(S1E3) 12 Ways to Love Your Husband | TradWife, Homemaker, Marriage
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2024
- Book Title - The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
0:00 Intro
0:44 1 | He needs to be his wife's hero
1:59 2 | He needs to be the head of the household and family leader
3:52 3 | He needs respect, kindness, and love.
4:58 4 | He needs to be the most important person in his wife's life
8:10 5 | He needs to be needed.
10:36 6 | He needs to be the provider and breadwinner.
11:55 7 | He needs approval, appreciation, and respect for being competent.
12:27 8 | He needs his wife to show interest in his interests.
13:07 9 | He needs to be greeted home with a kiss and hug after a long day at work.
14:15 10 | He needs his wife to care about the tough day he's had.
14:53 11 | He needs to know he satisfies his wife sexually.
16:28 12 | He needs his wife's encouragement to be a good man.
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“It’s a man’s responsibility to be a man, but it’s a wife’s responsibility to make it easier for him.” Whew!!!! Sis!! I just about threw my phone!😂🥰❤️ Such a powerful statement!! Absolutely love this video series!! ❤️❤️ I received my book. Can’t wait to start reading it!🥰❤️
I would love to know your thoughts on the book. It was so eye opening for me.
Amen. There's a reason we're called their help mate, because they need our help and support. Isn't it wild that after everything God created (and it was good) the only thing that God saw as not good was the fact that Adam was alone??
If I don't do what I'm supposed to do, it makes it almost impossible for him to fulfill his role. I believe there is that much of a weight on us as women. A feminist would rage at that statement but humble yourselves and submit yourselves to God and the Scriptures and you'll see that His way is true.
A EXCELLENT sermon called "husbands and wives" by Derek Prince gave me a lot to chew on, check it out:
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I need this on a t-shirt
What did you think of the book @Habits of a Homemaker?
What's the title of the book please??
I love the way you explain the power and beauty of a woman in that we “get” to serve our husbands. Its so hard coming from a family of strong women who push “I don’t need a man”. I GET to be the wind beneath his sails. Its such a wonderful reminder. My husband said a couple of months ago “I finally feel like a man.” I cried. I’ve battled with my femininity for so long because I didn’t have an example but I want him to be happy. I want him to feel loved and needed at home. I LOVE this content. I’m so thankful to be able to stay at home and to have released the idea that it makes me weak.
Thanks for sharing this. My mother was also a strong woman. She had to be because she married a lazy man. All I saw growing up was a strong woman who ran the show & it's carried over into my marriage. We've been married for 23 years & I'm finally making changes after watching this video series. My husband is so happy. I'm trying to let go and just be how God wants me to be as a wife. I have felt guilty for staying home, but now I'm starting to be released from the guilt.
Bless ur heart keep doing God's will it makes a beautiful marriage. Homemakers are a beautiful blessing to families.
Beautiful. God is so good for revealing this to us all
"feel" (no) RESPECT his Authority (leadership/protection) over u > "u cried" a repentant "heart" GOOD > men do not do "happy" (emotions) RESPECT or he will dismiss u "silly rabbit tricks are for kids" > make sure his meals (vegan-ish fruits salads) are ready clean home clothes/sewed laundered sex.. it happens instantly WATCH HOW HAPPIER U WILL BE.. any Qs🙂
I was raised that way and I am not married. I want to be a good wife and I am tired of carrying the badge of strong independent black woman. I want to love and give love.
I know that you have stated that you speak a lot to the black community in your videos because of the lack of black house wives. I want to tell you that I am not be a black house wife but you still inspire me so much. I went ten years raising two boys on my own do to divorce that was not my cause. I cried so hard when that marriage ended. I never wanted to divorce. Ever. But it happened. I was starting to think I would never find a guy again let alone a good one. Last year I married again and can now stay at home with my children and homeschool them. The balance he has brought into our lives is incredible. Boys and young men need to hear the voice of a man in discipline. My boys have grown so much in just the year we have been married. I can not thank him enough. You are helping me be a better wife to him for all he does for us. Thank you so much. You touched my life. I am trying hard to adjust to a male running this household and not me. I need this as much as my boys do. My God continue to bless you and your family.
