(S1E4) Weight Gain, Sexual Appeal & Marriage | TradWife, Homemaker, & Marriage
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2024
- Book Title - The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
0:00 Teaser
0:21 Introduction & Disclaimers
1:41 The Frump Syndrome | Sweatpants and Pajamas all-day
7:10 What attracts men? Femininity and Sensual Seduction of the Woman.
9:16 The most important thing a wife gives her husband is her "self." Take care of that "self."
18:26 Men's emotional need to enjoy their wives' bodies visually.
22:46 Refusing to remain physically attractive is an assault on the marital covenant.
26:12 Sex is how a man feels loved and accepted by his wife.
35:22 The most pleasure a man can get from sex is to know he is pleasing his wife.
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Sis this is knowledge I wish the mothers of the church would have told me. My cousin is a elder and he spoke to me as a “Man of GOD” and he gently told me my husband is no longer attracted even though my husband said differently. I changed my behaviors. Got up and dressed. Took care of my body and attitude. And HE changed! 🤯 Our intimacy is growing on ALL levels
Wow Glory to God you have a relative that cared that much to talk to you about that. Wow. And that you took it in is amazing.
I really needed to know how a man needs to see his wife. My insecurities previously made me hide myself even from him and as I listened to the video in my headphones 🎧 while I cleaned, I turned to look at him and he was looking right at me lovingly. 🙌🏾
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I can promise you that you're more valuable and desirable and wanted by him than you could ever imagine or be to yourself. 9 out of 10 men dont want perfection, dont want a young skinny model. we just want our woman to be, feel, and present themselves as a woman, to their man. For his sake, and her own..
That is beautiful sis! Thanks for sharing
Men are people. Let's stop talking about them this way. If God brings you two together and it is right. You will compliment each other in ways that make you both stronger in the Lord and you will challenge each other in ways to make each other better in walking with the Lord. You both must submit to God's will first. Let the Holy Spirit be at the center of guiding your marriage. Wives submitting to husband's isn't about serving your husband blindly and without question. The Bible does not say "serve" your husband. It says submit. That means that spiritual leadership and authority belongs to the husband, not every earthly whim of your man which is a ridiculous modinterpretation fed by a partiriarchal euro-centric framework. A woman is meant to challenge her husband to live up to his potential and purpose in the Lord. She submits to God first, so if her husband is asking or pressuring based on worldy or selfish requests, she can say "no this does not line up with our heavenly purpose:." If he is truly submitted to the Lord he will never ask you to "wear sexy clothes or dress up for him, because he will be submitted to the Lord and seeing your soul over your physical form, and will always want you at any size or weight, in any clothes (happy that you are comfortable), and as you age only love and become attracted to you even more as your love deepens, matures, and is santified."
Men who focus on their needs and what they want from you....instead of how the can put your needs first are not submitting to God. Hold them to this standard.
There is a reason scripture starts with "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" ....the definition of love God wants from husband's to their wives us daily sacrificing their needs, what rhey want, to serve the needs of their wives, up to the point of being willing to die for her".
If this is not what your husband is doing in submission to the lord, then submitting to your husband (who is not submitted to Lord) leads to imbalance and toxicity. If your physical beauty is more important than you being well, rested, have time take care of your needs, and he is expecting carnal things ....it is not the way marriage is supposed to work.
It is easy to submit to a man whose posture is in sacrificing his needs in service of his wife. This is how marriages last. This is how they are most happy. I thank God, that my husband lives in submission to God in Jesus name. So, if I look like a mack truck hit me due to stress of life, he takes care to ensure I am taken care of...rub my feet, run me a bath, take the kids out of the house to give me rest....he is never concerned with whether I wear pretty panties or not. He isn't concerned about how much we have sex or what I wear....because he knows we are together for life and when I have all of my needs met I delight in meeting his. When we are together it is pure bliss, beyond the act itself.
Decades of happy marriage speaking here. A good marriage rests much more on the man being willing to sacrifice himself as a first tenant than anything the woman does or does not do.
22, not in a relationship or dating…but I’m here learning! 🤓
Well done!
Thats the way to start gaining wisdom girl! U r in the right place! Blessings to you
Way to go, that's maturity! Wish I was as wise as you at that age!
I’m 17, I do want a husband and beautiful family someday. It’s all in the Lord’s timing, until then I’ll keep growing in wisdom from the scriptures and from magnificent women, like Bindi. God bless you and keep you all safe, in Jesus name.❤️❤️
Literally the same! I'm 22 and absolutely single, but I'm here learning because I can't help thinking when I get married it will be so much easier to start well with these tips instead of beginning badly. "Start as you mean to continue," they say.
My Sister this entire series is annointed. I've laughed, cried, learned, and like the Word says examined myself. Praise God for use of your gifting. I'm changed for the better🌷
Thank you for hanging in there with me. I cried many times while reading this book (real tears) and had to ask my husband for forgiveness several times over. But like you, I too am changed for the better.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
Yo,Sis are you even married up on the comments throwing shade like this? Eat the meat and spit out any bones. Our Father comes through people on the earth to teach and reach people. And real talk the good book doesn't even instruct His people to identify as "Christian" , man did that
@@Yapah.S.Da.K.O.S 1 Peter 4:16 - Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf.
Again you people do not read your Bible but want to speak on it. You see that verse it pretty much said Christian in which the holy spirit speaks.
only man did was disobey God's living word to heed to Satan and seek other seducing doctrines of devils. That's what man did.
Real Christians teach to correct not to heed to false doctrines, because it is not right from the get.
@@Yapah.S.Da.K.O.S Exactly.
Just think of it logically... if you lost your husband, you would likely lose weight, get in shape, and, when you find a new man, you'll want to be intimate with him. So, skip all the heartbreak and just do all that stuff now. For yourself. For your enjoyment. To make your life better.
Yes!!!
How do you know what any other woman might do after losing her husband? Y’all are a trip!
