!
Hi Nicolas, It seems like you are doing Passive No Contact. With Active no contact, we do the active approach instead of waiting for our ex to reach out to us. In this way, we would gauge if they are emotionally ready to open themselves or not.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you Clay. I think I'm having a bad day. I'm really not ready to get rejected by her again. It's been 4 months and I've heard nothing from her at all. It hurts like it was yesterday. I don't know what to do and I feel like leaving her alone is best for fear of pushing her further away .
Don’t worry stay strong man it’s been that long for me too. It hurts everyday too. if she comes back and apologizes great if not keep your head up it only means someone betters out there. That’s what I’m saying to myself and never lose hope. Love isn’t something you can throw away at the drop of a hat
Hi I am trying to get back with a girl that I was dating for six months but I am believing that all things are possible I’m being very confident and very patient she’s a very nice girl we just had a rough patch but I’m trying to recover revealed and believe.
My ex begged when she broke up and left me to not act like she doesn't exist and talk to her etc. Yet, if I see her at work she acts like I don't exist. And posts things on Facebook like I broke her heart and ended things. 2 weeks now no contact. I'm just screwed 😂
My ex fiancée of 7 years invited me over his house so we can “talk” is this his way of sleeping with me again or is he considering getting back together? Ive been in no contact for 3 months
My ex just block me for the second time? After the blackup since January and I beg and plead and get block on February and went in to no contact and she unblock me and start sending posts on status showing interest but i reach at but not sure she want to come back will are in long distance relationship I got block again this month after she congratulat my brother that give birth to a twins? I have not called her again about to move on
He’s friends doesn’t even know me, followed me in tiktok. He’s the one who does the break up. Even telling me not to contact him anymore. He also doesn’t blocked me in all social medium. What is the meaning of this?
My husband of 35yrs left me and hasn't communicated with me in 14 mos. He filed for Divorce but it still isn't final. I don't understand why he won't talk to me. Since he won't talk, there are no clues.
Clay I really need help understanding something. So after a month of not talking she reached out to tell me congrats on graduating. She then went cold. That was all a month ago. Two weeks ago she stopped being the first person to view all of my posts. Starting Tuesday she started viewing all of my posts again, I can see that she’s been listening to a TON of depressing songs, and the craziest thing, she liked me and we matched on tinder a couple days ago. We haven’t talked in over a month. What do you think she’s feeling? Does she want to get back together? What’s my next move? Please help.
Dude my ex listens to only depressing songs on spotify, I stalk her acc and it shows that she has like 3 depressing playlists that she created recently.
This was helpful, my ex however is confussing me. Tells me she still cares (knife to heart) rather than still in love. Promises we will still talk and see ecother once a week or so but has become mean and even ask what are you doing here if we are at a mutual friends house. I chalked it up to her having guilt knowing the break up was wrong but I'm starting to question if something more isn't at play like a new side piece. Any advice ? I mean for me and it probably sounds weird but, I'm the type if you move on and become physically involved with someone else it kills it for me and I can't go back after that point. I believe that is an act only meant for two people to share togther not with whom ever idk call me crazy.
We understand that some would take social media connection too seriously. but a mature individual can do better than just blocking a person. Whatever your ex's reason is, it seems like he is showing his best self in approaching the situation as a mature individual.
I guess Im on no clues even though there are clues....Got my stuff, she says keep your moms Christmas stuff here if you want. Asked her to dinner when this virus is over she says that will be nice. Two clues there but thats where it stops. What the heck is she thinking?
Tom I don't want to over talk but if she said that will be nice about dinner to me that is a good sign. If my ex husband asked me to go out to dinner I would run down the street. I honestly think she is still interested. I hope it works out for you. ♥️
What if my ex girlfriend from 2 months ago texted me during no contact asking if I could do her lawn care for the rest of the season? Is that a clue, or is that “I’m completely over you and legitimately have no feelings”?
I would give them time. A lot of Clays videos tend to lean towards hot and cold actions meaning that your ex is confused about their emotions, so you can give them time but also keep making any interaction you have with them a positive one at least! Gain a better emotional connection with them by having positive interactions.
