Shortly after I got married and my husband took me off my job I had a nightmare about having to go to work and running late. It was so stressful, even in the dream. I woke up saying Thank you Jesus over and over because it was so relieved that I now worked in a place full of love and grace, my home!
What “people” are bothered by is God’s divine order of things. They have been out of order for so long, fed and believed lies of the world. So, it’s not you that is disturbing them, it’s the fact that the lies are being shaken by your obedience to God’s original way of family structure. So, the conviction is there by your example and the lies in them are acting or rising up.
Thank you for encouragement, girls. Here in Europe housewife is like on insult or lowest class in society. It is shame to be a housewife. But I take pride in it. I tell people I live like a royalty- I don’t have to rush anywhere in the morning, I don’t have to serve anyone at a workplace. I am free from other people control. I am a queen in my castle 😊 Who in now days can afforded not to work? Only brave and free people
Hi , I'm living in Europe also ( Brussels and Luxembourg). It 😊Is really not possible in now days to not work due to the financial crisis, men are counting on their wives to survive and buy fancy things. They almost chose you according to your job/ work place making plans with your salary, It's a shame that we don't have choice here, we women are proud to work and talk about our professional lives on top complaining about our colleagues and bosses all day long. I'm really tired about that lifestyle and I wish I had another option. By the way I'm still single waiting on the Lord for my Husband hoping that he will be responsible enough to provide and I will take care of our future kids and not running like crazy every single day running after the time and being tired of not having enough time to do all the things i would like to do or need to.
Angel, I’m totally with you. I am a housewife (with a son) & I used to be embarrassed to tell people “I don’t work a fulltime job. I content create and take care of home.” I’ve always thought deep down that I wanted to be a housewife and so do other woman… they just don’t want to admit it . I LOVE BEING A HOUSEWIFE Love your content Bindi 💓
Housewife and mom? Oh you most certainly do have a full time (24 hrs) "job".🥰 My two, now grown and in college, were homeschooled. I sure do miss those years!
You’re living my dream. I’m 22 and my “friend” and I are still getting things together to take that marriage step. Women like Angel and Bindi help me to break down the feminist ideals put into me. So sad to me that girls my age are told to sleep around and have abortions to rid themselves of consequences and focus on a career until we’re 30. That’s truly the devil tryna steal our joy, our role, and our time
It's possible! I use to reject being a female because of stereotypes and hurt. But as a Christian the lord is healing me and making me more womanly. It all starts will a willing heart :)
You can do it sis!!! I was raised as a Tom boy/boy by my father but now ppl would even know. It took some work and I’m still working on it daily. I watched a lot of videos and I mirrored women who emulated positive femininity. It’s really amazing how smooth and easy life has become once I embragases being a woman!
I’m on that same journey! I feel there’s a lot of us now who are waking up and trying to embrace the biblical femininity that the world has tried to beat out of us. We got this 💕 We can do all things through Christ!
This is a very nice video and offers great advice for women of all ages. My darling husband courted me for two months in the biblical manner, and we are happily married. God has blessed me with a handsome, God-fearing, romantic, loving, caring, respectful, and successful gentleman. I want for nothing and am in need of nothing. My husband and I attend church together every week, hand in hand, and we pray together every night. I love and respect my darling husband, and I adore him just as he adores me.
Sounds just like my story! Got a boyfriend (my husband now) at 16, dropt out of school, got married at 21 and became a stay at home mother, will be giving homeschool.. and so many people ask what i do for myself, want me to have a job, be out of the house and away from the family to get some breath.. while only the thought of that stresses me out! I love being a mother and am very content here at home! Happy with the task i got from our Lord.
I have been a housewife for 9 years and can honestly say I am living my best life. I feel like I am fulfilling God's purpose for my life. I have been married for 18 years and I am still learning how to be a good Christian wife. My family doesn't understand that I feel completely satisfied in the role I believe God has called me to. Thank you so much for your videos, it helps to know there are other women out there that feel the same, especially those of color.
I was listening to this video and my daughter asked me to help her clean her room. Within 10 minutes she was on her bed watching you ladies while I kept cleaning. She's only 10 and already knows she wants to be a homemaker, housewife, a mother of many. This was so good for her because the world has been telling her she needs to work. I do my best to be her support and guide her to listen to God and God's word. She deserves the best and the best comes when we listen to the Lord.
I’ve been teaching for 17 years and a mom for almost 8. My husband and I are looking at a major career change that will enable me to stay at home with our 3 kids. I’m nervous, but oh I am ready! Thank you for your channels, they are preparing me and reminding me of the dignity & strength that comes with making a home for my family and for the Lord. Thank you for the light & goodness that you share! ❤
I know a man who does that. He's a deacon of church and oversees finances of the church. It irritates me so much he claims the woman he is living with is his wife when they are not married under church or government. I keep calling her the girlfriend cuz I'm not gonna lie for them.
Out of curiousity are you willing to forgive any and everything he does because he is the man??? Or what narrative about marriage do you receive on your end . Sometimes I hear alot about struggle love
@@sakuraesther6309 not everything...if he is unfaitful, abusive to me and/or the kids, commits a crime, etc. Anything that is sinful or goes against personal morals.
@Sakura Esther also, in the black community, so many people fall victim to struggle love because of celebs putting out a false narrative, media, hip hop music, etc. I personally don't want a relationship with overwhelming struggle, that sounds exhausting and a waste of time. Also what do you mean by "on what narrative about marriage do you receive on your end" can you be a little more specific?
@@jazzyLee573 I meant on my end here back at home I think it is common to hear pple say that you should stick through it no matter what and abuse the Bible alot
@Sakura Esther I don't agree with that. I do think you should do everything morally possible especially if you have children, since I know what it's like to be from a broken home, the last thing I want is my children to have a father in their life or not to be able to see him often.
I'm glad she addressed that idea that kids aren't something to run from. My husband was very young for his age when we began dating . I married him right away on paper and had a big ceremony later anyway. We had a son in our first year together. At first I was disappointed because I thought the only way our relationship would work is if I continued my lucrative career and continued to handle all the responsibility for our lives. I had many plans to continue and better my career and many vacation plans and plans to spoil my husband lol. But I watched as I brought home our son home in the middle of a blizzard, my husband got up off the couch and became a man. He finally finished putting down the new floors in our home he went and got a better job and he pushed himself to be more of a man and less like a video game obsessed boy. I am still at home and he has told me that's where he wants me to be. He used to call off tired and wasn't really concerned about providing as well as he should have been. But since we had our son and his father visited and let him know, in not so nice terms, that it was time for him to be a man, he has really been a better partner. I really don't think he would have ever grown up at all if we never had our son and if I had continued being the main provider. I loved my husband before but I saw him like my little boyfriend that I spoiled and cared for but I didn't respect him in my heart the way that I do now. Seeing him be a father and responsible and prioritize the family over playing has only deepened my love for him. Anyway I'm glad we didn't wait 7 years to have kids.
Friend shared this with me, really enjoyed this conversation. I just want to add how much the Lord has changed MY heart regarding being a stay at home mom. I never wanted it. I fought it. And wow has it been the one of the BEST decisions of my life!!!!!!!!!!
I use to feel pitiful about going from my parent’s care to my husband’s care. How Foolish! 😮 I’m so grateful for God’s grace and mercy. He’s the ultimate keeper ❤
@@BrittbyBit yes, I did have a desire to live alone. I use to daydream about holding it down for myself. Home, car, wardrobe, self made, etc. That was always my plan. I surely wasn’t anti husband but having one was never my priority.
I’m only 25 minutes in and this conversation is so insightful and full of wisdom. I wanted to stop and make a comment about the fact that many people perceive being a homemaker and SAHM as not contributing financially. Well, first of all those roles are beyond monetary value, it’s so much deeper and meaningful. But, if you had to put a monetary value on it, the job of a homemaker and SAHM is probably worth 6 figures. I live in Cali and I’ve met Nanny’s that basically play the role of SAHM and housekeeper and they get paid like 40 an hour, which is way more than what I would have made with a masters degree in a stem field. I love my role as a SAHM and keeper of the home, and I know the true value of my role which will bless my family for the rest of their lives.
I think it is impossible to lose yourself because isn't being a wife , mom, and homemaker exactly who we are and it is growing us and challenging us every single moment of every single day.
Except for the fact that a husband will never say that their a husband, a father. Men always have friends, gatherings and hobbies they maintain even in their marital relationship.
@@quelquun2018 i disagree. A lot of men always wanted to be husbands, fathers and those are core identity markers. Sorry you didn’t have that experience.