Thank you sister! That's exactly what I was observing. I am in a relationship now with my lovely boyfriend and even though my weight sometimes fluctuates a bit, I always try to get back in shape before I lose control over my weight gain. So I would say I fluctuate in a range of plus/minus 5kg. (I am from germany btw sry for my english). Gaining weight is nothing to be ashamed of, but I think it's shameful to let oneself go. And that is something I often see with my female friends. A few months after they get into a new relationship they gain weight up to 15kg. The real issue with that is not the attractiveness alone that get lost. More importantly they lose their confidence, don't feel well under their skin and often times get jealous in the realtionship and very controlling over their boyfriends.
If you’re grieving for your deceased husband then I’d doubt you’d do all of these things. And if your husband left you ditto, same after getting divorced.
@@bettinabababum The real issue is WHY do they gain weight after getting into a relationship?
This was an eye opener to me, I hve gain 100lbs and I almost just cried listening to this because I have let myself go and since it didn’t bother my husband I just kept going. 😭 I’m working on myself now. Lord please forgive me. Thank you for this!!
You can do it Diedra!
Men are people. Let's stop talking about them this way. If God brings you two together and it is right. You will compliment each other in ways that make you both stronger in the Lord and you will challenge each other in ways to make each other better in walking with the Lord. You both must submit to God's will first. Let the Holy Spirit be at the center of guiding your marriage. Wives submitting to husband's isn't about serving your husband blindly and without question. The Bible does not say "serve" your husband. It says submit. That means that spiritual leadership and authority belongs to the husband, not every earthly whim of your man which is a ridiculous modinterpretation fed by a partiriarchal euro-centric framework. A woman is meant to challenge her husband to live up to his potential and purpose in the Lord. She submits to God first, so if her husband is asking or pressuring based on worldy or selfish requests, she can say "no this does not line up with our heavenly purpose:." If he is truly submitted to the Lord he will never ask you to "wear sexy clothes or dress up for him, because he will be submitted to the Lord and seeing your soul over your physical form, and will always want you at any size or weight, in any clothes (happy that you are comfortable), and as you age only love and become attracted to you even more as your love deepens, matures, and is santified."
Men who focus on their needs and what they want from you....instead of how the can put your needs first are not submitting to God. Hold them to this standard.
There is a reason scripture starts with "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" ....the definition of love God wants from husband's to their wives us daily sacrificing their needs, what rhey want, to serve the needs of their wives, up to the point of being willing to die for her".
If this is not what your husband is doing in submission to the lord, then submitting to your husband (who is not submitted to Lord) leads to imbalance and toxicity. If your physical beauty is more important than you being well, rested, have time take care of your needs, and he is expecting carnal things ....it is not the way marriage is supposed to work.
It is easy to submit to a man whose posture is in sacrificing his needs in service of his wife. This is how marriages last. This is how they are most happy. I thank God, that my husband lives in submission to God in Jesus name. So, if I look like a mack truck hit me due to stress of life, he takes care to ensure I am taken care of...rub my feet, run me a bath, take the kids out of the house to give me rest....he is never concerned with whether I wear pretty panties or not. He isn't concerned about how much we have sex or what I wear....because he knows we are together for life and when I have all of my needs met I delight in meeting his. When we are together it is pure bliss, beyond the act itself.
Decades of happy marriage speaking here. A good marriage rests much more on the man being willing to sacrifice himself as a first tenant than anything the woman does or does not do.
@@SKingJoy wow your comment is wonderful! Wish I could save it
Just be healthy Deidre. Don't think about size. Think about movement for healthy muscles, heart, and skeleton, etc. So that your body can do whatever work that God calls you to do. You husband is right not to care what size you are and only care about your health ad you should his.
New research shows that post-menopausal women with more weight are actually healthier and live longer that women who try to get back to pre-menopausal weight. Do make vanity the motivator. Make it a healthy body.
God bless you sister!
I hope you’re still working on yourself! You got this
I feel into the whole pajamas all day when I started working from home after I had my son. It took me two years to realize it was bad and started dressing up in regular clothes and fixing my hair so that i looked presentable when my spouse came home.
You can also opt to get some cute loungewear Sis lol
Can you share with me what kind of job you were doing from home....I just had my baby
@@saramartinez103 I was a Utilization Review Nurse working for a health insurance.
Thank you for sharing
I've been married 34 years and acknowledge that learning about marriage never ends! My husband and I have a great marriage. Yet! Learning to grow closer should never end!!!! Thank you for your faithfulness to help others.
Bindi- God has given you a wonderful commission, to teach His daughters, those of us who listen to your videos, how to reclaim our womanhood and femininity that our culture ripped away from us, from our mothers, from our grandmothers. Your message sinks deep into our souls- and through His Word, has the power to turn our culture around. We are all different colors, cultures, and backgrounds- you are speaking to us all! I will pray for your mission, and hope that others will join me in upholding you in prayer. You are doing so much good, that no doubt the evil one will look for ways to undermine you. Stay strong, keep on the armor of God. 💓💞💕💓💞💕💓💞💕
i also think women have to consider is that we change hormonally alot. we may need to adjust the type of food we eat to accommodate differnt hormones we have.
I here you! I'm at a point where I gave to cut out almost all sugar.
I am heading towards our wedding and trying to prepare to become the godly wife that God calls me to be. I cannot say enough how grateful I am to have found this channel!! So much wisdom and so many practical tips. It makes be so excited to become a Christian wife ❤️❤️🙏🏻
Whew, this is hitting me hard. See, I haven't had children, and I've already gone into "frump syndrome" 😳 this is true, help me Lord 🙏
Men are people. Let's stop talking about them this way. If God brings you two together and it is right. You will compliment each other in ways that make you both stronger in the Lord and you will challenge each other in ways to make each other better in walking with the Lord. You both must submit to God's will first. Let the Holy Spirit be at the center of guiding your marriage. Wives submitting to husband's isn't about serving your husband blindly and without question. The Bible does not say "serve" your husband. It says submit. That means that spiritual leadership and authority belongs to the husband, not every earthly whim of your man which is a ridiculous modinterpretation fed by a partiriarchal euro-centric framework. A woman is meant to challenge her husband to live up to his potential and purpose in the Lord. She submits to God first, so if her husband is asking or pressuring based on worldy or selfish requests, she can say "no this does not line up with our heavenly purpose:." If he is truly submitted to the Lord he will never ask you to "wear sexy clothes or dress up for him, because he will be submitted to the Lord and seeing your soul over your physical form, and will always want you at any size or weight, in any clothes (happy that you are comfortable), and as you age only love and become attracted to you even more as your love deepens, matures, and is santified."
