As a girl that is 19 and never had any type of romantic experience it's really refreshing to see someone speak about the situation so honestly and give pratical tools for improving social skills. The main discourse inside the women's spaces on the internet is usually about embracing singleness, it's really hard to find any content on how to improve or about entering the dating scene with no previous experience. And as someone who wants to get better and maybe get into a relationship, I usually end up consuming content made by men to men, and most o them fall into the Red Pill pipeline really often, so for me it has been really difficult to find useful content. I really liked your channel, great content, keep going.
I was like you at 19. Now I'm turning 22 and I realized the problem is not just me, but the boys I got myself involved in. Just avoid the red pillers, don't get involved with them. They hate you as much as they hate women.
No need to rush. I'm 26 and only now experiencing my first serious relationship. Build your character and assets, and REALLY get to know and love yourself first.
Interesting. Before 2020 there was plenty of content for women. Maybe try Matthew Hussey? 🤷♀️ Nicole Moore helped me with some of the mental health stuff, but that's also entering the manifestation bubble. Unfortunately once you enter a certain algorithm you get more and more content that's similar, hence redpill - incel - manosphere content brings in more of that content. I had my first bf and experiences at around 21. There's no age for these things, they happen when they happen. Don't let the manosphere nor the embrace singledom bubbles keep you down. Do the internal work, figure out what kind of relationship you want and you'll have more success.
I think some of this is media literacy issues as well. There is a lot of femcel content too (your husband needs to be a billionaire, marry you within 6 months, no 50/50, you need to be ultra feminine, etc), which is obviously nonsense. Ideally, everyone should be able to identify when something seems off on the internet and in real life. These incel creators make money off of exploiting vulnerable young men. There needs to be a societal push for young men to be more open about their struggles and have a space to talk that isn't these weirdos. Women are much more natural to open up discussion with each other, but men are struggling greatly under some falsely-perceived idea of masculinity. Ultimately, women and men need to come together to eliminate these false tropes. If you're a young man, I encourage you to gain some friends who are women! You will expand your world view. The same for women, it's important to have some male friends. Relationships are NOT supposed to be transactional. You give 100%, they give 100%. Where they fail, you fix and vice versa. Advice from a 27yr old woman: You also need to know your worth and a person. If someone tells you that you need to be a millionaire or whatever to date them, move along. They aren't worth your time. Take the time to gain your own boundaries and understand that getting into a relationship isn't supposed to be the trophy at the end of life. It's not okay to be disrespectful and unsympathetic. It's important to have empathy, be responsible, and provide a comfortable and safe environment. Every woman is different. What I look for in a man is totally different than what my closest friends look for. Everyone is different, one of the most bogus ideas is that "women are this way, men are that way". Things aren't that simple and people are not that black and white. When it comes to being approachable: Well groomed (clean nails, haircut, showering, skincare, etc) will always make you look approachable! It makes people instantly put together. Obviously, less time on the internet or better ways to neutralize crazy internet stuff. I always believe the internet is fake and stupid.
One thing ive learned over time is that girls are not obligated to give you a chance. Just because you are nice to them or give them special attention doesnt mean they have to reciprocate anything. Its like asking them for a bill for something they did not pay for. Those women that judge you solely because of how you look arent worth having a relationship to begin with. If you think your appearance is affecting how you meet women then you should try improving that. Improving how you look by eating healthy, exercising, proper hygiene. smelling good, dressing better. Take it one step at a time. Accept the things you cannot change but also improve on the things you can. I cannot guarantee that you will find someone in the end, bc there is some level of luck involved but this increases that chance.
@@sapphiree777 We also tend to focus far more on negative experiences too, because of outdated survival mechanisms. 1-3 bad experiences with a certain group can mess up your view of those people for the rest of your life, if you choose not to introspect about it. A dude can have 10 normal, friendly interactions with women and then 1 bad one. Which do you think is more likely to affect his ideology or outlook on that group?
if all girls act weird around you do you think it is their fault or yours? i feel like the common denaminator is you. fix your character most girls dont really care about looks.
I was about to sneeze then came across your video in my youtube suggestions, when I saw the miniature I couldn't help myself from laughing ! and it stopped my sneeze just when it began 😭
As a girl that is 19 and never had any type of romantic experience it's really refreshing to see someone speak about the situation so honestly and give pratical tools for improving social skills. The main discourse inside the women's spaces on the internet is usually about embracing singleness, it's really hard to find any content on how to improve or about entering the dating scene with no previous experience. And as someone who wants to get better and maybe get into a relationship, I usually end up consuming content made by men to men, and most o them fall into the Red Pill pipeline really often, so for me it has been really difficult to find useful content. I really liked your channel, great content, keep going.
that's normal at 19. I'm 27 💀
I agree mam
I was like you at 19. Now I'm turning 22 and I realized the problem is not just me, but the boys I got myself involved in. Just avoid the red pillers, don't get involved with them. They hate you as much as they hate women.
