4 Signs You've Met "THE ONE"

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Комментарии • 245

  • @TheJoshGalt
    @TheJoshGalt 3 года назад +198

    You inspired me to: Divorce my toxic ex-wife, build a stronger relationship with my children, build a 7 figure business, identify toxic people, and meet the love of my life. You are an incredible person Stephanie. Thank you.

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      Hi Josh, I can recommend you to Dr. Oss. who helped me to manifest back my ex, it work without delay.

    • @roxynamreh543
      @roxynamreh543 3 года назад +1

      Thank you for all your videos. I have followed you for one year. You are amazing so real and the best out there!!
      Have a wonderful Christmas 🎄
      Happy New year 🎊🎆🎈
      You have given the best gift ever 🙏🏻

    • @heyoldman2003
      @heyoldman2003 3 года назад

      Amen !!

    • @tbri5852
      @tbri5852 3 года назад +1

      Awesome

    • @nicklammi3745
      @nicklammi3745 Год назад

      Getting rid of the toxic people in one's life is an absolutely amazing feeling-- I had done the same back in 2016 divorced my wife due to her emotional abuse, have built the best relationship I could with my 2 children, took my career to the next level- and my bull sh... meter has been quite heightened and has kept me safe for not falling into the same horrible relationships afterwards- nicely done.

  • @fade2241
    @fade2241 2 года назад +44

    1. Beliefs & Values align
    2. You both own/take responsibility for your own stuff (insecurities, short comings, etc.)
    3. Supports you unconditionally
    4. It's easy
    🙂

  • @alibertylover
    @alibertylover 3 года назад +141

    Last time I thought I met " the one", my dog convinced me that I already have the one. My dog always responds to love & affection...

    • @phoenix2024-
      @phoenix2024- 3 года назад +4

      this made my day!

    • @iammaximus614
      @iammaximus614 3 года назад +3

      I know the feeling .....🐕‍🦺

    • @kmc7062
      @kmc7062 3 года назад +4

      Always listen to your dog. My last partner and I had instant amazing chemistry. I fell hook line and sinker in love... until I discovered months later I was with an insane narcissist. I should have listened to my dog because the first time my ex stayed over and was showering in my guest bathroom my sweet wonderful dog... crapped in a circle in front of the closed bathroom door. Something he had NEVER done before or since. I wish I had listened to my dog as he was absolutely correct. I could have avoided my ex’s mental instability, his drug addiction, attempts on my life, restraining orders, court dates, etc. Thank you Stephanie Lyn for all of your fantastic videos. They have been a godsend 🙏🏻

    • @alibertylover
      @alibertylover 3 года назад +1

      @@kmc7062/ ha, haaaaaa.......that's a good one. Yes, dogs are special creatures, especially when you develop a special bond of trust & love with them. Not all people are capable of this & I had a similar experience with my narcissistic girlfriend, who questioned & criticised the bond I developed with my dog before I met her. I grew up on a farm, & it has always been a joy to appreciate animals. They have qualities that most people don't, that's for sure.....& YES, these videos are spot on, as others are as well.

    • @adamdurham16
      @adamdurham16 3 года назад +1

      I think you are correct. I will get a dog.

  • @PersonalGrowthNow
    @PersonalGrowthNow 3 года назад +58

    Both parties MUST be able to take personal responsibility. A must.

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

      Hello dr tuda has the power to help you on this ,he helped me get my broken relationship back together again

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

      Whatspp

  • @keejackson2121
    @keejackson2121 Год назад +6

    I'm in that "its just easy" type of relationship right now, and it's absolutely wonderful. It's literally like finding yourself in another person. Your both like minded and want the same things. It's not forced, it's smooth sailing.
    I hope anyone watching this find this in their person❤

  • @debrabarber8034
    @debrabarber8034 3 года назад +82

    I'm in the middle of my escape. But I needed to be reminded that a healthy relationship is possible in the future. Blessings.

    • @johannaquinones7473
      @johannaquinones7473 3 года назад +2

      Absolutely. Don't compromise your happiness. This is your 1 life to live.

    • @skbains86
      @skbains86 3 года назад +6

      Ha ha “escape”. I love this word. I am too and plan on hiding out with much much healthier people until I heal.

  • @RN-gx7wt
    @RN-gx7wt 3 года назад +10

    Look for emotional maturity, not comparison, look for mental health, stability clarity, look for the sense of purpose.

  • @obscurum6
    @obscurum6 3 года назад +30

    She is so right about the relationship with the right one is easy. Too many people push the idea that you have to work hard at relationships. If you have to try hard to keep it going then leave!