Men who focus on their needs and what they want from you....instead of how the can put your needs first are not submitting to God. Hold them to this standard.
There is a reason scripture starts with "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" ....the definition of love God wants from husband's to their wives us daily sacrificing their needs, what rhey want, to serve the needs of their wives, up to the point of being willing to die for her".
If this is not what your husband is doing in submission to the lord, then submitting to your husband (who is not submitted to Lord) leads to imbalance and toxicity. If your physical beauty is more important than you being well, rested, have time take care of your needs, and he is expecting carnal things ....it is not the way marriage is supposed to work.
It is easy to submit to a man whose posture is in sacrificing his needs in service of his wife. This is how marriages last. This is how they are most happy. I thank God, that my husband lives in submission to God in Jesus name. So, if I look like a mack truck hit me due to stress of life, he takes care to ensure I am taken care of...rub my feet, run me a bath, take the kids out of the house to give me rest....he is never concerned with whether I wear pretty panties or not. He isn't concerned about how much we have sex or what I wear....because he knows we are together for life and when I have all of my needs met I delight in meeting his. When we are together it is pure bliss, beyond the act itself.
Decades of happy marriage speaking here. A good marriage rests much more on the man being willing to sacrifice himself as a first tenant than anything the woman does or does not do.
I wish this talked about the bodily changes that happen after child birth. The urinary incontinence, the belly shelf after c sections. I work out 5 days a week and try to be careful about my diet. My husband eats huge milk shakes and ice cream and still looks amazing. I would love to wear sexier things, but I am sensitive about my post baby body, even though I'm working hard to keep it up.
She did to a small degree. She mentioned a c section scar.
If you are actively putting in the time and effort to be healthy and look your best, yes, it won't be easy, and you may never look perfect, but that really shouldn't be the goal anyway. I'm sure your husband appreciates the effort you put in to look Beautiful.
I definitely do not look the same after having 4 babies but I do my best not to be overweight either and my husband is still very attracted to me, despite the Slight mommy pooch I have from stretch skin💗
I feel for you dear! The pressure is sometimes unfair. But be kind to your body and patient. You are recovering and it’s ok to take time to heal
Wow!!!! This just slapped me off my feet and flat on my face! I needed this at 4:28am! 😭 CONVICTION AND CONFIRMATION!!!!!! Thank you for your obedience with this video! I just hit the subscribe button! Finally a likeminded feminine sister I can follow and grow with!❤️ God bless you and your platform sis!😊
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
Yo,Sis are you even married up on the comments throwing shade like this? Eat the meat and spit out any bones. Our Father comes through people on the earth to teach and reach people. And real talk the good book doesn't even instruct His people to identify as "Christian" , man did that
My husband loves me no matter what size I am. He is also attracted and loves my body as I age. When your husband values you can wear whatever be comfortable in your skin and age without concern. It is toxic to expect that women are responsible for the mindset of their husband's about what is attractive. We treat men like spoiled little boys. Our society pushes a false image of what attractiveness is. My husband wants me because of the deep love he has for me. He always sees me through rosey eyes no matter how I look. That is real love. That is biblical unity. I love my husband's body no matter how he looks or how much weight he has gained. Because he wants me (the person), I want him (the person). Sex for us is above the carnal. It is a union. That is what God intended for us in marriage. We have been together for decades and enjoy marital bliss with passion and intense joy.
This narrative about a women's responsibility to gussy herself up to be attractive to her husband is nonsense. Not everyone is even physically attractive to begin with. You should not aspire to some standard of beauty ...wearing lace etc.
My husband and I have been together for decades and we never tired of loving each other in the bedroom.
This entire message is carnal focussed.
@@SKingJoy I'm sure the sisters motive for sharing this was to help sisters that may need some direction. If you don't need direction on it, however you and you husband may be looking behind this screen, then I'm sure this message is not for you sis. Ya eat the meat and spit out anything that's a bone for you. Scriptures we're shared throughout what we are to follow about being a female. I'm sure a brotha doesnt want to get into a relationship wife a chick, then she turns into someone that doesn't want to take care of herself for herself and her husband.
Maybe we'll look forward to videos of how you and you husband have maintained over the trials and tribulations more on the inside. Ya can't throw away the physical side, as we are the vessels created by Our Master Creator as works of walking art. The sister is right though, men want their wife (or wives) looking and being on point.
@@Yapah.S.Da.K.O.S good intention needs to be rooted in good biblical principles. Otherwise, worldly, carnal, or cultural biases get in the way. Quoting scripture to a public audience with out guidance of a theologically sound lead pastors' guidance is very dangerous. The Bible says nothing about wearing lace panties for husband.s.
Binge watching these series of videos makes me wish I was already married! I love how practical the tips are that you can put them into affect immediately. The Bible literally says a wife’s body belongs to her husband and vice versa. That’s how important sex is to maintaining the relationship from God’s view. Sex is gift for marriage, nothing to brush off or take lightly (and as a single woman) also not entertaining sexual immorality or fornication in any way, because it’s such a violation of that gift and our own bodies.
Excellent comment, I which you would reply exactly that to some women here making comments against the importance of presenting herself properly to their husbands! Keep up the good work!
Nailed it sister
I have recently found Bindi's channel and have been binging as well, from the perspective of wanting to be married in the near future. And before then, wanting to leanr, grow and cultivate a more feminine and secure life and. atmosphere for myself. I'm glad to see you here, Sister in Christ, and may God bless you!
I needed this 40 years ago. My husband has been patient and loves me deeply but now I know how to make sure I love him. Thank you for breaking this down for us! Blessings!
