(S2E12) HOMEMAKING AND/OR CAREER | A Christian Perspective
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I have a friend who is a stay at home wife(never had children). She worked for many years and eventually became disabled. Her husband DID NOT want her staying at home. She came up with a plan. She cooks, she cleans, brings her husband lunch. Her hubbie is happy as a clam! She also helps women (who are working) with their children. What a woman! Stay at home wives are good for the community😊
It was like that years ago before you toxic women made it frowned upon
@@truelies9187 Not all women are the same or want the same. Me, personally, I want to be a housewive and be submissive to my husband and God.
@@jazzyLee573 If you’ve seen social media, watched tv, they promote the total opposite and try to ingrain that in peoples minds. Children need love and care or they turn out awful and broken inside.
@@truelies9187 The women who turned out that way were raised to be like men and pursue careers. I was raised to think I was supposed to go to college when I finished high school. It was having a child out of wedlock at age 20 that changed my perspective and made me realize that mothering was more important than climbing some corporate ladder.
1 Timothy 2: 15
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
@@spiritualisrael007 this is how I was raised, even though my family claimed to be Christian.
My mom is a Christian was gone at work most of my childhood until I was a teen, she never taught me to clean or cook, and now she’s a stay at home mom who doesn’t know how to clean or cook either. My dad really struggles with her not fulfilling her roles, and my mom hasn’t trained any of her children to help her. I am now a SAHW and about to be a sahm, I still don’t know how to clean but I did learn to cook, I have no structure in my life and keep failing to create new routines and habits. I can see my husband is struggling because I’m still learning how to clean, keep the house, and have order, on top of being pregnant and soon learning how to do it with children. I am so grateful for your videos. I believe home making is so important because I grew up without it and not knowing how to be a good home maker it is destroying my life. I do think God it helping me though.
Flylady! look her up on YT she will teach you how to clean and keep your house tidy.
A lot of woman do not realize that it takes alot of trust & faith to let a man provide. It’s somewhat easy to run and go and make money but to for a woman to be a successful homemaker im sure lots of discipline is needed & order. I think alot of woman use working to try and not confront trauma. I know I did.
I also see because you had time to reflect and read the scriptures you are able to be a great influence to your husband. You are able to be more patient w/ your husband from a full day of work. Let things go quicker then a typical woman working full time.
@@mbtilover3575 wow, that is a very insightful perspective I have not seen before. Being at home does give us women the extra time with scriptures and can make us examples for our husbands in holiness, patience, and love. I wish our modern times put more of a focus on the biblical family unit.
If you chose the right man you wouldn’t be worried about that… THINK before you ACT
I agree! My mom did not want me to stay at home ( I did not grow up in a Christian household) she kept saying what if your husband leaves you. I knew it was hard for her to trust what she did not understand. 10 years later and she finally sees the benefit of me staying home.
Here here! I’ve been given an opportunity to not work for a while to get our home in order to get renovated and I was so excited at first, but when it comes time to actually face the reality of your neglect, it stings a bit. Crying and scrubbing daily. It’s not hoarder bad but it’s bringing a lot of feelings up to the surface. I can’t use the “too tired” or “too stressed” or “not enough time” excuses anymore.
Im so blessed to have a husband who doesn’t mind and even prefers that I stay home. I was never career oriented and I developed depression in high school trying to keep up with my counterparts, which lead to me dropping out. We aren’t rich or even well off people but I’m blessed to be able to stay home even with limited income. Glory be to God…
My ex husband was a fake Christian and judged me everyday for staying home raising our small children. Made me feel empty and hopeless but my kids are educationally above other children in their class and they are excelling bc I stayed home with them.
I’m with you sis. I see you and feel you, going through the same thing except HE forced me to work.
@@bcnotpc659 he was trying to force me to work and I would get a job then have to keep calling off bc my kids were sick or had doctors appts.
Well done mom 🙏
Sounds like the Proverbs woman has a good balance. She makes her own money but also takes care of her home. I doubt it means she does everything perfectly. I think it just means she is hard working but doesn’t let herself get burned out by overdoing it in any category. Even stay at home moms can get burned out doing the same things constantly, talking only to small children all day, and having no mental stimulation. Balance is always a good thing to maintain.
I just came across your channel and I can attest that my mother was that woman that you have never seen, she worked full time, took my siblings and I back and forth to school and kept our home clean to a T, cooked and made desserts cause she didn't like to eat out , took care of her husband (my dad)..... She always said that it was only through Christ Jesus that she was able to do all of that with no family readily available to help, she literally did it all and we did activities at school and also worked which she was the main one getting us back and forth to work when we were in high school, and let me just double back to say she did all the cooking including holidays (with our large numbers of ppl coming over to eat when we were younger), my dad didn't cook (he worked) my sister and I learned how to cook observing her because she didn't like no children playing kitchen in her kitchen (lol).... honestly when you have the kind of mom Im blessed to have you can take her for granted if your not careful because she does everything, and doesn't ask for anything. Now I honestly just want her to relax and but even that for her is hard cause she has been so used to doing so much all the time since her early twenties .....Im grateful, she was a great example couldn't ask for better. And yes she is a Christ following woman.
I can soo relate to this with your mother. Unfortunately my father was ungrateful and wanted her to work on top of that. He also is very stingy with the money and she didn’t really have access to it or any say. He also had mood swings. So she fulfilled her role so much, she was so pure, giving, god loving, loved us as her children so much. She was unhappy and didn’t really speak much about it, he would become angry so fast. So it ate her up from the inside. She was 12 years younger and aged faster than him and passed away at 46.
I mourn everyday that I wasn’t old enough yet to pay her back.
I just wanted her to relax, something she also found difficult.
But it was too draining for her.😭😣
You have an awesome mom! I know how difficult that had to be. When my children were growing up, I worked a full-time job I went to college full-time, I kept my house clean, I can’t the meals cooked, laundry done but I had to have a strict schedule in order to accomplish it. I got up early in the morning to cook dinner and start laundry. I lives close to work so I would come home and fold the laundry from the morning. Everyone had chores, we did not have a dish day. Dishes were clean as we go.
Spell checks it can’t the meals done. Meant to say kept the meals done.
"Her children call her blessed!"
Your testimony about the holy preciousness of your mother speaks volumes
I can say this was my mom as well. I even remember her coming home at night to read me bedtime stories while still in her uniform. I praise & thank God her ❤️
I came to be a housewife by circumstance vs choice. But let me tell you, it was a BLESSING from God. When I could no longer work, I felt lost, confused, and unsure of my value. But now I understand my worth as a woman and wife so much clearer; I would not ever go back to placing career as a priority. Since we don’t have children, most people are confused as to why I don’t work outside of the home in some capacity. My husband and I have found this way of living to be so beneficial for our marriage and our household.
Amen, sis. Same here. So glad I came across Bindi Marc’s channel. It’s helped realize a lot of the errors on my ways as a wife and mother. Things feel like they’re clicking now that I’m trying to put these roles into practice.