  • @F0reverblessed
    @F0reverblessed 3 года назад +85

    Being comparable, having the same beliefs and values it’s KEY! A relationship can’t possibly last if you have to constantly argue about each other’s behavior and way of living.
    From a self love content creator to another; great topic, great tips Stephanie!! 💕

  • @UdoADHD
    @UdoADHD 3 года назад +66

    How these tips worked for me:
    1. We share the same lifestyle GOAL. That was most important to me. There are other things in lifestyle that I want that he doesn’t care about and vice versa but I needed this 1 thing to be there in a relationship - I needed to be with someone who wanted a wealthy life and will do whatever it takes to achieve it.
    2. He right away told me about what his “stuff” was and I told him I aggressively seek help for my mental health
    3. I think she explained this very well
    4. It should feel easy. Yes. It’s hard to explain.
    It doesn’t mean arguments are easy or nothing bad ever happens. It just means the relationship IN GENERAL feels like it’s easy to be open, honest and yourself. You don’t walk on egg shells or tiptoe. And when things DO Not Feel easy, can it be resolved in a healthy way and both people feel easy again? This one was one I didn’t realize was a thing until I found an easy relationship.

    • @johannaquinones7473
      @johannaquinones7473 3 года назад

      Exactly👌👌👌👌

    • @UdoADHD
      @UdoADHD 3 года назад

      @cynthia g And you as well. Sounds like you need it

    • @angiemh8818
      @angiemh8818 2 года назад

      Well said, and a reminder I am with the wrong dude. It is not at all easy to be open honest or myself. He will call me stupid when I do that.

  • @RuthRandoms
    @RuthRandoms 25 дней назад

    The number of men I’ve met who think they are never in the wrong and cannot ever apologise for anything is unbelievable. So many men are so full of pride, ego and arrogance - “it’s never me, it’s always her at fault”. I can apologise and realise when & how I’m wrong. The men, rarely ever. More in-love with their own ego than anyone else!!!

  • @imaginedo2407
    @imaginedo2407 3 года назад +9

    She is, by far, the hottest coach on RUclips. So elegant!

    • @dijonvolner6024
      @dijonvolner6024 3 года назад +1

      And a beautiful speaker, that articulates herself well in a refreshing, feminine, yet professional manner!! For some reason I got stuck on the word "decompress" and just thought.. wow..what a great word choice! I wonder if Stephanie would do communication/speech workshops @stephanielyncoaching

  • @Christina-tc8nr
    @Christina-tc8nr 3 года назад +14

    I love that you always have flowers in the background! It makes me so happy

  • @johannaquinones7473
    @johannaquinones7473 3 года назад +17

    This was very good. Completely agree with you. After 23yrs of happy marriage I can tell you the feeling of "easy" is what I tell everyone is tge secret. For a couple to remain together in a happy marriage it cannot feel like a daily struggle. You have to feel safe and understood. Good job putting this video together!

  • @katiedunlap235
    @katiedunlap235 Год назад +2

    One thing I like to tell my friends who always tell me they keep ending up with the same kind of people and it’s a constant dead end-be like George from that Seinfeld episode where he does the opposite of everything he normally does and things finally start to go his way. I chose to date the opposite of what I normally looked for, looks wise. For example, I’m 5’10 and he’s 5’5. I always told myself I would never date a shorter man cause society told me that wasn’t acceptable. But conversation with him was so easy and he was in all other aspects, very much my type. His smile made my heart flutter and his laugh made me laugh. I’m pretty determined to marry this man one day. Life is just so easy with him.

  • @aminahassaf7254
    @aminahassaf7254 3 года назад +18

    Thank you so much for this. At 63 years of age, I believed I was quite content on my own after two failed marriages. Now, my amazing & loving friends are telling me I have 'developed' so much, it's time I gave an intimate relationship another chance. I truly appreciate ALL your guidance AND recommendations. 💖💖💖

    • @starrysoup
      @starrysoup 2 года назад +2

      Hey friend! I hope you're doing good, you're such a strong person and I'm sending you a hug 💜

  • @matthewwozniak9138
    @matthewwozniak9138 Год назад +1

    It important to be nice to people even if they aren't the one.

