(S5E3) THE NEEDY WIFE. | Biblical Womanhood, Traditional Wife & Marriage, HOMEMAKING
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ABOUT THIS CHANNEL | I am a wife to an exceptional man, a mother to beloved daughters, a diligent homemaker, and a businesswoman. But before all these roles I am a woman who belongs to The Lord. A daughter to the God of The Bible through the work of my savior Jesus Christ. On this channel, you will enjoy content designed to cultivate a rich experience of biblical womanhood. You will be encouraged to place your true hope and faith in the Lord. You will also hear hard discussions about accountability and personal responsibility for your life and what it produces. We embrace real character and integrity as much as we do physical beauty and femininity. We are called to be women of our Father's Kingdom and to honor Him with our speech, actions, and our modest yet feminine dress. I would love to have you along for the ride as we embrace a manner of life that brings honor to the name of our Father and get to the work of accomplishing our mission.
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I've noticed how much asking a man at the store for help reaching something or finding an isle and then showing gratefulness makes them light up
And probably that will be his first and last appreciation for the day, the little things matter to them
This is exactly what I did to HEAL my marriage. I had to let him fail, be a gracious receiver and give back love and gentleness to him without withholding based on performance. I stop keeping a score card. I gave up being in charge. Through all of it God worked on my sin as well and we are healing and in a much better place.
Lately I’ve noticed I’m doubting him, and sure enough those little patterns come back so thank you I needed this reminder!
-None of the work of healing was in my own strength God truly was the once working in our marriage leading me every step of the way.
Prayer for your marriage and time in the word is the most powerful weapon as Christ followers.
I’m definitely picking up this book!
Thank you Bindi ❤
When I think of being a “needy wife” I think of a woman who relies on her husband to satisfy all of her emotional needs, requesting him to constantly spend time with her at the expense of doing other things (like spending time with his male friends or playing sports, etc) and just overall depends on her husband for her feelings of self-worth, security, identity, and joy. I see it as someone who places this burden on her husband instead of finding this identity, joy, and fulfillment in the Lord. I was that woman and God has graciously shown me this and changed my heart to be fully satisfied in his love for me instead of demanding a certain type of love from my husband to feel whole, seen, and loved. Curious what others think!
The lord recently revealed this to me too. Im workinf though the emotional wounds to place my identity wholly and Wiley in Christ
I’m struggling with this.
Amen sister!
I completely agree, and it’s also something I struggle with.
💚 yes
As Dr. Laura says: men are simple. If you do it, they won't. Most men won't fight you for it, but it undermines your faith in them and emasculates them...or gives them a sort of allowance to act as a teenage boy. Generally speaking, a man will act according to the way you treat him.
Treat him as a mature, responsible leader...even when he's failing to be so. You stay in your lane ...and eventually he'll realize what he needs to do. Let's not make our husbands lazy.
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Love this!
AMEEEEEEENNNNNNN
Thanks, hey
Most men, not all men. I wish all men were like “most” men then this statement will apply to all of us
She just highlights biblical marriage so beautifully. Makes me excited to be married and grow with my husband.
This is soo good!! I noticed in the beginning of my marriage I was so fixated on what my husband was doing that I was nagging him with random things. And the lord randomly checked me and was like “Joy are you doing what I called you to do as a wife/homemaker”. I shut up real quick and started focusing on taking care of our home and preparing meals etc and there was such a difference and peace that came over our home! It was beautiful 🥰 Thank you Bindi!
Amen🔥🕊🔥
Pray for me as I am in the process of finding our way in my marriage so that each of us can do what God wants us to do.
@@rosanellesblessedlife1786 praying for you and your family🕊, Remember put God first and watch how everything fall into place🔥🕊🔥🤗, God bless you
You are blessed to have had that word and walking in it is the best thing you did.
