An addendum: There have been quite a few women reaching out to me about their men cheating on them. My heart goes out to you. I can't tell you if your marriage will survive or not, but it's very difficult to recover from cheating. The advice in this video is about men who are struggling, but are not cheating. Also, if your husband is an addict, he needs to get into a 12-step program. Recall my first tip, defend your boundaries. Don't confuse giving him space with letting him walk all over you. If he's too far gone, sometimes the best thing to do will be to let him go and move on. Easier said than done, I know. I can't tell you when to call it quits and when to hang in there. Whatever you decide, I send my love. One more thing, you might have noticed there is no MidlifeCrisisCoaching.com. That adventure didn't pan out for me. If you want to explore coaching with me, go to the About page on my channel, and click on the For Business Inquiries button.
Hubby going through midlife crisis. He filed for divorce and plans on moving to another state to start his new life. It's better this way, I need time to focus on me. All I can do is watch him make rash decisions, and just pray for him. I still love him and want what's best for him.
My husband has moved out and stopped all contact. He said he loves me so much but he has to focus on himself and he wants to be together after he “figures everything out”. But I’m lost and not sure what to do. It’s been 2 years in this mess. I thought it was depression as he was only 30 when it started. Realized it was a midlife crisis once he finally opened up to me the same day he decided divorce was best.
It is fantastic that you mention boundaries and taking care of ourselves. These two were some of the most important things I learned when I was suffering through the darkness of the midlife crises I experienced. Thank you!
This video made me cry...obviously im here cuase my husband is acting weird ... I will try these steps before i make my final decisions .... Wish me luck
How long does this crisis last? My husband is going through his right now, been a a few months and it’s killing me. I am trying to be as supportive as I can, but it hurts, I can feel my heart ripping every time I see him laughing and meeting his students, mostly girls while he has totally withdrawn from me and our two girls.
Excellent sensitive informed Coach who seems to really care about the subject matter & people. I think I'm going thru it right now & this video helped clarify things. I'll have to figure out a kind way to tell my girlfriend so she doesn't worry etc. Thank you for this informational video.
Absolutely great video, I’m only 36 & going through this now myself, finding it all difficult to understand at the moment, why I have acted in a way that is not my usual self, I nearly lost my wife, the trust has slightly been shattered, as normally I confide in my wife with everything but with this situation I haven’t through fear, so my advice would be the same as yourself & do talk about it to your other half no matter how severe it maybe, as yes it will be too late, I have been ashamed of my thought process & jam packed full of guilt, through the lack of understanding in what’s going on, now I have had the eye opener to what is going on, I can only hope my marriage lasts through this process & everybody else’s does also, it’s a tough time for us all, all we can do is try & not fear this process in our lives, prey for our wives or partners support, live a wonderful life when this process is over, thanks once again for this video, means a lot
hi i am trying to cope with my wifes midlife crisis. she wants nothing to do with me but she is talking and acting through her emotoins. it is hard to cope with, i love her deepy and wont walk away. good speed to you and your family and all who are deal with this crisis.
Leon Brown I am going through this with my husband now. How are you doing? Were you able to make it through this crisis and keep your wife and family intact?
So glad I found this video and I will check out your channel. I'm 41, my Husband will be 60 soon. I Googled midlife crisis before clicking the video tab and landed here, He is way beyond the years this occurs according to search results but I don't think we have a set age when this will happen or if it already did and/or come again as I'm experiencing. I've only known him for 5 years, married 4. I don't normally say my age, for some reason I felt the need to on your video. Willing to donate if necessary, thank you for your advise God Bless!
Ah... you make it sound so easy and sweet.... it sucks when your husband starts suddenly spending every single paycheck on trying to create a race car out of an old dodge truck..... he is hard to love through this......
I love my husband so much and I want to help him. We were amazing together, and then everything changed. We are separated now and he doesn't even want me to talk to him. He has shut me out completely.
