And why should I listen to a minecr@p youtuber like you?! Last time I checked, you people who play minecraft are the most worst t0xic people on the planet!!!
And why should I listen to a minecr@p youtuber like you?! Last time I checked, you people who play minecraft are the most worst t0xic people on the planet!!!!!
That's why I don't try to state any qualifications I have. I'm just a dude who plays video games. This way I believe viewers can come to their own conclusions about my advice without the pressure of contesting an expert.
I'm not going to like this comment for reason, it's not true. Skyblock itself presents cool concept made inside very impressive video game. Yet alone person gives advices that might help alot of people just like you Keylime, and I don't know if youre cooked. Should actually cook something tasty.
LOL. You'll get free money.. you just won't get to decide how it's spent. Instead, you'll get a low quality free bed and low quality free food in a extremely low quality quarters LOL
@@MasquedMocha I so get that! I have really blue eyes so I feel like I look soulless and inhuman when making dead straight eye contact with people haha
Sometimes my brain feels like it's being hunted and therefore must slap wheoeveroiks directly at me so I gotta keep in mind "dw brain. Humans look at each other directly in the eyes as a form of courtesy. It's normal despite it making no sense." Other times, I cant look at the eyes cuz I end up drawing them in my head and dissociate.
a lot of introverts even after hearing good advice, they'll just be skeptical of it and not actually take action ... if that's you, i would recommend hanging out with people more, even if it's just family, and starting small. whatever you can do will slowly build momentum to improving your social skills as you witness more proof. the most successful people are good at "networking" with others and like he said at the end of the video, people don't have to be jail bars blocking u... they can be doors to opportunity, everyone you meet. everyone's special.
If you’re unsocial it’s because there’s something wrong with you mentally. And you’re the one who caused it. Whether it’s the thousands of hours saying inside playing video games, or the thousands of hours wasted scrolling on social media, or the thousands of hours in your room alone, you are the one who got yourself into this situation. Your own actions led you to being socially inept. It’s your fault. Do you want to know why that’s a great thing? It’s your fault, that means you control it. If you are social, it’s your fault. If you are unsocial, it’s your fault. This is not something you’re just born with. You become this person. Start self improvement, and you’ll see how drastically you change around people.
Dude, the first time i decided to share my hobby with others was so weird. I was genuinely nervous. My hobby is stop-motion making and specifically - brickfilms, and more specifically Halo and Star wars brickfilms. To top off that people already thought i was a little weird. Man, the people that reached out to me with praises and genuine interest. That was awesome! I felt incredible. So yeah, i totally agree with your advice here!
Its kinda messed up and sad how the way to break social anxiety is basically to veer around your autism traits as well. Or rather, to be social is to be human, and yet my autism traits make it hard for me to relate to people in the first place.
Along with the "being weird" point --- I think the good thing about "being weird" is _being open about what you like._ So, you don't have to be "weird", you just have to be honest about what you like and do instead of shying away because you're scared of seeming weird. It's more the _fear_ of being weird, rather than the _lack_ of it, which is the problem. Heck, people get bullied and teased for being "basic" all the time. If you just happen to be a basic sort of person, and you wear that with pride, that's just as good as being weird. It's all about honesty about yourself and having interesting stories which allows you to connect, not necessarily being weird in itself. Be an interesting person and show it. Mostly, just have hobbies instead of just consuming all the time. Also experiment with aesthetics and clothing, it's such an easy way to stand out and it's just really nice and interesting to dive into and experiment with imo.
this!!! i used to be so afraid of showing any part of myself (music tastes, hobbies, anything really) to people, and not constantly feeling like I need to justify myself to people. Then i just learned not to care, and if people think I'm weird, i'd never have wanted to be friends with them anyway :)) sounds stupid but like, genuinely. takes time and effort obviously (especially as a neurodivergent person) but idk, in the long run it just makes life so much less stressful!
I used to be really introverted and awkward, which was bad for me bc i really wanted to be good at conversations. It wasnt until a few years ago before highschool in a party i was forced to go that i realized *the point of talking to new people is to have fun.* You shouldnt go into a conversation thinking of it as this whole calculated task, but rather a fun experience u want to have. Now im great at making friends with pretty much anyone in school and its opened me to meeting so many interesting and fun people i would have never met before
this video was a real eye opener. for a while, i couldnt figure out why my conversations felt bland and awkward, but watching this entire video really explained why i felt the way that i did. best part is, usually i skim through the comments while watching videos, but this one was different. it was engaging, it was interesting, i watched the entire video without pausing and without scrolling the comments while listening to it. thank you so much for this video, itll really help me change my life for the better.
That's awesome to hear! For me too I always struggled talking to people, so I ended up reading a ton of books about it which helped me a lot. I'm really glad you found value from this video, thank you so much for watching :)
One thing that struck me watching this video is that your weaknesses become your greatest strengths *because* you have to struggle with it. A lot of people go about their day to day not having to think about how they interact with others. For individuals with social anxiety, *knowing* how to interact with others makes you better at it day by day. And the anxiety part might stick around for a while, but anxiety is a survival response, you can show your body that surviving does mean going through an uncomfortable situation.
Unless you intend to fake your whole being at a first glance to appeal to others; just try to be yourself. People have to like you and approach you for who you are. And if you are a socially anxious mess like me, then take pride on it! Embrace it! That's the only way you will ever find people who you can feel really comfortable with
Dude, I practiced some of this tips today, I didn't expect them to work almost instantly, like of course I'm not an extremely social person now but close people almost instantly started treating me different, not excluding me so often, I even drove one conversation around for a few minutes (and then of course I couldn't handle it so I had to let go but still), I'm looking forward to practicing my nearly inexistent social skills, but in the meantime thank you so much for the tips
@@RoyaltyFruadulent “misanthrope” it is a word that means “a general dislike or hatred of people”. The word comes from the Greek prefix “mis” “dislike/hatred/disgust” and “anthopos” meaning “human/humanity/mankind” so misanthrope is a “hater of humanity” which would describe the original comment quite well. Note: my translations and transliterations of greek are not perfect. Edit: spelling correctio.