Not a wife yet but your videos are so helpful in understanding marriage! Tysm for sharing Godly wisdom 💜
Me too girl. Well, I've been living with my man for a loooooong time, and I need hellllpppppp being a homemaker ahhah I'm better at being a ho*, haha just kidding kinda... but I'm getting the hang of it and it's all thanks to videos like these and habits of a homemaker!!!! Praise be to God for their content !!!!!!
My husbands face lights up every time that I tell him that he is a great provider and protector of our family. I think it’s important for wives to build up their husbands strengths and accomplishments. Criticism won’t make your husband feel respected, and over time constant criticism will only push them away.
I learned that the hard way. Glad my eyes are open now and that GOD has even me another chance. 🙏🏾
This is amazing
That’s sweet when it’s appropriate and deserved. I have studied cultures where the male is praised almost “as a right” and it turns into a society of arrogant, entitled, emotionally abusive men.
@@AngeliqueTravelersuch a true statement
I am opting for constructive criticism and a respectable way to air ones opinion.
We as women have been groomed by modern day society to embrace The whole “i don’t need no man” jargon myself included as a matter of fact I have been preaching this to my husband from day one, however truth be told I not only want my man but I need him we have three kids what business do I have telling him I don’t need him when in fact he is the pillar that holds the family together. I cannot possibly do this by myself not easily at least our family runs the smoothly because he’s present and active in our lives. I am blessed to have a husband that’s amazing wonderful and lovely and I’m such a fool for not appreciating his necessity in my marriage and carrying on an attitude that I can do this by myself I’ve been a fool😖
I have been a fool in my own way as well. We thank God for His wisdom so that we can be wise women. Amen? Amen!
Please do tell him you need him because you don't know what emotional damage you hve caused.😙😙
I'm learning to respect and honor my husband too by verbalizing my need for him and complimenting him daily. It's a hard habit because it's new, but it's the right thing to do. My husband has changed so much because I've changed. God is faithful! 🙌
@@mytreasuredcreationsthat's awesome.
The most remarkable thing about this post is the fact that any one of us can admit being so wrong. That's really tough to do and I applaud and admire your honesty! ❤❤❤
I was watching another Christian channel the couple said we forget about how marriage should also reflect the gospel in different ways, in the sense as we as the bride of Christ are to not worry about what we should eat or drink.As wives to our husband, he is the provider and leader, the lady shouldn’t have worries n concerns he is the protector of the family. Like point 2!
The gospel in marriage ☺️
You are refreshing in this world today! I am divorced after 30 years together, partly due to not following these concepts. I certainly regret it. Love you and bless you!
Maybe it’s not too late 🙏🏽
That is really humble and honest of you to admit. May the Lord use you to help other women.
My comment will probably get lost- But to whoever reads this: You got this! Whatever you are going through will get better. Just hang in there, keep learning and have faith! YOU stumbled upon this comment. YOU are blessed!
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🥺 thank you.
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"I DON'T NEED A MAN" - the key is although you may not..... there's no need to VERBALIZE IT to him. Because quite frankly...."HE DOESN'T NEED YOU EITHER"
I will say.... ladies .. please don't feel some kinda way if you feel this way. We all have very UNIQUE circumstances that might lead us to believe that we don't need a man. MINE- Already having the children I wanted, financially stable, spent 1/2 my life being a wife in a bad previous marriage and being in a place of peace, joy and fulfillment and not really in a rush to serve a man again. I was cool..... God filled every void. God made me whole in ways money couldnt. Some of us DON'T need men at certain stages of life and we live out the rest of our days walking with the Lord... AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. But, if you do remarry.... you WILL need your husband for SOMETHING...even if it's something small. Otherwise... what's the PURPOSE of your marriage? Our marriages not only benefit us but they are one of God's tools to bring GLORY to his name. It exemplifies Jesus' relationship with his people (husband and wife). You'll find small things you didnt realize you needed that your hubby will provide. And he too will find things he needed from you.