@@Autumnmc3 Thank you. I can pray for him to awaken but there's already been so much deception and destruction, that I find it hard to trust him when I have to question our whole relationship. I can only watch from afar and hope these other women don't hurt him in the process.
He hates me. Great video but I don't see him ever loving me again. I've become suicidal and wrecked over this 4-year back and forth roller coaster. I can't even function like a normal person anymore. I self-isolate and can't seem to imagine going any of the places I'm invited. While he is having a ball. Then when I start to get better and he's done playing around he comes back to me and tells me some sob story and I believe him and I begin to hope again. And he turns around and does it again
Our divorce is been ongoing since the beginning of 2015. He finally wants to push it through and finalize it. He said he wants freedom and to get out of the limbo I'm causing him. So I guess all of this is causing me to lose it all over again and grieve my marriage all over again. Sometimes I'm so depressed I can't see straight and sometimes I'm so angry I say things to him I don't mean. Well our divorce is going through and after all this time of him leaving and playing with other women and his friends while I am grieving my 22 year marriage with him, I don't think it'll ever get fixed. I don't think I'll ever come back to him again. Knowing he's just going to leave me when I least suspect it. I have a question. He seems to do this when the weather turns warmer. Do you know if this is like spring fever to Him?
I don't want to be sad, emotional basketcase anymore. And I know he's having a breakdown. I know he's stressed and feels alone. That's more reason for me to question why he wants to do it alone. I can't forget the past 3 years. He's betrayed me in every way you could think. And this started when he began drinking again after 8 years sober. He doesn't see it that way. He blames me for every problem in his life and says he's tired of having dependents. I'm not his problem anymore. Like you said I have to take care of me because if I don't I'm not going to be around to do it
biological component, its called lower maleness (low levels of testosterone) by 1% per year, that has been shown to cause the body to break down, and slow down. Its not all psychological, it is at least partly if not mostly physiological.Time to get a patch of testosterone .Testosterone patches are used to treat testosterone deficiency .
He packed up and LEFT, and I don't know where he is or when he is coming home. (He is texting me though.) I am not okay with this! I was never nagging or overbearing, so his leaving is really confusing to me. My question is, is this what you mean by "giving him space" because that seems like a lot of space. Or is this something I can say that I am "not willing to tolerate" without sounding "needy"? I feel like this bizarre behavior has put me in an awkward position of having to either demand his return or accept him treating me like a doormat he can just leave whenever it is convenient for him. What do I do???
I've gotten several comments like this. My video is speaking more about a husband who is feeling lost but mostly sticks around. I wouldn't act like a door mat. Get clear on your boundaries with him. But demanding him to return probably won't work. Remember the only thing you can control is yourself. Take this as an opportunity to remember who you are without him or the relationship.
Thank you for clarifying! I am actually kind of worried it is more than just mid life crisis. If I can reach out to him and he will listen, I will try to encourage him to get some outside help.
Turns out I was dealing with a covert narcissist... He had me fooled for five years (as I had been providing him with sex, shelter, and unconditional admiration). His unquenchable "needs" for godlike worship and impunity for emotional neglect and surreptitious misdeeds became more than I was able to provide, and he dropped the "act" in a matter of hours. So he decided to "ghost out" despite the fact that we were engaged, and in a committed 5-year long-term relationship. (You don't ghost out after 5 years.) Anyway, I thought I'd let your viewers know that if it seems like it's way more serious than "midlife crisis" then it probably is. I very much wish it would have been midlife crisis, and I wish your video could have helped me. It is a good video and I do hope it helps many wives and girlfriends as their partners go through that difficult time. Much love to you and your readers.
Anna May Shinn Omg I living this right now!! So hard mine got his own apartment today and left me stuck with nothing in the country while he has moved to the city 🌃 omg 😮
what if they weren't ever really in love- but mistook infatuation for love? They were two people without clearly defined values, and as a consequence, one person in the relationship has come this realization- and it was simply a matter of two people being physically attracted to one another and that they only make each other laugh- originally. They have nothing in common.