What about if that husband died one day
@@jackiejeanphilippe6052 Bindi made a video to answer that question. Check it out
Same sisters, same! We’re in great company though 💕
Praise God! And if the man of God passes away untimely, and we pray not, we know by God’s wisdom he has means for his wife to be taken care of. Amen.
Proverbs31:15
She rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her MAIDSERVANTS.
I believe the proverbs 31 woman had help.
A woman working full time outside the house will need some form of help. It is almost impossible to give a 100% away from home and 100% at home.
I thank God for drawing me to your channel. Keep up the good work. God bless you.
I just keep slapping myself across the forehead listening to you speak, Bindi. The last two generations of my family suffered heavily from divorce - the only "marriage"/long term relationship that hadn't dissolved was between my maternal grandparents, and even so it was only a sudden cancer diagnosis that kept my grandfather from leaving my grandma, to which he succumbed less than a year after hearing he was sick. Since almost all the women in my family come from broken marriages, the hard earned 'wisdom' passed down by the women was to "make securing a high-end career the utmost priority", otherwise I'd risk being poverty stricken and begging others for scraps. We were all raised to believe that while family should assist each other in times of trouble, we all suffered from the pernicious doubt that we are ultimately alone in the world, and that requiring "help from others" should be viewed as a weakness or a failing on our part. The women had to make themselves as invulnerable as possible, and while no one outright instructed me that husbands and kids were impediments to an overall successful and accomplished life, it was strongly implied.
I have found that this kind of mentality doesn't foster a healthy attitude towards making and maintaining good relationships between anybody, be it friends, family, or help you find a spouse. Thinking this way poisons every interaction, for while you're busy believing "I don't need you, and you don't need me - and if either of us do need each other that means we've failed/been irresponsible/been stupid/ etc...and now must suffer the consequences of being at the mercy of another's goodwill" you become resentful of those who do decide to help you because now you feel like you owe them something, (possibly something "big" which will require a sacrifice you are reasonably uncomfortable making) or, if people decide not to help you (probably because you chased them all away in an effort to be "independent", choosing not to foster the kinds of relationships you'd need in place in order to feel comfortable asking others for help) you're stuck in a trap of your own making, reinforcing the mental trap that "you are alone in the world" and that nobody can be bothered to come to your rescue. It's a no-win situation, and a lot of the women (my mother, my aunts, my grandmas, my cousins, etc) ended up leading very lonely, bitter, exhausting lives trying to do everything by themselves.
Needless to say, I am constantly mocked by my family members for choosing to be a stay at home mom. The females of my family think I am borderline insanely stupid for relying solely on my strong-Christian husband to provide for me and my children, and since my family was plagued by single-motherhood, the women in my family are also mind-boggled that I actually find fulfillment in staying at home with the kids. When my kids cry around them, they all shake their heads in disbelief that I would prefer an environment dealing with the unpredictable and frustrating insanity that is raising kids under four, rather than go to a 9-5 job where if people act like children they tend to get fired. They are almost obsessed with the idea of carting off my children to daycare so that I can return to work - based on their life experiences, they are fully expecting that my marriage will eventually fail and believe that since this is a forgone conclusion, I should be preparing for my eventual, unavoidable divorce by returning to the workforce as soon as possible and padding my savings account.
Anyways, all this to say I've watched four of your videos now, and it's been filled with the kind of biblical wisdom that the elders of my family have been sorely lacking. I appreciate your focus on Christian family living and hope to see more videos in the future!
Toni, I applaud you for bravely walking the narrow path in your family. Your story is more common than you know, especially in the African American community. I have a FEW friends that have gone through your situation. I went through something similar when choosing to homeschool.
What I will say is this...Please know that you are a MIRROR to them. So, some of their mean comments may be out of conviction. Every day that you are happily married and your children are thriving is a challenge to your family's stronghold mentality. What I found in my situation and my friends' situation is that as the years go by, they will begin to see the righteousness in what you choose to do. Pray that through your obedience and your family's success that you can begin to affect a change in their perspective and help deliver them from that familial spirit of fear. But, please know that they are definitely watching to see how things turn out. :)
@@Southernly Oh yes, I feel it's safe to say Christ is with me on this one! I met my husband as a 23 year old atheist, and while he was the son of pastor and made it clear he would only marry a Christian woman, I figured I would seduce with my heathen ways. I had no idea what kind of God I was up against.
It would be wayyyy too long of a comment if I shared all the stories of how God has made Himself known to me, but the short version is when I read in Matthew "if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you could move mountains", I prayed to a God I didn't yet believe in that "You're going to have to prove that for me - I want to believe in you, but 'moving mountains'? That's a big claim." A few weeks later He dropped a completely free trip to visit the Rocky Mountains into my lap through a freak set of circumstances - I had been wanting to see the Rockies since I was a young girl, but due to financial circumstance it seemed unlikely I would be able to see them in the next ten years, if ever. Thanks to the Lord, however, He showed me He was capable of fulfilling His biblical promises by moving mountains that were clear across the country and laying them under my feet.
@@TomekiaLloyd Oh I am aware that I am spitting in the face of my family values and yes, I am made painfully aware that everyone is watching. My husband and I know my family would descend like vultures to straight up murder my pride with scoffing jeers and sneers if my marriage fails. If I didn't have faith in the man I married, I would live everyday in terrible fear of my husband and I having a fallout.
But yes, I am hoping to lead my family by example. While the older women might be too set in their ways to make a real change in their lives, I'm hoping to help my younger sister from getting stuck living a bitter, lonely life. She's curious to see how this experiement of mine plays out - my mother, on the other hand, straight up hates the path I've taken to the point where she was telling me hateful things. She told me stuff like how I should have aborted my first child since she was an unexpected baby and that I was selfish for not doing so, or to stop having kids after getting pregnant with my second child who was entirely planned, or that she didn't really want to hang out with her grandkids until they were "old enough to be fun" which is six or seven by her estimation. I have simply stopped talking to her. We did reach out when my second child was born, but in the eight months since I've given birth my mother has made no effort to reply, or try to meet her second grandchild. It's a terrible mess, but I think it's for the best.
Perhaps with time they'll either come around or continue to stick their heads in the sand and just ignore the functional relationship I've built with my husband. We're doing good; my husband and I have been together eight years, married for three years of those eight, and we have two young children with the hopes of adding more. From the women of my family, I've heard all sorts of excuses as to why my relationship SEEMS functional such as "you got lucky" or "you're secretly unhappy - nobody likes baby jail", or "you've been brainwashed into the cult of Christianity", or "you've settled for less" which is based on no evidence - my husband is a good looking man whose job can see to it that I am a stay at home mom. I believe as you said, that time will tell them what's really happening - I am in a good relationship with a good man, and I am right to entrust him with my life, with my body as I bear and raise his children, and right to entrust him with my happiness as we build our life together.
You're not the only one struggling with unsupportive family who just don't get it. My mom is so angry and frustrated I don't want to work even though I have a university degree because I am so fulfilled being home with my 4 soon to be 5 children and amazing husband. All we can do is make sure we break the chain and pass on the wisdom to our children. Solidarity 🙏
Well articulated!