  • @heartsumlivingjallang9706
    @heartsumlivingjallang9706 3 года назад +30

    Yes a relationship should be easy and you should feel safe to be who you are.. the should be inner self work not trying to stop fighting, work. Nice talk Stephanie :)

  • @candy2325
    @candy2325 3 года назад +7

    The part where you mentioned where the relationship should feel easy and not too hard is so true. My boyfriend and I been dating for a year (met through the pandemic 😷) and I feel this ease with him and I don’t feel like I have to jump through hoops to keep the relationship alive. We share the same values, we’re mature .. I’m 32 and he’s 40, so now we’re both more “settled” with ourselves and know what we want in a relationship since we’re older. He’s amazing and I love him

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Hello to whom it may concern I know of someone who helped me get my ex back and he can also help you as he did mine too

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Text on WhatsApp

  • @reacherstudio
    @reacherstudio 3 года назад +11

    Wow I never really thought bout seeing how they handle themselves, or handle me when things are stressful! I can be a people pleaser and forget that I'm looking for a match too. Thanks Stephanie

  • @Ladycooks
    @Ladycooks 3 года назад +32

    I can't wait to watch this outside the office! I got married thinking I had met "the one" only to learn his divorce papers were forged and he's a huge liar. It was all roses and glory in the beginning but I quickly learned he was a total fake. Can you believe the loser was frantically messaging me every day when I called him out. Come on dirtbag, enough already! My mom found the love of her life at age 69, so I still have hope!

    • @skbains86
      @skbains86 3 года назад

      Your Mum’s story is so inspiring. There’s always healthier people out there, at any stage of your life

    • @SHines-qk9qj
      @SHines-qk9qj 2 года назад

      I'm 68 so it's inspiring about your mom. I met the great love of my life when I was 20 but I turned away for various reasons, and when I went back to find him decades later, he had died. It's so challenging to meet people right now with Covid going on! But your mom's story gives me some hope.

  • @bettyhahn5340
    @bettyhahn5340 3 года назад +7

    So hard to find these types of men nowadays. Would love to meet someone like that.

  • @calisunset1
    @calisunset1 2 года назад +2

    It should be easy! Not feel like you don’t wanna go home after work.

  • @JenFromCa84
    @JenFromCa84 3 года назад +9

    Always so helpful, as always! I’m learning a lot with a new relationship I’ve been in. It’s long distance for the time being but it’s okay because I know it’s him that I want. It’s worth it because it’s unconditional. After such toxic relationships before, I get it now.

  • @Iam_anHeir
    @Iam_anHeir 3 года назад +7

    Stephanie,
    Thank you so much for this video...it was extremely helpful to me. It put the stamp on what I came to believe and desire in what a heathly relationship is suppose to look like.
    I have come to learn there are basic, staples in every healthy relationship that must be there!
    Also, thank you for having this RUclips channel. You are right. It's free counseling if a person takes to heart and applies what you share, teach, instruct.
    Bless you, Stephanie!

  • @rupinderh01
    @rupinderh01 3 года назад +5

    That was one of your best videos,thank you Stephanie. Friendship is so important and something I've heard people say X

  • @Clyde54858
    @Clyde54858 3 года назад +4

    Love this topic it was a beautiful one everyone has that special person out there that makes it easy to live truly live life before their time is out on earth THANKS SO MUCH NEED TO HEAR THIS MISSY.😊

  • @RuthRandoms
    @RuthRandoms 25 дней назад

    This woman is right in lots of ways but it’s almost impossible to find such a partner. Incredibly rare. Too many narcissists these days.

  • @lttlod1
    @lttlod1 3 года назад +5

    Thank you for this video! I'm just getting back into the dating world and was kind of nervous about doing so. The things you describe are what I'm looking for and it feels good to hear them. I actually had a conversation with someone online this past weekend who I believe had a bunch of narcissistic traits along with gaslighting and boundary issues. I noticed it quickly in our conversation over text and put the kibosh on it. I was super proud of myself. Choosing my needs over some jerk. Also, it's interesting, the things you are talking about I see the opposite in my some of my friend's marriages and it's not working for them after several years together. Sometimes I feel left behind being single but I think I see things are happening in my favor.

  • @Greg_Chase
    @Greg_Chase Год назад

    It's also a good check to see the person under stress.
    1) amusement park, a 'feels dangerous' ride (the Slingshot in Orlando, or a very high-speed roller coaster, or 'sudden drop' ride, etc)
    2) take a weekend vacation and purposely book the room in a shady hotel in a sketchy part of town
    3) go to a very exclusive restaurant, have a friend of the opposite gender show up and allow them to join the meal
    4) call and say you're out of town for the next two months due to a close family member falling ill
    And check the reaction of your 'chosen one.' If she cannot handle the stress of those situations, you have learned something.
    Very few people ever purposely check the 'stress-handling' skill of their flame. It's a shame because if you take on your partner, unexpected drama 100% will occur from time to time and it's best to find out now how they respond.
    Some people really display dramatic changes in personality under stress.