I find it really unfortunate that this video is not getting the recognition it deserves. I wish I had gotten it recommended a couple of years ago, it would have helped me so much. Seriously, a hidden gem of a video. Please continue making these, they're awesome :)
@@Treeman3 he pretty much just made content like dazzer (money making methods) and copied everyone else's content, and was just overall really hated because he was egotistical all the time
I was waiting for you to go into more detail about that study you mention at around 1:20. Based on what you said about the study, that sounds like a seriously flawed way to test their hypothesis. edit: about 3 minutes in now. This is damaging to many people with autism. I tend to not use absolutes, but in this case, an absolute is applicable. edit2: good posture is good. Shoulders wide? I'm not sure you attempted that before saying it. Or maybe I'm misinterpreting what you are saying. edit3: About accurately memorizing a speech, I havent heard that strategy before. That's a pretty cool strategy! edit4: Being more convincing without actually making a better argument than that was implied sounds a lot like manipulation through rhetoric. I mean this in a negative way. edit5: I like segment 6. Especially from 15:30. edit6: considering how the tone of a message can be pretty important. I still find that pretty difficult at times. Wow. First sentence of 8 is a huge red flag. edit7: Im starting to think I shouldn't have numbered the edits. The overall ider of number 8 is good; to consider stuff from the perspective of others. But the method you detail sounds highly manipulative. That last part was interesting. Why one should bother learning social skills is a point that is often overlooked. It was a little vague, but thats still more thought than people normally give that question. My frame of reference is a bit limited on that. edit8: I am back roughly 40 minutes after finishing the video. I think you mentioned the idea of "winning any argument" once or twice at different points in the video. Someone should not win an argument unless their points are good. (It is a little more complicated than that, like when emotions and rhetoric ability are parts of it) The primary goal of an argument should be to have the best conclusion on the subject of the argument at the end. "best" being relative to the possible conclusions, not relative to the other participants in the argument. (and what the best conclusion is can be subjective.)
I have never tried to hide what makes me weird, but unfortunately that does not help me in my situation. I love biology! I respect and care for all kinds of life! That is one of the things people actively hate me for. The majority of people in my school find it disgusting and actively harass me for *not* being afraid of bugs, rats, and reptiles. It is incredibly annoying, but it shouldn't be a problem forever.
yo thats sick! i mean.. i dont get how they harass you for liking them.. no offense, something is off, maybe try self instropection.. im genuinely asking.. is there actually no life forms that you despise..? like flies(?) also how can i tame a random bird lol
Omg I'm watching this video as an episode barrier while I'm watching Breaking Bad, and then you used a breaking bad reference in the video. What are the odds?😂
19:53 sometimes I feel genuinely grateful when someone opens a door or hands me something, so even though saying “thank you” may be a conditioned response from childhood, one can also mean it- I get the point about sometimes just “thank you” coming off as trivial though and “thank you for _” is a great tip, *thank you for sharing* 🎉
a lot of times when I find myself stuck in a conversation and don't know how to continue, I'll just state my current feelings or thoughts. like somebody will say something and I'll hesitate and go "well I was trying to think of something clever to say but nothing came to mind. seems you've outwitted me this time" because while it acknowledges the awkwardness, it also gives me a chance to display my humor and make the conversation less forced
That's also a great strategy! I think just being honest with people and being a bit more open really builds trust and respect for you in the other person.
@@Hotslicer glad you brought that up, and that is why honesty has been a consistent philosophy of mine for a long time. I'm a bit of a pragmatist, and being honest is just a great way for me to be extremely efficient. miscommunication happens far less often, people trust and respect you, and it reduces the sense of distance in general communication. the fact that it's just the right thing to do is just the icing on the cake. anyway great video and very helpful advice! I am an introvert who was homeschooled, so this would have been great to have when I was younger, but I like to think I turned out okay lol
@@SirPogsalotCreates the way you used "while" made it seem to me like you thought good things came inspite of acknowledging the awkwardness. My english might just be flawed tho, im not a native speaker
It really feels like I'm some sort of an alien sitting in my UFO trying to learn how to blend in better next time I'm sent on an undercover mission on Earth ...no this is not "oddly specific" what are you talking about
I can confirm the typing one!! :3 A while ago me and some online friends were quite,, well-known on a small social app (it doesn't exist anymore, though), and so we all had haters, but I was the only one out of them who was polite to everyone, had proper spelling and used nice emojis all the time, and I was also the only one who never got targeted or cancelled!! I don't even remember getting blocked!! :33 Being nice online and coming off as friendly goes a long way!!
For the last one... In high school, I was a loner but like... by choice. Got zero bullying for it. And I was definitely known for it, too (I even made it on the yearbook). It might have been because I was also known for hanging out with the year 11s and 12s early on and also because I liked anime and games a normal amount and was okay at sports and had decent grades. I was normal, except I liked to be alone (but I was definitely a lot more awkward in conversation back then too). Contrast that with a girl who was in the same year as me who was also a loner but was a bit of a weirdo so she was actually bullied.
