How Will A Narcissist End Up -
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
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(What will happen to the narcissist?) It often appears like narcissists walk off into a better sunset after causing their targets pain and destruction, this is a total illusion. By the very fact of the manner in which a narcissist needs control over others and situations they end of facing many and varied collateral consequences to their actions. Good situations are abandoned, jobs are lost, reputations ruined, financial problems are all consequences of a narcissists need to maintain an illusion of success, mask preservation and they are ultimately controlled by their desperate need for control. We explore the trajectory of a narcissists life in this educational talk and hopefully bring some comfort and reevaluation of your current situation to assist healing and thriving.
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Forget about what the narcissist made it out with, just praise God that you made it out with your life and your sanity!
Right
Your god has nothing to do with this.
Satan is the biggest narcissist ever! Narcissism is a demon, deliverance is needed.
do you know of any who have been delivered?
Deliverance is willingness to change and admitting. It's rare with a narcissist.
Their demons don't want it. Narcissists claim they are fine
Narcissism is a personality disorder...not a choice, not a demonic possession. It is formed in early childhood due to a lack of healthy bonding with the primary caregiver. This changes and distorts the nueral pathways in the brain. It's NOT treatable or curable.
I understand where you're coming from, but it is a matter of science, and there is currently nothing that can be done to repair the damage to the nueral pathways. Deliverance, unfortunately, won't make a bit of difference.
True enough.
The maddening thing is they cannot even see what they are, but they are ALWAYS the victim once they’re held accountable.
They will do anything not to accountable
The Narc knows exactly what they are doing. They focus on the kill.
They are exactly an inner species predator no matter how that narc is dressed up to appear different. Premeditated thought process. Does a wild mountain lion know what it is doing when it hunts
I grew up in a narcissistic family cult. The narcissists in my family know exactly that they are lying, threatening, manipulating, stealing and abusing others mentally, physically and financially. But I don’t know if they realize the damage they cause. Or they just simply don’t care that they cause a lot of damage, pain and loss.
Precisely!
Repulsive
What's done in the dark will ALWAYS be brought into the Light 💝
Amen
Luk12:1-7
Still waiting ….
Hallelujah 🙏🏻
A very Biblical perspective. 🎉
Narcissist Psychopaths have Criminal Behavior!
I wouldn't want to spend one day in the shoes of a narcissist. What a sad and miserable life it must be. Thank you, Paula ❤
Absolutely Thank God for our Blessings,[ sometimes in disguise]
Correct
Living to screw people over what they don't realise they take that same negative energy with them when they die then have to try and sort themselves out again when reborn. I think they have many life cycles before they realise they have to get their shit together. Most of them don't and can't work. I wouldn't employ the scattered one I know.
Yes, mine lost a loving wife and 3 lovely children and a granddaughter. They are their own worst enemy aswell as their victims. Mine doesn't even care or realise, I don't think. I hope mine, rots in hell.
@@LaurieB-hk6tl are u kidding me no accountability they seem like their happy and always have alot of 3ex and they have alot of options explain to me how being a narcissist is a bad thing ? No disrespect fyi I’m generally curious
CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.
I completely understand!! My ex husband left me & took my only child- daughter- who we were always very close at age 10!! I was/ am very strong Christian but knew nithing about narc personality- just always a living kind honest girl & nurse!! He lied to attorneys, judges etc... about me & I only got limited visits!! I got no holidays!!- Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...
@@barbaradecker4358 My narc won't be on earth much longer - I will get the kids, unless he tries to control me from the grave!! My kids are pretty much wise to him, only putting up with him at this point.
I would expect no less. The less time they spend with him all the better. My son has become a narcissist. Extremely abusive.
@@catherinewindsor1654 So is one of my sons - he did something wrong, a minor thing really (ripped the door handle off my car during a temper tantrum) but could not take responsibility for it. Ranted at everyone, including me. Looked like a complete idiot. Still can't apologize or deal with it. I don't respond but it's hard to watch.
@wendynash2587 Watch! No way. If police don't take him , kick em out! Still wants to have temper tantrum get 5 yr restraining order. Can get renewed. Paralegal can assist. WAKE UP! HES DANGEROUS.
Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.
It took me 3 years to educate myself and finally escape his prison he created.
Amen! Congratulations!
