Going Through a Mid Life Crisis - with JP Sears
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- Опубликовано: 2 авг 2024
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Facing a midlife crisis is a time of meaningful transition in your growth. At the same time a mid-life crisis can be painful, scary, and down right challenging. For men and women the time of crisis eventually shows up inside or outside of them. In this video I share understandings and insights to help you help yourself along in the meaningful challenge of your mid life crisis to get to the other side of it! This rite of passage is a given, what to do with it is the important consideration.
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Well JP, you saved a life tonight. Thank you. I am humbled by your gentle and full understanding of this situation. I'm seeing this in a new light, in tears, when twelve hours ago I was standing on a literal cliff asking myself 'jump', 'don't jump.' I understood this so much more deeply than anything I have ever heard, and am so grateful this video was suggested to me. A thousand thank yous. So this is the pains of rebirth...it just makes so much sense. It's like I'm going through the asteroid belt now, all three kids don't want me to mom them anymore, but that's all I've ever known to do or be.
I want to thank you again for the obvious care you took in making this video - though five years ago, because now I'm sort of excited that maybe the second half won't have to suck. Just, thank you so much.
I need a hug.
Nowadays, I forget there was once a “gentle” JP 😭🥴
When I first started watching this I thought, "Come on JP, surely you're too young to have gone through a midlife crisis. You can't possibly understand." I was wrong. This is hand's down, the best explanation for what happens when one goes through a midlife crisis. It helped me to see where I've become a little stuck in the process, the need to embrace the excitement/fear path. Thank you so much for sharing this thoughtful video with us.
Yes, that`s what most people think! However, I went through mine in my late 20s :) and many of my friends too. And the newer generations will go through this earlier than the past generations. (not everyone of course...but majority of people). It also depends on what kind of family you were grew up in...if you brought positive patterns from your parents...you will start questioning those and your life later (hence you will reach midlife crisis later). If you come from a "broken" family (like me haha)...you will start questioning things sooner and reach midlife crisis earlier. Or if you had major trauma... again, more chance to reach midlife crisis earlier. :) I might make a video on this.
@@gabriellakosa488 I agree with your statement about it happening earlier or later depending on turbulence in your past.
my midlife crisis was flying out to the boonies at 27 to grow my own food and commune with nature LOL I go hard! lol
I guess Ive been going through this now because I’m 51 now and I doubt I’ll live past 100 so I know this is as good as it gets and I’ve been really changing after divorce from a narcissist and just going back to my authentic self again. I am healing and not caring anymore what society says I should look like or what people think, no longer a people pleaser. I’m working on myself and doing things that make me happy for a change. I am finally looking back to the things that used to make me happy when I was little and authentic. It is a rebirth but with the knowledge that I am an adult and can have the life I really NEED to have, not want to have.
I'm more angry than scared. I've wasted my time until now.
@Jeffrey, don't be angry at yourself, as long as you learn some lessons and keep learning and growing, your time was not wasted...
In our 40's my wife suddenly started acting very immature like a teenager and eventually cheated on me with one. This sort of triggered my own crisis that went on for a while but nothing even close to what she did
I don't know if that's a midlife crisis or not but I know that that is the common way people perceive it. I perceived it that way too until it happened to me and nothing like that happened. What did happen was a shitload of regret and fear about how I lived and live my life, how much time I have left, and a lot of regret. I've always had the opportunity to feel these things but as of January 1st 2023 It's been really bad. My own mortality is suddenly very real for the first time. If I let my mind slip into that thought too much it can get very freaky very scary very anxious. Then depression. I guess everybody is different. I wish my midlife crisis was me acting very immature It seems like the end of acting immature is more like it.
This video is really exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Wow I thought JP was just a comedian! This was the best advice I've gotten yet for my midlife crisis, which started this summer for me. Thank you.
It only affects 100% of us! Love it! I'm THRILLED to be going through this! It's not a crisis but a midlife realization or awakening!
With so many people being "kicked out" of their lives over the past 10 years or so, this is an extremely thought provoking and soothing video. I think more and more folks are calling this experience a "spiritual awakening", but maybe that term puts people under a lot of pressure...and they end up jumping really far into an extreme. The new age and ancient wisdoms have been explored and re-explored over the centuries, and it can definitely open one up to broader ways of thinking...but then, the trail just stops. This is indeed, a crisis. Maybe this go around we can just experience ideas, without having to subscribe or discern against everything, and through humor and personal wisdom, find a way to finally figure something out. Thank you for helping with this process so spectacularly.