Pray for me as I am working on these things, it’s been hard but I know God will work all these things out 🙌🏾
This is truth. I made a hard decision to stop being the sole provider. Although we’ve had to live with family and suffer financial hardship, my husband figured it out. My prayers have been answered by me stepping back and giving up control. Our marriage is thriving watching him hop over obstacles and strategize our present and future. He is energized through providing, and loves coming home to a home cooked meal…not the other way around! Just like any skill we have to let our men practice, develop and learn these skills. Just stand by his side, pray, and see it through with him.
Gift giving is one of my love languages. Not about the $ spent on the gift but the thoughtfulness behind it. I love when a person studies me, KNOWS ME, and gets me something with what they know about me in mind. Hubby began our marriage by being a terrible gift giver. His gifts seemed like he forgot it was my birthday, remembered on the way home from work, stopped at the Target down the street from the house, grabbed a ramdom top off the rack. Got a card. Came home and gave me the gift, in the Target bag, with the tag still on and the receipt in the bag. I said thank you. Read the card, which was heartfelt, and said thank you. BUUUUUUUUT......later that night, when the kids were in the bed....we had pillow talk. I asked him why did he pick the gift that he picked and what was it about the gift that he thought I would love. Of course, he couldn't articulate why and without me saying it, realized he fell short. I then expressed my expectation concerning gifts. I havent had a problem since. He got a gift that was really a matter of convenience for him. He forgot,it was quick, cheap and thoughtless. I said...i don't care if your gift was free, picked up off the side of the road. If YOU KNOW I like flipping furniture....and you found a gem of piece. And you stopped and picked it up knowing I'd love it and hauled it home AND bought me a paint brush with a bow on it and Lowes gift card to get paint.... THAT IS A THOUGHTFUL GIFT BABY!!!❤❤❤❤ you KNOW me. You KNOW what I love. That's ALL it takes😊
This is sooo good! My husband and I have been married for 52 years but I still need reminders. I did not know this important information for many years in our marriage but when I thank my husband for his provision and love, he responds as if he’s 10 feet tall. By the way, my husband has for many years now told me that my pleasure is way more important to his in the love-making arena. He proves that all the time. When we were much younger, I honestly think it was important to him but I didn’t know that and punished him for wanting to make love so often. Wish I could get those years back… But, I do understand now and life with my precious husband is sweet! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Bindi. I’m writing down your RUclips information to give to a young woman in our church who will be married next year. It’s exciting to think some can start out armed with Gods full truth about marriage!
Bindi, I So admire your wisdom and articulate way of encouraging women in their marriages and homes! I have been married over 30 years and could have used this advice :) When I think of neediness? Having a need to me means asking for something your husband can actually do for you. NeediNESS reminds me of asking my husband to fill needs that were never his to fill. Father issues, broken trust from others etc. Things that can make you cling in unhealthy ways.
This is the best definition
Facts!!
Interesting....
Correct!!!
I believe that being needy is a state of emotional deficit and whereby the individual experiencing this does not take responsibility for their emotional wellbeing and nurturing but rather places this responsibility on someone else to fill this need.
A needy person usually struggles with low self-esteem, guilt, and poor choices which make things more complicated in a marriage
Issues with being transparent
Thanks for making these videos 🙏🏽😊
This was really helpful; to look at my husband (as a giver) like we look at the Lord God. I tend to struggle with feeling like I'm failing at my role as a wife and homemaker if I need help from my husband with a task. If dinner is not already served when he comes home, he will ask if there is anything he can do to help. I tend to default to, no, because I want to prove (to both of us) that I'm succeeding at my role by myself. But, I think I need to receive that help more readily. As believers, if we treat the Lord's help as something to refuse and prove we do not need, that is actually contrary to a healthy relationship with Him. Acknowledging our need for His resources in order to bear the fruit and do the good works He has ordained is the way we truly succeed at living the Christian life. The branch cannot bear fruit of itself. The Father gave His Son. The Son ascended so that we would be sent the Helper (the Holy Spirit), the Paraclete, one who walks alongside. We need to be receptive to the Lord, and that same picture is in our marriages. Thanks for the video!
You clarified this concept of needing vs neediness like no one else has done. Simply profound. So grateful.