Agree 100%! I've been out of the "situationship" with the narc for almost 5 yrs. It's been a long road, but I'm at the point now that I no longer care where he is, who he's with (this week), or what he's doing! 13 yrs of my life wasted on him but many lessons learned too!
You couldn't have said it better! I experienced a malignant narcissist many years ago and find it still has a damaging effect on me. Through education and hard work I believe I have developed an immunity towards these people. It's so important that we realize it's not our problem but theirs but never give them access to our inner self. I've heard it said that with some hard work, we can become much bigger while they become much smaller. Wise words indeed. Good luck and much happiness.
It took me 30+ years to get out of the narcissist and his family
They are the Victim or the Hero in Every Story they tell . Every.
Wow, a true gem of a saying 🙂 thank you for sharing
E-v-e-r-y story 😂not funny but funny
Omgoodness ..how true😢
Usually the victim of their last girlfriend also...yawn
I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).
Thank you for your story Mike!
Also for letting people be aware this is not a gender specified attack.
I can relate , because my story is similar but with the male persuasion.
I’m an empath and married a narcissist 8 years ago. Took me a while to figure out making excuses for him. Now awaiting divorce after he lied, cheated and stole from me. Jog on with your side chicks. I am walking to freedom filled with happiness, love and laughter. 😊
Same story here Mike. 23 years worth. I feel your pain man!
Keep living your best life, Mike!
Oh, I'm so happy for you , that you get away from this relationship.
I know exactly your feelings. I was 5 long years with narcissistic person. But I'm so happy now ..... 🎉 3 years is over myself own happy life . Stay saved and I send you greetings and blessings to your way from Florida.
Greetings to all readers, please stay saved.
Karma is very real, it comes in ways most unexpected.
Yep, he lost his job, had to sell his home, married a wealthy old supply his friends hate, so they cut ties with him because of her...and he has health problems. Karma gets them for sure! Sometimes it takes awhile but its gets them.
@@annmaddock4569My ex covert narc (I left him after 10 years of toxic relationship) for about 10 years ago - he died alone in is home last year in miltiple illness of his alcohol addition, only 55 years old.
So. Karma never miss an adress ...
@@annmaddock4569 yes and yes 🙌
I respectfully disagree about Karma. My mothers, ex wife, grandmother were all high level Narcopaths. My trauma went on for about 40 years. Nothing bad happened to any of them over the years. I wish they had, nut no
Hibbertsh.oh I hope so...almost 10yrs..never ill,never has accidents nothing,
I believe in karma....its just taking so long for the creature I know...
They lack the ability to love, which is what makes life joyful and satisfying.
Exactly, I'd feel sorry for mine, if I didn't hate him as much as I do! He has no love in his life, he lost it all! Its weird because they want admiration, but in doing their control thing, they end up with no control and certainly no admiration! So they always 'hang themselves '!
That's right. They can't love others and they can't even love themselves. It's a really sad existence.
I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦♀️
But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Please give yourself grace. You didn't know what you didn't know. Hindsight is 20/20. Yes you see it all now because what happened then and self reflection. You are stronger, wiser, have more discernment now having been through that. There's a lot of people that are either still in it and don't know or are in denial. Unlike them you now see the light
Sounds more psychopathic to me… fire setters are always a major red flag in the world of mental health 😳
Mine would cuss me out in ways I have never been spoken to in my 70yrs.
And in the next breath say "I love you"...
Laughable.
Pathetic
repulsive.
We live and we learn. I just didn’t know that such characters existed.
It wasn’t up your “a$$,” it was in your heart. I think we all heard fantastical stories of their victimhood and it registered sympathy instead of alarm. My children’s father (ex husband) sounds like a Conduct Disorder (pre-NPD diagnosis for teens) based on the stories of violence he told me about in middle and high school. I would never have dated him if I had met him back then, but he made me feel seen and heard.
Now I know I have to start those things within myself.
What a ride.
My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤
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Sounds like you did break the curse.. now it's all on him and what he needs to do ..
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At least you have some time now, without this nasty piece of work! I got away after 20 years. That was 17 years ago now. He left me nearly destitute, after claiming he had no wages, gave up his job and relied on his new rich girlfriend! But I'd rather be homeless, than with that pos. Good luck to you. Leaving my nasty, narc was the best thing I ever did.