The last time my ex and I talked was June and it’s been a while since she and I last talked And I haven’t heard anything from her in months or anything and I’m not sure what it’s all supposed to mean Before she did ghost me for a bit until March 5th and after that she kinda disappeared again and she and I would talk occasionally up until June and yea now I’m not sure what to do Idk whether to pursue her or move on, on the one hand I want her back but on the other hand half of me wants to move on Srry if this is a lot but still I could maybe use some help and also advice if possible
My ex is reaching out after hours not days weeks months etc etc , she did say to me that I can contact her when ever I want, we had about 10 mins of talking, then as you say even tho they have broken up with you, we as dumpees need to help the dumper, so I left it a few days and I said that you don’t have to sit there thinking I shouldn’t but I want to contact my beautiful guy but I don’t know how he will react or even reply, so now I’ve let her know that she can also initiate the contact between us, she has called me baring in mind I’m a guy, beautiful, sweetie, baby so I think this is a good sign, I’ve said in other posts the reason for our break up is due to her looking after her elderly dad and now mum through this coronavirus pandemic, the best thing I did was to go straight into NC when she told me it was over and this i did for 3 weeks, I did no begging pleading crying stalking the usual things guys do when they’ve been broken up with, my current ex even tho we are slowly talking I’m still giving her space due to her situation she’s dealing with and I’m not rushing in telling her that I want our relationship back to how it was, this is now upto her to come to me when she’s ready to get our relationship back on track if I push I’ll only push her away
Love the videos but my scenario you haven't covered. Was married for 23 yrs, divorced for 10 yrs, just started talking again. Chemistry was there, we flirted, he kissed me then he said he was seeing someone for last 4 yrs. Second time I saw him there was flirting again, he mentions his relationship so I asked if he wanted me to stop, he says, slow down give me some time. Tells our son I should be there with him. Tells my sister how much he loves me. Do you think we may have a chance?
Hi Karen, Our chance will always be there. Remember, it will depend on the actions that you would take and refuse to do. That is why preparing yourself, learning and practicing the Advanced Relational Skills are essential in the process.
Thank you for replying. But he made plans for lunch with me, then when I tried to confirm the following week he made an excuse not too. It's like he's scared to be with me. Over the years he's popped up on me at work, called me excessively then when I ask if he wants to get together, he backs out, like he just wants to know if I still care. It's driving me crazy. I feel he loves me still but he wont act on it, it hurts why does he keep doing this to me? I need help
6 months is already quite a long time. There could be emotional changes between those timeframe. Have you tried initiating contact with the person so gauge where they are at emotionally?
@@ClayAndrews I did at first. She has an avoidant attachment and i have an anxious attachment. We actually broke up a month prior to me going on no contact. She dumped me less than a week after my brother's funeral. Two days after the funeral her sister moved back to town. They have that invisible loyalty to one another. I was fighting with my family cause I buried my brother and everyone had something to say about. I did learn on her a lot during the preperation and the funeral. I didnt morn with my family. She started making time more time for her sister and blew me off. I felt certain way about that especially what I was going thru. So I decided to treat her like I felt she was treating me. The day before she broke up with me. She blew me off to go with her sister to get her car fix. My ex worked nights so I always rearranged my schedule for her. We were supposed to hangout. I was very upset. She called to talk to me that night. I told I was busy watching t.v. After I hung up she texted my how no matter what she is madly in love with me and will always be there no matter what. Dont be mad. The next she was silent most of the day. I called her out on the silence and said not knowing is the worst. What the hell is up? She called me back and said she is done. I put too much on her. I did remain calm in the conversation. We hung up with her saying I need time to think but her gut feeling was it wont work. The next night I I got drunk and text her and was posting stuff on FB about loyalty and gut feelings. She called me in the am and said it over I am done. I asked for time. You gave none. I sent her something for her Birthday n texted her Merry Christmas she responded to both. I worked on me everyday learning about my behaviors and I found out about hers. I know she wont every come back. I just truly love her.. I did wish a mutual friend Happy Mother's day and noticed my ex did it right before me on FB. Her profile picture was one of us with me cropped out. My heart dropped. It woke up feelings I was learning to deal with. Anyways, I continue to work on me.
Your video happened to start playing in a loop it got my attention the title says one thing then you start with the introduction. Frrom there it's just rambling on with no substance. Just a suggestion that you should concentrate on getting to the point you're trying to make. ALot of people have patron sights I know. However dont know how much the length of their posts have to do with the money they make. My guess is the quality of the posts are better received. This is just my opinion of this video only and I couldn't watch it to the finish. Too painful.
Thanks for watching this video. I hope you're doing well with everything going on in the world. Take care and please stay safe.
I got my ex back
Congrats in getting your ex back, Denis. :-)
@@ClayAndrews Clay? I stopped talking to my ex on September 2nd. Basically told her she won, got tired of pursuing sent her a picture of me holding her birthday cake by her side texted 'blow out the candles you won'; shared pictures of how we grew together, and let it go.