Nice. Thanks for validating this. I have also called the midlife crisis rather a "midlife chance". It does become a crisis if you are stuck in certain patterns (addictions) or relationships (partner, business partner, job, banks, kids). For me its an exciting time and i love it.
I am not even forty and I have had like seven midlife crises.
John Dow I can amen to that an I'm not even religious
@@AurianLunaLou I can agree with that and I'm not even agreeable.
The say that women experience mid life crisis @40-45 but I've had my 1st when I turned 30 & its not getting any better 😂😂😂!!
The feeling is mutual my friend and its not getting anjy better! Sometimes I don't know if I should laugh or cry about it😂😭😂😭!
I’m 19 and have had so many mid life crises that i feel like I’m gonna die at 40
One of the healthiest attitudes to adopt is to learn to flatter others and enjoy their experiences. Once you get a bit older it makes sense to make others feel good for a while and not be the top dog. Im not a fan of shallowness it ends badly. You need to shift your luck from sex and validation to something more serene.
I thought this was gonna be another comedy/satire and I was blown away by how real and amazing this was. Hell yeah. My 40s loves everything you just said.
I went through something very much like this in my 20s when I was diagnosed with a very serious like threatening illness (that almost killed me in 1996). The intensity and inescapable nature of this experience woke me up in a way that is unspeakably beautiful. I literally cannot describe what I realized. The only thing I can say is that death of the body, while it's a huge transformation, is not what we think it is.
i wonder :) Please elaborate
Glad you are okay!
Thanks for sharing! I can totally relate to that. Physical illness is a very common side effect or symptom of a crisis. When we hit the crisis point, and can`t go any deeper...we suffer enough to start making changes in our lives :). It`s an awakening, or wake up call. Life won`t be the same after that !
Wow such a great explanation, I am 34 had a masive brain tumour removed and now feeling so unsure of everything. I am starting to let go of the things that I thought were important before, it is scary.
Dylan Wilson good for you. Wow! Hope you get a new lease on life now!
Wow. I can imagine. It`s a scary place to be. Just trust that you are on the right path. Listen to that inner voice and change what needs to be changed in order to evolve.
Congratulations!! You are a badass survivor! The world is a better place because you're still here!
JP--your stuff is really useful--the funny stuff is just as useful as the serious stuff. Thank you so much for making these videos!
Thank you for explaining this in this way. I must say though, that at 62, this is taking some time for me to get through. Even the physical changes are seeming to make this mid life crisis more difficult. I hope I get through this intact, actually even better.
Mine is over 15 years behind me. It's a second adolescence of sorts, complete with menopause, andropause/ fun hormonal upheaval!
I think realizing it's a normal rite of passage is helpful.
Also, accept that you will will probably do something stupid, immature and cringe inducing in some area. Then you come out the other side, humbled, AND have something interesting to look back on, from which you will have undoubtedly learned!
I'm laughing just a little JP since you are too young to have this event yet..and no matter how one anticipates and plans and takes the philosophical view, it will fuck with your head and take you by surprise.
I learned more about myself after watching this video. Actually been going through this for more than a week. I honestly felt reborn June 29 2018. I did feel dead and wished I was not born. I have apologized to people who I have been a bad friend to. I understanding and it helps to talk about it. If you feel like you need to talk to someone please reach out
Great video JP. Your analogy of midlife to the birthing is a good one. Many people say midlife crisis is always a yearning to be young again. This can be a symptom, but is not the cause. It is a question of identity and purpose, usually triggered by an assumption about life and/or self that has been shattered. This causes a lot of questions about things that were never questioned before. One observation, at around 9:30 you talk about how it is necessary to go through who we are not before discovering who we are. This can be true, but I think you need to add that what you were could have been who you were, but it isn't anymore. People change, and the person you are at 40 is not the same you were at 20 physically, your fluid & crystallized intelligence and cognitive function, your view of yourself, others, the world - and crucially your values. Positive video. Well done.