  • @djfes2357
    @djfes2357 3 года назад +3

    I am hear to say thank you for all your positive feedback. Everything you are saying is the truth. Real life emotions. No fakeness. Not even an opinion. You are helping me everyday. This is my third Narc. I didn't even know until about 2 weeks ago. I fell in love with her have her all of my heart. Now there's a knife in it. Anyway. Thank you for being so knowledgeable and helpful.

  • @garycordle5295
    @garycordle5295 3 года назад +2

    Great video Stephanie, I think as long as you really can just get along and be honest about everything, that's the first steps.

  • @ronboggio2926
    @ronboggio2926 3 года назад +8

    Stephanie
    Interesting video. Your introductory statement of “owning your stuff” is the keystone. The expectation of course the partner “owns their stuff” too. Yes, you brought that forward yet there is so much more to that simple statement. I feel there are a couple of dots that need to be connected in the context of that statement. First, it is a vital imperative “you” own your stuff, and it has to be “real” stuff. Context is important here. I am going to use MBTI language, it is well known and easily referenced for anyone wanting to learn more. When I say real stuff, the context is the real you. Not the “mask” your projecting. Equally you must be able to recognize if the other person is owning their stuff or supporting their projected persona. Owning self = good, projecting stuff = bad.
    One must understand the basic mechanics of your personality, strengths and weaknesses; Introversion/Extraversion, Sensing/Intuition, Thinking/Feeling, Judging/Perceiving. These are not good or bad, right or wrong they just are who you were created to be. Hear what I said there. You are wonderfully made, perfect in your being, both strength and weakness’s. We get in trouble when we try to operate in our weakness as if its our strength and visa versa. Stephanie, the example you presented about Christmas shopping and how it drains you is the perfect example. Understanding and owning that, i.e. being an introvert is vital for our own personal health and wellbeing. (being secure in who we are stops the guilt projection of others) For those that may confuse the word introvert here, the context is one who draws their energy from solitude. On the contrary an extrovert draws their energy from being with people, lots of people. There is an inverse proportion to this, an extrovert will find it draining to be in solitude etc. You must own and communicate this about yourself to allow for a proper establishment of expectations with whomever you are with. Do not fall in the trap of “the other person should just know”. This is a perfect example of not owning your stuff and expecting the other person to own it for you. Here in is the conundrum, is it because you do not know what you do not know or, are you patiently playing a game to take what you want. I am refereeing here to a closet narcissist. Absolutely imperative you pick up on that and ferret the truth out.
    I do not want to induce an unhealthy concern or fear. Facts are pretty basic; at the beginning of a relationship you own what you know. Once in a relationship you learn about your partner and yourself and you own what you discover and grow together. As Stephanie has brought our multiple times the emotion part of “in love” can be very overwhelming to the point of cognitive reasoning interruption. Therefore, it is so important you surround yourselves with friends who have the permission to talk into your live the hard things. Do not, do not become isolated in the “Infatuation stage” where many decisions get made without perspective and are very painful to recover from.
    The umbrella over all the points brought out is a position statement. Can I be for you, not against you? As we become one, the uniqueness of you and your qualities do not dimmish but amplify the greatness of us. It may sound like I am saying “am I willing to serve you”. While service is a component of that it is not the core. “I am for you looks something like this. I want you to become all you excel to be and are meant to achieve. I will build and protect a space just for you, to be you. If you set out and fail you will not embarrass me, I will pick you up dust you off and send you on your way again. Should you decide what you tried is not what you thought and in fact it is not where you should be, I will not be disappointed but celebrate with you the victory of discovery. When you cry and I do not understand I will standby humble, not imposing my will but wait for you direction. I will stand vigilant when life has made you vulnerable. I will celebrate the uniqueness of you when the tough times leave you to indifference. The focal point I am vainly trying to contextualize is the personal choice I commit to - “I choose you” I am for you. BUT………. This same commitment must be reciprocal. If the reciprocal is not present the relationship will be hollow at best and fail at worst. The commitment in principle is the same, the delivery of the contents will be unique based on the individual. Now the contents brought forth in this video have a place to land and make impact on choices. In my experience this choice is the binding of a relationship. If both parties cannot individually commit to this even the similarities will not hold a relationship together. Over the years the ebbs and tides of life will cause people to drift apart or crash into one another, either of which is devastating, The anchor or binding is owning and communicating your stuff, good bad or ugly in the commitment of “I am for you, not against you”.
    Keep up the great job Stephanie, love you work!