I love my son. I know I’m a mom but there will be a time where he will leave the home and have his own life. Then what? Do I jusy stay home, bore? We must not forget our hobbie or things we loved to do prior to having kids. My aunt loves to sew and even with 4 kids, she finds time to do that and she gives me the same advice
My ex-husband led me to Christ at the University. I really thought he loved the Lord and will help me through the process of living in Christ. After a couple years of marriage, I found myself out of work. I got to see his true character when I was no longer bringing money home. I was naive. I thought I married him for all the right reasons. It is always best to know who you are in Christ before taking the step of marriage. Let the Lord lead you singles out there.
Yeah maybe that's why I feel like I still need to wait a couple of years, even though I'm 35 now, not to find myself this time, but to be who I am as a true Christian with God and Jesus, before considering someone for a husband.
@@jenniferturner9012 do whatever you need to do but please do it fast. I am not saying this to discourage you. The younger you are, the easier it is to find the type of spouse you want. This goes for both men and women but more especially for women. That doesn't mean it is impossible, just more difficult. I am 28 years old and I regret the years I spent allowing fear to discourage me from marriage instead of getting closer to God and letting faith drive away the fear. I always hope for early discernment so that I will not waste time on the wrong man. Good luck and God bless you.
Love this! I left a great career with my second child to homeschool and work from home. God has blessed my business as we were originally concerned about finances. God provides and the relationship with my later kids is different as a result of the time together. Best decision ever made was to stay home!
I love your comment and I can relate. I recently resigned from a great career to be able to be with my children more. At first, It was a hard decision but now I realize it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. God bless ❤
Bindi and Angel, thank you so much for this collab! As a seasoned homemaker, with over 20 years experience, I can definitely relate to most everything in this video. If you two (or other homemakers of color) were prominent on RUclips in the early 2000s when I started out, I could have had a less bumpy ride as a wife and mom. However, I wouldn't trade my journey for anything! Listen up ladies, this is stellar information! Thanks again for a great video. ❤️
That’s right! If he’s not your husband, he’s a friend! It took me 42 years to learn that. I do not date, I am abstinent and I am joyful to be the woman I am. My husband will come to me appreciating that I have preserved the best part of myself for him. From friendship, we can navigate the ideas of marriage. And honestly, I’d like the first time we touch hands to be when he asks me to marry him. I’ve set the standards that high.
The Word says according to your faith, be it unto you. (GOD can do any and all things, now whether a person trusts GOD to do so, is up to that person) Keep the faith for the man GOD has for you & be encouraged ❤
Thanks ladies! I enjoyed your answering of all these questions. I am a single mom that is doing parenthood alone with the Lord and I am in a better place of accountability in my life. I do not date nor have male friends just simple because there is healing that needs to take place. I know I was not meant to do this on my own but my choices have gotten me here. I am grateful for the Holy Spirit, the Word of God and my faith community. I desire marriage one day but if it never happens I have committed to raising my daughter knowing single motherhood is not it and what the Bible says about godly relationships. I work from home and enjoy keeping my home the place of peace for myself and little one. Thanks again for sharing!
It took me a long time to recognize that the ideas being pushed on me from the women in my life, mainly my mother, came from a place of bitterness and resentment. For a lot of women, growing up it is pushed into our brains that getting pregnant is the worst thing we can do and life ruining. Now I know the Lord wants us to be wives first but that definitely instills fear in motherhood. I was made to believe life was over when children came and you no longer were a person. It stifled my own desire to be a mother because I allowed myself to be afraid of this. I didn’t know or trust in the Lord for a long time like I do now. I pray the Lord places me in a path to be a stay at home mother. My greatest desire is to be a wife and mother. I am on the path to becoming a wife now to an amazing man. God willing mother hood is in my future as well. I love these videos so much. Thank you.
This is so interesting because it really shows how You were raised and Your environment shapes Your perspective. My Mom was/is a housewife, my Grandma was a housewife, the adult women I saw growing up were housewives, so I just assumed thats what I'm going to be 😂 I remember in middle school we were once asked in class "who do You look up to and want me be when You grow up?" I literally couldn't think of anyone other than my Mom
Oh I cannot wait for this!!! My two favorite sistas!❤️ I consider Habits of a Homemaker one of the pioneers when it comes to biblical homemaking content, and even homemaking content in general. Both of you ladies add so much value to the table. We need this collab!
I love both of you. Been watching Habits of a Homemaker since I got engaged and my (now( husband told me that he wants me to be a stay at home wife/mom.
@@sakuraesther6309 I always desired to be a stay at home mother while my kids were young. Initially I thought I would renter the workforce when my children were old enough for school but We decided to homeschool
This was so Good! It is also grievous that the understanding of homemaking is bothersome and that rather than embrace it, the dukes go up and there is an all out war! Home making is also spiritual. I have gotten so much understanding through this video! Blessings upon Blessings to all!
46:20 that part! Long relationships set you up for compromise and sin. I don’t know how two healthy adults who are attracted to each other can abstain for YEARS on end. I had super short engagement and we were married within 1 year of meeting. We need more of that in the kingdom, because most of everything else is sus. 😂 Love this collab! So many good nuggets of wisdom
I hear about people dating for 11 years. How am I supposed to be with a man I love and are sexually attracted to for 11 years without giving in? Dating someone for a decade before marriage is a wordly practice that is infiltrating the church.
Came from Angel’s channel 🌸 as one of her subscribers. I truly enjoyed this. As a SAHM, I’m still struggling and want the Lord to guide me and use me in my home. Bindi you now have a new subscriber. Thank you Jesus for using these women to be such a wonder example to other parents. 🙏🏽
I admire the path you both chose. I pray that my daughters choose God fearing,wise and capable mates. I pray they choose this family structure that as black people we need so desperatly in our communities. I think we've conditioned so much as women to go out, help, and work. Our children struggle so much and end up unable to bring what they need to bring to thrive in this world. Especially that Biblical love for God they need so much.
You ladies are phenomenal and the exact ray of light I hope to receive in my own circle of sisters. I tuned in this morning while making breakfast this morning for my family, and when I tell you, you ladies had my husband even tuned it. He literally paused and asked me.. "girl what you watching, I like what I'm hearing" LOL I've been supporting Angel for awhile now and she never fails to come through with her testimony and grace. Thank you for holding space and sharing the best parts of you all, from your heart. I never been so proud and honored to be a Homemaker as well as a housewife and SAHM. The titles are priceless to whatever position many believe I should be in. I loved the part Angel mentioned about being and standing firm in her position as a Homemaker. For myself it took me longer than I expected to find my voice in this realm. Until I realized how deeply rooted this position is and how I've been appointed. My foundation became much more firm and now I cannot and will not be shaken. I felt completely at home listening and also engaging. It's so warming to know I'm not alone and many women, Beautiful, righteous, Godly, worthy women are right here with me. We're together 💜🙏🏽
I've never desired a 9 to 5 or a career and im always looked down upon, in society, by both men and women. The men are usually broke or want to be kept lady boys themselves💅🏽🌈 And the women are either bitter, angry or had to settle and now take their anger out on me, rather than the low life men, they chose....
Ultimately I believe a lot of women say things that don’t lose yourself is because of envy or jealousy. I was a single mother and I felt so bad that I couldn’t be home with my child. I have always wanted that position. Stay at home wife. The most honorable, glorified position the God has given women. I appreciate you sisters
As a housewife.. you don't know how much I needed this conversation. Housewives do not follow todays social norm.. sometimes I feel out of place with society like I should do more .. even tho I love what I'm doing. I even get women who think I need to contribute financially ... they don't see I'm contributing by taking care of the home. Being a housewife really bothers society ... I didn't know this was a universal experience The hardest thing is the comments from society. I actually may do a video talking about this
This is inspiring and love to see community of SAHM. I'm not there yet but my husband is changing his career so I can be at home with our children full time. We have an 8 month old and have another on the way so we will have 2 littles under 1. We are also talking about homeschooling our girls. I needed this!!!
In God's time, due to feminism, not everyone can afford to be a homemaker full-time, but if you can sacrifice your lifestyle and maybe downsizing its wealth it
@@gforce2924 that's so true!! We live modestly so that's not a problem. But you're right...in God's time so I'm being patient. I appreciate the encouragement.
Whew, y'all done put my little life to shame lol. I wish I would have had this talk about 10 years ago. Love this conversation and you both hit it right on the nose with every topic discussed. Please send a prayer up for strength for us whom may have gotten ourselves into tough situations. YAH bless 😊
This is powerful and something we need to know especially us women who want to be married. I got married and was save yet I didn’t know anything about submissive and my old leadership mentioned submissive but not understand the truth now I am learning the truth and this video help me ❤.