Oddly enough, when I created my new Facebook page, I liked a whole bunch of pages of things I love, so whoever sees my page can see my (interests)..etc. whether bands, arts, life. I'd noticed further towards the middle of September, I got notifications (2) on the app I communicate with her on, then had a dream about my ex on the 22nd and woke up to a 3rd notification; remember, I only communicated with her on. I've been healing and haven't looked from not wanting to be set back.
However, I noticed on her page she liked a bunch of stuff that correlates with my person & our experiences together...I like monster energy drinks and I skateboarding, she liked that community page, we did a lot of shopping at target whether food or clothes, she liked and added both Target retail & target clothing to her page of likes. Also, My favorite arsenal word, 'Pernicious'.
She'd liked the bing browser page and the last post for bing which was on, june30, ironically has (pernicious) as; 'word of the day', which I constantly use around her and even she'd ask 'babe, what was that word' sometimes.
Lastly, she liked the Colgate page, as I desire to be a Dental Hygienist & American Greetings as we both bought each other special birthday cards. My point is...she has never liked pages/communities before to this degree and I feel like these are signs/signals for me....also, my cousin whos aware of our split reached out to me two days ago, and she's FB friends with him. Ever since focusing on myself, things have been happening...I don't feel like I'm reaching Because who the heck decides 'Hmm, Colgate' LIKED!, everything seems soo selective lol like I'm the future dentist and I haven't liked that page but I always made sure we had the best hygiene materials. Idk how to feel
Soooooooo Great!! Keep watching these so U remember to keep up the wk!! Omg This is so encouraging!! Good Luck!
Leave them and run
@@damanichildrey84she's about to fuck you up a second time
My ex broke up with me years ago now she tells me I'm the best guy she was ever with and she don't know why she let me go
Cause her brain went in her crotch🙄
Thanks Clay. I'm just starting to lose hope. I've heard nothing from her in 4 months. I feel like my heart breaks more every day.
stay strong, if they left. you’ve just gotta shine brighter now and it’s THEIR loss! they weren’t in the relationship for the good and bad then. some couples get back after many months or even years so keep your head up, so you. if it’s not her it will be someone way better man. stay strong, i’m going through it too and i don’t know if we’ll ever get back even though i’ve tried so hard!
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Hi Nicolas, It seems like you are doing Passive No Contact. With Active no contact, we do the active approach instead of waiting for our ex to reach out to us. In this way, we would gauge if they are emotionally ready to open themselves or not.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you Clay. I think I'm having a bad day. I'm really not ready to get rejected by her again. It's been 4 months and I've heard nothing from her at all. It hurts like it was yesterday. I don't know what to do and I feel like leaving her alone is best for fear of pushing her further away .
Don’t worry stay strong man it’s been that long for me too. It hurts everyday too. if she comes back and apologizes great if not keep your head up it only means someone betters out there. That’s what I’m saying to myself and never lose hope. Love isn’t something you can throw away at the drop of a hat
Hi I am trying to get back with a girl that I was dating for six months but I am believing that all things are possible I’m being very confident and very patient she’s a very nice girl we just had a rough patch but I’m trying to recover revealed and believe.
My ex begged when she broke up and left me to not act like she doesn't exist and talk to her etc. Yet, if I see her at work she acts like I don't exist. And posts things on Facebook like I broke her heart and ended things. 2 weeks now no contact. I'm just screwed 😂
This is great video, thank you ❤❤❤❤
Clay you nailed it. I am experiencing this. Thank you. ♥️
You are so welcome :-)
Cute Claylock Holmes!
This really work out for me
My ex has suddenly started liking all my posts and putting red heart emojis next to them all?
My ex sent a gym selfie
Then asked for my self proclaimed, "crazy hair day" photo
It took me quite awhile to send, but once i did, *crickets*
my ex boyfriend is def doing this . it's like he says he cares . but I'm not sure .
My ex fiancée of 7 years invited me over his house so we can “talk” is this his way of sleeping with me again or is he considering getting back together? Ive been in no contact for 3 months
My ex just block me for the second time? After the blackup since January and I beg and plead and get block on February and went in to no contact and she unblock me and start sending posts on status showing interest but i reach at but not sure she want to come back will are in long distance relationship I got block again this month after she congratulat my brother that give birth to a twins? I have not called her again about to move on
He’s friends doesn’t even know me, followed me in tiktok. He’s the one who does the break up. Even telling me not to contact him anymore. He also doesn’t blocked me in all social medium. What is the meaning of this?
He's an immature jerk probably bragging to his friends about his conquest = you and how you can't get over him
My husband of 35yrs left me and hasn't communicated with me in 14 mos. He filed for Divorce but it still isn't final. I don't understand why he won't talk to me. Since he won't talk, there are no clues.
