Proverbs 31 Woman | Titus 2 Woman | Tradwife vs Christian Wife
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- Key differences between the 1950's "Good Wife" and a Christian wife.
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PLEASE READ! I've had some women comment here, very confused over 1 Timothy 5:8.
When I created this video I assumed knowledge of Bible concordances was common, and have since come to the stark realization that many people out there do not know about them.
Since learning many people are completely unfamiliar with Bible concordance's I realized I need to address this.
There are some who are unaware that the Bible was written in mainly Hebrew and Greek, translated into English, and that currently, there are over 3 thousand Bible versions with each version reading a little differently.
With so many versions there have been some attempted arguments in the comments as some look to their Bible's and see the word "man" while others look and see the word "anyone".
How do we know which Bible version is the "correct" version? This is a great question, and one that has sparked endless debates! Personally, I use many versions, including Septuagint (one of the oldest versions and translations of the Old Testament).
Thankfully, we have a wonderful resource to help us as we are studying the Word of God, that will help us regardless of the version we are using! This resource is called a "Bible concordance".
These are what I used for validity in creating this video. I did not rely on a particular 'version' as some have assumed.
Bible concordances are invaluable and very important as we study the word of God. They are what enable us to look up the original translation of every word, no matter what the Bible version is we are using. With a concordance one is able to look up the meaning of a word in their Bible and find the original meaning in the language the verse was written in, regardless of the version they are using.
The two most trusted concordances I'm aware of are the Lexicon and the Strongs. I have hardcopies of both, but you can find them online
Here
biblehub.com/lexicon/genesis/1-1.htm
and
Here
biblehub.com/strongs/genesis/1-1.htm
Regarding the word "man" in 1 Timothy 5:8, if you look it up the concordances it translates "anyone".
I've copied and pasted it below from the Strongs Concordance for you so you can look it up yourself;
"anyone τις (tis) Interrogative / Indefinite Pronoun - Nominative Masculine Singular
Strong's Greek 5100: Any one, some one, a certain one or thing. An enclitic indefinite pronoun; some or any person or object."
Here's the link so you can look it up yourself. biblehub.com/strongs/1_timothy/5-8.htm
If you look this up with the Lexicon concordance it means the same.
There have been some attempted arguments here over which Bible version is best, and it's important to try to find the most accurate version, however with over 3 thousand versions this isn't as easy as one would like. One could weed through them all to find the most accurate, or, they could simply refer to a concordance.
For accuracy a concordance is the only way I'm aware of to know for sure what the original word was intended as.
Once again, as mentioned in the video, we also have the Proverbs 31 woman to cross reference with which also suggests a wife contributing to the provision.
Well and kindly written.
I just found your channel and I am so very grateful! I'm often saddened by the lack of Biblical knowledge being shared. Thank you for showing people the way... I cannot do any Bible studying without a quality concordance and I also use commentary reference books. When I don't have time to sit and read extensively I always use my parallel Bible with the Amplified version side by side ❤ I was raised with the umbrella graphic although i cannot say even that was followed. I'm trying to live my life Biblically and I appreciate if you would pray for me to be wise in how I go about focusing on Biblical womanhood/motherhood. I have an excellent husband and I'm desiring to be the excellent wife God desires me to be so that my whole household is blessed.
I also really love your home...it is beautiful ❤
I do fully believe in the idea of a help meet and being a contributor, but why does it consistently use he/his in the rest of the verse and not something more neutral?
Yess! Even the English and Dutch translation differ pretty greatly! Absolutely loved this video though 🥰
I love using a concordance!!! They even have apps now that are the Bible with Strong's linked in the text.
If women weren’t meant to question things and have opinions the God wouldn’t have given us the capability to do these things. God used many smart and strong women in The Bible.
Not that I totally disagree with your statement but also, the fall...
@@larissabess7617 Men were just as liable for the fall.
This "husband is the sole provider" is also hurtful for families where the husband passes, leaves, or becomes disabled. What should I do as a wife in that circumstance? Especially with disability. Do I force my husband to keep working to an early grave? Or do I pick up the mantle of provider so that my husband can get the help he needs or take the time he needs to figure out his disability and what he is capable of doing? Do I be another cause of his suffering or do I be his help-mate and get a job?
*Each family is different and has different needs. My husband and I don't have any children and our family needs may be different than others
I resonate with your comment. We do have three children, they are young adults now. There are periods of time where my husband’s health- physical and mentally were and are challenging. I have worked outside of the home during some of these periods of time. It wasn’t an easy decision to make but it was the right choice for us.
After my husband became disabled, I needed to work. I worked for 16 years with his approval and blessing. This was a blessing to many as my life touched many children. That is God's purpose for marriage: a godly seed (whether you influence your own children or those of others) according to Malachi 2:15. It's always about the children. We are building a godly heritage. This may look different in every family. We dare not be legalistic.
Life insurance. Disability insurance. Absolutely a must. Save for retirement so he can enjoy you in the later years.
My husband has pushed through times of difficulty and decided he didn’t want me to provide for him, he but the bullet and worked even if I had to save more when we had nothing to save.
Life insurance is a huge must. And you can borrow from it. Get a good rep ❤
So true... I often feel shamed for working to help support my husband because ITS VERY EXPENSIVE and we want to leave our children a home and finances for their futures.
@samanthabailey3850 Husband here. Much of the things discussed here are good things, but I'd say this: God made woman to be a helper to the man. If your man is working hard and times are tough, I wouldn't say you getting a job to help out is a bad thing. When I was growing up, my dad worked full time and did side jobs for extra income. There where a couple times where even that wasn't quite enough so my mom went and got a job at a local retailer for a while until it was no longer needed. Moral of the story: life situations change. How you help will also sometimes change. Wive's, communicate with your husbands. For the most part we are reasonable.