This video gave me soo much confirmation on how I feel as a married woman and the view of the world. I thank the father so much you both did this collaboration. Halleluyah APTTMHY 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Angel talking about the pastor telling her she needs to help her husband reminds me of an elder in my church telling me I need to get a job to help my husband very early in my marriage. I gave in and got a really low level job that was horrible, they required you to work 6 days a week and you had to "request" an off day...when I told him (the elder) I wanted to leave the job he told me I needed to stick it out....I didn't listen to him I ended up getting a very flexible job...elders and pastors need to do better.
I was talking with two of my other melanated Homemaker mama friends about how these ideas are MORE prevalent in the black and brown community. I have a diverse friend group and MOST if not all of my vanilla sisters are not just encouraged to Stay at home but fully supported and it’s more of the expectation. It’s such a layered conversation but I just LOVE you both and am enjoying this dialogue🥰
I was never encouraged to be at home, nor were any of my peers. I think it’s untrue to say most “vanilla” women are encouraged to do that. Certainly wasn’t my experience, it was drilled into me not to “rely on a man”. Caused me a lot of pain.
@@deirdresheridan8223 Respectfully, in my comment I clearly stated that I was speaking of MY diverse friend group not every white/European woman in the world☺️. It also is FACTUAL information that women of white and European descent in the USA are more likely and more encouraged, in comparison to black and brown women, to be homemakers. The data and research is available. That does not mean ALL on either side. Thank you for sharing your personal experience as it’s valued and matters wether it represents a majority or minority. It truly is a layered conversation as I also expressed in my initial comment🤎🥰
Finally a woman that understand that the spouse/husband is suppose to be over your kids in priority . I feel that woman do not understands this ultimately brings death to the marriage.
My mom submitted to my horrible father for 20years and it got her divorced and in debt. It took me packing my bags for my husband for change. Sometimes loving and submitting to our husband more will not influence change. My husband said he wouldn’t have changed has I not decided to leave. He cared more about himself than me and our kids.
With all due respect, it also depends on the type of husband that a woman ultimately chooses to marry. It is definitely easier to submit to a husband who is submitted to the Lord.
@@amandaparrish9128 i completely understand you; but my point is wives are called to submit to our husbands. We are not called to submit to their sinful behavior, their depression, their unwillingness to lead. Sometimes submission can worsen our marriage. I read a story of a Christian wife that talked about how submitting to her husband while he was depressed worsened his behavior and depression. It wasn’t until she decided to lead the family that their marriage began to turn around. There’s also the story of the Christian wife who submitted and served her family for 10years. They took her for granted to 10years. When she got into a car accident and couldn’t cook. Her husband asked her if she wasn’t able to cook, could she order a pizza. She blew up! This wife had to set up boundaries in her own marriage to influence change. Setting up boundaries doesn’t mean disrespect. It means “this is what I’m capable and willing to do. I hope that you can respect that.” In my case, my husband had to experience a pain that was greater than his to get him to change. That pain was me and our children leaving.
@@Nzazaaa You make some great points, but the examples still make the point about choosing wisely in the beginning. However, sometimes issues do come up after you are married and submitting can be challenging. The BIble calls us to submit to our husbands as unto the Lord but that NEVER calls us to submit to sinful and unGodly behavior. It never calls for us to submit to leadership that is not God honoring or is foolish. Unfortunately, some wives have lost their lives from submitting to the unbiblical leadership of a wayward or abusive husband. The Bible does call us to use wisdom, however.That includes wisdom in choosing a mate and in how to properly follow his leadership. In some cases, wisdom does call for a wife to move out of the way so that God can do a work in the husband’s heart. That is also submission. Submission has NEVER meant being a doormat.
@@amandaparrish9128 Im not disagreeing that we should choose wisely. I’m disagreeing that the examples I gave are of women that chose unwisely with the exception of my mother. She admitted she did not choose wisely. The examples are all of Godly men but we are human. We fall short, we stray away from God, sometimes it takes years for a person to get back on track. Just because a spouse strays from God doesn’t men the other spouse chose wrong. None of us are perfect. The examples I gave are just examples of how not submitting resulted in bettering the marriage. Saying “choose wisely” is a cop out. Even if you chose wisely. You’re still going to run into similar issues that I mentioned above. Just because you choose wisely doesn’t means everything is going to be perfect. There will be issues but as long as you see life the same it can be worked out. Once again, my point was that submission isnt always the solution. Sometimes it can worsen the marriage.
@@Nzazaaa I can definitely understand what you are saying. I did mention that things do happen in marriage and life is not perfect, but choosing wisely is not a cop out. Many times women will choose a guy who is not a leader before marriage and then wonder why he wont lead after marriage. There are always signs in the beginning. Also, women often get submission confused, submitting to unbiblical ways or abuse is not what the bible calls for. In cases like the ones that you mentioned and even some that I have seen, it is always biblical to use wisdom. Using wisdom does not mean that you are not submitting. It is best to know what submission really means and in what cases does it call for. Unfortunately, churches don’t do a great job of explaining it. That is why we have to study the word for ourselves.
Hi Bindi could you do a video in the future about raising children in these times. I would really appreciate your vision on this subject. Love your channel !
I’ve been at home for going on 2yrs and I love it never knew I was a homemaker I just knew God told me to homeschool my children being obedient has took me so far my relationship with my children have grown so much my oldest is 16 and we wouldn’t change it for anything.
I am so happy that you guy’s did this. Giving women the courage and confidence to stand in their godly purpose. I’ve literally been having anxiety attacks because I felt guilty for being at home with my baby. Thank you for doing this.
This was well worth the wait!! Two of my favorite homemakers in one place!! Such good wisdom and knowledge. God bless you and may he continue to allow your families to thrive as you continue to help us improve ours.
This was SO good!💗 Instantly subscribed. Loved meeting women with the same values. This convo made me think of the tired submission debates online. #1 being submissive is NOT for bf/gf relationships. Most of the people holding these conversations online are single lol
Please collaborate with Angel again and answer more questions, maybe about raising of children and growing them in the faith. This was POWERFUL!! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!!! 🌸 💖
Y’all ain’t said nothing but the truth! I was so inspired and blessed by this and I’m already married lol. To y’alls point YES please look for a man who loves and serves the Lord. If he puts HIM 1st everything else will fall into place. On my own I don’t have the capacity to love others the way I should but in following Christ I can do all things. If your intended operates like this as well then you’re headed in the right direction. Peace and Blessings!
I liked how you both pulled this together, especially about people who got fiances, boyfriends, partners treating them like husband and wife is just an illusion.
Can definitely relate to losing oneself in work/education. I now work in what I went to school for and I LOVE it! But I did let it overtake my free time. Now that I'm aware and have set up boundaries, I need to keep that same mindset when I transition into married life.
In my core, I always wanted to be a house-wife & a mother. Maybe by instinct, or maybe it was because my Mom was a stay-at-home Mom. In 1973 when I graduated high school (in a fairly big city), we young ladies were expected (on the whole) to go to college, get a degree, & work a paying job. Only a few of my female classmates who were brought up in "genuinely" Christian homes went on to be housewives & mothers. My mom left & divorced my father in 1970. What turned out to be the very damaging "feminist" movement was really moving along in 1973. I felt like I wasn't supposed to say (muchless feel) that I wanted to be a wife & stay-at-home Mom. The "Christian" home I'd grown up in was empty of spiritual teaching, guidance, or coaching about what a Biblical marriage & family truly was. I often wonder what life might have looked like if my parents had built a genuinely Biblical marriage, AND, if "feminism" had not been unleashed on society; badly damaging the beautiful & sacred covenant of marriage as God designed it. This May (2023) will mark 50 years since I graduated. I thank Almighty God that He lead & protected me through many, many years & I've been deeply blessed with nearly two-decade long marriage that continues to grow in Christ each day. Praise God from whom ALL blessings flow !
23:56- I don't know if negative comments about marriage are related to jealousy. I think it's more supportive of the anti-marriage current culture . Jordan Peterson is pro-marriage: 'If you can leave, then you don't have to tell each other the truth. It's as simple as that, because you can just leave. And then you don't have anyone to tell the truth to." Candace O. says that becoming a wife and mother is when she really felt her life began. But some drank the water of the culture and don't want to build the character or commitment that marriage and kids require. It's worth the work - so many blessings!