I am 7 yrs married & been with my husband for 11 years. We married young & I will be 29 this year. He turned 30 last yr. Its 7:44AM. I'm not staying in my pajamas past 11AM anymore 😆 I literally Go to My secret place very early in AM after he leaves for work, clean up, tend to my 2 kids, work out, wash up, & go right back to NEW pajamas 😭 never again Lol. Needed this!
As wives, taking care of ourselves and how we present ourselves to our husband is so important.
@@chrisharris2367 True. Most bog their wives down with responsibilities and leave them little or no time for self care, then wonder why the wife is not like Naomi Campbell. The wife should seek this balance herself and see where she can fit her beauty maintenance. One woman's advice to married women is to protect your husband from other women by keeping yourself in top notch. Make it your life's mission and explain to your husband that looking like a super model is a major way of ensuring that other women do not look more attractive to him than his wife.
@@the8thchurch461 I think Bindi said many husbands don't fancy super-model looking wife. They just want the simple, natural looking woman. And I realized when we become defensive nothing really changes, just do your part. It's much easier for your husband to buy you comfy cute clothes when he sees you really are trying.( Ps: I'm not married tho)
@@dorahmulinge3800 Never mind what husbands want. It's other women you need to protect your husband from. Women like men who are already taken and will stop at nothing to get them, hence the competition with these women. Don't listen to husbands in this issue. They are the unsuspecting targets and can fall prey to these women.
@@dorahmulinge3800 You say you are not married so you shouldn't be offering advice on marriage. Marriage is a competition most people never talk about. If you listen to your husband saying he will love you whatever state you are in, you are asking for trouble. You need to be competing with women half your age to stop him trading you for younger models. Most men do that all the time, trade their wives for younger models.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
Wow! I'm learning a lot today! Some of the reasons my marriage has had issues is me struggling with depression and being caught up in my physical insecurities when my husband just wanted to connect intimately no matter if I was crazy, sane or felt ugly because he wasn't seeing any of those things and just wanted connection.
I started going back to the gym about two months ago. I was 50 lbs over weight. Weighed 200lbs I’m 5’8 and my husband takes care of himself. He loves working out and he mountain bikes. And I grew up working out and very active. Well after 2020 I was depressed and I had given birth to my second child. But I finally told my husband. I need at least three days a week to work out. Monday Wednesday and Friday are my days period. And my husband agreed and he’s very encouraging. But he has let me know that I should work out again. My dad would tell my mom things like that growing up and my mom would get so mad, so offended. And now that’s I’m older I realize that was so wrong. As wives we should care what our husbands think about us, we should try and watch what we eat and be physically attractive for our husbands as best as we can. I had two c sections and stretch marks and a fupa lol. But since I started going back to the gym and weight lifting I FEEL BETTER! My clothes is fitting better. My posture is better. I’m stronger I can keep up better with my kids! It’s amaZing! But even better is my husband compliments my progress, the sex is AMAZING! And we feel more intimate. Ladies it’s so important. I’m 32 I’ve been depressed and in a state of deep depression, but we have to get out of this frump. You have to look at it as a matter of survival for our marriage and families. It’s a form of obedience to Christ, it’s a form of service, it’s Christ like. Christ came to serve not be served. Women love and serve your husbands and your families. Do it for your self as well, even if you don’t have a supportive husband. Just keep going
I'm 28 now but fee years ago working out, running n lifting weights always helped with stress, fatigue and even depression and actually eating n eating healthy. It truly helps with SO MUCH. I always encourage people, including women, to weight lift n exercise because I k own personally the benefits of it and I want that for them all as well.
You are very lucky to have a supportive husband! Good luck in your journey. I also had 2 c-sections & the 1st one was botched and never healed correctly. Add to that an 80lb weight gain during that pregnancy & then a rapid weight loss, I am a mess. Its been 20 years & no amount of weight loss or working out ever fixed the problem & it would make me feel worse. so I am glad that you are seeing some results & feel better. I have always dreamed of having reconstructive surgery, but it is sooooo expensive and now I am in my 40s & just think, meh......My husband will literally drop thousands of dollars on other stuff, but doesn't seem interested in helping me fix this. Be thankful & grateful that your husband is giving you the gift of time & scheduling & support to assist you in your goal. You seem to be both reaping the benefits. All the best to you!
The Lord has led me to watch these videos and I believe that God is preparing myself for marriage. I thank you for sharing this
Not married, but had a discussion with a friend the other day about men and women's bodies and sexuality, this has helped me understand what she meant.
Bindi your content is 💯
You were so gentle and kind about how you presented this, thank you!
I needed this. I came to your channel to learn about locs, taking them down, having curly ends and having locs with looser hair textures. What I got was a marriage repair kit - I've been binging your videos and you are truly a blessing! So grateful for your ministry!
This content is so good. The level of responsibility called out in this to ourselves and our husbands and relationships in our lives is so refreshing and NECESSARY! Get into it. "You can't outsource the $eX" 👏 love this whole series. Subscribed.
Thanks so much for creating this series! It was very informative and allowed me to reflect on my marriage and myself in ways I had not. There were somethings that I definitely questioned and disagreed with but overall this series gave me some great perspective on my role as a wife.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
Men are people. Let's stop talking about them this way. If God brings you two together and it is right. You will compliment each other in ways that make you both stronger in the Lord and you will challenge each other in ways to make each other better in walking with the Lord. You both must submit to God's will first. Let the Holy Spirit be at the center of guiding your marriage. Wives submitting to husband's isn't about serving your husband blindly and without question. The Bible does not say "serve" your husband. It says submit. That means that spiritual leadership and authority belongs to the husband, not every earthly whim of your man which is a ridiculous modinterpretation fed by a partiriarchal euro-centric framework. A woman is meant to challenge her husband to live up to his potential and purpose in the Lord. She submits to God first, so if her husband is asking or pressuring based on worldy or selfish requests, she can say "no this does not line up with our heavenly purpose:." If he is truly submitted to the Lord he will never ask you to "wear sexy clothes or dress up for him, because he will be submitted to the Lord and seeing your soul over your physical form, and will always want you at any size or weight, in any clothes (happy that you are comfortable), and as you age only love and become attracted to you even more as your love deepens, matures, and is santified."