After watching the whole video, the thought popped up that this is also a great way to show your children love. Treating your children with that same grace will encourage them to want to do more for you and for the house.
I have seen relationships go downhill because the women took on the provider role. It’s almost like the man got bored of having it all made for him that he went out and committed adultery smh.
This was executed beautifully!
Thanks for giving a perfect example of how a man cheating is not the woman’s fault. If he was the provider in the first place, then maybe she wouldn’t have needed to step into that role.
The Most High God made the man the head,leader and provider,and wives the home builders. Unfortunately, the followers of Christ Jesus are now following the pattern of the world instead of the scripture. Once the roles are switched, the family isn't functioning as God's will.
Whew you are always speaking truth! I have been loving your videos these past couple months I have found you. Im a new mama of a now 9 month old and learning how to be a better wife, mama, homemaker and daughter of Christ. Sometimes you call me out, but hey, its needed! Thank you Bindi!
Wish I heard this 12 years ago. This is good. For those desiring to be a homemaker don’t cave and go out to get that higher paying job. Stay the course. I love my husband and we have a great marriage but there is always a part of me that wish I stood my ground and be the homemaker I have always wanted to be.
Was he encouraging you to work,
My husband has said this to me. Even after our last disagreement, he coached me on how to approach him. This, coming from a woman, hits different. It helps me to genuinely understand. Emotional regulation is the first step. My husband doesn’t do well when I’m dysregulated because I often let things fester until I explode, which often ends with him being torn down, because of expecting him to just know how to help. Please keep this content coming. SO GOOD!
In pre-marital counseling 9 years ago, our pastor said to me, “13 words or less with your requests”. This video was a pleasant reminder ❤️
This is a very important conversation. Yes, most of us women fall into that trap of, "If he doesn't det it done, I can do it myself!" In most cases, this reaction comes out of emotions and impulsiveness on women. When the hubby decides to stop doing whatever it was that he didn't jump at her call, it becomes a bigger problem.
I think the difference between neediness and needing something is in the amount of control the woman is trying to exercise over her husband. It manifests as her not giving him any space or control over his time. Examples include calling him every 30 minutes when he's away, a pointless laundry list of tasks with expectation they be done on her time-line, and requests for him to constantly validate her emotions.
I’m so thankful that I no longer listen to voices that tell me how perfect I need to be in order to be accepted by my husband. It was such a lonely place to be. I kept all of my emotional, spiritual needs private because I heard so many women who always put the blame at my doorstep for my lack. I tried so hard to be good enough for my husband’s love and attention. If he didn’t give me something I needed I blamed my “neediness” or whatever. It was always my fault.
So so thankful to find that freedom!! My relationship with my husband has flourished since we learned the actual BIBLICAL wisdom, not man’s wisdom. It not based on works it’s based on Christ. We are genuinely crazy for each other. I feel incredibly safe. My neediness has gone away, naturally. His distance is no longer there. He loves and cares for me. Out of a heart of overflowing love for him and Jesus I gladly serve him. I’m walking in that place that the Bible says needs no law. 🙌
I highly recommend the covenant household by Douglas Wilson. I got the cannon plus app. When I understood how it was actually designed I loved God and my husband more than ever!
Amen! I love that app and their books/ podcasts in general. Im also listening to covenant household.
I think using the words “I need YOU” to do xyz is huge for my man. Like you said, clear and concise. I used to not say anything and would blow up once a month with feelings of being unloved and under valued.
I would say that goes to dating also, a woman might be upset that she is not being pursued, so does the first step, and maybe also the second, third... all of a sudden she can become bitter and think that no men pursue women the right way anymore.
Joyce, the green dress looks stunning on you.
I love love your mind. I am benefiting from this perspective. What I love love love even more is it is Christ centered and edifying. All praises to the one true God! I love you and appreciate your time! This makes sooo much sense and a great discussion!