@@rowannestripe2964you're one strong individual ❤
I was bpd and full blown narc and I was delivered by the grace of God. Literal demons came out of me and then strongholds have been being broke down over the course of years. God can change anyone. I have recently had dealing including a friendship of with someone who turned out to be narcissist and I’m just now understanding through this exactly what I put people through. It’s truly humbling.
The splitting is psychological and spiritual. Extreme prayer and repentance are needed, and Jesus Christ.
Congratulations! G-d must want you here for a good reason. You escaped living death. I pray you will be blessed with understanding your mission and all the love that comes with that.
I have wondered about demons and their existance too. I believe in my religion they refer to them as "evil inclinations." "Do good and turn from evil." King David
Praise our God and Father for his love, our Lord Jesus Christ for making your rebirth into a new creation of God possible by his death and resurrection, and the Holy Spirit for his powerful work creating a new heart in you and pouring the love of God into that new heart (Romans5:5)!! May our God be praised for ever and ever and ever!!
And it WILL be so!!!
I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.
Same!!!
Love the 'cardboard cutout' analogy.
@einstein63 Thanks, it's hard to describe because I would never say someone has no soul. I don't really think that's the case. I think that perhaps the darkness they surround themselves with is almost like a cloaking shield. When someone tries to ping them, the darkness swallows it up. Although I really don't know. I hope they have a soul and can be saved.
That was exactly what my divorce attorney said, she said, "I can usually get a good read on people " and she couldn't with my soon X husband. Ya, thats the Very thing you just described
@ladyvirgo9514 I honestly very rarely come across people like that. It sounds like it was the same for your divorce attorney. I'm sorry that you were treated very poorly by your ex-husband. Unless someone has been targeted, manipulated, and abused by a Narc, they have no idea how painful it can be.
Oh yes.....God says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. God is not a man that He should lie and His word cannot return to Him void❤❤
Thank you, Heather, I need to be reminded of this constantly.
@@bobtaylor170 me too😌
I also liked a fellow. Later years. Same thing so so mean At first no. I got caught up how wonderful he was. When he was love bombing.
I became addicted to his nice ways. His karma will come
around also. It’s how I started to learn about narcissist. After I moved away. I sucked in every once in awhile. Hard to get out of it. That’s the awful part.
They can’t Love.
AMEN 🙏, I am patiently waiting...
AMEN 🙏🙌
My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault
You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤
They are not human he actually acts like a animal
@@Dale-ei4sm Yes pretty much. One thing animals don't do and that's talk baby talk. Drives me insane. Someone so cruel has no business acting like they're 4.
Otherwise, I completely agree. He's devoid of anything civilized. Should not be allowed to participate in society.
@@Dale-ei4sm I replied to you and apparently YT didn't like it. Yes. I agree completely. I've never met someone so cruel and completely devoid of feelings. He will hurt my little dogs and laugh about it because it makes me furious. He doesn't have any access to them anymore. He just isn't human.
This is just entree, listen to the latest video on Touching the Afterlife for what’s waiting for him.. 😱 for eternity
@@martyrosehappens to me all the time it’s infuriating 😤
A narcissist, as you are laying on the ground, bleeding will step on you. And, go their way.
...and feel completely justified in doing so.
@Jen.K Nay, THEY are the victim: why you're lying there...
Yes, my husband ran at me and pushed me into the floor. Once I was down he kicked me. When he was done kicking me he grabbed my foot and started kicking my knee backwards. I have a broken tibial plateu. I wish I would have left sooner.
@@Angela-u1l I'm sorry...
Gospel: Acts 2:38 Acts 22:16 Mark 16:16
Revelation 1:5 Hebrews 9:17*
1 Corinthians 11 (veil)
@@memoryrinehart thank you
Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.
I am 6 months out, and will never go back . They have Demonic spirits. They use humans. And have no conscious. They scan your personality and like the terminator will assess your weakness .
Good for you😊
"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.