Also, if your husband should die, you obviously must do what is required to take care of your children until God sends along another man to come alongside you.
Do whatever the situation may require, keep you faith in the Lord and follow him. He will care for you.
When the "trad wife" thing became a "trend" I first thought it was going to be a good thing.... I quickly discovered (in the same way you did - through Facebook groups) that many of these "trad wives" are just in love with the 50's style. Many of these women are not religious at all or they seriously twist scripture. In one group, I saw some really hateful comments towards the Christian wives in the group. I have since left all but one homesteading group. Thank you for this video & your content ❤ Makes me feel less alone 😊
The Good Wife book sounds like it was written by 6 year olds playing “house”. Trad Wifery is a social media phenomenon- and therefore is an aesthetic - not real life. I just turned 30 and I’m so thankful I stopped using social media as any primary guide to the kind of mom and wife God needed me to be. Turning into the Spirit and asking Him what kind of person he needed me to be.
I finally feel like I am coming into myself. 💗 And I love the focus on being a specific type of help-meet for YOUR husband. Meeting HIS needs. Not someone else’s. I wish I could like this video a MILLION times. What incredibly safe advice!
It’s also important to remember that Jesus came and simplified the law. Because mankind had made his word over complicated with extensive books of rules that had no root in the actual word of God. Similar much? Sounds a lot like what’s happening in society today!
What a breath of fresh air this video is as a young married christian woman. Thank you for being charitable to the other side in how you handled this subject too.
You are welcome, thank you for commenting!
I get married in three days, this video is like a gift!
Congratulations! May the LORD bless you, your [soon to be] husband and the marriage, family and home you are going to build together!
Congratulations beautiful! May the lord bless your union and May you and hubby enjoy every moment with one another in Jesus’ name! Never forget the love God has gifted you all to share between one another
Awe! I wish you the best with your marriage!
YHWH bless you and keep you, and make his countenance shine upon you and bring you shalom ❤
Congratulations! 🎉 To day is the day. May God bless your union and shine on all who share your special day.
My name is Ashton and I am commenting on my husband’s account as this is our family account. I just wanted to say thank you for making the videos you make. You don’t know how much of an inspiration you have been to me. I am a mom of three little boys and trying so hard to be a Godly house wife and homeschool momma. Your videos are so encouraging and I get so excited when there’s a new one! You are doing a great job and I know that God is so proud of you. Your family is truly blessed you have you!
Hello Ashton, thank you for sharing this with me. As I was reading what you wrote here it reminded me of back when I had three or four little ones, and I was having a hard time figuring out how to manage all the things. A sweet older pastor, one of the best I've ever known, shared the simplest prayer mantra. It was perfect for my ADHD brain! It was simply a prayer that said, "Lord, help me to be a Godly woman today." Short, sweet, easy to remember, and effective!
To this day, this prayer helps me each time I remember to pray it. I hope you have a lovely week, and thank you so much for the kind words. It encourages me to keep going with this!
Thank you for sharing this!
“The LORD bless you and keep you;
The LORD make His face shine upon you,
And be gracious to you;
The LORD lift up His countenance upon you,
And give you peace.”
Hi, I'm 20, a young lady who's really been seeking God concerning this and I just want to say praise God and thank you so much for sharing this. I've stated my age because for some this is when marriage becomes a really big deal and because of that I've seen and heard different teachings as to how to be a "good wife" and it hurts me to say that as young as I am, I'm already tired of trying to hold up these standards. I found myself in a low place for a looong time and have been seeking God on finally getting out of it, even though it's a very scary step to take.
Since the great fall, His people have always been under attack, nit by flesh but by spirit. So the fear, anxiety, and loniness is strong, I understand you. I'm a man that just turned 27 back in January, recently finding Elohim. The more you understand, the more crazy the world gets and the harder it is to find a truly biblical partner in Yeshua Messiah. I've been waiting for Messiah to gift me his daughter for a long time now. It's pretty hard to find. We all go astray and only a few hear the voice. Keep the good fight as Paul said. Our Messiah returns soon and will wipe our tears from our eyes. Be of good cheer and not let familiar spirits oppress you. They have no authority over you. Understand that your Abba is above all and He gives to His children. There are still true followers in this world. Lean on us, we are here for you and you for us.
What a beautiful video! Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom. I remember reading some marriage book early in our marriage (can't remember which one). I was baffled by my husband's response to my implementation of what I was "learning." My husband grew increasingly agitated and asked what was going on. When I told him about the book, he said "You didn't marry this book--you married ME!" I will never forget that lesson.
Thank you so much for sharing all this great information! I was raised LDS by very traditional parents. My parents, siblings, and I have since left the LDS faith and become Christian, but I still have a lot of church teachings about marriage and family that I have been trying to sort out through the word. This video has addressed so many questions that were and were not included as a topic for the video and I feel so blessed to have heard it. I dont think anyone could have done a better job explaining this topic. Thank you! Ladies spread this video to other families! Love you all my fellow sisters in Christ!
Hello! I’m LDS, and I just want to clarify that we are Christians! Our teachings and beliefs are based on the word of Jesus Christ (hence the name The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints), and we strive to turn to Him and become like Him. All that aside, I’m sorry that the way your parents raised you had made it so there are so many things for you to sort out. I wish you luck with that! God bless you!
God bless you, sister!! I grew up with the same misguided beliefs. As a young lady, I was well-versed in the “good wife guide”. And as a young, struggling, Christian Mama, I had the misfortune of reading Created To Be His Helpmeet, and, Me, Obey Him. And in my foolish zealousness to become a better wife and mom, I had my husband read those books as well… I cannot even begin to express the heartache and misery it created in my marriage. And enduring all of that while trying to raise three children, two of whom are autistic… all I can do is look back at the folly of it all and shake my head. It’s been two decades, our children are grown, and we are still healing from that toxic way of functioning.