By the world's standard I was an established woman when I remarried. Yet, I learned that I still need my husband.....God uses him to expose my own flaws and areas in need of growth (i.e patience, long suffering, pridefullness, sloughfulness, lack of discipline, etc.).... and I grow deeper in my relationship with God because of it. Nothing like learning patience by dealing with someone that works your nerve. God teaches us his best lessons using the very people in our lives that we seemingly don't need for anything😉
Dear Bindi, you are such an amazing, smart, intelligent and wise young lady. I can't believe I hear all that from an American woman in 21st century. It is absolutely amazing. It gives hope that society will go back to real values and not the false ones. Amen 🙏🌷
Bindi,
Just stumbled across your channel and I'm loving this content! I'm in my first year of marriage to a wonderful Godly man and everything you listed I'm right in the process of learning (some have been the hard way 😖). But all I can say is this is true, 100%. God's ways are SO much higher, SO much better 🙌🏽 and ultimately these things are my act of submission to Him.
"The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple.
The statutes of the Lord are RIGHT, rejoicing the heart: the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes." -Psalm 19
Bless you sis ❤
As a girl in her 20s, and the pressures of society, it is really difficult to get information like this to prepare for wifehood. THANK YOU!!!! speak truth, continue to speak truth
There's a lot of toxic feminism going on nowadays,, it's so refreshing to come across this channel as a Christian
All these points are SPOT ON. I visit my husband at work and praise him while I'm there. The spark in his eye is priceless, and you can SEE his coworkers CRAVE the same.
Your videos have been a blessing. I’m newly married and started binging your videos recently. Most of our arguments have been about control in some way. Since you mentioned submitting and serving your husband as your service to God, and the way you broke it down spoke to me. I already knew I should submit, but it was so difficult because of what I’ve learned through the culture. Since I’ve been trying to do the things you suggest I’ve noticed a BIG difference in my marriage. My husband is definitely happier and so am I because I’m not stressing the small stuff.
Your marriage is a beautiful thing. I love it and pray for God to bless me with my own marriage soon
Thank you so much for these videos. I hadn't been paying enough attention to the great examples of marriage around me and too many years listening to what the world says what a woman should be. I've been asking God to show me about being a woman for several years and this channel has been a literal answer to prayer. Thanks
Adam not being there to safeguard Eve from the wiles of the devil via the serpent has created a subconscious sense of inadequacy that causes men to question their inherent protective capabilities. Points made in this video referencing the literature are key to healing wounds of original sin and restoration of our husband's views of themselves in the light of Christ Yeshua. Shalom and Amen 🙏🏾
Your video just popped up on my feed few minutes ago and I watched it, and let me tell you sis I love your content and I love your locks as well, Shalom.
Another really good book is The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. It is a fantastic book and she also brings up the idea of how being happy is very important for a wife. Our husbands need us to be happy. In olden times, if a wife was upset, that means that her husband was not adequately meeting her needs. She was hungry, unsafe, etc. If our husbands are meeting all of our essential needs, why aren't we happy? Choose to be happy. Do things that make you happy. Obviously, don't indulge all day in things that make you happy. We must still do our chores and the boring things that make life run, but be sure to practice self care, do some fun hobbies, and remember that life is good. Your husband will appreciate it.
The car analogy at 10:20 had me dying 🤣
Great points sis in all seriousness, this hits home with in almost every aspect and it is a MUST needed message to be heard by the masses.
Just found your channel today and Love this series Bindi, keep up
The beautiful work 😊
God has given you a beautiful ministry through this channel. I can't imagine the lives, families, marriage that will be touched, blessed by this message! I am searching myself for my own flawed ideas and ways of thinking to improve my own home, family, and marriage. I love my husband so much!
Bindi, oh how I’m grateful to God for bringing me to this channel I have no words. Thank you for yielding to Holy Spirit and setting an example for believing wives. I’m thoroughly grateful and challenged and excited. The first time I watched a video my spirit was on fire like ON FIRE!
My husband and I just celebrated 35 years of marriage. Because the Lord has His design for husbands and wives, we have the map to a fulfilling marriage. May God bless you for encouraging women to spur them on to holiness. And to help strengthen the bonds of marriage through your ministry channel. ❤️
"REAL KEYS" Thank you Sis🙏
Thank you for your tremendous service!🙏🏼 beyond grateful for you!