Men who focus on their needs and what they want from you....instead of how the can put your needs first are not submitting to God. Hold them to this standard.
There is a reason scripture starts with "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" ....the definition of love God wants from husband's to their wives us daily sacrificing their needs, what rhey want, to serve the needs of their wives, up to the point of being willing to die for her".
If this is not what your husband is doing in submission to the lord, then submitting to your husband (who is not submitted to Lord) leads to imbalance and toxicity. If your physical beauty is more important than you being well, rested, have time take care of your needs, and he is expecting carnal things ....it is not the way marriage is supposed to work.
It is easy to submit to a man whose posture is in sacrificing his needs in service of his wife. This is how marriages last. This is how they are most happy. I thank God, that my husband lives in submission to God in Jesus name. So, if I look like a mack truck hit me due to stress of life, he takes care to ensure I am taken care of...rub my feet, run me a bath, take the kids out of the house to give me rest....he is never concerned with whether I wear pretty panties or not. He isn't concerned about how much we have sex or what I wear....because he knows we are together for life and when I have all of my needs met I delight in meeting his. When we are together it is pure bliss, beyond the act itself.
Decades of happy marriage speaking here. A good marriage rests much more on the man being willing to sacrifice himself as a first tenant than anything the woman does or does not do.
@@SKingJoy amen💝 well said! Thank you for sharing GODLY WISDOM.
Honesty. Words my mother and grandmother advised me and my sister at our youth and a young woman. In the 1950’s and myself in the 1980’s. Part of marriage is respect and loving your family (your husband) that you present your best to each other and as a unified family to our community and friends.
This is a video I really needed to watch. I got so upset at myself for being the aggressor and constant initiator in my marriage, but didn’t realize until this video that I was doing something right. There are so many other aspects of this that I appreciated, but this was the first time I felt like I was doing the right thing since we are told that men are the initiators.
Love your content, I've lately been keen on biblical femininity, gentleness and godliness. I found your channel and been watching your videos and I'm learning. Coming from a mentality of a "strong, African woman", I can say I'm unlearning a lot.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
@@Mimi24177 that happens to line up with biblical principles.
@@heatherwoods5703 No it doesn't. She is not quoting biblical verses.
@@Mimi24177 she's giving a book review. Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." No it's not the inspired word of God, but it's teaching admit how wives should love their husbands, . Which is totally biblical. We would need to read a book with details on cooking healthy or specifics in science, so what's your beef here?
@@heatherwoods5703 You contradicted yourself. You know it is not the word of God but wants to say, it is biblical anyway. No it is not. That book teaches how to look always pretty in order to keep a man, while the Lord Jesus Christ tells us beauty is vain. So one teaches another gospel in which do not ties in with the living word.
I think this is so important in todays culture of body positivity and high levels of obesity that we confront this truth. It breaks my heart when I see women who are very over weight in the church and who are hurting because they are single. No one tells them the truth. They are in their own way by not correcting their obvious issues
I really enjoyed this series and I found it very informative. Thank you for making it. ❤️❤️
Girl, this was a brave thing to post! 👏 Thank you for speaking truth with grace.
Bindi, I’m so thankful for your video. I’ve been with my husband for over a decade. We have two young children and I can 100% vouch for a wife keeping herself presentable. We all have good and bad days. When I dress nicer and take time to put on soft makeup it’s not just for my husband, it’s for me. The days as a mother and wife can be long and hard. The last thing you want to do is be frustrated with life and take a look in a mirror and know that on top of everything else you look like crap. I’ve been there. It’s nicer when you can say, “I’ve had a hard day but at least my eyeliner is on point.” Just an example but it’s a life changer.
This book review series was awesome! You are gifted at delivering "difficult" messages with grace.
I needed this. The frump syndrome has gone on way too long since my little one was born… 13 months ago!!!Thank you for your honesty and insight 💕
I watched all four parts of this series. Actually almost, I am working my way through this last one. Anyways, I wanted to say, just well done! You walked through every topic with such grace, love and gentleness. Really spot on! God bless ❤️
I subscribed today, went out and purchased this book today! It has been an eye opener. I’ve recently left my corporate career to be a homemaker. It has been challenging to feel as useful as I did when I brought in an substantial income. Now I am learning to re-center and focus on my relationship with Our Father and being a better wife.
Wow, I can’t thank you enough for doing this mini series on this book. I really enjoyed it and learned so much. This video in particular makes me want to run home and embrace my husband. Thank you again!
I really enjoyed this video. I noticed that my hormones started to change after 35. I have to move more because my metabolism has DRASTICALLY slowed down. You are absolutely right about how men feel. I cringe when I hear about couples who have not been intimate in months or even years. I am single but dating. I can not tell you how many married men at my job complain about their wives. They say their wives don't even dress up for them anymore. I tell those men to tell their wives! Everyone gets in a rut sometimes. Communication is key!
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She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
@@Mimi24177 lol
@@Mimi24177 I agree yet the KJV does not tell us all the things we need to know about how our husbands think of us, or how we are to keep their attention. The Bible does tell us that the married wife cares for the things of the world, how she may please her husband ( 1 Corinthians 7:34). And God had to tell men in Ephesians 5:25 to love their wives, even as Christ also loved the church. But know where did God have to tell women to love their husbands, but that our desire would be to our husbands. So the work of keeping the romance in our marriages seem to be on us women.
@@dianedunbar1805 Well you just lied, because you just posted a verse about husband and wife but not all of them. So let me show you verses about marriage. A lot of you do not read the Bible thoroughly too busy listening to too many false prophets that you leads you astray. So let me show you verses about marriage.
This was very valuable information and something I think we need to lovingly share with our daughters at an appropriate marital age. It’s very important wisdom for wives and potential wives. Thank you for sharing. I will definitely save and watch again!
Just be warned heavyer sisters. I Hurd the voice of the wicked on saying in my head, "So I guess if you were fat before you met your husband, then he go not such a good gift ?". Take heart we are all beautiful wonderful women and wives, but let's try our best to take care of ourselves as God's gifts to our husbands.