  • @LorenaT77
    @LorenaT77 2 года назад +4

    I wanted to say thank you for all your great advice. You have helped me so much. My boyfriend of 5 years and I, are currently on a break. However after watching this video I realized that our relationship has all those qualities. I feel very lucky and blessed to have that in a partner. He is not perfect and so many of his habits/ personality traits get to me sometimes. I do however know that he has all these wonderful qualities that I have not had before in a partner. I believe if we work on our issues we can get through them. Thank you for this video. 😘

  • @jeremywebster5432
    @jeremywebster5432 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for making this video! The boxes are checked and there's an easiness with one of my friends. Yippee!!

  • @roxynamreh543
    @roxynamreh543 3 года назад +2

    Thank you so much for all your videos.
    I have followed you for 1 year. You are amazing and the best out there.
    Have a merry Christmas 🎄
    Happy New Year 🎊🎈🎆
    You have given me the best gift ever 🙏🏻

  • @elleemme9427
    @elleemme9427 3 года назад +3

    Hey Stephanie, I think you are a beautiful woman I'm so proud of you for the progress you've made. And kudos to you for reaching out to help others. GOD Bless

  • @toristeunebrink5705
    @toristeunebrink5705 Год назад

    This is seriously one of the most helpful videos I have ever seen

  • @tiffharper143
    @tiffharper143 3 года назад +1

    This was great. Thank you for this!!

  • @charlesmunroe2335
    @charlesmunroe2335 3 года назад +4

    Thank you for the wonderful content! You make a difference.... XO

  • @gloriazarate9983
    @gloriazarate9983 3 года назад +1

    Awesome advice, thank you!

  • @karolinawilk7178
    @karolinawilk7178 3 года назад +1

    so wise and HOW BEAUTIFUL IS THIS WOMAN DAMN

  • @biozio186
    @biozio186 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for the great content

  • @justinshelton5104
    @justinshelton5104 3 года назад +1

    Another helpful video! Thank you very very much!

  • @BCHODOSH01
    @BCHODOSH01 3 года назад +5

    Stephanie, as i am a very sensitive person, and an Empath i fully understand the need to some quite down time to recharge after being in a noisy, chaotic atmosphere. I have had partners that could not understand or respect that part of my personality and it created a lot of conflict in those relationships. I believe a relationship should have respect, trust, emotional maturity, communication, shared and common values, honesty and a willingness to not need to always be right or the " winner" in a disagreement. If we are partners in this relationship then we need to be " shooting at the same goal" and not just wearing the same team jersey , but shooting at different goals.Laughter, a sense of humor, and not taking yourself too seriously also helps in communication and not becoming too defensive over every darn thing. If you can't enjoy the relationship, then why be in the relationship! Thank you for your guidance and wonderful advice. Take care, and be well.

    • @jillianwickham31
      @jillianwickham31 3 года назад +2

      I love your comment and wish you all the love.

    • @BCHODOSH01
      @BCHODOSH01 3 года назад +1

      @@jillianwickham31 thank you, and the best to you.

    • @ElephantInTheRoom777
      @ElephantInTheRoom777 3 года назад

      @@jillianwickham31 Jillian meet Robert, Robert this is Jillian. 🤭🤗😃

  • @_medtalk_2738
    @_medtalk_2738 3 года назад

    Very straightforward!

  • @Acing86
    @Acing86 3 года назад +1

    Amazing! Thank you.

  • @beran2433
    @beran2433 3 года назад +1

    This was wonderful.

  • @J1Z06
    @J1Z06 3 года назад +1

    Keep trying! that's what I keep telling Myself! it's better to have no one than the wrong one!

  • @Jim-Jam69
    @Jim-Jam69 3 года назад +2

    Just listening you say those
    “You Always “ words set off bells of the narcissist famous words to say to me

  • @sonnyca
    @sonnyca 3 года назад +5

    There is only one “The One” and that’s you.

  • @skbains86
    @skbains86 3 года назад +3

    Our characters were very different, values and beliefs but he choose to lie to me and pretend he shared mine. I think he was so lonely he just wanted to make it work against reality. The relationship took it’s course and ended when it needed to.

  • @KTR__
    @KTR__ 3 года назад +1

    Really wish you would do more videos. You are really amazing! Love all of your vids and they are so helpful!