Thank you for sharing
I’m so sorry you had a mother like that , I have a sister who’s a narc she just left her beautiful family including children to pursue her music career and every part of her abandoning them is blamed on her husband it’s his fault always .., I pray for her daily , I believe it’s a jezebel spirit in her demonically destroying her own life 🙏🙏🙏God bless u
Take this or leave it: Do yourself a favor when she does pass and don't bring ANY belonging of hers into to your home, no matter how sentimental, valuable, useful...You catch my drift. Even when they cross over, if they're really stubborn and nasty, they can still be operating from say, the Astral plane...the lower Astral plane, (not the higher levels of heaven, which is what we're striving for.) Any belonging of theirs, (especially if they are attached and protective of their belongings, which most are,) they can use a belonging down to a hair clip, a book or a picture, as a portal to infiltrate your home. Yep, like a haunting. This is a real thing. A second very unusual comment I will make is that if you are bedside while a narcissist is ill, unconscious, or in the process of dying...And you are open energetically through sympathy and compassion, then the narc's "bad energy," let's call it...(But what I really mean is their demons, which take up residence and come and go from the narc's body and consciousness.) These bad energies will be looking for a new host since the physical vehicle of the narcissist is going to be gone...It may sound cold but you may not want to offer yourself up to giving that crap a home. You would take them on. (This happened to me when my mother died, I'm not telling tales.) I hope that that makes some sense to you. Read "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck for more information.
They end up like they are every minute of every day in their miserable lives,nothing changes.They’re without any sense of remorse,empathy or a single thread of human decency.
Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.
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I don’t think so this is different
I feel that in order to love someone you have to love yourself. They don't love themselves. They hate themselves and everyone else.
To me not wanting harm to come to them is enough. That is enough forgiveness.
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I hope some harm comes to mine.
Give him a wake-up call, you know?
I don’t want any harm to come to him at all. Even though I finished up an emotional wreck I always thought that I could change him or what ever was wrong with him.
My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly
They, as a group, are so predictable….yet, so many are hoodwinked by them. 🤷🏼♀️. It’s baffling.
Yeah they do the same thing it’s easy to spot them
I am a well educated woman who was under the control for 13 years. They are very good at what they do but will be alone in the end and unhappy.
I never heard tell of Narcs till I met my first one. I guess I never ran in their circle of friends. I guess I will never understand how they wake up each morning knowing they will play some game to hurt another human .
@@wendylou8963 13 years 🤣 don’t be naive NEXT TIME learn how to read and study people that’s why narcissist hate Empaths we STUDY ANYONE LIKE WERE GETTING A PHD OUT OF THEM u should learn would’ve saved u a decade 😆🤷♂️
@chellotrevino7323 quite unsupportive of you. This community is kinder so maybe move along to find one more suited to you
FACT!
“There is nothing behind the mask!”
What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell.
The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you.
Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up!
Thank you 🙏 Paula
Spot on! TY&TC
Your spot on about the black eyes,frightened the life out of me,this I seen on the day he knew the game was up,I seen pure evil
That unfortunately, is a very accurate description of what is under the mask. I still can't wrap my head around it. It's chilling beyond words.
@@JH-td4mn if that experience does not wake you up…then you are dead too! That mask hides a many things but in the right conditions with the right light…it exposes everything.
God has many names, but the Devil has many more. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
@@marylynch2510 yes! They slither in under disguise manipulating, deceptive, playing with your emotions. They do not want you, they want what you have and what you are, and what you’re capable of…learn to walk and balance upon the edge of the shadows in the grey. Protect and shield your light. The Cluster B Clowns are drawn to the light like a parasitic moth.
Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
So sorry you are going through this, unfortunately the obsession after is very common due to a "trauma bond" common to the situation. See NarCon video on breaking this spell so to speak: really helpful..
I feel for your.im 3 months out of the same thing.Its gonna take time to heal,the first day is always the hardest. You're not alone,even if it feels like it. Stay strong,be strong.
I feel for you.Im 3 months out of the same thing.The first day is always the hardest.Youre not alone.Be strong and stay strong.
Start the journey to see yourself with another person. If not you are ready for a wasted life.😢
You will be okay
Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.
He sleeps with his mouth open wide he done told so many lies and he looks just like the scream mask he will look ugly in his casket I'm so serious
Oh yah they became a 3 old child in a decrepit, ugly, gross body. They faces show the Hugly , disgusting inner
Amen 😂
I have survived several narcissists starting with my parents. AFTER 70 odd years of this abuse, I studied NPD. Knowledge is power and wisdom is freedom. Never, ever going back! My response to the last one is the most powerful of all and it is SILENCE . AMEN.