I've been guilty of giving needy responses to my husband and no wonder I get nowhere. It totally makes sense why this is not the most effective way to get help from your husband. I'm going to practice and speak more from a posture of capability and preciseness with my husband. Thank you as always Bindi ❤
Being "in need": requiring something to fulfill a desired purpose
Being "needy": the constant requiring of something that may seem unreasonable and overwhelming to the person who you're taking it from (a perspective)
This is just how I've always interpreted it. I believe what you "need" in a relationship should be established in the very beginning and both should be willing to give 100%. Also, I don't think being needy in a relationship is always a negative thing though, because maybe in that moment we just need a little extra love, and that's ok!
That’s what I was thinking. I’ve never considered myself needy, so I know if I get to the point (because of lack of communicating and maybe even realizing myself) that I can no longer pretend I’m okay with being neglected, I might come off as “needy” or “high maintenance” for simply having basic needs and expressing them so late that I’ve been overthinking the situations resentfully, while he’s been completely unaware there was ever such problems under the surface. This is why communication must always improve if we want to be on the same page and have a chance of our needs being met. I’m still trying to unlearn the communication issues I got from my parents’s marriage. So many times where I only see what he’s doing wrong or where he’s lacking, and only later realizing how toxic and how like my mother I sounded when I said what I said to him because I’m just used to biting off more than I can chew, and have a hard time asking for help.
This was really good. I enjoyed every bit of what you said. I am still struggling with receiving what my hubby gives. I usually think he can do better. I will work on improving my receiving so he can improve his giving. I will also make sure to be more specific with my requests and place my expectations in the Lord with faith that my hubby will give the way I need him to.
Being needy equals codependency. It’s wanting all of his time when he’s not at work, and getting upset when he does anything away from you in his free time. It’s needing constant validation & words of affirmation. I struggle with this.
I Iam the kind as well.Hopefully I drop the neediness too
But isnt this just your love language??
@@PeaceBeStill24 I guess that’s part of it.
Neediness is when you’re emotionally tied to getting your satisfaction from your spouse. You can’t just be content in yourself. You need validation from him. Constant approval. You need attention. Example- your husband is working extra hours at work and that cuts into your time with him instead of being appreciative of him making more money you complain about him not being home with you as much. Or maybe that’s clingy? 😅
I’ve always used the two interchangeably. 🤷🏻♀️
what about if you prefer having a husband who spends time with you a lot more than him making more money ? or is that selfish ,idk :)
@@ElinoMilanesi not selfish just gotta adjust the house so that it doesn’t interfere with your bills
A good example is texting all day I did that and my husband kept saying ok leave me alone now and I was hurt and offended because when I say ok I’m gonna leave u alone and talk to u later he would say no it’s ok. My husband would call me needy during fights and I would say you should be happy I pay you attention. I didn’t get it. Confused my clingy brain but the lord revealed my neediness is bad. My life revolves around my family. I just told my husband I need a day for me
This isnt about your hair but it’s been wonderful seeing your hair growth through your videos 💜
I think of being needy as being an all consuming person who is barely or rarely able to give back. Someone who can do nothing but take in all areas because she’s got a bottomless pit that never gets filled.
I am speechless. This is the answer to most of the communication failures in any relationship, when we allow someone abdicate his/her responsibilities - don't let them. LOVE IT.
Wow this video has been so helpful and right on time! I have been that “no I got it” wife/woman, usually out of not communicating my own needs and then feeling disappointed when the need isn’t met. Now I’m seeing why I’ve felt so tired and like I don’t have help. Stepping out of the husband role immediately!
I just want to give the Glory to God for this video and my marriage. HalleluYAH!
Excellent topic! I do find that the more I recognize him for what he does, the more he does - and the more he shares with me about other things! I do my best to stay in tune when he talks about door frames bc he is sharing & proud of himself!
I needed to hear this more than I realized! And I actively try and practice receiving with gratitude. The clip of the Rabbi made my heart hurt. Thank you for your content ❤ I also love hearing the children in the background 🥰
Neediness- a bottomless pit of need/requests without satisfaction or gratitude….