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      Hi I can recommend you to Dr. Oss. who helped me to manifest back my ex, it work without delay.

  • @nicklammi3745
    @nicklammi3745 Год назад

    I listened to your trying to forget your relationship video - getting over a past relationship- and after watching this video I find that the person I am trying to forget is the one- as all areas you addressed in this video we hit perfectly even with some hiccups at times- so learning patience, I feel is something I truly need to understand and work on and I guess maybe having faith that if it is meant to be we will cross paths again in the future. We our best friends and the relationship we have is something we have never had in another of the opposite sex separate of the actual romantic relationship we did have. I fully understand (being a therapist myself) that her self healing is needed due to un-wiring her brain from the years of manipulated abuse etc over 2 decades of horrible men/marriages- myself is building trust and understanding that not all women were like my past relationships.... we did not life together - but we do truly love each other and it is like we have known each other forever in a spiritual sense - if that makes sense..... so I sit back and just will work on myself and understand that patience is Key and when timing may finally be right, Christ will bring us together again- got to have faith.....Thank you for the video

  • @MightyThorJD
    @MightyThorJD 3 года назад +2

    Holy cow that last part absolutely nailed what I just experienced with my last girlfriend. I'm so thankful for everything Stephanie has shared from her videos, I don't know where I'd be without them! Sending love all the way from NZ❤

  • @shiiraspalette
    @shiiraspalette 2 года назад +2

    These are the questions and things I need to ask myself when I’m dating. I was dating someone who checked all the boxes in someone I wanted in a partner but he didn’t support my dream ( support through words yes but action no ) we have different mindsets and life paths that’s what broke us apart.

  • @yuliyayeung5010
    @yuliyayeung5010 3 года назад +1

    On point!!!

  • @law.c.6268
    @law.c.6268 3 года назад +4

    50 yrs of marriage and still slow dancing...that would be really nice.

  • @carlafoster1081
    @carlafoster1081 3 года назад +2

    Stephanie I wish we were living close. We would have a super lovely relationship. I too am highly sensitive and empathic. Sometimes I hate going out, whenever I return am super drained I just need my bed to get my energy back.

  • @mikejarrells431
    @mikejarrells431 2 года назад

    Thanks & good job!

  • @carolejean63
    @carolejean63 3 года назад +1

    Great video!! Wow! Wish I’d know this 30+ years ago!! I’ve been married 33 years ..

  • @madelynsage8728
    @madelynsage8728 Год назад

    It feels so good that me and my boyfriend relate to all of these 😊

  • @jeffnelson2197
    @jeffnelson2197 3 года назад +15

    Most, in my opinion, relationships are narcissist and empath (fuel) related. This was true for myself as well. Then you get healthy, centered and balanced and discover that you can really only be in a relationship with someone like yourself now. Neither controlling nor controlled, but just healthy and well. And guess what? There are almost zero such people. So, ya pretty much spend the rest of your life single it appears. Lol. Just thought you kinda skipped that over a bit. Now you know the rest of the story. 😁

    • @godzillamanstreb524
      @godzillamanstreb524 3 года назад +5

      That’s kind of how I feel.....healing from toxic people.....but hard to meet friends too after all the effort 🎃

    • @sabraha9
      @sabraha9 2 года назад

      I feel you, ….am in that space now. I know and love myself..,,but finding someone that matches me is a challenge but am optimistic:)

    • @user-rd6uc2sf6i
      @user-rd6uc2sf6i 2 года назад

      I think these kinds of videos neglect the aspect of emotional damage and trauma. A relationship can feel easy but if you both have been traumatized by past relationships there will be a huge black box of unhealed issues between you at the beginning. No matter how healthy and self aware you both are

  • @francescaa1212
    @francescaa1212 3 года назад

    This is very true!!!

  • @FeelGoodWithin
    @FeelGoodWithin 3 года назад +1

    So true 👌 I totally agree 👍

  • @Monet491
    @Monet491 3 года назад +1

    The first one is hard when you're dealing with a covert narc. I truly, deep within my soul, believed I found the one, my soulmate. But on the other hand, I learned he wasn't my soulmate but he was my twin flame, so it wasn't all bad, there were some lessons

  • @mysticbeauty3634
    @mysticbeauty3634 3 года назад +1

    Thank you so much Stephanie! As always, it was a pleasure watching your video 💗🙏🏼 Hope you're doing awesome! 🤗

  • @joeflores3031
    @joeflores3031 3 года назад +1

    Great videos! You really get in details on different situations. It made me open my eyes. . I’m changing myself to be a better person. I want to find my soulmate!! Great job!!
    Thanks!