I went back to my ex narc after not seeing him for 13 years. He convinced me he was different. I spent one weekend with him and he was absolutely unhinged. Drugs, booze every hour of the day. Accusing me of being a lair, the problem all along and not worthy of him. Then he’d switch into telling me how much he loved me and wanted me. It gave me the closure I had needed all these years after thinking I had lost a huge love of my life. It was so gross to witness his state of affairs. He was actually worse than I thought anyone could be.
I am glad you received your closure and can move on with your life for good.
They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.
You should know what I went thru
I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times,
where evil takes on various extreme forms.
Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics.
TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏.
Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕
Amen
My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.
Yes, my ex narc's daughter only uses him for expensive presents and early airport pickups😂😂
They reap what they've sowed!!!
So sad.
I don't feel sad. In the end, I will be indifferent if not for a passing thought of relief that they can never hurt anyone again, especially my son. The most exciting thing is justice they will now receive by God.
Rarely,from my experience ☹️
❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.
This video was heartbreaking because it’s very true.
It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.
And they get very nasty when they loose control over you. Because they don’t know what you will tell others about them. They will start controlling everyone around you, to save their reputation and their world built up on lies. They will tell everyone that you are a liar and crazy. So should you tell someone something about the narcissist, that they won’t believe you. This happened to me. I lost all family, friends and my reputation.
The narcissist has a hunger for acceptance and greed! They need to be praised to be seen and heard! And of course from a new audience!!
Often they end up like my creepy father, no friends, miserable, delusional and in shame.
Pls teach the young to know about these evil people. Don't waste your life. I did...50 yrs ... 6 yrs free finally!
Yes but, isn’t it wonderful.
Good for you! Thank God!
God doesn't even control us, hence free will of choice. However, there are consequences......good, bad, and indifferent.
If there really was free will, I would not remain in this Hell Realm. Still here.
Einstein's definition of mental illniss is continuing going back to something believing it will magically transform into something else.change.
Insanity…that’s what he said about insanity….doing the same thing and expecting different results….insanity
He was a narcissist himself. Read what he did to women in his life. Most scientists have sold their souls to Satan.
This is so insightful, the continual hunger, the magical thinking, the obsession to get their needs met, their inability to assess reality or accept reality as it is. Thank you.
This was really good. So many others say the nar is invincible. Glad to hear the truth. I’ve seen it. Eventually the narcissist’s reign will wear out. Thanks. Your delivery is clear, direct, and understanding.
Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏
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God my father ,I need your hand for total deliverance from a narcissist to enjoy my life and family in Jesus mighty name.Amen
God fix it ,God solve it for there is no impossibility in you .Amen
My ex is definitely a narcissist. He is now homeless with his mistress. He risked our family and lost us. He has never apologized nor has he taken accountability for his actions. He’s homeless and needs a place to live. After giving him 3-4 chances to have a place. He asked me today. I can’t subject my family to him anymore. He’s always been a gambler and had addiction problems. I’m over it
I definitely know a narcissistic person. They wanted to control me, tell me what to do, they were addicted to alcohol, their three kids have nothing to do with them, and they are still trying to control and manipulate someone else now. I can see this person ending up totally alone.
Oh my, these people live among us. I’ve heard the percentage is 10/1. Blessings to you and your family. 🌱🩵
Thank you for mentioning that some narcs will remove themselves from this planet. I left my narc after 30 yrs of marriage and he threatened to leave the planet 4x and I thought it was all threats to get me to come back until the 5th time he actually went through with it. It's a very difficult situation that's hard to discuss due to social media blocks- so thanks again for at least mentioning it.
I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc
❤Doggy in the background so pure
Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first
A long trail of broken home and family poverty too
so true
Amen to that
The Bible says all Liars will have a place in the lake of fire
I like your living room interior. It's beautiful and looks comfortable. Great colors and textures.
Thank you so much!
Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!
"he is angry all the time" 😂👍
.. Sounds familiar to me.
The addictions and porn etc as well..
@@Miss5852-lotta is all this the same for you? They are so evil! It scares me now to know just how evil yet he had me in such a state that I thought he was normal.