This is the only part of the series that I have watched and I know the Lord brought me to it for a reason. Wow wow wow! This was so informational and by the grace of God I will start to implement some of these things into my marriage and way of thinking. Thank you!!!!
I love this series! In fact I'm going to buy the book today! Your perspective is enlightening and has helped me in so many ways.
True Beauty comes from genuine health. Learning about your biological systems and what optimal means at every stage of the life cycle is important. I've been learning that it hurt my husband's feelings when I procrastinated getting help with a diagnosis. I didn’t want to accept a lifelong illness and defaulted to ignoring it which led to weightloss and very low energy. He saw it as me withering away and not caring enough to show him I want be around for a long time with him. It broke my heart to hear his perspective. Those actions made him feel like he'd be alone and not at what I intended. Working out is important no matter what size you are for very many reasons. As wives we should consider the consequences of when we do things out of not properly dealing with emotion. In this situation it was fear.
This has truly blessed me! As a single woman who is desiring marriage I really have had my eyes and my heart open to a man's sensitive heart! Lord help me to line up with the best version of myself that you Yeshua created me to be. My uniqueness of design and me walking in my wholeness will attract God's blessings to me! Love you sister!! God bless you!💜😘
@@tonyabelcher4393 amen 🙏
I’ve been married almost 12 years and I read this book when we first got married. It’s a great book! Glad to see it’s still blessing marriages all these years later.
Woman of God… As a man and now newly married man I just want to say thank you 🙏🏾 I’ve had these same types of conversations so many times on my journey to marriage and I must say you covered every vitality important topic that I’m certain plenty of married men are concerned about and just may be afraid to share because like you said it’s not always easy for us as men to share these types of things with our spouses because most they don’t take criticism well. With that being said, thanks again. Much appreciated
Is your husband making sure to look and smell attractive to you as well?
Good point
Applies to both parties 😬
I would hope so lol But her channel is to help other women/specifically wives so that's where her focus is geared toward when she speaks.
I want more!! I thoroughly enjoyed this series all topics were very eye opening and definitely changed my trajectory moving forward in my marriage! Thanks for sharing
Wow! I use to follow you years ago but I realize I never use to subscribe to channels. Last I remember was when you started your locs but didnt like them. Anyway I was looking for modesty/marriage content and stumbled across you again and just wow. My fiance is a harsh speaker so when he communicates everything you and that book spoke about, it's hard to get the message and remove the emotions but I finally got it! Thank you! I've ordered this and the other book you did. Please do a book club. Its one thing to read on your own and another to talk things out with others.
This is so eye opening. I never had a good experience with marriages as I grew up and as a wife, im sad to say that after years, this is the best advice I have ever been given ever. So sad but I'm so happy to be able to serve my husband the way he wants and needs and in turn I get to be served and honored. This is so important for women to hear. Thank you for your time, I can't thank you enough.
so grateful i found this channel!!! so motivating and even if some of it sounds harsh in some ways it’s what we need to hear so thank you for your boldness🥰 im engaged and can’t wait to be the best wife i can be. we’ve already been living together for 5 years before i was saved so i needed this so bad, it’ll be the best thing ever for him to be like wow who did i marry? after presenting to myself in a new way. THANK YOU. praying for my man’s promotion so i can be a homemaker and dedicate my all to it!
This was a great practical explanation and teaching of the value of intimacy in marriage!
Please do more of these videos. I have learnt so much, I've newly subscribed and I'll be purchasing the book. God bless you 🧡
My momma would agree with the things I’ve heard from this video. She’s said variations of these things to me already and I’m not even married. I love your strength for speaking honestly and spiritually about these topics. Also, you’re gorgeous. New subbie 🥰💗
Just finished watching this video. Instant subscription! How refreshing to hear this and I learned so much. Thanks for sharing! Im seriously considering buying this book
Thank you so much for doing this review! I especially enjoyed your commentary 🤗😌
Oh my my my this is soooo beautifully powerful What a wise young woman you are, I wish I had understood the importance of all that was said back then!!! I am glad to learn of it now though so I can share this with the young women I'll come in contact with. God bless you young woman, you are wise beyond your years💕💕💕
I don't mean to invalidate this video or the contents however, I wish men could spend this much time talking about how they can be romantic and entice their wives.
"You are making the high calling of sexual purity and fidelity harder on your husband when you refuse to take care of your body."
A lot of women may find this offensive but when you think about it it makes sense. Everyday we as wives and husband will face temptation out in the world. When your husband goes out to work or where ever. There are women who want to make sexual purity and fidelity difficult for your husband ON PURPOSE. Let's not help those women. (As much as it depends on us) If he still steps out after that. Just know that he has failed and you are not less of a woman and a wife.
My husband loves me no matter what size I am. He is also attracted and loves my body as I age. When your husband values you can wear whatever be comfortable in your skin and age without concern. It is toxic to expect that women are responsible for the mindset of their husband's about what is attractive. We treat men like spoiled little boys. Our society pushes a false image of what attractiveness is. My husband wants me because of the deep love he has for me. He always sees me through rosey eyes no matter how I look. That is real love. That is biblical unity. I love my husband's body no matter how he looks or how much weight he has gained. Because he wants me (the person), I want him (the person). Sex for us is above the carnal. It is a union. That is what God intended for us in marriage. We have been together for decades and enjoy marital bliss with passion and intense joy.
This narrative about a women's responsibility to gussy herself up to be attractive to her husband is nonsense. Not everyone is even physically attractive to begin with. You should not aspire to some standard of beauty ...wearing lace etc.
My husband and I have been together for decades and we never tired of loving each other in the bedroom.
This entire message is carnal focussed.
@@SKingJoy Thanks for your message. Women need to be reminded of this. If a woman is a wife and mother, whether she works in or outside the home, life will take its toll and childbirth will make it difficult for her to regain her figure. I wish that there was some understanding in that as well.