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Great advice! I have been working to make this change by thinking about what they are going to hear. A simple change of tone can be the difference is someone hearing “oh she’s upset” rather than “I didn’t realize she needed help. Let me see what I can do”
I have really struggled with doing to much and being resentful of my husband. Thanks, you have given me a new perspective.
I really love your videos. I feel what you share (and how well you articulate the things you share) seriously grounds my heart attitude toward my husband, myself, and my child - in the way God designed. It’s truth that we can so easily veer off course from and it’s so good to have the redirection. Thank you for doing this ❤
Example: Communication is something I need to be in a healthy relationship, him buying every single meal is not a need but is greatly appreciated. If I treat being fed with the same energy as the need to communicate effectively than I’m being needy.
Neediness is when the need is exploited, snowballed into a burden and never resolved.
A need is always tenporary and always expected to be met.
I am not married yet but I am so grateful that I came across this video! You are like a grandmother who is full of life experiences that she learned throughout the years and gets to share them with the world ❤❤
I have been described as needy before. I am very much a quality time person and something that has been difficult for me in marriage is to not allow my love for quality time with my best friend to become codependency.
How do you prevent it from turning into codependency? I’m a quality time girl too.
@@kirky3051have quality time with yourself too. Finding something that you like doing that helps clear your mind and/or just for fun.
@kirky3051 Well, my husband has been having to take long work trips this Summer, like 20 days at a time, so I've been forced to get back into my own hobbies and do things without him. That has been a hard and not fun lesson but forcing myself to do the things has helped. When he gets home I'm a bit clingy but after this Summer is over and he's back to his normal schedule, I think I'll be better off than I was before he started on this rotation.
I thought I already know all the secrets of good marriage. But every time I listen to you I get so many Perl’s off wisdom. Thank you
This is so much confirmation! Bindi!!! Whew! I needed this! I was contemplating a decision but didn’t have peace and this affirmed how Holy Spirit was leading me. Thank you for your obedience👏🏾💯🥰
What I believe being neediness is wanting to have your way and not exercising the word No nor having patience/self control and being in need for something is help with something, because we are all in need of help..My understanding of neediness vs need..By the way great teaching sis so encouraging❤
This video is right on time. I’m learning this lesson right now. Without faith, it’s impossible to please God.
Well this was a timely video. Thank you Bindi for discussing this topic. It was encouragement to me and gave me hope for better communication.
Ohhhh you are speaking to me 😂 we have had this discussion not long ago and changes have been made. What a beautiful difference it has made to just TRUST him even if it’s not on MY time.
Wow! Thank you God for this rebuke & edification to us as your daughters! Thank you sis for your obedience & allowing God to use you to make this video. Will continue to help many more women for sure in the body of Christ. Married or not married this is pure wisdom!
Wow, this message blessed me in such a way that I didn't know that I was a needy wife. Once again, Joyce, you have graciously communicated a behavior that many wives like myself struggled with. I'll be sure to share this with my women's group! God bless you.
Such a good video and a blessing! Need to rewatch 🙏🏾
Being needy is something that I have struggled with almost my entire life. Because of childhood trauma and neglect I have put more responsibility on my husband that truly isn’t his. Requiring much more
From him emotionally than God had given him as a husband.
That to me is what being needy is. When a wife is expecting more from her husband than is his to give.
Oh, my goodness
I'm am beyond grateful for your channel.
Thank you Lord, for you❤
Needing is a proactive ask, working together to facilitate the meeting of that need (ie timing and type of delivery) as well as a contentment with the best effort being taken and a gradual building towards bettering that best to more accurately meet that need.