@@sharonshepherd3728 oh yes, my perception was so disturbed as well.. Like hypnotized. Most beautiful, wonderful person on the planet with a hidden heart of pure gold 🫣🥴
I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out.
They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time.
Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything.
I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out.
He is getting his karma.
Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around.
He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden.
God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.
Alex Murdaugh has become a PRIME example of ALL of what you speak here, Paula.......
Do you know if Murdaugh also cheated on his wife with other women? I heard he was just an extremely addicted drug addict who used financial schemes to get extra money for his out of control, self destructive drug addiction to pain killers.
I had a horrible boss named Elizabeth Murdaugh. She bullied and took advantage of people. Everyone had to be bullied into submission and became her flying monkeys. People had to buy her gifts or risk her wrath. She wasn't a boss, she was a tyrant. It was a very oppressive work environment. Peace, among other things was destroyed at that place. When I look at that name (Murdaugh), it sounds a lot like murder. Wonder if those two are related?
Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.
This one really hit me💡
I do wanna say…
They are SO good at making everything look
Well…. Hunky Dori😬😂
You have perfectly describe the mental torture I endured for years. This maniac of an ex husband I was with wouldn’t let me go down to the Mail room because he was intensely jealous. He wouldn’t let me walk across the street to the grocery store. He wouldn’t let me work out. He told my family I was “ just unable to control !!! “ without providing context which is how he swooned them into believing and validating his behaviour. I went crazy thinking I was being unreasonable.
Later when I asked to divorce he said he was trying to protect me and said anything could happen to me in the Mail room. He cried saying he saw his friends get raped and felt helpless that he couldn’t do anything .. literally what ?
I couldn’t believe my ears especially knowing all of his control tactics were no where CLOSE to being enforced for protection. I was in awe when he used that as an excuse because in those moments he was calling me a whore a slut everything even though I wore sweats to the gym.
My family believed him.
I still can’t believe how mental this man is and how crazy he has made me. The physical and mental abuse has changed me forever. But I won’t let this ruin my life forever.
If you see this whole thing as a spiritual journey, narcissists seem to be stuck in some very primitive realm where they can’t become unstuck or evolve. My departing instinctive thought with The Narc was: you are not going to get it right this time around. You will die in this condition and may or may not get another shot. Only a force much bigger than us knows that.
Yes!!!
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My thoughts too
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That’s right, because God forgives everyone, including Narcissists, they only have to ask.
Ex Narcissist has a heavy addiction which he makes out he no longer has...in denial. I have finished with him now. Impossible to help him. So I now help myself.
I am so thankful & grateful for this video I am going through horrible times at the moment this shed a whole lot of light into my life thanks 🙏🏼
Thank you so much Paula for all your pointers we need to hear. What a happy positive blessing you share with broken wounded people who are struggling to understand what has actually happened in their life. Your understanding and words give us - especially me - hope for living in the present and future. Allowing me to shed my skin of my past horrendous life after being married to a narc over 20 years. Hearing you describe his personality to a T is been so rewarding. It like you have given my a pair of HD glasses and I can now see clearly all the areas of hurt, wrong, abusive, brokenness and set me on the road for healing. As a human I too have brought about hurt and heartache but the difference is down the line I want to talk and straighten rough areas out and not leave them to fester. My narc ex husband only spoke when he wanted and had to be about him. Really nothing got sorted out but I went with the flow due to 2 young children. It is an appalling road to walk as I felt I was blind with no white stick and had to find my path through life with no help. Since I have been listening to your podcasts now 4-5 months I know without a doubt he was unfaithful not that it has surprised me at all. His 2 other brothers did the same and feel they are cut from the same cloth. So he was 49 when we separated and he could never hold down a job for more than 9 months. He would walk out if they looked the wrong way at him otherwise every other time he was sacked! How absolutely shameful to have this history and he truly thought nothing of it. He was very into risk taking not thinking about anything or anyone not even his wife or children! He has never ever owned up to any wrong ever!