No need to rush. I'm 26 and only now experiencing my first serious relationship. Build your character and assets, and REALLY get to know and love yourself first.
Interesting. Before 2020 there was plenty of content for women.
Maybe try Matthew Hussey? 🤷♀️
Nicole Moore helped me with some of the mental health stuff, but that's also entering the manifestation bubble.
Unfortunately once you enter a certain algorithm you get more and more content that's similar, hence redpill - incel - manosphere content brings in more of that content.
I had my first bf and experiences at around 21. There's no age for these things, they happen when they happen.
Don't let the manosphere nor the embrace singledom bubbles keep you down. Do the internal work, figure out what kind of relationship you want and you'll have more success.
eloquent, nuanced, and based af. subscribed.
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Such a good video, so many lessons. Well done!
I have lost many friends after I stopped being a nice guy .
I think some of this is media literacy issues as well. There is a lot of femcel content too (your husband needs to be a billionaire, marry you within 6 months, no 50/50, you need to be ultra feminine, etc), which is obviously nonsense. Ideally, everyone should be able to identify when something seems off on the internet and in real life. These incel creators make money off of exploiting vulnerable young men.
There needs to be a societal push for young men to be more open about their struggles and have a space to talk that isn't these weirdos. Women are much more natural to open up discussion with each other, but men are struggling greatly under some falsely-perceived idea of masculinity. Ultimately, women and men need to come together to eliminate these false tropes. If you're a young man, I encourage you to gain some friends who are women! You will expand your world view. The same for women, it's important to have some male friends.
Relationships are NOT supposed to be transactional. You give 100%, they give 100%. Where they fail, you fix and vice versa.
Advice from a 27yr old woman: You also need to know your worth and a person. If someone tells you that you need to be a millionaire or whatever to date them, move along. They aren't worth your time. Take the time to gain your own boundaries and understand that getting into a relationship isn't supposed to be the trophy at the end of life. It's not okay to be disrespectful and unsympathetic. It's important to have empathy, be responsible, and provide a comfortable and safe environment. Every woman is different. What I look for in a man is totally different than what my closest friends look for.
Everyone is different, one of the most bogus ideas is that "women are this way, men are that way". Things aren't that simple and people are not that black and white.
When it comes to being approachable: Well groomed (clean nails, haircut, showering, skincare, etc) will always make you look approachable! It makes people instantly put together. Obviously, less time on the internet or better ways to neutralize crazy internet stuff. I always believe the internet is fake and stupid.
I know some people who are misanthropic. I can't hate people anymore.
I have lost many friends after I stop being a nice guy .
I appreciate your honesty of admitting that you are incel. Respect bro
that was not what i was doing
awww good job being a man, i wish i could hug you
its not exclusively difficult to be a particular gender but i’d like that hug anyway
Girls just judge me and act weird around me cause how i look it makes me mad they never give me a chance smh it’s so annoying
cus youre a sub5 mayne
One thing ive learned over time is that girls are not obligated to give you a chance. Just because you are nice to them or give them special attention doesnt mean they have to reciprocate anything. Its like asking them for a bill for something they did not pay for. Those women that judge you solely because of how you look arent worth having a relationship to begin with. If you think your appearance is affecting how you meet women then you should try improving that. Improving how you look by eating healthy, exercising, proper hygiene. smelling good, dressing better. Take it one step at a time. Accept the things you cannot change but also improve on the things you can. I cannot guarantee that you will find someone in the end, bc there is some level of luck involved but this increases that chance.
@@sapphiree777 We also tend to focus far more on negative experiences too, because of outdated survival mechanisms. 1-3 bad experiences with a certain group can mess up your view of those people for the rest of your life, if you choose not to introspect about it.
A dude can have 10 normal, friendly interactions with women and then 1 bad one. Which do you think is more likely to affect his ideology or outlook on that group?
if all girls act weird around you do you think it is their fault or yours? i feel like the common denaminator is you.
fix your character most girls dont really care about looks.
how bad do you look?
Bros been hanging around the r/asianmasculinity subreddit. But all jokes aside congratulations for realizing your flaws
Just don’t get guns plz 🙏
Guns are based
you should read Nietzsche
on it ive got his will to power book 👀
It takes a great amount of growth and self awareness to be able to come to the realisation that the issue may be internal. Nice, educational video!🫶
guess what? fixing an internal issue isnt gonna do diddly dicc if youre a sub5
@@BoSinn-g8t loser mindset smh
I was about to sneeze then came across your video in my youtube suggestions, when I saw the miniature I couldn't help myself from laughing ! and it stopped my sneeze just when it began 😭