My 40 yr old husband is showing definite signs of a major midlife crisis. “ I hate my life, or before I met you ...” is half of his vocabulary. He is looking for ever more “ online outlets” as well as a few direct contacts, so I fear an affair is already in the works or coming soon. It appears he is desperate to find another woman to validate himself or his ego even it does not involve actual sexual infidelity he is definitely seeking emotional confections or possible affairs online. He gets incredibly defensive of anyone even asks him even the most common questions so that’s another red flag. He has started multiple social media accounts and new email accounts mostly women including almost all of his exes. He has sold things he owns to buy a treadmill insisting we both need to be in top shape ASAP. He even suggested I get male friends and even shared a threesome fantasy which shocked me as he had always seemed very jealous previously. So it all adds to the writing on the wall. He even had a neighbor woman ( a friends ex wife even 😱) knock on the door randomly to say “ I’m here for you come take a walk with me” He acted like she was crazy and he had no idea what that was all about. It was creepy like a bunny boiler scene and humiliating because I know our other neighbors know about it. I’m an extreme introvert and this basically is so off putting and my reaction is to retreat within myself. I find it hard to even look at him or even want to converse or be around him. I’m not sure how I want to proceed. His crisis of his own aging and looking in the mirror and not seeing the twenty something he once was becomes a source of agitation and downright aggression which is more often than not directed at me without me having done anything. He has even woken me up in the middle of the night even when my 6 yr old daughter was sick and finally asleep beside me to “ talk about things” but it became a personal attack on me. I am his scapegoat and a burden as well as sadly possibly our child. He is not the type to accept responsibility for his actions due to his parents coddling him and supporting him well into adulthood. He may also be on the spectrum so lack of empathy really makes it easy for him to be cruel. I recently was in the hospital for kidney stone and was very sad when two nurses each in their own shift tried to be supportive but strongly suggest I look for my own path ( said I should do better without me starting any conversation on this or any topic outside my pain ) I can’t imagine they would go out of their way to say that unless he most likely was acting sleazy and flirting with them or somehow being negative or saying something thoughtless perhaps ( or maybe all of the above) which is plausible at this stage . He also is a perpetual hypochondriac and the entire time during my hospital stay he kept interrupting all medical staff when they were asking me direct questions to basically redirect the conversation to his own health issue ( which are vague things like chronic fatigue and are so intermittent and variable it doesn’t seem real). The doctors were becoming agitated I could tell because they had to do their rounds and see it patient and he wanted to turn it into “ all about me “ conversation. This is also an issue with ASD spectrum. He often doesn’t realize when he drone on and on yet many times he has admitted and joked he liked to attend parties or social events just to have an audience to stand there and listen to him speak. I’m exhausted and know full well who I am and that I nor my daughter do not deserve this treatment. I live him and cut him ALOT of slack but the midlife issue on top of the aspergers is really pushing my limits. I am now avoiding him for multiple reason but underlying I suspect the sense of betrayal after years of support through so many issues is wearing me down. Anyhow I feel for anyone going through all this.
Do Artichaut Take care of you and your kid! He is history 😓I am in the same boat 🚣♀️ for 3 years! I was the perfect wife in the last 3 years but he didn’t change and he still want to find another woman and move out! I can’t take it anymore! I am going to move on and take care of me! Take care of you and don’t let him to put you down! Pls! ❤️
how wil i know when my wife is coming out of midlife crisis. she has asked for divorce but hasnt done anything about it so are these just words. should i weather the roller coaster storm? she has no contact with me ,we live in the same flat. she is totally blank with me most of the time.
You will know she is coming out of midlife crisis when you hire an attorney and file for divorce. The other option is to get a girlfriend. The only two options when dealing with middle aged women.
If anyone is struggling with their spouse having an affair, check out Affair Recovery on RUclips. There's a ton of extremely helpful videos clips to navigate through the affair process.
Cedar Poplar It’s when a man discovers later in life that marriage and following the rules is a scam and he is just a slave on the plantation and nobody cares.