I take care of 4 babies in my home each day and consider myself a homemaker and a business owner. I'm praying for my own children to raise. This is just practice . I never want to work outside of my home again ❤
The proverbs 31 woman is not an employee. She's an employer and has her own business ie; selling clothing, land, fruits of her land, etc.
Yes! I noticed that too
Who is she employing though? There are surely going to be female employees and servants in her business. So, what about those women? Wisdom is profitable to direct. People should sincerely pray for wisdom from God to help them in their own unique families and to avoid holding on to letters that kill.
@@Love-kc6yk looking at examples from scripture it looks to me like she’s employing women, yea??😅
Definitely.
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This hurts to watch but that's how conviction goes sometimes! I've written notes and watched it twice. Thank you for being obedient to God and breaking the Word down.
I am a nanny so, essentially, a pseudo-mother to the children of working mothers. Their houses are always a mess, even if they have a cleaning lady, their children are either misbehaved, sad, or lacking in some kind of emotional way, and the family is always rushed and there is a feeling of stress that hangs over the house. I have done my best to calm the many MANY tears that are shed by babies and young children when mom says bye and rushes out the door but I can never replace their mother. I know the mother's feel the pain, but they ignore it. The extra car, the big house, the gourmet meals, the status, the vacation, none of it is worth it. I have seen marriages fall apart, I have seen families under so much tension that it took me hours to get that feeling of stress off of me by the time I get home. Don't do it ladies. I wish my job were obsolete, but I would rather these children receive some nurturing than none at all. A mothers love is more important than a mother's paycheck.
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I am here to confess that my full time business has made the home responsibilities go to the way side ☹️ thank you for helping me see that.
There’s grace for you 💛
I was once the woman all SAHMs despised...I regarded them as less, I thought they were lazy, and I thought they should be helping to provide for their families.
Thank God for His ability to humble our hearts and bring us to understanding! I got married 5 years ago, we came to God TOGETHER, and I quit my high 5 figure job to stay at home when we found out we were pregnant.
How quickly I was humbled into understanding how much work it is to be a homemaker! A week in and I was feeling the stress and strain of trying to make our home without thought or plan. It took work, so much work, to stay home! What a blessing it has been though! The Lord has given me so much in return for my obedience! I am blessed that we are able to live our lives according to God's plan and design!
And for real, a shout out to those working moms and wives who are killing it on all fronts! I was not able to do it, no matter how hard I tried, and those who can have been blessed by God with the ability!
I would eagerly marry a man who is ready to provide for the family and wouldn’t constantly tell me to go to work.
I am watching this and it resonates with me. My home and family life went backwards. My house is in disarray and my relationship with my kids is a mess. My youngest failing badly at school and bunking school to the point i resigned my job which was draining my spirit and my body. My relationship with the Lord was non existent too. i can admit i cannot do it all. My sons/family comes first and now building uo my relationship with The Lord.
Thank you for this episode
It took me a very long time to see the value in me being a SAHM. I wasted many years looking down on myself but now that I’m older God has been revealing the profound impact my presence made in our family and my relationship with my husband. With time and wisdom I realized I did not want to bear the weight of working outside my home and then come home and do everything, no thank you. It hasn’t been a perfect journey but I feel very grateful.
So we can agree that if a man does not have good work ethic and drive to work smarter and sometimes harder to earn for the family, don't even look their way. Ladies take it from me, don't marry men who can barely care for themselves when you meet them. Who wants to live in poverty in order to possibly not be in sin?
So we are meant to judge men based on their ability to make money? This makes me so sad. What about people with lower IQs, people living with disability or mental health issues, people who get in an accident and are unable to work, or even people who feel so stressed to provide for their families that they have a breakdown? What if the man you marry is unable to obtain a job to pay the bills amidst financial pressures of today's society? There are so many problematic points with this line of thinking.
@@RC-lz1xr I agree with you 100%. The real message here should be that both women AND men need to learn how to effectively balance work and family. Work life balance is beneficial regardless of your gender. Also, Jesus taught us to be open and compassionate with others. I think we should reflect on that, as well! Men (and everyone else) are so much more than a paycheck. Obviously you can use common sense to see if someone is genuinely lazy vs. in a rough patch, but still.
@@RC-lz1xr she even said in a previous video that you should ensure that your man is able to provide before you attach yourself to them, it's common sense, why would you choose a man who is not willing to provide for your family? A lazy man is destined for ruin, why willingly go down that road? I think it's intellectually insincere to use an argument which would only make up a tiny percentage of examples, how many women do you know that are married to a disabled man? (Married a disabled man) is it the majority or the exception?
@@jamiequinn2003 the "exceptions" as you call them deserve to feel that their way of life is not sinful. God cares about the outcasts and societies exceptions, and so do many Christians. My issue with the message in this video is that it places a moral value on productivity. As a Christian woman who is also an occupational therapist and knows MANY disabled people, I feel this message falls short of God's grace and condemns people who really need to be loved and not judged.
@@RC-lz1xr I think if you think she's calling them sinful, you didn't listen properly, she said that if someone was disabled and unable to work then obviously that's not sinful. I think the best thing you could do is take this up with God and His word and live by your own convictions, you can't force someone else to live by yours, some of her thoughts were her opinions based on her interpretation of scripture, we should all show some grace considering we have all come to opinions or interpretations that others have disagreed with or were offended by. Peace to you and be blessed
I think in order for this to work husband and wife have to be equally yoked, or need to be on the same page with this whole understanding. Once a women gives up being able to support herself with no career if a man leaves she is left with nothing.
Exactly
While I agree, I must add that I've never seen a woman with this sort of attitude to her home and her husband get left by her man. (Remember, not all stay-at-home moms are Christian and have an attitude of Christian obedience and submission.) If both husband and wife are equally committed Christians with rightly aligned Godly attitudes, divorce should be unthinkable.
@@LovelyReba I am that woman. My ex husband claimed to be a believer when we married but after a few years there was no fruit. I was a SAHW and mom and homeschooled our children and followed Gods design but my husband had multiple affairs and left our family for another woman. I have learned that it is my job to follow and obey Christ for the goal of bringing glory to God not to keep my husband . but a man’s willingness to obey Christ is based on his own choices. I am not saying that a wife can’t influence her husband but it is not healthy to say that if you follow Christ your husband will never leave.
@@LovelyReba I have, a mother of 11 children too.
Agree. If they both decided this is the best thing then that's okay but the man should not be the one to demand she stays home
Hi, I don't know how I ended up on your channel. But you content is amazing. I am not a christian woman but everything you are saying makes so much sense to me. Somehow when I share the same thoughts with people around me they say being a stay at home mom is pure laziness. I truly think anybody has to make the choice that benefits their family dynamic. Just because a woman is a working mom does not make her "better" than a stay at home mother.
Maybe you should become a Christian? :) God has written His law on your heart, which is why you are inclined towards what is right. The Bible says 'Today is the day of Salvation.' Perhaps you found this channel because God is calling you home.