I almost complete my college study, at the first semester, it was so hard for me to interact with people but then i took the courage to actually throw myself in some situation and surprisingly, it was so easy to make friends. I noticed that things are not the same with highschool, people actually genuinely kind to you and they're usually so persuasive to you so you have to act the same way. In my introverted opinion, it's alot easier when we're a bit older so don't sweat it guys, just be yourself and always be kind. All edgy stuff at highschool might get all the attention now but later in life they are worthless
Also remember people love to hear themselves talk so the more questions you ask directed towards them the easier the conversation will be and the more they’ll actually enjoy the conversation
Watched each point, and honestly a lot of it seems really valid overall, like stuff I have used or could use. The first impression, conversation runners, and direct interaction techniques you talked about I can confirm as useful, from personal experience, and the essay bit makes a lot of sense and is something I might try. There was one thing I think that don’t works in every situation, though, number 10. I’m a train nerd, a Minecraft and Roblox player, a Jew, a pianist, and any number of other things, and people did not take any of these qualities as interesting when I went to school. My “thing” was always something that acted as a wall rather than a window. Granted, I wasn’t always confident enough to talk to other people, and I didn’t have the techniques to carry on the conversations, but overall being weird only works if you’re with people who would accept it. There are those, like in clubs dedicated to my hobbies or identity that accept it more willingly, and so in those cases it works out. In the modern day too, I just have more things to talk about with other people, which makes things easier. Overall, though, what makes you unique can still be a detriment if you use it with those who don’t appreciate it and I think that’s something worth saying. There are people who will, but they aren’t always in the vicinity, so keep trying until you find’em.
Yes! Just keep trying. Honestly if people make fun of you for your interests or your religion they are likely not good people to interact with anyway. I have found that being myself acts like a filter for toxic people, and helped me find a great circle of supportive friends.
This is very helpful. As an introvert, Ive always felt like something's wrong when I'm talking to people. This provided me a shift of perspective about communication and realizations. I've realized that when I give out suggestions or convince someone, I don't talk about how it will benefit in "his/her case". Also yeah I rarely do emojis because I gotta admit it's cringe to overuse it, but it also sounds emotionless without emojis. So atleast I'll use them more often, the non-emoji ones. Thanks for the insight :)
Sup bro, just wanted to say, even though I didn't have much trouble with socializing, the speech advice was actually unexpectedly good advice that I needed to hear. Thank you.
Oh my God they gotta get you on a tedtalk!! Usually when I find videos like this, I scroll away because they often have a super stiff and 'official' air to them. This one felt different (almost conversational, very cozy!) and I'm really glad I stuck around for the whole thing. I'm going to try employing some of these tactics in the near future, thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!! C:
I love being silly and goofy, I make these silly stories on instagram about everything and anything and when i go out some people i barely know come up to me and are like "i love your stories, I'm your biggest fan". When I pass the middle school I used to go to there are a bunch of kids screaming my instagram username. I got confirmation that they are just making fun of me and they think I'm an NPC, but I feel like the main character when they are giving me all that attention, they are not hurting me in any way.
this video was really helpful. some of these things i was thinking about trying, but this has really given me more confidence to reach out to others. thank you for the tips!!
@@Sykxezn hey man, im sure you will be able to have an incredible life! Just take things step by step, slowly socialize with people to "practice", people are more worried about themselves more than how you act, so dont mind about being weird too much. You can do it 💪❤️
Hey, just wanna say thank you! I haven’t even gotten the chance to try it and it all seems like shit I could actually do! Most tutorials for stuff like this are the most barebones basic stuff, and seem like the person writing them has *never* experienced anxiety in their life, only one that I’m scared to do is “be weird”-
Thank you so much. I recently came to a new school a few months ago and don't have any friends. After the holidays we are getting a new student and I really wanted to try and befriend her. This helps a lot and I will use your tips!
For me it depends. Around some ppl I’m shy but others who I trust more I just act like myself and I find I’m way more charismatic and ppl actually find me funny when with others I just stay silent. I also find it way easier to talk to a crowd than some ppl like in front of some ppl I’ll be anxious but for some reason I’m rlly good at public speaking and can just say whatever the fuck I want and suddenly the ppl who I’m anxious about completely change how they see me for that time I’m in front of everyone.
funny thing is i learned how to do all this and got really good at it (and still am), but now im legit scared to leave my house. and not even as a joke-im in here 2 to 3 weeks at a time... only leave to take out the trash, but never futher than the fence. sometimes i dont even wanna go to the store so i buy in bulk when i do go. i seldom enjoy the few days I do go out cause something negative always happens. and my mind is so loud that i hyperfixate on that negative moment, which in turn re-inforces the cycle. been losing touch w a lot of good people because of this. anyways going on a trip next week and i really hope i dont cancel the day before
For point 4, I read in a book once that it is better to never memorize your speeches. It will always come out as autonomous. it is better if we ourself think of speeches as a normal conversation like we are helping the audience. Also great video i will surely implement this to my daily life thx for the tips :D I feel like the world need more videos like this lots of people are having social problems (edit).
Damn… I thought I’d just watch the first minute or so “I probably heard all of this before” I thought to myself. And most of it, I have. But something about this video kept me till the end. Great work. Great job.
Youre right, and unfortunately not everyone will want to talk, but I think thats fine. If you keep talking more people you will find others that you vibe with and you can make a lot of new friends
Thanks for the Video man you don't know how much I this has helped me. As an introvert talking to people is not but your tips and tricks have really been helpful so thank you ❤
I feel like this video is more for people with social anxiety or are socially awkward. Being a true introvert means you dislike social interaction even if you have no problems talking to people.
I just found this video. It helped me a ton because I just met this girl and I honestly didn’t know how to act around her this video helped me a lot thanks
One time I was in school in eastern Europe and we had that one guy who had to repeat the year, he seemed to be one of those bad guys, he was the black sheep. He was older than us and he usualy got into trouble with other teenagers who made fun of him, but he really wasn't stupid, being ok during the classes. I was the only one that was kind to him, and he allways has been respectfull to me, it might be one of the best strangers to meet despite his aparence. We almost never had a real conversation, and I never had to, I have a cold soul. The true key of respect isn't to be that kind of party person, is to be the righteous one, respectfull and allways telling the truth without caring if it's rough. Neutrality is power !