Im definately in this now , hopefully coming to an end, My 40s have been the worst decade so far and I feel as I've never been married or had kids that I feel very similar to men, it's not empty nest so much as world weary provider,....Huge amounts of energy invested for just meagre stability where I toy with setting alight to the lot metaphorically but caught in the limbo of wanting huge change but fearing the material losses,,.Hoping some external factor will lead to the dramatic change but knowing that's the cowards way out,......Feeling resentful at always being the initiator and then resentful of initiating your own destruction to be reborn,.....
JP, you just blew my mind with the first birth crisis description. Would have never thought about these issues in that way. I'm having a really hard time in life right now so that perspective is really fresh.
I successfully emerged from my quarter-life crisis roughly 2 years ago (I'm 33 now), and is it weird to say that I'm actually kind of looking forward to my mid-life crisis? I mean, I'm definitely not looking forward to all that pain and suffering again, but the self-knowledge and wisdom gained from the last one has completely changed my life for the better. An expansion of that wisdom would be most welcome. It feels beyond hell when going through one, but it's truly amazing what a life crisis can do for you.
"so it's a re-birth" great insight JP and the way you communicate, awesome man, congrats. I've following your videos and I think this is outstanding one. Keep on the good work!
the worst thing about growing old is that wisdom comes and reminds you of what you know now you should of known then.....
Thank you for so eloquently putting into words (JPinglish!) what I have been experiencing for the past few years. Seeing the process as a re-birth makes it feel much more natural. As my old-self is burned away I am discovering that I really love the new TRUE self I am becoming!
OMG JP you are right on Point with this one , Im going thru this right now , i feel like it hit me a-lot earlier than all of my peers , im 21 going on 22 and a lot of my old activities just dont give me the same excitement (e.g partying,multiple girls,fast life living, chasing $$$ ,being very materialistic etc...,) but the funny thing is i still force myself or try and convince myself to do those things, its like now i get more excited when i lean towards using my core abilities to help other people, like sharing my ideas and connecting, or wanting to create things and give , basically just wanting to let my soul shine and flow with life, i cant really put it into words , but i let F.U.D (Fear,Uncertainty,Doubt) Hold me back , as a result i get angry and frustrated with myself, its become a cycle and i just dont know what to do , i really want to change , and move into my purpose,my truth, im just so afraid ..... Help?
You are so great....something so totally original and authentic about you.....thanks for all your videos....such a kindness and steadiness about you...and then the humor! good job man. good good job.
I am going through a MidLife Crisis now. Two of my children just moved out, one still goes to middle school next year.
Looking at my future and relationship with my husband WITHOUT kids (soon) .... I'm left trying to figure out who I am becoming.
This video actually helps with my view on the process.
Thank you for making this video.
JP you are way smarter than beyond your years,
Thank you for your fantastic videos.
"burning away" and "rebirth" is on the money. I'm 45 and had no idea midlife crisis was a real thing that was tangible and measurable, But I know now it is. As of January of this year I swear to God my life has been turned upside down and I don't even recognize myself. None of my old answers or default reactions are working anymore. I have always felt like I had time and that's gone for the first time. It's not so much external things It's just the way I see everything is different and far deeper. I hate to say it because it's so cliche but suddenly my mortality is hitting me in the face and regret is popping up. I get very uncomfortable thinking about my future because I don't like where I find myself now and feel like time is running out and I have never felt this way before. It is a terrible feeling. I hope to God it is a phase and a right of passage like you say and that I will come to know a reality where I look back at this and realize I was making my way into that next phase of life that you alluded to. This has been very shocking to me. I had no idea this was a real thing.
I’m 45 and am about a year into it. Definitely in my cocoon. Just relax and allow the butterfly to emerge. I don’t recognize myself when I look in the mirror in my eyes. I feel empty but it is a process of rebirth. We can do this
@@kennythompson513 Nice man! 🙏
How well you phrase it. I am going through one of these right now. I am however, fighting it tooth and nail. I do not like change, but as always I always get a violent shove into it.
Such a powerful video discussion JP ! For about 15 years I've been living this mid-life awakening (more that than a crisis) and have studied it from many angles. I've had good teachers too, but lately had forgotten the value of self analysis/feelings analysis. Namaste ♥ Rob
You are my favorite artsy fartsy hippy dippy long haired ginger guru! Lovely insights, and quite useful also. I love the idea of the crisis being how we handle the contractions of change as we become who we are from the place of who we were conditioned to be. If mid-life crisis is a rebirth I feel justified in my bright eyed wonder as I redefine who I am for the world. Thanks JP. Validation is good.