With your help I no longer feel guilty anymore and I love myself and my life even more now that I never have to see him. In my opinion he is definitely deranged mentally before I knew about narcissistic behaviour. His life is so miserable and can’t stop thinking about his woes ( my kids tell me) you are right that they are very unhappy inside. I really believe because all of this life style he has physically aged at least 15-18 years older than his birth age. We all can choose our pathway in life and make sure we mix with like minded folk to stay on an even keel. I pray that everyone listening to your words get the best value and understanding out of them as I do. You are my blessing in life and thank you for all your time and energy into going above and beyond for us. It was so lovely to see Remy snoozing on the sofa and hope you could enjoy fresh air and good walk to clear your mind of these demons in our lives. Take care until next time 🙏🐕😊
What a truly beautiful message and thank you for the encouragement to everyone here 🌹🙏🐕
Zachary I just went through exactly what you just described .It has been 5 months and now I am Grateful for prayer and that God has released me and has given me peace beyond all understanding.
They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.
The thing is sometimes it's not always the narcissist who ends up alone. They leave you broke and broken. usually at the worst time for you. They also make sure you will never trust anyone again as long as you live.
That’s a belief you can change 🌹
A wise, really brilliant analysis of the narc long view. I have a 43 year experience with one watching her devolved life by now. Thank you!
im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!
I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense.
The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.)
He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone.
I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore.
In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends.
I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate.
Good.
Everything you have said resonates with me 💯
The good news is for us. Most of us listening to these vids, know what to look for now, and have enough self care now to smile and walk away when one pops up. Like last year for me at church, noticed this person lied about some pointless stuff, when I said no to the littlest thing he was visibly angered and asked are you sure? Yep with a smile. Then it was sending me a pic of himself of just getting my number the day before. (Love bombing). Then noticed the black eyed stare one day. Then an attempt at intimidating me, these people are strange and completely unhinged. Smile and walk away with ANY new narc you meet. NO explanation, excuse needed.
Yep, I just met One about two weeks ago, he is a below knee amputee he claims it happened in the military, but I don’t believe him due to not having a disabled veteran tag, no medals nothing but an army shirt you can buy anywhere, and stuck some US flags on the back of his SUV, I think he’s too prideful to say how he lost his leg but you know Narcissists, and he was African too, but anyway, he blurted out What the F are you doing? Because I made a simple mistake. Yeah he supposed to be Christian etc. etc. talk to Talk but doesn’t want to walk but when he blurted that out to me, I already knew it was time for him to bounce amongst other things. He did like treatment, but I was so kind, but you know how it goes.
Thank you for sharing all your experience. ❤
You are so welcome!
I am so glad I told her that she had broken me - she had - for a little bit. Then I got help, education, therapy and now I understand the real truth. She was so convincing when I was with her, heck she was a yogi!! Glad I figured it out and glad I was able to get away mostly scot free with some anxiety thinking it was me.
Some of them waltz into the sunset of old age and die in peace. The problem with expecting their comeuppance is that even their misery is on their own terms in which they can lay blame on others or circumstances. If they were they capable of feeling remorse, they would not act the way they do. It's more like a selfish regret they feel. For every narc that unalives, how many victims do the same after having their lives shattered? Just from reading the comments and there are collective centuries of time wasted on these creatures. I find no meaning or context for this kind of experience outside of a spiritual battle. The worst of them do seem like husks occupied by demons.
My narc father died 2 days ago. I didn't shed a tear. Not one. I shed so many as a child that I no longer have it in me. I'm sad he died alone and unhappy but he did it to himself. All I can do is pray for him now .
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Where do they find this boundless energy?
It's like they're riding on the back of the devil.
My narc mum is 82, physically disabled but has the energy that I've abuse in other Narcissists.
They seem to live longer than people who feel.
It's true, the best die young.
My mother has made me so angry with her abuse towards my father for years on end.
We are sorting out a resthome for her, so Dad can get some peace and quiet.
His heart has gone out of rhythm due to my mothers screaming abuse.
Im totally done with her....and my sister.
And I've been the target for Narcissists three times in my life, so my patience for them is nil.
My brother recently told me that I'm a good communicator yesterday.
He said my sister doesn't talk much and is poor at communicating.
I dont have any contact with my sister as she is a hollow mask and a self referencing joy sucker.
At least my youngest sibling is starting to realize that their are basic problems within our family.
Mum is always on my arse about something and is an abusive drama queen.
My sister is a sneaky, underhanded delusional control freak.
They are both different but both as difficult as each other.