Something about number 10, when I would first introduce myself, I would things like "My favorite show is this and I like playing this game" other people would make fun of me saying stuff like "Oh, that's such a stupid show, why would you ever watch that?" And because of that, for the longest time, I left that part out. I eventually stopped leaving it out and this video helped me remember why, so thanks for just making this video in general. :)
Hey I really appreciate your new content. I like the background videos as well, although I don’t really play Hypixel anymore, its somewhat nostralgic and I appreciate it. Thanks
This video came out at just the right time for me. In fact, I'm trying to have a conversation on Instagram with a girl I like (and who lives a long way from me) that I met on holiday. We'll see if this video can help me as an introvert.
someone who talks about things while playing bedwars in the background, as a person that plays bedwars a lot and listens to podcasts (and also never talks to someone that i do not know) i see this video as a win
No problem! I recommend committing to the posture-correction exercise every time you walk through a door. For every door, there is now an apple on the doorframe you need to bite before entering the room. This helped me fix my posture. Let me know how it goes and thank you for watching! :)
I do this triple threat method a lot but my problem is I stutter a lot because of not speaking that much, turns out reading books out loud helps on tuning your vocabulary and voice, making you sound confident.
I feel like my biggest problem with socializing is that I feel anxiety when talking to people I don't spend a lot of time with. I'm not even that uncomfortable with presenting, and I just look back at the presentation a lot. That might make me look bad but I have like zero self-awareness due to my autism and lack of social interaction.
I used to also have anxiety talking to new people. A helpful tip is to practice talking to yourself in the mirror. Or talking to new people online. I have found that this makes you get more used to conversations in a more controlled environment. Another helpful tip if you want to talk to someone but are feeling anxious: Imagine that person getting up right now, coming over to you, and starting to talk to you. How would you feel? Would you be mad or annoyed? Hopefully not, and that is just how that person will feel when you talk to them! Try it out. Regardless, thank you for watching, let me know how it goes.
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I have a cheat for number ten, I am Aromantic and Asexual >:}
damn bro you're really popping up with this video format. keep up the good work!
And why should I listen to a minecr@p youtuber like you?!
Last time I checked, you people who play minecraft are the most worst t0xic people on the planet!!!
And why should I listen to a minecr@p youtuber like you?!
Last time I checked, you people who play minecraft are the most worst t0xic people on the planet!!!!!
You know you’re cooked when you’re taking social advice from a skyblock player
That's why I don't try to state any qualifications I have. I'm just a dude who plays video games. This way I believe viewers can come to their own conclusions about my advice without the pressure of contesting an expert.
I'm not going to like this comment for reason, it's not true. Skyblock itself presents cool concept made inside very impressive video game. Yet alone person gives advices that might help alot of people just like you Keylime, and I don't know if youre cooked. Should actually cook something tasty.
To be fair, having a passion is what makes people interesting, making it easier to have a conversation.
Your theme song is tangalingalingalinga
@@keylime6 first of all, this is bedwars
"Anxiety is such a strange thing, Like what do you mean I'm afraid of hanging out with my friends?"
- Hello, can I rob your bank BECAUSE I need money?
- Yeah, sure.
Honestly might work, try it out :)
@@eightrightturns7120 No need to get a job. Asking kindly is enough😊
LOL. You'll get free money.. you just won't get to decide how it's spent. Instead, you'll get a low quality free bed and low quality free food in a extremely low quality quarters LOL
Hello. Can I please have this car for free because I need a car to drive to places?
i used to be extroverted but now i cant even hold a conversation with people i've known for a time
Thats how i am too, ever since covid my social skills went downhill
@@windowvipertfouttahere3384 for me it was my friends being fake friends
Same
@@windowvipertfouttahere3384 yeah o can completely relate
typically when you alone long enough you lose some social skills and gain anxiety when trying to socialize
3:00 i always feel like i'm committing some sort of crime when i make eye contact with people
@@MasquedMocha I so get that! I have really blue eyes so I feel like I look soulless and inhuman when making dead straight eye contact with people haha
Sometimes my brain feels like it's being hunted and therefore must slap wheoeveroiks directly at me so I gotta keep in mind "dw brain. Humans look at each other directly in the eyes as a form of courtesy. It's normal despite it making no sense."
Other times, I cant look at the eyes cuz I end up drawing them in my head and dissociate.
same i start feeling self conscious about it like am i staring too much?? will they find me weird??
Same.
I’ve literally had people look away with a face of disgust, and so I’ve learned to stop making eye contact with people 😅
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LEGEND, thank you for making this :)
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a lot of introverts even after hearing good advice, they'll just be skeptical of it and not actually take action ... if that's you, i would recommend hanging out with people more, even if it's just family, and starting small. whatever you can do will slowly build momentum to improving your social skills as you witness more proof. the most successful people are good at "networking" with others and like he said at the end of the video, people don't have to be jail bars blocking u... they can be doors to opportunity, everyone you meet. everyone's special.
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@@garfs_lawyer lol
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Me when I hear good advice and know that doing it would improve my life but don't because I kinda want my existence to get worse and worse
If you’re unsocial it’s because there’s something wrong with you mentally. And you’re the one who caused it. Whether it’s the thousands of hours saying inside playing video games, or the thousands of hours wasted scrolling on social media, or the thousands of hours in your room alone, you are the one who got yourself into this situation. Your own actions led you to being socially inept. It’s your fault. Do you want to know why that’s a great thing? It’s your fault, that means you control it. If you are social, it’s your fault. If you are unsocial, it’s your fault. This is not something you’re just born with. You become this person. Start self improvement, and you’ll see how drastically you change around people.
“Cold, or hiding a Glock” 💀
Lot of great points and I am glad you are switching content and showing your humor.
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Why do I see this man on every skyblock video 💀
where upload? we need more
I'm glad you enjoyed Willwaterprism, thank you for watching! I do enjoy making this content style a lot more :)
Dude, the first time i decided to share my hobby with others was so weird. I was genuinely nervous. My hobby is stop-motion making and specifically - brickfilms, and more specifically Halo and Star wars brickfilms. To top off that people already thought i was a little weird. Man, the people that reached out to me with praises and genuine interest. That was awesome! I felt incredible. So yeah, i totally agree with your advice here!
Awesome!
You got some stop motion animation on your youtube channel?
oh stop motion is awesome! did you post any?