Really enjoyed watching you ladies chat and learned alot. Honestly Bindi, the Lord used your channel to speak to me about being a homemaker. I fought it for long and I was stubborn about it. I finally realized obedience to God trumps my fleshy desires. I thank God for your channel and I pray that you receive more grace to keep encouraging women.
You two are a trip! I laughed and laughed right along with y’all! This was sooooo good!! Good for me and a good reminder to be thankful for the man God gave me. You two need to do another collab!
What an amazing chat! As a young woman you both have been a blessing in my walk with the Lord, thank you for sharing your walk and the wisdom God has given💜
I prepared dinner for my family and cleaned dishes all while listening to you ladies. I'm working on being a better homemaker and woman of God every day. I think I can say God led me to you both. I'm going to try to tune in every day.❤
This is my first time seeing you both and I’m so grateful. At 30:00 minute mark Talking about submitting 🔥 🔥 🔥 WoW Woaw WoW, Bindi, you did take that home. Plus Habits of a Homemaker on a soft answer turns away wrath🔥🔥🔥 And you both talking about choosing a kingdom man, so much more. I needed to here from women that are what I look forward to, it increases my faith that it’s so possible 🙌🏾 Edit: on repeat and decided to take notes
Love this video, comments made about you not loosing yourself in your roles as a wife mother and homemaker isn’t necessarily negative.. I definitely feel that as a mum it actually benefits a home when your children and husband can see you accomplishing things you have always wanted to do it doesn’t necessarily have to be work but maybe starting a foundation, health goals, hobbies, making time for friends now again etc it definitely adds to the admiration that they would have for you and sets an example for them to also accomplish their dreams…. God has placed so many purposes in us becoming a mum and wife shouldn’t stop you from pursuing those.. unless those are the only things God has placed in you
It seems the value of children, and our responsibility as parents (stewards) are not seen so well. There are generational impacts we have in this opportunity. Thank you for building community of life.💖
I loved listening to you both sharing your Titus 2 calling. As an older Titus 2 woman, hearing you all speak is so delightful! I want to encourage you to use the biblical term "Keepers at Home" Greek translated as "oikourous" meaning a house, dwelling by "metonymy" a household or family (instead of housewife). A "Homemaker" which is closer to the "Keeper at Home" definition- has a deeper, richer meaning than a "Housewife". We must remember we are NOT married to a house :) and should try to use biblical terms which indicate God's multilayered meaning. We are beautiful keepers, watchers, and guardians with oversight and responsibility for our home, and family. Of course, there is so much more in the meaning and this was just a quick definition. You both are doing GOD's work and fulfilling a huge need to encourage women to be content in their highest calling as wives and mothers.
Absolutely but the term homemaker seems to be attributed to activities rather than a status. Nowadays everyone seems to be a homemaker.. ex: they’re (only) homemakers while cooking, cleaning but not when they do other things outside of the home. While Housewife is a consistent status. It’s not something you do it’s something you are, thats even what they writte in legal papers so I like to refere to it more😊
I also wanted to add that being in this traditional family structure, any family structure must be in submission to The Lord. Family is from God it's imperitive God be the head of that house...I agree!
It would be nice if you both made videos about how you've made and retained friendships as a home maker and house wife. Yes I've gotten those comments too about "helping him" . And from another housewife too. Lol ... I withdraw from those relationships if it becomes combative . I have chosen my path out of my own free will. As far as the pastor ... It could be anyone who would make those rude comments to me. Yes society is normalizing pressuring women and some women are angry at the housewife because they want to be a housewife. I remember a woman who was nasty to me and she broke down and admitted .... That she desired it and she wanted to quit her job but her husband said she needs to keep working . So it's important to be around the right circle to be happy as a house wife. It's been my biggest challenge to find the right network of women . Thanks for this video .
Loved this!! Angel, I'm encouraged and can relate to you not having a "real" job before marriage. I was similar, went straight from my parents home to being married at 19 and it was such a blessing!! I had some odd and end part time things before having kids but was mainly a homemaker and helper to my husband ❤️ Also, I think of Alana L here on RUclips to maybe collab with.
I pray to be blessed, just have you been blessed to receive💅🏽🙏🏾 i want to be a homemaker with my own thing on the side🍒it feels so fulfilling and less destructive
As a new homemaker..thank you so much for this video! It truly has blessed me in so many ways! So awesome to see sisters in Christ walking out this call in their lives. 💕
Joyce!! Sis! The Lord's Spirit is upon you! You hit the nail on the head on the section "losing yourself in children and marriage." So often as christians we regurgitate the viewpoints of the world and don't even realize the evil behind the sayings. When you are doing your noble work in the Lord, there's no such thing of "losing yourself." The women that are living out this divine calling is walking in mission and purpose mapped out from the Lord. These duties are intertwined in her identity and makes her honorable before Him. Now, I would say that within this work, we can become careless which is something that has become normalized which is why many are categorizing this wrongdoing as "losing yourself." This is why us ladies need to continually lean on Jesus. His earthly mission was constantly busy. He continuously cared for the needs of otherwise but in no wise neglected Himself, His health, appearance etc. He is our perfect model and we need to learn His formula. the scriptures and this book called "The Ministry of Healing" ch3 "With Nature & With God" beautifully outlines Christ's successful formula. Wives, mamas, remember our dear's plea and promise to us: "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." Matt. 11:28-30 I loved this segment and I look forward to your future collabs! Blessings everyone :)
Hahah I went threw all this! I love the sister brought up the confidence because you do gain it after too many bad comments. Once a person hear me speak they are tooken back and they know not to try to disrespect me or my family. I learned you don’t even have to get nasty. We had to get away from a lot of family because of the opinions.
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If you are not married you are single, let the church say amen. Can't wait to see this, sooooo excited!
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Shortly after I got married and my husband took me off my job I had a nightmare about having to go to work and running late. It was so stressful, even in the dream. I woke up saying Thank you Jesus over and over because it was so relieved that I now worked in a place full of love and grace, my home!
I have those same nightmares frequently about work and also college! I’m so happy when I wake up I don’t have that stress in my life anymore🙏🏻
I really enjoyed our chat and edifying conversation. ❤️ Thank you for having me on sis. 💕🥰🌸
What “people” are bothered by is God’s divine order of things. They have been out of order for so long, fed and believed lies of the world. So, it’s not you that is disturbing them, it’s the fact that the lies are being shaken by your obedience to God’s original way of family structure. So, the conviction is there by your example and the lies in them are acting or rising up.
Thank you for encouragement, girls. Here in Europe housewife is like on insult or lowest class in society. It is shame to be a housewife.
But I take pride in it. I tell people I live like a royalty- I don’t have to rush anywhere in the morning, I don’t have to serve anyone at a workplace. I am free from other people control. I am a queen in my castle 😊 Who in now days can afforded not to work? Only brave and free people
i feel the same way! i’m Portuguese 😄
Hi ,
I'm living in Europe also ( Brussels and Luxembourg). It 😊Is really not possible in now days to not work due to the financial crisis, men are counting on their wives to survive and buy fancy things. They almost chose you according to your job/ work place making plans with your salary, It's a shame that we don't have choice here, we women are proud to work and talk about our professional lives on top complaining about our colleagues and bosses all day long. I'm really tired about that lifestyle and I wish I had another option. By the way I'm still single waiting on the Lord for my Husband hoping that he will be responsible enough to provide and I will take care of our future kids and not running like crazy every single day running after the time and being tired of not having enough time to do all the things i would like to do or need to.
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Yup!! Also in Europe, started a RUclips Channel about it lol
@@ebbys haha same! :D
Angel, I’m totally with you. I am a housewife (with a son) & I used to be embarrassed to tell people “I don’t work a fulltime job. I content create and take care of home.” I’ve always thought deep down that I wanted to be a housewife and so do other woman… they just don’t want to admit it .
I LOVE BEING A HOUSEWIFE
Love your content Bindi 💓
Housewife and mom? Oh you most certainly do have a full time (24 hrs) "job".🥰
My two, now grown and in college, were homeschooled. I sure do miss those years!
You’re living my dream. I’m 22 and my “friend” and I are still getting things together to take that marriage step. Women like Angel and Bindi help me to break down the feminist ideals put into me. So sad to me that girls my age are told to sleep around and have abortions to rid themselves of consequences and focus on a career until we’re 30. That’s truly the devil tryna steal our joy, our role, and our time
Hello @BELLARINGS, thanks for sharing this! ❤
I'm trying to gain a spirit of meekness and feminine nature that I've pushed away through pain in my life. God is moving in me. I love this so much!