I pray that the wisdom you are sharing can spare others the same fate.
I think having neurodivergent children is one of the factors that has helped put those teachings into their true place in our family as well, Christine. There's no way to follow all the advice in those books when you have certain life circumstances and are simply going through long seasons of simply surviving and trying to navigate the next actually needs for the family. Thank you for sharing.
Ooh yes we are similar here. Autism family too trying to find out way. Hugs from Scotland x
Thank you for this video. I am married, work fulltime, and don't have children (not by choice.) But I go to a church where probably 95% of the women my age stay at home, even if they don't have children (but most do.) It's really hard for me to relate to them and oftentimes I've felt like what I'm doing must be wrong. It's made me consider living a similar life, and I do think living like that would make me happier because I do have the skillset and don't particularly enjoy working, but I'm not sure that it would be financially responsible because of the state of the economy. My husband wants me to quit my job and just be a fulltime wife, but again I don't think it is wise as much as I would like to. All that to say, thank you for assuring me that what I'm doing isn't "unwomanly" as a lot of people online seem to be saying about people like me.
I worked at a regular job before having kids. There is no need to stay at home before children come into the picture. That extra money will go a long way once you have kids.
Working outside the home is NOT "unwomanly". If people in the church y'all attend are telling you this, making you feel ostracized and rejecting you then please find a different church. The Lord may need you elsewhere. Because if your husband is okay with you working, then you're good.
IF, however, he has straight told you (repeatedly) to quit, especially if it causes fights between you because you won't, then y'all may need to get counseling. (Is he Christian? Why does he want you to quit? Does he really want you to quit or is he also feeling pressured by religious people? Does he expect you to stay home all the time unless he's with you? Does he fully realize the financial ramifications of you not working? Would he be okay with you working from home? etc). So many things to discuss!! Because it sounds like there are many things going on for you. Start with going to counseling yourself. Christian counseling and make sure it's confidential. Talking to someone in church won't be. God bless 🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
God has different plans for everyone. As long as you are following Him, who cares what people think. (Read Jeremiah 29:11)
@singingwindrider9881 so good to see a person that thinks on RUclips
That’s the situation I find myself in too. I’ve only been married for a year, and I don’t know what the future holds, but it breaks my heart a bit that from a medical perspective there’s a good chance I may never have kids.
I’m really blessed to have a job I genuinely love (I work as a barista). I am trying to learn what it means to be a homemaker in this time. It’s discouraging sometimes because a lot of things that work for the other wives I know don’t work for me because of my job.
I have 5 children (10 years old down to 8 months) and homeschool and am EXHAUSTED all the time. I work a few hours here and there (tutoring) and feel immense pressure to make money and/or have a full career once the kids graduate. I think life is just complicated and the reason a woman is feeling pressure can be different depending on the circumstances.
This is likely NOT the season for you to make money, but to wisely manage what your husband makes.
My sister-in-law does door-dash after the kids go to bed. Also some kroger shopping (she knows the store so well), and now she does laundry for others in her own home. Very impressive hustle, considerind she has the kids all the time.
Please remember to keep comments respectful and kind. Hateful, disparaging, and/or disrespectful comments are not fully read and are promptly discarded by my team, so they are just a waste of your time to drop 😊.
You got a masters in what? I'm thinking about auto mechanics as a single lady over 30. Don't know how that plays into my desire to be a wife or homemaker but don't have ambition or money for much else. Pray for me.
This was so helpful, I listened to it twice. My hubby will also leave for work without food, if it’s not easy to find. Thank you for making this lovely video, sister. ❤
At first I wasn't sure what this video was going to be about, but after watching 7 mins of it, I want to say THANK YOU! I know some of those older tips may not be all terrible, but you are right, it is not in scripture. There are a few homesteaders/homemakers that I've had to unfollow because of this mindset. It is harmful and I am so glad you are voicing the truth! Thank you again! ❤❤❤
Thank you so, so much for this!!!! I am recently married (five months tomorrow!!) and it’s been a struggle to not cave into the “trad wife” mindset. My husband has been telling me all the things you said in this video (he’s amazing 🤩), but it’s so good to hear this from a woman too!!!
Honestly as a single Christian man, the only thing I'm asking you for is to not be toxic or narcissistic towards your husband. I think the guys who are actively seeking a "trad wife" are a vocal minority even amongst conservative men.
As it’s been said: “Christians shoot their wounded”
That saying has always given me pause.
Great video 100%
I have tried to work from home while tending to little ones and I have felt so inadequate because i can't do it all. Thank you for saying that it's OK to wait until the babies re bigger
Yes! I’m glad I stayed for that! I would have left the video feeling pressure to bring in income with no idea where I would find the time…
I WANTED to be at home when they were little but we were stupid and somehow didn’t get any of this right. And I felt it inside the whole time, and had no idea. Until I started reading the Bible, and going to real therapy. I am understanding all the ways I missed it, and messed up. Now my life is falling apart.
I wish I could rewind and do it all over again.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. I honestly don’t understand why women can be expected to do the most of the house work and child raising and still work outside the home. Keeping house and raising babies is a full time job itself
The good wife guide absolutely has crazy aspects! I have taken to making sure we have snacks ready when my husband gets home because he always goes through the fridge and I'd much rather he eats affordable, filling snacks than eating the more expensive food! I actually asked my husband the other day what he thinks about my physical appearance and what he would like me to look like. He literally told me he doesn't care what I look like so long as I continue to be myself, not dress inappropriately etc. It occurs to me that men are usually very easily pleased and all those details they focus on as a "trad wife", men really don't notice!