@@sketch-eee4165 Not on this profile, but on my other one "MEGOtv Studios".
@@EmaSkyesWife Yes but not on this profile, on my other one "MEGOtv Studios"
Its kinda messed up and sad how the way to break social anxiety is basically to veer around your autism traits as well. Or rather, to be social is to be human, and yet my autism traits make it hard for me to relate to people in the first place.
@sketch-eee4165 Honestly I hate it when people force me to look at their eyes 👀 I have to be comfortable enough to be able to do it.
@wizardfoxangel5300 exactly that. I can't look into people's eyes at all, or else I end up lost or doing an intense staring contest with the person.
Along with the "being weird" point --- I think the good thing about "being weird" is _being open about what you like._
So, you don't have to be "weird", you just have to be honest about what you like and do instead of shying away because you're scared of seeming weird. It's more the _fear_ of being weird, rather than the _lack_ of it, which is the problem. Heck, people get bullied and teased for being "basic" all the time. If you just happen to be a basic sort of person, and you wear that with pride, that's just as good as being weird. It's all about honesty about yourself and having interesting stories which allows you to connect, not necessarily being weird in itself.
Be an interesting person and show it. Mostly, just have hobbies instead of just consuming all the time. Also experiment with aesthetics and clothing, it's such an easy way to stand out and it's just really nice and interesting to dive into and experiment with imo.
Unless you like yaoi ;w;
this!!! i used to be so afraid of showing any part of myself (music tastes, hobbies, anything really) to people, and not constantly feeling like I need to justify myself to people. Then i just learned not to care, and if people think I'm weird, i'd never have wanted to be friends with them anyway :)) sounds stupid but like, genuinely. takes time and effort obviously (especially as a neurodivergent person) but idk, in the long run it just makes life so much less stressful!
yeah unless you like anthro animals. literally not sure how people around me will think of that. i avoid bring it up.
I used to be really introverted and awkward, which was bad for me bc i really wanted to be good at conversations. It wasnt until a few years ago before highschool in a party i was forced to go that i realized *the point of talking to new people is to have fun.* You shouldnt go into a conversation thinking of it as this whole calculated task, but rather a fun experience u want to have. Now im great at making friends with pretty much anyone in school and its opened me to meeting so many interesting and fun people i would have never met before
Yes! This is an excellent perspective
Good job 👍
what if I was cold AND hiding a glock
🥶 🥶 🥶 power move right there
negative times negative equals positive, show the glock in your blue frozen hands xD
That's me, except I don't have a glock, lol
this video was a real eye opener. for a while, i couldnt figure out why my conversations felt bland and awkward, but watching this entire video really explained why i felt the way that i did. best part is, usually i skim through the comments while watching videos, but this one was different. it was engaging, it was interesting, i watched the entire video without pausing and without scrolling the comments while listening to it. thank you so much for this video, itll really help me change my life for the better.
That's awesome to hear! For me too I always struggled talking to people, so I ended up reading a ton of books about it which helped me a lot. I'm really glad you found value from this video, thank you so much for watching :)
One thing that struck me watching this video is that your weaknesses become your greatest strengths *because* you have to struggle with it. A lot of people go about their day to day not having to think about how they interact with others. For individuals with social anxiety, *knowing* how to interact with others makes you better at it day by day. And the anxiety part might stick around for a while, but anxiety is a survival response, you can show your body that surviving does mean going through an uncomfortable situation.
Unless you intend to fake your whole being at a first glance to appeal to others; just try to be yourself. People have to like you and approach you for who you are. And if you are a socially anxious mess like me, then take pride on it! Embrace it!
That's the only way you will ever find people who you can feel really comfortable with
For number 10, I have that in the bag.
Being weird is my whole thing
Great to here!
Dude, I practiced some of this tips today, I didn't expect them to work almost instantly, like of course I'm not an extremely social person now but close people almost instantly started treating me different, not excluding me so often, I even drove one conversation around for a few minutes (and then of course I couldn't handle it so I had to let go but still), I'm looking forward to practicing my nearly inexistent social skills, but in the meantime thank you so much for the tips
YOOO that's amazing to hear, great job!
As an introvert I don’t have issues talking with people, I just hate people
Same, it's not that I can't. I just don't want to.
@@RoyaltyFruadulent hello misanthrope. :)
Lol i guess you have a point
@@sillythewanderer4221 misses who?
@@RoyaltyFruadulent “misanthrope” it is a word that means “a general dislike or hatred of people”. The word comes from the Greek prefix “mis” “dislike/hatred/disgust” and “anthopos” meaning “human/humanity/mankind” so misanthrope is a “hater of humanity” which would describe the original comment quite well.
Note: my translations and transliterations of greek are not perfect.
Edit: spelling correctio.
I was bullied to hell and doing anything involving people is a nightmare now
Came here for funsies, left with a degree on how to be my better self and 100,000 xp points on life's battle pass. Simply fascinating.
I find it really unfortunate that this video is not getting the recognition it deserves. I wish I had gotten it recommended a couple of years ago, it would have helped me so much. Seriously, a hidden gem of a video. Please continue making these, they're awesome :)
bro was the most hated skyblock youtuber then switched to inspirational content
@@MushroomEternal well the last one did well and u gotta catch on to the algorithm isn't that what RUclips's all about
What did he do?
what did he do tho
Did he do something bad? Or just too much skill issue for the nerds to handle? 🤓🤓?
@@Treeman3 he pretty much just made content like dazzer (money making methods) and copied everyone else's content, and was just overall really hated because he was egotistical all the time
13:50 i love this one, i really hate it when i hear people talking crap about others and im glad im not the only one who is against gossip
my ears kind of exploded at 13:39
Bro, I thought my brian was making a weird noise
WTF🗣
Same bro it scared me so bad😂
Sorry about that! I believe it was a rendering bug, I'll make sure it doesn't happen again for the next video.