O magnify the LORD with me, and let us exalt his name together. I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.
Psalms 34: 3-4
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Romans 10:9
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Ephesians 2:8
Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
1 John 4:10
That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,
Ephesians 3:17
Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
Jude 1:21
But he, being full of the Holy Ghost, looked up stedfastly into heaven, and saw the glory of God, and Jesus standing on the right hand of God, And said, Behold, I see the heavens opened, and the Son of man standing on the right hand of God.
Acts 7:55-56
Anyone who says a stay at home mom is lazy is crazy! There is so much work to do to make a house a home. So many tasks to keep a lady occupied!
Blessings and love to you moonchild. Praying with you.
When you love your family children and husband, you will sacrifice yourself to serve them. This is a lot of work than going to work. I experienced it personally, there is more work in taking care your family than going to work, it requires maturity in the arrangement a married woman .it requires God's holy spirit to drives you to do this job of mother hood and wife, .I can say only strong capable empowered by the holy spirit can do this, a lazy person can't do this.its not a joke ladies there's work at home.
I slightly agree. We must not forget that in proverbs 31 she had maids and housekeepers. So 1 she is probably in a high income bracket, and 2 those women workers, have kids they have families. So to say a woman isn’t to work outside the home would’ve left the proverbs woman’s and other higher society women without help. Let’s not also forget Deborah the FEMALE judge
Proverbs 31 her husband was high income and she worked with what he provided through him she could hire
@@modestgirls2356 the Proverbs 31 woman did not just depend on her husband income she worked for her own....
Proverbs 31:
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
I agree with her because of my own personal experiences. Now by the grace of God he has changed my mindset and is revealing so much that this culture has perverted.
The proverbs 31 woman is an effective manager. As a manager you oversee those who work for you not that you are actually doing the work. Her work was her husband and her home and she managed her home and her help. Now most of us will not have hired help so we must manage and complete the work ourselves. Any gain she received was extra to what her husband could already provide. Deborah still had a husband although she did God's work but don't be fooled that she didn't have to a Godly wife first. Deborah did not receive payment in monetary form to do the work of God but she was a Blessed woman of God and do not fool yourself that God did not bless her home. Her husband was mentioned for a reason. Deborah also submitted to letting a man lead instead of leading.
And Deborah, a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time.
Judges 4:4 KJV
And Barak said unto her, If thou wilt go with me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go. And she said, I will surely go with thee: notwithstanding the journey that thou takest shall not be for thine honour; for the LORD shall sell Sisera into the hand of a woman. And Deborah arose, and went with Barak to Kedesh.
Judges 4:8-9 KJV
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; And lean not unto thine own understanding.
Proverbs 3:5 KJV
@@SoThankfulandBlessed true however, how can you make a blanket statement that a woman should be at home and manage a home if that doesn’t apply to everyone. What about here in america black women just became free and were really never allowed to “just” manage a home. I think it’s elites to believe that all women should manage a household first and not work. I’m thinking of everyone in every income bracket, and different moments in history
Alot of times in this culture we as women do make bad decisions we cannot blame men or God for that and that is why it is necessary to teach unmarried and young girls Godly principles. First and foremost trust God, secondly alot of women especially in the African American community are having premarital sex resulting in children being born out of wedlock. We are dating off of superficial views instead of what God intends for us to do. Lastly alot of us are not healed and we are seeking someone to complete us when in reality only God can do that. As a single woman there is nothing wrong with working but when we come together in the covenant of marriage God's word stands true and we are the helpmeet not the head and our responsibility is to our homes. God said we perish for lack of knowledge. And if we refuse to surrender everything to him and let God be in control and then we make choices that are outside of his plan for our lives. The beautiful thing is that God can change it all if we are willing to allow him too.
Those in marriage with a man who is lacking, give your marriage to God, follow his precepts, principles and commandments. Honor your husband. Uplift and speak life into him and you will see a changed man
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge [of My law, where I reveal My will]. Because you [the priestly nation] have rejected knowledge, I will also reject you from being My priest. Since you have forgotten the law of your God, I will also forget your children.
Hosea 4:6 AMP
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1 Peter 3:1 KJV
Delight thyself also in the LORD; And he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Psalm 37:4 KJV
But the wisdom from above is first pure [morally and spiritually undefiled], then peace-loving [courteous, considerate], gentle, reasonable [and willing to listen], full of compassion and good fruits. It is unwavering, without [self-righteous] hypocrisy [and self-serving guile].
James 3:17 AMP
I don't comment often, but I really appreciate these videos. God definitely is using you because I have felt convicted a few times watching your channel. I'm a stay at home mom that used to work and was called to stay home and I couldn't be happier. Proverbs 31 definitely was the first thing that came to mind for me.
Amen JaeX
I was a stay at home mom for my first two girls. They are doing great at school and in some ways excelling in their classes. While I felt happy and fulfilled as a mother, I felt also sad because I put my career aside to stay at home. Now I'm pregnant with my third one, and I'm thinking i may have done a good job as a mother and spouse, but I feel I don't feel accomplished right now as I am pregnant and babysitting is not an option for us. I am happy for those around me, but I also blame myself for not pursuing my personal ambitions.
I’ve been binge watching your videos love this content
Same!!! Through all my homemaking today, I'm listening to her wise words!!!
@@ashleyrose4220 same! Lol
Me too!
Amen and amen. i recently resigned from my work because i spend too much time at work. the work load is too much and i ended up having my mom in law come to help me, when she goes back home, i have no choice but to take my child to my parents house. that was a serious problem because my child would cry and my husband was tired of booking time with me. i thank the Lord for giving me the courage to let go and also to understand that my job is not a provider but God is.
Thank you for sharing! This video hit home. I am a married FT working mom. I can barely juggle what is required. Honestly, I am not able to do it all. I am exhausted and have very little left for my family or home. My husband looks down on the idea of me not working and will not allow me to stay home. My job is so stressful. I'm not sure how to get out of this situation. After watching your video I understand that I have to find a way to change some things so that my life lines up with what God's word instructs. Thanks for sharing!
I was in the same situation, but I kept praying and I encourage you to do the same. Eventually my company downsized and I was laid off. I was so happy! I even received a huge severance package. I've been home for 7 years, but now with inflation I am getting creative with bringing in an income. God will not only bless your efforts but He will multiply them. I always think about the woman who poured oil into vases and was able to live off of the income. She used what she had and God multiplied it. Be encouraged, it will work out.
I am praying for your husband’s heart and I celebrate your submission to his leadership. God will work all things out for yal good
I pray for you and everyone else in your situation to be set free in Jesus’s name. May the Holy Spirit convict the hearts of your husbands 🙏
I understand wanting to stay home. Listen..you have to plan and be very organized to be a working mom. Devote an 1 hour a day to cleaning..it will make it easier
Would he be okay with you working part time instead? Maybe show him y’all can make it on less money and there would be nice meals and everyone would be more relaxed because you would have more time to devote to those things that need doing and that maybe he has to do. Shopping, mailing, making phone calls, etcetera. Assure him you are working and can maybe take some pressure off of him in some ways.