Dude if I was to tell you my situation with my ex I think you’d be confused
Everyone I’ve asked or told they are all lost so I am also lost
If you tell us your situation I’ll tell you mine mine’s complicated everything is telling me to just let her go
I agree with you polititions statement lol
Clay I really need help understanding something.
So after a month of not talking she reached out to tell me congrats on graduating. She then went cold. That was all a month ago. Two weeks ago she stopped being the first person to view all of my posts. Starting Tuesday she started viewing all of my posts again, I can see that she’s been listening to a TON of depressing songs, and the craziest thing, she liked me and we matched on tinder a couple days ago. We haven’t talked in over a month. What do you think she’s feeling? Does she want to get back together? What’s my next move? Please help.
Dude my ex listens to only depressing songs on spotify, I stalk her acc and it shows that she has like 3 depressing playlists that she created recently.
If you want her back, ask her out for coffee.
free asap roking you want her back?
This was helpful, my ex however is confussing me. Tells me she still cares (knife to heart) rather than still in love. Promises we will still talk and see ecother once a week or so but has become mean and even ask what are you doing here if we are at a mutual friends house. I chalked it up to her having guilt knowing the break up was wrong but I'm starting to question if something more isn't at play like a new side piece. Any advice ? I mean for me and it probably sounds weird but, I'm the type if you move on and become physically involved with someone else it kills it for me and I can't go back after that point. I believe that is an act only meant for two people to share togther not with whom ever idk call me crazy.
@@ayeshagaddafi4124 yes I did
@@marymaxmax4289 that doesn't make sense
Hopefully it does kill it for you, because I'm going through the same, and she was no good for me!
My ex was at my house last night and kissing me! Could I take this as a hint?
When if your ex say she want a pause relationship and never say a word to u? Just completely ignore u? Please answer my question. Some body
What does it mean when they refuse to block you on social media and says hes trying to be reasonable?
We understand that some would take social media connection too seriously. but a mature individual can do better than just blocking a person. Whatever your ex's reason is, it seems like he is showing his best self in approaching the situation as a mature individual.
I guess Im on no clues even though there are clues....Got my stuff, she says keep your moms Christmas stuff here if you want.
Asked her to dinner when this virus is over she says that will be nice. Two clues there but thats where it stops. What the heck is she thinking?
Tom I don't want to over talk but if she said that will be nice about dinner to me that is a good sign. If my ex husband asked me to go out to dinner I would run down the street. I honestly think she is still interested. I hope it works out for you. ♥️
Yeh dude. Chill. Sounds like this is promising
@@Dreamsareareality Not at all Dreams. Hope your situation works out as well
What if my ex girlfriend from 2 months ago texted me during no contact asking if I could do her lawn care for the rest of the season? Is that a clue, or is that “I’m completely over you and legitimately have no feelings”?
She think you a sucker
When your ex is hot and cold should you give them time or should you try and contact them daily?
I would give them time. A lot of Clays videos tend to lean towards hot and cold actions meaning that your ex is confused about their emotions, so you can give them time but also keep making any interaction you have with them a positive one at least! Gain a better emotional connection with them by having positive interactions.
@@princhipessa1969 I reached out the first time and she was really open and we had a very good interaction but then I got ignored the next day why?
@@leaderrr7992 any update?
Why put red heart emojis? 7 of them he liked today after 8 weeks no contact i left him by the wsy and with good reason.
The last time my ex and I talked was June and it’s been a while since she and I last talked
And I haven’t heard anything from her in months or anything and I’m not sure what it’s all supposed to mean
Before she did ghost me for a bit until March 5th and after that she kinda disappeared again and she and I would talk occasionally up until June and yea now I’m not sure what to do
Idk whether to pursue her or move on, on the one hand I want her back but on the other hand half of me wants to move on
Srry if this is a lot but still I could maybe use some help and also advice if possible
I advise you move on. You deserve a peace of mind. :)
Move on. Waiting for her is only stopping you finding happiness. Lockdown is making things difficult for sure.