Oh wow. This explains so much for me right now. I am embracing this! Thank you SO much JP! You are so amazing. I'm finding so much comfort in this.
according to my college psychology class a midlife crisis is basically when you start considering your life legacy and how you will be remembered and it causes you to make life changes. someone you know that died is usually what triggers it because you reflect on their life and end up reflecting on your own life. everyone goes through one but some people go through many and you don't have to be in your 30s for it to happen.
I don't know if this is a very belated midlife crises or a premature elderlife crises, but this is applicable.
JP, I did not realize that you made videos that were other than irony and humor. This is beautiful and really helpful for me at this juncture. I would not have been able to genuinely take in these words but a few months ago but now, it lands right in my heart. Thank you
I have to say that the cliff part was very clever the day I turned 39 I felt as though I was standing upon a cliff overlooking a vast endless wilderness and in the back of my mind I know for a fact that I must jump to get to the other half to the unknown that I have to let go of my past to become a new person that my soul urine for. thank you for mentioning that I like this.
Wow. You literally speak what I feel in this video. That is so amazing. Thank you for making this video. I hope to get through my existential crisis and start on my journey in finding myself.
Cheers,
Not Actually Fred Durst
mmmm Existentialism is the answer don't you know... Was it not Alexander Pope that said.
" pay no thought for tomorrow , what ye shall eat , what ye shall put on , let tomorrow look after itself" .
thanks for sharing ..it can be a hard ride for your self and those around you ..i was thinking i was turning mad ..and sometimes stil
nice, do you have any book recommendations?
Thank you for your insightful and very positive explanation of this life phase.
You make it inspiration to embrace what we fear to address and make the changes for that next chapter in life.
My Sincere thanks to you 🍀
All my best to you.
This one touched my heart, thanks alot!
I am think what he labels as a mid life crises is something anybody can go through at anytime of their life. If you realize that everyday you wake up to the same thing and repeat over and over again with no actual purpose but to continue on your comfortable living than your going through this
Thank you. This is what I need to hear. Dont fight the resistance
As usual, very insightful and really great food for thought. I feel better just by watching JP's vids. Can always get something valuable from them. Thanks for posting.
Gosh JP...I never thought about it before, looking back on it now, that is so true, I love this analogy
I don't know if it's supposed to be funny or not, the words sound serious but the tone reminds me of your funny videos, and i end up giggling for no reason .
Korewakore Sorewasore Same. The first video I saw of his was hilarious, and now I can't take anything he says with a straight face...
freetobeme03 The difference I guess is the hair and the flower thing he wears.
Korewakore Sorewasore even when he’s funny he’s telling us knowledge but this vid is serious
Korewakore Sorewasore hello. I have felt the midlife crisis. I have been wanting to write a book about it or something. But I'm just happy sharing my story
This answered all my questions. And questioned all my answers.
Thank you JP. This is just what I needed to hear.
This is brilliant! It's the first time in my life when someone actually explained it to me.
9:50 raised three young men and can attest to the fact that you can't skip ahead in growth. It happens at its own speed. also like a first year teacher: it can be ugly and hard and you just can't skip ahead to wisdom.
JP, I don't know what I like more, your funny videos or your serious ones. Head or tails, we all win. Thanks so much!
I am as young as 19 and I wouldn't call it midlife crisis (for obvious reasons) but I feel like I am going through a lot of the same things. A depressing, scary, sad, exciting and probably helpful experience.
This is just what I needed to hear. Brilliant. Thanks, JP!
This was so true. I feel like I’m definitely thinking differently. This was excellent
I think it was becoming through with more authoritative. Oh wish I listened as I know the path I am on is no longer serving me. Oh I feel dead inside too. Not fulfilled in what I am doing, really not sure why I never followed my gut. Very informative people should follow your gut.
This video Made me feel so peaceful
JP i like your videos , you bring light into this world, Thank you.
This is amazing. Timely and so helpful, thank you.
Great advice, very articulate, couldn't have explained it any better.