Can’t imagine
I have the worst time maintaining a good wgt
Not for lack of trying n not becuz I’m gluttonous
To ask someone else how I should look is demeaning to me
That's a bold question to ask but that only shows that 1. You truly trust & love your husband. 2. It pleases you to please him.
Hubbies tend to answer this type of question with what they hope will avoid conflict, not what they really think. I used to dress in strictly comfy clothes (hoodies, yoga leggings, etc.). When I started dressing nicely and in a feminine style 2 years ago, the reactions from both my husband and two young adult sons was amazing. They are now so thankful every day now that I dress nicely. I don't wear makeup unless we go out. But I always spritz on some fragrance mist as well. I keep my hair in an easy ponytail, but I put on a cute fabric headband. And I get daily compliments from my family. Showing yourself the self-respect of dressing nicely not only boosts your own mood and theirs, but it also teaches your children to seek life partners who will also put a little effort into looking nice. It takes the same amount of time to pull on slacks and a blouse as it does to pull on yoga leggings and a hoodie. And it's a real, tangible, wordless way to show your appreciation for the people around you.
FINALLY! Someone else who articulates my thoughts too - I'm the same age and have watched the suffering brought on by these false teachings! I always quote the "if your brother is sinning" verse to the false "submission" teachings. Thank you 👏👏👏
You are welcome! Yes, there is a difference between submission and enabling. A really good example of a good time a wife should step in is if her husband has an addiction, for example. If a wife/woman loves her man she will lovingly do/say/pray all she can to help him before it's too late.
This is the first video of yours I’ve seen. I really enjoyed listening to the whole thing while crocheting. Thank you for calling out Bill Gothard and those nasty false equivalencies, I’ve also been taught the umbrella and that good wife article. I was also homeschooled, but am 25, married, and have no kids yet. This is so inspiring to me because you’re knowledgeable about the facts and history, in love with scripture, learning from therapy, AND realistically preserving the beautiful things about biblical womanhood by working, confidently speaking and teaching, and caring for your home and family. This is what I want to be!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Definitely subscribing and watching all your videos now 💕
I'm also listening in while crocheting ☺️
My husband & I are empty nesters of 6 kids, even to this day I absolutely love being a homemaker! I love taking care of things here, I do run a business from home to bring in a little extra to help my husband & I accomplish our goals we have for retirement. I am in the process of learning more homesteading to be more self sufficient & I have gotten back into sewing & crocheting as well. I feel the gifts God has given each of us women is a blessing & we should embrace them & not worry about what the world thinks.
8 But if a man makes no provision for those dependent on him, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is behaving worse than an unbeliever.
Yes husbands are to provide for their families, God isnt saying women cant we are to help our husbands and if working part time helps then so be it. When Adam and Eve sinned God said Adam would toil the land to survive which means He would be the main provider for his household and Eve would go through pain child bearing and she would be co provider as in taking care of her children and household and whatever Adam needed help with, we are to submit as long it doesnt interfere with our convictions and flat out sin! Im still listening Im so glad i found this channel you are so lovely and full of wisdom :)
Hello Sofia! Thank you so much for the kind words!
When I created this video I assumed knowledge of Bible concordances (like I used for this video) was common, and have since come to the stark realization that many people out there do not know about them.
Since learning many people are completely unfamiliar with Bible concordance's I realized I need to address this.
There are some who are unaware that the Bible was written in mainly Hebrew and Greek, translated into English, and that currently, there are over 3 thousand Bible versions with each version reading a little differently.
With so many versions there have been some attempted arguments in the comments as some look to their Bible's and see the word "man" while others look and see the word "anyone".
How do we know which Bible version is the "correct" version? This is a great question, and one that has sparked endless debates! Personally, I use many versions, including Septuagint (one of the oldest versions and translations of the Old Testament).
Thankfully, we have a wonderful resource to help us as we are studying the Word of God, that will help us regardless of the version we are using! This resource is called a "Bible concordance".
Look it up.
Bible concordances are invaluable and very important as we study the word of God. They are what enable us to look up the original translation of every word, no matter what the Bible version is we are using. With a concordance one is able to look up the meaning of a word in their Bible and find the original meaning in the language the verse was written in, regardless of the version they are using.
The two most trusted concordances I'm aware of are the Lexicon and the Strongs. I have hardcopies of both, but you can find them online
Here
biblehub.com/lexicon/genesis/1-1.htm
and
Here
biblehub.com/strongs/genesis/1-1.htm
Regarding the word "man" in 1 Timothy 5:8, if you look it up the concordances it translates "anyone".
I've copied and pasted it below from the Strongs Concordance for you so you can look it up yourself;
"anyone τις (tis) Interrogative / Indefinite Pronoun - Nominative Masculine Singular
Strong's Greek 5100: Any one, some one, a certain one or thing. An enclitic indefinite pronoun; some or any person or object."
Here's the link so you can look it up yourself. biblehub.com/strongs/1_timothy/5-8.htm
If you look this up with the Lexicon concordance it means the same.
There have been some attempted arguments here over which Bible version is best, and it's important to try to find the most accurate version, however with over 3 thousand versions this isn't as easy as one would like. One could weed through them all to find the most accurate, or, they could simply refer to a concordance.
For accuracy a concordance is the only way I'm aware of to know for sure what the original word was intended as.
Once again, as mentioned in the video, we also have the Proverbs 31 woman to cross reference with which also suggests a wife contributing to the provision.
Thank you again for sharing!
Genesis 3 was the curse of living by the flesh, not a prescription for holy roles. It describes life apart from grace.