Neediness is a passive (sometimes aggressive) nag which doesn't quite know what is needed to fulfill itself, isn't willing to work towards figuring that out and only regards it's own position of lack ignoring the very real capacity of another to help provide for that lack
Truly inspired by your journey! You have an anointed voice, hope to hear more of it in your videos, maybe at the end or with your modest fitting shorts? Just throwing that out there lol. Truly a blessing! ❤
I do appreciate very much this video that you made I have been subscribed to your channel and everytime I get a moment away from my channel I make sure that I coming to yours to check you out but this time I've watched the longer part of your video and complete video to be exact and I'm using Google voice to even write this comment right now because I usually don't leave comments typed out but long story short you have helped me to actually gained a marriage counseling on my own phone so this is wonderful and especially in the name of the Lord so it's great and I believe in the Proverbs woman and I believe that the Lord is higher and I believe in women respecting their husband's loving their husbands nurturing their husbands and I also their children. Blessings sister
great video on the neediness advice for wives!
Wow our father just hit me on the head with this video this was amazing.
I learned how to request with saying something about how
it “would make me feel so good if…”… then just letting go and trusting that he’ll get it done in his own time. And always take the opportunity to say thank you for anything he does do for me.
This is, by far, the best video I have ever watched on traditional roles in marriage. Subbed immediately after watching.
She hits the nail on the head in every video. 🔨
@@molly_frances I am blown away. 💯 Incredibly intelligent, beautiful Christian wife and mother who presents the information thoughtfully and accurately.
Girl just wait there’s more. It’s no mistake that you even found her channel. I started watching her videos and like it all aligns with the Bible and it’s been life changing for me.
@@neelafung8787 I've just started a deep dive into her videos. Incredible.
@@jannadee77Aw,❤ Keep reading your Bibles ladies.
When men are not disciplined enough to manage finances, it affects everything. Taking out the trash is trivial compared to the light bill not getting paid or the rent not getting paid. How many times does a woman let the lights get shut off or have eviction notices served before she says "enough" and does it for the children and herself.
The point is, let the man experience those consequences and he will be intentional to get it done on time when he sees his family suffering as a result of his actions.
@kaylag.8411 Unfortunately, it doesn't impact some men in the way it should.
@@sashanoel167 That is unfortunate, but that let's you know what kind of man you have and how to pray.
@@kaylag.8411 Good point❣️
Excellent insights! I bought the book and am loving it so far! I definitely have my work cut out for me this chapter
This was an amazing video! Thank you ! May God continue to bless you and your family ! Definitely will be sharing this video with other women
Every time I watch your videos, I’m instantly convicted. Thank you for allowing God to use you ❤️
When I think of being needy is constantly wanting something that never actually be filled. It’s excessive and unnecessary, never being satisfied. Needing something means for a shorter period of time that is non negotiable. When someone needs something, it’s short term, achievable and something they are absolutely unable to fulfill it without assistance.
Bindi you are such a blessing
This is also called 'co-dependent' great edification video Sister ❤
We all have needs (God-given by design), and we are to give others the space to consent whether they are able to meet our needs. The book Boundaries by John Townsend and Henry Cloud goes into the stewardship of our needs/emotions. I think the big difference in having a need and being needy, is whether we are permitting space for the other's free will to meet our need or not. Also, when we truly provide people freedom to meet needs, we must ask of more than one person, because one person is not meant to carry that load on our behalf. Being needy is repeatedly going to one person, and not permitting space for them to consent/refuse without a consequence (like pouting or bringing it up all the time).
I always enjoy listening to your teachings because I learn a lot from each of them❤❤🇳🇬
Well if this didn’t hit hard!! 😮😅
This should have been taught to me many years ago. Ouch!!!
I always thought of needy as “help me” type of things. I did not know how to receive correctly apparently and I definitely complain that I have to do everything. And I do! But, now I see how I might have pushed it that way.
I can’t tell you how many things I have learned over the past year or so by watching your channel as you are going through books. And I’ve bought them. Lol
I really appreciate what you do! ❤🙏🏻
So much wisdom in thie video!!!! Thank you xx
Neediness means you can’t do anything at all yourself. Like you need him to tell you exactly what to do and when.. Or maybe even being so needy that you allow yourself to be abused. I’m not really sure what the author means though. All of this is such wisdom. Thank you. ❤
No you’re off.
I believe needing is when you have a standard that you require to be upheld, whereas needy is needing things that were never agreed upon and tying your worth or the relationship to whether you get it or not.