@@Mr.Snowmin brian
3:09 people who have ADHD might naturally look around a lot, so that’s something to additionally consider about this
From rating our skyblock profiles to life advice keep making what you making bro it’s fire
I'm so glad to hear you have been enjoying it, will do! :)
I was waiting for you to go into more detail about that study you mention at around 1:20. Based on what you said about the study, that sounds like a seriously flawed way to test their hypothesis.
edit: about 3 minutes in now. This is damaging to many people with autism. I tend to not use absolutes, but in this case, an absolute is applicable.
edit2: good posture is good. Shoulders wide? I'm not sure you attempted that before saying it. Or maybe I'm misinterpreting what you are saying.
edit3: About accurately memorizing a speech, I havent heard that strategy before. That's a pretty cool strategy!
edit4: Being more convincing without actually making a better argument than that was implied sounds a lot like manipulation through rhetoric. I mean this in a negative way.
edit5: I like segment 6. Especially from 15:30.
edit6: considering how the tone of a message can be pretty important. I still find that pretty difficult at times.
Wow. First sentence of 8 is a huge red flag.
edit7: Im starting to think I shouldn't have numbered the edits. The overall ider of number 8 is good; to consider stuff from the perspective of others. But the method you detail sounds highly manipulative.
That last part was interesting. Why one should bother learning social skills is a point that is often overlooked. It was a little vague, but thats still more thought than people normally give that question. My frame of reference is a bit limited on that.
edit8: I am back roughly 40 minutes after finishing the video. I think you mentioned the idea of "winning any argument" once or twice at different points in the video. Someone should not win an argument unless their points are good. (It is a little more complicated than that, like when emotions and rhetoric ability are parts of it)
The primary goal of an argument should be to have the best conclusion on the subject of the argument at the end. "best" being relative to the possible conclusions, not relative to the other participants in the argument. (and what the best conclusion is can be subjective.)
watching this before my 1st day in new school
It's not that i lack social skills, it's that i can't say anything and i can't express myself
Eye contact is always painful. The only time I could make eye contact with someone, was when I was in love with them.
I have never tried to hide what makes me weird, but unfortunately that does not help me in my situation. I love biology! I respect and care for all kinds of life! That is one of the things people actively hate me for. The majority of people in my school find it disgusting and actively harass me for *not* being afraid of bugs, rats, and reptiles. It is incredibly annoying, but it shouldn't be a problem forever.
yo thats sick! i mean.. i dont get how they harass you for liking them.. no offense, something is off, maybe try self instropection.. im genuinely asking.. is there actually no life forms that you despise..? like flies(?)
also how can i tame a random bird lol
@@4sk3wrecital I don't really hate any species, other than *maybe* certain mosquitos?
@@rioyuprojects I respect all life too (except for mosquitos). Much respect!
Omg I'm watching this video as an episode barrier while I'm watching Breaking Bad, and then you used a breaking bad reference in the video. What are the odds?😂
19:53 sometimes I feel genuinely grateful when someone opens a door or hands me something, so even though saying “thank you” may be a conditioned response from childhood, one can also mean it- I get the point about sometimes just “thank you” coming off as trivial though and “thank you for _” is a great tip, *thank you for sharing* 🎉
1:48 sick block clutch bro 🔥🔥
a lot of times when I find myself stuck in a conversation and don't know how to continue, I'll just state my current feelings or thoughts. like somebody will say something and I'll hesitate and go "well I was trying to think of something clever to say but nothing came to mind. seems you've outwitted me this time" because while it acknowledges the awkwardness, it also gives me a chance to display my humor and make the conversation less forced
That's also a great strategy! I think just being honest with people and being a bit more open really builds trust and respect for you in the other person.
@@Hotslicer glad you brought that up, and that is why honesty has been a consistent philosophy of mine for a long time. I'm a bit of a pragmatist, and being honest is just a great way for me to be extremely efficient. miscommunication happens far less often, people trust and respect you, and it reduces the sense of distance in general communication. the fact that it's just the right thing to do is just the icing on the cake.
anyway great video and very helpful advice! I am an introvert who was homeschooled, so this would have been great to have when I was younger, but I like to think I turned out okay lol
you said that like acknowledging awkwardness in a humorous way is a bad thing
@@Kurell171 my entire point was that acknowledging awkwardness in a humorous way is a *good* thing 🤔🤔
@@SirPogsalotCreates the way you used "while" made it seem to me like you thought good things came inspite of acknowledging the awkwardness.
My english might just be flawed tho, im not a native speaker
I find funny that videos helping people with social phobias seem like a tutorial on how to be a human
It really feels like I'm some sort of an alien sitting in my UFO trying to learn how to blend in better next time I'm sent on an undercover mission on Earth
...no this is not "oddly specific" what are you talking about
@@WhoStoleKirya73 You'd better escape before they find your hideout.
Fantastic video dude, didn't expect to watch the whole thing going in, but you are giving some great points I actually haven't heard before
Glad you enjoyed it!! thank you for watching :)
This video was so entertaining I didn't even notice there was no background music. Great job man, keep it up!
Haha, yes I try to avoid bgm because I kept on getting copyright claimed. Anyhow, thank you so much for watching, I'm glad you enjoyed :)
There's usually background music on these types of videos?
@@venmis137 i meant yt vids in general
I can confirm the typing one!! :3 A while ago me and some online friends were quite,, well-known on a small social app (it doesn't exist anymore, though), and so we all had haters, but I was the only one out of them who was polite to everyone, had proper spelling and used nice emojis all the time, and I was also the only one who never got targeted or cancelled!! I don't even remember getting blocked!! :33
Being nice online and coming off as friendly goes a long way!!
For the last one... In high school, I was a loner but like... by choice. Got zero bullying for it. And I was definitely known for it, too (I even made it on the yearbook). It might have been because I was also known for hanging out with the year 11s and 12s early on and also because I liked anime and games a normal amount and was okay at sports and had decent grades. I was normal, except I liked to be alone (but I was definitely a lot more awkward in conversation back then too).