I love this sooo much! 😭 thanks for posting this. We left the amish community 2 yrs ago, and weve been taught so many of these 1950s ideas. My husband is so supportive of me, and my endeavors ,but ive been feeling guilty for have a part time at home job even though I'm with my kids 24/7. Im a high energy, creative woman who loves to stay busy with my hands and am starting a at home bakery that is becoming successful and my husband is 100% on board and recognizes my business abilities. But was still struggling with doubts. Thank you!!!❤❤
I can relate to your feelings so much. I'm glad this helped you, thank you for letting me know!
Everyone loves bread!
Oh my goodness Shayla, thank you. I have been under so much pressure that The LORD is slowly removing from me piece by piece, things He never meant for me to carry. Feeling like a failure no matter what I do. His grace truly is so sufficient. We cannot do it all. Thank you for teaching real biblical womanhood and biblical truth 😭
You are so welcome, and you are not a failure. His grace is sufficient, He is the One who will make it all come together in the end. Might look a little different than we envisioned, but we can trust Him.
@@mountainhomesteadfamilyLately I keep being brought back to the scriptures about Martha and Mary when Jesus came to their house. I find myself restless and concerned over many things, without peace trying to do all of the things just like Martha was and all I want to do is sit at the feet of King Jesus like Mary. I feel the grace of God surfacing in even just small moments of rest and peace. You are absolutely right He is the One that will make it all come together, and we must trust Him. I have read the book created to be his helpmeet (ugh) and listened to others that I feel do not teach biblical womanhood correctly, it is more of a condemning legalistic graceless like you can never do enough kind of thing. It’s really affected me as a wife and mama and just a daughter of God. My goodness I truly appreciate you more than you could ever know, you have been given such wisdom and I aspire to grow into as lovely as a woman, wife, mama and daughter of God as you. May God bless you and your family and so many others in this beautiful ministry. Would you please say and prayer for me and my family ? I am a young mama of four boys (ages 8 4 3 & 1) were a first generation homeschooling family, my husband and I had our first baby before we were married, but we’ve been married for 5 years now ! He works full time and I am a homemaker, we moved across the country and have no family around us or real community here yet, so things are so busy and honestly kind of just hard right now to say the least. I just want to ask for prayer, whatever The LORD leads you to pray, I would so totally appreciate it, thank you so much for everything you do sweet sister in Christ 🤍
Of course I will pray for you. Your story sounds similar to mine in places. I know how hard it can be. And I pray you are able to find a sense of community soon too.
One of the problems with books like Created to Be His Helpmeet, is they put responspibilities on a wife that God does not, and there is no room for grace. It is really hard to un program teachings from books and religions like that. They put untold amounts of pressure, impossible standards, and eventually guilt on women. For example, one of the worst things I remember is how the book essentially said it's the wife's fault if a husband is unfaithful or has lustful thoughts towards other women. It's essentially teaching that the wife has the power to control her husband's actions and thoughts, if she is good enough. The truth is, nobody has control over anyone but ourselves.
Marriages don't work out because the wife was perfect, kids don't turn out because the mother is perfect. Things work out because of GOD, for His glory, for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. When we remember He is capable even though we are not, it gets a little bit easier everyday. It's a practice though, it's not a one and done thing. I'm still on that journey myself!
@@mountainhomesteadfamily thank you so much for your prayers 🤍 I wholeheartedly agree with you, unfortunately I seem to be in that place of trying to break free from all of the expectations I have somehow placed upon myself. I have experienced terrible anxiety and panic attacks. It is crazy how paralyzing even the littlest of things can seem to become when there seems to be this heavy and unseen pressure to do them. Thankfully The LORD is opening my eyes, but It’s been honestly debilitating and with those really hard moments comes the shame of feeling as though I failed because I had a panic attack and because I wasn’t able to do it all. Which is crazy because I would never think that way towards someone else in my situation 😭 I truly appreciate you for taking the time to read my comments !
Anyways, I was curious to know if you had any book recommendations that truly teach biblical womanhood without so much condemnation and like lack of grace, or any books really ?
I am seriously impressed. Thank you for such an astute evaluation of the cherry-picked ideas that women are often saddled with. I find myself much encouraged.
I’m a biblical trad wife of a large family. I love this. I’m excited to see your channel.
I was a part of a Christian homeschool group out here…and I had to leave. I was so over the politics. It’s about God. Not the rest.
Thank you sister-
Righteousness, Responsibility, and Respect! Thank you for this video, ma'am. Godly men and women will continue to bring order to chaos. ⚔✊💯
As a young wife and mother, this video is an answered prayer to what I was asking God for further guidance on.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. I will make the time to study the scriptures you have provided and further hear from God on this topic. God bless you and your family!
Thank you!
I found this video enlightening. I am 56 yrs old and have been married for almost 37 yrs. There is still so much to be learned. God bless you.
Thank you!
OKAY. I haven't even finished this all the way, but I just have to say WOW, thank you, this is just so beautiful and refreshing. I am a Christian and I grew up homeschooled and LOVED it. I totally plan to homeschool and homestead myself. But growing up I knew alot of people who followed Gothard's teachings (or similar) and I've seen so much hidden pain and suffering in communities that emphasize traditional gender roles. And honestly, alot of sexual abuse. I still know so many people living under that umbrella, believing it's God's perfect design. The minute you pulled out the umbrella I instantly knew what it was and felt sick and I was so happy to see someone calling it out.
Also thanks for the scriptural emphasis. You're not just throwing opinions out there, you're really digging into Scripture. Subscribed. :)
I'm so blessed to have discovered you as a sister Christian women.
I'm learning a lot from you.
May God bless you and your family indeed.