People thought we were the perfect couple. He wants a divorce after 17 years of marriage and a child. Im not aloud to go anywhere he is, gym, his work, ect... No girlfriend, seams depressed and agitated. Then acts like he could be trying then Sabotages everything rejects me tells me it’s over and blames me for everything.
Read Runaway Husbands by Nikki Stark. This gives strategies and helps put things in perspective for you. The sooner you accept reality the better. It is not all about your husband, it is about you!
I suspect you just didn't know about the girlfriend. Mine ended up having two I didn't know about and was starting on a third when I caught him. All much younger than me but not as good looking. I'm 50 but pretty darn cute. I don't mean to make it worse but you probably just don't know yet. They can hide it well. My husband started his crisis at 46. He is now 51 and not finished. I'm seeing a lawyer and preparing to serve him papers if he doesn't smarten up soon.
It is ridiculous to spend eight minutes talking about how to help your midlife crisis husband. I am a man. Men are simple. Get yourself in shape and look as good as you can. Move on with your life. It will probably not save your marriage but doing what you are doing is why you are in this position. Dealing with a woman in midlife crisis? Quickly get to an attorney and file for divorce. It is over for you.
An addendum: There have been quite a few women reaching out to me about their men cheating on them. My heart goes out to you. I can't tell you if your marriage will survive or not, but it's very difficult to recover from cheating. The advice in this video is about men who are struggling, but are not cheating. Also, if your husband is an addict, he needs to get into a 12-step program. Recall my first tip, defend your boundaries. Don't confuse giving him space with letting him walk all over you. If he's too far gone, sometimes the best thing to do will be to let him go and move on. Easier said than done, I know. I can't tell you when to call it quits and when to hang in there. Whatever you decide, I send my love.
One more thing, you might have noticed there is no MidlifeCrisisCoaching.com. That adventure didn't pan out for me. If you want to explore coaching with me, go to the About page on my channel, and click on the For Business Inquiries button.
Hubby going through midlife crisis. He filed for divorce and plans on moving to another state to start his new life. It's better this way, I need time to focus on me. All I can do is watch him make rash decisions, and just pray for him. I still love him and want what's best for him.
My husband has moved out and stopped all contact. He said he loves me so much but he has to focus on himself and he wants to be together after he “figures everything out”. But I’m lost and not sure what to do. It’s been 2 years in this mess. I thought it was depression as he was only 30 when it started. Realized it was a midlife crisis once he finally opened up to me the same day he decided divorce was best.
Same thing is happening to me he left on the 21 of may.. how is it going for u?
It is fantastic that you mention boundaries and taking care of ourselves. These two were some of the most important things I learned when I was suffering through the darkness of the midlife crises I experienced. Thank you!
Blair Ashby congratulations if you made it! How long it took to you to get out of midlife crisis, pls?
This video made me cry...obviously im here cuase my husband is acting weird ... I will try these steps before i make my final decisions .... Wish me luck
Yeda Martinez good luck, dear
How did it go
I wish you the best…!!! Even my husband is getting crazy, he wants to leave me😞
How long does this crisis last? My husband is going through his right now, been a a few months and it’s killing me. I am trying to be as supportive as I can, but it hurts, I can feel my heart ripping every time I see him laughing and meeting his students, mostly girls while he has totally withdrawn from me and our two girls.
If my 4 year old husband in a 50 year old body actually grows up, it will all have been worth it.
Thanks for posting this.
Excellent sensitive informed Coach who seems to really care about the subject matter & people. I think I'm going thru it right now & this video helped clarify things. I'll have to figure out a kind way to tell my girlfriend so she doesn't worry etc. Thank you for this informational video.