Men are people. Let's stop talking about them this way. If God brings you two together and it is right. You will compliment each other in ways that make you both stronger in the Lord and you will challenge each other in ways to make each other better in walking with the Lord. You both must submit to God's will first. Let the Holy Spirit be at the center of guiding your marriage. Wives submitting to husband's isn't about serving your husband blindly and without question. The Bible does not say "serve" your husband. It says submit. That means that spiritual leadership and authority belongs to the husband, not every earthly whim of your man which is a ridiculous modinterpretation fed by a partiriarchal euro-centric framework. A woman is meant to challenge her husband to live up to his potential and purpose in the Lord. She submits to God first, so if her husband is asking or pressuring based on worldy or selfish requests, she can say "no this does not line up with our heavenly purpose:." If he is truly submitted to the Lord he will never ask you to "wear sexy clothes or dress up for him, because he will be submitted to the Lord and seeing your soul over your physical form, and will always want you at any size or weight, in any clothes (happy that you are comfortable), and as you age only love and become attracted to you even more as your love deepens, matures, and is santified."
Men who focus on their needs and what they want from you....instead of how the can put your needs first are not submitting to God. Hold them to this standard.
There is a reason scripture starts with "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" ....the definition of love God wants from husband's to their wives us daily sacrificing their needs, what rhey want, to serve the needs of their wives, up to the point of being willing to die for her".
If this is not what your husband is doing in submission to the lord, then submitting to your husband (who is not submitted to Lord) leads to imbalance and toxicity. If your physical beauty is more important than you being well, rested, have time take care of your needs, and he is expecting carnal things ....it is not the way marriage is supposed to work.
It is easy to submit to a man whose posture is in sacrificing his needs in service of his wife. This is how marriages last. This is how they are most happy. I thank God, that my husband lives in submission to God in Jesus name. So, if I look like a mack truck hit me due to stress of life, he takes care to ensure I am taken care of...rub my feet, run me a bath, take the kids out of the house to give me rest....he is never concerned with whether I wear pretty panties or not. He isn't concerned about how much we have sex or what I wear....because he knows we are together for life and when I have all of my needs met I delight in meeting his. When we are together it is pure bliss, beyond the act itself.
Decades of happy marriage speaking here. A good marriage rests much more on the man being willing to sacrifice himself as a first tenant than anything the woman does or does not do.
So according to the logic above...you r husband's inpure thoughts and fidelity is dependent on the wife's attractiveness. That is bull and a lie from Satan. Your husband's fidelity is a function of his submission to the Lord and nothing else. Your husband's fidelity has absolutely nothing to do with how you look. It is NOT your responsibility. Your husband's sinful nature is his own and it is only his submission to Jesus that conquures it. That is true for everyone. Women can lust too. Is it the husband's responsibility to keep a six pack? Ridiculous!
1. There are many husband's who are married and love women who are just not physically attractive to begin with 2. People age and no matter how much you take care of yourself, if you were beatiful, your beauty will going away and your husband if he is submitted to the Lord will still only have eyes for you. 3. People get sick and it can ravage your looks, cancer, medication that causes weight gain or just stress - your husband should want you and want connection with only you through all of it IF he is submitted to the Lord 4. Take care of yourself to be healthy and because when you are healthy you can serve the Lord. You will have energy to do the things that will bring you and others joy. Like join choir at church or help that young person who lost their mother...
Marriages based on submission to God will free you both from this nonsensical thinking of women being responsible for their husbands purity of mind and soul. Women, you can be comfortable in your body and be healthy yet a larger size and know with confidence that your husband love you, wants you, and celebrates you as he wants the person the connection...not just some carnal desires for the body.
This advice in the video is well intentioned but wrong and toxic for a marriage. Focus on you and your husband submitting to God and all this other bull will be revealed for what it is, carnal thinking.
I pretty much never comment on videos but this was so good! I've been binging your videos and feel as if I've just had a good friend set me straight in a loving way. You are thoughtful in your speech and have a great balance of sharing hard facts and showing love at the same time. I had my third baby in January and am currently 50 lbs overweight. This way the kick in the pants I needed to get going. Much love sister!
The Bible says husbands love your wives and women respect her husband. Is a husband loving his wife if he lets himself go? No, no more than a woman is. My husband didn’t love me enough to keep his body under submission. He made it clear his first wife took the frump route so I was careful to keep myself attractive. But it needs to go both ways.
This is really an encouraging and eye opening topic to listen to, and it makes good sense too. It is something I needed thirty years ago to keep me on the path that I started when I met my husband. Now years later when I am bed rested and need his help to perform many of life’s task I still want him to see way me as that young lady he met years ago and couldn’t keep his eyes and hands off of. He takes very good care of me yet I don’t think he sees me that way any more. If I had this video then I would have done things a whole lot different. It really does seem that wives can never relax and let their hair down or they’ll loose their husbands attention which is sad.
My husband tells me that sex is the way he shows me he loves me.
I always dismissed it as oh he just trying To get me to give in or crudely put to get in my pants. But this is starting to make more sense and maybe he was being honest when he said that.
Whoa, this was superb. Thank you so much for the review!💫
Hi! I am a new subscriber. I've been listening to your videos throughout today. You showed up in my suggestions this morning and I am happy for this. I enjoyed your series for this book. I could relate to a lot of this. I have gathered a few bits I need to take into prayer and that's a good thing. 👍
God has given you Wisdom, Intelligence AND Courage.....May He continue to guide you into (painfully😬) encouraging us to be Better.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
This is excellent content. I’m 22 years old and married. I am dedicated to fashion my life on biblical principles and the videos I’ve watched of yours are gems 💎. I would like to encourage other young women to frame and shape their lifestyles around The Most High and His desires here on RUclips but right now I’m here learning and on my journey of learning femininity and being a godly woman/wife.
She is not reading from the kjv Bible. She is reading another book that is not Christian.