I don’t know if it’s biblical for a wife to wear herself out and burn out. Home and family can take a lot of energy in and of itself.
Thank you for sharing the SCRIPTURAL truth. I wish there were more women living and sharing this out in the world. I need friendship(s) with women who are like minded in this way. God Bless!
I agree Jordan Lee! Those are the type of friendships that I seek to have. 🙏🏾
Amen to that! Would love to find friends like this!
Thank you so much for breaking down this very important topic.
Society judges mothers for staying home and taking care of the family.
Many people make sarcastic remarks like "oh it must be nice to be able to stay home" or "I can't afford to not work."
If God calls us to it he will see us through it!
Right? It's even more degrading that they believe that Homemaking is not ACTUAL work! I'll see "boss" women praise female daycare workers, chefs, professional cleaners, psychologists, personal shoppers, school teachers, and so forth. Yet, a Homemaker is ALL of the above (unless she doesn't have children) and gets called "lazy"! How is that even possible?😫😳
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 exactly look how much we are willing to pay a daycare worker!! There's something seriously wrong with our society 😕
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 Exactly!!! You certainly said it right there!👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾
Wooh! Well said. I have watched your last two videos on being a Homemaker and SIS!!! You are getting me TO-GETHER! I will simply says “ouch” and “Thank you”!
I love this comment, I feel exactly the same way!
Bindi, when you started talking about mothers leaving their babies even though it’s not for financial hardship, for me, I know I left my 9 month old baby at the time because of societal pressure. Everyone looked at me like something was wrong with me because I wasn’t working. It’s toxic! I quit my job halfway through the school year (I was a teacher) and stayed home full time after that. But our society looks down on women who don’t work , even with babies :( . When you are young and impressionable, you don’t want to disappoint family, friends, even acquaintances. I want to teach my daughters differently but our present culture is probably not going to change and women will leave their babies with others since society expects them too. Even husbands are starting to want their wives to go back to work right after having a baby. My mom went back to work 6 weeks after having me. My mother in law went back to work 4 weeks after having my husband’s younger sister. That is the world we live in.
yes I plan to stay at home and I feel I cannot either express it, or I have to justify it as a financial burden to pay for daycare when in reality I just want to stay home & take care of this baby the Lord has given me. But most of my friends are hard working moms who earn more than their husbands & then I don't want them to feel I am judging them as a mom who wants to work full time and not be home. my friends that are stay at home moms say it is the most rewarding, yes challenging thing, but the best decision overall. Stay strong!!!God sees you, you work for His Kingdom and appointed you a mother for a reason
I'm so sorry you felt pressured into that. It is good that you see what influenced you, and I hope you forgive yourself for whatever decisions you make for you and your babies. Continue to lean on Our God for all matters and may you be blessed 🤎
Same. I ignore them. Whatever is good for my family is good for me. As long as it is not winning I will not listen. But if you want to financially continue to build start a RUclips channel of kid stuff. But if not enjoy your blessings (your babies).
Same- the pressure is making me so miserable at home with a baby, and I need to pray more for satisfaction and fulfillment
The 50s had women playing more of a motherly role and in modern times that’s looked down upon so wtf do women want? Children need love and care and attention. Now that the worlds more difficult and you’ve done yourselves no favours. All these women want to stay at home now, what a surprise… Why would you have children if you’re not prepared? Sounds like you had it and have no clue getting frightened by social comments? Wake tf up.
Thank you so much for your contribution as a Christian woman. I am a single, black woman and I almost did not view one of your videos that was suggested by RUclips because I am single. I am so happy I changed my mind. I started watching and now I am hooked. I appreciate your wisdom and insight and even though I believe I am much older than you, I see I have so much more to learn in my walk with the LORD. Today, I saw so many areas in my life where I am struggling against what the LORD wants to in my life. I appreciate you so much for allowing yourself to be used as a vessel. Thank you. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️
You're the female Christian content creator I've been looking for 💗 thank you! Love your approach and delivery
Girl, I love this and am in total agreement! It feels so good to hear someone, of our generation no less, speak on this issue. I am a stay at home wife and mother of a 5 year old and 4 year old twins. I used to be a teacher and I was exerting so much energy during the day that by the time I got home, I had nothing left to give my family. I was short tempered and impatient with my babies, and too tired to be intimate with my husband. Clothes were piled to the ceiling, dishes were in the sink, and I never had any “me” time. One day I just turned in my resignation and that was that! But my husband wasn’t quite on board with the idea and he would quote the Bible that if a man doesn’t work he doesn’t eat. But I told him that order was given to the man. I also mentioned the punishment given to man after the fall and that God never said the woman had to work. In reference to the Proverbs 31 woman, my husband (and others) have stated that she takes care of the home and also works outside the home. But I have always maintained that nowhere does it say she worked full-time and she also had help. Anyhoo…I could go on and on about this topic as it is near and dear to my heart. Thank you for your revelatory commentary. I pray that this video blesses all who see it. Keep doing the Lord’s work my sister!
And who’s to say that being at home isn’t work! I think that first verse your husband quoted was more so in reference to laziness than whether you did work that brought resources into the home. Converting those resources into something useful and maintaining them/the home is work!
Amen!
Titus 2 is also a good scriptural reference to support women working at home!
“God-fearing congregational support”…YES! Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s always helpful to hear other teachers’ stories. Blessings to you!
I came upon your channel and am so blessed to hear this as a confirmation to what God has done in my life. After having 7 children and working as a stay at home mom for all these years my oldest being 18. My youngest now is starting school and I was debating about getting a little part time job to help provide for the rising costs of things. My husband wanted me to still be a stay at home mom. Well, God put in my hands a job that I can work from home, and choose my own hours!!!!! God still amazes me and just out does Himself at every turn in my life. All He requests is that we TRUST HIS plan. Love your channel. Its a blessing for many!!!!
I rarely comment. Listening to you, I just started praying for you. The Lord is using you. May God continue to bless and your family. You are teaching God’s word. I needed to hear this.
Back in the day mothers who wanted to be more than homemakers were shamed now the tables have surely turned .The problem is we dont make room and support for both working moms and SAHM .They keep attacking each other as if one is better than the other yet situationa are different .Oh well.........
Also the Proverbs 31 woman is seen as an entrepreneur and an employer .
Thank you the proverbs 31 women was truly an entrepreneur and she brought honor to her husband and home the scripture says.
I think my issue with the idea that women should be stay-at-home wives and mothers is that, how about the ambitions and talents that God has placed within her? In the new testament, does the parable of the talents not apply to women? I know for me, I will find being a wife and mother very fulfilling but I can't deny that I have goals, interests, and desires in life, and skills as well as opportunities that God has provided for me to achieve them.
The best view I've come across on this issue, one which I had in mind for a while without being able to articulate properly, was from Todd Friel. Here's the link ruclips.net/video/v7e8H6_g5sw/видео.html
He explains that men and women ought to be stay-at-home parents. The man leads the home not only economically but spiritually, and to do that he has to be in the home just as much as the woman.