100% on the mark 👍🏼
Absolutely great video, I’m only 36 & going through this now myself, finding it all difficult to understand at the moment, why I have acted in a way that is not my usual self, I nearly lost my wife, the trust has slightly been shattered, as normally I confide in my wife with everything but with this situation I haven’t through fear, so my advice would be the same as yourself & do talk about it to your other half no matter how severe it maybe, as yes it will be too late, I have been ashamed of my thought process & jam packed full of guilt, through the lack of understanding in what’s going on, now I have had the eye opener to what is going on, I can only hope my marriage lasts through this process & everybody else’s does also, it’s a tough time for us all, all we can do is try & not fear this process in our lives, prey for our wives or partners support, live a wonderful life when this process is over, thanks once again for this video, means a lot
I'm glad it helped! Good luck!
hi i am trying to cope with my wifes midlife crisis. she wants nothing to do with me but she is talking and acting through her emotoins. it is hard to cope with, i love her deepy and wont walk away. good speed to you and your family and all who are deal with this crisis.
Leon Brown I am going through this with my husband now. How are you doing? Were you able to make it through this crisis and keep your wife and family intact?
So glad I found this video and I will check out your channel. I'm 41, my Husband will be 60 soon. I Googled midlife crisis before clicking the video tab and landed here, He is way beyond the years this occurs according to search results but I don't think we have a set age when this will happen or if it already did and/or come again as I'm experiencing. I've only known him for 5 years, married 4. I don't normally say my age, for some reason I felt the need to on your video. Willing to donate if necessary, thank you for your advise God Bless!
Ah... you make it sound so easy and sweet.... it sucks when your husband starts suddenly spending every single paycheck on trying to create a race car out of an old dodge truck..... he is hard to love through this......
I suggest reading "Look at the Sun" by Don Carswell, the first 'coming-of-middle-age novel. This book tackles a lot of these thoughts.
Thank you it is very helpfull
Thank you ...this is my life right know ..wowo i can honestly say i got it all wrong, I will start right know because i do love him .thank you again..
I really enjoyed this video...my wife heard it too 🤩🤩🤩🤩
I love my husband so much and I want to help him. We were amazing together, and then everything changed. We are separated now and he doesn't even want me to talk to him. He has shut me out completely.
I can relate, but we're not even married. ☹
@@ttimxanh Just keep praying and obey God. I've seen His Hand moving in my situation lately...just be patient!
@@Autumnmc3 Thank you. I can pray for him to awaken but there's already been so much deception and destruction, that I find it hard to trust him when I have to question our whole relationship. I can only watch from afar and hope these other women don't hurt him in the process.
@@Autumnmc3 please darling can you email me? ladypastorlois@gmail.com
can you give tips on dealing with a wife going through midlife crisis
He hates me. Great video but I don't see him ever loving me again. I've become suicidal and wrecked over this 4-year back and forth roller coaster. I can't even function like a normal person anymore. I self-isolate and can't seem to imagine going any of the places I'm invited. While he is having a ball. Then when I start to get better and he's done playing around he comes back to me and tells me some sob story and I believe him and I begin to hope again. And he turns around and does it again
Our divorce is been ongoing since the beginning of 2015. He finally wants to push it through and finalize it. He said he wants freedom and to get out of the limbo I'm causing him. So I guess all of this is causing me to lose it all over again and grieve my marriage all over again. Sometimes I'm so depressed I can't see straight and sometimes I'm so angry I say things to him I don't mean. Well our divorce is going through and after all this time of him leaving and playing with other women and his friends while I am grieving my 22 year marriage with him, I don't think it'll ever get fixed. I don't think I'll ever come back to him again. Knowing he's just going to leave me when I least suspect it. I have a question. He seems to do this when the weather turns warmer. Do you know if this is like spring fever to Him?
I don't want to be sad, emotional basketcase anymore. And I know he's having a breakdown. I know he's stressed and feels alone. That's more reason for me to question why he wants to do it alone. I can't forget the past 3 years. He's betrayed me in every way you could think. And this started when he began drinking again after 8 years sober.