Mr Johnson helped me out he can also help you
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My ex is reaching out after hours not days weeks months etc etc , she did say to me that I can contact her when ever I want, we had about 10 mins of talking, then as you say even tho they have broken up with you, we as dumpees need to help the dumper, so I left it a few days and I said that you don’t have to sit there thinking I shouldn’t but I want to contact my beautiful guy but I don’t know how he will react or even reply, so now I’ve let her know that she can also initiate the contact between us, she has called me baring in mind I’m a guy, beautiful, sweetie, baby so I think this is a good sign, I’ve said in other posts the reason for our break up is due to her looking after her elderly dad and now mum through this coronavirus pandemic, the best thing I did was to go straight into NC when she told me it was over and this i did for 3 weeks, I did no begging pleading crying stalking the usual things guys do when they’ve been broken up with, my current ex even tho we are slowly talking I’m still giving her space due to her situation she’s dealing with and I’m not rushing in telling her that I want our relationship back to how it was, this is now upto her to come to me when she’s ready to get our relationship back on track if I push I’ll only push her away
How is it going now? My situation is very similar
My ex reached out after 65 days NC on Saturday night, little texting, he says he is content by himself....I said nothing regarding that.
Any update?
Ex's BestFriend started liking alot of my posts after breakup. Is she spying on me for my ex?
Do you want your ex to start begging to come back
Bro for sure they spying 😂
@@sherlinchopra9279 i just want mine to communicate and quit expecting me to read her mind 😣🙄
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Thank u u are the beat
what if they didn't block you from social media?
Have you tried communicating with your ex?
Love the videos but my scenario you haven't covered. Was married for 23 yrs, divorced for 10 yrs, just started talking again. Chemistry was there, we flirted, he kissed me then he said he was seeing someone for last 4 yrs. Second time I saw him there was flirting again, he mentions his relationship so I asked if he wanted me to stop, he says, slow down give me some time. Tells our son I should be there with him. Tells my sister how much he loves me. Do you think we may have a chance?
Hi Karen, Our chance will always be there. Remember, it will depend on the actions that you would take and refuse to do. That is why preparing yourself, learning and practicing the Advanced Relational Skills are essential in the process.
Thank you for replying. But he made plans for lunch with me, then when I tried to confirm the following week he made an excuse not too. It's like he's scared to be with me. Over the years he's popped up on me at work, called me excessively then when I ask if he wants to get together, he backs out, like he just wants to know if I still care. It's driving me crazy. I feel he loves me still but he wont act on it, it hurts why does he keep doing this to me? I need help
My ex badmouthed me, is that a clue lol
If you would wish to get your ex back
This guy
What if they havent talked to you in 6 months?
6 months is already quite a long time. There could be emotional changes between those timeframe. Have you tried initiating contact with the person so gauge where they are at emotionally?
@@ClayAndrews I did at first. She has an avoidant attachment and i have an anxious attachment. We actually broke up a month prior to me going on no contact. She dumped me less than a week after my brother's funeral. Two days after the funeral her sister moved back to town. They have that invisible loyalty to one another. I was fighting with my family cause I buried my brother and everyone had something to say about. I did learn on her a lot during the preperation and the funeral. I didnt morn with my family. She started making time more time for her sister and blew me off. I felt certain way about that especially what I was going thru. So I decided to treat her like I felt she was treating me. The day before she broke up with me. She blew me off to go with her sister to get her car fix. My ex worked nights so I always rearranged my schedule for her. We were supposed to hangout. I was very upset. She called to talk to me that night. I told I was busy watching t.v. After I hung up she texted my how no matter what she is madly in love with me and will always be there no matter what. Dont be mad. The next she was silent most of the day. I called her out on the silence and said not knowing is the worst. What the hell is up? She called me back and said she is done. I put too much on her. I did remain calm in the conversation. We hung up with her saying I need time to think but her gut feeling was it wont work. The next night I I got drunk and text her and was posting stuff on FB about loyalty and gut feelings. She called me in the am and said it over I am done. I asked for time. You gave none. I sent her something for her Birthday n texted her Merry Christmas she responded to both. I worked on me everyday learning about my behaviors and I found out about hers. I know she wont every come back. I just truly love her.. I did wish a mutual friend Happy Mother's day and noticed my ex did it right before me on FB. Her profile picture was one of us with me cropped out. My heart dropped. It woke up feelings I was learning to deal with. Anyways, I continue to work on me.
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Your videos about ex and break up work just for 10 percent of people who gone trough a break up.nothing more useful?
Ur too faster
you talk constant. listener loose track. you need to pause in between before starting new line.
Your video happened to start playing in a loop it got my attention the title says one thing then you start with the introduction. Frrom there it's just rambling on with no substance. Just a suggestion that you should concentrate on getting to the point you're trying to make. ALot of people have patron sights I know. However dont know how much the length of their posts have to do with the money they make. My guess is the quality of the posts are better received. This is just my opinion of this video only and I couldn't watch it to the finish. Too painful.
you talk alot in general views. you need to be more focussed on the title and give break between messages.
Who give a shit what they think, they left move on it’s their loss
Bad advice never take them back in the 1st place