Love your channel! Thank you so much for sharing this truth!
I hope the author of that book is breaking you off a little financial gratitude because you are certainly helping her sell it.
I have read many many marriage books. But this is the one that I keep reading and rereading. I keep extra copies in my library to share with younger wives. Every single married woman must read this book
This content is awesome!!!! I needed to hear this.
This is an amazing channel @Bindi Mac, so far I realise I'm in alignment with your content on marriage and homemaking, however I don't see that I have been intentional about putting these into practice. Your videos have truly blessed me by motivating and empowering me by the Grace of God to begin to to put these into practice. Truly a blessing.
She’s really talking good! It’s refreshing!
Oh my, the way you break this down is so so so beautiful, enticing, and wants to make me practice the tips starting now. Thank you for your wisdom, may God bless you and your family ❤️
You're so good at making it easy to understand all the intricacies! It felt so nice listening to you explain what it means to be an encouraging wife to a wonderful husband
Wow, This is gold ! I knew some of this already but your way of articulating it got me to reflect deeper. Thank you.
I used to hear I don't need a man a lot. Even when I was independent and single, I never would say I don't need a man. Now I have a husband and I definitely need and want him. I can't wait to go home and take care of him!
Right on Sister Bindi, men are literally craving to serve us, best we can do is show we need them and appreciate their strengths
Lady. You have set a standard that at age 53 and after 16 years of marriage, will perhaps never be able to attain. I wish I could though...maybe it depends on the kind of husband one has who knows. I wish you all the best, and a whole lifetime of harmony with your home and family.
Great content, I am so happy you are putting this information out there!
Thank you Joyce for answering the objections or the how to's. I found myself saying "yea but" or "but how..." and you immediately shared to reasons and how to's and this video was very helpful in that regard. I truly appreciate you taking the time to make these videos. It truly has been a blessing as I prepare myself to be a wife to my husband. Thank you and God bless you, your ministry and your family!
Excellent video!!!! Thank you!!!!
Excellent book! Great explanation!
Thank you for explaining all these. It helps me understand alot
You blessed me my sister, and my marriage.. thank you. May the Lord continue to use you ❤️
Love these videos.
Tremendous advice!
Great video, thanks for sharing 😊
Thank you Bindi for sharing the wisdom in this book! I have gleaned so many eye opening points! Many in which the holy spirit is convicting my attitude.
Thank you.
I'm buying this book. I love the content 💗
You're great! Thank you for this
Bindi, thank you so much! Stumbling upon your channel was a gem I didn’t know I needed. So glad I discovered your videos. Your content and usage of the Most High’s word has convicted and encouraged me. I’ve only began to make minor changes as a homemaker and my husband sees a difference and is enjoying every bit of it😜😌 No credit to me tho but all praises to the Lord who has used you to help me make some serious changes and continue to strive in discovering how He wants me to be the woman/wife He created & called me to be. What you are doing and sharing is so helpful to women including me. Please keep it going and continue to be led by Him!
Sincerely, a new subscriber
Thank you bindi. Love your insight. I need to ask God to help me reknew my mind. His ways are higher. I thabl God for allowing you to teach.
I love Stephanie Gordon's book too. It's called Ask Your Husband. It's from a Catholic traditional wife. Same advice. I also make it a point to never say anything negative about my husband to anyone else. I too was gifted a great husband 💕
Agreed. I practice all of that. And I see him Avery day showing me how much he loves me and cares for me and our children.
If we all do ti the biblical way marriages would be more successful than ever
Grateful that I came across your channel... Not a wife yet, but I'm prepping for that moment
Love this 🙌
Thank you! I have not read that book, but everything you covered was backed by Scripture and so true. When we do what God says, we find joy and blessings springing up all around us.
Excellent! As women we are created to do and be all these things you (and Dr. Laura) talk about--to love, honor, respect, encourage, nurture. It's who we are when we lose the lies of the enemy about real femininity and real power. Thanks!
Such a good video!