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Hello do you need help ? I know of someone who helped me get m ex back recently without stress and delay

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Whtsapp him directly

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      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      + 1 8 1 6 3 4 3 8 3 0 7

  • @phoenix2024-
    @phoenix2024- 3 года назад +2

    Omg youre funny, i was staring at the screen seriously listening then next thing im giggling about Annie's noises😄

  • @melissawatson9662
    @melissawatson9662 2 года назад

    Thanks Stephanie so lovely

  • @Chimalmita1
    @Chimalmita1 2 года назад

    Your skin is glowing in this khaki shirt!!!

  • @jessicasun4420
    @jessicasun4420 3 года назад

    Hi love! Who created your website!? I love it. Thanks for the video

  • @brianboyd5910
    @brianboyd5910 3 года назад +3

    "All the way"!!!

  • @gigizuzu8479
    @gigizuzu8479 3 года назад +7

    It sounds so obvious now, but I wish I understood these things 20 years ago. 20 years of my life in a relationship that should never have happened in the first place.b

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      Hi Gigi, I can recommend you to Dr. Oss. who helped me to manifest back my ex, it work without delay.

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      Hello do you need instant help

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you Manifest back your relationship like he did mine 💖

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      Whasssap him 💖 💖💖

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      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

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  • @joyyu7753
    @joyyu7753 3 года назад +2

    are there any videos that "spot" it earlier on? This speaks about long term relationship, but I'm struggling to see through the fog of "chemistry" vs compatibility earlier on, ex: 3 months. Or what should we look for in our feelings in the beginning?

  • @rogerpenndorf5221
    @rogerpenndorf5221 3 года назад +3

    Another Home Run !!! Thanks Steph .

  • @mikesteinmetz9363
    @mikesteinmetz9363 3 года назад +2

    I've always done my best to treat people the way I want to be treated the sad thing is you get in a relationship and there are people that are corrupted twisted up with issues and they hide them from you they're not only not honest with you with their partner but they're not honest with themselves and that's very sad 7 years of dealing with a narcissistic person Tim still not realizing that they have so many issues this is so sad but I'm in a very good spot I'm happy I'm healthy I'm going forward and that's the important thing and if I find a person that meets most of my expectations that would be great they don't have to be perfect they just have to be human and real

    • @heyoldman2003
      @heyoldman2003 3 года назад

      Good man .. it
      Only too me 42 years to realize the same thing . 😖. But I am
      In a much better spot now .. and Stephanie has helped a lot. Merry Christmas ( if that applies)

  • @kotabunnie
    @kotabunnie 3 года назад +1

    Your dog is great 🤣🤣 whenever I try to do videos my dog barks her face off 🎤🐕🐕🐕

  • @maryalai
    @maryalai 3 года назад +2

    I really like this video!!

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

      Dr tuda has the power to help you on this , he helpedme get my ex back and restore back my broken relationship

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

      WhatsApp

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      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

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  • @orlandocabrera6269
    @orlandocabrera6269 3 года назад

    This varies on every partner.

  • @ItsAscariJay
    @ItsAscariJay 2 года назад +1

    How important is the chemistry part? Could a relationship last if one person has chemistry and the other person doesn’t ??

  • @thomascoulston1431
    @thomascoulston1431 3 года назад +1

    Your #1!, omg

  • @JustMe_OhWell
    @JustMe_OhWell 3 года назад +4

    I can agree and disagree. Sometimes opposites really do attract and even though you don't really have too many things in common it's the middle ground that keeps things strong. 💚

    • @prairieN
      @prairieN 3 года назад

      There is a difference in compatibility of values and compatibility of personality. Valuing say loyalty or compassion above making the most money
      Needs to be similar
      Not the same as night owl vs morning person which may make socializing awkward but child care easier
      Or one person being outgoing and the other shy, one being good at scheduling and the other at spontaneity.
      Yes, those are the differences that can make things better.

  • @nancydee6106
    @nancydee6106 3 года назад +2

    Can you do some videos for people who have been married for 15 years or awhile , like how to fix some of the emotional unavailability’s??? Please.
    Or how to build a life if you decide that you have to leave? When you’re a stay at home mom forever it’s like where do you go to work??

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Hello to whom it may concern I know of someone who helped me get my ex back recently and he can also help you as he did mine too

    • @jennyduhle5857
      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      Whtsapp him directly

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      @jennyduhle5857 3 года назад

      + 1 8 1 6 3 4 3 8 3 0 7

  • @allanwright5231
    @allanwright5231 3 года назад

    Hello Stephanie can I ask a question please we lost our dad this year about a week ago. How do you deal with grief?