Amazing. Just what I'm going through right now. I also love that I never know when you are about to be serious or funny lol
I went through it at age 37 and sure glad it happened young
very interesting point of view !!! Resonance 100 % . Thank you for sharing and taking the time !
Preach it brother. I am pretty sure I have had several "mid" life crises. like every year since I was 19.
Cynthia Bianca Matthews lol
My crisis is that of learning to recognize the corruption and selfishness of humankind. Mmmmm
No offense, but did that that seriously take you more than 40 years to realise?....
I really needed this video right now. Thanks.
I was just on the receiving end of my wife's mid-life-crisis that ended our 26 year marriage. I was really hoping that this would be one of your humorous ones that covered the importance of hair color, attending college football games, rock concerts, hanging out with your new bar friends, listening to teeny-bopper music all day and abandoning your boring family..... Got one of those scheduled?
Y does it have to be like that
Y can’t we be involved
I don’t see how’s it better
Thank you JP..this is very real for me..esp all the rrsustance
Bro that was deep.
Thank you, JP
This video literally saved my life
JP, have you possibly read Falling Upward by Richard Rohr? Many of the same concepts.
I enjoyed this video. A lot. I had a very real emotional response.
I don't think everyone has a crisis, but a transition. The crisis comes from resisting the transition and refusing to learn and grow. Refusing to look at ourselves honestly. Our shadow selves.
Thank you for making this video
Thank you for posting. I think I flipped out. I started a new job, found it difficult/hard did say this probably reinforced this. Kept saying if this the right thing for me or should I get a new job and sat on it for too long then got too depressed. Reacted badly to situation to the conflict, went off and feel like I have run away. Got a new job and not sure if fear stopped me taking a new path. I have moved location and feel like I'm dying inside and I didn't take the new path. Yeah control became a bad thing couldn't let go. Looking closely through this situation I know it should be relationships and not materials things. I didn't have gratitude and that's what life is about connection to others/relationships. I didn't connect properly didn't go back and connect properly. Who I actually am through this experience isn't very nice or is it just the way I acted. Actions causes more unhappiness not sure why I didn't stop my actions. My value should have always been my child and family and I acted in a way that is detrimental to them. Not sure why I didn't listen to my gut and do the best for me.
"Mr. Rogers for grownups".....brilliant. Agree!! =-))
Thanks..
Thank you!
Thank you for this
Damn JP...love the art piece behind you!
Dude, thanks a lot for this video!!! You're definitely right, it is a rebirth, I can tell it now!!! It really helps to go through it when we've got a clue of what it is, then it can be accepted and not fought!! :D
My brother, thanks a lot and much Love to you!!! :)
I meant the part, where you said , I'm in the healing "PROFESSION," to connect with people."
Best explanation I've heard, well done.
thank u it was helpfull!
@jpsears that's exactly what I'm going thru..
I'm in Italy at the moment listening to your video
;( it's not easy dude..
Brilliant as always!
I spent most of my life struggling to be safe and make ends meet. Luckily life is much easier now, but now I struggle with the exact things described here. Very odd problem to have, but still a problem
Thank you
This is a really good video. Thank you
Wow. This was amazing. I love the present-day cheeky j.p. sticking it to all the BS, but I really would like to see more of this kind of content from him
another great jp sears moment
JP, totally enjoy your words of wisdom on this topic... have only seen a couple of your videos and even though most of them are hilarious, which I love, this one had a more serious message... Do you have any funny videos on aging to lighten up that topic? Thank you! ;-)
I knew I could count on JP, great video
Beautiful delivered. Done- subscribed.
"Burning away who you're not." I love that perspective. Women deal with menopause in the midlife which makes it even more complicated. Do men go through any hormonal changes as well?
Well that certainly put an interesting spin on a series of thoughts of late. Awesome. Thank you. :)
I never thought that a person discussing a crisis, could put me to sleep.
I can honesty say out of all the videos I've watched I like this one bc he puts it as a "Life transition Second half of life" as a positive term! We just need 2work on our selves 2find positive things not have all these negative emotions!
Your talks always entertain me.
I've been going through a "mid life crisis" since i was 17. maybe it's what happens when you work with an older person - and listen to them.
You may be going through a crisis, but it’s definitely not a midlife crisis. It feels very different when you actually get to middle age. I’m struggling right now and it really is a very deep, soul feeling of struggle.