Love from South Africa xoxo
Thank you for posting this video! As a new mom who is working part time (at a church with my baby in tow) so we can get ahead financially, I have been building a lot of resentment towards my very good hardworking man for not earning enough for me to stay home right now. It has been making it very difficult to make the most of this challenging yet still beautiful time in my life. When we respect and see our men, they can shine and earn more. And we can still earn and learn about finances! Sending love from Alaska.
I actually DO live, & do most, of those things on that list & have a 20 yr., pretty happy marriage. But I definitely don't go around telling others that it is Biblical. I do not have a lot of kids, but I do homeschool & farm tho (& I do the farm chores). My husband also does a whole bunch of things in return; expectations like work 12 hours a day, fix everything, pay for everything... So I guess if this guide book was partnered with 'What A Husband Should Do' that would be more balanced & helpful. I will say that some of them are just commonsense. I actually have learned that if I hit my husband with 'problems' before he has even set his thermos down it will set a tense mood in the house. If I constantly talk over him or domineer the conversation its ends up making us BOTH unhappy. If I were to constantly gad about & never have dinner ready - unhappy. Also it helps that my husband & I actually sat down before I quit my job & hammered out the details of my 'job duties' & his 'responsibilities' so there were no gray areas. My husband is not a tyrant, but he DOES want to come home to a clean wife, clean & peaceful kids, a tidy home & dinner cooking. & I would say that 90% of the time I have been able to accomplish that on a weekly basis. And its not like he acts outraged if I can't/don't for a particular reason. But I do know that if I start slacking in these areas, due to selfish reasons, he absolutely will have something to say about it. I think the other thing that was different during past times is that women had OTHER women to lean on. If I am over to my neighbor's & her hubby is due home (& he gets anxious with a mess) I HELP her tidy up quick so that he isn't crabby when he gets thru the door. Or I occupy her kids so she can get dinner going. My 1940s grandma talked about this - women would walk their kids to school together & then go back to one of the homes, have coffee, play cards, let the babies play & then go home & get the tidying & cooking done. so they really weren't doing it 'alone'. I actually DO feel immense satisfaction by making my husband happy, greeting him at the door, making the house calm & having coffee ready & asking him about his day & letting him talk first. Maybe this makes me weird???? I was raised by a woman that won't do any of those things & we were definitely not happy as a family. But they also didn't claim to be Biblical either 🤣 I think you are right, that it depends on what kind of husband you have, too. Doing these things makes MY husband happy, but I don't claim to know what makes other women's husbands pleased. LOL
God can give us the strength 💯. He gives power to the weak and we can do all things through Christ who strengthen us.
Try doing that as an autism family ...
@@family-peace-loveI think shes saying that everyones will look different. Autism gets a bad rap, its just people who are different. Read a few books to help. Routines help our AudHD household the most.
@@family-peace-loveI can relate. My daughter has pandas/pans and autoimmune encephalitis. This is why as Christians we cling to Christ, His WORD, and HIS COUNSEL for our lives. Psalm 32. He will guide your family on what you should do. It probably will not look like RUclipsrs family. And there is nothing wrong with that. Everything is right when we are in submission to Jesus Christ.
"I was raised by a woman that won't do any of these things & we were definitely not happy as a family." I felt this so hard. My home environment is also lopsided toward tension because the responsibilities are dolled out extremely unevenly between my parents, with one rarely doing all they probably ought to and the other constantly complaining about it. That's why I'm trying to practice homemaking skills for when I get married; I want to be there for my future husband and build a family based on friendship. But the lack of cohesion in my family has definitely left me with less specific examples of how to function and less experience toward that end. I hope I'll be a good wife and mother someday.
This is the most helpful, substantive, thought-provoking video I’ve seen on this subject so far. Thank you for making this and for bringing much-needed scriptural balance to the role of the homemaker.
Thank you for this balanced, thoughtful video. It’s so very important for believers to regularly read their Bibles.
This! There is so much confusion on this topic. Growing up, I was taught more along the lines of the 1950s housewife with biblicalish stuff mixed in. Now as I have been looking into it, a lot of what the Bible says and what I was taught are so different. The Biblical wife and woman would have been considered more liberal than the type of woman I was taught to be. Thanks for talking about this difference.❤
I’m sorry, I think I just had a stroke. “Don’t get upset if he stays out all night”!?!? How is that okay? Where were these 50s men staying? The secretary’s house? Because that’s not okay!!!
Thank you for sharing this. I like the idea of the 50s wife, but I also love that my husband has an active role in our home and the trad wives made me feel guilty so I tried to stay away from them.
Thank you so much for verbalizing these thoughts! 💞
That's a good question. I've heard personal accounts that are just so sad suggesting so.
I think what we like is the idea of simpler times, or, maybe I should say the illusion of simpler times since they really were not that simple?
Apparently in some cases it was normal for men to have a side chick, and the wife had to receive him like nothing happened. There are some guys trying to bring back that
This is so wonderful. I have to admit I was nervous at first when I clicked on it because I know this is becoming huge on social media but there's a lot of nuance within it and I think you tackled it perfectly. I love how you were so clear about your convictions about mothers and small children, but also pointing out that we are to be helpers to our own husbands. So. Good. Thank you so much for sharing this!!