You are gorgeous. Your words are wisdom personified. God bless you.xx
Man! I think that’s soooo true. (4:23min) I see that in my family, the way some of them speak to each other, and I am for sure guilt of slipping up as well. But PTL it’s gotten better over the years, what’s huge difference. At lest between my husband and I. So much more respect. 💜
Loved the analogy of the husband being a boat, no matter if we encourage them or not, but we can be the wind in their sails and help them go farther. Beautiful!
I enjoyed listening to this book on Audible, but your reviews and commentary are really bringing it to life! I am saving this series of videos and sharing them!
Can you please review Dr. Laura's other book, The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage?
"Experience and to see evidence of his own competence!"....WOW!!!
Wow Bindi, keep preaching it my sister. This is the true gospel. God created marriage to represent the Trinity on earth, and we as believers should not allow Satan to pervert this.
Beautifully said…
This book has so many great tips! I can't wait to read it! (Bought on amazon)
Everything just works better when we do it Jehovah’s way. ❤️The designer and creator knows how his creation will function best. 🥰
It’s funny because my husband and I are 1 in the same but it manifest different via gender…love this,I’ve been revamping my channel to prep for topics like this ,I think experience can help women prophalactically
And yes on poin to a man needing his wife’s encouragement.. we are help mates , that means physically, menatally ,emotionally, spiritually, in every aspect
I'm in the middle of watching this video and I'm just realising where I've been going wrong, even though I proclaim myself to be a good Christian Woman..ouch.What hurts even more is that he's been trying to highlight these matters but guess it was just a phase of being fleshy and it needs NOW cause actually hearing it from another woman,it says a lot.Thank you so much bindi.Bless you🌼
Bindi I really praise God for you. You are helping nations sister. Please keep doing God's will..♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏
May God allow me tho take full advantage of the teachings you share through your video and when the time comes to faithfully, joyfully and peacefully apply them, in Jesus Name !!! Thank you Sister!
Thank you ❤
Wow. I am new to your channel and have watched 2 video so far. They have brought me many aha moments and has motivated me to start making some small changes that will positvely affect my husband. We have a bit of a different situation where I work full time in a corporate job (from my home office) and we do not have children, but many ideas to make positive changes in our household and relationship. I'm sure initially my husband will question what is going on, but I am hopeful that once the shock wears off, that it will be good for both of us!
I'm so grateful for your content. I'm learning so much. I wish there was also a man influencer that I could share with my husband. We both have alot to learn and don't have much examples.
Thank you! ❤
Have you read the power of a praying wife by Stormie Omartian? Would be interested in seeing your take on this book
This is great I love it.at what time do you wake up so as to finish your chores and have time to read and do this videos I need help in planning my time thanks
Love reading the many comments of women embracing their God given role and duty before marriage as well as while married. 💎
This lady gets it! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I have to agree with the person who made a comment a while ago about how intelligent and wise you are. This is absolutely mind-blowing to hear in the 21st century from an American woman. I would even add an American Christian woman. These kinds of talks should be happening all the time in churches. So many marriages experience unnecessary roughness because of ignorance. There's a whole lot more I could say but I will just say I am already sharing your videos and I will stay tuned. Praise God for whom all blessings flow to include a teaching sister in Christ like you. God bless you Sister.
I really appreciate this video. I have been on a modesty journey for 20+ years. I whole heartedly agree that my outward appearance reflects the inward relationship that I have with my Heavenly Father. I thank him for clothing me in his righteousness so that I have become pleasing in his sight. ❤
I always tell my husband, I NEED YOU! I NEED THE LORD FIRST AND YOU DIRECTLY AFTER! I’m the first stay at home in my family and they always tell me to get a job just in case or to help out but HE DOESNT NEED IT NOR WANT ME TO! Its been a struggle to succeed as a homemaker but since finding your channel, I’m excited to lean on the Lord for strength to bless me in this area!
I LOVE that my husband is my protector and provider. I help to guard his emotions from frustration.
Every time I cook which is everyday, he whispers in my ear how much he appreciates me, and it makes me want to do it more.