So the ideal scenario is one where they can both manage work from home whilst dealing with the responsibilities as husband, wife, father and mother, from the home.
Yes !
Proverbes 31 :
16 *She considers a field, and buys it. With the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard.*
17 *She arms her waist with strength, and makes her arms strong.*
18 *She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.*
@Ailyn Albor I agree wholeheartedly I would also include that husbands should not neglect their wives and kids or are they allowed to????
I think this is an excellent video, I currently work full-time as a paralegal and I just got my MBA not too long ago and I have been struggling with work life balance and my desire to be in the home as a "home maker" because my husband cannot afford me to do so. This video has inspired me to look at my marriage differently and to launch my own online business so that I can be more readily available in the home for my husband and children, while still using my degree and making income. Thank you!
I'm doing a similar thing to you- working on creating other streams of income, so that I can eventually be at home full-time like the bible says, and still bring money into our home. I need to pray and fast more for God's help with this.
Thank you for this! 💕💕 I’ve been struggling a bit with some of this. I am a full time student, so sometimes my studies can really become stressful on top of my wifely responsibilities. Praying that God gives me the strength to fulfill all my responsibilities first.
Stepping on my toes... God help me to take on my marching orders...to be as obedient as possible. I need help for sure. My family is worth it all... I need to become stronger in this area.
I truly believe it is very possible to work full time and be a wife and mother effectively per the prescription of the Word. It’s a matter of prioritization which is extremely difficult for the average person. It also requires sacrifice and self-control. It’s very possible though but it requires dying to self and wants daily. Great video!
I understand my husband was very unreasonable with me I had a full time job from Monday through Friday 8am until 6pm and I will still be expected to cook clean and maintain the home I was tried all the time he will treat me bad because sometimes I didn’t want to cook or clean often as I should because o was over loaded with to much responsibility and also he was working making enough to meet our needs it was selfish on his part I will have to provide for most of my personal stuff and my children needs most of the time. But now God is working on that to show him that he is the providers and I’m at home not by choice but because I started to feel sick ache and pains from no where and I had to stay home and every time I look for a job I get turn down. I see it as a learning experience for me to become a better house wife and him a better provider without any greed
I’m struggling with this. I married an unbeliever (mistake #1) and had a rough, abusive circumstance.
We’ve since divorced, and now my struggle is having to be both mommy and daddy - having to work & be concerned with climbing the corporate ladder to provide, but not having as much time to devote to mothering & being an example to my 6 y.o. daughter. I hate having to be the protector/provider AND the nurturer/maker of the home. It’s confusing to us both, and exhausting for me.
God has been calling me more to modesty, to outward femininity, to caring for my temple… but I’m not able to fully lean into the feminine example of a Prov. 31 woman because I’m spread so thin. I’m scared of how this will affect my daughter as she grows - Her examples are coming more from tv/RUclips than me.
Now that I’m stronger in my faith, rooted in my relationship with Christ, I’m hoping for a husband who will fulfill that role of a godly man - leading, teaching, providing, making us feel safe physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I’d love to just take care of home, my husband & the children one day.
Take it to the Lord in prayer sis 🙏🏾 Let Him know every frustration you have and ask for a solution. Ask Him what's the best way to raise your daughter given the circumstances and how to make money without sacrificing your precious time with your daughter. Ask Him for a godly man and the wisdom to discern between a good man and a pretender. God will show you the way, it just requires us to pray, be patient, and order our life to God's will the best we can. If its God's will its God's bill. We just need to hold fast to our faith and march forward.
@@melissas.5814 amen! Thank you for the encouragement sis. God has been faithful & has turned every evil around for my good so far… so I’ll continue to ‘seek first the kingdom’ and let him ‘add all these things’! 🤲🏾
I just want to encourage you. Don't try to be the father. God is a father to the fatherless and He is our provider. I know it's confusing in the valley, but you will make your way up the mountain. Try to find a church community to help you and try to reduce the tv influence and increase godly influence in your child's life. Seek God first and all these things will be added unto you.
@@flineagle thank you so much for the encouragement, Sis. Excellent advice! 👏🏾
I work full-time and I’m a homemaker. My house is clean. I cook every day clothes. The wash things are in order so it’s done. I’m living proof of it.
I appreciate your fair take on this topic. I completely agree and understand that a mother's #1 priority should be her immediate family and household before anything else. When I hear people advocate that "all women should quit their jobs and come home," it seems incredibly out-of-touch. Our healthcare system would completely collapse, as the majority of nurses are women and a huge number of them are mothers.
I have just become a SAHM as of July 1st. It took five years in our marriage to get to the point where we didn’t need my income anymore but God worked it out. I do agree that it’s so wrong for a nursing baby to be separated from her mother, and I’m sad to say it happened with my first. But my second is 15 months and still nurses all day and has never had to take a bottle. I am so thankful for your channel because I think many women WANT to move toward this way of living and functioning inside a family but sometimes it can be QUITE a process. I know because I’m trying so hard and yet it’s taking a long time and bumps in the road to get proficient at homemaking. But God will help us because I do believe this pleases Him. God bless!
Wow, congrats! Our ultimate goal, as a family who got together before we came to Christ, is to get there some day, too. I'm blessed to WFH, but between an infant and a full-time job, the house is definitely not cared for as I would like it to be. I'm still thankful to God for allowing me to work with a sweet baby on my lap :)
You are totally correct on the order of a full time working mother because I lived it! Through the grace of God he brought us closer together as a family!
I love your content, as a young woman who is currently courting, I love the advice you give, it’s so helpful! Please continue doing what you do!
Bindi is the WOMAN. I adore her. Have you 2 set a date to marry?
Binding looks so stunning in her modest fitting dresses as if ready for a church morning. Its good to see her.
I have always had to work, but I have always wanted to stay home. Staying at home wasn't and still isn't an option for me. More power to you! Love your videos!
Same here
First off, let me just say that since I found your channel (about a week ago) I've been loving your content. This video has me conflicted. You're absolutely right about working full-time wearing out the woman. I'm drained when I get home. I help my daughter with homework, get her to bed, eat dinner, shower, and go to bed. My husband, unfortunately, is disabled. He stays home while I work. He takes care of what he can around the house, cooks dinner, gets my daughter (not ours) from school, and makes sure she takes her shower as I don't get home until around 8pm. I have a pretty good job for the area I live in, so he couldn't come close to making the kind of money I do if he did try to work. Again, he's disabled. I just talked with him about this video and how it's got me conflicted. I feel as though our swapped roles will cause us to have to answer to God, but he believes that God understands our situation.
I am with your husband on this. He sounds wise. There are different circumstances in every family. One size does not fit all. That is the problem with these videos. There is no wiggle room for grace or balance in some of these teachings.
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I freaking love your channel and your content! I've been following you for a long time...through all your hair journies and the new path this channel has taken is, by far, my favourite. It's so wholesome and needed! Thank you and blessings to your husband and his household for releasing you to share this content with us!
I so admire you, your voice, your outlook, and your candor. You have another subscriber! Thank you!