Thawadah for sharing your comment sistah Aman
@@Mimi24177 You do know that the KJV isn't the original Bible, right? I see you all over this comment section and I'm sure you don't realize that the original Bible is the Ethiopian Bible which most people in this world haven't even seen. There are books missing from the KJV, did you know that? Do you think you're more honored by God because you read the KJV, even though it isn't even the original? You need to humble yourself until you find and read the ACTUAL true Bible.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 The original Bible is the kjv Bible in which are the prophets of God. There are no books missing in which is a lie. The Bible is God's living word in which many of you devils listen to satanic freemasonry to heed to other books. The Bible literally shows different verses speaking the exact samething because, each prophet in the Bible witness the same exact wickedness in this world by being for Jesus Christ. God's living word the kjv Bible is the law and the original in which Apostle Paul and Daniel the men of God had written it by being fulfilled with his holy spirit. So no you are entirely wrong.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 Also you do not take from the book or add unto it.
It’s important that you are setting a worthy example for others to follow. These parenting videos go a long way to facilitate solid nation building. Thank you and please continue your good work.
God has led me to your channel, im a wife for 12years and i can tell you i havent honored Gods word with how i care for my husband and marriage, but i thank God for grace and forgiveness qnd that its never to late to grow and everyday im working on being a better wife,mother and overall daughter of Christ,so thank you Bindi for these videos
The algorithm brought me to your page and I’m here to stay. Thank you for all that you do and are teaching us ladies.
I am so glad to have found this. I can’t tell you how much I have denied my husbands needs in the past.
Great videos for wives and women in waiting. This is great preparation while healing! Thanks
You’ve captured something that I couldn’t quite put into words.
I love your videos!! I just downloaded the Audiobook and am only two minutes into your video 😂 I need this book!
I’m so grateful to have found this channel. So much practical godly information!
What Catrina said 100% plus this is amazingly profound!!!!! My perspective on this subject is definitely impacted and will be very helpful moving forward!!! God is using You!!! God Bless!!!
This was a good video. I’m a new subscriber. I can tell you that sooo many women need this, Including me thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing!!! Definitely taking notes. 😊
Years ago my husband asked me if I needed money for new clothes 😳😳😳 I stayed in the same clothes day in and day out. 😭 when I bought new clothes he commented right away of how beautiful I was 😭😭😭💖💖💖
Wow this is amazing content and very informative I am so happy to have found this video and now I know exactly what I need to do
This right here brought me to tears. There were so many hard truths that were discussed. Thank you for this.
I needed to hear this. Haven’t even had kids yet and I’m doing this! Married 3 years this year. Love this advice and point of view. Thanks!❤️
I needed this message today! Thank you!
I needed to hear this so incredibly badly. It was hard to swallow but wow wow wow. Thank you and God bless you ♥️
Just discovered this channel yesterday and l love it !!! So good content!
I’m not finished listening to this wonderful video, but wanted to say that I recently purchased a human hair wig in a pretty straight, light brown color. My natural hair is dark, curly, thin, and frizzy. My husband loves it. He asks me to wear it out and loving said that I love you either way. You don’t have to wear the wig. You’re beautiful without it, but I love you with it too. By the way, I’m learning so much from your videos. I purchased the other book that you discuss. I should arrive in a few days. I will also purchase this one. I wish that you would put up scripture that coincides to your message more as I like to write it down in a journal to remember and use as evidence if others are inquiring. I have been married 35 years. These videos are so helpful. I’m starting to put them into practice. I’m looking forward to the rewards of being close to my Father. You said something in a video about doing it to “please your Father.” That was so helpful and I’ll never forget that.
I am one of your early subscribers...Good to be back on your channel
On my way to engagement and so grateful I came across your channel and this book! Excellent read!!!
I just subscribed. Everything that you read and said is so true. I take a lot of thought into how I eat, physical appearance etc. I found this most uplifting and reaffirming. I have been binge watching since 3am and I am not sure how your video pop up but I am glad. I will definitely get a copy of this book. I wish there was something for men as well because my hubby doesn’t take much care in his appearance etc.
Wow!! I needed this today!! Thank you 💕
I love your content! You inspire me!
This was sooooo powerful...thank you sis!!!
Is the husband held up to the same standards of his wife when it comes to appearance?
That’s what I’m trying to figure out 🤔
She says at 17:40 that its important for husbands and wives alike to not let themselves go. However, women are inherently more beautiful than men and men value their beauty more than a women might value a mans beauty. So, I think her point is that when a wife does not take the time to accentuate and maintain that beauty in the way she does when going out or she did when dating her husband or other men, a man sees that as her care for him diminishing, because she is no longer spending the time and effort that she did when first meeting him / does when she is around others. It seems to me that this is valued in the same way to men as possibly opening a door for a woman, making her laugh, buying her a gift out of thoughtfulness, or taking the time to ask her about her day / interests would be for a woman. If your husband used to do those things, but no longer does, it might set off a thought of “am I no longer important or valuable to you?” It might make him feel as though you have a friendly relationship instead of a romantic one :/
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I'm married, 50 years old workout everyday in better shape than most 30 year old males. I do it for myself. My wife doesn't work out at all. She doesn't take care of herself physically. She has gained a considerable amount of weight.
Maybe stop worrying about whether the men at the same standard and just take care of yourself. This video is about whether or not the wife is taking care of herself. The book is about the care and feeding of your husband, not of your wife. That's the problem, you're more concerned with yourself and if it's fair.
Have you ever heard the author say that it’s okay for a man to become sloppy while a woman has to be perfect?
She has not. Because it goes without saying
I’m so motivated to get back on track again. I’m with my man for almost 8 years now and in those 8 years I’ve gained about 60/70 pounds. Ive always been 120 lb-140 before at 5’6 and now I’m over 200 and yes, my husband is still loving but for me I can’t because the lack of selflove and confidence is killing my sexual confidence !
I just found this channel and love it! Thank you for speaking the truth.
Great info! I'm not married yet, but I will keep this in mind for when I do
I'm new to your channel and I keep doing the series out of order but...exactly what I need to hear at the right time!
I'm chronically ill and he looks at me with love the same way if I'm in pjs or dressed up ,obviously i try to look presentable x💖
love that
Thank you so much for this video. It has truly opened my eyes about my husband. God bless you Mrs. Marc.
Your content is so informational and helpful. Thank you girlie
This is super eye opening. I had no idea that a man's natural desires were right in the marriage. All I had been told was that these desires were sinful and gross, but now I understand that they are actually important for their function. Thank you!!!!