He doesn't see it that way. He blames me for every problem in his life and says he's tired of having dependents. I'm not his problem anymore. Like you said I have to take care of me because if I don't I'm not going to be around to do it
@@nanaof3991 how are u now?
biological component, its called lower maleness (low levels of testosterone) by 1% per year, that has been shown to cause the body to break down, and slow down. Its not all psychological, it is at least partly if not mostly physiological.Time to get a patch of testosterone .Testosterone patches are used to treat testosterone deficiency .
What if he stopped sleeping in our bed?
He packed up and LEFT, and I don't know where he is or when he is coming home. (He is texting me though.) I am not okay with this! I was never nagging or overbearing, so his leaving is really confusing to me. My question is, is this what you mean by "giving him space" because that seems like a lot of space. Or is this something I can say that I am "not willing to tolerate" without sounding "needy"? I feel like this bizarre behavior has put me in an awkward position of having to either demand his return or accept him treating me like a doormat he can just leave whenever it is convenient for him. What do I do???
I've gotten several comments like this. My video is speaking more about a husband who is feeling lost but mostly sticks around. I wouldn't act like a door mat. Get clear on your boundaries with him. But demanding him to return probably won't work. Remember the only thing you can control is yourself. Take this as an opportunity to remember who you are without him or the relationship.
Thank you for clarifying! I am actually kind of worried it is more than just mid life crisis. If I can reach out to him and he will listen, I will try to encourage him to get some outside help.
Turns out I was dealing with a covert narcissist... He had me fooled for five years (as I had been providing him with sex, shelter, and unconditional admiration). His unquenchable "needs" for godlike worship and impunity for emotional neglect and surreptitious misdeeds became more than I was able to provide, and he dropped the "act" in a matter of hours. So he decided to "ghost out" despite the fact that we were engaged, and in a committed 5-year long-term relationship. (You don't ghost out after 5 years.)
Anyway, I thought I'd let your viewers know that if it seems like it's way more serious than "midlife crisis" then it probably is.
I very much wish it would have been midlife crisis, and I wish your video could have helped me. It is a good video and I do hope it helps many wives and girlfriends as their partners go through that difficult time. Much love to you and your readers.
Anna May Shinn Omg I living this right now!! So hard mine got his own apartment today and left me stuck with nothing in the country while he has moved to the city 🌃 omg 😮
what if they weren't ever really in love- but mistook infatuation for love? They were two people without clearly defined values, and as a consequence, one person in the relationship has come this realization- and it was simply a matter of two people being physically attracted to one another and that they only make each other laugh- originally. They have nothing in common.
My 40 yr old husband is showing definite signs of a major midlife crisis. “ I hate my life, or before I met you ...” is half of his vocabulary.
He is looking for ever more “ online outlets” as well as a few direct contacts, so I fear an affair is already in the works or coming soon. It appears he is desperate to find another woman to validate himself or his ego even it does not involve actual sexual infidelity he is definitely seeking emotional confections or possible affairs online. He gets incredibly defensive of anyone even asks him even the most common questions so that’s another red flag.
He has started multiple social media accounts and new email accounts mostly women including almost all of his exes. He has sold things he owns to buy a treadmill insisting we both need to be in top shape ASAP. He even suggested I get male friends and even shared a threesome fantasy which shocked me as he had always seemed very jealous previously. So it all adds to the writing on the wall.
He even had a neighbor woman ( a friends ex wife even 😱) knock on the door randomly to say “ I’m here for you come take a walk with me”
He acted like she was crazy and he had no idea what that was all about. It was creepy like a bunny boiler scene and humiliating because I know our other neighbors know about it.
I’m an extreme introvert and this basically is so off putting and my reaction is to retreat within myself. I find it hard to even look at him or even want to converse or be around him. I’m not sure how I want to proceed.
His crisis of his own aging and looking in the mirror and not seeing the twenty something he once was becomes a source of agitation and downright aggression which is more often than not directed at me without me having done anything.
He has even woken me up in the middle of the night even when my 6 yr old daughter was sick and finally asleep beside me to “ talk about things” but it became a personal attack on me. I am his scapegoat and a burden as well as sadly possibly our child. He is not the type to accept responsibility for his actions due to his parents coddling him and supporting him well into adulthood. He may also be on the spectrum so lack of empathy really makes it easy for him to be cruel.