Contrast that with a girl who was in the same year as me who was also a loner but was a bit of a weirdo so she was actually bullied.
I almost complete my college study, at the first semester, it was so hard for me to interact with people but then i took the courage to actually throw myself in some situation and surprisingly, it was so easy to make friends. I noticed that things are not the same with highschool, people actually genuinely kind to you and they're usually so persuasive to you so you have to act the same way. In my introverted opinion, it's alot easier when we're a bit older so don't sweat it guys, just be yourself and always be kind. All edgy stuff at highschool might get all the attention now but later in life they are worthless
Also remember people love to hear themselves talk so the more questions you ask directed towards them the easier the conversation will be and the more they’ll actually enjoy the conversation
Never thought hands were so important for trust in first impressions! Great tip and perfect for us introverts trying to improve
Glad it was helpful!
please keep making these types of videos both have been amazing
Will do, thank you so much for the kind words :)
Watched each point, and honestly a lot of it seems really valid overall, like stuff I have used or could use. The first impression, conversation runners, and direct interaction techniques you talked about I can confirm as useful, from personal experience, and the essay bit makes a lot of sense and is something I might try. There was one thing I think that don’t works in every situation, though, number 10. I’m a train nerd, a Minecraft and Roblox player, a Jew, a pianist, and any number of other things, and people did not take any of these qualities as interesting when I went to school. My “thing” was always something that acted as a wall rather than a window. Granted, I wasn’t always confident enough to talk to other people, and I didn’t have the techniques to carry on the conversations, but overall being weird only works if you’re with people who would accept it. There are those, like in clubs dedicated to my hobbies or identity that accept it more willingly, and so in those cases it works out. In the modern day too, I just have more things to talk about with other people, which makes things easier. Overall, though, what makes you unique can still be a detriment if you use it with those who don’t appreciate it and I think that’s something worth saying. There are people who will, but they aren’t always in the vicinity, so keep trying until you find’em.
Yes! Just keep trying. Honestly if people make fun of you for your interests or your religion they are likely not good people to interact with anyway. I have found that being myself acts like a filter for toxic people, and helped me find a great circle of supportive friends.
This is very helpful. As an introvert, Ive always felt like something's wrong when I'm talking to people. This provided me a shift of perspective about communication and realizations.
I've realized that when I give out suggestions or convince someone, I don't talk about how it will benefit in "his/her case".
Also yeah I rarely do emojis because I gotta admit it's cringe to overuse it, but it also sounds emotionless without emojis. So atleast I'll use them more often, the non-emoji ones.
Thanks for the insight :)
Of course! I'm so glad to hear these tips were helpful. Thank you for watching
Thank you for making this video! It gave me so much to realize about having deeper meanings in conversations! :)
Sup bro, just wanted to say, even though I didn't have much trouble with socializing, the speech advice was actually unexpectedly good advice that I needed to hear. Thank you.
Oh my God they gotta get you on a tedtalk!!
Usually when I find videos like this, I scroll away because they often have a super stiff and 'official' air to them. This one felt different (almost conversational, very cozy!) and I'm really glad I stuck around for the whole thing. I'm going to try employing some of these tactics in the near future, thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!! C:
I love being silly and goofy, I make these silly stories on instagram about everything and anything and when i go out some people i barely know come up to me and are like "i love your stories, I'm your biggest fan". When I pass the middle school I used to go to there are a bunch of kids screaming my instagram username. I got confirmation that they are just making fun of me and they think I'm an NPC, but I feel like the main character when they are giving me all that attention, they are not hurting me in any way.
bro what a video ngl the most of the tips i already knew, but i loved how you talked about them
this video was really helpful. some of these things i was thinking about trying, but this has really given me more confidence to reach out to others. thank you for the tips!!
I'm so glad to hear it was helpful! Thank you for watching :)
Thanks for the psychology lesson Hotslicer, I'm an extrovert now.
4:00 for anyone who needs this DO NOT TAKE IT LITERALLY AND DO IT IN PUBLIC 😭🙏
@tealwillow343 The biting part
😂
People bullied me into no longer being a extrovert since 3rd grade
@@Sykxezn hey man, im sure you will be able to have an incredible life! Just take things step by step, slowly socialize with people to "practice", people are more worried about themselves more than how you act, so dont mind about being weird too much. You can do it 💪❤️
1:51 You DID fall here (I won't shhhh)
NOOOOOO
Hey, just wanna say thank you! I haven’t even gotten the chance to try it and it all seems like shit I could actually do! Most tutorials for stuff like this are the most barebones basic stuff, and seem like the person writing them has *never* experienced anxiety in their life, only one that I’m scared to do is “be weird”-
Thanks for this video man! All this was pretty helpful advice especially the last one I definitely needed to hear someone say that
Thanks for letting me preview this, great video (^_^)
Of course! Thank you for your feedback, it really helped me :)
Thank you so much. I recently came to a new school a few months ago and don't have any friends. After the holidays we are getting a new student and I really wanted to try and befriend her. This helps a lot and I will use your tips!
For me it depends. Around some ppl I’m shy but others who I trust more I just act like myself and I find I’m way more charismatic and ppl actually find me funny when with others I just stay silent. I also find it way easier to talk to a crowd than some ppl like in front of some ppl I’ll be anxious but for some reason I’m rlly good at public speaking and can just say whatever the fuck I want and suddenly the ppl who I’m anxious about completely change how they see me for that time I’m in front of everyone.