I think many of the commenters are confused about what being needy is. Needy is when your emotional needs are not met and you are not secure within yourself and you turn to others to hope they can fulfill that love or attention that one doesn’t have within themselves. Many of us have anxious attachment style that was developed during a traumatic event in life or result of childhood trauma we haven’t worked through. God has shown me this and I am working on my clingy neediness. My husband would tell me i was. When we had arguments I would text, call, do all types of crazy unstable things. As a child I didn’t feel good enough, I felt rejected, abandoned by dad, not loved or liked by mom. So I turn to my husband to fill the void when it was with God within me. I’m learning and I’m giving my husband more grace. Women who are “needy” have some of the most beautiful hearts you will find. Ladies give yourself that love. Give God all your attention. Be needy with God and let him heal you and make your marriage stronger. I was idolizing my husband he showed me
I completly agree this is a spiritual principle that can't be undone.
Girl, such food for thought!
Just a great message that many of us need to hear. I personally have made progress on this but of course I still have work to do
Thank you for this sharing. Very inspiring especially when you talked about to learn to receive help from others, that’s what I have to learn, as I used to say no, thanks or I would feel sorry to let someone to help me even to hold the door for me! I’m learning to receive helps gladly and gracefully, I think that would make the others feel great too!
when you need something, you recognise the thing as something that is required whereas,
when you're needy the thing you require becomes a ruler over you that often causes emotional outbursts mostly coz it's been put off so much while the source of meeting that need refuses to and belittles you for it. (in my opinion)
Being needy to me means that a person lacks the ability to find joy and happiness within themselves, they lack the ability to regulate their own emotions, or find confidence within themselves. They are lacking within themselves so they look to their partner to give them what they should be able to provide for themselves. For instance when a person is highly insecure due to their upbringing or past (they are unhealed), they will NEED their partner to give them constant reassurance instead of being able to regulate their own emotions. When I think of a needy wife, I think of someone who places the burdens of what they should be doing for themselves onto their partner. Someone who makes excessive requests (wash the dishes, clean, blah blah blah is high maintenance, someone who needs their spouse to give them the things they should be giving themselves to me is more indicative of being needy).
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! This was a helpful reminder because we (as women) would not want to be treated poorly when we make a mistake either.
As you continued to mention showing appreciation, I wondered if you have made a video on how to show appreciation for the deeds of the husband? I am working on recovering from my toxic independence and I find I often don't show appreciation for things because I know it's just something that needed doing. As a result, my SO and I simply exist, getting our work done but neither of us feel appreciated for it. I wonder what your thoughts are on the subject?
Continue to share scriptural truth...many people need it in this dark day and age!!!
So good and so true for my past marriage. My husband didn't have the best health so I made alot of excuses for him. However, there was much he wasn't willing to do having grown up in a culture where the women did most everything anyway.
Great! What a blessing. Love the depth of thought and insights.
Teach me WOG💕 Yes I will makes requests, from a position of faith 🙏
So glad I found you!
So much encouragement here... just ordered the book
This was spot on! Loved it
Neediness is a state of being unfulfilled and often times that person will not be content despite the provision
Needing something is specific, often times when someone adresses that needs it quenches and its enough since the person who is in need is self aware of what it would take to adress that need
Great video!… but the locs😍😍😍 come on!!
This was great, I thought “oh I’m not needy”. I thought neediness was about wanting your husband around and giving you all the attention and when I realized the theme of not being able to receive or trust that he will deliver I thought, oh dang yeah that’s me. Thank you for that!
This reminds me of the story, when queens ride by. It’s a beautiful story and reality affected me.
Sooo edifying ❤️
Absolutely brilliant, thank you for teaching the meaning of Christ consciousness for women!
Bindi I really love the message but I have to say that I really love your natural glow it really stands out🎉
I agree! Beautiful skin & hair!🤩
Wow wow wow, so good for me to hear as a young wife
This speaks to me so much
Oh I knew this is what I needed with the first minute! 🙌🏾
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