  • @heyoldman2003
    @heyoldman2003 3 года назад +3

    Love your shows BUT . I’m deaf as a post and need CLOSED CAPTIONING AUTO GENERATED. RUclips is very random with it . It’s on the editing page. Thank you, you have helped this old man ALOT 👍🏼 Keep it up 😎

    • @heyoldman2003
      @heyoldman2003 3 года назад +1

      Thank you for the closed captioning.. 🙏🏼. Well after leaving a really bad marriage... At 67 I find a lady ... I have known since I was like 4 or 5 ,probably earlier. We were friends, pen pals all through school and beyond. Lovers in our early 20’s . But due to bs hippy freedom I threw it away 😞. But due to the joys of Facebook.. guess who I find after 45 years? Yep , there she is , widowed and available.. well I apologized and she forgave me and we are in sync ❤️♥️❤️❤️. She is my oldest best friend, a girl that always supported me and comforted me . And I will do the same for her .. and we meet the four things you you just talked about ❤️. What a second chance... I know we will be good together.. we have been texting and emailing and talking for 6 months now and it just gets better.. thank you so much for your shows .. they have helped me so much . Keep it up .. this old man is so happy To think of my days ahead ♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @kirstiehill7245
    @kirstiehill7245 3 года назад +2

    hey
    this video helped me see my self worth
    like i deserve someone like that w my values wow
    thanks

  • @kaylacassidy3040
    @kaylacassidy3040 2 года назад

    How does your skin look sooo good?

  • @mariamarshad9720
    @mariamarshad9720 3 года назад +7

    If someone has finally found themselves in a healthy relationship, then how to do they overcome their fear of abandonment or not being enough with this new person so is validating them?

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      Ello do you need instant help

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      I can you a man who can help you Manifest your relationship like he did mine 💖💖 💖,

    • @abulimenmaria7847
      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      Whasssap him 💖 💖

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      @abulimenmaria7847 3 года назад

      +234,81660,34660";";"

    • @dragbadekun2210
      @dragbadekun2210 3 года назад

      Dr tuda has the power to help you fix your marriage and also restore back your broken relationship

  • @Runmum856
    @Runmum856 10 месяцев назад

    What about when a person is all these things, but you just don’t have those butterflies, that excitement, in a new relationship (9 months) It’s my first healthy relationship, with a really good man, I keep hoping it will come.

  • @MrWayne760
    @MrWayne760 3 года назад

    Good girl, we are doing video ..😁

  • @ryanjames1562
    @ryanjames1562 3 года назад +1

    Amen

  • @omahaw1728
    @omahaw1728 Год назад

    Do you have to be attracted to the person physically?

  • @kopipeko562
    @kopipeko562 3 года назад

    Annie’s adorable lol

  • @bylater4438
    @bylater4438 3 года назад

    Shes a really good person makes house calls

  • @alexiabanks4585
    @alexiabanks4585 Год назад

    The video is over and he checked all the boxes 😳

  • @annakamaratih9208
    @annakamaratih9208 3 года назад +1

    ❤️

  • @realopinion5765
    @realopinion5765 3 года назад +2

    I feel she was talking about her ex marriage here. Great video as usual

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      Sure he can help you

    • @TheJoshGalt
      @TheJoshGalt 3 года назад +1

      She is also talking about my ex-marriage

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      @@TheJoshGalt he can help you manifest your ex back as well

    • @TheJoshGalt
      @TheJoshGalt 3 года назад +1

      At Aire, I do not want my ex back. It took me two years to escape the daily torment

    • @aireltd1019
      @aireltd1019 3 года назад

      @@TheJoshGalt I know how you feel

  • @julieb6624
    @julieb6624 3 года назад +1

    At this point my dogs are the ones. I nvr thought I can love someone this much as I love my dogs . Also other animals. I swear I love animals more than people. They are so vulnerable. People are not. If I had the money I'd sacrifice my life for animal care and not for some dude.

    • @julieb6624
      @julieb6624 3 года назад

      @Terry Kowalewski no it's not. It's true. Animals are better than people.

    • @julieb6624
      @julieb6624 3 года назад

      @Terry Kowalewski and I feel for you. Calling people out on their opinion, nice go. What so special about you to do that. You should be ashamed of yourself

  • @josecenteno5618
    @josecenteno5618 3 года назад

    I don't know if that person is the one because they tested me badly.