Thank you so much for this video! It’s so elegantly done and I’m so thankful for a true woman of God bringing light to this finally! I love your videos so much and they are so encouraging and uplifting. They motivate me and inspire me to be better and do right by my family. You have such a beautiful loving home full of the spirit and it shines through in your videos so well. I pray to become a combination of both the proverbs 31 woman and the Titus woman and be lead by the spirit every moment of the day. God bless you so much! ❤
I am always struggling to find Christian content that isn't hateful, and I was so glad to find you ( scared for a second when you said you had to leave a fb group). I love the grace and empathy you extend to the feminist movement, and I might challenge you to consider why you wouldn't be a feminist. Womens lib isn't always when people make it out to be
I came across u on my u tube feed. Watched and listened and learned. My kids go to public school both my husband and I work full time jobs. I do tend to household duties and he tends to outside ( we both feed our homestead animals and tend to the garden). His mother is a pastor so we do believe in our lord and savior and try our hardest to live Christian life. I ask for prayer for our family to find our way back to the cross. Thank u for posting
Thank you so much for being an example of wisdom and grace and pointing us in Gods direction. Now that’s being a Titus 2 woman, teaching the younger women what is good and to seek God through his words not the words others put on him. I so appreciate your sharing in this way.
My husband and I are in a partnership with him deferring to me in some things, and I defer to him in others. We consider ourselves a team with God at the reins. You also gave me a really good chuckle with the captions! I've tried to hold myself to a Proverbs 31 standard, but also realize that she had helpers to get all that done, and it probably wasn't all done DAILY!
I just found your channel yesterday. I have now watched three of your videos this being the third. I just want to say thank you for taking God’s word, and teaching from it and exposing lies through his words and bringing forth truth. I’m excited to watch some of your other videos and to begin to follow your channel! Thanks again love and blessings to your family!!!! ♥️
This is my first time coming across your channel. I have subscribed! You are my kind of RUclips creator; biblically based and offering inspiration and encouragement to other women. I am expecting my second child (my first was a very complicated premature birth and I am still dealing with the trauma from that) and I'm feeling guilty about the state of the house at the moment as I am so tired! Thank you for encouraging me. My own mother says I am doing too much and need to focus 9n what's most important (my babies) but sometimes you need to hear a stranger before you can accept the lesson with grace. Thank you!
Rest while/when you can - your husband should be understanding/supportive during this time and after - remember you two are in a partnership with Him. I pray for a safe delivery for you both!
Thanks for this video! It’s very blessed. Thank you for speaking out and educating us and keeping those of us looking for the truth in the light. 💕
So many good nuggets here. You could turn this into several reels/shorts. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much, that's a great idea!
I cannot fully express just how much I love your videos. I am so thankful you discussed this topic. Such gentle but true words.
Thank you so much!
I just found your channel, I look forward to learning about your family and walk with God. My wife is a convert to Biblical Christianity from a semi-JW upbringing. She had a lot of tragic events growing up, but Christ made her a new creature. She is a proverbs 31 wife. She is my best friend, my lover and my partner in all things. I can rely on her for sound council and she will warn me of things she views as potentially harmful or dangerous. She is gentle but firm on Biblical principles. I am the head of the home, but I could not have a 10th of the personal, business and family life I am blessed with, without her. I could not ask God for a better woman to be my wife. I am beyond blessed. That list is is awful, "a husband shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife" (The two shall become one). It is a partnership, yes the husband takes the lead but he is also to take accountability for the family especially above everything else her well-being. If your wife is suffering under your brutal tyranny, that is your failing to love your wife as Christ loves the Church.
I get so excited when I see a new video of yours! Love everything you said about the “perfect wife” article. So important we use discernment ❤ (also love your rings! 😍)
Thank you, Julie!
Thank you! I've seen, recently, men saying women that work outside of the house are bad/evil, and that's so mean: it totally excludes families who can't live in 1 income only ( I live ina poor country where 60% of the population makes $300 a month). I also feel like that limits so much what a woman can do, I mean, I have 2 diplomas, I need intellectual stimulation, andna house with no kids (I dont have kids yet) can't give me that... I tried ghe trad wife and I got so bored that led me to depression, and then I was no use to anyone.
I’m 23 but loved watching your video for all your wisdom that you’ve gleaned over the years🫶🏼 my husband and I have just decided to home school our 19 month old daughter 🤍 was also home schooled my entire life xx
The BEST talk I’ve heard on the subject and very thorough. I appreciate your knowledge of the scriptures. Rightly dividing the word of truth. Yes, the 50’s dresses were pretty amazing and yours is beautiful 🌹
I absolutely love this !!! thank you for making this video, what a breath of fresh air 🙏
I'm glad you enjoyed it ❤️!
You made me giggle with the snap of the fingers with the onions! It reminded me of Bewitched (old TV show) with the music, haha. What a loaded topic today, you discussed it well. I was pushed by my parents to have a career outside my home and raised three children with a career. My husband and I are Christians, but I now see now that I am home after 31 years of working and my husband is still working, how hard it is for him to be the sole bread earner. I am home because of my health and he is supportive but he has anxiety so taking on that single role has been a journey for him. I think God has different journeys for each of us and you handled the topic with Biblical verses. Thank you:)
Thank you so much, Kim, and thank you for sharing a bit of your journey and perspective. Thank you for being here!
As a a godly, traditional woman this was extremely helpful. You are beautiful and refreshing, thanks for sharing your wisdom sprinkled generously with nuance...which so many people seem to forget these days. Thanks for suggesting a path of learning instead of talking as if you have the final word. First video of yours I've watched and I subscribed. Keep up the good work, you are a light.
I just wanted to say that you are such a light in this community. I am learning a lot from you. This video was so very helpful to me and definitely blessed me. I will be listening to it multiple times! Much love to you and your family. ❤
Thank you!
Really Needed to Hear this.Thank you for sharing so honestly!
Wow. You are the first person I've ever seen on the internet sift through the 50's ideologies and Christian womanhood.
I haven’t even watched yet (I will later) and I already LOVE you for making this video. Hitting the nail on the head as always. ❤️
This video is greatly appreciated. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.
I absolutely love this ❤ Thank you for making this video
Thank you. Unfortunately many churches do not support the truth and women are encouraged by their pastors to stay in abusive marriages. We need to understand the truth.