It's possible! I use to reject being a female because of stereotypes and hurt. But as a Christian the lord is healing me and making me more womanly. It all starts will a willing heart :)
@@ondreatorrence4322 exactly. That's so awesome to hear. God is so good to us! ☺️
You can do it sis!!! I was raised as a Tom boy/boy by my father but now ppl would even know. It took some work and I’m still working on it daily. I watched a lot of videos and I mirrored women who emulated positive femininity. It’s really amazing how smooth and easy life has become once I embragases being a woman!
I’m on that same journey! I feel there’s a lot of us now who are waking up and trying to embrace the biblical femininity that the world has tried to beat out of us. We got this 💕 We can do all things through Christ!
This is a very nice video and offers great advice for women of all ages. My darling husband courted me for two months in the biblical manner, and we are happily married. God has blessed me with a handsome, God-fearing, romantic, loving, caring, respectful, and successful gentleman. I want for nothing and am in need of nothing. My husband and I attend church together every week, hand in hand, and we pray together every night. I love and respect my darling husband, and I adore him just as he adores me.
Sounds just like my story! Got a boyfriend (my husband now) at 16, dropt out of school, got married at 21 and became a stay at home mother, will be giving homeschool.. and so many people ask what i do for myself, want me to have a job, be out of the house and away from the family to get some breath.. while only the thought of that stresses me out! I love being a mother and am very content here at home! Happy with the task i got from our Lord.
I have been a housewife for 9 years and can honestly say I am living my best life. I feel like I am fulfilling God's purpose for my life. I have been married for 18 years and I am still learning how to be a good Christian wife. My family doesn't understand that I feel completely satisfied in the role I believe God has called me to. Thank you so much for your videos, it helps to know there are other women out there that feel the same, especially those of color.
I was listening to this video and my daughter asked me to help her clean her room.
Within 10 minutes she was on her bed watching you ladies while I kept cleaning. She's only 10 and already knows she wants to be a homemaker, housewife, a mother of many. This was so good for her because the world has been telling her she needs to work. I do my best to be her support and guide her to listen to God and God's word. She deserves the best and the best comes when we listen to the Lord.
You are crazy. The world is not Disney land when every woman will be sitting confortability at home. You are all delusional.
I’ve been teaching for 17 years and a mom for almost 8. My husband and I are looking at a major career change that will enable me to stay at home with our 3 kids. I’m nervous, but oh I am ready! Thank you for your channels, they are preparing me and reminding me of the dignity & strength that comes with making a home for my family and for the Lord. Thank you for the light & goodness that you share! ❤
One of my pet peeves is when unmarried people call each other "hubby" and "wifey."
I know a man who does that. He's a deacon of church and oversees finances of the church. It irritates me so much he claims the woman he is living with is his wife when they are not married under church or government. I keep calling her the girlfriend cuz I'm not gonna lie for them.
@@TwiFiveGirls101 right? I'm surprised nobody from the church has called him on it, if he is a deacon.
@@kerrymartin7557 Called out who??
@@sakuraesther6309 the guy who is shacking up but passing himself off as being married while a deacon.
@@sakuraesther6309 I guess the person who posted about it took her comment down.
Thank y’all so much for this video! I am a 24 year old newleywed homemaker to a 25 year old man! I love this channel and the Godly advice ya’ll give ❤
Any young women also watching this! I'm 18 and I can't wait to meet my husband and children!!!!
Out of curiousity are you willing to forgive any and everything he does because he is the man??? Or what narrative about marriage do you receive on your end . Sometimes I hear alot about struggle love
@@sakuraesther6309 not everything...if he is unfaitful, abusive to me and/or the kids, commits a crime, etc. Anything that is sinful or goes against personal morals.
@Sakura Esther also, in the black community, so many people fall victim to struggle love because of celebs putting out a false narrative, media, hip hop music, etc. I personally don't want a relationship with overwhelming struggle, that sounds exhausting and a waste of time.
Also what do you mean by "on what narrative about marriage do you receive on your end" can you be a little more specific?
@@jazzyLee573 I meant on my end here back at home I think it is common to hear pple say that you should stick through it no matter what and abuse the Bible alot
@Sakura Esther I don't agree with that. I do think you should do everything morally possible especially if you have children, since I know what it's like to be from a broken home, the last thing I want is my children to have a father in their life or not to be able to see him often.
I'm glad she addressed that idea that kids aren't something to run from. My husband was very young for his age when we began dating . I married him right away on paper and had a big ceremony later anyway. We had a son in our first year together. At first I was disappointed because I thought the only way our relationship would work is if I continued my lucrative career and continued to handle all the responsibility for our lives. I had many plans to continue and better my career and many vacation plans and plans to spoil my husband lol. But I watched as I brought home our son home in the middle of a blizzard, my husband got up off the couch and became a man. He finally finished putting down the new floors in our home he went and got a better job and he pushed himself to be more of a man and less like a video game obsessed boy. I am still at home and he has told me that's where he wants me to be. He used to call off tired and wasn't really concerned about providing as well as he should have been. But since we had our son and his father visited and let him know, in not so nice terms, that it was time for him to be a man, he has really been a better partner. I really don't think he would have ever grown up at all if we never had our son and if I had continued being the main provider. I loved my husband before but I saw him like my little boyfriend that I spoiled and cared for but I didn't respect him in my heart the way that I do now. Seeing him be a father and responsible and prioritize the family over playing has only deepened my love for him. Anyway I'm glad we didn't wait 7 years to have kids.
Just love this for you and your family, God bless you all xoxo
God bless you and your family!
Omg the collab I didn’t know I needed but know I’m going to love 💕
Sister, I second this completely 👏👏👏👏
Exactly 🙌🏾 it was sooooo good 🔥
Friend shared this with me, really enjoyed this conversation. I just want to add how much the Lord has changed MY heart regarding being a stay at home mom. I never wanted it. I fought it. And wow has it been the one of the BEST decisions of my life!!!!!!!!!!
I use to feel pitiful about going from my parent’s care to my husband’s care. How Foolish! 😮 I’m so grateful for God’s grace and mercy. He’s the ultimate keeper ❤
I went from parents straight to husband too. ❤️ God's grace!
I wish I went from my parents' care to my husband's. I am tired of being alone.
@@BrittbyBit yes, I did have a desire to live alone. I use to daydream about holding it down for myself. Home, car, wardrobe, self made, etc. That was always my plan. I surely wasn’t anti husband but having one was never my priority.
@@blossomwithgraceNothing wrong with that. Its the intent or reason behind it.
I’m only 25 minutes in and this conversation is so insightful and full of wisdom.
I wanted to stop and make a comment about the fact that many people perceive being a homemaker and SAHM as not contributing financially. Well, first of all those roles are beyond monetary value, it’s so much deeper and meaningful. But, if you had to put a monetary value on it, the job of a homemaker and SAHM is probably worth 6 figures. I live in Cali and I’ve met Nanny’s that basically play the role of SAHM and housekeeper and they get paid like 40 an hour, which is way more than what I would have made with a masters degree in a stem field. I love my role as a SAHM and keeper of the home, and I know the true value of my role which will bless my family for the rest of their lives.
I think it is impossible to lose yourself because isn't being a wife , mom, and homemaker exactly who we are and it is growing us and challenging us every single moment of every single day.
Except for the fact that a husband will never say that their a husband, a father. Men always have friends, gatherings and hobbies they maintain even in their marital relationship.
@@quelquun2018 i disagree. A lot of men always wanted to be husbands, fathers and those are core identity markers. Sorry you didn’t have that experience.
Amen to this. Two kids in and I have never felt more clear on who I am then now.
I love my son. I know I’m a mom but there will be a time where he will leave the home and have his own life. Then what? Do I jusy stay home, bore? We must not forget our hobbie or things we loved to do prior to having kids. My aunt loves to sew and even with 4 kids, she finds time to do that and she gives me the same advice
@@djidjine5082 exactly and there’s nothing wrong with that.
My ex-husband led me to Christ at the University. I really thought he loved the Lord and will help me through the process of living in Christ. After a couple years of marriage, I found myself out of work. I got to see his true character when I was no longer bringing money home. I was naive. I thought I married him for all the right reasons. It is always best to know who you are in Christ before taking the step of marriage. Let the Lord lead you singles out there.
I hope you are doing better now.
Yeah maybe that's why I feel like I still need to wait a couple of years, even though I'm 35 now, not to find myself this time, but to be who I am as a true Christian with God and Jesus, before considering someone for a husband.