I just want a quiet life of honest connections with good people.
God bless your heart
I love that you said the Narcissists do not get to feeling enough. They always need the constant feeding, validation LOL. I am one of the Children of them but I am lucky that I don't let them turn me into one.
Absolutely. I kept repeating my self to him: there is no easy money!!
Thank you for sharing. I've followed you along this journey for years and have learned so much.
Thanks for being a part of the journey 🌹🙋♀️
TRULY THE RELATIONSHIP IS A WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY .. ALWAYS THEY LEAVE YOU .. CRIPPLED .. BROKEN .. DAMAGED .. THE RECOVERY THAT FOLLOWS IS A LONG AND WINDING ROAD .. THERE IS NO EXECEPTION TO THE NARC DYNAMICS .. B .. XOXO ❤
What you sow you will reap iis straight out the bible😊
Measure for Measure. Also biblical
WELL DONE PAULA - EVERY THING YOU SAY IS 100%
Be well, Paula and Remy.
This woman is very knowledgeable and is a superb communicator. What a find
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I think karma comes around. Last few yrs my ex husband wasn’t even respected by the hospital. He was so mean.
I didn’t even talk to him anymore for years. Just as a decent human being. It was done
Excellent explanation.
Narcissistic members in the family I was raised in .
Almost no contact.
Very happily away from them now .
Completely brilliant !! I describe myself as being a wanker magnet all of my adult life… what I didn’t realise is, that the four relationships that I have had, they have always been narcissistic… they are devious, destructive and downright dangerous… I am so grateful that I survived the narcissist and I am grateful for this vlog…. I look forward to moving forward… thank you for being you… xxxx
These people walk with a mirror hmm...All they see is themselves...Thanks lady❤
Excellent! Having been discarded or escaped from a narcissist all of what you said makes perfect sense, I am moving on and getting on with my little life, feeling carm and contented, these creatures need to be pitied.
Forgiveness is for us, not them
Paula, I cannot thank you enough for this very timely video. I really, really needed this. You have helped me tremendously. Bless you and may your life be filled with overflowing love, joy and happiness 🦋❤️🦋
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Wow your on point my ex who was the worst ive met is now living on the street a full blown junkie . And he has lost everything in cluding hes looks
Oh my God, very clear explanation. My ex. always had a get rich quick idea. He is never wrong. Lies when it's not necessary, needs constant praise. His health is failing. His family has seperated from him.He costantly makes promises, to others he cant keep. He went on vacation instead of paying his proprty taxes. You are spot on. Will place this on repeat to remind me why I stay gone.
I’m so grateful I found this video. Your logic is so refreshing. I needed to hear sense. Thank you.❤️
You are so welcome
My father in law is a covert narc and my step son is a malignant narc. My husband finally told his father exactly what he has done in terms of creating the monster that is our spoiled, entitled and evil son. What did my FIL say to this? "I wish our family could be closer." He spoiled our son so badly he would hold his breath until he turned blue if he didn't win a board game. I tried to tell my husband thirty years ago that this would end in tragedy (the enabling, spoiling and not holding him accountable) He kicked our dog one day and I lost my mind-after that I became the enemy and I was truly on pins and needles. They will reap each and every thing they've sown-grab the popcorn and enjoy their demise. And please, go no contact. Rid your lives of these demons.
45min of you and only you talking about narcissism. Good job
Our little old man narricist down the street last 2 weeks almost unrecognizable looking exhausted and beat prognosis negative 😊
The narcissist's comeupance... I was angry for a long, long time. But when something (slightly) bad happened to her, I just had empathy for her. I'm out of the trauma bond, there is zero chance of reconciliation... I rejected several hoovers and flying monkeys. But I don't wish harm upon her. The way I see it... the desperation for attention that she >>needs
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A great way of putting it. a waste of a life
After horrific abuse to me for 26 years. My husbund had two strokes. I was his caretaker.
I had a front row seat to him paying his Karma for all the damage he did to people, including his daughter and grandaughter. And I stayed with him until he passed in our home in hospice.
Please dont stay like I did. Just know Karma is real. They will get theres
Thank you that helped me so much
My narc ex steals at the hospital he works at. He's convinced he won't be caught, because he's done it for so long. What an idiot!
He may be an addict and an idiot but not npd…