Thank you for all your GODLY insight and wisdom! I believe you should WRITE your own book and take a class for designing and SEWING your own clothes. If you ask God for these gifts, you can do anything you put your mind to it, and have fun with it and get PAID. Be Bless😇
I’ve never been in a relationship but would love to be a wife and mother someday. I love listening to your content. Lots of wisdom. Watching from the Philippines 💕
I want your shirt it’s beautiful where is it from?! Love this talk such a beautiful reminder ❤️
I must this is not my situation. My husband hates being needed. He hates it when I and the kids greet him. He wants to be left alone.
He is probably going through stuff or having loads on his mind or some external issues
Maybe he needs to decompress when he gets home? Ask him. This is disheartening. Don't be afraid...gently ask him. He just might feel overwhelmed with life, his work, etc. Pray about this.
I purchased two copies of this book shortly after it was published. One copy i sent to my sister in law, maybe five years into their marriage and a copy to my ex-girlfriends daughter who got married about two years into their marriage. Both are Christian.
My brother and sister in law are now divorced, she was offended when the book arrived, my ex's daughter read it and loved it. They are still married, but having difficulties. I should probably buy her another copy and tell her to brush up, but in her defense she recently got diagnosed with a mental thing (i don't recall what it is, some germ phobia and its taken a toll on the marriage
This video is so frustrating for me to watch.... I couldn't even finish it. Not because you're wrong or offending me, but because you're right and I'm so heartbroken that none of these things are present in my relationship, despite my desiring them so strongly! I've been praying and praying for God to turn the heart of my husband toward biblical manhood, but there's been little to no progress.... I am at a loss. He doesn't want to be needed, he doesn't want to have a good job, he doesn't want a partnership, he doesn't want intimacy, and he looks down on me and calls me weak for desiring these things.
If you are married, help him out! Pray for him and report to God his creator! Be a good wife,respect him, he will change!
My mom did it for my Dad, he use to drink but not any more! He loves God more to my mom! Now she is very happy! Don’t give up; this y u are his help mate.
But if u are just dating live him alone!
So I have ordered 2 books that you recommended. this one for starters and then i ordered fascinating womanhood. I have loved both. I have learned so much, been convicted of so much and I've already had a huge improvement in my marriage that was already pretty wonderful but needed some tweaks. It is really funny that I have told other women about these books and talked about taking ownership and responsibility for some of my husband's behaviors and they get defensive for me 🤣 It reminds me of when you are talking about the ugly Reviews of these books on amazon. Some women are not ready to hear this..
Thank you
Last thing you said about it is a privilege to be your husband's wife and we have the honor of encouraging him to reach to be his best self. Reminds me of how a marriage is a mini symbol of God with His perfected church. He honors us and we honor Him. Also, the time to witness for God, or our husband's in the case of an actual marriage is most profound in weakness. When the saints are persecuted and when our marriage is attacked from the outside and from within we have to stand firm in our faith and prove our love for Him. It is written that Love will triumph over evil. It starts within and it is a narrow road to the end. God will be faithful to bless all of us His daughters.
Wow!!!!!...just Wow
Have you thought about writing books? Are you an author? If not, you should be 😊
Your right. She should. I published my third book. All my family and friends doubted me but God said I could do it.
Hi. Just found your channel and loving the info. New sub for sure! I have a question for a friend. What would you say to a woman who's husband isn't necessarily providing everything he should or can, regardless of the fact that his wife, while not without flaws, is doing everything in her power to be the best Godly wife she can be. They have multiple children, and he spends unnecessary money on selfish wants rather than providing for some of his children's basic needs, especially clothes. They're on food stamps, so he's not technically providing food either. There are addictions involved. Other than that he is a Godly man, a good father, and tries to be a good husband. Can you please give an example of how to have the most respectful conversation with the husband possible as a Godly woman?
So beautiful....😊♥️🙏🏾🤗🥰
We started a book ( FAR ABOVE RUBIES) by Brenda Leavenworth
@ our church. But were unable to finish it. It was an awesome read. It comes with a workbook, not a must. But it’s nice.
Anywho!!! Would you consider reading it? Or doing a study type of thing?
I think this a good book for wives or wives to be.
@Bindi can YOU PLEASE PLEASE make a video about how get one’s husband to agree and ask his wife to be a SAHM? Or how to COPE if a wife has a demanding corporate job and wants to do these things.
Good video