I recently was in the hospital for kidney stone and was very sad when two nurses each in their own shift tried to be supportive but strongly suggest I look for my own path ( said I should do better without me starting any conversation on this or any topic outside my pain ) I can’t imagine they would go out of their way to say that unless he most likely was acting sleazy and flirting with them or somehow being negative or saying something thoughtless perhaps ( or maybe all of the above) which is plausible at this stage . He also is a perpetual hypochondriac and the entire time during my hospital stay he kept interrupting all medical staff when they were asking me direct questions to basically redirect the conversation to his own health issue ( which are vague things like chronic fatigue and are so intermittent and variable it doesn’t seem real). The doctors were becoming agitated I could tell because they had to do their rounds and see it patient and he wanted to turn it into “ all about me “ conversation. This is also an issue with ASD spectrum. He often doesn’t realize when he drone on and on yet many times he has admitted and joked he liked to attend parties or social events just to have an audience to stand there and listen to him speak.
I’m exhausted and know full well who I am and that I nor my daughter do not deserve this treatment. I live him and cut him ALOT of slack but the midlife issue on top of the aspergers is really pushing my limits. I am now avoiding him for multiple reason but underlying I suspect the sense of betrayal after years of support through so many issues is wearing me down. Anyhow I feel for anyone going through all this.
Do Artichaut Take care of you and your kid! He is history 😓I am in the same boat 🚣♀️ for 3 years! I was the perfect wife in the last 3 years but he didn’t change and he still want to find another woman and move out! I can’t take it anymore! I am going to move on and take care of me! Take care of you and don’t let him to put you down! Pls! ❤️
how wil i know when my wife is coming out of midlife crisis. she has asked for divorce but hasnt done anything about it so are these just words. should i weather the roller coaster storm? she has no contact with me ,we live in the same flat. she is totally blank with me most of the time.
You will know she is coming out of midlife crisis when you hire an attorney and file for divorce. The other option is to get a girlfriend. The only two options when dealing with middle aged women.
Couldn’t focus in the message due to the accentuated background “noise” (moist lip smacking, nasal twang, and other irritating sounds).
I feel like giving up. This is rediculous. I wanna be straight and to the point. No beating around the bush
If anyone is struggling with their spouse having an affair, check out Affair Recovery on RUclips. There's a ton of extremely helpful videos clips to navigate through the affair process.
Nothing in life has ever hurt this much. Not even the death of my dear father. Cheating on me has devastated me, killed who I used to be.
WHAT THE HELL IS A MIDLIFE CRISIS?
Cedar Poplar It’s when a man discovers later in life that marriage and following the rules is a scam and he is just a slave on the plantation and nobody cares.
People thought we were the perfect couple. He wants a divorce after 17 years of marriage and a child.
Im not aloud to go anywhere he is, gym, his work, ect...
No girlfriend, seams depressed and agitated. Then acts like he could be trying then Sabotages everything rejects me tells me it’s over and blames me for everything.
Read Runaway Husbands by Nikki Stark. This gives strategies and helps put things in perspective for you. The sooner you accept reality the better. It is not all about your husband, it is about you!
I suspect you just didn't know about the girlfriend. Mine ended up having two I didn't know about and was starting on a third when I caught him. All much younger than me but not as good looking. I'm 50 but pretty darn cute. I don't mean to make it worse but you probably just don't know yet. They can hide it well. My husband started his crisis at 46. He is now 51 and not finished. I'm seeing a lawyer and preparing to serve him papers if he doesn't smarten up soon.
It is ridiculous to spend eight minutes talking about how to help your midlife crisis husband. I am a man. Men are simple. Get yourself in shape and look as good as you can. Move on with your life. It will probably not save your marriage but doing what you are doing is why you are in this position. Dealing with a woman in midlife crisis? Quickly get to an attorney and file for divorce. It is over for you.