I think this is the best biblical explanation of the issue I've ever heard. Thanks!
Thank you so much for this Bindi. Very timely. I've been a sahm for a year now and I love it but I do feel pressured by society and some family members to do "something more". I do small business on the side, I believe for me my primary job is my home, I take the business as a part-time job. My husband faithfully provides and am thankful for that, but the pressure made me think I need to contribute. I know I would be unfulfilled outside the home, because this is what I had prayed for and wanted.
Just been encouraged by this video to keep going on. Thank you!
Okay Mrs Analogies😂 first the toilet paper now rapper👏
Thank you for sharing this. This knowledge is truly invaluable!! I’m so grateful that you’ve been bold enough to share this with us. 😊
God bless you! I needed to hear this message today and I’m so grateful I came across your videos. A lot of people sugar coat things, or expect you to just know how to be, or judge you when they don’t know you’ve gone through depression & anxiety, financial & health issues. I’m a new Christian and it’s great to have someone like you to explain and guide me in the direction of my proper role as a wife and mother. Not that I’ve been doing a horrible job, but I can vastly improve in the areas of homemaking, and attitude towards myself (which ends up negatively impacting others). I am convicted to change but it helps to have a little direction. ❤️
Really appreciated this take on working and that it comes down to priorities and having those right in accordance with the Bible! I didn't expect that from the title of the video. Loving your content!
It hasn't been many days since I subscribed to your channel and Wow the wisdom and inspiration I've been getting from the few videos I've watched! I am so glad I came across your channel.
As a young Christian woman who also has been practicing modesty and always felt being a homemaker/housewife was her path, I am encouraged by such content that I resonate with. I'm blessed to also have met a partner who had also always wished his wife be flexible with the idea of being a housemaker so he can go out there and sweat in order to provide for his family.
As I prepare to be a wife your content is equipping on so many levels. You are a blessing ❤.
Oh mercy! I needed this! Thank you for sharing! I have much to pray about! 🙏🏽
I most definitely agree..All I can say is the truth will set us free..Thank you lord for your word and Thank you Bindi for being a witness🙌🏾
Hi Bindi,
I can't express how much I truly appreciate you and your content. I replay your videos constantly as encouragement. Thank you for being bold enough to share your perspective.
🌸Habits of a Homemaker sent me. Thank you so much for this video. This has become such an unpopular, flesh led conversation even among believers and I rejoice that you boldly return it to our Father God who created it. I recently declined a job because of my belief of the home being my first ministry and priority. I accepted it and my Spirit was burdened but the minute I declined the offer there was an immediate peace that came over me. We must first trust the Lord and allow Him to guide our steps. Amen! Thank you so much for this conversation. I shared it with my bestfriend. Have a Blessed Day and again, Thank you.
I have recently found your videos. I just have to say I am so grateful to have found them! I have you playing in the background while I am cleaning house our doing some kind of chore, to inspire me and to help me become the wife/mother/homemaker/daughter that the Most High wants me to be. I completely agree with a lot of what you say and I am blessed to be able to have someone with a sound mind and biblical wisdom to remind me my purpose. Thank you for your content. I just seek to be as God wants me to be, and He has brought me to your content to help me on my journey. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 👏🙌💯
thank you for making these videos, i feel i come out different after watching each one. in the best way. i can’t believe i didn’t find your channel sooner✨❤️
new to your channel and new to being a wife but i just wanted to say how impressive and refreshing not only your perspective is but your presentation and jargon !! A true pleasure bindi thank you for the breakdown !
I love watching you so much Bindi ❤️ thank you for taking the time to be there for us
Well said Bindi. This video is so on time. Thank you so much for giving truth and breaking down everything for women like me who sometimes struggle on tough days being a homemaker.
Thanks so much for this video! I have been praying and wrestling with this topic a lot. And it's not the first time I heard this.
I also made a mental list of the most respected Christian women I know personally and they all stayed home with kids and had various other things going on - serving, volunteering, business and ministry. Blessings to you friend.
Just found your channel and have been binge watching. Thank you for correcting the terrible mentality that many women have about prioritizing husbands and children over careers and professional goals. The Proverbs 31 woman is the template we should be following and your interpretation of it is Biblically sound.
Full-time jobs that require women to neglect their families, neglect their health, and neglect their growth in the Christ are sinful. And if you are a working mom, but you're still doing homemaker tasks without help, and you're burned out, find it in the budget to hire someone.
Thank you so so so much for this video! I’m catching up on your content, and it’s awesome. Convicting, motivating, encouraging. Really. Thank you for not compromising on delivering these messages.
I LOVE this talk! After watching this, I feel the way I do after consuming a healthy and nutritious meal. Praise God for women who truly love His Word! I know you keep saying that you expect backlash because you’re not in line with “the culture” but, personally, I’m SO FED UP WITH OUR CURRENT CULTURE!
Nothing you said was out of line with what I have also studied in the Scriptures and during my quiet time. I would also be amazed if anyone could dispute you using the Word of God. I recently just finished Proverbs 31 and concluded that every one of the Virtuous Woman’s skills were first applied in the home or for her family before it was used in “the marketplace”. She REFUSED to take on new projects before considering her current responsibilities (Prov 31:16).
There are many powerful and God-fearing women in the Bible who manage to influence their circumstances and execute their God-given purpose WITHOUT taking on or usurping the positions, responsibilities or power designate for the men in their lives.
Ironically, the women who sought to do the opposite were named Jezebel and Delilah.
"She REFUSED to take on new projects before considering her current responsibilities (Prov 31:16)" - That's a whole Word right there, Sis.
I need to chew on that one over this holiday weekend. I am a work-from-home entrepreneur and homeschooling mom. God gave me the command about five years ago to pull my children out of public school and homeschool them and working from home in my business is the best way to support this lifestyle. However, lately, I have been so overwhelmed with the projects from clients and trying to balance out my home responsibilities. I am very exhausted and my health is suffering. I think you just confirmed something I believe I heard the Holy Spirit telling me already. Thank you!
Bindi said y’all betta come with the facts, otherwise don’t come for me! 😂😂 Great content, as always!
Once again it all boils down to moderation in all things. I’m not much into people giving their opinions about what should be done, because every household is different and deals with different situations. Mothers need interaction away from their children so they can come back fresh to the table and be able to give of themselves. I’ve seen mothers who are practically a basket case because all they do is tend to the house and children. There needs to be balance in all things. My second child I put in a Christian daycare for a few hours a week. It really helped me to be alone with my thoughts and recharge my batteries. If you are actually neglecting your children, that is a whole different scenario. There is no need to just stay home when your child is in school a full day. This would be a perfect time to fulfill some of your dreams such as going back to school or having a business. The husband needs to do things with his children also. A woman cannot be everything to her children all the time. I’ve seen so many cases of the man coming home from work and just relaxing for the rest of the evening while the mother’s work continued until late in the night. There should be balance. Husbands playing with their children, both partners giving the baths and reading a story, and then the husband and wife can reconnect and talk or watch tv together. Married couples sometimes forget it’s a partnership.