What a lovely video. I stayed at home when my children were small, but went to Uni and then became a teacher. My eldest song was struggling at school and i contemplated home-schooling. What started out as earning for extras, soon became a necessity. Loved the poignant bits about being judgemental. Wishing you God’s blessings and I'll remember you in my prayers. Hugs from country Western Australia 🦘🦘🦘
Very glad I've stumbled across your channel. Great content 👌🏾
I found this video thoughtful, nuanced, and charitable; thank you for your sharing your well-considered thoughts and your experiences with the rest of us. While I don't actively follow any "trad wife" influencers, the little content I have seen seems to be coming from very young women and I think it's helpful with someone with more experience to weigh in.
Amen and well said. Thank you for being bold, gentle and honest!
You have a new subscriber. This is perfect and I want to homestead and homeschool. This channel is perfect. God bless
Omgoodness I am so into this content!! How come I’ve not found you before wow.
I’m also a second generation homesteader and homeschooler but I wasn’t at first… coming back to those roots and to God is just so special.
You are an answered prayer!
❤I just found your channel. I am so grateful. Thank you
I'm so glad! You are welcome, thank you for being here and telling me this.
God bless you for this video, I can’t wait to share it. As a single woman who will be adopting instead of giving birth, I’ve been feeling very powerless in this conversation. I’ve seen so many ungodly videos claiming to be Christian and many misusing scripture. In fact, the misuse of scripture is what led me to look into the trend in the first place. Even worse, some pastors and other Christian leaders are endorsing this behavior. It’s just so sad to me. And where are these women’s friends? As the member of the friend group who will be homeschooling everyone’s kids along with my own (It’s mostly a joke but we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.), they would have an intervention if I even attempted to live the way these Tradwives do.
While I have seen other videos about this topic, this is the first I’ve run across from someone with your experience and perspective. Thank you so much. Truly, thank you.
Oh my I almost choked on that excerpt. Goodness that's crazy😮
Wow, loved this! Thanks, Shayla! ♡
Thank you for posting this. ❤
Thank you sooo much for this video! I am a single woman studying about being a godly woman. This video is a big help! ❤😊 God bless you and your family! 🙏🏻
Amen! I had this discussion today. We can turn the Bible around and make it say what we want. Gods word is his word! Not to be changed. This has such a great message. Ty so much for the scripture to back what you say. This was such a blessing. Ty again.
I just found your channel! I appreciate your wisdom. Thank you!
Love this, it’s a balanced message. Thank you!!❤❤
Shayla, what an awesome video. Thank you for tackling this subject so beautifully. I think it all comes down to treating eachother with love and respect . Do to others as you would have them do to you. It's a balance.
God bless ! ❤
I totally agree! Thank you for sharing!
A thousand thank yous for making this video!
Thank you thank you thank you!! This video inspired me and renewed my strength!
Hey! Thanks for another wonderfully made in the life of ❤ I really enjoy these. Love your dress!
Also, thank you so much for that Bible study! I really can see what you're saying. I never thought of that before.
You are so welcome! And thank you for the sweet compliment and for watching!
Wow!! Thank you so much for your encouragement and wisdom ❤ It truly is such a gift to have you in this “space” as a mentor in a way 😉 Thank you thank you thank you for all you do to create such beautiful and uplifting content 🤗
You are welcome, thank you for being here!
@@mountainhomesteadfamily 💕 🌻
This is the first video of yours I have seen. I really appreciate and look up to how ou are doing things. Thank you for being a good example as in Titus 2. I hope your children know how much of a blessing you are and that young women at your congregation are able to glean wisdom from you, too.
That is so sweet of you to say, thank you!
Thank you for your videos, I’m engaged and your videos are very informative and inspiring.
Thank you for sharing your wise perspective here! You are inspiring.
God bless you for making this video. Very Biblical and thorough. 👏🏻👏🏿👏🏾👏👏🏽
I just came across your channel lovely sister of Christ. Though I was not raised in a Godly home, now at 43 my husband and I want to have a Godly home. Our children are adults now, but we want them to see what God has intended for man and woman. Thank you!
This was perfect! You said it wonderfully!!
Thank you, Jamie ❤️. A lot of extra prayer went into this one.
Shayla this is a great video, very thought provoking. I’ve been married 23 years. I am also a 2nd generation homeschooler of 5
Kids. We farm, garden, hairdresser(when I have time), Torah Obedient and have Bible studies at our home. The tasks are endless most days. Thanks!
Torah Obedient as well! I don’t find many Christians who are, so it’s a blessing when I see likeminded believers!! Many blessings
I long to have people like you in my life.
Beautiful and thoughtful video. I share this mindset. I pray each family can figure out the balance that works for them personally while serving and glorifying God. I can remember being judged and questioned by people on both sides when we started our family and I stopped working outside the home. I’m grateful to God for giving me the wisdom to know what my husband and I decided was best for our family was not the business of anyone. Peace and Blessings to you and your family. And thanks again for this video.
Excellent input, Sherees. Thank you for sharing this, I agree with you.
Thank you for pointing us to The Word.
Thank you for this video. Though I'm way past raising kids (all 4 of mine are grown) I love the "old ways" and as a grandma of 10, I'm working to live that way. and like you, I love the concordance in helping to understand the Bible. You have a new subscriber!
Your voice is very calming and pleasant.
Awe, thank you so much!
Just found your channel love it and so happy to have found a mama who may be of similar age.. finally! Beautiful video.
I am so glad I found you
I forget where I saw this but the expression that resonated with me was "TradeWife not Tradwife"
Thank you for this video
I needed to hear this and be prompted to read the Bible verses on marriage.