@@jenniferturner9012 do whatever you need to do but please do it fast. I am not saying this to discourage you. The younger you are, the easier it is to find the type of spouse you want. This goes for both men and women but more especially for women. That doesn't mean it is impossible, just more difficult.
I am 28 years old and I regret the years I spent allowing fear to discourage me from marriage instead of getting closer to God and letting faith drive away the fear. I always hope for early discernment so that I will not waste time on the wrong man.
Good luck and God bless you.
@@Jenny-fl5cn oh. No I'm not Catholic. I'm Christian. I don't even follow modern Christianity, I strictly follow God and Jesus from the Bible.
@@jenniferturner9012 oh, okay. I wish you well and pray God continues to draw you to himself.
Love this! I left a great career with my second child to homeschool and work from home. God has blessed my business as we were originally concerned about finances. God provides and the relationship with my later kids is different as a result of the time together. Best decision ever made was to stay home!
I love your comment and I can relate.
I recently resigned from a great career to be able to be with my children more. At first, It was a hard decision but now I realize it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
God bless ❤
Bindi and Angel, thank you so much for this collab! As a seasoned homemaker, with over 20 years experience, I can definitely relate to most everything in this video. If you two (or other homemakers of color) were prominent on RUclips in the early 2000s when I started out, I could have had a less bumpy ride as a wife and mom. However, I wouldn't trade my journey for anything! Listen up ladies, this is stellar information! Thanks again for a great video. ❤️
That’s right! If he’s not your husband, he’s a friend! It took me 42 years to learn that. I do not date, I am abstinent and I am joyful to be the woman I am. My husband will come to me appreciating that I have preserved the best part of myself for him.
From friendship, we can navigate the ideas of marriage. And honestly, I’d like the first time we touch hands to be when he asks me to marry him. I’ve set the standards that high.
😂😂. This is an interesting funny comment. High standards. I never been in a relationship. I’m 18
That's all so beautiful.
Honestly this is apart of the delusion look at your age , you can’t afford to have standards that high be fair
The Word says according to your faith, be it unto you.
(GOD can do any and all things, now whether a person trusts GOD to do so, is up to that person)
Keep the faith for the man GOD has for you & be encouraged ❤
I hope you're expecting the same from your male husband,right?
Thanks ladies! I enjoyed your answering of all these questions. I am a single mom that is doing parenthood alone with the Lord and I am in a better place of accountability in my life. I do not date nor have male friends just simple because there is healing that needs to take place. I know I was not meant to do this on my own but my choices have gotten me here. I am grateful for the Holy Spirit, the Word of God and my faith community. I desire marriage one day but if it never happens I have committed to raising my daughter knowing single motherhood is not it and what the Bible says about godly relationships. I work from home and enjoy keeping my home the place of peace for myself and little one. Thanks again for sharing!
I pray for you!
May the peace of the Lord be with you sister
Here is a hug🤗, my sister. May God see you through
It took me a long time to recognize that the ideas being pushed on me from the women in my life, mainly my mother, came from a place of bitterness and resentment.
For a lot of women, growing up it is pushed into our brains that getting pregnant is the worst thing we can do and life ruining. Now I know the Lord wants us to be wives first but that definitely instills fear in motherhood.
I was made to believe life was over when children came and you no longer were a person.
It stifled my own desire to be a mother because I allowed myself to be afraid of this. I didn’t know or trust in the Lord for a long time like I do now.
I pray the Lord places me in a path to be a stay at home mother. My greatest desire is to be a wife and mother. I am on the path to becoming a wife now to an amazing man. God willing mother hood is in my future as well.
I love these videos so much. Thank you.
This is so interesting because it really shows how You were raised and Your environment shapes Your perspective. My Mom was/is a housewife, my Grandma was a housewife, the adult women I saw growing up were housewives, so I just assumed thats what I'm going to be 😂 I remember in middle school we were once asked in class "who do You look up to and want me be when You grow up?" I literally couldn't think of anyone other than my Mom
Oh I cannot wait for this!!! My two favorite sistas!❤️ I consider Habits of a Homemaker one of the pioneers when it comes to biblical homemaking content, and even homemaking content in general. Both of you ladies add so much value to the table. We need this collab!
Yeah this is gonna be great. It already feels like a girlfriend chat. Like these are the friends I need in my life lol
I love both of you. Been watching Habits of a Homemaker since I got engaged and my (now( husband told me that he wants me to be a stay at home wife/mom.
Is that what you wanted or are you open to it??
@@sakuraesther6309 I always desired to be a stay at home mother while my kids were young. Initially I thought I would renter the workforce when my children were old enough for school but We decided to homeschool
Aw, congrats hun x
Love you too sis! 💕 Congratulations on your marriage and thank you for the support. ❤️🥰
This was so Good! It is also grievous that the understanding of homemaking is bothersome and that rather than embrace it, the dukes go up and there is an all out war! Home making is also spiritual. I have gotten so much understanding through this video! Blessings upon Blessings to all!
Yes!!!! THIS is what RUclips needs!!! I’m so ready for this duo! A powerful duo!!
46:20 that part! Long relationships set you up for compromise and sin. I don’t know how two healthy adults who are attracted to each other can abstain for YEARS on end. I had super short engagement and we were married within 1 year of meeting. We need more of that in the kingdom, because most of everything else is sus. 😂
Love this collab! So many good nuggets of wisdom
I hear about people dating for 11 years. How am I supposed to be with a man I love and are sexually attracted to for 11 years without giving in? Dating someone for a decade before marriage is a wordly practice that is infiltrating the church.
Trust me, they are not abstaining!
agreed. Jesus even said get married quickly.
@@jenniferturner9012 where did he say
that?
@@jenniferturner9012 where did he say that???
Yes!!! The fact that I've found contentment in my home is so weird to people. I love making an environment for the people I love.
I love how you ladies give godly advice!! So funny but so real
Came from Angel’s channel 🌸 as one of her subscribers. I truly enjoyed this. As a SAHM, I’m still struggling and want the Lord to guide me and use me in my home. Bindi you now have a new subscriber. Thank you Jesus for using these women to be such a wonder example to other parents. 🙏🏽
Am so encouraged by this conversation, it's exciting indeed to have like-minded sisters on this sphere
I admire the path you both chose. I pray that my daughters choose God fearing,wise and capable mates. I pray they choose this family structure that as black people we need so desperatly in our communities. I think we've conditioned so much as women to go out, help, and work. Our children struggle so much and end up unable to bring what they need to bring to thrive in this world. Especially that Biblical love for God they need so much.
You ladies are phenomenal and the exact ray of light I hope to receive in my own circle of sisters. I tuned in this morning while making breakfast this morning for my family, and when I tell you, you ladies had my husband even tuned it. He literally paused and asked me.. "girl what you watching, I like what I'm hearing" LOL
I've been supporting Angel for awhile now and she never fails to come through with her testimony and grace. Thank you for holding space and sharing the best parts of you all, from your heart. I never been so proud and honored to be a Homemaker as well as a housewife and SAHM. The titles are priceless to whatever position many believe I should be in.
I loved the part Angel mentioned about being and standing firm in her position as a Homemaker. For myself it took me longer than I expected to find my voice in this realm. Until I realized how deeply rooted this position is and how I've been appointed. My foundation became much more firm and now I cannot and will not be shaken.
I felt completely at home listening and also engaging. It's so warming to know I'm not alone and many women, Beautiful, righteous, Godly, worthy women are right here with me. We're together 💜🙏🏽
How sad the state of society is that has a little girl feeling like there is something wrong with her for not desiring a career 😔
I've never desired a 9 to 5 or a career and im always looked down upon, in society, by both men and women. The men are usually broke or want to be kept lady boys themselves💅🏽🌈
And the women are either bitter, angry or had to settle and now take their anger out on me, rather than the low life men, they chose....
@@incognito3599 I can totally relate!!
Thank you. I struggle with the financial aspects. But he reminds me that my contribution is taking care of the house and children.
Ultimately I believe a lot of women say things that don’t lose yourself is because of envy or jealousy. I was a single mother and I felt so bad that I couldn’t be home with my child. I have always wanted that position. Stay at home wife. The most honorable, glorified position the God has given women. I appreciate you sisters
As a housewife.. you don't know how much I needed this conversation. Housewives do not follow todays social norm.. sometimes I feel out of place with society like I should do more .. even tho I love what I'm doing.
I even get women who think I need to contribute financially ... they don't see I'm contributing by taking care of the home. Being a housewife really bothers society ...