12:41 BECAUSE ! 🏆🏆🏆🏆
This MIGHT be the most useful youtube video I have ever watched in my entire life
funny thing is i learned how to do all this and got really good at it (and still am), but now im legit scared to leave my house. and not even as a joke-im in here 2 to 3 weeks at a time... only leave to take out the trash, but never futher than the fence. sometimes i dont even wanna go to the store so i buy in bulk when i do go. i seldom enjoy the few days I do go out cause something negative always happens. and my mind is so loud that i hyperfixate on that negative moment, which in turn re-inforces the cycle. been losing touch w a lot of good people because of this.
anyways going on a trip next week and i really hope i dont cancel the day before
For point 4, I read in a book once that it is better to never memorize your speeches. It will always come out as autonomous. it is better if we ourself think of speeches as a normal conversation like we are helping the audience. Also great video i will surely implement this to my daily life thx for the tips :D
I feel like the world need more videos like this lots of people are having social problems (edit).
Crazy how this video helped more than my social skills sessions I had to take in school :,)
this video genuinely helped me the most :) thx for putting effort in it
No problem!
woah, great channel. this content is very high quality, i think you'll probably blow up soon
Great video man, you gave me a lot of useful tips and you know what it's time to embrace my weirdness too ❤
Damn… I thought I’d just watch the first minute or so “I probably heard all of this before” I thought to myself. And most of it, I have. But something about this video kept me till the end. Great work. Great job.
i need more content like this i swear, please make more. thanks!
yo i fw these videos so hard. the title contrasting with hypixel gameplay always hooks me and I know you always got good advice bro. keep at it
Thank you so much man, that makes me really happy to hear. Thank you so much for watching :)
this is useful only when the people you talking to want to talk to you
Youre right, and unfortunately not everyone will want to talk, but I think thats fine. If you keep talking more people you will find others that you vibe with and you can make a lot of new friends
Thanks for the Video man you don't know how much I this has helped me. As an introvert talking to people is not but your tips and tricks have really been helpful so thank you ❤
Glad to hear it!
I feel like this video is more for people with social anxiety or are socially awkward. Being a true introvert means you dislike social interaction even if you have no problems talking to people.
That's a great point, I have updated the title
Thanks man :) this was really helpful to me
Thank you so much for these tips!! Keep up the good work :)
I'm glad to hear that, I will try to keep it up. thank you for watching! :)
top 10 videos ive watched all year thank u
You're welcome, and I'm so glad you enjoyed. Thank you for watching :)
Being 'weird' is the best advice! It’s what makes you memorable and interesting-embracing it all the way! 😄✨
this vid helped me a ton. Thank you.
I just found this video. It helped me a ton because I just met this girl and I honestly didn’t know how to act around her this video helped me a lot thanks
One time I was in school in eastern Europe and we had that one guy who had to repeat the year, he seemed to be one of those bad guys, he was the black sheep. He was older than us and he usualy got into trouble with other teenagers who made fun of him, but he really wasn't stupid, being ok during the classes. I was the only one that was kind to him, and he allways has been respectfull to me, it might be one of the best strangers to meet despite his aparence. We almost never had a real conversation, and I never had to, I have a cold soul. The true key of respect isn't to be that kind of party person, is to be the righteous one, respectfull and allways telling the truth without caring if it's rough. Neutrality is power !
yippee thumbnail is no longer clickbait
amazing video dude
wait nvm this is a new video
Something about number 10, when I would first introduce myself, I would things like "My favorite show is this and I like playing this game" other people would make fun of me saying stuff like "Oh, that's such a stupid show, why would you ever watch that?" And because of that, for the longest time, I left that part out. I eventually stopped leaving it out and this video helped me remember why, so thanks for just making this video in general. :)
2:33 this is exactly what it feels like
Yeah bro this content was super helpful pls keep uploading
I'm glad to hear that it was helpful, thank you for watching!
"if you're like me your social skills resemble that of a rock" with hypixel skyblock in the background
yeah i'd say that checks out
Hey I really appreciate your new content. I like the background videos as well, although I don’t really play Hypixel anymore, its somewhat nostralgic and I appreciate it. Thanks
i'm glad to hear that! I was inspired by the commentary creators I used to watch so I tried to replicate that style. Thank you for watching :)
This video came out at just the right time for me. In fact, I'm trying to have a conversation on Instagram with a girl I like (and who lives a long way from me) that I met on holiday. We'll see if this video can help me as an introvert.
gl
you got this gang
Best of luck to you! you got this :)
@@AlHunter07 keep me updated
@@glamour5l I’ll try
Watching this before school starts 🙏
Btw you’re mad underrated bro
i'm honored you feel that way man, thank you for watching!
some useful tips, keep creating great content
I'm glad to hear they were useful, thank you for watching! :)
someone who talks about things while playing bedwars in the background, as a person that plays bedwars a lot and listens to podcasts (and also never talks to someone that i do not know) i see this video as a win
3:13 thanks for fixing my posture
No problem! I recommend committing to the posture-correction exercise every time you walk through a door. For every door, there is now an apple on the doorframe you need to bite before entering the room. This helped me fix my posture. Let me know how it goes and thank you for watching! :)
@Hotslicer Damn I'll try that thanks! :)
Ngl when people use these tactics on me I just get more uncomfortable lol
Same
I do this triple threat method a lot but my problem is I stutter a lot because of not speaking that much, turns out reading books out loud helps on tuning your vocabulary and voice, making you sound confident.
I feel like my biggest problem with socializing is that I feel anxiety when talking to people I don't spend a lot of time with. I'm not even that uncomfortable with presenting, and I just look back at the presentation a lot. That might make me look bad but I have like zero self-awareness due to my autism and lack of social interaction.
I used to also have anxiety talking to new people. A helpful tip is to practice talking to yourself in the mirror. Or talking to new people online. I have found that this makes you get more used to conversations in a more controlled environment. Another helpful tip if you want to talk to someone but are feeling anxious: Imagine that person getting up right now, coming over to you, and starting to talk to you. How would you feel? Would you be mad or annoyed?
Hopefully not, and that is just how that person will feel when you talk to them! Try it out. Regardless, thank you for watching, let me know how it goes.
Thanks for the advice man!
No problem Chocobee, glad you enjoyed :)
I don't have social anxiety but i wanted to leave a comment for the algorithm to help the video reach people who need it! :)