Thank you for this! (Commenting from my kids user haha 😄)
I 100% agree with your biblical perspective. Thank you for wonderfully presenting many topics the way you have. May we continue to sharpen each other, because I need to do better as a wife and a mother, so thank God for the conviction of the Holy Spirit and for finding your channel.
God bless you and may the Lord continue to be your strength and inspiration, Ruth.
Just wanted to comment and say, as a new wife I am externally grateful for your videos.
Thank you so much for creating them and for sharing the wisdom God has given you
God bless you and God bless your family xx
I’m spread so thin I can’t practice good stewardship in terms of hair and and skin care and clothing .. all my money goes to my kids and homeschooling .. I exercise and eat well so I have that but I’ve lost motivation to look nice I feel lost ! .. please do a video on this specific topic of sexual attractiveness and the duty of it
This perspective was VERY helpful to me and has blessed even my husband. He was thankful I had a mind shift on this. You and your content are a blessing in our life. Thank you
Im so excited Im catching a video as it drops 😃 I LOVE your content and feel so so blessed that I found your channel. Question, could you offer wisdom on or do a video about how a wife should handle the situation if her husband doesn’t want her to dress modestly? 🥺
Your dress selections are stunning!!!
Bindi, I praise The Most High for using you as a vessel and for putting your video in my feed. I love your commitment to truth; this was the reality check and inspiration I needed to get back on track.
Blessings.
You are so right! This year i had so many achievements in my career but do you know when i feel the most fulfilled? when i bake a cherry cake that we can enjoy together as a family! I enjoy so much the things that bring us together and my work does not! I love my job, i love what i do but i would love it more if i could prioritize differently and not have to put my job first. It doesn`t even pay that much and we would be just fine without that money but i live in a society that promotes two income households and no man is open to the idea of women not working.
Great content, I used to be a stay-at-home mom and I loved it, but I know that there is more for me in the area of career choices. God has led me to do other things as well. I believe in a balance but most importantly we should always seek God because He will never contradict His word but then again sometimes we take things so literal that it can inconvenience us in many ways. Just ask God what should I do in this season because women are called to work in certain fields meaning that God can give you purpose in a career as well to help society.
Amen Meyah
THANK YOU FOR THIS! You covered it so well. I have battled inwardly what God’s best is, and for some reason, I couldn’t reconcile the Proverbs 31 woman with “being a keeper at home.” I don’t know why I had such a mental block about it, but your analysis made it so clear.
These videos are so relaxing and very listenable. I’m often listening while working at home and they make great food for thought during those times. Any chance you’ll put these on Anchor/Spotify/Apple podcasts? That would be great ☺️
Keep doing what you do. We appreciate you. xx
Wow your channel just popped up on my feed and I'm thankful it did. For years now, I've been studying the scriptures of God's pattern for marriages, the home life and etc. The traditional order is soo fruitful when followed accordingly but unfortunately it is side-eyed these days. Two common sentiments are either it' s deemed impractical or inferior in todays culture. God knew woman to woman instruction is needed as we see in Titus 2, and I believe God has blessed you with this outlet to do just that. God bless you sis and continue to blow the proverbial trumpet. It is sooooo needed!
I've been reading this book called "The Adventist Home" and it's phenomenal. (Adventist just simply means a Christian who believes in the second coming of Jesus Christ btw). My now husband but fiancé at the time were using it as a resource alongside our Bible studies to understand biblically what our roles and responsibilities are in the sight of the Lord before saying I do. For my readers out there, I HIGHLY recommend it for all Christians who are desiring to read a biblically sound & practical book on a Christian home. I hope it blesses you as much as it blessed us. Blessings everyone and keep striving for the mastery.
I'm so out of the loop on RUclips, but I'm loving the direction you've gone bc it's right up my alley! Lol. I'm about to be binging your channel.
I appreciate the work you put into this video and basing it on scriptures. Thank you! I don't have a particular verse to share but I just want to mention the very basic principal of that a married man and woman is also charged with being united into one flesh. Which I think that means that both act together to ensure all needs are met..towards the same goals. The men for providing and the woman for supporting her husband, children, and home. I know all our situations are different and you have outlined and explained it all very beautifully.
This is how we try to make it work in my family...not perfect but we are taking steps to get goals done.
I work day shift, my husband works nights, we have 2 children and both are homeschooling. I am now taking steps to ensure a well managed home life and responsibilities of a wife. So far I have time for it and not being stretched too thin. But...we also do not have a home yet. We had lost our apartment and it will take both of our incomes to afford anything. We are graciously staying with my in-laws. God has blessed us even though we don't have much...we feel rich. I have high hopes that I will be able to work at home one day, but we need a home first. Meanwhile we both are doing all we can for our home and family. I also have taken charge with teaching my children with not only academics but with the wisdom of God through Bible study. My husband is a non-believer on the fence of what to believe. I however have been blessed to find the way to God ... this was after we were married. Never stop praying. Thank you again. I thank God for you as well. You have opened my eyes and truly cut through my poor excuses.
Thank you for speaking the truth! It's a big relief to hear this & to know what God's instructions are for me. I feel much more relieved than when I was putting so much focus on a career. I even heard someone explain it once by saying that part of the reason why God gave men testosterone is to help them handle stressful work environments.
You are one wise and clever lady. So young too but with so much grace and truth.
I think it is so important to recognize that the Proverbs 31 woman was a wealthy woman (the wife of a king!) who like you said could afford servants. (She was admirable for not being lazy in this position as she easily could have, and getting hands on with the homemaking at all! And then to use her leftover time to help the poor and be industrious). I think that in this feminist world, this passage of Scripture is interpreted to put a heavy burden on many Christian women, that they have to be a superwoman who is killing it at work AND home. It did for me, I got chronically ill trying to be a workaholic who worked super hard at work and then came home and scratch cooked. I am MUCH happier now being home (don't even have a choice because of my illness), and I can kill it just at home :), and in helping hubby in his ministry. I don't have to be super woman, an amazing provider and homemaker, just me :).
I love your videos so much and look forward to your uploads 💖
Great video. Great reminders of where our focus should be. Thank you
Thank you for sharing clarity on this topic. I praybGod continues to give us wisdom. Your channel is a positive influence. God bless you!
You're not gonna get any backlash from me. I on the contrary feel a sense of relief, because this rings very true. Thank you for sharing this💟
Great overview of your point of views base on biblical texts. My mother also rsised me an my brother's with certain attributes. Thank you. 🙏🏼💖
You always help me to appreciate and to take more seriously my role. Thank you❤❤❤
RIGHTTTTTT on time…not even 30 secs in yet!!!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Excellent video as always. Thank you 🙏🏻 for speaking on breastfeeding. This was the thing that began my journey fully to God and back to my true, feminine self (and years of healing from growing up in a negative, atheist household.) If we are healthy and able, our babies need the comfort and nourishment of the breast and therefore they need the constant presence of their mother. I love working but put it aside for my family, I only work when I am truly able. I align with everything you speak, thank you for being you 💕