I didn't know this was a universal experience
The hardest thing is the comments from society. I actually may do a video talking about this
This is inspiring and love to see community of SAHM. I'm not there yet but my husband is changing his career so I can be at home with our children full time. We have an 8 month old and have another on the way so we will have 2 littles under 1. We are also talking about homeschooling our girls. I needed this!!!
In God's time, due to feminism, not everyone can afford to be a homemaker full-time, but if you can sacrifice your lifestyle and maybe downsizing its wealth it
@@gforce2924 that's so true!! We live modestly so that's not a problem. But you're right...in God's time so I'm being patient. I appreciate the encouragement.
Amen Sis, God willing. May the peace of the Lord be with your family.
Fellow housewife & homeschooling mom here too!!! Enjoyed your talk! Blessings to both of you & your households.
Whew, y'all done put my little life to shame lol. I wish I would have had this talk about 10 years ago. Love this conversation and you both hit it right on the nose with every topic discussed. Please send a prayer up for strength for us whom may have gotten ourselves into tough situations. YAH bless 😊
yes me too.
May our Jehovah God make a way where there is no way!
This is powerful and something we need to know especially us women who want to be married. I got married and was save yet I didn’t know anything about submissive and my old leadership mentioned submissive but not understand the truth now I am learning the truth and this video help me ❤.
This video gave me soo much confirmation on how I feel as a married woman and the view of the world. I thank the father so much you both did this collaboration. Halleluyah APTTMHY 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Angel talking about the pastor telling her she needs to help her husband reminds me of an elder in my church telling me I need to get a job to help my husband very early in my marriage. I gave in and got a really low level job that was horrible, they required you to work 6 days a week and you had to "request" an off day...when I told him (the elder) I wanted to leave the job he told me I needed to stick it out....I didn't listen to him I ended up getting a very flexible job...elders and pastors need to do better.
True. I really wish elders and pastors would speak what the bible preaches and not out of emotion
I was talking with two of my other melanated Homemaker mama friends about how these ideas are MORE prevalent in the black and brown community. I have a diverse friend group and MOST if not all of my vanilla sisters are not just encouraged to Stay at home but fully supported and it’s more of the expectation. It’s such a layered conversation but I just LOVE you both and am enjoying this dialogue🥰
I was never encouraged to be at home, nor were any of my peers. I think it’s untrue to say most “vanilla” women are encouraged to do that. Certainly wasn’t my experience, it was drilled into me not to “rely on a man”. Caused me a lot of pain.
@@deirdresheridan8223 Respectfully, in my comment I clearly stated that I was speaking of MY diverse friend group not every white/European woman in the world☺️. It also is FACTUAL information that women of white and European descent in the USA are more likely and more encouraged, in comparison to black and brown women, to be homemakers. The data and research is available. That does not mean ALL on either side. Thank you for sharing your personal experience as it’s valued and matters wether it represents a majority or minority. It truly is a layered conversation as I also expressed in my initial comment🤎🥰
@@deirdresheridan8223You are one person. She's referring to the majority which are taught about such a lifestyle over black/brown women.
Two beautiful women talking about God, love it 🥰
Finally a woman that understand that the spouse/husband is suppose to be over your kids in priority . I feel that woman do not understands this ultimately brings death to the marriage.
My mom submitted to my horrible father for 20years and it got her divorced and in debt. It took me packing my bags for my husband for change. Sometimes loving and submitting to our husband more will not influence change. My husband said he wouldn’t have changed has I not decided to leave. He cared more about himself than me and our kids.
With all due respect, it also depends on the type of husband that a woman ultimately chooses to marry. It is definitely easier to submit to a husband who is submitted to the Lord.
@@amandaparrish9128 i completely understand you; but my point is wives are called to submit to our husbands. We are not called to submit to their sinful behavior, their depression, their unwillingness to lead. Sometimes submission can worsen our marriage.
I read a story of a Christian wife that talked about how submitting to her husband while he was depressed worsened his behavior and depression. It wasn’t until she decided to lead the family that their marriage began to turn around.
There’s also the story of the Christian wife who submitted and served her family for 10years. They took her for granted to 10years. When she got into a car accident and couldn’t cook. Her husband asked her if she wasn’t able to cook, could she order a pizza. She blew up! This wife had to set up boundaries in her own marriage to influence change. Setting up boundaries doesn’t mean disrespect. It means “this is what I’m capable and willing to do. I hope that you can respect that.”
In my case, my husband had to experience a pain that was greater than his to get him to change.
That pain was me and our children leaving.
@@Nzazaaa You make some great points, but the examples still make the point about choosing wisely in the beginning. However, sometimes issues do come up after you are married and submitting can be challenging. The BIble calls us to submit to our husbands as unto the Lord but that NEVER calls us to submit to sinful and unGodly behavior. It never calls for us to submit to leadership that is not God honoring or is foolish. Unfortunately, some wives have lost their lives from submitting to the unbiblical leadership of a wayward or abusive husband. The Bible does call us to use wisdom, however.That includes wisdom in choosing a mate and in how to properly follow his leadership. In some cases, wisdom does call for a wife to move out of the way so that God can do a work in the husband’s heart. That is also submission. Submission has NEVER meant being a doormat.
@@amandaparrish9128 Im not disagreeing that we should choose wisely. I’m disagreeing that the examples I gave are of women that chose unwisely with the exception of my mother. She admitted she did not choose wisely. The examples are all of Godly men but we are human. We fall short, we stray away from God, sometimes it takes years for a person to get back on track. Just because a spouse strays from God doesn’t men the other spouse chose wrong. None of us are perfect. The examples I gave are just examples of how not submitting resulted in bettering the marriage.
Saying “choose wisely” is a cop out. Even if you chose wisely. You’re still going to run into similar issues that I mentioned above. Just because you choose wisely doesn’t means everything is going to be perfect. There will be issues but as long as you see life the same it can be worked out.
Once again, my point was that submission isnt always the solution. Sometimes it can worsen the marriage.
@@Nzazaaa I can definitely understand what you are saying. I did mention that things do happen in marriage and life is not perfect, but choosing wisely is not a cop out. Many times women will choose a guy who is not a leader before marriage and then wonder why he wont lead after marriage. There are always signs in the beginning. Also, women often get submission confused, submitting to unbiblical ways or abuse is not what the bible calls for. In cases like the ones that you mentioned and even some that I have seen, it is always biblical to use wisdom. Using wisdom does not mean that you are not submitting. It is best to know what submission really means and in what cases does it call for. Unfortunately, churches don’t do a great job of explaining it. That is why we have to study the word for ourselves.
Wow convo starting at 30minutes!! So we’ll put. Praise Yah
It’s over already?! That was excellent discourse ladies! Could have gone on longer
Hi Bindi could you do a video in the future about raising children in these times. I would really appreciate your vision on this subject. Love your channel !
I’ve been at home for going on 2yrs and I love it never knew I was a homemaker I just knew God told me to homeschool my children being obedient has took me so far my relationship with my children have grown so much my oldest is 16 and we wouldn’t change it for anything.
I am so happy that you guy’s did this. Giving women the courage and confidence to stand in their godly purpose. I’ve literally been having anxiety attacks because I felt guilty for being at home with my baby. Thank you for doing this.
This was well worth the wait!! Two of my favorite homemakers in one place!! Such good wisdom and knowledge. God bless you and may he continue to allow your families to thrive as you continue to help us improve ours.
This was SO good!💗 Instantly subscribed. Loved meeting women with the same values. This convo made me think of the tired submission debates online. #1 being submissive is NOT for bf/gf relationships. Most of the people holding these conversations online are single lol
Please collaborate with Angel again and answer more questions, maybe about raising of children and growing them in the faith. This was POWERFUL!! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!!! 🌸 💖
Y’all ain’t said nothing but the truth! I was so inspired and blessed by this and I’m already married lol. To y’alls point YES please look for a man who loves and serves the Lord. If he puts HIM 1st everything else will fall into place. On my own I don’t have the capacity to love others the way I should but in following Christ I can do all things. If your intended operates like this as well then you’re headed in the right direction. Peace and Blessings!
Gosh I love this sooo much!! The transition to being a homemaker BEFORE having kids has been such a journey and your channel has been helping!
I liked how you both pulled this together, especially about people who got fiances, boyfriends, partners treating them like husband and wife is just an illusion.
Can definitely relate to losing oneself in work/education. I now work in what I went to school for and I LOVE it! But I did let it overtake my free time. Now that I'm aware and have set up boundaries, I need to keep that same mindset when I transition into married life.
In my core, I always wanted to be a house-wife & a mother. Maybe by instinct, or maybe it was because my Mom was a stay-at-home Mom. In 1973 when I graduated high school (in a fairly big city), we young ladies were expected (on the whole) to go to college, get a degree, & work a paying job. Only a few of my female classmates who were brought up in "genuinely" Christian homes went on to be housewives & mothers. My mom left & divorced my father in 1970. What turned out to be the very damaging "feminist" movement was really moving along in 1973. I felt like I wasn't supposed to say (muchless feel) that I wanted to be a wife & stay-at-home Mom. The "Christian" home I'd grown up in was empty of spiritual teaching, guidance, or coaching about what a Biblical marriage & family truly was. I often wonder what life might have looked like if my parents had built a genuinely Biblical marriage, AND, if "feminism" had not been unleashed on society; badly damaging the beautiful & sacred covenant of marriage as God designed it. This May (2023) will mark 50 years since I graduated. I thank Almighty God that He lead & protected me through many, many years & I've been deeply blessed with nearly two-decade long marriage that continues to grow in Christ each day. Praise God from whom ALL blessings flow !
23:56- I don't know if negative comments about marriage are related to jealousy. I think it's more supportive of the anti-marriage current culture . Jordan Peterson is pro-marriage: 'If you can leave, then you don't have to tell each other the truth. It's as simple as that, because you can just leave. And then you don't have anyone to tell the truth to." Candace O. says that becoming a wife and mother is when she really felt her life began. But some drank the water of the culture and don't want to build the character or commitment that marriage and kids require. It's worth the work - so many blessings!
Really enjoyed watching you ladies chat and learned alot. Honestly Bindi, the Lord used your channel to speak to me about being a homemaker. I fought it for long and I was stubborn about it. I finally realized obedience to God trumps my fleshy desires. I thank God for your channel and I pray that you receive more grace to keep encouraging women.
This looks exciting. I recently found both of you two in the last few months. So interesting.
Same here. Just found them both in the last couple of months.
You two are a trip! I laughed and laughed right along with y’all! This was sooooo good!! Good for me and a good reminder to be thankful for the man God gave me. You two need to do another collab!
What an amazing chat! As a young woman you both have been a blessing in my walk with the Lord, thank you for sharing your walk and the wisdom God has given💜
I prepared dinner for my family and cleaned dishes all while listening to you ladies. I'm working on being a better homemaker and woman of God every day.
I think I can say God led me to you both. I'm going to try to tune in every day.❤
This is my first time seeing you both and I’m so grateful.
At 30:00 minute mark
Talking about submitting 🔥 🔥 🔥
WoW Woaw WoW, Bindi, you did take that home.
Plus Habits of a Homemaker on a soft answer turns away wrath🔥🔥🔥
And you both talking about choosing a kingdom man, so much more.
I needed to here from women that are what I look forward to, it increases my faith that it’s so possible 🙌🏾
Edit: on repeat and decided to take notes
" I will not let anyone else steal the years..." Amen 🙏 💜
Love this video, comments made about you not loosing yourself in your roles as a wife mother and homemaker isn’t necessarily negative.. I definitely feel that as a mum it actually benefits a home when your children and husband can see you accomplishing things you have always wanted to do it doesn’t necessarily have to be work but maybe starting a foundation, health goals, hobbies, making time for friends now again etc it definitely adds to the admiration that they would have for you and sets an example for them to also accomplish their dreams…. God has placed so many purposes in us becoming a mum and wife shouldn’t stop you from pursuing those.. unless those are the only things God has placed in you
So glad you guys collaborated. I really enjoy both of your contents.
Omg my favessss. Can’t wait ❤️
It seems the value of children, and our responsibility as parents (stewards) are not seen so well. There are generational impacts we have in this opportunity. Thank you for building community of life.💖
The collab I never new I needed 😊❤️🔥
Can't wait! This is going to be amazing! 🧡🌺
My two favorites! Thank you for this colab! Just started my homemaker journey after leaving corporate and moving abroad. This was needed!
My kinda people😍😍 thank you for this video big sisters, this gave me a peace in my heart
This talk was absolutely EVERYTHING ❤ thank you both so much 🙏🏾
My two internet friends who have helped me so much! Thank you ladies!!!
Love you both ❤
I loved listening to you both sharing your Titus 2 calling. As an older Titus 2 woman, hearing you all speak is so delightful! I want to encourage you to use the biblical term "Keepers at Home" Greek translated as "oikourous" meaning a house, dwelling by "metonymy" a household or family (instead of housewife). A "Homemaker" which is closer to the "Keeper at Home" definition- has a deeper, richer meaning than a "Housewife". We must remember we are NOT married to a house :) and should try to use biblical terms which indicate God's multilayered meaning. We are beautiful keepers, watchers, and guardians with oversight and responsibility for our home, and family. Of course, there is so much more in the meaning and this was just a quick definition. You both are doing GOD's work and fulfilling a huge need to encourage women to be content in their highest calling as wives and mothers.
Absolutely but the term homemaker seems to be attributed to activities rather than a status. Nowadays everyone seems to be a homemaker.. ex: they’re (only) homemakers while cooking, cleaning but not when they do other things outside of the home. While Housewife is a consistent status. It’s not something you do it’s something you are, thats even what they writte in legal papers so I like to refere to it more😊
This conversation is so encouraging
I also wanted to add that being in this traditional family structure, any family structure must be in submission to The Lord. Family is from God it's imperitive God be the head of that house...I agree!
It would be nice if you both made videos about how you've made and retained friendships as a home maker and house wife.
Yes I've gotten those comments too about "helping him" . And from another housewife too. Lol ... I withdraw from those relationships if it becomes combative .
I have chosen my path out of my own free will.
As far as the pastor ... It could be anyone who would make those rude comments to me.
Yes society is normalizing pressuring women and some women are angry at the housewife because they want to be a housewife.
I remember a woman who was nasty to me and she broke down and admitted .... That she desired it and she wanted to quit her job but her husband said she needs to keep working .
So it's important to be around the right circle to be happy as a house wife. It's been my biggest challenge to find the right network of women .
Thanks for this video .
What a helpful channel. Thank you
Great to see quality black women/mother/wives. I hope this will become our ethnic image.
This was so inspirational! Thank you for sharing!
Loved this!! Angel, I'm encouraged and can relate to you not having a "real" job before marriage. I was similar, went straight from my parents home to being married at 19 and it was such a blessing!! I had some odd and end part time things before having kids but was mainly a homemaker and helper to my husband ❤️
Also, I think of Alana L here on RUclips to maybe collab with.
I pray to be blessed, just have you been blessed to receive💅🏽🙏🏾 i want to be a homemaker with my own thing on the side🍒it feels so fulfilling and less destructive
Great discussion as I expected ladies. The qualities section and the 'how not to lose yourself' response are golden!! Really enjoyed this! Xx
As a new homemaker..thank you so much for this video! It truly has blessed me in so many ways! So awesome to see sisters in Christ walking out this call in their lives. 💕
This conversation blessed me so much. Thank you ladies! 🙏🏾❤️
Our submission is to the position! YES!!!! 32:41
You ladies did an excellent job with this ❤️. I definitely enjoyed listening in. Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏿
Joyce!! Sis! The Lord's Spirit is upon you!
You hit the nail on the head on the section "losing yourself in children and marriage."
So often as christians we regurgitate the viewpoints of the world and don't even realize the evil behind the sayings. When you are doing your noble work in the Lord, there's no such thing of "losing yourself." The women that are living out this divine calling is walking in mission and purpose mapped out from the Lord. These duties are intertwined in her identity and makes her honorable before Him.
Now, I would say that within this work, we can become careless which is something that has become normalized which is why many are categorizing this wrongdoing as "losing yourself." This is why us ladies need to continually lean on Jesus. His earthly mission was constantly busy. He continuously cared for the needs of otherwise but in no wise neglected Himself, His health, appearance etc. He is our perfect model and we need to learn His formula. the scriptures and this book called "The Ministry of Healing" ch3 "With Nature & With God" beautifully outlines Christ's successful formula.
Wives, mamas, remember our dear's plea and promise to us: "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." Matt. 11:28-30
I loved this segment and I look forward to your future collabs! Blessings everyone :)
Hahah I went threw all this! I love the sister brought up the confidence because you do gain it after too many bad comments. Once a person hear me speak they are tooken back and they know not to try to disrespect me or my family. I learned you don’t even have to get nasty.
We had to get away from a lot of family because of the opinions.